WEBVTT - EP 409: Quiet Queers  

0:00:00.280 --> 0:00:02.760
<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Decisions Decisions. I don't think you should say

0:00:02.800 --> 0:00:06.000
<v Speaker 1>Decision Decisions. It sounded like you was talking to Kirsty.

0:00:06.440 --> 0:00:09.400
<v Speaker 1>You definitely say to welcome, welcome to the new podcast.

0:00:10.400 --> 0:00:14.280
<v Speaker 2>Oh wait, you want to say together Decisions Decisions. Thanks

0:00:14.320 --> 0:00:17.840
<v Speaker 2>for listening to another episode of Decisions Decisions. I have

0:00:17.920 --> 0:00:21.560
<v Speaker 2>a surprise for you, throwing a free event this Thursday,

0:00:21.640 --> 0:00:25.760
<v Speaker 2>February twenty seventh, and guess what. It's free and everybody

0:00:25.840 --> 0:00:29.479
<v Speaker 2>can join because it's virtual. From six pm Eastern to

0:00:29.600 --> 0:00:33.279
<v Speaker 2>eight pm Eastern three pm Pacific Standard, there is going

0:00:33.360 --> 0:00:36.760
<v Speaker 2>to be a virtual screening of Risky. It's a dinner

0:00:36.800 --> 0:00:40.920
<v Speaker 2>conversation that we hosted in Chicago, and you've probably heard

0:00:40.920 --> 0:00:43.120
<v Speaker 2>me talk about how I've been doing them over the

0:00:43.159 --> 0:00:45.680
<v Speaker 2>past few years in different cities. But we're going to

0:00:45.720 --> 0:00:48.000
<v Speaker 2>have a screening of the event we did, and it's

0:00:48.000 --> 0:00:50.280
<v Speaker 2>going to be followed by a live Q and A

0:00:51.240 --> 0:00:52.800
<v Speaker 2>with me and my girl Koya.

0:00:53.320 --> 0:00:55.320
<v Speaker 1>I've been hosting these dinners.

0:00:54.960 --> 0:00:57.360
<v Speaker 2>For a while with her, and I'm telling you it

0:00:57.440 --> 0:00:59.920
<v Speaker 2>is such an amazing experience to sit with black women

0:01:00.080 --> 0:01:04.520
<v Speaker 2>and addressing risky sexual behaviors and the stigmas that contribute

0:01:04.720 --> 0:01:07.640
<v Speaker 2>to the disproportion of HIV rates amongst black women.

0:01:08.040 --> 0:01:08.400
<v Speaker 1>Listen.

0:01:08.760 --> 0:01:11.080
<v Speaker 2>I know it's not that sexy to talk about stuff

0:01:11.120 --> 0:01:13.680
<v Speaker 2>like this, but you will really enjoy this conversation.

0:01:13.760 --> 0:01:17.520
<v Speaker 1>It's so educational and it's girl time with me. Hello.

0:01:17.760 --> 0:01:22.040
<v Speaker 2>So get your ticket for free at Risky Dinnerconvo dot

0:01:22.080 --> 0:01:25.560
<v Speaker 2>com and follow Risky on ig. At Risky Dinner Convo

0:01:25.680 --> 0:01:27.720
<v Speaker 2>they'll be tagged on a page and then description of

0:01:27.800 --> 0:01:28.559
<v Speaker 2>this episode.

0:01:28.840 --> 0:01:29.800
<v Speaker 1>See you this Thursday.

0:01:30.959 --> 0:01:35.240
<v Speaker 2>All right then alright? Then alright then alright then welcome

0:01:35.319 --> 0:01:38.520
<v Speaker 2>to Decisions. This is all what I don't know.

0:01:39.080 --> 0:01:42.080
<v Speaker 3>Listen, rights, what action was that?

0:01:42.680 --> 0:01:44.760
<v Speaker 1>Listen? The thing is as long as you just roll

0:01:44.800 --> 0:01:46.040
<v Speaker 1>your rs. It's an accent.

0:01:46.120 --> 0:01:47.880
<v Speaker 2>I feel like you wanted to read that at Italian

0:01:47.920 --> 0:01:53.400
<v Speaker 2>French it was very much and eat tally.

0:01:53.800 --> 0:01:54.520
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I don't.

0:01:54.760 --> 0:01:55.280
<v Speaker 1>I don't know.

0:01:55.680 --> 0:01:58.680
<v Speaker 2>I am not the best with accents. Okay, we need

0:01:58.720 --> 0:02:01.440
<v Speaker 2>to get your global we need to what's crazy. I'm

0:02:01.440 --> 0:02:03.520
<v Speaker 2>literally in Atlanta and I'm like, oh, y'all have accents

0:02:03.560 --> 0:02:06.360
<v Speaker 2>down here. Oh I don't know what y'all are saying. Bitch,

0:02:06.440 --> 0:02:09.280
<v Speaker 2>you do six months outro don't do that. I don't

0:02:09.320 --> 0:02:11.440
<v Speaker 2>be on this podcast like we will be adding subtitles.

0:02:12.960 --> 0:02:14.680
<v Speaker 1>I ain't go oh yeah, I have it, it might

0:02:14.760 --> 0:02:15.000
<v Speaker 1>have it.

0:02:15.080 --> 0:02:18.560
<v Speaker 2>I have noticed a little twang, a little twang, but no, y'all.

0:02:18.600 --> 0:02:23.800
<v Speaker 2>Welcome to another episode, y'all. I'm Mandy Bee Easy and

0:02:23.840 --> 0:02:26.880
<v Speaker 2>I know you're so happy that it's Jess Stats. I

0:02:26.919 --> 0:02:29.760
<v Speaker 2>mean yeah, I mean, but we've also had some really

0:02:29.760 --> 0:02:32.800
<v Speaker 2>good guests coming on. I mean we've actually like started

0:02:32.800 --> 0:02:35.080
<v Speaker 2>decisions decisions out with a lot of our friends. Like

0:02:35.120 --> 0:02:36.720
<v Speaker 2>we just was like, hey, oh, pull up a lot

0:02:36.720 --> 0:02:38.280
<v Speaker 2>of people. We've worked with a lot of people that

0:02:38.639 --> 0:02:39.520
<v Speaker 2>we know personally.

0:02:39.680 --> 0:02:41.200
<v Speaker 1>So I'm fucking with it.

0:02:41.600 --> 0:02:44.280
<v Speaker 2>So sorry Alex. By the way, if y'all are watching

0:02:44.320 --> 0:02:46.960
<v Speaker 2>on YouTube, first seven minutes, bleep out our curse words,

0:02:47.040 --> 0:02:47.600
<v Speaker 2>get over it.

0:02:48.080 --> 0:02:49.440
<v Speaker 1>Yeah yeah you're here.

0:02:49.520 --> 0:02:52.560
<v Speaker 2>Buck shit, damn you will hear pussy funck shit bit So,

0:02:54.440 --> 0:02:57.560
<v Speaker 2>speaking of which, there was recently a guest that had

0:02:57.639 --> 0:03:00.440
<v Speaker 2>Tourette's come into the studio and yea to hit me

0:03:00.480 --> 0:03:03.680
<v Speaker 2>and was like, this is something I've never seen. They

0:03:03.760 --> 0:03:06.480
<v Speaker 2>never watched this big lowmel jiglove maybe in person. I've

0:03:06.520 --> 0:03:09.200
<v Speaker 2>never had movie so such a good movie. She basically said,

0:03:09.200 --> 0:03:12.840
<v Speaker 2>the ticks were hold on, let me type in tics

0:03:12.840 --> 0:03:14.280
<v Speaker 2>on my phone and tell you what these ticks were.

0:03:15.000 --> 0:03:19.640
<v Speaker 1>Sorry again for the bleeps, bitch dick.

0:03:19.840 --> 0:03:23.600
<v Speaker 2>Tippy tippy, that wiener tippy tapped, that rote history, my

0:03:23.720 --> 0:03:26.360
<v Speaker 2>flabber has been gassed BBC.

0:03:26.560 --> 0:03:30.320
<v Speaker 1>That's a big black cock. And then she wrote at last, but.

0:03:30.320 --> 0:03:34.760
<v Speaker 2>Not least, bitch, asshole and the wait, these were ticks

0:03:34.760 --> 0:03:37.280
<v Speaker 2>that just were burst burst it out.

0:03:37.480 --> 0:03:40.360
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I'm not gonna lie that. Those are really cool ticks.

0:03:40.520 --> 0:03:41.680
<v Speaker 1>She said she was on a podcast.

0:03:41.720 --> 0:03:43.240
<v Speaker 2>I don't know the name of it, but the person

0:03:43.280 --> 0:03:47.240
<v Speaker 2>that hosts it as Amanda Hirsh tourette syndrome, and they

0:03:47.280 --> 0:03:50.160
<v Speaker 2>never gave Tianna heads up, so she says she was

0:03:50.160 --> 0:03:52.640
<v Speaker 2>a dust in the camera and the girls like sticking

0:03:52.680 --> 0:03:54.240
<v Speaker 2>up a middle finger and fuck you bitch. She said,

0:03:54.240 --> 0:03:55.680
<v Speaker 2>I was like, I know she ain't talking to me,

0:03:56.200 --> 0:03:59.120
<v Speaker 2>so I'm really curious though, like what that episode sounds

0:03:59.120 --> 0:04:01.400
<v Speaker 2>like and had that conversation goes because keep in mind,

0:04:01.440 --> 0:04:04.920
<v Speaker 2>with tourettes, these are just blurted out, so it can

0:04:04.960 --> 0:04:06.920
<v Speaker 2>be distracting for the person you're trying to speak to.

0:04:07.480 --> 0:04:08.520
<v Speaker 1>If a man is.

0:04:10.200 --> 0:04:13.640
<v Speaker 2>Getting it right from behind, I'm trying now to make

0:04:13.680 --> 0:04:14.720
<v Speaker 2>it nice and he.

0:04:14.840 --> 0:04:17.840
<v Speaker 1>Screams out Brian Go.

0:04:18.360 --> 0:04:21.359
<v Speaker 2>I don't know, like if I could have sex with

0:04:21.440 --> 0:04:24.320
<v Speaker 2>someone who is yelling out bitch, ass hole and rotisseri,

0:04:24.920 --> 0:04:28.400
<v Speaker 2>Jason Momoa got tourettes, hypothetical.

0:04:28.000 --> 0:04:32.320
<v Speaker 1>Letting her, I'm gonna turn the TV up. You right?

0:04:33.000 --> 0:04:35.800
<v Speaker 1>You want that chicken pussy? No, no, no, no, I'm not

0:04:35.800 --> 0:04:38.000
<v Speaker 1>gonna lie. I'm just gonna have the music playing a lot.

0:04:38.080 --> 0:04:41.719
<v Speaker 2>Okay, if Jason Momoa has tourettes and just bursts out,

0:04:41.880 --> 0:04:46.120
<v Speaker 2>like burst out any of those weird things, okay, hurt

0:04:46.800 --> 0:04:48.920
<v Speaker 2>you know. I don't know if anybody else does this,

0:04:49.440 --> 0:04:52.160
<v Speaker 2>but sometimes when we're about to get drunk, I'd be like,

0:04:52.600 --> 0:04:54.160
<v Speaker 2>you know, it's like if that was a word, would

0:04:54.160 --> 0:04:56.200
<v Speaker 2>you love me? So we'd be doing shit like Okay,

0:04:56.400 --> 0:04:58.120
<v Speaker 2>what if I couldn't do this? What if I couldn't

0:04:58.120 --> 0:04:59.120
<v Speaker 2>do that? What if I hunch back?

0:04:59.279 --> 0:05:02.000
<v Speaker 1>Like we just to He's like, since we already locked in.

0:05:02.200 --> 0:05:05.440
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but like if you were a worm, I just

0:05:05.520 --> 0:05:07.120
<v Speaker 2>why are you asking a man if he would be

0:05:07.120 --> 0:05:09.960
<v Speaker 2>into beat reality? I just want to know about that

0:05:10.560 --> 0:05:13.520
<v Speaker 2>reality doing dumb shit. That's what you do when you

0:05:13.640 --> 0:05:15.120
<v Speaker 2>love girl. I'm not the funk going on my head

0:05:15.120 --> 0:05:15.760
<v Speaker 2>is fuck ump.

0:05:15.839 --> 0:05:18.080
<v Speaker 1>If I was a worm, would you be with me?

0:05:18.279 --> 0:05:18.679
<v Speaker 3>Andy?

0:05:19.160 --> 0:05:21.240
<v Speaker 2>Let me tell you something about being in love if

0:05:21.279 --> 0:05:22.760
<v Speaker 2>you forgot how you was that kind?

0:05:23.200 --> 0:05:24.800
<v Speaker 1>No, I'm not gonna lie. I've never asked that.

0:05:24.880 --> 0:05:25.080
<v Speaker 4>Man.

0:05:25.640 --> 0:05:27.719
<v Speaker 2>If I was a worm, would you still a love man?

0:05:27.839 --> 0:05:29.880
<v Speaker 2>I mean I'm exaggerating here, but okay, she was like,

0:05:29.960 --> 0:05:33.520
<v Speaker 2>dumb ship? What was What was his reaction if I

0:05:33.520 --> 0:05:35.919
<v Speaker 2>didn't ask him that? But I'm thinking like something like

0:05:36.000 --> 0:05:38.960
<v Speaker 2>super silly, Like I'll just be looking with the googly

0:05:39.000 --> 0:05:41.960
<v Speaker 2>eyes like okay, I didn't maybe right after I came

0:05:42.200 --> 0:05:44.880
<v Speaker 2>if I, yeah, I just do a thing.

0:05:45.000 --> 0:05:47.239
<v Speaker 1>Okay, So I'll ask.

0:05:47.080 --> 0:05:49.960
<v Speaker 2>About an extra toe or an extra finger, or like

0:05:50.240 --> 0:05:53.279
<v Speaker 2>because my mama white, I'd be like, what if I

0:05:53.279 --> 0:05:58.520
<v Speaker 2>didn't have lips? What if I was like I sucked

0:05:58.839 --> 0:06:01.680
<v Speaker 2>my mouth and his like would you kiss your four

0:06:01.760 --> 0:06:02.400
<v Speaker 2>voffles like this?

0:06:03.720 --> 0:06:05.720
<v Speaker 1>But I do that I see that white ship.

0:06:06.480 --> 0:06:08.040
<v Speaker 2>That's sometimes you look at me and be like, I

0:06:08.040 --> 0:06:09.320
<v Speaker 2>can't believe I'm gonna there's.

0:06:09.120 --> 0:06:09.680
<v Speaker 1>A white ship.

0:06:09.800 --> 0:06:12.279
<v Speaker 2>I have full lips, thankfully, But when I be at

0:06:12.680 --> 0:06:15.360
<v Speaker 2>like looking at my mama, sometimes I'll be like, damn, MoMA,

0:06:15.400 --> 0:06:16.360
<v Speaker 2>you ain't got no lips.

0:06:16.920 --> 0:06:18.320
<v Speaker 1>We're in an arrow where you could do it a

0:06:18.360 --> 0:06:20.880
<v Speaker 1>little look at it her hand.

0:06:21.000 --> 0:06:24.479
<v Speaker 2>Now, I'm not giving my mom no filler in the lips.

0:06:24.560 --> 0:06:26.960
<v Speaker 2>I'm not giving her a filler. No, I think uh.

0:06:27.279 --> 0:06:29.039
<v Speaker 2>I would help my mom though, Like she had the

0:06:29.040 --> 0:06:32.599
<v Speaker 2>gastric sleeve. So I'm like, if if insurance doesn't cover,

0:06:32.720 --> 0:06:35.559
<v Speaker 2>you're and it's not a mommy makeover. But she's older,

0:06:35.600 --> 0:06:37.440
<v Speaker 2>so she has the loose skin. I'm like, girl, we

0:06:37.480 --> 0:06:41.039
<v Speaker 2>gonna snip and touch. That's way worse than that is

0:06:41.200 --> 0:06:41.960
<v Speaker 2>way worse.

0:06:41.760 --> 0:06:42.840
<v Speaker 1>Than a lip. No, it's not.

0:06:43.080 --> 0:06:44.159
<v Speaker 3>At least that's just a filler.

0:06:44.240 --> 0:06:47.599
<v Speaker 2>No, no, no filler be looking awful in can migrate

0:06:47.680 --> 0:06:52.159
<v Speaker 2>up under your nose, cutting extra skin, which is a

0:06:52.240 --> 0:06:52.880
<v Speaker 2>health concern.

0:06:53.240 --> 0:06:54.680
<v Speaker 1>It's not worse than film because you know why I

0:06:54.760 --> 0:06:56.840
<v Speaker 1>say that, Yeah, you know what I mean.

0:06:56.880 --> 0:06:58.960
<v Speaker 3>Are you still putting down under it? Right? They put

0:06:59.000 --> 0:06:59.479
<v Speaker 3>you down here?

0:07:01.400 --> 0:07:01.599
<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

0:07:01.680 --> 0:07:04.200
<v Speaker 2>To me, it's not like I'm not saying like not

0:07:04.240 --> 0:07:06.120
<v Speaker 2>to get lips like, but to me, I'd rather help

0:07:06.160 --> 0:07:09.360
<v Speaker 2>my mom cut some extra skin off then lip filling.

0:07:09.720 --> 0:07:11.520
<v Speaker 2>I think there's a point where you know, when you

0:07:11.520 --> 0:07:14.360
<v Speaker 2>see someone you're like, oh, that's too much. Imagine them before.

0:07:14.560 --> 0:07:16.520
<v Speaker 2>That's what you gotta know. They built up to that.

0:07:16.840 --> 0:07:19.320
<v Speaker 2>What was Kylie like? Just two shots?

0:07:19.760 --> 0:07:20.440
<v Speaker 1>You know what I mean?

0:07:20.520 --> 0:07:22.600
<v Speaker 2>Yes, she worked once she got to the point where

0:07:22.680 --> 0:07:25.720
<v Speaker 2>you and then she lied to y'all and said it's

0:07:25.760 --> 0:07:28.520
<v Speaker 2>the lip kit, and y'all bought it. It was sold out.

0:07:28.560 --> 0:07:31.560
<v Speaker 2>I'm not gonna lie, I was them o bit. Y'all

0:07:31.600 --> 0:07:32.480
<v Speaker 2>love a little lip kit?

0:07:32.680 --> 0:07:33.280
<v Speaker 3>You is it?

0:07:33.480 --> 0:07:35.560
<v Speaker 2>Y'all can talk about Kylie all y'all want, with all

0:07:35.560 --> 0:07:38.680
<v Speaker 2>the things baby, her little uh Kylie.

0:07:38.360 --> 0:07:41.080
<v Speaker 1>Clothing line and the lip kit. I'm here. She has

0:07:41.120 --> 0:07:42.960
<v Speaker 1>put out some good quality shit. I'm gonna tell you.

0:07:43.000 --> 0:07:44.720
<v Speaker 2>I love a little you know when you put on

0:07:44.720 --> 0:07:46.480
<v Speaker 2>a little cool unjail and if you make your shit,

0:07:46.920 --> 0:07:49.400
<v Speaker 2>but then you oh no, I'm not gonna hold you

0:07:49.400 --> 0:07:52.880
<v Speaker 2>the little lip gloss with the little plumper. Ladies, do

0:07:52.920 --> 0:07:55.760
<v Speaker 2>not kiss a man or suck a man with the

0:07:55.760 --> 0:07:56.760
<v Speaker 2>plumper on your lip.

0:07:57.600 --> 0:07:59.040
<v Speaker 1>We don't even do hordrds anymore.

0:07:59.040 --> 0:08:01.000
<v Speaker 2>But that's my tip to y'all. I done did it

0:08:01.440 --> 0:08:05.360
<v Speaker 2>on accident, and it was like there's a little tingly happening.

0:08:05.400 --> 0:08:08.080
<v Speaker 2>I said, oh shit, it's my plumper. The plumper transfers,

0:08:08.120 --> 0:08:11.040
<v Speaker 2>y'all wait, and it can how fresh, but almost immediately

0:08:11.040 --> 0:08:13.000
<v Speaker 2>like when I'm with someone, I just I constantly am

0:08:13.000 --> 0:08:14.320
<v Speaker 2>putting on claws.

0:08:14.480 --> 0:08:17.440
<v Speaker 1>And then and then all of the things.

0:08:17.520 --> 0:08:20.200
<v Speaker 3>Y'all, wait, but how again, what's the time between the

0:08:20.240 --> 0:08:22.120
<v Speaker 3>plumper and oh, it tingles.

0:08:21.720 --> 0:08:23.240
<v Speaker 2>For a while, like I have this one. I don't

0:08:23.280 --> 0:08:24.760
<v Speaker 2>think it's tart. I forgot the brand.

0:08:25.000 --> 0:08:27.920
<v Speaker 1>I'll bring it. That thing be tingling for about fifteen minutes.

0:08:27.960 --> 0:08:29.240
<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, this is so random.

0:08:29.280 --> 0:08:32.040
<v Speaker 2>But I just have to tell y'all about this last

0:08:32.080 --> 0:08:33.960
<v Speaker 2>night and eleven I'm sorry, my add just hit me

0:08:34.800 --> 0:08:37.880
<v Speaker 2>last night at eleven thirty at night. Okay, there's a

0:08:37.960 --> 0:08:40.600
<v Speaker 2>knock on my door, me and my nigga in a bed.

0:08:41.240 --> 0:08:42.920
<v Speaker 2>I thought about it because the girl got big lips

0:08:42.960 --> 0:08:45.480
<v Speaker 2>when I see her. So I get a knock on

0:08:45.480 --> 0:08:47.240
<v Speaker 2>my door, and I'm like, what the fuck? And I'm

0:08:47.280 --> 0:08:49.240
<v Speaker 2>like nervous, like what, And I've left my key in

0:08:49.280 --> 0:08:50.360
<v Speaker 2>the door before, so I was like, oh my god,

0:08:50.400 --> 0:08:52.199
<v Speaker 2>please don't tell me that's and it is happening in front.

0:08:52.240 --> 0:08:54.880
<v Speaker 2>I leave my key in the door too. These two

0:08:54.880 --> 0:08:59.240
<v Speaker 2>girls are giggling and we looking through the people this

0:08:59.320 --> 0:08:59.880
<v Speaker 2>whole state.

0:09:01.400 --> 0:09:02.760
<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, sorry, we're just gonna leave it. No

0:09:02.760 --> 0:09:03.760
<v Speaker 1>know on your door. You don't have to open the door.

0:09:03.800 --> 0:09:04.319
<v Speaker 1>I'm going sorry.

0:09:04.320 --> 0:09:07.760
<v Speaker 2>It's two girls, one white, one Indian girl. He opened

0:09:07.800 --> 0:09:08.920
<v Speaker 2>the door and they're like.

0:09:08.840 --> 0:09:11.720
<v Speaker 1>Sorry, we just have a letter for you, and yo,

0:09:11.840 --> 0:09:12.719
<v Speaker 1>you read it. You don't read it?

0:09:12.720 --> 0:09:15.320
<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, sorry, They like were giggling. It's almost midnight.

0:09:15.400 --> 0:09:18.760
<v Speaker 2>It's a Monday night. I'm fucking living. Oh I was,

0:09:18.840 --> 0:09:19.560
<v Speaker 2>let me tell you know.

0:09:19.640 --> 0:09:19.840
<v Speaker 1>I was.

0:09:19.880 --> 0:09:21.680
<v Speaker 2>I was like when she said we're your neighbors, I'm like,

0:09:21.720 --> 0:09:23.599
<v Speaker 2>and what do you want? Like he was trying to

0:09:23.640 --> 0:09:26.040
<v Speaker 2>be nice. I was pissed grave read this letter.

0:09:26.080 --> 0:09:27.280
<v Speaker 1>You know. We had to get up early.

0:09:28.800 --> 0:09:33.439
<v Speaker 2>Hi, these are your neighbors, Apartment five and apartment six. Basically,

0:09:33.480 --> 0:09:36.080
<v Speaker 2>we're all on this one floor and it's a larger floor.

0:09:36.600 --> 0:09:40.400
<v Speaker 2>We're considering throwing a party, and we thought it would

0:09:40.400 --> 0:09:44.480
<v Speaker 2>be fun if we all open up our apartments.

0:09:44.520 --> 0:09:46.320
<v Speaker 3>Weird when they're young, right.

0:09:47.000 --> 0:09:49.680
<v Speaker 2>They're young. It's downtown. Let us know what you think,

0:09:49.880 --> 0:09:51.240
<v Speaker 2>or you can just totally ignore.

0:09:50.920 --> 0:09:51.480
<v Speaker 1>This if you want.

0:09:51.920 --> 0:09:54.520
<v Speaker 2>Nikka, let me tell you signing when I tell you

0:09:54.559 --> 0:09:57.040
<v Speaker 2>almost went and thought on TikTok, oh, I almost knocked

0:09:57.040 --> 0:09:59.400
<v Speaker 2>on five and six. They did that on TikTok. They're like,

0:09:59.440 --> 0:10:02.120
<v Speaker 2>that's like it's a trend. Wait, it's real time TikTok. No,

0:10:02.160 --> 0:10:05.599
<v Speaker 2>there's a TikTok where everyone goes to everyone's different apartments

0:10:05.720 --> 0:10:08.360
<v Speaker 2>and in each apartment there's either a theme or drinks,

0:10:08.400 --> 0:10:10.960
<v Speaker 2>and you literally are partying through everyone's apartments.

0:10:11.080 --> 0:10:13.000
<v Speaker 1>I literally saw that on TikTok. Hey, let me tell

0:10:13.000 --> 0:10:15.160
<v Speaker 1>you something. This isn't a fucking wait. He said, I'm

0:10:15.160 --> 0:10:17.199
<v Speaker 1>a millennial. I'm not here for it. Nigga, are you

0:10:17.240 --> 0:10:18.240
<v Speaker 1>out to here? White mind?

0:10:18.520 --> 0:10:21.280
<v Speaker 2>Literally, and I'm going off, and I know he's annoyed too,

0:10:21.320 --> 0:10:22.800
<v Speaker 2>but now he's trying to call me. I'm about to

0:10:22.800 --> 0:10:24.120
<v Speaker 2>go over there, so I get my phone out because

0:10:24.120 --> 0:10:25.920
<v Speaker 2>they left their phone numbers, and he's like, no, no, no,

0:10:25.920 --> 0:10:28.400
<v Speaker 2>there's children show. I'm like, yo, do you know how

0:10:28.440 --> 0:10:32.360
<v Speaker 2>disrespectful it is to knock on someone's door almost at

0:10:32.360 --> 0:10:33.760
<v Speaker 2>midnight on a fucking Monday?

0:10:33.840 --> 0:10:33.920
<v Speaker 5>Like?

0:10:33.960 --> 0:10:36.440
<v Speaker 1>You really got me fucked up? Number two? What really

0:10:36.480 --> 0:10:37.480
<v Speaker 1>got me? Tight? Bitch?

0:10:37.520 --> 0:10:38.960
<v Speaker 2>You only trying to do this with me so that

0:10:39.000 --> 0:10:40.760
<v Speaker 2>I'm not gonna complain about how loud it is. And

0:10:40.800 --> 0:10:44.000
<v Speaker 2>ever since that one hole movement Santa con My building

0:10:44.040 --> 0:10:45.520
<v Speaker 2>was flooded. What the fuck do you think this is

0:10:45.520 --> 0:10:46.640
<v Speaker 2>a goddamn frat house.

0:10:46.880 --> 0:10:47.640
<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, they do.

0:10:47.800 --> 0:10:50.000
<v Speaker 2>People literally will hear Nina at the door when they

0:10:50.080 --> 0:10:52.040
<v Speaker 2>walk by and just start barking back, and I'll be

0:10:52.080 --> 0:10:54.040
<v Speaker 2>opening a motherfucking door out, bitch, what the fuck is

0:10:54.080 --> 0:10:54.440
<v Speaker 2>you doing?

0:10:54.760 --> 0:10:57.439
<v Speaker 1>Now? I know I live in a downtown Manhattan crazy.

0:10:57.120 --> 0:11:01.480
<v Speaker 2>Area literally by bars an mean that I need to

0:11:01.520 --> 0:11:04.400
<v Speaker 2>now take on this energy. First of all, I am

0:11:04.600 --> 0:11:07.480
<v Speaker 2>a phony. I have a boyfriend. Now, bitch, I'm still

0:11:07.520 --> 0:11:09.280
<v Speaker 2>a party girl. But I just really can't believe these

0:11:09.280 --> 0:11:10.240
<v Speaker 2>neighbors wanted to do this.

0:11:10.200 --> 0:11:13.040
<v Speaker 1>With me, Like, are you crazy? We're gonna just.

0:11:13.000 --> 0:11:15.720
<v Speaker 2>Sound like millennials right now because everyone's asking me about

0:11:16.000 --> 0:11:18.880
<v Speaker 2>a house warming, and I said, so that people know

0:11:18.880 --> 0:11:20.920
<v Speaker 2>where I live. No, no, no, no, no no, I don't

0:11:20.920 --> 0:11:22.440
<v Speaker 2>want anyone coming over my house.

0:11:22.760 --> 0:11:22.960
<v Speaker 1>Y'all.

0:11:22.960 --> 0:11:25.120
<v Speaker 2>Don't think this is that's crazy to knock on somebody.

0:11:25.200 --> 0:11:28.280
<v Speaker 2>But you used to throw parties at your house.

0:11:28.400 --> 0:11:28.800
<v Speaker 1>I still do.

0:11:28.920 --> 0:11:30.400
<v Speaker 3>It doesn't mean I want to, but you yeah, but

0:11:30.600 --> 0:11:31.000
<v Speaker 3>that's fair.

0:11:31.120 --> 0:11:32.840
<v Speaker 2>Do you go to your neighbors and are you considered

0:11:32.840 --> 0:11:34.080
<v Speaker 2>it about how loud it will be?

0:11:34.120 --> 0:11:36.960
<v Speaker 1>Like you warn the bottle of the line before.

0:11:38.520 --> 0:11:39.560
<v Speaker 3>You know what I mean that.

0:11:42.000 --> 0:11:44.240
<v Speaker 1>Giggles do you see that.

0:11:44.360 --> 0:11:46.560
<v Speaker 2>Okay, let me just say this. She's like, I do

0:11:46.600 --> 0:11:48.559
<v Speaker 2>it the matour way I do for congestion.

0:11:48.920 --> 0:11:49.680
<v Speaker 1>Let's start with that.

0:11:50.720 --> 0:11:52.200
<v Speaker 2>If I have a game night in my house and

0:11:52.240 --> 0:11:54.400
<v Speaker 2>the music and the sh it, ain't that crazy. I

0:11:54.520 --> 0:11:57.000
<v Speaker 2>knock on the door. I'm not asking for permission. I say, hey,

0:11:57.040 --> 0:11:58.840
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna have some friends over on Friday. I just

0:11:58.840 --> 0:12:01.240
<v Speaker 2>wanted to bring this by. You know, it's not true.

0:12:01.480 --> 0:12:04.000
<v Speaker 3>Is this barefoot? We're gonna be loud, this.

0:12:03.880 --> 0:12:07.719
<v Speaker 2>Barefoot little Chateau Diana.

0:12:07.800 --> 0:12:08.920
<v Speaker 1>But I mean no.

0:12:09.120 --> 0:12:10.920
<v Speaker 2>And I started to think to myself, and I'm like, oh,

0:12:10.920 --> 0:12:11.319
<v Speaker 2>it's perfect.

0:12:11.480 --> 0:12:12.800
<v Speaker 1>It'sion decisions.

0:12:13.280 --> 0:12:16.520
<v Speaker 2>What rules do you have as a neighbor? First of all,

0:12:16.559 --> 0:12:19.080
<v Speaker 2>she said, you can ignore this. I feel like the

0:12:19.200 --> 0:12:21.880
<v Speaker 2>nice thing to do was write them and respectfully decline

0:12:21.880 --> 0:12:23.240
<v Speaker 2>and be like, hey, but if you never need anything,

0:12:23.280 --> 0:12:26.520
<v Speaker 2>here's my number. I really don't want to do that

0:12:26.559 --> 0:12:28.880
<v Speaker 2>at all. I don't know why I have to be neighborly.

0:12:29.120 --> 0:12:30.960
<v Speaker 2>I'm a renter. You're gonna be out of here, and

0:12:31.000 --> 0:12:34.520
<v Speaker 2>so am I. Oh, I'm not gonna lie like I

0:12:34.559 --> 0:12:39.000
<v Speaker 2>remember when I lived in Miami. I lived downtown Miami.

0:12:39.080 --> 0:12:42.120
<v Speaker 2>Off this game and I'll never forget. Our neighbor from

0:12:42.160 --> 0:12:45.120
<v Speaker 2>below us came up, mind you. He I guess had

0:12:45.120 --> 0:12:46.760
<v Speaker 2>a nine to five, but me and my roommate at

0:12:46.800 --> 0:12:49.040
<v Speaker 2>the time were bartenders and we went out a lot.

0:12:49.080 --> 0:12:51.839
<v Speaker 2>We would get ready, we would wear heels. He came

0:12:51.880 --> 0:12:54.360
<v Speaker 2>up and literally said, do I need to buy you

0:12:54.400 --> 0:12:58.720
<v Speaker 2>guys slippers? I don't like hearing your heels when I'm

0:12:59.000 --> 0:13:01.559
<v Speaker 2>having to get up for work or whatever, and I'm

0:13:01.600 --> 0:13:04.360
<v Speaker 2>not gonna lie. My initial response, and yes I was

0:13:04.360 --> 0:13:06.839
<v Speaker 2>twenty one at the time, was if you don't want

0:13:06.840 --> 0:13:09.240
<v Speaker 2>to hear people above, you buy the pet house or

0:13:09.240 --> 0:13:11.960
<v Speaker 2>get a house. To me, when you're in an apartment,

0:13:12.360 --> 0:13:15.080
<v Speaker 2>like to me, you should be able to listen to

0:13:15.120 --> 0:13:17.840
<v Speaker 2>your music loud. You should be able to wear heels

0:13:17.880 --> 0:13:19.760
<v Speaker 2>in your home that you pay for. Like to me,

0:13:19.880 --> 0:13:22.680
<v Speaker 2>if you're someone that is really going to be anal

0:13:22.840 --> 0:13:27.800
<v Speaker 2>about the noise made by having neighbors get a fucking hack.

0:13:27.600 --> 0:13:31.400
<v Speaker 3>Can we put what's the asterisk? At considerable hours?

0:13:31.600 --> 0:13:33.880
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I'm gonna say that I would be considered.

0:13:34.160 --> 0:13:35.280
<v Speaker 3>Music at five am?

0:13:35.800 --> 0:13:39.679
<v Speaker 1>No or for it? Okay, no, no, I's there's considered that.

0:13:39.880 --> 0:13:42.720
<v Speaker 2>I believe hours if you're walking around, but if I'm

0:13:42.760 --> 0:13:43.560
<v Speaker 2>walking around.

0:13:43.559 --> 0:13:46.120
<v Speaker 1>Bro. No, I understand music, I understand loud.

0:13:46.200 --> 0:13:48.640
<v Speaker 2>I think if anyone under me, because of structurally how

0:13:48.640 --> 0:13:51.760
<v Speaker 2>the building is, there's something underneath me, which is great, right,

0:13:51.800 --> 0:13:54.679
<v Speaker 2>And I'm not even on the bottom floor, but there

0:13:54.679 --> 0:13:58.080
<v Speaker 2>are people above me, most recently a guy that likes

0:13:58.160 --> 0:14:03.480
<v Speaker 2>to do yoga, an and some kind of workout. But

0:14:03.520 --> 0:14:05.800
<v Speaker 2>I say yoga because I just hear it thump sometimes.

0:14:06.040 --> 0:14:08.800
<v Speaker 2>Then I hear one foot. It's not like dumbbells. So

0:14:10.240 --> 0:14:12.160
<v Speaker 2>I let it go because it doesn't last long.

0:14:12.600 --> 0:14:14.120
<v Speaker 1>And I feel like we live in New York. These

0:14:14.160 --> 0:14:17.120
<v Speaker 1>departments are small. Yeah, what am I like? Whatever? But

0:14:17.240 --> 0:14:17.800
<v Speaker 1>do it one day?

0:14:17.840 --> 0:14:20.600
<v Speaker 2>That motherfucker did it late night, and the next day

0:14:20.600 --> 0:14:24.400
<v Speaker 2>when I saw him, I say, hey, can sleep last night.

0:14:25.000 --> 0:14:28.840
<v Speaker 1>See to me, noisles noisless one time.

0:14:29.400 --> 0:14:31.320
<v Speaker 2>Oh oh no, he's like doing a full on workout

0:14:31.360 --> 0:14:32.960
<v Speaker 2>on there. It's like a mad thing he's doing on

0:14:33.000 --> 0:14:36.920
<v Speaker 2>the ground. So I'll make a comment just so you're aware.

0:14:37.280 --> 0:14:40.120
<v Speaker 1>That's it. That's all I could do. I think they

0:14:40.120 --> 0:14:42.080
<v Speaker 1>did make a comment. It's so you're aware.

0:14:43.360 --> 0:14:45.920
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I don't know, and it didn't change anything. Bitch,

0:14:46.000 --> 0:14:48.240
<v Speaker 2>I pay I'm wearing heels at my house I also

0:14:48.280 --> 0:14:52.400
<v Speaker 2>remember too, like sound noise complaints. Sorry, bro, come on,

0:14:52.640 --> 0:14:55.520
<v Speaker 2>like get ear plugs, get it together. Like people are

0:14:55.560 --> 0:14:57.440
<v Speaker 2>living how they live. I will say the only thing

0:14:57.440 --> 0:15:00.640
<v Speaker 2>that I have understood. I had a no roommate when

0:15:00.640 --> 0:15:03.840
<v Speaker 2>I lived in the Bronx who was a smoker. Smoked

0:15:03.920 --> 0:15:07.680
<v Speaker 2>all day, every day, and the apartment above us was

0:15:07.720 --> 0:15:11.000
<v Speaker 2>Section eight. Well, if Sectionnate comes and smells weed, you

0:15:11.000 --> 0:15:15.200
<v Speaker 2>could lose your Section eight. And so because she didn't

0:15:15.400 --> 0:15:18.400
<v Speaker 2>want to stop smoking in her home, she moved out.

0:15:18.440 --> 0:15:21.320
<v Speaker 2>And so that's where like again, if you don't like something,

0:15:21.400 --> 0:15:23.720
<v Speaker 2>or if you don't like the complaints from your neighbors, bro,

0:15:23.880 --> 0:15:26.520
<v Speaker 2>move out. But I don't think you should have to

0:15:26.600 --> 0:15:29.000
<v Speaker 2>change your whole way of living in your home that

0:15:29.080 --> 0:15:31.120
<v Speaker 2>you pay rent for to accommodate neighbors.

0:15:31.120 --> 0:15:32.160
<v Speaker 1>Wait wait, wait, wait, hold on, hold on.

0:15:32.560 --> 0:15:35.600
<v Speaker 2>So she's said out because she's like, I'm gonna smoke

0:15:35.640 --> 0:15:37.480
<v Speaker 2>in my room. I'm gonna smoke in my house. I

0:15:37.480 --> 0:15:39.880
<v Speaker 2>pay rent, I wake up, I roll a blunt, I smoke.

0:15:40.080 --> 0:15:42.400
<v Speaker 2>So she moved out and moved to a place that

0:15:42.640 --> 0:15:45.680
<v Speaker 2>didn't mind her smoking. And I respected that.

0:15:45.680 --> 0:15:47.120
<v Speaker 1>I thought you were saying, move out. I have the neighbor.

0:15:47.160 --> 0:15:49.280
<v Speaker 2>Oh okay, okay, no, she moved out. She said, Hu,

0:15:49.880 --> 0:15:53.120
<v Speaker 2>no worries, I am going to smoke in my home and.

0:15:53.120 --> 0:15:53.640
<v Speaker 1>She moved out.

0:15:53.680 --> 0:15:56.400
<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, I think that's really honorable. Yeah, because if

0:15:56.440 --> 0:15:59.400
<v Speaker 2>you tell me, I gotta go beach. I mean, but again,

0:15:59.640 --> 0:16:02.480
<v Speaker 2>when you're dealing with Section eight or newborn babies like

0:16:02.840 --> 0:16:05.680
<v Speaker 2>my loft. Now, like my neighbor smokes cigars. The people

0:16:05.680 --> 0:16:08.200
<v Speaker 2>before me had a baby and literally said, hey.

0:16:08.600 --> 0:16:11.200
<v Speaker 1>We can't. I mean, when you're sharing vents with people

0:16:11.720 --> 0:16:14.440
<v Speaker 1>like smoke. I understand. I understand smoke too.

0:16:15.280 --> 0:16:18.880
<v Speaker 2>My partner is a He owns properties and one of

0:16:18.920 --> 0:16:24.240
<v Speaker 2>them he recently like saw and basically I guess she hunh.

0:16:25.520 --> 0:16:28.040
<v Speaker 2>She opened the door and he's like, yo, I couldn't

0:16:28.040 --> 0:16:28.800
<v Speaker 2>even see the floor.

0:16:29.240 --> 0:16:30.280
<v Speaker 1>It was just filthy.

0:16:30.680 --> 0:16:33.520
<v Speaker 2>Affording kids, he was like, and not just regular, I

0:16:33.520 --> 0:16:36.120
<v Speaker 2>have kids, messy And he's like, all of it, you

0:16:36.120 --> 0:16:38.720
<v Speaker 2>can it's gonna take over the walls. Yeah yeah, And

0:16:38.880 --> 0:16:41.120
<v Speaker 2>I literally was like, how do you know if someone

0:16:41.200 --> 0:16:45.160
<v Speaker 2>has bad cleaning habits or even smoking or anything. A

0:16:45.160 --> 0:16:46.960
<v Speaker 2>lot of people are investing nowadays. We get in to

0:16:47.000 --> 0:16:48.680
<v Speaker 2>that age where we want to get an investment property.

0:16:48.920 --> 0:16:49.360
<v Speaker 1>What do you do.

0:16:49.400 --> 0:16:51.360
<v Speaker 2>We just watched fucking five year oh four and smoking

0:16:51.400 --> 0:16:52.680
<v Speaker 2>in and a motherfucker's crib.

0:16:52.760 --> 0:16:55.760
<v Speaker 1>It's so crazy, that's what. That's what even I saw.

0:16:56.080 --> 0:16:58.520
<v Speaker 2>It was either a tweet or or maybe it was

0:16:58.560 --> 0:17:00.960
<v Speaker 2>a TikTok, but it was saying that ladies, you shouldn't

0:17:00.960 --> 0:17:03.000
<v Speaker 2>even open your legs for a man until you see

0:17:03.000 --> 0:17:05.840
<v Speaker 2>how he lives. Oh a to see if he clean

0:17:05.920 --> 0:17:08.159
<v Speaker 2>or not, but also be to make sure he don't.

0:17:08.040 --> 0:17:11.160
<v Speaker 1>Live with his wife. You should, you should.

0:17:11.240 --> 0:17:13.800
<v Speaker 2>You should go and be able to see the inside

0:17:13.840 --> 0:17:15.840
<v Speaker 2>of his home, and you should know the color of

0:17:15.840 --> 0:17:16.679
<v Speaker 2>his shower curtain. Bro.

0:17:16.760 --> 0:17:18.760
<v Speaker 1>And you know what's crazy, You don't really.

0:17:18.640 --> 0:17:21.359
<v Speaker 2>Have a right to own enter a tenant's property. But

0:17:21.480 --> 0:17:23.040
<v Speaker 2>also at the same time, you want to make sure

0:17:23.080 --> 0:17:24.520
<v Speaker 2>your ship is being upheld. I'm like, so what do

0:17:24.560 --> 0:17:26.960
<v Speaker 2>you That's why renting is tough. But that's why a

0:17:27.040 --> 0:17:29.560
<v Speaker 2>lot of home like owners or people that get into

0:17:29.600 --> 0:17:33.479
<v Speaker 2>investment properties don't want to rent to Section eight because

0:17:34.040 --> 0:17:38.520
<v Speaker 2>the possibility of their home being destroyed is higher than

0:17:38.680 --> 0:17:41.840
<v Speaker 2>than not, because they genuinely if you're not paying and

0:17:41.920 --> 0:17:45.440
<v Speaker 2>Section eight you're paying very minimal, you don't seem to

0:17:45.440 --> 0:17:48.119
<v Speaker 2>care about things that you don't pay for m question,

0:17:48.200 --> 0:17:51.440
<v Speaker 2>so would but sorry. On the other hand, he does

0:17:51.480 --> 0:17:53.480
<v Speaker 2>have a Section eight tenant. It was like, I get

0:17:53.520 --> 0:17:53.920
<v Speaker 2>my rent.

0:17:54.000 --> 0:17:54.760
<v Speaker 1>Oh, I'm not gonna lie.

0:17:54.880 --> 0:17:57.239
<v Speaker 2>I I grew up as a Section eight tenant like

0:17:57.240 --> 0:17:59.360
<v Speaker 2>my mom and us. We were a section we were

0:17:59.359 --> 0:18:01.640
<v Speaker 2>we were on section they growing up and we took

0:18:01.760 --> 0:18:02.760
<v Speaker 2>very good care of the house.

0:18:03.040 --> 0:18:05.040
<v Speaker 3>What do you wish that they had done instead?

0:18:06.320 --> 0:18:07.879
<v Speaker 1>Slid it under the door? Not a knock in the

0:18:07.920 --> 0:18:10.360
<v Speaker 1>middle of the night. I think that's a sliding under

0:18:10.400 --> 0:18:12.240
<v Speaker 1>the door. Eleven thirty on a Monday.

0:18:12.240 --> 0:18:12.400
<v Speaker 4>Bro.

0:18:13.080 --> 0:18:15.960
<v Speaker 2>I understand the age of the world right now, but

0:18:16.200 --> 0:18:18.560
<v Speaker 2>I just think there needs to be some decorum and

0:18:18.640 --> 0:18:20.960
<v Speaker 2>these kids, I really feel like they distract these kids.

0:18:21.000 --> 0:18:24.240
<v Speaker 1>We is aging the help. OHI decisions.

0:18:24.280 --> 0:18:27.920
<v Speaker 2>They turned to open my door to are you insant?

0:18:28.080 --> 0:18:29.439
<v Speaker 2>Look and ruined.

0:18:29.760 --> 0:18:32.159
<v Speaker 1>She's like, ooh, y'all a guy, Oh you want some

0:18:32.240 --> 0:18:37.360
<v Speaker 1>sound proof of tea sound ordinance tea. Y'all.

0:18:37.480 --> 0:18:40.000
<v Speaker 2>I opened a gym. I'm gonna tell you all about it.

0:18:40.000 --> 0:18:41.840
<v Speaker 2>It's called trap House. If you haven't seen it on

0:18:41.840 --> 0:18:42.880
<v Speaker 2>my ig yet, it's in.

0:18:42.840 --> 0:18:47.520
<v Speaker 1>The Lower East Side. We have a neighbor. Oh, it

0:18:47.720 --> 0:18:50.560
<v Speaker 1>just came from the Flora ba oh boy.

0:18:51.000 --> 0:18:56.760
<v Speaker 2>And my partner was upstairs with them, introducing themselves and

0:18:56.800 --> 0:18:59.280
<v Speaker 2>he said, it was pretty loud yesterday.

0:18:59.320 --> 0:18:59.920
<v Speaker 1>What was going on?

0:19:00.080 --> 0:19:03.919
<v Speaker 2>And you guys, I're wing a party And she was like, now,

0:19:04.000 --> 0:19:07.080
<v Speaker 2>we were doing our workout normally, he would commercial though,

0:19:07.080 --> 0:19:09.360
<v Speaker 2>don't you have to like, aren't you aware of who

0:19:09.440 --> 0:19:12.280
<v Speaker 2>you're who else is in the building before you joined

0:19:12.320 --> 0:19:14.560
<v Speaker 2>the building? Well, that person said, she said, did you

0:19:14.600 --> 0:19:16.439
<v Speaker 2>not know where a gym? He said, I knew you

0:19:16.440 --> 0:19:19.119
<v Speaker 2>were a pilate studio. Oh, didn't know that you were

0:19:19.160 --> 0:19:22.880
<v Speaker 2>gonna be playing rap bitch it is trup And.

0:19:22.800 --> 0:19:25.680
<v Speaker 1>So she's like, well, what level of noise would be

0:19:25.720 --> 0:19:30.960
<v Speaker 1>comfortable for you? He said, A pin drop girl. She

0:19:31.000 --> 0:19:33.119
<v Speaker 1>came downstairs, said, well, we're gonna kicked out. I said, no,

0:19:33.200 --> 0:19:35.440
<v Speaker 1>that hell we a. I signed my lease first.

0:19:35.920 --> 0:19:38.280
<v Speaker 2>Nobody else was in the building and they were very

0:19:38.280 --> 0:19:40.720
<v Speaker 2>aware what this would be. I'm following the decibels of

0:19:40.760 --> 0:19:44.719
<v Speaker 2>what's allowed the apartments. On the side, so it's New York, right,

0:19:44.800 --> 0:19:48.280
<v Speaker 2>you have some commercial then on the side, I turned

0:19:48.280 --> 0:19:49.000
<v Speaker 2>it off at a certain time.

0:19:49.040 --> 0:19:51.800
<v Speaker 1>I've sound throof the windows, like sound is going to travel.

0:19:51.600 --> 0:19:53.439
<v Speaker 2>Up and if you think I'm not gonna have a

0:19:53.480 --> 0:19:55.239
<v Speaker 2>sub with it when I want to hear sexy right

0:19:55.280 --> 0:19:56.440
<v Speaker 2>on the reformer you got me.

0:19:56.520 --> 0:19:59.920
<v Speaker 1>But no, So now we just waiting. Girl.

0:20:00.440 --> 0:20:04.200
<v Speaker 2>He's a white gay man, and whereas gay men steal

0:20:04.240 --> 0:20:08.480
<v Speaker 2>my heart, I have a feeling one day he's just

0:20:08.520 --> 0:20:12.080
<v Speaker 2>gonna be like I've had it. I am terrified. Luckily,

0:20:12.160 --> 0:20:15.120
<v Speaker 2>our schedule is like seven, eight, nine thirty. He comes

0:20:15.160 --> 0:20:17.240
<v Speaker 2>in around eleven. We do have a twelve class for

0:20:17.280 --> 0:20:19.160
<v Speaker 2>the rest is late night five six seven.

0:20:19.600 --> 0:20:22.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, all right, maybe you'll hear one. But I

0:20:22.000 --> 0:20:23.680
<v Speaker 1>think what makes it worse.

0:20:23.680 --> 0:20:26.159
<v Speaker 2>Because when I thought about it, I was like, Okay,

0:20:26.960 --> 0:20:28.920
<v Speaker 2>if I knew there was a plate studio as well,

0:20:28.920 --> 0:20:32.119
<v Speaker 2>I'd be like, oh you wouldn't You didn't see the

0:20:32.200 --> 0:20:33.000
<v Speaker 2>name of trop house.

0:20:33.560 --> 0:20:37.679
<v Speaker 3>Oh I mean he can so dog it. I'm a

0:20:37.680 --> 0:20:39.400
<v Speaker 3>little I'm a little scared of business. If you don't

0:20:39.400 --> 0:20:40.119
<v Speaker 3>want me asking.

0:20:40.560 --> 0:20:49.879
<v Speaker 1>Very designer showroom. Oh oh jo, I know he probably

0:20:49.920 --> 0:20:51.960
<v Speaker 1>has elevator music playing.

0:20:51.680 --> 0:20:53.040
<v Speaker 3>Right, And I woke.

0:20:55.200 --> 0:21:02.600
<v Speaker 1>My Buddha hole brown about to be all a daddy baby.

0:21:02.960 --> 0:21:03.520
<v Speaker 1>Oh wait no.

0:21:03.560 --> 0:21:05.600
<v Speaker 2>The song is a laugh in the hallway and I

0:21:05.600 --> 0:21:10.160
<v Speaker 2>felt so bad because it's a big bangs with fin being.

0:21:10.720 --> 0:21:11.920
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, hey, are you mean?

0:21:12.440 --> 0:21:15.760
<v Speaker 2>I was like, oh shit, I mean, it wasn't cursing,

0:21:15.840 --> 0:21:17.199
<v Speaker 2>but it's just so loud.

0:21:17.440 --> 0:21:18.399
<v Speaker 1>You're just yelling Fiene.

0:21:18.440 --> 0:21:23.360
<v Speaker 2>It's soliciting drugs. Yeahllo is it. That's what athene is, bro,

0:21:23.480 --> 0:21:24.840
<v Speaker 2>I know that's what a fene is. I thought it

0:21:24.880 --> 0:21:26.280
<v Speaker 2>was just like we're feene in for the party.

0:21:26.320 --> 0:21:29.399
<v Speaker 1>You're feeding for for the party. Sure, for the party.

0:21:30.359 --> 0:21:33.160
<v Speaker 1>But anyway, it's super fun. Come. I made a code

0:21:33.160 --> 0:21:33.680
<v Speaker 1>for hohre Hive.

0:21:33.720 --> 0:21:37.119
<v Speaker 2>It's ten bucks off and it's half pilates inspired moves

0:21:37.119 --> 0:21:39.280
<v Speaker 2>and half lifting and it's been.

0:21:39.160 --> 0:21:42.320
<v Speaker 1>Really really dope. David Edden got to come through and

0:21:42.520 --> 0:21:45.280
<v Speaker 1>you did. Now you got to come You didn't do it.

0:21:46.200 --> 0:21:48.360
<v Speaker 3>You didn't do so I felt like I was doing it.

0:21:48.560 --> 0:21:51.160
<v Speaker 2>I've never done plates though with machines. I do pilates

0:21:51.160 --> 0:21:53.080
<v Speaker 2>with my body, so I don't know about it.

0:21:53.480 --> 0:21:55.480
<v Speaker 1>I don't. Yeah, the machines be scared me. That's what

0:21:55.520 --> 0:21:57.800
<v Speaker 1>I seeing the athletes show. A lot of people are scared.

0:21:57.800 --> 0:21:59.760
<v Speaker 2>We do like we started an intro class because I

0:21:59.800 --> 0:22:03.360
<v Speaker 2>really a lot of girls coming in like I'm kind

0:22:03.359 --> 0:22:04.320
<v Speaker 2>of nervous or I'm.

0:22:04.160 --> 0:22:07.080
<v Speaker 1>Scared and you don't want to be the worst thing.

0:22:06.920 --> 0:22:08.320
<v Speaker 2>For me is when I go to a hard workout

0:22:08.320 --> 0:22:10.119
<v Speaker 2>and everybody's better than me or making me feel like

0:22:10.160 --> 0:22:11.120
<v Speaker 2>I'm not keeping up.

0:22:11.200 --> 0:22:12.640
<v Speaker 1>So I understand that too.

0:22:12.480 --> 0:22:17.760
<v Speaker 2>Like pilates, bar yoga, like I realize my uh my intimidation.

0:22:17.880 --> 0:22:21.080
<v Speaker 2>I'm intimidated by machines. So I've really enjoyed working out

0:22:21.119 --> 0:22:23.840
<v Speaker 2>with just moving that my must interesting.

0:22:23.920 --> 0:22:25.480
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I don't like. I don't like machines.

0:22:25.480 --> 0:22:27.399
<v Speaker 2>I think even when I go into gym's, like I

0:22:27.480 --> 0:22:28.960
<v Speaker 2>had a gym in my last building and I was

0:22:29.040 --> 0:22:32.399
<v Speaker 2>just like learning really the usage of them. I prefer

0:22:32.480 --> 0:22:35.199
<v Speaker 2>like using just my body weight. So like seeing my

0:22:35.520 --> 0:22:38.480
<v Speaker 2>love over the years grow for for bar class and

0:22:38.760 --> 0:22:41.760
<v Speaker 2>yoga and hot yoga and pilates, it's always been just

0:22:41.880 --> 0:22:45.120
<v Speaker 2>a mat and with pilates too, so I can't call

0:22:45.160 --> 0:22:47.879
<v Speaker 2>it pilates and I can't call it Lagree, but it

0:22:47.960 --> 0:22:51.639
<v Speaker 2>is the closest to Lagree. The fitness director is Lagree certified,

0:22:52.640 --> 0:22:56.080
<v Speaker 2>but there is like a monopoly on using the name.

0:22:56.400 --> 0:23:00.240
<v Speaker 2>So the machines are literally that, but I can't say

0:23:00.240 --> 0:23:02.760
<v Speaker 2>it because other studios own that, so I've had to

0:23:02.760 --> 0:23:06.399
<v Speaker 2>say plates inspired. But basically I just went from what

0:23:06.480 --> 0:23:08.919
<v Speaker 2>changed my body the most, and everybody know, y'all have

0:23:08.920 --> 0:23:10.720
<v Speaker 2>come with me to work outs and shit over the years.

0:23:10.720 --> 0:23:12.639
<v Speaker 2>Like there's a bunch that I love, and I'm like,

0:23:12.720 --> 0:23:15.440
<v Speaker 2>this is what changed me the most, lifting weights and

0:23:15.960 --> 0:23:18.520
<v Speaker 2>the reformer. So the regular plates machine is kind of

0:23:18.600 --> 0:23:20.760
<v Speaker 2>like this one is heavier so you feel it more.

0:23:20.920 --> 0:23:22.840
<v Speaker 2>But it's really because I want niggas on it. Like

0:23:23.320 --> 0:23:26.160
<v Speaker 2>my goal was to have like a workout that men

0:23:26.200 --> 0:23:29.240
<v Speaker 2>could do. I even made one spot in the gym

0:23:29.680 --> 0:23:33.040
<v Speaker 2>called the boyfriend bench, and it's a bench that is

0:23:33.080 --> 0:23:35.359
<v Speaker 2>only listing and you don't have to do the machine, okay,

0:23:35.359 --> 0:23:36.879
<v Speaker 2>because I knew it was gonna be niggas up in there,

0:23:36.880 --> 0:23:38.200
<v Speaker 2>and it's a dude in there every time.

0:23:39.040 --> 0:23:41.320
<v Speaker 1>Also, girls bringing their boyfriends.

0:23:41.359 --> 0:23:43.320
<v Speaker 2>Girls, you got to hold own it, damn baby, bring

0:23:43.400 --> 0:23:44.600
<v Speaker 2>us on fineess, Niggas's not.

0:23:44.680 --> 0:23:47.040
<v Speaker 1>You looking at the girl's boyfriend. Sorry, Oh no, you

0:23:47.119 --> 0:23:50.200
<v Speaker 1>are the owner. Can you be respectful to your relationships?

0:23:50.480 --> 0:23:50.760
<v Speaker 4>Damn?

0:23:50.880 --> 0:23:54.119
<v Speaker 2>Speaking of which, I have realized that the culture of

0:23:54.280 --> 0:23:58.680
<v Speaker 2>WTF media and owning this business is drastically different.

0:23:58.400 --> 0:23:59.320
<v Speaker 1>From starting a new one.

0:23:59.600 --> 0:24:01.919
<v Speaker 2>And you know, everybody has a language. Mandy and I

0:24:01.920 --> 0:24:03.480
<v Speaker 2>talk a certain way in the group chat with you.

0:24:04.040 --> 0:24:05.480
<v Speaker 2>I talk a certain way in the group chat with

0:24:05.560 --> 0:24:07.320
<v Speaker 2>Jeff and Alex and Clara whoever.

0:24:08.080 --> 0:24:10.560
<v Speaker 1>This new business, I have to really wastch my mouth.

0:24:11.080 --> 0:24:13.240
<v Speaker 2>Literally, someone came in and I was like, damn, her

0:24:13.280 --> 0:24:14.879
<v Speaker 2>ass looks so good, and they all looked at me

0:24:14.960 --> 0:24:18.200
<v Speaker 2>like yeah, no one else, but you can't talk like that.

0:24:19.040 --> 0:24:25.000
<v Speaker 1>I was like, hr guard, Oh yeah, Guard, it's already

0:24:25.000 --> 0:24:26.119
<v Speaker 1>a sexual energy.

0:24:26.160 --> 0:24:29.199
<v Speaker 2>It's sweaty in there, and it's like beautiful people, so

0:24:29.400 --> 0:24:31.400
<v Speaker 2>just you know, it's crazy. I have the opposite thought,

0:24:31.520 --> 0:24:35.080
<v Speaker 2>like going to the gym is never sexual energy, Like

0:24:35.280 --> 0:24:37.679
<v Speaker 2>I don't know, I guess I guess that goes to

0:24:37.760 --> 0:24:40.800
<v Speaker 2>like the no, you're a horny but I get it.

0:24:40.800 --> 0:24:43.040
<v Speaker 2>But I don't think this gym is not does not

0:24:43.080 --> 0:24:44.359
<v Speaker 2>bring about sexual energy.

0:24:45.280 --> 0:24:48.840
<v Speaker 1>What really the sweat the heat that surprised.

0:24:49.840 --> 0:24:52.320
<v Speaker 2>I understand a group fitness class because mainly being around

0:24:52.359 --> 0:24:55.240
<v Speaker 2>a bunch of girls doing like so we're also by

0:24:55.520 --> 0:24:58.160
<v Speaker 2>so no, like I'm in yoga and asses in the air,

0:24:58.520 --> 0:25:00.800
<v Speaker 2>I eat pussy lick as you would think it.

0:25:01.080 --> 0:25:02.880
<v Speaker 1>I don't go to like when I'm in the gym,

0:25:03.000 --> 0:25:07.200
<v Speaker 1>you don't feel sexy either. I'm bitch, I'm hurting I'm stretching,

0:25:07.240 --> 0:25:09.840
<v Speaker 1>I'm hurting seriously.

0:25:09.960 --> 0:25:12.760
<v Speaker 2>No, I don't, no, I don't.

0:25:12.760 --> 0:25:14.920
<v Speaker 1>I go with my little cut up. That's why I got.

0:25:14.920 --> 0:25:17.040
<v Speaker 1>I go to sweat, but I don't go to look good.

0:25:17.119 --> 0:25:19.960
<v Speaker 1>I go to like my body. I go to feel good.

0:25:20.000 --> 0:25:21.679
<v Speaker 1>I don't go to like look good. I don't do

0:25:21.720 --> 0:25:22.199
<v Speaker 1>my makeup.

0:25:22.359 --> 0:25:24.199
<v Speaker 2>I'll put on a baseball No, no, no, no, I'm not

0:25:24.240 --> 0:25:26.320
<v Speaker 2>talking about girls that go to look good. I've never

0:25:26.320 --> 0:25:28.520
<v Speaker 2>put on makeup for the gym. I'm talking about going

0:25:28.560 --> 0:25:30.600
<v Speaker 2>to field. I go to feel good, but I'm not

0:25:30.680 --> 0:25:32.840
<v Speaker 2>going to feel good in my pussy. I'm going to

0:25:32.840 --> 0:25:33.800
<v Speaker 2>feel good everywhere else.

0:25:33.920 --> 0:25:34.879
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I ain't gonnallow to you.

0:25:35.840 --> 0:25:40.159
<v Speaker 2>I do feel like a especially with lower body workouts,

0:25:40.160 --> 0:25:42.960
<v Speaker 2>like it literally brings it builds testosterone for men. You

0:25:43.000 --> 0:25:45.360
<v Speaker 2>just start doing squats and ship like it's it definitely

0:25:45.359 --> 0:25:46.359
<v Speaker 2>gets the blood flowing.

0:25:46.440 --> 0:25:48.680
<v Speaker 1>I felt sexy. Will you when you squat? Does you

0:25:48.920 --> 0:25:49.560
<v Speaker 1>get hard at it?

0:25:50.680 --> 0:25:51.320
<v Speaker 3>Not hard?

0:25:51.440 --> 0:25:55.200
<v Speaker 2>You said it builds the bud and blood like there's

0:25:55.560 --> 0:25:58.040
<v Speaker 2>blood flowing, right, So is it flowing like when you

0:25:58.080 --> 0:26:01.480
<v Speaker 2>squat or even day when you do anything lower body?

0:26:01.920 --> 0:26:03.640
<v Speaker 1>Is your is your dick getting hard?

0:26:04.200 --> 0:26:06.879
<v Speaker 2>Maybe like a half chob like not a half chobe. Okay,

0:26:07.040 --> 0:26:11.359
<v Speaker 2>can we get to hypotheticals. Half chobe is crap job, it's.

0:26:11.440 --> 0:26:14.680
<v Speaker 1>Crazy, like you just asked me my dick hard.

0:26:15.600 --> 0:26:19.359
<v Speaker 2>Sorry, clearly, don't feel like I can't say anything, but

0:26:19.359 --> 0:26:22.840
<v Speaker 2>I'll be getting horny and I'm gonna lie to you

0:26:22.880 --> 0:26:24.879
<v Speaker 2>on the machine. Like there's this one move like it's

0:26:24.880 --> 0:26:27.400
<v Speaker 2>almost like a cat cow. It's in tabletop position when you're.

0:26:27.320 --> 0:26:28.520
<v Speaker 1>Doing it, do like cat coo oh.

0:26:28.520 --> 0:26:30.360
<v Speaker 2>I really was like I'd be feeling in my lower

0:26:30.680 --> 0:26:32.639
<v Speaker 2>I love a cat I'll be tooting it up. Or

0:26:32.680 --> 0:26:34.520
<v Speaker 2>if I do rows where one arm is on the

0:26:34.520 --> 0:26:36.720
<v Speaker 2>bench and I'm just rowing the other, I'm finna toot glass.

0:26:37.359 --> 0:26:39.640
<v Speaker 3>Do you stir yourself in the mirror? Duh?

0:26:41.320 --> 0:26:42.119
<v Speaker 1>Hello? Have you like?

0:26:42.240 --> 0:26:52.000
<v Speaker 2>I'm sorry ego to start anyway? Hypothetical Okay, if you

0:26:52.040 --> 0:26:56.399
<v Speaker 2>could make one universal law in the realm of sex,

0:26:56.920 --> 0:26:57.520
<v Speaker 2>what would it be?

0:26:59.160 --> 0:27:00.640
<v Speaker 1>Can you start with this? Okay?

0:27:00.720 --> 0:27:03.800
<v Speaker 2>So for me, the law I would make is like,

0:27:04.920 --> 0:27:06.480
<v Speaker 2>if you fake an orgasm, you got a jail for

0:27:06.520 --> 0:27:09.439
<v Speaker 2>six months. And the reason I say that is because

0:27:10.800 --> 0:27:13.119
<v Speaker 2>the faking of the orgasm, which I have done before,

0:27:14.720 --> 0:27:20.000
<v Speaker 2>has promoted so much lack of interest in what someone

0:27:20.040 --> 0:27:23.520
<v Speaker 2>wants because you're already getting the instant gratification. So we're

0:27:23.520 --> 0:27:26.520
<v Speaker 2>not learning what we're doing wrong. And even if it's

0:27:26.560 --> 0:27:29.159
<v Speaker 2>not that you're doing anything wrong, I think it's you know,

0:27:29.280 --> 0:27:30.720
<v Speaker 2>not learning it to please someone else.

0:27:30.840 --> 0:27:32.640
<v Speaker 1>So now we just is it good?

0:27:32.760 --> 0:27:36.240
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, instead of saying how can I get you off?

0:27:36.640 --> 0:27:39.600
<v Speaker 1>What do you like? Do you like harder? More pressure?

0:27:39.640 --> 0:27:42.359
<v Speaker 1>Like we just don't ask? I agree, I agree.

0:27:42.400 --> 0:27:45.600
<v Speaker 2>I mean a universal law for me would be it

0:27:45.640 --> 0:27:48.119
<v Speaker 2>doesn't count if you don't come, And I think it

0:27:48.119 --> 0:27:49.440
<v Speaker 2>would limit the conversation.

0:27:50.320 --> 0:27:52.800
<v Speaker 1>What do you mean it doesn't count if I didn't come.

0:27:52.840 --> 0:27:56.679
<v Speaker 2>I've only fucked five niggas, it didn't count if I

0:27:56.720 --> 0:27:59.280
<v Speaker 2>didn't come. That would be the law I would create,

0:27:59.560 --> 0:28:01.959
<v Speaker 2>because there's there's no way in hell, like even if

0:28:01.960 --> 0:28:03.960
<v Speaker 2>I had to sign a little waiver like yes, I came,

0:28:04.040 --> 0:28:06.560
<v Speaker 2>so then you could you could acknowledge me as a body,

0:28:06.760 --> 0:28:08.040
<v Speaker 2>You could tell people we had sex.

0:28:08.280 --> 0:28:11.720
<v Speaker 1>However, if I did not come, it didn't happen. Did

0:28:11.720 --> 0:28:13.000
<v Speaker 1>you really blow my back out?

0:28:13.440 --> 0:28:16.320
<v Speaker 2>I don't recall it didn't happen. That would be my

0:28:16.440 --> 0:28:19.760
<v Speaker 2>universal law. So then has it been the same for you? No,

0:28:19.840 --> 0:28:21.240
<v Speaker 2>It's like have you fucked anybody?

0:28:21.680 --> 0:28:22.240
<v Speaker 1>Let's say you.

0:28:22.160 --> 0:28:24.840
<v Speaker 2>Fucked fifty women, and if you didn't make any of

0:28:24.840 --> 0:28:26.680
<v Speaker 2>them come, you don't vote to you're a virgin.

0:28:27.600 --> 0:28:28.359
<v Speaker 3>That's crazy.

0:28:29.119 --> 0:28:31.720
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I'm not gonna lie to this fucking No I would.

0:28:31.760 --> 0:28:34.679
<v Speaker 2>I mean I think that that's because there's guys that

0:28:34.800 --> 0:28:36.760
<v Speaker 2>be acting like they did a whole lot of something

0:28:36.800 --> 0:28:38.840
<v Speaker 2>and it was a whole lot of nothing. And now

0:28:39.360 --> 0:28:41.760
<v Speaker 2>I want my pussy muscles back and guess what, I'm

0:28:41.760 --> 0:28:43.440
<v Speaker 2>going to take them back because you didn't even make

0:28:43.440 --> 0:28:49.560
<v Speaker 2>them contract. Hello, now I feel like a rapper. What

0:28:49.600 --> 0:28:52.000
<v Speaker 2>would your law be for sex? Do you have a

0:28:52.080 --> 0:28:55.000
<v Speaker 2>sex law that you would if your DL you gotta,

0:28:55.680 --> 0:28:58.400
<v Speaker 2>that would be your sex laws? Do you have to

0:28:58.440 --> 0:28:59.840
<v Speaker 2>give ahead before penetration?

0:29:00.080 --> 0:29:01.840
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it doesn't happen to be before, but like head

0:29:01.880 --> 0:29:03.520
<v Speaker 3>has to happen, one head has to.

0:29:03.480 --> 0:29:05.000
<v Speaker 1>Happen on one of the other.

0:29:05.160 --> 0:29:06.080
<v Speaker 3>Yes, I like that.

0:29:06.200 --> 0:29:07.880
<v Speaker 1>I'm not mad at that. I think that's actually a

0:29:07.920 --> 0:29:08.360
<v Speaker 1>really good lie.

0:29:08.360 --> 0:29:10.000
<v Speaker 2>I mean, I'm not gonna lie. You're kind of childish.

0:29:10.000 --> 0:29:15.240
<v Speaker 2>If there's no oral are you, you're childish? If if

0:29:15.280 --> 0:29:17.560
<v Speaker 2>you are having sex as a grown as adult, I'm

0:29:17.560 --> 0:29:23.040
<v Speaker 2>gonna say eight nineteen and no, cause by eighteen you

0:29:23.320 --> 0:29:27.360
<v Speaker 2>may still be there. I don't think anyone who is

0:29:27.520 --> 0:29:31.880
<v Speaker 2>mature is having any sex without having or so. My

0:29:32.120 --> 0:29:35.160
<v Speaker 2>drug dealer is like, well, he's a new one, but

0:29:35.520 --> 0:29:37.440
<v Speaker 2>he's like a superhod nigga, and to be honest with you,

0:29:37.480 --> 0:29:39.240
<v Speaker 2>the type of drugs that like ain't super hood, so

0:29:39.320 --> 0:29:39.960
<v Speaker 2>something about it.

0:29:39.880 --> 0:29:41.840
<v Speaker 1>It's just kind of fun when he comes through. So

0:29:41.920 --> 0:29:42.760
<v Speaker 1>we talking or whatever.

0:29:42.800 --> 0:29:45.360
<v Speaker 2>He's like, yo, I found out a horrible decisions. I

0:29:45.360 --> 0:29:47.200
<v Speaker 2>didn't even know I've been serving him, like I ain't

0:29:47.240 --> 0:29:47.960
<v Speaker 2>know who he was.

0:29:48.600 --> 0:29:50.640
<v Speaker 1>Were talking. He was like, you know, it's crazy.

0:29:50.680 --> 0:29:52.040
<v Speaker 2>A lot of girls be trying to cut me off

0:29:52.080 --> 0:29:54.320
<v Speaker 2>because I don't really kiss or eat pussy unless I'm

0:29:54.360 --> 0:29:54.960
<v Speaker 2>super in love.

0:29:55.400 --> 0:29:57.960
<v Speaker 1>And I literally was like, then what do you do?

0:29:58.360 --> 0:30:01.920
<v Speaker 2>Put his dick in you finger then and spit Yeah,

0:30:02.080 --> 0:30:04.400
<v Speaker 2>I was, so I'm like I can almost see I

0:30:04.400 --> 0:30:06.520
<v Speaker 2>can understand the kissing and like like.

0:30:06.600 --> 0:30:09.959
<v Speaker 1>Titty, like what I mean?

0:30:09.960 --> 0:30:12.000
<v Speaker 2>I use anyway, I'm never buying mushrooms from him again.

0:30:12.040 --> 0:30:13.600
<v Speaker 2>I mean I used to have sex and not kiss

0:30:13.680 --> 0:30:15.640
<v Speaker 2>I get kissing being an intimate. It's so crazy because

0:30:15.680 --> 0:30:17.400
<v Speaker 2>I think, you know, kissing is more.

0:30:17.320 --> 0:30:19.160
<v Speaker 3>Intimate or kissing the head.

0:30:19.240 --> 0:30:21.920
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, No, kissing is way more intimate than giving head.

0:30:22.920 --> 0:30:25.760
<v Speaker 2>I agree, it is, like I said, like, I agree

0:30:25.760 --> 0:30:28.920
<v Speaker 2>with you. I think oral is a part of sex.

0:30:28.880 --> 0:30:30.600
<v Speaker 3>Or oral should be a part of sex.

0:30:30.600 --> 0:30:32.400
<v Speaker 1>It should be one or the other. Is giving head.

0:30:32.480 --> 0:30:35.120
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, someone has to give a head, even if we're

0:30:35.160 --> 0:30:37.600
<v Speaker 2>not sixty nine yet out someone has to give head.

0:30:37.680 --> 0:30:40.520
<v Speaker 2>Like one of my homegirls just opened up her relationship

0:30:41.000 --> 0:30:43.160
<v Speaker 2>and she was asking me about my rules and how

0:30:43.200 --> 0:30:45.720
<v Speaker 2>they are the boundaries and what we're both allowed to do.

0:30:46.440 --> 0:30:48.680
<v Speaker 2>And one of the things she said to me was

0:30:49.160 --> 0:30:52.960
<v Speaker 2>do you letting me other pussy always? Because men will

0:30:53.000 --> 0:30:55.320
<v Speaker 2>say they don't want you to suck other dick, right,

0:30:55.960 --> 0:30:58.160
<v Speaker 2>So she was like you do you let them get

0:30:58.200 --> 0:31:00.440
<v Speaker 2>other pussy? And I was like, well, it's not a

0:31:00.520 --> 0:31:02.320
<v Speaker 2>rule that he can't. I was like, isn't a head

0:31:02.320 --> 0:31:04.680
<v Speaker 2>part of sex? I was like, am my, Nigga's not

0:31:04.760 --> 0:31:07.840
<v Speaker 2>busting down bitches every week, Like this is not something

0:31:07.840 --> 0:31:09.440
<v Speaker 2>like our sex life is not.

0:31:09.520 --> 0:31:11.440
<v Speaker 1>It's not a frequent, no monogamy thing. We don't. He

0:31:11.480 --> 0:31:13.760
<v Speaker 1>doesn't have many other partners, right. I was like, I

0:31:13.800 --> 0:31:14.360
<v Speaker 1>didn't even.

0:31:14.360 --> 0:31:19.280
<v Speaker 2>Think to police that, and she was like, that's insane

0:31:19.360 --> 0:31:23.400
<v Speaker 2>to me because that's so intimate. I'm like, bro, my

0:31:23.520 --> 0:31:26.520
<v Speaker 2>boyfriend is allowed to have sex with other women. We

0:31:26.560 --> 0:31:29.400
<v Speaker 2>have sex with other women together. Now you're telling me

0:31:29.920 --> 0:31:31.360
<v Speaker 2>that's so intimate.

0:31:31.400 --> 0:31:34.440
<v Speaker 1>Oh, I'm not gonna lie. There was an argument with

0:31:34.680 --> 0:31:35.160
<v Speaker 1>my ex.

0:31:35.600 --> 0:31:39.240
<v Speaker 2>I didn't mind him having sex with other women, But

0:31:39.360 --> 0:31:41.480
<v Speaker 2>you went to a bar with a bitch, like I

0:31:42.000 --> 0:31:44.719
<v Speaker 2>thought it was intimate. So you spend outside time out

0:31:44.760 --> 0:31:46.760
<v Speaker 2>of the bedroom with a woman like.

0:31:46.880 --> 0:31:48.440
<v Speaker 1>For what, why do you have to talk to her?

0:31:48.800 --> 0:31:50.720
<v Speaker 2>Aren't you just supposed to be having sex now, So like,

0:31:50.760 --> 0:31:53.240
<v Speaker 2>to me, intimacy is giving someone your time. On the

0:31:53.600 --> 0:31:56.680
<v Speaker 2>on the other front, what's interesting is I agree. So

0:31:56.720 --> 0:31:59.120
<v Speaker 2>whereas it didn't bother me before, at this juncture of

0:31:59.120 --> 0:32:01.440
<v Speaker 2>my life, I don't really want that, Like I don't want.

0:32:01.280 --> 0:32:04.080
<v Speaker 1>A woman feeling like you.

0:32:06.080 --> 0:32:08.840
<v Speaker 2>Are, oh like hurt your time as oh like a

0:32:08.920 --> 0:32:11.200
<v Speaker 2>birthday or something like that, like, yeah, did a bad

0:32:11.240 --> 0:32:13.080
<v Speaker 2>day at work And I think that's too deep. So

0:32:13.200 --> 0:32:16.440
<v Speaker 2>basically he was like, yo, I'm not like going out

0:32:16.760 --> 0:32:19.479
<v Speaker 2>meeting bitches that are like birds, like these girls are

0:32:19.480 --> 0:32:21.400
<v Speaker 2>decent people. I can't just be like, let me pull up.

0:32:21.720 --> 0:32:23.600
<v Speaker 2>You have a decent woman like to just get fucked

0:32:23.600 --> 0:32:26.200
<v Speaker 2>and left too, So he wrote, what about our thing

0:32:26.400 --> 0:32:28.160
<v Speaker 2>was if I ever meet a new person that I

0:32:28.200 --> 0:32:30.640
<v Speaker 2>sleep with, can I at least go to a bar

0:32:30.720 --> 0:32:32.360
<v Speaker 2>with them for the first time. I don't want to

0:32:32.400 --> 0:32:34.160
<v Speaker 2>just go to women's home or they come to mind

0:32:34.200 --> 0:32:35.240
<v Speaker 2>like I need something there.

0:32:35.560 --> 0:32:37.080
<v Speaker 1>I was like, fine, the first time is it?

0:32:37.800 --> 0:32:41.120
<v Speaker 2>And I my home always were laughing about it because

0:32:41.120 --> 0:32:43.080
<v Speaker 2>they were like, what if you're gonna kill the first night?

0:32:43.120 --> 0:32:45.360
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, that's his problem that nigga got a motherfucking

0:32:45.680 --> 0:32:47.560
<v Speaker 2>ninety out of one hundred a record. Fuck it, like,

0:32:47.640 --> 0:32:51.440
<v Speaker 2>you better work that night. But to be fair, uh,

0:32:52.040 --> 0:32:54.400
<v Speaker 2>something that is very important to me. And again in

0:32:54.480 --> 0:32:58.800
<v Speaker 2>decisions decisions, we're talking about non monogamy. So I love

0:32:58.800 --> 0:33:01.760
<v Speaker 2>and appreciate that any one he could meet while out

0:33:02.200 --> 0:33:04.440
<v Speaker 2>knows he has a girlfriend. I think that's something that

0:33:05.080 --> 0:33:07.360
<v Speaker 2>is part of the ethical nominogamy. You don't get the

0:33:07.440 --> 0:33:09.240
<v Speaker 2>number and then say, oh, I have a girlfriend, right,

0:33:09.560 --> 0:33:13.920
<v Speaker 2>you see it generally speaking, if that's happening, you're probably

0:33:13.960 --> 0:33:17.320
<v Speaker 2>knowing this is for sex. So I think that's where

0:33:17.320 --> 0:33:18.360
<v Speaker 2>it's kind of worked out.

0:33:19.280 --> 0:33:19.640
<v Speaker 1>I don't know.

0:33:19.640 --> 0:33:21.520
<v Speaker 2>We haven't had this conversation a while. He ain't missed

0:33:21.520 --> 0:33:23.280
<v Speaker 2>a new bitches in a minute. But when we did

0:33:23.320 --> 0:33:25.440
<v Speaker 2>have the convo, that was something I pressed on in

0:33:25.480 --> 0:33:27.680
<v Speaker 2>the beginning, like, are you sure you're saying it?

0:33:28.000 --> 0:33:28.560
<v Speaker 1>Are you sure?

0:33:29.280 --> 0:33:32.560
<v Speaker 2>Like, please make sure because I never want to be

0:33:32.600 --> 0:33:36.000
<v Speaker 2>in a position where you're a liar to someone else.

0:33:36.280 --> 0:33:37.880
<v Speaker 1>Yeah. I think that's my problem now.

0:33:38.080 --> 0:33:38.360
<v Speaker 4>I know.

0:33:38.720 --> 0:33:39.840
<v Speaker 1>I am.

0:33:40.880 --> 0:33:45.000
<v Speaker 2>Engaging in a lot of heavy conversation and potential relationship

0:33:45.040 --> 0:33:48.239
<v Speaker 2>planning with the three guys that I'm talking to, and

0:33:48.400 --> 0:33:52.600
<v Speaker 2>all of them are monogamous, and I'm like just hoping

0:33:52.640 --> 0:33:55.000
<v Speaker 2>through conversation I could change their mind. But about monogamous

0:33:55.120 --> 0:33:56.640
<v Speaker 2>having sex together? Are they okay with that?

0:33:57.800 --> 0:33:59.719
<v Speaker 1>That's my problem. I like all three of them, so

0:34:00.040 --> 0:34:04.520
<v Speaker 1>I don't want to day. Did you guys play? Yeah,

0:34:04.640 --> 0:34:05.240
<v Speaker 1>you can't see that.

0:34:05.320 --> 0:34:07.600
<v Speaker 2>I never wanted more than one maybe in a Jersey

0:34:08.160 --> 0:34:12.600
<v Speaker 2>Oh game night, super Bowl, none of none of them,

0:34:12.719 --> 0:34:15.080
<v Speaker 2>none of them live in the same city. So I think,

0:34:15.239 --> 0:34:19.359
<v Speaker 2>you know, if it's you know, you know, long long

0:34:19.440 --> 0:34:22.920
<v Speaker 2>distance relationship type ship, like we can find ways to

0:34:23.080 --> 0:34:24.600
<v Speaker 2>enjoy each other long distance man.

0:34:25.120 --> 0:34:26.080
<v Speaker 1>Okay, I don't know.

0:34:26.280 --> 0:34:28.880
<v Speaker 2>I saw this clip, and while it's a lot to

0:34:28.960 --> 0:34:31.400
<v Speaker 2>think about, I just found the opinion to be so

0:34:31.560 --> 0:34:34.160
<v Speaker 2>interesting and I thought it'd be good to share on

0:34:34.280 --> 0:34:36.040
<v Speaker 2>Horrible because we're both kind of gay.

0:34:36.560 --> 0:34:39.160
<v Speaker 3>Yes, So what's your take?

0:34:39.440 --> 0:34:39.920
<v Speaker 1>I take us up.

0:34:39.920 --> 0:34:42.360
<v Speaker 5>A lot of queer people lead hetereral lives.

0:34:42.680 --> 0:34:45.040
<v Speaker 3>A lot of queer people lead hetero lives.

0:34:45.000 --> 0:34:49.160
<v Speaker 4>Not unpacking their homophones, secret homos if you will, can

0:34:49.239 --> 0:34:50.240
<v Speaker 4>I say secret homos?

0:34:52.000 --> 0:34:52.120
<v Speaker 1>Oh?

0:34:52.239 --> 0:34:57.760
<v Speaker 4>No, quiet queers, These quiet queers living straight lives exactly

0:34:57.800 --> 0:35:01.040
<v Speaker 4>wearing khaki pants and talk it didn't blue T shirts

0:35:01.040 --> 0:35:03.640
<v Speaker 4>saying I'm gay but you're not well.

0:35:03.680 --> 0:35:07.319
<v Speaker 5>Also because they refuse to distigmatize, declonize their brain. It's

0:35:07.360 --> 0:35:10.640
<v Speaker 5>like people can be fair and identity but still remain

0:35:10.719 --> 0:35:14.839
<v Speaker 5>culturally straight. What is culturally straight refusing to dig any

0:35:14.920 --> 0:35:18.799
<v Speaker 5>deeper because that like ownership of the label queer, it's

0:35:18.800 --> 0:35:21.279
<v Speaker 5>assumed that it like absolves you from kind of just

0:35:21.360 --> 0:35:26.920
<v Speaker 5>doing any further work. And there's this constant process of

0:35:27.000 --> 0:35:28.919
<v Speaker 5>re education that's necessary to kind of due.

0:35:28.840 --> 0:35:31.239
<v Speaker 4>Diligence, like once you realize you are queer.

0:35:31.600 --> 0:35:36.640
<v Speaker 5>Well, I'm looking at gentrifier bisexuals, specifically gentrifier bisexuals.

0:35:36.880 --> 0:35:37.640
<v Speaker 1>What are those.

0:35:38.200 --> 0:35:43.080
<v Speaker 5>Gentrifiers who are bisexuals not digging deeper into their internalized

0:35:43.080 --> 0:35:44.640
<v Speaker 5>homophobia gentrifier.

0:35:45.000 --> 0:35:49.120
<v Speaker 3>Bisexuals are homophobic? Yes, this is fascinating.

0:35:49.200 --> 0:35:52.759
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, okay, yeah, Well why do gay people always come

0:35:52.800 --> 0:35:55.000
<v Speaker 2>for the buys death number one? They do give it

0:35:55.040 --> 0:35:56.600
<v Speaker 2>a break, bitch, They don't allow us to be a

0:35:56.640 --> 0:35:57.680
<v Speaker 2>part of the community like that.

0:35:57.960 --> 0:35:59.160
<v Speaker 1>Now, where I will give this.

0:35:59.480 --> 0:36:04.080
<v Speaker 2>Person some credit, I will say, watching her talk, I

0:36:04.080 --> 0:36:05.200
<v Speaker 2>don't know if she's non binary.

0:36:05.239 --> 0:36:07.040
<v Speaker 1>I feel like the way that she's using language, it

0:36:07.080 --> 0:36:08.879
<v Speaker 1>could be it's giving non binary. Yeah.

0:36:09.040 --> 0:36:13.279
<v Speaker 2>However, where I will give them credit is something specifically

0:36:13.320 --> 0:36:15.680
<v Speaker 2>about culturally straight. Of first, I didn't understand it, and

0:36:15.719 --> 0:36:17.640
<v Speaker 2>I was like, Oh, you could come out of the

0:36:17.680 --> 0:36:20.160
<v Speaker 2>closet and still be a fucking bigot. You could be

0:36:20.239 --> 0:36:22.560
<v Speaker 2>a racist, you could be pro is you know what

0:36:22.560 --> 0:36:23.799
<v Speaker 2>I mean, Like, there could be a lot of things

0:36:23.840 --> 0:36:26.560
<v Speaker 2>about you. Just because you're queer or gay don't necessarily

0:36:26.680 --> 0:36:30.279
<v Speaker 2>mean you're for the people. Well, when I heard this,

0:36:30.640 --> 0:36:34.520
<v Speaker 2>I immediately, especially now being in the South and just

0:36:34.560 --> 0:36:36.360
<v Speaker 2>seeing too that all my friends go to church on

0:36:36.480 --> 0:36:41.239
<v Speaker 2>Sunday and like it being more heavily religious, being in

0:36:41.320 --> 0:36:44.640
<v Speaker 2>the Bible Belt, that this is a privileged way of thinking.

0:36:44.840 --> 0:36:47.600
<v Speaker 2>Because she's probably a New Yorker. I think the way

0:36:47.680 --> 0:36:51.960
<v Speaker 2>that people can exist or be open as non binary

0:36:52.160 --> 0:36:54.920
<v Speaker 2>or how they dress, or how they kind of can

0:36:55.080 --> 0:36:58.040
<v Speaker 2>live as their individualistic selves.

0:36:58.280 --> 0:36:59.120
<v Speaker 1>New York allows that.

0:36:59.560 --> 0:37:02.160
<v Speaker 2>I think the South and other parts of the country,

0:37:03.000 --> 0:37:06.399
<v Speaker 2>you can sexuality is still something that is kept behind

0:37:06.440 --> 0:37:08.960
<v Speaker 2>closed doors. And so I don't think that just because

0:37:09.400 --> 0:37:11.719
<v Speaker 2>you're you're a man who sucks stick or a woman

0:37:11.760 --> 0:37:13.120
<v Speaker 2>who eats pussy, that you.

0:37:13.239 --> 0:37:16.320
<v Speaker 1>Have to be this openly outward gay.

0:37:16.280 --> 0:37:19.560
<v Speaker 2>Existing being for society, HI think, And I think that

0:37:19.680 --> 0:37:23.080
<v Speaker 2>that's why she was saying culturally straight. I don't think

0:37:23.200 --> 0:37:25.760
<v Speaker 2>people need to be like us that wear their labels

0:37:25.800 --> 0:37:27.640
<v Speaker 2>on their shirt. I think you can go to work

0:37:28.040 --> 0:37:30.520
<v Speaker 2>and everyone doesn't need to know you're gay just because

0:37:30.560 --> 0:37:32.239
<v Speaker 2>you're gay. So and I think that that's why there's

0:37:32.239 --> 0:37:34.919
<v Speaker 2>a lot of privilege sometimes in people that live out loud,

0:37:34.960 --> 0:37:36.920
<v Speaker 2>where they push you a little bit right. I had

0:37:36.960 --> 0:37:41.640
<v Speaker 2>to check myself recently in a conversation about just radical blackness,

0:37:41.800 --> 0:37:44.160
<v Speaker 2>like me telling someone it's gonna be x y Z

0:37:44.360 --> 0:37:48.800
<v Speaker 2>like this fuck white shit and being light skin and

0:37:48.920 --> 0:37:52.839
<v Speaker 2>being loud is a privilege, you know what I'm saying.

0:37:53.160 --> 0:37:56.600
<v Speaker 2>I'm operating in a world where I can talk like that.

0:37:56.800 --> 0:37:59.240
<v Speaker 1>I'm a woman I'm young, whatever.

0:37:59.560 --> 0:38:03.719
<v Speaker 2>Not every black person has this experience, right, And so yes,

0:38:03.800 --> 0:38:05.880
<v Speaker 2>it's a privilege to be able to be loud in that.

0:38:06.239 --> 0:38:08.719
<v Speaker 2>I use that as an example because this person is

0:38:08.920 --> 0:38:12.040
<v Speaker 2>out and well received by whoever or has our community,

0:38:12.320 --> 0:38:15.759
<v Speaker 2>and not everybody's like that. So I think sometimes demonizing

0:38:15.800 --> 0:38:18.719
<v Speaker 2>someone for not being gay enough sucks. But the only

0:38:18.800 --> 0:38:22.280
<v Speaker 2>thing I did kind of ride with is like watching

0:38:22.400 --> 0:38:25.040
<v Speaker 2>gays for Trump become a thing. When I made that

0:38:25.120 --> 0:38:27.800
<v Speaker 2>joke on the Breakfast Club about I didn't even connect

0:38:27.840 --> 0:38:29.560
<v Speaker 2>the dots, but it was like, oh, yeah, Trump funcks

0:38:29.600 --> 0:38:32.880
<v Speaker 2>with the gays. Can't be trans because we're watching the

0:38:33.080 --> 0:38:39.240
<v Speaker 2>gays celebrate Trump, love him down. And then Megan Kelly

0:38:39.320 --> 0:38:41.040
<v Speaker 2>and all these other people get up there and put

0:38:41.080 --> 0:38:44.040
<v Speaker 2>all this fear in your heart about trans people, and

0:38:44.160 --> 0:38:45.439
<v Speaker 2>it's like, what the fuck?

0:38:45.480 --> 0:38:48.800
<v Speaker 1>Then, So it's just the gaze, not the GE's not

0:38:48.960 --> 0:38:52.680
<v Speaker 1>the q's not the t's. Everybody else is confusing me.

0:38:52.880 --> 0:38:53.840
<v Speaker 1>Not that non binaries.

0:38:53.880 --> 0:38:56.200
<v Speaker 2>I don't like that, but this is all an umbrella

0:38:56.320 --> 0:39:00.719
<v Speaker 2>for us in being fluid in your sexuality. Most trans people,

0:39:00.719 --> 0:39:03.279
<v Speaker 2>I understand its gender not sexuality, but for most trans

0:39:03.360 --> 0:39:03.800
<v Speaker 2>people it is.

0:39:04.040 --> 0:39:06.759
<v Speaker 1>And so it is a disappointment to then think that.

0:39:06.960 --> 0:39:11.840
<v Speaker 2>Like you could be gay and also not necessarily be

0:39:11.960 --> 0:39:13.520
<v Speaker 2>for any other civil rights. I mean, I will say,

0:39:13.560 --> 0:39:16.600
<v Speaker 2>bringing it back to relationships, if I think of culturally straight,

0:39:17.160 --> 0:39:21.799
<v Speaker 2>within the LGBTQ community as well, there's oftentimes the well,

0:39:21.800 --> 0:39:24.319
<v Speaker 2>who's the man, who's the woman, who's the feminine, who's

0:39:24.320 --> 0:39:26.960
<v Speaker 2>the masculine, And so if we talk about maybe how

0:39:28.520 --> 0:39:35.719
<v Speaker 2>homosexual relationships adapt or try to incorporate very heterosexual means

0:39:35.800 --> 0:39:38.600
<v Speaker 2>of how to operate in relationships, I do agree that

0:39:39.160 --> 0:39:42.760
<v Speaker 2>that does take unlearning, and it does take a little

0:39:42.760 --> 0:39:45.279
<v Speaker 2>bit of homophobia. The idea that we have to have

0:39:45.400 --> 0:39:49.800
<v Speaker 2>these heterosexual ideas even within a homosexual relationship, I do

0:39:50.200 --> 0:39:52.319
<v Speaker 2>agree to a bit. But like I said, I think

0:39:52.360 --> 0:39:55.120
<v Speaker 2>that there's a privilege in someone speaking that way depending

0:39:55.160 --> 0:39:57.680
<v Speaker 2>on your community where you're at, And I think if

0:39:57.719 --> 0:40:01.200
<v Speaker 2>you're someone in New York, you don't understand your privilege

0:40:01.239 --> 0:40:03.840
<v Speaker 2>as a queer individual and how you're able to just

0:40:04.080 --> 0:40:07.400
<v Speaker 2>exist here having places like the village and having you know,

0:40:08.040 --> 0:40:11.359
<v Speaker 2>whole communities where there's rainbow flows they want to take

0:40:11.480 --> 0:40:13.880
<v Speaker 2>you in, not the same if you go to some

0:40:14.040 --> 0:40:17.520
<v Speaker 2>of these sundown towns or like I said, even in

0:40:17.560 --> 0:40:19.279
<v Speaker 2>the South or going to Florida where you can't even

0:40:19.280 --> 0:40:19.640
<v Speaker 2>say gay.

0:40:19.719 --> 0:40:21.600
<v Speaker 1>Did you watch the Jerry Springer doc on Netflix?

0:40:21.680 --> 0:40:25.319
<v Speaker 2>Yet it's not that unfortunately as background noise, but yes

0:40:25.440 --> 0:40:27.000
<v Speaker 2>it was on, so it's not that good. But there

0:40:27.080 --> 0:40:30.719
<v Speaker 2>was something very interesting. They talked about where people were from.

0:40:31.760 --> 0:40:34.239
<v Speaker 2>And I thought they were gonna expose Jerry Springership for

0:40:34.280 --> 0:40:36.879
<v Speaker 2>being fake, right, And they're like, yo, we one girl

0:40:36.960 --> 0:40:39.680
<v Speaker 2>got fired for something being fake, right, and she goes,

0:40:39.680 --> 0:40:42.160
<v Speaker 2>I should have known it wasn't real because he was

0:40:42.200 --> 0:40:45.280
<v Speaker 2>from Boston and none of this shit is happening in Boston.

0:40:45.320 --> 0:40:47.760
<v Speaker 2>And they circled on a map the middle of America

0:40:47.840 --> 0:40:50.560
<v Speaker 2>where eighty percent of the Jerry Springer guests were from

0:40:50.680 --> 0:40:54.160
<v Speaker 2>Middle America, right, And so there's something about when you're

0:40:54.200 --> 0:40:56.360
<v Speaker 2>not in the and even a Florida is a crazy

0:40:56.440 --> 0:40:58.360
<v Speaker 2>fucking town, but these are still larger cities where you

0:40:58.400 --> 0:40:59.680
<v Speaker 2>get to be interacting with other people.

0:41:00.120 --> 0:41:02.120
<v Speaker 1>So I think we do forget that a lot.

0:41:02.719 --> 0:41:05.440
<v Speaker 2>And you hate her, but those people we need to

0:41:05.480 --> 0:41:10.080
<v Speaker 2>have grace for in accepting themselves their sexuality. And oh no,

0:41:10.160 --> 0:41:11.920
<v Speaker 2>I just think a lot of them are more ignorant

0:41:11.960 --> 0:41:14.000
<v Speaker 2>than most, but it's because they haven't been exposed to more.

0:41:14.320 --> 0:41:16.040
<v Speaker 2>I think they just live in their ignorance. So I

0:41:16.080 --> 0:41:17.680
<v Speaker 2>don't know if I've talked about this on Horrible, but

0:41:17.680 --> 0:41:19.640
<v Speaker 2>I feel like I have. Maybe it's been a while,

0:41:19.719 --> 0:41:22.000
<v Speaker 2>but I was dating a man whose brother was gay

0:41:22.280 --> 0:41:24.279
<v Speaker 2>and he blamed me for exposing that.

0:41:24.320 --> 0:41:25.560
<v Speaker 1>I ever tell you about that, Yeah, I think you

0:41:25.600 --> 0:41:26.040
<v Speaker 1>should there.

0:41:26.320 --> 0:41:29.040
<v Speaker 2>So basically, the gist of it was, he had a

0:41:29.080 --> 0:41:32.000
<v Speaker 2>brother come from a South American country, its Venezuela, and

0:41:32.400 --> 0:41:35.799
<v Speaker 2>when he got here, he goes, Gila, baby, we need

0:41:35.880 --> 0:41:37.799
<v Speaker 2>to put him on the dating apps. I'm like, yeah,

0:41:38.280 --> 0:41:40.000
<v Speaker 2>I met his brother for five minutes and I'm like,

0:41:40.440 --> 0:41:43.120
<v Speaker 2>I know a dating app, feel like, And I introduced

0:41:43.160 --> 0:41:47.200
<v Speaker 2>his brother to Grinder. His brother ended up getting engaged

0:41:47.239 --> 0:41:50.160
<v Speaker 2>to a wonderful man. They are still married to this day,

0:41:50.160 --> 0:41:51.520
<v Speaker 2>by the way. And I want to say this was

0:41:51.520 --> 0:41:52.560
<v Speaker 2>when I was twenty two.

0:41:52.760 --> 0:41:55.759
<v Speaker 1>This happened. I say this to.

0:41:55.800 --> 0:41:58.600
<v Speaker 2>Say, I remember when his brother came out and said

0:41:58.600 --> 0:42:00.200
<v Speaker 2>I have a boyfriend, and he was like that you

0:42:00.239 --> 0:42:02.320
<v Speaker 2>made him gay. But this was your same partner that

0:42:02.440 --> 0:42:04.680
<v Speaker 2>left you for Jesus, right, Yes, but That's what I'm saying.

0:42:04.760 --> 0:42:06.480
<v Speaker 2>So the homophobia within the church.

0:42:06.360 --> 0:42:08.799
<v Speaker 1>Oh no, No, No, not him. I wanted to just say.

0:42:09.080 --> 0:42:11.120
<v Speaker 2>His brother was in his twenties at the time, never

0:42:11.200 --> 0:42:14.279
<v Speaker 2>had heard of grinder is leaving Venezuela, and it's like,

0:42:15.480 --> 0:42:18.759
<v Speaker 2>you don't really, you're not. You need somebody like me

0:42:18.920 --> 0:42:21.239
<v Speaker 2>being that doc connector to that world. How else was

0:42:21.280 --> 0:42:23.040
<v Speaker 2>he going to get that he's living with his brother,

0:42:23.120 --> 0:42:24.640
<v Speaker 2>he doesn't have friends, he's not going out.

0:42:24.840 --> 0:42:26.680
<v Speaker 1>Maybe you're closeted. Maybe, And I don't know if he

0:42:26.760 --> 0:42:29.239
<v Speaker 1>was closeted or not. I just don't know he was.

0:42:29.360 --> 0:42:33.600
<v Speaker 2>He probably had internal homophobia like my friend's growing up,

0:42:33.640 --> 0:42:35.480
<v Speaker 2>which is why I don't like my Latina friends saying

0:42:36.320 --> 0:42:38.920
<v Speaker 2>the N word. I was friend my best friends growing up.

0:42:39.719 --> 0:42:44.520
<v Speaker 2>One was Colombian, one was Mexican, and never forget, both

0:42:44.560 --> 0:42:47.680
<v Speaker 2>of their parents blamed me as to why their daughters

0:42:47.760 --> 0:42:48.279
<v Speaker 2>like black men.

0:42:49.320 --> 0:42:51.320
<v Speaker 1>Not that we went to majority black schools.

0:42:51.760 --> 0:42:54.400
<v Speaker 2>No, it's because they were friends with me, and so

0:42:55.080 --> 0:42:58.520
<v Speaker 2>knowing that they were, Yeah, and so the fact that

0:42:58.760 --> 0:43:01.040
<v Speaker 2>your parents are blaming me as to why you like

0:43:01.239 --> 0:43:03.560
<v Speaker 2>black men is crazy. But I knew that that was

0:43:03.840 --> 0:43:07.320
<v Speaker 2>their internalized racism towards black people. Your partner, maybe not

0:43:07.400 --> 0:43:11.080
<v Speaker 2>ever expressing it, was internally homophobic, and I think.

0:43:10.960 --> 0:43:12.200
<v Speaker 1>No, no, no, he was no.

0:43:12.440 --> 0:43:16.279
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, So that to highlight the thing about like how

0:43:16.320 --> 0:43:20.160
<v Speaker 2>the Midwest doesn't really have community. I was because they

0:43:21.280 --> 0:43:23.759
<v Speaker 2>that guy like your brother just came to a new

0:43:23.800 --> 0:43:26.439
<v Speaker 2>country where we can be open, where we can be open.

0:43:26.640 --> 0:43:30.279
<v Speaker 2>Oh the same my cousin left Jamaica because he was

0:43:30.440 --> 0:43:33.280
<v Speaker 2>gay and there was not safety for him at Jamaica.

0:43:33.600 --> 0:43:35.920
<v Speaker 2>Just a didn't think about or even Dave dn't think

0:43:35.960 --> 0:43:37.120
<v Speaker 2>about the way you go on a date and you

0:43:37.200 --> 0:43:39.080
<v Speaker 2>kiss someone in a restaurant Palm Street.

0:43:39.719 --> 0:43:42.040
<v Speaker 1>Gay men fucking look over their shoulders. But are you

0:43:42.239 --> 0:43:42.800
<v Speaker 1>are you ready?

0:43:42.800 --> 0:43:45.040
<v Speaker 2>It's the same thing we're dealing with now, which is

0:43:45.080 --> 0:43:50.240
<v Speaker 2>why parents and everyone they're blaming television, they're blaming drag queens,

0:43:50.280 --> 0:43:56.279
<v Speaker 2>they're blaming everything. But the scientific fact that as people, psychologically, environmentally,

0:43:56.840 --> 0:44:00.880
<v Speaker 2>we have these attractions to people, not because gayiteness was

0:44:00.920 --> 0:44:03.640
<v Speaker 2>thrown into our face, but because of who we naturally are.

0:44:04.280 --> 0:44:08.280
<v Speaker 2>You just said the drag queens. And so this weekend,

0:44:08.719 --> 0:44:10.960
<v Speaker 2>I just made dinner for my man's family. I've never

0:44:11.040 --> 0:44:14.440
<v Speaker 2>made dinner for parents before, and he was like, make

0:44:14.480 --> 0:44:16.200
<v Speaker 2>them gumbo, and I'm like, that must be the blackest shit.

0:44:16.239 --> 0:44:18.279
<v Speaker 1>I make That's why he said it. Yeah, it don't

0:44:18.280 --> 0:44:21.880
<v Speaker 1>nobody want Avocadoso's girl cooking out. My daughter saw the

0:44:21.960 --> 0:44:22.479
<v Speaker 1>type of city.

0:44:22.920 --> 0:44:25.279
<v Speaker 2>But basically we're sitting down at the table and his

0:44:25.400 --> 0:44:28.440
<v Speaker 2>dad loves politics and thank god, same vibe on politics. Right,

0:44:28.560 --> 0:44:31.360
<v Speaker 2>I'm talking about how Trump is terrible and whatever and

0:44:32.600 --> 0:44:36.400
<v Speaker 2>how the campaign was run for fear. And I started

0:44:36.480 --> 0:44:38.239
<v Speaker 2>to say something, and I know my man was gonna

0:44:38.239 --> 0:44:41.719
<v Speaker 2>be like, bitch, you gotta shut to Liberata. Well, I said,

0:44:42.280 --> 0:44:45.840
<v Speaker 2>you know what's crazier about Trump is the trans ads.

0:44:46.239 --> 0:44:48.040
<v Speaker 2>I was like, how many times because they watched TV,

0:44:48.080 --> 0:44:49.879
<v Speaker 2>they're watching the rights did you see like the guy

0:44:49.960 --> 0:44:51.360
<v Speaker 2>with the football jersey.

0:44:51.120 --> 0:44:51.520
<v Speaker 1>In the dress?

0:44:51.600 --> 0:44:54.160
<v Speaker 2>Like, is so crazy to me that one percent of

0:44:54.200 --> 0:44:57.480
<v Speaker 2>the population made a lot of people. They say trans

0:44:57.520 --> 0:45:00.160
<v Speaker 2>people are one point three right now, and it we're

0:45:00.280 --> 0:45:01.920
<v Speaker 2>blessed to know about.

0:45:01.640 --> 0:45:03.440
<v Speaker 1>You know what I mean wearing the right jig fires,

0:45:03.480 --> 0:45:04.319
<v Speaker 1>which yeah, I was.

0:45:04.360 --> 0:45:06.120
<v Speaker 2>Like, how crazy is it that all these people are

0:45:06.200 --> 0:45:09.239
<v Speaker 2>voting read just because they're scared of this? Meanwhile, they

0:45:09.239 --> 0:45:11.279
<v Speaker 2>aren't scared of the guns in their kids' schools, but

0:45:11.400 --> 0:45:14.160
<v Speaker 2>the advertisement saying be very scared of a man going

0:45:14.200 --> 0:45:16.839
<v Speaker 2>in your kids bathroom, be scared of the fucking ak's. Yeah,

0:45:17.040 --> 0:45:18.960
<v Speaker 2>and so I'm starting to go in. I know you're

0:45:18.960 --> 0:45:20.120
<v Speaker 2>looking at me like, oh my god.

0:45:20.880 --> 0:45:21.320
<v Speaker 1>It's funny.

0:45:21.360 --> 0:45:24.239
<v Speaker 2>That's why, Like I like, really it's funny because I

0:45:24.400 --> 0:45:28.880
<v Speaker 2>just had the same conversation with Active's dad. So he

0:45:29.040 --> 0:45:30.719
<v Speaker 2>went to Europe and was with his family for the

0:45:30.760 --> 0:45:34.600
<v Speaker 2>holidays and was really excited for me to meet his

0:45:34.840 --> 0:45:38.080
<v Speaker 2>parents being FaceTime, and we literally got into the discussion

0:45:38.080 --> 0:45:40.040
<v Speaker 2>about freedom of speech, and he was telling me about

0:45:40.120 --> 0:45:44.160
<v Speaker 2>like all these little black either Pseudanese or or or

0:45:45.000 --> 0:45:48.880
<v Speaker 2>something about the we we correlated what's happening overseas with

0:45:48.960 --> 0:45:51.719
<v Speaker 2>all these little black girls that started dying but the

0:45:51.800 --> 0:45:54.560
<v Speaker 2>government not wanting to look into it because of racism.

0:45:54.920 --> 0:45:57.000
<v Speaker 2>And I literally compared it to what happened with the

0:45:57.040 --> 0:46:00.719
<v Speaker 2>new bill in California, where there was evidence that they

0:46:00.800 --> 0:46:03.399
<v Speaker 2>weren't going to look for black girls that were.

0:46:03.320 --> 0:46:04.640
<v Speaker 1>Oh okay, okay okay.

0:46:04.960 --> 0:46:09.680
<v Speaker 2>And so like having this real like liberal conversation about

0:46:09.719 --> 0:46:13.200
<v Speaker 2>also the way in which politics are in Europe compared

0:46:13.239 --> 0:46:14.800
<v Speaker 2>to what they are here and that we aligned. It

0:46:14.880 --> 0:46:16.160
<v Speaker 2>was like he was like, I don't know if you

0:46:16.200 --> 0:46:17.719
<v Speaker 2>have time for this, And I was like oh no,

0:46:17.840 --> 0:46:20.240
<v Speaker 2>of course, and we had a whole conversation about politics.

0:46:20.320 --> 0:46:23.759
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, that's her way, I realized, Like and it's

0:46:23.760 --> 0:46:25.640
<v Speaker 2>funny because his dad was saying, like, you know how

0:46:25.680 --> 0:46:27.520
<v Speaker 2>you make a man's parents fall in love with you?

0:46:27.760 --> 0:46:29.600
<v Speaker 2>You You asked him if they need help in the kitchen,

0:46:29.680 --> 0:46:32.080
<v Speaker 2>You care, You do these things that like millennials people

0:46:32.120 --> 0:46:32.840
<v Speaker 2>just don't care about.

0:46:33.160 --> 0:46:34.640
<v Speaker 1>And I was like, oh no, it's really I know.

0:46:34.719 --> 0:46:37.560
<v Speaker 1>Then he has politics. Then he switches the phone to

0:46:37.640 --> 0:46:39.719
<v Speaker 1>his mom and is like, oh my god, you have

0:46:39.840 --> 0:46:41.279
<v Speaker 1>her dream apartment. Give her a tour.

0:46:41.920 --> 0:46:45.000
<v Speaker 2>And so I'm touring my new loft and showing it

0:46:45.120 --> 0:46:48.200
<v Speaker 2>to her, and she's telling me her dream was to

0:46:48.280 --> 0:46:50.560
<v Speaker 2>live in New York in this thing. And It's like, not,

0:46:50.640 --> 0:46:52.319
<v Speaker 2>you haven't me born with your parents right now?

0:46:52.520 --> 0:46:53.840
<v Speaker 1>Like, well, well, we.

0:46:53.920 --> 0:46:56.080
<v Speaker 2>Haven't even we don't know what this relationship is. This

0:46:56.120 --> 0:46:58.880
<v Speaker 2>is thing how our people should do FaceTime meet up

0:46:58.960 --> 0:47:01.799
<v Speaker 2>to parents. Yeah, is great, because it's not it was great,

0:47:01.800 --> 0:47:02.640
<v Speaker 2>too much pressure.

0:47:02.800 --> 0:47:03.839
<v Speaker 1>No, it's fun.

0:47:04.080 --> 0:47:06.480
<v Speaker 2>Like I didn't been facetiming him for hours and his

0:47:06.600 --> 0:47:08.719
<v Speaker 2>sister is a part of the conversation. So I haven't

0:47:08.719 --> 0:47:11.440
<v Speaker 2>met the sister, the mom, the dad, I think that's

0:47:11.560 --> 0:47:12.080
<v Speaker 2>very special.

0:47:13.080 --> 0:47:16.520
<v Speaker 1>And we haven't even had sex yet. Well crazy, speaking

0:47:16.600 --> 0:47:23.120
<v Speaker 1>of sex, what comes after romance before we're romantically involved

0:47:23.160 --> 0:47:24.719
<v Speaker 1>at the moment. So no, you're absolutely are.

0:47:30.760 --> 0:47:32.200
<v Speaker 2>We're going to talk a little bit before we get

0:47:32.239 --> 0:47:35.400
<v Speaker 2>out of here about the history of romance. So and

0:47:35.480 --> 0:47:38.080
<v Speaker 2>we gonna stop treating this segment like home mail. We

0:47:38.200 --> 0:47:40.320
<v Speaker 2>got to get here sooner, bitch, we're supposed to be educating.

0:47:40.320 --> 0:47:44.200
<v Speaker 1>He said he was cooking, bitch. Okay, so yeah, come

0:47:44.360 --> 0:47:44.879
<v Speaker 1>step one.

0:47:45.400 --> 0:47:48.640
<v Speaker 2>Apes evolved the ability to become Here we go, We'm

0:47:48.680 --> 0:47:52.359
<v Speaker 2>ely attached to it. We're doing evolution this, we said

0:47:52.400 --> 0:47:56.640
<v Speaker 2>the history hope, oh lod attachment would eventually be known

0:47:56.760 --> 0:48:00.560
<v Speaker 2>as love. It literally started from apes growing the ability

0:48:00.600 --> 0:48:04.799
<v Speaker 2>to love, and through evolution kind of just turned into

0:48:04.920 --> 0:48:08.040
<v Speaker 2>humans evolving. So the ability to become attached to someone

0:48:08.600 --> 0:48:13.280
<v Speaker 2>is then loving each other because it helps you survive.

0:48:13.680 --> 0:48:18.040
<v Speaker 2>I'm curious how they did the science on this, only

0:48:18.120 --> 0:48:22.080
<v Speaker 2>because what we see throughout the entire animal kingdom is

0:48:22.360 --> 0:48:25.239
<v Speaker 2>the bond of connection from ducks to lions to all

0:48:25.280 --> 0:48:28.840
<v Speaker 2>the things with their offspring, right, So I'm curious to

0:48:29.440 --> 0:48:32.399
<v Speaker 2>know how they identified their romantic love.

0:48:32.560 --> 0:48:34.759
<v Speaker 1>The attachment is how they're describing it.

0:48:34.920 --> 0:48:37.760
<v Speaker 2>Right, So they're saying they normally only notice that attachment

0:48:37.880 --> 0:48:40.279
<v Speaker 2>right when there's offspring, so I don't know. They're saying

0:48:40.320 --> 0:48:43.640
<v Speaker 2>being around each other spending time, Okay, that then becomes

0:48:43.719 --> 0:48:44.200
<v Speaker 2>a bond.

0:48:44.640 --> 0:48:49.240
<v Speaker 1>So the third thing, third step. As humans, we instinctively.

0:48:48.960 --> 0:48:52.839
<v Speaker 2>Develop loyalty and affection for those who show us most

0:48:52.920 --> 0:48:56.680
<v Speaker 2>loyalty and affection. And that's all love really is. It

0:48:56.800 --> 0:49:00.200
<v Speaker 2>is an irrational degree of loyalty and in fact into

0:49:00.239 --> 0:49:02.719
<v Speaker 2>another person. You agree with that to the point that

0:49:02.840 --> 0:49:05.200
<v Speaker 2>we'd let ourselves harm or even die for that person

0:49:05.719 --> 0:49:10.320
<v Speaker 2>seems insane, but it's symbiotic with what happens with humans.

0:49:11.000 --> 0:49:13.680
<v Speaker 2>Conversations with humans that say I would do anything for you,

0:49:14.239 --> 0:49:16.840
<v Speaker 2>well that's just a figure of speech. Yeah, but I

0:49:16.920 --> 0:49:20.320
<v Speaker 2>think I wouldn't die, but yeah, I would definitely do.

0:49:20.520 --> 0:49:24.600
<v Speaker 1>You would take a charge for someone you love, like

0:49:24.719 --> 0:49:27.480
<v Speaker 1>when I hear people look at it space no, oh

0:49:27.560 --> 0:49:27.919
<v Speaker 1>my god.

0:49:28.000 --> 0:49:31.959
<v Speaker 2>And also, for example, let's make it small. Okay, what's small?

0:49:32.000 --> 0:49:33.680
<v Speaker 2>Would you put a car in someone's name? Would you

0:49:33.719 --> 0:49:38.360
<v Speaker 2>put you're different? You put your name on something that

0:49:38.480 --> 0:49:41.680
<v Speaker 2>you know could cause you debt or go into something

0:49:41.960 --> 0:49:42.959
<v Speaker 2>bad because you love.

0:49:42.920 --> 0:49:47.320
<v Speaker 1>Some rich like that's literally sharing things like oh I

0:49:47.360 --> 0:49:48.960
<v Speaker 1>got to that point a lot. That's marriage. To me,

0:49:49.239 --> 0:49:51.560
<v Speaker 1>I've put no before marriage in words, you love someone

0:49:51.600 --> 0:49:51.960
<v Speaker 1>before that.

0:49:52.160 --> 0:49:56.040
<v Speaker 2>Two apartments baby and five at the same time to

0:49:56.239 --> 0:49:58.560
<v Speaker 2>a mount my mama, and two brings a man that

0:49:58.680 --> 0:50:00.879
<v Speaker 2>you were dating. We're not talking because you can love

0:50:00.920 --> 0:50:03.359
<v Speaker 2>someone before marriage. Marriage is a whole nother that's my point.

0:50:03.480 --> 0:50:06.080
<v Speaker 1>But friends that I point you, you would co sign

0:50:06.200 --> 0:50:07.840
<v Speaker 1>something for a partner.

0:50:08.080 --> 0:50:10.759
<v Speaker 2>I'm not a serious partner, yeah, okay, And I only

0:50:10.880 --> 0:50:12.319
<v Speaker 2>say that because I've done it for a friend.

0:50:13.680 --> 0:50:15.640
<v Speaker 1>God, so crazy, so fortunate that me and is nigga

0:50:15.680 --> 0:50:16.080
<v Speaker 1>a hunt.

0:50:16.160 --> 0:50:18.240
<v Speaker 2>It's so crazy because what I would do for friends

0:50:18.360 --> 0:50:21.920
<v Speaker 2>is normally I mean, and I've talked about my my

0:50:22.320 --> 0:50:24.360
<v Speaker 2>hierarchy of how I show up for people.

0:50:24.880 --> 0:50:28.600
<v Speaker 1>It's friends family then than men.

0:50:29.280 --> 0:50:31.200
<v Speaker 2>And the way I show it for friends is still

0:50:31.320 --> 0:50:34.759
<v Speaker 2>quite different than what I right now think logically I

0:50:34.800 --> 0:50:36.080
<v Speaker 2>could do and show it for a partner.

0:50:36.520 --> 0:50:38.480
<v Speaker 1>I mean, but it's only because latonic love comes in.

0:50:38.640 --> 0:50:40.279
<v Speaker 1>And so here's the platonic love is.

0:50:40.480 --> 0:50:43.919
<v Speaker 2>The ancient Greek philosopher Plato argued that the highest form

0:50:44.000 --> 0:50:46.719
<v Speaker 2>of love is actually non sexual yep. It is a

0:50:46.800 --> 0:50:50.080
<v Speaker 2>non romantic or an attachment form to another person known

0:50:50.120 --> 0:50:53.760
<v Speaker 2>as brotherly love, and reason that since passion and romance

0:50:54.280 --> 0:50:58.040
<v Speaker 2>often make us do things we regret, the passionless love

0:50:58.200 --> 0:51:01.080
<v Speaker 2>between two family members are close friend friends is a

0:51:01.280 --> 0:51:05.680
<v Speaker 2>height of virtuous human experience. In fact, Plato, like most

0:51:05.719 --> 0:51:09.040
<v Speaker 2>people in the ancient world, looked at romantic love with skepticism,

0:51:09.200 --> 0:51:13.600
<v Speaker 2>if not horror, because with most things non sexual love,

0:51:13.680 --> 0:51:16.440
<v Speaker 2>platonic love never meant that you took risk, and for

0:51:16.600 --> 0:51:19.560
<v Speaker 2>most of human history, romantic love was looked at as

0:51:19.600 --> 0:51:23.760
<v Speaker 2>a sickness bitch, I am, Plato, Yeah you are, I'm.

0:51:23.600 --> 0:51:25.760
<v Speaker 1>About to read De Nikogat books and stuff.

0:51:25.880 --> 0:51:27.960
<v Speaker 2>Oh well, look at the word question, I said, poor

0:51:28.160 --> 0:51:31.400
<v Speaker 2>decision making from romantic love. The ancients were so skeptical

0:51:31.440 --> 0:51:34.480
<v Speaker 2>of romantic love's utility, what is it useful for? So

0:51:34.680 --> 0:51:37.480
<v Speaker 2>much so that many cultures treated it as an unfortunate

0:51:37.600 --> 0:51:40.160
<v Speaker 2>disease that we'd have to get over in our lives.

0:51:40.560 --> 0:51:45.960
<v Speaker 2>In fact, classic stories like uh Romeo and Juliet there

0:51:46.080 --> 0:51:47.879
<v Speaker 2>weren't celebrations of love.

0:51:48.239 --> 0:51:51.919
<v Speaker 1>There were warnings against negatives. It was bad love.

0:51:52.280 --> 0:51:55.239
<v Speaker 2>For most of human history, people didn't marry because of

0:51:55.280 --> 0:51:57.439
<v Speaker 2>their feelings one of each other. And it didn't stop

0:51:57.480 --> 0:51:59.919
<v Speaker 2>with the Disney channel. This bitch gave up her voice

0:52:00.080 --> 0:52:03.800
<v Speaker 2>for a niggah like, what else happened? What else happened

0:52:03.800 --> 0:52:05.920
<v Speaker 2>in the Disney The voice was bro giving up your

0:52:05.960 --> 0:52:09.960
<v Speaker 2>whole singlevoid. So for most of human history, for the majority,

0:52:10.480 --> 0:52:13.480
<v Speaker 2>their sustenance and survival hung on by a thread. People

0:52:13.520 --> 0:52:17.200
<v Speaker 2>didn't have very much of a large life expectance. Everything

0:52:17.440 --> 0:52:20.800
<v Speaker 2>was done from survival. Marriage is arranged by families, families

0:52:20.840 --> 0:52:25.120
<v Speaker 2>because for money, of money, wheat Barley helped during a flood,

0:52:25.480 --> 0:52:30.400
<v Speaker 2>purely economic arrangements designed to promote survival and prosperity between

0:52:30.520 --> 0:52:35.040
<v Speaker 2>the families. And so it's interesting about today's age. People

0:52:35.160 --> 0:52:38.919
<v Speaker 2>are lasting longer in age because of love.

0:52:39.719 --> 0:52:43.480
<v Speaker 1>No, that's not true. Maybe love with friendships again, brotherly

0:52:43.560 --> 0:52:45.400
<v Speaker 1>love and community. I always talk about the.

0:52:46.920 --> 0:52:49.759
<v Speaker 2>Type in one hundred on Netflix, the Centurion documentary People

0:52:49.800 --> 0:52:50.520
<v Speaker 2>Living to one hundred.

0:52:50.560 --> 0:52:52.560
<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, there's the women say that they all they

0:52:52.560 --> 0:52:55.359
<v Speaker 1>had gotten old, no matter where they didn't. They weren't

0:52:55.360 --> 0:52:59.840
<v Speaker 1>in relationships. No, no, no, they last longer because of community.

0:53:00.120 --> 0:53:02.080
<v Speaker 2>Oh community, yes, yes, yes, some of them I have

0:53:02.280 --> 0:53:04.239
<v Speaker 2>husbands or what or they died or what I saw it,

0:53:04.400 --> 0:53:07.280
<v Speaker 2>but like the community was the consistency and the walking

0:53:07.440 --> 0:53:09.719
<v Speaker 2>everybody else some most some people gardened, a lot of

0:53:09.719 --> 0:53:10.400
<v Speaker 2>people gardened.

0:53:10.840 --> 0:53:12.799
<v Speaker 1>But the thing about community, I was like, damn.

0:53:13.239 --> 0:53:15.960
<v Speaker 2>And what's sad is you know when people fall in love,

0:53:16.200 --> 0:53:18.720
<v Speaker 2>what do they tend to do give up on their community.

0:53:18.760 --> 0:53:22.600
<v Speaker 2>It's so crazy too, because that conversation is constantly had

0:53:22.640 --> 0:53:25.920
<v Speaker 2>to when when people question why I don't want children.

0:53:26.000 --> 0:53:28.520
<v Speaker 2>And it's funny because one of the number one things

0:53:28.560 --> 0:53:30.920
<v Speaker 2>that if it's not legacy, it's well, who's going to

0:53:30.960 --> 0:53:33.080
<v Speaker 2>take care of you when you're old? And I'm like,

0:53:33.880 --> 0:53:36.080
<v Speaker 2>I said, it's so crazy because when you do look

0:53:36.120 --> 0:53:39.920
<v Speaker 2>at a lot of people and I'm not talking about you,

0:53:39.960 --> 0:53:42.719
<v Speaker 2>because clearly you're looking after your your older parents, but

0:53:42.800 --> 0:53:44.839
<v Speaker 2>there's a lot of people that end up in nursing

0:53:44.880 --> 0:53:47.600
<v Speaker 2>homes whose kids don't even come and see them, or

0:53:47.640 --> 0:53:49.200
<v Speaker 2>they're in nursing homes.

0:53:49.000 --> 0:53:53.080
<v Speaker 1>Because their kids were too busy to look after them.

0:53:53.120 --> 0:53:55.680
<v Speaker 2>And it's and what's also crazy is there is a

0:53:55.760 --> 0:54:00.799
<v Speaker 2>stat that men in nursing homes are more lonely than

0:54:00.840 --> 0:54:04.160
<v Speaker 2>women because they don't have the friendships that women curate

0:54:04.280 --> 0:54:07.040
<v Speaker 2>over their lifetimes. Women have a lot more friends. And

0:54:07.360 --> 0:54:10.279
<v Speaker 2>I know we talk about like the girls that don't

0:54:10.280 --> 0:54:13.600
<v Speaker 2>know how to have homegirls. There's way more community amongst women,

0:54:13.680 --> 0:54:15.080
<v Speaker 2>and I think we've been able to see that even

0:54:15.120 --> 0:54:17.440
<v Speaker 2>with the whore Hive than men have in terms of

0:54:17.840 --> 0:54:20.160
<v Speaker 2>how they create bonds and friendships platonics.

0:54:20.200 --> 0:54:21.719
<v Speaker 1>It's so crazy. Think about nursing homes.

0:54:21.760 --> 0:54:24.560
<v Speaker 2>I remember, and literally you know, when someone does end

0:54:24.600 --> 0:54:27.160
<v Speaker 2>up there, it's mainly if you have family to rely on,

0:54:27.239 --> 0:54:28.640
<v Speaker 2>because they can't they hell and help.

0:54:28.719 --> 0:54:28.879
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

0:54:29.360 --> 0:54:32.359
<v Speaker 2>So I was seeing my grandma once and my mom

0:54:32.520 --> 0:54:35.800
<v Speaker 2>was probably going three times a week and like making

0:54:35.920 --> 0:54:37.960
<v Speaker 2>meals and stuff because you know, nursing home food sucks.

0:54:38.400 --> 0:54:40.920
<v Speaker 2>And I was flying down to Orlando just to you know,

0:54:41.080 --> 0:54:43.320
<v Speaker 2>keep in touch. There was a woman I saw on

0:54:43.400 --> 0:54:46.239
<v Speaker 2>the other side. There was an Asian lady next to her,

0:54:46.680 --> 0:54:47.920
<v Speaker 2>and I was like, oh my god, you must be

0:54:47.960 --> 0:54:48.319
<v Speaker 2>her daughter.

0:54:48.360 --> 0:54:50.520
<v Speaker 1>I've never met you. No no, noa. And so she's

0:54:50.560 --> 0:54:55.120
<v Speaker 1>smiling this is true story, doesn't reply to me. I'm leaving.

0:54:55.239 --> 0:54:58.680
<v Speaker 2>She's like, I'm not her family, but we are part

0:54:58.680 --> 0:55:01.040
<v Speaker 2>of an outreach thing for people that don't get visitors.

0:55:02.000 --> 0:55:04.560
<v Speaker 1>Oh wow. And she was also Chinese, not just Asian.

0:55:04.640 --> 0:55:06.320
<v Speaker 1>China did the lady was Chinese, and she was Chinese.

0:55:06.560 --> 0:55:08.400
<v Speaker 2>She's like, yeah, you know, I'll just speak in Mandarin

0:55:08.480 --> 0:55:11.600
<v Speaker 2>and we'll talk and we'll or Sorry, the woman didn't talk.

0:55:11.719 --> 0:55:13.320
<v Speaker 1>But she was like, it's just memories.

0:55:13.360 --> 0:55:16.319
<v Speaker 2>Conversation can keep people alive long. You can just whole

0:55:16.400 --> 0:55:20.000
<v Speaker 2>ladies literally, And so she said she gets paid to

0:55:20.120 --> 0:55:22.839
<v Speaker 2>do this. Sometimes I'll just come if people can't get

0:55:22.880 --> 0:55:24.319
<v Speaker 2>to their family, if they don't live in the same

0:55:24.400 --> 0:55:26.719
<v Speaker 2>country city. She's like, there's some people that visited four

0:55:26.800 --> 0:55:29.360
<v Speaker 2>times a week. But she said this was pro bono.

0:55:29.480 --> 0:55:31.560
<v Speaker 2>She does it as volunteer work, and the nursing home

0:55:31.600 --> 0:55:34.160
<v Speaker 2>will say, hey, these people need someone to connect with,

0:55:34.239 --> 0:55:34.640
<v Speaker 2>et cetera.

0:55:35.239 --> 0:55:39.200
<v Speaker 1>Oh wow, right, that's dope but also fucked up. That's dope.

0:55:39.320 --> 0:55:40.640
<v Speaker 1>I love that.

0:55:40.680 --> 0:55:41.960
<v Speaker 2>I'm not gonna lie you about to have me go

0:55:42.080 --> 0:55:44.200
<v Speaker 2>Google playto like I feel like this was a documentary,

0:55:44.600 --> 0:55:45.719
<v Speaker 2>Like Robbie, like, ooh, let me.

0:55:45.760 --> 0:55:48.040
<v Speaker 1>Go look more into this. Be give me a plato

0:55:48.200 --> 0:55:49.359
<v Speaker 1>on the same type of time.

0:55:49.480 --> 0:55:52.920
<v Speaker 2>Girl, All I want to do the lady love is first, Okay,

0:55:53.320 --> 0:55:57.000
<v Speaker 2>if you want more horseshit. Since we're at the end

0:55:57.040 --> 0:55:59.120
<v Speaker 2>and now we can curse check us out on Patreon

0:55:59.160 --> 0:56:01.440
<v Speaker 2>dot com Backslash Horrible Decisions because we went nowhere.

0:56:01.760 --> 0:56:04.920
<v Speaker 1>It's five bucks a month and you literally get bonus episodes.

0:56:05.000 --> 0:56:07.600
<v Speaker 2>Plus if you upgrade to the next tier, you get

0:56:07.640 --> 0:56:11.200
<v Speaker 2>town Halls and these Decisions Decisions episodes too.

0:56:11.280 --> 0:56:15.960
<v Speaker 1>In video you've got Decisions oh radio, Yeah, yeah, we

0:56:16.840 --> 0:56:17.560
<v Speaker 1>do a lot over there.

0:56:17.600 --> 0:56:20.480
<v Speaker 2>And now we have a new tier where you can

0:56:20.520 --> 0:56:24.200
<v Speaker 2>become a producer, so you'll be able to either let

0:56:24.320 --> 0:56:26.840
<v Speaker 2>us know some of the sex history you want to

0:56:26.840 --> 0:56:29.320
<v Speaker 2>hear on here, you could shoot us hypotheticals, or you

0:56:29.360 --> 0:56:31.200
<v Speaker 2>could send us videos that you want us to react to.

0:56:32.040 --> 0:56:34.600
<v Speaker 2>But we have now a producer tier for you guys

0:56:34.680 --> 0:56:36.799
<v Speaker 2>to be a part of the show, and we are

0:56:36.840 --> 0:56:40.120
<v Speaker 2>gonna literally shout you out, So if you want to

0:56:40.880 --> 0:56:43.120
<v Speaker 2>have a nickname or not, we'll shout you out and

0:56:43.200 --> 0:56:46.880
<v Speaker 2>give you producer credit. But yeah, that's at Patreon dot

0:56:46.920 --> 0:56:49.880
<v Speaker 2>com back Slash Horble Decisions. By the way, our book

0:56:50.760 --> 0:56:54.080
<v Speaker 2>is on pre sale, so you can pre order our book,

0:56:54.200 --> 0:56:57.960
<v Speaker 2>No Holds Barred, on Amazon, on book Barnes and Nobles,

0:56:58.000 --> 0:57:03.719
<v Speaker 2>wherever you get your holes barred. It's a dual manifesto

0:57:03.800 --> 0:57:08.440
<v Speaker 2>of sexual exploration and power and Weezy and I are

0:57:08.520 --> 0:57:10.960
<v Speaker 2>giving you more stories than you've heard on this podcast.

0:57:11.200 --> 0:57:14.640
<v Speaker 1>We're digging deep and we are hopefully giving.

0:57:14.440 --> 0:57:16.480
<v Speaker 2>You some insight on how to get in your journey. No,

0:57:16.600 --> 0:57:19.680
<v Speaker 2>we get real deep in all the holes. It'll make

0:57:19.760 --> 0:57:22.560
<v Speaker 2>you come and cry. Yeah, so make sure you pre

0:57:22.800 --> 0:57:26.920
<v Speaker 2>order our book that comes out June twenty fourth, and

0:57:27.040 --> 0:57:30.120
<v Speaker 2>again follow us wherever, make sure you rate, subscribe all

0:57:30.200 --> 0:57:33.000
<v Speaker 2>the things and guys, we will see you on Wednesday

0:57:33.080 --> 0:57:33.640
<v Speaker 2>or next week.

0:57:33.960 --> 0:57:34.840
<v Speaker 1>But we're around.

0:57:35.280 --> 0:57:37.400
<v Speaker 2>We all got us three times a week now, Okay, like,

0:57:38.200 --> 0:57:41.920
<v Speaker 2>oh my goodness, tree ways the three holes you can insert.

0:57:42.160 --> 0:57:43.360
<v Speaker 1>Bye, okay bye