Speaker 1: We're just too unapologetically black women with an opinion. Who
Speaker 1: talks back? Oh my god, we got tweets. We talked back.
Speaker 1: Y'all don't even understand how excited I am about this interview.
Speaker 1: Thank you for joining us today. Tweet I have much
Speaker 1: look to the excited. I was too excited this time.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, Okay, sorry, y'all, but listen. They give it
Speaker 1: to that for a new episode that we talk back.
Speaker 1: Is your girl a jam extra amp today? Yes? I
Speaker 1: am listen. We got the Southern humming bird on y'all
Speaker 1: tweet things. I'm doing great, I'm getting good. I'm doing
Speaker 1: really really good. Um recorporating from the weekend, but I'm okay.
Speaker 1: Party girl with single. I had the party, uh you know,
Speaker 1: my my wine came out to have something humber wine,
Speaker 1: something kind of starmu stattle, and my new single came out,
Speaker 1: so we were partied a little bit. I love the
Speaker 1: new single. Let's let's talk about that single. So when
Speaker 1: I first read the name, I thought the song was
Speaker 1: gonna be just about heartbreak. But as you listen to
Speaker 1: the song, you realize that it's more about self care
Speaker 1: than it is heartbreak. So how how did you. How
Speaker 1: did you create that? What was the process for it? Uh? Well,
Speaker 1: the last relationship I had was exactly what it was.
Speaker 1: He pretended like he loved me. He gave me all
Speaker 1: of the the negative things that a relationship can give
Speaker 1: you insecurity, all of that. Um, so I decided I
Speaker 1: was done with it, you know what I mean. So
Speaker 1: it just came out of life experiences of not allowing
Speaker 1: um another person to make you feel less and the
Speaker 1: value devalued. And that's where that song came out of
Speaker 1: just loving myself like come on, I'm going through this, Yeah,
Speaker 1: exactly the title I was like, is she saying, uh am, I,
Speaker 1: I'm never going to hurt me again? You know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying because a lot of times when your relationships
Speaker 1: with people, you got the dig really deep. What it
Speaker 1: is about me? Right? That caused me to even attract
Speaker 1: this type of energy? Right? So is it like that
Speaker 1: person hurting you again or you hurt you allowing somebody
Speaker 1: else to hurt you again? Now that you now that
Speaker 1: you said it, it's probably both. But when I wrote it,
Speaker 1: it was about him, because sometimes you can even break
Speaker 1: up and it's really not a breakup. But I ain't
Speaker 1: talking to you for a week, then you get back together,
Speaker 1: and then you back into that same mode of hamster.
Speaker 1: Wh Yeah, he's really doing the same thing. He ain't changing.
Speaker 1: So every time you do that, we take our heart
Speaker 1: is getting broken again, you know what I mean, Because
Speaker 1: you can't go a good month or two or three
Speaker 1: in love. Whatever you find out he's the same type
Speaker 1: of purpose and so you break it in your heart again.
Speaker 1: So that to um, I let him. I would never
Speaker 1: let him do that again. To me, what sign I
Speaker 1: want to give it away? Honey Capricorn, bless your heart.
Speaker 1: So let me ask you this, do you still believe
Speaker 1: in love? Do you want to love be in love
Speaker 1: with someone again? Like I find myself after breaking up
Speaker 1: with someone, like now I'm in this space where like
Speaker 1: funk that ship. I don't even know if I want
Speaker 1: to deal with that no more. You know, some days,
Speaker 1: some days I'm like that. But then when I watched
Speaker 1: certain movies that could be a romantic movie. If I'm
Speaker 1: scrolling through Instagram and see all these beautiful black couples,
Speaker 1: you know, black love is just so strong. And that
Speaker 1: new song by What's the Girl naing Um somebody sung
Speaker 1: learned me that's my joints. So that keeps me. Um yeah,
Speaker 1: because I deserve. I deserved to be in a great
Speaker 1: relationshipsolutely shout out to Mama D I deserved, have you stupid, Look,
Speaker 1: it's relevant. We all deserved. So I've been a fan
Speaker 1: of you since. So my honest to God, full transparency.
Speaker 1: The first time I ever masturbated was to your song
Speaker 1: girl like that. I got comfortable with you know, with
Speaker 1: myself in that way. I was like, I said, I
Speaker 1: can't do it, I can do it. I'm gonna go
Speaker 1: do it. But then there was a hiatus from you,
Speaker 1: and we didn't hear a lot of things from you.
Speaker 1: And I read this article that you did with the
Speaker 1: l A Times in two thousand and sixteen, and it
Speaker 1: said that you had hit a very low place of
Speaker 1: rock bottom and it was your spiritual journey that brought
Speaker 1: you back to music. What was that like for you? Like,
Speaker 1: what did that look like? Well? After the second album,
Speaker 1: I completed the second album, um It's Me Again and
Speaker 1: turned it in Um Atlantic was now a lecture. I
Speaker 1: was signed to a lecture, so severe room, everybody that
Speaker 1: knew who I was and where I was coming from
Speaker 1: turned into Atlantic. Atlantic was this big hip hop stage,
Speaker 1: I mean UM label. So I turned and turned in
Speaker 1: the whole album and they made me turn take off
Speaker 1: like six So it's depressing to turn in something that
Speaker 1: I know my fans and my people wanted to hear,
Speaker 1: but then have me take it off a do you know.
Speaker 1: Still good songs, but it's not what I wanted. So
Speaker 1: I felt like I compromised a lot. And then the label,
Speaker 1: you know, a lot of management wasn't really didn't have
Speaker 1: my back at the time, Like it was a whole
Speaker 1: lot of not doing anything. I would go up to
Speaker 1: a meetings about my album. Oh okay, your album's not
Speaker 1: coming out next you know. Ago they was skipping over
Speaker 1: me or pushing me, you know. And so I got
Speaker 1: depressed because I came from being in a group with
Speaker 1: Devantage from Joacin, so I was in Sugar and so
Speaker 1: we went through a whole lot of stuff. So that
Speaker 1: just made me remember everything that was going on, and
Speaker 1: I just got tired and I just said, you know
Speaker 1: what that I was watching UM the e t S
Speaker 1: Gospel and Tony was sitting the Lord made me over
Speaker 1: And at that point I was drinking like every day
Speaker 1: all the day, just drinking every day and smoking like
Speaker 1: three or four packs a day. That's how depressed. It
Speaker 1: was depressing. And I saw that and I fell to
Speaker 1: my knees. And that's just exactly what I did. I
Speaker 1: had to cut it off. I had to hit rock
Speaker 1: bottom in order to be built again. And that's why
Speaker 1: there were birth Yeah, it was a really birth thing.
Speaker 1: Have you ever thought about being independent? Because I feel
Speaker 1: like tweet ms Charlene Keyes has a numb loyal fans
Speaker 1: because I listened to all your albums like they came
Speaker 1: out yesterday, I swear to guy. So if you were
Speaker 1: to create a website or a platform where you're selling
Speaker 1: on your music there, I would buy it. So have
Speaker 1: you even thought about becoming independent as opposed to you know,
Speaker 1: having these big machines behind you. It's always good, but
Speaker 1: then sometimes they'll show you. Yeah, because I'm on independent
Speaker 1: label now even one is independent, uh in that way,
Speaker 1: but not that way, you know what I mean. But
Speaker 1: I thought about that. I thought about turning in this
Speaker 1: this EP that I'm going to turn in and then
Speaker 1: definitely going that route, you know, and have even my
Speaker 1: own my only fans. I would do a station and
Speaker 1: just do all of my music or performance, you know,
Speaker 1: special things for people that have really had my back
Speaker 1: this whole thing. You know, less singer like he has
Speaker 1: a platform for his music, so he taps into the
Speaker 1: market with the people who funk with him. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: think personally I do too. I really did, because you
Speaker 1: get really tired of this industry. Yeah, it's it's it's
Speaker 1: something it would drag you down and leave you there period,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. So yeah, I want to
Speaker 1: because I know what my fans want. And I've been
Speaker 1: lucky enough though, um, even since that second album to
Speaker 1: be able to put out whatever I want it. So
Speaker 1: that's not a problem to have to creative control. But
Speaker 1: it's just like when I want to move, I'm ready
Speaker 1: to move, and then we gotta, you know, do the
Speaker 1: business thing, and it's just just like, Okay, I'm I've
Speaker 1: been sitting on this album since two thousand eighteen, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. Content may not even be really
Speaker 1: at this point, thank you. Yeah, so yeah, that's definitely
Speaker 1: the next move. It's side to still keep doing it, though, girl.
Speaker 1: You're gonna keep saying, girl, come on, you don't do
Speaker 1: that like that, because I will send a nigga a
Speaker 1: tweet song real quick that I'm too it's me again.
Speaker 1: Oh yes, yeah, I don't need to say that at
Speaker 1: the end of this interview. Also, thank you just running
Speaker 1: little sections. I'm a sound like very white as earlier.
Speaker 1: My boys don't wake up about five, do you. Girl.
Speaker 1: I've been smoking I listened to smoking cigarettes. I'll be
Speaker 1: smoking weed though, but I've been listening to smoking cigarettes
Speaker 1: all the time. So all right, you have that new one,
Speaker 1: the Southern Hummingbird with scottle How did you get involved
Speaker 1: with that? Like, how did that come about? Yes, ma'am,
Speaker 1: you need to tell us where we can get it too. Yeah,
Speaker 1: well you can give you that www dot scott Old
Speaker 1: dot com. So it's a star Nostato dot com. Um,
Speaker 1: but I just was approached by someone. Um her name
Speaker 1: is Hope. She's in charge of signature SIPs and she
Speaker 1: gives a whole lot of people opportunities to create their
Speaker 1: own taste, their own brand or whatever. She's from Houston,
Speaker 1: and um, we just connected one day and I was
Speaker 1: because I really always wanted to do a wind or
Speaker 1: a liquor, and you know, God just started sending stuff
Speaker 1: to me. You know, yeah, absolutely, that's exactly what it's
Speaker 1: saying you have to. You got to. You got too.
Speaker 1: So I'm excited. We were doing really good. We're gonna
Speaker 1: do a red wine for the holidays. So that's another
Speaker 1: one's gonna come outside, just gonna keep things, you know, moving. Well.
Speaker 1: I'm definitely gonna order me about it because I'm definitely
Speaker 1: a wine drinker. Yeah, made me feel depressed sometimes, I
Speaker 1: me too. But you can do. You can do a
Speaker 1: mixed drink. You can put this, We'll put some Saint
Speaker 1: Germain in it and the splash of gin or whatever
Speaker 1: liott of your choice with this to make you a
Speaker 1: nice mixed drink. Okay, that sounds good too, So go ahead.
Speaker 1: All the holidays, you're gonna be fucked up. Why not?
Speaker 1: Look anyway, exactly right. They been in the house hold
Speaker 1: on tam Let's stay some bills. So we're gonna play
Speaker 1: a little game with you to get to know you.
Speaker 1: It's called this or that, and it's just a couple
Speaker 1: of questions, right and you just kick you if you
Speaker 1: don't want to ask to say pass, it's fine, alright.
Speaker 1: So so the first one is monogamy or open relationship,
Speaker 1: which one, Okay, um, fucking why just because I would
Speaker 1: like to share. You know what I mean, I think
Speaker 1: just this hard that should be, that should never be.
Speaker 1: I mean, it's your choice, but for me, that's never
Speaker 1: a question. Right. Um, I'm not open too many things
Speaker 1: out there. You're right. Sometimes I feel like that, like
Speaker 1: I want a monogamous relationship. But then other times I'd
Speaker 1: be like, Nigga, just go that way, go over to
Speaker 1: her house. Hey, what's she doing today? She's not free
Speaker 1: today because you're getting on my motherfucking nerves today, sir.
Speaker 1: So ready, I don't know what I want? Okay? Alright?
Speaker 1: So home cooked meal or fine dining? Can I can
Speaker 1: I say either? Or get not? Not recently? No, I've
Speaker 1: endored and doing something now. I just kid now I've
Speaker 1: been eating a lot of fruity salad. So that's what
Speaker 1: I'm just trying to because I gave like twenty pounds pemmic.
Speaker 1: The pandemic gave me a chin I didn't have before
Speaker 1: the pandemic. It's a new one at the bottom, right,
Speaker 1: and the pandemic. Yeah, I don't like that accordion that
Speaker 1: that's not okay. So in a in a movie, would
Speaker 1: you be would you rather be the villain or the hero?
Speaker 1: I like to be the villain. I don't want to
Speaker 1: be the villain that don't die, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: It's just always there. Yeah, I like that saying okay
Speaker 1: pit or Frenchy, Uh, frenchy, Frenchy. Yeah, but they're switch on.
Speaker 1: You don't passy. They're cool when they little, but when
Speaker 1: they get big, that's not true. Are not all the time.
Speaker 1: But I grew up. We had a couple when I
Speaker 1: was younger, and one of them flipped on us. You
Speaker 1: had to put them down. Yeah, so I'll say French frenchy.
Speaker 1: They ugly as him, but they are No, he's gonna
Speaker 1: eat somebody. My next dog on your big dog. Do
Speaker 1: you read them? The thing is you can't be hitting
Speaker 1: them dogs. He will be hitting them dogs, man, and
Speaker 1: one day they just be like, nah, you can't hit
Speaker 1: me today. That I come from the old school. So
Speaker 1: we were speeding the dogs we have left over us.
Speaker 1: They were right. So he was like mad, you know,
Speaker 1: like I cram legs and came in the house. You
Speaker 1: know it's cold outside. He looked the window. I don't
Speaker 1: blame him. That's why you want to fight um drink
Speaker 1: or smoke. If I could smoke, I think I would smoke,
Speaker 1: you can, nah, because I had true story. I had
Speaker 1: smoked some chocolate tie back in the day and it
Speaker 1: made me a little loopie, and I was like, I'm
Speaker 1: never smoking more. You know, when you get to that
Speaker 1: level of paranoia, you know what I mean, you can't
Speaker 1: really smoke like that number one. So I didn't start
Speaker 1: smoking until I got into my thirties. And when I
Speaker 1: was younger, like fifteen sixteen, like early twenties, like I
Speaker 1: would smoke and be like super funked up. I really
Speaker 1: feel like your mind has to be like kind of steady.
Speaker 1: The type of stimulants. Yah, that's probably why you had
Speaker 1: a bad experience. I was putting the palm in my
Speaker 1: head at the time too, so I'm high and like this. Y.
Speaker 1: Yeah that was a bad combination. Yeah, that was a
Speaker 1: bad combination. Perm and weed. That don't go together. Friend
Speaker 1: the time, I don't even heard about that. Nowadays, you
Speaker 1: don't even had that, no more strand right, steak or seafood.
Speaker 1: I don't eat seafood, so steak and I don't even
Speaker 1: eat red meat like that, So so you're more like
Speaker 1: a vegetarian or vegans of sorts. Well, I don't eat
Speaker 1: vegetables either. That crazy, So I'm like almost like, um,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I only eat chicken. And when I
Speaker 1: do eat meat, either chicken or turkey or tuna fish
Speaker 1: or something like that. And fruit, yeah, fruit and salad.
Speaker 1: That's good. But I love me a good Califlier pizza.
Speaker 1: I love that. Oh see you ag can get along
Speaker 1: with that ship. I need my I need bread on
Speaker 1: my pizza. But it's good. It's just like, no, it does,
Speaker 1: it does take. It tastes like bread. If you ain't
Speaker 1: eating no vegetables, now you gotta drink some chlorophyll. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's what makes the vegetable green. So yeah, and cucumbers
Speaker 1: like I do a cucumber and lemon water, lime water,
Speaker 1: I do, But far as eating like tomatoes and that,
Speaker 1: so no colar greens for you at Thanksgiving? So would
Speaker 1: you rather be happy and poor? Are rich? And said?
Speaker 1: I have to take that rich and sad and I
Speaker 1: can buy my hat. No, I'm just playing on. That's
Speaker 1: what most people say, like put me on the yacht,
Speaker 1: I cry on the yacht. Yeah, I'd rather be I'd
Speaker 1: rather be rich, m hm and sad and we should
Speaker 1: be yeah all right, yeah, I don't want to be poor,
Speaker 1: so uh right, in fact, we're manifesting right now. Okay,
Speaker 1: vaccine or trust your own immune system. That's my own
Speaker 1: immune system. That sea moss in there, the Elderberry and
Speaker 1: all of them, good old page. Yeah, I'm doing I agree.
Speaker 1: Heaven our reincarnation Heaven Heaven. Yeah, I think I'll be
Speaker 1: coming back. I really are we inclinated that thing? I
Speaker 1: think we because we're spirits. Yeah, we we don't know
Speaker 1: what's gonna happen once we die. I mean we don't.
Speaker 1: I mean we we we we assume something that, yeah,
Speaker 1: but we don't know what's really gonna happen. You know,
Speaker 1: once we get to have it, it could be a
Speaker 1: you gotta come back down here and do it again.
Speaker 1: That's re incarnation, you know what I mean. So I
Speaker 1: just hope it. When I come back, I'll come back
Speaker 1: as a rich white man. I ain't going back that ship.
Speaker 1: Go give me that please, right? All right? So two more?
Speaker 1: All right? Are you an early starter or a night owl?
Speaker 1: I can be an early starter if I have to
Speaker 1: get up and go like early flights and stuff, I can,
Speaker 1: but I really like to start my day later. But
Speaker 1: I can't get up all right. And last one, what
Speaker 1: are you in your car? What are you listening to
Speaker 1: right now when you're riding down the street right now?
Speaker 1: I told you my favorite song is that I came
Speaker 1: out with some Taiwa t I w A. She got
Speaker 1: the song with Brandon, somebody let me that. Um. I
Speaker 1: listened to a lot of v J to Chicago kids,
Speaker 1: Pandora his Pandora page, um Um, I listened to blow Um.
Speaker 1: I listened to a lot of gospel quartet um um
Speaker 1: groups too. So and now I listened to me sometimes yeah,
Speaker 1: sometimes they only listened to their music. They only listen
Speaker 1: to their music. Yeah. I don't want to hear your
Speaker 1: music no more right, yeah, yeah, so I I saw
Speaker 1: uh and it wasn't it was. I think you might
Speaker 1: have went live with your daughter and he was talking
Speaker 1: about um, how are you done with the church? Mm hmm.
Speaker 1: You're wanna talk about that? I we could talk about it,
Speaker 1: because I think have you went back to the church. No,
Speaker 1: I completely understand, because you know a lot of times
Speaker 1: people don't tell you, um, especially people who are in
Speaker 1: the church. In the church, they don't tell you to
Speaker 1: be cheerful with anything else. I mean they tell you
Speaker 1: to be cheerful with everything else. They don't tell you
Speaker 1: to be careful with the church about Christianity like everything else,
Speaker 1: be careful with it. But man, everything in moderation. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I want to talk about that a little bit. Okay. See,
Speaker 1: So what happened was they thought I was just coming
Speaker 1: after the church at that point, you know, at that
Speaker 1: live conversation, it was literally her calling me and telling
Speaker 1: me that some guy that she dated in the church
Speaker 1: tried to sexually abuse her. So I was going off
Speaker 1: of the emotions of what she told me, you know.
Speaker 1: And then they thought I was attacking Joan mar at
Speaker 1: the time, which we weren't even together, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. So that was just my emotions which I
Speaker 1: didn't control because I was just tired at that point,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. And found out that he
Speaker 1: was still working at the church and nobody said nothing
Speaker 1: to him about what had happened. It was a situation
Speaker 1: that happened with her. So but I still feel the
Speaker 1: way I feel, I mean, that hasn't changed because I
Speaker 1: feel like me and guy got this, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. I got a relationship with him that I
Speaker 1: don't need no middle man at times to tell me
Speaker 1: how to talk to him or to read my word
Speaker 1: or whatever um thing I do. I'm not religious, I'm spiritual,
Speaker 1: So it's all a spiritual thing with me, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. So I don't have to go to
Speaker 1: the four walls to find him. He's already waiting, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. So it hasn't changed for me.
Speaker 1: You know, So when did you get to that point?
Speaker 1: Because I know you grew up in the church, right yes,
Speaker 1: was that when you you hit that rock bottom? Um
Speaker 1: you started going within you know spiritually? Is that when
Speaker 1: when you you know, because I mean we can have
Speaker 1: church right now, I can have church by myself, Like
Speaker 1: I don't necessarily need somebody else to tell me how
Speaker 1: they interpret the word as it pertains to my life,
Speaker 1: you know. Gota, yeah, you gotta make sure you're getting
Speaker 1: that information first in absolutely right, all right? Um, once
Speaker 1: I started back to doing my music and the church
Speaker 1: that I was going to in Atlanta got dispersed, everybody
Speaker 1: just left, you know. Um, I think I just started
Speaker 1: to follow what the pastor used to tell us. Anyways,
Speaker 1: even after I preach a word to y'all, go and
Speaker 1: make sure this is what God really said, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. So that was a test for me
Speaker 1: to say, Okay, that is gone, that crutch is gone.
Speaker 1: You can't go back to that co inside they were
Speaker 1: talking to me. So that's where it started happening. Being
Speaker 1: data that pastor. It was yeah, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: And I didn't mean that to him, but I'm just
Speaker 1: saying there was not nothing that I ever really wanted
Speaker 1: to do. And it just turned me off to see
Speaker 1: a lot of times being a certainly vincent just seeing
Speaker 1: how church people act, you know what I mean, Like
Speaker 1: this ain't what I could go home and take that
Speaker 1: ask off. Yeah, sometimes they don't go home to do it,
Speaker 1: know they they take their mask off in the church
Speaker 1: and be in the church. Absolutely, And it's not nothing
Speaker 1: against the church. But that's the let me just clear
Speaker 1: that up. It's just this is my walk, so I
Speaker 1: don't I don't choose to do that right now, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. He was to say, I might
Speaker 1: be church, you know what I mean, the right way though, Yeah,
Speaker 1: because if I if I could find somebody who's a
Speaker 1: real human being, like, I'll probably go to church. You know.
Speaker 1: I mean when I said real human human being, like
Speaker 1: stop acting like, just live your life, because I'm pretty
Speaker 1: sure God wants you to still live your life rightly.
Speaker 1: Sometimes people become so godly that they're not worldly anymore,
Speaker 1: and and then you can't relate to them. You said it,
Speaker 1: you said it earlier. You said everything in moderation. Because
Speaker 1: he never said we couldn't have a drink, you know,
Speaker 1: he turned water into you. Never said we couldn't do
Speaker 1: certain things that they don't. Don't poured in our heads
Speaker 1: growing up in church. We can't do this. You can't
Speaker 1: wear skirts, you can't wear jury, you can't really make
Speaker 1: up what that's not even nowhere in the Bible, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. So I look and look at
Speaker 1: those things. A lot of those things control women. Ask
Speaker 1: me what I'm saying women in particular. You gotta be
Speaker 1: careful with all religions because I mean, you have to
Speaker 1: take into consideration why it is that the word is
Speaker 1: focused that much on women, Because we are all a
Speaker 1: lot of power. Yeah, and some might say we are
Speaker 1: a god. So you're gonna the word is written by man.
Speaker 1: At the end of the day, it's written by man. Absolutely, Yeah.
Speaker 1: So I'm good. I'm good where I'm at. God is happy.
Speaker 1: With me, I don't think because when they preached how
Speaker 1: God's donna do, they're preaching out of the Old Testament,
Speaker 1: which they don't know. And we ain't living by law.
Speaker 1: We're living by grace right now, so you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. So right, he's not mad at me because
Speaker 1: I'm not going in the full ball right because what
Speaker 1: I'm doing, I can still bless somebody without being you know,
Speaker 1: saying church stuff. I can just sit and talk to
Speaker 1: somebody and say, God, bless you today or how are
Speaker 1: you doing that could bless because what they say, God
Speaker 1: is not dwelling and mad mean temple, no rights are
Speaker 1: blessed on which I'm music this song that you just
Speaker 1: you can bring somebody through a hard time and remind
Speaker 1: them that self love is the best love. Baby. That's
Speaker 1: God energy right there. Absolutely everybody is different how to
Speaker 1: use you in different ways. So this is where he
Speaker 1: used to me, and this is how I'm talking to
Speaker 1: him now. I don't need to go to the church
Speaker 1: and look how blessed you are. That's how it is,
Speaker 1: right now, That's what it is. Okay, hold that thought
Speaker 1: one second. Let's pay some bills so we have a segment, right,
Speaker 1: it's called dumb bitch stories are dumb bitch advice dumb
Speaker 1: bitch stories because we've all been a dumb bitch at
Speaker 1: least once or twice, so we actually have a dumb
Speaker 1: bitch story. You want to get your advice on that
Speaker 1: came in from a listener, but I want to know,
Speaker 1: we want to know do you have any dumb bitch
Speaker 1: stories you'd like to share? And not saying that you're
Speaker 1: a dumb bitch because oftentimes just this other person took
Speaker 1: advantage of a good person, right, that's what happens. Sometimes
Speaker 1: you end up the situations where you just you feel stupid,
Speaker 1: but hey, they're lost, So tell us the time. I
Speaker 1: know you got a story. Come on, now, everybody never
Speaker 1: has a story. A story. I have a story that
Speaker 1: I um was going to visit my boyfriend at the
Speaker 1: time and he said, the hotel room key is at
Speaker 1: the good front desks. Go get it and you see
Speaker 1: your name and I'll see you later. He was doing something.
Speaker 1: I went to the room that they may didn't clean
Speaker 1: the room, so the room was trashed as far as
Speaker 1: the bed was was occupied, yes, with underwear and a
Speaker 1: note on the side of the bed. Well it was
Speaker 1: a nice night. I had a great night. All of this,
Speaker 1: all of this in the bathroom. It was a tissue
Speaker 1: with um red. She made sure she wore red stick
Speaker 1: to wipe it off and put it in the trash.
Speaker 1: I asked him what it was, Oh, this, that's just
Speaker 1: my assistant guy, and I stayed after that. That was
Speaker 1: my dumb dumb dum And that wasn't the only time
Speaker 1: that happened. I know how that feel them. There's more
Speaker 1: time than that. I showed up to an event with
Speaker 1: him that same night, like, hey, m h, listen, girl,
Speaker 1: I've been there. But nigger, you stupid, like you're not
Speaker 1: gonna make sure the rule clean before And I feel
Speaker 1: like that's all we want. We just want you to
Speaker 1: like not let me find out if you aren't here
Speaker 1: doing some I should never ever know. But dogs leading
Speaker 1: shoot out for you to see cats covered up, and
Speaker 1: that's why they you got the bitch lipstick. Come on.
Speaker 1: Intuition will always let us know when something's not right,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Sometimes it's overthinking for some women,
Speaker 1: but to know, beep down in your heart with something right,
Speaker 1: you know it. And it depends on it depends on
Speaker 1: how you how you and that person are intimate, like
Speaker 1: let's just say, y'all are yeah, I said, I call
Speaker 1: it doing a nasty like without a condom. When you
Speaker 1: are connected with somebody in that way, you almost feel
Speaker 1: like what is happening? And I feel like they could
Speaker 1: feel it too. Anytime I try to creep is like
Speaker 1: my phone started blowing up all of a sudden, like god,
Speaker 1: damn happening. Then had that situation too. It's kind as
Speaker 1: strong as ours, though I don't think you know right,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna read this this dumb bitt story we got
Speaker 1: in from a listener. I don't know. It's kind of messy,
Speaker 1: but right, so um hi aj and tam bam. I'm
Speaker 1: messaging to get get your advice on the current situation.
Speaker 1: I'm in love with a man that could probably never
Speaker 1: be with me. When we met about a year ago,
Speaker 1: he told me he honestly, I'm sorry. When we met
Speaker 1: about a year ago, he told me honestly that he
Speaker 1: was married, but he and his wife had an arrangement. Basically,
Speaker 1: he does his thing and her the same. I have
Speaker 1: never been with the married man, but I gave myself
Speaker 1: permission because of how the situation was presented to me.
Speaker 1: They have two kids and a business they run together.
Speaker 1: I admit that I've been on some stalker ship and
Speaker 1: visited their business a time or five, but you're trying
Speaker 1: to get your ass killed too much, exactly. Um. The
Speaker 1: wife is usually there as he has a couple other
Speaker 1: businesses he runs. I have had conversations with his wife
Speaker 1: and she seems really nice. I really just wanted to
Speaker 1: see what she looked like initially. So here's my issue.
Speaker 1: I'm twelve weeks pregnant and when I I have mercenyesus girl.
Speaker 1: When I read this, I was like, what the fuck?
Speaker 1: All right, So here's my issue. I'm twelve weeks pregnant
Speaker 1: and when I shared the news with him, he was
Speaker 1: not enthusiastic about it at all. I'm thirty six and
Speaker 1: this would be my first child. I will admit that
Speaker 1: I did consider an abortion, but throughout all my relationships,
Speaker 1: I have never gotten pregnant. I never actually checked, but
Speaker 1: for the most part, I thought I couldn't have kids,
Speaker 1: and I thought I couldn't get pregnant. She says, Okay,
Speaker 1: so now it's happening, and I can't help but to
Speaker 1: feel that this is my one and only chance at motherhood.
Speaker 1: Um conversation. Conversations with him lately have been really dry.
Speaker 1: It's like he's not that interested. I still see him
Speaker 1: and we have sex maybe one or two times a week,
Speaker 1: but he literally acts as if I'm not pregnant. I
Speaker 1: really want to tell his wife, but I don't know
Speaker 1: how he'll act. What do y'all think I should do?
Speaker 1: She said, I'm completely capable of taking care of the
Speaker 1: child and raising the child on my own. I just
Speaker 1: never thought this would be my life at this age.
Speaker 1: I really like, God, damn, I can't read. What the
Speaker 1: hell I really feel like? I really feel like a
Speaker 1: stupid ass eighteen year old. I know this is some
Speaker 1: ship for therapy, but I feel a tiny bit better
Speaker 1: telling someone. Wait, did you say how old she was? Thirty? No?
Speaker 1: She says she felt like she's so no kids. This
Speaker 1: is her first time being pregnant. Tweet think. I just
Speaker 1: I would never tell nobody to abort any because the
Speaker 1: baby has nothing to do with it. You know what
Speaker 1: I mean? Pro choice? Uh, don't you know? Um, she's
Speaker 1: got herself in a pickle. Uh, hell of a pickle.
Speaker 1: Hell of a pickle. Uh, she's just gonna have to
Speaker 1: to listen. She put herself in this position, but she
Speaker 1: cannot destroy she's already kind of destroyed the family. Um.
Speaker 1: But it's not in her place to tell the wife anything.
Speaker 1: I don't think at this point. Yeah, let the let
Speaker 1: that man handle that. But I don't know if I'm
Speaker 1: right by saying this. But if he decides that he
Speaker 1: don't want to mess with her no more, then that's
Speaker 1: just the chance that she took and messing with a
Speaker 1: married man, you know what I mean. And just make
Speaker 1: sure he takes care of the baby. But at this
Speaker 1: point I was Scott even nothing with the man like that,
Speaker 1: And just make sure your child is number one priority.
Speaker 1: At this point, I just don't. I don't like that
Speaker 1: type of thing. That just my grid. Yeah, yeah, why
Speaker 1: you want to tell the wife after this? You don't
Speaker 1: want to tell right right? You want to go see
Speaker 1: you at the place of business and stuff? Come on, man,
Speaker 1: I want some shoes. Can I try it on the
Speaker 1: size eight like you and all of the business like
Speaker 1: going to see the w Yeah that's great, so dumb,
Speaker 1: you are really good. I mean I hate it for you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but there's nothing you can do or don't don't don't
Speaker 1: tell that wife. That's not your place, not like now
Speaker 1: you should can find out eventually, And I need more information,
Speaker 1: like what's your thought process? Why do you feel like
Speaker 1: you need to tell her the wife? Why do you
Speaker 1: feel like that that's your place? That's what I want
Speaker 1: to ask the listener. Why do you feel like it
Speaker 1: is your place to tell his wife? Yeah, because you're
Speaker 1: not getting the validation wants validation, right, because she's not
Speaker 1: getting the response she wants out of him. Which I
Speaker 1: don't see how you thought that he would be happy
Speaker 1: about this even though he you know, he told her
Speaker 1: like maybe they we're in an open relationship, like they
Speaker 1: do their thing right, but we only said that right.
Speaker 1: That might not even true. So should she punish him
Speaker 1: then for lying? Then? I don't know. I mean his
Speaker 1: wife should his wife? I just feel like that just
Speaker 1: oh god, that's so terrible. That's ah. Then he got
Speaker 1: a baby involved, I mean, you know that's kind of
Speaker 1: making worse. Definitely, she should definitely have her baby. Yes,
Speaker 1: I agree, there, keep your baby, but now gotta worry
Speaker 1: about him having these siblings where the mother of those
Speaker 1: siblings resists the child and don't want the child to
Speaker 1: come over and just all these ugly situations that that
Speaker 1: that will affect that baby. You know that sucks. We'll
Speaker 1: still keep that baby. Keep keep your legs close to
Speaker 1: married men. Man, you're a wife like me, and a
Speaker 1: wife yet, but you're gonna write into a wife like me,
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna beat your ass about my husband. I
Speaker 1: fight about a boyfriend, but I just might because to me,
Speaker 1: women keep cheating going. Your man cannot cheat. It wasn't
Speaker 1: somebody always willing to cheat with him. Yeah, but here's
Speaker 1: the thing. You you're not making him responsible for the
Speaker 1: vows everybody when you say that, you know everybody is
Speaker 1: responsible because the home record is the nid's in the
Speaker 1: home or the woman that's at home. So I'm not
Speaker 1: saying that they aren't responsible. But if the man makes
Speaker 1: the decision, because cheating is a a choice, So if
Speaker 1: you made a choice to leave out the house and
Speaker 1: go sleep with somebody else, it should be a woman
Speaker 1: that says, nah, you're married or no, I know, I
Speaker 1: know you got a baby. Especially like celebrities and stuff
Speaker 1: like that, you see these people's lives, you see who
Speaker 1: they're with, and then you still sleep with them, and
Speaker 1: then you want to expose them like it doesn't make
Speaker 1: sense to me, So you should get beat up. I'm sorry, yeah,
Speaker 1: on the beat up part. We took grown to be
Speaker 1: out here fighting women about our new Okay, then I'll
Speaker 1: pay somebody to beat that ass. She just randomly got
Speaker 1: beat coming out of Hope Foods. I don't know what happened.
Speaker 1: She can't get beat up. I have a breaknant woman.
Speaker 1: Get her right out a little, but I'm asked for
Speaker 1: about nine months. Okay, but this is probably He's never
Speaker 1: gonna be your man. Just know that he's never gonna
Speaker 1: leave his wife for you, right unless his wife says
Speaker 1: I'm done with the marriage, then maybe, But then he
Speaker 1: may regret that you even his fault too though, right,
Speaker 1: he gonna resent you then potentially mm hmmm. Yeah. So
Speaker 1: I'm sorry that you didn't know, because it wasn't your
Speaker 1: fault that you didn't know. Well you did, no, she
Speaker 1: did no, she knew that she knew what she signed
Speaker 1: up for. And this is just the consequences. You know,
Speaker 1: it's a situation, but that goes for all all our listeners.
Speaker 1: You out here fucking somebody, husband, you gotta suffer the
Speaker 1: consequences of what might come with that, and if it's
Speaker 1: a j husband, you might get your ass beat outside
Speaker 1: of her damn right, like boyfriends is fair game. But
Speaker 1: I spad God, if I get married my husband, everybody
Speaker 1: getting beat up. He getting beat up too, Like I
Speaker 1: don't really being for real, I'm gonna do something. I
Speaker 1: might put roots on your ass. I might put your
Speaker 1: ass in the freezing might I might put you your ice. Okay, hereful,
Speaker 1: we don't have a problem with my husband. That's sad.
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. So what's nae? Because I know I
Speaker 1: know you've done some uh some some acting. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: want to do more that I want. I would love
Speaker 1: to do mahogany um the Dina Ross movie over that's
Speaker 1: been I've been saying that for years. I would be
Speaker 1: love to do that. Um, doing more music, getting into
Speaker 1: more of the products, you know, like I want to
Speaker 1: do a hatline I've been doing. I'm saying that for years, yes, yea,
Speaker 1: and things like that, you know, clothing maybe you know,
Speaker 1: just other things and um, yeah, you could do it.
Speaker 1: That's so. One last question from me, what advice would
Speaker 1: you give women who are going through a heartbreak and
Speaker 1: there in the lowest place, what advice would you get there,
Speaker 1: I would say, because I've been there. I went through it,
Speaker 1: through the pandemic. So I would say, um, live in
Speaker 1: the moment of whatever emotion that is and let it move,
Speaker 1: go through it, you know what I mean, And so
Speaker 1: you can come through it, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: But do not allow whatever situation that got you here
Speaker 1: to make you feel like you are hard to love,
Speaker 1: that you're not value, that you're not special, that you're
Speaker 1: not I don't care what it feels like now, a month,
Speaker 1: I mean a year later or whatever. You don't be like,
Speaker 1: I don't know what I was thinking thinking, What was
Speaker 1: I thinking? So go through it, go through the fire,
Speaker 1: go through the pain, live through it. But as you
Speaker 1: can come out just as beautiful as you was when
Speaker 1: you got in there, it's gonna be more beautiful. So yeah,
Speaker 1: you're definitely gonna look back and he's gonna be so
Speaker 1: ugly to you. Is going to be like they what
Speaker 1: why are you even opening your mouth? Like what are
Speaker 1: you saying? Like he's not even gonna be able to
Speaker 1: see your couchie girl in a year, You're gonna get
Speaker 1: over it. Yeah, cry crying out, laughing out, talking about
Speaker 1: whatever that substance, the thing that you go to. But
Speaker 1: just go through it. God, you got to You got
Speaker 1: this too. Now. You know, women when they're going through stuff,
Speaker 1: they sit and they listen to tweets, they listen to marriage,
Speaker 1: they blige, they listen to all of hurt for music.
Speaker 1: I always say when I have kids, like, if I
Speaker 1: have a little girl, she can't listen to R and B.
Speaker 1: Like you can't listen to no style. You're gonna get
Speaker 1: you a man. He's gonna be great. But like when
Speaker 1: you hear like, do you think it's a subconscious thing.
Speaker 1: It's a subconscious something. When I tell her that, you
Speaker 1: better tell the truth. So when it does happen, because
Speaker 1: it will, right, Yeah, it's something. Somebody's gonna break your heart.
Speaker 1: That's what's gonna happen, you know. But when you prepare her,
Speaker 1: you won't be because I was naive as I don't
Speaker 1: know what coming from from the church. You know you're
Speaker 1: not supposed to do that. Yeah, you know nothing about it, y'all. Listen,
Speaker 1: I know now, and then it happens, you know, Yeah,
Speaker 1: prepare her. But the bullshit because the bullshit, Like I
Speaker 1: feel like families need to focus on raising boys more
Speaker 1: like everybody always focusing on women. All keep your legs,
Speaker 1: shout and do this and that don't look right. But
Speaker 1: we have to teach her the boys that little girls
Speaker 1: are special, so they don't spending a whole running through
Speaker 1: women and breaking hard, especially with the music, because some
Speaker 1: of the ship these rappers are saying in these songs
Speaker 1: towards women, but all balls. And then I'll be right
Speaker 1: the cub it's the it's the beat at the time, right,
Speaker 1: it's not the lyrics, it is the beat. And then
Speaker 1: I'm growing enough to have discernment. These young kids they
Speaker 1: don't under stand and that's why they here eating booty
Speaker 1: like groceries because they and I want to just say
Speaker 1: this right now for everybody listen, that's a dukie home.
Speaker 1: Don't put your friend salmonella poison. But you still gotta
Speaker 1: be careful because some of these dudes got salmonella on
Speaker 1: their things from having been a thing. Alright, And that's
Speaker 1: a whole another episode right there. Who trade show the
Speaker 1: moral story, y'all be careful. Man a man, We're really
Speaker 1: really enjoyed you tweet. I'm so happy, I am so
Speaker 1: thankful for coming on our show. Problems, I text all
Speaker 1: my friends, like, girl, I'm interviewed. Tweet to my girl. Yeah,
Speaker 1: everybody like they're jealous to us, look, one, you got
Speaker 1: one of the best boys like you. To me, you're underrated,
Speaker 1: Like you've got one of the best vote voices in
Speaker 1: the industry. Like I don't know what people are, but listen,
Speaker 1: I enjoy. Thank you so much. Please come back on
Speaker 1: the show when you drop your red wine. Please come back.
Speaker 1: Love to have the album. Yeah, I definitely would, thank you.
Speaker 1: I will. Okay, okay, thank you y'all. We got tweet on,
Speaker 1: we talked back. We appreciate you for coming. Thank you
Speaker 1: right