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Speaker 1: It is Strawberry Letter subject. This is not going to work.

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Speaker 1: Okay there. Stephen Shirley, I'm thirty three years old and

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Speaker 1: my husband is an internet thought. He did a local

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Speaker 1: commercial for a gym and he had his shirt off

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Speaker 1: in the commercial, showing off his muscular chest and arms.

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Speaker 1: He became popular instantly and he got a lot of

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Speaker 1: new female followers on Instagrams. I had a problem with

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Speaker 1: the comments. The women were leaving, and he said he

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Speaker 1: wasn't thinking about those women. But I could see him

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Speaker 1: getting the big heads. So I decided to set him up.

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Speaker 1: I set up a fake i G page just to

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Speaker 1: flirt with him. I called myself Eve. I sent pictures

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Speaker 1: of my breasts and feet to him and he didn't

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Speaker 1: recognize them. He didn't even recognize them. We've been married

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Speaker 1: for six years and he didn't even know it was

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Speaker 1: my body. He sent me pictures of his body too.

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Speaker 1: This went on for a week, and we didn't have

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Speaker 1: sex during that time. I DMed him as Eve and

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Speaker 1: asked for a picture of his naked body. A few

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Speaker 1: minutes later, he got up and went to the bathroom

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Speaker 1: and sent Eve a picture. Eve told him she didn't

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Speaker 1: like body hair on a man, so he shaved it

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Speaker 1: all off, which let me know he was hoping to

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Speaker 1: have sex with ease. I decided it was time to

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Speaker 1: scare him, so I told him that a girl named

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Speaker 1: Eve came in my boutique looking for a red dress

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Speaker 1: to take a picture in because her new married man

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Speaker 1: told her his favorite color is red. He started pacing,

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Speaker 1: so I figured he knew he was busted. I spilled

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Speaker 1: the beans and told him that I was Eve. He

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Speaker 1: was quiet for a minute, and then he told me

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Speaker 1: that he knew it all along. Then he flipped it

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Speaker 1: back on me and said, this is not going to

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Speaker 1: work because I like playing games. Is he lying about

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Speaker 1: knowing it was me all along? Or was he hoping

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Speaker 1: to meet Eve. How could he say this is not

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Speaker 1: going to work? Does it mean he wants a divorce? Well,

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Speaker 1: I can tell you straight off, yes, he was hoping

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Speaker 1: he would. He could meet Eve for sure. But this

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Speaker 1: so called Eve is right there and he's your husband,

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Speaker 1: So why don't you ask him if he's talking about divorce?

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Speaker 1: And no, I don't believe he knew it all along.

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Speaker 1: I think he just said that so he wouldn't get

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Speaker 1: busted by you. And he's right. You were playing games,

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Speaker 1: you were doing all of this. You started this, the

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Speaker 1: fake I G page, all of that. You said you

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Speaker 1: wanted to set him up, and that's what you did.

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Speaker 1: He didn't like it, And this is the repercussions. You

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Speaker 1: were playing games. Be careful what you asked for. That's

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Speaker 1: why you're right here writing us this letter. And although

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Speaker 1: I don't think this particular incident is serious enough to

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Speaker 1: be talking about divorce, because both you and your husband

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Speaker 1: share the blame and all of this. Him his part

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Speaker 1: for sexting and flirting with what he thought was another

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Speaker 1: opportunity presented him presented itself for real, and then you

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Speaker 1: for tricking him, for setting him up and pretending to

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Speaker 1: be Eve in the first place. I mean, the good

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Speaker 1: thing is that he didn't physically have sex with anyone, well,

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Speaker 1: probably because Eve wasn't real. Eve was fake. But this

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Speaker 1: was childish and silly. I mean, this was a stupid

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Speaker 1: flip the game on you, and now you're feeling some

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Speaker 1: now the trust is broken on both sides. And honestly,

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Speaker 1: as stupid as all of this is, it's hard to

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Speaker 1: come back from a situation like this. I mean, you

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Speaker 1: guys need to talk immediately. I say, you need to

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Speaker 1: if you can, because this is a dumb reason to

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Speaker 1: end a marriage. Playing games on social media. It's a

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Speaker 1: stupid way to get a divorce. Steve, Seventy five percent

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Speaker 1: of all divorces right now have a social media component

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Speaker 1: to it. That's a statistic that I learned while I

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Speaker 1: was doing my talk show. Seventy five percent of all

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Speaker 1: divorces today have a social media component to it. Somebody

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Speaker 1: brass evidence of Facebook, Instagram, ig something. They thirty three

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Speaker 1: They are both. They are in this technological They grew

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Speaker 1: up with technology. They thirty three, they've had phone, cell

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Speaker 1: phone since they were born. This is their world, your husband.

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Speaker 1: You say, it's an internet thought. For those of you

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Speaker 1: that don't know what thought means, it means that garden

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Speaker 1: tool over there, you are thought. That garden tool over there.

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Speaker 1: The garden tool stars with an H. It is used

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Speaker 1: to dig up weeds next to corn and other sustainable

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Speaker 1: vegetables and fruit and flower. Okay, he did an add

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Speaker 1: a commercial or some kind, took his shirt off, showed

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Speaker 1: his muscular chest and arm. He became popular instantly, and

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Speaker 1: he got a whole lot of new female followers. And

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Speaker 1: you had a problem with what the women was saying

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Speaker 1: on these comments on this picture. And he said that

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Speaker 1: he wasn't thinking about them women. M what day is

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Speaker 1: it then? We ain't thinking about a woman. But you

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Speaker 1: can see him getting the big head. So you decided

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Speaker 1: to set him up, to set up a fake page,

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Speaker 1: and you decided to flirt with him. I sent him

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Speaker 1: pictures of my breast and feet and he didn't recognize

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Speaker 1: them as yours. He's so damn stupid, this fool, this

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Speaker 1: dumb Your husband is dumb You know, man, I hate

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Speaker 1: dumb men because it makes the rest of us look

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Speaker 1: guilty even when we're telling the truth. That's what I

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Speaker 1: hate about dumba. Your wife sent you a picture of

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Speaker 1: her feet and you ain't recognize her feet and her breath.

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Speaker 1: You hang on, Steve, Yeah, whatever. Well at part two

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Speaker 1: of Steve's response, coming up at twenty three minutes after

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Speaker 1: the hour, Today's Strawberry letter, subject this is not going

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Speaker 1: to work. We'll get back into it right after this.

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Speaker 1: You're listening show, all right, Come on, Steve, let's recap

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Speaker 1: today's strawberry letter. The subject is this is not going

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Speaker 1: to work. This is a lot about a food in

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Speaker 1: his thirties that's in love with himself all over again

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Speaker 1: cause some women fell in love with him online. That's

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Speaker 1: all this is. He did a commercial, showed his chest

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Speaker 1: All of a sudden. The wife read the comment. She

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Speaker 1: don't like none of the comment. He said he ain't

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Speaker 1: thinking about none of them women. There's not a date

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Speaker 1: don't think about women. I don't care for your own.

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Speaker 1: You're gonna think about a woman every day of your life.

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Speaker 1: There's no days off from this. This is your mission

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Speaker 1: in life. So you decided to set him up. You

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Speaker 1: got a fake page and to flirt with him, you

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Speaker 1: breast and your feet, and he didn't recognize them. He's

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Speaker 1: so dam there's no way my wife can send me

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Speaker 1: Thanks him possible, immediately, dog, that's him possible in a lineup. Dog,

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't give a damn if they was close similar

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Speaker 1: I know mine dogging, please understand, all right? So now

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Speaker 1: he's stupid. We've been married for six years. He didn't

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Speaker 1: even know it was my body. He sent me pictures

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Speaker 1: week and they didn't have sex. Then she as Eve,

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Speaker 1: I damned him and asked for a picture of his

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Speaker 1: naked body a few minutes later. Now she right there,

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Speaker 1: he next his wife and sent the neked picture back

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Speaker 1: to his wife, who was posing as Eve. Let me

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Speaker 1: first of all say this to this woman, absolutely brilliant.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, my sisters. That was a brilliant move.

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Speaker 1: You all have done it before. I've heard of its

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Speaker 1: being done, But to read about it, oh my god, brilliant.

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Speaker 1: His dumb ass got right up and went in the bathroom.

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Speaker 1: We got it, you damn dune. And then Eve told

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Speaker 1: the instructions of a woman you don't know that ain't

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Speaker 1: who is your wife, your ass is done. I can't

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Speaker 1: save you on this one, homie. I cannot save you

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Speaker 1: on this one. You cooking your own goose, I decided.

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Speaker 1: And so then, which is to let me know anyway? Well,

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Speaker 1: I'm reading wrong. The damn got up, went to the bathroom,

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Speaker 1: time to scare him. Oh the girls. So I told

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Speaker 1: Now obviously the woman owned clothing store. A girl named

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Speaker 1: Eve came into my boutique looking for a red dress

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Speaker 1: to take a picture in because her new married man

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Speaker 1: told of his favorite color is great. Now right here,

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Speaker 1: I'm telling you what this dude is thinking, like, how

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Speaker 1: She can't go back in that. That's the first thing

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Speaker 1: All this is going through his mind. Now, that's what

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Speaker 1: he was busted. I spilled the beans and told him

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Speaker 1: and said this ain't gonna work because I like playing games.

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Speaker 1: And then your question, is he lying? Is he lying

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Speaker 1: about knowing it? Hell yeah, right, hell yeah? Because if

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Speaker 1: you know that your wife dog, you have tested her

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Speaker 1: too to see what's she up to. You could have

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Speaker 1: asked up for some necking picture come out, homie, But

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Speaker 1: and you're fail for it, so you couldn't even run

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Speaker 1: that back on her. She was absolutely brill as he

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Speaker 1: he hoping to meet Eve? He fitted me he'd to

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Speaker 1: shave this food, shave his pubic hair all for his body.

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Speaker 1: He shouldn't have been didn't look like a g I

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Speaker 1: Joe down I cast some strange ass woman told him

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Speaker 1: what heill like new black. Save the hair off your body.

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Speaker 1: You might looking like a damn dog like that you

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Speaker 1: and you don't even shave for your white This is crazy, man?

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Speaker 1: And now how could he say this is not going

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Speaker 1: to work? Does it mean he wants a divorce? Let

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Speaker 1: me tell you what it means. It means. First of all,

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Speaker 1: probably you ain't the only Let me just help you.

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Speaker 1: You ain't the only e. He didn't just start this

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Speaker 1: just now to flirt. No igs been going on because

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Speaker 1: he was too comfortable. He just said, oh he going

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Speaker 1: another that you can handle that work. Let me tell

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Speaker 1: you real quick the problem, ain't you? Was playing a game?

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Speaker 1: The problems he played back the worst part he gotta

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Speaker 1: He goes, he's stupid making pay. You ain't got a

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Speaker 1: divorce him, but you do gotta make him pay, all right?

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Speaker 1: you're listening to the Day Harvey Morning Show