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Speaker 1: because I deserve and recording. But you know what, you

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Speaker 1: So here I am recording the intro to this week's episode,

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Speaker 1: show that aired last week, but the party, the going

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Speaker 1: the series. Farewell to Tiffany, and this is a special

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Speaker 1: one because for the first time. I don't think we've

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Speaker 1: And I think it's a great way to highlight just

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Speaker 1: these highlights, and I hope that you enjoy it. It

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Speaker 1: I'm listening to like forty five minute episodes, ten of them,

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Speaker 1: we step into a new season, a new chapter of

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Speaker 1: the Brown Ambition Podcast. And I have never felt more loved,

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Speaker 1: my feelings. And maybe it's because it's Christmas Eve. Maybe

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Speaker 1: it's because I was listening to all these episodes while

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Speaker 1: I'm finally ready to have a little cry about it

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Speaker 1: We're going to be back the first week of January

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Speaker 1: with a new episode, and you're gonna listen to the

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Speaker 1: When you share episodes that resonate with you, and tell

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Speaker 1: holiday season, make sure they know that you're loving Brown Ambition.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, we can just continue to grow into this

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Speaker 1: episodes of twenty twenty four Brown Ambition Style. So let's

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Speaker 1: All right. Now, coming in at number nine is a

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Speaker 2: So let's talk about Sequin one. How did you come

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Speaker 2: Now that we know how you got the name Sequin,

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Speaker 6: So the best part about Sequin is that we combine

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Speaker 6: we go through our three step money, credit and Wealth

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Speaker 6: the best part is you get a Sequin high interest

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Speaker 6: checking account and a Sequin depit card that has your

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Speaker 6: own money mantra on it.

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Speaker 1: Oh I love oh girl, Okay, coming in at number six.

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Speaker 1: When I read this title, I was like, what is

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Speaker 1: this title?

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Speaker 3: What does this mean?

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Speaker 1: And funnily enough, it was a BAQA episode that I

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Speaker 1: wasn't there for, so that explains why I'm confused. But

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Speaker 1: it's called Exhausted and Lonely by Digital Only, And so

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Speaker 1: in this episode, Tiffany is in the hot seat BAQA

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Speaker 1: and she's talking to entrepreneurs basically about this obsession with

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Speaker 1: going for digital products and like a digital you know,

446
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Speaker 1: having these like touch points with consumers where it's just

447
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Speaker 1: like very it's not personal. And I think Tiffany's in

448
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Speaker 1: her bag. Y'all know she has her business mentorship program.

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Speaker 1: You can go to my mentor Tiffany dot com. It's

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Speaker 1: through Patreon, and I know so many incredible ba listeners

451
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Speaker 1: are already in that group. But it's really Tiffany in

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Speaker 1: her business coach bag. So enjoy number six. Exhausted and

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Speaker 1: Lonely by Digital Only.

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Speaker 2: So normally you pay taxes in a business on what's leftover.

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Speaker 2: So let's just say you made a million dollars now,

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Speaker 2: but she spent a million. Ooh, you really supposed to

457
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Speaker 2: pay tax on what's leftover. There's nothing left over, so

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Speaker 2: you don't pay taxes. If you made a million and

459
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Speaker 2: you spend five hundred thousand, then you're gonna pay taxes

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Speaker 2: on the five hundred thousand. What we made is basically

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Speaker 2: what we spent, because I did pay taxes throughout the

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Speaker 2: year quarterly. But she basically like girl, we was like

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Speaker 2: net net even aka, we didn't really make no money,

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Speaker 2: you know, like I mean, of course we made enough

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Speaker 2: to pay bills and pay my salary and pay the

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Speaker 2: salaries of other employees and things like that. But usually

467
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Speaker 2: this excess and I usually get a big old tax

468
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Speaker 2: bill even quarterly, typically my tax bill quarterly, sometimes the

469
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Speaker 2: supports of six figures for the quarter. I said, damn,

470
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Speaker 2: it was a batty honey, so much so that we

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Speaker 2: started off with six months worth of emergency savings and

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Speaker 2: by December we were down to one month because we

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Speaker 2: lived off our savings. So I'm just sharing this candidly

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Speaker 2: because every year and cute, but you live to see

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Speaker 2: another day if you smart. So how do you maximize

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Speaker 2: twenty twenty four if you do have a business, Okay,

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Speaker 2: gather around children. One that if you do have a

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Speaker 2: banner year in twenty twenty four, which I'm claiming it

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Speaker 2: because we already start enough strong, like the Bunjanista has

480
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Speaker 2: already made like it's the money it needs for six months,

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Speaker 2: which is great. But I know this, and so I

482
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Speaker 2: inherently trying to refill our emergency savings because for the

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Speaker 2: first time, we leaned on it so heavily. We've never

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Speaker 2: done that before. But during twenty twenty, when the pandemic

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Speaker 2: was making all the businesses all juicy and good, I said, girl,

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Speaker 2: you made ten million dollars this year.

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Speaker 3: That's cute. But guess what.

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Speaker 2: I suspect that this is gonna be a great year,

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Speaker 2: which means a not so great year might be coming.

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Speaker 2: Twenty twenty best year ever, twenty twenty three, worst year ever. Thankfully,

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Speaker 2: I understood that twenty twenty twenties earnings were supposed to

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Speaker 2: also pay for when the worst year came. So I

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Speaker 2: had the six months of emergency savings of operating expenses

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Speaker 2: and operating expenses meaning payroll, like any kind of like

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Speaker 2: you know, like any kind of bills, like you know

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Speaker 2: you have Facebook ads, you know we have like website platforms, domain,

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Speaker 2: all the stuff it costs it costs someone in business.

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Speaker 2: And so we had six months of that saved. So

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Speaker 2: if you happen to have a good year, I say,

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Speaker 2: you want to have ideally about six months saved or

501
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Speaker 2: more in business. You know, I only knew to do

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Speaker 2: that because about God's great. So during the pandemic, we

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Speaker 2: had that, like I said, our banner year where we

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Speaker 2: made over ten million dollars or about ten million dollars

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Speaker 2: in business, right, yeah, ten million right, And it was like,

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Speaker 2: you know, we had a lot of profit.

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Speaker 3: It wasn't like we made ten we spent ten.

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Speaker 2: And I remember reading in that year that Microsoft had

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Speaker 2: one year's worth of operating expenses saved. And I said, huh,

510
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Speaker 2: because your girl likes to read, here's the thing about

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Speaker 2: business and just life and growth.

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Speaker 3: You need to take a look. It's in a book.

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Speaker 2: It's reading ray booo, go ahead on and get you

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Speaker 2: read on. You know, even if it's audible, I don't

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Speaker 2: care what it is. Read the information is there. Chud

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Speaker 2: read this article and it said, hey, you know, although

517
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Speaker 2: like you know, business is booming for so many people,

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Speaker 2: Microsoft has decided to save one year's worth of operating

519
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Speaker 2: expenses just to see because they weren't sure how the

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Speaker 2: pandemic was going to play out and I said, well, then,

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Speaker 2: if Microsoft is saving a year, how much do we

522
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Speaker 2: have saved? I had never really checked, and I knew

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Speaker 2: we had emergency savings, but it wasn't a priority because

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Speaker 2: things was good. So I reached out to my CFO

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Speaker 2: Shanta at the time. I said, girl, how much do

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Speaker 2: we have saved? She said like two and a half months.

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Speaker 2: I said that feels light, and she was like yeah,

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Speaker 2: because we had never really needed, like in fifteen years.

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Speaker 3: By then it was like thirteen years.

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Speaker 2: We had never really need to dip into emergency savings

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Speaker 2: maybe like a month and then put it right back.

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Speaker 2: And I said, I feel like I want to get

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Speaker 2: to a year, and she said okay, And so we

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Speaker 2: aggressively started saving when things were really good, and we

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Speaker 2: got to six months, and I felt like, actually, six

536
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Speaker 2: months feels good because the year feels a little excessive.

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Speaker 2: Thank God, because three years later, guess who was living

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Speaker 2: off that lamb okay. And so I just say all

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Speaker 2: that to say that in twenty twenty four, if you

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Speaker 2: do have a good year and you have a business

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Speaker 2: set aside, like ask yourself or your bookkeeper or your

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Speaker 2: accountant or whoever's managing your finances. How much does my

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Speaker 2: company cost me to run monthly? And make it your

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Speaker 2: business to work toward getting to at least six months

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Speaker 2: of emergency savings. Okay, you might not need it in

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Speaker 2: a year, two years, four years, but one day you're

547
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Speaker 2: gonna need it.

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Speaker 1: All right, y'all, we're in the top five, Top five,

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Speaker 1: Top five do y'all were y'all just as upset with

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Speaker 1: me as me when it came to trol And finally

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Speaker 1: when they got to the top five, the top three songs,

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00:29:43,320 --> 00:29:46,400
Speaker 1: the top three music videos of the day, it would

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Speaker 1: be not enough time left in the show to play

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Speaker 1: the full video, so they played like thirty seconds and

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Speaker 1: I would this was before YouTube, but I would be

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Speaker 1: so pissed. I'm like, wait a minute, play the entire

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00:29:56,080 --> 00:29:58,080
Speaker 1: bye bye bye, Like I want to see all of

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Speaker 1: my favorite parts. I want to see the Christina Aguilera

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Speaker 1: come on over in full effect, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 1: But anyway, but here I am doing the same thing.

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Speaker 1: But top five, Top five, we're kicking off the top

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Speaker 1: five with this.

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Speaker 6: Ugh.

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Speaker 1: I really this was one of those episodes that I

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Speaker 1: was like, I could just sit here and listen to

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Speaker 1: the entire thing. Me and Tiffany talking. It was a

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Speaker 1: post New Year sort of conversation and the title of

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Speaker 1: the episode is keep the Peace for Who. And Tiffany

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Speaker 1: and I both had wild holiday seasons and some really

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Speaker 1: intense like family situations, and so Tiffany talks and this

571
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Speaker 1: is all about growth, right, And so Tiffany talks about

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Speaker 1: having a difficult conversation in her family and being the

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Speaker 1: person who says, you know, what, enough is enough? Like

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Speaker 1: who am I really keeping the peace for? It's for

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Speaker 1: them and not for me? And she found peace and

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Speaker 1: sit and standing up and using her voice and speaking out.

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Speaker 1: And it's just a great reminder that sometimes we can choose.

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Speaker 1: We have to choose the truth. We have to choose

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Speaker 1: using our own voice over our fear over how it

580
00:31:04,440 --> 00:31:07,080
Speaker 1: will make others feel. And maybe you do need to,

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Speaker 1: you know, break up the holiday dinner and make things

582
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Speaker 1: a little uncomfortable if it means, you know, really facing

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00:31:16,200 --> 00:31:19,400
Speaker 1: some uncomfortable truths, because through that, on the other side

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Speaker 1: of that, hopefully there it can be healing. And so

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Speaker 1: in this episode, while we're talking about that, and I

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Speaker 1: just I just think it's a great message, especially around

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00:31:27,120 --> 00:31:30,280
Speaker 1: the holiday. So enjoy Number five. Keep the peace for

588
00:31:30,400 --> 00:31:33,280
Speaker 1: who if there's not someone who you know is going

589
00:31:33,360 --> 00:31:35,840
Speaker 1: to bat for you when you're not in the room, Like,

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Speaker 1: that's not that's an indication that you're not going to

591
00:31:38,080 --> 00:31:39,719
Speaker 1: be taken care of. You're not going to go very far.

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00:31:40,200 --> 00:31:41,959
Speaker 1: And the sooner you realize that, the sooner you can

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00:31:42,000 --> 00:31:44,440
Speaker 1: excize that person or quit that job and you know,

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Speaker 1: move on where you do have advocates because we just

595
00:31:48,520 --> 00:31:50,479
Speaker 1: can't be we can't be lied to and de lie

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00:31:50,520 --> 00:31:52,480
Speaker 1: to ourselves and say that we're better off just being

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00:31:52,520 --> 00:31:56,160
Speaker 1: grateful and not pushing back. Yeah, it's the it's the

598
00:31:56,480 --> 00:31:58,560
Speaker 1: nice thing to do. Don't want to burn bridges. Yeah,

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00:31:58,680 --> 00:31:59,320
Speaker 1: all that bs.

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Speaker 2: But it's like, man, you stay in that space. I

601
00:32:01,320 --> 00:32:03,920
Speaker 2: mean that's been the story of my life, you know that, like, oh,

602
00:32:04,160 --> 00:32:07,160
Speaker 2: there's safety and silence, like even like I told you,

603
00:32:07,280 --> 00:32:11,200
Speaker 2: Like I had my difficult conversation on Christmas and one

604
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Speaker 2: of my sisters was like, oh, sometimes it's just better

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00:32:13,160 --> 00:32:15,160
Speaker 2: to keep the peace, Tiffany, I said, but who's peace?

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Speaker 1: Who's for who? Who's it better for?

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Speaker 2: Yes, I said, I feel peaceful right about now because

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Speaker 2: I said my piece. Yes, So it's like they're gonna

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00:32:23,880 --> 00:32:26,200
Speaker 2: be all right and guess what they were. They were

610
00:32:26,200 --> 00:32:29,040
Speaker 2: all right, we're cool now, you know. But a boundary

611
00:32:29,080 --> 00:32:33,960
Speaker 2: has been said, because I cannot move forward any longer.

612
00:32:34,160 --> 00:32:36,120
Speaker 2: I have made so many changes, many knows, like so

613
00:32:36,400 --> 00:32:40,960
Speaker 2: many changes behind the scenes of like what my boundaries

614
00:32:41,040 --> 00:32:45,040
Speaker 2: will and will not allow. And I just don't want

615
00:32:45,200 --> 00:32:48,400
Speaker 2: to live the second half of my life constricted by

616
00:32:49,360 --> 00:32:51,360
Speaker 2: you know, what the people gonna say.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, you know, that's what I call it, Like what

618
00:32:53,920 --> 00:32:57,880
Speaker 7: the people gonna say, and like their feelings and not yours.

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Speaker 7: And keep the peace for who people think about themselves

620
00:33:01,320 --> 00:33:03,600
Speaker 7: way more than they think about you. They might think

621
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Speaker 7: of you for two minutes today, So for two minutes,

622
00:33:07,960 --> 00:33:10,360
Speaker 7: I'm going to live my whole life because for two

623
00:33:10,440 --> 00:33:13,320
Speaker 7: minutes somebody might think ill of me, Like I just

624
00:33:13,600 --> 00:33:16,320
Speaker 7: I cannot, I will not, and neither should you. And

625
00:33:16,400 --> 00:33:20,120
Speaker 7: I'm so glad that Tarajie said something. And what I

626
00:33:20,240 --> 00:33:21,960
Speaker 7: love is that y'all who listen.

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Speaker 2: You know, you give us such great feedback of how

628
00:33:24,640 --> 00:33:27,560
Speaker 2: we've been able to like encourage you and push you

629
00:33:27,680 --> 00:33:30,760
Speaker 2: to ask for more, Encourage you and push you to

630
00:33:30,840 --> 00:33:33,520
Speaker 2: look at your finances differently, you know, give you the

631
00:33:33,600 --> 00:33:34,880
Speaker 2: tools and the resources that you.

632
00:33:35,000 --> 00:33:36,800
Speaker 3: Need to get what you deserve.

633
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Speaker 2: Like you know, the people are always going to say something,

634
00:33:40,240 --> 00:33:43,160
Speaker 2: but not in twenty twenty four. We're not living constrained

635
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Speaker 2: by what the people are gonna say.

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Speaker 1: Let them to walk, Yeah, let them to walk, Let

637
00:33:47,200 --> 00:33:50,280
Speaker 1: them to walk, Let the girls chatter in the comments,

638
00:33:50,480 --> 00:33:52,960
Speaker 1: and just sip your champagne like Taylor's shipped out the

639
00:33:52,960 --> 00:33:58,800
Speaker 1: globes last night. All right. Number four, This is another

640
00:33:58,880 --> 00:34:01,800
Speaker 1: episode with I don't know a really great message. This

641
00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:06,560
Speaker 1: came from a baqa from Budget Bro, one of our men,

642
00:34:06,840 --> 00:34:10,600
Speaker 1: one of our ba fanboys. Mm hm, not I'll call Kevin,

643
00:34:11,080 --> 00:34:13,640
Speaker 1: but we nicknamed him Budget Bro. And Budget Bro is

644
00:34:13,719 --> 00:34:17,320
Speaker 1: going through a career conundrum. So a lot of this

645
00:34:17,480 --> 00:34:19,640
Speaker 1: is me sort of offering him some advice on how

646
00:34:19,680 --> 00:34:22,880
Speaker 1: he can navigate a sticky career situation. And I'm talking

647
00:34:22,920 --> 00:34:26,320
Speaker 1: to him about how, you know, you can make some choices,

648
00:34:26,440 --> 00:34:29,799
Speaker 1: especially when you're a parent with your career, that seem

649
00:34:29,880 --> 00:34:32,880
Speaker 1: good for your career, but ultimately you miss out on

650
00:34:33,000 --> 00:34:35,279
Speaker 1: some really keen moments as a parent, and sort of

651
00:34:35,360 --> 00:34:38,239
Speaker 1: like having to balance that and just a reminder that

652
00:34:38,760 --> 00:34:40,880
Speaker 1: time really is something that you can't get back. So

653
00:34:41,320 --> 00:34:43,799
Speaker 1: whatever you got to do, career wise while those kids

654
00:34:43,840 --> 00:34:46,440
Speaker 1: are young. It for me, it's like it's not a

655
00:34:46,520 --> 00:34:48,320
Speaker 1: forever thing. If you take a step back, or you

656
00:34:48,400 --> 00:34:50,600
Speaker 1: choose a lighter schedule, or you don't go for that

657
00:34:50,719 --> 00:34:53,239
Speaker 1: promotion if it means you're going to have more time

658
00:34:53,640 --> 00:34:55,920
Speaker 1: with the babies because they're going to grow up and

659
00:34:56,000 --> 00:34:58,040
Speaker 1: you can do all the work later. You know, the

660
00:34:58,200 --> 00:34:59,800
Speaker 1: jobs of work is not going to go anywhere, but

661
00:35:00,000 --> 00:35:02,680
Speaker 1: those babies, they are going to be growing and getting bigger.

662
00:35:02,800 --> 00:35:06,360
Speaker 1: So here's a look at number four. Time is something

663
00:35:06,440 --> 00:35:07,200
Speaker 1: you can't get back.

664
00:35:08,280 --> 00:35:10,320
Speaker 2: Sometimes life was a little rough because it was expensive

665
00:35:10,400 --> 00:35:13,440
Speaker 2: raising five kids. So for you, Kevin, it's not Kevin,

666
00:35:13,520 --> 00:35:13,840
Speaker 2: who's this?

667
00:35:13,920 --> 00:35:15,400
Speaker 1: What's this? Doesn't budget bro?

668
00:35:16,040 --> 00:35:18,640
Speaker 2: For you, budget Bro, it's not really the job thing.

669
00:35:18,920 --> 00:35:22,040
Speaker 2: You have to decide what is my ultimate desire outcome

670
00:35:22,160 --> 00:35:25,239
Speaker 2: for my life and then you align work to it.

671
00:35:25,760 --> 00:35:27,880
Speaker 2: You don't decide what work is and then align your

672
00:35:27,920 --> 00:35:29,640
Speaker 2: life to it. And if you do that, you know,

673
00:35:29,719 --> 00:35:33,760
Speaker 2: my dad doesn't regret picking us, you know, the kids,

674
00:35:34,200 --> 00:35:36,920
Speaker 2: you know, because as a result, you know, you know,

675
00:35:37,080 --> 00:35:40,880
Speaker 2: we're all like well loved, looked after. You know, we

676
00:35:41,440 --> 00:35:43,600
Speaker 2: we were able to have a very present father. And

677
00:35:43,960 --> 00:35:46,520
Speaker 2: the truth is I am the budgetiesta as a result

678
00:35:46,640 --> 00:35:49,520
Speaker 2: of the education my father gave me about personal finance,

679
00:35:49,640 --> 00:35:52,360
Speaker 2: there wouldn't be no budgetiese to imagine had he chosen

680
00:35:52,440 --> 00:35:55,400
Speaker 2: the stock market and more money. You know, certainly I

681
00:35:55,400 --> 00:35:57,520
Speaker 2: would be a girl with a lot more money, but

682
00:35:57,880 --> 00:35:59,840
Speaker 2: not the knowledge that he imparted on me because he

683
00:36:00,120 --> 00:36:02,480
Speaker 2: physically here. So that's what I just say, is that

684
00:36:02,600 --> 00:36:05,719
Speaker 2: choose from that place and then align your job decisions

685
00:36:05,800 --> 00:36:08,480
Speaker 2: and back to school with the life and how you

686
00:36:08,640 --> 00:36:10,160
Speaker 2: want to show up as a man.

687
00:36:10,360 --> 00:36:10,520
Speaker 3: You know.

688
00:36:10,760 --> 00:36:14,760
Speaker 1: So I love that advice. I agree.

689
00:36:15,040 --> 00:36:16,560
Speaker 3: I think you know.

690
00:36:16,600 --> 00:36:19,239
Speaker 1: When I got your question, budget bro, I thought I

691
00:36:19,320 --> 00:36:21,080
Speaker 1: went back and reread it because I wanted to see,

692
00:36:21,719 --> 00:36:23,920
Speaker 1: is this something that you have already applied for? Do

693
00:36:23,960 --> 00:36:25,719
Speaker 1: you have an offer? And you just say that you

694
00:36:25,880 --> 00:36:28,680
Speaker 1: have applied? What I like about you know, what I

695
00:36:28,719 --> 00:36:30,880
Speaker 1: would typically say is like, wait until you've got an

696
00:36:30,960 --> 00:36:34,120
Speaker 1: option before you consider considerate, Like don't hem in haw,

697
00:36:34,560 --> 00:36:36,239
Speaker 1: like you don't have to figure out what you would do.

698
00:36:36,719 --> 00:36:38,640
Speaker 1: I'm glad that you went ahead and applied for because

699
00:36:38,640 --> 00:36:42,239
Speaker 1: I think a lot of people will just wait and think,

700
00:36:42,640 --> 00:36:44,759
Speaker 1: well should I what if? What if? And I'm like,

701
00:36:44,920 --> 00:36:47,680
Speaker 1: just apply so you have something to like something real

702
00:36:48,239 --> 00:36:52,760
Speaker 1: to compare to, like an actual, real life, concrete option

703
00:36:53,040 --> 00:36:55,320
Speaker 1: that you can choose between rather than just the idea.

704
00:36:55,960 --> 00:36:58,279
Speaker 1: So you're getting your MBA, You're going to put in

705
00:36:58,360 --> 00:36:59,759
Speaker 1: your you know, you're gonna put your hat in the

706
00:36:59,840 --> 00:37:03,400
Speaker 1: right for this position if you get it. Here's what

707
00:37:03,440 --> 00:37:05,879
Speaker 1: I will say to you. There's no wrong answer here.

708
00:37:06,080 --> 00:37:08,040
Speaker 1: You can take the position. And I feel like in

709
00:37:08,160 --> 00:37:10,440
Speaker 1: your field you have highly specialized skills. You're going to

710
00:37:10,480 --> 00:37:13,320
Speaker 1: get an MBA. You said that you're you know, this

711
00:37:13,840 --> 00:37:15,800
Speaker 1: job that you're doing now is more like you know,

712
00:37:16,000 --> 00:37:18,440
Speaker 1: shift work, and it's it sounds to me almost like

713
00:37:18,520 --> 00:37:20,400
Speaker 1: you're a day laborer in the job. I know that

714
00:37:20,400 --> 00:37:22,120
Speaker 1: you're not a day laborer, but just as like a

715
00:37:22,480 --> 00:37:25,880
Speaker 1: you know, as a analogy, like sort of like a

716
00:37:25,960 --> 00:37:28,880
Speaker 1: day laborer, you're paid for your time and for the

717
00:37:28,920 --> 00:37:32,440
Speaker 1: specific skill that you have. And this like more management

718
00:37:32,560 --> 00:37:36,120
Speaker 1: type operations, project management type role that could lead down,

719
00:37:36,360 --> 00:37:38,799
Speaker 1: you know, a career path with more avenues and more

720
00:37:38,880 --> 00:37:41,680
Speaker 1: branches on that tree. That makes a lot of sense.

721
00:37:42,480 --> 00:37:43,960
Speaker 1: And if you want to pursue that, I feel like

722
00:37:44,000 --> 00:37:46,120
Speaker 1: you should. You're only thirty one, Go try it out.

723
00:37:46,680 --> 00:37:49,040
Speaker 1: And then here's the thing. That you have to think about, like, okay,

724
00:37:49,080 --> 00:37:50,640
Speaker 1: so what if I don't like it? What if four

725
00:37:50,719 --> 00:37:53,239
Speaker 1: day work weeks? You know, I think I get more

726
00:37:53,280 --> 00:37:56,479
Speaker 1: time with my kids, But actually I preferred only working

727
00:37:56,520 --> 00:37:59,080
Speaker 1: half a month, even though they were really rigorous shifts.

728
00:37:59,560 --> 00:38:01,920
Speaker 1: You could try it out and then you can compare.

729
00:38:02,120 --> 00:38:04,080
Speaker 1: And I feel like, because of your unique skill set,

730
00:38:04,480 --> 00:38:08,160
Speaker 1: you can always go back to doing that fifteen hour, sorry,

731
00:38:08,200 --> 00:38:13,960
Speaker 1: fifteen day like more the overtime, the hourly work that

732
00:38:14,080 --> 00:38:16,400
Speaker 1: you were doing before. I don't think you need to.

733
00:38:16,640 --> 00:38:18,640
Speaker 1: It doesn't mean that if you choose this path it

734
00:38:18,719 --> 00:38:21,440
Speaker 1: has to be the forever path. But I do feel

735
00:38:21,480 --> 00:38:23,720
Speaker 1: like you'd be doing yourself a disservice if you didn't

736
00:38:24,480 --> 00:38:26,840
Speaker 1: take on a new opportunity and try something different and

737
00:38:26,920 --> 00:38:30,960
Speaker 1: get that experience. And like you said, I like that

738
00:38:31,000 --> 00:38:33,600
Speaker 1: you're thinking about your career with the company that you're at.

739
00:38:33,680 --> 00:38:36,279
Speaker 1: You love where you work. I mean, you got this

740
00:38:36,600 --> 00:38:40,280
Speaker 1: great foundation for your life. I think you can afford

741
00:38:40,400 --> 00:38:43,799
Speaker 1: to try something a little bit different. And I would

742
00:38:43,800 --> 00:38:45,480
Speaker 1: say if you And again this goes back to what

743
00:38:45,520 --> 00:38:49,120
Speaker 1: I was saying about crossroads and other career pivoters. When

744
00:38:49,160 --> 00:38:51,319
Speaker 1: you're getting an MBA, I don't want you to wait

745
00:38:52,000 --> 00:38:54,719
Speaker 1: until you get that degree to then start looking for

746
00:38:54,840 --> 00:38:57,800
Speaker 1: other opportunities. This could be a great way for you

747
00:38:57,960 --> 00:39:01,279
Speaker 1: to get some project management experience while pursuing your MBA,

748
00:39:01,480 --> 00:39:03,279
Speaker 1: and then when you graduate, you don't have to go

749
00:39:04,040 --> 00:39:06,120
Speaker 1: find a job if you want to do project management

750
00:39:06,200 --> 00:39:09,040
Speaker 1: work and start from scratch, like they can say, well,

751
00:39:09,080 --> 00:39:10,839
Speaker 1: you've got this great MBA, but do you have any

752
00:39:10,920 --> 00:39:15,720
Speaker 1: project managements experience, because that is what very narrow minded

753
00:39:15,800 --> 00:39:18,440
Speaker 1: recruiters and hiring managers will do when they get resumes.

754
00:39:18,840 --> 00:39:21,600
Speaker 1: But you can have that experience, you know, on your resume,

755
00:39:21,960 --> 00:39:25,200
Speaker 1: and that can be not only, you know, a way

756
00:39:25,280 --> 00:39:28,880
Speaker 1: to make you a more attractive candidate, but it can

757
00:39:28,960 --> 00:39:32,000
Speaker 1: also give you an opportunity to make connections with people,

758
00:39:32,120 --> 00:39:36,520
Speaker 1: build relationships through your program, you know, with hiring managers,

759
00:39:36,560 --> 00:39:40,040
Speaker 1: recruiters that can serve you down this you know, long

760
00:39:40,280 --> 00:39:45,160
Speaker 1: fruitful career that you're you know, building for yourself. So

761
00:39:45,440 --> 00:39:47,600
Speaker 1: I just want to give you permission to try it

762
00:39:47,680 --> 00:39:51,000
Speaker 1: out and see what happens. Hopefully your partner, your wife

763
00:39:51,320 --> 00:39:55,640
Speaker 1: agrees with me because she's involved in this too. Yeah,

764
00:39:55,880 --> 00:39:58,200
Speaker 1: and whatever you do, even though you're you know it

765
00:39:58,239 --> 00:40:01,000
Speaker 1: would be a pay cut. I know you you acknowledge that,

766
00:40:01,600 --> 00:40:04,400
Speaker 1: but time is something you just can't get back. And

767
00:40:05,160 --> 00:40:10,200
Speaker 1: having just white knuckled my way through seven months without

768
00:40:10,880 --> 00:40:14,920
Speaker 1: consistent childcare, I wouldn't recommend it, but I kept doing it.

769
00:40:15,120 --> 00:40:21,200
Speaker 1: I don't know why it's hard, but you have to

770
00:40:21,440 --> 00:40:23,480
Speaker 1: like what I think about the time is I'm not

771
00:40:23,600 --> 00:40:25,800
Speaker 1: going to get an opportunity like this again to be

772
00:40:25,960 --> 00:40:28,719
Speaker 1: around my newborn, my baby, my infant, and my and

773
00:40:28,880 --> 00:40:31,799
Speaker 1: be there for drop off and pick up with my son.

774
00:40:32,000 --> 00:40:35,319
Speaker 1: And although homeboy I just told Dad today his dad

775
00:40:35,360 --> 00:40:38,120
Speaker 1: I was like my husband, I was like, We're gonna

776
00:40:38,280 --> 00:40:40,879
Speaker 1: add an hour to Rio's pickup time because I'm really

777
00:40:41,000 --> 00:40:44,120
Speaker 1: enjoying this be at home. He got mommy at four pm,

778
00:40:44,239 --> 00:40:48,839
Speaker 1: but let's try five. But anyway, that time is really

779
00:40:48,920 --> 00:40:51,560
Speaker 1: great and your kids will change, Your kids will grow,

780
00:40:51,680 --> 00:40:53,680
Speaker 1: They're going to need you less, and then maybe you

781
00:40:53,719 --> 00:40:56,279
Speaker 1: can change your schedule according to that. But yeah, I

782
00:40:56,360 --> 00:40:58,359
Speaker 1: love what Tiff you said about like building the career

783
00:40:58,400 --> 00:41:00,960
Speaker 1: around the life that you have now and just know

784
00:41:01,120 --> 00:41:04,160
Speaker 1: that it can change. You're in charge of it, so

785
00:41:04,320 --> 00:41:07,600
Speaker 1: you can change. You know, you change your mind down

786
00:41:07,640 --> 00:41:09,360
Speaker 1: the line and make a different choice depending on what

787
00:41:09,440 --> 00:41:12,400
Speaker 1: your family needs. And what you need moving forward.

788
00:41:13,120 --> 00:41:15,239
Speaker 2: But life goes by in such a flash, you know,

789
00:41:16,160 --> 00:41:20,080
Speaker 2: like literally, did you see the keV on stage? He

790
00:41:20,239 --> 00:41:22,240
Speaker 2: was like, because I guess his son is going to college.

791
00:41:22,480 --> 00:41:25,239
Speaker 2: He was like, the baby, you know, lifts their head,

792
00:41:25,560 --> 00:41:28,560
Speaker 2: holds their bottle, burps, crawls, and then they're in college.

793
00:41:28,640 --> 00:41:31,680
Speaker 1: You're like, what the hell don't say that. I'm in

794
00:41:31,760 --> 00:41:35,160
Speaker 1: an ongoing argument with Mario with my oldest who's four,

795
00:41:35,480 --> 00:41:37,719
Speaker 1: is you're not going to grow up. I'm like, I'm

796
00:41:37,760 --> 00:41:40,640
Speaker 1: not letting you eat vegetables, have some candy. I'm not

797
00:41:40,719 --> 00:41:42,959
Speaker 1: letting you grow up. Here's the candy you want, jump food,

798
00:41:43,000 --> 00:41:44,400
Speaker 1: Here you go, French fries. You're not going to get

799
00:41:44,400 --> 00:41:47,560
Speaker 1: any bigger with these. It works. He's like, you know, mommy,

800
00:41:47,719 --> 00:41:49,799
Speaker 1: I have you know, I have to grow up.

801
00:41:49,880 --> 00:41:51,320
Speaker 3: You know I have to get bigger.

802
00:41:52,120 --> 00:41:54,960
Speaker 1: Oh man, I'm like, you really want to lean it

803
00:41:55,000 --> 00:41:56,200
Speaker 1: in a joy, you know?

804
00:41:56,480 --> 00:41:59,799
Speaker 2: And then yeah, because one day you know your kid

805
00:41:59,880 --> 00:42:03,520
Speaker 2: is a teenager and then older and growing, and so no,

806
00:42:03,719 --> 00:42:06,480
Speaker 2: I just think that, yeah, I mean, and that's just

807
00:42:06,600 --> 00:42:08,479
Speaker 2: advice for everyone. And this is the advice I'm trying

808
00:42:08,560 --> 00:42:11,640
Speaker 2: my heart is to lean into myself, is to determine

809
00:42:11,640 --> 00:42:14,000
Speaker 2: the life that I want and to make everything else

810
00:42:14,080 --> 00:42:17,120
Speaker 2: fit professionally, to make it fit, you know sometimes, you know,

811
00:42:17,239 --> 00:42:19,920
Speaker 2: obviously you have to make some concessions, and that's normal,

812
00:42:20,320 --> 00:42:23,040
Speaker 2: you know, but I don't want to be led by

813
00:42:23,239 --> 00:42:26,000
Speaker 2: the business and the career and the you know, like

814
00:42:26,080 --> 00:42:28,520
Speaker 2: that that's the only place I make decisions from. I've

815
00:42:28,560 --> 00:42:32,360
Speaker 2: done that, and although it's led to certainly a significant

816
00:42:32,360 --> 00:42:35,120
Speaker 2: amount of success, but also a significant amount of stress.

817
00:42:36,280 --> 00:42:38,560
Speaker 2: You know, I always think to myself, like, you know,

818
00:42:38,800 --> 00:42:41,560
Speaker 2: you want success, but how will it meet you healthy,

819
00:42:41,680 --> 00:42:46,320
Speaker 2: happy whole or stressed, like not even able to enjoy it,

820
00:42:46,760 --> 00:42:48,960
Speaker 2: not being able to even physically enjoy it because you're

821
00:42:48,960 --> 00:42:49,799
Speaker 2: in such a bad state.

822
00:42:49,880 --> 00:42:52,319
Speaker 3: And so yeah, so we wish you well.

823
00:42:52,400 --> 00:42:56,680
Speaker 1: Budget bro okay be a fair number three in this

824
00:42:56,920 --> 00:43:01,799
Speaker 1: episode how to navigate burnout. So burnout, isn't it? I mean,

825
00:43:01,960 --> 00:43:04,279
Speaker 1: especially this time of year, I think we all feel

826
00:43:04,280 --> 00:43:06,640
Speaker 1: a little burnt out. It's just natural. It's been a

827
00:43:06,719 --> 00:43:09,360
Speaker 1: long year. You kind of reflect, Oh my god, we

828
00:43:09,440 --> 00:43:11,560
Speaker 1: went through so much. And I just think this is

829
00:43:11,600 --> 00:43:14,239
Speaker 1: a wonderful example of how Tiffany can really just take

830
00:43:14,320 --> 00:43:17,640
Speaker 1: us to church sometimes and of course talk about her

831
00:43:17,680 --> 00:43:22,960
Speaker 1: own experience, and how she's learning to overcome burnout, sort

832
00:43:23,000 --> 00:43:26,320
Speaker 1: of ride the waves of burnout, and how her experience

833
00:43:26,400 --> 00:43:29,720
Speaker 1: with grief has pushed her, had pushed her to change

834
00:43:30,040 --> 00:43:33,160
Speaker 1: her own business, and the boundaries that she's set for life.

835
00:43:33,239 --> 00:43:36,160
Speaker 1: So it's another good one, just a reminder of protecting

836
00:43:36,200 --> 00:43:40,120
Speaker 1: yourself and listening to the signs that maybe things are

837
00:43:40,160 --> 00:43:43,160
Speaker 1: not going as great as they need to be and

838
00:43:43,239 --> 00:43:45,960
Speaker 1: you need time to reset. So enjoy number three. How

839
00:43:46,040 --> 00:43:47,000
Speaker 1: to navigate burnout.

840
00:43:48,200 --> 00:43:51,000
Speaker 2: People will pull you to the depths of the dirt,

841
00:43:51,360 --> 00:43:53,600
Speaker 2: and then when your body is broken, they will step

842
00:43:53,680 --> 00:43:56,040
Speaker 2: over it to then suck somebody else dry.

843
00:43:57,920 --> 00:44:01,719
Speaker 3: It's not happening anymore. Clear boundaries. I don't want to

844
00:44:01,719 --> 00:44:03,200
Speaker 3: do it. Pick somebody else.

845
00:44:04,239 --> 00:44:04,440
Speaker 4: You know.

846
00:44:04,640 --> 00:44:07,200
Speaker 3: I'm nicer about it if you allow me to. But

847
00:44:07,320 --> 00:44:09,520
Speaker 3: if you can't hear that you will, you're gonna feel.

848
00:44:09,480 --> 00:44:12,840
Speaker 2: I don't want to do it. Sorry, my mind's been

849
00:44:12,880 --> 00:44:16,080
Speaker 2: made up. This is the language I use now when

850
00:44:16,239 --> 00:44:18,600
Speaker 2: like someone's not listening. So I start off with thank

851
00:44:18,640 --> 00:44:20,800
Speaker 2: you so much. It's not really a lot. Oh you

852
00:44:20,880 --> 00:44:25,280
Speaker 2: don't listening. No, I'm okay with people being okay. Drell,

853
00:44:25,719 --> 00:44:27,799
Speaker 2: my late husband used to always say and I didn't

854
00:44:27,840 --> 00:44:29,719
Speaker 2: get it. He would always say, I'd rather you be

855
00:44:29,840 --> 00:44:32,200
Speaker 2: mad at me than me be mad at you, meaning like,

856
00:44:32,280 --> 00:44:33,920
Speaker 2: if one of us got to be disappointed, let it

857
00:44:34,000 --> 00:44:36,000
Speaker 2: be you, let it be here.

858
00:44:36,719 --> 00:44:39,160
Speaker 3: Why should I break my back so you could be okay? Okay?

859
00:44:40,120 --> 00:44:45,000
Speaker 3: You know, like I am, I am all for equity.

860
00:44:45,880 --> 00:44:47,200
Speaker 3: I believe in fairness.

861
00:44:47,560 --> 00:44:50,359
Speaker 2: But what I realize is, oftentimes I'm the only one

862
00:44:50,440 --> 00:44:53,879
Speaker 2: at the table navigating from that place. And so once

863
00:44:53,960 --> 00:44:58,080
Speaker 2: I peak game that you would let me drown just

864
00:44:58,160 --> 00:45:01,080
Speaker 2: so you can have your space in the sun. O,

865
00:45:01,160 --> 00:45:05,160
Speaker 2: it's on bye, you know. And so as a result

866
00:45:05,239 --> 00:45:07,680
Speaker 2: of that, I have way more peace. I just did

867
00:45:07,719 --> 00:45:10,640
Speaker 2: an interview with The New Yorker the other day, and

868
00:45:10,920 --> 00:45:13,880
Speaker 2: like she was asking me about, like what my day

869
00:45:14,000 --> 00:45:16,520
Speaker 2: is a successful entrepreneur looks like my day starts at

870
00:45:16,600 --> 00:45:20,320
Speaker 2: ten and ends at three. I starts at ten am.

871
00:45:21,000 --> 00:45:23,320
Speaker 2: That's when my first quote unquote meeting or whatever starts,

872
00:45:23,400 --> 00:45:25,080
Speaker 2: because it takes typically like a two.

873
00:45:25,000 --> 00:45:26,520
Speaker 3: Hour walk in the morning.

874
00:45:26,920 --> 00:45:29,520
Speaker 2: I like to have a slow morning, you know, everybody

875
00:45:29,560 --> 00:45:33,279
Speaker 2: can wait. And then at three, this is the average day,

876
00:45:33,400 --> 00:45:35,239
Speaker 2: you know, not during book launch or whatever, but during

877
00:45:35,280 --> 00:45:39,200
Speaker 2: the average day. At three, I'm done no meetings, no, no,

878
00:45:39,520 --> 00:45:43,080
Speaker 2: no podcasts, no, this is no that now fit within

879
00:45:43,200 --> 00:45:45,640
Speaker 2: the confines of the boundaries that I've said. I don't

880
00:45:45,680 --> 00:45:48,320
Speaker 2: take meetings on Wednesdays, and I don't work on Fridays,

881
00:45:48,400 --> 00:45:51,680
Speaker 2: and I typically and I don't work weekends. Fit within

882
00:45:51,760 --> 00:45:54,239
Speaker 2: the confounds of the boundaries that I've said. Depending on

883
00:45:54,320 --> 00:45:58,160
Speaker 2: where you are in life and business or whatever, you

884
00:45:58,880 --> 00:46:00,759
Speaker 2: might not be able to have the these boundaries. But

885
00:46:00,840 --> 00:46:04,879
Speaker 2: you can't set some boundaries. It takes practice, it might

886
00:46:04,920 --> 00:46:07,239
Speaker 2: take some therapy to figure out why you're not setting it.

887
00:46:07,440 --> 00:46:10,800
Speaker 2: But you are deserving up setting healthy boundaries for yourself

888
00:46:11,280 --> 00:46:15,560
Speaker 2: because if you don't, you will be filled beyond capacity

889
00:46:15,719 --> 00:46:18,880
Speaker 2: until you pop to what end?

890
00:46:20,320 --> 00:46:20,960
Speaker 1: To what end?

891
00:46:22,640 --> 00:46:22,840
Speaker 3: You know?

892
00:46:23,200 --> 00:46:27,120
Speaker 2: And I am always viciously vetting, like I'm looking at

893
00:46:27,160 --> 00:46:29,879
Speaker 2: my life now and I'm like, what other things don't

894
00:46:29,920 --> 00:46:30,239
Speaker 2: suit me?

895
00:46:30,680 --> 00:46:33,440
Speaker 3: And I'm making some tremendous changes as a result. You

896
00:46:33,520 --> 00:46:35,600
Speaker 3: gonna see some major changes in the next year. I'm like,

897
00:46:35,600 --> 00:46:37,800
Speaker 3: I don't want to do that anymore. Oh you should.

898
00:46:37,840 --> 00:46:40,200
Speaker 2: I don't want to do it anymore, and I'm making

899
00:46:40,280 --> 00:46:43,640
Speaker 2: changes not to have to, you know, Like I'm forty

900
00:46:43,719 --> 00:46:45,920
Speaker 2: four now, I still.

901
00:46:45,760 --> 00:46:49,239
Speaker 3: Got my knees, my bag. You know I can still run.

902
00:46:49,880 --> 00:46:50,759
Speaker 3: You know I still got my.

903
00:46:50,800 --> 00:46:54,320
Speaker 2: Hairline, you know, good skin, child. What I don't know

904
00:46:54,320 --> 00:46:57,480
Speaker 2: if I'm wasting these cute years. You know.

905
00:46:58,200 --> 00:47:01,719
Speaker 3: Now I want to travel more. I want to do

906
00:47:01,800 --> 00:47:06,080
Speaker 3: my work, my book again, my children's book. I want

907
00:47:06,120 --> 00:47:06,840
Speaker 3: to do a series.

908
00:47:07,680 --> 00:47:07,840
Speaker 6: You know.

909
00:47:08,480 --> 00:47:10,520
Speaker 2: There are things that I want to do that in

910
00:47:10,719 --> 00:47:13,160
Speaker 2: order to have to do them, I have to clear space.

911
00:47:13,840 --> 00:47:18,560
Speaker 2: And so I'm intentionally clearing space. And Step one in

912
00:47:18,840 --> 00:47:23,680
Speaker 2: recreating and unlifting this burden of overwork and overwhelmed is

913
00:47:23,760 --> 00:47:26,880
Speaker 2: to one acknowledge this is not how I want it

914
00:47:26,960 --> 00:47:27,160
Speaker 2: to go.

915
00:47:27,840 --> 00:47:30,239
Speaker 3: Say it out loud to yourself, tell your bestie, tell someone.

916
00:47:30,320 --> 00:47:32,399
Speaker 3: That is step one. This is not how I wanted

917
00:47:32,440 --> 00:47:34,080
Speaker 3: to go, This is not what I envisioned. I don't

918
00:47:34,200 --> 00:47:34,640
Speaker 3: like it here.

919
00:47:35,719 --> 00:47:37,640
Speaker 2: That's okay, say it, cry about it, or whatever you

920
00:47:37,719 --> 00:47:40,560
Speaker 2: gotta do. That's step one. Step two is to admit

921
00:47:40,719 --> 00:47:43,680
Speaker 2: I need help. I'm not sure actually how to get

922
00:47:43,680 --> 00:47:44,080
Speaker 2: out from this.

923
00:47:44,360 --> 00:47:46,960
Speaker 3: I need help. Step two is to say need help,

924
00:47:47,400 --> 00:47:49,920
Speaker 3: and then step three is to go find it. Is

925
00:47:50,000 --> 00:47:51,600
Speaker 3: it a business coach, is it a therapist? Is it

926
00:47:51,719 --> 00:47:54,279
Speaker 3: my bestie? Is it my mama? Isn't my whatever that

927
00:47:54,360 --> 00:47:56,320
Speaker 3: looks like, ask for it.

928
00:47:57,000 --> 00:48:00,080
Speaker 2: Seek out the guides that you're going to need to

929
00:48:00,160 --> 00:48:02,520
Speaker 2: help navigate the process. I am the queen of asking

930
00:48:02,560 --> 00:48:03,960
Speaker 2: for help. Now why should I figure it out my

931
00:48:04,040 --> 00:48:06,680
Speaker 2: own that might take me ten years, when with doctor

932
00:48:06,719 --> 00:48:08,040
Speaker 2: Green it takes me ten months.

933
00:48:09,000 --> 00:48:13,920
Speaker 3: Ask for help. You are deserving ask for help. That's

934
00:48:13,920 --> 00:48:14,319
Speaker 3: step three.

935
00:48:14,360 --> 00:48:16,319
Speaker 2: Ask for help, ask for help, ask for help. Then

936
00:48:16,400 --> 00:48:20,000
Speaker 2: step four to start to put the help into practice.

937
00:48:20,360 --> 00:48:21,960
Speaker 2: Doctor Green gives me homework to do.

938
00:48:22,200 --> 00:48:25,720
Speaker 3: I do it because what are we doing? Like literally,

939
00:48:25,840 --> 00:48:26,719
Speaker 3: there are things.

940
00:48:26,520 --> 00:48:29,279
Speaker 2: With doctor Green that I was able to break the

941
00:48:29,400 --> 00:48:32,480
Speaker 2: habits in ten months that I have been navigating since

942
00:48:32,520 --> 00:48:36,320
Speaker 2: I was ten years old. Thirty years work it and

943
00:48:36,400 --> 00:48:38,640
Speaker 2: through a thing, and in ten months me and doctor

944
00:48:38,680 --> 00:48:42,680
Speaker 2: Green broke it, broke the habit. I'm like, damn, I

945
00:48:42,719 --> 00:48:44,400
Speaker 2: don't want to spend thirty years working on a thing

946
00:48:44,440 --> 00:48:47,440
Speaker 2: when I could spend three months navigating and breaking it.

947
00:48:47,719 --> 00:48:50,120
Speaker 3: So I put I do the work. She gives me homework.

948
00:48:50,120 --> 00:48:54,280
Speaker 2: I do the work right, and then five like celebrate

949
00:48:54,320 --> 00:49:00,400
Speaker 2: your wins and acknowledge like the like give away awareness

950
00:49:00,480 --> 00:49:03,800
Speaker 2: to the thing, like wow, I'm now training for a

951
00:49:04,000 --> 00:49:06,080
Speaker 2: five K even though I probably could do one now

952
00:49:06,080 --> 00:49:07,879
Speaker 2: if I will't because I walk like five miles a day.

953
00:49:08,440 --> 00:49:11,680
Speaker 2: But I wanted to take my health to the next level.

954
00:49:12,360 --> 00:49:15,000
Speaker 2: And I said to myself, like, I need something to

955
00:49:15,080 --> 00:49:17,319
Speaker 2: reach toward. So y'all gave me this really great app

956
00:49:17,400 --> 00:49:19,520
Speaker 2: called couch to five K. Thank you so much for

957
00:49:19,640 --> 00:49:20,360
Speaker 2: the woman who did that.

958
00:49:21,360 --> 00:49:21,600
Speaker 5: And so.

959
00:49:23,320 --> 00:49:26,520
Speaker 2: I as I am training, you know, I'm reminding myself

960
00:49:26,880 --> 00:49:30,239
Speaker 2: to celebrate the awareness, to celebrate.

961
00:49:29,800 --> 00:49:30,600
Speaker 3: How far I've come.

962
00:49:30,840 --> 00:49:32,759
Speaker 2: Today was like really day one off, although I've been

963
00:49:33,000 --> 00:49:34,920
Speaker 2: I was playing with a few apps, but today's my

964
00:49:34,960 --> 00:49:38,719
Speaker 2: official day one. And as I was like running in

965
00:49:38,880 --> 00:49:40,799
Speaker 2: the middle of running, because why should I wait until

966
00:49:40,800 --> 00:49:43,040
Speaker 2: I won the five k? In the middle, I said,

967
00:49:43,120 --> 00:49:43,520
Speaker 2: look at you.

968
00:49:44,400 --> 00:49:46,560
Speaker 3: I'm really proud of you, Tiffany. You said you were

969
00:49:46,600 --> 00:49:48,239
Speaker 3: going to do a thing, You did a thing.

970
00:49:48,520 --> 00:49:51,400
Speaker 2: You acknowledge that you didn't like where you were physically.

971
00:49:52,120 --> 00:49:56,480
Speaker 2: You said I need help. That's number two three. You

972
00:49:56,800 --> 00:49:59,680
Speaker 2: ask for help right here on this podcast for a

973
00:49:59,760 --> 00:50:02,479
Speaker 2: guy for help. Y'all gave me apps. I'm now using

974
00:50:02,520 --> 00:50:05,960
Speaker 2: it right then, I'm doing what the help told me

975
00:50:06,120 --> 00:50:09,880
Speaker 2: to do. That's four and then five. I am celebrating

976
00:50:09,960 --> 00:50:14,359
Speaker 2: the awareness and the progress you know, and then you repeat.

977
00:50:14,840 --> 00:50:15,160
Speaker 3: That's it.

978
00:50:16,440 --> 00:50:18,239
Speaker 2: If you want to see yourself move forward, if you

979
00:50:18,280 --> 00:50:20,239
Speaker 2: want to break past this burnout, if you want to

980
00:50:20,640 --> 00:50:23,400
Speaker 2: keep beyond where you are now, the hold are the.

981
00:50:23,440 --> 00:50:28,560
Speaker 1: Steps, all right, va fam Now another great interview of that. Dammit,

982
00:50:28,640 --> 00:50:31,680
Speaker 1: I was not here for because why this is terrible.

983
00:50:31,800 --> 00:50:33,480
Speaker 1: My timing can be the worst for when I get

984
00:50:33,520 --> 00:50:36,120
Speaker 1: sick or writing time off, y'all. But anyway, this was

985
00:50:36,160 --> 00:50:40,680
Speaker 1: a great interview that Tiffany did with the inimitable, the

986
00:50:40,880 --> 00:50:45,960
Speaker 1: venture capitalist, the investor, the entrepreneur, Arlen Hamilton. This episode

987
00:50:46,000 --> 00:50:49,760
Speaker 1: is called Your First Million featuring Arlen Hamilton, so please

988
00:50:50,200 --> 00:50:52,880
Speaker 1: go check it out and then go follow Arlin everywhere

989
00:50:52,920 --> 00:50:55,279
Speaker 1: because she really is the business and she's changing the

990
00:50:55,320 --> 00:50:57,800
Speaker 1: face of venture capitalism, and she's changing the face of

991
00:50:59,239 --> 00:51:02,319
Speaker 1: yeah just Silica Valley and the way that we as

992
00:51:02,640 --> 00:51:06,279
Speaker 1: entrepreneurs of color are often just so left out of

993
00:51:07,080 --> 00:51:09,600
Speaker 1: the capital game, and how we don't really get the

994
00:51:09,640 --> 00:51:12,800
Speaker 1: support that we need as entrepreneurs. But Arlin is a

995
00:51:12,960 --> 00:51:16,480
Speaker 1: rule breaker and just incredible. So I hope you guys

996
00:51:16,600 --> 00:51:20,680
Speaker 1: enjoy number two, Your First Million with Arlen Hamilton.

997
00:51:21,920 --> 00:51:26,520
Speaker 2: So to your point, one of the mechanisms to growing

998
00:51:26,600 --> 00:51:29,600
Speaker 2: wealth and becoming a millionaire is sticking with it longer

999
00:51:29,760 --> 00:51:33,600
Speaker 2: and being willing to go further than the person before. So, like,

1000
00:51:33,800 --> 00:51:36,200
Speaker 2: is that are those the two like major core things

1001
00:51:36,280 --> 00:51:37,800
Speaker 2: or something else that you've seen in millionaires?

1002
00:51:37,840 --> 00:51:41,640
Speaker 4: That's it coupled with the mindset shifts of you can

1003
00:51:41,800 --> 00:51:45,160
Speaker 4: and you're worthy of. Okay, because you can and you're

1004
00:51:45,200 --> 00:51:49,360
Speaker 4: worthy of, people tend to when I'm talking about mindset,

1005
00:51:50,520 --> 00:51:52,400
Speaker 4: people tend to kind of blank out a little bit

1006
00:51:53,080 --> 00:51:56,040
Speaker 4: because like, that didn't teach me how to get the

1007
00:51:56,080 --> 00:51:58,960
Speaker 4: ten thousand in my bank account tomorrow. They're like, I

1008
00:51:59,080 --> 00:52:00,640
Speaker 4: need to I need to tax cool. I mean, you know,

1009
00:52:00,719 --> 00:52:02,360
Speaker 4: and of course I'm going to give you the tactical,

1010
00:52:02,680 --> 00:52:05,080
Speaker 4: but if you don't believe you can or that you're

1011
00:52:05,120 --> 00:52:07,600
Speaker 4: worthy of it, it's not never going to happen. It's

1012
00:52:07,640 --> 00:52:09,600
Speaker 4: just not gonna You're not gonna act. Did you accidentally

1013
00:52:09,640 --> 00:52:10,440
Speaker 4: become a millionaire?

1014
00:52:10,640 --> 00:52:10,680
Speaker 6: No?

1015
00:52:12,120 --> 00:52:15,040
Speaker 4: Did you accidentally write? It's not going to happen like that.

1016
00:52:15,280 --> 00:52:19,120
Speaker 4: And so yes, those are That's really what it boils

1017
00:52:19,200 --> 00:52:23,160
Speaker 4: down to is this focus and like even more granular,

1018
00:52:24,360 --> 00:52:29,680
Speaker 4: a focus of just twelve months, when is the last

1019
00:52:29,719 --> 00:52:32,239
Speaker 4: time And I'm asking you and your audience. When is

1020
00:52:32,280 --> 00:52:36,080
Speaker 4: the last time you stuck with something day in and

1021
00:52:36,280 --> 00:52:40,960
Speaker 4: day out for a full year regardless of the results.

1022
00:52:42,160 --> 00:52:43,520
Speaker 3: Well, why did that? Like my book?

1023
00:52:43,560 --> 00:52:45,640
Speaker 2: I have a book to get Go with Money, and

1024
00:52:45,760 --> 00:52:49,400
Speaker 2: I said, I this book is going to be a

1025
00:52:49,440 --> 00:52:50,960
Speaker 2: New York Times bestseller, come.

1026
00:52:51,000 --> 00:52:52,520
Speaker 1: Hell or high water.

1027
00:52:52,960 --> 00:52:55,800
Speaker 2: So it was two years of day in day I

1028
00:52:55,920 --> 00:52:58,600
Speaker 2: must have read that book like two hundred times. Editing editing,

1029
00:52:58,640 --> 00:53:00,319
Speaker 2: We right, be right, we write editing, editing, and then

1030
00:53:00,400 --> 00:53:03,160
Speaker 2: market market market market, market, market marker. Two years later,

1031
00:53:03,239 --> 00:53:06,640
Speaker 2: we're still marketing that book. Uh huh, because you're right.

1032
00:53:06,840 --> 00:53:09,319
Speaker 2: I see so many people two months saying girls not working.

1033
00:53:09,360 --> 00:53:11,759
Speaker 2: I'm like, what exactly there?

1034
00:53:12,000 --> 00:53:14,359
Speaker 4: So what I did was, I can't remember what month

1035
00:53:14,360 --> 00:53:16,560
Speaker 4: it was, but it was a few months ago for

1036
00:53:17,080 --> 00:53:21,160
Speaker 4: one of my groups, entrepreneur groups. I went back and

1037
00:53:21,239 --> 00:53:24,440
Speaker 4: looked at my own list of things that I.

1038
00:53:24,480 --> 00:53:24,960
Speaker 3: Was working on.

1039
00:53:25,880 --> 00:53:29,479
Speaker 4: And for many reasons, one of my main business model

1040
00:53:29,520 --> 00:53:32,640
Speaker 4: is an investment fund, so I am not a full

1041
00:53:32,719 --> 00:53:37,080
Speaker 4: time entrepreneur. On the other side, although I am an entrepreneur,

1042
00:53:37,160 --> 00:53:39,880
Speaker 4: which makes me a better investor. And I say that,

1043
00:53:40,000 --> 00:53:41,520
Speaker 4: but I have several companies, so I guess I am

1044
00:53:41,560 --> 00:53:43,839
Speaker 4: a full time I'm just doing both. But I look

1045
00:53:43,960 --> 00:53:46,400
Speaker 4: back and I said, okay, the things that I started

1046
00:53:47,560 --> 00:53:50,560
Speaker 4: a year prior, how many of those things did I finish?

1047
00:53:52,120 --> 00:53:54,759
Speaker 4: And I went through and I one by one I

1048
00:53:54,920 --> 00:53:57,960
Speaker 4: listed like what I was working on, and I found

1049
00:53:58,239 --> 00:54:01,040
Speaker 4: so many different things that if I had simply stuck

1050
00:54:01,160 --> 00:54:04,399
Speaker 4: with it for a year, they would have made each

1051
00:54:04,760 --> 00:54:08,280
Speaker 4: lane would have made at least a million dollars, like easily,

1052
00:54:08,400 --> 00:54:13,720
Speaker 4: like water blowing. And for some of it, I showed

1053
00:54:13,760 --> 00:54:16,239
Speaker 4: where I stopped it on purpose because it was taking

1054
00:54:16,280 --> 00:54:18,520
Speaker 4: away from the focus that I needed for this other

1055
00:54:18,560 --> 00:54:21,680
Speaker 4: thing that made more than that, right, But for the

1056
00:54:21,800 --> 00:54:24,520
Speaker 4: examples were so interesting to me because it was my

1057
00:54:24,640 --> 00:54:26,719
Speaker 4: thesis so that that would be the case, and then

1058
00:54:26,760 --> 00:54:30,400
Speaker 4: to see it laid out was so powerful. And so

1059
00:54:30,760 --> 00:54:35,000
Speaker 4: it's truly again, this is one of those things that

1060
00:54:35,320 --> 00:54:37,800
Speaker 4: the majority of people will just kind of hear and

1061
00:54:37,960 --> 00:54:40,719
Speaker 4: go in one ear out the other. But what I'm

1062
00:54:40,760 --> 00:54:44,520
Speaker 4: saying to you is that imagine you're playing this episode

1063
00:54:44,800 --> 00:54:49,439
Speaker 4: again a year from now, and in this moment this year,

1064
00:54:50,200 --> 00:54:52,440
Speaker 4: you made a decision. I don't care that it's January.

1065
00:54:52,520 --> 00:54:54,960
Speaker 4: We're all making all these kind of claims what we're

1066
00:54:54,960 --> 00:54:58,320
Speaker 4: going to do whatever month you hear this in you

1067
00:54:58,560 --> 00:55:03,759
Speaker 4: made a decision that you were going to stick with

1068
00:55:03,920 --> 00:55:06,520
Speaker 4: something for a year, and you weren't going to take

1069
00:55:06,600 --> 00:55:09,040
Speaker 4: every opportunity, or you weren't going to stop and to

1070
00:55:09,200 --> 00:55:12,000
Speaker 4: go through this other thing because this looks better, or

1071
00:55:12,080 --> 00:55:14,799
Speaker 4: you weren't going to add on for income streams because

1072
00:55:14,800 --> 00:55:16,719
Speaker 4: I'm supposed to have seven. You're not supposed to have

1073
00:55:16,840 --> 00:55:20,880
Speaker 4: seven when you start. You can have seven eventually, but

1074
00:55:21,040 --> 00:55:24,319
Speaker 4: not when you start, because you'll never get anywhere. If

1075
00:55:24,360 --> 00:55:28,120
Speaker 4: you were to focus for a year, the results you

1076
00:55:28,160 --> 00:55:31,440
Speaker 4: would get would be incredible. You talk about your book,

1077
00:55:31,840 --> 00:55:34,239
Speaker 4: It does not surprise me in any way, shape or

1078
00:55:34,239 --> 00:55:38,400
Speaker 4: form that you stick to things, because look at your results.

1079
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Speaker 4: Danielle Leslie talks about how we said yea for one year.

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00:55:46,480 --> 00:55:48,320
Speaker 4: It took her two years to make her first to

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00:55:48,520 --> 00:55:51,000
Speaker 4: really make her first million, and then from that she's

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00:55:51,440 --> 00:55:54,760
Speaker 4: she's never made less than the year before, which is incredible.

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00:55:55,880 --> 00:56:00,680
Speaker 4: She said, for the first eighteen months she did, she

1084
00:56:01,000 --> 00:56:05,279
Speaker 4: just had a webinar once a week, every single week,

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00:56:05,600 --> 00:56:07,759
Speaker 4: every single for a year, and then eighteen months and

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00:56:07,800 --> 00:56:10,839
Speaker 4: it just grew. And then at the eighteen month mark,

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00:56:11,320 --> 00:56:15,800
Speaker 4: something happened that was an inflection point, and from that

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00:56:16,000 --> 00:56:19,279
Speaker 4: moment on she was now making six figures a month

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00:56:19,480 --> 00:56:23,920
Speaker 4: and she couldn't stop it if she tried. If she

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Speaker 4: had stopped at month four, because she only had seventeen

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00:56:27,840 --> 00:56:30,759
Speaker 4: people show up to the webinarp, then she wouldn't have

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00:56:30,880 --> 00:56:34,640
Speaker 4: gotten the skills needed to be ready at eighteen.

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00:56:34,840 --> 00:56:38,800
Speaker 2: Yes, I wish people understood that that the first few months,

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00:56:38,920 --> 00:56:42,040
Speaker 2: even a few years, are not actually about the earning.

1095
00:56:42,200 --> 00:56:45,560
Speaker 3: It's about the learning. Gun she will.

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00:56:46,160 --> 00:56:49,080
Speaker 4: She wouldn't have answered the question that came up in

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00:56:49,200 --> 00:56:52,960
Speaker 4: month seven. Yes, she realized this is a blocker for

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00:56:53,440 --> 00:56:57,000
Speaker 4: twenty seven percent of people. If I should simply answer

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00:56:57,080 --> 00:56:59,880
Speaker 4: this question in my first ten minutes of his webinar,

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00:57:00,719 --> 00:57:03,400
Speaker 4: more people would couver. Yeah, I'm just making that up,

1101
00:57:03,400 --> 00:57:06,120
Speaker 4: but that's one of the things. Yeah, past she wouldn't

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00:57:06,200 --> 00:57:11,000
Speaker 4: have had created the confidence that I bet if we

1103
00:57:11,040 --> 00:57:14,000
Speaker 4: looked at video footage of her first month and her

1104
00:57:14,080 --> 00:57:16,360
Speaker 4: eighteenth months, they're like night and day.

1105
00:57:16,360 --> 00:57:16,680
Speaker 2: I bet.

1106
00:57:16,800 --> 00:57:19,960
Speaker 4: I mean, she's always been charismatic, but I bet you, yes,

1107
00:57:21,360 --> 00:57:23,800
Speaker 4: there are so many things you can list off that

1108
00:57:23,880 --> 00:57:24,840
Speaker 4: would have been different.

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00:57:28,560 --> 00:57:32,280
Speaker 1: B All right, we have a landed at number one.

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Speaker 1: The top episode of Brown Ambition for twenty twenty four

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00:57:36,640 --> 00:57:39,640
Speaker 1: is in fact the first ever episode of Brown Ambition

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00:57:39,760 --> 00:57:42,880
Speaker 1: in twenty twenty four. It's called Learning Lessons for twenty

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00:57:42,960 --> 00:57:45,880
Speaker 1: twenty four. Tiffany and I coming together just to talk about,

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00:57:46,480 --> 00:57:49,320
Speaker 1: you know, how we are approaching the new year. And

1115
00:57:49,720 --> 00:57:54,200
Speaker 1: it's Tiffany really going on this beautiful sort of you know,

1116
00:57:54,320 --> 00:57:57,600
Speaker 1: talking about this practice that she has where she calls dreamscaping,

1117
00:57:57,680 --> 00:58:00,520
Speaker 1: and she really explains not just how to like set

1118
00:58:00,600 --> 00:58:03,080
Speaker 1: goals or envision goals for yourself, but I love this

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00:58:03,240 --> 00:58:07,720
Speaker 1: idea of dream scaping. And just listen. And actually I'm

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00:58:07,760 --> 00:58:09,720
Speaker 1: gonna make this clip a little bit longer because I

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00:58:09,800 --> 00:58:13,360
Speaker 1: want the full dreamscaping, you know, message to be there.

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00:58:13,400 --> 00:58:15,880
Speaker 1: And hopefully this gives you guys something that you can

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00:58:15,960 --> 00:58:18,040
Speaker 1: practice even in this new year. I'm twenty two as

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00:58:18,040 --> 00:58:21,479
Speaker 1: we head into twenty twenty five. So without further ado,

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Speaker 1: number one Learning Lessons for twenty twenty four enjoy.

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Speaker 2: So in order to have your life look different at

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00:58:30,720 --> 00:58:32,680
Speaker 2: the end, you have to do something differently. So I

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00:58:32,840 --> 00:58:36,320
Speaker 2: like to do something called dreamscaping. Okay, I don't know

1129
00:58:36,320 --> 00:58:39,160
Speaker 2: if I made up that word or not, but honey,

1130
00:58:39,200 --> 00:58:42,520
Speaker 2: I'm using it. So what is dreamscaping. Dreamscaping is when

1131
00:58:42,600 --> 00:58:46,960
Speaker 2: you dream across the landscape of your mind. Right, So

1132
00:58:47,080 --> 00:58:48,560
Speaker 2: I want you to think of like your mind as

1133
00:58:48,600 --> 00:58:53,520
Speaker 2: this big open field and rolling hills and blue skies

1134
00:58:53,800 --> 00:59:00,760
Speaker 2: and clouds, and it's just like this open expands of space.

1135
00:59:01,120 --> 00:59:03,880
Speaker 2: So I always like to think like what Montana must

1136
00:59:03,960 --> 00:59:05,800
Speaker 2: look like like open like they call it big sky

1137
00:59:05,880 --> 00:59:09,280
Speaker 2: country where all you see is sky and flat green land.

1138
00:59:09,760 --> 00:59:13,080
Speaker 2: That is where I want you to position your mind.

1139
00:59:13,840 --> 00:59:17,000
Speaker 2: If you're driving, cys focused on driving, but if you're

1140
00:59:17,040 --> 00:59:20,800
Speaker 2: sitting or walking, or doing dishes or laundry, take a

1141
00:59:20,920 --> 00:59:24,000
Speaker 2: moment to close your eyes and imagine this big, open,

1142
00:59:24,120 --> 00:59:27,800
Speaker 2: wide space where the sky is blue, the clouds are puffing,

1143
00:59:28,400 --> 00:59:31,640
Speaker 2: the grass is green, and it's empty and you get

1144
00:59:31,720 --> 00:59:36,640
Speaker 2: to add whatever you want into this beautiful expansive space.

1145
00:59:37,000 --> 00:59:40,240
Speaker 2: It is important that the space feels expansive. If you

1146
00:59:40,360 --> 00:59:41,840
Speaker 2: cannot visualize.

1147
00:59:41,320 --> 00:59:44,680
Speaker 3: It, Google is your guru. Go ahead on a Google.

1148
00:59:44,640 --> 00:59:48,240
Speaker 2: Montana, big sky country or big open space. You know,

1149
00:59:49,120 --> 00:59:52,080
Speaker 2: maybe you know that's a visual that doesn't help for you.

1150
00:59:52,160 --> 00:59:54,040
Speaker 2: Maybe you need to see the desert, maybe you need

1151
00:59:54,080 --> 00:59:57,720
Speaker 2: to see ocean. Whatever feels expansive to you. I want

1152
00:59:57,760 --> 01:00:00,480
Speaker 2: you to visualize that and imagine that, and then I

1153
01:00:00,560 --> 01:00:03,720
Speaker 2: want you to start thinking about how you can start

1154
01:00:03,800 --> 01:00:05,800
Speaker 2: to fill this space with the things that you want

1155
01:00:05,880 --> 01:00:07,640
Speaker 2: to see by the end of the year. It is

1156
01:00:07,720 --> 01:00:11,640
Speaker 2: important that sometimes we dreamscape and we say what I

1157
01:00:11,720 --> 01:00:13,760
Speaker 2: want in five years or ten years or two months.

1158
01:00:13,880 --> 01:00:15,880
Speaker 3: That's great, but we're not doing that now.

1159
01:00:16,440 --> 01:00:19,520
Speaker 2: We're talking about how and who do I want to

1160
01:00:19,640 --> 01:00:24,720
Speaker 2: be December thirty first, twenty twenty four. That's the person

1161
01:00:24,800 --> 01:00:26,720
Speaker 2: we're looking at right now, right so you can use

1162
01:00:26,760 --> 01:00:29,680
Speaker 2: this dreamscaping for whatever, but for like for these purposes

1163
01:00:29,760 --> 01:00:31,440
Speaker 2: now at the beginning of the year, that's what we're

1164
01:00:31,480 --> 01:00:34,160
Speaker 2: looking at. I want you to imagine as you start

1165
01:00:34,200 --> 01:00:37,640
Speaker 2: to identify categories in your life, who and how do

1166
01:00:37,720 --> 01:00:38,160
Speaker 2: I want to be?

1167
01:00:38,760 --> 01:00:40,400
Speaker 3: So one question you can ask yourself.

1168
01:00:40,440 --> 01:00:42,800
Speaker 2: You can get yourself a notebook or like one of

1169
01:00:42,840 --> 01:00:46,520
Speaker 2: those those big like like poster boards or you know

1170
01:00:46,600 --> 01:00:48,960
Speaker 2: they have like you ever see the paper that's like

1171
01:00:49,080 --> 01:00:52,320
Speaker 2: the chart paper or whatever, you know, and start to

1172
01:00:52,400 --> 01:00:55,160
Speaker 2: write down some categories that you want to add to

1173
01:00:55,240 --> 01:00:58,760
Speaker 2: the big expanse of space. So categories might include health,

1174
01:01:00,040 --> 01:01:05,840
Speaker 2: it might include partnership or relationships. It might include business

1175
01:01:06,200 --> 01:01:06,800
Speaker 2: or career.

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01:01:08,360 --> 01:01:09,120
Speaker 3: It might include.

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01:01:09,160 --> 01:01:10,760
Speaker 2: So I want you to think of big, big, big,

1178
01:01:10,880 --> 01:01:14,200
Speaker 2: high level categories. I'm trying to think some of the ones.

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01:01:14,240 --> 01:01:18,160
Speaker 2: I might include adventure, that's what I have online. It

1180
01:01:18,320 --> 01:01:23,320
Speaker 2: might include finances, you know, hello, hello, Right, So I

1181
01:01:23,440 --> 01:01:26,880
Speaker 2: want you to think of anywhere from three to six things.

1182
01:01:26,920 --> 01:01:28,800
Speaker 2: You know, if it's more, that's fine, because we're not

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01:01:28,840 --> 01:01:32,200
Speaker 2: here to limit nobody. But at least three big expansive

1184
01:01:32,320 --> 01:01:35,600
Speaker 2: categories that you're going to start to fill this expansive

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01:01:36,800 --> 01:01:39,680
Speaker 2: space with. Right, So you have these things written down,

1186
01:01:40,600 --> 01:01:43,080
Speaker 2: you know, you can visualize them. I'm closing my eyes

1187
01:01:43,080 --> 01:01:45,920
Speaker 2: as well too, into this big, expansive, big sky country.

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01:01:46,360 --> 01:01:49,080
Speaker 2: And then under each of these categories, I start to

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01:01:49,120 --> 01:01:53,560
Speaker 2: get a little bit more specific of Okay, how do

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Speaker 2: I want to show up in this space by December

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01:01:56,040 --> 01:01:59,400
Speaker 2: thirty first, twenty twenty four, a year from now. So

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01:01:59,520 --> 01:02:01,720
Speaker 2: let's just say in the health space for me, it

1193
01:02:01,840 --> 01:02:03,960
Speaker 2: might be like, Okay, in the health space, there might

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01:02:04,000 --> 01:02:05,800
Speaker 2: be a size I want to maintain, Like right now,

1195
01:02:05,840 --> 01:02:08,240
Speaker 2: your girl's a good nine ten, you know what I mean.

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01:02:08,560 --> 01:02:11,120
Speaker 2: I like, I think it's cute, you know, because I'm

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Speaker 2: a woman of a certain areas from forty four and

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01:02:13,440 --> 01:02:15,280
Speaker 2: so like, you know, a four, at least for my

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01:02:15,400 --> 01:02:17,720
Speaker 2: build is not cute. You know, for your bill it

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01:02:17,800 --> 01:02:20,080
Speaker 2: might be. But for me, like all through when I

1201
01:02:20,200 --> 01:02:22,080
Speaker 2: was younger, I was like a six, and honestly, a

1202
01:02:22,160 --> 01:02:25,480
Speaker 2: six for me was really skinny, just because the way

1203
01:02:25,480 --> 01:02:28,040
Speaker 2: I'm built, I'm tallest, like five seven, almost five to eight.

1204
01:02:28,840 --> 01:02:31,680
Speaker 2: You know, your girl got booty, and so at the

1205
01:02:31,720 --> 01:02:33,960
Speaker 2: age I am now, I find that an eight is

1206
01:02:34,000 --> 01:02:36,920
Speaker 2: a little too small for how I like to present physically.

1207
01:02:37,200 --> 01:02:39,760
Speaker 2: But like a nine ten, it's real cute. I look snatched,

1208
01:02:40,080 --> 01:02:41,680
Speaker 2: you know. You guys be compliment to me, like are

1209
01:02:41,720 --> 01:02:44,720
Speaker 2: you look good? I'm like, I know, I know anyway, right,

1210
01:02:45,000 --> 01:02:47,160
Speaker 2: So for the health component, it might be I want

1211
01:02:47,160 --> 01:02:50,480
Speaker 2: to maintain a ten. But also for the health component,

1212
01:02:50,840 --> 01:02:54,320
Speaker 2: it might be I want to regularly visit, you know,

1213
01:02:54,560 --> 01:02:56,600
Speaker 2: keep my doctor's appointments because your girl ain't been going,

1214
01:02:57,000 --> 01:02:59,720
Speaker 2: you know. Also for the health component, I want to

1215
01:02:59,760 --> 01:03:02,400
Speaker 2: maint my walking schedule and bump it up. So I

1216
01:03:02,480 --> 01:03:04,480
Speaker 2: started to do the five K training that I talked

1217
01:03:04,520 --> 01:03:07,040
Speaker 2: about last year. Late last year, thank you guys for

1218
01:03:07,080 --> 01:03:09,560
Speaker 2: the app. I'm using the couch to five K app,

1219
01:03:09,600 --> 01:03:12,600
Speaker 2: which is awesome and so like the you know that

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01:03:12,800 --> 01:03:15,160
Speaker 2: I want to maintain and maybe even run a five K.

1221
01:03:16,160 --> 01:03:18,520
Speaker 2: I want to start strength training again. So these are

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01:03:18,560 --> 01:03:22,400
Speaker 2: some of the things under my health category. And so

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01:03:22,600 --> 01:03:25,720
Speaker 2: I'm in that space, I visualize myself what a strength

1224
01:03:25,800 --> 01:03:28,600
Speaker 2: strength training look like. I'm walking through the field. I

1225
01:03:28,680 --> 01:03:32,120
Speaker 2: see myself in the big expansive space using free rates,

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01:03:32,480 --> 01:03:34,800
Speaker 2: you know, I see myself in the big expansive place

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01:03:35,160 --> 01:03:37,840
Speaker 2: like for health for myself too. A friend of mine

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01:03:37,960 --> 01:03:41,640
Speaker 2: gets like vitamin drips every once in a while, every quarter,

1229
01:03:42,280 --> 01:03:43,960
Speaker 2: and she said it makes.

1230
01:03:43,840 --> 01:03:44,520
Speaker 3: Her feel amazing.

1231
01:03:44,560 --> 01:03:46,240
Speaker 2: And I kind of want to try a vitamin drip

1232
01:03:46,320 --> 01:03:48,520
Speaker 2: because I'm not gonna lie your girl don't take a

1233
01:03:48,600 --> 01:03:50,560
Speaker 2: vitamins like she should. And I'm like, I wonder once

1234
01:03:50,600 --> 01:03:53,960
Speaker 2: a quarter because I get sick every fall. It's even

1235
01:03:53,960 --> 01:03:55,919
Speaker 2: if I just do it once a year right before

1236
01:03:55,960 --> 01:03:57,920
Speaker 2: I get sick in the fall. What does maybe a

1237
01:03:58,000 --> 01:03:58,880
Speaker 2: vitamin C drip?

1238
01:03:58,960 --> 01:03:59,480
Speaker 3: What can that do?

1239
01:04:00,200 --> 01:04:00,360
Speaker 6: You know?

1240
01:04:00,520 --> 01:04:01,480
Speaker 3: For health? You know?

1241
01:04:02,200 --> 01:04:05,000
Speaker 2: Can I get massages more regularly? So these are some

1242
01:04:05,080 --> 01:04:07,280
Speaker 2: of the things that are in that I list under

1243
01:04:07,320 --> 01:04:09,640
Speaker 2: that category as I think to myself, how do I

1244
01:04:09,720 --> 01:04:12,360
Speaker 2: want my life to look by December thirty? First, who

1245
01:04:12,400 --> 01:04:14,520
Speaker 2: do I want to be by December thirty. First, I

1246
01:04:14,640 --> 01:04:17,960
Speaker 2: imagine myself in the field doing these things. So that's

1247
01:04:18,000 --> 01:04:21,360
Speaker 2: step two, right. So step one is that you want

1248
01:04:21,400 --> 01:04:24,680
Speaker 2: to set the categories. Step two you want to start

1249
01:04:24,720 --> 01:04:28,560
Speaker 2: to list how you want to look, feel, taste all

1250
01:04:28,680 --> 01:04:32,120
Speaker 2: that in those specific categories. And then step three is

1251
01:04:32,960 --> 01:04:36,560
Speaker 2: what does that look like month to month? So I

1252
01:04:36,640 --> 01:04:38,880
Speaker 2: start to get more specific. So I have a category

1253
01:04:38,960 --> 01:04:42,080
Speaker 2: called relationships and one of those categories. One of the

1254
01:04:42,280 --> 01:04:46,520
Speaker 2: items in that category are friendships, right, and so like

1255
01:04:46,760 --> 01:04:50,240
Speaker 2: the big category of relationships, one of the bullets is friendships.

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01:04:50,600 --> 01:04:52,440
Speaker 2: I was just talking to my friend Cabrell the other

1257
01:04:52,520 --> 01:04:55,360
Speaker 2: day when he's one of my best friends, and Cabrell

1258
01:04:55,560 --> 01:04:58,040
Speaker 2: is like, this amazing foodie. He's got a great palette.

1259
01:04:58,240 --> 01:05:01,080
Speaker 2: Is always like introducing me to like really restaurants and things.

1260
01:05:01,640 --> 01:05:05,800
Speaker 2: And there was a restaurant that was closing down. He's like,

1261
01:05:05,840 --> 01:05:08,080
Speaker 2: oh man, this was on my Tiffany eats list, and

1262
01:05:08,160 --> 01:05:09,760
Speaker 2: I'm like, what's that. He said to have a list

1263
01:05:09,800 --> 01:05:11,480
Speaker 2: of restaurants Tiffany because we go out to dinner or

1264
01:05:11,480 --> 01:05:13,840
Speaker 2: whatever and where it's like, here's a place that me

1265
01:05:13,880 --> 01:05:17,200
Speaker 2: and Tiffany can eat. And I thought, huh, how can

1266
01:05:17,240 --> 01:05:20,880
Speaker 2: I be more intentional. So I put down under so

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01:05:21,480 --> 01:05:25,960
Speaker 2: category relationships, bullet point friendship.

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Speaker 4: Goals.

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Speaker 2: Like what it looks like monthly is what if on

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01:05:30,320 --> 01:05:34,720
Speaker 2: purpose every month Cabrella lie on like the third Friday

1271
01:05:34,880 --> 01:05:38,200
Speaker 2: of every month we go to a new restaurant on

1272
01:05:38,280 --> 01:05:41,760
Speaker 2: the Tiffany Eats list, because it's one thing to say, like, oh,

1273
01:05:41,800 --> 01:05:43,280
Speaker 2: you know, I'm gonna do this thing. I'm gonna spend

1274
01:05:43,280 --> 01:05:46,640
Speaker 2: more time with my friends. But now I've gotten very specific,

1275
01:05:46,760 --> 01:05:47,920
Speaker 2: not pacific like the ocean.

1276
01:05:48,800 --> 01:05:50,080
Speaker 3: Don't do that. It's a new year.

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01:05:50,440 --> 01:05:50,680
Speaker 1: Some of you.

1278
01:05:50,720 --> 01:05:52,480
Speaker 2: I've been saying Happy New Years with an S and

1279
01:05:52,520 --> 01:05:55,040
Speaker 2: it's upset me and my mama. So we're gonna take

1280
01:05:55,080 --> 01:05:58,560
Speaker 2: that S right and we're gonna put it on specific right.

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01:05:58,680 --> 01:06:01,800
Speaker 3: Okay, I'm on back right.

1282
01:06:02,040 --> 01:06:05,800
Speaker 2: So like now I have it on my list. Okay,

1283
01:06:06,600 --> 01:06:09,440
Speaker 2: this is what it looks like December thirty one. Tiffany

1284
01:06:09,680 --> 01:06:12,320
Speaker 2: is someone who goes out to dinner with cabral on purpose,

1285
01:06:12,600 --> 01:06:15,400
Speaker 2: not just really need, like you free, I'm free on

1286
01:06:15,600 --> 01:06:19,360
Speaker 2: purpose every third Friday as long as we're both here.

1287
01:06:19,400 --> 01:06:23,000
Speaker 2: Because he travels a lot to a new restaurant. Honestly,

1288
01:06:23,080 --> 01:06:25,640
Speaker 2: I'm like, well, I'm excited about that. And so my sisters,

1289
01:06:25,680 --> 01:06:27,080
Speaker 2: as you all know because I talk about them all

1290
01:06:27,080 --> 01:06:29,200
Speaker 2: the time, most of them live close to me, except

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Speaker 2: for Karen, the oldest.

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Speaker 3: She lives in Chicago.

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Speaker 2: And so I said, I want to We were supposed

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Speaker 2: to have a sister lunch. And so I was like,

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Speaker 2: you know what, relationships write big category under big category

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Speaker 2: of relationships, family, right, that's the bullet and under family sisters.

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Speaker 2: What can I do to connect with my sisters more regularly?

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Speaker 2: The kids are in school, my sister Carol's kids, So

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Speaker 2: if we do a sister lunch once a month, let's

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Speaker 2: add that. But do you see how all of a

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Speaker 2: sudden it went from I want my life to be good?

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Speaker 3: What does that even mean? What does that mean?

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Speaker 4: You know?

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Speaker 2: You start to now in that big expanse of space,

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Speaker 2: I see my sisters and I having lunch different places.

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Speaker 2: Or maybe here's the thing, maybe me and my sisters

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Speaker 2: we have lunch at the same place every month, because

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Speaker 2: it's not about exploring new places, it's about sisterly connection. Actually,

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Speaker 2: now I'm saying that out loud, I'm like, I think

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Speaker 2: I like that, because then you become like, oh that

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Speaker 2: those are the fabulous girls that come every third Wednesday.

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Speaker 5: Or I like that.

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Speaker 2: That's cute, right, So maybe my sisters and I go

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Speaker 2: to the same place every third Wednesday and me and

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Speaker 2: Cabrell choose a different praise every third Friday.

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Speaker 3: Does that make sense?

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Speaker 2: That, Like, if you want your life to be different,

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Speaker 2: you want to be intentional about how you're navigating, and

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Speaker 2: you can't be intentional until you get clear. And once

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Speaker 2: you get clear, what does that look like in action form?

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Speaker 2: So now I'm gonna I'm creating this list of action form.

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Speaker 2: Now do I believe I'm going to do every single

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Speaker 2: thing now? But if I have ten action things that

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna do, but delightful action things, right, so like

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Speaker 2: having dinner with Cabrel or lunch with my sisters. I mean,

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Speaker 2: weare a crimea river.

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Speaker 1: That's my bad, you know.

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Speaker 2: But if the ten things I do, three of those

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Speaker 2: things I have effectively transformed a part of my life.

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Speaker 2: So December thirty one Tiffany is a different Tiffany than

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Speaker 2: January first Tiffany.

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Speaker 3: Does that make sense?

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Speaker 2: And so that is one of the ways I dreamscape

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01:08:18,120 --> 01:08:21,479
Speaker 2: and what I suggest for you. If you you know

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Speaker 2: it's so early on in the year, it's a great

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Speaker 2: time to set intentions. You know, I believe that twenty

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Speaker 2: twenty four is a year of intentions. To be intentional

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Speaker 2: about how you're going to navigate, to be intentional about

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01:08:32,479 --> 01:08:34,479
Speaker 2: how you're going to show up. Like for me, I

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01:08:34,560 --> 01:08:37,960
Speaker 2: have adventure, and my big bullet under adventure is travel.

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01:08:38,439 --> 01:08:40,880
Speaker 2: So it's not enough to say I'm going to travel more.

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Speaker 3: No, I was like, what does that mean?

1343
01:08:44,120 --> 01:08:46,880
Speaker 2: I started to list the places I wanted to see.

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Speaker 2: South Africa. I've always wanted to go.

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Speaker 3: Guess what. I booked a trip just the other day.

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Speaker 2: It's South Africa plus South Africa is like Botswana, South

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Speaker 2: Africa's Namimbia. I think it's like four different countries that

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Speaker 2: I'm going to in May with this like Black Girl

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01:09:01,520 --> 01:09:03,320
Speaker 2: travel group, which I'm so excited about.

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Speaker 3: I was on the fence.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, well, whoa, Well, you said you want it travel.

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Speaker 3: You know you got.

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01:09:09,040 --> 01:09:11,280
Speaker 2: Specific you said South Africa. This place is take me

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Speaker 2: to South Africa and beyond deal with. I also want

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01:09:14,160 --> 01:09:16,560
Speaker 2: to see the Northern Lights. I read this study that

1356
01:09:16,720 --> 01:09:19,800
Speaker 2: said that the Northern lights, which are like this beautiful

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01:09:19,920 --> 01:09:23,120
Speaker 2: light show that happens near like the North Pole. I'm like,

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Speaker 2: so Alaska, Norway, Finland. You could see them there. They're

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Speaker 2: going to be the strongest they've ever been in the

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Speaker 2: next two years. So I want to see them. So

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Speaker 2: I wrote that down. I want to see the northern lights,

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Speaker 2: you know, and I should write that exactly where.

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Speaker 3: So but do you see, the.

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Speaker 2: More specific you get, you can start to check things off.

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Speaker 2: You know, it's hard to accomplish the thing that you've

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Speaker 2: been vague about you vague. It's vague too, you know.

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Speaker 2: Connectedness is something else on my list I've been. I

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Speaker 2: got invited to a mastermind in Dubai, and y'all know

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Speaker 2: I don't have a good time Dubai. The last time

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Speaker 2: I went, I was like, I guess girl, it's a

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Speaker 2: little too manufactured for me. But the people go into

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Speaker 2: this mastermind honestly sound awesome. And one of my really

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Speaker 2: good friends is going and I was like, Tiffany, are

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Speaker 2: you going for Dubai? Are you going for the connectedness

1375
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Speaker 2: on your dreamscaping chart? I was like, ooh, that's right,

1376
01:10:09,439 --> 01:10:11,080
Speaker 2: So guess what your girl, Girl's going to be in

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Speaker 2: Dubai in March to navigate that connectedness. And look what

1378
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Speaker 2: happened when I said yes, I called my girlfriend who's going.

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Speaker 2: I was like, hey, girl, I heard your senior. You're

1380
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Speaker 2: going to this small Mastermind. It's just like eight of us.

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Speaker 2: And a friend of mine owns a house in Dubai.

1382
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Speaker 2: She lives there and she's hosting us. And she's like yes,

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01:10:28,360 --> 01:10:31,320
Speaker 2: And I said, well, it's only a two day Mastermind. Girl,

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Speaker 2: I'm not flying eighteen hours for two days. Do you

1385
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Speaker 2: want to stay in Dubai a little longer even though

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Speaker 2: it's not my fave? And she was like, actually, after Dubai,

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Speaker 2: I wanted to go to Singapore because I've always wanted

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Speaker 2: to go.

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Speaker 3: Do you want to go? I was like, girl, it

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Speaker 3: wasn't list, it's all my list.

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Speaker 6: Neil.

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Speaker 2: I was like, absolutely, I'd love to go. That was

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01:10:49,800 --> 01:10:52,400
Speaker 2: part of my connectedness. I want to connect with more

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01:10:52,479 --> 01:10:54,960
Speaker 2: people in the professional space where I am and now

1395
01:10:55,000 --> 01:10:57,479
Speaker 2: look what happened when I open myself up. So I

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Speaker 2: hope that's some encouragement for you. I'm excited about twenty

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Speaker 2: twenty four. As my sister Tracy said, it's gonna be

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Speaker 2: a Banni honey, a ban a year.

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Speaker 1: All right, be a fam I love you, I will

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Speaker 1: see you in the new year. And to Tiffany, you

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Speaker 1: know I love you, We love you. Thank you for

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01:11:17,800 --> 01:11:20,120
Speaker 1: all you have done for Brown Ambition. Thank you be

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Speaker 1: a fam for riding with us all these years, and

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01:11:23,920 --> 01:11:27,679
Speaker 1: for continuing to support the show. I wish you nothing

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Speaker 1: but warmth and happiness and lots of delicious lattes and

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Speaker 1: mimosas and eggnog and holiday cheer. And I know, and

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Speaker 1: it can be so stressful. Listen, I got'm a mom,

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Speaker 1: I have two kids. I was out at the stores

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Speaker 1: till midnight last night, like what, But we got to

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Speaker 1: like give ourselves time to enjoy. And maybe the house

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Speaker 1: won't be perfectly clean, maybe all the presents are not

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01:11:53,960 --> 01:11:56,479
Speaker 1: going to be wrapped and ready, you know, maybe we'll

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Speaker 1: be up with the glass of wine Christmas even making

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Speaker 1: that magic happen. But we're just blessed to be here,

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Speaker 1: to be alive, to have, you know, to be with

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Speaker 1: loved ones wherever you are. And if the holiday season

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Speaker 1: is just not the best time for you, if you're

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Speaker 1: going through a rough time, oh, we have been there too,

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Speaker 1: and I just want to hold space for y'all who

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Speaker 1: are maybe going through a time of struggle, of loneliness,

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Speaker 1: of grief and just remind you that you're allowed, that

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Speaker 1: these feelings are temporary, even though they are really strong

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Speaker 1: right now, and you just got to feel them sometimes.

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Speaker 1: So do what you need, take care of yourself, reach

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Speaker 1: out a hand and ask for help if you do

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Speaker 1: need it, because I'm sure you have loved ones, friends,

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Speaker 1: family who will be ready to swoop in and provide

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Speaker 1: that support that you need. You don't have to do

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Speaker 1: it all on your own. Woo Sa, As DOCI says,

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Speaker 1: Woo Sa, I will see y'all in twenty twenty five.

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Speaker 1: Happy New Year, BA fan air