Speaker 1: Hell I Suck At Dating with the Nongler and Jared
Speaker 1: Haven and I heard radio podcast What's going On, Sucky Daters.
Speaker 1: Welcome to an all new episode of Help I Suck
Speaker 1: At Dating? As always, it's your beloved, handsome, intelligent hosts,
Speaker 1: me and the other guy, Jared Haven. What's going on? Jared?
Speaker 1: I feel that's like, that's what Sean Booth called Nick
Speaker 1: Viall on our season, the other Guy. He refused to
Speaker 1: call him by Nick. It was actually quite funny, and
Speaker 1: now Nick is just forever known as the other guy.
Speaker 1: Partly in my brain. There you go, another way that
Speaker 1: we cannot separate you and Nick. You guys look very similar,
Speaker 1: act very look very similar, a very similar alter egoys.
Speaker 1: I'll take that as a compliment. If I look like
Speaker 1: him at his age, which I won't say because he'll
Speaker 1: probably hate me for saying it, then I'll be a
Speaker 1: happy man, my friend. You know, I'm sick of this.
Speaker 1: I'm just sick of this at that age saying. I
Speaker 1: was telling Kalen the other day, or actually even just
Speaker 1: this morning at breakfast, I was like, oh, look at
Speaker 1: your hands. They've got more wrinkles in them than I do.
Speaker 1: Like in the palms and the palm of a hand.
Speaker 1: I was like, your palm has more wrinkles than I
Speaker 1: didn't mind you, and she was like, don't look at them.
Speaker 1: The wrinkly I was like, that's just literally part of
Speaker 1: life and growing older. It's like, you're gonna have wrinkles,
Speaker 1: and so at any age you look exactly how you're
Speaker 1: supposed to. Try telling Ashley that she gets wrinkles forcibly
Speaker 1: removed through technological advances. I mean, listen, of course, we're
Speaker 1: never going to be able to get into the mind
Speaker 1: of other people. But at the end of day, it's like,
Speaker 1: just let nature run its course, and like, if you
Speaker 1: get a little wrinkly, that's just how nature intended you
Speaker 1: to look. I may have just gotten a vivacchi facial,
Speaker 1: which is something I've never heard of before, but Ashley
Speaker 1: wanted me to get one because she got one. They
Speaker 1: numbed my face. So my face is still very numb
Speaker 1: right now. So if I start like my tongue goes numb,
Speaker 1: then I start just blabbering. Just take over the podcast
Speaker 1: for me. I'd appreciate it. Your skin does look a
Speaker 1: little like pulled back almost, Okay, well it wasn't like
Speaker 1: it wasn't what would that be a facelift? Yeah, no,
Speaker 1: it was not a facelift. It was like there was
Speaker 1: like little needles. It was not an enjoyable experience. I
Speaker 1: don't know why facials are like described to be enjoyable.
Speaker 1: They facials. Have you ever had one? Um, maybe like
Speaker 1: once or twice or anything like this. So a couple
Speaker 1: of years ago, my first facial ash wanted me to
Speaker 1: get one because I have tons of black heads in
Speaker 1: my nose apparently, so she wanted to get those removed
Speaker 1: because if you don't get the blackheads removed, apparently your
Speaker 1: nose becomes like your great grandfather's you know, where it's
Speaker 1: just like all bubbled up and pussed out, quite disgusting.
Speaker 1: So she was like, get the black heads out now,
Speaker 1: because I don't want you to have this puffed out
Speaker 1: nose when we're older. I was like whatever, So I
Speaker 1: go and they have to extract them and they're like
Speaker 1: zapping my face and then digging like a scalpel into
Speaker 1: my nose, and I'm like, I'm sorry. All my life,
Speaker 1: I grew up thinking that facials were some sort of
Speaker 1: enjoyable massage spa experience little did I know that I'd
Speaker 1: be bleeding, legitimately bleeding from leaving a facial anyway, that's
Speaker 1: my facial story. That sounds painful, But listen, in the
Speaker 1: defense of that whole situation, at least like they're getting
Speaker 1: your natural features to shine injecting or well, they're they're
Speaker 1: they're taking the things away to make your natural self
Speaker 1: shine rather than adding things to make you look different,
Speaker 1: you know. So I think that's defensible in my opinion.
Speaker 1: But there are things like botox and you know, uh,
Speaker 1: lip injections and all those things. I personally am not
Speaker 1: a fan. I know everyone's different. Do what you gotta
Speaker 1: do to make yourself feel beautiful, don't get me wrong,
Speaker 1: but I mean, I don't know, especially in today's day
Speaker 1: and age, especially living in l A. I'm sure you're
Speaker 1: not gonna counter much of it in Rhode Island, but
Speaker 1: as you know, living in l A for four or
Speaker 1: five years, however long you're there, it's like pretty prevalent.
Speaker 1: And I don't know how we got on this topic,
Speaker 1: but I'm very passionate about it. I don't blame you.
Speaker 1: I uh, you know, I always said I never get botox.
Speaker 1: But Tom Brady gets botox, and if Brady does it,
Speaker 1: I'm kind of having a change of heart. I could
Speaker 1: see myself getting botox at one point. Luckily, right now,
Speaker 1: I don't think we need it. Caitlin and I were
Speaker 1: walking down the boardwalk here and her Mosta this morning
Speaker 1: and we saw Jared Goff riding by in his motorcycle
Speaker 1: and I'm sorry, on his bicycle. I knew who it was,
Speaker 1: and like, I think, like we made out of contact
Speaker 1: whatever and sound important, but in the back of my
Speaker 1: head at the end, like after he had passed by,
Speaker 1: I was like, crap. I should have yelled out got
Speaker 1: lions as soon as he rode by, but I unfortunately
Speaker 1: did not. Do you think he knew who you were,
Speaker 1: which is why you guys made eye contact. You know,
Speaker 1: it's entirely possible. Yeah, I wouldn't be surprised if there
Speaker 1: was like some unspoken mutual respect between the two of us. Oh, dude.
Speaker 1: One time I saw Tofa Grace in Hollywood and I
Speaker 1: was I was staring at him because I was like,
Speaker 1: holy crap, that's to for Grace, And then he saw me,
Speaker 1: and then we probably had the same experience you did
Speaker 1: with Jared Goff, where we just stared at each other
Speaker 1: for like a good four seconds because I was like,
Speaker 1: that's Toll for Grace. And then he made on contact
Speaker 1: with me, and he he didn't He like looked at
Speaker 1: me as if he knew me or like was trying
Speaker 1: to register in his brain where he recognized me from.
Speaker 1: And then I was like, oh my god, I think
Speaker 1: till for Grace knew who I was for a second.
Speaker 1: I think he might watch The Bachelor. So it's like
Speaker 1: stuff like that. That is one of the coolest experience
Speaker 1: of the show for me, like being like, I think
Speaker 1: that guy knows who I am. I don't want to
Speaker 1: sound like an idiot or anything, but who the heck
Speaker 1: is Toll for Grace? Dude? That seventy show and he
Speaker 1: was in Uh he's the main guy. Yeah, I think
Speaker 1: his name is Eric in the show. And then he
Speaker 1: was in, um, what's the eighties movie? I really liked it? Uh,
Speaker 1: take Me Home Tonight. He was in that it came
Speaker 1: out a few years ago. He was in Spider Man three.
Speaker 1: He was Venom. That was probably the biggest role. He
Speaker 1: was Venom. He was also in Ocean's twelve or thirteen.
Speaker 1: At the very beginning. He yes, it's right. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: he rented the room that Brad Pitt owned the hotel
Speaker 1: I love. He's an Oceans he might be told, but
Speaker 1: he's an Oceans eleven. He's at the poker game. That's right. Well,
Speaker 1: that's right. So that's how he met Brad Pitt, and
Speaker 1: in my opinion, that might be his biggest recurring role
Speaker 1: in the Oceans movies, like come on, man, you can
Speaker 1: that's pretty awesome. It's it's funny that we talked about
Speaker 1: this thing at the beginning because we have a headline
Speaker 1: that we I think it's important for us to discuss
Speaker 1: in terms of dating. Uh, it's the Jane Fonda shares
Speaker 1: her truthful outlook on dating, and it's that she would
Speaker 1: want a younger man. So she tells USA Today that
Speaker 1: she shares her truthful outlook on dating. So obviously she's
Speaker 1: a legendary actress, she's an activist, and she talked to
Speaker 1: an interview last Thursday about being a three Damn she's
Speaker 1: eighty three years old. That is good for James that
Speaker 1: she looks great. But she talks about intimate relationship and
Speaker 1: she talks about what she you know, like she talks
Speaker 1: about her fantasies and quote, Jane Fonda says, I don't
Speaker 1: want to be in a relationship, a sexual relationship. Again,
Speaker 1: I don't have that desire, do I fantasize? Yeah, here's
Speaker 1: my fantasy. I'll just put it out there, Jane Fonda said.
Speaker 1: But the problem is that, like a man, I would
Speaker 1: want a younger man. Isn't that awful? It's a thing
Speaker 1: about skin. I would want a younger man, and I'm
Speaker 1: too vain. So she's been married and divorced three times.
Speaker 1: That sucks. Her most recent marriage was to billionaire Ted Turner.
Speaker 1: They split up back. Oh my god, so she has
Speaker 1: been married in twenty years because they split up back
Speaker 1: in two thousand and one. Uh So, listen, Jane Fonda,
Speaker 1: you're eighty three years old. Girl, go for a younger man.
Speaker 1: First of all, if she's gonna date, let's be honest.
Speaker 1: Statistically speaking, the person is probably gonna be younger than her,
Speaker 1: just from from rage, you know what I mean. We're
Speaker 1: looking at average lifespan here. Yeah, exactly. But Jane Fonda.
Speaker 1: I saw a picture of her recently. She looks awesome.
Speaker 1: She makes pretty good. Whenever I hear the name Jane Fonda,
Speaker 1: I think of that Key Avalons Mickey Avalanche song more
Speaker 1: junk in than trunk than a Honda. I know you
Speaker 1: want to do the Jane Fonda. Have you heard that
Speaker 1: song before? Yeah, it's just it's it's directly where my
Speaker 1: mind just zeros in on. So I mean, listen, if
Speaker 1: you're big enough to have a song written about you,
Speaker 1: you're doing something right. So I think it's it's very
Speaker 1: much within Jane's right today, younger if that's what she
Speaker 1: wants to do A girl, I don't know, like listen,
Speaker 1: like let's say, you know, you get divorced three times,
Speaker 1: you're in your eighties, what do you get, Like, what
Speaker 1: is younger to you? You're like someone in their sixties,
Speaker 1: like at that point somebody in their seventies. Well, yeah,
Speaker 1: of course, Like I like you said, law of averages.
Speaker 1: Everything is really like the majority of people in the
Speaker 1: world are gonna be younger than you. So it's like
Speaker 1: how much younger are we talking here? Like is Jane
Speaker 1: Fonda gonna date like a twenty five year old guy?
Speaker 1: Because that's a little creepy. All right, let's be honest,
Speaker 1: right now, Okay, do you have your you have your
Speaker 1: computer in front of you, right, I do want you to.
Speaker 1: I want you to google a picture of Jane Fonda.
Speaker 1: Just do Jane Fond, so you know what she looks like? Alright,
Speaker 1: an one, okay, yeah, yeah, she's still cute. That my question, Dean,
Speaker 1: you as how old? I'm twenty nine, I'm twenty I'm
Speaker 1: thirty next month? Thank you very much? Oh my god,
Speaker 1: yeah you're getting old. So as a thirty let's just
Speaker 1: we we'll aid you up as a thirty year old man. Yeah,
Speaker 1: looking at Jane Fonda, what she looks like? A three? Dean?
Speaker 1: If you were single, would you date Jane Fonda? Absolutely not?
Speaker 1: Okay you would you go on one date with Jane
Speaker 1: Fond if she was like Dean, I'm a huge Bachelor fan.
Speaker 1: I loved you on the show. I would love nothing
Speaker 1: more than to go on a date with you. Would
Speaker 1: you go on a date with her? I would be
Speaker 1: very interested in sparking up like a very platonic friendship
Speaker 1: with Jane Fonda. Shure, that sounds awesome. I'm sure she's
Speaker 1: got some great stories to share. I think I could
Speaker 1: entertain her with some of my own stories, but I
Speaker 1: don't think there would be any romance involved. To be fair,
Speaker 1: she said that she doesn't want to be in a
Speaker 1: sexual relationship. Again, she doesn't have that desire, So this
Speaker 1: could work out perfectly for both you. Yeah, do you
Speaker 1: want me call Kalen over here and apologize to her
Speaker 1: and say, like listen to hey, I'm gonna go on
Speaker 1: a date with Jane Fonda And it prevented the opportunity
Speaker 1: or presented the opportunity of course, like you know, no
Speaker 1: promises or anything like that. Why not. Yeah, yeah, I
Speaker 1: can see that actually, now that you you put it
Speaker 1: into perspective for me, I could see that being a
Speaker 1: realistic scenario for me, Like the Kalen is out of
Speaker 1: the picture. What's the biggest age gap you'd ever date
Speaker 1: a girl at, like a romantic like physically date. Yeah,
Speaker 1: like a romantic relationship that you are committed to one another. Um,
Speaker 1: that's a hard question to answer because listen, like, obviously,
Speaker 1: I fortunately I don't have to put myself in that scenario.
Speaker 1: I've dated older in the past before Calin. Of course,
Speaker 1: Calin's four years my junior. But in the past I've
Speaker 1: dated girls as upwards of like ten years older than
Speaker 1: I am. My brother dated a girl who was twenty
Speaker 1: plus years older than he was, so uh, you know,
Speaker 1: the Ungler genealogy doesn't discriminate against age. If there's a spark,
Speaker 1: if there's a connection there, then by all means will
Speaker 1: pursue it. Um. But thankfully I don't even have to.
Speaker 1: I don't have to consider this hypothetical because I have
Speaker 1: klin and and um, she's not even three years old.
Speaker 1: We're podcasts, we're here for entertainment purposes. Hypothetical is what
Speaker 1: we do. I would say I would go upwards of
Speaker 1: like early forties, mid forties. I would say I would
Speaker 1: say the same for like a committed relationship, because it
Speaker 1: would be tough because it all depends to you know, family,
Speaker 1: what you're planning marriage. Like, if you're dating someone older,
Speaker 1: they could have easily been divorced and maybe not want
Speaker 1: to get married again. Remember they don't want kids, or
Speaker 1: maybe they already have kids. That throws a wrench into dating.
Speaker 1: Obviously for me though, like if we're putting all those
Speaker 1: factors to the side, I'm not gonna lie. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: would go. I would go even upper forties, I think,
Speaker 1: and you're at two you know, obviously Ashley is the
Speaker 1: one woman for me. But if I was single before
Speaker 1: ash Yeah, I'm not gonna lie like a woman older
Speaker 1: than me who like puts out sexy vibes that was
Speaker 1: good things? Is that like is that like a king
Speaker 1: thing though, like once you like one and done, like
Speaker 1: once you get it, you're over it. I'm like, Okay,
Speaker 1: check that off the list. Or is that like an
Speaker 1: actual thing where it's like there might be some longevity
Speaker 1: to this today? You know. I gotta be honest, I've
Speaker 1: I've never experienced it, so I can't really answer that question.
Speaker 1: I don't know if it would have been a one
Speaker 1: dumb thing or if I would have been head over
Speaker 1: heels like Okay, I'm in love, this is over, like
Speaker 1: I will do anything for you. Yeah, yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1: You want to know what the best thing about this
Speaker 1: whole conversation that Jared, what that is that none of
Speaker 1: it matters because you have Ashley and I have Kaylin,
Speaker 1: and we're very very lucky in that guard well, extremely lucky. Obviously.
Speaker 1: Did you ever have I was gonna say, did you
Speaker 1: ever have a hesitant? Because Klein was four years younger
Speaker 1: than you, Um, do you do you see that as
Speaker 1: a big age difference? Like my parents are seven years difference,
Speaker 1: and as a kid, I never thought twice about it.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, that's just what you know marriages.
Speaker 1: You marriage someone, he married someone seven years younger than you.
Speaker 1: But now as I get older, I realized what a
Speaker 1: big age difference that is between my parents because they
Speaker 1: got together. My dad was twenty seven, my mom was
Speaker 1: twenty when they got married. So for you, Dean, you know,
Speaker 1: Calin's four years younger than you. Do you think that's
Speaker 1: a big difference in age? Uhh, that's a really good question, Jared. Um,
Speaker 1: it was. I wouldn't say it was like a hesitation,
Speaker 1: but it was definitely a thought that had crossed my
Speaker 1: mind at some point because, like I said, I want
Speaker 1: I want to say, like, historically I did date a
Speaker 1: little older, like most of my girlfriends and my twenties
Speaker 1: were like late twenties, early thirties. Um, you know, because listen,
Speaker 1: like I'm super mature, really intellectual. It's just very like
Speaker 1: interesting and so that like you know, obviously tailors towards
Speaker 1: an older crowd a little bit, obviously obviously, uh and
Speaker 1: so across my mind. But I don't think there's every
Speaker 1: any like I don't think I was ever like twenty
Speaker 1: four when I was twenty eight. It's like, that's not
Speaker 1: going to pass. Because you know, women on average, I think,
Speaker 1: I think it's pretty commonly known that they mature faster
Speaker 1: than men. So I was like, Okay, cool, she's four
Speaker 1: years younger than I am. She's still probably four years
Speaker 1: more mature than I am, So that in itself was
Speaker 1: like okay, whatever, like this is a big deal. And
Speaker 1: actually than you. She was just funny because I think
Speaker 1: he was four years more mature than her age and
Speaker 1: your four years less mature than your age. So if
Speaker 1: you really balance this thing, oh, she's pretty much emotionally
Speaker 1: two years older than you. Well, by that math, she
Speaker 1: would be twenty nine and I would be twenty five,
Speaker 1: which is very very possible. Yeah. I mean mass was
Speaker 1: never my strong suit, which is why I ended up
Speaker 1: on Bachelor in Paradise. There's a lot of math. It's
Speaker 1: it's so funny too, because I was just telling Calin
Speaker 1: some stories when we were at breakfast, just now about
Speaker 1: the things I would do when I was nineteen or
Speaker 1: eighteen or nineteen, like a freshman in college, and she
Speaker 1: was like, you would do those things, and I was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I was an idiot, and she goes like, that's like
Speaker 1: beyond I the audic. That's like like I was actingly
Speaker 1: at fifteen year old. I think that typically do skew younger.
Speaker 1: I need to know what one of these things was.
Speaker 1: I mean, just explain a legal version of it, if
Speaker 1: these things were illegal. The main story that threw her
Speaker 1: off really bad was I used to just get really
Speaker 1: drunk with my friends and like have each other like
Speaker 1: we would all just punch each other in the face
Speaker 1: to give each other black eyes. Um, eighteen years because
Speaker 1: we're idiots. Absolutely, because we're idiots. And there was I
Speaker 1: think that you didn't think like women are going to
Speaker 1: find this sexy or like look like a badass. Yes,
Speaker 1: of course that's nice. That's like I would say, like
Speaker 1: that six of what it was. I say it was
Speaker 1: like thirty, like showing up to class as a freshman
Speaker 1: in college with a black eye and everyone's like, WHOA,
Speaker 1: this guy got into a fight this weekend. That's pretty cool.
Speaker 1: You should see the other. Yeah, that's what I would
Speaker 1: always say. And then the other ten percent is just
Speaker 1: like you know, just being drunk and stupid and young
Speaker 1: with your friends. I told you that story, and she
Speaker 1: was like, she looked at me like I was an
Speaker 1: insane person and I'd like shared some of my other
Speaker 1: like the link went, you know, underage drinking stories with
Speaker 1: her before, and she's always like, those are bad. But
Speaker 1: she like the way she looked at me after me
Speaker 1: telling her that story was like, who the heck am
Speaker 1: I dating right now? Because I have no idea who
Speaker 1: you are. In my experience, guys are very stupid. So
Speaker 1: we didn't punch each other in the face, but I
Speaker 1: was also in high school we did this, but at football,
Speaker 1: like in the locker room, we would have challenges of
Speaker 1: punching each other in the same spot, giving each other
Speaker 1: a dead arm. So like you would wind up and
Speaker 1: punch as hard as you could into your buddy's arm,
Speaker 1: and then your buddy would do the same thing to
Speaker 1: your arm, and then you would continue this back and
Speaker 1: forth until one person gave up. And then obviously the
Speaker 1: one person that gave up just lost pride and respect.
Speaker 1: But when I look back upon that, I'm like, what
Speaker 1: the hell is wrong with us? Why do guys do this?
Speaker 1: It doesn't matter with us, We just punch each other
Speaker 1: for fun. And you guys were punching each other in
Speaker 1: each other's faces, right right. It got so bad to
Speaker 1: the one point where there was this girl that I
Speaker 1: was like really good friends with that I like, I like,
Speaker 1: had her pin me down on the ground and I
Speaker 1: should like start punching in the eye to give me
Speaker 1: a guy. And I was like, you're not punching me hard,
Speaker 1: punched me harder, and she started like punching me harder.
Speaker 1: And she's like, I'm scared, I don't want to punch
Speaker 1: you harder. And I'm like, punch me harder. Uh, And
Speaker 1: it sounds like a sexual fantasy. I'm not gonna lie
Speaker 1: of yours where it was like a little crowded party
Speaker 1: like I thought. I thought it was hilarious. My friends
Speaker 1: probably didn't think it was as funny as I did,
Speaker 1: but they were still around me laughing. Anyway, let's move
Speaker 1: on to a different subject. Yeah, there is one subject
Speaker 1: I want to talk about before we get into our
Speaker 1: guest this week. Now, this has covered on us weekly. Uh.
Speaker 1: Two people that we know from Bachelor in Paradise. One
Speaker 1: person is your mortal enemy Evan bass Uh screenshot at
Speaker 1: a text message between him and I guess his soon
Speaker 1: to be ex wife, which is really said Carly waddell Um,
Speaker 1: and it was really weird. I remember seeing this live
Speaker 1: while on Instagram. I saw that m posted because Evan
Speaker 1: doesn't really uh post anything on social media anymore. And
Speaker 1: then so I was curious. I clicked on his story
Speaker 1: and it was a screenshot of a text message between
Speaker 1: him and Carly and they were going back and forth
Speaker 1: about I guess who Carly would date after Evan after
Speaker 1: the divorce went final. I don't really know. It seems
Speaker 1: like kind of a flirtatious text message back and forth
Speaker 1: like oh who who would you date? Oh who would
Speaker 1: you date? Ha ha ha ha. But it was really weird.
Speaker 1: And then Evan added the caption when you're soon to
Speaker 1: be ex wife won't commit to appropriate boundaries. So obviously
Speaker 1: I immediately showed this to Ash and was like, what
Speaker 1: are you making of this? Because this is really weird
Speaker 1: and then she had no idea what it meant. And
Speaker 1: then Evan deleted it. And then the reason that's so
Speaker 1: interesting is that he tagged so his next story, he
Speaker 1: tagged me in it. So he deleted this. Then he
Speaker 1: posted a story and tagged me in it, and he said, um,
Speaker 1: I forget what he said, but he said something about
Speaker 1: like how he was joking and he's headed into surgery tomorrow.
Speaker 1: And then he said tagging at Jared Haven because of
Speaker 1: facial hair, because he you know, he he had like
Speaker 1: the same facial hair I did in the picture. M
Speaker 1: and so I responded, uh and uh, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I haven't heard back from him. I hope he's doing
Speaker 1: all right. But it was but he deleted that too,
Speaker 1: and then he went on this Q and a. Um.
Speaker 1: But of course, uh, you know, us Weekly covered this
Speaker 1: because it's Evan and Carly and and they talk about
Speaker 1: how Evan wants Carly to marry an Italian because it
Speaker 1: will make him happy, but he doesn't want any her
Speaker 1: dating anybody. Sure it has to be someone over six ft.
Speaker 1: And it was just weird and the idea that he
Speaker 1: screenshot at this. I don't know, do you have any
Speaker 1: thoughts about this? I just figured we touched on it
Speaker 1: because obviously bachelor related. I mean, I've never I don't
Speaker 1: really know either of them. I know that Evan is
Speaker 1: a slimy human, uh and no, I'm just kidding. He
Speaker 1: seems like a nice enough guy. He just always wants
Speaker 1: to help me on Twitter for whatever reason. Um, but
Speaker 1: at funny that he tagged you so and you message
Speaker 1: him and he never responded to the message. He said
Speaker 1: that he was going into surgery and and he seems
Speaker 1: to be all right right now. But I was just like, hey, hope,
Speaker 1: I hope it's gonna you know, I hope you're all right.
Speaker 1: It was surgery. It was dental surgery. I believe that
Speaker 1: he posted about yeah. Yeah, so it was everything was good,
Speaker 1: thank god. Um, but I don't know. I just I
Speaker 1: I really really Uh. I love Carly. I haven't talked
Speaker 1: to her in a while, which is sad because Carly
Speaker 1: and I were really close. So I was on Bachelor
Speaker 1: in Paradize season two and three, right before you were
Speaker 1: on in season four, and then Carly and I were
Speaker 1: both on those seasons and our second season together, season three,
Speaker 1: Carly and I became really close. We were we were
Speaker 1: really really good friends. Uh, and I have some very
Speaker 1: fond memories of us just laughing on the beach together.
Speaker 1: So was there ever a moment where you were like,
Speaker 1: I kind of want to date, like date Carly or
Speaker 1: take Carly on a date. No, we kind of joked
Speaker 1: about it, but we there was never any type of
Speaker 1: that chemistry. But between the two of us, like we
Speaker 1: were just we were like I don't know what's a
Speaker 1: good comparison, but like we were like I can't think
Speaker 1: of it, but we were just I guess there's no
Speaker 1: good comparison. It just wasn't that chemistry, you know, like
Speaker 1: I have that chemistry with ash Um, but Carl and
Speaker 1: I were just like best friends. Um. And it was
Speaker 1: really funny and like being with her throughout the time
Speaker 1: that she dated Evan and seeing that firsthand of them
Speaker 1: kissing and not liking each other, and then her breaking
Speaker 1: up with him, and then then you know, developing this
Speaker 1: relationship that obviously ultimately turned into a marriage and having
Speaker 1: kids and now sadly is ending. Um. But I love Carly.
Speaker 1: I really care for her. I hope she's doing well. UM.
Speaker 1: I hope that she was aware that Evan like screenshot
Speaker 1: and I just always get people post screenshots of text messages.
Speaker 1: It's like, I don't know, I just hope was there
Speaker 1: any public explanation as to why they were getting a divorce? Um? No,
Speaker 1: not really, UM, just that it's felt like there were
Speaker 1: time to go their separate ways. I don't know, so
Speaker 1: I hate like talking publicly about divorces and things like that,
Speaker 1: because I don't want to step on anybody's toes. I
Speaker 1: don't want to like divulge any information that they don't
Speaker 1: feel comfortable being in the public eye, that they haven't
Speaker 1: talked about themselves. Um. So, I think all they said
Speaker 1: was it was time for them to go their separate ways,
Speaker 1: which is really sad, especially because you know they have
Speaker 1: a couple of kids together. Um and uh. But at
Speaker 1: least the good news is they seem to be on
Speaker 1: friendly terms. That's nice. Hopefully he didn't piss off Carly
Speaker 1: by screenshotting a text message and placing it online, but
Speaker 1: she could have easily given approval. We have no idea,
Speaker 1: but I'm not gonna lie. When I first read it,
Speaker 1: I was like, this is freaking weird. I mean, at
Speaker 1: the end of the day, the divorce is bad enough,
Speaker 1: but when you have kids, it kind of amplifies. They're
Speaker 1: like the need to at least stay amicable with each other.
Speaker 1: I can only imagine, at least that's my interpretation of it.
Speaker 1: So hopefully they they're able to maintain speaking terms. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and it seems that they do. I mean, they're just
Speaker 1: you know from I feel we're talking about this text message,
Speaker 1: but Evans the one that put on Instagram, they seem friendly, like,
Speaker 1: they seem like there's a nice banter back and forth.
Speaker 1: So well, Jared, while we're on the while we're on
Speaker 1: the topic of bachelor headlines, I got another one here
Speaker 1: for you. So apparently Bennett from um Tatious season That's
Speaker 1: right seemingly shoots his shot with Peter Webber's ex girlfriend
Speaker 1: and X no, I just ex girlfriend Kelly Flann again.
Speaker 1: So according to this full US Weekly article, UM, I'm
Speaker 1: just gonna go ahead and read it verbat him here
Speaker 1: talking sweet and looking fine. Bennett Jordan would absolutely offer
Speaker 1: a rose to Kelly Flann again if given the chance.
Speaker 1: According to his Wednesday Instagram posts, he says at thirty six,
Speaker 1: I realized shooters have arranged for a reason and can't
Speaker 1: be afraid of taking long distance shot. You gotta keep
Speaker 1: shooting basketball emoji the Harvard Lumber out. However, I didn't
Speaker 1: realize brief clips of quote fantasy could give such feels
Speaker 1: until earlier this week. Kissy face emoji. The caption was
Speaker 1: paired with the brief video of the shirtless reality TV
Speaker 1: personality playing with his hair and winking at the cameras,
Speaker 1: set to the song Fantasy by Mariah Carey. The post
Speaker 1: was an obvious nod to Flan Again, who posted a
Speaker 1: similar video to her own Instagram account two days earlier,
Speaker 1: utilizing the same soundtrack. The attorney tworld for the camera
Speaker 1: to show off a new haircut. What's going on with this? Um?
Speaker 1: So I did a little stalking because this piqued my interest.
Speaker 1: So Kelly posted on her Instagram like a video of her.
Speaker 1: You know, what do they what do they call that?
Speaker 1: Where you like you flip your hair back? I guess
Speaker 1: that's what you call it, you know. And it's like
Speaker 1: she her back is to the camera and she flips
Speaker 1: her around. She looks beautiful and her hair looks great,
Speaker 1: and she does it to that Mariah Carey song, which
Speaker 1: apparently is called Fantasies. I think that's what you just said.
Speaker 1: And then Bennett, in the most Bennett way possible, posted
Speaker 1: a video on his own Instagram to the same song,
Speaker 1: talking about shooting his shot and talking about Fantasies, which
Speaker 1: is the name of the song, and he's running his
Speaker 1: hand through his hair, which is an obvious nod to
Speaker 1: Kelly flipping her hair, so obviously he is very interested
Speaker 1: in Kelly. Wants to take Kelly on a day. I
Speaker 1: don't know. Here's the thing. I don't know if he
Speaker 1: quote unquote shoot he shot his shot. Uh Privately, I'm
Speaker 1: curious if he deemed her, and it was before this
Speaker 1: whole thing, it was like, hey, you know, I'm Bennett.
Speaker 1: I was here, I've seen you. You know, I'd love
Speaker 1: to get to know you more. Blattah blah dah blah.
Speaker 1: Or if Bennett just was like, screw it, I'm going
Speaker 1: to post a video that's exactly like hers and let
Speaker 1: her know, wink wink come into her. Probably the latter.
Speaker 1: It's definitely more Bennett. I saw, I saw it, Um.
Speaker 1: I have one very civic feeling about it. I bleeping
Speaker 1: hate it. I think it's the worst thing I've ever seen.
Speaker 1: I like had a clothe You know when you watch
Speaker 1: a scary movie and you like watch the movie through
Speaker 1: your fingers over your eyeballs, and you're like, oh, I
Speaker 1: don't know if I can watch it, but I don't
Speaker 1: want to miss anything super important. But I'm ready to
Speaker 1: close my eyes if I have to. That's how I
Speaker 1: watched everything in that story he posted and then very regrettably,
Speaker 1: I wish you could go back and turn time around
Speaker 1: and fix this that I did. I watched a couple
Speaker 1: more videos on Bennett's Instagram page, and it was just
Speaker 1: some of the worst stuff I've ever seen in my
Speaker 1: entire life. If that's him shooting a shot, he does
Speaker 1: not have Steph Curry range. He has DeAndre Jordan range
Speaker 1: from exactly, He's got no range. She's got no game.
Speaker 1: It was bad, and I mean bad, and I don't
Speaker 1: like listen, he might be a nice guy. It all
Speaker 1: might be satire for all I know. I don't know,
Speaker 1: but it was mind blowing lee bad. Why it was
Speaker 1: the worst thing I've ever seen in my entire life.
Speaker 1: That's why I like Bettett so much, because I think
Speaker 1: that he has zero game. And I'm saying this in
Speaker 1: the most endearing and loving way, because I think, like
Speaker 1: he's just he's a little wacky and like I I like,
Speaker 1: I think I relate to people like that who are
Speaker 1: kind of like just weird, and you don't want you
Speaker 1: don't want to relate to people like that. His videos,
Speaker 1: like there was one where he, uh, what did he do?
Speaker 1: He was like licking caviare off his hand or something
Speaker 1: like that. And to make matters worse, this is the
Speaker 1: same guy. I think that I was talking to Noah
Speaker 1: from Tastious season about how emotionally intelligent he was and
Speaker 1: how Noah needed to learn emotional intelligence, and then I
Speaker 1: see these things and I'm like, bro, what are you doing?
Speaker 1: How in this? How? How okay? You take this video?
Speaker 1: That's one thing short. Maybe should like send it to
Speaker 1: the person directly, but you watch it a couple of
Speaker 1: times and in your head you're like, you know what, Yeah,
Speaker 1: looks good. I look good. That was slick, that was hot.
Speaker 1: I'm going to post this on my Instagram page for
Speaker 1: hundreds of thousands of people to see. Are you like, unbelievable?
Speaker 1: I still, I mean, I don't know. I don't I
Speaker 1: don't want to. I don't know. I don't know. I
Speaker 1: don't know it there that we don't. I don't think
Speaker 1: it's I don't think it's satire. I think he I
Speaker 1: think oh, I don't think so either. I think here's
Speaker 1: what I think. I think he has let the attention
Speaker 1: that he's gotten from the show get to his head
Speaker 1: a little too much. He's like, Wow, I'm hot. People
Speaker 1: want to see more of me, more of me licking
Speaker 1: my hand, eating caviare winking at the camera, running my
Speaker 1: fingers through my hair. This is what people look. They
Speaker 1: think I'm hot. I'm gonna keep doing it, and it's
Speaker 1: just it's, in my opinion, very frustrating. But hey, more
Speaker 1: power to him. If that's what he does, that's what
Speaker 1: he needs to make himself happy. That's exactly what he
Speaker 1: should be doing. So do you think Kelly is interested
Speaker 1: in Bennett? I don't. I don't see how anyone with
Speaker 1: the level head on their shoulders could even have a
Speaker 1: glimpse of interest in what he's doing on Instagram right now.
Speaker 1: And like I said, he might be the nicest guy,
Speaker 1: but just the stuff he's doing, it absolutely needs to stop.
Speaker 1: Delete your Instagram, sit down and talk to like, uh,
Speaker 1: consult I have a consultation with someone that knows what
Speaker 1: they're doing. Let them, like reprioritize where you want to
Speaker 1: go with your social media game here, because what you're
Speaker 1: doing right now is not working. Before I knock on
Speaker 1: Bennett more, let's move on to our guest, Jared. What
Speaker 1: do you say? We have a great guest coming up
Speaker 1: on the podcast. She is a renowned psychological expert. She
Speaker 1: is a life coach. It is Drs Cheyenne Bryant. She's
Speaker 1: coming up right after this break. All right, welcome back
Speaker 1: to help I suck at dating. We have Dean myself,
Speaker 1: of course, both are here and we are joined by
Speaker 1: a very special guest. She is a renowned psychological expert,
Speaker 1: a life coach, author of the award winning Mental Detox.
Speaker 1: It is Dr Cheyenne Bryant. Doctor. Thank you so much
Speaker 1: for joining us. Thank you for having me Hidin. Hi, Jared,
Speaker 1: I'm I'm excited to be here, um, because I love
Speaker 1: you know, I love what I do, which is being
Speaker 1: an expert at giving away. Half of it is my opinion.
Speaker 1: The other half, obviously is my expertise. And I mean,
Speaker 1: you know, to get paid to do that and be
Speaker 1: able to change folks life while doing that, that's the
Speaker 1: real pay check. I always say that, of course, you
Speaker 1: make money doing what you do or I do, But
Speaker 1: the real paycheck is seeing these folks have breakthroughs, seeing
Speaker 1: these relationships and marriages actually succeed. They're not always easy.
Speaker 1: Through the process of getting to some of the successful
Speaker 1: milestones and then changing up the like the the dysfunctional
Speaker 1: patterns that we all, including myself, tend to have and
Speaker 1: a lot of times it's just that folks are not
Speaker 1: aware of it. That's the part that makes it awesome.
Speaker 1: It's not like there's just big fix and everyone thinks
Speaker 1: you have to do. It's just bringing awareness to a
Speaker 1: lot of people, so they have an understanding of the
Speaker 1: crap that they've been doing that they weren't aware of
Speaker 1: and why things continue to not work. Gotcha, you say
Speaker 1: that people aren't aware, but what exactly are they unaware of?
Speaker 1: Good question? That's real good stuff. So one, they're not
Speaker 1: even aware of the fact that the dysfunctional pattern uh,
Speaker 1: the toxicity behavior that they've been exhibiting, right, like all
Speaker 1: their life for the most part, from Kittle into adulthood
Speaker 1: are things that continuously give them in results that they
Speaker 1: don't want. So we usually grow up having this ideology
Speaker 1: of the life we want in relationships and marriage in general, right,
Speaker 1: and then we bring in this dysfunction um that is
Speaker 1: not in alignment with that, and we keep beating that
Speaker 1: dysfunction over the head. Are should they running that play
Speaker 1: over and over again and just watering that see it?
Speaker 1: And one our harvest looks like pine pones, and every
Speaker 1: time we go to picket it hurts and it doesn't
Speaker 1: look like alphals and oranges. We go, what the hell? Right,
Speaker 1: what are we doing wrong? That awareness of what are
Speaker 1: we doing wrong? Or what do we continuously keep doing?
Speaker 1: That is learned behavior is where the awareness is not,
Speaker 1: and so oftentimes it's just as easy as saying, Okay, Jared, Listen,
Speaker 1: you've done this particular behavior several times in all of
Speaker 1: your relationships and it has gotten you this negative result
Speaker 1: every single time. So tell me where is this working
Speaker 1: at for you? And if it's working, let's keep running
Speaker 1: that play. But if it's not, sweetheart, lust, all we
Speaker 1: have to do is go back to the drawing board,
Speaker 1: just like in football baseball, and we just draft up
Speaker 1: a different play Listen, it doesn't work with Brady. You
Speaker 1: think he throws the whole season away. Obviously he doesn't, right,
Speaker 1: Obviously Bright is not throwing no seasons away. Have you
Speaker 1: been looking on my Instagram? But I am I am
Speaker 1: a football fanatic. I first of all, I love sports,
Speaker 1: but football is my my sport and a you know,
Speaker 1: I mean like or not like Brady, and I love
Speaker 1: them the same person can like them or don't like them.
Speaker 1: You can't take away. The best study is on the fielduired.
Speaker 1: You're singing Jared's song here with the Brady talking, and
Speaker 1: it reminds me a lot of that that famous Einstein quote.
Speaker 1: Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again
Speaker 1: expecting different results. And so those bad habits, doing them
Speaker 1: over and over again expecting positive results is going to
Speaker 1: obviously not not be so much the case. So is
Speaker 1: that where Dr Brian is that where you got the
Speaker 1: mental detox thing from then is to kind of detox
Speaker 1: those those ideas and those habits and then kind of
Speaker 1: start overs from scratch or the whole Mental Detox book,
Speaker 1: the whole theme of it is your life as a guarden,
Speaker 1: just just to simplify it. And in your garden you
Speaker 1: have all these seeds that have in planet from your
Speaker 1: childhood and your experiences and who you are naturally water than.
Speaker 1: Then you all of a sudden wake up one morning
Speaker 1: and you're in you're in adulthood and you're going, oh whoa, okay,
Speaker 1: this seed, this seed that see this tree, this plant
Speaker 1: has to go. It is no longer serving me because
Speaker 1: I'm not six year old Dean. I'm twenty four year
Speaker 1: old Dean. I'm trying to figure this thing out called life,
Speaker 1: and I can't apply those same right recipes to the
Speaker 1: twenty four year old experiences. It just doesn't work. I
Speaker 1: just wanted to interject you a quick Dr Bryant. Six
Speaker 1: year old Dan and twenty four year old Dan not
Speaker 1: that far apart, that different. I you know what, I
Speaker 1: agree for a lot of people, probably myself too. But
Speaker 1: that's when we start to say, okay, the fact that
Speaker 1: there's no you know, discrepancy between six and twenty four, Okay,
Speaker 1: let's start to take inventory of our garden because there
Speaker 1: should be some difference, at least some difference that started
Speaker 1: to come into your life. And that's when you look
Speaker 1: at your garden, you take your inventory and say, okay,
Speaker 1: let's not make this thing harder than it is. We
Speaker 1: have to beat ourselves up, right, be easy with yourself,
Speaker 1: be compassionate with yourself while you're plowing out what doesn't work. Listen,
Speaker 1: it's not like you have to beat up yourself, which
Speaker 1: is epitome of safe safe, you know, self hatred, in
Speaker 1: the opposite of self love, because you're rooting out what
Speaker 1: doesn't work. The pruning process is natural throughout the entire
Speaker 1: process of our life for any new growth to come. Plants, leaves,
Speaker 1: trees get pruned, even if it happens naturally through the
Speaker 1: different seasons in order for them to get harvest. And
Speaker 1: so we have to be okay with going in our
Speaker 1: garden and going, okay, I see that this prom this prone,
Speaker 1: and then smiling, going now I can get that harvest
Speaker 1: that I've been wanting. Now everything can grow in and
Speaker 1: I've made room for the newness. And and not only
Speaker 1: the newness, but I've made room for the other plants
Speaker 1: that were trying to grow. But look, we're stuck because
Speaker 1: you got toxic over here, dysfunction over here, got a
Speaker 1: dead plant over here. You keep watering, and listen, no
Speaker 1: matter how much you water your dead plant, it does
Speaker 1: not come back to life. And no matter how much
Speaker 1: you water your fake plants, it doesn't make them real.
Speaker 1: And people understand that you don't stop watering the flowers
Speaker 1: to water the weeds. Never never, Well, I guess my
Speaker 1: question because you talk about, hey, you need to change
Speaker 1: certain things in your life. You need to formulate a
Speaker 1: new game plan, take out the toxic aspects of your life,
Speaker 1: prune the tree. And I feel like when people really reflect,
Speaker 1: they truly know the toxic things in the in their lives,
Speaker 1: the things that they really love. I think the problem is,
Speaker 1: at least in my own personal life, is actually taking
Speaker 1: the steps to get rid of those things, because, like
Speaker 1: from myself and I'm sure a lot of people, I
Speaker 1: have a huge unwillingness to step out my comfort zone,
Speaker 1: or I'm stubborn, or I'm afraid of change. So do
Speaker 1: you have any advice for people who know what they
Speaker 1: need to do but are having difficulty actually doing it? Totally?
Speaker 1: The first thing for you, you must you must be
Speaker 1: an Aero sign or you Jim and I Aquarius or
Speaker 1: lever which one I'm not. I'm a Scorpio. I was
Speaker 1: gonna go second water yea to move and change. Um,
Speaker 1: but I love what you said because you're absolutely correct.
Speaker 1: There are some people who really Jared believe it or not,
Speaker 1: because you appear to be very high functioning. Um, what
Speaker 1: you just saying, Look, Doc, I'm aware is just me
Speaker 1: really putting in the work. Right. So you do have
Speaker 1: some folks like you are high functioning, who are are
Speaker 1: high intellects. This is the place that they process from
Speaker 1: the intellectual processing. So they get it. They're like, I
Speaker 1: know I'm screwing up. I know what I'm doing, dude, listen,
Speaker 1: but how to and and and maintaining it is just
Speaker 1: something I'm not doing. Then you have the folks who
Speaker 1: just really don't get it though, Jay, they really are
Speaker 1: doing this dysfunctional powder and they're like, I just don't
Speaker 1: see it. I just don't understand. And Dean is saying
Speaker 1: that that's something that he can relate to. And so
Speaker 1: what I love about what you said is you have
Speaker 1: both of those two different spectrums. It's called polarity, right,
Speaker 1: And so imagine those two people getting into a relationship.
Speaker 1: I want you to look at the gridlock you go
Speaker 1: into when you're saying, I know what I'm doing. I'm
Speaker 1: just trying to figure out how the hell i can
Speaker 1: fix it. And then okay, if I do know how
Speaker 1: to fix it, I need the motivation to do it.
Speaker 1: This person is saying, I don't know what the heck
Speaker 1: I'm doing. That so wrong? You, the one who knows
Speaker 1: it's saying, you know, how would you know? Look at
Speaker 1: this they're saying I don't and don't make me feel inferior.
Speaker 1: Don't make me feel small, don't defeminize me or emasculate
Speaker 1: me depending on who this person over here is right
Speaker 1: by beating on me, making me feel bad about what
Speaker 1: I don't know. This is where the whole life coaching
Speaker 1: and giving tools that say, Jared, hold on, now, you've
Speaker 1: gotta have some compassion. This person doesn't function from the
Speaker 1: same space you do. So everyone's not like you when
Speaker 1: you can't self project onto her who you are, because
Speaker 1: that's just not fair, and love is not self projection.
Speaker 1: Love is intended to be liberating, free and unconditional. So
Speaker 1: I always say, can you love the pieces about a
Speaker 1: person you do not like just as much as you
Speaker 1: love the piece as you do. If the answer is yes,
Speaker 1: let's rock and roll. Let's keep this thing going, let's
Speaker 1: go to the altar. We're good. If the answer is no,
Speaker 1: and you're trying to shift our change and get her
Speaker 1: to understand that she knows what she's doing, we we
Speaker 1: have to we have to get some tools in there,
Speaker 1: or we have to start to unbuild that home and
Speaker 1: reconstruct or possibly getting to a new one. Right, So
Speaker 1: that's where the gridlock comes in again. We have to
Speaker 1: have compassion for each other because we're not cookie cutter.
Speaker 1: Do most of us want the same thing to be acknowledged,
Speaker 1: loved and respected, Yes, and have a peace of mind.
Speaker 1: But that part is very can be cookie cutter. The
Speaker 1: process to getting there, there's nothing cookie cutter about that journey,
Speaker 1: and that's where relationships gets screwed up at not in
Speaker 1: the end result. It's achieving the end result. So you
Speaker 1: said that love isn't projecting yourself onto your partner. I
Speaker 1: guess that made me think, dr, what do you think
Speaker 1: love is? Because I'm curious as a life coach, as
Speaker 1: someone who's been uh you know, coach so many different couples,
Speaker 1: single people. Uh, what do you think love is? So
Speaker 1: the first thing love is is experiencing yourself pushed out.
Speaker 1: So everything that we experience in life is experiencing here ourselves.
Speaker 1: So that's why the first thing to true love is
Speaker 1: self love capta because what happens is as you and
Speaker 1: I say you and I dare get into a relationship,
Speaker 1: I start to experience all of my toxicity, are all
Speaker 1: of my loving pieces of me through the relationship with you,
Speaker 1: because you're just of me pushed out. So that goes
Speaker 1: into what should the experience of love look like it
Speaker 1: should look like I completely in my authentic self, showing
Speaker 1: you all my conditions, because as in order for you
Speaker 1: to love me unconditionally, don't you have to see my conditions?
Speaker 1: So why am I coming in with the mask? And
Speaker 1: why am I embarrassing who I am? And then moving
Speaker 1: from there, it's loving each other wholly unconditionally, because stick
Speaker 1: with me. If I'm experiencing myself that I'm only loving myself,
Speaker 1: ethics t that I'm loving you. So my love for
Speaker 1: you is a direct reflection of my self love for myself. Okay,
Speaker 1: a's peace. Then I facilitate you. I facilitate you. That's
Speaker 1: holding you in this safe space while you grow and shift,
Speaker 1: and growth isn't always for its sweetheart, growth is like
Speaker 1: a slingshot. So I am supposed to facilitate you, not
Speaker 1: control you, while I'll allow you to be a creator
Speaker 1: of your world. And if I can love myself wholly
Speaker 1: and unconditionally, guess what I can do for you? Because
Speaker 1: I love them unconditionally. As I give who I am,
Speaker 1: I give who who I am, and that is it's
Speaker 1: again you get it, But a lot of people they
Speaker 1: can hear it. But they can't process that, so they're
Speaker 1: controlling their self projecting and they don't love themselves. And
Speaker 1: then they point at you and Dean they're like, oh, Dean,
Speaker 1: you don't love me in these ways. And guess what
Speaker 1: Dean is saying in the session, Dude, she has insecurities,
Speaker 1: she hates this about herself, and she's projecting that onto me.
Speaker 1: Do you see there was revolving door of that. There's
Speaker 1: same thing, just different languages. Yeah, that doesn't breed really
Speaker 1: good situations. And I agree with you. I think I
Speaker 1: thank you for saying that. It's a good step that
Speaker 1: I'm aware. I do think a lot of people are aware,
Speaker 1: Like they're aware of the door. Um, they're just really
Speaker 1: nervous to walk through it. Um, Which I can't blame them.
Speaker 1: It's it's it's tough, and you know, and dr As
Speaker 1: we kind of navigate out of this COVID pandemic and
Speaker 1: start getting back into somewhat of a normal uh world,
Speaker 1: do you have any advice for couples out there that
Speaker 1: may have started their relationships during this pandemic world and
Speaker 1: now are starting to tricolate themselves back into normally. Absolutely.
Speaker 1: I think first the couples who started um during the pandemic,
Speaker 1: they had a really, really at great advantage at getting
Speaker 1: to know more of the authentic self, right. And so
Speaker 1: now that we're opening back up, and then we're gonna
Speaker 1: begin to dress ourselves up. And I say that with clothes,
Speaker 1: but I also mean that with masks and with images
Speaker 1: that want those to see, and different things we color
Speaker 1: ourselves up with for for validation and for acceptance. And
Speaker 1: I want to say that in the midst of that
Speaker 1: both parties too things well three things. One is to
Speaker 1: stay authentic, right, which authenticity means true to yourself. The
Speaker 1: second one is to facilitate more than you attempt to control.
Speaker 1: Troll looks like this. Facilitate looks like this. You can't
Speaker 1: receive anything like this, facilitate your wide open right. And
Speaker 1: the third thing is if it happens to not work
Speaker 1: because of the external ways of the world, happen to
Speaker 1: seep in, because now everybody can come out of their
Speaker 1: little cubby hole right out of hyron nation, be okay
Speaker 1: with that relationship not working. I think that's one of
Speaker 1: the most important things Dean and Jared is people can
Speaker 1: deal with the emotional piece of the breakup. Most folks
Speaker 1: aren't surrendering and accepting that it's okay for things not
Speaker 1: to work. It's just like being at a job and
Speaker 1: you want to higher pay, so you leave that job
Speaker 1: to go to another one that's paying better, right, or
Speaker 1: can advance you in a better way. It's okay for
Speaker 1: you to leave this one job or career to go
Speaker 1: somewhere else that is better fitting for you. We tend
Speaker 1: to believe you that if we've invested too much time,
Speaker 1: we have to stay here because this is where we
Speaker 1: bought real estate at how many people have bought a
Speaker 1: house and twenty five years later they sell that home
Speaker 1: with a lot of equity in it and go build
Speaker 1: their retirement home, and that that retirement home happens to
Speaker 1: be their dream home. Here you go. So some relationships
Speaker 1: are that build up, and of course we all want
Speaker 1: to be with one person forever. We know that's the
Speaker 1: whole dream. I do too, I want that. But you
Speaker 1: have to be okay with things not working. And so
Speaker 1: if the pandemic coming to an opening exposes you know
Speaker 1: that this was a season that you guys needed to introspect,
Speaker 1: to bond, to to learn something from, to see more
Speaker 1: of yourself be fully accepting of that, and be fully
Speaker 1: accepting of you know what, and it's okay that it
Speaker 1: doesn't work. It doesn't make it that you didn't mean
Speaker 1: you felt. It doesn't mean that you won't find someone new.
Speaker 1: It doesn't mean that as a guy you can't sustain
Speaker 1: a relationship, or as a woman you're not good enough.
Speaker 1: It just means that it ran its season. And want
Speaker 1: you to tally up all the blessings and the great
Speaker 1: experiences you've had, and I want you to take all
Speaker 1: that pack up and be okay with it. That's them
Speaker 1: we all at end the day, we just really want
Speaker 1: to be okay. That's what we really want. Will I
Speaker 1: be okay when I walk through this door? Like Jarrett
Speaker 1: said that I'm afraid of We're only afraid of not
Speaker 1: being okay. We would all face a big bear. If
Speaker 1: we knew we'd be okay, we could take them out.
Speaker 1: Or if we didn't win, we got a little stuffs. Yeah,
Speaker 1: he'll be okay. Why would we not? Because life is
Speaker 1: not about win or lose. Life is about experiences. Words
Speaker 1: don't teach experience does so? Doctor My question to you
Speaker 1: after we're talking about Hey, some relationships are meant to
Speaker 1: take you to the next step. They're not meant to
Speaker 1: be forever lasting. Do you believe in soulmates? I do.
Speaker 1: I do. I believe in soulmates. I believe in the
Speaker 1: twin flame thing. I just don't believe that there's one
Speaker 1: soul mate. I don't think that you have this one
Speaker 1: soul mate that you're looking for in this big world.
Speaker 1: And just God, please let my soulmate just find me
Speaker 1: or me find it. You know, I think that you
Speaker 1: receive what you believe. And so I love that you
Speaker 1: said this because I've had mostly women clients saying I'm
Speaker 1: just looking for that one. I'm just looking for that one.
Speaker 1: It's it's been years and I just can't find that one.
Speaker 1: And I'm going listen to what you're speaking into the universe.
Speaker 1: You're asking a universe to seeing you one person. You're
Speaker 1: gonna shift up that affirmation and that request, and you're
Speaker 1: gonna start saying there are countless men right, countless women
Speaker 1: who are all just waiting to be with me, waiting
Speaker 1: to love me, and I just have to choose the
Speaker 1: one I want. And I'm not exaggerating. Within a week
Speaker 1: or two, my client is saying, Wow, I cannot believe
Speaker 1: how that affirmation right in the law of attraction and
Speaker 1: putting into the universe has shifted how much of an
Speaker 1: attraction I have now with men. And it's because what
Speaker 1: we're looking for. Guess what we will find, Because what
Speaker 1: we're seeking is seeking up. So again, if we're looking
Speaker 1: for that one soul mate and you're going, um, you know,
Speaker 1: and forty and fifty and where's my soul mate, well
Speaker 1: get out of your own way, because if you think
Speaker 1: there's one soul mate, how in the hell are you
Speaker 1: gonna find this one person in this big world? But
Speaker 1: how about saying, oh, my god, everywhere I go, there's
Speaker 1: my soulmates. Soulmates are everywhere so much. Are across the street,
Speaker 1: they're walking in the bathroom, in the restaurant. Soul mates
Speaker 1: are on social media, they're on my phone. There in
Speaker 1: the parking, struct shore parking, everywhere I go, Oh, I
Speaker 1: just can't get and I can't get enough of my soulmates.
Speaker 1: And I promise you, I promise you with all of me,
Speaker 1: you're gonna see a shift in your experience and you're
Speaker 1: gonna be like and then you start connecting with people,
Speaker 1: You're gonna start to have this this cleavingness of harmony,
Speaker 1: because listen, we see in others who we are, not
Speaker 1: who they are. We see in the We see the
Speaker 1: world as who we are, not how the world is
Speaker 1: so scary world. You've got a lot of fears. Let's
Speaker 1: talk about that beautiful, harmonious world. You've been meditating, buddy,
Speaker 1: Good for you. That's how it goes. I gotta meditate more.
Speaker 1: Dr Brad. Are you are you advocating for polyamory or
Speaker 1: are you just saying once you find them one of
Speaker 1: the many soul mates out there, go ahead and hunkered
Speaker 1: down with that guy or girl wherever it might be.
Speaker 1: Because of the field our men. I take clients in
Speaker 1: and I say, what are we doing? And whatever their
Speaker 1: goal is, if it's multiple partners are one, I helped
Speaker 1: them reach that goal if they believe it's healthy for them.
Speaker 1: And then if they get there and they don't like it,
Speaker 1: I say, you know, let's run a different play. Let's
Speaker 1: try something different. Don't get stuck on one thing, because
Speaker 1: then you become discouraged. Right. I want them to be
Speaker 1: empowered the entire time. But for myself personally, I believe
Speaker 1: in in you know, and just one on one. I
Speaker 1: don't share. I don't want to share in any capacity.
Speaker 1: Um And and it might go back to my self love.
Speaker 1: You know, I love on myself a whole lot, and I,
Speaker 1: you know, experiencing myself outside. I'm very territorial with me
Speaker 1: and my space and my peace. And I like, I
Speaker 1: like intimacy, and I personally can't see my self experience
Speaker 1: and intimacy outside of it being a one on one experience.
Speaker 1: And so I like, I love intimacy. Polygamy, It's like,
Speaker 1: how do you get the intimacy because intimacy still so
Speaker 1: one on one? And I want to say something else
Speaker 1: about soul mates. It's not always in a romantic setting.
Speaker 1: Because my mother is truly my soulmate, because we just
Speaker 1: when I we just get it. And there's you know,
Speaker 1: some parents who just don't go along with We just
Speaker 1: get each other. And she said, if you weren't my daughter,
Speaker 1: you would still be my best friend. And I'm saying
Speaker 1: that because we are such kindred spirits that we if
Speaker 1: we even have a disagreement that goes a little too far,
Speaker 1: we're both just in a heartbreaking like, oh my god.
Speaker 1: So it doesn't last long, right, Maybe a couple of
Speaker 1: minutes and we're both like, I'm sorry. I'm sorry too.
Speaker 1: So I'm saying that to say that's so made experience
Speaker 1: is so fulfilling that we should want it to be
Speaker 1: with just one person, not polygamy, but we should we
Speaker 1: should want it to be with our brothers. You and
Speaker 1: you and Jared Dean can be so mates as as
Speaker 1: gross it happened my soul mate, You see what I mean? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I completely agree. I don't think that there's just one
Speaker 1: soul mate. But also thinking it's saying that does not
Speaker 1: mean that you have to be in a polygamous relationship,
Speaker 1: Like you can be with one person and also believe
Speaker 1: that maybe there was more than one soul mate, but
Speaker 1: you just found the one that was better making a choice.
Speaker 1: And then it's funny because, uh, one of our friends,
Speaker 1: who's who's on the podcast quite a bit, Kendall, she
Speaker 1: has a twin sister and she says that her twin
Speaker 1: sister is her soul mate. Um, so that was pretty
Speaker 1: cool to hear. And doctor, thank you so much for
Speaker 1: joining us. You were such a delight. Make sure everybody
Speaker 1: listening go on Amazon check out her book Mental Detox. Also,
Speaker 1: you have an incredible website where you can sign up
Speaker 1: for a lot of your classes doctor Dr Bryant Institute
Speaker 1: dot com. Correct, got it? Oh perfect? Yeah, and you
Speaker 1: can go up there and doctor and sign up for
Speaker 1: a lot of Dr Briant's classes right now. Um, tons
Speaker 1: of good stuff on there, Doctor Cheyenne Bryant, Thank you
Speaker 1: so much for joining us, Thanks guys for having me,
Speaker 1: and yeah we will welcome back to help I suck
Speaker 1: at dating. Big thank you of course, the Doctor, Shyenne Bryant.
Speaker 1: Jared Askin, as always, the very pointed questions, fantastic. I
Speaker 1: don't know, I don't know who we got today. I
Speaker 1: know we got Becky back there, Hannah, we got Mark Mighty,
Speaker 1: just immuned as Mike, and there's the married. We've got
Speaker 1: email talk. You know what else? This podcast needed another guy?
Speaker 1: Come on. So you guys remember did you ever watch
Speaker 1: the show Blues Clues? Yeah? Yeah, yeah. Do you remember
Speaker 1: when they got mail and they would do the little
Speaker 1: male jingle. I can't remember what it was, it's mail time,
Speaker 1: It's mail time. I just remember the Blue Clue song
Speaker 1: where it's like we just got a Blues Clues, we
Speaker 1: just got that's it. We just got a letter. We
Speaker 1: just got a letter that was that's what it is.
Speaker 1: We just gotta wonder what it says. Can we make
Speaker 1: like can we make like a quip for that for
Speaker 1: every time we get the emails? We just gotta let
Speaker 1: I'm gonna play it real quicken to an email. We
Speaker 1: just go I don't know if you're gonna we can't
Speaker 1: play it. We're gonna get copyright. Yeah, you're right, you're right.
Speaker 1: I think now Mark's gonna read it. I think that's Euston.
Speaker 1: He will have a male email intro for us by
Speaker 1: next week. That's what I predict. Yes, I would, I
Speaker 1: would do just about anything for that. But I'm sure
Speaker 1: Eastern so happy about Let's do more work to do? Hey,
Speaker 1: did you don't mind? Right, I'll tell you what. I'll
Speaker 1: do all of the audio, sound engineering everything for it,
Speaker 1: and I'll send it to you guys, and then maybe
Speaker 1: we can implement it into next week's episode. Fair well, today,
Speaker 1: My job is easy. It's a very short email us
Speaker 1: from anonymous. What is your favorite thing about your partner
Speaker 1: as a person, and what is your favorite thing about
Speaker 1: them as a partner? And then she asks I assume
Speaker 1: it's so she What is your least favorite thing about
Speaker 1: them as a person and as a partner, Yeah, you
Speaker 1: want to go first? I might. I might call Kalen
Speaker 1: into the room for this, And that's okay with you, guys. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean she's right there, bring her on in. But
Speaker 1: while I'm bringing while I'm bringing her over, why don't
Speaker 1: you go ahead? And I'm trying to favorite thing about
Speaker 1: Ashley as a person, I probably say her her transparency.
Speaker 1: Ashley is the most transparent person I've ever met. And
Speaker 1: I find it such an endearing quality. You know when
Speaker 1: she's sad, you know when she's happy, you know when
Speaker 1: she's mad. Uh. She just cannot hide at anything. She
Speaker 1: can't tell a lie. Uh And I find it very
Speaker 1: innocent and I love that quality about her. So that's
Speaker 1: probably my favorite quality about Ashley as a person. What
Speaker 1: about as a partner. As a partner, she's um, she's
Speaker 1: terrible now, uh. Ash As a partner, my favorite thing
Speaker 1: is probably her her just overall loving. No, she truly
Speaker 1: really cares about my happiness. Uh. And that's a very
Speaker 1: humbling thing in this world when you find someone who
Speaker 1: really just cares about making sure that you are happy. Uh.
Speaker 1: So that's probably my favorite quality about her as a
Speaker 1: partner is that she just she loves me and I
Speaker 1: love her, and it's it's cool to be a part
Speaker 1: of that. And what is your least favorite thing about her?
Speaker 1: Um my least favorite thing. She's gonna kill me for
Speaker 1: saying this, but I think it's kind of funny. So listen.
Speaker 1: You know, I'm sure sometimes you guys, isn't nice waking
Speaker 1: up next to each other and maybe there's like some
Speaker 1: goofiness or flirtation, you know, and then it gets like
Speaker 1: touchy and feeling it's really cute and it's fun. You know,
Speaker 1: you wake up, you guys ever kind of have those
Speaker 1: moments first in the morning, Yeah, okay, Ash does not
Speaker 1: wake up like that. She is just like like just
Speaker 1: like I don't know how to describe it. It's like
Speaker 1: her face is smushed and she's puffy as all hell,
Speaker 1: and she like she hates the morning and she wakes
Speaker 1: up like dollumn or she's just like and it's like,
Speaker 1: oh god, Ash. But other than that, she's fantastic. But
Speaker 1: I I find it funny that like we we don't
Speaker 1: have those moments, like I I wear very much an
Speaker 1: old couple in that aspect where there's like no cute
Speaker 1: moments in the morning as beautiful Becky. So Becky's busting
Speaker 1: my balls right now saying Ashley is always beautiful. Ashley
Speaker 1: is always stunning and beautiful, and I love her so much.
Speaker 1: But sometimes in the morning, it's not like, you know,
Speaker 1: I don't look that good anymore. I'm not sorry, I
Speaker 1: look like too, but there's a you know, there's no like,
Speaker 1: none of that cuteness in the morning. It's all like.
Speaker 1: One of my very first memories of Ashley when I
Speaker 1: first met her, was on a trip to Taha with
Speaker 1: other friends of ours, and I remember waking up in
Speaker 1: the morning and I walked out in the living room.
Speaker 1: I'm I'm a late riser, you know. I can be
Speaker 1: a morning person if I have to be, but typically
Speaker 1: I'll get up around like nine am, um, and Ashley
Speaker 1: was already wide awake in the kitchen like lounging around
Speaker 1: the living room him and I walked out and she
Speaker 1: was wearing this like blue robin hood mask over her eyeballs,
Speaker 1: and I was like, what do you like just met
Speaker 1: this person? I was like, what are you wearing? Why
Speaker 1: are you wearing this? There's like six people in the
Speaker 1: house right now, you're walking around looking like freaking Robin
Speaker 1: Hood over here. And she goes, it's an ice mask
Speaker 1: I wear every morning to deepuff my face. And then
Speaker 1: like a very reasonable, like logical, practical things to be doing.
Speaker 1: But I just remember, like, no shame at whatsoever. She
Speaker 1: was like, this is my this is my method, this
Speaker 1: is my um you know, this is what I do
Speaker 1: every morning or whatever. And I was like, yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: that makes sense. But I see what you're saying, Like
Speaker 1: that's what I love about her so much because I
Speaker 1: love those things about her. I love that she walks
Speaker 1: around with an ice pack and she wears face mask
Speaker 1: and she does all these obscure things. It's her best quality.
Speaker 1: But you know, I would say, if you're making me
Speaker 1: gun to my head, she was the worst quality, I
Speaker 1: would say, it's not even the worst quality. It's just like,
Speaker 1: you know, there's no cuteness in the morning anyway. I'm sorry, Klin,
Speaker 1: come back where Calin go, Well, there's no cuteness in
Speaker 1: the morning over here either, apparent I very much deny that.
Speaker 1: I don't believe that, alright, Cale, Well, the listeners are
Speaker 1: dying to know what is your favorite thing about your
Speaker 1: partner as a person and about them as a partner. Oh,
Speaker 1: I didn't read that correctly. Wait, go back for your
Speaker 1: favorite thing as a person and as a partner. Okay,
Speaker 1: as a person, I said this multiple times. Dean just
Speaker 1: makes everyone feel so loved and special. I think that's
Speaker 1: his best quality. He does such a good job of
Speaker 1: like listening, and I don't know what it is. It's
Speaker 1: just like everyone walks away from their conversations with him
Speaker 1: just feeling better about themselves. So that's my favorite thing
Speaker 1: about you as a person. I'd feel more loved, and
Speaker 1: especially if you showed up on time for the podcast
Speaker 1: every once in a while. Personally, I was having WiFi
Speaker 1: connectivity issues today. Interesting. Yeah, everyone everyone's sitting working on
Speaker 1: the podcast right now. I was like, I never feel
Speaker 1: that way whenever I stopped talking. Not always feel like
Speaker 1: the worst person after that is not true. No, I
Speaker 1: completely agree with you, Kalen. Dean always makes me feel better,
Speaker 1: Like I always feel better after I talked to Dean. Yeah,
Speaker 1: he's just he's a great guy. You're very childlike, Dean.
Speaker 1: This is why I brought killing in here, was to
Speaker 1: like toot my own horn. A little bit. You know.
Speaker 1: It's true though, like not to say that like you're
Speaker 1: a kid, because you're not, obviously, but there's you know
Speaker 1: how when you're with a kid and like you could
Speaker 1: be in a really bad mood, but then like the
Speaker 1: kid is like, hey, look the sky is blue. Isn't
Speaker 1: that so cool? And you're like, wow, I'm what am
Speaker 1: I mad about? Like this guy just loves the sky
Speaker 1: because it's blue. That's kind of the similar energy that
Speaker 1: you have, Dean, where you just bring that's like you
Speaker 1: never we're arguing. Whenever I'm in a bad mood. It's
Speaker 1: like he instantly lists me out of it, even if
Speaker 1: I fight it so hard, just because it's like that
Speaker 1: childlike spirit where he's like, just be happy. Life short,
Speaker 1: you know, unless you're the one that puts me in
Speaker 1: the bad mood. Oh, then he's in a bad mood
Speaker 1: for like a week. Oh gosh, week, No, it's like
Speaker 1: a day maybe two. Do you guys want to hear
Speaker 1: a funny story about what happened last night? You know,
Speaker 1: like how the on the keys you got a little
Speaker 1: flipout keys, like you like press a little button and
Speaker 1: then he flops out, you know, talking about like car keys,
Speaker 1: like car keys. Like it's a key. It's like a
Speaker 1: little rectangular fob. You press the button, it's like a
Speaker 1: blade exactly. It's like a little switch blade. I was
Speaker 1: like walking out to my van to get something. My
Speaker 1: van has one of these little switch blade keys, and
Speaker 1: as I was walking past, Kaylin and I like flip
Speaker 1: it out, like like watch out, I'm walking by, and immediately,
Speaker 1: without reacting whatsoever, her she punches me in the gut
Speaker 1: as hard as she possibly can. And I look at
Speaker 1: her and I was like, what the heck was that
Speaker 1: And she goes, oh, I didn't punch you. I was
Speaker 1: just reacting to you flipping your key out, And I go, yeah,
Speaker 1: you reacted by punching me as hard as you can
Speaker 1: in the stomach. It was. It was insane, It was.
Speaker 1: It wasn't as hard as I go. It was a
Speaker 1: very gentle second thing. I only watched comedies, but at
Speaker 1: that time I was watching Flight Attendant, which is like
Speaker 1: a spookier show, and I think that was like just
Speaker 1: me being tense from watching the show and I just
Speaker 1: punched to It just sounds like a lot of excuses.
Speaker 1: She says, it wasn't that hard, but she's just trying
Speaker 1: to minimize exactly how hard it really was because you
Speaker 1: were going to kill her. Dan. She was like, this
Speaker 1: is the moment, this is it right there? All right,
Speaker 1: well before we before we drag this on for two
Speaker 1: much longer. I'll get into these questions since Calin only
Speaker 1: really answered one of them, and that's totally fine. It's
Speaker 1: that's I'm glad we got you for any part of
Speaker 1: this podcast. To be honest, I know you're a busy girl.
Speaker 1: So what is my favorite thing about Kaylin as a person?
Speaker 1: I am gonna wait for her to leave the room
Speaker 1: before it now. I'm just kidding, um what it is? It?
Speaker 1: She is? It's all this all the time. I think
Speaker 1: she's one of the smartest people I know. Uh, and
Speaker 1: I always admire her ability to pick up on social
Speaker 1: cues and have conversations and uh, you know, all the
Speaker 1: stupid little inside jokes that I create my own head.
Speaker 1: She's usually pretty good at picking up on those pretty quick.
Speaker 1: So that's one of the things that iminded most about
Speaker 1: her as a person. As a partner, she's very selfless.
Speaker 1: She is even with this. She's had a stig infection
Speaker 1: for like the past week, um, and I try my
Speaker 1: best to take care of her. I buy her you know,
Speaker 1: I bought her like things to help take care of it,
Speaker 1: and I like have made her coffee and breakfast and
Speaker 1: all those things. But even with the stig infection, she
Speaker 1: still makes me coffee in the morning sometime most times. Still,
Speaker 1: you know, it's very selfless, even though she is the
Speaker 1: one dealing with these hindrances on the eyeball. But she's
Speaker 1: getting better fortunately. Um. What is my least favorite thing
Speaker 1: about calin? Uh? May all speak ladder so she can
Speaker 1: hear me say this. My least favorite thing about Klin
Speaker 1: is she always needs a timeline. She always needs to leave.
Speaker 1: She's always in a rush for no reason at all.
Speaker 1: She always needs to be somewhere in ten minutes, even
Speaker 1: though whether she gets there in ten minutes or thirty minutes,
Speaker 1: there is not going to be a single gosh darned
Speaker 1: difference in anything at the end of the day. So
Speaker 1: I feel like she reaches out to me, hurries me
Speaker 1: up when I don't want to be rushed, and she
Speaker 1: gets me out the door earlier than I need to
Speaker 1: be ridiculous this see, this is like a job interview.
Speaker 1: I feel like such an asshole right now. I was
Speaker 1: trying to give like a real answer, and you're like, oh,
Speaker 1: she's timely. No, that's her worst Quality's time. I was
Speaker 1: gonna go two for one. I can't remember what it
Speaker 1: was now. Um um, let me just defend myself for
Speaker 1: a second while you're thinking of yours. I love my
Speaker 1: wife in the morning. She's the best in the morning.
Speaker 1: That's why I always take pictures of her in the morning,
Speaker 1: because I find it so cute and endearing. I was
Speaker 1: just trying to find something. See here, she is to
Speaker 1: wreck the day. It's fine, You're not gross. You're not
Speaker 1: so gross a morning, and you're not gross at all.
Speaker 1: I just find it. Son, he's allowed to say that,
Speaker 1: I'm not. We have while we have her here, Let's
Speaker 1: ask you the questions there. Yeah, what's my worst quality?
Speaker 1: Be honest, I love you more than anything. Nothing would
Speaker 1: offend me. Um. He like when he's mad, he takes
Speaker 1: everything to an extreme. This is fair, Like it's just
Speaker 1: like it was a stupid and get over, like to
Speaker 1: get angry over and then like he makes it a
Speaker 1: way bigger anger, like this is the stupidest example. But
Speaker 1: this is what happened. Recently last night, we like we
Speaker 1: missed cameos, Like we missed maybe three or four cameos
Speaker 1: within the past three weeks. Okay, so that means like
Speaker 1: they expired. So we lost out on fifty dollars. And
Speaker 1: he went from us missing one cameo too. We're bad
Speaker 1: at cameos. I don't swear they're gonna leave it out.
Speaker 1: We should even be on this platform. And I'm like,
Speaker 1: what and sharing we completely of them and we do
Speaker 1: a good job at that. I just get mad at
Speaker 1: myself for like not being like I I expect more
Speaker 1: for myself. So it was like, you know what, let's
Speaker 1: not even if we can't do it right, let's not
Speaker 1: even be on cameo. That's but that's what he does
Speaker 1: about everything that he's angry about. That's a fair point.
Speaker 1: So that's his worst quality, all right, Well what's my
Speaker 1: best quality as as a partner. We'll do one more
Speaker 1: and then we're gonna get out of here. You're very
Speaker 1: sensitive and you're very forgiving. Oh that's sweet. Yeah, you're
Speaker 1: you're so sweet. I love you more than you okay,
Speaker 1: but by now, you're very sweet. I love you brush
Speaker 1: my teeth, Okay, I methright, Well Dean has to go now. Okay.
Speaker 1: Well I love you and love very You're very You're
Speaker 1: very nice. You're very nice. Okay, well, well we'll talk
Speaker 1: about this week later. That was probably my favorite segment
Speaker 1: we've ever had on help I Psychic Dating. Uh, did
Speaker 1: you answer to you? Did you ever figure out what
Speaker 1: the second one was? If you want to talk about
Speaker 1: it anymore? I totally forgot to even try to remember
Speaker 1: what that was, and I didn't want to cut that
Speaker 1: off any any shorter. But Easton chimed in and said,
Speaker 1: I have a completion rate on cameo in response to
Speaker 1: your completion, which is very, very commendable. I've got two
Speaker 1: cameo stories. One of the first one that's not east
Speaker 1: and related. I sent my cameo to be free on
Speaker 1: my birthday last year, and within five minutes, I think
Speaker 1: I had like five requests, and I was like, there's
Speaker 1: no way I'm gonna get through all these cameo requests.
Speaker 1: I did like twenty of them, and then I was like,
Speaker 1: that's twenty minutes. I'm never gonna get back. Um, And
Speaker 1: so I left four incomplete cameo requests and so sone
Speaker 1: is a far better completion percentage what I have and Easton,
Speaker 1: I paid you for a cameo once as an anonymous fan,
Speaker 1: and I think I wanted you to say something along
Speaker 1: the lines of uh something. It was like, I wanted
Speaker 1: you to be shirtless. I requested you to be shirtless.
Speaker 1: I requested you to like talk about mark and chair
Speaker 1: and like something, just like to remain anonymous, and it
Speaker 1: never got completed. I just want to go ahead and wait,
Speaker 1: I'm trying to get the screen to focus. I'm holding
Speaker 1: like cameo app right now. I'll send you a screenshot.
Speaker 1: We can't say it. We gotta end the podcast. Eastern
Speaker 1: Eastern is lying for some reason. I have a forty
Speaker 1: four cameo streak out of forty three cameos. I somehow
Speaker 1: did I have a streak this longer than the amount
Speaker 1: of I did free ones? You know they say six
Speaker 1: of the time. It works every time, every time. I
Speaker 1: want to say, I paid ten dollars to Easton to
Speaker 1: take a shirtless cameo and I never received it, and
Speaker 1: I am not pleased. I will send you another shirtless
Speaker 1: video doing whatever the hell you want as soon as
Speaker 1: this is over. As long as you pay me, I
Speaker 1: can up. Yeah, I need that twenty dollars. I need it. Man.
Speaker 1: Well that's the thing is you got it. I lost
Speaker 1: it and now you have ten dollars. That's probably why
Speaker 1: you got the streak was because you like didn't request
Speaker 1: or not. You said I don't want to do this,
Speaker 1: and then they still gave you the streak. Anyways, such
Speaker 1: bs it is, BS. Well, we'll get sorted out, we'll
Speaker 1: get started out. And I still haven't got a chance
Speaker 1: to stare into Easton's nipples. But that's life. Sometimes sometimes
Speaker 1: you get the nipples, sometimes you don't. Anyways, that's gonna
Speaker 1: do it. For this week's episode of Help I Suck
Speaker 1: at Dating, Jared, I love you today. Thank you for
Speaker 1: being my podcast soul mate. Big thank you, buddy, love
Speaker 1: you too, Yeah yeah yeah. Big thank you to Evan,
Speaker 1: Carly Bennett, Kelly Flanagin, and Jane Fonda for all giving
Speaker 1: us something to talk about on this podcast. Of course.
Speaker 1: Big thank you to Dr Shyenne Bryant for she was very,
Speaker 1: very smart and I wish we can get her back
Speaker 1: one of these days to tell us more about uh
Speaker 1: their wealth of knowledge that she has. Thank you to
Speaker 1: Mark and Easton UH for reading our emails Easton for
Speaker 1: working on our equip for next week. We got a mail.
Speaker 1: We got a mail. We got a mam mam, mam
Speaker 1: mam mail. And that's about all I got, so Jared,
Speaker 1: anything else you want to add, I'll just end it
Speaker 1: on in Eastern's nipples. I think that's a good way
Speaker 1: to end in this podcast. Uh. And thank you to
Speaker 1: Ashley and Kaylyn of course too for chiming in and
Speaker 1: sharing their experiences dating us. The horror stories. Really, let's
Speaker 1: be honest, Yes, yes, we should dedicate in the whole
Speaker 1: episode to horror stories from dating. Maybe that's down the line,
Speaker 1: Maybe that's next week where we suck just a little
Speaker 1: bit less. Follow help by Suck at Dating on I
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