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Speaker 1: Hey, everyone, I'm only a body here with another installment

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Speaker 1: of five Minute Friday from Hurdle. I'm having one of

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Speaker 1: those moments where I am absolutely nowhere where I expected

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Speaker 1: to be in this moment, but maybe I'm everywhere I'm

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Speaker 1: supposed to be. The last few days, I felt so

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Speaker 1: many things right. Like I thought that I would be

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Speaker 1: doing many things that I'm not. I thought that I

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Speaker 1: would be booking a day two test in London and

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Speaker 1: thinking about making sure that I had my travel size

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Speaker 1: crunchy peanut butter. I thought that I would be thinking

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Speaker 1: about recovery devices I wanted to bring in my carry

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Speaker 1: on and looking at when I could get a reservation

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Speaker 1: at Dashome.

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Speaker 2: And instead of that, although nothing to be, you know, glum.

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Speaker 1: About necessarily I am as you listen to this on

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Speaker 1: my way.

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Speaker 2: To Florence, I feel a lot.

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Speaker 1: I feel content, I feel excited. I'm still kind of

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Speaker 1: mourning the things that aren't and I know that that's okay.

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Speaker 1: But a really big theme for me over the last week,

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Speaker 1: and something that I wanted to share with you all

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Speaker 1: in this installment of five Minute Friday is talking.

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Speaker 2: About investing in yourself.

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Speaker 1: And I'm not just talking about your time and your energy,

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Speaker 1: although those things are really really important, but I mean,

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Speaker 1: like financially investing in yourself. It's been something that I

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Speaker 1: have had a lot of trouble doing in my adulthood,

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Speaker 1: over the last couple of years.

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Speaker 2: And it's not easy, right. I certainly identify as a giver.

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Speaker 1: I don't think twice when it comes to, you know,

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Speaker 1: shelling out for a friend's birthday, or buying gifts for

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Speaker 1: weddings or engagements or babies. Oh my god, please let

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Speaker 1: me buy your baby little baby Nikes. But when it

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Speaker 1: comes to spending dollars on me, oh my god, that

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Speaker 1: gives me so much anxiety, or well, let me say

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Speaker 1: it used to give me a lot of anxiety. And

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Speaker 1: what I came to realize in the last few years

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Speaker 1: that has empowered me to spend on myself is that

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Speaker 1: if I do it wisely and responsibly, then I have

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Speaker 1: no reason to feel guilt around this. So what do

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Speaker 1: I mean by wisely and responsibly? For me, I have

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Speaker 1: set aside a certain amount of money. I've budgeted a

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Speaker 1: certain amount of money to spend on myself during a

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Speaker 1: month over the course of a few months.

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Speaker 2: And perhaps for different things.

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Speaker 1: Right, So, I have a quote unquote self care budget

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Speaker 1: that I would not say is anything exorbitant, but one

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Speaker 1: that's set aside for something like a manicure every now

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Speaker 1: and again, or maybe taking myself out for a drink.

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Speaker 1: I also, and I've talked about this specific quote unquote

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Speaker 1: money pop before, have had a bank account for a

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Speaker 1: really long time that I've called my Italy Fund.

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Speaker 2: I'm sitting here like shaking my head. Let me tell you.

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Speaker 1: When it felt like everything blew up with London, I

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Speaker 1: felt like it was so serendipitous that the Italy Fund

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Speaker 1: was waiting for me. There is no you know, I'm

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Speaker 1: not going to be using all of the money that

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Speaker 1: I had put in this Italy Fund. I essentially have

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Speaker 1: put about three hundred dollars in that fund a month

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Speaker 1: since my last trip to Italy about three years ago now,

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Speaker 1: if maybe not a little bit longer ago. And I

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Speaker 1: was booking experiences or hotels or dinners. In my mind,

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Speaker 1: it was like, Wow, good on me for looking out

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Speaker 1: for me, and especially as a single woman in my thirties,

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Speaker 1: I feel so empowered that I can spend on me

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Speaker 1: and feel good about that investment. Of course, this is

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Speaker 1: relative to my current predicament and the pivot, but I

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Speaker 1: also feel that way when it comes to my home

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Speaker 1: and again, and just like doing things that make me happy,

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Speaker 1: I have worked so hard to get to this place,

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Speaker 1: and I am of the camp that you don't need

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Speaker 1: to be making obscene amounts of money to figure out

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Speaker 1: a way to intelligently invest in yourself as well. It's

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Speaker 2: Right. It's planning to take care of you. And if

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Speaker 2: you're not taking the time to.

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Speaker 1: Plan to take care of you, but you're so focused

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Speaker 1: on taking care of others, then you're gonna hit a

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Speaker 1: hurdle in that, right, because you need to fill your

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Speaker 1: own cup up to pour from it to the rest

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Speaker 1: of the world. It's that ever beautiful saying. If you

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Speaker 1: don't put your oxygen mask on first, then you can't

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Speaker 1: help others, or you know what I'm getting at something

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Speaker 1: along those lines. Anyway, it feels really good to invest

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Speaker 1: in me, and amidst you know this really emotional time,

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Speaker 1: I understand now that this too is an opportunity. And yeah,

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Speaker 1: I know money is like a weird thing to talk about,

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Speaker 1: but that's what we do here, right, We talk about

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Speaker 1: the weird stuff sometimes, and so that's.

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Speaker 2: Where my head's at with that.

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Speaker 1: Anyway, my prompt for you this week, how can you

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Speaker 1: invest in you? What can you put into place? What parameters,

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Speaker 1: what strategy can you put into place so that you

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Speaker 1: don't have to feel guilty about spending on yourself. I

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Speaker 1: do have an episode that I feel like I should

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Speaker 1: reference here. I talked about financial wellness once on the show.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to put a link to that in the

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Speaker 1: show notes. But remember you're worthy of your own investment,

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Speaker 1: your energy, your time giving to yourself, and of course,

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Speaker 1: as I just mentioned, financially. So the prompt again, how

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Speaker 1: can you better invest in yourself in the weeks and

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Speaker 1: months to come? Now in her question, okay.

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Speaker 3: Emily, this is any from Minnesota. My question is how

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Speaker 3: do you best deal with disappointments in your life? More

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Speaker 3: like when you're like disappointed in yourself or you feel

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Speaker 3: like you could have done better and you didn't and

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Speaker 3: you didn't put your best foot forward, whether that be

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Speaker 3: in a race or workout or in relationships. In your life.

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Speaker 3: Just wondering if you have any practical tips or ways

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Speaker 3: just like retrain your mind to have dealt with those

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Speaker 3: disappointments and overcome them. Thanks so much, bye.

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Speaker 2: Oh man. How relevant to the timing.

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Speaker 1: So disappointment is challenging, right, because you need to feel

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Speaker 1: that disappointment. If you try to pretend that you're not disappointed,

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Speaker 1: that doesn't serve you. So you need to navigate those

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Speaker 1: feelings and go through all of them. Now, with that said,

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Speaker 1: if you're only focused on one part of an experience

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Speaker 1: or a specific journey, then you're not seeing the whole

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Speaker 1: bigger picture. So I'll take this marathon into the picture

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Speaker 1: for a second. I said that wrong, but you're following

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Speaker 1: where I'm going here. If I based my success of

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Speaker 1: the marathon solely around crossing the ultimate finish line in London,

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Speaker 1: then I was missing the point. I will not be

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Speaker 1: crossing that finish line in London, but I can say

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Speaker 1: that without a doubt that there are many successes from

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Speaker 1: this training cycle that have nothing to do with that.

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Speaker 2: And so even though I'm not towing the line for the.

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Speaker 1: Marathon, I do think of this training cycle the last

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Speaker 1: three months of my life as a success because in

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Speaker 1: those three months I was able to find new community,

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Speaker 1: learn a lot about myself, and show up for myself.

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Speaker 1: Of course, this perspective isn't something that just snaps into place, however,

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Speaker 1: I use this word a lot. But you have an

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Speaker 1: opportunity to find that perspective, and you also have the

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Speaker 1: opportunity to find what success looks like for you. Right So,

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Speaker 1: just because one person, someone you know, has one definition

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Speaker 1: of success, that doesn't mean that you need to see

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Speaker 1: things in the same light. And they can't define what

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Speaker 1: success looks like for you. Let me say that again,

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Speaker 1: No one else can define what success looks like for you.

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Speaker 2: Everyone is entitled to their own opinion.

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Speaker 1: But what matters most, forever and always is the opinion

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Speaker 1: that you have of yourself. You know where you're coming from,

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Speaker 1: so focus on that again. Feel all the feelings. It's

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Speaker 1: okay to be disappointed, but lingering that, lingering in that

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Speaker 1: for too long isn't going to serve you. Take a

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Speaker 1: deep breath on those days that feel hard, and do

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Speaker 1: the best you can with what you have something else.

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Speaker 2: My pet said to me earlier today.

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Speaker 1: He's trying to give me some perspective about a date

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Speaker 1: that fell through. He said to me, sometimes I have

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Speaker 1: thing that was bumming me out today three months from now,

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Speaker 1: me think. Maybe it makes you think too, anyway, you know.

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