WEBVTT - AfroFuture with Abdul Karim Abdullah 0:00:00.760 --> 0:00:05.120 Talk, let's talk talk to We're just two unapologetically black 0:00:05.120 --> 0:00:10.080 women with an opinion who talks. 0:00:10.680 --> 0:00:11.479 What's up y'all? 0:00:11.480 --> 0:00:13.720 Thank you for tuning that for a new episode of 0:00:13.840 --> 0:00:17.239 We Talked Back, a show dedicated to these niggas in 0:00:17.320 --> 0:00:20.480 you hoes E ESU girl A J. 0:00:20.880 --> 0:00:26.720 Holliday. What is that? I don't know? What's up? 0:00:26.800 --> 0:00:28.280 Girl? Y'all was tearing. 0:00:28.280 --> 0:00:29.320 Bam. I love y'all. 0:00:29.320 --> 0:00:31.880 Thank y'all for tuning in again. We missed y'all since 0:00:31.960 --> 0:00:32.960 last Thursday. 0:00:34.560 --> 0:00:35.320 How was your weekend? 0:00:35.360 --> 0:00:35.880 Girl? 0:00:36.360 --> 0:00:36.680 Rainy? 0:00:37.479 --> 0:00:40.280 It was rainy this weekend, but I did manage to 0:00:40.320 --> 0:00:43.280 get out the house, put my face on, took a 0:00:43.320 --> 0:00:46.400 goddamn gummy and didn't really make it out the house. 0:00:47.560 --> 0:00:50.120 Damn because of the gummy. Yeah, you and your little 0:00:50.120 --> 0:00:52.880 gummy situation. Because I remember just a couple of weeks 0:00:52.880 --> 0:00:57.760 ago you had another gummy situation. Are you a gummy addict? 0:00:57.840 --> 0:00:58.000 Mal? 0:00:58.720 --> 0:01:02.760 I don't know, but I like deep sleep. 0:01:05.080 --> 0:01:07.080 Me and my homegirl said we was gonna make some 0:01:07.120 --> 0:01:09.679 T shirts that say I love to lay down, Because bitch, 0:01:09.720 --> 0:01:13.080 what I tell you, I love to lay down. Don't 0:01:13.160 --> 0:01:15.080 let me lay down. I had my mind made up. 0:01:15.160 --> 0:01:17.479 I was going out I laid down with a face 0:01:17.520 --> 0:01:18.200 full of makeup. 0:01:19.240 --> 0:01:21.120 Well, let me tell you what I did on Friday. 0:01:21.720 --> 0:01:25.880 I bit sixteen and a half miles in forty five minutes. 0:01:25.920 --> 0:01:28.720 That's the most I've ever done. The most I've ever 0:01:28.760 --> 0:01:31.640 done in that forty five minute session, I was getting it. 0:01:31.800 --> 0:01:35.679 She had down her bikes. They got time, said shin 0:01:36.200 --> 0:01:37.120 shwin bikes. 0:01:37.560 --> 0:01:40.040 I don't know, girl, I look go to I go 0:01:40.120 --> 0:01:41.240 today cycle bar. 0:01:41.800 --> 0:01:43.280 Oh yeah, they got shoing bikes. 0:01:43.560 --> 0:01:47.880 Yeah, so I go there. I'll go today at I thirty. 0:01:48.080 --> 0:01:50.800 I love it. I love spin class, I love smart girl. 0:01:51.080 --> 0:01:54.600 That is my new favorite shit to do. And then 0:01:54.640 --> 0:01:59.080 after that, I saw a little baby. It was random, 0:01:59.360 --> 0:02:01.760 one of my friends from a capitol. He was here 0:02:01.760 --> 0:02:03.840 with baby and was like, come on, I got a 0:02:03.880 --> 0:02:05.840 ticket for you. So I went to the show and 0:02:05.880 --> 0:02:08.000 I walked past all my old niggas up to the front, 0:02:08.760 --> 0:02:09.760 right up to the stage. 0:02:10.080 --> 0:02:16.960 Excuse me, excellent, excellent. 0:02:18.520 --> 0:02:20.760 I literally had to like walk past one of my 0:02:20.760 --> 0:02:22.720 old niggas with some girl and they was like standing 0:02:22.760 --> 0:02:26.040 in the aisle. I was like, excuse me, move bitch. 0:02:26.120 --> 0:02:28.280 I ain't say move bitch, but that's house. That's the 0:02:28.760 --> 0:02:32.320 energy energy. Yeah. 0:02:32.560 --> 0:02:33.919 Oh that was so excellent. 0:02:34.240 --> 0:02:36.959 Ain't nothing like a future flex? Yeah, the flex of 0:02:37.000 --> 0:02:40.400 a nigga right quick. And that's really all because it 0:02:40.440 --> 0:02:42.600 did rain. So after that, I just kind of chilled 0:02:42.639 --> 0:02:44.200 for the rest of the weekend. I mean I went 0:02:44.240 --> 0:02:46.600 to work, of course, but after that, I just chilled. 0:02:47.120 --> 0:02:50.360 Nothing else. Just a little quick flex on these holes, 0:02:51.280 --> 0:02:54.080 puss as holes. 0:02:55.520 --> 0:02:59.520 Listen, we're gonna start stupid that news off with a song. 0:03:00.160 --> 0:03:02.440 A dude, I don't know the pain. 0:03:04.560 --> 0:03:08.359 That's not stupid internet news. It's not, but it is news, 0:03:08.639 --> 0:03:09.480 and it's taking. 0:03:09.400 --> 0:03:19.440 I love fuck it ain't just a y'all. 0:03:19.600 --> 0:03:22.639 Rest in peace to our good sister. 0:03:22.760 --> 0:03:24.760 Yeah, Irish from seven oh two, you know her sister 0:03:24.800 --> 0:03:29.520 passed away in two thousand and eight from kwe Yeah, and. 0:03:29.440 --> 0:03:31.440 Now they're saying she passed. I don't know why. They 0:03:31.480 --> 0:03:33.600 just said she was battling some disease for a while. 0:03:34.200 --> 0:03:35.920 I love seven o two man, that was one of 0:03:35.920 --> 0:03:41.200 my favorite groups, Girl, Black Jade, s WV, all ofm 0:03:41.200 --> 0:03:43.720 that from that time into black girl groups. 0:03:44.320 --> 0:03:47.960 I don't know that kill missed it. We missed it. 0:03:48.160 --> 0:03:51.600 We missed them. Yeah, So rest in peace to her 0:03:52.000 --> 0:03:52.360 all right? 0:03:52.400 --> 0:03:54.880 So now, yeah, g Z let's get the gz ass 0:03:54.960 --> 0:03:55.400 right quick. 0:03:55.440 --> 0:04:00.480 So JZ and Jenny Mi are now getting a divorce 0:04:00.560 --> 0:04:04.880 after two years of marriage and one baby later, Kay 0:04:05.000 --> 0:04:09.000 in my mind, and he filed for divorce. Now you 0:04:09.080 --> 0:04:10.840 know they always like to say, oh, it's always the 0:04:10.920 --> 0:04:14.360 woman doing the paperwork. Sta Jesus said that I'm about 0:04:14.400 --> 0:04:16.680 to get the fuck up out of here. 0:04:17.120 --> 0:04:18.440 She was calling him the N word. 0:04:19.720 --> 0:04:21.560 I really believe she was in there calling him the 0:04:21.640 --> 0:04:22.720 N word when she got mad. 0:04:23.600 --> 0:04:24.240 Did you see that. 0:04:24.240 --> 0:04:27.320 Video that resurfaced her talking about her anger issues and 0:04:27.320 --> 0:04:29.599 how she didn't realize she had anger issues until she 0:04:29.600 --> 0:04:32.279 got with GIZI because you were what white men and 0:04:32.279 --> 0:04:34.080 they probably was letting you talk to them crazy. 0:04:34.320 --> 0:04:34.640 M h. 0:04:35.200 --> 0:04:37.640 Yeah, Now you got this black man who like. 0:04:37.920 --> 0:04:41.600 Chill out that video on her talking about how she 0:04:41.839 --> 0:04:44.720 has dark meat on the side, but white meat keeps 0:04:44.720 --> 0:04:47.920 her meaning lean. I really think that there's a big 0:04:47.960 --> 0:04:51.440 part of her that felt like getting with Jezi was 0:04:51.440 --> 0:04:54.360 her dating down and she probably gave him that type 0:04:54.400 --> 0:04:55.279 of energy when. 0:04:55.080 --> 0:04:55.680 She was mad. 0:04:56.440 --> 0:04:59.320 You think so I settled for you? 0:04:59.320 --> 0:05:00.760 No, ain't no the way you think. 0:05:00.640 --> 0:05:04.400 You settled for If dark meat is on the side 0:05:04.960 --> 0:05:07.760 and white and me keep her meaningly, did she thinks 0:05:08.080 --> 0:05:12.440 she that's a fucking slave owner, white bitch. Kind of 0:05:12.480 --> 0:05:15.720 complex kind of energy, like I go sneak down to 0:05:15.760 --> 0:05:19.839 the slave hut and fuck the slave, but I'm with 0:05:20.040 --> 0:05:22.680 my white husband. I could never be with one of them. 0:05:23.040 --> 0:05:24.800 And you know, I was trying to point that shit 0:05:24.839 --> 0:05:27.320 out when they first got engaged, like I'm trying to 0:05:27.320 --> 0:05:29.200 figure out, has this nigga? 0:05:29.200 --> 0:05:31.919 No I seen this, like y'all haven't seen this, And 0:05:31.920 --> 0:05:32.360 now in the. 0:05:32.320 --> 0:05:35.160 Video is resurfaced, and she actually said that live on 0:05:35.240 --> 0:05:40.039 the real that black men are essentially a side like 0:05:40.160 --> 0:05:42.520 macaroni and cheese or black eyed peas. 0:05:42.680 --> 0:05:47.880 Well, wait, macaroni and cheese is very good, so you're. 0:05:46.520 --> 0:05:51.360 Not just eating just that for dinner. I would, I would. 0:05:54.680 --> 0:05:58.039 So I also saw this other document, I mean see it. 0:05:58.120 --> 0:06:00.600 Sorry, I also saw this other post where this girl 0:06:00.640 --> 0:06:04.040 had the actual document through the courts. 0:06:04.440 --> 0:06:08.920 So Jeezi filed for divorce June fifteenth, now. 0:06:09.360 --> 0:06:12.080 Right before Juneteenth. She wants to call her a nigga 0:06:12.120 --> 0:06:13.960 on this fourteenth, and you were like, you know what, 0:06:14.120 --> 0:06:16.480 it's June, it's about to be juneteenth, and I'm not 0:06:16.600 --> 0:06:17.440 doing this no more. 0:06:19.920 --> 0:06:23.040 So you know, she recently she was posting videos even 0:06:23.120 --> 0:06:24.800 like for Father's Day, she posted him a video. He 0:06:24.839 --> 0:06:27.400 had a book just come out, and you know, she 0:06:27.520 --> 0:06:29.800 posted in the caption, my husband da da da da. 0:06:30.000 --> 0:06:32.200 Like, so to me, she's been trying to save face 0:06:32.560 --> 0:06:33.080 face we. 0:06:33.120 --> 0:06:35.760 Don't marriage why or maybe trying to save their marriage. 0:06:35.880 --> 0:06:38.360 You know, she probably want him as her husband still, 0:06:38.440 --> 0:06:38.920 you never know. 0:06:40.440 --> 0:06:41.600 I hate you know, I hate that. 0:06:41.720 --> 0:06:44.880 I hate to see another black child without their dad 0:06:44.960 --> 0:06:46.960 in the home because I mean, essentially that is a 0:06:47.040 --> 0:06:50.320 black baby, So I hate that for them. 0:06:51.960 --> 0:06:53.600 But who did we not see it coming. 0:06:54.440 --> 0:06:57.720 It's almost like they think they're gonna get different, treated 0:06:57.760 --> 0:07:00.800 different from different races of people, Like this is an 0:07:00.920 --> 0:07:02.400 Archaea type of a type of person. 0:07:02.560 --> 0:07:05.080 It doesn't have any color to it. So we don't 0:07:05.120 --> 0:07:06.080 know why they're not together. 0:07:06.200 --> 0:07:09.880 But I think that black men assume that other groups 0:07:09.960 --> 0:07:13.320 of women, other cultures are gonna be just just totally different, 0:07:13.320 --> 0:07:14.600 gonna let you do what the fuck you want to do. 0:07:14.640 --> 0:07:15.840 We're gonna always shut the fuck up. 0:07:15.880 --> 0:07:16.800 And it's just not true. 0:07:17.560 --> 0:07:20.520 That's a personality trait. You don't know what you're gonna 0:07:20.560 --> 0:07:23.000 get from anybody, right, you know what I'm saying. But 0:07:23.160 --> 0:07:25.560 Black women are seen to be like the most hard 0:07:25.640 --> 0:07:28.760 to get along with, the most argumentative, always got an attitude, 0:07:29.080 --> 0:07:32.560 We got a lot of shit to have an attitude about. Okay, 0:07:33.280 --> 0:07:35.360 but we still stay with y'all, l ass for a 0:07:35.480 --> 0:07:37.440 very long time. But if a black man has followed 0:07:37.480 --> 0:07:40.480 for divorce from your ass, I need to know why. 0:07:41.000 --> 0:07:43.920 I really really want to know why. And I never invested. 0:07:44.640 --> 0:07:50.160 Yeah the man, So I think she's sick. She gives 0:07:50.200 --> 0:07:51.960 sickening energy over the damn Internet. 0:07:52.040 --> 0:07:52.560 But I don't know. 0:07:53.040 --> 0:07:55.040 Maybe we'll see some more about this story later on 0:07:55.120 --> 0:07:56.320 to actually understand why. 0:07:56.400 --> 0:07:57.560 But they do have a prenup. 0:07:57.640 --> 0:08:00.800 They got the prenup actually the day before they got married, 0:08:00.840 --> 0:08:03.680 and one may say that she might be able to 0:08:03.760 --> 0:08:06.559 dispute it. Maybe she'll say she did it she signed 0:08:06.720 --> 0:08:09.120 under durest because it was just the day before she's 0:08:09.120 --> 0:08:10.080 supposed to get married. 0:08:10.600 --> 0:08:15.040 Who knows. We'll see what happens though. Well, good luck 0:08:15.080 --> 0:08:17.679 to both of them. Oh, speaking of breakup. 0:08:17.800 --> 0:08:22.560 More breakup news, Tiana Taylor and Imon Shemper are separated. 0:08:22.640 --> 0:08:26.360 They're not divorced, but they've been separated for a minute now, apparently, 0:08:26.400 --> 0:08:29.600 according to Tiana, she posted on social media that it 0:08:29.680 --> 0:08:32.160 was a lot of conversations going on, and she just 0:08:32.240 --> 0:08:34.679 wanted to clear the air that they didn't break up 0:08:34.720 --> 0:08:38.960 over infidelity, that they had other issues in their marriage 0:08:39.000 --> 0:08:41.240 and that was the reason for their departure. But they 0:08:41.320 --> 0:08:44.080 copare well and they still best friends. So maybe they'll 0:08:44.120 --> 0:08:48.320 come back together one day. Who knows. They were married 0:08:48.360 --> 0:08:51.040 for seven years together for ten. I liked them as 0:08:51.080 --> 0:08:51.439 a couple. 0:08:52.080 --> 0:08:52.880 I like him. 0:08:53.679 --> 0:08:57.160 I know, y'all, this bitch slid in his deals last night. 0:08:58.920 --> 0:09:06.040 I hey, big head, that nig and voice memos that 0:09:06.320 --> 0:09:08.400 I know them dms. Both of the dms blew up, 0:09:08.600 --> 0:09:09.080 both of them. 0:09:09.320 --> 0:09:12.880 Yeah you know, y'all got the ladies at the niggas, okay, right, 0:09:13.400 --> 0:09:19.120 both of them ms? Oh goodness, you know. 0:09:20.000 --> 0:09:23.199 I like, I don't know in my spirit, and I'm 0:09:23.200 --> 0:09:25.280 probably wrong, and forgive me if I'm wrong, But I 0:09:25.480 --> 0:09:29.360 just feel like Tianna Taylor and Lari Harvey have like 0:09:29.440 --> 0:09:30.000 a thing. 0:09:31.679 --> 0:09:35.360 In a relationship, thing not in a relationship, but like we're. 0:09:35.200 --> 0:09:37.440 Best friends, we have fun together, but we also might 0:09:37.559 --> 0:09:39.600 fuck every now and then kind of thing. Why would 0:09:39.640 --> 0:09:41.959 you think that though, just because of how they be 0:09:42.080 --> 0:09:43.559 like hugged up on each other when they're out. 0:09:44.480 --> 0:09:46.600 I never really even know they hang out. I didn't 0:09:46.600 --> 0:09:49.040 see them hanging out. But maybe I'm wrong. You know 0:09:49.200 --> 0:09:53.839 who you know, but I see, I mean, they be 0:09:54.000 --> 0:10:05.680 like you know in your mind. See sorry if I'm wrong. Nah, bitch, 0:10:05.720 --> 0:10:13.000 I think it's on your mind. Man together and not 0:10:13.120 --> 0:10:21.000 the rubbing absick man? What else? Have a girl? All right? 0:10:21.040 --> 0:10:23.200 So halle Berry is pissed at Drake. 0:10:23.400 --> 0:10:25.920 So apparently her people reached out to his people and 0:10:26.000 --> 0:10:29.800 vice versa wanted to use her image for his album. 0:10:31.400 --> 0:10:33.840 Artwork, and she said hell to the motherfucker. 0:10:33.960 --> 0:10:36.040 Nah, and this nigga still took it upon himself and 0:10:36.120 --> 0:10:38.760 used her image, and she feels like that's like a 0:10:38.840 --> 0:10:41.280 real life slap in the face. Fuck you girl, I'm 0:10:41.280 --> 0:10:42.920 gonna do what I want. So apparently they went to 0:10:43.000 --> 0:10:46.600 Geddy Images, who owns the image, which I just. 0:10:46.720 --> 0:10:47.280 I hate that. 0:10:47.520 --> 0:10:49.920 I hate that somebody can sneak take a picture of you, 0:10:50.080 --> 0:10:52.160 or even if like you actually pose for a picture. 0:10:52.679 --> 0:10:55.559 And because they took the picture, my image no longer 0:10:55.640 --> 0:11:00.959 belongs to me. My likeness isn't mine. No that, so 0:11:01.080 --> 0:11:02.760 Drake has her covered in slime. 0:11:03.480 --> 0:11:06.360 She doesn't well, I mean, Nickelodeon slimed her. It was 0:11:06.480 --> 0:11:11.200 Nickelodeon who slammed her. It wasn't Drake. But I can't 0:11:11.280 --> 0:11:14.600 understand why she's upset. But I can also understand why 0:11:14.640 --> 0:11:16.560 it's like, is it really a big deal? 0:11:17.880 --> 0:11:18.800 Is it really a big deal? 0:11:18.960 --> 0:11:20.880 Why did you even ask me? If he was gonna 0:11:20.880 --> 0:11:22.439 do what the fuck you wanted in the first place? 0:11:22.920 --> 0:11:23.560 Why ask me. 0:11:25.040 --> 0:11:28.079 As a as a what's the word I'm looking for? 0:11:28.720 --> 0:11:29.480 As a cancer? 0:11:31.679 --> 0:11:34.280 Just as a consideration for you. 0:11:34.840 --> 0:11:35.880 That is why I asked. 0:11:36.240 --> 0:11:38.480 But the image don't belong to you, So I asked 0:11:38.480 --> 0:11:40.599 you to be kind. But really I didn't have to 0:11:40.640 --> 0:11:43.959 ask you anyway. And that's basically what Drake's people is 0:11:44.040 --> 0:11:47.880 saying by using it. And I doubt Drake even knew. 0:11:48.200 --> 0:11:50.319 I'm sure if Drake knew that she said no, he 0:11:50.360 --> 0:11:52.400 probably would have been like, all right, let's find something else. 0:11:52.480 --> 0:11:55.160 You know, he probably really wanted to use that image. 0:11:57.120 --> 0:11:59.520 Or maybe it's his people like get that image from me, 0:11:59.600 --> 0:12:03.839 and they got it. Listen, Drake have so much trouble 0:12:03.880 --> 0:12:06.520 anytime he do anything. Remember he did the Vogue and 0:12:06.679 --> 0:12:09.640 Vogue suit him for using a fake Vogue magazine. 0:12:10.800 --> 0:12:13.199 Just because why are you doing what the fuck you want, Like, 0:12:13.280 --> 0:12:15.320 why are you doing that? You can't do what you want? 0:12:16.720 --> 0:12:17.280 I mean you can. 0:12:17.440 --> 0:12:19.679 I'm mad me and you took a Vogue magazine and 0:12:19.760 --> 0:12:21.959 posted pictures with it. Wouldn't nobody to give a fuck, 0:12:23.000 --> 0:12:25.160 you know what I'm saying. Yeah, until we got real 0:12:25.240 --> 0:12:27.120 big Yeah, it's just because it's here. 0:12:27.600 --> 0:12:30.840 My poor baby, he just touched by this be defending 0:12:30.920 --> 0:12:34.719 bullshit because it's my man, my man, my man. 0:12:38.480 --> 0:12:44.800 So Tyler Perry is in the news, okay, Uh for 0:12:44.920 --> 0:12:48.160 his thoughts on women. Okay, black women in particular. Uh, 0:12:48.360 --> 0:12:51.160 he says, in our society right now, No, let me start, 0:12:51.240 --> 0:12:53.000 let me read the full thing. He said, a lot 0:12:53.080 --> 0:12:55.599 of women, especially black women. And I might get in 0:12:55.679 --> 0:12:59.640 trouble for saying this, but I will. And he carries on. 0:12:59.800 --> 0:13:02.040 He's says, in our society right now, black women are 0:13:02.080 --> 0:13:05.240 making a lot more money, for the most part than 0:13:05.320 --> 0:13:05.839 black men. 0:13:07.120 --> 0:13:08.079 If you could. 0:13:07.920 --> 0:13:11.400 Find love, if that man works at whatever job, and 0:13:11.480 --> 0:13:13.319 it is a good man, and it's good to you 0:13:13.679 --> 0:13:16.000 and honors you and honors a house, and honors his 0:13:16.120 --> 0:13:19.559 wife and does what he can because his gift might 0:13:20.200 --> 0:13:24.559 not be your gift. And that's okay, that's not he says, 0:13:24.679 --> 0:13:27.800 that's not somebody that's beneath you. That's somebody who came 0:13:27.880 --> 0:13:30.840 to love you at your worth. So he's basically saying, 0:13:30.840 --> 0:13:34.480 you know, meet people where they are. And he adds 0:13:34.559 --> 0:13:37.280 and says, as long as he's secure in himself to 0:13:37.400 --> 0:13:39.600 know white to know that. Excuse me, And he says, 0:13:39.640 --> 0:13:42.240 as long as he's secure in himself to know that, Yeah, 0:13:42.720 --> 0:13:44.079 she makes most of the money. 0:13:44.240 --> 0:13:45.520 All I could pay is a life bill. 0:13:45.840 --> 0:13:48.280 As long as she's comfortable enough to say I'm going 0:13:48.360 --> 0:13:51.839 to cover the mortgage and all the other stuff, that's fine. Absolutely, 0:13:52.160 --> 0:13:55.120 that's fine. Right, But do you think that most men 0:13:55.200 --> 0:13:57.520 are able to rest in that position? Because it's an 0:13:57.600 --> 0:13:58.800 unnatural position. 0:14:00.000 --> 0:14:02.520 You know, you know, I can't say that most men are. 0:14:02.800 --> 0:14:03.400 I know, I know. 0:14:04.040 --> 0:14:07.319 I have a friend who left her husband because he 0:14:07.600 --> 0:14:10.959 just wasn't earning as much as her. Right, he just 0:14:11.080 --> 0:14:16.319 wasn't as ambitious, Yeah, as ambitious, as ambitious or earning 0:14:16.400 --> 0:14:17.400 as much money as her. 0:14:17.720 --> 0:14:18.160 But he was. 0:14:18.559 --> 0:14:22.360 He loved her dirty drawers, he didn't step out on her. 0:14:22.880 --> 0:14:25.840 They had fun together, he was a good father to 0:14:25.960 --> 0:14:29.320 their kids. He just did all the things except that, 0:14:30.000 --> 0:14:32.800 and she left them, and she left them. They separated 0:14:32.920 --> 0:14:35.760 for many years, and then she went back. She went 0:14:35.880 --> 0:14:38.120 back to him because she was like, I had to 0:14:38.280 --> 0:14:42.920 realize that what he provided was greater than money, what 0:14:43.040 --> 0:14:45.760 he provided me was greater than money. I went back outside, 0:14:46.040 --> 0:14:47.960 and I couldn't find that kind of love that I 0:14:48.080 --> 0:14:51.440 had with my husband. I couldn't find it. So, I mean, 0:14:51.600 --> 0:14:54.680 I guess it's just about where your value lies. You know, 0:14:55.080 --> 0:14:57.520 what's more important to you? Is it things or is 0:14:57.560 --> 0:14:59.320 it having someone who can really love you? 0:15:00.040 --> 0:15:00.520 Absolutely? 0:15:00.840 --> 0:15:04.200 So on the only drawback I see, right, the only 0:15:04.280 --> 0:15:07.480 issue I see what he said was I just don't 0:15:07.960 --> 0:15:11.400 really like when people get on public platforms, especially being 0:15:11.480 --> 0:15:14.040 somebody as big as he is, right, and then singles 0:15:14.080 --> 0:15:19.400 out black women collectively and generalizing situations because majority of 0:15:19.480 --> 0:15:22.520 black women are into trenches with black men. And when 0:15:22.520 --> 0:15:24.280 I say, like, we might be making more, we might 0:15:24.320 --> 0:15:27.800 be making less, but nonetheless we are with a black man. 0:15:27.960 --> 0:15:31.520 Right, So I feel like we're the only group. 0:15:31.440 --> 0:15:36.160 Of women where somebody's constantly telling us y'all need to 0:15:36.160 --> 0:15:37.320 bring y'all standards down. 0:15:38.240 --> 0:15:39.920 Well, I think we're the only group of women in 0:15:40.000 --> 0:15:43.080 this country that make more than our don't count. 0:15:43.320 --> 0:15:43.800 That's true. 0:15:44.000 --> 0:15:46.160 I don't even think it's white women are making more 0:15:46.200 --> 0:15:46.720 than white men. 0:15:47.160 --> 0:15:49.840 No, no, no, I don't think that black women are 0:15:49.920 --> 0:15:52.520 making more money on a greater scale than black men. 0:15:52.640 --> 0:15:54.720 I don't bel I come from a corporate setting, so 0:15:54.880 --> 0:15:57.480 I know that black men, and that's just my small 0:15:57.600 --> 0:16:00.960 sample size, right, the black men have higher positions and 0:16:01.040 --> 0:16:04.520 they are higher earners. So I don't think I haven't 0:16:04.560 --> 0:16:10.240 seen any statistics to to to prove that, right. 0:16:10.720 --> 0:16:12.280 I know black women come on more debt. 0:16:12.480 --> 0:16:15.440 I've actually looked at those statistics because we talk about 0:16:15.520 --> 0:16:17.280 higher education and stuff like that. 0:16:18.760 --> 0:16:20.920 Your man might have never went to college. 0:16:20.960 --> 0:16:23.600 You started a trucking company making half a million dollars, 0:16:24.000 --> 0:16:27.040 You got half a million dollars in student loans. You 0:16:27.120 --> 0:16:28.920 know what I'm saying. So it just I don't know 0:16:29.040 --> 0:16:31.600 where the stats come from that people like to use. 0:16:32.000 --> 0:16:34.960 But I think he generalized a lot of things in 0:16:35.320 --> 0:16:36.920 a statement he made. And I just want black men 0:16:37.000 --> 0:16:39.560 to talk to other black men, right, because I always 0:16:39.600 --> 0:16:41.120 say this, Black women we talk to each. 0:16:41.000 --> 0:16:43.080 Other, but we talk to each other, but we also 0:16:43.160 --> 0:16:43.680 talk to men. 0:16:43.800 --> 0:16:46.280 So it's not fair to tell men that they can't 0:16:46.360 --> 0:16:48.880 talk to women when we sit on our show and 0:16:48.960 --> 0:16:51.360 literally talk to men all the time on what they 0:16:51.440 --> 0:16:52.640 need to do and what they should do. 0:16:52.920 --> 0:16:53.080 You know. 0:16:53.760 --> 0:16:56.440 So I feel like I feel like when we talk 0:16:56.480 --> 0:16:58.840 about it, really, when I think about when I started 0:16:58.840 --> 0:17:00.600 talking about men, I really be thinking about men that 0:17:00.680 --> 0:17:02.720 I've dealt with or the type of man that I want, 0:17:02.880 --> 0:17:05.480 I don't really be trying to generalize, like, oh, all, 0:17:05.600 --> 0:17:09.600 y'all niggas need to lower y'all standards, right, I don't 0:17:09.600 --> 0:17:11.840 say no shit like that. That's really what he's saying 0:17:11.840 --> 0:17:14.040 on a public platform, and we are not Tyler Perry. 0:17:14.119 --> 0:17:18.880 Tyler Perry is a huge personality, you know. I don't 0:17:18.880 --> 0:17:21.520 think he's saying lower your standards. He said, if this 0:17:21.640 --> 0:17:25.080 man is providing all the things that money. 0:17:25.200 --> 0:17:28.280 That's a given, a given, I know, because look at 0:17:28.320 --> 0:17:30.600 the status of relationships in our country right now with 0:17:30.720 --> 0:17:31.240 black people. 0:17:31.680 --> 0:17:34.200 If that was a given, then things would be better. 0:17:34.280 --> 0:17:38.400 Don't you think so you think that black women collectively 0:17:39.400 --> 0:17:41.240 need to lower their standards. 0:17:41.520 --> 0:17:45.240 No, I don't think nobody's everybodys I just don't think 0:17:45.520 --> 0:17:49.399 you should base your relationship solely on money. That's all 0:17:49.440 --> 0:17:49.879 I'm thinking. 0:17:50.080 --> 0:17:53.680 But look at the economy right now, right and I've 0:17:53.800 --> 0:17:57.240 never been in a relationship that I based solely on money. 0:17:57.480 --> 0:18:00.159 Ever, Right, But. 0:18:01.760 --> 0:18:04.360 The more you start loving man because you fucking love them, 0:18:04.760 --> 0:18:09.359 you start reflecting, like maybe I should start focusing on 0:18:09.480 --> 0:18:12.760 the money. Most women aren't focusing on the money. So 0:18:13.000 --> 0:18:15.120 for him to make a blaked statement like that, it's 0:18:15.240 --> 0:18:17.520 just not true. And I feel like we might verbally 0:18:17.560 --> 0:18:19.359 say that, but that's not really how we live in 0:18:19.400 --> 0:18:19.840 our lives. 0:18:20.280 --> 0:18:21.680 I know, you know a bitch taking care of a 0:18:21.760 --> 0:18:22.239 man right now? 0:18:22.640 --> 0:18:22.840 I do. 0:18:26.040 --> 0:18:28.680 I can't think of nobody I know, But I don't 0:18:28.680 --> 0:18:31.280 know nobody taking care of no man. But I do 0:18:31.440 --> 0:18:33.480 know women who make more than their men. You know, 0:18:34.280 --> 0:18:37.520 Does that count as taken care of them if they 0:18:37.600 --> 0:18:38.040 make more? 0:18:38.600 --> 0:18:40.920 If he's just paying a light bold like he just suggested, 0:18:41.080 --> 0:18:42.760 he was wild with it, just the lights. 0:18:43.440 --> 0:18:46.000 He was wilding with that statement. But I mean, I 0:18:46.119 --> 0:18:49.040 feel like I know people who, you know, they have 0:18:49.200 --> 0:18:51.680 their dynamic that works, and their man is not the 0:18:51.720 --> 0:18:57.440 bread winner they are, you know, so and I envy 0:18:57.520 --> 0:19:00.840 their relationship. It's beautiful, they're happy, they look like they're 0:19:00.840 --> 0:19:03.639 having fun. They out on boats, and she probably futting 0:19:03.680 --> 0:19:06.040 a lot of the bill, you know, But everything else 0:19:06.560 --> 0:19:07.600 is just immaculate. 0:19:07.680 --> 0:19:10.359 For them, soide looking in I don't know, you know. 0:19:10.400 --> 0:19:12.320 For sure, how he said if the man is comfortable 0:19:12.359 --> 0:19:16.639 in that position, But oftentimes men aren't comfortable in that position. 0:19:16.840 --> 0:19:19.280 They want to be able to provide, right. 0:19:19.359 --> 0:19:21.600 So if you can get one that's not an ego 0:19:21.920 --> 0:19:23.880 about you making more money than them and not trying 0:19:23.880 --> 0:19:26.480 to make you feel bad for having higher education or 0:19:26.520 --> 0:19:29.679 earning more, then it's cool. But I think a lot 0:19:29.760 --> 0:19:31.600