WEBVTT - Positively Gam: Tabitha Brown - Because That's Your Business 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:02.480 You know what I mean. And a lot of times 0:00:02.560 --> 0:00:05.400 I feel like you gotta just step back and let 0:00:05.440 --> 0:00:09.320 people figure out their own situation because that's their business. 0:00:11.600 --> 0:00:15.440 Always tell people this, listen to your body. Oh listen 0:00:15.440 --> 0:00:18.600 to me, Listen to your body, and if you don't, 0:00:19.000 --> 0:00:25.159 that's also your business. What's up, everybody? I'm Gammy and 0:00:25.239 --> 0:00:28.320 this is positively gam In this episode, we're going to 0:00:28.400 --> 0:00:32.440 be discussing embracing a career you didn't choose. Joining me 0:00:32.479 --> 0:00:38.360 today is actress, mom, motivational speaker, vegan food vogger boss, 0:00:38.440 --> 0:00:49.080 and Everybody's auntie Tabitha Brown. Hello there, So are you 0:00:49.120 --> 0:00:52.080 looking for like a raw inspired meals that you can 0:00:52.120 --> 0:00:56.440 eat for breakfast, lunch? Maybe a good snack? I got you. 0:00:56.840 --> 0:01:01.320 Let's make chopped red bill peppers, chopped purple in you, 0:01:01.600 --> 0:01:04.440 some chopped men and cucumber. Put it all in the bowl. 0:01:04.640 --> 0:01:07.080 Get some outside of the accord on there like so 0:01:07.240 --> 0:01:09.640 like that, get your little olive O. Okay, but you 0:01:09.760 --> 0:01:12.480 use whatever you want with this your business, okay. For 0:01:12.560 --> 0:01:15.280 those of my listeners who may not know Tabitha, she 0:01:15.440 --> 0:01:20.600 gained immense Internet popularity with her online video content, which 0:01:20.640 --> 0:01:26.600 incorporates veganism. Humor and motivational speaking. But Tabitha's original career 0:01:26.640 --> 0:01:29.240 plan was to be an actor. And I just want 0:01:29.280 --> 0:01:32.840 to tell you, Tabitha that my girlfriend Wendy was the 0:01:32.880 --> 0:01:35.120 one who termed me what to you originally because she 0:01:35.160 --> 0:01:38.000 said you gotta look her up on Instagram. She is 0:01:38.080 --> 0:01:42.960 so funny. So welcome to positively gam Tabitha. Thank you 0:01:43.040 --> 0:01:45.320 for having me, honey, and thank you Windy for looking 0:01:45.319 --> 0:01:48.240 out for your girls. I'm telling you, and she was 0:01:48.320 --> 0:01:51.720 absolutely right. You are such a personality. But you know, 0:01:51.800 --> 0:01:55.240 I read that you were inspired by Rudy on The 0:01:55.320 --> 0:01:58.160 Cosby Show. That's what made you want to get into 0:01:58.200 --> 0:02:01.440 an acting career. Get as a little girl. You know, 0:02:01.560 --> 0:02:03.160 I didn't know what it was to be an actor 0:02:03.200 --> 0:02:05.160 when I was five, right, And I'm from a small 0:02:05.200 --> 0:02:08.120 town in North Carolina. I've never seen acting. But I 0:02:08.120 --> 0:02:10.480 remember as a family every Thursday we would watch the 0:02:10.520 --> 0:02:13.679 Coffee Show and I remember telling my mom, I want 0:02:13.680 --> 0:02:15.720 to be Rudy's free and the ring the doorbell, Nick, 0:02:15.880 --> 0:02:19.080 and come in the house, you know, go and play 0:02:19.120 --> 0:02:20.880 with rude I said, no, I just want to go 0:02:21.040 --> 0:02:24.080 in the TV do my thing and then I'm gonna 0:02:24.120 --> 0:02:25.679 come home. I was trying to explain to her, I 0:02:25.720 --> 0:02:27.600 want to be an actor like Rude and that was 0:02:27.639 --> 0:02:30.720 my first introduction. But yeah, that's how I started. So 0:02:30.840 --> 0:02:33.760 tell me about your acting career journey, because you moved 0:02:33.760 --> 0:02:37.840 from North Carolina to l A. Right, I did that 0:02:37.960 --> 0:02:40.160 two times, but the first time don't really hunt because 0:02:40.200 --> 0:02:42.080 I didn't move to l A. You know, when I 0:02:42.120 --> 0:02:44.080 was in high school, I've always wanted to act my 0:02:44.240 --> 0:02:47.720 entire life. I always wanted and I remember my mama 0:02:47.760 --> 0:02:49.480 telling me. She said, you know, I know you want 0:02:49.480 --> 0:02:51.680 to be an actress, but you don't know anything about 0:02:51.880 --> 0:02:54.520 Nobody in our family were was actors as she was. 0:02:54.680 --> 0:02:56.800 But I also used to make clothes in high school. 0:02:57.080 --> 0:02:58.959 She was like that, you make clothes and you do that, well, 0:02:58.960 --> 0:03:00.960 why don't you go to school fashion design so you 0:03:00.960 --> 0:03:02.680 have something to fall back on that can help you 0:03:02.760 --> 0:03:04.800 pursue your dream. And it wasn't that she was trying to, 0:03:04.919 --> 0:03:07.680 you know, detour me. She just was going off what 0:03:07.760 --> 0:03:09.840 she knew, you know, And so I thought, well, that's 0:03:09.840 --> 0:03:11.400 a good idea. So I had got accepted to this 0:03:11.480 --> 0:03:14.760 college down in Miami International Fire North, So I went 0:03:14.919 --> 0:03:17.800 there when I graduated high school, and I remember I 0:03:17.880 --> 0:03:21.440 was there for the first semester. Then I woke up. 0:03:21.720 --> 0:03:24.040 It was a Wednesday night in the middle of the night, 0:03:24.840 --> 0:03:26.639 and all I can think about was I'm supposed to 0:03:26.639 --> 0:03:28.800 be an actress. I was like, school was going great, 0:03:28.840 --> 0:03:30.480 you know, I was part of and I had good 0:03:30.480 --> 0:03:33.120 grades and everything was good. But I'm supposed to be 0:03:33.120 --> 0:03:35.600 an actress. And I called my daddy and like one 0:03:35.640 --> 0:03:37.960 in the morning, woke came up. I said, there to listen, 0:03:38.200 --> 0:03:40.280 I'm there here wasting your money. You need to come 0:03:40.360 --> 0:03:43.120 get me. I'm supposed to be an actress and I'm 0:03:43.120 --> 0:03:45.280 a kid, a girl. He said, well, I gotta work 0:03:45.280 --> 0:03:47.120 at the meal on Friday. When I get off, I 0:03:47.240 --> 0:03:50.040 hear there because it was fourteen hour drive. He came 0:03:50.080 --> 0:03:52.360 to pick me up on Saturday morning, and when he came, 0:03:52.400 --> 0:03:54.440 I was like, Okay, now I gotta figure out how 0:03:54.480 --> 0:03:56.880 am I gonna get to this acting. And I was 0:03:56.920 --> 0:04:00.400 back in my hometown of Eden, and I decided to 0:04:00.440 --> 0:04:03.760 apply for Plumbia College in Chicago. Was thinking, oh, it's 0:04:03.760 --> 0:04:05.280 gonna be hit me and my mama flew out there 0:04:05.360 --> 0:04:07.440 felling over the school. Fell in love with Chicago because 0:04:07.440 --> 0:04:11.120 it was spring won't win them, and I was like, oh, 0:04:11.200 --> 0:04:14.000 now I'm about to go to school here. Two weeks 0:04:14.000 --> 0:04:16.760 before the time ago, I got the letters that said, oh, 0:04:17.120 --> 0:04:19.320 due to your financial aid from the school in Miami, 0:04:19.440 --> 0:04:22.520 we cannot your financial aide, so I couldn't go to school. 0:04:22.960 --> 0:04:24.560 So I just said, you know what. My mom had 0:04:24.560 --> 0:04:27.040 a friend that lived out there in California that had 0:04:27.080 --> 0:04:28.960 told me one time before, if you ever want to 0:04:29.040 --> 0:04:31.120 come to California, you could come and rent a room 0:04:31.160 --> 0:04:33.000 for me. And I thought, oh, I wondered if that 0:04:33.040 --> 0:04:36.760 lady still will allow that. I called her and she said, yeah, 0:04:36.960 --> 0:04:39.200 you're gonna come out here. So within two weeks I 0:04:39.240 --> 0:04:41.239 made that decision and I said, I'm gonna go to California. 0:04:41.279 --> 0:04:44.160 I'm just go to see my dreams. I'm nineteen. Now 0:04:44.240 --> 0:04:46.600 what lady and Tammany was she was crazy and she 0:04:46.680 --> 0:04:51.159 was gonna take out my money. She left that part out. 0:04:51.200 --> 0:04:56.240 Girl said nothing about that, all right, and I want 0:04:56.279 --> 0:04:58.039 in l A. I was down in Horns, down in 0:04:58.120 --> 0:05:00.479 Lagoona the gale. It was beautiful, but I won't know 0:05:00.480 --> 0:05:03.720 where in Hollywood. And my husband was my boyfriend at 0:05:03.720 --> 0:05:05.120 the time. So I had been out there for a 0:05:05.120 --> 0:05:07.599 couple of months and then his the plan was he 0:05:07.640 --> 0:05:09.599 was gonna move out and then we get our own place. 0:05:10.360 --> 0:05:12.440 I didn't tell him how bad it was, so when 0:05:12.440 --> 0:05:14.640 he got there, he said, this is crazy, but like 0:05:14.880 --> 0:05:17.360 taking all your money. We're in Orange Canty, you're working 0:05:17.400 --> 0:05:19.640 two jobs. You ain't doing nothing to where you could 0:05:19.640 --> 0:05:21.560 do no acting. We ain't even in l A or 0:05:21.640 --> 0:05:24.000 even close to it. We need to go back to 0:05:24.080 --> 0:05:28.240 North Carolina, save up for one year, then moved to 0:05:28.400 --> 0:05:30.400 l A where you can really pursue your dreams. And 0:05:30.480 --> 0:05:32.560 I thought, okay, that sounds like a good, you know, 0:05:32.680 --> 0:05:35.680 good good plan. So we ended up saving up and 0:05:35.720 --> 0:05:38.719 went back to North Carolina and the one year plan 0:05:39.120 --> 0:05:44.640 turned into five years, a baby, marriage, house calls, jobs, 0:05:44.720 --> 0:05:47.640 and a forgotten dream. If I got pregnant and had 0:05:47.680 --> 0:05:50.360 my door to after we moved back, I thought, man, 0:05:50.400 --> 0:05:52.800 I missed outing my opportunity. I can't pursue no acting 0:05:52.800 --> 0:05:56.320 now I got a baby. You know, from you stake 0:05:56.400 --> 0:06:00.360 your little regular life, and that's right. And so I 0:06:00.440 --> 0:06:04.080 literally believed that for a long time, and then one 0:06:04.160 --> 0:06:08.360 morning something shook my bed and woke me up, and 0:06:08.400 --> 0:06:10.600 it felt like I had had an earthquake in brienceburnerth 0:06:10.640 --> 0:06:13.760 Callina and I woke up and I heard a voice 0:06:13.760 --> 0:06:16.120 that sounded like thunder, and the boy said, this is 0:06:16.160 --> 0:06:18.920 not the life I planned for you. And it scared me, 0:06:19.360 --> 0:06:21.279 and I got on my knees and I started pringing. 0:06:21.320 --> 0:06:23.560 I said, now, Lord, I this is you speaking to me. 0:06:23.760 --> 0:06:25.960 I need you to show me a sign today. If not, 0:06:26.040 --> 0:06:28.159 I'm about to go admit myself into the hospital because 0:06:28.920 --> 0:06:34.200 I'm hearing stuff. And I told my husband what happened, 0:06:34.200 --> 0:06:35.760 and of course he thought I was a little losing 0:06:35.760 --> 0:06:37.479 it too. He was like, okay, I said, but I 0:06:37.480 --> 0:06:40.120 didn't ask the Lord to show be a signed today. 0:06:40.320 --> 0:06:42.159 And later the day, we were on our way to 0:06:42.240 --> 0:06:44.960 the mall and on the radio that DJs name was 0:06:44.960 --> 0:06:46.760 Buster Brown. He had a radio show that came on 0:06:46.839 --> 0:06:48.359 and said, Hey, I got a new TV show on 0:06:48.400 --> 0:06:50.720 the b I'm looking for a female co host and 0:06:50.760 --> 0:06:53.360 I'll be holding audition this girl out towards the cart up. 0:06:54.040 --> 0:06:56.000 I've been here five years and there was never ever 0:06:56.080 --> 0:06:58.400 an audition in Greensbury, North Carolina. And I told my 0:06:58.480 --> 0:07:01.720 husband that's my sign, that's my job. And I went 0:07:01.760 --> 0:07:05.200 to that obviously and I booked it. Wow, and I 0:07:05.240 --> 0:07:07.760 was like, you know what, it's time. Now, it's time, 0:07:07.800 --> 0:07:10.080 it's time to go. And I've been here ever since, 0:07:10.160 --> 0:07:14.520 and that's when I got here and started my journey 0:07:14.680 --> 0:07:17.720 into acting. But of course it didn't start as soon 0:07:17.760 --> 0:07:21.720 as I got here as I planned, of course. Yeah, yeah, yeah, 0:07:22.040 --> 0:07:24.080 Well let's let's jump ahead a little bit. Did you 0:07:24.120 --> 0:07:26.920 have any idea that the videos that you were posting 0:07:27.000 --> 0:07:30.400 online would go viral? Oh? Girl, No, I didn't even 0:07:30.440 --> 0:07:32.720 want to do videos. Like what even made you think 0:07:32.760 --> 0:07:36.400 about doing that? Well? I had, you know, I was 0:07:36.400 --> 0:07:38.000 sick for a year and a half. When I fell 0:07:38.040 --> 0:07:40.880 into depression and anxiety. I got to a place where 0:07:40.880 --> 0:07:43.320 I didn't believe God heard me anymore, right, I I 0:07:43.520 --> 0:07:45.160 And you know I grew up in the church. I'm 0:07:45.200 --> 0:07:47.520 a woman of faith. But I really was like, God, 0:07:47.560 --> 0:07:49.480 you brought me all the way this far, just the 0:07:49.560 --> 0:07:52.960 least be here. And I had had my coming to 0:07:53.080 --> 0:07:54.720 Jesus moment, it's what I call it. One day in 0:07:54.800 --> 0:07:57.720 my bathroom and I got in the mirror and I 0:07:57.760 --> 0:08:00.160 was really in searching my soul and I was like, 0:08:00.360 --> 0:08:02.280 they said, way, you can see that it's through your eyes. 0:08:02.560 --> 0:08:03.880 I don't know if it's because my eyes are so 0:08:03.920 --> 0:08:05.680 being a girl, it was right scary. When I got 0:08:05.720 --> 0:08:09.240 it in the mirror, I'm like, oh, Lord, But but 0:08:09.320 --> 0:08:11.320 I prayed and I told God, I said, God, you 0:08:11.400 --> 0:08:16.520 know I have been habitually praying, not believing what I prayed. 0:08:17.040 --> 0:08:19.720 But right now I'm giving my my final call to me. 0:08:20.680 --> 0:08:23.960 If you heal me, you can have me. And I 0:08:23.960 --> 0:08:25.880 won't try to do this like my way no more. 0:08:26.160 --> 0:08:29.040 I simply do whatever you ask of me. And I 0:08:29.160 --> 0:08:32.120 meant it that day, I really like left the old 0:08:32.200 --> 0:08:35.480 tab in the bathroom right. And about two weeks later, 0:08:35.520 --> 0:08:38.400 I had a dream. And in that dream at what 0:08:38.480 --> 0:08:40.160 you should also know about me is, ever since I 0:08:40.200 --> 0:08:42.679 was a little girl, I've always had dreams that come 0:08:42.760 --> 0:08:44.320 to past. My mom always said I had to give 0:08:44.400 --> 0:08:47.640 the dream. So in the stream, I saw myself on 0:08:47.679 --> 0:08:50.440 a TV show, like a show of some sort, and 0:08:50.520 --> 0:08:52.400 my hair was like a little short afro because I 0:08:52.400 --> 0:08:54.839 always wear my hair long and straight, because that's what 0:08:55.000 --> 0:08:57.280 my agents and stuff used to tell me. I always 0:08:57.400 --> 0:09:00.319 cover my accent because I was always told to. But 0:09:00.640 --> 0:09:03.760 in the stream, I was completely free. But I just 0:09:03.800 --> 0:09:06.440 had like a little sort of afro. But I was happy, 0:09:06.600 --> 0:09:08.520 and I woke up and I said, there, Lord, I'm 0:09:08.520 --> 0:09:10.520 not a disin. I'm not doing stand up because I 0:09:10.559 --> 0:09:11.839 used to go out and do stand up trying to 0:09:11.840 --> 0:09:14.920 get a TV show. Right, And I was like, but 0:09:15.000 --> 0:09:17.400 what was that revealed that to me? And I heard 0:09:17.400 --> 0:09:19.680 a voice and said, start doing videos. And I said, 0:09:19.760 --> 0:09:22.520 start doing videos. Oh no, Lord, you ain't talking to me. 0:09:22.720 --> 0:09:25.200 I'm literally my floord. Happened this conversation with God. And 0:09:25.280 --> 0:09:28.040 again he said start doing videos. I said, why would 0:09:28.040 --> 0:09:29.680 I do a video? He said, look, when you are 0:09:29.640 --> 0:09:32.760 out doing stand up trying to get a show, you 0:09:32.760 --> 0:09:35.840 would reach fifteen, maybe thirty people at night. You start 0:09:35.920 --> 0:09:38.319 doing videos, you reached thousands and minutes. And I said, 0:09:38.679 --> 0:09:40.280 but Lord, that's where I got you, because I ain't 0:09:40.280 --> 0:09:42.480 even got thousands of followers to reach your minute. So 0:09:42.559 --> 0:09:45.680 just don't even make no sense, right. And again he 0:09:45.720 --> 0:09:48.120 said start doing videos and I said, I'm not doing 0:09:48.760 --> 0:09:50.480 And he said, remember two weeks ago in the bathroom, 0:09:50.520 --> 0:09:53.400 he said, if I heal you, I can't you do 0:09:53.520 --> 0:09:55.760 whatever I asked. I said, Lord, hath Verston caught me 0:09:55.800 --> 0:09:58.400 on a bad day. But I did say that so 0:09:58.600 --> 0:10:00.920 to be obedient. And I was or doing videos. So 0:10:00.960 --> 0:10:03.680 when I first started doing videos, I would be a 0:10:03.720 --> 0:10:06.880 sit down comedian. It's like called myself because I would 0:10:06.880 --> 0:10:08.800 still be in my bed or sitting on my couch 0:10:09.160 --> 0:10:11.360 telling the same stories I would tell on stage when 0:10:11.400 --> 0:10:13.840 I was doing stand up, as a wife, as a mom. 0:10:13.920 --> 0:10:15.840 And then as time went on, I had ended up, 0:10:15.880 --> 0:10:18.400 you know, going vegan. The day that I decided I'm 0:10:18.400 --> 0:10:20.880 gonna be vegan, the same voice that I had heard 0:10:20.920 --> 0:10:23.319 that told me to start doing videos whispered in my 0:10:23.400 --> 0:10:25.360 ear and said, now tell people what you're eating. And 0:10:25.360 --> 0:10:28.559 I was like, oh God, you want me to do what? Lord? 0:10:28.760 --> 0:10:30.880 You want me to tell people what I'm eating? You know. 0:10:30.920 --> 0:10:33.599 I had also shaved off all my hair in this process, 0:10:33.640 --> 0:10:37.480 and I was really just trying to become free, you know, 0:10:38.520 --> 0:10:42.480 And yeah, it was crazy from a small town. Well, 0:10:43.280 --> 0:10:45.280 I want I want to interrupt you for one minute 0:10:45.280 --> 0:10:47.840 because you're talking about when you decided to go vegan. 0:10:48.320 --> 0:10:51.679 What made you decide to go vegan? I was sick, right, 0:10:51.720 --> 0:10:55.280 So when I was sick, I woke up in January 0:10:56.000 --> 0:10:57.520 and I had this headache in the back of my 0:10:57.559 --> 0:11:03.320 head and the headache rested there every single day for 0:11:03.440 --> 0:11:07.680 one year, in seven months, and it would not go away. 0:11:07.840 --> 0:11:10.800 It was accompanied by chronic pain throughout my body, chronic 0:11:10.880 --> 0:11:15.560 fatigue all when I walked what was happening, And it 0:11:15.640 --> 0:11:18.040 was pretty east like a light bulb for me. I 0:11:18.080 --> 0:11:22.600 started talking about all diseases and not have Yeah, you know, 0:11:23.160 --> 0:11:26.200 the same thing happened, well, not the same thing happened, 0:11:26.200 --> 0:11:29.520 but I was ill as well. I was ill as well. 0:11:29.600 --> 0:11:33.320 I had a hepatitis scene. And while I was going 0:11:33.400 --> 0:11:36.800 through one treatment program, you know, you're taking all of 0:11:36.800 --> 0:11:42.400 these medications that are really really you know, because it's 0:11:42.400 --> 0:11:45.880 a chemo theory. It's it's like it's like having a cancer, 0:11:46.000 --> 0:11:51.600 all right. And I remember that at one Christmas, my 0:11:51.720 --> 0:11:56.000 grandson who is vegan, well he was at the time. 0:11:56.040 --> 0:11:59.920 He's now I think considers himself vegetarian, but he was 0:12:00.320 --> 0:12:03.400 vegan back then, and he asked us to watch what 0:12:03.520 --> 0:12:07.680 the hell and And I'm telling you that had a 0:12:07.760 --> 0:12:11.520 profound effect on me as well. It was really really 0:12:11.880 --> 0:12:17.520 sick of seeking it and I right, yeah, both absolutely, 0:12:17.760 --> 0:12:19.960 I was the same, but it was it was that 0:12:20.080 --> 0:12:23.559 message for me because my mom died a of a 0:12:23.760 --> 0:12:26.640 ls A disease. They can't tell you what causes and 0:12:26.679 --> 0:12:29.760 there is no cure. My daddy just turned sixty nine 0:12:29.840 --> 0:12:33.679 last month, he's the oldest man ever living at sixty nine. 0:12:34.160 --> 0:12:38.120 And so disease is running the family, as I thought, right, 0:12:38.200 --> 0:12:40.960 But it's the eat habits that running the family. I 0:12:41.040 --> 0:12:48.520 went vegan in to two thousand, right, and I was 0:12:48.600 --> 0:12:53.280 living in Nevada at the time, so I went vegan there, 0:12:53.280 --> 0:12:54.920 and I just have to tell you, I just have 0:12:55.040 --> 0:12:58.199 to be honest, Tabitha. It was one of the hardest 0:12:58.280 --> 0:13:03.000 things to do because everything has eggs, everything has gluten, 0:13:03.120 --> 0:13:07.679 everything has dairy almost and it was just so challenging. 0:13:07.760 --> 0:13:09.640 Plus I was sick, so I didn't have a whole 0:13:09.720 --> 0:13:12.400 lot of energy to be and I don't like to cook, 0:13:12.480 --> 0:13:15.560 so let's just say that out front too. I was 0:13:15.600 --> 0:13:17.680 in a whole situation because I don't like to cook, 0:13:17.800 --> 0:13:19.959 so basically, and if we went out to eat, I 0:13:20.000 --> 0:13:25.960 was just getting a plate of vegetables and some mashed potatoes, right, 0:13:26.120 --> 0:13:28.920 And so it was really really boring. And then we 0:13:29.040 --> 0:13:32.400 ended up moving back to Maryland, and I was like, Okay, 0:13:32.480 --> 0:13:36.400 I'm not even gonna play this game with myself because Maryland, 0:13:36.400 --> 0:13:39.439 of course, is known for their seafood, and I love 0:13:39.640 --> 0:13:44.400 eating crabs like that is that is an event, that's 0:13:44.400 --> 0:13:48.480 a social event. You know, And I just wasn't gonna 0:13:48.520 --> 0:13:52.480 play the game. So then I went pesketarian. So I've 0:13:52.520 --> 0:13:56.640 been pesketarian for for many, many years now. But one 0:13:56.679 --> 0:13:59.880 thing I like about you is that you don't you 0:14:00.160 --> 0:14:05.360 don't try to force your eating style onto anybody else. 0:14:05.720 --> 0:14:09.840 If we decide that we're gonna have piece chicken. Because 0:14:09.880 --> 0:14:12.160 let me tell you something. A couple of weeks ago, 0:14:12.320 --> 0:14:15.520 I went to I don't know if if if people 0:14:15.520 --> 0:14:18.320 that are listening, no re read in our family, we 0:14:18.440 --> 0:14:23.080 have a blended family. And re Re is Will's first wife. 0:14:23.320 --> 0:14:27.560 Let me tell you, re Re gets down. She can cook. 0:14:28.040 --> 0:14:31.240 She can't cook for real. And I went over to 0:14:31.280 --> 0:14:33.400 her house the other day because she had let me 0:14:33.400 --> 0:14:36.200 tell you something, I stopped by. Then she had macaroni 0:14:36.280 --> 0:14:39.800 and cheese. She had as she had fried chicken. Then, 0:14:39.920 --> 0:14:42.280 let me tell you something. I can't remember the last 0:14:42.280 --> 0:14:45.360 time I had fried chicken. You hear me, I cannot remember, 0:14:45.640 --> 0:14:48.240 but I had it that day. I had that stuff 0:14:48.280 --> 0:14:52.000 looked so good. That chicken looks so Listen, and I said, 0:14:52.000 --> 0:14:54.040 you know what, I'm not gonna feel bad about myself. 0:14:54.280 --> 0:14:57.240 Grown Okay, I'm not gonna feel bad about And I said, yes, 0:14:57.360 --> 0:14:59.400 I had. I told Will, oh, yes, I had a 0:14:59.440 --> 0:15:08.200 piece of I check it at what now you do? 0:15:08.400 --> 0:15:11.680 Most of your videos? Most of them are on TikTok, right, 0:15:11.880 --> 0:15:14.520 because I don't even have it to TikTok account, Like 0:15:14.560 --> 0:15:17.120 I don't know anything about TikTok. No, you know, I 0:15:17.160 --> 0:15:21.320 just started on TikTok in March. But my my original 0:15:21.360 --> 0:15:25.760 platform is Facebook. I started uh Facebook in two seventeen 0:15:25.760 --> 0:15:27.720 when when God first told me to started doing videos. 0:15:28.000 --> 0:15:31.720 I would cook live in my kitchen on Facebook. It 0:15:31.720 --> 0:15:33.880 would be thirty people watching and I'd be like, Lord, 0:15:33.880 --> 0:15:36.400 you said, thousands of minutes where they're at God? And 0:15:37.560 --> 0:15:39.680 I was consistent. I did it every day, every day. 0:15:39.840 --> 0:15:41.640 But I was broke because I've been on disability for 0:15:41.680 --> 0:15:43.840 over a year. My savings was gone, and I was, 0:15:44.400 --> 0:15:46.800 you know, just struggling trying to figure it out. But 0:15:46.840 --> 0:15:48.520 I had started to feel better, and I so I 0:15:48.520 --> 0:15:52.400 told my husband. My husband is my partner, not my provider, right, 0:15:52.760 --> 0:15:55.440 And so I said, listen, I'm feeling better now. I 0:15:55.480 --> 0:15:58.000 need to get back out there and and start making 0:15:58.040 --> 0:16:01.000 some money. Started auditioning again. I said, So I'm gonna 0:16:01.040 --> 0:16:04.200 go drive Uber because I got a plan. I said, 0:16:04.280 --> 0:16:06.480 when I go out here and drive uber, I'm probably 0:16:06.480 --> 0:16:08.120 gonna get discovered in my car, and I'm gonna pick 0:16:08.200 --> 0:16:11.240 up the director of producer or cast exact that they're 0:16:11.280 --> 0:16:12.680 gonna love me, and I'm gonna just call you from 0:16:12.720 --> 0:16:16.200 the set. That's literally what I thought, right, And so 0:16:16.280 --> 0:16:19.400 I was dropping somebody all by a Whole Foods on 0:16:19.520 --> 0:16:22.360 December thirty of the twenty seventeen. You know, I'm still 0:16:22.400 --> 0:16:24.120 just a couple of months into my Beagon journey at 0:16:24.160 --> 0:16:26.280 that point, and Whole Foods always got bigan options. So 0:16:26.280 --> 0:16:27.960 I was like, I'm gonna go ahead, give me some breakfast. 0:16:28.160 --> 0:16:29.880 And I went in there and got a sandwich and 0:16:30.120 --> 0:16:32.360 it was called a t T l A. It's like 0:16:32.400 --> 0:16:34.720 a beacon bacon sandwich that I had never had that before. 0:16:34.760 --> 0:16:36.880 I said, a beacon bacon girl. Yeah, let me get 0:16:36.920 --> 0:16:43.280 there to add a pickle, babe. I come to you 0:16:43.360 --> 0:16:46.280 real quick, honey, real quick. I stopped the Whole food 0:16:46.440 --> 0:16:48.360 now I know they'd be having some vegan options. They 0:16:48.400 --> 0:16:50.600 got a tee teeth in l A and that's a 0:16:50.680 --> 0:16:54.520 tempting bacon, tomato, lettuce and avocado sandle. Yeah. When I 0:16:54.600 --> 0:16:56.400 tell you, I told me, I said, I'm gonna eat 0:16:56.440 --> 0:16:59.720 half now and half late. Honey, I gotta take another 0:16:59.760 --> 0:17:05.200 bite just so y'all can see. Lord have mercy North 0:17:05.520 --> 0:17:12.600 sing but this the baby's sing old food. But I 0:17:12.640 --> 0:17:15.280 get home terminifications on honey, and my phone was going 0:17:15.320 --> 0:17:18.200 off like an amber alert. I was like, what what's 0:17:18.200 --> 0:17:21.240 going on? In The video had over uh like fifty 0:17:21.240 --> 0:17:24.000 thousand views, and I was like, who was watching this? 0:17:24.880 --> 0:17:31.760 Facebook is where I first went Bible January, and that's 0:17:31.760 --> 0:17:34.320 where my audience started growing. So I had from that day. 0:17:34.359 --> 0:17:36.720 He was always thousands of people watching in minutes, and 0:17:37.200 --> 0:17:39.560 my videos would always get millions of views on Facebook 0:17:39.760 --> 0:17:42.240 for the last two years. That's that was my my 0:17:42.280 --> 0:17:45.280 original fan base and platform. And I just got on 0:17:45.280 --> 0:17:49.040 TikTok in March of this year. Okay, so yeah, so 0:17:49.119 --> 0:17:53.199 that's not really what you had planned for yourself, but 0:17:53.240 --> 0:17:55.639 it kind of worked out. And I can relate to 0:17:55.680 --> 0:17:58.560 that as well because I'm a nurse by training and 0:17:58.640 --> 0:18:03.280 so I've been nursed thing since. And then I had 0:18:03.320 --> 0:18:08.760 to kind of retire because Jada needed me to help 0:18:08.760 --> 0:18:12.200 her with children. Because every time when they were doing 0:18:12.359 --> 0:18:16.520 films wherever Will was working, we packed up the whole 0:18:16.560 --> 0:18:19.760 family and we went with him to do this film. 0:18:19.800 --> 0:18:22.080 It really really started for me when I really had 0:18:22.119 --> 0:18:26.960 to just retire for real was when she got Matrix 0:18:27.000 --> 0:18:30.120 and we had to move to Australia and we were 0:18:30.160 --> 0:18:32.199 in Australia for like a year and a half. So 0:18:32.280 --> 0:18:37.160 I totally understand, like, that was not what I envisioned 0:18:37.200 --> 0:18:40.800 for myself, but that's exactly what I ended up having 0:18:40.800 --> 0:18:43.639 to do. And then, of course now I've landed here, 0:18:44.080 --> 0:18:46.879 which is, you know, not something that I saw for myself, 0:18:46.880 --> 0:18:51.359 but certainly a blessing. So how how have you settled 0:18:51.440 --> 0:18:56.320 into this, this career of yours right now? Because it's huge? 0:18:57.040 --> 0:19:01.080 How do you feel about that? Blessed? I'm very grateful 0:19:01.320 --> 0:19:03.200 and and now I'm very much so a lot like you. 0:19:03.280 --> 0:19:06.040 And the fact that it definitely was not my plan. 0:19:06.200 --> 0:19:09.879 I never ever wanted to do anything for food ever. 0:19:10.040 --> 0:19:12.600 I like to eat, I like to cook for my family, 0:19:12.920 --> 0:19:15.400 but me cooking it was never a part of my plan. 0:19:15.480 --> 0:19:16.840 That's how, you know, God got a sense of human 0:19:16.880 --> 0:19:18.600 He be like, oh, you think you're going to be okay, 0:19:18.600 --> 0:19:22.760 I'm gonna show you right. Yeah, And so it feels 0:19:23.320 --> 0:19:27.720 amazing because of the responses I get. You know, I 0:19:27.800 --> 0:19:31.359 have helped thousands and thousands of people that I would 0:19:31.400 --> 0:19:35.680 never meet, and to know that my purpose is greater 0:19:35.760 --> 0:19:40.240 than just me being here. It's to help others. And 0:19:40.400 --> 0:19:43.199 I've always loved to perform, and I still do, but 0:19:43.320 --> 0:19:46.560 to be able to have a purpose on my life, 0:19:47.480 --> 0:19:49.840 it's just, you know, I feel like this is where 0:19:49.880 --> 0:19:52.159 I was supposed to be all alone, even though it 0:19:52.200 --> 0:19:55.720 wasn't my plan, but it opened the doors to my dreams. 0:19:55.960 --> 0:19:58.879 And speaking of your husband and your your family, and 0:19:59.040 --> 0:20:02.840 you are now are doing videos with your family, what 0:20:02.880 --> 0:20:06.120 does that? You know? My family, they're my foundation, right 0:20:06.359 --> 0:20:09.480 and so I don't exist without them. They are part 0:20:09.520 --> 0:20:12.320 of me. So when last year with my daughter graduated 0:20:12.400 --> 0:20:13.800 high school, she told me she didn't want to go 0:20:13.840 --> 0:20:17.239 to college and she really didn't like school. And so 0:20:17.359 --> 0:20:19.280 she said, you don't want to be an entertainment I 0:20:19.320 --> 0:20:22.160 want to be you know, modeling and all these things. 0:20:22.160 --> 0:20:24.960 And I said, okay, well listen and she scorgeous by 0:20:25.040 --> 0:20:27.800 the way, she looks just like you. Yeah she does. 0:20:27.840 --> 0:20:32.199 She's beautiful, thank you. And so I just told her, 0:20:32.200 --> 0:20:34.560 I said, well, look all right, I don't believe in 0:20:34.680 --> 0:20:38.320