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Speaker 3: My friend demanded I be her bridesmaid. Now she's thrown me.

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Speaker 2: Out, I demand you get out of here.

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Speaker 3: My best friend of almost ten years is getting married

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Speaker 3: this August. I will call her a She texted me

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Speaker 3: after she got engaged and said, I'm not asking you,

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Speaker 3: I'm telling you you're gonna be my bridesmaid. I was

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Speaker 3: so excited for her and had expected to be a

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Speaker 3: bridesmaid as I knew she didn't have any other close friends.

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Speaker 3: the previous year, just a small group at a court

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Speaker 3: chapel with fifteen of me and my husband's closest friends

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Speaker 3: and family. I didn't have a bridal party, but I

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Speaker 3: had my two best friends there to watch us. Mary.

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Speaker 3: We had a reception at a town hall with more

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Speaker 3: friends and family to party afterwards. She had helped me

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Speaker 3: set up balloons the night before, but that was the

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Speaker 3: only thing she helped with From wedding, I didn't care

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Speaker 3: much about a wedding. I don't really like photos or

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Speaker 3: wearing dresses, so I have not fantasized about my wedding

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Speaker 3: day like a lot of people have. We had an

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Speaker 3: amazing time, and it truly only mattered to me to

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Speaker 3: have those that I loved celebrate with me on my

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Speaker 3: special day. Fast forward to wedding planning about a year

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Speaker 3: and a bit out from A's wedding. She had her

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Speaker 3: sister as maid of honor and two other bridesmaids. One

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Speaker 3: bride'smaid was a coworker she had complained to me about

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Speaker 3: for three years that she was always late, rude, lazy,

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Speaker 3: a witch, encouraged cheating, and was generally self absorbed, which

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Speaker 3: happened to be true upon getting to know her myself.

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Speaker 3: The other was the wife of her fiance's friend. They

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Speaker 3: hadn't spoken very often before. I hadn't mean anyone before

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Speaker 3: except her sister, who I really did like. She has

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Speaker 3: a daughter similar in age to mine. A is a

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Speaker 3: A is a type a planner, and it seemed her

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Speaker 3: other bridesmaids were as well, so when we got to

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Speaker 3: planning everything, things got intense. The group chat was awkward

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Speaker 3: because we didn't know each other well, and the coworker

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Speaker 3: bridesmaids were condescending and controlling, though I'm sure a lot

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Speaker 3: of it came directly from may A had planned a

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Speaker 3: lot of events. Her dress tryons, a brunch with her

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Speaker 3: bride'smaid dress shopping, STAG and doe, a joint weekend bachelorette

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Speaker 3: and bachelor party, bridal shower, and rehearsal dinner. That's without

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Speaker 3: the days needed to get together for STAGG and do

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Speaker 3: sign making and planning other things, et cetera. I had

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Speaker 3: recently had a baby and was exclusively breastfeeding at this time,

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Speaker 3: so I found it difficult to attend every event. I

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Speaker 3: had missed one wedding party, meet greet and one dress

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Speaker 3: tryon out of three, but I was there when she

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Speaker 3: found her dress. Other bridesmaids missed a couple event of

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Speaker 3: events as well. One was missing when we went for brunch,

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Speaker 3: a dress tryon. We were meant to buy bridesmaid dresses

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Speaker 3: in February, and I had mentioned to her that I

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Speaker 3: smaller size. Because I had gone on ozembic in December

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Speaker 3: and had lost about twenty five pounds by February, I

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Speaker 3: planned to lose as much as possible before her She

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Speaker 3: informed me she would not be comfortable with that, and

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Speaker 3: that I had to buy my dress that day and

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Speaker 3: just get it altered. I was hesitant to do this because,

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Speaker 3: for one, the alterations would get expensive the more work

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Speaker 3: the end. She said it takes four months for the

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Speaker 3: not what I heard the Red Dress shop owner telling

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Speaker 3: us we should pick bridesmad dresses about three months before

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Speaker 3: I would have a much better idea of what size

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Speaker 3: other girls did. Why don't you just do it, anyone?

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Speaker 2: I mean, I have no experience with the ins and

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Speaker 2: but it seems like you could wait a little bit

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Speaker 3: I just don't like, what, why don't you just like

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Speaker 3: you just tell her you're like, yeah, I got it, yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, do whatever you need to do to make yourself

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Speaker 3: But I ultimately agreed on buying a dress when the

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Speaker 3: I could send her photos to get approval. She didn't

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Speaker 3: she texted me informing I was no longer welcome in

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Speaker 3: the wedding party due to missing almost everything. Even though

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Speaker 3: I'd only missed two out of five or six events

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Speaker 3: thus far, but I could still come as a guest.

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Speaker 3: She was very formal about telling me, and we have

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Speaker 3: never spoken to each other like that before. I think

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Speaker 3: it signified the end of our friendship. She deleted me

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Speaker 3: out of the Facebook groups and group chats before I

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Speaker 3: I went from not being asked to be a bridesmaid

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Speaker 3: both without a conversation with me to condense. Here's a

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Speaker 3: list of the in my opinion, bridezilla things she did

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Speaker 3: and said leading up to this. Everyone was expected to

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Speaker 3: do their hair and make up for dress shopping so

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Speaker 3: she could see it would look on the wedding day,

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Speaker 3: and she would be taking photos of all of us

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Speaker 3: that day for her vision board. I had told her

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Speaker 3: I wanted sleeves to cover my arms because I was

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Speaker 3: insecure about them, but I would wear whatever dress she

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Speaker 3: wanted me to. We had sent picks we both liked

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Speaker 3: of potential dresses back and forth, and privately she was

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Speaker 3: very understanding. Then a week later, she posted in the

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Speaker 3: and it included absolutely no sleeves. Everyone in the group

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Speaker 2: Oh wait, what, I didn't realize. I guess that's just

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Speaker 2: what people do now, huh. Yes, So I just assumed

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Speaker 2: she was taking it because she actually had diabetes, which

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Speaker 2: is what or I don't even know. Is that an

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Speaker 2: it was off label forever. Yeah, and that was zempic

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Speaker 3: I don't I don't know she was supportive of that

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Speaker 3: and told me to be on it every single night

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Speaker 3: starting tonight. But my family told me they thought it

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Speaker 3: was backhanded and a red flag, especially given how she

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Speaker 2: She told us.

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Speaker 3: We all had to be the same height on the

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Speaker 3: wedding day. I'm five feet and the other girls are

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Speaker 3: I could do that, she said, where as tall as

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Speaker 3: Everyone in the bridal party was to plan the bridle

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Speaker 3: shower and pay for it, except the venue, but she

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Speaker 3: had a pinterest board of non negotiable decora and food

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Speaker 3: flowers on them, champagne towers, et cetera. All expensive. Planning

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Speaker 3: anything with the other girls was a nightmare because the

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Speaker 3: coworker bridesmaid constantly spoke down to me and dismissed all

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Speaker 3: my ideas. When I told Anna, she said, the workers

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Speaker 3: just trying to get stuff done. Her sister, being made

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Speaker 3: of honor, wasn't planning much. She had a newborn and

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Speaker 3: the other girl would just say whatever Anna want, it

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Speaker 3: was an ideal. Anna was extremely munay hungry for other

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Speaker 3: people to pay for the wedding, and even though her

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Speaker 3: she booked one of the most expensive places around here

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Speaker 3: a lot of money at the stag and doe.

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Speaker 2: This person sounds awful.

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Speaker 3: Who was marrying this woman? Girl?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you had twenty k to make your wedding and

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Speaker 2: it would be for free out to you, nothing out

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Speaker 3: Yeah, everyone in the bridal party had to donate a

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Speaker 3: stag and doe prize. Mine was a beauty basket and

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Speaker 3: because she punted me out. A month before the stag

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Speaker 3: dough tickets to our friends and family, which was incredibly

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Speaker 3: hard for me as I didn't even have my own

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Speaker 3: stagon dough and my family has been struggling with money

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Speaker 3: as everyone else. Just look at the ac She scrapped

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Speaker 3: the idea I had for a stag and dough game

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Speaker 3: we had planned for me to run after both she

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Speaker 3: and I bought parts for it horse race game for

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Speaker 3: enough money. Why why this is.

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Speaker 2: Not You don't monetize your freaking wedding events or your

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Speaker 2: bachelor or your stag or whatever, like your wrong place

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Speaker 2: to come from.

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Speaker 3: She changed all the games to a point system so

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Speaker 3: instead of one person winning each game. It was so

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Speaker 3: confusing and included the wedding party telling points and keeping

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Speaker 3: track of all guests playing in a spreadsheet on her

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Speaker 3: phones for the end of the night draw. The joint

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Speaker 3: weekend batch trip was planned by the coworker and Anna

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Speaker 3: before mentioning anything to the grooms men, and they were

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Speaker 3: all annoyed. They didn't want to do any overnights or

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Speaker 3: have a joint batch party. One guy wasn't even allowed

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Speaker 3: to go because it made his wife uncomfortable. Him sleeping

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Speaker 3: in the same airbnb as the bridal party.

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Speaker 2: Well that's long, I mean, yeah, that's fair.

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Speaker 3: Right, sleeping the same airbnb as the bridal party.

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Speaker 2: Well, it's like, are you gonna share a I would

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Speaker 2: say that because I know there's like the pop culture

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Speaker 2: thing of like like you know, the bridesmaid's like looking

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Speaker 2: for their husband at the wedding and it's like.

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Speaker 2: She a bad wedding entitlement. Oozing out of this bady.

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Speaker 2: Yeah I'm calling I'm calling this. This ride's made up

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Speaker 3: Yeah you were WHOA. I hope you would have gotten

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Speaker 2: Now, don't go, don't go, I don't go. Do this

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Speaker 2: sounds where would you go?

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Speaker 3: I truly feel like she is no longer my friend

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Speaker 3: and can now potentially save thousands. But it does still hurt.

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Speaker 3: But you know, whatever hurts listening to full episodes of

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Speaker 2: A book a story time.

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Speaker 3: But there is a little bit left to this story.

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Speaker 3: You got any thought?

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Speaker 2: What do I think? Mm? Don't go to this wedding.

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Speaker 2: I don't know what happened between you and this person

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Speaker 2: who was your quote unquote best friend. Clearly they are

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Speaker 2: Beyond that, I have nothing else to say other than

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Speaker 2: They are clearly a bridezilla nightmare. Yeah, just skip it.

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Speaker 3: Skip it. Do something fun with your family. I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like go on a little trip, go on a vacation,

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Speaker 3: In any care about you. But let's finish this story off.

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Speaker 2: Don't go, don't go, don't go, don't go. But that's

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Speaker 2: the end of that story, yeah, and the end of

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Speaker 2: your story involving yourself with that wedding, end of that

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Speaker 3: I confronted my friend about her rude behavior. It didn't

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Speaker 4: My best friend, eighteen female, let's call her Ivy, and

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Speaker 4: By the way, this comes from Beneficial Read twenty five

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Speaker 4: So we also performed Kill This Love by Black Pink,

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Speaker 4: So she went on about how Battie seemed like a

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Speaker 4: She told me that she and Battie were watching anime

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Speaker 4: sitting on a chair watching her computer.

436
00:18:25,840 --> 00:18:28,480
Speaker 3: She said that when she came in, Batty didn't even

437
00:18:28,520 --> 00:18:29,919
Speaker 3: try to cover up. Girl.

438
00:18:30,280 --> 00:18:32,480
Speaker 4: I feel like she's lying me too. I feel like

439
00:18:32,640 --> 00:18:35,440
Speaker 4: something tells me this woman is lying. First of all,

440
00:18:35,560 --> 00:18:38,000
Speaker 4: I do not care if she watches anime with kissing scenes,

441
00:18:38,040 --> 00:18:40,480
Speaker 4: and anime tends to have those kinds of things, That's

442
00:18:40,520 --> 00:18:42,880
Speaker 4: what I'm saying. Yeah, and I know that she's lying

443
00:18:42,880 --> 00:18:45,640
Speaker 4: about the unclothed thing, because who in their right mind

444
00:18:45,640 --> 00:18:47,879
Speaker 4: would be unclosed in front of someone you barely know.

445
00:18:48,080 --> 00:18:49,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't believe you.

446
00:18:49,240 --> 00:18:50,919
Speaker 4: She told me that her mom opened the door. If

447
00:18:50,920 --> 00:18:53,080
Speaker 4: someone knocked on the door, the mom would have made

448
00:18:53,080 --> 00:18:53,720
Speaker 4: her cover up.

449
00:18:53,880 --> 00:18:54,680
Speaker 3: I told her that.

450
00:18:54,640 --> 00:18:56,919
Speaker 4: All of this is nonsense and I won't end my

451
00:18:56,960 --> 00:18:59,959
Speaker 4: friendship with Battie. She got mad at me and ignored

452
00:18:59,960 --> 00:19:00,720
Speaker 4: me for the day.

453
00:19:01,400 --> 00:19:04,680
Speaker 3: I mean the whole day, honestly. I mean, you guys

454
00:19:04,680 --> 00:19:08,320
Speaker 3: are twelve. This does feel like twelve year old. I'm

455
00:19:08,400 --> 00:19:10,440
Speaker 3: jealous that you have a new friend, and you can

456
00:19:10,480 --> 00:19:13,600
Speaker 3: only be my friend. And when a kissing sayning came on,

457
00:19:13,720 --> 00:19:16,520
Speaker 3: she didn't even skip it. Yeah, it's very twelve, it's

458
00:19:16,600 --> 00:19:17,280
Speaker 3: very twelve year old.

459
00:19:17,440 --> 00:19:19,240
Speaker 4: Yeah, but I wonder if at this point they're older,

460
00:19:19,240 --> 00:19:22,480
Speaker 4: because there's still, like she's just said, as we're growing older, like.

461
00:19:22,440 --> 00:19:24,479
Speaker 3: Things like this sort of happening and stuff, and so

462
00:19:24,800 --> 00:19:26,239
Speaker 3: I don't know. I mean, like, sometimes you have these

463
00:19:26,280 --> 00:19:28,679
Speaker 3: friends that you just kind of drift apart because you

464
00:19:28,720 --> 00:19:31,960
Speaker 3: grow up and you realize, oh, they're nothing the best. Yeah, exactly.

465
00:19:32,119 --> 00:19:33,920
Speaker 3: On the bus she tried sitting next.

466
00:19:33,720 --> 00:19:34,879
Speaker 4: To me, and I told her that I don't want

467
00:19:34,920 --> 00:19:36,960
Speaker 4: to speak to her. She didn't listen and still sat

468
00:19:37,000 --> 00:19:38,959
Speaker 4: next to me. I put on my headphones and just

469
00:19:39,000 --> 00:19:41,760
Speaker 4: listen to my playlist. We eventually made up after a

470
00:19:41,760 --> 00:19:44,800
Speaker 4: few days. In school, she would sometimes try to embarrass

471
00:19:44,800 --> 00:19:47,640
Speaker 4: me and act like a pigmy. I honestly wonder what

472
00:19:47,680 --> 00:19:49,920
Speaker 4: the heck I was doing still being friends with her.

473
00:19:50,040 --> 00:19:52,080
Speaker 4: One day on the bus, I was sitting next to

474
00:19:52,119 --> 00:19:53,960
Speaker 4: Battie and Ivy was sitting on the other side of

475
00:19:53,960 --> 00:19:55,320
Speaker 4: the bus two seats ahead.

476
00:19:55,720 --> 00:19:58,280
Speaker 3: A student came and sat next to her. This for

477
00:19:58,359 --> 00:20:00,800
Speaker 3: some reason angered her and she's start yelling at the

478
00:20:00,840 --> 00:20:03,560
Speaker 3: student to get out of her seat. The kid argued

479
00:20:03,600 --> 00:20:05,000
Speaker 3: back and said that her name.

480
00:20:04,920 --> 00:20:05,840
Speaker 2: Is not on the seat.

481
00:20:05,880 --> 00:20:08,480
Speaker 3: I don't see your name on those sheet. They kept

482
00:20:08,600 --> 00:20:10,400
Speaker 3: arguing until they got into a fight.

483
00:20:10,840 --> 00:20:13,520
Speaker 4: The bus driver called the cops and the other students

484
00:20:13,560 --> 00:20:14,440
Speaker 4: stopped the fight.

485
00:20:14,680 --> 00:20:16,880
Speaker 3: Dude, he got so bad that they had to call

486
00:20:16,960 --> 00:20:20,920
Speaker 3: the cops. Got into like a physical fight. That's crazy, dude,

487
00:20:21,119 --> 00:20:21,920
Speaker 3: this is wild.

488
00:20:22,200 --> 00:20:24,080
Speaker 4: After I got off the bus, I was walking with

489
00:20:24,119 --> 00:20:26,160
Speaker 4: my other friend who recorded the fight, and I told

490
00:20:26,200 --> 00:20:27,080
Speaker 4: her to send it to me.

491
00:20:27,359 --> 00:20:27,639
Speaker 2: Nice.

492
00:20:27,760 --> 00:20:30,000
Speaker 3: I never had fights at my school. I also wasn't

493
00:20:30,000 --> 00:20:31,720
Speaker 3: allowed to have phones. I'm like, you know, we weren't

494
00:20:31,720 --> 00:20:33,959
Speaker 3: allowed to have phones on campus. Well, I mean, this

495
00:20:34,000 --> 00:20:35,840
Speaker 3: isn't even like on campus, this is like leaving.

496
00:20:35,960 --> 00:20:38,160
Speaker 4: But I mean, yeah, if they're a fight breaking out

497
00:20:38,240 --> 00:20:39,919
Speaker 4: next to me, I'm whipping my phone out.

498
00:20:39,920 --> 00:20:41,639
Speaker 3: Are you kidding me? I'm totally bringing that out. I

499
00:20:41,640 --> 00:20:43,280
Speaker 3: don't know, we didn't have fights or phones.

500
00:20:43,400 --> 00:20:45,359
Speaker 4: Well, think about now, if now you were on a

501
00:20:45,359 --> 00:20:46,840
Speaker 4: bus and you saw people fighting.

502
00:20:46,880 --> 00:20:49,240
Speaker 3: I don't think I would record them. You don't think

503
00:20:49,480 --> 00:20:52,600
Speaker 3: you record them? Absolutely? I would? What would you do? Well,

504
00:20:52,720 --> 00:20:54,920
Speaker 3: cause you're sitting there, I'm not gonna stop it. Well,

505
00:20:54,960 --> 00:20:57,320
Speaker 3: it depends on who's fighting. If it's like people like

506
00:20:57,720 --> 00:21:01,600
Speaker 3: younger than me or like my age, I'd be like, well, whoa, whoa, yeah, yeah,

507
00:21:01,640 --> 00:21:04,159
Speaker 3: whoa you start making music? I don't know. If it

508
00:21:04,200 --> 00:21:05,959
Speaker 3: was like people that like looked kind of scared, I'd

509
00:21:06,000 --> 00:21:07,239
Speaker 3: be like, Okay, I'm just gonna get off the bus.

510
00:21:07,280 --> 00:21:08,520
Speaker 3: I don't think I would record it though.

511
00:21:08,720 --> 00:21:10,440
Speaker 4: Well yeah, but if you're on the road and stuff

512
00:21:10,440 --> 00:21:12,520
Speaker 4: and you like can't do anything, I can't stop it

513
00:21:12,600 --> 00:21:15,800
Speaker 4: and it's just still going, I'm totally recording it. I

514
00:21:15,840 --> 00:21:18,560
Speaker 4: went home and told my sister what happened. My sister

515
00:21:18,640 --> 00:21:20,119
Speaker 4: is a year older than me, and she was in

516
00:21:20,200 --> 00:21:23,240
Speaker 4: high school. My sister called Ivy and they sorted talking

517
00:21:23,240 --> 00:21:26,359
Speaker 4: about the fight. Ivy kept saying that she won, but

518
00:21:26,440 --> 00:21:29,560
Speaker 4: let's be honest, the kid was full on beating her.

519
00:21:29,600 --> 00:21:30,920
Speaker 2: Who are you guys.

520
00:21:30,920 --> 00:21:33,400
Speaker 3: I don't know? Man. On the phone call, she seemed cool.

521
00:21:33,400 --> 00:21:35,119
Speaker 4: But after a few hours, my mom came into the

522
00:21:35,200 --> 00:21:37,159
Speaker 4: room and began asking me and my sister if we

523
00:21:37,200 --> 00:21:38,199
Speaker 4: did something at school.

524
00:21:38,359 --> 00:21:40,440
Speaker 3: We were both confused and asked what happened.

525
00:21:40,600 --> 00:21:44,480
Speaker 4: Apparently Ivy's aunt called my mom, yelling and cursing at

526
00:21:44,520 --> 00:21:47,160
Speaker 4: her because the cops were called on Ivy. Her aunt

527
00:21:47,200 --> 00:21:49,439
Speaker 4: wouldn't pick up the phone afterwards, so Mom sent her

528
00:21:49,440 --> 00:21:52,440
Speaker 4: a voice text. Her aunt also sent one and said,

529
00:21:52,440 --> 00:21:55,439
Speaker 4: to my mom, keep your daughter away from ours girl.

530
00:21:55,520 --> 00:21:57,959
Speaker 3: Your daughter is the one who started the fight. Yeah,

531
00:21:58,119 --> 00:22:00,359
Speaker 3: she basically blamed us for what I happened.

532
00:22:00,920 --> 00:22:03,840
Speaker 4: Now, why the heck would her aunt accuse me and

533
00:22:03,920 --> 00:22:06,359
Speaker 4: my sister even though my sister doesn't go to the

534
00:22:06,400 --> 00:22:08,640
Speaker 4: same school and I wasn't even sitting next to her

535
00:22:08,800 --> 00:22:12,400
Speaker 4: the entire fight. I literally didn't move. I just sat

536
00:22:12,400 --> 00:22:15,600
Speaker 4: in my seat and watched everything happen. Her aunt had

537
00:22:15,640 --> 00:22:17,679
Speaker 4: no reason to come at us, so the only thing

538
00:22:17,800 --> 00:22:20,359
Speaker 4: left to think about is Ivy lying to her and

539
00:22:20,400 --> 00:22:22,760
Speaker 4: blaming us for it. A few days went by and

540
00:22:22,800 --> 00:22:23,479
Speaker 4: we all made up.

541
00:22:23,600 --> 00:22:25,760
Speaker 3: No, what do you mean? You all made up? You mean?

542
00:22:26,080 --> 00:22:29,560
Speaker 3: What is this? How old are you guys? This is

543
00:22:29,720 --> 00:22:33,000
Speaker 3: crazy because someone said they're eighteen seventeen, But I'm like,

544
00:22:33,160 --> 00:22:35,439
Speaker 3: are they eighteen seventeen now in this story?

545
00:22:35,560 --> 00:22:37,520
Speaker 4: I don't know if they are in this story right now.

546
00:22:37,600 --> 00:22:41,160
Speaker 4: I'm guessing maybe they're like freshman sophomore. So my sister

547
00:22:41,200 --> 00:22:43,439
Speaker 4: and Ivy started talking to each other more, and all

548
00:22:43,480 --> 00:22:44,760
Speaker 4: of a sudden, Ivy changed.

549
00:22:45,080 --> 00:22:47,880
Speaker 3: She now hates black pink and would speak ill about kPa.

550
00:22:48,040 --> 00:22:48,119
Speaker 1: No.

551
00:22:48,760 --> 00:22:51,040
Speaker 4: That always happens in elementary school, though. It's like you

552
00:22:51,080 --> 00:22:52,600
Speaker 4: either love it or you hate it, and it's all

553
00:22:52,640 --> 00:22:55,040
Speaker 4: based on what everyone else is doing. She started listening

554
00:22:55,080 --> 00:22:57,440
Speaker 4: to rap like my sister and started spending more time

555
00:22:57,480 --> 00:23:00,199
Speaker 4: with her. I honestly didn't care. I was she's too

556
00:23:00,320 --> 00:23:02,520
Speaker 4: kind to end our friendship and tell her how terrible

557
00:23:02,560 --> 00:23:05,120
Speaker 4: she is. But her becoming friends with my sister became

558
00:23:05,119 --> 00:23:07,800
Speaker 4: a golden ticket for me. I distanced myself from her

559
00:23:07,840 --> 00:23:10,280
Speaker 4: and now we don't talk at all. She's only in

560
00:23:10,320 --> 00:23:12,560
Speaker 4: my life because she's friends with my sister. On the

561
00:23:12,560 --> 00:23:16,560
Speaker 4: other hand, me and Batty are thriving nice. Our friendship

562
00:23:16,600 --> 00:23:18,880
Speaker 4: feels like a warm hug. She honestly is the best

563
00:23:18,880 --> 00:23:21,320
Speaker 4: thing that happened in my life. She's hilarious and kind.

564
00:23:21,520 --> 00:23:24,080
Speaker 4: We would call almost every day. We went to summer

565
00:23:24,080 --> 00:23:26,520
Speaker 4: school with each other. Batty moved out of my state,

566
00:23:26,600 --> 00:23:27,920
Speaker 4: but we still stayed in touch.

567
00:23:28,000 --> 00:23:28,800
Speaker 3: Baddy No.

568
00:23:30,160 --> 00:23:33,080
Speaker 4: At this time, I was sixteen, so I started working

569
00:23:33,119 --> 00:23:35,920
Speaker 4: at Walmart. Ivy and my sister were also working there

570
00:23:36,000 --> 00:23:38,760
Speaker 4: their cashiers. After three days, I met a girl let's

571
00:23:38,760 --> 00:23:43,320
Speaker 4: call her Chicago because she's from there, Chicago, who worked

572
00:23:43,359 --> 00:23:45,199
Speaker 4: in the same department as me. We worked in the

573
00:23:45,200 --> 00:23:47,680
Speaker 4: home department and we became friends. We had the same

574
00:23:47,720 --> 00:23:50,320
Speaker 4: schedule and enjoyed each other's company while we were working.

575
00:23:50,359 --> 00:23:52,280
Speaker 4: Ivy and my sister would come up to us when

576
00:23:52,280 --> 00:23:53,560
Speaker 4: they were returning items.

577
00:23:53,760 --> 00:23:55,760
Speaker 3: I don't know if they're just lazy or were never

578
00:23:55,800 --> 00:23:58,200
Speaker 3: taught this, but they kept asking us where things went.

579
00:23:58,480 --> 00:24:01,200
Speaker 3: There is a whole app you can use to scan

580
00:24:01,359 --> 00:24:04,199
Speaker 3: items to see where they're located. I told them this,

581
00:24:04,400 --> 00:24:06,159
Speaker 3: but they said that they don't want to do it.

582
00:24:06,240 --> 00:24:08,200
Speaker 3: You don't want to do your job, all right, don't make.

583
00:24:08,080 --> 00:24:08,520
Speaker 2: Me do it.

584
00:24:08,720 --> 00:24:09,080
Speaker 3: Yeah.

585
00:24:09,160 --> 00:24:12,600
Speaker 4: Ivy would sometimes give me in Chicago dirty looks. This

586
00:24:12,720 --> 00:24:15,360
Speaker 4: bothered us because she was straight up being rude to us.

587
00:24:15,680 --> 00:24:17,800
Speaker 4: She also said that I look like a monkey in

588
00:24:17,800 --> 00:24:20,840
Speaker 4: front of her team lead. Honestly, she just feels like

589
00:24:20,880 --> 00:24:23,760
Speaker 4: a sixteen year old bully. Absolutely, the team lead was

590
00:24:23,800 --> 00:24:25,720
Speaker 4: talking to my sister, so she didn't really hear it.

591
00:24:26,080 --> 00:24:28,160
Speaker 4: This girl kept giving us dirty looks and it would

592
00:24:28,240 --> 00:24:31,280
Speaker 4: act like we are friends afterwards. She even told another

593
00:24:31,320 --> 00:24:34,040
Speaker 4: cashier that I liked him. I don't even know the man.

594
00:24:34,400 --> 00:24:36,440
Speaker 4: I'm not new to her behavior because she would quite

595
00:24:36,480 --> 00:24:39,280
Speaker 4: literally body shame me in middle school. I was fed

596
00:24:39,400 --> 00:24:42,320
Speaker 4: up with her behavior, and so was Chicago. Me, Chicago,

597
00:24:42,359 --> 00:24:44,199
Speaker 4: and my sister decided to have a chat with her

598
00:24:44,240 --> 00:24:47,040
Speaker 4: one day. This is how it basically went. We called

599
00:24:47,040 --> 00:24:49,719
Speaker 4: her and told her about dirty looks and comments. She

600
00:24:49,800 --> 00:24:52,119
Speaker 4: was confused and didn't feel like she did anything wrong,

601
00:24:52,560 --> 00:24:54,320
Speaker 4: so she told us that if we had a problem

602
00:24:54,359 --> 00:24:56,280
Speaker 4: with it, why didn't we just tell her that's what

603
00:24:56,320 --> 00:24:59,040
Speaker 4: they're doing, literally what they're doing right now. I'm sorry,

604
00:24:59,040 --> 00:25:00,760
Speaker 4: am I supposed to tell you that it is wrong

605
00:25:00,840 --> 00:25:04,560
Speaker 4: insulting and giving dirty looks to people. She also said

606
00:25:04,600 --> 00:25:07,400
Speaker 4: that that's just the way she is. She kept using

607
00:25:07,440 --> 00:25:10,720
Speaker 4: this as her excuse and eventually apologized when she realized

608
00:25:10,760 --> 00:25:12,679
Speaker 4: that we were all against her. I knew that she

609
00:25:12,680 --> 00:25:15,800
Speaker 4: didn't regret anything because the next few days she started

610
00:25:15,840 --> 00:25:16,920
Speaker 4: with her dirty looks again.

611
00:25:17,119 --> 00:25:17,960
Speaker 3: When ME and.

612
00:25:18,000 --> 00:25:20,399
Speaker 4: Chicago were working on a project, she came over to

613
00:25:20,520 --> 00:25:22,959
Speaker 4: us and greeted us. She was shopping for a birthday

614
00:25:23,000 --> 00:25:25,280
Speaker 4: cake and told us how she got the cake but

615
00:25:25,359 --> 00:25:28,119
Speaker 4: didn't have money for the candles. She kept saying that,

616
00:25:28,320 --> 00:25:30,399
Speaker 4: and I realized that she wanted me to offer to

617
00:25:30,400 --> 00:25:34,400
Speaker 4: pay for her I didn't know such thing. She eventually

618
00:25:34,520 --> 00:25:36,440
Speaker 4: left when she realized that I wasn't going to pay

619
00:25:36,480 --> 00:25:39,400
Speaker 4: for her candles. Ivy quit Walmart and I only saw

620
00:25:39,440 --> 00:25:41,880
Speaker 4: her when she came to buy things. She only talks

621
00:25:41,920 --> 00:25:44,240
Speaker 4: to my sister and we barely see each other. Now,

622
00:25:44,280 --> 00:25:46,720
Speaker 4: I know what you're wondering, Why is your sister still

623
00:25:46,720 --> 00:25:49,560
Speaker 4: friends with her? My sister and Ivy constantly have arguments

624
00:25:49,600 --> 00:25:51,879
Speaker 4: and stuff, but still end up forgiving each other. My

625
00:25:51,960 --> 00:25:54,880
Speaker 4: sister also noticed how she's been acting and was defending

626
00:25:54,920 --> 00:25:56,320
Speaker 4: me on the day the week infronted her.

627
00:25:56,400 --> 00:25:56,640
Speaker 2: Good.

628
00:25:56,800 --> 00:25:59,320
Speaker 3: They are still friends, but my sister was looking to

629
00:25:59,359 --> 00:26:00,560
Speaker 3: cut her out of her life.

630
00:26:00,640 --> 00:26:02,920
Speaker 4: She started to see how toxic she is, but wanted

631
00:26:02,920 --> 00:26:05,320
Speaker 4: to use her until they got into an argument.

632
00:26:05,480 --> 00:26:07,919
Speaker 2: What wait what Yeah, but she wanted.

633
00:26:07,640 --> 00:26:09,600
Speaker 3: To use her a little bit more. She's trying to

634
00:26:09,640 --> 00:26:12,280
Speaker 3: start her TikTok. It's a lot of viral videos out

635
00:26:12,320 --> 00:26:13,680
Speaker 3: of all of her fights.

636
00:26:13,800 --> 00:26:17,680
Speaker 4: Me and my family are taking a vacation to Africa Somaliland,

637
00:26:18,000 --> 00:26:20,120
Speaker 4: and unfortunately Ivy is coming with us.

638
00:26:20,320 --> 00:26:21,640
Speaker 3: That's actually insane.

639
00:26:21,880 --> 00:26:24,000
Speaker 4: How did she get that that's like, you gotta be

640
00:26:24,080 --> 00:26:26,520
Speaker 4: a best friend for a long time for that.

641
00:26:26,800 --> 00:26:29,000
Speaker 3: But like, also not only best friends. I feel like

642
00:26:29,000 --> 00:26:31,200
Speaker 3: your parents would also have to be like rich. Yeah,

643
00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:33,480
Speaker 3: like my friends have come on like family trips with me,

644
00:26:33,560 --> 00:26:36,560
Speaker 3: but not like never like when I was younger, never

645
00:26:36,600 --> 00:26:39,879
Speaker 3: out of the country. Yeah no, that's crazy. Yeah, that

646
00:26:39,960 --> 00:26:40,639
Speaker 3: is pretty crazy.

647
00:26:40,760 --> 00:26:43,400
Speaker 4: Me and Ivy weren't beefing, but I still can't forgive her.

648
00:26:43,680 --> 00:26:46,000
Speaker 4: Many other things happened than what I just mentioned, But

649
00:26:46,119 --> 00:26:48,760
Speaker 4: let me tell you would want her as a friend.

650
00:26:49,080 --> 00:26:51,199
Speaker 4: I mean, like one time she kept making fun of

651
00:26:51,200 --> 00:26:54,720
Speaker 4: a girl's front airbags because they were small, and now

652
00:26:54,760 --> 00:26:57,800
Speaker 4: she wants surgery because of how small hers are. This

653
00:26:57,880 --> 00:27:00,399
Speaker 4: girl has always been insecure about herself and would always

654
00:27:00,400 --> 00:27:01,600
Speaker 4: project that onto others.

655
00:27:01,760 --> 00:27:03,560
Speaker 3: She never felt good about herself.

656
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Speaker 3: I promise, better than you've ever felt about yourself. Dude,

663
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667
00:27:36,640 --> 00:27:38,320
Speaker 3: But yeah, there's a little bit more to the story.

668
00:27:38,359 --> 00:27:41,199
Speaker 3: But I mean this feel like, oh, pee, you just

669
00:27:41,240 --> 00:27:43,960
Speaker 3: gotta know you're young. I mean this is very high

670
00:27:44,000 --> 00:27:47,399
Speaker 3: school drama for sure. Just cut her off. Yeah, you

671
00:27:47,440 --> 00:27:49,640
Speaker 3: don't have to associate with her more than you know

672
00:27:49,880 --> 00:27:51,360
Speaker 3: your sister being around her.

673
00:27:51,720 --> 00:27:53,880
Speaker 4: If the sister wants to cut her off and they're

674
00:27:53,920 --> 00:27:56,640
Speaker 4: going to Africa with her, like, that's so weird, get

675
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Speaker 4: ahead of that.

676
00:27:57,119 --> 00:27:59,280
Speaker 3: Don't waste your parents' money on that. Yeah, talk to

677
00:27:59,280 --> 00:28:01,840
Speaker 3: your parents, say we don't like this girl. Yeah, she's

678
00:28:01,880 --> 00:28:04,840
Speaker 3: been like pretty rude, right for she not come on

679
00:28:04,880 --> 00:28:05,639
Speaker 3: this trip.

680
00:28:05,440 --> 00:28:07,280
Speaker 4: And talk to your sister and be like, hey, I

681
00:28:07,320 --> 00:28:10,119
Speaker 4: thought you wanted to like leave her. You gotta say something. Now,

682
00:28:10,359 --> 00:28:13,320
Speaker 4: you gotta say something, wick. Yeah, but there is a

683
00:28:13,320 --> 00:28:15,480
Speaker 4: little bit more to the story, so lets't jum bright

684
00:28:15,520 --> 00:28:17,480
Speaker 4: into it. I know that she's my sister's friend and

685
00:28:17,520 --> 00:28:20,040
Speaker 4: we haven't had any arguments, but I still don't want

686
00:28:20,040 --> 00:28:22,359
Speaker 4: that negative, toxic energy living with us when we go

687
00:28:22,400 --> 00:28:25,399
Speaker 4: see our family back home. Okay, connecting some things. So

688
00:28:26,119 --> 00:28:29,119
Speaker 4: back home, I'm guessing she's from Africa or her family's

689
00:28:29,160 --> 00:28:31,040
Speaker 4: in Africa. She's going with her aunt a bit earlier

690
00:28:31,119 --> 00:28:33,040
Speaker 4: than us, but will live in the same house as us.

691
00:28:33,520 --> 00:28:35,639
Speaker 4: Mind you, she still comments on my buddy as a

692
00:28:35,760 --> 00:28:38,440
Speaker 4: joke when she's on the phone with my sister. I

693
00:28:38,520 --> 00:28:40,640
Speaker 4: honestly can't find the place in my heart to forgive

694
00:28:40,680 --> 00:28:43,160
Speaker 4: someone who made me insecure about my body and would

695
00:28:43,160 --> 00:28:46,360
Speaker 4: put me down every chance they got. And that is

696
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Speaker 4: the end of that story.

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Speaker 3: So it seems like at the end of the story,

698
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Speaker 3: they're about seventeen eighteen. Yes, crazy friend. I'm glad at

699
00:28:52,520 --> 00:28:55,520
Speaker 3: least that she's not a Pea's friend anymore. High school

700
00:28:55,560 --> 00:28:58,920
Speaker 3: is so stupidly difficult with that stuff. Yeah, you like,

701
00:28:58,920 --> 00:29:01,760
Speaker 3: don't want to hurt anyone's says, but then everyone's hurting

702
00:29:01,800 --> 00:29:04,560
Speaker 3: your feelings. Yeah, so many things to be embarrassed about

703
00:29:04,560 --> 00:29:07,360
Speaker 3: in high school that don't matter at all as adults.

704
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Speaker 3: But yeah, that is the end of that story. What

705
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Speaker 3: a crazy one.

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Speaker 2: John here og host, We're gonna get back to these stories.

707
00:29:14,360 --> 00:29:16,800
Speaker 2: But a quick three minute break from hops from our sponsors.

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Speaker 2: I forgave my friend after she betrayed me, but now

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Speaker 2: I'm starting.

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Speaker 3: To regret it should have never Begaver bear with me.

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Speaker 2: There is a lot of context to this series of events,

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Speaker 2: and I feel a good deal of background information will

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Speaker 2: be helpful in getting the whole picture across. So I

714
00:29:32,880 --> 00:29:36,240
Speaker 2: twenty seven female, have this friend twenty eight female I

715
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Speaker 2: will call Sarah. I met her through the guy I

716
00:29:38,880 --> 00:29:41,040
Speaker 2: was dating back in twenty seventeen, who later became my

717
00:29:41,120 --> 00:29:43,400
Speaker 2: baby daddy. She was the wife of one of his

718
00:29:43,560 --> 00:29:45,720
Speaker 2: best friends, and the three of them, along with a

719
00:29:45,760 --> 00:29:48,040
Speaker 2: few other people that I grew to know, we're part

720
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Speaker 2: of a larger friend group that had been friends since

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Speaker 2: at least high school twenty fourteen grads, I believe, just

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00:29:54,040 --> 00:29:56,840
Speaker 2: for some time frame context. I was from out of town,

723
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Speaker 2: so I was the only outsider for the most part.

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Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from user no Charge sixty five,

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727
00:30:08,240 --> 00:30:12,000
Speaker 2: the first attempt at that relationship with baby Daddy failed

728
00:30:12,040 --> 00:30:15,680
Speaker 2: after five months, but I stayed in mild contact with Sarah.

729
00:30:15,760 --> 00:30:17,640
Speaker 2: A little more than a year after the breakup, my

730
00:30:17,960 --> 00:30:21,280
Speaker 2: naive self took him back, and that catapulted many many

731
00:30:21,280 --> 00:30:27,040
Speaker 2: occasions of double dates for dinner, schmerk sessions, hiking, sleepovers,

732
00:30:27,080 --> 00:30:30,360
Speaker 2: and me building relationships with Sarah's two young daughters. She

733
00:30:30,440 --> 00:30:33,680
Speaker 2: became the best friend I'd always wanted, the kind that

734
00:30:33,760 --> 00:30:37,240
Speaker 2: you do everything with, thrift shopping, grocery shopping, taking the

735
00:30:37,320 --> 00:30:40,600
Speaker 2: kids to the park and grabbing waffle house, taking a

736
00:30:40,600 --> 00:30:44,080
Speaker 2: couple's trip to Colorado, or sitting in the other's house

737
00:30:44,200 --> 00:30:47,800
Speaker 2: while they cleaned. For moral support. I would support her

738
00:30:47,880 --> 00:30:50,320
Speaker 2: at her job at the brewery and do anything to

739
00:30:50,360 --> 00:30:52,320
Speaker 2: be there for her in any way I could, and

740
00:30:52,400 --> 00:30:54,240
Speaker 2: she did the same for me. She was who I

741
00:30:54,320 --> 00:30:57,000
Speaker 2: ranted to when crap would hit the fan in my relationship,

742
00:30:57,040 --> 00:30:59,680
Speaker 2: and the one always telling me I deserved better, the

743
00:30:59,680 --> 00:31:02,480
Speaker 2: one reassuring my beauty and convincing me I was worth

744
00:31:02,560 --> 00:31:05,200
Speaker 2: being loved and treated right. But she also watched me

745
00:31:05,320 --> 00:31:08,720
Speaker 2: stay through one problem after the next, and she realized

746
00:31:08,760 --> 00:31:11,160
Speaker 2: that nothing she said would influence me, and I got

747
00:31:11,160 --> 00:31:13,320
Speaker 2: to the point where I stopped sharing those issues with

748
00:31:13,360 --> 00:31:16,120
Speaker 2: her as I noticed she wasn't wanting to be helpful,

749
00:31:16,160 --> 00:31:18,400
Speaker 2: and I get that. I don't blame her for that.

750
00:31:18,560 --> 00:31:21,400
Speaker 2: Cut to mid late January twenty twenty, she comes over

751
00:31:21,440 --> 00:31:24,200
Speaker 2: with her oldest just with generic plans to hang out

752
00:31:24,200 --> 00:31:26,880
Speaker 2: that day. I hadn't had my period in a few months,

753
00:31:26,920 --> 00:31:29,320
Speaker 2: but I was so far down the de Lulu black

754
00:31:29,360 --> 00:31:31,880
Speaker 2: hole that I wasn't even attempting to question it up

755
00:31:31,920 --> 00:31:34,120
Speaker 2: to that point, So I'm not sure what finally came

756
00:31:34,160 --> 00:31:36,360
Speaker 2: over me, but I decided that day to buy some

757
00:31:36,440 --> 00:31:39,560
Speaker 2: pregnancy tests. The three of us had gone shopping, had lunch,

758
00:31:39,600 --> 00:31:41,480
Speaker 2: and came back to my apartment. I took the test,

759
00:31:41,600 --> 00:31:45,320
Speaker 2: and surprise, I was pregnant, like very pregnant. It took

760
00:31:45,480 --> 00:31:48,600
Speaker 2: no less than three seconds to show the double lines.

761
00:31:48,680 --> 00:31:51,040
Speaker 2: After that, I was so excited. My best friend knew

762
00:31:51,080 --> 00:31:52,840
Speaker 2: exactly what it was like to be in my shoes,

763
00:31:52,840 --> 00:31:54,600
Speaker 2: and I would have someone along the way that could

764
00:31:54,640 --> 00:31:56,640
Speaker 2: support me in ways my other friends may not have

765
00:31:56,720 --> 00:31:59,080
Speaker 2: known how to. And I was also three hours away

766
00:31:59,120 --> 00:32:01,560
Speaker 2: from my family. She bought clothes for my baby and

767
00:32:01,560 --> 00:32:03,840
Speaker 2: would talk about how our kids would all be best

768
00:32:03,880 --> 00:32:06,200
Speaker 2: to ease and grow up together, always having each other,

769
00:32:06,320 --> 00:32:09,200
Speaker 2: and over the next few months, the high frequency visits

770
00:32:09,360 --> 00:32:13,640
Speaker 2: and days out became less. Digital communication lessened. One major

771
00:32:13,680 --> 00:32:16,960
Speaker 2: thing occurring at this point were troubles in Sarah's marriage,

772
00:32:17,040 --> 00:32:18,800
Speaker 2: and I knew she was going through a lot, so

773
00:32:18,920 --> 00:32:21,560
Speaker 2: I never pressured her. I also didn't have the energy

774
00:32:21,600 --> 00:32:23,880
Speaker 2: for it anyway. It turned out when I took the

775
00:32:23,880 --> 00:32:26,480
Speaker 2: pregnancy test, I was eighteen weeks, so by the time

776
00:32:26,520 --> 00:32:29,760
Speaker 2: a couple months had passed, I was over six months pregnant. Nonetheless,

777
00:32:29,800 --> 00:32:32,280
Speaker 2: I still had hope and never questioned anything. Enter a

778
00:32:32,360 --> 00:32:35,160
Speaker 2: friend who I will call Cassidy. She's a friend of

779
00:32:35,240 --> 00:32:37,640
Speaker 2: Sarah's that I hadn't spent too much time around. I

780
00:32:37,720 --> 00:32:40,920
Speaker 2: met online through mutual friends, and I wasn't ever around

781
00:32:40,920 --> 00:32:42,800
Speaker 2: when she was whether they were doing things with a

782
00:32:42,840 --> 00:32:45,120
Speaker 2: group of girls, I wasn't a part of it, or

783
00:32:45,280 --> 00:32:47,440
Speaker 2: just the two of them. Mine and Sarah's time together

784
00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:50,600
Speaker 2: was always during other times, and over time, somehow she

785
00:32:50,640 --> 00:32:54,000
Speaker 2: started convincing me that Cassidy hated me. Sarah would start

786
00:32:54,040 --> 00:32:56,800
Speaker 2: telling stories later that I found to be lies, that

787
00:32:57,000 --> 00:32:59,600
Speaker 2: Cassidy was saying hurtful things about me and how she

788
00:32:59,680 --> 00:33:02,960
Speaker 2: felt I was stuck up or annoying, and granted, I'm

789
00:33:02,960 --> 00:33:06,080
Speaker 2: a weirdo, so I am annoying lol, and told me

790
00:33:06,160 --> 00:33:08,640
Speaker 2: Cassidy couldn't stand being around me. So I never made

791
00:33:08,720 --> 00:33:10,640
Speaker 2: efforts to try and be a part of the little

792
00:33:10,640 --> 00:33:13,080
Speaker 2: female friend group. Her and Cassidy were a part of.

793
00:33:13,160 --> 00:33:14,560
Speaker 3: Wait who told her this?

794
00:33:14,800 --> 00:33:15,640
Speaker 2: Sarah her friend?

795
00:33:15,680 --> 00:33:17,760
Speaker 3: Which if I would ever tell my friend that my

796
00:33:17,840 --> 00:33:19,360
Speaker 3: other friend didn't like them, I'm.

797
00:33:19,240 --> 00:33:21,840
Speaker 2: Trying to think of the appropriate situation thing. But again,

798
00:33:21,880 --> 00:33:24,320
Speaker 2: Opie did say that this was found to be untrue.

799
00:33:24,400 --> 00:33:27,240
Speaker 2: Oh oh that's even weirder, yeah, she said, which I

800
00:33:27,280 --> 00:33:30,240
Speaker 2: later found out this was all I So this is now, Sarah,

801
00:33:30,280 --> 00:33:31,120
Speaker 2: why are we lying?

802
00:33:31,160 --> 00:33:33,200
Speaker 3: So maybe Sarah's like, I want to have friendship with

803
00:33:33,240 --> 00:33:35,920
Speaker 3: only Cassidy and then friendship with only Ope, and I

804
00:33:35,960 --> 00:33:37,040
Speaker 3: don't want them to come together.

805
00:33:37,240 --> 00:33:41,000
Speaker 2: My theory is that I think Sarah actually is frustrated

806
00:33:41,040 --> 00:33:43,760
Speaker 2: with op but instead of just being like, hey, I'm

807
00:33:43,920 --> 00:33:46,760
Speaker 2: here are my frustrations, she's just been like, yeah, actually

808
00:33:47,720 --> 00:33:48,680
Speaker 2: super frustrated.

809
00:33:48,760 --> 00:33:52,920
Speaker 3: He thinks all this time about for not communicating with me? Her?

810
00:33:53,520 --> 00:33:57,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, her, So she's projected, she's getting the catharsis of

811
00:33:57,480 --> 00:34:00,400
Speaker 2: letting it out without actually having to be honest it.

812
00:34:00,680 --> 00:34:02,800
Speaker 2: That's my guess. At least, let's see what happens yeah,

813
00:34:02,800 --> 00:34:04,600
Speaker 2: so I never made efforts to try and be a

814
00:34:04,640 --> 00:34:06,840
Speaker 2: part of the Little Female Friend group her and Cassidy

815
00:34:06,840 --> 00:34:09,360
Speaker 2: were a part of, and Cassidy never made efforts to

816
00:34:09,440 --> 00:34:12,439
Speaker 2: join when I was in attendance until one day in

817
00:34:12,520 --> 00:34:15,520
Speaker 2: May of twenty twenty, about one month before I gave birth,

818
00:34:15,560 --> 00:34:18,359
Speaker 2: she was having a birthday party for her youngest and

819
00:34:18,400 --> 00:34:20,760
Speaker 2: we were both there for it. Cassidy and I started

820
00:34:20,840 --> 00:34:23,879
Speaker 2: interacting and realized we actually liked each other and had

821
00:34:23,960 --> 00:34:26,040
Speaker 2: quite a bit in common. We added each other on

822
00:34:26,080 --> 00:34:30,080
Speaker 2: socials and Snapchat, and a budding acquaintanceship formed. One day,

823
00:34:30,120 --> 00:34:32,840
Speaker 2: maybe a week after having my daughter, I replied to

824
00:34:32,880 --> 00:34:36,040
Speaker 2: Cassidy's snap story telling her I liked her necklace. She

825
00:34:36,200 --> 00:34:39,200
Speaker 2: eventually branched out to ask me how Sarah had been doing,

826
00:34:39,239 --> 00:34:41,360
Speaker 2: because they had not been speaking to each other. I

827
00:34:41,400 --> 00:34:43,799
Speaker 2: don't recall how the beginning of the conversation went, but

828
00:34:43,840 --> 00:34:45,680
Speaker 2: we got to talking about the kinds of things that

829
00:34:45,719 --> 00:34:48,000
Speaker 2: Sarah would tell us about the other, or where she

830
00:34:48,080 --> 00:34:51,400
Speaker 2: made plans inflaked, sometimes with no heads up or communication

831
00:34:51,520 --> 00:34:55,160
Speaker 2: of any kind, and things started making sense. Pieces of

832
00:34:55,200 --> 00:34:57,680
Speaker 2: the puzzle started fitting together, and we got a broad

833
00:34:57,719 --> 00:35:00,239
Speaker 2: idea of what we were seen as to say Sarah,

834
00:35:00,280 --> 00:35:02,799
Speaker 2: and how she had played us against each other those

835
00:35:02,840 --> 00:35:05,560
Speaker 2: times she had flaked on me, she was with Cassidy

836
00:35:05,640 --> 00:35:08,239
Speaker 2: telling her how I canceled or something had came up,

837
00:35:08,280 --> 00:35:12,760
Speaker 2: and vice versa. When she was flaking on Cassidy, Sarah,

838
00:35:12,800 --> 00:35:14,520
Speaker 2: what are we doing with Sarah?

839
00:35:14,560 --> 00:35:16,360
Speaker 3: Sarah? Sarah Sarah?

840
00:35:16,400 --> 00:35:18,960
Speaker 2: Where's this coming from? What's all this about?

841
00:35:19,040 --> 00:35:22,440
Speaker 3: Man? Just use your big girl words, Hm, tell people

842
00:35:22,560 --> 00:35:25,239
Speaker 3: out you're feeling. Don't just do all this kind of

843
00:35:25,320 --> 00:35:26,680
Speaker 3: back backstage stuff.

844
00:35:26,719 --> 00:35:29,200
Speaker 2: All the lies that she told me of Cassidy talking

845
00:35:29,239 --> 00:35:32,640
Speaker 2: negatively about me supposedly never happened, and Cassidy was being

846
00:35:32,680 --> 00:35:36,760
Speaker 2: told the exact same things verbatim about me talking crap

847
00:35:36,920 --> 00:35:41,320
Speaker 2: about her. From then we started getting closer. Those still

848
00:35:41,360 --> 00:35:44,120
Speaker 2: more on the acquaintance side of friendship for a while,

849
00:35:44,239 --> 00:35:46,759
Speaker 2: and I cut off Sarah. I had confronted her, and

850
00:35:46,800 --> 00:35:49,840
Speaker 2: I was met with extreme defensiveness and with no apology,

851
00:35:50,000 --> 00:35:52,200
Speaker 2: or at least one that wasn't genuine. And that's why

852
00:35:52,239 --> 00:35:55,799
Speaker 2: there wasn't reconciliation. Now getting into the meat of the story, Oh,

853
00:35:55,840 --> 00:35:56,880
Speaker 2: that was just the appetizer.

854
00:35:57,040 --> 00:35:58,919
Speaker 3: That was just a little amuse amuse book.

855
00:35:59,000 --> 00:36:01,600
Speaker 2: That was just a little crute, or as they say

856
00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:03,359
Speaker 2: in Missouri little krudite.

857
00:36:03,480 --> 00:36:04,080
Speaker 3: Crudite.

858
00:36:04,480 --> 00:36:07,040
Speaker 2: We don't speak French, so there's a lot of French

859
00:36:07,080 --> 00:36:07,560
Speaker 2: towns in.

860
00:36:07,520 --> 00:36:09,479
Speaker 3: Misouria, and so they just kind of do their best

861
00:36:09,680 --> 00:36:10,000
Speaker 3: at them.

862
00:36:10,200 --> 00:36:11,960
Speaker 2: It used to be a part of the Louisiana purchase.

863
00:36:12,320 --> 00:36:15,040
Speaker 2: I think it could be wrong about that. Don't actually

864
00:36:15,080 --> 00:36:17,920
Speaker 2: quote me on that. I take it back anyway. Before

865
00:36:17,960 --> 00:36:20,279
Speaker 2: the end of twenty twenty, I left town to move

866
00:36:20,400 --> 00:36:23,920
Speaker 2: back in with family for financial reasons and help support

867
00:36:23,960 --> 00:36:26,360
Speaker 2: me with my newborn. I went about life only checking

868
00:36:26,400 --> 00:36:31,080
Speaker 2: Sarah's socials occasionally out of nosiness. Okay, it was like weekly,

869
00:36:31,280 --> 00:36:33,960
Speaker 2: I admit it. It wasn't until the following summer that

870
00:36:34,040 --> 00:36:36,640
Speaker 2: she reached out, trying to reconcile with me. She explained

871
00:36:36,680 --> 00:36:39,160
Speaker 2: why she had been acting weird and why she started

872
00:36:39,160 --> 00:36:43,280
Speaker 2: getting distant, something along the lines of marriage trouble slash

873
00:36:43,280 --> 00:36:46,279
Speaker 2: divorce slash, being desperate for likes on the internet and

874
00:36:46,280 --> 00:36:49,480
Speaker 2: pushing her to spend more time with esthetic girls that

875
00:36:49,520 --> 00:36:53,239
Speaker 2: would end in photo shoots, as well as apologizing for

876
00:36:53,320 --> 00:36:56,680
Speaker 2: not being the supportive friend I deserve. She begged for

877
00:36:56,800 --> 00:36:59,600
Speaker 2: me to give her another chance, and I did. By

878
00:36:59,640 --> 00:37:02,400
Speaker 2: Midafigust twenty twenty one, I was traveling three hours to

879
00:37:02,400 --> 00:37:04,200
Speaker 2: stay in her home to be with her as she

880
00:37:04,239 --> 00:37:07,080
Speaker 2: celebrated her birthday. We searched a store after store for

881
00:37:07,239 --> 00:37:10,160
Speaker 2: party decor and food. She treated me to Cracker Barrel

882
00:37:10,200 --> 00:37:12,640
Speaker 2: and took me to church, where we prayed about Cassidy,

883
00:37:12,680 --> 00:37:15,240
Speaker 2: who was having a hard time. We had a blast

884
00:37:15,239 --> 00:37:17,279
Speaker 2: of a time, and I was so happy to have

885
00:37:17,320 --> 00:37:20,600
Speaker 2: my friend back. But unfortunately that didn't last long, and

886
00:37:20,680 --> 00:37:22,560
Speaker 2: by the twenty fifth of that same month, she was

887
00:37:22,600 --> 00:37:24,279
Speaker 2: making some huge confessions.

888
00:37:24,320 --> 00:37:26,760
Speaker 3: I'm making confessions. We're not in church now.

889
00:37:26,880 --> 00:37:29,600
Speaker 2: To backtrack just a few weeks, I had just ended

890
00:37:29,640 --> 00:37:33,359
Speaker 2: my relationship with baby Daddy and was single. Upon her

891
00:37:33,400 --> 00:37:36,240
Speaker 2: birthday weekend, I moved into my mom's by the twenty second.

892
00:37:36,360 --> 00:37:39,240
Speaker 2: So while there's nothing normal about how I was conducting

893
00:37:39,280 --> 00:37:41,279
Speaker 2: life at that point compared to how I had been,

894
00:37:41,440 --> 00:37:44,279
Speaker 2: it was my new normal. I think you'd be astounded

895
00:37:44,280 --> 00:37:46,640
Speaker 2: at how normal moving back in with your family can be.

896
00:37:46,920 --> 00:37:49,319
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean tons of people do it, especially when

897
00:37:49,320 --> 00:37:51,080
Speaker 3: you have a new baby. You know you don't have it.

898
00:37:51,080 --> 00:37:53,480
Speaker 3: You no longer have the supports system that you cod

899
00:37:53,480 --> 00:37:54,759
Speaker 3: with your partner.

900
00:37:55,080 --> 00:37:58,160
Speaker 2: It makes sense Yeah, the twenty fifth of August twenty

901
00:37:58,200 --> 00:38:00,600
Speaker 2: twenty one is a day that will remain into my

902
00:38:00,719 --> 00:38:04,080
Speaker 2: mind forever to date. It's the worst day I've experienced.

903
00:38:04,520 --> 00:38:06,759
Speaker 2: It started out as a normal Wednesday. I was at

904
00:38:06,760 --> 00:38:10,000
Speaker 2: work where I was a babysitter, having casual conversation with

905
00:38:10,040 --> 00:38:12,480
Speaker 2: Sarah on Snap when my phone let me know it

906
00:38:12,520 --> 00:38:14,400
Speaker 2: was at one percent, so I plugged in it up

907
00:38:14,440 --> 00:38:16,279
Speaker 2: in another room and went about my day for the

908
00:38:16,320 --> 00:38:18,360
Speaker 2: next hour or so. When I got it off the charger,

909
00:38:18,440 --> 00:38:21,640
Speaker 2: I had an ungodly amount of Snap videos from Sarah.

910
00:38:21,680 --> 00:38:24,360
Speaker 2: And while it was not unusual to have long videos

911
00:38:24,400 --> 00:38:27,720
Speaker 2: from her, as we would rant, cry, and generally yap

912
00:38:27,800 --> 00:38:29,799
Speaker 2: to each other very often in the form of Snap

913
00:38:29,880 --> 00:38:33,160
Speaker 2: videos as we couldn't usually find simultaneous free time to

914
00:38:33,200 --> 00:38:35,760
Speaker 2: talk on the phone, this was an extremely large number

915
00:38:35,840 --> 00:38:39,560
Speaker 2: of snaps to get, like ten plus minutes of video.

916
00:38:39,840 --> 00:38:42,960
Speaker 2: Huh oh, it's just like a FaceTime you have with

917
00:38:43,040 --> 00:38:45,359
Speaker 2: an extel chirp? Did that make sense to you at all?

918
00:38:45,360 --> 00:38:47,439
Speaker 2: What I just said, what you're in a nextail chirp?

919
00:38:47,520 --> 00:38:49,640
Speaker 2: Is what the heck are you seeing? They were walkie

920
00:38:49,640 --> 00:38:52,480
Speaker 2: talkie phones next, so you could just go you're probably

921
00:38:52,520 --> 00:38:54,640
Speaker 2: too young for that, just barely too young for that.

922
00:38:54,760 --> 00:39:01,239
Speaker 2: You're a grandfather that was extremely popular mode communication, are you?

923
00:39:01,400 --> 00:39:03,839
Speaker 2: But no, it's like you just you're sending videos. It's

924
00:39:03,840 --> 00:39:07,440
Speaker 2: like having it's like having a FaceTime. We're still following

925
00:39:07,520 --> 00:39:09,640
Speaker 2: and then it's like you can just pause the FaceTime

926
00:39:09,680 --> 00:39:11,399
Speaker 2: and go live your life and then you go back

927
00:39:11,440 --> 00:39:12,880
Speaker 2: in the FaceTime is still right where it was.

928
00:39:13,000 --> 00:39:16,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, just like that's what that is. I understand the

929
00:39:16,080 --> 00:39:18,160
Speaker 3: concept of sending useful.

930
00:39:18,400 --> 00:39:19,600
Speaker 2: Over here acting like you did not.

931
00:39:19,719 --> 00:39:20,319
Speaker 3: I've never heard of.

932
00:39:20,320 --> 00:39:27,239
Speaker 2: A what a ner next? Tell next, which I am

933
00:39:27,239 --> 00:39:29,759
Speaker 2: actually predicting that's going to come back in a huge way,

934
00:39:29,840 --> 00:39:32,960
Speaker 2: which we can. Actually that's my business idea. Don't don't

935
00:39:33,000 --> 00:39:35,279
Speaker 2: take it. Don't take it, guys, or if you're gonna

936
00:39:35,280 --> 00:39:38,000
Speaker 2: take it, hit me up and I can get involved. Anyways.

937
00:39:38,080 --> 00:39:41,240
Speaker 2: She explained how she'd had a thing for baby Daddy

938
00:39:41,440 --> 00:39:44,480
Speaker 2: since high school, but she already had her a thing

939
00:39:44,560 --> 00:39:46,960
Speaker 2: with the guy she ended up marrying, so she and

940
00:39:47,000 --> 00:39:49,880
Speaker 2: baby Daddy were never an item, but with her marriage

941
00:39:49,920 --> 00:39:53,920
Speaker 2: and shambles, she was desperate for attention, validation, and physical touch.

942
00:39:54,160 --> 00:39:56,880
Speaker 2: She told me how it happened at a mutual friend's house.

943
00:39:57,000 --> 00:40:01,200
Speaker 3: Wait, your baby, dot, she took your baby. That was

944
00:40:01,280 --> 00:40:03,200
Speaker 3: she was like trying to like not see you because

945
00:40:03,200 --> 00:40:04,240
Speaker 3: she was she's cheating.

946
00:40:04,480 --> 00:40:07,959
Speaker 2: I guess, so that makes a lot of sense.

947
00:40:08,360 --> 00:40:08,840
Speaker 3: Guilty.

948
00:40:09,200 --> 00:40:13,360
Speaker 2: I'm literally cheating with your man. So I guess we

949
00:40:13,400 --> 00:40:15,320
Speaker 2: can't hang out. I don't want to feel guilty.

950
00:40:15,600 --> 00:40:19,759
Speaker 3: It all makes sense. Whoa Sarah Whoo? If that is

951
00:40:19,840 --> 00:40:20,560
Speaker 3: your real name.

952
00:40:20,760 --> 00:40:23,240
Speaker 2: She told me how it happened at a mutual friend's house,

953
00:40:23,280 --> 00:40:25,799
Speaker 2: one that I was the first to invite her to,

954
00:40:26,560 --> 00:40:29,600
Speaker 2: starting her many future visits when I was at work,

955
00:40:29,640 --> 00:40:32,560
Speaker 2: and how from then on he was convincing her that

956
00:40:32,600 --> 00:40:34,319
Speaker 2: he was in love with her, that he was going

957
00:40:34,360 --> 00:40:36,799
Speaker 2: to leave me to be with her. How miserable I

958
00:40:36,880 --> 00:40:39,360
Speaker 2: made him and how happy she made him, all the

959
00:40:39,400 --> 00:40:42,640
Speaker 2: while continuing to be my friend, like and nothing was

960
00:40:42,680 --> 00:40:44,759
Speaker 2: going on. All those times she told me to leave

961
00:40:44,880 --> 00:40:47,560
Speaker 2: him when I would talk to her about the latest issue,

962
00:40:47,600 --> 00:40:50,239
Speaker 2: all those times I dropped everything to help her, no

963
00:40:50,280 --> 00:40:53,080
Speaker 2: matter what I had going on, all the sleepovers and

964
00:40:53,160 --> 00:40:55,799
Speaker 2: days at the park, they were all happening while she

965
00:40:56,120 --> 00:40:58,880
Speaker 2: was betraying me, and I had no clue. She waited

966
00:40:58,960 --> 00:41:01,640
Speaker 2: until I ended the relationship for other reasons to tell me,

967
00:41:01,719 --> 00:41:03,719
Speaker 2: so she wouldn't have been the reason for the downfall.

968
00:41:03,840 --> 00:41:06,440
Speaker 2: To tell me there were other girls, two other girls

969
00:41:06,560 --> 00:41:10,120
Speaker 2: brought into the apartment we shared. My safe space was

970
00:41:10,160 --> 00:41:12,800
Speaker 2: now tainted, and she kept it all from me until

971
00:41:12,840 --> 00:41:15,560
Speaker 2: this day. What makes it worse is that she claimed

972
00:41:15,600 --> 00:41:17,879
Speaker 2: she intended to tell me the day I found out

973
00:41:17,880 --> 00:41:20,600
Speaker 2: I was pregnant. She decided not to after the news

974
00:41:20,840 --> 00:41:24,080
Speaker 2: was discovered because she thought my child deserves to have

975
00:41:24,160 --> 00:41:26,480
Speaker 2: a father, and this might have been the time I

976
00:41:26,560 --> 00:41:29,040
Speaker 2: actually told him to hit the road. Though she also

977
00:41:29,080 --> 00:41:31,359
Speaker 2: thought I would just let it slide like I had

978
00:41:31,400 --> 00:41:33,840
Speaker 2: many times before, and it would have just ruined my

979
00:41:33,920 --> 00:41:36,520
Speaker 2: relationship with her and not him. But let's not talk

980
00:41:36,520 --> 00:41:39,319
Speaker 2: about it. No, let's let's actually let's talk about that.

981
00:41:39,520 --> 00:41:40,120
Speaker 2: Let's talk about that.

982
00:41:40,280 --> 00:41:43,320
Speaker 3: Let's get into a little, you know, coffee shop and say, girl,

983
00:41:43,960 --> 00:41:45,680
Speaker 3: what is your problem?

984
00:41:46,280 --> 00:41:46,480
Speaker 2: You know?

985
00:41:46,680 --> 00:41:47,720
Speaker 3: Oh, that's to restart.

986
00:41:47,800 --> 00:41:50,359
Speaker 2: Well, I just think the amount of duplicity, and because

987
00:41:50,400 --> 00:41:52,200
Speaker 2: it's like she was like, I was going to tell

988
00:41:52,239 --> 00:41:54,759
Speaker 2: you and then you said you're pregnant, and I was like, oh, no,

989
00:41:54,840 --> 00:41:57,200
Speaker 2: it's gonna be in the baby's life. It's like, no,

990
00:41:57,440 --> 00:42:00,480
Speaker 2: you weren't really being that thoughtful. No, you you just

991
00:42:00,600 --> 00:42:03,040
Speaker 2: didn't want to say it because you thought that op

992
00:42:03,280 --> 00:42:06,000
Speaker 2: because she'd forgiven her baby daddy so many times before

993
00:42:06,000 --> 00:42:08,359
Speaker 2: her that she would just be like, well, you suck,

994
00:42:08,400 --> 00:42:11,320
Speaker 2: but I'm gonna stay with baby daddy, but you suck. Yeah,

995
00:42:11,360 --> 00:42:14,120
Speaker 2: And that is what we would call selfish, because you

996
00:42:14,280 --> 00:42:17,000
Speaker 2: just kept the dirty deed you were doing from her

997
00:42:17,280 --> 00:42:21,480
Speaker 2: to protect yourself stop, not from a sense of just

998
00:42:21,560 --> 00:42:23,760
Speaker 2: I wanted the children for the child.

999
00:42:23,840 --> 00:42:26,479
Speaker 3: On further reflection, stay out of the coffee shop, yeah,

1000
00:42:26,440 --> 00:42:27,560
Speaker 3: and never see her again.

1001
00:42:28,080 --> 00:42:30,680
Speaker 2: A fun fact, at least two, if not more people

1002
00:42:30,760 --> 00:42:33,560
Speaker 2: in attendance of Sarah's party other than Sarah knew what

1003
00:42:33,640 --> 00:42:35,880
Speaker 2: she had done to me and knew she hadn't told me,

1004
00:42:36,000 --> 00:42:38,440
Speaker 2: so none of them said anything and watched me party

1005
00:42:38,440 --> 00:42:41,879
Speaker 2: alongside like nothing had happened. The only respect I had

1006
00:42:41,880 --> 00:42:44,120
Speaker 2: for her that day was that she ruined our newly

1007
00:42:44,160 --> 00:42:46,719
Speaker 2: rekindled friendship so I would finally know the truth. She

1008
00:42:46,760 --> 00:42:48,640
Speaker 2: knew I would need to cut her off, and while

1009
00:42:48,640 --> 00:42:50,239
Speaker 2: I could see the guilt in her eyes, I could

1010
00:42:50,280 --> 00:42:52,680
Speaker 2: also see the pain as she explained how she treated

1011
00:42:52,719 --> 00:42:54,680
Speaker 2: all her friends terribly at that time and that she

1012
00:42:54,840 --> 00:42:57,440
Speaker 2: was a selfish vain human who only cared about how

1013
00:42:57,480 --> 00:42:59,880
Speaker 2: popular she was or if she had what she wanted.

1014
00:43:00,120 --> 00:43:02,520
Speaker 2: She didn't realize I saw her as my ride or

1015
00:43:02,640 --> 00:43:06,240
Speaker 2: die best friend, just because she thought we were regular friends,

1016
00:43:06,680 --> 00:43:08,799
Speaker 2: just average every day friends. How I don't know, but

1017
00:43:08,920 --> 00:43:11,240
Speaker 2: she admitted to being so far up her own butt

1018
00:43:11,400 --> 00:43:13,560
Speaker 2: that she was blind to a lot of things. I

1019
00:43:13,680 --> 00:43:16,160
Speaker 2: confronted Baby Daddy and didn't get much out of it,

1020
00:43:16,200 --> 00:43:18,080
Speaker 2: as he didn't feel the need to explain to his

1021
00:43:18,160 --> 00:43:21,200
Speaker 2: now ex and I really didn't expect much anyway. I

1022
00:43:21,280 --> 00:43:23,120
Speaker 2: just wanted to yell at him because I was pissed

1023
00:43:23,120 --> 00:43:25,520
Speaker 2: off and felt cheap and worthless after finding all this out,

1024
00:43:25,560 --> 00:43:27,319
Speaker 2: though he did try to convince me she was the

1025
00:43:27,320 --> 00:43:29,359
Speaker 2: only one. On top of all this news, my car

1026
00:43:29,440 --> 00:43:31,600
Speaker 2: broke down and I ended up stuck at work until

1027
00:43:31,600 --> 00:43:34,480
Speaker 2: almost eleven PM after being done at five, and I

1028
00:43:34,560 --> 00:43:36,880
Speaker 2: had to have my baby Daddy come get my daughter

1029
00:43:36,960 --> 00:43:37,760
Speaker 2: because of the issues.

1030
00:43:37,840 --> 00:43:40,160
Speaker 3: Wait, you couldn't, Oh, well, maybe you were waiting with

1031
00:43:40,200 --> 00:43:42,560
Speaker 3: your car, presumably like Triple A or something.

1032
00:43:42,840 --> 00:43:44,840
Speaker 2: I assume they were, sang, couldn't.

1033
00:43:44,920 --> 00:43:50,000
Speaker 3: No one came from Triple A for for six hours. Ah.

1034
00:43:50,040 --> 00:43:52,640
Speaker 2: This was the very first time in the whole fourteen

1035
00:43:52,680 --> 00:43:55,920
Speaker 2: months of my daughter's life and my pregnancy that I

1036
00:43:56,040 --> 00:43:58,080
Speaker 2: spent a night away from her, and it ended up

1037
00:43:58,080 --> 00:44:00,799
Speaker 2: being three straight days before or I got her back.

1038
00:44:00,920 --> 00:44:04,040
Speaker 2: I went nearly another year before Cassidy was reaching out

1039
00:44:04,160 --> 00:44:07,400
Speaker 2: upon Sarah's behalf. Cassidy and I had gotten pretty close

1040
00:44:07,560 --> 00:44:09,880
Speaker 2: up to this point, talking most days and keeping up

1041
00:44:09,880 --> 00:44:12,759
Speaker 2: with the milestones in our lives. They had reconciled, and

1042
00:44:12,800 --> 00:44:15,120
Speaker 2: Cassidy believed that Sarah was in a good place in

1043
00:44:15,200 --> 00:44:17,799
Speaker 2: life after having worked to clean up her act, but

1044
00:44:18,000 --> 00:44:20,760
Speaker 2: that she desperately wanted our friendship back. After some pushing,

1045
00:44:20,800 --> 00:44:24,000
Speaker 2: I finally let Sarah just speak her mind. After some conversation,

1046
00:44:24,080 --> 00:44:27,160
Speaker 2: I agreed to restart the friendship on a trial basis.

1047
00:44:27,239 --> 00:44:30,640
Speaker 2: And now here we are, almost three years after that reconciliation.

1048
00:44:30,760 --> 00:44:31,759
Speaker 2: Oh he's gonna.

1049
00:44:31,480 --> 00:44:33,880
Speaker 3: Regret this with their friends again, their friends again, three

1050
00:44:33,920 --> 00:44:34,879
Speaker 3: years ago, friends again.

1051
00:44:34,920 --> 00:44:37,319
Speaker 2: Oh he's gonna regret. I mean, I think that you

1052
00:44:37,400 --> 00:44:39,440
Speaker 2: can do this, but I also think it needs to

1053
00:44:39,440 --> 00:44:41,800
Speaker 2: be like, like if you need to be very clear,

1054
00:44:42,080 --> 00:44:45,680
Speaker 2: like if Sarah in any way starts behaving in ways

1055
00:44:45,719 --> 00:44:49,120
Speaker 2: that she was beforewarth out out, like get off the boat,

1056
00:44:49,160 --> 00:44:50,960
Speaker 2: and I would not don't trust. Don't go back to

1057
00:44:51,000 --> 00:44:53,120
Speaker 2: trusting her yet. No, get on the rest, not earned

1058
00:44:53,120 --> 00:44:56,600
Speaker 2: your trust yet, She's earned your presence, not your trust yet,

1059
00:44:56,840 --> 00:45:00,880
Speaker 2: she's earned your like eye contact. Occasionally yes, acknowledgment in

1060
00:45:00,920 --> 00:45:03,480
Speaker 2: some way, just okay. For the most part, the friendship

1061
00:45:03,480 --> 00:45:05,680
Speaker 2: went back to the meat of what it has always been.

1062
00:45:05,880 --> 00:45:07,200
Speaker 2: No wrong, I.

1063
00:45:07,440 --> 00:45:10,640
Speaker 3: Don't believe for you she cheated. That's kind of crazy

1064
00:45:10,680 --> 00:45:12,719
Speaker 3: to be, like, get back into a friendship with someone

1065
00:45:12,719 --> 00:45:15,000
Speaker 3: who cheated on you, Like we took your baby, your

1066
00:45:15,000 --> 00:45:15,600
Speaker 3: baby daddy.

1067
00:45:15,600 --> 00:45:17,759
Speaker 2: Here's what I'll propose to you. This is someone who

1068
00:45:17,800 --> 00:45:19,680
Speaker 2: was getting back together with the baby daddy who was

1069
00:45:19,760 --> 00:45:20,319
Speaker 2: cheating on her.

1070
00:45:20,320 --> 00:45:21,319
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, that's bad too.

1071
00:45:21,440 --> 00:45:24,279
Speaker 2: So you know, Op's a forgiver and I kind of

1072
00:45:24,320 --> 00:45:26,640
Speaker 2: like also forget her. And that's probably, you know, to

1073
00:45:27,280 --> 00:45:30,480
Speaker 2: give you some therapy for therapy. Yeah, don't want to forget.

1074
00:45:30,719 --> 00:45:33,160
Speaker 2: You can't just go back to business as usual. It

1075
00:45:33,200 --> 00:45:35,759
Speaker 2: needs to be different. Gotta be different. I see you

1076
00:45:35,840 --> 00:45:38,279
Speaker 2: got it, so Op says, it's back to how it's

1077
00:45:38,320 --> 00:45:42,800
Speaker 2: always been, only now there are scars, very deep, brutal scars.

1078
00:45:42,960 --> 00:45:45,279
Speaker 2: The thing about all this, I wasn't that surprised to

1079
00:45:45,280 --> 00:45:47,719
Speaker 2: find out I had been cheated on. I honestly got

1080
00:45:47,760 --> 00:45:49,960
Speaker 2: over that part pretty quickly because there were no more

1081
00:45:50,000 --> 00:45:52,960
Speaker 2: tears to cry. I mourned that relationship before I ever

1082
00:45:53,000 --> 00:45:55,080
Speaker 2: had the courage to leave. But learning about what my

1083
00:45:55,280 --> 00:45:59,239
Speaker 2: closest friend did to me, knowing how much denial I

1084
00:45:59,400 --> 00:46:01,319
Speaker 2: was in and how much I loved and cared about

1085
00:46:01,320 --> 00:46:04,279
Speaker 2: this dude but still secretly working to pull him out

1086
00:46:04,320 --> 00:46:07,160
Speaker 2: from under me, that was an absolute bomb. But I

1087
00:46:07,320 --> 00:46:10,200
Speaker 2: kept going through time, just brushing that fact to the side,

1088
00:46:10,280 --> 00:46:12,399
Speaker 2: and we got close again. The reason I'm just now

1089
00:46:12,440 --> 00:46:15,000
Speaker 2: realizing how I feel is due to a conversation a

1090
00:46:15,040 --> 00:46:17,640
Speaker 2: couple months ago where we expressed how much we miss

1091
00:46:17,680 --> 00:46:20,200
Speaker 2: each other. The last visit in person was her birthday

1092
00:46:20,239 --> 00:46:22,520
Speaker 2: party in twenty twenty one, and how she wanted to

1093
00:46:22,520 --> 00:46:24,640
Speaker 2: make the drive out to see me. I felt honored

1094
00:46:24,680 --> 00:46:27,600
Speaker 2: that she would go through that effort. The only problem

1095
00:46:27,680 --> 00:46:30,120
Speaker 2: ended up being days of availability. I must stay at

1096
00:46:30,120 --> 00:46:33,080
Speaker 2: home mom, but my fiance works full time with weekends off.

1097
00:46:33,080 --> 00:46:35,880
Speaker 2: Her and her husband she remarried to another man, have

1098
00:46:36,000 --> 00:46:38,680
Speaker 2: Sunday and Monday off. On top of that, Sunday is

1099
00:46:38,719 --> 00:46:41,839
Speaker 2: a big relaxation day in my household, and making compromises

1100
00:46:41,840 --> 00:46:44,080
Speaker 2: on this is rare. We know what we like and

1101
00:46:44,120 --> 00:46:47,200
Speaker 2: if we aren't both on board, it doesn't happen. She

1102
00:46:47,280 --> 00:46:51,120
Speaker 2: has travel restrictions based on comfortability and her family's needs,

1103
00:46:51,160 --> 00:46:53,720
Speaker 2: so she wouldn't be coming alone or just with the kids.

1104
00:46:53,800 --> 00:46:56,160
Speaker 2: Whatever plans she made would include her husband, which is

1105
00:46:56,200 --> 00:46:58,160
Speaker 2: not a big deal. But one thing we don't do

1106
00:46:58,360 --> 00:47:01,120
Speaker 2: my fiance and I is spend time with the opposite

1107
00:47:01,120 --> 00:47:04,279
Speaker 2: sex when the other isn't present. So we could accommodate

1108
00:47:04,280 --> 00:47:07,279
Speaker 2: a visit on Sunday by compromising on our chill day

1109
00:47:07,320 --> 00:47:10,920
Speaker 2: plans to have friends over and hang out. But by Monday, Sarah,

1110
00:47:10,960 --> 00:47:13,279
Speaker 2: with or without kids would have to be okay with

1111
00:47:13,320 --> 00:47:15,960
Speaker 2: spending time without her husband because there will never be

1112
00:47:16,080 --> 00:47:18,879
Speaker 2: another man in our home when my fiance isn't here.

1113
00:47:19,000 --> 00:47:22,839
Speaker 3: Okay, well, like wait, oh oh, like.

1114
00:47:23,200 --> 00:47:25,960
Speaker 2: Fiance is at work on Monday, no man, no men

1115
00:47:26,000 --> 00:47:27,480
Speaker 2: in the house allowed while fiance is.

1116
00:47:27,480 --> 00:47:29,640
Speaker 3: Not there, even if Sarah is there.

1117
00:47:29,400 --> 00:47:32,840
Speaker 2: Even if Sarah's there. What you're not allowed to be around?

1118
00:47:32,880 --> 00:47:35,279
Speaker 3: I thought it was just like alone together, you're not

1119
00:47:35,400 --> 00:47:39,040
Speaker 3: allowed to be around another man in general without.

1120
00:47:38,800 --> 00:47:42,360
Speaker 2: Your partner in the house, in the house. That's still crazy.

1121
00:47:42,520 --> 00:47:44,319
Speaker 2: I agree that is crazy, but it's just an house,

1122
00:47:44,480 --> 00:47:46,960
Speaker 2: not in the ho Like, how could you even just

1123
00:47:47,000 --> 00:47:49,920
Speaker 2: in the house? Yeah, that doesn't sound very I mean,

1124
00:47:50,400 --> 00:47:52,320
Speaker 2: what's the word you guys? Healthy?

1125
00:47:52,520 --> 00:47:54,560
Speaker 3: No, this is the this is the partner that cheated

1126
00:47:54,560 --> 00:47:54,920
Speaker 3: on right?

1127
00:47:55,360 --> 00:47:57,399
Speaker 2: Or is this this is a different partner? Oh okay, okay,

1128
00:47:57,520 --> 00:47:58,160
Speaker 2: this is different partner.

1129
00:47:58,200 --> 00:47:59,799
Speaker 3: It's like, well tracks a little bit, but that is

1130
00:47:59,800 --> 00:48:02,920
Speaker 3: a that's a weird rule. That's a weird I like

1131
00:48:03,040 --> 00:48:05,640
Speaker 3: would kind of I mean, I still don't like fully green,

1132
00:48:05,680 --> 00:48:08,040
Speaker 3: but I would kind of understand like hanging out alone

1133
00:48:08,080 --> 00:48:11,320
Speaker 3: with opposite gender, but like just hanging out opposite gender

1134
00:48:11,680 --> 00:48:13,919
Speaker 3: with people. M m m m m m mmm.

1135
00:48:14,080 --> 00:48:16,960
Speaker 2: Okay, So just as he wouldn't have another female here

1136
00:48:17,040 --> 00:48:19,200
Speaker 2: without me present, This is something he and I have

1137
00:48:19,239 --> 00:48:21,920
Speaker 2: discussed at length and agree completely on. It's our safe

1138
00:48:21,920 --> 00:48:25,239
Speaker 2: space and I find it extremely respectful. And on top

1139
00:48:25,280 --> 00:48:27,560
Speaker 2: of that, I just personally don't feel comfortable being in

1140
00:48:27,560 --> 00:48:30,000
Speaker 2: that situation in my home or outside of it. The

1141
00:48:30,000 --> 00:48:32,479
Speaker 2: main point was me explaining to her that I would

1142
00:48:32,520 --> 00:48:33,920
Speaker 2: hate for her to come all the way out here

1143
00:48:34,000 --> 00:48:36,400
Speaker 2: to really only have one day of being able to

1144
00:48:36,400 --> 00:48:38,080
Speaker 2: meet up, because that's a lot of work on her

1145
00:48:38,160 --> 00:48:40,560
Speaker 2: part with very little outcome, or having to ask her

1146
00:48:40,640 --> 00:48:42,920
Speaker 2: husband to keep himself busy on Monday and wait until

1147
00:48:42,920 --> 00:48:45,960
Speaker 2: my fiance is back home to join. My next suggestion

1148
00:48:46,120 --> 00:48:48,560
Speaker 2: was going to be to try to plan something far

1149
00:48:48,680 --> 00:48:51,279
Speaker 2: enough in advance that making accommodations would be simpler, But

1150
00:48:51,320 --> 00:48:53,279
Speaker 2: then she hit me with the you're not allowed to

1151
00:48:53,280 --> 00:48:55,239
Speaker 2: hang out with me if my husband is with me

1152
00:48:55,520 --> 00:48:58,719
Speaker 2: before I could express the idea, and it struck a nerve.

1153
00:48:58,880 --> 00:49:00,480
Speaker 2: I had to explain to her that both me and

1154
00:49:00,520 --> 00:49:02,800
Speaker 2: my fiance have been cheated on and if this is

1155
00:49:02,840 --> 00:49:04,719
Speaker 2: a way to respect each other in a way that

1156
00:49:04,800 --> 00:49:07,440
Speaker 2: we always feel comfortable, then that's how we're going to

1157
00:49:07,480 --> 00:49:09,399
Speaker 2: do things, as well as the fact that my man

1158
00:49:09,440 --> 00:49:11,799
Speaker 2: has never met her nor her husband and has zero

1159
00:49:11,920 --> 00:49:15,200
Speaker 2: reason to trust either of them. But trust you, that's

1160
00:49:15,280 --> 00:49:16,000
Speaker 2: kind of fair, though.

1161
00:49:16,200 --> 00:49:19,799
Speaker 3: I don't know, ma'am. It's sure, partner, but it's their relationship.

1162
00:49:19,840 --> 00:49:21,880
Speaker 3: They can do whatever they want and their relationship as

1163
00:49:21,920 --> 00:49:23,040
Speaker 3: long as both of them agree.

1164
00:49:23,120 --> 00:49:25,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, they're both in agreement. This is She's like, I'm

1165
00:49:25,200 --> 00:49:27,040
Speaker 2: happy about it, not my relationship. I don't know if

1166
00:49:27,040 --> 00:49:29,680
Speaker 2: it's kind of delusional though, but anyway, they don't got

1167
00:49:29,719 --> 00:49:32,240
Speaker 2: trust because they got cheated on. I love her dearly

1168
00:49:32,280 --> 00:49:34,759
Speaker 2: and want nothing more than to see her, but it's

1169
00:49:34,840 --> 00:49:38,200
Speaker 2: not worth interfering with my relationship over this. Man pays

1170
00:49:38,200 --> 00:49:40,160
Speaker 2: my way in life so I can be home with

1171
00:49:40,239 --> 00:49:42,319
Speaker 2: my child doing the things I want to be doing

1172
00:49:42,400 --> 00:49:44,840
Speaker 2: instead of slaving away at a job I hate every day,

1173
00:49:44,920 --> 00:49:47,239
Speaker 2: and I believe that deserves a lot of respect. That

1174
00:49:47,320 --> 00:49:49,480
Speaker 2: was kind of a w take. I guess I have

1175
00:49:49,560 --> 00:49:51,560
Speaker 2: more freedom than I've ever had in my life, but

1176
00:49:51,640 --> 00:49:54,840
Speaker 2: I also have more responsibilities than ever and my family

1177
00:49:54,920 --> 00:49:57,680
Speaker 2: is my priority. While I believe having the ability to

1178
00:49:57,760 --> 00:50:00,200
Speaker 2: spend time with friends is necessary, I don't think that

1179
00:50:00,280 --> 00:50:01,799
Speaker 2: I should just be able to get up and do

1180
00:50:01,880 --> 00:50:04,680
Speaker 2: whatever I want, regardless of what my man thinks or

1181
00:50:04,680 --> 00:50:07,360
Speaker 2: what responsibilities I need to be taken care of. I

1182
00:50:07,360 --> 00:50:09,440
Speaker 2: think it's important to consider those closest to me in

1183
00:50:09,480 --> 00:50:11,440
Speaker 2: the same way I would hope to be thought of.

1184
00:50:11,520 --> 00:50:14,080
Speaker 2: I think having this conversation really started to weigh on

1185
00:50:14,120 --> 00:50:16,560
Speaker 2: me heavily because I was expressing a boundary that both

1186
00:50:16,640 --> 00:50:19,040
Speaker 2: me and my man respect and follow, and she wanted

1187
00:50:19,080 --> 00:50:21,360
Speaker 2: me to make a compromise. Besides the fact that the

1188
00:50:21,400 --> 00:50:24,400
Speaker 2: source of most of my fears revolving around cheating produced

1189
00:50:24,440 --> 00:50:27,160
Speaker 2: a very skeptical mindset on getting too close to female

1190
00:50:27,239 --> 00:50:29,920
Speaker 2: friends because I'm afraid I'll let them in too close

1191
00:50:30,000 --> 00:50:32,960
Speaker 2: and get betrayed by them again. That hurts more than

1192
00:50:33,000 --> 00:50:35,120
Speaker 2: the pain from the partner cheating. I think I may

1193
00:50:35,200 --> 00:50:37,640
Speaker 2: still see her as someone with the capability to hurt

1194
00:50:37,640 --> 00:50:40,319
Speaker 2: those closest to her with no consideration of the consequences,

1195
00:50:40,320 --> 00:50:41,759
Speaker 2: and I don't want to think of her that way.

1196
00:50:41,800 --> 00:50:44,080
Speaker 2: I believe she isn't the same person as she was then,

1197
00:50:44,200 --> 00:50:46,480
Speaker 2: but I also haven't spent any time around her in

1198
00:50:46,560 --> 00:50:49,320
Speaker 2: three years, and how much of a person truly radiates

1199
00:50:49,400 --> 00:50:51,880
Speaker 2: over social media or sporadic snap conversation.

1200
00:50:51,960 --> 00:50:54,120
Speaker 3: So your frienship is not back to the way it was,

1201
00:50:54,280 --> 00:50:57,880
Speaker 3: Well that's good. Yeah, yeah, like clearly not back to

1202
00:50:57,920 --> 00:50:58,759
Speaker 3: the way it was at all.

1203
00:50:58,880 --> 00:51:01,680
Speaker 2: I don't know how to continue the conversation without blowing up,

1204
00:51:01,719 --> 00:51:03,839
Speaker 2: and I didn't want to blow up the friendship when

1205
00:51:03,840 --> 00:51:05,879
Speaker 2: we couldn't even talk face to face. But I also

1206
00:51:06,000 --> 00:51:08,440
Speaker 2: didn't want to bout down and claim that I'm somehow

1207
00:51:08,440 --> 00:51:11,160
Speaker 2: being mistreated because I won't allow another man in my

1208
00:51:11,280 --> 00:51:13,840
Speaker 2: home without my fiance present. He didn't coach me to

1209
00:51:13,880 --> 00:51:16,319
Speaker 2: say that I didn't ask to make it happen, and

1210
00:51:16,360 --> 00:51:19,520
Speaker 2: get told absolutely not. I had the conversation with him

1211
00:51:19,560 --> 00:51:21,600
Speaker 2: about her wanting to come and how the days off

1212
00:51:21,600 --> 00:51:23,440
Speaker 2: don't line up, and how I told her what our

1213
00:51:23,440 --> 00:51:25,880
Speaker 2: boundaries are, and he is in the same mindset as

1214
00:51:25,920 --> 00:51:28,160
Speaker 2: I am. Her coming over is no problem. Even her

1215
00:51:28,160 --> 00:51:30,759
Speaker 2: coming with her husband in a scenario where my man

1216
00:51:30,840 --> 00:51:33,000
Speaker 2: is here and we all hang out also no problem.

1217
00:51:33,040 --> 00:51:35,040
Speaker 2: But he was not comfortable with the idea of this

1218
00:51:35,200 --> 00:51:37,920
Speaker 2: man being here while he's at work, or me being

1219
00:51:38,040 --> 00:51:39,960
Speaker 2: out with both a man and a woman he has

1220
00:51:39,960 --> 00:51:42,640
Speaker 2: never met, and God forbid something bad happen during the outing.

1221
00:51:42,760 --> 00:51:45,120
Speaker 2: Along with not even having the money to really get

1222
00:51:45,160 --> 00:51:46,080
Speaker 2: out and do anything.

1223
00:51:46,200 --> 00:51:47,879
Speaker 3: That's not true. You could do a lot of things

1224
00:51:47,920 --> 00:51:48,440
Speaker 3: without money.

1225
00:51:48,520 --> 00:51:51,120
Speaker 2: Yeah you can. It's like, let's like blatantly fall. You

1226
00:51:51,120 --> 00:51:52,640
Speaker 2: can go to the park and enjoy the sun.

1227
00:51:52,800 --> 00:51:54,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, there's tons of things that you could do with

1228
00:51:55,000 --> 00:51:57,040
Speaker 3: a baby. A lot of okay, people are saying you

1229
00:51:57,200 --> 00:51:59,560
Speaker 3: take babies to museums and things by that, and a

1230
00:51:59,560 --> 00:52:00,720
Speaker 3: lot of seams are free.

1231
00:52:00,840 --> 00:52:03,080
Speaker 2: Given the money situation, it means a visit to the

1232
00:52:03,120 --> 00:52:06,080
Speaker 2: house is all that's really plausible. Where I become the

1233
00:52:06,120 --> 00:52:09,000
Speaker 2: a hole was. I chickened out of continuing the conversation.

1234
00:52:09,280 --> 00:52:12,120
Speaker 2: I just ghosted her and I still haven't reached out.

1235
00:52:12,239 --> 00:52:14,960
Speaker 2: I am weak, and I'm working on it, but I

1236
00:52:15,040 --> 00:52:17,960
Speaker 2: have never handled confrontation well, even if I am the

1237
00:52:17,960 --> 00:52:20,720
Speaker 2: one giving it. I don't like being uncomfortable. I don't

1238
00:52:20,880 --> 00:52:23,560
Speaker 2: like upsetting people, and I just freaked. I didn't open

1239
00:52:23,560 --> 00:52:25,840
Speaker 2: her last message, and by the time I gained the

1240
00:52:25,880 --> 00:52:28,680
Speaker 2: courage last week to finally reach back out, the messages

1241
00:52:28,719 --> 00:52:30,880
Speaker 2: had been deleted, so I didn't even know what she

1242
00:52:30,920 --> 00:52:33,239
Speaker 2: said now. So now I guess what I'm hoping for

1243
00:52:33,320 --> 00:52:35,239
Speaker 2: is advice on how to continue. Do I need to

1244
00:52:35,280 --> 00:52:37,840
Speaker 2: explain this to her and to hopefully have her reassure

1245
00:52:37,880 --> 00:52:41,000
Speaker 2: me of her loyalty and further explain whatever point she

1246
00:52:41,120 --> 00:52:43,440
Speaker 2: was making about her husband being with her, Or do

1247
00:52:43,520 --> 00:52:45,840
Speaker 2: I just get back to the convo at hand and

1248
00:52:45,920 --> 00:52:49,080
Speaker 2: apologize for disappearing. If this is the same woman who

1249
00:52:49,280 --> 00:52:52,320
Speaker 2: slept with your baby daddy behind your back and lied

1250
00:52:52,360 --> 00:52:54,799
Speaker 2: to your face for months, don't care so much.

1251
00:52:54,920 --> 00:52:57,719
Speaker 3: It feels like you don't trust her in general, So

1252
00:52:57,840 --> 00:53:00,439
Speaker 3: I'm like, why why if you can't trust her? Yeah,

1253
00:53:00,480 --> 00:53:02,839
Speaker 3: can you keep up this? Friend normally. I mean, if

1254
00:53:02,840 --> 00:53:05,040
Speaker 3: you want actual advice, you should have had a conversation

1255
00:53:05,080 --> 00:53:07,040
Speaker 3: with her. You can still have that conversation with her

1256
00:53:07,080 --> 00:53:08,960
Speaker 3: if you want the friendship to continue. It feels like

1257
00:53:09,000 --> 00:53:10,880
Speaker 3: you don't trust her. Like I would say, you have

1258
00:53:10,880 --> 00:53:12,880
Speaker 3: two baths. If you want to continue the friendship, then

1259
00:53:12,920 --> 00:53:15,200
Speaker 3: you have to talk to her. You have to say, hey, sorry,

1260
00:53:15,280 --> 00:53:17,280
Speaker 3: it was getting a lot of anxiety about not texting

1261
00:53:17,280 --> 00:53:20,160
Speaker 3: you or about trying to figure out the answer. We

1262
00:53:20,239 --> 00:53:22,200
Speaker 3: just have some rules set up with my partner. Blah

1263
00:53:22,239 --> 00:53:24,520
Speaker 3: blah blah blah, Like give that explanation. If you don't

1264
00:53:24,560 --> 00:53:27,400
Speaker 3: want the friendship, then you've already kind of you've already

1265
00:53:27,440 --> 00:53:29,080
Speaker 3: kind of ended it a little bit. Yeah, I mean

1266
00:53:29,320 --> 00:53:33,360
Speaker 3: I think it's something behinding to have back. Yeah, Like

1267
00:53:33,400 --> 00:53:35,200
Speaker 3: it feels that she don't change me or Sarah and

1268
00:53:35,320 --> 00:53:37,399
Speaker 3: kid could could change and be a different person, someone

1269
00:53:37,400 --> 00:53:39,560
Speaker 3: who would never do what she did to you. Ever Again, However,

1270
00:53:39,800 --> 00:53:40,880
Speaker 3: I don't know. I don't think we need to be

1271
00:53:40,920 --> 00:53:41,640
Speaker 3: worried that much here.

1272
00:53:41,640 --> 00:53:43,120
Speaker 2: I think we need to be more worried about having

1273
00:53:43,160 --> 00:53:45,440
Speaker 2: a healthy relationship with our partner where we can actually

1274
00:53:45,440 --> 00:53:48,200
Speaker 2: trust each other and realize we won't cheat on each other.

1275
00:53:48,360 --> 00:53:51,480
Speaker 2: I truly did not mean to disappear. I was just

1276
00:53:51,480 --> 00:53:54,360
Speaker 2: so afraid of what her response was that I froze

1277
00:53:54,560 --> 00:53:58,440
Speaker 2: fond and flew faw faw away. And now I'm embarrassed

1278
00:53:58,480 --> 00:54:00,200
Speaker 2: for not handling it like an adult, but all so

1279
00:54:00,320 --> 00:54:02,360
Speaker 2: not sure how to approach the situation or is it

1280
00:54:02,400 --> 00:54:04,399
Speaker 2: a friend that I may need to walk away from

1281
00:54:04,520 --> 00:54:06,479
Speaker 2: or my own sanity because I may never be able

1282
00:54:06,520 --> 00:54:08,640
Speaker 2: to see her anymore without seeing what she did to me.

1283
00:54:08,800 --> 00:54:10,759
Speaker 2: That you're the only one who can make that clo. Yeah,

1284
00:54:10,760 --> 00:54:12,719
Speaker 2: that's not you. You are the only person who can

1285
00:54:12,719 --> 00:54:14,080
Speaker 2: know how you feel when you see.

1286
00:54:13,800 --> 00:54:15,759
Speaker 3: Sef You're already saying that that might be what you feel.

1287
00:54:15,840 --> 00:54:18,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, if you feel that at all, go ahead and

1288
00:54:18,880 --> 00:54:21,560
Speaker 2: just let her be in your past and make new friends.

1289
00:54:21,760 --> 00:54:21,880
Speaker 4: Uh.

1290
00:54:22,000 --> 00:54:24,560
Speaker 2: And by the way, you can make new friends with

1291
00:54:24,800 --> 00:54:29,080
Speaker 2: your ears every day by listening to full episodes with

1292
00:54:29,120 --> 00:54:32,640
Speaker 2: stories just like this on Spotify, iHeartRadio, Apple podcasts wherever

1293
00:54:32,640 --> 00:54:36,160
Speaker 2: you listen to podcasts, just search Okay story time, you

1294
00:54:36,280 --> 00:54:39,080
Speaker 2: little goober, and then you can listen to all the

1295
00:54:39,120 --> 00:54:42,200
Speaker 2: stories your little heart can take. And those are the

1296
00:54:42,200 --> 00:54:44,080
Speaker 2: friends you can make with your ears. Anyways, we do

1297
00:54:44,200 --> 00:54:46,600
Speaker 2: have a little bit more story left here, Sophia, what

1298
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Speaker 2: are you doing? What do you What are you doing?

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00:54:48,560 --> 00:54:49,879
Speaker 2: If you're op, what are you doing?

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00:54:49,880 --> 00:54:52,200
Speaker 3: You're really not? I don't I don't like to gohost

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00:54:52,200 --> 00:54:55,680
Speaker 3: to anyone if I can help, unless they're like a

1302
00:54:55,680 --> 00:54:59,000
Speaker 3: weirdo who I've never met. But uh, you know, if

1303
00:54:59,040 --> 00:55:01,239
Speaker 3: it's if it's a that you've had any sort of

1304
00:55:01,280 --> 00:55:03,560
Speaker 3: relationship with, I think I think you should tell them

1305
00:55:03,560 --> 00:55:05,359
Speaker 3: a truth and say like, hey, I don't know if

1306
00:55:05,360 --> 00:55:08,360
Speaker 3: I can continue this friendship. I still don't really trust you,

1307
00:55:08,480 --> 00:55:09,800
Speaker 3: and blah blah blah blah blah.

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00:55:09,840 --> 00:55:12,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, just told truth. Ghosting is is uh, it's it's

1309
00:55:13,040 --> 00:55:14,799
Speaker 2: kind of almost it. It can end up hurting you

1310
00:55:14,840 --> 00:55:17,239
Speaker 2: more than the other person. Yeah, because now you're like, oh.

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00:55:17,239 --> 00:55:19,520
Speaker 3: I never said anything, and it's weighing on me.

1312
00:55:19,640 --> 00:55:22,279
Speaker 2: The guilt, the shame, the fear. It's like you're just

1313
00:55:22,360 --> 00:55:23,319
Speaker 2: gonna a load about it.

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00:55:23,400 --> 00:55:25,400
Speaker 3: You need to unload, especially if you're already like an

1315
00:55:25,400 --> 00:55:27,160
Speaker 3: anxious person, you're to keep thinking about that.

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00:55:27,280 --> 00:55:29,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, So just telling her like, hey, you know, honestly,

1317
00:55:29,560 --> 00:55:32,840
Speaker 2: don't like you trying to step over the boundaries that

1318
00:55:32,880 --> 00:55:35,600
Speaker 2: I've set. You know that I've been cheated on. I

1319
00:55:35,640 --> 00:55:37,960
Speaker 2: have a suspicion you know who did it because you

1320
00:55:37,960 --> 00:55:39,440
Speaker 2: see her every day you wake up and look in

1321
00:55:39,480 --> 00:55:44,000
Speaker 2: the mirror. Right, So, no wonder I have difficulty trusting people. Yeah,

1322
00:55:44,400 --> 00:55:46,279
Speaker 2: so let's get into the end of the story. I'm

1323
00:55:46,280 --> 00:55:48,800
Speaker 2: not afraid of being cheated on again. I actually have

1324
00:55:48,840 --> 00:55:51,359
Speaker 2: a partner I can trust now. But I'm afraid of

1325
00:55:51,400 --> 00:55:53,839
Speaker 2: being hurt by someone I call a friend. Is this

1326
00:55:53,960 --> 00:55:56,520
Speaker 2: all in my head? An entirely my own problem and

1327
00:55:56,680 --> 00:55:58,680
Speaker 2: I just need to grow up? Am I hanging on

1328
00:55:58,800 --> 00:56:02,000
Speaker 2: to something she does to be relinquished from because she's

1329
00:56:02,040 --> 00:56:03,799
Speaker 2: done the work to be a better person? Or do

1330
00:56:03,920 --> 00:56:06,040
Speaker 2: I have valid reasons to feel this way. I don't

1331
00:56:06,080 --> 00:56:08,120
Speaker 2: care if I need to be told I'm stupid, delusional,

1332
00:56:08,239 --> 00:56:10,160
Speaker 2: or just holding a grudge. I have to know if

1333
00:56:10,160 --> 00:56:13,080
Speaker 2: I'm crazy for feeling this way. Any and all opinions welcome,

1334
00:56:13,160 --> 00:56:15,520
Speaker 2: as I know I may need to be hit with

1335
00:56:15,600 --> 00:56:17,960
Speaker 2: reality and pulled out of my little bubble. Just please

1336
00:56:18,000 --> 00:56:18,480
Speaker 2: don't be mean.

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Speaker 3: You are not an a hole for not wanting to

1338
00:56:22,640 --> 00:56:25,560
Speaker 3: be friends with a person who like cheated with your boyfriend.

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00:56:25,719 --> 00:56:28,360
Speaker 3: You know you just you don't have to be friends

1340
00:56:28,360 --> 00:56:31,239
Speaker 3: with her. It's true, you don't like as simple as that,

1341
00:56:31,320 --> 00:56:33,239
Speaker 3: you don't if you if there's any part of you

1342
00:56:33,280 --> 00:56:35,479
Speaker 3: that doesn't trust her, you know, it doesn't really matter.

1343
00:56:35,480 --> 00:56:37,040
Speaker 3: If she's done the work to be a better person,

1344
00:56:37,080 --> 00:56:39,040
Speaker 3: she's still hurt you. She can go and be a

1345
00:56:39,040 --> 00:56:41,680
Speaker 3: better person with other people and you can still be like, Ah,

1346
00:56:42,480 --> 00:56:44,480
Speaker 3: I can't get over this. You hurt me a lot

1347
00:56:44,520 --> 00:56:46,000
Speaker 3: and I can't get over that. And that's okay.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Sam, here og host. We're gonna get back to

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Speaker 1: these stories. But here's three minutes fads from our sponsors.

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Speaker 3: First, my friend's wedding is a disaster. It took a

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00:56:56,239 --> 00:56:57,640
Speaker 3: toll on our friendship.

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Speaker 2: Well, you know what.

1353
00:56:58,560 --> 00:57:02,000
Speaker 3: They say, the wedding is important. I'm about to tell

1354
00:57:02,040 --> 00:57:05,520
Speaker 3: you the story of how toxic Tina ended up curing

1355
00:57:05,560 --> 00:57:09,920
Speaker 3: me of my people pleasing tendencies when someone's so sucky

1356
00:57:10,120 --> 00:57:11,960
Speaker 3: that you're like, I can't please you. Just for a

1357
00:57:11,960 --> 00:57:15,719
Speaker 3: little backstory, I have known Tina my entire life. We

1358
00:57:15,719 --> 00:57:18,400
Speaker 3: were born only a week apart from each other. We

1359
00:57:18,400 --> 00:57:21,400
Speaker 3: were next door neighbors until middle school, when Tina's family

1360
00:57:21,480 --> 00:57:24,560
Speaker 3: moved across town. We still saw each other at school

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Speaker 3: and continue to be closed straight through graduation, never once

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Speaker 3: growing up what I have thought she would grow up

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Speaker 3: to be the venomous snake she is today. By the way,

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Speaker 3: this comes from Sassy Bestie and if you want to

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00:57:35,680 --> 00:57:38,680
Speaker 3: submit your own stories, go to our Slashooky Storytime. Separate it.

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00:57:38,960 --> 00:57:41,760
Speaker 3: So after high school, Tina went off to college, I

1367
00:57:41,840 --> 00:57:45,800
Speaker 3: moved away to enter the workforce. We lost contact almost immediately,

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00:57:46,280 --> 00:57:49,920
Speaker 3: as our paths were going in opposite directions. It seemed

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00:57:49,960 --> 00:57:52,200
Speaker 3: like the friendship had come to its natural end. We

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00:57:52,200 --> 00:57:54,360
Speaker 3: would still think of each other fondly and talk on

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00:57:54,400 --> 00:57:57,000
Speaker 3: the rare occasion that we would be back home visiting.

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Speaker 3: And this is how I should have left it. Three

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00:57:59,520 --> 00:58:01,520
Speaker 3: years later, we both just happened to be in a

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00:58:01,600 --> 00:58:04,280
Speaker 3: home for the same youth event. I was walking into

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00:58:04,280 --> 00:58:06,200
Speaker 3: the event hall with a baby on my hip and

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00:58:06,280 --> 00:58:09,400
Speaker 3: another in my belly when I heard a familiar voice

1377
00:58:09,400 --> 00:58:11,520
Speaker 3: calling out to me. When I looked up, I saw

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00:58:11,600 --> 00:58:14,680
Speaker 3: Tina pushing a stroller. We caught up while waiting our

1379
00:58:14,680 --> 00:58:18,080
Speaker 3: turn at the event. She had graduated college, started working

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00:58:18,160 --> 00:58:21,160
Speaker 3: and was engaged. We exchanged phone numbers and went our

1381
00:58:21,240 --> 00:58:25,280
Speaker 3: separate ways. We maintained contact, even taking turns traveling back

1382
00:58:25,280 --> 00:58:29,880
Speaker 3: and forth to visit each other officially, back to being BFFs.

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00:58:30,320 --> 00:58:34,600
Speaker 3: One year later, it's the week before the wedding. This

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00:58:34,720 --> 00:58:38,000
Speaker 3: brings us to the Bridezilla portion of my story. The

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00:58:38,040 --> 00:58:41,440
Speaker 3: week went as follows. Day one, we packed up my

1386
00:58:41,480 --> 00:58:45,000
Speaker 3: car and drove three hours away because there's still so

1387
00:58:45,120 --> 00:58:47,760
Speaker 3: much to do. I need my best friend. Day two

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00:58:47,800 --> 00:58:49,680
Speaker 3: we found out her soon to be mother in law

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00:58:49,720 --> 00:58:52,160
Speaker 3: we'll call her Judy, who had begged to be in

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00:58:52,240 --> 00:58:55,560
Speaker 3: charge of decorations, pocketed the money Tina had given her

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00:58:55,600 --> 00:58:58,040
Speaker 3: for it, but did none of it. Mother in law

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00:58:58,120 --> 00:59:00,920
Speaker 3: was now denying that she had ever received the money,

1393
00:59:01,160 --> 00:59:04,920
Speaker 3: since no one witnessed the transaction. Tina eventually relented and

1394
00:59:05,000 --> 00:59:09,160
Speaker 3: we went shopping for decor with my money. Weird. I

1395
00:59:09,240 --> 00:59:11,560
Speaker 3: now wonder if Tina actually gave her the money or not.

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00:59:12,200 --> 00:59:14,520
Speaker 3: Day three, I saw my first ever glimpse of her

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00:59:14,520 --> 00:59:18,400
Speaker 3: inner psycho when I finished making twenty centerpieces to her

1398
00:59:18,480 --> 00:59:23,200
Speaker 3: exact specifications, and she decided they were all wrong. That's frustrating.

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00:59:23,400 --> 00:59:26,840
Speaker 3: She chucked one at her husband to Bee's head. He

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00:59:27,040 --> 00:59:29,480
Speaker 3: docked it hit the wall behind him. That's not okay.

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00:59:29,600 --> 00:59:32,720
Speaker 3: Starting to throw things now. I tore all the centerpieces

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00:59:32,720 --> 00:59:35,800
Speaker 3: apart redid them. She approved of them. Day four, we

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00:59:35,880 --> 00:59:38,920
Speaker 3: went shopping because Tina decided to make the reception food

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00:59:39,120 --> 00:59:42,440
Speaker 3: herself to cut costs. While at the register, Tina got

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00:59:42,480 --> 00:59:45,600
Speaker 3: a phone call from the groom we'll call him Jake.

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00:59:46,040 --> 00:59:49,520
Speaker 3: She went outside, leaving me to pay again with my money.

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00:59:49,600 --> 00:59:52,320
Speaker 3: Day five, my husband and Jake went to the gym

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00:59:52,400 --> 00:59:54,480
Speaker 3: so we could have a small bridal shower for Tina.

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Speaker 3: I don't remember much of this party, as every time

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00:59:56,880 --> 01:00:00,400
Speaker 3: I sat down, Tina would need this, her soro, sister

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01:00:00,400 --> 01:00:03,080
Speaker 3: would need that, her mom would spill this, her kid

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01:00:03,160 --> 01:00:04,440
Speaker 3: or mine would need changed.

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Speaker 2: This went on all evening.

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Speaker 3: How long were your husband and Jake at the gym

1415
01:00:08,640 --> 01:00:10,200
Speaker 3: because you said they went to the gym while you

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01:00:10,200 --> 01:00:11,280
Speaker 3: had the bridal party. Yeah.

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01:00:11,360 --> 01:00:15,400
Speaker 4: Well, maybe they were getting some like, you know, smoothies afterwards, ya,

1418
01:00:15,680 --> 01:00:17,040
Speaker 4: maybe they were kissing each other.

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01:00:17,320 --> 01:00:20,440
Speaker 3: Maybe they were kissing a little bit. To say, this

1420
01:00:20,520 --> 01:00:23,400
Speaker 3: went on all evening. The party ends. Her oldest child

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01:00:23,480 --> 01:00:25,760
Speaker 3: wakes up and can't go back to sleep. She sent

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01:00:25,800 --> 01:00:27,560
Speaker 3: me to sit with him because she was just too

1423
01:00:27,760 --> 01:00:30,600
Speaker 3: tired to check on her own kid, who didn't fall

1424
01:00:30,640 --> 01:00:34,360
Speaker 3: back asleep that night. Day six, we got up early

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01:00:34,520 --> 01:00:38,000
Speaker 3: and immediately started making the food. Ten minutes in, Tina

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01:00:38,080 --> 01:00:41,320
Speaker 3: realized we forgot something so insignificant I can't even remember

1427
01:00:41,360 --> 01:00:43,880
Speaker 3: what it was now. I figured it was okay, the

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01:00:43,920 --> 01:00:46,520
Speaker 3: store is five minutes away. I'd stay here with all

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01:00:46,560 --> 01:00:49,360
Speaker 3: the kids minding hers and keep cooking. Tina would run

1430
01:00:49,400 --> 01:00:53,000
Speaker 3: and grab it and come right back. Several hours later.

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01:00:53,560 --> 01:00:57,479
Speaker 3: Tina finally came back, fake surprised. Then all the food

1432
01:00:57,520 --> 01:01:00,680
Speaker 3: prep was done. She's like, oh my gosh, I was

1433
01:01:00,800 --> 01:01:03,880
Speaker 3: just at the store. You guys did all of that

1434
01:01:04,040 --> 01:01:07,520
Speaker 3: without me. What you guys are so fast?

1435
01:01:08,320 --> 01:01:08,720
Speaker 2: Wow?

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01:01:09,640 --> 01:01:11,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, I know I was gone for four hours, but

1437
01:01:11,880 --> 01:01:14,800
Speaker 3: I didn't realize do you need help with anything? Oh? Man.

1438
01:01:15,320 --> 01:01:17,400
Speaker 3: We went back to her house, put the kids down

1439
01:01:17,440 --> 01:01:20,080
Speaker 3: for the night, and I finally laid down and started

1440
01:01:20,080 --> 01:01:23,680
Speaker 3: falling asleep when I heard Tina's oldest kids screaming, followed

1441
01:01:23,680 --> 01:01:26,200
Speaker 3: by Tina whining my name, asking me to check on

1442
01:01:26,280 --> 01:01:29,480
Speaker 3: him because I'm getting married tomorrow. I need to sleep.

1443
01:01:29,760 --> 01:01:33,480
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, dude, you're still parent. You're still parent,

1444
01:01:33,560 --> 01:01:35,640
Speaker 3: You get a day off? Yep. By now, I was

1445
01:01:35,680 --> 01:01:39,200
Speaker 3: seriously wondering why I was friends with this person, but

1446
01:01:39,280 --> 01:01:42,120
Speaker 3: I cut her an abundance of slack because I know

1447
01:01:42,240 --> 01:01:45,040
Speaker 3: a stressful wedding planning can be. So just like Elsa,

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01:01:45,320 --> 01:01:48,480
Speaker 3: I'll let it go. Day seven, finally, the wedding day,

1449
01:01:48,640 --> 01:01:50,440
Speaker 3: the Lord's Day, if you will, let there be light

1450
01:01:50,520 --> 01:01:52,520
Speaker 3: on this day. We were at church, bright and early.

1451
01:01:52,840 --> 01:01:55,040
Speaker 3: We were all getting in back room when we heard

1452
01:01:55,160 --> 01:01:57,440
Speaker 3: arguing from another room. I went out to find the

1453
01:01:57,480 --> 01:02:00,880
Speaker 3: mother of the groom yelling nonsense at the of the bride.

1454
01:02:00,960 --> 01:02:03,000
Speaker 3: I still have no idea why the father of the

1455
01:02:03,000 --> 01:02:05,160
Speaker 3: bride was running late, so we had to stall. He

1456
01:02:05,280 --> 01:02:09,720
Speaker 3: finally arrived, mother of the bride slapped him, pissed off

1457
01:02:09,800 --> 01:02:11,920
Speaker 3: that he came at all. What is up with all

1458
01:02:11,960 --> 01:02:15,560
Speaker 3: of this aggression runs in the family, apparently, I mean yeah,

1459
01:02:15,560 --> 01:02:20,520
Speaker 3: I mean usually get your like argument styles from your parents.

1460
01:02:20,800 --> 01:02:23,040
Speaker 3: And so if the bride is watching her mom do

1461
01:02:23,200 --> 01:02:26,080
Speaker 3: this now she's throwing things at her husband does not

1462
01:02:26,160 --> 01:02:28,640
Speaker 3: bode well, not at all, man. I mean I would

1463
01:02:28,680 --> 01:02:29,320
Speaker 3: say something.

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01:02:29,440 --> 01:02:31,200
Speaker 2: I'd be like, WHOA, don't do that.

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01:02:31,320 --> 01:02:34,840
Speaker 3: Yeah. I checked the bride's makeup, straightened her tiara, handed

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01:02:34,880 --> 01:02:36,840
Speaker 3: her off to her dad, and made my way back

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01:02:36,880 --> 01:02:39,080
Speaker 3: to my seat. If you guessed that I was not

1468
01:02:39,280 --> 01:02:42,080
Speaker 3: actually in this wedding, you got it. That's so much

1469
01:02:42,120 --> 01:02:44,720
Speaker 3: work to not actually be part of the wedding party. Honestly,

1470
01:02:45,120 --> 01:02:47,720
Speaker 3: the ceremony went really well. I left the church and

1471
01:02:47,760 --> 01:02:50,240
Speaker 3: went straight to the reception hall. I made sure the

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Speaker 3: food was set up, the DJ had his playlist, and

1473
01:02:53,000 --> 01:02:55,640
Speaker 3: everything was ready for the happy couple to arrive. To

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01:02:55,880 --> 01:02:59,400
Speaker 3: this day, this is the shortest wedding reception I have

1475
01:02:59,520 --> 01:03:03,160
Speaker 3: ever been to. The festivities went as follows. Twenty minutes in,

1476
01:03:03,520 --> 01:03:05,720
Speaker 3: Mother of the bride eats quickly, then sneaks away to

1477
01:03:05,760 --> 01:03:08,840
Speaker 3: her car. When Tina isn't looking at leaves. Bride caesar

1478
01:03:08,920 --> 01:03:12,480
Speaker 3: car pulling away, calls asks if she's coming back, because

1479
01:03:12,960 --> 01:03:14,760
Speaker 3: you promised to take the kids for a week so

1480
01:03:14,840 --> 01:03:17,600
Speaker 3: we could go on her honeymoon. Mom says I changed

1481
01:03:17,640 --> 01:03:21,320
Speaker 3: my behind and hangs up on her. What that's wild?

1482
01:03:21,680 --> 01:03:25,080
Speaker 3: Your mom is not a good person, man. Oh wow,

1483
01:03:25,320 --> 01:03:28,600
Speaker 3: just dips on babysitting duty for a honeymoon. Yeah. She's like,

1484
01:03:28,640 --> 01:03:30,919
Speaker 3: I don't want to do that anymore. Figure it out, Yeah,

1485
01:03:31,080 --> 01:03:34,040
Speaker 3: never mind. Father of the bride offers to take them instead.

1486
01:03:34,320 --> 01:03:37,560
Speaker 3: Bride calms down, but vows revenge on her mother just

1487
01:03:37,680 --> 01:03:41,920
Speaker 3: the same. Thirty minutes in Groom's teenage brother runs and

1488
01:03:42,000 --> 01:03:45,400
Speaker 3: jumps on the back of the bride's dress. Dress rips,

1489
01:03:45,440 --> 01:03:47,320
Speaker 3: exposing her entire rear.

1490
01:03:47,680 --> 01:03:50,840
Speaker 4: End. It's like that one like Sunscreen brand where the

1491
01:03:50,880 --> 01:03:53,440
Speaker 4: dog is pulling down the baby's a little bikini bottom.

1492
01:03:53,560 --> 01:03:56,680
Speaker 3: Oh my goodness, this is like a movie.

1493
01:03:56,840 --> 01:03:59,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, this is like a silly two thousands home alone

1494
01:03:59,480 --> 01:04:00,000
Speaker 4: style movie.

1495
01:04:00,360 --> 01:04:04,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, where like, oh my goodness, how does that even happen?

1496
01:04:04,320 --> 01:04:06,360
Speaker 3: I take Tina into the restroom and pin up the

1497
01:04:06,400 --> 01:04:08,800
Speaker 3: dress to her booty is covered. Thirty five minutes in.

1498
01:04:09,080 --> 01:04:10,040
Speaker 3: That's like a nightmare.

1499
01:04:10,160 --> 01:04:10,520
Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: That's terrible.

1501
01:04:11,160 --> 01:04:11,360
Speaker 2: Wow.

1502
01:04:11,520 --> 01:04:14,200
Speaker 3: Ride and groom are walking around mingling with guests when

1503
01:04:14,240 --> 01:04:17,040
Speaker 3: their oldest kid starts crying. Three days of not sleeping

1504
01:04:17,240 --> 01:04:19,440
Speaker 3: finally caught up to him. He needs an app but

1505
01:04:19,440 --> 01:04:22,960
Speaker 3: the noise from the reception is preventing that. Forty minutes in,

1506
01:04:23,480 --> 01:04:25,920
Speaker 3: bride asks mother in law to please take him to

1507
01:04:25,960 --> 01:04:27,640
Speaker 3: the other room and see if she can get him

1508
01:04:27,640 --> 01:04:29,800
Speaker 3: to lay down, because they're just about to see the

1509
01:04:29,840 --> 01:04:32,520
Speaker 3: first dance. Mother in law looks at bride and says,

1510
01:04:32,840 --> 01:04:36,440
Speaker 3: that is your kid. Mother in law doubted said child's paternity.

1511
01:04:36,680 --> 01:04:39,640
Speaker 3: I am not missing any part of my son's wed ink,

1512
01:04:39,680 --> 01:04:42,320
Speaker 3: bride begins to cry, takes her kid to the other room.

1513
01:04:42,440 --> 01:04:45,680
Speaker 3: Fifty minutes in, baby is still crying. It's too loud

1514
01:04:45,680 --> 01:04:48,280
Speaker 3: for him to sleep. Bride please with mother in law

1515
01:04:48,320 --> 01:04:50,400
Speaker 3: one more time, asking her to just sit with him

1516
01:04:50,400 --> 01:04:52,600
Speaker 3: long enough to do the first dance. Mother in law

1517
01:04:52,640 --> 01:04:55,160
Speaker 3: still insists she is not missing any part of her

1518
01:04:55,160 --> 01:04:58,360
Speaker 3: son's wedding. That's your son. Use that with him. One

1519
01:04:58,560 --> 01:05:01,040
Speaker 3: hour in, I turn my back for two minutes when

1520
01:05:01,120 --> 01:05:03,680
Speaker 3: Jake comes bursting through the door telling me that Tina

1521
01:05:03,760 --> 01:05:06,520
Speaker 3: just took kid one and left. Go after her. She'll

1522
01:05:06,520 --> 01:05:09,040
Speaker 3: listen to you. I run outside to see her getting

1523
01:05:09,080 --> 01:05:11,960
Speaker 3: into her car. I jump into the passenger seat and

1524
01:05:12,000 --> 01:05:15,320
Speaker 3: she squeals rubber leave in the parking lot. So you're like, wait,

1525
01:05:15,360 --> 01:05:17,760
Speaker 3: I gotta talk to you. You jump in and she's like, okay,

1526
01:05:17,840 --> 01:05:18,600
Speaker 3: we're both leaving.

1527
01:05:18,640 --> 01:05:21,760
Speaker 4: Then I'm imagining like the windows rolled down and she

1528
01:05:21,960 --> 01:05:24,200
Speaker 4: just like dives in and so her legs are still

1529
01:05:24,200 --> 01:05:25,280
Speaker 4: sticking out, and then it's like.

1530
01:05:25,280 --> 01:05:27,880
Speaker 3: Gee like gets off and she's like, ah, I get in.

1531
01:05:28,000 --> 01:05:30,800
Speaker 4: It's big kid, yikes because the kid it wasn't hers,

1532
01:05:30,920 --> 01:05:34,960
Speaker 4: right this Tina, So it's the bride, which is Opie's friend.

1533
01:05:35,040 --> 01:05:39,200
Speaker 3: I think Tina and her child, her and the new

1534
01:05:39,280 --> 01:05:42,640
Speaker 3: husband's child. The mother in law is like, doesn't believe

1535
01:05:42,720 --> 01:05:44,800
Speaker 3: that it's his child. And so that's why she keeps going,

1536
01:05:44,800 --> 01:05:46,800
Speaker 3: I'm not watching it. It's your child. I'm not watching it.

1537
01:05:46,840 --> 01:05:49,000
Speaker 3: Oh I see, I see yeah. And so she's like,

1538
01:05:49,080 --> 01:05:50,840
Speaker 3: you know what, I'm fat up and she leaves her

1539
01:05:50,840 --> 01:05:51,360
Speaker 3: own wedding.

1540
01:05:51,480 --> 01:05:56,920
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, that's crazy. That's crazy. Run away bride,

1541
01:05:57,040 --> 01:06:00,280
Speaker 4: run away bride, My gosh. A few miles down the road,

1542
01:06:00,440 --> 01:06:02,440
Speaker 4: we come around a corner to see a moving van

1543
01:06:02,560 --> 01:06:05,360
Speaker 4: stopping in our lane maybe five hundred feet away, and

1544
01:06:05,400 --> 01:06:07,560
Speaker 4: a semi coming in the other lane at the rate

1545
01:06:07,560 --> 01:06:10,680
Speaker 4: of speed where we were going. My brain immediately starts mathing,

1546
01:06:11,040 --> 01:06:13,280
Speaker 4: and I just knew we didn't have time to stop.

1547
01:06:13,840 --> 01:06:15,920
Speaker 4: To this day, I don't know how we managed to

1548
01:06:15,960 --> 01:06:17,560
Speaker 4: not have a life ending car accident.

1549
01:06:17,600 --> 01:06:19,560
Speaker 3: That day. We got back to the house and I

1550
01:06:19,600 --> 01:06:21,919
Speaker 3: told her I was going back to the hall. When

1551
01:06:21,960 --> 01:06:23,840
Speaker 3: I got back to the hall, jac has decided that

1552
01:06:23,840 --> 01:06:26,520
Speaker 3: the party was over, and he and all the remaining

1553
01:06:26,520 --> 01:06:29,160
Speaker 3: guests were tearing down and cleaning the hall. Me being me,

1554
01:06:29,480 --> 01:06:32,320
Speaker 3: I let them all have a big piece of my mind.

1555
01:06:32,560 --> 01:06:34,680
Speaker 3: I packed at my kids and we all made the

1556
01:06:34,760 --> 01:06:37,360
Speaker 3: long drive home. I called Tino when I got home

1557
01:06:37,400 --> 01:06:41,120
Speaker 3: to let her know we made it. Then she ghosted me,

1558
01:06:41,320 --> 01:06:43,640
Speaker 3: and there is an update. But Tina goes to dopee

1559
01:06:43,640 --> 01:06:45,880
Speaker 3: for all this she's done. I mean, like depends on

1560
01:06:45,920 --> 01:06:48,240
Speaker 3: how long she goes to do and maybe it was indefinitely,

1561
01:06:48,240 --> 01:06:50,120
Speaker 3: but it was like, you know, she didn't respond after

1562
01:06:50,480 --> 01:06:53,760
Speaker 3: that day. Valid that was a big day. Yeah, that's

1563
01:06:53,760 --> 01:06:56,200
Speaker 3: going on. I'm assuming it's more than that if she's

1564
01:06:56,240 --> 01:06:57,480
Speaker 3: calling a ghosting, but.

1565
01:06:57,680 --> 01:07:01,840
Speaker 4: Honestly, if she's ghosting crashtating, it's exactly it's like, okay, yeah,

1566
01:07:01,880 --> 01:07:04,000
Speaker 4: you cannot be around this friend anymore.

1567
01:07:04,400 --> 01:07:09,200
Speaker 3: They are just a crazy headache to be around. So yeah,

1568
01:07:09,280 --> 01:07:14,440
Speaker 3: I mean like drama follows them like ghosts follow keon. Yeah, exactly,

1569
01:07:14,960 --> 01:07:18,640
Speaker 3: so leaving behind. But there is an update. So after

1570
01:07:18,680 --> 01:07:21,160
Speaker 3: her disaster of a wedding, I talked to Tina. I

1571
01:07:21,240 --> 01:07:23,560
Speaker 3: let her know I made it home. Then she changes

1572
01:07:23,600 --> 01:07:26,320
Speaker 3: her phone number and ghost me for ten years.

1573
01:07:26,800 --> 01:07:30,320
Speaker 4: Ten years. She gonna hit her back after ten years,

1574
01:07:30,720 --> 01:07:31,720
Speaker 4: you know, like, how.

1575
01:07:31,560 --> 01:07:33,400
Speaker 3: Long do you refer to it as ghosting? I don't

1576
01:07:33,400 --> 01:07:35,600
Speaker 3: think it talks about time. You know, I feel like

1577
01:07:35,640 --> 01:07:37,960
Speaker 3: it's like she ghost gets the process of not talking.

1578
01:07:38,040 --> 01:07:40,960
Speaker 4: It's just about like how it ended. I feel she

1579
01:07:41,040 --> 01:07:42,400
Speaker 4: ghosted me. Yeah, And I don't know if I would

1580
01:07:42,400 --> 01:07:44,840
Speaker 4: say ghosted for ten years. Well, I think that's just

1581
01:07:44,880 --> 01:07:47,520
Speaker 4: implying that she's replying again after ten years.

1582
01:07:47,680 --> 01:07:50,040
Speaker 3: During this time, I hear all sorts of things about

1583
01:07:50,040 --> 01:07:53,160
Speaker 3: myself that I never knew about. These rumors range from

1584
01:07:53,200 --> 01:07:56,640
Speaker 3: I single handedly and maliciously ruined her wedding, so she

1585
01:07:56,720 --> 01:08:00,040
Speaker 3: caught me in bed with her father, girl, what I

1586
01:08:00,120 --> 01:08:02,480
Speaker 3: did so much work for this wedding and is being.

1587
01:08:02,320 --> 01:08:05,960
Speaker 4: Slandert All of the lies, man, that's wild, none of

1588
01:08:05,960 --> 01:08:08,520
Speaker 4: which were true. I have never really cared of what

1589
01:08:08,600 --> 01:08:11,160
Speaker 4: people said about me, so I had zero fs to give.

1590
01:08:11,880 --> 01:08:15,600
Speaker 4: If people want to spread vitriol and lies, that says

1591
01:08:15,640 --> 01:08:17,320
Speaker 4: more about their character than mine.

1592
01:08:17,560 --> 01:08:21,679
Speaker 3: Fast forward ten years. My husband leaves for work. Twenty

1593
01:08:21,680 --> 01:08:24,400
Speaker 3: minutes later, his friend will call him. Joe got hurt

1594
01:08:24,439 --> 01:08:26,879
Speaker 3: at work. Works at the same place as my husband.

1595
01:08:27,080 --> 01:08:29,240
Speaker 3: He needs to be picked up from the hospital, but

1596
01:08:29,360 --> 01:08:32,599
Speaker 3: his wife isn't answering her phone. He wanted to know

1597
01:08:32,680 --> 01:08:35,960
Speaker 3: if my husband could take him home. I said, I'm sorry,

1598
01:08:36,080 --> 01:08:38,479
Speaker 3: he left and told me he was going to work.

1599
01:08:38,800 --> 01:08:41,080
Speaker 3: If he didn't go, I have no idea where he

1600
01:08:41,120 --> 01:08:43,320
Speaker 3: could be, but that I would be happy to pick

1601
01:08:43,400 --> 01:08:45,559
Speaker 3: him up and take him home. When we pull up

1602
01:08:45,600 --> 01:08:47,840
Speaker 3: to Joe's house, the first thing we see is my

1603
01:08:47,960 --> 01:08:52,040
Speaker 3: husband's car in Joe's driveway. We go inside and you

1604
01:08:52,200 --> 01:08:56,160
Speaker 3: guessed it, there's my husband and Joe's Wifey doing the

1605
01:08:56,240 --> 01:09:00,639
Speaker 3: horizontal mambo on the living room floor. Oh whoa, whoa.

1606
01:09:01,080 --> 01:09:03,000
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, I've never heard that before.

1607
01:09:03,320 --> 01:09:06,799
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh. Wait, so ten years later, your husband

1608
01:09:06,880 --> 01:09:09,479
Speaker 3: is cheating on you with his friend's wife.

1609
01:09:09,600 --> 01:09:14,559
Speaker 2: No, they're doing the horizontal mambo. It's totally different to mambo.

1610
01:09:14,120 --> 01:09:18,439
Speaker 3: Dude right on the living room floor. Man, that's messed up. Man.

1611
01:09:18,680 --> 01:09:21,920
Speaker 3: I don't tolerate cheating. So my marriage ended that day.

1612
01:09:22,160 --> 01:09:26,920
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh. No marriage counseling, no apologies. That is

1613
01:09:26,960 --> 01:09:29,640
Speaker 3: an unforgivable act in my book. So I filed for

1614
01:09:29,720 --> 01:09:32,519
Speaker 3: divorce and move me and my children back to my hometown.

1615
01:09:32,720 --> 01:09:35,439
Speaker 3: The first day at their new school, I go to

1616
01:09:35,560 --> 01:09:39,040
Speaker 3: pick them up afterward and I bump into Tina, whom

1617
01:09:39,040 --> 01:09:39,840
Speaker 3: I didn't even know.

1618
01:09:39,880 --> 01:09:40,599
Speaker 2: Was back in town.

1619
01:09:40,880 --> 01:09:43,120
Speaker 3: She immediately starts talking to me and telling me that

1620
01:09:43,240 --> 01:09:47,360
Speaker 3: Jake is becoming harmful in the relationship. They were separated

1621
01:09:47,400 --> 01:09:49,760
Speaker 3: while he sought help for months. She tells me how

1622
01:09:49,800 --> 01:09:52,440
Speaker 3: harmful Jake was towards her and the kids, and confesses

1623
01:09:52,479 --> 01:09:54,760
Speaker 3: that it was him who insisted she cut ties with me.

1624
01:09:55,000 --> 01:09:57,360
Speaker 3: Says me yelling at his mom after what she and

1625
01:09:57,400 --> 01:09:59,679
Speaker 3: her other child did at the wedding was the final

1626
01:10:00,600 --> 01:10:02,360
Speaker 3: and says he was the one to start all of

1627
01:10:02,400 --> 01:10:05,519
Speaker 3: the rumors and begs forgiveness. I give her the benefit

1628
01:10:05,560 --> 01:10:08,280
Speaker 3: of the doubt on these accusations. She isn't giving me

1629
01:10:08,360 --> 01:10:11,240
Speaker 3: any reason to doubt it. From here, we start having

1630
01:10:11,280 --> 01:10:13,920
Speaker 3: dinner at her house nearly every night. At first, we

1631
01:10:13,960 --> 01:10:16,320
Speaker 3: would split the cost of these meals over time and

1632
01:10:16,479 --> 01:10:19,519
Speaker 3: ended up with me footing the entire bill. I knew

1633
01:10:19,560 --> 01:10:22,040
Speaker 3: what she was going through and me being better off financially,

1634
01:10:22,200 --> 01:10:25,679
Speaker 3: I didn't complain during this time. I confided in Tina

1635
01:10:25,720 --> 01:10:27,920
Speaker 3: all of the things I went through in my marriage,

1636
01:10:28,400 --> 01:10:31,519
Speaker 3: as it was a very toxic marriage, even before I

1637
01:10:31,520 --> 01:10:34,880
Speaker 3: caught him with Joe's wife. Well, I canceled dinner because

1638
01:10:34,920 --> 01:10:38,000
Speaker 3: one of my kids wasn't feeling well. Tina is upset,

1639
01:10:38,080 --> 01:10:41,760
Speaker 3: but ultimately says it's okay, but asks if I can

1640
01:10:41,880 --> 01:10:44,280
Speaker 3: drop off a few things that she left at my house.

1641
01:10:44,680 --> 01:10:47,160
Speaker 3: I said yes, but my ex was here at the moment.

1642
01:10:47,560 --> 01:10:49,280
Speaker 3: Since my axe had to go past her house on

1643
01:10:49,320 --> 01:10:52,280
Speaker 3: his way home, he offers to just stop and drop

1644
01:10:52,320 --> 01:10:56,920
Speaker 3: it off. Fast forward eight hours, My sick kids starts

1645
01:10:56,960 --> 01:11:01,599
Speaker 3: displaying new symptoms. We needed to the emergency room. I

1646
01:11:01,640 --> 01:11:05,160
Speaker 3: call my ex, no answer. I call him several more times.

1647
01:11:05,200 --> 01:11:07,439
Speaker 3: He still doesn't answer, so we just go. I call

1648
01:11:07,520 --> 01:11:10,920
Speaker 3: Tina on the way. She answers. I explain what's going

1649
01:11:10,960 --> 01:11:12,800
Speaker 3: on and that I can't get a hold of her dad.

1650
01:11:13,080 --> 01:11:15,280
Speaker 3: She says he dropped off her bag and left, and

1651
01:11:15,320 --> 01:11:17,840
Speaker 3: she has no clue where he is. So I drive

1652
01:11:17,960 --> 01:11:20,920
Speaker 3: past his house. His car's there, so I just assume

1653
01:11:20,960 --> 01:11:23,600
Speaker 3: he's in deep sleep. I call his neighbor from the

1654
01:11:23,640 --> 01:11:26,240
Speaker 3: hospital and have someone go knock on the door. I

1655
01:11:26,320 --> 01:11:29,760
Speaker 3: then call Tina again. She says she's tried to call

1656
01:11:29,880 --> 01:11:32,320
Speaker 3: him and got no answer, but she left messages and

1657
01:11:32,360 --> 01:11:34,680
Speaker 3: if he calls her back, she will let him know

1658
01:11:34,720 --> 01:11:38,639
Speaker 3: what's going on. Turns out my kid's got appendicitis wow,

1659
01:11:38,800 --> 01:11:42,439
Speaker 3: oh my goodness, and is going in for emergency surgery.

1660
01:11:42,880 --> 01:11:45,360
Speaker 3: I call and update everyone. I'm on the phone with Tina,

1661
01:11:45,400 --> 01:11:49,040
Speaker 3: who is still denying having seen him, when in the background,

1662
01:11:49,120 --> 01:11:52,160
Speaker 3: I hear one of her kids yell my ex's name.

1663
01:11:52,320 --> 01:11:54,120
Speaker 3: I knew it. I was gonna be like, he's probably

1664
01:11:54,160 --> 01:11:58,519
Speaker 3: at her house. Yeah, stop doing the mombo stop. I thought,

1665
01:11:58,560 --> 01:12:00,960
Speaker 3: she's on the phone with Tina mess h. I said,

1666
01:12:01,160 --> 01:12:03,240
Speaker 3: so have you even told him what's going on? Put

1667
01:12:03,280 --> 01:12:05,320
Speaker 3: him on the dang phone. Turns out, once he got

1668
01:12:05,320 --> 01:12:07,400
Speaker 3: to her house, she put the moves on him. He

1669
01:12:07,520 --> 01:12:10,200
Speaker 3: drove thirty minutes home while she followed, parked his car

1670
01:12:10,240 --> 01:12:13,080
Speaker 3: in his driveway, got into her car, and went straight

1671
01:12:13,120 --> 01:12:15,960
Speaker 3: back to her house. And no, she hadn't told him

1672
01:12:16,000 --> 01:12:18,320
Speaker 3: what was going on with our daughter. So he's now

1673
01:12:18,360 --> 01:12:21,840
Speaker 3: an hour away from the hospital with no vehicle. Tina

1674
01:12:21,920 --> 01:12:24,439
Speaker 3: decides to do the right thing and tosses him her keys.

1675
01:12:24,920 --> 01:12:27,959
Speaker 3: He takes her car to the hospital. After the surgery

1676
01:12:28,000 --> 01:12:31,040
Speaker 3: and my kid's recovery, Tina and I talk and she

1677
01:12:31,160 --> 01:12:34,680
Speaker 3: insists she was just really lonely. And I'm sympathetic to

1678
01:12:34,720 --> 01:12:36,880
Speaker 3: this because I've known she's been dealing with a lot,

1679
01:12:37,280 --> 01:12:40,439
Speaker 3: having been in a harmful relationship before. I know where

1680
01:12:40,479 --> 01:12:43,479
Speaker 3: she's coming from. She apologizes for not admitting he was

1681
01:12:43,520 --> 01:12:46,559
Speaker 3: there from the start. I forgive her and we go

1682
01:12:46,680 --> 01:12:48,880
Speaker 3: back to the way it was. A month later, Jake

1683
01:12:48,920 --> 01:12:51,679
Speaker 3: turns up, Tina moves him back in with her. I'm

1684
01:12:51,720 --> 01:12:54,559
Speaker 3: watching him closely because I have been told he hates

1685
01:12:54,600 --> 01:12:57,200
Speaker 3: me and he's a horrible, no good son of a beep,

1686
01:12:57,360 --> 01:12:59,800
Speaker 3: and I don't trust him one bit. A few months later,

1687
01:13:00,400 --> 01:13:02,920
Speaker 3: to go out of town on a business trip, Tina

1688
01:13:03,040 --> 01:13:06,160
Speaker 3: almost immediately cheats on him with the neighbor. I catch

1689
01:13:06,240 --> 01:13:08,400
Speaker 3: them in the act and tell Tina. You tell Jake

1690
01:13:08,479 --> 01:13:11,040
Speaker 3: or I will. How you always catching Tina in the act?

1691
01:13:11,200 --> 01:13:13,000
Speaker 3: I think you actually caught someone else in the act before.

1692
01:13:13,000 --> 01:13:15,000
Speaker 3: But how are you always catching people in the act? Yeah?

1693
01:13:15,160 --> 01:13:16,960
Speaker 3: How did this one happen? I get the other one?

1694
01:13:17,120 --> 01:13:19,000
Speaker 4: She went to the house, But like, maybe she's just

1695
01:13:19,040 --> 01:13:21,240
Speaker 4: like driving in the neighborhood, like to go see her

1696
01:13:21,280 --> 01:13:22,880
Speaker 4: or something like that, and then sees her coming from

1697
01:13:22,960 --> 01:13:23,800
Speaker 4: her neighbor's.

1698
01:13:23,439 --> 01:13:26,240
Speaker 3: House or something. I don't know. Potentially, maybe I do

1699
01:13:26,320 --> 01:13:29,960
Speaker 3: not condone this behavior one bit. She agrees to tell

1700
01:13:30,040 --> 01:13:33,000
Speaker 3: Jake as soon as he returns. I accept this, as

1701
01:13:33,040 --> 01:13:35,320
Speaker 3: he only has a couple of days before he comes home.

1702
01:13:35,800 --> 01:13:38,120
Speaker 3: And regardless of how I feel about the guy, no

1703
01:13:38,160 --> 01:13:40,200
Speaker 3: one deserves to get that news through a phone call.

1704
01:13:40,479 --> 01:13:42,760
Speaker 3: I don't when I'm driving home upset and something bad

1705
01:13:42,800 --> 01:13:45,639
Speaker 3: happening to him or anyone else as a result. When

1706
01:13:45,720 --> 01:13:48,760
Speaker 3: he arrives back home, she follows through and tells him.

1707
01:13:48,960 --> 01:13:53,400
Speaker 3: Jake decides that this is unforgivable and starts packing his bags.

1708
01:13:53,560 --> 01:13:56,920
Speaker 3: Tina calls me, says she told Jake and he's going crazy.

1709
01:13:57,240 --> 01:13:57,760
Speaker 2: Come help.

1710
01:13:57,800 --> 01:13:59,600
Speaker 3: The cops are on the way. I pull up to

1711
01:13:59,600 --> 01:14:02,960
Speaker 3: see j carrying armfuls of his belongings out and loading

1712
01:14:03,000 --> 01:14:05,760
Speaker 3: up his car, all while she's on his back, her

1713
01:14:05,840 --> 01:14:09,679
Speaker 3: legs wrapped around his midsection, one arm hooked around his neck,

1714
01:14:09,880 --> 01:14:14,400
Speaker 3: and attacking him. Oh my goodness, Oh my gosh. He

1715
01:14:14,479 --> 01:14:16,760
Speaker 3: looked like he had just went a few rounds in

1716
01:14:16,800 --> 01:14:20,320
Speaker 3: a cage match with wolverine. You need to freaking call

1717
01:14:20,360 --> 01:14:23,400
Speaker 3: the police for him. Yeah, that's crazy, because at first

1718
01:14:23,439 --> 01:14:23,960
Speaker 3: I was worried.

1719
01:14:24,000 --> 01:14:26,360
Speaker 4: I was like, Okay, if she's being honest about him

1720
01:14:26,400 --> 01:14:28,880
Speaker 4: being like harmful and stuff, I'm kind of worried about

1721
01:14:28,960 --> 01:14:30,439
Speaker 4: him finding out that she's cheating on him.

1722
01:14:30,760 --> 01:14:33,160
Speaker 3: But after this, man, yeah, it seems like she's the

1723
01:14:33,160 --> 01:14:37,080
Speaker 3: one who's harmful one. She's absolutely the one. As soon

1724
01:14:37,120 --> 01:14:39,320
Speaker 3: as Tina sees me, she hops off his back and

1725
01:14:39,360 --> 01:14:41,639
Speaker 3: starts playing the victim. He looks at me and says,

1726
01:14:41,720 --> 01:14:43,920
Speaker 3: I can live with her anger, I can put up

1727
01:14:43,920 --> 01:14:47,639
Speaker 3: with her violence. I can't forgive her infidelity. Mine said

1728
01:14:47,680 --> 01:14:49,880
Speaker 3: that I would suggest to adopt. I don't think you

1729
01:14:49,880 --> 01:14:51,439
Speaker 3: should put up with any of that. Don't put up

1730
01:14:51,439 --> 01:14:54,040
Speaker 3: with any of that. Don't put up with any violence. No,

1731
01:14:54,040 --> 01:14:56,839
Speaker 3: none of that is okay. I just nod in his direction.

1732
01:14:57,120 --> 01:14:59,160
Speaker 3: I turned back around just in time to watch her

1733
01:14:59,200 --> 01:15:02,240
Speaker 3: throw herself back wards on the front porch, starts slapping

1734
01:15:02,240 --> 01:15:04,599
Speaker 3: her at against the wall while screaming things like you're

1735
01:15:04,600 --> 01:15:07,439
Speaker 3: giving me a concussion, the cops are on the way,

1736
01:15:07,479 --> 01:15:10,240
Speaker 3: and al stop, you're hurting me. Then she starts hitting

1737
01:15:10,280 --> 01:15:13,320
Speaker 3: herself in the face. That's scary to have someone so

1738
01:15:13,920 --> 01:15:17,240
Speaker 3: manipulative and such a liar that they will go to

1739
01:15:17,280 --> 01:15:19,960
Speaker 3: any lengths to put the blame on you. Yeah, just

1740
01:15:20,000 --> 01:15:24,679
Speaker 3: seeing like a psychotic meltdown happens. Wow, she seriously looked

1741
01:15:24,680 --> 01:15:27,800
Speaker 3: like she was possessed by the devil himself. Then, just

1742
01:15:27,840 --> 01:15:30,880
Speaker 3: as suddenly as her fits started, it was over. She

1743
01:15:30,920 --> 01:15:33,040
Speaker 3: looks at Jake and says, let's see you talk your

1744
01:15:33,080 --> 01:15:36,320
Speaker 3: way out of this one girl. You have witness you know,

1745
01:15:36,600 --> 01:15:39,120
Speaker 3: Addie me will tell the cops that she saw you

1746
01:15:39,240 --> 01:15:42,280
Speaker 3: hurting me and everything I said. You're correct. I will

1747
01:15:42,280 --> 01:15:45,240
Speaker 3: definitely tell the cops everything that I've seen. This girl

1748
01:15:45,360 --> 01:15:48,800
Speaker 3: is stupid. Yeah, cops show up, take everyone's statements, and

1749
01:15:48,840 --> 01:15:51,080
Speaker 3: I tell them exactly what I saw. For the next

1750
01:15:51,120 --> 01:15:53,360
Speaker 3: few weeks, Tina and the neighbors are calling me and

1751
01:15:53,400 --> 01:15:55,360
Speaker 3: trying to tell me to go to court in her

1752
01:15:55,360 --> 01:15:58,280
Speaker 3: defense and tell her lies. I say, I will go

1753
01:15:58,360 --> 01:16:00,439
Speaker 3: to court, but then I'm not going to perjure myself.

1754
01:16:00,840 --> 01:16:04,080
Speaker 3: So she ends up giving up and instead starts spreading

1755
01:16:04,120 --> 01:16:07,559
Speaker 3: more lies about me, this time saying that I ruined

1756
01:16:07,640 --> 01:16:11,080
Speaker 3: her marriage. I was sleeping with her husband newslash. I

1757
01:16:11,200 --> 01:16:13,759
Speaker 3: wasn't I have a type Jake doesn't fit that mold.

1758
01:16:14,000 --> 01:16:17,800
Speaker 3: I decided this is my last straw. I am done

1759
01:16:17,880 --> 01:16:21,040
Speaker 3: with Tina. I cut ties. You put up with a lot.

1760
01:16:21,439 --> 01:16:22,160
Speaker 3: Thank you.

1761
01:16:23,360 --> 01:16:25,759
Speaker 2: Wow wow wow wow.

1762
01:16:26,080 --> 01:16:28,840
Speaker 3: Wanting to know the truth, I called Jake to find

1763
01:16:29,040 --> 01:16:31,760
Speaker 3: out everything had been a lie. It was her that

1764
01:16:31,840 --> 01:16:34,000
Speaker 3: chose to ghost me after the wedding. It was her

1765
01:16:34,120 --> 01:16:37,040
Speaker 3: who was physically harmful the whole time. Duh. You would

1766
01:16:37,040 --> 01:16:40,040
Speaker 3: think this is where my Tina troubles ended, but unfortunately

1767
01:16:40,080 --> 01:16:42,759
Speaker 3: that's not the case. One year later, I'm out running

1768
01:16:42,840 --> 01:16:46,120
Speaker 3: errands and picking up some necessities from the store. Every

1769
01:16:46,200 --> 01:16:48,880
Speaker 3: place that I stopped that day turned out that Tina

1770
01:16:49,000 --> 01:16:52,080
Speaker 3: also needed to go to those places at the same time.

1771
01:16:52,280 --> 01:16:55,559
Speaker 3: Tina stocking you girl, for real, that's scary. As we

1772
01:16:55,600 --> 01:16:58,880
Speaker 3: live in a relatively small community, it isn't uncommon to

1773
01:16:58,880 --> 01:17:02,120
Speaker 3: see the exact same people everywhere you go. I just

1774
01:17:02,240 --> 01:17:04,720
Speaker 3: chock it up to small town coincidence and choose to

1775
01:17:04,720 --> 01:17:07,360
Speaker 3: take care of my business and just ignore her presence,

1776
01:17:07,560 --> 01:17:10,519
Speaker 3: you know, like adults too. A few hours later, I'm

1777
01:17:10,560 --> 01:17:13,439
Speaker 3: at home making dinner while my youngest child, who was

1778
01:17:13,439 --> 01:17:15,240
Speaker 3: five at the time, is playing with the toy I

1779
01:17:15,240 --> 01:17:17,880
Speaker 3: bought her that day as a reward for being good

1780
01:17:17,960 --> 01:17:20,000
Speaker 3: while we were out. I think it was a place

1781
01:17:20,040 --> 01:17:22,320
Speaker 3: set based off of her favorite movie. When there's a

1782
01:17:22,400 --> 01:17:25,240
Speaker 3: knock at my door, I look out the window and

1783
01:17:25,320 --> 01:17:29,200
Speaker 3: see off the surf bife. Oh no, hopefully. I feel like,

1784
01:17:29,280 --> 01:17:31,559
Speaker 3: maybe you know, she called the police on you for something,

1785
01:17:31,920 --> 01:17:33,400
Speaker 3: or maybe she called CPS or.

1786
01:17:33,400 --> 01:17:35,680
Speaker 4: Something, or maybe there's an investigation and the police need

1787
01:17:35,720 --> 01:17:36,679
Speaker 4: to ask you questions.

1788
01:17:36,760 --> 01:17:39,360
Speaker 3: Hopefully confused, I opened the door and ask what can

1789
01:17:39,439 --> 01:17:41,559
Speaker 3: I open with? He informs me that they got a

1790
01:17:41,560 --> 01:17:44,040
Speaker 3: report that I was stalking and pestering Tina and her

1791
01:17:44,120 --> 01:17:46,960
Speaker 3: little craps all day, and her six year old child

1792
01:17:46,960 --> 01:17:49,080
Speaker 3: and her four year old child were distraught, and he

1793
01:17:49,200 --> 01:17:52,000
Speaker 3: believed these children's stories. I tell him I have several

1794
01:17:52,040 --> 01:17:54,559
Speaker 3: witnesses that would disagree, as I have not done my

1795
01:17:54,560 --> 01:17:57,320
Speaker 3: shopping alone. I was with my new boyfriend, whom Tina

1796
01:17:57,360 --> 01:17:59,680
Speaker 3: had never met, and everywhere I went I knew just

1797
01:17:59,680 --> 01:18:02,479
Speaker 3: about one I saw that day. Several of them knew

1798
01:18:02,479 --> 01:18:04,800
Speaker 3: the history between me and Tina, and I was sure

1799
01:18:04,800 --> 01:18:07,559
Speaker 3: they would clear things up. Officer Fife does not like

1800
01:18:07,680 --> 01:18:09,760
Speaker 3: my version of events and informs me that I have

1801
01:18:09,840 --> 01:18:11,720
Speaker 3: no right to be in any of those places. I'm

1802
01:18:11,760 --> 01:18:16,559
Speaker 3: talking grocery store, local restaurant, gas station, family Dollar, and

1803
01:18:16,600 --> 01:18:20,160
Speaker 3: the nursing home where we both had loved ones, essentially

1804
01:18:20,200 --> 01:18:23,519
Speaker 3: trespassing me from every public space in town. That he

1805
01:18:23,680 --> 01:18:26,360
Speaker 3: just is giving me a warning this time to consider

1806
01:18:26,400 --> 01:18:30,160
Speaker 3: myself warned that if Tina calls again, I'm going to jail.

1807
01:18:30,320 --> 01:18:33,040
Speaker 3: Ses He not follow up at all conspiracy theory. This

1808
01:18:33,120 --> 01:18:34,759
Speaker 3: is a fake cop conspiracy theory.

1809
01:18:35,120 --> 01:18:37,920
Speaker 4: She hired someone to acting a cop and went over

1810
01:18:37,960 --> 01:18:38,559
Speaker 4: to scare her.

1811
01:18:38,680 --> 01:18:40,960
Speaker 3: Or maybe she's got a man on the inside, maybe

1812
01:18:41,040 --> 01:18:42,800
Speaker 3: you know, like he's like a cousin or something and

1813
01:18:42,800 --> 01:18:46,320
Speaker 3: he's like, yeah, don't talk to Tina or old Restu. Yeah. Well,

1814
01:18:46,439 --> 01:18:48,519
Speaker 3: I was willing to just walk away up to this

1815
01:18:48,600 --> 01:18:51,080
Speaker 3: point because I didn't want to make waves. But this

1816
01:18:51,280 --> 01:18:53,960
Speaker 3: was my breaking point, so I called a lawyer friend

1817
01:18:54,080 --> 01:18:56,760
Speaker 3: of mine told them about the latest installment of the

1818
01:18:56,800 --> 01:19:00,360
Speaker 3: saga of Toxic Tina the Eternal Victim. They then did

1819
01:19:00,360 --> 01:19:03,880
Speaker 3: a little digging, made a few phone calls, and drafted

1820
01:19:03,920 --> 01:19:06,640
Speaker 3: a letter to the local police chief informing him that

1821
01:19:06,720 --> 01:19:10,400
Speaker 3: we had conclusive proof that if anyone had stalked anyone

1822
01:19:10,400 --> 01:19:13,200
Speaker 3: that day, it was Tina who had been stalking me.

1823
01:19:13,560 --> 01:19:16,479
Speaker 3: My lawyer friend had obtained surveillance videos from the day

1824
01:19:16,600 --> 01:19:19,400
Speaker 3: and times of the supposed incidents. As he is a

1825
01:19:19,439 --> 01:19:21,600
Speaker 3: pretty well known lawyer in the area and has a

1826
01:19:21,600 --> 01:19:24,640
Speaker 3: good working relationship with most of the local businesses, this

1827
01:19:24,920 --> 01:19:28,120
Speaker 3: was easy to obtain. In each video, it clearly showed

1828
01:19:28,160 --> 01:19:30,880
Speaker 3: me and my hoard of munchkins walked through the door,

1829
01:19:31,000 --> 01:19:33,479
Speaker 3: followed by Tina and two of her children, anywhere from

1830
01:19:33,479 --> 01:19:36,160
Speaker 3: two to ten minutes later. He informed the chief that

1831
01:19:36,240 --> 01:19:39,920
Speaker 3: Officer Fife's actions that day were not only unprofessional, but

1832
01:19:39,960 --> 01:19:42,720
Speaker 3: also an overstep of his authority, as none of the

1833
01:19:42,800 --> 01:19:46,480
Speaker 3: business owners were even aware that Tina had made these accusations.

1834
01:19:46,520 --> 01:19:49,200
Speaker 3: He also sent correspondence to Tina letting her know that

1835
01:19:49,280 --> 01:19:52,479
Speaker 3: filing a false police report is a federal offense. These

1836
01:19:52,560 --> 01:19:55,760
Speaker 3: letters put both Tina and the local PD on notice

1837
01:19:55,840 --> 01:19:58,960
Speaker 3: that if Tina or Feife continued to pester me, we

1838
01:19:59,000 --> 01:20:01,719
Speaker 3: would not only be filing charges against Tina and Fife,

1839
01:20:01,960 --> 01:20:04,120
Speaker 3: but we would also be filing a suit against the PD.

1840
01:20:04,560 --> 01:20:08,360
Speaker 3: Fife was fired shortly after, and to this day, fifteen

1841
01:20:08,439 --> 01:20:10,000
Speaker 3: years later, I am now.

1842
01:20:09,880 --> 01:20:11,679
Speaker 2: Really good friends with Jake Nice.

1843
01:20:12,080 --> 01:20:16,080
Speaker 3: Wow. What a turnaround man. Wow. You thought he sucked,

1844
01:20:16,160 --> 01:20:20,160
Speaker 3: but turns out he's actually nice guy, actually pretty cool. Wow.

1845
01:20:20,240 --> 01:20:22,439
Speaker 3: And to this day, if I run into her anywhere,

1846
01:20:22,600 --> 01:20:25,120
Speaker 3: she'll glare at me until one of us leaves. And

1847
01:20:25,200 --> 01:20:27,360
Speaker 3: by the way, you should never leave us because you

1848
01:20:27,400 --> 01:20:29,880
Speaker 3: can listen to full episodes of stories just like this.

1849
01:20:30,080 --> 01:20:32,960
Speaker 3: Just go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or iHeartRadio and search

1850
01:20:33,000 --> 01:20:35,120
Speaker 3: a pokey story time. But there is a little bit

1851
01:20:35,200 --> 01:20:37,680
Speaker 3: left of the story. Do you have any final thoughts?

1852
01:20:37,880 --> 01:20:43,519
Speaker 3: You know? This is just how is one person so insane? Yeah?

1853
01:20:43,600 --> 01:20:46,960
Speaker 3: I mean, how did it go from like ten years ago?

1854
01:20:47,080 --> 01:20:49,840
Speaker 3: You know? Yeah, you're open out with her wedding ten

1855
01:20:49,920 --> 01:20:54,160
Speaker 3: years later and she's filing false police reports. Yeah, it's

1856
01:20:54,280 --> 01:20:59,200
Speaker 3: just people are wild, man, People are wild. They're wild,

1857
01:20:59,479 --> 01:21:02,599
Speaker 3: but they're it is a little bit left to the story.

1858
01:21:02,880 --> 01:21:05,360
Speaker 3: All right, let's see it. To this day, she has

1859
01:21:05,400 --> 01:21:08,799
Speaker 3: not started anything more good. Leave her in the past,

1860
01:21:09,000 --> 01:21:11,360
Speaker 3: but I do get dirty looks from her. I do

1861
01:21:11,479 --> 01:21:14,400
Speaker 3: still get nervous if I see her worried another cop

1862
01:21:14,479 --> 01:21:16,519
Speaker 3: is going to show up at my house, or worse,

1863
01:21:17,160 --> 01:21:19,400
Speaker 3: she's gonna hulk out and make me the focus of

1864
01:21:19,400 --> 01:21:22,599
Speaker 3: her next meltdown. When the friendship ended, she was in

1865
01:21:22,920 --> 01:21:25,880
Speaker 3: possession of a lot of my stuff, things I really

1866
01:21:25,920 --> 01:21:28,439
Speaker 3: didn't want to lose, but seemed like a small price

1867
01:21:28,479 --> 01:21:31,320
Speaker 3: to pay for my own mental health. And that is

1868
01:21:31,360 --> 01:21:36,559
Speaker 3: the end of that story. Wow, dang man. Yeah, I mean,

1869
01:21:36,720 --> 01:21:40,559
Speaker 3: leave Tina in the past because she stinks crazy story

1870
01:21:40,600 --> 01:21:44,360
Speaker 3: crazy Tina, Yeah, oh my goodness, But that's in that story.

1871
01:21:44,400 --> 01:21:44,439
Speaker 2: Is