Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys
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Speaker 2: Sella is on the phone today for a first date
Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Callum.
Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we'll call him and see
Speaker 2: if you'll tell us why he's ghostinger and maybe get
Speaker 2: her a second date. But first, Bella, how long has
Speaker 2: it been since you heard from Callum?
Speaker 3: About a week?
Speaker 1: Okay, have you guys, have you reached out to him
Speaker 1: at all?
Speaker 4: Yeah, I've been texting and like trying to set up
Speaker 4: the second date, but I'm getting nothing.
Speaker 1: Okay, Well, why don't you tell us about the date?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 4: So, I mean, like we had a good time. I
Speaker 4: thought he was genuinely just like a funny guy, just kind. Right,
Speaker 4: it's hard to come by, just like a good kind guy,
Speaker 4: not the ones that are like flexing and sending me, like,
Speaker 4: you know, pictures that I don't want to see.
Speaker 3: And we had a nice I mean it is hard.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know, it's a when you don't get an
Speaker 1: unsolicited package, fair, I don't want to all right, So
Speaker 1: he's not being a creep. That's great.
Speaker 3: We had like a cute date.
Speaker 4: Right, it was like a weak night kind of like
Speaker 4: Ramen and craft Beers and like a little lot spot downtown.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 4: He had like a good you know voice, and he
Speaker 4: just made everything sound cooler. And I'm a big humor person.
Speaker 4: If they're not funny, like I just can't do it.
Speaker 4: And he had the perfect sense of dry humor. And
Speaker 4: he also was like engaging, you know, asking thoughtful questions.
Speaker 1: Okay, that sounds awesome, But what do you think could
Speaker 1: have been the problem?
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 4: Like, so when I get nervous, like especially i'm excited,
Speaker 4: which obviously I was, I tend to, like you know,
Speaker 4: my stutter.
Speaker 3: Comes out a little bit. And I was ordering and
Speaker 3: I was like, you know, at the ramin, I'm like, hey,
Speaker 3: could I have some extra chili oil?
Speaker 4: So the leader yeah, ok the waters Yeah, the ways
Speaker 4: that I was joking, so I like panic.
Speaker 3: And just kind of like over explain the whole thing.
Speaker 1: Okay, but like somebody can't go see over that? Do
Speaker 1: you think that's really why?
Speaker 4: I honestly have no idea. I mean we had good conversations.
Speaker 4: Like I said, you know, he had me laughing. There
Speaker 4: was definitely chemistry, so I just you know, I'm not
Speaker 4: sure you know why he's doing this.
Speaker 1: Okay, Well, how did the date end?
Speaker 4: We had like a super like long wingering like hug
Speaker 4: so I think we both enjoyed it, but like there
Speaker 4: was nothing like that let me leave, like he didn't
Speaker 4: want to see me again or talk to me again.
Speaker 1: Well, how did he react when you were getting all
Speaker 1: nervous and stuff?
Speaker 4: He just kind of like looked away, Like I guess
Speaker 4: you didn't know like how to deal with it.
Speaker 2: Okay, So you think it was that awkward where that
Speaker 2: is the reason that he might be ghosting you.
Speaker 4: Yeah, honestly, Like I guess it's like I'm super sensitive
Speaker 4: about it. So it just seems like a little too familiar,
Speaker 4: like it happened before, right, Like guys, you're like, oh.
Speaker 3: You're super cute, but you know it's like too much
Speaker 3: when I started.
Speaker 1: But I signed, all right, Well, we'll see if we
Speaker 1: can figure it out for you.
Speaker 2: We'll play a song, come back, and then call him
Speaker 2: and see if I'll tell us why he's ghosting you
Speaker 2: and maybe get you a second date. Okay, I would
Speaker 2: love that. All right, we'll get your first day follow
Speaker 2: up next. If you're just joining us for today's first date.
Speaker 2: Follow up, Bella is on the phone and she's getting
Speaker 2: ghosted by a dude named Callum. So in a few seconds,
Speaker 2: we're gonna call him and see if I'll tell us
Speaker 2: why he's ghostinger and maybe get her a second date.
Speaker 2: But before we do that, Bella, why don't you break
Speaker 2: down your situation for us again real quick?
Speaker 4: So I met this super cute guy on Mona dating
Speaker 4: apps and we hit it off. I thought the only
Speaker 4: thing that I could maybe give the reason why you're
Speaker 4: not calling me back is because I have like a
Speaker 4: little bit of a stutter, might get excited.
Speaker 1: I really hope that's not right.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that would suck if that's the reason. All right,
Speaker 2: are you ready for us to call him?
Speaker 3: Yeah, let's do it. I want to know.
Speaker 2: Okay, here we go. Hello, Hi, I'm asweaking to Callum please? Hey, Callum?
Speaker 1: How are you? This is a radio show. It's called
Speaker 1: the Jewbil Show. Hi, Callum. I'm Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria
Speaker 1: and my name is Juble. What's up?
Speaker 3: Hey?
Speaker 5: How's it going good?
Speaker 1: Have you ever listened to the show before?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, oh cool? Thank you? Yeah, I appreciate it. Man. Well,
Speaker 1: guess what, callum? Do you know what a first day
Speaker 1: follow up is?
Speaker 5: I do?
Speaker 1: All right, Well, that's why we're on the phone.
Speaker 5: You know.
Speaker 2: That's the segment where if you go out on a
Speaker 2: date with somebody and you end up posting them, that
Speaker 2: person can email us to call you and ask why
Speaker 2: you're ghosting? And we got an email about you from somebody?
Speaker 5: Okay, any idea that I can guess? Maybe go ahead,
Speaker 5: take a guess.
Speaker 1: I'll tell you if you're right.
Speaker 5: Uh? Is her name Bella?
Speaker 1: Yes it is. We talked to Bella about your date.
Speaker 2: She said she really liked you, but doesn't know why
Speaker 2: you're ghosting? Or can you tell us?
Speaker 5: Oh? Yeah, I'm ghosting every to Mike Mike.
Speaker 1: Who's Mike?
Speaker 5: Mike? Uh? I mean every story she started with Mike?
Speaker 5: This Mike that?
Speaker 6: I mean after a while, I felt like I was
Speaker 6: the third wheel on the date with Mike.
Speaker 2: Who is Mike? Did she say who Mike is? Or
Speaker 2: you start about random person named Mike?
Speaker 5: Just a random person named Mike. I sew a friend,
Speaker 5: but I mean cheer.
Speaker 1: Up a lot, so you don't really even know who
Speaker 1: Mike is?
Speaker 5: Not really? It was featuring very heavily in the conversation,
Speaker 5: like much more.
Speaker 6: So than the typical friend. And I guess, I mean
Speaker 6: it was Mike, so I should try this Robin place.
Speaker 6: Mike taught me how to use topsticks. Mike, things all
Speaker 6: look good and green. I mean, just NonStop.
Speaker 1: And you never asked who Mike was.
Speaker 6: I mean I didn't ask her to, you know, explain it.
Speaker 6: I wasn't trying to, like, you know, make a big
Speaker 6: deal about it.
Speaker 5: Maybe, but I mean it was.
Speaker 6: It was pretty obnoxious the time dessert dessert came, you know,
Speaker 6: I was like, she might be paying for this.
Speaker 1: Wait, so did it sound like Mike was somebody she
Speaker 1: was dating.
Speaker 3: I didn't know. I think you were that insecure.
Speaker 1: Oh hey, callum, that's Bella. She's actually on the phone.
Speaker 3: You go through me over Mike.
Speaker 6: Oh yeah, I forgot she'd be on the phone.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you go through me over Mike.
Speaker 5: I mean you made it so like your very personal
Speaker 5: on earth.
Speaker 3: He's literally just my friend. I was nervous, and I
Speaker 3: just like was talking too much.
Speaker 5: That's all you said. Quote.
Speaker 6: If Mike were here, he knew exactly how to fix
Speaker 6: this chopstick splinter. I didn't know whether to laugh or
Speaker 6: to ask if Mike wanted to be plus one. I mean,
Speaker 6: it was awkward.
Speaker 5: It was weird.
Speaker 3: You could have asked me who he was instead you
Speaker 3: like lead to.
Speaker 5: It was.
Speaker 6: I mean, it's pretty obvious that you were, like, really,
Speaker 6: you're really into him. I mean, I I was just
Speaker 6: curious as I'm wondering why it was coming up at
Speaker 6: all in a date.
Speaker 5: But I mean, I mean he's very super sick. He
Speaker 5: fixes your attire. Yeah, that's great. I'm happy for you.
Speaker 5: I mean, it's just are you sure there's nothing more?
Speaker 4: I mean, you know good, Yeah, actually he is. He's
Speaker 4: just a good person. And I was just kind of,
Speaker 4: you know, one of you're nervous on a date. He's
Speaker 4: going to talk about people, and he's one of my people.
Speaker 1: It sounds like he is your person.
Speaker 5: Well, I mean to me, that's kind of what it's
Speaker 5: like to me. I don't know. I just wasn't really
Speaker 5: over the top for a first date.
Speaker 3: I mean, okay, well, and Mike wouldn't ghost me like
Speaker 3: you did.
Speaker 6: Uh see. I mean that's what I'm talking about. You're
Speaker 6: comparing me to Mike. I mean, isn't isn't that kind
Speaker 6: of weird?
Speaker 3: It's it's not a competition.
Speaker 6: I mean, I don't think it's a competition. It's just
Speaker 6: a matter of what you're choosing to talk about on
Speaker 6: a first date. I mean, if I sat there and
Speaker 6: talked about another woman the entire time, I'm sure that
Speaker 6: you would have had some kind of issue with that.
Speaker 3: Let me know, you didn't text me back.
Speaker 4: You could have texted me back and said, hey, you
Speaker 4: know it kind of put me off a little bit,
Speaker 4: and we could have talked about it.
Speaker 5: Why so you can tell me more about Mike. You're
Speaker 5: not going to get rid of this or you, so,
Speaker 5: so let me ask it to me really quick. Have
Speaker 5: you have you ever slept in Mike?
Speaker 3: Okay, this was like ten years ago one time.
Speaker 1: So yeah, it was a mistake.
Speaker 3: We're just struck.
Speaker 5: Well now I'm picturing if we're doing that, you're thinking
Speaker 5: Mike would do it this way, might do it that way?
Speaker 3: WHOA?
Speaker 1: Oh no, okay, Alan, would you like another day with Bella?
Speaker 1: Won't pay for it?
Speaker 5: Yeah? I don't think. No, Mike's already won this one.
Speaker 5: I can agree with that.
Speaker 4: Guy.
Speaker 3: I told you it wasn't a competition.
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's fine, But I mean the second day for me.
Speaker 3: Good luck whatever, I'm gonna go call Mike and see
Speaker 3: what he thinks about that.
Speaker 1: Oh, would you first date?
Speaker 4: Fallow up