Speaker 1: What's going on? Everyone? Welcome to Help, an all new
Speaker 1: episode of Help by suck At Dating Man. We're already
Speaker 1: off to a shaky sta. Um. I want to take
Speaker 1: a second and announcer guest co host this week, obviously
Speaker 1: Sydney Lutwaco. I'm not sure if you guys have already
Speaker 1: known that because you've read the Spotify description. But Sydney,
Speaker 1: we didn't. We didn't get a chance to talk about
Speaker 1: this before this episode started recording. Um, and I'm kind
Speaker 1: of glad that we didn't because you just recently got engaged.
Speaker 1: Is that right? Yes, I'm engaged. Let's spend the next
Speaker 1: two hours talking about this engagement. All right, let's do it.
Speaker 1: What you want to know? Okay? Well, first of all,
Speaker 1: off the last Jared said, congratulations, thank you. Yeah. I
Speaker 1: feel like we were talking about the possibility of me
Speaker 1: getting engaged last time I was on here. That's what
Speaker 1: I was gonna say. I feel like we kind of
Speaker 1: knew it was a long time coming. Yeah, you're glowing.
Speaker 1: You look so happy. Thank you. I'm very happy. We're
Speaker 1: very excited. Um. Now we're just starting in the process
Speaker 1: of wedding planning, which is expensive. Well, so tell us
Speaker 1: about the engagement a little it. Yeah, so we got
Speaker 1: engaged in December December, I think like five. I already
Speaker 1: don't remember the day. I know really not have been
Speaker 1: like two months. I know I need to have it
Speaker 1: like written on my hand. Um so yeah, December. I
Speaker 1: think it was fifth or sick something like that. But um,
Speaker 1: he surprised me by doing it kind of in a
Speaker 1: photo shoot, so he I'm very hard to surprise because
Speaker 1: I'm the one that plans everything that we do. Um,
Speaker 1: So we had to get tricky with it. So we
Speaker 1: had a photographer reached out that we worked with before
Speaker 1: for like other photo things, and she and I are
Speaker 1: good friends, and she reached out about doing like a
Speaker 1: cute Christmas themed photo shoot and I was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's totally cute. I just had to run it by Nick,
Speaker 1: Like he's not the biggest photo shoot fan. Um so
Speaker 1: I had to like run by this plan with him.
Speaker 1: So I got to pick out like where the photo
Speaker 1: shoot was, what we were wearing, what it was gonna
Speaker 1: look like, all this stuff and that the last minute,
Speaker 1: the photographer had texted me and was like, hey, I'm
Speaker 1: really good idea, Like why don't we write love letters.
Speaker 1: Why don't you guys both write love letters to each
Speaker 1: other and we can read them on camera. I've seen
Speaker 1: people do this. It makes for like a really cute
Speaker 1: photo shoot. Um. And then you guys can like exchange
Speaker 1: them at the shoot. And I was like, well, that's
Speaker 1: super cute. But again, I have to run this by
Speaker 1: neck because that sounds like something you might not want
Speaker 1: to do. UM. So he's a really good liar, I
Speaker 1: learned from our engagement because I would run it by
Speaker 1: him and be like, oh, that's I have to do?
Speaker 1: What Like, what do I have to do? Like he
Speaker 1: would just act like he didn't really want to do
Speaker 1: it when and in fact it was actually his idea.
Speaker 1: So I thought like, it could be happening maybe at
Speaker 1: this photo shoot, because I thought that would be super cute. Um.
Speaker 1: And I had a pros and like cons list in
Speaker 1: my mind of the reasons why it could be happening
Speaker 1: and the reasons why it couldn't be happening. And by
Speaker 1: the time we were like on the way there, I
Speaker 1: was like, Okay, there's no way it could be happening.
Speaker 1: Because every time I asked him or try to throw
Speaker 1: a curveball, he knew he had an answer for everything, um,
Speaker 1: like like what do you mean? Like, uh, for well,
Speaker 1: just even the fact that he was like lying about
Speaker 1: not wanting to do it. Um. Even my friend, my
Speaker 1: best friend had texted him as we were on the
Speaker 1: way there. It's not like they talked normally. UM, so
Speaker 1: he would he asked my brother and my friend besides
Speaker 1: my parents for my hand in marriage essentially. Um. So
Speaker 1: she was texting him back finally and I was like,
Speaker 1: why is why is Casey texting you? And he was like, oh, oh,
Speaker 1: why is she? Oh you know what, I texted her
Speaker 1: about your gifts, So don't look at the text, um,
Speaker 1: because I was asking her like what I should get
Speaker 1: you for Christmas. So just like like right on the moment,
Speaker 1: knew how to lie about. And I was like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: that's a perfect excuse. Okay, yeah, I guess that's true.
Speaker 1: So things like that, um. And just the fact that
Speaker 1: the photographer was the one sending everything up when in
Speaker 1: fact it was actually him. Um, even with the date
Speaker 1: that they picked, like originally we're going to do it
Speaker 1: one day and then we had to switch the date
Speaker 1: at the last second, and he had to like switch
Speaker 1: up all these details and the and those last like
Speaker 1: a few hours before we got engaged, so yeah, he
Speaker 1: was just really on top of it. And when we
Speaker 1: switched letters, so we read each other our letters. We
Speaker 1: switched letters at the last moment, so ah, he read
Speaker 1: mine first, which was way too long for what this
Speaker 1: boy saw. If I knew I was getting engaged too
Speaker 1: or getting proposed to, I would have made a very
Speaker 1: short letter. Um. And then I read his letter, which
Speaker 1: was in this journal that we shared when we were
Speaker 1: doing long distance. It was really cute and basically I
Speaker 1: asked for my own hand in marriage. Um. Yeah. So
Speaker 1: I was like, I was like, you know what, that's
Speaker 1: kind of perfect. I asked myself, that's good. Um. So
Speaker 1: then he got on one knee at the end of
Speaker 1: like me leading that me reading that letter, and yeah,
Speaker 1: was super it was very cute, super perfect. My my
Speaker 1: parents were on FaceTime because at the last second his
Speaker 1: parents walked up the stairs, um and saw us, like
Speaker 1: I saw him get on one knee, and my parents
Speaker 1: were on FaceTime, so they were a part of it too.
Speaker 1: So yeah, it was very Wow. What a great engagement.
Speaker 1: They did a good job. Yeah, and then we had
Speaker 1: like pictures and photos from it, so are videos from it,
Speaker 1: so yeah, it was. It's perfect. You want to know
Speaker 1: what's so cool about this UM engagement for for me
Speaker 1: personally and selfishly, UM, is that, However, long ago, when
Speaker 1: you first co co hosted with us, there was a
Speaker 1: while ago. I remember you were talking about this guy
Speaker 1: that you just started dating and how much you liked him,
Speaker 1: and and then the next time we talked to you,
Speaker 1: you were like, yeah, you know, I'm gonna move to
Speaker 1: I think it was Ohio and we were like, wow,
Speaker 1: that's really fast, and now here you are. However, long later,
Speaker 1: I know it's like, obviously, this this engagement came for
Speaker 1: all because of you guys, are not because of help.
Speaker 1: I stuck at dating. Selfishly, I want to believe that
Speaker 1: all of this was made possible because of help. I
Speaker 1: stuck a dating. I will agree. You guys have been
Speaker 1: at every each benchmark of our relationship. I've been on
Speaker 1: the episode. I feel like, so, yeah, you guys have
Speaker 1: seen the full journey of it. So you help. It
Speaker 1: just feels like there's one engagement after another on this podcast,
Speaker 1: and it's either coincidential dating. So thanks to you guys,
Speaker 1: I am fixed. You know, that's what we're here for Yeah,
Speaker 1: you're doing something right. Um. So, now that you guys
Speaker 1: are planning the wedding, are you have any arguments about
Speaker 1: do you want a big wedding, small wedding? Have you
Speaker 1: always envisioned your wedding? Well? How does before you answer sitty?
Speaker 1: How does this work? So you don't start planning your
Speaker 1: wedding the second after you get engaged. I mean, I
Speaker 1: know you've been engaged for two months now, but I mean, yeah,
Speaker 1: is that wrong with me to think? I mean, you
Speaker 1: technically don't, but then people immediately are asking to like,
Speaker 1: when's the wedding? Where is it? Yeah? What? What's? What
Speaker 1: are you wearing? What are you eating? Like all these things?
Speaker 1: So I mean, wait till you get married. The next
Speaker 1: question is when you have a baby. You have a
Speaker 1: baby and you're like, when are you having another one?
Speaker 1: And you're lik and everyone shut the hell up. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And then you get really old and the like when
Speaker 1: are you gonna die? Already? When you die? Let's let's
Speaker 1: wrap this up. Okay, yeah, be done. Um, So you
Speaker 1: don't plan right away, but I mean you start getting excited.
Speaker 1: I think once you decide when you're getting married, it's
Speaker 1: going to determine when you should start planning. We don't.
Speaker 1: We don't have a date until it's made, so we
Speaker 1: have a while. Um, but I've started to plan and
Speaker 1: it looks like it's going to take me a long time. UM.
Speaker 1: But you start having to like figure out where it's
Speaker 1: going to be, UM, if you're gonna have a planner,
Speaker 1: if you're gonna have a band, if you're traveling, where
Speaker 1: people are going to stay, like all that kind of stuff,
Speaker 1: And the most important thing is like the guest list, um,
Speaker 1: because that determines how much everything costs. So we're working
Speaker 1: through that currently because that's very hard to figure out
Speaker 1: who's invited who's not. Why did you guys inside on
Speaker 1: um weather and our venue had that open? Like there
Speaker 1: wasn't a lot of options for two because of COVID,
Speaker 1: Like I think everyone pushed back into two. At one point.
Speaker 1: I was like there was an option for MAO And
Speaker 1: I was like, you know what, maybe like that I
Speaker 1: could pull that together and he was like are you dumb?
Speaker 1: Like no, so yeah, don't you guys are marrying exactly,
Speaker 1: enjoy every aspect of being engaged, because once you're married,
Speaker 1: then people stop caring about you as much. You know,
Speaker 1: now you're just a married couple, so enjoy the engagement
Speaker 1: at the newly wed stage. It's fun, it's exciting. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm excited. It's super fun. And it's like fun to
Speaker 1: put together mood boards and you know, use my creativity hat. Um,
Speaker 1: but yeah, we have we have a good amount of time.
Speaker 1: But I'm excited to like get things rolling. I gotta say,
Speaker 1: you were mentioning this just a minute before I cut
Speaker 1: you off. One of my biggest terrence I've ever wanted
Speaker 1: to have a wedding is um, the guest list. It's terrifying.
Speaker 1: It's the worst part, especially with having family, that you
Speaker 1: have to invite everyone's family and then that's like a
Speaker 1: hundred people. As it is, the family is fine. I
Speaker 1: don't like, I know a family like obligated to have
Speaker 1: an invite. It's like the friends, and it's not so
Speaker 1: much like you're close friends. It's like the fringe friends
Speaker 1: where you're like, oh, we really like each other and
Speaker 1: we're friends, but like, do I like you? Like, are
Speaker 1: we good? In the friends? You're pretty come to my wedding? Yeah,
Speaker 1: deans that close close to a personal on this on
Speaker 1: this podcast. Uh, during my list that was that was
Speaker 1: a tough and I'm sure that that was totally stressful
Speaker 1: situation for you to be in, and especially now because
Speaker 1: Sydney you're going to go through the same situation. You
Speaker 1: have bachelor friends that have probably dated other bachelor friends
Speaker 1: that you're both friends with, but you're like, uh, it's
Speaker 1: good called awkwardness, Like they're not on good terms. Do
Speaker 1: I invite them? Because I want you know, you know,
Speaker 1: I'm closer with one, so I want to make sure
Speaker 1: they have the best time possible. But I'm pretty close
Speaker 1: with the other one that should probably be there, but
Speaker 1: it might ruin the other person's time without telling me,
Speaker 1: and it's just gonna be chaotic. Yeah right, But it's
Speaker 1: it's also so much fun because at the end of
Speaker 1: the day, don't let any of that drama phase you.
Speaker 1: It's your wedding. You're allowed to be selfish. That's the
Speaker 1: way Ashley and I thought about it, and just do
Speaker 1: what you want. While we're on the topic, keep giving
Speaker 1: out some advice for Sydney. You know you've been engaged, tis, Yeah,
Speaker 1: what are some tips you have for for wedding planning
Speaker 1: or being engaged? For being engaged, maybe give her some
Speaker 1: tips and then maybe give her some things that she
Speaker 1: could pass on to Nick, because you only really know
Speaker 1: it through the guy's lens. I would say, if you're
Speaker 1: going to do a wedding, if you're going to say, hey,
Speaker 1: we're gonna invest some finances into this wedding some time
Speaker 1: and effort, then go all the way. Don't have asset
Speaker 1: because I think one of the biggest things for ash
Speaker 1: and I was when we decided that we were going
Speaker 1: to do the wedding that you know, of course you
Speaker 1: have a budget, but within that budget, do everything you
Speaker 1: possibly can to make it the best day possible for
Speaker 1: yourself and for your guests even too. I always make
Speaker 1: this use this example. Ashley and I talked to the
Speaker 1: band and said, these are the songs that we want
Speaker 1: you to play, and if you don't play these, then
Speaker 1: thank you so much for wanting to lay at our wedding,
Speaker 1: but we're going to find someone else, you know, because
Speaker 1: it was just more it was like we really wanted
Speaker 1: to create an experience. So my advice is, whatever you
Speaker 1: want to do, do it. Some people don't want to
Speaker 1: invest so much time. They want to just hire someone
Speaker 1: to take care of it and just enjoy the day
Speaker 1: and not even think about it. M hm. We weren't
Speaker 1: that way, you know. So my advice would be, if
Speaker 1: you're going to do a wedding, you're really getting married once,
Speaker 1: knock on wood, So just go all in and do
Speaker 1: whatever the hell you want to do. Don't be scared,
Speaker 1: don't be afraid of pissing someone off or you know,
Speaker 1: your your parents might your parents might be like, I
Speaker 1: kind of want it this way, and you're like, I
Speaker 1: understand that, and I respect that, but I wanted that
Speaker 1: way and this is my wedding and I love you
Speaker 1: and I want to be here, but let me just
Speaker 1: be selfish. Yeah, I love that advice. Thank you. Are
Speaker 1: are you going to utilize your dancing abilities at all,
Speaker 1: like choreographing any kind of dances or anything that absolutely so,
Speaker 1: I'm I mean, Nick doesn't fully know this, Yeah, but
Speaker 1: there'll there will be a choreograph dance. Things will be happening,
Speaker 1: maybe even like outfits will be being changed the whole thing. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's my plan. I can see you, um, and I mean, like,
Speaker 1: I don't even know why I'm going to say this.
Speaker 1: I can see you wearing like Air Force ones with
Speaker 1: your wedding dress and absolutely killing it. I'll be so
Speaker 1: here for that. Yeah, what's the because you were an
Speaker 1: NBA dancer, correct. So I don't know why you know
Speaker 1: that Chicago Bulls theme song. It's serious. I think it's
Speaker 1: like dent Dent, Dent dent to day. You don't know
Speaker 1: there's anybody. Yeah, I was thinking like, yeah, your your
Speaker 1: bridesmaids could run down the aisle to that song. Me
Speaker 1: some ideas. It could be kind of fun. I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna lie. We could take in a lot of different
Speaker 1: theme ways for sure. So you live in Cincinnati, now
Speaker 1: are you? Are you guys like Bengals fans? The super
Speaker 1: Bowl just happened. Was that the big thing in the city? Oh?
Speaker 1: Oh it was. It was definitely a big thing in
Speaker 1: the city. Um, that's cool. Yeah, it was awesome. I've
Speaker 1: never been around like such super fans like that before,
Speaker 1: so it was really interesting for me to see because
Speaker 1: I wasn't generally a super football fan necessarily before. But
Speaker 1: I really appreciate the passion behind it. And I mean,
Speaker 1: all I have to watch with him. He's considered me
Speaker 1: now his good luck chime. Oun't know how I got
Speaker 1: that role because now I have to sit in front
Speaker 1: of the TV with him while he is screaming his
Speaker 1: head off. Um, don't you understand anything he says when
Speaker 1: he screams at the TV. No, it's he'll be like
Speaker 1: jumping up and down, like off the ground. Like sometimes
Speaker 1: he's like like banging on the ground, running around the
Speaker 1: living room and like, what's what have we just watched?
Speaker 1: So I started to get it towards the end. But yeah,
Speaker 1: is he more attractive when he does that? Less attractive
Speaker 1: or it doesn't matter? Um, I don't know. It's I'm
Speaker 1: kind of medium with it. I like the passion. Um
Speaker 1: sometimes it's just a little allowed for me. But I
Speaker 1: mean the whole city is just they are so loyal,
Speaker 1: which I really love. I mean even I was actually
Speaker 1: in l A for Super Bowl weekend, not for the
Speaker 1: super Bowl, just to go and there was a huge,
Speaker 1: like light up Whoday sign in the airport with like
Speaker 1: balloons all round it and like people posing in front
Speaker 1: of it. So it's just like very much their thing here.
Speaker 1: Like even my yoga teacher was playing a Bengals playlist
Speaker 1: playlist for like the last month because they were continuing forward,
Speaker 1: and I was like, if I have to hear jock
Speaker 1: jams one more time during meditation, I'm going to freak out.
Speaker 1: But so it's just like a part of the culture here,
Speaker 1: So I mean, I appreciate it. It's making me at
Speaker 1: least understand football more, which is a big step for
Speaker 1: me because I didn't really have any knowledge of it
Speaker 1: before and Cincinnati doesn't really have much root for professionally
Speaker 1: wise because they don't basketball or hockey anything, right, so
Speaker 1: it's mostly baseball and football that's right now. Baseball is
Speaker 1: coming again, and I'm like the Reds. I think they
Speaker 1: are right, Cincinnati Red I didn't know baseball was every
Speaker 1: day basically, I didn't know they played that many games
Speaker 1: in a row. Yeah, it's way too long. Yeah. Like still,
Speaker 1: at least you're not dating Jimmy Fallon from Fever Pitch.
Speaker 1: Could that be? That would be pretty bad. Sometimes I
Speaker 1: I try to act like him because obviously have a
Speaker 1: Red Sox fan, and then Ashley just isn't enjoyed him much.
Speaker 1: But I digress. So we do have a lot to
Speaker 1: get to with Sydney. We have some hot topics coming up,
Speaker 1: including Aaron Rodgers and Shaneley Woodley call it quits, But
Speaker 1: before we get into that. Let's take a quick break,
Speaker 1: all right, welcome back to help I suck at dating,
Speaker 1: like we tease. There's there's two things I want to
Speaker 1: get to. One this shaneley Woodley and Aaron Rodgers story,
Speaker 1: and then there's another one that I looked up on
Speaker 1: a website called cracked dot com. Yeah, you heard me correctly,
Speaker 1: and it's twenty five bizarre statistics about relationship and sex.
Speaker 1: And I don't want to read some of these statistics
Speaker 1: to Sydney and Dean and get their reaction. But first
Speaker 1: and foremost, Aaron Rodgers and Shaneley Woodley call it quits. Sydney,
Speaker 1: do you know who these two people are? I know
Speaker 1: Sleen for what big little lies? And then I know
Speaker 1: he dated Jordan around dated He's his brother is Jordan Rodgers,
Speaker 1: which was a Bachelor. So that's so funny. Usually it's
Speaker 1: the opposite. People are like, oh, Jordan, you're Aaron's brother.
Speaker 1: That's that's nice to hear be like, oh, Aaron is
Speaker 1: Jordan's brother. Yeah, I wonder, I wonder if you want to,
Speaker 1: I wonder if anyone approached Aaron Rodgers like during his
Speaker 1: time on the Bachelor and they're like Hey, I'm a
Speaker 1: big fan of your brother, like you because I'm really awesome. Sure,
Speaker 1: it was always the other way around. Um, that's that's
Speaker 1: a bummer about Aaron Rodgers. He always He's got a
Speaker 1: pretty good dating track record. I think you want to
Speaker 1: know why I think they broke up though, It's because
Speaker 1: Aaron Rodgers is prepping a move to Denver, and uh,
Speaker 1: you know he doesn't want to be in the longestance
Speaker 1: relationship with someone. Yeah, but shaneley Woodley isn't Colorado like
Speaker 1: very progressive. I feel like real enjoy her time in Colorado?
Speaker 1: Pretty is Wait, why do you say it with a smirk.
Speaker 1: I'm confused. I'm being serious. I know I said it
Speaker 1: with a smirk because it's a ridiculous statement. But I
Speaker 1: find out when I was thinking about where Rodgers could
Speaker 1: go in the NFL, I was thinking, well, where would
Speaker 1: shaneley Woodley want to be in Denver, Colorado? I was like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I think she could you there. For example, if he
Speaker 1: was like, hey, I want to go play um in
Speaker 1: I don't know, Houston, she might be like, ah, I
Speaker 1: think this relationship could be over. But Denver. I think
Speaker 1: you can see that This is from experience. The reason
Speaker 1: I'm saying this is because I've had years of experience
Speaker 1: with Tom Brady and Giselle Bunching, where it's been like
Speaker 1: Tom needed to approve wherever he was gonna go with Giselle,
Speaker 1: and I'm pretty sure Giselle told him, you either retire
Speaker 1: or we're getting a divorce, which is why he retired.
Speaker 1: Because can we say about Tom Brady, he might come
Speaker 1: out of retirement, like he even said himself, he will
Speaker 1: assess it, you know, five months or however long it is.
Speaker 1: He did not want to retire. He didn't want to
Speaker 1: play for Tampa anymore because he doesn't like Brasirians and
Speaker 1: he I think Giselle was like, listen, you're done, You're retiring.
Speaker 1: It's over. And I think in like he retired. Now
Speaker 1: in about four months, there's gonna be a lot to
Speaker 1: spec pulation about him going to San Francisco, and I
Speaker 1: think it could easily come out of our timement. But
Speaker 1: I digress. This is not about Tom. I've already talked
Speaker 1: about about because I've got questions for you. I've got
Speaker 1: questions for you. Please, Okay, I'm an open book. Here
Speaker 1: we go, Okay, So hey, I didn't know that he
Speaker 1: didn't like Bruce arians that's surprising to me. Um and be.
Speaker 1: If you retire and you come out of retirement, are
Speaker 1: you at that point of free agent? No, he's technically
Speaker 1: still side with Tampa. However, I think the conspiracy theory
Speaker 1: here is that he is retiring from Tampa and you know,
Speaker 1: Tampa will obviously move on make other plans at quarterback,
Speaker 1: and then in a couple of months, when Tampa already
Speaker 1: has another quarterback in his system, He's gonna say, hey,
Speaker 1: I want to come back and play. Tampa is already
Speaker 1: gonna at their next quarterback. Tom's gonna say I don't
Speaker 1: want to play from Tampa, and then you can trade me,
Speaker 1: and then they'll be suitors out there saying, like a
Speaker 1: team it's one quarterback away. Sorry, I know, Hannas, like,
Speaker 1: are you freaking kiddi? Tom ready? Again? My point being
Speaker 1: is that when he comes out of retirement and Tampa says, okay,
Speaker 1: we're gonna trade you a team like Tennessee who's one
Speaker 1: quarterback away from winning a Super Bowl, or San Francisco
Speaker 1: who's a quarterback away Denver. Honestly, like, if Denver doesn't
Speaker 1: get Rodgers, Why wouldn't Brady want to go there? I
Speaker 1: mean because it's cold. But you have seen Brady win
Speaker 1: in the first season in a new place, as he
Speaker 1: did with Tampa, So I can see where you're saying.
Speaker 1: It makes sense. He doesn't need that much warm up
Speaker 1: ramp up time in a new system because he's the
Speaker 1: smartest human in the history of existence, and he wants
Speaker 1: he wants to go to San Francisco. That's what it
Speaker 1: really comes down to. He's a huge ward to Niners fan.
Speaker 1: But we really should not be talking about this outcast.
Speaker 1: I can talk about Tom and Gizell. I mean, that's
Speaker 1: pretty compelling stuff right there. But anyway, Aaron Rodgers, Shaney
Speaker 1: Woodley is over. I think this is probably gonna enhance
Speaker 1: Aaron Rodgers NFL career. I'm not gonna lie because I think,
Speaker 1: uh not to. I just think sometimes, especially later in life,
Speaker 1: um rightfully, so, a lot of these athletes, they you know,
Speaker 1: they have other priorities. They have family, they have relationships,
Speaker 1: They're not as focused on on the sport anymore of
Speaker 1: the game because they're older and there's just different priorities.
Speaker 1: So I think now that he's single again, I think
Speaker 1: he'll probably just want to focus on the NFL and
Speaker 1: try to get one more Superbowl for retire. So if
Speaker 1: he does go to Denver, I think this is great
Speaker 1: news for you. I would love that. Hey, before we
Speaker 1: get to your dating topics that you wanted to mention, UM,
Speaker 1: I want touch in this one real cookd you guys
Speaker 1: watch Euphoria at all? No, I've heard Zenda is like
Speaker 1: crazy good in it. You guys don't watch you for
Speaker 1: you It's the best show on television right now. I
Speaker 1: watched the first two episodes. I heard the second season
Speaker 1: is really good, but I couldn't for the beginning of
Speaker 1: it watch it and not think about how they're like
Speaker 1: high schoolers and doing all those like very sexual things.
Speaker 1: So I had to move past that. So once I do,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna started because I hear it's amazing, right, you
Speaker 1: feel like because they're playing high schoolers and you see
Speaker 1: them naked, and so you feel like you're watching naked
Speaker 1: high school. It's like watching that movie thirteen. That's how
Speaker 1: I felt kind of watching UM before at the beginning.
Speaker 1: But I'm going to give it a second chance once
Speaker 1: I know thir teenage or It's kind of like Babysitters Clubbish.
Speaker 1: I don't know about that, but okay, I mean I
Speaker 1: don't know. I've never seen that movie, but I kind
Speaker 1: of understand the premise of it. Anyways, I was gonna
Speaker 1: say that two of the characters are confirmed dating, and
Speaker 1: I wanted to talk to you guys about that, but
Speaker 1: I guess if you have never seen the show, you
Speaker 1: wouldn't really care very much about it. So, um, Jared,
Speaker 1: we could. I'll go up stairs we cook and talk
Speaker 1: to Kalen about it. Yeah, Um, Jared, you can get
Speaker 1: to you can get to your topic conversation wherever you
Speaker 1: wanted to talk about. Sorry, my dogs are barking in
Speaker 1: the background. Shocking. I know the dogs are freaking out.
Speaker 1: That never happens on this podcast. Well, I do want
Speaker 1: to get to an article that I found called entitled
Speaker 1: twenty five Bizarre Statistics about Relationship and Sex, because we
Speaker 1: talk about like tidbits and advice about dating and relationships,
Speaker 1: especially going into the new year. But I thought it'd
Speaker 1: be interesting to hear some statistics about just you know,
Speaker 1: this house is in constant state of chaos right now.
Speaker 1: All right, So number twenty five. So after hearing music,
Speaker 1: apparently women are more attracted to men, Sydney, I want
Speaker 1: to get your take on this. So in a university
Speaker 1: Vienna study, women rated photos of men as more attractive,
Speaker 1: and we're up to about ten percent more likely to
Speaker 1: say they date the men if they heard just twenty
Speaker 1: five seconds of music earlier. Several types of music were tried,
Speaker 1: and apparently highly stimulating and complex music had the most
Speaker 1: powerful effects. So, Sydney, do you think that would be
Speaker 1: true that you'd find someone more or less attractive if
Speaker 1: they either music was playing right before or during you
Speaker 1: met this person. I feel like that's a very interesting
Speaker 1: study to make because it could be different type of
Speaker 1: people that you're looking at. And I don't know it's
Speaker 1: interesting how they tracked that, but I can see how
Speaker 1: that could maybe play into it, because if it's like
Speaker 1: a very romantic song, or if you're you know, when
Speaker 1: you listen to music for a while, you get in
Speaker 1: like certain moods, or you feel really good, or you
Speaker 1: feel maybe like very like open hearted um after certain
Speaker 1: like music jam sessions. So maybe they were just in
Speaker 1: that headspace looking at these photos and maybe romanticized the
Speaker 1: photos based on the music. Maybe they thought of like, oh,
Speaker 1: this could be our music video. I don't know, so
Speaker 1: maybe there's like some subconscious things that happened there that
Speaker 1: led to that, so I could see how that could happen.
Speaker 1: I just feel like that's an interesting way to gather data.
Speaker 1: I think a thousand percent, Dan, what do you think.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be totally honest with you. I was messaging
Speaker 1: our producer about euphoria and I didn't even hear a
Speaker 1: single thing you said. So and when in the title
Speaker 1: you know bizarre statistics about relationship at sex. So apparently
Speaker 1: after hearing music, women are more attractive to men. There
Speaker 1: was a study done that said women rated photos of
Speaker 1: men is more attractive and we're up to about ten
Speaker 1: more likely to say they date that man if they
Speaker 1: heard just twenty five seconds of music earlier. So pretty
Speaker 1: much the study says that if you hear music, you
Speaker 1: find someone more or less attractive. Interesting. Interesting, Yeah, I
Speaker 1: wonder why. And I think Cindy was talking about it
Speaker 1: to like what type of music are you listening to?
Speaker 1: But also like think about it, think about like your
Speaker 1: intimate moments you have with partners. A lot of times
Speaker 1: you're playing music or something. You know, maybe that's why
Speaker 1: you associate music with like some percent. I was sorry.
Speaker 1: I was just like thinking about times. I'm sure we've
Speaker 1: all been in situations where you're dating someone in your
Speaker 1: late teens early twenties and they have roommates and they
Speaker 1: might you know, especially college door rooms. They share rooms,
Speaker 1: so you have to like ask to use the room
Speaker 1: for a while, and then you played music so it's
Speaker 1: not silent in there. Forgot about doing that. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: I was. It was always a John Mayor playlist any
Speaker 1: time we had the room. Even even now like in
Speaker 1: your in your private lives, you can still like it's
Speaker 1: it's kind of a little uncomfortable if there's no like
Speaker 1: sound in the background, so you TV on the background.
Speaker 1: Tom Cray highlights really gets me going, Oh man, So
Speaker 1: I was. I was also thinking based off the statistics,
Speaker 1: like all right, here's the story. So I was. I
Speaker 1: just did a workout prior to this podcast and running
Speaker 1: on the treadmill. I like listening to live music because
Speaker 1: for some reason it makes me work harder. But I
Speaker 1: was listening to a live version of Smooth by Rob
Speaker 1: Thomas and Santana, and I was thinking in my head,
Speaker 1: what a sexy song that is? Like if I was
Speaker 1: if I were to sing a song to try to
Speaker 1: woo Ashley, it would be smooth if I was kissing,
Speaker 1: And then I was thinking, is that this, like, what's
Speaker 1: the sexiest song of all time? Because if there are music,
Speaker 1: if there are certain songs that women or men can
Speaker 1: hear that make the opposite sex or whatever gender they're
Speaker 1: attracted to more or less attractive, I wonder what song
Speaker 1: like from what would be the sexiest mine. I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna lie. It might be smooth. Like if I saw
Speaker 1: a picture of a woman and smooth is playing, I'd
Speaker 1: probably find them sex here. Yeah, my crazy, I'm I'm
Speaker 1: I'm losing my mind. Nobody thinks this. Nobody. I think
Speaker 1: sometimes you listen to music and you can think like
Speaker 1: they make you they remind you of a person. So
Speaker 1: like if you're thinking of a song or certain lyrics
Speaker 1: of a song, like I remember Nick would send me
Speaker 1: like certain songs I hadn't heard, be like, oh, the
Speaker 1: song makes me think of you. So maybe there's like
Speaker 1: that correlation too. So there's a lot of ways you
Speaker 1: can take this. Yeah, I can see how that works.
Speaker 1: I would think you're crazy. No, I mean you are crazy.
Speaker 1: I definitely agree with that. I think that there's like,
Speaker 1: isn't that basically what like R and B, Like it's
Speaker 1: a whole genre committed to like sexy sounding songs and
Speaker 1: stuff like that, And there's like sex shams on Spotify
Speaker 1: and yeah, exactly, So I think Jared's your point. There's
Speaker 1: just like you get uh, you know, a little horny
Speaker 1: off of the smooth, which is fine, but there's a
Speaker 1: whole there's a whole sub sect of people out there
Speaker 1: that literally go on to Spotify and put on a
Speaker 1: sex playlist so well, according to Paste magazine, I don't
Speaker 1: know if we ever heard of that. The number one
Speaker 1: sexiest song of all time is you Guessed It? Let's
Speaker 1: Get It On by Marvin Kay? Is that overused? Though?
Speaker 1: Now I feel like it would be a little cheesy
Speaker 1: almost now I wouldn't hear I'm like, yeah, let's get
Speaker 1: it on. You know, it might actually make the situation worse.
Speaker 1: Another crazy statistic, one three millennials said the first thing
Speaker 1: they do post coital you know what means? Yeah, that
Speaker 1: was the first time I ever heard that word, Like
Speaker 1: post quota. What the hell is that? Anyway? One in
Speaker 1: three millennials say the first thing they do post coital
Speaker 1: is grab their phones, but twenty eight percent admitted they
Speaker 1: really want to check their phones during sex, with twelve
Speaker 1: percent saying they actually do check their phones during sex,
Speaker 1: which is crazy. How the hell do you get away
Speaker 1: with that? I will say, the only way I want
Speaker 1: to check my phone because I get nervous that I'm
Speaker 1: on like Instagram Live or I called my mom just
Speaker 1: then or something. That's why I'm checking it, just to
Speaker 1: like make sure my life isn't ruined for a second.
Speaker 1: So that would be my intuition on it. But I
Speaker 1: don't think we should. Let's let's cuddle. Let's give it
Speaker 1: like one minute before we move on to our phones,
Speaker 1: maybe sixty seconds, just sixty seconds, and then we can
Speaker 1: check Instagram place perfect. We Cayl and I have been
Speaker 1: doing this thing well, so for while, we've been like
Speaker 1: waking up in the morning and rolling over and grabbing
Speaker 1: our phones right away. We've been doing this thing where
Speaker 1: we're consciously on phoning ourselves so we'll wake up, uh,
Speaker 1: we tell each other we love each other, and then
Speaker 1: we read a book for thirty minutes every single morning.
Speaker 1: And we've been doing it for like a week now,
Speaker 1: and it's working really well. I think we need to
Speaker 1: start distancing ourselves. And I know people always have been
Speaker 1: saying this for a while, but we need to We
Speaker 1: need to create a gap between us and our phones.
Speaker 1: And if you're grabbing your phone in the middle of
Speaker 1: sex because you're of any other reason other than you're
Speaker 1: worried on Instagram Live, I think you got an issue. Yeah. Um,
Speaker 1: So the next to six are I just clicked the
Speaker 1: wrong page. This one's actually for you, Sydney, So Marry
Speaker 1: You by Bruno Mars and Thinking out Loud by Edge
Speaker 1: Shearing are two are the two most popular wedding songs
Speaker 1: in the United States, according to Spotify. H I'm not no,
Speaker 1: don't worry. Um. Yeah, but I think that was like
Speaker 1: maybe three years ago. Those were like the wedding songs
Speaker 1: to or like at least thinking at like Edge Shearing
Speaker 1: really had a moment there um at weddings. But yeah,
Speaker 1: I think we're getting to the place where it's now
Speaker 1: like satire almost because they're overplayed so much. You have
Speaker 1: those songs, you know, more powerful, they're beautiful. Have you
Speaker 1: have you put any thought into your wedding song yet? Not? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I just know there will be a dance whatever it is,
Speaker 1: but like a dance with Nick where you choreograph it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we're gonna make him lift me. We're gonna are you
Speaker 1: gonna do like dirty dancing? Time of your life. I
Speaker 1: mean I actually just got a flashback of trying that
Speaker 1: on the beach with Clay and it didn't go all right.
Speaker 1: I've tried that a lot in life, and I remember
Speaker 1: trying it out at a bar once on the street
Speaker 1: and I almost broke my neck. So maybe we won't
Speaker 1: try that. There's no way that ended. Well, don't do
Speaker 1: that while you're drinking ever, anytime you start a story.
Speaker 1: I was on the sidewalk at a bar and I
Speaker 1: tried this dance move joy. Did you guys have a
Speaker 1: choreograph dance? Oh no, we just kind of we h
Speaker 1: you had a dance, but you didn't choreograph. I was
Speaker 1: gonna say we winged it. That would be correct. We
Speaker 1: want it you that's incorrect English correct. You're not asking
Speaker 1: the right people. You know, we winged it. Yeah, you
Speaker 1: winged it, so yeah we have it doesn't matter what
Speaker 1: you say. We all know what you meant. So you
Speaker 1: know what the trick was was we had one move
Speaker 1: where I could twirl Ashley and like everybody started clapping.
Speaker 1: So we did that like four times, and every time
Speaker 1: we got aunt of applause, and we felt like we
Speaker 1: were professional dancers because you could read your audience, which
Speaker 1: is a very good thing to be able to do.
Speaker 1: But then by the fourth one, we were all like,
Speaker 1: is he doing the spin move again? We've already seen
Speaker 1: that three times? All right, last last one and then
Speaker 1: we'll move on to an email. I want to ask you, guys,
Speaker 1: what you think the answer is, because this one's kind
Speaker 1: of funny. According to information collected by something called Lovely
Speaker 1: and Lovely app, what do you think the app verge
Speaker 1: duration of a sexual episode between American couples are so
Speaker 1: pretty much? How long do you think sex last in America?
Speaker 1: Eight minutes? Oh, twelve minutes? I was gonna say, like
Speaker 1: three minutes, three minutes? We average? What are we defining
Speaker 1: as sex? Is that? Like? Is that U four play
Speaker 1: and stuff too? If that's the case, maybe, like, just
Speaker 1: be honest, I wish they had more information on here.
Speaker 1: That's all I got because four plays considered sex, I
Speaker 1: would say, but it's just if it's just fear penetration stuff,
Speaker 1: I would say how long it takes the guy. That's
Speaker 1: what my mind was doing for me. It's three hours.
Speaker 1: I was gonna say, if four play doesn't count, I
Speaker 1: mean thirty eight seconds. Yeah, exactly, I want to say.
Speaker 1: I was gonna say, under twenty minutes is my guest?
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, well under twenty twelve twelve minutes apparently duration eight,
Speaker 1: I said. And then I correct myself and I said twelve,
Speaker 1: And then I said, like three other number, but I
Speaker 1: said twelve. That one somewhere were twelve was somewhere in there.
Speaker 1: All right, good job, Dan didn't get the gold sopper today.
Speaker 1: Thank you. So let's uh, let's go ahead and wrap
Speaker 1: this episode up real quick. Uh, Sydney as always a
Speaker 1: pleasure having you as our guest co host. You're actually
Speaker 1: in luck, not you, Sydney, The listeners in luck because
Speaker 1: we have Sydney guests co hosting with us for our
Speaker 1: next episode. So thank you for joining us on this episode.
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