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Speaker 1: Welcome to Decisions Decisions. I don't think you should say

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Speaker 1: Decision Decisions. It sounded like you was talking to Kirsty.

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Speaker 1: You definitely say to welcome, welcome to the new podcast.

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Speaker 2: Oh wait, you want to say together Decisions Decisions. Thanks

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Speaker 2: for listening to another episode of Decisions Decisions. I have

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Speaker 2: a surprise for you, throwing a free event this Thursday,

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Speaker 2: February twenty seventh, and guess what. It's free and everybody

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Speaker 2: can join because it's virtual. From six pm Eastern to

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Speaker 2: eight pm Eastern three pm Pacific Standard, there is going

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Speaker 2: to be a virtual screening of Risky. It's a dinner

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Speaker 2: conversation that we hosted in Chicago, and you've probably heard

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Speaker 2: me talk about how I've been doing them over the

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Speaker 2: past few years in different cities. But we're going to

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Speaker 2: have a screening of the event we did, and it's

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Speaker 2: going to be followed by a live Q and A

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Speaker 2: with me and my girl Koya.

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Speaker 1: I've been hosting these dinners.

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Speaker 2: For a while with her, and I'm telling you it

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Speaker 2: is such an amazing experience to sit with black women

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Speaker 2: and addressing risky sexual behaviors and the stigmas that contribute

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Speaker 2: to the disproportion of HIV rates amongst black women.

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Speaker 1: Listen.

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Speaker 2: I know it's not that sexy to talk about stuff

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Speaker 2: like this, but you will really enjoy this conversation.

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Speaker 1: It's so educational and it's girl time with me. Hello.

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Speaker 2: this episode.

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Speaker 1: See you this Thursday.

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Speaker 2: All right then alright? Then alright then alright then welcome

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Speaker 2: to Decisions. This is all what I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Listen, rights, what action was that?

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Speaker 1: Listen? The thing is as long as you just roll

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Speaker 1: your rs. It's an accent.

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Speaker 2: I feel like you wanted to read that at Italian

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Speaker 2: French it was very much and eat tally.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't.

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I am not the best with accents. Okay, we need

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Speaker 2: to get your global we need to what's crazy. I'm

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Speaker 2: literally in Atlanta and I'm like, oh, y'all have accents

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Speaker 2: down here. Oh I don't know what y'all are saying. Bitch,

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Speaker 2: you do six months outro don't do that. I don't

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Speaker 2: be on this podcast like we will be adding subtitles.

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Speaker 1: I ain't go oh yeah, I have it, it might

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Speaker 1: have it.

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Speaker 2: I have noticed a little twang, a little twang, but no, y'all.

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Speaker 2: Welcome to another episode, y'all. I'm Mandy Bee Easy and

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Speaker 2: I know you're so happy that it's Jess Stats. I

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Speaker 2: mean yeah, I mean, but we've also had some really

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Speaker 2: good guests coming on. I mean we've actually like started

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Speaker 2: decisions decisions out with a lot of our friends. Like

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Speaker 2: we just was like, hey, oh, pull up a lot

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Speaker 2: of people. We've worked with a lot of people that

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Speaker 2: we know personally.

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Speaker 1: So I'm fucking with it.

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Speaker 2: So sorry Alex. By the way, if y'all are watching

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Speaker 2: on YouTube, first seven minutes, bleep out our curse words,

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Speaker 2: get over it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah you're here.

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Speaker 2: Buck shit, damn you will hear pussy funck shit bit So,

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Speaker 2: speaking of which, there was recently a guest that had

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Speaker 2: Tourette's come into the studio and yea to hit me

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Speaker 2: and was like, this is something I've never seen. They

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Speaker 2: never watched this big lowmel jiglove maybe in person. I've

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Speaker 2: never had movie so such a good movie. She basically said,

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Speaker 2: the ticks were hold on, let me type in tics

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Speaker 2: on my phone and tell you what these ticks were.

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Speaker 1: Sorry again for the bleeps, bitch dick.

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Speaker 2: Tippy tippy, that wiener tippy tapped, that rote history, my

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Speaker 2: flabber has been gassed BBC.

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Speaker 1: That's a big black cock. And then she wrote at last, but.

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Speaker 2: Not least, bitch, asshole and the wait, these were ticks

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Speaker 2: that just were burst burst it out.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm not gonna lie that. Those are really cool ticks.

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Speaker 1: She said she was on a podcast.

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Speaker 2: I don't know the name of it, but the person

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Speaker 2: that hosts it as Amanda Hirsh tourette syndrome, and they

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Speaker 2: never gave Tianna heads up, so she says she was

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Speaker 2: so I'm really curious though, like what that episode sounds

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Speaker 2: like and had that conversation goes because keep in mind,

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Speaker 1: If a man is.

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Speaker 2: Getting it right from behind, I'm trying now to make

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Speaker 1: Screams out Brian Go.

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Speaker 2: I don't know, like if I could have sex with

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Speaker 2: someone who is yelling out bitch, ass hole and rotisseri,

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Speaker 2: Jason Momoa got tourettes, hypothetical.

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Speaker 1: Letting her, I'm gonna turn the TV up. You right?

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Speaker 1: You want that chicken pussy? No, no, no, no, I'm not

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Speaker 2: Okay, if Jason Momoa has tourettes and just bursts out,

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Speaker 2: you know. I don't know if anybody else does this,

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Speaker 2: but sometimes when we're about to get drunk, I'd be like,

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Speaker 2: you know, it's like if that was a word, would

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Speaker 2: you love me? So we'd be doing shit like Okay,

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Speaker 2: what if I couldn't do this? What if I couldn't

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Speaker 1: Like we just to He's like, since we already locked in.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but like if you were a worm, I just

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Speaker 2: why are you asking a man if he would be

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Speaker 2: into beat reality? I just want to know about that

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Speaker 2: reality doing dumb shit. That's what you do when you

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Speaker 2: love girl. I'm not the funk going on my head

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Speaker 2: is fuck ump.

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Speaker 1: If I was a worm, would you be with me?

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Speaker 2: Let me tell you something about being in love if

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Speaker 2: you forgot how you was that kind?

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Speaker 1: No, I'm not gonna lie. I've never asked that.

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Speaker 2: If I was a worm, would you still a love man?

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Speaker 2: I mean I'm exaggerating here, but okay, she was like,

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Speaker 2: dumb ship? What was What was his reaction if I

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Speaker 2: if I, yeah, I just do a thing.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So I'll ask.

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Speaker 2: About an extra toe or an extra finger, or like

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Speaker 2: because my mama white, I'd be like, what if I

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Speaker 2: didn't have lips? What if I was like I sucked

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Speaker 2: voffles like this?

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Speaker 1: But I do that I see that white ship.

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Speaker 2: That's sometimes you look at me and be like, I

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Speaker 2: can't believe I'm gonna there's.

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Speaker 1: A white ship.

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Speaker 2: I have full lips, thankfully, But when I be at

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Speaker 2: like looking at my mama, sometimes I'll be like, damn, MoMA,

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Speaker 2: you ain't got no lips.

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Speaker 1: We're in an arrow where you could do it a

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Speaker 2: Now, I'm not giving my mom no filler in the lips.

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Speaker 2: I'm not giving her a filler. No, I think uh.

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Speaker 2: I would help my mom though, Like she had the

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Speaker 2: gastric sleeve. So I'm like, if if insurance doesn't cover,

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Speaker 2: you're and it's not a mommy makeover. But she's older,

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Speaker 2: so she has the loose skin. I'm like, girl, we

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Speaker 2: gonna snip and touch. That's way worse than that is

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Speaker 2: way worse.

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Speaker 1: Than a lip. No, it's not.

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Speaker 3: At least that's just a filler.

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Speaker 2: No, no, no filler be looking awful in can migrate

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Speaker 2: up under your nose, cutting extra skin, which is a

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Speaker 1: It's not worse than film because you know why I

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Speaker 3: Are you still putting down under it? Right? They put

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Speaker 3: you down here?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: To me, it's not like I'm not saying like not

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Speaker 2: to get lips like, but to me, I'd rather help

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Speaker 2: my mom cut some extra skin off then lip filling.

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Speaker 2: I think there's a point where you know, when you

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Speaker 2: That's what you gotta know. They built up to that.

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Speaker 2: What was Kylie like? Just two shots?

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Speaker 1: You know what I mean?

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Speaker 2: Yes, she worked once she got to the point where

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Speaker 2: you and then she lied to y'all and said it's

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Speaker 2: the lip kit, and y'all bought it. It was sold out.

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Speaker 2: I'm not gonna lie, I was them o bit. Y'all

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Speaker 2: love a little lip kit?

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Speaker 3: You is it?

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Speaker 2: Y'all can talk about Kylie all y'all want, with all

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Speaker 2: the things baby, her little uh Kylie.

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Speaker 1: Clothing line and the lip kit. I'm here. She has

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Speaker 1: put out some good quality shit. I'm gonna tell you.

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Speaker 2: I love a little you know when you put on

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Speaker 2: a little cool unjail and if you make your shit,

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Speaker 2: but then you oh no, I'm not gonna hold you

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Speaker 2: the little lip gloss with the little plumper. Ladies, do

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Speaker 2: not kiss a man or suck a man with the

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Speaker 2: plumper on your lip.

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Speaker 1: We don't even do hordrds anymore.

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Speaker 2: But that's my tip to y'all. I done did it

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Speaker 2: on accident, and it was like there's a little tingly happening.

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Speaker 2: I said, oh shit, it's my plumper. The plumper transfers,

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Speaker 2: y'all wait, and it can how fresh, but almost immediately

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Speaker 2: like when I'm with someone, I just I constantly am

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Speaker 2: putting on claws.

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Speaker 1: And then and then all of the things.

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Speaker 3: Y'all, wait, but how again, what's the time between the

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Speaker 3: plumper and oh, it tingles.

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Speaker 2: For a while, like I have this one. I don't

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Speaker 2: think it's tart. I forgot the brand.

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Speaker 1: I'll bring it. That thing be tingling for about fifteen minutes.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, this is so random.

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Speaker 2: But I just have to tell y'all about this last

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Speaker 2: night and eleven I'm sorry, my add just hit me

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Speaker 2: last night at eleven thirty at night. Okay, there's a

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Speaker 2: knock on my door, me and my nigga in a bed.

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Speaker 2: I thought about it because the girl got big lips

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Speaker 2: when I see her. So I get a knock on

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Speaker 2: my door, and I'm like, what the fuck? And I'm

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Speaker 2: like nervous, like what, And I've left my key in

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Speaker 2: the door before, so I was like, oh my god,

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Speaker 2: please don't tell me that's and it is happening in front.

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Speaker 2: I leave my key in the door too. These two

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Speaker 2: girls are giggling and we looking through the people this

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Speaker 2: whole state.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, sorry, we're just gonna leave it. No

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Speaker 1: know on your door. You don't have to open the door.

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Speaker 1: I'm going sorry.

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Speaker 2: It's two girls, one white, one Indian girl. He opened

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Speaker 2: the door and they're like.

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Speaker 1: Sorry, we just have a letter for you, and yo,

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Speaker 1: you read it. You don't read it?

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, sorry, They like were giggling. It's almost midnight.

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Speaker 2: It's a Monday night. I'm fucking living. Oh I was,

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Speaker 2: let me tell you know.

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Speaker 1: I was.

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Speaker 2: I was like when she said we're your neighbors, I'm like,

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Speaker 2: and what do you want? Like he was trying to

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Speaker 2: be nice. I was pissed grave read this letter.

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Speaker 1: You know. We had to get up early.

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Speaker 2: Hi, these are your neighbors, Apartment five and apartment six. Basically,

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Speaker 2: we're all on this one floor and it's a larger floor.

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Speaker 2: We're considering throwing a party, and we thought it would

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Speaker 2: be fun if we all open up our apartments.

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Speaker 3: Weird when they're young, right.

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Speaker 2: They're young. It's downtown. Let us know what you think,

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Speaker 2: or you can just totally ignore.

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Speaker 1: This if you want.

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Speaker 2: Nikka, let me tell you signing when I tell you

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Speaker 2: almost went and thought on TikTok, oh, I almost knocked

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Speaker 2: on five and six. They did that on TikTok. They're like,

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Speaker 2: that's like it's a trend. Wait, it's real time TikTok. No,

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Speaker 2: there's a TikTok where everyone goes to everyone's different apartments

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Speaker 2: and in each apartment there's either a theme or drinks,

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Speaker 2: and you literally are partying through everyone's apartments.

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Speaker 1: I literally saw that on TikTok. Hey, let me tell

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Speaker 1: you something. This isn't a fucking wait. He said, I'm

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Speaker 1: a millennial. I'm not here for it. Nigga, are you

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Speaker 1: out to here? White mind?

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Speaker 2: Literally, and I'm going off, and I know he's annoyed too,

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Speaker 2: but now he's trying to call me. I'm about to

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Speaker 2: go over there, so I get my phone out because

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Speaker 2: they left their phone numbers, and he's like, no, no, no,

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Speaker 2: there's children show. I'm like, yo, do you know how

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Speaker 2: disrespectful it is to knock on someone's door almost at

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Speaker 2: midnight on a fucking Monday?

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Speaker 5: Like?

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Speaker 1: You really got me fucked up? Number two? What really

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Speaker 1: got me? Tight? Bitch?

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Speaker 2: You only trying to do this with me so that

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Speaker 2: I'm not gonna complain about how loud it is. And

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Speaker 2: ever since that one hole movement Santa con My building

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Speaker 2: was flooded. What the fuck do you think this is

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Speaker 2: a goddamn frat house.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, they do.

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Speaker 2: People literally will hear Nina at the door when they

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Speaker 2: walk by and just start barking back, and I'll be

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Speaker 2: opening a motherfucking door out, bitch, what the fuck is

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Speaker 2: you doing?

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Speaker 1: Now? I know I live in a downtown Manhattan crazy.

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Speaker 2: Area literally by bars an mean that I need to

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Speaker 2: now take on this energy. First of all, I am

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Speaker 2: a phony. I have a boyfriend. Now, bitch, I'm still

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Speaker 2: a party girl. But I just really can't believe these

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Speaker 2: neighbors wanted to do this.

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Speaker 1: With me, Like, are you crazy? We're gonna just.

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Speaker 2: Sound like millennials right now because everyone's asking me about

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Speaker 2: a house warming, and I said, so that people know

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Speaker 2: where I live. No, no, no, no, no no, I don't

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Speaker 2: want anyone coming over my house.

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Speaker 1: Y'all.

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Speaker 2: Don't think this is that's crazy to knock on somebody.

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Speaker 2: But you used to throw parties at your house.

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Speaker 1: I still do.

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Speaker 3: It doesn't mean I want to, but you yeah, but

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Speaker 3: that's fair.

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Speaker 2: Do you go to your neighbors and are you considered

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Speaker 2: it about how loud it will be?

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Speaker 1: Like you warn the bottle of the line before.

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Speaker 3: You know what I mean that.

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Speaker 1: Giggles do you see that.

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Speaker 2: Okay, let me just say this. She's like, I do

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Speaker 2: it the matour way I do for congestion.

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Speaker 1: Let's start with that.

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Speaker 2: If I have a game night in my house and

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Speaker 2: the music and the sh it, ain't that crazy. I

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Speaker 2: knock on the door. I'm not asking for permission. I say, hey,

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna have some friends over on Friday. I just

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Speaker 2: wanted to bring this by. You know, it's not true.

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Speaker 3: Is this barefoot? We're gonna be loud, this.

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Speaker 2: Barefoot little Chateau Diana.

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Speaker 1: But I mean no.

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Speaker 2: And I started to think to myself, and I'm like, oh,

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Speaker 2: it's perfect.

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Speaker 1: It'sion decisions.

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Speaker 2: What rules do you have as a neighbor? First of all,

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Speaker 2: she said, you can ignore this. I feel like the

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Speaker 2: nice thing to do was write them and respectfully decline

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Speaker 2: and be like, hey, but if you never need anything,

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Speaker 2: here's my number. I really don't want to do that

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Speaker 2: at all. I don't know why I have to be neighborly.

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Speaker 2: I'm a renter. You're gonna be out of here, and

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Speaker 2: so am I. Oh, I'm not gonna lie like I

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Speaker 2: remember when I lived in Miami. I lived downtown Miami.

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Speaker 2: Off this game and I'll never forget. Our neighbor from

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Speaker 2: below us came up, mind you. He I guess had

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Speaker 2: a nine to five, but me and my roommate at

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Speaker 2: the time were bartenders and we went out a lot.

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Speaker 2: We would get ready, we would wear heels. He came

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Speaker 2: up and literally said, do I need to buy you

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Speaker 2: guys slippers? I don't like hearing your heels when I'm

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Speaker 2: having to get up for work or whatever, and I'm

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Speaker 2: not gonna lie. My initial response, and yes I was

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Speaker 2: twenty one at the time, was if you don't want

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Speaker 2: to hear people above, you buy the pet house or

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Speaker 2: get a house. To me, when you're in an apartment,

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Speaker 2: like to me, you should be able to listen to

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Speaker 2: your music loud. You should be able to wear heels

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Speaker 2: in your home that you pay for. Like to me,

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Speaker 2: if you're someone that is really going to be anal

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Speaker 2: about the noise made by having neighbors get a fucking hack.

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Speaker 3: Can we put what's the asterisk? At considerable hours?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm gonna say that I would be considered.

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Speaker 3: Music at five am?

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Speaker 1: No or for it? Okay, no, no, I's there's considered that.

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Speaker 2: I believe hours if you're walking around, but if I'm

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Speaker 2: walking around.

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Speaker 1: Bro. No, I understand music, I understand loud.

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Speaker 2: I think if anyone under me, because of structurally how

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Speaker 2: the building is, there's something underneath me, which is great, right,

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Speaker 2: And I'm not even on the bottom floor, but there

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Speaker 2: are people above me, most recently a guy that likes

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Speaker 2: to do yoga, an and some kind of workout. But

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Speaker 2: I say yoga because I just hear it thump sometimes.

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Speaker 2: Then I hear one foot. It's not like dumbbells. So

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Speaker 2: I let it go because it doesn't last long.

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Speaker 1: And I feel like we live in New York. These

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Speaker 1: departments are small. Yeah, what am I like? Whatever? But

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Speaker 1: do it one day?

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Speaker 2: That motherfucker did it late night, and the next day

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Speaker 2: when I saw him, I say, hey, can sleep last night.

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Speaker 1: See to me, noisles noisless one time.

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Speaker 2: Oh oh no, he's like doing a full on workout

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Speaker 2: on there. It's like a mad thing he's doing on

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Speaker 2: the ground. So I'll make a comment just so you're aware.

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Speaker 1: That's it. That's all I could do. I think they

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know, and it didn't change anything. Bitch,

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Speaker 2: I pay I'm wearing heels at my house I also

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Speaker 2: remember too, like sound noise complaints. Sorry, bro, come on,

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Speaker 2: like get ear plugs, get it together. Like people are

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Speaker 2: that I have understood. I had a no roommate when

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Speaker 2: I lived in the Bronx who was a smoker. Smoked

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Speaker 2: Section eight. Well, if Sectionnate comes and smells weed, you

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Speaker 2: want to stop smoking in her home, she moved out.

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Speaker 2: And so that's where like again, if you don't like something,

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Speaker 2: or if you don't like the complaints from your neighbors, bro,

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Speaker 2: move out. But I don't think you should have to

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Speaker 2: change your whole way of living in your home that

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Speaker 2: you pay rent for to accommodate neighbors.

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Speaker 1: Wait wait, wait, wait, hold on, hold on.

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Speaker 2: So she's said out because she's like, I'm gonna smoke

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Speaker 2: in my room. I'm gonna smoke in my house. I

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Speaker 2: pay rent, I wake up, I roll a blunt, I smoke.

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Speaker 2: So she moved out and moved to a place that

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Speaker 2: didn't mind her smoking. And I respected that.

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Speaker 1: I thought you were saying, move out. I have the neighbor.

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Speaker 2: Oh okay, okay, no, she moved out. She said, Hu,

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Speaker 2: no worries, I am going to smoke in my home and.

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Speaker 1: She moved out.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I think that's really honorable. Yeah, because if

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Speaker 2: you tell me, I gotta go beach. I mean, but again,

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Speaker 2: when you're dealing with Section eight or newborn babies like

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Speaker 2: my loft. Now, like my neighbor smokes cigars. The people

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Speaker 1: We can't. I mean, when you're sharing vents with people

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Speaker 2: My partner is a He owns properties and one of

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Speaker 2: them he recently like saw and basically I guess she hunh.

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Speaker 2: She opened the door and he's like, yo, I couldn't

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Speaker 2: even see the floor.

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Speaker 1: It was just filthy.

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Speaker 2: Affording kids, he was like, and not just regular, I

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Speaker 2: can it's gonna take over the walls. Yeah yeah, And

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Speaker 2: I literally was like, how do you know if someone

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Speaker 2: has bad cleaning habits or even smoking or anything. A

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Speaker 2: lot of people are investing nowadays. We get in to

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Speaker 1: What do you do.

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Speaker 2: We just watched fucking five year oh four and smoking

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Speaker 1: It's so crazy, that's what. That's what even I saw.

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Speaker 2: It was either a tweet or or maybe it was

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Speaker 2: even open your legs for a man until you see

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Speaker 2: how he lives. Oh a to see if he clean

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Speaker 2: or not, but also be to make sure he don't.

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Speaker 1: Live with his wife. You should, you should.

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Speaker 2: You should go and be able to see the inside

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Speaker 2: his shower curtain. Bro.

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Speaker 1: And you know what's crazy, You don't really.

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Speaker 2: Have a right to own enter a tenant's property. But

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Speaker 2: also at the same time, you want to make sure

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Speaker 2: your ship is being upheld. I'm like, so what do

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Speaker 2: you That's why renting is tough. But that's why a

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Speaker 2: lot of home like owners or people that get into

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Speaker 2: investment properties don't want to rent to Section eight because

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Speaker 2: the possibility of their home being destroyed is higher than

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Speaker 2: than not, because they genuinely if you're not paying and

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Speaker 2: Section eight you're paying very minimal, you don't seem to

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Speaker 2: care about things that you don't pay for m question,

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Speaker 2: so would but sorry. On the other hand, he does

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Speaker 2: have a Section eight tenant. It was like, I get

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Speaker 2: my rent.

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Speaker 1: Oh, I'm not gonna lie.

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Speaker 2: I I grew up as a Section eight tenant like

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Speaker 2: we were on section they growing up and we took

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Speaker 2: very good care of the house.

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Speaker 3: What do you wish that they had done instead?

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Speaker 1: Slid it under the door? Not a knock in the

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Speaker 1: middle of the night. I think that's a sliding under

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Speaker 1: the door. Eleven thirty on a Monday.

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Speaker 4: Bro.

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Speaker 2: I understand the age of the world right now, but

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Speaker 2: I just think there needs to be some decorum and

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Speaker 2: these kids, I really feel like they distract these kids.

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Speaker 1: We is aging the help. OHI decisions.

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Speaker 2: They turned to open my door to are you insant?

439
00:18:28,080 --> 00:18:29,439
Speaker 2: Look and ruined.

440
00:18:29,760 --> 00:18:32,159
Speaker 1: She's like, ooh, y'all a guy, Oh you want some

441
00:18:32,240 --> 00:18:37,360
Speaker 1: sound proof of tea sound ordinance tea. Y'all.

442
00:18:37,480 --> 00:18:40,000
Speaker 2: I opened a gym. I'm gonna tell you all about it.

443
00:18:40,000 --> 00:18:41,840
Speaker 2: It's called trap House. If you haven't seen it on

444
00:18:41,840 --> 00:18:42,880
Speaker 2: my ig yet, it's in.

445
00:18:42,840 --> 00:18:47,520
Speaker 1: The Lower East Side. We have a neighbor. Oh, it

446
00:18:47,720 --> 00:18:50,560
Speaker 1: just came from the Flora ba oh boy.

447
00:18:51,000 --> 00:18:56,760
Speaker 2: And my partner was upstairs with them, introducing themselves and

448
00:18:56,800 --> 00:18:59,280
Speaker 2: he said, it was pretty loud yesterday.

449
00:18:59,320 --> 00:18:59,920
Speaker 1: What was going on?

450
00:19:00,080 --> 00:19:03,919
Speaker 2: And you guys, I're wing a party And she was like, now,

451
00:19:04,000 --> 00:19:07,080
Speaker 2: we were doing our workout normally, he would commercial though,

452
00:19:07,080 --> 00:19:09,360
Speaker 2: don't you have to like, aren't you aware of who

453
00:19:09,440 --> 00:19:12,280
Speaker 2: you're who else is in the building before you joined

454
00:19:12,320 --> 00:19:14,560
Speaker 2: the building? Well, that person said, she said, did you

455
00:19:14,600 --> 00:19:16,439
Speaker 2: not know where a gym? He said, I knew you

456
00:19:16,440 --> 00:19:19,119
Speaker 2: were a pilate studio. Oh, didn't know that you were

457
00:19:19,160 --> 00:19:22,880
Speaker 2: gonna be playing rap bitch it is trup And.

458
00:19:22,800 --> 00:19:25,680
Speaker 1: So she's like, well, what level of noise would be

459
00:19:25,720 --> 00:19:30,960
Speaker 1: comfortable for you? He said, A pin drop girl. She

460
00:19:31,000 --> 00:19:33,119
Speaker 1: came downstairs, said, well, we're gonna kicked out. I said, no,

461
00:19:33,200 --> 00:19:35,440
Speaker 1: that hell we a. I signed my lease first.

462
00:19:35,920 --> 00:19:38,280
Speaker 2: Nobody else was in the building and they were very

463
00:19:38,280 --> 00:19:40,720
Speaker 2: aware what this would be. I'm following the decibels of

464
00:19:40,760 --> 00:19:44,719
Speaker 2: what's allowed the apartments. On the side, so it's New York, right,

465
00:19:44,800 --> 00:19:48,280
Speaker 2: you have some commercial then on the side, I turned

466
00:19:48,280 --> 00:19:49,000
Speaker 2: it off at a certain time.

467
00:19:49,040 --> 00:19:51,800
Speaker 1: I've sound throof the windows, like sound is going to travel.

468
00:19:51,600 --> 00:19:53,439
Speaker 2: Up and if you think I'm not gonna have a

469
00:19:53,480 --> 00:19:55,239
Speaker 2: sub with it when I want to hear sexy right

470
00:19:55,280 --> 00:19:56,440
Speaker 2: on the reformer you got me.

471
00:19:56,520 --> 00:19:59,920
Speaker 1: But no, So now we just waiting. Girl.

472
00:20:00,440 --> 00:20:04,200
Speaker 2: He's a white gay man, and whereas gay men steal

473
00:20:04,240 --> 00:20:08,480
Speaker 2: my heart, I have a feeling one day he's just

474
00:20:08,520 --> 00:20:12,080
Speaker 2: gonna be like I've had it. I am terrified. Luckily,

475
00:20:12,160 --> 00:20:15,120
Speaker 2: our schedule is like seven, eight, nine thirty. He comes

476
00:20:15,160 --> 00:20:17,240
Speaker 2: in around eleven. We do have a twelve class for

477
00:20:17,280 --> 00:20:19,160
Speaker 2: the rest is late night five six seven.

478
00:20:19,600 --> 00:20:22,000
Speaker 1: I'm like, all right, maybe you'll hear one. But I

479
00:20:22,000 --> 00:20:23,680
Speaker 1: think what makes it worse.

480
00:20:23,680 --> 00:20:26,159
Speaker 2: Because when I thought about it, I was like, Okay,

481
00:20:26,960 --> 00:20:28,920
Speaker 2: if I knew there was a plate studio as well,

482
00:20:28,920 --> 00:20:32,119
Speaker 2: I'd be like, oh you wouldn't You didn't see the

483
00:20:32,200 --> 00:20:33,000
Speaker 2: name of trop house.

484
00:20:33,560 --> 00:20:37,679
Speaker 3: Oh I mean he can so dog it. I'm a

485
00:20:37,680 --> 00:20:39,400
Speaker 3: little I'm a little scared of business. If you don't

486
00:20:39,400 --> 00:20:40,119
Speaker 3: want me asking.

487
00:20:40,560 --> 00:20:49,879
Speaker 1: Very designer showroom. Oh oh jo, I know he probably

488
00:20:49,920 --> 00:20:51,960
Speaker 1: has elevator music playing.

489
00:20:51,680 --> 00:20:53,040
Speaker 3: Right, And I woke.

490
00:20:55,200 --> 00:21:02,600
Speaker 1: My Buddha hole brown about to be all a daddy baby.

491
00:21:02,960 --> 00:21:03,520
Speaker 1: Oh wait no.

492
00:21:03,560 --> 00:21:05,600
Speaker 2: The song is a laugh in the hallway and I

493
00:21:05,600 --> 00:21:10,160
Speaker 2: felt so bad because it's a big bangs with fin being.

494
00:21:10,720 --> 00:21:11,920
Speaker 1: I'm like, hey, are you mean?

495
00:21:12,440 --> 00:21:15,760
Speaker 2: I was like, oh shit, I mean, it wasn't cursing,

496
00:21:15,840 --> 00:21:17,199
Speaker 2: but it's just so loud.

497
00:21:17,440 --> 00:21:18,399
Speaker 1: You're just yelling Fiene.

498
00:21:18,440 --> 00:21:23,360
Speaker 2: It's soliciting drugs. Yeahllo is it. That's what athene is, bro,

499
00:21:23,480 --> 00:21:24,840
Speaker 2: I know that's what a fene is. I thought it

500
00:21:24,880 --> 00:21:26,280
Speaker 2: was just like we're feene in for the party.

501
00:21:26,320 --> 00:21:29,399
Speaker 1: You're feeding for for the party. Sure, for the party.

502
00:21:30,359 --> 00:21:33,160
Speaker 1: But anyway, it's super fun. Come. I made a code

503
00:21:33,160 --> 00:21:33,680
Speaker 1: for hohre Hive.

504
00:21:33,720 --> 00:21:37,119
Speaker 2: It's ten bucks off and it's half pilates inspired moves

505
00:21:37,119 --> 00:21:39,280
Speaker 2: and half lifting and it's been.

506
00:21:39,160 --> 00:21:42,320
Speaker 1: Really really dope. David Edden got to come through and

507
00:21:42,520 --> 00:21:45,280
Speaker 1: you did. Now you got to come You didn't do it.

508
00:21:46,200 --> 00:21:48,360
Speaker 3: You didn't do so I felt like I was doing it.

509
00:21:48,560 --> 00:21:51,160
Speaker 2: I've never done plates though with machines. I do pilates

510
00:21:51,160 --> 00:21:53,080
Speaker 2: with my body, so I don't know about it.

511
00:21:53,480 --> 00:21:55,480
Speaker 1: I don't. Yeah, the machines be scared me. That's what

512
00:21:55,520 --> 00:21:57,800
Speaker 1: I seeing the athletes show. A lot of people are scared.

513
00:21:57,800 --> 00:21:59,760
Speaker 2: We do like we started an intro class because I

514
00:21:59,800 --> 00:22:03,360
Speaker 2: really a lot of girls coming in like I'm kind

515
00:22:03,359 --> 00:22:04,320
Speaker 2: of nervous or I'm.

516
00:22:04,160 --> 00:22:07,080
Speaker 1: Scared and you don't want to be the worst thing.

517
00:22:06,920 --> 00:22:08,320
Speaker 2: For me is when I go to a hard workout

518
00:22:08,320 --> 00:22:10,119
Speaker 2: and everybody's better than me or making me feel like

519
00:22:10,160 --> 00:22:11,120
Speaker 2: I'm not keeping up.

520
00:22:11,200 --> 00:22:12,640
Speaker 1: So I understand that too.

521
00:22:12,480 --> 00:22:17,760
Speaker 2: Like pilates, bar yoga, like I realize my uh my intimidation.

522
00:22:17,880 --> 00:22:21,080
Speaker 2: I'm intimidated by machines. So I've really enjoyed working out

523
00:22:21,119 --> 00:22:23,840
Speaker 2: with just moving that my must interesting.

524
00:22:23,920 --> 00:22:25,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't like. I don't like machines.

525
00:22:25,480 --> 00:22:27,399
Speaker 2: I think even when I go into gym's, like I

526
00:22:27,480 --> 00:22:28,960
Speaker 2: had a gym in my last building and I was

527
00:22:29,040 --> 00:22:32,399
Speaker 2: just like learning really the usage of them. I prefer

528
00:22:32,480 --> 00:22:35,199
Speaker 2: like using just my body weight. So like seeing my

529
00:22:35,520 --> 00:22:38,480
Speaker 2: love over the years grow for for bar class and

530
00:22:38,760 --> 00:22:41,760
Speaker 2: yoga and hot yoga and pilates, it's always been just

531
00:22:41,880 --> 00:22:45,120
Speaker 2: a mat and with pilates too, so I can't call

532
00:22:45,160 --> 00:22:47,879
Speaker 2: it pilates and I can't call it Lagree, but it

533
00:22:47,960 --> 00:22:51,639
Speaker 2: is the closest to Lagree. The fitness director is Lagree certified,

534
00:22:52,640 --> 00:22:56,080
Speaker 2: but there is like a monopoly on using the name.

535
00:22:56,400 --> 00:23:00,240
Speaker 2: So the machines are literally that, but I can't say

536
00:23:00,240 --> 00:23:02,760
Speaker 2: it because other studios own that, so I've had to

537
00:23:02,760 --> 00:23:06,399
Speaker 2: say plates inspired. But basically I just went from what

538
00:23:06,480 --> 00:23:08,919
Speaker 2: changed my body the most, and everybody know, y'all have

539
00:23:08,920 --> 00:23:10,720
Speaker 2: come with me to work outs and shit over the years.

540
00:23:10,720 --> 00:23:12,639
Speaker 2: Like there's a bunch that I love, and I'm like,

541
00:23:12,720 --> 00:23:15,440
Speaker 2: this is what changed me the most, lifting weights and

542
00:23:15,960 --> 00:23:18,520
Speaker 2: the reformer. So the regular plates machine is kind of

543
00:23:18,600 --> 00:23:20,760
Speaker 2: like this one is heavier so you feel it more.

544
00:23:20,920 --> 00:23:22,840
Speaker 2: But it's really because I want niggas on it. Like

545
00:23:23,320 --> 00:23:26,160
Speaker 2: my goal was to have like a workout that men

546
00:23:26,200 --> 00:23:29,240
Speaker 2: could do. I even made one spot in the gym

547
00:23:29,680 --> 00:23:33,040
Speaker 2: called the boyfriend bench, and it's a bench that is

548
00:23:33,080 --> 00:23:35,359
Speaker 2: only listing and you don't have to do the machine, okay,

549
00:23:35,359 --> 00:23:36,879
Speaker 2: because I knew it was gonna be niggas up in there,

550
00:23:36,880 --> 00:23:38,200
Speaker 2: and it's a dude in there every time.

551
00:23:39,040 --> 00:23:41,320
Speaker 1: Also, girls bringing their boyfriends.

552
00:23:41,359 --> 00:23:43,320
Speaker 2: Girls, you got to hold own it, damn baby, bring

553
00:23:43,400 --> 00:23:44,600
Speaker 2: us on fineess, Niggas's not.

554
00:23:44,680 --> 00:23:47,040
Speaker 1: You looking at the girl's boyfriend. Sorry, Oh no, you

555
00:23:47,119 --> 00:23:50,200
Speaker 1: are the owner. Can you be respectful to your relationships?

556
00:23:50,480 --> 00:23:50,760
Speaker 4: Damn?

557
00:23:50,880 --> 00:23:54,119
Speaker 2: Speaking of which, I have realized that the culture of

558
00:23:54,280 --> 00:23:58,680
Speaker 2: WTF media and owning this business is drastically different.

559
00:23:58,400 --> 00:23:59,320
Speaker 1: From starting a new one.

560
00:23:59,600 --> 00:24:01,919
Speaker 2: And you know, everybody has a language. Mandy and I

561
00:24:01,920 --> 00:24:03,480
Speaker 2: talk a certain way in the group chat with you.

562
00:24:04,040 --> 00:24:05,480
Speaker 2: I talk a certain way in the group chat with

563
00:24:05,560 --> 00:24:07,320
Speaker 2: Jeff and Alex and Clara whoever.

564
00:24:08,080 --> 00:24:10,560
Speaker 1: This new business, I have to really wastch my mouth.

565
00:24:11,080 --> 00:24:13,240
Speaker 2: Literally, someone came in and I was like, damn, her

566
00:24:13,280 --> 00:24:14,879
Speaker 2: ass looks so good, and they all looked at me

567
00:24:14,960 --> 00:24:18,200
Speaker 2: like yeah, no one else, but you can't talk like that.

568
00:24:19,040 --> 00:24:25,000
Speaker 1: I was like, hr guard, Oh yeah, Guard, it's already

569
00:24:25,000 --> 00:24:26,119
Speaker 1: a sexual energy.

570
00:24:26,160 --> 00:24:29,199
Speaker 2: It's sweaty in there, and it's like beautiful people, so

571
00:24:29,400 --> 00:24:31,400
Speaker 2: just you know, it's crazy. I have the opposite thought,

572
00:24:31,520 --> 00:24:35,080
Speaker 2: like going to the gym is never sexual energy, Like

573
00:24:35,280 --> 00:24:37,679
Speaker 2: I don't know, I guess I guess that goes to

574
00:24:37,760 --> 00:24:40,800
Speaker 2: like the no, you're a horny but I get it.

575
00:24:40,800 --> 00:24:43,040
Speaker 2: But I don't think this gym is not does not

576
00:24:43,080 --> 00:24:44,359
Speaker 2: bring about sexual energy.

577
00:24:45,280 --> 00:24:48,840
Speaker 1: What really the sweat the heat that surprised.

578
00:24:49,840 --> 00:24:52,320
Speaker 2: I understand a group fitness class because mainly being around

579
00:24:52,359 --> 00:24:55,240
Speaker 2: a bunch of girls doing like so we're also by

580
00:24:55,520 --> 00:24:58,160
Speaker 2: so no, like I'm in yoga and asses in the air,

581
00:24:58,520 --> 00:25:00,800
Speaker 2: I eat pussy lick as you would think it.

582
00:25:01,080 --> 00:25:02,880
Speaker 1: I don't go to like when I'm in the gym,

583
00:25:03,000 --> 00:25:07,200
Speaker 1: you don't feel sexy either. I'm bitch, I'm hurting I'm stretching,

584
00:25:07,240 --> 00:25:09,840
Speaker 1: I'm hurting seriously.

585
00:25:09,960 --> 00:25:12,760
Speaker 2: No, I don't, no, I don't.

586
00:25:12,760 --> 00:25:14,920
Speaker 1: I go with my little cut up. That's why I got.

587
00:25:14,920 --> 00:25:17,040
Speaker 1: I go to sweat, but I don't go to look good.

588
00:25:17,119 --> 00:25:19,960
Speaker 1: I go to like my body. I go to feel good.

589
00:25:20,000 --> 00:25:21,679
Speaker 1: I don't go to like look good. I don't do

590
00:25:21,720 --> 00:25:22,199
Speaker 1: my makeup.

591
00:25:22,359 --> 00:25:24,199
Speaker 2: I'll put on a baseball No, no, no, no, I'm not

592
00:25:24,240 --> 00:25:26,320
Speaker 2: talking about girls that go to look good. I've never

593
00:25:26,320 --> 00:25:28,520
Speaker 2: put on makeup for the gym. I'm talking about going

594
00:25:28,560 --> 00:25:30,600
Speaker 2: to field. I go to feel good, but I'm not

595
00:25:30,680 --> 00:25:32,840
Speaker 2: going to feel good in my pussy. I'm going to

596
00:25:32,840 --> 00:25:33,800
Speaker 2: feel good everywhere else.

597
00:25:33,920 --> 00:25:34,879
Speaker 1: Yeah, I ain't gonnallow to you.

598
00:25:35,840 --> 00:25:40,159
Speaker 2: I do feel like a especially with lower body workouts,

599
00:25:40,160 --> 00:25:42,960
Speaker 2: like it literally brings it builds testosterone for men. You

600
00:25:43,000 --> 00:25:45,360
Speaker 2: just start doing squats and ship like it's it definitely

601
00:25:45,359 --> 00:25:46,359
Speaker 2: gets the blood flowing.

602
00:25:46,440 --> 00:25:48,680
Speaker 1: I felt sexy. Will you when you squat? Does you

603
00:25:48,920 --> 00:25:49,560
Speaker 1: get hard at it?

604
00:25:50,680 --> 00:25:51,320
Speaker 3: Not hard?

605
00:25:51,440 --> 00:25:55,200
Speaker 2: You said it builds the bud and blood like there's

606
00:25:55,560 --> 00:25:58,040
Speaker 2: blood flowing, right, So is it flowing like when you

607
00:25:58,080 --> 00:26:01,480
Speaker 2: squat or even day when you do anything lower body?

608
00:26:01,920 --> 00:26:03,640
Speaker 1: Is your is your dick getting hard?

609
00:26:04,200 --> 00:26:06,879
Speaker 2: Maybe like a half chob like not a half chobe. Okay,

610
00:26:07,040 --> 00:26:11,359
Speaker 2: can we get to hypotheticals. Half chobe is crap job, it's.

611
00:26:11,440 --> 00:26:14,680
Speaker 1: Crazy, like you just asked me my dick hard.

612
00:26:15,600 --> 00:26:19,359
Speaker 2: Sorry, clearly, don't feel like I can't say anything, but

613
00:26:19,359 --> 00:26:22,840
Speaker 2: I'll be getting horny and I'm gonna lie to you

614
00:26:22,880 --> 00:26:24,879
Speaker 2: on the machine. Like there's this one move like it's

615
00:26:24,880 --> 00:26:27,400
Speaker 2: almost like a cat cow. It's in tabletop position when you're.

616
00:26:27,320 --> 00:26:28,520
Speaker 1: Doing it, do like cat coo oh.

617
00:26:28,520 --> 00:26:30,360
Speaker 2: I really was like I'd be feeling in my lower

618
00:26:30,680 --> 00:26:32,639
Speaker 2: I love a cat I'll be tooting it up. Or

619
00:26:32,680 --> 00:26:34,520
Speaker 2: if I do rows where one arm is on the

620
00:26:34,520 --> 00:26:36,720
Speaker 2: bench and I'm just rowing the other, I'm finna toot glass.

621
00:26:37,359 --> 00:26:39,640
Speaker 3: Do you stir yourself in the mirror? Duh?

622
00:26:41,320 --> 00:26:42,119
Speaker 1: Hello? Have you like?

623
00:26:42,240 --> 00:26:52,000
Speaker 2: I'm sorry ego to start anyway? Hypothetical Okay, if you

624
00:26:52,040 --> 00:26:56,399
Speaker 2: could make one universal law in the realm of sex,

625
00:26:56,920 --> 00:26:57,520
Speaker 2: what would it be?

626
00:26:59,160 --> 00:27:00,640
Speaker 1: Can you start with this? Okay?

627
00:27:00,720 --> 00:27:03,800
Speaker 2: So for me, the law I would make is like,

628
00:27:04,920 --> 00:27:06,480
Speaker 2: if you fake an orgasm, you got a jail for

629
00:27:06,520 --> 00:27:09,439
Speaker 2: six months. And the reason I say that is because

630
00:27:10,800 --> 00:27:13,119
Speaker 2: the faking of the orgasm, which I have done before,

631
00:27:14,720 --> 00:27:20,000
Speaker 2: has promoted so much lack of interest in what someone

632
00:27:20,040 --> 00:27:23,520
Speaker 2: wants because you're already getting the instant gratification. So we're

633
00:27:23,520 --> 00:27:26,520
Speaker 2: not learning what we're doing wrong. And even if it's

634
00:27:26,560 --> 00:27:29,159
Speaker 2: not that you're doing anything wrong, I think it's you know,

635
00:27:29,280 --> 00:27:30,720
Speaker 2: not learning it to please someone else.

636
00:27:30,840 --> 00:27:32,640
Speaker 1: So now we just is it good?

637
00:27:32,760 --> 00:27:36,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, instead of saying how can I get you off?

638
00:27:36,640 --> 00:27:39,600
Speaker 1: What do you like? Do you like harder? More pressure?

639
00:27:39,640 --> 00:27:42,359
Speaker 1: Like we just don't ask? I agree, I agree.

640
00:27:42,400 --> 00:27:45,600
Speaker 2: I mean a universal law for me would be it

641
00:27:45,640 --> 00:27:48,119
Speaker 2: doesn't count if you don't come, And I think it

642
00:27:48,119 --> 00:27:49,440
Speaker 2: would limit the conversation.

643
00:27:50,320 --> 00:27:52,800
Speaker 1: What do you mean it doesn't count if I didn't come.

644
00:27:52,840 --> 00:27:56,679
Speaker 2: I've only fucked five niggas, it didn't count if I

645
00:27:56,720 --> 00:27:59,280
Speaker 2: didn't come. That would be the law I would create,

646
00:27:59,560 --> 00:28:01,959
Speaker 2: because there's there's no way in hell, like even if

647
00:28:01,960 --> 00:28:03,960
Speaker 2: I had to sign a little waiver like yes, I came,

648
00:28:04,040 --> 00:28:06,560
Speaker 2: so then you could you could acknowledge me as a body,

649
00:28:06,760 --> 00:28:08,040
Speaker 2: You could tell people we had sex.

650
00:28:08,280 --> 00:28:11,720
Speaker 1: However, if I did not come, it didn't happen. Did

651
00:28:11,720 --> 00:28:13,000
Speaker 1: you really blow my back out?

652
00:28:13,440 --> 00:28:16,320
Speaker 2: I don't recall it didn't happen. That would be my

653
00:28:16,440 --> 00:28:19,760
Speaker 2: universal law. So then has it been the same for you? No,

654
00:28:19,840 --> 00:28:21,240
Speaker 2: It's like have you fucked anybody?

655
00:28:21,680 --> 00:28:22,240
Speaker 1: Let's say you.

656
00:28:22,160 --> 00:28:24,840
Speaker 2: Fucked fifty women, and if you didn't make any of

657
00:28:24,840 --> 00:28:26,680
Speaker 2: them come, you don't vote to you're a virgin.

658
00:28:27,600 --> 00:28:28,359
Speaker 3: That's crazy.

659
00:28:29,119 --> 00:28:31,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm not gonna lie to this fucking No I would.

660
00:28:31,760 --> 00:28:34,679
Speaker 2: I mean I think that that's because there's guys that

661
00:28:34,800 --> 00:28:36,760
Speaker 2: be acting like they did a whole lot of something

662
00:28:36,800 --> 00:28:38,840
Speaker 2: and it was a whole lot of nothing. And now

663
00:28:39,360 --> 00:28:41,760
Speaker 2: I want my pussy muscles back and guess what, I'm

664
00:28:41,760 --> 00:28:43,440
Speaker 2: going to take them back because you didn't even make

665
00:28:43,440 --> 00:28:49,560
Speaker 2: them contract. Hello, now I feel like a rapper. What

666
00:28:49,600 --> 00:28:52,000
Speaker 2: would your law be for sex? Do you have a

667
00:28:52,080 --> 00:28:55,000
Speaker 2: sex law that you would if your DL you gotta,

668
00:28:55,680 --> 00:28:58,400
Speaker 2: that would be your sex laws? Do you have to

669
00:28:58,440 --> 00:28:59,840
Speaker 2: give ahead before penetration?

670
00:29:00,080 --> 00:29:01,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, it doesn't happen to be before, but like head

671
00:29:01,880 --> 00:29:03,520
Speaker 3: has to happen, one head has to.

672
00:29:03,480 --> 00:29:05,000
Speaker 1: Happen on one of the other.

673
00:29:05,160 --> 00:29:06,080
Speaker 3: Yes, I like that.

674
00:29:06,200 --> 00:29:07,880
Speaker 1: I'm not mad at that. I think that's actually a

675
00:29:07,920 --> 00:29:08,360
Speaker 1: really good lie.

676
00:29:08,360 --> 00:29:10,000
Speaker 2: I mean, I'm not gonna lie. You're kind of childish.

677
00:29:10,000 --> 00:29:15,240
Speaker 2: If there's no oral are you, you're childish? If if

678
00:29:15,280 --> 00:29:17,560
Speaker 2: you are having sex as a grown as adult, I'm

679
00:29:17,560 --> 00:29:23,040
Speaker 2: gonna say eight nineteen and no, cause by eighteen you

680
00:29:23,320 --> 00:29:27,360
Speaker 2: may still be there. I don't think anyone who is

681
00:29:27,520 --> 00:29:31,880
Speaker 2: mature is having any sex without having or so. My

682
00:29:32,120 --> 00:29:35,160
Speaker 2: drug dealer is like, well, he's a new one, but

683
00:29:35,520 --> 00:29:37,440
Speaker 2: he's like a superhod nigga, and to be honest with you,

684
00:29:37,480 --> 00:29:39,240
Speaker 2: the type of drugs that like ain't super hood, so

685
00:29:39,320 --> 00:29:39,960
Speaker 2: something about it.

686
00:29:39,880 --> 00:29:41,840
Speaker 1: It's just kind of fun when he comes through. So

687
00:29:41,920 --> 00:29:42,760
Speaker 1: we talking or whatever.

688
00:29:42,800 --> 00:29:45,360
Speaker 2: He's like, yo, I found out a horrible decisions. I

689
00:29:45,360 --> 00:29:47,200
Speaker 2: didn't even know I've been serving him, like I ain't

690
00:29:47,240 --> 00:29:47,960
Speaker 2: know who he was.

691
00:29:48,600 --> 00:29:50,640
Speaker 1: Were talking. He was like, you know, it's crazy.

692
00:29:50,680 --> 00:29:52,040
Speaker 2: A lot of girls be trying to cut me off

693
00:29:52,080 --> 00:29:54,320
Speaker 2: because I don't really kiss or eat pussy unless I'm

694
00:29:54,360 --> 00:29:54,960
Speaker 2: super in love.

695
00:29:55,400 --> 00:29:57,960
Speaker 1: And I literally was like, then what do you do?

696
00:29:58,360 --> 00:30:01,920
Speaker 2: Put his dick in you finger then and spit Yeah,

697
00:30:02,080 --> 00:30:04,400
Speaker 2: I was, so I'm like I can almost see I

698
00:30:04,400 --> 00:30:06,520
Speaker 2: can understand the kissing and like like.

699
00:30:06,600 --> 00:30:09,959
Speaker 1: Titty, like what I mean?

700
00:30:09,960 --> 00:30:12,000
Speaker 2: I use anyway, I'm never buying mushrooms from him again.

701
00:30:12,040 --> 00:30:13,600
Speaker 2: I mean I used to have sex and not kiss

702
00:30:13,680 --> 00:30:15,640
Speaker 2: I get kissing being an intimate. It's so crazy because

703
00:30:15,680 --> 00:30:17,400
Speaker 2: I think, you know, kissing is more.

704
00:30:17,320 --> 00:30:19,160
Speaker 3: Intimate or kissing the head.

705
00:30:19,240 --> 00:30:21,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, No, kissing is way more intimate than giving head.

706
00:30:22,920 --> 00:30:25,760
Speaker 2: I agree, it is, like I said, like, I agree

707
00:30:25,760 --> 00:30:28,920
Speaker 2: with you. I think oral is a part of sex.

708
00:30:28,880 --> 00:30:30,600
Speaker 3: Or oral should be a part of sex.

709
00:30:30,600 --> 00:30:32,400
Speaker 1: It should be one or the other. Is giving head.

710
00:30:32,480 --> 00:30:35,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, someone has to give a head, even if we're

711
00:30:35,160 --> 00:30:37,600
Speaker 2: not sixty nine yet out someone has to give head.

712
00:30:37,680 --> 00:30:40,520
Speaker 2: Like one of my homegirls just opened up her relationship

713
00:30:41,000 --> 00:30:43,160
Speaker 2: and she was asking me about my rules and how

714
00:30:43,200 --> 00:30:45,720
Speaker 2: they are the boundaries and what we're both allowed to do.

715
00:30:46,440 --> 00:30:48,680
Speaker 2: And one of the things she said to me was

716
00:30:49,160 --> 00:30:52,960
Speaker 2: do you letting me other pussy always? Because men will

717
00:30:53,000 --> 00:30:55,320
Speaker 2: say they don't want you to suck other dick, right,

718
00:30:55,960 --> 00:30:58,160
Speaker 2: So she was like you do you let them get

719
00:30:58,200 --> 00:31:00,440
Speaker 2: other pussy? And I was like, well, it's not a

720
00:31:00,520 --> 00:31:02,320
Speaker 2: rule that he can't. I was like, isn't a head

721
00:31:02,320 --> 00:31:04,680
Speaker 2: part of sex? I was like, am my, Nigga's not

722
00:31:04,760 --> 00:31:07,840
Speaker 2: busting down bitches every week, Like this is not something

723
00:31:07,840 --> 00:31:09,440
Speaker 2: like our sex life is not.

724
00:31:09,520 --> 00:31:11,440
Speaker 1: It's not a frequent, no monogamy thing. We don't. He

725
00:31:11,480 --> 00:31:13,760
Speaker 1: doesn't have many other partners, right. I was like, I

726
00:31:13,800 --> 00:31:14,360
Speaker 1: didn't even.

727
00:31:14,360 --> 00:31:19,280
Speaker 2: Think to police that, and she was like, that's insane

728
00:31:19,360 --> 00:31:23,400
Speaker 2: to me because that's so intimate. I'm like, bro, my

729
00:31:23,520 --> 00:31:26,520
Speaker 2: boyfriend is allowed to have sex with other women. We

730
00:31:26,560 --> 00:31:29,400
Speaker 2: have sex with other women together. Now you're telling me

731
00:31:29,920 --> 00:31:31,360
Speaker 2: that's so intimate.

732
00:31:31,400 --> 00:31:34,440
Speaker 1: Oh, I'm not gonna lie. There was an argument with

733
00:31:34,680 --> 00:31:35,160
Speaker 1: my ex.

734
00:31:35,600 --> 00:31:39,240
Speaker 2: I didn't mind him having sex with other women, But

735
00:31:39,360 --> 00:31:41,480
Speaker 2: you went to a bar with a bitch, like I

736
00:31:42,000 --> 00:31:44,719
Speaker 2: thought it was intimate. So you spend outside time out

737
00:31:44,760 --> 00:31:46,760
Speaker 2: of the bedroom with a woman like.

738
00:31:46,880 --> 00:31:48,440
Speaker 1: For what, why do you have to talk to her?

739
00:31:48,800 --> 00:31:50,720
Speaker 2: Aren't you just supposed to be having sex now, So like,

740
00:31:50,760 --> 00:31:53,240
Speaker 2: to me, intimacy is giving someone your time. On the

741
00:31:53,600 --> 00:31:56,680
Speaker 2: on the other front, what's interesting is I agree. So

742
00:31:56,720 --> 00:31:59,120
Speaker 2: whereas it didn't bother me before, at this juncture of

743
00:31:59,120 --> 00:32:01,440
Speaker 2: my life, I don't really want that, Like I don't want.

744
00:32:01,280 --> 00:32:04,080
Speaker 1: A woman feeling like you.

745
00:32:06,080 --> 00:32:08,840
Speaker 2: Are, oh like hurt your time as oh like a

746
00:32:08,920 --> 00:32:11,200
Speaker 2: birthday or something like that, like, yeah, did a bad

747
00:32:11,240 --> 00:32:13,080
Speaker 2: day at work And I think that's too deep. So

748
00:32:13,200 --> 00:32:16,440
Speaker 2: basically he was like, yo, I'm not like going out

749
00:32:16,760 --> 00:32:19,479
Speaker 2: meeting bitches that are like birds, like these girls are

750
00:32:19,480 --> 00:32:21,400
Speaker 2: decent people. I can't just be like, let me pull up.

751
00:32:21,720 --> 00:32:23,600
Speaker 2: You have a decent woman like to just get fucked

752
00:32:23,600 --> 00:32:26,200
Speaker 2: and left too, So he wrote, what about our thing

753
00:32:26,400 --> 00:32:28,160
Speaker 2: was if I ever meet a new person that I

754
00:32:28,200 --> 00:32:30,640
Speaker 2: sleep with, can I at least go to a bar

755
00:32:30,720 --> 00:32:32,360
Speaker 2: with them for the first time. I don't want to

756
00:32:32,400 --> 00:32:34,160
Speaker 2: just go to women's home or they come to mind

757
00:32:34,200 --> 00:32:35,240
Speaker 2: like I need something there.

758
00:32:35,560 --> 00:32:37,080
Speaker 1: I was like, fine, the first time is it?

759
00:32:37,800 --> 00:32:41,120
Speaker 2: And I my home always were laughing about it because

760
00:32:41,120 --> 00:32:43,080
Speaker 2: they were like, what if you're gonna kill the first night?

761
00:32:43,120 --> 00:32:45,360
Speaker 2: I'm like, that's his problem that nigga got a motherfucking

762
00:32:45,680 --> 00:32:47,560
Speaker 2: ninety out of one hundred a record. Fuck it, like,

763
00:32:47,640 --> 00:32:51,440
Speaker 2: you better work that night. But to be fair, uh,

764
00:32:52,040 --> 00:32:54,400
Speaker 2: something that is very important to me. And again in

765
00:32:54,480 --> 00:32:58,800
Speaker 2: decisions decisions, we're talking about non monogamy. So I love

766
00:32:58,800 --> 00:33:01,760
Speaker 2: and appreciate that any one he could meet while out

767
00:33:02,200 --> 00:33:04,440
Speaker 2: knows he has a girlfriend. I think that's something that

768
00:33:05,080 --> 00:33:07,360
Speaker 2: is part of the ethical nominogamy. You don't get the

769
00:33:07,440 --> 00:33:09,240
Speaker 2: number and then say, oh, I have a girlfriend, right,

770
00:33:09,560 --> 00:33:13,920
Speaker 2: you see it generally speaking, if that's happening, you're probably

771
00:33:13,960 --> 00:33:17,320
Speaker 2: knowing this is for sex. So I think that's where

772
00:33:17,320 --> 00:33:18,360
Speaker 2: it's kind of worked out.

773
00:33:19,280 --> 00:33:19,640
Speaker 1: I don't know.

774
00:33:19,640 --> 00:33:21,520
Speaker 2: We haven't had this conversation a while. He ain't missed

775
00:33:21,520 --> 00:33:23,280
Speaker 2: a new bitches in a minute. But when we did

776
00:33:23,320 --> 00:33:25,440
Speaker 2: have the convo, that was something I pressed on in

777
00:33:25,480 --> 00:33:27,680
Speaker 2: the beginning, like, are you sure you're saying it?

778
00:33:28,000 --> 00:33:28,560
Speaker 1: Are you sure?

779
00:33:29,280 --> 00:33:32,560
Speaker 2: Like, please make sure because I never want to be

780
00:33:32,600 --> 00:33:36,000
Speaker 2: in a position where you're a liar to someone else.

781
00:33:36,280 --> 00:33:37,880
Speaker 1: Yeah. I think that's my problem now.

782
00:33:38,080 --> 00:33:38,360
Speaker 4: I know.

783
00:33:38,720 --> 00:33:39,840
Speaker 1: I am.

784
00:33:40,880 --> 00:33:45,000
Speaker 2: Engaging in a lot of heavy conversation and potential relationship

785
00:33:45,040 --> 00:33:48,239
Speaker 2: planning with the three guys that I'm talking to, and

786
00:33:48,400 --> 00:33:52,600
Speaker 2: all of them are monogamous, and I'm like just hoping

787
00:33:52,640 --> 00:33:55,000
Speaker 2: through conversation I could change their mind. But about monogamous

788
00:33:55,120 --> 00:33:56,640
Speaker 2: having sex together? Are they okay with that?

789
00:33:57,800 --> 00:33:59,719
Speaker 1: That's my problem. I like all three of them, so

790
00:34:00,040 --> 00:34:04,520
Speaker 1: I don't want to day. Did you guys play? Yeah,

791
00:34:04,640 --> 00:34:05,240
Speaker 1: you can't see that.

792
00:34:05,320 --> 00:34:07,600
Speaker 2: I never wanted more than one maybe in a Jersey

793
00:34:08,160 --> 00:34:12,600
Speaker 2: Oh game night, super Bowl, none of none of them,

794
00:34:12,719 --> 00:34:15,080
Speaker 2: none of them live in the same city. So I think,

795
00:34:15,239 --> 00:34:19,359
Speaker 2: you know, if it's you know, you know, long long

796
00:34:19,440 --> 00:34:22,920
Speaker 2: distance relationship type ship, like we can find ways to

797
00:34:23,080 --> 00:34:24,600
Speaker 2: enjoy each other long distance man.

798
00:34:25,120 --> 00:34:26,080
Speaker 1: Okay, I don't know.

799
00:34:26,280 --> 00:34:28,880
Speaker 2: I saw this clip, and while it's a lot to

800
00:34:28,960 --> 00:34:31,400
Speaker 2: think about, I just found the opinion to be so

801
00:34:31,560 --> 00:34:34,160
Speaker 2: interesting and I thought it'd be good to share on

802
00:34:34,280 --> 00:34:36,040
Speaker 2: Horrible because we're both kind of gay.

803
00:34:36,560 --> 00:34:39,160
Speaker 3: Yes, So what's your take?

804
00:34:39,440 --> 00:34:39,920
Speaker 1: I take us up.

805
00:34:39,920 --> 00:34:42,360
Speaker 5: A lot of queer people lead hetereral lives.

806
00:34:42,680 --> 00:34:45,040
Speaker 3: A lot of queer people lead hetero lives.

807
00:34:45,000 --> 00:34:49,160
Speaker 4: Not unpacking their homophones, secret homos if you will, can

808
00:34:49,239 --> 00:34:50,240
Speaker 4: I say secret homos?

809
00:34:52,000 --> 00:34:52,120
Speaker 1: Oh?

810
00:34:52,239 --> 00:34:57,760
Speaker 4: No, quiet queers, These quiet queers living straight lives exactly

811
00:34:57,800 --> 00:35:01,040
Speaker 4: wearing khaki pants and talk it didn't blue T shirts

812
00:35:01,040 --> 00:35:03,640
Speaker 4: saying I'm gay but you're not well.

813
00:35:03,680 --> 00:35:07,319
Speaker 5: Also because they refuse to distigmatize, declonize their brain. It's

814
00:35:07,360 --> 00:35:10,640
Speaker 5: like people can be fair and identity but still remain

815
00:35:10,719 --> 00:35:14,839
Speaker 5: culturally straight. What is culturally straight refusing to dig any

816
00:35:14,920 --> 00:35:18,799
Speaker 5: deeper because that like ownership of the label queer, it's

817
00:35:18,800 --> 00:35:21,279
Speaker 5: assumed that it like absolves you from kind of just

818
00:35:21,360 --> 00:35:26,920
Speaker 5: doing any further work. And there's this constant process of

819
00:35:27,000 --> 00:35:28,919
Speaker 5: re education that's necessary to kind of due.

820
00:35:28,840 --> 00:35:31,239
Speaker 4: Diligence, like once you realize you are queer.

821
00:35:31,600 --> 00:35:36,640
Speaker 5: Well, I'm looking at gentrifier bisexuals, specifically gentrifier bisexuals.

822
00:35:36,880 --> 00:35:37,640
Speaker 1: What are those.

823
00:35:38,200 --> 00:35:43,080
Speaker 5: Gentrifiers who are bisexuals not digging deeper into their internalized

824
00:35:43,080 --> 00:35:44,640
Speaker 5: homophobia gentrifier.

825
00:35:45,000 --> 00:35:49,120
Speaker 3: Bisexuals are homophobic? Yes, this is fascinating.

826
00:35:49,200 --> 00:35:52,759
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, yeah, Well why do gay people always come

827
00:35:52,800 --> 00:35:55,000
Speaker 2: for the buys death number one? They do give it

828
00:35:55,040 --> 00:35:56,600
Speaker 2: a break, bitch, They don't allow us to be a

829
00:35:56,640 --> 00:35:57,680
Speaker 2: part of the community like that.

830
00:35:57,960 --> 00:35:59,160
Speaker 1: Now, where I will give this.

831
00:35:59,480 --> 00:36:04,080
Speaker 2: Person some credit, I will say, watching her talk, I

832
00:36:04,080 --> 00:36:05,200
Speaker 2: don't know if she's non binary.

833
00:36:05,239 --> 00:36:07,040
Speaker 1: I feel like the way that she's using language, it

834
00:36:07,080 --> 00:36:08,879
Speaker 1: could be it's giving non binary. Yeah.

835
00:36:09,040 --> 00:36:13,279
Speaker 2: However, where I will give them credit is something specifically

836
00:36:13,320 --> 00:36:15,680
Speaker 2: about culturally straight. Of first, I didn't understand it, and

837
00:36:15,719 --> 00:36:17,640
Speaker 2: I was like, Oh, you could come out of the

838
00:36:17,680 --> 00:36:20,160
Speaker 2: closet and still be a fucking bigot. You could be

839
00:36:20,239 --> 00:36:22,560
Speaker 2: a racist, you could be pro is you know what

840
00:36:22,560 --> 00:36:23,799
Speaker 2: I mean, Like, there could be a lot of things

841
00:36:23,840 --> 00:36:26,560
Speaker 2: about you. Just because you're queer or gay don't necessarily

842
00:36:26,680 --> 00:36:30,279
Speaker 2: mean you're for the people. Well, when I heard this,

843
00:36:30,640 --> 00:36:34,520
Speaker 2: I immediately, especially now being in the South and just

844
00:36:34,560 --> 00:36:36,360
Speaker 2: seeing too that all my friends go to church on

845
00:36:36,480 --> 00:36:41,239
Speaker 2: Sunday and like it being more heavily religious, being in

846
00:36:41,320 --> 00:36:44,640
Speaker 2: the Bible Belt, that this is a privileged way of thinking.

847
00:36:44,840 --> 00:36:47,600
Speaker 2: Because she's probably a New Yorker. I think the way

848
00:36:47,680 --> 00:36:51,960
Speaker 2: that people can exist or be open as non binary

849
00:36:52,160 --> 00:36:54,920
Speaker 2: or how they dress, or how they kind of can

850
00:36:55,080 --> 00:36:58,040
Speaker 2: live as their individualistic selves.

851
00:36:58,280 --> 00:36:59,120
Speaker 1: New York allows that.

852
00:36:59,560 --> 00:37:02,160
Speaker 2: I think the South and other parts of the country,

853
00:37:03,000 --> 00:37:06,399
Speaker 2: you can sexuality is still something that is kept behind

854
00:37:06,440 --> 00:37:08,960
Speaker 2: closed doors. And so I don't think that just because

855
00:37:09,400 --> 00:37:11,719
Speaker 2: you're you're a man who sucks stick or a woman

856
00:37:11,760 --> 00:37:13,120
Speaker 2: who eats pussy, that you.

857
00:37:13,239 --> 00:37:16,320
Speaker 1: Have to be this openly outward gay.

858
00:37:16,280 --> 00:37:19,560
Speaker 2: Existing being for society, HI think, And I think that

859
00:37:19,680 --> 00:37:23,080
Speaker 2: that's why she was saying culturally straight. I don't think

860
00:37:23,200 --> 00:37:25,760
Speaker 2: people need to be like us that wear their labels

861
00:37:25,800 --> 00:37:27,640
Speaker 2: on their shirt. I think you can go to work

862
00:37:28,040 --> 00:37:30,520
Speaker 2: and everyone doesn't need to know you're gay just because

863
00:37:30,560 --> 00:37:32,239
Speaker 2: you're gay. So and I think that that's why there's

864
00:37:32,239 --> 00:37:34,919
Speaker 2: a lot of privilege sometimes in people that live out loud,

865
00:37:34,960 --> 00:37:36,920
Speaker 2: where they push you a little bit right. I had

866
00:37:36,960 --> 00:37:41,640
Speaker 2: to check myself recently in a conversation about just radical blackness,

867
00:37:41,800 --> 00:37:44,160
Speaker 2: like me telling someone it's gonna be x y Z

868
00:37:44,360 --> 00:37:48,800
Speaker 2: like this fuck white shit and being light skin and

869
00:37:48,920 --> 00:37:52,839
Speaker 2: being loud is a privilege, you know what I'm saying.

870
00:37:53,160 --> 00:37:56,600
Speaker 2: I'm operating in a world where I can talk like that.

871
00:37:56,800 --> 00:37:59,240
Speaker 1: I'm a woman I'm young, whatever.

872
00:37:59,560 --> 00:38:03,719
Speaker 2: Not every black person has this experience, right, And so yes,

873
00:38:03,800 --> 00:38:05,880
Speaker 2: it's a privilege to be able to be loud in that.

874
00:38:06,239 --> 00:38:08,719
Speaker 2: I use that as an example because this person is

875
00:38:08,920 --> 00:38:12,040
Speaker 2: out and well received by whoever or has our community,

876
00:38:12,320 --> 00:38:15,759
Speaker 2: and not everybody's like that. So I think sometimes demonizing

877
00:38:15,800 --> 00:38:18,719
Speaker 2: someone for not being gay enough sucks. But the only

878
00:38:18,800 --> 00:38:22,280
Speaker 2: thing I did kind of ride with is like watching

879
00:38:22,400 --> 00:38:25,040
Speaker 2: gays for Trump become a thing. When I made that

880
00:38:25,120 --> 00:38:27,800
Speaker 2: joke on the Breakfast Club about I didn't even connect

881
00:38:27,840 --> 00:38:29,560
Speaker 2: the dots, but it was like, oh, yeah, Trump funcks

882
00:38:29,600 --> 00:38:32,880
Speaker 2: with the gays. Can't be trans because we're watching the

883
00:38:33,080 --> 00:38:39,240
Speaker 2: gays celebrate Trump, love him down. And then Megan Kelly

884
00:38:39,320 --> 00:38:41,040
Speaker 2: and all these other people get up there and put

885
00:38:41,080 --> 00:38:44,040
Speaker 2: all this fear in your heart about trans people, and

886
00:38:44,160 --> 00:38:45,439
Speaker 2: it's like, what the fuck?

887
00:38:45,480 --> 00:38:48,800
Speaker 1: Then, So it's just the gaze, not the GE's not

888
00:38:48,960 --> 00:38:52,680
Speaker 1: the q's not the t's. Everybody else is confusing me.

889
00:38:52,880 --> 00:38:53,840
Speaker 1: Not that non binaries.

890
00:38:53,880 --> 00:38:56,200
Speaker 2: I don't like that, but this is all an umbrella

891
00:38:56,320 --> 00:39:00,719
Speaker 2: for us in being fluid in your sexuality. Most trans people,

892
00:39:00,719 --> 00:39:03,279
Speaker 2: I understand its gender not sexuality, but for most trans

893
00:39:03,360 --> 00:39:03,800
Speaker 2: people it is.

894
00:39:04,040 --> 00:39:06,759
Speaker 1: And so it is a disappointment to then think that.

895
00:39:06,960 --> 00:39:11,840
Speaker 2: Like you could be gay and also not necessarily be

896
00:39:11,960 --> 00:39:13,520
Speaker 2: for any other civil rights. I mean, I will say,

897
00:39:13,560 --> 00:39:16,600
Speaker 2: bringing it back to relationships, if I think of culturally straight,

898
00:39:17,160 --> 00:39:21,799
Speaker 2: within the LGBTQ community as well, there's oftentimes the well,

899
00:39:21,800 --> 00:39:24,319
Speaker 2: who's the man, who's the woman, who's the feminine, who's

900
00:39:24,320 --> 00:39:26,960
Speaker 2: the masculine, And so if we talk about maybe how

901
00:39:28,520 --> 00:39:35,719
Speaker 2: homosexual relationships adapt or try to incorporate very heterosexual means

902
00:39:35,800 --> 00:39:38,600
Speaker 2: of how to operate in relationships, I do agree that

903
00:39:39,160 --> 00:39:42,760
Speaker 2: that does take unlearning, and it does take a little

904
00:39:42,760 --> 00:39:45,279
Speaker 2: bit of homophobia. The idea that we have to have

905
00:39:45,400 --> 00:39:49,800
Speaker 2: these heterosexual ideas even within a homosexual relationship, I do

906
00:39:50,200 --> 00:39:52,319
Speaker 2: agree to a bit. But like I said, I think

907
00:39:52,360 --> 00:39:55,120
Speaker 2: that there's a privilege in someone speaking that way depending

908
00:39:55,160 --> 00:39:57,680
Speaker 2: on your community where you're at, And I think if

909
00:39:57,719 --> 00:40:01,200
Speaker 2: you're someone in New York, you don't understand your privilege

910
00:40:01,239 --> 00:40:03,840
Speaker 2: as a queer individual and how you're able to just

911
00:40:04,080 --> 00:40:07,400
Speaker 2: exist here having places like the village and having you know,

912
00:40:08,040 --> 00:40:11,359
Speaker 2: whole communities where there's rainbow flows they want to take

913
00:40:11,480 --> 00:40:13,880
Speaker 2: you in, not the same if you go to some

914
00:40:14,040 --> 00:40:17,520
Speaker 2: of these sundown towns or like I said, even in

915
00:40:17,560 --> 00:40:19,279
Speaker 2: the South or going to Florida where you can't even

916
00:40:19,280 --> 00:40:19,640
Speaker 2: say gay.

917
00:40:19,719 --> 00:40:21,600
Speaker 1: Did you watch the Jerry Springer doc on Netflix?

918
00:40:21,680 --> 00:40:25,319
Speaker 2: Yet it's not that unfortunately as background noise, but yes

919
00:40:25,440 --> 00:40:27,000
Speaker 2: it was on, so it's not that good. But there

920
00:40:27,080 --> 00:40:30,719
Speaker 2: was something very interesting. They talked about where people were from.

921
00:40:31,760 --> 00:40:34,239
Speaker 2: And I thought they were gonna expose Jerry Springership for

922
00:40:34,280 --> 00:40:36,879
Speaker 2: being fake, right, And they're like, yo, we one girl

923
00:40:36,960 --> 00:40:39,680
Speaker 2: got fired for something being fake, right, and she goes,

924
00:40:39,680 --> 00:40:42,160
Speaker 2: I should have known it wasn't real because he was

925
00:40:42,200 --> 00:40:45,280
Speaker 2: from Boston and none of this shit is happening in Boston.

926
00:40:45,320 --> 00:40:47,760
Speaker 2: And they circled on a map the middle of America

927
00:40:47,840 --> 00:40:50,560
Speaker 2: where eighty percent of the Jerry Springer guests were from

928
00:40:50,680 --> 00:40:54,160
Speaker 2: Middle America, right, And so there's something about when you're

929
00:40:54,200 --> 00:40:56,360
Speaker 2: not in the and even a Florida is a crazy

930
00:40:56,440 --> 00:40:58,360
Speaker 2: fucking town, but these are still larger cities where you

931
00:40:58,400 --> 00:40:59,680
Speaker 2: get to be interacting with other people.

932
00:41:00,120 --> 00:41:02,120
Speaker 1: So I think we do forget that a lot.

933
00:41:02,719 --> 00:41:05,440
Speaker 2: And you hate her, but those people we need to

934
00:41:05,480 --> 00:41:10,080
Speaker 2: have grace for in accepting themselves their sexuality. And oh no,

935
00:41:10,160 --> 00:41:11,920
Speaker 2: I just think a lot of them are more ignorant

936
00:41:11,960 --> 00:41:14,000
Speaker 2: than most, but it's because they haven't been exposed to more.

937
00:41:14,320 --> 00:41:16,040
Speaker 2: I think they just live in their ignorance. So I

938
00:41:16,080 --> 00:41:17,680
Speaker 2: don't know if I've talked about this on Horrible, but

939
00:41:17,680 --> 00:41:19,640
Speaker 2: I feel like I have. Maybe it's been a while,

940
00:41:19,719 --> 00:41:22,000
Speaker 2: but I was dating a man whose brother was gay

941
00:41:22,280 --> 00:41:24,279
Speaker 2: and he blamed me for exposing that.

942
00:41:24,320 --> 00:41:25,560
Speaker 1: I ever tell you about that, Yeah, I think you

943
00:41:25,600 --> 00:41:26,040
Speaker 1: should there.

944
00:41:26,320 --> 00:41:29,040
Speaker 2: So basically, the gist of it was, he had a

945
00:41:29,080 --> 00:41:32,000
Speaker 2: brother come from a South American country, its Venezuela, and

946
00:41:32,400 --> 00:41:35,799
Speaker 2: when he got here, he goes, Gila, baby, we need

947
00:41:35,880 --> 00:41:37,799
Speaker 2: to put him on the dating apps. I'm like, yeah,

948
00:41:38,280 --> 00:41:40,000
Speaker 2: I met his brother for five minutes and I'm like,

949
00:41:40,440 --> 00:41:43,120
Speaker 2: I know a dating app, feel like, And I introduced

950
00:41:43,160 --> 00:41:47,200
Speaker 2: his brother to Grinder. His brother ended up getting engaged

951
00:41:47,239 --> 00:41:50,160
Speaker 2: to a wonderful man. They are still married to this day,

952
00:41:50,160 --> 00:41:51,520
Speaker 2: by the way. And I want to say this was

953
00:41:51,520 --> 00:41:52,560
Speaker 2: when I was twenty two.

954
00:41:52,760 --> 00:41:55,759
Speaker 1: This happened. I say this to.

955
00:41:55,800 --> 00:41:58,600
Speaker 2: Say, I remember when his brother came out and said

956
00:41:58,600 --> 00:42:00,200
Speaker 2: I have a boyfriend, and he was like that you

957
00:42:00,239 --> 00:42:02,320
Speaker 2: made him gay. But this was your same partner that

958
00:42:02,440 --> 00:42:04,680
Speaker 2: left you for Jesus, right, Yes, but That's what I'm saying.

959
00:42:04,760 --> 00:42:06,480
Speaker 2: So the homophobia within the church.

960
00:42:06,360 --> 00:42:08,799
Speaker 1: Oh no, No, No, not him. I wanted to just say.

961
00:42:09,080 --> 00:42:11,120
Speaker 2: His brother was in his twenties at the time, never

962
00:42:11,200 --> 00:42:14,279
Speaker 2: had heard of grinder is leaving Venezuela, and it's like,

963
00:42:15,480 --> 00:42:18,759
Speaker 2: you don't really, you're not. You need somebody like me

964
00:42:18,920 --> 00:42:21,239
Speaker 2: being that doc connector to that world. How else was

965
00:42:21,280 --> 00:42:23,040
Speaker 2: he going to get that he's living with his brother,

966
00:42:23,120 --> 00:42:24,640
Speaker 2: he doesn't have friends, he's not going out.

967
00:42:24,840 --> 00:42:26,680
Speaker 1: Maybe you're closeted. Maybe, And I don't know if he

968
00:42:26,760 --> 00:42:29,239
Speaker 1: was closeted or not. I just don't know he was.

969
00:42:29,360 --> 00:42:33,600
Speaker 2: He probably had internal homophobia like my friend's growing up,

970
00:42:33,640 --> 00:42:35,480
Speaker 2: which is why I don't like my Latina friends saying

971
00:42:36,320 --> 00:42:38,920
Speaker 2: the N word. I was friend my best friends growing up.

972
00:42:39,719 --> 00:42:44,520
Speaker 2: One was Colombian, one was Mexican, and never forget, both

973
00:42:44,560 --> 00:42:47,680
Speaker 2: of their parents blamed me as to why their daughters

974
00:42:47,760 --> 00:42:48,279
Speaker 2: like black men.

975
00:42:49,320 --> 00:42:51,320
Speaker 1: Not that we went to majority black schools.

976
00:42:51,760 --> 00:42:54,400
Speaker 2: No, it's because they were friends with me, and so

977
00:42:55,080 --> 00:42:58,520
Speaker 2: knowing that they were, Yeah, and so the fact that

978
00:42:58,760 --> 00:43:01,040
Speaker 2: your parents are blaming me as to why you like

979
00:43:01,239 --> 00:43:03,560
Speaker 2: black men is crazy. But I knew that that was

980
00:43:03,840 --> 00:43:07,320
Speaker 2: their internalized racism towards black people. Your partner, maybe not

981
00:43:07,400 --> 00:43:11,080
Speaker 2: ever expressing it, was internally homophobic, and I think.

982
00:43:10,960 --> 00:43:12,200
Speaker 1: No, no, no, he was no.

983
00:43:12,440 --> 00:43:16,279
Speaker 2: Yeah, So that to highlight the thing about like how

984
00:43:16,320 --> 00:43:20,160
Speaker 2: the Midwest doesn't really have community. I was because they

985
00:43:21,280 --> 00:43:23,759
Speaker 2: that guy like your brother just came to a new

986
00:43:23,800 --> 00:43:26,439
Speaker 2: country where we can be open, where we can be open.

987
00:43:26,640 --> 00:43:30,279
Speaker 2: Oh the same my cousin left Jamaica because he was

988
00:43:30,440 --> 00:43:33,280
Speaker 2: gay and there was not safety for him at Jamaica.

989
00:43:33,600 --> 00:43:35,920
Speaker 2: Just a didn't think about or even Dave dn't think

990
00:43:35,960 --> 00:43:37,120
Speaker 2: about the way you go on a date and you

991
00:43:37,200 --> 00:43:39,080
Speaker 2: kiss someone in a restaurant Palm Street.

992
00:43:39,719 --> 00:43:42,040
Speaker 1: Gay men fucking look over their shoulders. But are you

993
00:43:42,239 --> 00:43:42,800
Speaker 1: are you ready?

994
00:43:42,800 --> 00:43:45,040
Speaker 2: It's the same thing we're dealing with now, which is

995
00:43:45,080 --> 00:43:50,240
Speaker 2: why parents and everyone they're blaming television, they're blaming drag queens,

996
00:43:50,280 --> 00:43:56,279
Speaker 2: they're blaming everything. But the scientific fact that as people, psychologically, environmentally,

997
00:43:56,840 --> 00:44:00,880
Speaker 2: we have these attractions to people, not because gayiteness was

998
00:44:00,920 --> 00:44:03,640
Speaker 2: thrown into our face, but because of who we naturally are.

999
00:44:04,280 --> 00:44:08,280
Speaker 2: You just said the drag queens. And so this weekend,

1000
00:44:08,719 --> 00:44:10,960
Speaker 2: I just made dinner for my man's family. I've never

1001
00:44:11,040 --> 00:44:14,440
Speaker 2: made dinner for parents before, and he was like, make

1002
00:44:14,480 --> 00:44:16,200
Speaker 2: them gumbo, and I'm like, that must be the blackest shit.

1003
00:44:16,239 --> 00:44:18,279
Speaker 1: I make That's why he said it. Yeah, it don't

1004
00:44:18,280 --> 00:44:21,880
Speaker 1: nobody want Avocadoso's girl cooking out. My daughter saw the

1005
00:44:21,960 --> 00:44:22,479
Speaker 1: type of city.

1006
00:44:22,920 --> 00:44:25,279
Speaker 2: But basically we're sitting down at the table and his

1007
00:44:25,400 --> 00:44:28,440
Speaker 2: dad loves politics and thank god, same vibe on politics. Right,

1008
00:44:28,560 --> 00:44:31,360
Speaker 2: I'm talking about how Trump is terrible and whatever and

1009
00:44:32,600 --> 00:44:36,400
Speaker 2: how the campaign was run for fear. And I started

1010
00:44:36,480 --> 00:44:38,239
Speaker 2: to say something, and I know my man was gonna

1011
00:44:38,239 --> 00:44:41,719
Speaker 2: be like, bitch, you gotta shut to Liberata. Well, I said,

1012
00:44:42,280 --> 00:44:45,840
Speaker 2: you know what's crazier about Trump is the trans ads.

1013
00:44:46,239 --> 00:44:48,040
Speaker 2: I was like, how many times because they watched TV,

1014
00:44:48,080 --> 00:44:49,879
Speaker 2: they're watching the rights did you see like the guy

1015
00:44:49,960 --> 00:44:51,360
Speaker 2: with the football jersey.

1016
00:44:51,120 --> 00:44:51,520
Speaker 1: In the dress?

1017
00:44:51,600 --> 00:44:54,160
Speaker 2: Like, is so crazy to me that one percent of

1018
00:44:54,200 --> 00:44:57,480
Speaker 2: the population made a lot of people. They say trans

1019
00:44:57,520 --> 00:45:00,160
Speaker 2: people are one point three right now, and it we're

1020
00:45:00,280 --> 00:45:01,920
Speaker 2: blessed to know about.

1021
00:45:01,640 --> 00:45:03,440
Speaker 1: You know what I mean wearing the right jig fires,

1022
00:45:03,480 --> 00:45:04,319
Speaker 1: which yeah, I was.

1023
00:45:04,360 --> 00:45:06,120
Speaker 2: Like, how crazy is it that all these people are

1024
00:45:06,200 --> 00:45:09,239
Speaker 2: voting read just because they're scared of this? Meanwhile, they

1025
00:45:09,239 --> 00:45:11,279
Speaker 2: aren't scared of the guns in their kids' schools, but

1026
00:45:11,400 --> 00:45:14,160
Speaker 2: the advertisement saying be very scared of a man going

1027
00:45:14,200 --> 00:45:16,839
Speaker 2: in your kids bathroom, be scared of the fucking ak's. Yeah,

1028
00:45:17,040 --> 00:45:18,960
Speaker 2: and so I'm starting to go in. I know you're

1029
00:45:18,960 --> 00:45:20,120
Speaker 2: looking at me like, oh my god.

1030
00:45:20,880 --> 00:45:21,320
Speaker 1: It's funny.

1031
00:45:21,360 --> 00:45:24,239
Speaker 2: That's why, Like I like, really it's funny because I

1032
00:45:24,400 --> 00:45:28,880
Speaker 2: just had the same conversation with Active's dad. So he

1033
00:45:29,040 --> 00:45:30,719
Speaker 2: went to Europe and was with his family for the

1034
00:45:30,760 --> 00:45:34,600
Speaker 2: holidays and was really excited for me to meet his

1035
00:45:34,840 --> 00:45:38,080
Speaker 2: parents being FaceTime, and we literally got into the discussion

1036
00:45:38,080 --> 00:45:40,040
Speaker 2: about freedom of speech, and he was telling me about

1037
00:45:40,120 --> 00:45:44,160
Speaker 2: like all these little black either Pseudanese or or or

1038
00:45:45,000 --> 00:45:48,880
Speaker 2: something about the we we correlated what's happening overseas with

1039
00:45:48,960 --> 00:45:51,719
Speaker 2: all these little black girls that started dying but the

1040
00:45:51,800 --> 00:45:54,560
Speaker 2: government not wanting to look into it because of racism.

1041
00:45:54,920 --> 00:45:57,000
Speaker 2: And I literally compared it to what happened with the

1042
00:45:57,040 --> 00:46:00,719
Speaker 2: new bill in California, where there was evidence that they

1043
00:46:00,800 --> 00:46:03,399
Speaker 2: weren't going to look for black girls that were.

1044
00:46:03,320 --> 00:46:04,640
Speaker 1: Oh okay, okay okay.

1045
00:46:04,960 --> 00:46:09,680
Speaker 2: And so like having this real like liberal conversation about

1046
00:46:09,719 --> 00:46:13,200
Speaker 2: also the way in which politics are in Europe compared

1047
00:46:13,239 --> 00:46:14,800
Speaker 2: to what they are here and that we aligned. It

1048
00:46:14,880 --> 00:46:16,160
Speaker 2: was like he was like, I don't know if you

1049
00:46:16,200 --> 00:46:17,719
Speaker 2: have time for this, And I was like oh no,

1050
00:46:17,840 --> 00:46:20,240
Speaker 2: of course, and we had a whole conversation about politics.

1051
00:46:20,320 --> 00:46:23,759
Speaker 2: I'm like, that's her way, I realized, Like and it's

1052
00:46:23,760 --> 00:46:25,640
Speaker 2: funny because his dad was saying, like, you know how

1053
00:46:25,680 --> 00:46:27,520
Speaker 2: you make a man's parents fall in love with you?

1054
00:46:27,760 --> 00:46:29,600
Speaker 2: You You asked him if they need help in the kitchen,

1055
00:46:29,680 --> 00:46:32,080
Speaker 2: You care, You do these things that like millennials people

1056
00:46:32,120 --> 00:46:32,840
Speaker 2: just don't care about.

1057
00:46:33,160 --> 00:46:34,640
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh no, it's really I know.

1058
00:46:34,719 --> 00:46:37,560
Speaker 1: Then he has politics. Then he switches the phone to

1059
00:46:37,640 --> 00:46:39,719
Speaker 1: his mom and is like, oh my god, you have

1060
00:46:39,840 --> 00:46:41,279
Speaker 1: her dream apartment. Give her a tour.

1061
00:46:41,920 --> 00:46:45,000
Speaker 2: And so I'm touring my new loft and showing it

1062
00:46:45,120 --> 00:46:48,200
Speaker 2: to her, and she's telling me her dream was to

1063
00:46:48,280 --> 00:46:50,560
Speaker 2: live in New York in this thing. And It's like, not,

1064
00:46:50,640 --> 00:46:52,319
Speaker 2: you haven't me born with your parents right now?

1065
00:46:52,520 --> 00:46:53,840
Speaker 1: Like, well, well, we.

1066
00:46:53,920 --> 00:46:56,080
Speaker 2: Haven't even we don't know what this relationship is. This

1067
00:46:56,120 --> 00:46:58,880
Speaker 2: is thing how our people should do FaceTime meet up

1068
00:46:58,960 --> 00:47:01,799
Speaker 2: to parents. Yeah, is great, because it's not it was great,

1069
00:47:01,800 --> 00:47:02,640
Speaker 2: too much pressure.

1070
00:47:02,800 --> 00:47:03,839
Speaker 1: No, it's fun.

1071
00:47:04,080 --> 00:47:06,480
Speaker 2: Like I didn't been facetiming him for hours and his

1072
00:47:06,600 --> 00:47:08,719
Speaker 2: sister is a part of the conversation. So I haven't

1073
00:47:08,719 --> 00:47:11,440
Speaker 2: met the sister, the mom, the dad, I think that's

1074
00:47:11,560 --> 00:47:12,080
Speaker 2: very special.

1075
00:47:13,080 --> 00:47:16,520
Speaker 1: And we haven't even had sex yet. Well crazy, speaking

1076
00:47:16,600 --> 00:47:23,120
Speaker 1: of sex, what comes after romance before we're romantically involved

1077
00:47:23,160 --> 00:47:24,719
Speaker 1: at the moment. So no, you're absolutely are.

1078
00:47:30,760 --> 00:47:32,200
Speaker 2: We're going to talk a little bit before we get

1079
00:47:32,239 --> 00:47:35,400
Speaker 2: out of here about the history of romance. So and

1080
00:47:35,480 --> 00:47:38,080
Speaker 2: we gonna stop treating this segment like home mail. We

1081
00:47:38,200 --> 00:47:40,320
Speaker 2: got to get here sooner, bitch, we're supposed to be educating.

1082
00:47:40,320 --> 00:47:44,200
Speaker 1: He said he was cooking, bitch. Okay, so yeah, come

1083
00:47:44,360 --> 00:47:44,879
Speaker 1: step one.

1084
00:47:45,400 --> 00:47:48,640
Speaker 2: Apes evolved the ability to become Here we go, We'm

1085
00:47:48,680 --> 00:47:52,359
Speaker 2: ely attached to it. We're doing evolution this, we said

1086
00:47:52,400 --> 00:47:56,640
Speaker 2: the history hope, oh lod attachment would eventually be known

1087
00:47:56,760 --> 00:48:00,560
Speaker 2: as love. It literally started from apes growing the ability

1088
00:48:00,600 --> 00:48:04,799
Speaker 2: to love, and through evolution kind of just turned into

1089
00:48:04,920 --> 00:48:08,040
Speaker 2: humans evolving. So the ability to become attached to someone

1090
00:48:08,600 --> 00:48:13,280
Speaker 2: is then loving each other because it helps you survive.

1091
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Speaker 2: I'm curious how they did the science on this, only

1092
00:48:18,120 --> 00:48:22,080
Speaker 2: because what we see throughout the entire animal kingdom is

1093
00:48:22,360 --> 00:48:25,239
Speaker 2: the bond of connection from ducks to lions to all

1094
00:48:25,280 --> 00:48:28,840
Speaker 2: the things with their offspring, right, So I'm curious to

1095
00:48:29,440 --> 00:48:32,399
Speaker 2: know how they identified their romantic love.

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Speaker 1: The attachment is how they're describing it.

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Speaker 2: Right, So they're saying they normally only notice that attachment

1098
00:48:37,880 --> 00:48:40,279
Speaker 2: right when there's offspring, so I don't know. They're saying

1099
00:48:40,320 --> 00:48:43,640
Speaker 2: being around each other spending time, Okay, that then becomes

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Speaker 2: a bond.

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Speaker 1: So the third thing, third step. As humans, we instinctively.

1102
00:48:48,960 --> 00:48:52,839
Speaker 2: Develop loyalty and affection for those who show us most

1103
00:48:52,920 --> 00:48:56,680
Speaker 2: loyalty and affection. And that's all love really is. It

1104
00:48:56,800 --> 00:49:00,200
Speaker 2: is an irrational degree of loyalty and in fact into

1105
00:49:00,239 --> 00:49:02,719
Speaker 2: another person. You agree with that to the point that

1106
00:49:02,840 --> 00:49:05,200
Speaker 2: we'd let ourselves harm or even die for that person

1107
00:49:05,719 --> 00:49:10,320
Speaker 2: seems insane, but it's symbiotic with what happens with humans.

1108
00:49:11,000 --> 00:49:13,680
Speaker 2: Conversations with humans that say I would do anything for you,

1109
00:49:14,239 --> 00:49:16,840
Speaker 2: well that's just a figure of speech. Yeah, but I

1110
00:49:16,920 --> 00:49:20,320
Speaker 2: think I wouldn't die, but yeah, I would definitely do.

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00:49:20,520 --> 00:49:24,600
Speaker 1: You would take a charge for someone you love, like

1112
00:49:24,719 --> 00:49:27,480
Speaker 1: when I hear people look at it space no, oh

1113
00:49:27,560 --> 00:49:27,919
Speaker 1: my god.

1114
00:49:28,000 --> 00:49:31,959
Speaker 2: And also, for example, let's make it small. Okay, what's small?

1115
00:49:32,000 --> 00:49:33,680
Speaker 2: Would you put a car in someone's name? Would you

1116
00:49:33,719 --> 00:49:38,360
Speaker 2: put you're different? You put your name on something that

1117
00:49:38,480 --> 00:49:41,680
Speaker 2: you know could cause you debt or go into something

1118
00:49:41,960 --> 00:49:42,959
Speaker 2: bad because you love.

1119
00:49:42,920 --> 00:49:47,320
Speaker 1: Some rich like that's literally sharing things like oh I

1120
00:49:47,360 --> 00:49:48,960
Speaker 1: got to that point a lot. That's marriage. To me,

1121
00:49:49,239 --> 00:49:51,560
Speaker 1: I've put no before marriage in words, you love someone

1122
00:49:51,600 --> 00:49:51,960
Speaker 1: before that.

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Speaker 2: Two apartments baby and five at the same time to

1124
00:49:56,239 --> 00:49:58,560
Speaker 2: a mount my mama, and two brings a man that

1125
00:49:58,680 --> 00:50:00,879
Speaker 2: you were dating. We're not talking because you can love

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Speaker 2: someone before marriage. Marriage is a whole nother that's my point.

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00:50:03,480 --> 00:50:06,080
Speaker 1: But friends that I point you, you would co sign

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Speaker 1: something for a partner.

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Speaker 2: I'm not a serious partner, yeah, okay, And I only

1130
00:50:10,880 --> 00:50:12,319
Speaker 2: say that because I've done it for a friend.

1131
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Speaker 1: God, so crazy, so fortunate that me and is nigga

1132
00:50:15,680 --> 00:50:16,080
Speaker 1: a hunt.

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Speaker 2: It's so crazy because what I would do for friends

1134
00:50:18,360 --> 00:50:21,920
Speaker 2: is normally I mean, and I've talked about my my

1135
00:50:22,320 --> 00:50:24,360
Speaker 2: hierarchy of how I show up for people.

1136
00:50:24,880 --> 00:50:28,600
Speaker 1: It's friends family then than men.

1137
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Speaker 2: And the way I show it for friends is still

1138
00:50:31,320 --> 00:50:34,759
Speaker 2: quite different than what I right now think logically I

1139
00:50:34,800 --> 00:50:36,080
Speaker 2: could do and show it for a partner.

1140
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Speaker 1: I mean, but it's only because latonic love comes in.

1141
00:50:38,640 --> 00:50:40,279
Speaker 1: And so here's the platonic love is.

1142
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Speaker 2: The ancient Greek philosopher Plato argued that the highest form

1143
00:50:44,000 --> 00:50:46,719
Speaker 2: of love is actually non sexual yep. It is a

1144
00:50:46,800 --> 00:50:50,080
Speaker 2: non romantic or an attachment form to another person known

1145
00:50:50,120 --> 00:50:53,760
Speaker 2: as brotherly love, and reason that since passion and romance

1146
00:50:54,280 --> 00:50:58,040
Speaker 2: often make us do things we regret, the passionless love

1147
00:50:58,200 --> 00:51:01,080
Speaker 2: between two family members are close friend friends is a

1148
00:51:01,280 --> 00:51:05,680
Speaker 2: height of virtuous human experience. In fact, Plato, like most

1149
00:51:05,719 --> 00:51:09,040
Speaker 2: people in the ancient world, looked at romantic love with skepticism,

1150
00:51:09,200 --> 00:51:13,600
Speaker 2: if not horror, because with most things non sexual love,

1151
00:51:13,680 --> 00:51:16,440
Speaker 2: platonic love never meant that you took risk, and for

1152
00:51:16,600 --> 00:51:19,560
Speaker 2: most of human history, romantic love was looked at as

1153
00:51:19,600 --> 00:51:23,760
Speaker 2: a sickness bitch, I am, Plato, Yeah you are, I'm.

1154
00:51:23,600 --> 00:51:25,760
Speaker 1: About to read De Nikogat books and stuff.

1155
00:51:25,880 --> 00:51:27,960
Speaker 2: Oh well, look at the word question, I said, poor

1156
00:51:28,160 --> 00:51:31,400
Speaker 2: decision making from romantic love. The ancients were so skeptical

1157
00:51:31,440 --> 00:51:34,480
Speaker 2: of romantic love's utility, what is it useful for? So

1158
00:51:34,680 --> 00:51:37,480
Speaker 2: much so that many cultures treated it as an unfortunate

1159
00:51:37,600 --> 00:51:40,160
Speaker 2: disease that we'd have to get over in our lives.

1160
00:51:40,560 --> 00:51:45,960
Speaker 2: In fact, classic stories like uh Romeo and Juliet there

1161
00:51:46,080 --> 00:51:47,879
Speaker 2: weren't celebrations of love.

1162
00:51:48,239 --> 00:51:51,919
Speaker 1: There were warnings against negatives. It was bad love.

1163
00:51:52,280 --> 00:51:55,239
Speaker 2: For most of human history, people didn't marry because of

1164
00:51:55,280 --> 00:51:57,439
Speaker 2: their feelings one of each other. And it didn't stop

1165
00:51:57,480 --> 00:51:59,919
Speaker 2: with the Disney channel. This bitch gave up her voice

1166
00:52:00,080 --> 00:52:03,800
Speaker 2: for a niggah like, what else happened? What else happened

1167
00:52:03,800 --> 00:52:05,920
Speaker 2: in the Disney The voice was bro giving up your

1168
00:52:05,960 --> 00:52:09,960
Speaker 2: whole singlevoid. So for most of human history, for the majority,

1169
00:52:10,480 --> 00:52:13,480
Speaker 2: their sustenance and survival hung on by a thread. People

1170
00:52:13,520 --> 00:52:17,200
Speaker 2: didn't have very much of a large life expectance. Everything

1171
00:52:17,440 --> 00:52:20,800
Speaker 2: was done from survival. Marriage is arranged by families, families

1172
00:52:20,840 --> 00:52:25,120
Speaker 2: because for money, of money, wheat Barley helped during a flood,

1173
00:52:25,480 --> 00:52:30,400
Speaker 2: purely economic arrangements designed to promote survival and prosperity between

1174
00:52:30,520 --> 00:52:35,040
Speaker 2: the families. And so it's interesting about today's age. People

1175
00:52:35,160 --> 00:52:38,919
Speaker 2: are lasting longer in age because of love.

1176
00:52:39,719 --> 00:52:43,480
Speaker 1: No, that's not true. Maybe love with friendships again, brotherly

1177
00:52:43,560 --> 00:52:45,400
Speaker 1: love and community. I always talk about the.

1178
00:52:46,920 --> 00:52:49,759
Speaker 2: Type in one hundred on Netflix, the Centurion documentary People

1179
00:52:49,800 --> 00:52:50,520
Speaker 2: Living to one hundred.

1180
00:52:50,560 --> 00:52:52,560
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, there's the women say that they all they

1181
00:52:52,560 --> 00:52:55,359
Speaker 1: had gotten old, no matter where they didn't. They weren't

1182
00:52:55,360 --> 00:52:59,840
Speaker 1: in relationships. No, no, no, they last longer because of community.

1183
00:53:00,120 --> 00:53:02,080
Speaker 2: Oh community, yes, yes, yes, some of them I have

1184
00:53:02,280 --> 00:53:04,239
Speaker 2: husbands or what or they died or what I saw it,

1185
00:53:04,400 --> 00:53:07,280
Speaker 2: but like the community was the consistency and the walking

1186
00:53:07,440 --> 00:53:09,719
Speaker 2: everybody else some most some people gardened, a lot of

1187
00:53:09,719 --> 00:53:10,400
Speaker 2: people gardened.

1188
00:53:10,840 --> 00:53:12,799
Speaker 1: But the thing about community, I was like, damn.

1189
00:53:13,239 --> 00:53:15,960
Speaker 2: And what's sad is you know when people fall in love,

1190
00:53:16,200 --> 00:53:18,720
Speaker 2: what do they tend to do give up on their community.

1191
00:53:18,760 --> 00:53:22,600
Speaker 2: It's so crazy too, because that conversation is constantly had

1192
00:53:22,640 --> 00:53:25,920
Speaker 2: to when when people question why I don't want children.

1193
00:53:26,000 --> 00:53:28,520
Speaker 2: And it's funny because one of the number one things

1194
00:53:28,560 --> 00:53:30,920
Speaker 2: that if it's not legacy, it's well, who's going to

1195
00:53:30,960 --> 00:53:33,080
Speaker 2: take care of you when you're old? And I'm like,

1196
00:53:33,880 --> 00:53:36,080
Speaker 2: I said, it's so crazy because when you do look

1197
00:53:36,120 --> 00:53:39,920
Speaker 2: at a lot of people and I'm not talking about you,

1198
00:53:39,960 --> 00:53:42,719
Speaker 2: because clearly you're looking after your your older parents, but

1199
00:53:42,800 --> 00:53:44,839
Speaker 2: there's a lot of people that end up in nursing

1200
00:53:44,880 --> 00:53:47,600
Speaker 2: homes whose kids don't even come and see them, or

1201
00:53:47,640 --> 00:53:49,200
Speaker 2: they're in nursing homes.

1202
00:53:49,000 --> 00:53:53,080
Speaker 1: Because their kids were too busy to look after them.

1203
00:53:53,120 --> 00:53:55,680
Speaker 2: And it's and what's also crazy is there is a

1204
00:53:55,760 --> 00:54:00,799
Speaker 2: stat that men in nursing homes are more lonely than

1205
00:54:00,840 --> 00:54:04,160
Speaker 2: women because they don't have the friendships that women curate

1206
00:54:04,280 --> 00:54:07,040
Speaker 2: over their lifetimes. Women have a lot more friends. And

1207
00:54:07,360 --> 00:54:10,279
Speaker 2: I know we talk about like the girls that don't

1208
00:54:10,280 --> 00:54:13,600
Speaker 2: know how to have homegirls. There's way more community amongst women,

1209
00:54:13,680 --> 00:54:15,080
Speaker 2: and I think we've been able to see that even

1210
00:54:15,120 --> 00:54:17,440
Speaker 2: with the whore Hive than men have in terms of

1211
00:54:17,840 --> 00:54:20,160
Speaker 2: how they create bonds and friendships platonics.

1212
00:54:20,200 --> 00:54:21,719
Speaker 1: It's so crazy. Think about nursing homes.

1213
00:54:21,760 --> 00:54:24,560
Speaker 2: I remember, and literally you know, when someone does end

1214
00:54:24,600 --> 00:54:27,160
Speaker 2: up there, it's mainly if you have family to rely on,

1215
00:54:27,239 --> 00:54:28,640
Speaker 2: because they can't they hell and help.

1216
00:54:28,719 --> 00:54:28,879
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1217
00:54:29,360 --> 00:54:32,359
Speaker 2: So I was seeing my grandma once and my mom

1218
00:54:32,520 --> 00:54:35,800
Speaker 2: was probably going three times a week and like making

1219
00:54:35,920 --> 00:54:37,960
Speaker 2: meals and stuff because you know, nursing home food sucks.

1220
00:54:38,400 --> 00:54:40,920
Speaker 2: And I was flying down to Orlando just to you know,

1221
00:54:41,080 --> 00:54:43,320
Speaker 2: keep in touch. There was a woman I saw on

1222
00:54:43,400 --> 00:54:46,239
Speaker 2: the other side. There was an Asian lady next to her,

1223
00:54:46,680 --> 00:54:47,920
Speaker 2: and I was like, oh my god, you must be

1224
00:54:47,960 --> 00:54:48,319
Speaker 2: her daughter.

1225
00:54:48,360 --> 00:54:50,520
Speaker 1: I've never met you. No no, noa. And so she's

1226
00:54:50,560 --> 00:54:55,120
Speaker 1: smiling this is true story, doesn't reply to me. I'm leaving.

1227
00:54:55,239 --> 00:54:58,680
Speaker 2: She's like, I'm not her family, but we are part

1228
00:54:58,680 --> 00:55:01,040
Speaker 2: of an outreach thing for people that don't get visitors.

1229
00:55:02,000 --> 00:55:04,560
Speaker 1: Oh wow. And she was also Chinese, not just Asian.

1230
00:55:04,640 --> 00:55:06,320
Speaker 1: China did the lady was Chinese, and she was Chinese.

1231
00:55:06,560 --> 00:55:08,400
Speaker 2: She's like, yeah, you know, I'll just speak in Mandarin

1232
00:55:08,480 --> 00:55:11,600
Speaker 2: and we'll talk and we'll or Sorry, the woman didn't talk.

1233
00:55:11,719 --> 00:55:13,320
Speaker 1: But she was like, it's just memories.

1234
00:55:13,360 --> 00:55:16,319
Speaker 2: Conversation can keep people alive long. You can just whole

1235
00:55:16,400 --> 00:55:20,000
Speaker 2: ladies literally, And so she said she gets paid to

1236
00:55:20,120 --> 00:55:22,839
Speaker 2: do this. Sometimes I'll just come if people can't get

1237
00:55:22,880 --> 00:55:24,319
Speaker 2: to their family, if they don't live in the same

1238
00:55:24,400 --> 00:55:26,719
Speaker 2: country city. She's like, there's some people that visited four

1239
00:55:26,800 --> 00:55:29,360
Speaker 2: times a week. But she said this was pro bono.

1240
00:55:29,480 --> 00:55:31,560
Speaker 2: She does it as volunteer work, and the nursing home

1241
00:55:31,600 --> 00:55:34,160
Speaker 2: will say, hey, these people need someone to connect with,

1242
00:55:34,239 --> 00:55:34,640
Speaker 2: et cetera.

1243
00:55:35,239 --> 00:55:39,200
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1244
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Speaker 1: I love that.

1245
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1246
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1247
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1248
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1249
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1250
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