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Speaker 1: Wake that ass up in the morning.

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Speaker 2: Breakfast Club Morning, Everybody's DJ Envy Angela, Yee, Charlomagne the guy.

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Speaker 1: We are the breakfast club. We got a special guest

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Speaker 1: in the ballot. That's right, this divine being having a

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Speaker 1: human experience. Master, well being, educator, don't to keep going. Oh.

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Speaker 1: She has many teaching certifications. She has many teaching certifications

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Speaker 1: including meditation, breath work in the child, healing, and spiritual psychology.

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Speaker 1: She's an energy healer. She hosting leads many spiritual spiritual

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Speaker 1: retreats a year. She teaches in God's Deli Meditations on

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Speaker 1: the Choper app. She advises on well being. A teachers

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Speaker 1: mindfulness for several corporations. She's an author of a book

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Speaker 1: called Crystal Bliss, and she hosts a podcast on the

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Speaker 1: Black Podcast Network called Dropping Gems. It's my good sister.

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Speaker 1: And she has a four year old that is taller

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Speaker 1: than Charlamagne. That is a fact. Wie, that's my god son.

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Speaker 1: We're talking about the quest is a big little boy.

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Speaker 1: That is a fact. Yes, welcome, good morning, Good morning.

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Speaker 1: How are you, Debbie.

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Speaker 3: I'm incredible, I feel incredible. Okay, this moment in time

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Speaker 3: is a lot, but it's also there's magic in it

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Speaker 3: for all of us.

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Speaker 1: What makes you feel so incredible?

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Speaker 3: You know, I think I'm excited about where we all

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Speaker 3: get to be in our lives in this moment, Like

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Speaker 3: this is the first time ever in human history that

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Speaker 3: we've all been able to become higher versions of ourselves,

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Speaker 3: like so many at a time. We all have more resources,

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Speaker 3: more support for mental health, more support for emotional health.

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Speaker 3: So it's like even when I get to see friends

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Speaker 3: I haven't seen in a while, like, I feel like

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Speaker 3: we get to meet each other at new levels. You know,

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Speaker 3: we get to have deeper conversations with the people that

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Speaker 3: we love. We get to be, you know, just set

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Speaker 3: our boundaries, be ourselves.

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Speaker 2: People say, what are you talking about?

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Speaker 1: Debbie does multi pox?

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Speaker 2: There is COVID and we're in a recession, interest rates

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Speaker 2: at at all time high, but you still find the

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Speaker 2: positive out of it, you know what it?

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Speaker 3: Life is both the human experience. We're always oscillating between

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Speaker 3: these two ends of the spectrum, joy and grief. And

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Speaker 3: I think that, you know, the viewpoint I have of it,

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Speaker 3: and something I really had to come into in the

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Speaker 3: pandemic was the moments that feel like joy, I have

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Speaker 3: to let myself feel all of it. You know, I

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Speaker 3: want every inch of delight when it's present, because life

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Speaker 3: is hard, life is challenging. Like we walk to the

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Speaker 3: table with so many things that we've experienced that no

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Speaker 3: one knows about, and then we're alive right now with

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Speaker 3: you know, it is what it is, all the things happening.

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Speaker 3: So when I get a chance to be with people

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Speaker 3: I love, when I get a chance to do anything

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Speaker 3: that sparks in my spirit, I try to feel every

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Speaker 3: single piece of it.

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Speaker 4: There are times when people feel guilty too, because they

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Speaker 4: may be experiencing a lot of positivity, but there's so

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Speaker 4: much going on around you that you don't feel like

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Speaker 4: you can even celebrate that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Yeah, and I think it's important to because that's

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Speaker 3: that's what allows us to sustain. Like, I think the

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Speaker 3: thing we've all gotten so wrong about the human experience

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Speaker 3: is like everyone thinks that the goal is always supreme

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Speaker 3: happiness and that if it's not that, then those are

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Speaker 3: the periods of your life you don't really sit with

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Speaker 3: or look at or talk about. But we need the grief,

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Speaker 3: we need the pain just as much as we need

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Speaker 3: everything else. So you know, even in the midst of

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Speaker 3: the moment in time we're having now where everything is

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Speaker 3: crazy and it's been crazy, you know, it's I wake

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Speaker 3: up every day and I'm just like, but how can

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Speaker 3: I fuel my fire? How can I keep that internal

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Speaker 3: oven inside of me just constantly going for myself, from

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Speaker 3: my life, from my child.

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Speaker 1: Can we go back to to like almost the beginning, right,

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Speaker 1: because when you think of you know, deVie dev A

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Speaker 1: lot of us probably know deVie Dad from radio. You know,

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Speaker 1: we started, Debbie Dev. I met you at kDa in

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Speaker 1: But it's like you've always been this spiritually connected person

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Speaker 1: when you when do you like first remember that like

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Speaker 3: I think so many things play into that. I think

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Speaker 3: that was a piece of it. But I've always just

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Speaker 2: Now, one time you decided to give this all up, right, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: you would. You were very successful doing radio. You were

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Speaker 2: in Houston, they were talking about syndication, you were talking

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Speaker 2: about moving back to la and then you said.

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Speaker 1: You were one of the best radio personality in the country.

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Speaker 1: I mean, it's still one of the best personalities period,

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Speaker 2: And then you said, I'm done with this. Well what

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Speaker 2: made you say, you know what, I don't want to

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Speaker 1: What?

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Speaker 3: What?

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Speaker 2: What was they.

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Speaker 3: Need? You know, it was a couple of things. I

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Speaker 3: think the amazing thing about the show that y'all do

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Speaker 3: is you guys have established something so rare and different

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Speaker 3: than has ever been I think in broadcasting, and you

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Speaker 3: guys get to show up as your full selves at work.

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Speaker 3: You get to have the conversations that matter to you.

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Speaker 3: Where I was when I was doing radio that had

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Speaker 3: started becoming so closed off. You know, at one point

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Speaker 3: viral with Kendrick talking about mental health. And then you know,

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Speaker 3: the powers that be they just say talk less talk less,

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Speaker 3: it's just I just felt like I wasn't able to

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Speaker 3: you know, when I left radio, that was like twenty sixteen,

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Speaker 3: take callers and ask them what celebrities they slept with Jesus.

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Speaker 3: And I was like, sir, do you know me at all?

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Speaker 3: Like I was like, well, I can't do that, so

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Speaker 3: I wanted to have more adventure. Like I At that point,

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Speaker 4: And let me ask you this. You did say back then,

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Speaker 4: those conversations weren't as popular as they are now. And

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Speaker 4: definitely now I feel like people are having those conversations

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Speaker 3: I think everybody should vet everyone that they talk to.

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Speaker 3: And I think what's really important is there is this

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Speaker 3: sharing processes that maybe worked really well for their individual lives.

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Speaker 3: just really important to connect with people that are deeply

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Speaker 3: with people who have embodied what they're saying, not just

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Speaker 3: people I'm like kind of guide more in that direction.

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Speaker 3: And I believe in a holistic view. I think if

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Speaker 1: Can we expand on that? I remember you telling me

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Speaker 1: you need more and just therapy to transform your life. Like,

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Speaker 3: Like, so even with therapy, there's so many different kinds

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Speaker 3: start asking more questions. But the piece about therapy is

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Speaker 3: At that that point, it can be really powerful to

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Speaker 1: And you know, you're a master well being educator. You

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Speaker 1: have you know a lot of certification. What does that

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Speaker 1: like you actually invested in yourself with this.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, I mean I've read a lot of books

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Speaker 3: So there's a multitude of reasons. But I think one

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Speaker 3: looked at, and you maybe had to please the person

437
00:22:32,119 --> 00:22:34,439
Speaker 3: that was caretaking for you to get what you needed.

438
00:22:35,280 --> 00:22:37,320
Speaker 3: And so then in your adult life you find yourself

439
00:22:37,359 --> 00:22:40,160
Speaker 3: repeating those patterns in so many different ways, and friendships

440
00:22:40,200 --> 00:22:42,639
Speaker 3: and relationships and the jobs that you choose, and the

441
00:22:42,640 --> 00:22:46,080
Speaker 3: way that your dynamic with your boss and your coworkers

442
00:22:46,160 --> 00:22:49,560
Speaker 3: is like it permeates everything about your life. There is

443
00:22:49,680 --> 00:22:51,560
Speaker 3: nothing more important than childhood.

444
00:22:52,000 --> 00:22:54,240
Speaker 2: Now when you talk about you know, everybody has their

445
00:22:54,240 --> 00:22:57,600
Speaker 2: own journey, right, yeah, and you have family, your friends,

446
00:22:57,640 --> 00:23:01,080
Speaker 2: your man, and your child. So you base your circle

447
00:23:01,160 --> 00:23:03,160
Speaker 2: now because there's going to be some people that are

448
00:23:03,160 --> 00:23:05,800
Speaker 2: into the things that you're into, some people that don't

449
00:23:05,840 --> 00:23:09,120
Speaker 2: care about it, some people that don't believe. So how

450
00:23:09,119 --> 00:23:11,159
Speaker 2: do you keep your circle? Do you keep those people

451
00:23:11,160 --> 00:23:12,760
Speaker 2: that are not in your circle? Or do you set

452
00:23:12,840 --> 00:23:14,720
Speaker 2: up those boundaries? But it's like, all right, well, if

453
00:23:14,720 --> 00:23:16,359
Speaker 2: you're not believed, I'll wait for you to be a

454
00:23:16,400 --> 00:23:18,359
Speaker 2: believer to be in a circle. So how do you

455
00:23:18,400 --> 00:23:21,000
Speaker 2: go about your your normal day?

456
00:23:19,760 --> 00:23:19,920
Speaker 1: Oh?

457
00:23:22,520 --> 00:23:24,960
Speaker 3: I don't think people have to be believers. Like, I'm

458
00:23:24,960 --> 00:23:28,480
Speaker 3: not looking to convince anyone, And I'm okay if we

459
00:23:28,640 --> 00:23:32,320
Speaker 3: are not aligned in our beliefs, but.

460
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Speaker 2: I would be a friend with somebody like you know,

461
00:23:34,800 --> 00:23:36,600
Speaker 2: Charlemagne goes outside likes the hug wood.

462
00:23:36,680 --> 00:23:41,359
Speaker 1: Right if he wasn't a tree sir? Sorry, okay, if.

463
00:23:41,200 --> 00:23:43,840
Speaker 2: He wasn't a wood hugger, right, could you explain We

464
00:23:43,880 --> 00:23:47,159
Speaker 2: can explain that if he wasn't a wood hugger, he

465
00:23:47,520 --> 00:23:50,280
Speaker 2: loves but if he wasn't that way, could you be

466
00:23:50,400 --> 00:23:53,440
Speaker 2: around him as much? If he wasn't as grounded as

467
00:23:53,440 --> 00:23:56,000
Speaker 2: he was, or if he wasn't doing the work on himself,

468
00:23:56,040 --> 00:23:58,479
Speaker 2: could you still have him in your circle like that?

469
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Speaker 1: Or you know, the.

470
00:24:00,040 --> 00:24:02,720
Speaker 3: Structure of our relationship would have to change. I want

471
00:24:02,760 --> 00:24:04,879
Speaker 3: to be in judgment about him, like I want to

472
00:24:05,080 --> 00:24:09,359
Speaker 3: judge a person, because we're living different lives. However, I

473
00:24:09,520 --> 00:24:17,240
Speaker 3: have to prioritize what is actually nurturing my own life

474
00:24:17,359 --> 00:24:20,879
Speaker 3: and my own growth. And so I think first I

475
00:24:20,920 --> 00:24:23,120
Speaker 3: would say this, all of us hold on to too

476
00:24:23,119 --> 00:24:25,639
Speaker 3: many people for too long. That is what I feel.

477
00:24:25,880 --> 00:24:28,200
Speaker 3: A lot of it comes because of social media. It's

478
00:24:28,200 --> 00:24:30,560
Speaker 3: this natural Oh we kind of had a click, I'm

479
00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:32,840
Speaker 3: gonna follow you, I'm gonna follow you back. Now we're

480
00:24:32,840 --> 00:24:35,760
Speaker 3: plugged into knowing the nuance of every person we've ever

481
00:24:35,840 --> 00:24:39,800
Speaker 3: met life forever. There's not really the room for that,

482
00:24:40,080 --> 00:24:41,560
Speaker 3: you know. So I think the way that I look

483
00:24:41,600 --> 00:24:46,680
Speaker 3: at my life is I'm a very very open person.

484
00:24:47,160 --> 00:24:51,000
Speaker 3: I love connecting with people. But when I look at

485
00:24:51,000 --> 00:24:53,840
Speaker 3: how my life is actually built, it's not sustainable for

486
00:24:53,920 --> 00:24:56,840
Speaker 3: me to have active relationship with a lot of people.

487
00:24:57,359 --> 00:25:00,360
Speaker 3: And so over the last two years, like I've massivily

488
00:25:00,480 --> 00:25:03,919
Speaker 3: shed in my life and Some of them were highly intentional,

489
00:25:03,960 --> 00:25:07,560
Speaker 3: like friendships that were misaligned because of character, because of integrity,

490
00:25:07,560 --> 00:25:11,240
Speaker 3: because of choices, and there had to be hard conversations.

491
00:25:11,600 --> 00:25:15,120
Speaker 3: Some of those hard conversations turned into re establishing the friendship,

492
00:25:15,240 --> 00:25:18,320
Speaker 3: like we were able to get to new ground and rebuild.

493
00:25:18,880 --> 00:25:22,240
Speaker 3: Some of them were more of an awkward heartsh goodbye,

494
00:25:23,160 --> 00:25:26,880
Speaker 3: and many others were really just let nature do his thing.

495
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Speaker 2: And how are those conversations? Like, So, let's say there's

496
00:25:30,680 --> 00:25:32,720
Speaker 2: somebody in your click you need to have a conversation. Yeah,

497
00:25:32,720 --> 00:25:35,480
Speaker 2: because they're not following the same journey that you're following.

498
00:25:35,680 --> 00:25:37,640
Speaker 2: You just don't want them around you, honestly, So how

499
00:25:37,640 --> 00:25:38,880
Speaker 2: do you have those conversations?

500
00:25:41,200 --> 00:25:45,040
Speaker 3: So if you're me, you just have them. I don't

501
00:25:45,040 --> 00:25:46,960
Speaker 3: have a lot of fear around any of that because

502
00:25:47,000 --> 00:25:49,879
Speaker 3: I think I love myself, I love my life. I

503
00:25:49,920 --> 00:25:54,840
Speaker 3: feel aligned, and so I'm not taking other people's misdirected

504
00:25:54,880 --> 00:25:58,119
Speaker 3: emotions personally. So if someone is upset in our conversation,

505
00:25:58,560 --> 00:26:00,000
Speaker 3: that's not going to rock me, and I'm most not

506
00:26:00,119 --> 00:26:01,800
Speaker 3: going to take on a lot of guilt about it.

507
00:26:01,880 --> 00:26:06,800
Speaker 3: I trust that my choices are made in integrity. But

508
00:26:08,440 --> 00:26:10,440
Speaker 3: you know, you have to be direct, but you also

509
00:26:10,520 --> 00:26:13,000
Speaker 3: have to know yourself to be direct in a way

510
00:26:13,040 --> 00:26:16,120
Speaker 3: that it's actually healing and beneficial, not you know when

511
00:26:16,119 --> 00:26:19,119
Speaker 3: people use that term brutally honest or I keep it real.

512
00:26:19,720 --> 00:26:23,919
Speaker 3: Real is relative. You're real is based on your life experience,

513
00:26:23,960 --> 00:26:26,840
Speaker 3: and it could be completely fraudulent to someone else based

514
00:26:26,840 --> 00:26:31,040
Speaker 3: on how they recognize real. So I think there has

515
00:26:31,080 --> 00:26:33,280
Speaker 3: to be a certain amount of self awareness in yourself

516
00:26:33,359 --> 00:26:36,160
Speaker 3: before you have that conversation. And it's important to come

517
00:26:36,200 --> 00:26:40,840
Speaker 3: into a space, if possible, of more neutrality so that

518
00:26:40,960 --> 00:26:43,920
Speaker 3: you can walk away from something with lasting peace.

519
00:26:44,000 --> 00:26:46,480
Speaker 2: As a friend, right, and because I'm sure to people listening.

520
00:26:46,760 --> 00:26:48,840
Speaker 2: So as a friend, let's say Nick, the camera guy,

521
00:26:48,920 --> 00:26:51,919
Speaker 2: let's say do you guide him first of what you

522
00:26:52,080 --> 00:26:54,040
Speaker 2: think of being a friend? Like, Hey, Nick, I think

523
00:26:54,080 --> 00:26:56,360
Speaker 2: that you're doing this too much. I think you need

524
00:26:56,400 --> 00:26:57,679
Speaker 2: to fall back and look at this or it's one

525
00:26:57,680 --> 00:26:59,320
Speaker 2: of those things like, Bro, you're not going in my direction.

526
00:26:59,359 --> 00:27:02,160
Speaker 1: I gotta go yeah, because it can be two preach

527
00:27:02,320 --> 00:27:02,840
Speaker 1: great question.

528
00:27:03,320 --> 00:27:06,359
Speaker 2: But you know, as somebody who's done the work, who's

529
00:27:06,680 --> 00:27:10,280
Speaker 2: read numerous books, who's you know, done what you're supposed

530
00:27:10,280 --> 00:27:11,960
Speaker 2: to do, how do you do that? As you know

531
00:27:12,000 --> 00:27:12,520
Speaker 2: with the friend.

532
00:27:14,680 --> 00:27:19,240
Speaker 3: So what I did for myself was when I started

533
00:27:19,320 --> 00:27:23,800
Speaker 3: noticing that some friendships felt misaligned or non reciprocal in

534
00:27:23,840 --> 00:27:26,320
Speaker 3: the ways that were important to me, I just made

535
00:27:26,359 --> 00:27:28,399
Speaker 3: a mental note and I told myself that I was

536
00:27:28,440 --> 00:27:30,919
Speaker 3: going to slowly observe it. So you could do that

537
00:27:30,960 --> 00:27:32,639
Speaker 3: in a way of saying I'm going to give somebody

538
00:27:32,720 --> 00:27:35,640
Speaker 3: three strikes or three chances. But I just started slowly

539
00:27:35,680 --> 00:27:39,480
Speaker 3: observing and still interacting with the person. How the flow

540
00:27:39,520 --> 00:27:42,800
Speaker 3: of our relationship was, how often did we talk, were

541
00:27:42,840 --> 00:27:45,440
Speaker 3: they able to show up for me? Was I showing

542
00:27:45,520 --> 00:27:48,560
Speaker 3: up for them? Did it feel reciprocal? And I just

543
00:27:48,680 --> 00:27:50,760
Speaker 3: watched it over the course of a year. Like I

544
00:27:50,840 --> 00:27:54,119
Speaker 3: knew I was called to kind of radically shift and

545
00:27:54,200 --> 00:27:57,200
Speaker 3: make space in my life, and I gave myself really

546
00:27:57,240 --> 00:27:59,400
Speaker 3: a year to do it. So I started just observing

547
00:27:59,400 --> 00:28:03,879
Speaker 3: people from a far noticing things, keeping mental notes, and

548
00:28:03,920 --> 00:28:06,760
Speaker 3: then I really prayed about it. I said prayers, I

549
00:28:06,800 --> 00:28:10,120
Speaker 3: set intentions around it lead me to the aligned friendships

550
00:28:10,160 --> 00:28:14,720
Speaker 3: and partnerships allow me to remove with ease any friendships

551
00:28:14,800 --> 00:28:18,439
Speaker 3: or connections that are not serving or misaligned. You know,

552
00:28:18,480 --> 00:28:21,080
Speaker 3: I think it is important to bring God into all

553
00:28:21,080 --> 00:28:23,720
Speaker 3: of it. I think it's important to bring just a

554
00:28:23,880 --> 00:28:27,400
Speaker 3: higher energy into all of it. Once that was done

555
00:28:27,400 --> 00:28:30,280
Speaker 3: and I started really saying, okay, yeah, that's not a fit.

556
00:28:31,200 --> 00:28:33,520
Speaker 3: I just called people up directly and I was like, Hey,

557
00:28:33,520 --> 00:28:35,159
Speaker 3: I want to talk to you about our friendship. I

558
00:28:35,200 --> 00:28:38,080
Speaker 3: want to talk about our relationship. And I said, I

559
00:28:38,200 --> 00:28:39,880
Speaker 3: just want to let you know I don't have a

560
00:28:39,880 --> 00:28:42,080
Speaker 3: lot of judgment around you or this, but I need

561
00:28:42,080 --> 00:28:45,480
Speaker 3: to share how I'm feeling. I usually had supporting examples

562
00:28:45,640 --> 00:28:48,560
Speaker 3: of you know, this experience happened, this is the way

563
00:28:48,600 --> 00:28:51,360
Speaker 3: it made me feel. What are your thoughts on that.

564
00:28:52,040 --> 00:28:54,120
Speaker 3: We went back and forth a little bit about it.

565
00:28:54,600 --> 00:28:58,880
Speaker 3: Some people in my life said, thank you so much

566
00:28:59,360 --> 00:29:03,400
Speaker 3: for telling me this. I felt something changing between us.

567
00:29:03,760 --> 00:29:06,440
Speaker 3: I never saw that. I didn't even notice I was

568
00:29:06,480 --> 00:29:09,959
Speaker 3: doing that, but you're absolutely right. I'm sorry. We were

569
00:29:10,000 --> 00:29:13,720
Speaker 3: able to rebuild some people. It's just like, okay, all right,

570
00:29:13,840 --> 00:29:17,880
Speaker 3: what all right for? Show? You know or f you like? Okay,

571
00:29:17,920 --> 00:29:19,800
Speaker 3: but da da da da da da da. So I

572
00:29:19,840 --> 00:29:23,000
Speaker 3: think walking into setting boundaries, walking into shedding people, you

573
00:29:23,120 --> 00:29:26,040
Speaker 3: have to also walk in with the confidence of it's

574
00:29:26,080 --> 00:29:29,400
Speaker 3: okay if I lose them, it's okay if they don't understand.

575
00:29:29,440 --> 00:29:31,920
Speaker 3: And it's also okay if they blame me. None of

576
00:29:31,920 --> 00:29:33,480
Speaker 3: that has anything to do with me.

577
00:29:33,880 --> 00:29:35,920
Speaker 1: You know. It's like the word ease is a very

578
00:29:36,600 --> 00:29:39,800
Speaker 1: powerful word because you know, you know, you know, I

579
00:29:39,840 --> 00:29:41,840
Speaker 1: thank God for you daily. I tell you this all

580
00:29:41,880 --> 00:29:44,640
Speaker 1: the time. But it's just like our relationship, It's never

581
00:29:44,640 --> 00:29:47,400
Speaker 1: been a time we didn't share information. It's never been

582
00:29:47,440 --> 00:29:50,120
Speaker 1: a time we didn't have, you know, deep conversation. It's

583
00:29:50,120 --> 00:29:52,880
Speaker 1: just like things evolved and went from Yo, Charlottage listening

584
00:29:52,920 --> 00:29:55,520
Speaker 1: to this nipsey hustle bullets ain't got no name, or

585
00:29:56,240 --> 00:29:58,680
Speaker 1: arguing about Kendrick Lamar, you know what I mean to

586
00:29:59,480 --> 00:30:02,960
Speaker 1: read deep October seven spirituals like it just seemed effortless

587
00:30:03,240 --> 00:30:05,760
Speaker 1: the whole time. Yeah, And is that what you should

588
00:30:05,760 --> 00:30:06,120
Speaker 1: look for?

589
00:30:06,160 --> 00:30:09,600
Speaker 3: I guess absolutely. And I love us as a case

590
00:30:09,600 --> 00:30:11,840
Speaker 3: study of that because we've been friends for now like

591
00:30:11,920 --> 00:30:15,400
Speaker 3: fifteen years, and we've seen each other at so many

592
00:30:15,520 --> 00:30:20,280
Speaker 3: junctures of the journey. But what we always had was

593
00:30:20,400 --> 00:30:23,200
Speaker 3: non judgment. We always had an openness, We always had

594
00:30:23,600 --> 00:30:27,320
Speaker 3: an ability to talk things through. And I think you

595
00:30:27,360 --> 00:30:29,400
Speaker 3: don't want to just hold on to people because of

596
00:30:29,440 --> 00:30:33,320
Speaker 3: a length of time or this like false sense of loyalty,

597
00:30:33,360 --> 00:30:36,400
Speaker 3: which no one actually has a real definition for that word,

598
00:30:36,520 --> 00:30:39,200
Speaker 3: like it changes with everyone. If you look up the

599
00:30:39,200 --> 00:30:42,960
Speaker 3: definition of loyalty, it just means in affinity. For I'm

600
00:30:43,040 --> 00:30:48,360
Speaker 3: fond of I like, you have to really look at, like,

601
00:30:48,520 --> 00:30:51,960
Speaker 3: what is kind of doing life with a friend? Can

602
00:30:52,000 --> 00:30:54,360
Speaker 3: there be more grace for that? Can there be more ease?

603
00:30:54,480 --> 00:30:56,800
Speaker 3: Can we go six months without talking because we're both

604
00:30:56,840 --> 00:30:59,480
Speaker 3: in a different place and then come back together? I

605
00:30:59,480 --> 00:31:02,760
Speaker 3: think we would be allowed to. But yeah, being able

606
00:31:02,800 --> 00:31:07,560
Speaker 3: to kind of just evolve as equals at every step

607
00:31:08,320 --> 00:31:10,640
Speaker 3: is what I look for in friendship. And I'm also

608
00:31:10,680 --> 00:31:13,200
Speaker 3: okay with things not having to be that deep. There's

609
00:31:13,240 --> 00:31:15,160
Speaker 3: some people in my life I trust them to be

610
00:31:15,200 --> 00:31:17,480
Speaker 3: themselves and I show up as myself and I give

611
00:31:17,520 --> 00:31:19,760
Speaker 3: them what they can handle of me.

612
00:31:20,440 --> 00:31:20,840
Speaker 1: Mm hmm.

613
00:31:21,520 --> 00:31:24,520
Speaker 4: Now, how does people's mental health affect their physical health?

614
00:31:24,760 --> 00:31:26,440
Speaker 2: You don't pray for you don't pray about me every day?

615
00:31:26,440 --> 00:31:27,160
Speaker 4: You don't.

616
00:31:27,200 --> 00:31:29,160
Speaker 3: I was like, what is envy thinking over there?

617
00:31:29,480 --> 00:31:31,200
Speaker 1: I do thank God for you, you, thank God for

618
00:31:31,240 --> 00:31:33,840
Speaker 1: this whole situation. This situation changed our life.

619
00:31:33,920 --> 00:31:37,400
Speaker 2: We're openness with deep. I just want to know why

620
00:31:37,680 --> 00:31:38,520
Speaker 2: you never told.

621
00:31:38,320 --> 00:31:43,920
Speaker 5: Me that he like, I hear you don't say it, envy,

622
00:31:47,400 --> 00:31:48,360
Speaker 5: let me see what the blood is.

623
00:31:48,640 --> 00:31:49,600
Speaker 1: I hear womb talking.

624
00:31:50,960 --> 00:31:54,280
Speaker 4: I was asking about mental health affecting people's physical health too,

625
00:31:54,320 --> 00:31:56,200
Speaker 4: because I feel like that's a theme as well when

626
00:31:56,200 --> 00:31:58,560
Speaker 4: it comes to athletes, but the everyday person.

627
00:31:58,880 --> 00:32:01,640
Speaker 3: Oh my god, all of us, and now, thank god,

628
00:32:01,680 --> 00:32:04,800
Speaker 3: there's so much science and studies coming out to back

629
00:32:04,840 --> 00:32:08,360
Speaker 3: it up. There's phenomenal books on this. The Body keeps

630
00:32:08,360 --> 00:32:11,320
Speaker 3: the Score as an amazing book. Resma Meenican my grandmother's saying,

631
00:32:12,720 --> 00:32:17,280
Speaker 3: trauma is stored absolutely in the body. Our experiences don't

632
00:32:17,360 --> 00:32:19,280
Speaker 3: leave us. And that's why, you know, when we were

633
00:32:19,280 --> 00:32:22,680
Speaker 3: talking about kind of that approach to really heal, you

634
00:32:22,880 --> 00:32:25,280
Speaker 3: have to bring your body into it. So you have

635
00:32:25,360 --> 00:32:28,840
Speaker 3: to have different practices and processes that allow you to

636
00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:31,240
Speaker 3: love on your body, to kind of push out of

637
00:32:31,280 --> 00:32:34,680
Speaker 3: your cells, out of your skin, your experiences. So I

638
00:32:34,720 --> 00:32:37,080
Speaker 3: think even you know, if someone's in like a cognitive

639
00:32:37,120 --> 00:32:40,280
Speaker 3: therapy and maybe not ready for some of the other stuff,

640
00:32:40,280 --> 00:32:44,160
Speaker 3: I always say, book a massage appointment for after your

641
00:32:44,200 --> 00:32:47,440
Speaker 3: therapy appointment, and then think about the awarenesses that came

642
00:32:47,480 --> 00:32:49,920
Speaker 3: in as you're getting the massage, think about things you

643
00:32:49,960 --> 00:32:52,560
Speaker 3: want to release as you're getting the massage, or you

644
00:32:52,560 --> 00:32:55,600
Speaker 3: could do self massage, self stretching at home, because the

645
00:32:55,640 --> 00:32:57,960
Speaker 3: trauma absolutely stays with us. And I think we've seen

646
00:32:58,000 --> 00:33:02,400
Speaker 3: in our communities so many diseases, you know, so many

647
00:33:02,400 --> 00:33:05,680
Speaker 3: different things manifesting that it's just like, how is this possible?

648
00:33:06,040 --> 00:33:08,000
Speaker 3: It can't just be died, it can't just be this

649
00:33:08,200 --> 00:33:11,920
Speaker 3: like there is a there is a grief present that

650
00:33:12,040 --> 00:33:14,960
Speaker 3: is bringing on this sickness in people's bodies. And I

651
00:33:15,000 --> 00:33:17,480
Speaker 3: think it's just that's why we have to do that

652
00:33:17,560 --> 00:33:20,480
Speaker 3: kind of holistic approach. That was a massive part of

653
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Speaker 3: my journey. I was in therapy for many, many years,

654
00:33:23,600 --> 00:33:27,840
Speaker 3: and I understood a lot, but not much was actively changing.

655
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Speaker 3: And then when I came in and I started seeing

656
00:33:29,960 --> 00:33:33,600
Speaker 3: a somatic therapist, I started doing somatic processes that really

657
00:33:33,920 --> 00:33:37,560
Speaker 3: helped me to understand my body's reactions to every moment.

658
00:33:38,120 --> 00:33:40,520
Speaker 3: That's when I became really empowered. You could feel your

659
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Speaker 3: triggers in real time, but then also soothe them in

660
00:33:43,680 --> 00:33:47,520
Speaker 3: real time because on this healing journey, no matter what

661
00:33:47,640 --> 00:33:51,040
Speaker 3: you do, we're still on earth, We're still in this

662
00:33:51,120 --> 00:33:54,640
Speaker 3: crazy environment. Very often the people near us are not

663
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Speaker 3: changing in the ways that we are. So it's just

664
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Speaker 3: so so so incredibly important that we honor ourselves, that

665
00:34:03,640 --> 00:34:06,600
Speaker 3: we honor our bodies, that we come into a space

666
00:34:06,720 --> 00:34:10,640
Speaker 3: of being able to, you know, ideally get through our wounds,

667
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Speaker 3: our triggers faster. We're not just looking for happiness. I'm

668
00:34:15,320 --> 00:34:19,960
Speaker 3: I'm in my wholeness. I'm in my sovereignty. I am

669
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Speaker 3: deep in mastery on many different parts and also learning

670
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Speaker 3: in other pieces of myself. But you know, I look

671
00:34:27,640 --> 00:34:32,640
Speaker 3: at happiness for me, isn't the goal. The goal for

672
00:34:32,680 --> 00:34:34,960
Speaker 3: me is the fact that something that used to hurt me,

673
00:34:35,400 --> 00:34:38,160
Speaker 3: that I may ruminate over for a week, for a month,

674
00:34:38,560 --> 00:34:41,360
Speaker 3: that may make me feel sick to my stomach about myself.

675
00:34:42,080 --> 00:34:45,200
Speaker 3: Now if I think about it, it's two seconds I

676
00:34:45,320 --> 00:34:47,920
Speaker 3: felt it. Oh yeah, because that did happen to me.

677
00:34:48,200 --> 00:34:50,960
Speaker 3: I accept that and I release it and I move

678
00:34:51,000 --> 00:34:53,760
Speaker 3: into the next moment. So I think that's that's really

679
00:34:53,800 --> 00:34:55,320
Speaker 3: the goal for healing.

680
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Speaker 1: Let's stay of Let's second real quick, because I want

681
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Speaker 1: to know why is self care vital for black and

682
00:35:01,280 --> 00:35:03,160
Speaker 1: brown bodies. But I also want you to talk about

683
00:35:03,200 --> 00:35:05,120
Speaker 1: the energy healing you do. Like I mean, you know,

684
00:35:05,200 --> 00:35:08,080
Speaker 1: people saw a glimpse of you doing it the Draymond

685
00:35:08,320 --> 00:35:10,400
Speaker 1: on the Sessions we talk about that.

686
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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, that was my favorite part of doing

687
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Speaker 3: the show. We were in like the Redwoods. We were

688
00:35:15,680 --> 00:35:17,440
Speaker 3: in this forest in the bay and I got to

689
00:35:17,480 --> 00:35:25,520
Speaker 3: do reiki energy work on him. Energy work is incredible.

690
00:35:25,680 --> 00:35:28,439
Speaker 3: It has changed my life. I think that I think

691
00:35:28,440 --> 00:35:32,240
Speaker 3: that our communities should be empowered with becoming facilitators of reiki,

692
00:35:32,480 --> 00:35:34,920
Speaker 3: of chakra healing, of energy work, and I think that

693
00:35:34,960 --> 00:35:36,799
Speaker 3: we should be using it on ourselves and in our

694
00:35:36,840 --> 00:35:41,000
Speaker 3: families daily. But energy work works with the energetic bodies.

695
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Speaker 3: So there is this field around you that is unseen

696
00:35:46,920 --> 00:35:49,600
Speaker 3: to the naked eye, but that is kind of the

697
00:35:49,760 --> 00:35:53,279
Speaker 3: energy that protects you that also magnetizes things to you

698
00:35:53,400 --> 00:35:58,759
Speaker 3: that can also be injured by different emotional wounds. And

699
00:35:59,560 --> 00:36:05,120
Speaker 3: energy is an ancient sacred practice, specifically reiki, where you

700
00:36:05,239 --> 00:36:07,920
Speaker 3: use your energy and you work with the person's energy

701
00:36:07,960 --> 00:36:11,279
Speaker 3: feel to bring healing into their environment. So it is

702
00:36:11,400 --> 00:36:16,000
Speaker 3: believed that this helps to heal and alleviate physical wounds,

703
00:36:16,080 --> 00:36:19,839
Speaker 3: mental wounds, emotional wounds, and it's also something that just

704
00:36:19,920 --> 00:36:24,480
Speaker 3: really allows you to feel enlivened, that gives you access

705
00:36:24,560 --> 00:36:28,880
Speaker 3: to the feeling of present moment, of groundedness, of peace

706
00:36:29,000 --> 00:36:32,480
Speaker 3: inside of your body. And I've done energy work on

707
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Speaker 3: you too.

708
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Speaker 1: It feels like a spiritual massage, like you could literally

709
00:36:38,680 --> 00:36:43,440
Speaker 1: feel things being removed from you as the energy, the

710
00:36:43,560 --> 00:36:45,560
Speaker 1: energy work is being done. Like you get up feeling

711
00:36:45,640 --> 00:36:49,320
Speaker 1: light like damn, what was on me? You know? Yeah,

712
00:36:49,440 --> 00:36:50,640
Speaker 1: that's how That's how I felt.

713
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Speaker 2: I was gonna ask, as mama bear right, if a

714
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Speaker 2: four year old, how do you raise him? Because you know,

715
00:36:58,160 --> 00:37:00,920
Speaker 2: you've been in the world. You know what's good, what's bad,

716
00:37:01,000 --> 00:37:04,680
Speaker 2: what's negative, what's positive? So you know, how do you

717
00:37:04,800 --> 00:37:06,600
Speaker 2: raise him? Do you put him in school? Do you

718
00:37:06,640 --> 00:37:08,640
Speaker 2: put him around of the kids whose maybe parents are

719
00:37:08,640 --> 00:37:11,080
Speaker 2: not on the align with what you what you do,

720
00:37:11,480 --> 00:37:14,640
Speaker 2: maybe not on the same journey. You know, even though

721
00:37:14,680 --> 00:37:16,759
Speaker 2: you might not give him social media, you know, his

722
00:37:16,760 --> 00:37:18,680
Speaker 2: friend might have it, or his friend might get things

723
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Speaker 2: from house. So how do you raise your four year old?

724
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Speaker 3: Oh? My god, that question is so hard. It's hard.

725
00:37:26,800 --> 00:37:29,719
Speaker 3: So you thought about it, God, not every day all day.

726
00:37:29,880 --> 00:37:34,600
Speaker 3: It's hard. You know. I think about my child every second,

727
00:37:37,360 --> 00:37:41,800
Speaker 3: so many things envy, you know, I feel like we're

728
00:37:41,840 --> 00:37:45,719
Speaker 3: all kind of on this journey of doing a lot

729
00:37:45,760 --> 00:37:49,080
Speaker 3: of lineage healing. We're bringing forward for our kids, maybe

730
00:37:49,080 --> 00:37:53,840
Speaker 3: things that never existed in our family systems. Ever, because

731
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Speaker 3: you think about the impact of slavery, you think about

732
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Speaker 3: the impact of all of the structural and societal oppression

733
00:38:00,239 --> 00:38:04,360
Speaker 3: that has existed since, and in black and brown communities,

734
00:38:04,400 --> 00:38:06,919
Speaker 3: there has always been a wounding in the parent child

735
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Speaker 3: relationship to some degree. You have your outliers, you have

736
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Speaker 3: those you know, one in a neighborhood, healthy family sometimes

737
00:38:15,000 --> 00:38:17,719
Speaker 3: and then everyone else. It's like you just see this

738
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Speaker 3: lack of emotional regulation, lack of ability to be your

739
00:38:23,440 --> 00:38:27,360
Speaker 3: authentic self so much fear so for me knowing that

740
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Speaker 3: I can't control the world and also feeling the daily

741
00:38:30,200 --> 00:38:33,719
Speaker 3: grief of that when you have a child. The thing

742
00:38:33,760 --> 00:38:36,759
Speaker 3: that I really look to do with my son Questmandela,

743
00:38:36,800 --> 00:38:41,080
Speaker 3: I love you so much, is teach him how to

744
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Speaker 3: be aware of himself. I am not going to be

745
00:38:43,520 --> 00:38:45,719
Speaker 3: able to control everything that happens in his life, and

746
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Speaker 3: I don't want to hold him in an environment where

747
00:38:48,960 --> 00:38:52,799
Speaker 3: he's just wearing rose colored glasses. So I just look

748
00:38:52,880 --> 00:38:56,280
Speaker 3: to really build his emotional intelligence at a very young age.

749
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Speaker 3: And so a lot of that is using affirmative words.

750
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Speaker 3: Since he was an infant, I would sit over him

751
00:39:01,760 --> 00:39:05,640
Speaker 3: every night and I would say, you know, I love myself.

752
00:39:05,760 --> 00:39:08,600
Speaker 3: I am loving and kind, I am strong and resilient,

753
00:39:08,760 --> 00:39:13,000
Speaker 3: I am creative and curious. I am kind. And then

754
00:39:13,080 --> 00:39:15,200
Speaker 3: now he says them for himself every day. He says,

755
00:39:15,239 --> 00:39:19,560
Speaker 3: I love myself, I'm cherished, I'm valued by my mom.

756
00:39:19,640 --> 00:39:22,200
Speaker 3: You know, I'm teaching him the words that will help

757
00:39:22,239 --> 00:39:25,440
Speaker 3: build his core identity to be in a foundation of

758
00:39:25,560 --> 00:39:29,280
Speaker 3: deep worth. And then I think, you know, what's important

759
00:39:29,440 --> 00:39:33,120
Speaker 3: is teaching them how to identify their emotions navigating in

760
00:39:33,160 --> 00:39:36,799
Speaker 3: the world. That's a skill so many of us didn't get.

761
00:39:36,960 --> 00:39:39,560
Speaker 3: And so with him, when he's upset, when he's happy,

762
00:39:39,640 --> 00:39:41,799
Speaker 3: I try to give him language for the things that

763
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Speaker 3: he's feeling, even before he can use the words. And

764
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Speaker 3: when he's upset, you know, I ask him, do you

765
00:39:47,920 --> 00:39:50,640
Speaker 3: need a hug right now? You know, what are you feelings?

766
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Speaker 3: And he was like, I'm frustrated, I'm feeling frustrated, I'm

767
00:39:53,160 --> 00:39:56,440
Speaker 3: feeling upset, I'm feeling sad, and just greeting all of

768
00:39:56,440 --> 00:39:58,920
Speaker 3: that and not taking it personally and not letting it

769
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Speaker 3: change the way I feel about myself. Or assume that

770
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Speaker 3: anything is wrong. I think that is one of the

771
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Speaker 3: things that comes up with even the best parents who

772
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Speaker 3: just want to shower their kids with love. Depending on

773
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Speaker 3: what our life experience is, parenting is one of the

774
00:40:16,280 --> 00:40:18,880
Speaker 3: most triggering things you could ever do in your life.

775
00:40:19,480 --> 00:40:22,520
Speaker 3: It shows you where all your own wounds lie. It

776
00:40:22,640 --> 00:40:26,080
Speaker 3: shows you where maybe things happen in your childhood that

777
00:40:26,160 --> 00:40:29,560
Speaker 3: were different and things that you maybe needed that you're

778
00:40:29,600 --> 00:40:32,600
Speaker 3: now giving your kid. So many of us are loving

779
00:40:32,640 --> 00:40:35,520
Speaker 3: our children in a way that we were never loved.

780
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Speaker 3: So I think just giving him the space to be

781
00:40:39,480 --> 00:40:41,920
Speaker 3: a kid as well is really important to me. Everyone

782
00:40:41,920 --> 00:40:44,400
Speaker 3: that meets my child is always like, he's the sweetest

783
00:40:44,400 --> 00:40:47,480
Speaker 3: guy ever, or he's so happy, or he's so this.

784
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Speaker 3: And because I'm not trying to shift his behavior, I'm

785
00:40:50,280 --> 00:40:52,560
Speaker 3: not telling him he needs to grow up faster. He's four.

786
00:40:53,160 --> 00:40:55,879
Speaker 3: He doesn't need to be super sophisticated. He doesn't need

787
00:40:55,920 --> 00:40:58,520
Speaker 3: to have to know how to shake hands perfectly, or

788
00:40:58,560 --> 00:41:00,760
Speaker 3: how to do this or that, or how to appear

789
00:41:00,880 --> 00:41:03,600
Speaker 3: like a little adult. He is his own being and

790
00:41:03,640 --> 00:41:04,760
Speaker 3: I let him be himself.

791
00:41:04,800 --> 00:41:07,400
Speaker 2: Do you let him play sports? His dad play NFL football?

792
00:41:07,480 --> 00:41:10,000
Speaker 2: You talk to a lot of people in the sports world.

793
00:41:10,520 --> 00:41:12,400
Speaker 2: Do you allow him to play that? Because it feels like,

794
00:41:12,840 --> 00:41:16,600
Speaker 2: even in sports, they take this one emotion and they

795
00:41:16,680 --> 00:41:19,239
Speaker 2: make you use that motion against their opponents, right, And

796
00:41:19,239 --> 00:41:22,440
Speaker 2: it's usually anger, right, it's usually aggressive. Right. You never

797
00:41:22,480 --> 00:41:24,239
Speaker 2: seen a football play that's nice, like, Hey, how you

798
00:41:24,320 --> 00:41:26,120
Speaker 2: doing today? I'm gonna tackle you in a second. You

799
00:41:26,160 --> 00:41:28,719
Speaker 2: don't see that, you know. So do you allow him

800
00:41:28,760 --> 00:41:31,640
Speaker 2: to play football in sports? Because that's not something you

801
00:41:31,640 --> 00:41:32,320
Speaker 2: thought of already.

802
00:41:32,840 --> 00:41:36,160
Speaker 3: No, he will not play football, you know that, matter

803
00:41:36,200 --> 00:41:39,600
Speaker 3: of factly, And that's something that we really talked a

804
00:41:39,600 --> 00:41:42,600
Speaker 3: lot about, even during my pregnancy, and that is a

805
00:41:42,760 --> 00:41:44,680
Speaker 3: that is a wish and to desire from his father

806
00:41:44,760 --> 00:41:45,160
Speaker 3: as well.

807
00:41:45,719 --> 00:41:50,400
Speaker 2: No, it's it's because you know that he's four, but

808
00:41:50,440 --> 00:41:52,719
Speaker 2: he size of an eight year old.

809
00:41:52,960 --> 00:41:55,399
Speaker 1: Coach is going to say, is let the record show

810
00:41:55,640 --> 00:41:58,040
Speaker 1: before he physically ever got here, I said that he

811
00:41:58,080 --> 00:41:59,879
Speaker 1: was going to be seven feet tall, three hundred and fifty.

812
00:42:00,600 --> 00:42:01,840
Speaker 4: Well, what's the reason I knew that?

813
00:42:02,560 --> 00:42:10,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, science is showing how much football can

814
00:42:10,120 --> 00:42:12,800
Speaker 3: affect your brain, and I'm not willing to take that

815
00:42:12,920 --> 00:42:15,520
Speaker 3: risk with my child. And I think that some of

816
00:42:15,520 --> 00:42:17,960
Speaker 3: the science that is coming out is also showing that

817
00:42:18,640 --> 00:42:23,719
Speaker 3: kids as early as playing even flag football are getting concussions,

818
00:42:23,800 --> 00:42:27,920
Speaker 3: and that children who are even playing in high school

819
00:42:28,040 --> 00:42:31,680
Speaker 3: are showing effects of CTE. And I'm just I'm completely

820
00:42:31,719 --> 00:42:36,279
Speaker 3: unwilling to risk my child's brain. But I think, you know,

821
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Speaker 3: I'm open to other kind of sports. Like I always

822
00:42:38,120 --> 00:42:43,680
Speaker 3: say and laugh, I'm like, he can golf. We got volleyball, badmintonball, baseball,

823
00:42:44,000 --> 00:42:49,279
Speaker 3: you know basketball? Yeah, so no basketball, no boxing, no football,

824
00:42:49,480 --> 00:42:53,239
Speaker 3: nonis he can he can make his own choices when

825
00:42:53,280 --> 00:42:56,680
Speaker 3: he's an adult man. Yeah, he can run track. You know,

826
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Speaker 3: he can meditate, We could do yoga.

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Speaker 4: Lacrosse is on the come up across too, though I

828
00:43:02,560 --> 00:43:03,439
Speaker 4: now lacrosse is tough.

829
00:43:03,560 --> 00:43:04,480
Speaker 3: There's some polo.

830
00:43:04,680 --> 00:43:06,920
Speaker 1: Now, let's talk about how a person can build a

831
00:43:07,040 --> 00:43:11,680
Speaker 1: daily self care like spiritual practice routine just start healing

832
00:43:11,719 --> 00:43:13,719
Speaker 1: and changing their life. How does a person do that?

833
00:43:14,000 --> 00:43:17,080
Speaker 3: Oh, this is the most important thing. And I know,

834
00:43:17,200 --> 00:43:19,360
Speaker 3: I know you have yours. Now do you guys feel

835
00:43:19,400 --> 00:43:21,440
Speaker 3: like angel letting v You guys are have like your

836
00:43:21,440 --> 00:43:24,520
Speaker 3: morning routines and tradition for kind of.

837
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Speaker 4: Not for me in the morning so much. It'd be

838
00:43:26,520 --> 00:43:28,200
Speaker 4: more before I go to bed, before.

839
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Speaker 3: Bed, that's perfect too. I'm I do some in the morning,

840
00:43:31,000 --> 00:43:34,919
Speaker 3: but always lam I mean, y'all wake up very early,

841
00:43:35,800 --> 00:43:38,200
Speaker 3: but my practice at night is where I get like,

842
00:43:38,400 --> 00:43:44,320
Speaker 3: really really deeply connected. So everyone talks right now about changing,

843
00:43:44,560 --> 00:43:50,600
Speaker 3: about growing, transforming healing, you have to make it sustainable

844
00:43:50,880 --> 00:43:54,359
Speaker 3: so that it's actually becomes your lived experience and not

845
00:43:54,480 --> 00:43:57,400
Speaker 3: just something you speak but are not acting or living.

846
00:43:57,920 --> 00:44:00,720
Speaker 3: That is what your daily practice does. And I think

847
00:44:01,360 --> 00:44:03,720
Speaker 3: you know sometimes in the mainstream you hear the word

848
00:44:03,760 --> 00:44:05,880
Speaker 3: self care and it's like, yeah, girl, go shop in

849
00:44:05,960 --> 00:44:08,319
Speaker 3: have some self care. Oh, go take a bag, get

850
00:44:08,320 --> 00:44:13,319
Speaker 3: a massage. Yes, And your self care is it's really

851
00:44:13,360 --> 00:44:17,600
Speaker 3: the practice that supports your life, that supports your destiny,

852
00:44:17,640 --> 00:44:20,400
Speaker 3: that supports your healing. And so what you want to

853
00:44:20,440 --> 00:44:23,120
Speaker 3: do when you're building a practice, first, identify how much

854
00:44:23,160 --> 00:44:25,399
Speaker 3: time you have. I know a lot of people work

855
00:44:25,480 --> 00:44:28,120
Speaker 3: really hard and have a lot of responsibilities. So even

856
00:44:28,120 --> 00:44:32,200
Speaker 3: if only five minutes is possible, please please try to

857
00:44:32,239 --> 00:44:34,520
Speaker 3: gift yourself with this. But if you can be more

858
00:44:34,560 --> 00:44:37,440
Speaker 3: expansive and spend thirty minutes, spend an hour, that could

859
00:44:37,480 --> 00:44:39,840
Speaker 3: be really powerful. What you want to do is you

860
00:44:39,840 --> 00:44:43,200
Speaker 3: want to build your daily practice around the four pillars

861
00:44:43,200 --> 00:44:47,000
Speaker 3: of wholeness, which is mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual. You

862
00:44:47,040 --> 00:44:49,800
Speaker 3: want to find something to do every day that falls

863
00:44:49,840 --> 00:44:52,759
Speaker 3: in one of those categories, and so that could look

864
00:44:52,840 --> 00:44:55,680
Speaker 3: like For mental, that could look like journaling, just getting

865
00:44:55,719 --> 00:44:58,560
Speaker 3: your thoughts out. It doesn't have to be dear diary style.

866
00:44:58,640 --> 00:45:00,399
Speaker 3: It could be a couple bullet points, so it could

867
00:45:00,400 --> 00:45:02,799
Speaker 3: be wow, I noticed that I keep thinking about this

868
00:45:02,880 --> 00:45:06,520
Speaker 3: one thought every day. It helps to build or reestablish

869
00:45:06,520 --> 00:45:09,840
Speaker 3: your intuition, which is also something that a lot of

870
00:45:10,000 --> 00:45:13,440
Speaker 3: people lack because they so often go against what their

871
00:45:13,480 --> 00:45:17,719
Speaker 3: gut tells them to do. Our intuition is our soul's GPS.

872
00:45:17,760 --> 00:45:20,919
Speaker 3: It's our guiding system as the human experience. So it's

873
00:45:21,120 --> 00:45:25,439
Speaker 3: really important that we ignite that ability in ourselves. That's

874
00:45:25,480 --> 00:45:28,400
Speaker 3: the mental category. Looking at the emotional category, that could

875
00:45:28,400 --> 00:45:34,440
Speaker 3: be meditation every day, you know, really sitting getting still,

876
00:45:34,560 --> 00:45:39,080
Speaker 3: getting quiet, and opening up your internal world, really coming

877
00:45:39,120 --> 00:45:41,960
Speaker 3: into a space of knowing how to be with yourself,

878
00:45:42,000 --> 00:45:44,879
Speaker 3: how to meet yourself, how to remember all of who

879
00:45:44,920 --> 00:45:47,600
Speaker 3: you truly are, outside of the roles that we play

880
00:45:47,600 --> 00:45:50,239
Speaker 3: in life, outside of the things that have happened to us.

881
00:45:50,800 --> 00:45:53,120
Speaker 3: You look at physical for some that's a workout, like

882
00:45:53,160 --> 00:45:55,279
Speaker 3: I know you'all be working out. Everybody be working out

883
00:45:55,320 --> 00:45:57,680
Speaker 3: every day, But that could also look like a daily

884
00:45:57,719 --> 00:46:00,799
Speaker 3: stretch practice. That could look like yo, that could look

885
00:46:00,840 --> 00:46:03,960
Speaker 3: like remembering to massage your own shoulders at the end

886
00:46:04,000 --> 00:46:06,319
Speaker 3: of the night because you're aching and you deserve your

887
00:46:06,320 --> 00:46:10,600
Speaker 3: own touch. And then if we look at the spiritual category,

888
00:46:11,400 --> 00:46:14,960
Speaker 3: that could really look like affirmations every day speaking life

889
00:46:14,960 --> 00:46:17,640
Speaker 3: over yourself. And let's take it a step deeper than

890
00:46:17,920 --> 00:46:19,880
Speaker 3: some of the ones of like I am abundance or

891
00:46:19,920 --> 00:46:23,760
Speaker 3: I am love or I am strong. Really call forward

892
00:46:24,560 --> 00:46:26,719
Speaker 3: what you want to embody. You know, one of my

893
00:46:26,719 --> 00:46:30,560
Speaker 3: first affirmations and my healing journey was I'm a precious

894
00:46:30,640 --> 00:46:36,600
Speaker 3: child of God, leading, leading from my heart's center. Yeah,

895
00:46:36,680 --> 00:46:37,800
Speaker 3: I think that was a piece of it. I'm a

896
00:46:37,840 --> 00:46:41,920
Speaker 3: precious child of God, leading from my soul's center, working

897
00:46:42,000 --> 00:46:45,680
Speaker 3: in mastery of my being. Saying that over myself every

898
00:46:45,760 --> 00:46:50,279
Speaker 3: day changed me. So doing something every day that supports

899
00:46:50,600 --> 00:46:53,640
Speaker 3: who you are and who you're becoming and who you

900
00:46:53,680 --> 00:46:57,880
Speaker 3: have become is essential. It also teaches you emotional regulation,

901
00:46:58,360 --> 00:47:00,400
Speaker 3: which means that every day you can go into the

902
00:47:00,400 --> 00:47:03,040
Speaker 3: world as your true self and not as the version

903
00:47:03,080 --> 00:47:05,240
Speaker 3: of you that's constantly reacting to things.

904
00:47:05,440 --> 00:47:07,600
Speaker 1: So I got to update my mantra. That's the mantra

905
00:47:07,640 --> 00:47:09,520
Speaker 1: I've gotten. We was in Mexico.

906
00:47:09,640 --> 00:47:13,120
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, it's an update, okay. And I always say,

907
00:47:13,120 --> 00:47:16,920
Speaker 3: when it comes to when it comes to our affirmations,

908
00:47:16,960 --> 00:47:22,320
Speaker 3: our mantras keep evolving them. Once you feel that something

909
00:47:22,320 --> 00:47:25,680
Speaker 3: clicked into place and you have really been wearing that,

910
00:47:27,120 --> 00:47:29,640
Speaker 3: let's hit something else, you know, maybe start to notice

911
00:47:29,640 --> 00:47:32,040
Speaker 3: what are some other little crevices of my life that

912
00:47:32,080 --> 00:47:34,280
Speaker 3: I want to refine. If I feel that I've healed

913
00:47:34,320 --> 00:47:37,800
Speaker 3: my or really done a lot of work around my trauma,

914
00:47:38,360 --> 00:47:40,400
Speaker 3: maybe now I want to start to investigate. What's my

915
00:47:40,440 --> 00:47:43,880
Speaker 3: relationship to money, what's my relationship to prosperity. Let me

916
00:47:43,960 --> 00:47:47,799
Speaker 3: heal that dynamic. What's my relationship to the masculine to

917
00:47:47,840 --> 00:47:50,120
Speaker 3: the feminine in my life? Let me look at healing

918
00:47:50,280 --> 00:47:56,240
Speaker 3: or evolving that experience. But there's always more, there's always deeper.

919
00:47:56,800 --> 00:47:59,879
Speaker 1: Why is it being on a healing journey so comp

920
00:48:00,360 --> 00:48:01,839
Speaker 1: and so exhausting.

921
00:48:03,239 --> 00:48:08,759
Speaker 3: Because our lived experiences are you know, we are to

922
00:48:08,800 --> 00:48:12,880
Speaker 3: be alive and to be human is to be deeply

923
00:48:13,000 --> 00:48:15,840
Speaker 3: challenged every day, you know, for a lot of people

924
00:48:15,880 --> 00:48:21,480
Speaker 3: that meant having really challenging experiences as young people, as adults.

925
00:48:21,880 --> 00:48:24,240
Speaker 3: For others, it's just turning the news on every day

926
00:48:24,360 --> 00:48:27,520
Speaker 3: and seeing how painful it is to be a witness

927
00:48:27,960 --> 00:48:32,359
Speaker 3: to so much tragedy, especially so much tragedy that you know,

928
00:48:32,440 --> 00:48:36,120
Speaker 3: we don't really have the opportunity to shift fully. It's

929
00:48:36,239 --> 00:48:38,440
Speaker 3: hard to behold all that we're seeing right now.

930
00:48:38,440 --> 00:48:39,440
Speaker 4: It is, and.

931
00:48:41,080 --> 00:48:44,239
Speaker 3: We're doing this very dualistic job of staying present in

932
00:48:44,280 --> 00:48:47,440
Speaker 3: our lives, updating our social media, doing all the things,

933
00:48:47,520 --> 00:48:52,200
Speaker 3: raising our kids, doing the things, and seeing people shot

934
00:48:52,239 --> 00:48:55,959
Speaker 3: dead on a daily basis. You know that we don't

935
00:48:56,000 --> 00:48:58,600
Speaker 3: even know the long term effects of taking on this

936
00:48:58,760 --> 00:49:02,400
Speaker 3: much grief every day, which is another reason why having

937
00:49:02,440 --> 00:49:07,200
Speaker 3: that daily practice it makes it not just easier, but

938
00:49:07,280 --> 00:49:09,680
Speaker 3: it does give you the opportunity to have more joy

939
00:49:09,880 --> 00:49:11,480
Speaker 3: even through the midst of all of this.

940
00:49:11,800 --> 00:49:14,640
Speaker 2: I was gonna ask you, you know, with especially with kids,

941
00:49:15,520 --> 00:49:19,640
Speaker 2: I'm noticing and I'm seeing kids are more emotional, right, Yeah,

942
00:49:19,719 --> 00:49:22,600
Speaker 2: They're more explaining their feelings, expressing their feelings, trying to

943
00:49:22,600 --> 00:49:24,120
Speaker 2: find themselves at an early age.

944
00:49:24,239 --> 00:49:25,520
Speaker 1: Is that a good or bad thing?

945
00:49:25,600 --> 00:49:25,719
Speaker 3: Right?

946
00:49:25,760 --> 00:49:27,600
Speaker 2: And the reason I'm asking most people be like, Oh,

947
00:49:27,600 --> 00:49:29,360
Speaker 2: that's a good thing. But I'm seeing a lot of

948
00:49:29,440 --> 00:49:33,759
Speaker 2: kids not being able to find themselves and hurting themselves,

949
00:49:34,320 --> 00:49:39,040
Speaker 2: committing suicide or being very quote unquote emo as kids say,

950
00:49:39,040 --> 00:49:40,640
Speaker 2: So is that a good thing a bad thing? Because

951
00:49:40,640 --> 00:49:42,520
Speaker 2: as a kid, that's one thing I don't think I

952
00:49:42,520 --> 00:49:43,880
Speaker 2: thought about. I don't know if anybody else in the

953
00:49:43,960 --> 00:49:45,640
Speaker 2: room thought of As a kid, I didn't think about

954
00:49:45,680 --> 00:49:48,319
Speaker 2: how I felt. I just went outside and had fun.

955
00:49:48,320 --> 00:49:50,000
Speaker 2: I went to school because I had to. I ate

956
00:49:50,120 --> 00:49:53,440
Speaker 2: because I had to. Nowadays, you know, kids are you know,

957
00:49:53,480 --> 00:49:55,880
Speaker 2: they're finding out more about themselves. They're telling you why

958
00:49:55,920 --> 00:49:59,680
Speaker 2: they don't want to eat vegetables. There, it's more of that.

959
00:49:59,719 --> 00:50:01,040
Speaker 2: But it's that good or is that bad?

960
00:50:01,080 --> 00:50:03,799
Speaker 1: I think because we're encouraging conversation. Like I know, growing up,

961
00:50:03,800 --> 00:50:06,319
Speaker 1: I my dad shut up, punched me in the chest,

962
00:50:06,400 --> 00:50:07,480
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Like we were taught to

963
00:50:07,560 --> 00:50:09,600
Speaker 1: suppress our emotions a lot of time.

964
00:50:10,080 --> 00:50:12,799
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, and on. You know, from my view as

965
00:50:12,840 --> 00:50:15,440
Speaker 3: a kid, I was always talking about my feelings to

966
00:50:15,440 --> 00:50:17,799
Speaker 3: the point that it made all the adults in my

967
00:50:17,840 --> 00:50:20,960
Speaker 3: life really irritated. And so then you kind of hide

968
00:50:21,040 --> 00:50:23,480
Speaker 3: them a little bit. I think there you know, there

969
00:50:23,560 --> 00:50:26,120
Speaker 3: is no good or bad, and I think that it's

970
00:50:26,200 --> 00:50:28,440
Speaker 3: both at the same time. And what I think is

971
00:50:28,520 --> 00:50:31,840
Speaker 3: so important about being a conscious and active parent in

972
00:50:31,880 --> 00:50:35,880
Speaker 3: your child's life is really witnessing them for themselves, not

973
00:50:35,960 --> 00:50:38,120
Speaker 3: through our lens of projection of who we want them

974
00:50:38,120 --> 00:50:40,840
Speaker 3: to be or who we were at their age, but

975
00:50:40,960 --> 00:50:44,160
Speaker 3: looking and saying, you know, if my child is this way,

976
00:50:44,239 --> 00:50:46,560
Speaker 3: if they are quote unquote emo, or if they are

977
00:50:46,600 --> 00:50:51,000
Speaker 3: a deep feeler or feeling this pressure to know who

978
00:50:51,000 --> 00:50:55,920
Speaker 3: they are, how can I one soothe that a little bit?

979
00:50:56,160 --> 00:50:57,719
Speaker 3: You know? How can I make that more of a

980
00:50:57,800 --> 00:51:01,080
Speaker 3: gentle experience for them and the words they use with themselves?

981
00:51:01,320 --> 00:51:03,560
Speaker 3: And then also how can I support that? How can

982
00:51:03,600 --> 00:51:06,480
Speaker 3: I if the community they need for who they are

983
00:51:06,719 --> 00:51:09,719
Speaker 3: is not around them, how can I look to supplement

984
00:51:09,760 --> 00:51:12,879
Speaker 3: that in their lives? In some ways, I think it's both.

985
00:51:12,960 --> 00:51:15,200
Speaker 3: I mean, I think it's incredible that kids are as

986
00:51:15,200 --> 00:51:17,400
Speaker 3: self aware as they are. It's kind of mind blowing,

987
00:51:17,560 --> 00:51:20,120
Speaker 3: you know. I work with a lot of gen z

988
00:51:20,400 --> 00:51:24,080
Speaker 3: Like I just taught for a semester in Atlanta with

989
00:51:24,200 --> 00:51:27,360
Speaker 3: this group of young men who were roughly around the

990
00:51:27,440 --> 00:51:30,160
Speaker 3: age of sixteen. So many of the things that I

991
00:51:30,239 --> 00:51:33,240
Speaker 3: was teaching them, they were so familiar with those concepts already,

992
00:51:33,280 --> 00:51:35,600
Speaker 3: which was like, what, how do y'all know how you

993
00:51:35,680 --> 00:51:38,799
Speaker 3: feel already? But then at the same time, it can

994
00:51:38,960 --> 00:51:43,279
Speaker 3: become too much of a focus to where you're not

995
00:51:43,320 --> 00:51:46,879
Speaker 3: giving yourself the chance to be something new, to learn

996
00:51:46,920 --> 00:51:47,480
Speaker 3: new things.

997
00:51:48,120 --> 00:51:50,279
Speaker 1: I have two more questions in the action I want

998
00:51:50,280 --> 00:51:53,160
Speaker 1: to ask of you. But first question is what does

999
00:51:53,560 --> 00:51:54,719
Speaker 1: self acceptance look like?

1000
00:52:00,000 --> 00:52:06,400
Speaker 3: Self acceptance looks like deep surrender and deep trust. To

1001
00:52:06,520 --> 00:52:12,680
Speaker 3: accept yourself means that you are aware of all that

1002
00:52:12,760 --> 00:52:14,839
Speaker 3: you are, including the things that may be a little

1003
00:52:14,840 --> 00:52:17,200
Speaker 3: bit unfinished or the things that you may have judged,

1004
00:52:17,920 --> 00:52:21,640
Speaker 3: but to know that it all serves purpose. To have

1005
00:52:21,719 --> 00:52:25,319
Speaker 3: acceptance is to also have this trust that I may

1006
00:52:25,360 --> 00:52:28,839
Speaker 3: not like everything that's happening right now or that has

1007
00:52:28,880 --> 00:52:32,560
Speaker 3: happened to me, but I do understand and trust that

1008
00:52:32,640 --> 00:52:36,440
Speaker 3: it is serving a purpose I don't yet know, And

1009
00:52:36,480 --> 00:52:40,200
Speaker 3: so I am an acceptance of what currently is. Doesn't

1010
00:52:40,200 --> 00:52:42,080
Speaker 3: mean you don't want it to change, doesn't mean it

1011
00:52:42,080 --> 00:52:45,120
Speaker 3: doesn't have the potential to change. But I'm an acceptance

1012
00:52:45,200 --> 00:52:48,719
Speaker 3: that this just is. When you come into acceptance, you

1013
00:52:48,760 --> 00:52:51,640
Speaker 3: come into your personal power because you're not trying to

1014
00:52:51,800 --> 00:52:55,640
Speaker 3: fight everything. You're not trying to control every outcome. You're

1015
00:52:55,680 --> 00:52:59,440
Speaker 3: creating this space for more to unfold. And that's where

1016
00:52:59,480 --> 00:53:01,319
Speaker 3: you get to be creative with yourself. You get to

1017
00:53:01,320 --> 00:53:03,560
Speaker 3: be creative with your life. You get to be a

1018
00:53:03,600 --> 00:53:06,920
Speaker 3: co creator of what this journey will look like for you.

1019
00:53:07,360 --> 00:53:09,239
Speaker 3: But you have to be an acceptance. If you're in

1020
00:53:09,320 --> 00:53:12,360
Speaker 3: judgment of yourself, if you're in judgment of your life experiences,

1021
00:53:13,200 --> 00:53:16,839
Speaker 3: it makes it almost impossible to change any of them

1022
00:53:17,000 --> 00:53:18,360
Speaker 3: in a really meaningful way.

1023
00:53:18,719 --> 00:53:20,800
Speaker 1: Is that the first step to beginning to love yourself?

1024
00:53:20,800 --> 00:53:23,160
Speaker 1: Because that's my second question, How do you begin to

1025
00:53:23,239 --> 00:53:23,880
Speaker 1: love yourself?

1026
00:53:24,320 --> 00:53:26,600
Speaker 3: I think they're kind of both happening at the same time,

1027
00:53:26,640 --> 00:53:30,200
Speaker 3: But I will say, you know, to love yourself, it's

1028
00:53:30,239 --> 00:53:33,280
Speaker 3: a constantly evolving process. But I think it does require

1029
00:53:33,360 --> 00:53:37,200
Speaker 3: that daily practice that I talked about. Loving yourself requires

1030
00:53:37,280 --> 00:53:41,760
Speaker 3: your own sweat equity into yourself and your body. Loving

1031
00:53:41,760 --> 00:53:45,399
Speaker 3: yourself can't be related to how really you look, how

1032
00:53:45,440 --> 00:53:48,160
Speaker 3: other people are validating you or not, how they're treating you.

1033
00:53:48,800 --> 00:53:52,360
Speaker 3: It has to be like I exist and that's enough,

1034
00:53:52,800 --> 00:53:55,360
Speaker 3: and that alone is worthy of love. I am breathing

1035
00:53:55,440 --> 00:53:57,960
Speaker 3: right now. That is worthy of love that is worthy

1036
00:53:57,960 --> 00:54:00,719
Speaker 3: of gratitude, no matter who I've been, no matter what

1037
00:54:00,880 --> 00:54:04,200
Speaker 3: choices I want to redo, there is more to me

1038
00:54:05,040 --> 00:54:06,080
Speaker 3: than one definition.

1039
00:54:07,040 --> 00:54:09,920
Speaker 1: So yeah, the action I want to ask is, like,

1040
00:54:09,920 --> 00:54:11,120
Speaker 1: you know, I know we have a lot of people

1041
00:54:11,160 --> 00:54:13,040
Speaker 1: listening right now. They might have seen the sessions they

1042
00:54:13,360 --> 00:54:16,200
Speaker 1: you know, probably listening to dropping gems. I want to

1043
00:54:16,239 --> 00:54:21,120
Speaker 1: do like a mindfulness minute, Like what's what's a breathing exercise?

1044
00:54:21,160 --> 00:54:24,000
Speaker 1: Is something that we could do to like just ground

1045
00:54:24,040 --> 00:54:25,400
Speaker 1: people right now in this moment.

1046
00:54:25,600 --> 00:54:27,080
Speaker 3: I would love to are you guys all going to

1047
00:54:27,160 --> 00:54:27,480
Speaker 3: do with me?

1048
00:54:27,760 --> 00:54:28,800
Speaker 1: Sure? Okay?

1049
00:54:29,840 --> 00:54:32,640
Speaker 3: I want to ask everybody right now listening connecting to

1050
00:54:32,680 --> 00:54:39,080
Speaker 3: the sound of my voice, Angela envshar come into a

1051
00:54:39,120 --> 00:54:42,000
Speaker 3: relaxed state with your body, and I want to invite

1052
00:54:42,000 --> 00:54:45,279
Speaker 3: you to gently close your eyes and if you can

1053
00:54:45,440 --> 00:54:47,520
Speaker 3: just uncross your arms a little bit and let your

1054
00:54:47,560 --> 00:54:53,360
Speaker 3: back sit really supported, let your spine feels straight and supported.

1055
00:54:54,160 --> 00:54:56,160
Speaker 3: And I want you to just notice your body now

1056
00:54:56,200 --> 00:55:00,000
Speaker 3: with your eyes closed, and notice how your seat feels,

1057
00:55:00,920 --> 00:55:04,440
Speaker 3: how you feel in your seat, and just see if

1058
00:55:04,480 --> 00:55:07,600
Speaker 3: there's an opportunity to feel a little softer inside of

1059
00:55:07,640 --> 00:55:12,640
Speaker 3: your body right now in this moment, release any tension

1060
00:55:12,719 --> 00:55:16,840
Speaker 3: that may be in your shoulders. Let your forearms just

1061
00:55:16,880 --> 00:55:20,800
Speaker 3: be really gently on the tops of your thighs. Maybe

1062
00:55:20,840 --> 00:55:27,200
Speaker 3: turn your palms upward into a state of receiving. Unclench

1063
00:55:27,239 --> 00:55:31,640
Speaker 3: your jaw there's any pressure present, and now let yourself

1064
00:55:31,719 --> 00:55:35,320
Speaker 3: just stretch your neck a little bit from side to side.

1065
00:55:35,480 --> 00:55:43,440
Speaker 3: Your eyes are closed, and now let's connect to our breath. First.

1066
00:55:43,480 --> 00:55:47,279
Speaker 3: Begin to notice how your natural breath is feeling in

1067
00:55:47,320 --> 00:55:52,560
Speaker 3: your body, how it feels in your chest, in and out,

1068
00:55:53,560 --> 00:55:57,960
Speaker 3: supporting your existence. And now I want to invite you

1069
00:55:58,000 --> 00:56:01,920
Speaker 3: to take your right hand and place it over your chest,

1070
00:56:02,200 --> 00:56:07,120
Speaker 3: right at your heart center. And now just notice what

1071
00:56:07,160 --> 00:56:10,320
Speaker 3: that pressure of your hand feels like. Would you like

1072
00:56:10,400 --> 00:56:14,719
Speaker 3: it to be a firmer touch, a lighter touch. Can

1073
00:56:14,760 --> 00:56:17,080
Speaker 3: the palm of your hand connect to the core of

1074
00:56:17,120 --> 00:56:22,840
Speaker 3: your heart? And just notice the support that you feel

1075
00:56:22,840 --> 00:56:27,120
Speaker 3: in your body holding yourself in this way. And now

1076
00:56:27,120 --> 00:56:31,319
Speaker 3: we're gonna begin some deep breathing through her noses. We're

1077
00:56:31,320 --> 00:56:35,399
Speaker 3: gonna do some big inhales through her nose and then

1078
00:56:35,480 --> 00:56:38,920
Speaker 3: out of our nose, and we'll do this three times together.

1079
00:56:39,080 --> 00:56:43,680
Speaker 3: And what we're looking to do is take a big

1080
00:56:44,000 --> 00:56:51,239
Speaker 3: deep inhale, slowly fully starting now filling your chest and

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Speaker 3: really stretch, take it a little more air, and then

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Speaker 3: hold the air at the top once it's in, allow

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Speaker 3: it to circulate for moment. And now as we breathe

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Speaker 3: out of our nose, I want you to do it

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Speaker 3: slowly and fully, really pace yourself on that exhale, let

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Speaker 3: it all come out. And now we'll begin that breath

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Speaker 3: again in through your nose, let your chest expand your

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00:57:21,680 --> 00:57:32,280
Speaker 3: heart open, hold it and release. And now begin again

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Speaker 3: in through your nose and hold it and release that breath.

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Speaker 3: And I still gently closed hand over heart, allow yourself

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Speaker 3: to return to whatever breath feels natural and nourishing and internally.

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Speaker 3: Right now, silently to yourself, I'd like you to repeat,

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Speaker 3: I am calling forward my highest self.

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Speaker 1: I am calling forward my highest self. I am calling

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Speaker 1: forward my highest self.

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Speaker 3: I am calling forward my highest self. And I want

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Speaker 3: you to think about something currently present in your life,

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00:58:22,800 --> 00:58:26,360
Speaker 3: something that has charged it could be perceived as good

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Speaker 3: as challenging, but something that you've really been chewing on lately,

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Speaker 3: some dynamic maybe in your life or relationship, or something

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00:58:36,680 --> 00:58:39,800
Speaker 3: you're excited about. And I would just want you to

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Speaker 3: hold that seed in your mind's eye, whatever is unique

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00:58:43,960 --> 00:58:46,240
Speaker 3: to you that you are working with in this moment,

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Speaker 3: and I want you to think about any nourishing or

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Speaker 3: evolutionary choices or lens of perceptions that you can shift

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Speaker 3: to around whatever this morsel is that you're chewing on,

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Speaker 3: whatever is present. Is it about surrendering, Is it about

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00:59:09,680 --> 00:59:15,320
Speaker 3: an action step, or is it just an observation something

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00:59:15,320 --> 00:59:21,080
Speaker 3: that can be released and now based on your unique

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Speaker 3: experience that you're holding in your mind and your heart,

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Speaker 3: I want you to think of an intention around it.

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Speaker 3: And maybe it is my intention is to release this,

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Speaker 3: or my intention is to really feel all of this,

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Speaker 3: or my intention is to manifest this, and silently within

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Speaker 3: your own hearts to yourselves, I want you to state

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Speaker 3: that intention my intention is, and you can do it

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Speaker 3: inside in this moment, and everyone connecting to the sound

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Speaker 3: of my voice listening, I hope you're doing the same.

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Speaker 3: And now we're going to do a cleansing lion's breath,

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Speaker 3: which is gonna be a deep in hell through your nose,

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Speaker 3: and then it'll be followed out by signing it out

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Speaker 3: through your mouth with your tongue out and it'll sound

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Speaker 3: a little like this, So we'll begin our in hell

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Speaker 3: now through our noses and release through your mouth. And

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Speaker 3: now shake out your hand that was on your heart,

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Speaker 3: allow it to drop back down to the tops of

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Speaker 3: your thighs. And as you feel ready, gently open your eyes. Ah,

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Speaker 3: how do you guys feel?

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Speaker 1: How can I want to sleep this night?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 1: I want to do that. I've been telling iHeart for

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Speaker 1: the longest. We need a mindfulness minute on the radio

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Speaker 1: during the middays. I've screamed into a million different executives.

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Speaker 1: It needs to happen.

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Speaker 3: People need that, and you know that experience that we

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Speaker 3: just did, and everyone could start and end their day

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Speaker 3: like that. We probably spent maybe a minute there. If

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Speaker 3: I wasn't talking and you just did the breath with them,

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Speaker 3: maybe thirty seconds. That is a daily practice. What we

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Speaker 3: just did that was breathwork. So that's an experience that

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Speaker 3: you can invite into your life to regulate your nervousness. Yes,

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Speaker 3: because what was happening internally as we did that was

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Speaker 3: our body was able to come into the present moment.

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Speaker 3: We were in the moment of what is We were

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Speaker 3: inside of our bodies. Many people that heard my voice

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Speaker 3: were connecting to parts of their bodies for the first time.

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Speaker 3: If you're under deep stress or you have had trauma,

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Speaker 3: you don't feel present in your body, and so to

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01:02:00,240 --> 01:02:03,480
Speaker 3: just be able to settle into yourself and then to

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Speaker 3: give yourself that nourishing breath that resets your emotional center,

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Speaker 3: it changes what's possible. The thing about trauma, depression, stress, anxiety,

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Speaker 3: it limits what's possible in your life because it limits

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Speaker 3: the choices you make and how you view yourself. When

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Speaker 3: you have daily practice and when you do a breath

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Speaker 3: like that, it reconnects you to the truth of who

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Speaker 3: you are when you're coming from your authenticity, when you're

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Speaker 3: not triggered, and from that space, it's limitless because you're

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Speaker 3: able to make endless amounts of choices of who you'll be,

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Speaker 3: how you'll behave, what you'll do. And that's what so

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Speaker 3: many of us need. We just need to be able

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Speaker 3: to be anchored into the moment, to feel like ourselves

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Speaker 3: inside so that we can make the decisions that really

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Speaker 3: honor our lives.

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Speaker 1: If you do with panic attacks, anxiety attacks at work, school, whatever,

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Speaker 1: it is like that that gets you right back to

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Speaker 1: where you need to be.

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Speaker 2: Well, Thank you so much, Debbie for v brand.

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01:03:00,960 --> 01:03:03,000
Speaker 3: Tell them where to follow you dev hit me on

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Speaker 3: Instagram at Debbie Brown, my website Debbie Brown, and on

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Speaker 3: Amazon Prime Video. Watch the Sessions. It is an incredible,

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Speaker 3: incredible documentary by Religion of Sports, myself, Deepak Chopra, and

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Speaker 3: NBA superstar Draymond Green.

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Speaker 4: Are there going to be other sessions?

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Speaker 3: There are going to be other sessions, and we're really excited.

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Speaker 3: I can't say anything yet, but we're really excited about

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Speaker 3: how that is going to unfold. But that is definitely

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Speaker 3: the intention. You know, one of the things I love

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Speaker 3: about the work that I do is supporting people who

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Speaker 3: have lives of high impact. You know, when you can

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Speaker 3: show up in this life of impact that you're living

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01:03:40,400 --> 01:03:43,600
Speaker 3: as all of yourself, how you're actually meant to change

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01:03:43,640 --> 01:03:46,320
Speaker 3: the world becomes more alive and more possible.

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Speaker 1: And pick up Debbie Brown's book, Crystal Bliss. Your Devil

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01:03:49,240 --> 01:03:51,800
Speaker 1: was talking about crystals way before everybody else was. That

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Speaker 1: book dropped in with twenty fourteen yeh twenty thirteen, twenty fourteen,

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Speaker 1: Like yeah, And make sure you subscribe to V's podcast

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Speaker 1: Dropping Gems on the Black Effect Podcast Network. It's so

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Speaker 1: many you know, high level conscious conversations on that podcast.

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Speaker 1: So make sure you subscribe to that

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Speaker 2: Black Effect Breakfast Club is Debbie Brown.