WEBVTT - "Empty Nesting Has Been Good For You Guys" 0:00:02.240 --> 0:00:03.000 Hey, they're folks. 0:00:03.040 --> 0:00:08.200 It is Saturday, November twenty ninth, and man, we couldn't 0:00:08.280 --> 0:00:12.280 wait to welcome them home, and now we can't wait 0:00:12.920 --> 0:00:15.440 to see them leave. I know a lot of you 0:00:15.600 --> 0:00:19.479 parents out there got college kids that have come home 0:00:19.480 --> 0:00:22.000 for the weekend and are packing up and ready to roll. 0:00:22.360 --> 0:00:25.479 And we got two we kind of can't wait to 0:00:25.480 --> 0:00:28.040 get rid of ourselves. And they're sitting right here in 0:00:28.040 --> 0:00:30.800 front of us, And welcome to this episode of Amy 0:00:30.840 --> 0:00:31.240 and TJ. 0:00:31.360 --> 0:00:34.600 Robes. Will you please explain who these two are? 0:00:34.640 --> 0:00:37.280 Who who were putting on planes pretty soon? 0:00:37.800 --> 0:00:41.560 Yes, so this is nineteen year old Annalise, of course, 0:00:41.680 --> 0:00:44.920 my daughter, and then her best friend Jenna, one of many. 0:00:44.920 --> 0:00:46.360 Do I get you in trouble if I say you 0:00:46.360 --> 0:00:47.560 have one best friend? 0:00:48.240 --> 0:00:48.440 Right? 0:00:48.479 --> 0:00:51.080 But they are both actually now heading on the same 0:00:51.120 --> 0:00:54.160 plane back to Denver tomorrow. 0:00:54.120 --> 0:00:56.920 And speak for yourself. I'm going to miss them. 0:00:58.960 --> 0:01:03.640 Oh, there's an adjustment period for sure. 0:01:05.040 --> 0:01:08.120 You know what was the highlight for you all? Was 0:01:08.160 --> 0:01:09.520 it really being fed? 0:01:10.200 --> 0:01:11.399 Yeah? Seriously? 0:01:11.600 --> 0:01:14.240 Literally a meal, that's it. 0:01:14.240 --> 0:01:17.240 It's a free meal. But you didn't have to having. 0:01:17.120 --> 0:01:18.440 To buy my groceries. 0:01:19.400 --> 0:01:23.280 It's really nice and a shower and like a clean shower. 0:01:23.440 --> 0:01:25.959 Wait, what happens in school? You're not getting clean shower? 0:01:26.840 --> 0:01:29.880 No like our own showers that like are ours? 0:01:29.959 --> 0:01:31.319 You're not sharing with somebody? 0:01:31.560 --> 0:01:34.800 Oh wait, actually, let's get a count. 0:01:34.800 --> 0:01:38.240 How many people do you share your shower with? Analyse? 0:01:38.640 --> 0:01:43.080 Three people, two of them including guys, another girl and me. 0:01:44.080 --> 0:01:47.600 Yeah, it's interesting, and how about you, Jenna? Three girls? 0:01:48.000 --> 0:01:50.920 So a lot of products everywhere, but. 0:01:51.400 --> 0:01:53.560 How big is the bathroom that we're talking about? 0:01:53.800 --> 0:01:57.840 There's two sinks and a shower and a toilet. Not 0:01:57.840 --> 0:02:00.800 not much room for three people, only one one thing? 0:02:03.160 --> 0:02:08.160 So how much perspective has living away from home given 0:02:08.200 --> 0:02:08.480 to you? 0:02:08.600 --> 0:02:10.200 About being back at home? 0:02:10.520 --> 0:02:11.280 Life changing? 0:02:11.360 --> 0:02:13.480 I feel like this year is like we've really been 0:02:13.520 --> 0:02:16.600 in the houses. We've had to, you know, shovel the snow, 0:02:16.760 --> 0:02:18.000 get the leaves out of the way. 0:02:18.120 --> 0:02:18.280 You know. 0:02:18.320 --> 0:02:21.440 It's it's really different. So snow are you shoveling? Not yet? 0:02:22.040 --> 0:02:23.480 Has it snowed and folder yet? 0:02:23.840 --> 0:02:27.000 But it's the perspective is insane, big switch. 0:02:27.040 --> 0:02:28.000 I'm very grateful. 0:02:28.560 --> 0:02:31.160 I like sometimes forget that, like I have to buy 0:02:31.440 --> 0:02:34.000 new rolls of like paper towels, Like now they're not 0:02:34.040 --> 0:02:35.320 just going to show up in my moment. 0:02:35.720 --> 0:02:39.440 But you know, that was a heavier perspective question than 0:02:39.480 --> 0:02:42.640 I was expecting this early in this podcast that you 0:02:42.760 --> 0:02:46.080 make a good point though, Do you now appreciate that 0:02:46.240 --> 0:02:49.000 you said? And at least like some of the simplest things. 0:02:49.040 --> 0:02:52.720 I opened the refrigerator and there's sparkling water in there, 0:02:53.200 --> 0:02:54.639 like there are supplies. 0:02:55.320 --> 0:02:57.680 There's like surprise things, and the friends are like because like, 0:02:57.720 --> 0:02:59.520 we're not buying them, and we're home, so it's nice 0:02:59.560 --> 0:03:01.839 to see that. You come home and it's like, oh, 0:03:02.080 --> 0:03:03.919 like there's this in the fridge. I wouldn't have bought 0:03:03.960 --> 0:03:05.680 that if I was like changing. 0:03:06.000 --> 0:03:08.440 We've been laughing listening to you all talk about so 0:03:08.680 --> 0:03:11.200 we so before we came on to the podcast, we 0:03:11.200 --> 0:03:15.600 were listening to Analyse and Jenna talking about living with 0:03:15.880 --> 0:03:20.640 multiple other people and having to figure out chores and 0:03:20.680 --> 0:03:23.000 who pays for what and who cleans up what and 0:03:23.040 --> 0:03:26.040 who cooks this. But I actually thought it was hilarious 0:03:26.040 --> 0:03:29.840 because the when the subject of toilet paper came off, 0:03:30.120 --> 0:03:37.280 it was, yes, what is it about toilet paper? 0:03:37.760 --> 0:03:41.839 No one and no one wants there's always an alternative, like, yeah, 0:03:41.960 --> 0:03:43.240 my roommates will use tissues. 0:03:43.720 --> 0:03:47.880 We don't have enough of tissues. If there's no toilet paper, 0:03:48.280 --> 0:03:53.280 I've used paper towels. Honestly, you have to get towels. 0:03:52.880 --> 0:03:54.600 That like you use, like to only clean your face, 0:03:55.080 --> 0:03:57.440 like the one used paper. Yeah, sometimes we'll have to 0:03:57.520 --> 0:03:59.480 use this because no one will buy toilet paper. It's 0:03:59.480 --> 0:04:04.560 like the last It's like during COVID, But like during. 0:04:04.360 --> 0:04:06.840 COVID, everyone's refusing to purchase us. 0:04:09.080 --> 0:04:11.720 You all total, it was not that expensive. It really right, 0:04:11.720 --> 0:04:14.000 and we all have to have it. So what again? 0:04:14.200 --> 0:04:15.720 This has been a while to me and you all. 0:04:15.760 --> 0:04:18.640 We talked about this earlier. I lived by myself for 0:04:19.040 --> 0:04:20.799 three out of the four years in college. 0:04:20.839 --> 0:04:22.320 So what happened when you didn't have toilet paper? 0:04:22.400 --> 0:04:22.479 No? 0:04:22.680 --> 0:04:25.480 I was responsible. I'm the only one responsible. 0:04:25.640 --> 0:04:28.520 So now is that that everybody's expecting somebody else to 0:04:28.560 --> 0:04:29.240 buy toilet paper. 0:04:29.279 --> 0:04:31.200 You're the last person to use toilet paper. You should 0:04:31.200 --> 0:04:32.720 be the one to replenish it. 0:04:32.880 --> 0:04:33.880 You know, what is the rule? 0:04:34.080 --> 0:04:37.760 We actually there isn't a rule of us. 0:04:38.400 --> 0:04:41.800 I have a group chat it's called lou Crue, and 0:04:41.839 --> 0:04:45.120 we almost send I'll send it and I'll be like, guys, 0:04:45.320 --> 0:04:47.200 it's time to buy a new toilet paper. I bought 0:04:47.200 --> 0:04:50.200 it last time, and I will just get left on 0:04:50.360 --> 0:04:52.480 like everyone will see it and just not answer. 0:04:52.520 --> 0:04:55.039 And I'm like, great, a utility fund. What if you 0:04:55.080 --> 0:04:58.080 all just put into one fund and from this pot 0:04:58.160 --> 0:05:02.279 we're buying toilet paper paper to so but good. 0:05:02.440 --> 0:05:04.440 But I think that. 0:05:04.400 --> 0:05:07.359 There's always like like when anils is like, oh, like, guys, 0:05:07.400 --> 0:05:09.800 I bought it last time, then that like I did 0:05:09.800 --> 0:05:12.479 it last time kind of thing, like yeah, transfers over 0:05:12.560 --> 0:05:14.520 to like when it comes to like the garbage, like 0:05:14.560 --> 0:05:16.360 if the garbage, like if. 0:05:16.240 --> 0:05:18.040 The garbage is overflowing, it's like, well. 0:05:17.960 --> 0:05:20.560 I threw it out last time, so now I'm gonna 0:05:20.600 --> 0:05:22.200 make it overflow even more. 0:05:22.520 --> 0:05:25.960 It's so funny to watch you all figure out how 0:05:26.000 --> 0:05:30.479 to basically create some sort of civilized communal living condition 0:05:31.520 --> 0:05:33.200 on your own without your parents' help. 0:05:33.240 --> 0:05:34.279 It's really funny to me. 0:05:34.360 --> 0:05:36.520 But the whole who's paying for the toilet paper thing 0:05:36.960 --> 0:05:39.760 just cracked me up, because it's something you take for 0:05:39.839 --> 0:05:44.080 granted when you're a kid until you actually realize, oh, 0:05:44.320 --> 0:05:45.200 I actually. 0:05:44.920 --> 0:05:48.080 Someone someone has someone's paying for this exactly. This doesn't 0:05:48.120 --> 0:05:49.440 just magically show up. 0:05:49.800 --> 0:05:54.679 God, right, first time I thought about toilet paper needing 0:05:54.760 --> 0:05:55.720 to be purchased. 0:05:56.240 --> 0:05:58.840 I was eighteen or nineteen, Yeah. 0:05:58.600 --> 0:06:03.279 Exactly, Well was to steal some put it in my suitcase. 0:06:02.760 --> 0:06:06.760 Sleep hold on no home from New York. 0:06:06.920 --> 0:06:07.680 She doesn't know. 0:06:08.080 --> 0:06:10.400 She came to my apartment a few weeks ago and 0:06:10.440 --> 0:06:13.000 saw that we had fresh rolls of paper towels, and 0:06:13.640 --> 0:06:16.320 she was complaining about how she didn't have any paper 0:06:16.360 --> 0:06:18.400 towels and how I had like seven rolls, and I 0:06:18.440 --> 0:06:20.600 was like, analyst, you can take apparently you could take 0:06:20.600 --> 0:06:21.760 a roll of my paper towels. 0:06:22.240 --> 0:06:24.880 At least we can't have this if we. 0:06:27.800 --> 0:06:28.600 Please send you. 0:06:28.640 --> 0:06:31.159 Do you have a place to secure toilet paper and 0:06:31.160 --> 0:06:34.400 paper towels in your home that nobody can steal them? 0:06:34.760 --> 0:06:36.920 I can put in my room, but honestly, people will 0:06:36.960 --> 0:06:37.600 just come in and. 0:06:37.520 --> 0:06:39.440 Be like, I'll take it. 0:06:39.800 --> 0:06:42.320 So I have a question because this is interesting. I 0:06:42.400 --> 0:06:45.360 remember back obviously there were similar issues, but I feel 0:06:45.400 --> 0:06:49.560 like they have been compounded exacerbated because no one actually 0:06:49.839 --> 0:06:53.640 addresses these issues with one another face to face. I 0:06:53.640 --> 0:06:56.240 if you actually didn't have phones, which we did not 0:06:56.440 --> 0:06:59.520 have when I was in college, to text each other, 0:07:00.200 --> 0:07:03.560 you could leave a nasty note maybe on a countertop, but. 0:07:03.480 --> 0:07:04.120 That was it. 0:07:04.200 --> 0:07:06.960 So otherwise you had to then face to face have 0:07:07.040 --> 0:07:10.520 a conversation about that, and there is then a more 0:07:10.560 --> 0:07:16.240 civilized conversation and a more responsibility accepted or received because 0:07:16.640 --> 0:07:17.600 I'm looking you in. 0:07:17.560 --> 0:07:20.760 The eye and I'm saying this isn't okay. 0:07:20.640 --> 0:07:21.960 Agreed, And I still do that. 0:07:22.080 --> 0:07:24.280 I do live with all of them, so I will 0:07:24.320 --> 0:07:26.520 track every single one of them down, sit them on 0:07:26.560 --> 0:07:28.720 the couch and be like, this is not okay. We 0:07:28.760 --> 0:07:31.800 need to do this and this. So I still do that, 0:07:31.920 --> 0:07:34.160 and it's way better. It works way better than a phone. 0:07:34.440 --> 0:07:36.320 I think it's easier for me because I only live 0:07:36.360 --> 0:07:40.160 with two other people, so it's like like, but we 0:07:40.280 --> 0:07:43.080 have our bathrooms. It's two, it's like one full and 0:07:43.120 --> 0:07:45.760 one half. So one bathroom is only being shared by 0:07:45.880 --> 0:07:49.400 like like for the shower purpose. But there's a bathroom 0:07:49.480 --> 0:07:52.600 upstairs for like one roommate to use. And there's no 0:07:52.680 --> 0:07:55.880 tile paper in either of the bathrooms, so like, if 0:07:55.880 --> 0:07:58.920 there's no toiling in the upstairs, she'll come to the downstairs. 0:07:59.440 --> 0:08:01.440 This is but I genuinely think it's like one of 0:08:01.440 --> 0:08:03.440 those things that are so minor that like when you 0:08:03.480 --> 0:08:05.240 live in a house with like your family, Like it's 0:08:05.280 --> 0:08:06.920 like one of those things that are just always there 0:08:07.440 --> 0:08:10.400 because like like my mom, I think is on like 0:08:10.440 --> 0:08:12.400 a subscription for toy Like it's like something that's. 0:08:12.240 --> 0:08:16.760 Just so Amazon's an Amazon subscription that just comes and goes. 0:08:17.080 --> 0:08:20.240 But because we forget that, like it does like I 0:08:20.240 --> 0:08:20.880 don't have a mom. 0:08:21.040 --> 0:08:24.040 You're saying is and when we are looking to put 0:08:24.200 --> 0:08:25.880 something in a care package. 0:08:25.600 --> 0:08:29.120 Toilet page just put toilet packages. 0:08:29.560 --> 0:08:32.079 Well, I have a problem with it if it's going 0:08:32.160 --> 0:08:36.080 to be used for people other than analysas. 0:08:36.200 --> 0:08:40.800 But you know it, I know I'm not supporting that house. 0:08:40.960 --> 0:08:42.679 Should we do bring your own toilet paper every time 0:08:42.679 --> 0:08:43.280 I go to the bathroom? 0:08:44.000 --> 0:08:48.319 Should we like I do, I should not each break? 0:08:49.520 --> 0:08:53.080 Really, I'm okay with that. This is I cannot remember this. 0:08:53.080 --> 0:08:54.720 This is I had. 0:08:54.640 --> 0:08:56.800 Six rolls in my room and I was like, this 0:08:56.880 --> 0:08:58.960 is mine. I'm going to keep this behind my door, 0:08:59.040 --> 0:09:01.560 no one can see it. And you know, I come 0:09:01.600 --> 0:09:03.959 back heit toilet paper. I had toilet toilet paper my 0:09:04.040 --> 0:09:06.000 room and I come back and literally I was like, 0:09:06.080 --> 0:09:07.240 two rules are missing. 0:09:07.400 --> 0:09:08.520 I'm wondering where that was. 0:09:08.600 --> 0:09:12.440 The funny thing everyone's in agreement on, like the toilet paper, 0:09:12.520 --> 0:09:15.240 not like everyone's like guys, we ran out of toile paper, 0:09:15.280 --> 0:09:16.920 but no one like will step in and be like, oh, like, 0:09:17.200 --> 0:09:17.800 I'll buy. 0:09:17.600 --> 0:09:18.079 A new roll. 0:09:18.120 --> 0:09:20.040 Can somebody tell me how much this toilet paper costs 0:09:20.040 --> 0:09:20.360 out there? 0:09:21.200 --> 0:09:23.080 I think it's I think I just checked, like eight 0:09:23.120 --> 0:09:24.360 bucks for six rolls. 0:09:25.280 --> 0:09:28.559 That's really not that bad like toilet papers. Oh yeah, okay, 0:09:28.720 --> 0:09:32.199 well whoa, what's twenty four? It's like twenty for twenty 0:09:32.200 --> 0:09:33.880 four rolls? It's thirty five dollars. 0:09:34.080 --> 0:09:37.360 Okay, now, how and at least your house, how long 0:09:37.960 --> 0:09:39.319 will toilet paper last? 0:09:40.600 --> 0:09:43.360 Y'all will go through a roll a day, two rolls. 0:09:43.160 --> 0:09:46.200 A day, roll roll every two and a half days. 0:09:46.240 --> 0:09:48.000 I'd say for the house, No. 0:09:48.040 --> 0:09:51.480 For for my bathroom of four, but people use your bathroom. 0:09:51.520 --> 0:09:53.760 People are talking about yes, you guys like that's the 0:09:53.880 --> 0:09:54.520 that's the issue. 0:09:54.559 --> 0:09:54.920 My house. 0:09:54.960 --> 0:09:56.800 So many more people than you think that are using that. 0:09:56.960 --> 0:09:59.840 We have an open door policy. Everyone's just in and. 0:09:59.760 --> 0:10:01.440 Out, so. 0:10:03.200 --> 0:10:05.760 Lock our door, my windows. You can climb through my 0:10:05.800 --> 0:10:07.520 windows to go into our apartment. 0:10:07.600 --> 0:10:09.240 But do you remember this, babe? 0:10:09.320 --> 0:10:12.440 I do not remember ever thinking about worrying about or 0:10:12.520 --> 0:10:14.480 wondering where the toilet. 0:10:15.320 --> 0:10:17.880 You aren't realizing that COVID there was an issue with 0:10:17.920 --> 0:10:20.679 COVID during toipapers. Like clearly toilet paper is like an 0:10:20.760 --> 0:10:22.520 issue globally to some people. 0:10:22.679 --> 0:10:25.400 The first time I was ever concerned about toilet paper 0:10:25.480 --> 0:10:26.120 was during COVID. 0:10:26.559 --> 0:10:28.960 In my life, I didn't know yourself. 0:10:29.480 --> 0:10:33.040 I never had a toilet paper shortage. 0:10:33.120 --> 0:10:34.880 Now play yourself. 0:10:34.960 --> 0:10:38.240 So yeah, during college. 0:10:38.880 --> 0:10:39.839 You were responsible for it. 0:10:39.960 --> 0:10:43.040 And even now when Robes and I had two different places, 0:10:43.280 --> 0:10:45.520 if I got short on toilet paper at my place, 0:10:46.000 --> 0:10:47.840 I didn't sweat it because I would just steal one 0:10:47.920 --> 0:10:48.559 from her place. 0:10:49.760 --> 0:10:54.199 Your understanding there, like you you realized, like, oh, if 0:10:54.200 --> 0:10:56.360 you don't have toilet paper, Aimy has tolepapers, so all 0:10:56.559 --> 0:10:59.080 go get it from there. That is the same concept 0:10:59.080 --> 0:11:00.080 of analyses the room. 0:11:01.960 --> 0:11:02.240 Blocks. 0:11:05.120 --> 0:11:07.920 But when we both don't have toilet paper, that's that's 0:11:07.920 --> 0:11:08.679 when we also right. 0:11:08.840 --> 0:11:11.640 So we see what you realize you were missing when 0:11:11.679 --> 0:11:14.199 you were away when you came back home. What were 0:11:14.240 --> 0:11:17.760 you missing about being in college? 0:11:20.920 --> 0:11:23.200 What we were literally just saying, I'd say, yeah, I'd say, just. 0:11:23.120 --> 0:11:26.160 Like we were just saying how we are always like 0:11:26.400 --> 0:11:29.800 at school, we're always with someone, like we were living 0:11:29.880 --> 0:11:32.000 like we live with people like and we were literally 0:11:32.200 --> 0:11:34.600 just saying five minutes ago, how it is so weird 0:11:34.760 --> 0:11:37.800 being home because I think both of us like are 0:11:37.960 --> 0:11:39.760 very independent people that we tend to do more things 0:11:39.800 --> 0:11:42.040 by ourselves, but we're always surrounded by so many people, 0:11:42.440 --> 0:11:43.920 and like you live in such a big city and 0:11:43.960 --> 0:11:45.760 I live in a small town where like I see 0:11:45.760 --> 0:11:48.360 everyone I know, but most of the time by myself. 0:11:49.800 --> 0:11:51.760 There's so much more independence when you're home that like 0:11:52.000 --> 0:11:55.480 it's very different not being constantly like having the need 0:11:55.520 --> 0:11:57.040 to be around other people. 0:11:58.559 --> 0:12:00.800 Change, Like I'm constantly like a get on the subway, 0:12:00.800 --> 0:12:03.600 I have my headphones done by myself, or like at 0:12:03.720 --> 0:12:06.800 least now or two, Yeah, walking around by myself. But yeah, 0:12:06.840 --> 0:12:09.800 definitely at school, I'm like, get away from me. Everyone's 0:12:09.840 --> 0:12:13.760 always around me. So would you prefer Oh, I don't know, 0:12:13.840 --> 0:12:14.760 I do I do love? 0:12:15.160 --> 0:12:17.600 Do love an independent Yeah? I think. I think doing 0:12:17.679 --> 0:12:19.680 like tasks and like in ERNs. 0:12:19.800 --> 0:12:21.920 I think in like errands and like that kind of stuff, 0:12:21.920 --> 0:12:25.400 Like being by yourself, you're more productive. Yeah, And I think, 0:12:25.679 --> 0:12:27.000 like when I do my homework, I need to be 0:12:27.000 --> 0:12:29.080 by myself or like I won't get my homework done. 0:12:29.360 --> 0:12:32.960 But I think like just being throughout the day, like 0:12:33.000 --> 0:12:35.840 having like the ability to just like see everyone you know. 0:12:35.920 --> 0:12:38.160 As you're like just walking around, like going to class 0:12:38.240 --> 0:12:40.199 or like coming back to your house or apartments, seeing 0:12:40.200 --> 0:12:42.600 all these people, it makes more sense to like want 0:12:42.640 --> 0:12:44.240 to be near people because it seems so lonely. 0:12:44.280 --> 0:12:46.480 I don't know how you lived by yourself. I'd freak out. 0:12:47.400 --> 0:12:48.280 I could not do it. 0:12:50.200 --> 0:12:51.160 Obviously, I loved it. 0:12:52.200 --> 0:12:54.560 Obviously I loved it because I didn't have a lot 0:12:54.600 --> 0:12:56.839 of the problems that she won't describe, and a lot 0:12:56.880 --> 0:12:58.600 of these dynamics and a lot. 0:12:58.440 --> 0:13:00.640 Of those text messages that you all were. 0:13:00.520 --> 0:13:03.680 Reading before we came on from friends and roommates that 0:13:03.760 --> 0:13:08.439 I said, these are relationship enders in my world, like 0:13:08.559 --> 0:13:12.960 these that's that's it. So hey, I know times are different. 0:13:13.000 --> 0:13:16.160 But she asked a question though about interaction. You said, 0:13:16.200 --> 0:13:19.320 you try to go face to face and dealing with 0:13:19.360 --> 0:13:21.160 things with people, do you, But do you think so 0:13:21.280 --> 0:13:24.640 many folks now are just so used to having a 0:13:24.720 --> 0:13:28.560 disconnect from that face to face that everything is via 0:13:28.640 --> 0:13:31.120 text trying to settle a conflict, and that's a problem. 0:13:31.240 --> 0:13:34.360 Yeah, people totally hide behind their screen. It's really it's 0:13:34.400 --> 0:13:36.839 honestly sad to see. But honestly, we'll say, living in 0:13:36.880 --> 0:13:39.920 a house with so many people with sometimes issues arise, 0:13:40.000 --> 0:13:42.840 like it is. I've learned that I literally never text 0:13:42.880 --> 0:13:43.440 them anymore. 0:13:43.480 --> 0:13:46.439 Like, well, I think guys. Guys are a lot more 0:13:46.440 --> 0:13:48.080 confidence exactly exactly. 0:13:48.120 --> 0:13:49.880 And also I live with girls too, and I've had 0:13:49.920 --> 0:13:52.880 you know, we've had our there are more confrontationial, yes, 0:13:53.520 --> 0:13:54.720 but definitely going. 0:13:54.800 --> 0:13:56.400 Well, that can be an upside. You were kind of 0:13:56.400 --> 0:13:58.000 saying they will take it on. 0:13:58.160 --> 0:13:59.679 Knock on the door. I'm like, oh, you gotta talk 0:13:59.720 --> 0:14:01.800 this out. And it's it's good. 0:14:02.880 --> 0:14:04.400 You imagine knocking on a female. 0:14:04.440 --> 0:14:07.160 So we got to talk to never do that. Never. 0:14:07.480 --> 0:14:11.120 I'm like, can we speak? Tell me what a good 0:14:11.120 --> 0:14:11.520 time is. 0:14:12.200 --> 0:14:13.840 I mean, it's not bad or anything, but I just 0:14:13.840 --> 0:14:14.320 want to talk. 0:14:14.440 --> 0:14:17.240 I hate text messages when you're in a fight. 0:14:18.040 --> 0:14:18.880 It just it is. 0:14:19.400 --> 0:14:21.960 I think that like even like, it's so easy we 0:14:22.040 --> 0:14:24.960 live something like we all live with our friends, like 0:14:25.320 --> 0:14:27.440 and like, and Lisa and I live two streets away 0:14:27.440 --> 0:14:31.080 from each other, Like it's so easy to just walk over. Yeah, 0:14:31.120 --> 0:14:33.240 we're living tother next year. It's so easy. Like there's 0:14:33.240 --> 0:14:35.080 a reason we know we could live together. We were 0:14:35.120 --> 0:14:39.080 able to make it work in Spain and in Colorado, 0:14:39.080 --> 0:14:42.080 like as strangers in Spain, so like realizing that, like 0:14:42.840 --> 0:14:44.960 you have to adapt to living with someone, Like it's 0:14:44.960 --> 0:14:47.080 not gonna work if you just keep texting them, because 0:14:47.400 --> 0:14:50.240 people people will say so much harsher things over text 0:14:50.640 --> 0:14:53.920 versus like face to face, like it's like it's aggressive. 0:14:53.920 --> 0:14:56.760 It's like very aggressive and like I necess and you 0:14:56.760 --> 0:14:58.640 can never read tone, and then they'll get mad at 0:14:58.680 --> 0:15:01.360 you if you're like, oh, that sounded really mean, Like no, 0:15:01.400 --> 0:15:03.640 I didn't mean it like that, and like the way 0:15:03.720 --> 0:15:04.240 you said. 0:15:04.080 --> 0:15:04.920 It, like you said it. 0:15:06.440 --> 0:15:09.040 Would you say that you've noticed a change of any 0:15:09.120 --> 0:15:17.880 kind in analyse this semester even from the time you 0:15:17.960 --> 0:15:19.680 dropped off. I know you went back and visited, but 0:15:19.840 --> 0:15:21.440 would you say there, don't tell me what they are, 0:15:21.440 --> 0:15:23.160 But would you say you've noticed something different? 0:15:23.320 --> 0:15:24.160 Yes you have? 0:15:24.440 --> 0:15:24.600 Yes? 0:15:25.040 --> 0:15:28.040 All right, well, folks, stay with us. When we come 0:15:28.160 --> 0:15:32.280 back after this quick break, we will hear exactly what 0:15:32.320 --> 0:15:37.560 that is. And we'll also ask the ladies here is 0:15:37.560 --> 0:15:47.760 it better in college to live with guys or girls? 0:15:51.640 --> 0:15:54.360 All right, folks, welcome back. We continue our conversation with 0:15:55.200 --> 0:15:56.800 and I was joking off the time. We're not trying 0:15:56.840 --> 0:16:02.440 to get rid of them. 0:15:58.480 --> 0:16:03.000 And Jenna our dear Jenna. Who Jenna? We didn't explain 0:16:03.040 --> 0:16:03.440 to the top. 0:16:03.480 --> 0:16:07.160 We met Jenna in in Spain when we went to 0:16:07.480 --> 0:16:11.920 visit Annalise her freshman year. She was studying abroad, and 0:16:12.480 --> 0:16:16.320 we went me you Ava went on that trip, and 0:16:16.440 --> 0:16:19.160 I said, who the hell is this fire crack? Who 0:16:19.360 --> 0:16:22.920 is this Jenna person? She was one, but naturally I 0:16:22.960 --> 0:16:25.520 swear to you, Jenna, I swear to you from the 0:16:25.560 --> 0:16:29.120 moment I met you, and everybody left as I like 0:16:29.200 --> 0:16:29.520 that one. 0:16:29.720 --> 0:16:31.560 Yes, everybody like that one. 0:16:31.880 --> 0:16:35.440 Very true. And yes, no, you've got I love. 0:16:35.520 --> 0:16:37.880 You're authentic and I think you know, in a world 0:16:37.920 --> 0:16:41.000 where that is lacking in a lot of ways, when 0:16:41.040 --> 0:16:43.400 you meet someone who's just a genuine person, you know 0:16:43.480 --> 0:16:46.120 them immediately. And so we were very excited that the 0:16:46.120 --> 0:16:50.000 two of you became good friends, roommates and now soon 0:16:50.040 --> 0:16:51.200 to be roommates again. 0:16:51.280 --> 0:16:52.720 So it's awesome to have you here. 0:16:52.720 --> 0:16:56.320 But yes, you asked me if I have noticed a 0:16:56.400 --> 0:16:59.400 change in analse, and yes, and on a couple of levels. 0:17:00.000 --> 0:17:08.600 First of all, I've noticed an increased amount of gratitude. Yes, okay, yes, 0:17:08.720 --> 0:17:10.879 I've seen you say thank you Mom, and just a 0:17:11.040 --> 0:17:17.119 sweetness and a genuine appreciation of things this time around, 0:17:17.160 --> 0:17:19.720 and I think that definitely comes from living. 0:17:19.800 --> 0:17:21.800 Yeah, it's way harder living on your own. 0:17:21.920 --> 0:17:24.000 And it's funny because I used to make fun of Eva, 0:17:24.359 --> 0:17:27.320 my sister, and I'd be like, stop taking all the 0:17:27.560 --> 0:17:30.879 lacroix from mom, like stop taking all the toilet paper 0:17:30.920 --> 0:17:31.560 from the house. 0:17:31.960 --> 0:17:34.120 And now I understand. 0:17:34.160 --> 0:17:38.480 And that is definitely makes me reach a sense of gratituity. 0:17:38.920 --> 0:17:41.159 And you know what was cool too that I also 0:17:41.760 --> 0:17:45.160 just I asked, I said, I know I'm not imposing 0:17:45.160 --> 0:17:46.760 a curfew on you, and I know you're used to 0:17:46.760 --> 0:17:49.719 coming and going, but when you're here, will you please 0:17:49.800 --> 0:17:52.199 text me when you get home. You know I'll be 0:17:52.359 --> 0:17:54.520 long asleep, but I usually do wake up in the 0:17:54.560 --> 0:17:56.119 middle of the night when I know you're here, and 0:17:56.160 --> 0:17:58.199 to just turn over and see your text makes me 0:17:58.320 --> 0:17:59.320 know you're safe. 0:18:00.080 --> 0:18:02.840 Been pretty good yes night. 0:18:03.200 --> 0:18:07.720 Yeah, But like I think before you might have laughed 0:18:07.800 --> 0:18:09.879 or scoffed, and you were actually like I was. 0:18:10.000 --> 0:18:10.240 I was. 0:18:10.600 --> 0:18:12.000 I was excited you actually did that. 0:18:12.160 --> 0:18:15.280 Also, I noticed when you came and you cooked for 0:18:15.320 --> 0:18:18.639 the first time, I didn't have to say, Anna, you 0:18:18.680 --> 0:18:21.560 cannot leave the kitchen. You can't just cook your things 0:18:21.600 --> 0:18:24.640