WEBVTT - Bella & Callum - When Your First Date Turns Into a Third Wheel Situation

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<v Speaker 1>First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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<v Speaker 1>online at advocatesla dot com.

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<v Speaker 2>Sella is on the phone today for a first date

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<v Speaker 2>follow up and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Callum.

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<v Speaker 2>So in a few minutes we'll call him and see

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<v Speaker 2>if you'll tell us why he's ghostinger and maybe get

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<v Speaker 2>her a second date. But first, Bella, how long has

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<v Speaker 2>it been since you heard from Callum?

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<v Speaker 3>About a week?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, have you guys, have you reached out to him

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<v Speaker 1>at all?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I've been texting and like trying to set up

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<v Speaker 4>the second date, but I'm getting nothing.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Well, why don't you tell us about the date?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 4>So, I mean, like we had a good time. I

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<v Speaker 4>thought he was genuinely just like a funny guy, just kind. Right,

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<v Speaker 4>it's hard to come by, just like a good kind guy,

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<v Speaker 4>not the ones that are like flexing and sending me, like,

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<v Speaker 4>you know, pictures that I don't want to see.

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<v Speaker 3>And we had a nice I mean it is hard.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I know, it's a when you don't get an

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<v Speaker 1>unsolicited package, fair, I don't want to all right, So

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<v Speaker 1>he's not being a creep. That's great.

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<v Speaker 3>We had like a cute date.

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<v Speaker 4>Right, it was like a weak night kind of like

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<v Speaker 4>Ramen and craft Beers and like a little lot spot downtown.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay.

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<v Speaker 4>He had like a good you know voice, and he

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<v Speaker 4>just made everything sound cooler. And I'm a big humor person.

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<v Speaker 4>If they're not funny, like I just can't do it.

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<v Speaker 4>And he had the perfect sense of dry humor. And

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<v Speaker 4>he also was like engaging, you know, asking thoughtful questions.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, that sounds awesome, But what do you think could

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<v Speaker 1>have been the problem?

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 4>Like, so when I get nervous, like especially i'm excited,

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<v Speaker 4>which obviously I was, I tend to, like you know,

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<v Speaker 4>my stutter.

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<v Speaker 3>Comes out a little bit. And I was ordering and

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, you know, at the ramin, I'm like, hey,

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<v Speaker 3>could I have some extra chili oil?

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<v Speaker 4>So the leader yeah, ok the waters Yeah, the ways

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<v Speaker 4>that I was joking, so I like panic.

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<v Speaker 3>And just kind of like over explain the whole thing.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, but like somebody can't go see over that? Do

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<v Speaker 1>you think that's really why?

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<v Speaker 4>I honestly have no idea. I mean we had good conversations.

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<v Speaker 4>Like I said, you know, he had me laughing. There

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<v Speaker 4>was definitely chemistry, so I just you know, I'm not

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<v Speaker 4>sure you know why he's doing this.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Well, how did the date end?

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<v Speaker 4>We had like a super like long wingering like hug

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<v Speaker 4>so I think we both enjoyed it, but like there

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<v Speaker 4>was nothing like that let me leave, like he didn't

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<v Speaker 4>want to see me again or talk to me again.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, how did he react when you were getting all

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<v Speaker 1>nervous and stuff?

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<v Speaker 4>He just kind of like looked away, Like I guess

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<v Speaker 4>you didn't know like how to deal with it.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, So you think it was that awkward where that

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<v Speaker 2>is the reason that he might be ghosting you.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, honestly, Like I guess it's like I'm super sensitive

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<v Speaker 4>about it. So it just seems like a little too familiar,

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<v Speaker 4>like it happened before, right, Like guys, you're like, oh.

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<v Speaker 3>You're super cute, but you know it's like too much

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<v Speaker 3>when I started.

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<v Speaker 1>But I signed, all right, Well, we'll see if we

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<v Speaker 1>can figure it out for you.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll play a song, come back, and then call him

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<v Speaker 2>and see if I'll tell us why he's ghosting you

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<v Speaker 2>and maybe get you a second date. Okay, I would

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<v Speaker 2>love that. All right, we'll get your first day follow

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<v Speaker 2>up next. If you're just joining us for today's first date.

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<v Speaker 2>Follow up, Bella is on the phone and she's getting

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<v Speaker 2>ghosted by a dude named Callum. So in a few seconds,

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<v Speaker 2>we're gonna call him and see if I'll tell us

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<v Speaker 2>why he's ghostinger and maybe get her a second date.

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<v Speaker 2>But before we do that, Bella, why don't you break

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<v Speaker 2>down your situation for us again real quick?

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<v Speaker 4>So I met this super cute guy on Mona dating

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<v Speaker 4>apps and we hit it off. I thought the only

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<v Speaker 4>thing that I could maybe give the reason why you're

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<v Speaker 4>not calling me back is because I have like a

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<v Speaker 4>little bit of a stutter, might get excited.

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<v Speaker 1>I really hope that's not right.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that would suck if that's the reason. All right,

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<v Speaker 2>are you ready for us to call him?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, let's do it. I want to know.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, here we go. Hello, Hi, I'm asweaking to Callum please? Hey, Callum?

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<v Speaker 1>How are you? This is a radio show. It's called

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<v Speaker 1>the Jewbil Show. Hi, Callum. I'm Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria

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<v Speaker 1>and my name is Juble. What's up?

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<v Speaker 3>Hey?

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<v Speaker 5>How's it going good?

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<v Speaker 1>Have you ever listened to the show before?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, oh cool? Thank you? Yeah, I appreciate it. Man. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>guess what, callum? Do you know what a first day

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<v Speaker 1>follow up is?

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<v Speaker 5>I do?

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<v Speaker 1>All right, Well, that's why we're on the phone.

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<v Speaker 5>You know.

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<v Speaker 2>That's the segment where if you go out on a

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<v Speaker 2>date with somebody and you end up posting them, that

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<v Speaker 2>person can email us to call you and ask why

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<v Speaker 2>you're ghosting? And we got an email about you from somebody?

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, any idea that I can guess? Maybe go ahead,

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<v Speaker 5>take a guess.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll tell you if you're right.

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<v Speaker 5>Uh? Is her name Bella?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes it is. We talked to Bella about your date.

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<v Speaker 2>She said she really liked you, but doesn't know why

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<v Speaker 2>you're ghosting? Or can you tell us?

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<v Speaker 5>Oh? Yeah, I'm ghosting every to Mike Mike.

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<v Speaker 1>Who's Mike?

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<v Speaker 5>Mike? Uh? I mean every story she started with Mike?

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<v Speaker 5>This Mike that?

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<v Speaker 6>I mean after a while, I felt like I was

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<v Speaker 6>the third wheel on the date with Mike.

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<v Speaker 2>Who is Mike? Did she say who Mike is? Or

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<v Speaker 2>you start about random person named Mike?

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<v Speaker 5>Just a random person named Mike. I sew a friend,

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<v Speaker 5>but I mean cheer.

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<v Speaker 1>Up a lot, so you don't really even know who

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<v Speaker 1>Mike is?

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<v Speaker 5>Not really? It was featuring very heavily in the conversation,

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<v Speaker 5>like much more.

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<v Speaker 6>So than the typical friend. And I guess, I mean

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<v Speaker 6>it was Mike, so I should try this Robin place.

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<v Speaker 6>Mike taught me how to use topsticks. Mike, things all

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<v Speaker 6>look good and green. I mean, just NonStop.

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<v Speaker 1>And you never asked who Mike was.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean I didn't ask her to, you know, explain it.

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<v Speaker 6>I wasn't trying to, like, you know, make a big

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<v Speaker 6>deal about it.

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<v Speaker 5>Maybe, but I mean it was.

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<v Speaker 6>It was pretty obnoxious the time dessert dessert came, you know,

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<v Speaker 6>I was like, she might be paying for this.

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<v Speaker 1>Wait, so did it sound like Mike was somebody she

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<v Speaker 1>was dating.

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't know. I think you were that insecure.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh hey, callum, that's Bella. She's actually on the phone.

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<v Speaker 3>You go through me over Mike.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh yeah, I forgot she'd be on the phone.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you go through me over Mike.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean you made it so like your very personal

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<v Speaker 5>on earth.

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<v Speaker 3>He's literally just my friend. I was nervous, and I

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<v Speaker 3>just like was talking too much.

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<v Speaker 5>That's all you said. Quote.

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<v Speaker 6>If Mike were here, he knew exactly how to fix

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<v Speaker 6>this chopstick splinter. I didn't know whether to laugh or

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<v Speaker 6>to ask if Mike wanted to be plus one. I mean,

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<v Speaker 6>it was awkward.

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<v Speaker 5>It was weird.

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<v Speaker 3>You could have asked me who he was instead you

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<v Speaker 3>like lead to.

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<v Speaker 5>It was.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean, it's pretty obvious that you were, like, really,

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<v Speaker 6>you're really into him. I mean, I I was just

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<v Speaker 6>curious as I'm wondering why it was coming up at

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<v Speaker 6>all in a date.

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<v Speaker 5>But I mean, I mean he's very super sick. He

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<v Speaker 5>fixes your attire. Yeah, that's great. I'm happy for you.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, it's just are you sure there's nothing more?

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, you know good, Yeah, actually he is. He's

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<v Speaker 4>just a good person. And I was just kind of,

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<v Speaker 4>you know, one of you're nervous on a date. He's

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<v Speaker 4>going to talk about people, and he's one of my people.

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<v Speaker 1>It sounds like he is your person.

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<v Speaker 5>Well, I mean to me, that's kind of what it's

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<v Speaker 5>like to me. I don't know. I just wasn't really

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<v Speaker 5>over the top for a first date.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, okay, well, and Mike wouldn't ghost me like

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<v Speaker 3>you did.

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<v Speaker 6>Uh see. I mean that's what I'm talking about. You're

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<v Speaker 6>comparing me to Mike. I mean, isn't isn't that kind

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<v Speaker 6>of weird?

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<v Speaker 3>It's it's not a competition.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean, I don't think it's a competition. It's just

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<v Speaker 6>a matter of what you're choosing to talk about on

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<v Speaker 6>a first date. I mean, if I sat there and

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<v Speaker 6>talked about another woman the entire time, I'm sure that

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<v Speaker 6>you would have had some kind of issue with that.

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<v Speaker 3>Let me know, you didn't text me back.

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<v Speaker 4>You could have texted me back and said, hey, you

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<v Speaker 4>know it kind of put me off a little bit,

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<v Speaker 4>and we could have talked about it.

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<v Speaker 5>Why so you can tell me more about Mike. You're

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<v Speaker 5>not going to get rid of this or you, so,

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<v Speaker 5>so let me ask it to me really quick. Have

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<v Speaker 5>you have you ever slept in Mike?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, this was like ten years ago one time.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, it was a mistake.

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<v Speaker 3>We're just struck.

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<v Speaker 5>Well now I'm picturing if we're doing that, you're thinking

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<v Speaker 5>Mike would do it this way, might do it that way?

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<v Speaker 3>WHOA?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh no, okay, Alan, would you like another day with Bella?

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<v Speaker 1>Won't pay for it?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah? I don't think. No, Mike's already won this one.

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<v Speaker 5>I can agree with that.

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<v Speaker 4>Guy.

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<v Speaker 3>I told you it wasn't a competition.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, that's fine, But I mean the second day for me.

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<v Speaker 3>Good luck whatever, I'm gonna go call Mike and see

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<v Speaker 3>what he thinks about that.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, would you first date?

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<v Speaker 4>Fallow up