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Speaker 1: you've been feeling challenged, pushed, weakened, strengthened, more empowered. Whichever

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Speaker 1: end of that spectrum you're on, you're alive, you're breathing,

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Speaker 1: that our life is more valuable than that amount of money.

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Speaker 1: When you think about that, you start going, wow, I

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Speaker 1: take this breath for granted every day. How many times

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Speaker 1: Thank you, Jay for all the work and love you

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Speaker 1: listen to on purpose. And this one says from Doug.

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Speaker 1: I recently read Jay's book, Think Like a Monk and

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Speaker 1: up to be amazing. I always love the relationship communication advice. Also,

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Speaker 1: thanks Jay. From Doug. The reviews go on and on.

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Speaker 1: I want to thank you all for leaving them. Please

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