1 00:00:01,160 --> 00:00:05,200 Speaker 1: Last hour. President Obama was our very special guest on 2 00:00:05,240 --> 00:00:10,920 Speaker 1: the show. Yeah yeah, with interviewing him. Yes, a great job. 3 00:00:11,200 --> 00:00:14,200 Speaker 1: Loved it, loved it, loved it. The President talked about 4 00:00:14,200 --> 00:00:17,840 Speaker 1: the importance of voting, and of course the countdown is 5 00:00:17,840 --> 00:00:21,520 Speaker 1: on for Georgia. The Senate runoff dates. Please request your 6 00:00:21,560 --> 00:00:26,320 Speaker 1: absentee ballot right now. December seventh is voter registration deadline. 7 00:00:26,640 --> 00:00:30,520 Speaker 1: December fourteen through the thirty first is early voting. January fifth, 8 00:00:30,560 --> 00:00:33,600 Speaker 1: twenty twenty one is election day. We gotta go Georgia. 9 00:00:33,960 --> 00:00:37,559 Speaker 1: Vote for Reverend Raphael Warnock and John Awesome. These are 10 00:00:37,560 --> 00:00:41,159 Speaker 1: the people we need in the Senate. So Joe Biden, 11 00:00:41,760 --> 00:00:46,159 Speaker 1: our president elect, can do his job effectively. Okay, yes please? 12 00:00:46,400 --> 00:00:49,080 Speaker 1: Could we could get rid of just full years? It 13 00:00:49,200 --> 00:00:54,800 Speaker 1: is hatred, Yeah, divisiveness in this country. Yes, it needs 14 00:00:54,840 --> 00:00:57,720 Speaker 1: to go away. It does with the person who brought it. 15 00:00:59,000 --> 00:01:01,040 Speaker 1: All right, we're gonna switch years here. It is time 16 00:01:01,080 --> 00:01:05,640 Speaker 1: for the Strawberry Letter. And if you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, 17 00:01:05,640 --> 00:01:08,920 Speaker 1: and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM 18 00:01:09,000 --> 00:01:12,480 Speaker 1: dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be 19 00:01:12,520 --> 00:01:15,640 Speaker 1: reading your letter live on the air, just like we're 20 00:01:15,640 --> 00:01:18,679 Speaker 1: gonna read this one right here, right now. Let me 21 00:01:18,720 --> 00:01:25,160 Speaker 1: by buckle love and all long time. We tried it 22 00:01:25,240 --> 00:01:28,720 Speaker 1: for a year. It is a strawberry letter, Thank you, nephew. Subject. 23 00:01:29,440 --> 00:01:33,559 Speaker 1: I pretend to be broke, but I'm not. We're trying 24 00:01:33,560 --> 00:01:35,920 Speaker 1: to figure out who wrote this letter, Dear Stephen Shirley. 25 00:01:36,000 --> 00:01:41,120 Speaker 1: Was was it Steve or was it Tommy? Dear Stephen Shirley, 26 00:01:41,600 --> 00:01:44,240 Speaker 1: I've been dating a woman for about a year, and 27 00:01:44,480 --> 00:01:47,600 Speaker 1: I've been keeping a big secret from her. The secret 28 00:01:47,760 --> 00:01:50,600 Speaker 1: is I'm a wealthy man, and my girlfriend doesn't know. 29 00:01:51,040 --> 00:01:53,560 Speaker 1: Before I met her and fell in love, I met 30 00:01:53,600 --> 00:01:55,800 Speaker 1: a lot of women that were attracted to me because 31 00:01:55,840 --> 00:01:58,880 Speaker 1: I have a nice car, expensive watches, and tailored suits. 32 00:01:59,160 --> 00:02:01,400 Speaker 1: I have an apartment in the city, and I started 33 00:02:01,440 --> 00:02:04,640 Speaker 1: taking women there instead of to my home because my 34 00:02:04,760 --> 00:02:07,880 Speaker 1: house sits on a lot of acreage in a gated 35 00:02:07,960 --> 00:02:12,000 Speaker 1: community in the suburbs. Oh, that would be Tommy in 36 00:02:12,040 --> 00:02:16,440 Speaker 1: the past. Us in the past, I used my house 37 00:02:16,440 --> 00:02:19,799 Speaker 1: and flashy things to lure women. But when I turned forty, 38 00:02:20,000 --> 00:02:24,919 Speaker 1: I wanted to find my soul mate, the woman, the 39 00:02:24,960 --> 00:02:28,600 Speaker 1: woman I'm in love with, the woman I'm in love 40 00:02:28,680 --> 00:02:31,880 Speaker 1: with works at a grocery store, and I knew I 41 00:02:31,919 --> 00:02:35,320 Speaker 1: wanted her the minute I laid eyes on her. She's 42 00:02:35,400 --> 00:02:38,920 Speaker 1: my age and she's a beautiful, hard working woman, so 43 00:02:39,120 --> 00:02:42,160 Speaker 1: I asked her out. I was afraid to reveal everything 44 00:02:42,200 --> 00:02:46,400 Speaker 1: about myself, so I started driving my suv and I 45 00:02:46,480 --> 00:02:49,840 Speaker 1: dressed casually around her. She helped me pick out furniture 46 00:02:49,880 --> 00:02:52,840 Speaker 1: for my apartment and had no idea I also have 47 00:02:52,919 --> 00:02:56,560 Speaker 1: a beautifully decorated mansion. She knows I have a great job, 48 00:02:56,680 --> 00:02:59,480 Speaker 1: but she doesn't know about my investments and all of 49 00:02:59,520 --> 00:03:03,280 Speaker 1: my rent properties in town. As we got closer and closer, 50 00:03:03,360 --> 00:03:05,680 Speaker 1: she opened up to me about her failed marriage and 51 00:03:05,720 --> 00:03:10,280 Speaker 1: said it ended because her ex husband was a liar. 52 00:03:11,800 --> 00:03:15,079 Speaker 1: And here I am lying to her about who I 53 00:03:15,120 --> 00:03:18,720 Speaker 1: really am. She is my soul mate and she deserves 54 00:03:18,760 --> 00:03:22,000 Speaker 1: to know the truth. But I'm afraid she will think 55 00:03:22,040 --> 00:03:23,880 Speaker 1: I was testing her to see if she was a 56 00:03:23,919 --> 00:03:26,720 Speaker 1: gold digger. I'm ready to marry her, so I want 57 00:03:26,720 --> 00:03:29,320 Speaker 1: to come clean and show her the real me. How 58 00:03:29,360 --> 00:03:31,560 Speaker 1: can I do this? Should I just take her to 59 00:03:31,600 --> 00:03:37,080 Speaker 1: my mansion and yell surprise, please advice? Wow? If this 60 00:03:37,160 --> 00:03:42,160 Speaker 1: isn't a Hallmark Lifetime Channel type letter, right here, and 61 00:03:42,280 --> 00:03:44,680 Speaker 1: I have to tell you, sir, trust me on this. 62 00:03:44,800 --> 00:03:49,080 Speaker 1: Please trust me on this. She will be fine. She 63 00:03:49,120 --> 00:03:52,320 Speaker 1: will be just fine. This is a lie that she 64 00:03:52,360 --> 00:03:54,960 Speaker 1: will kiss you for later. She's not going to kill 65 00:03:55,000 --> 00:03:57,920 Speaker 1: you for this lie. She will kiss you. This is 66 00:03:57,920 --> 00:04:02,120 Speaker 1: a fairy tale. Everyoneman dream about. Everyone woman dreams about 67 00:04:02,120 --> 00:04:05,360 Speaker 1: this fairy tale. I mean, you know, we know Cinderella 68 00:04:05,400 --> 00:04:08,000 Speaker 1: and all that stuff isn't real, but we still allow 69 00:04:08,040 --> 00:04:10,600 Speaker 1: ourselves to, you know, think about the fairy tale every 70 00:04:10,640 --> 00:04:12,560 Speaker 1: now and then. We go there from time to time, 71 00:04:13,440 --> 00:04:16,360 Speaker 1: and this is one of those times. But this happens 72 00:04:16,400 --> 00:04:19,200 Speaker 1: to be real. I suggest to you that you propose 73 00:04:19,360 --> 00:04:22,640 Speaker 1: first letter, accept, and then eventually let her see and 74 00:04:22,720 --> 00:04:25,880 Speaker 1: really know what you're all about. I know you've been 75 00:04:25,920 --> 00:04:28,080 Speaker 1: through others who wanted you just for your money, but 76 00:04:28,200 --> 00:04:30,480 Speaker 1: she's a keeper, and I just, you know, I just 77 00:04:30,520 --> 00:04:33,520 Speaker 1: say to you, don't overthink this. She's going to be fine. 78 00:04:33,600 --> 00:04:39,440 Speaker 1: She'll be fine. Steve, this is an interesting letter because 79 00:04:39,760 --> 00:04:44,000 Speaker 1: just delimited timing that got itself into for you know, 80 00:04:44,120 --> 00:04:46,720 Speaker 1: you have to you kind of have to look at 81 00:04:46,720 --> 00:04:49,719 Speaker 1: his side of it, you know, like I feel this 82 00:04:49,880 --> 00:04:54,640 Speaker 1: dude in a way, you know, even dating this woman 83 00:04:55,040 --> 00:04:58,440 Speaker 1: and even kept his big secret from the secret is 84 00:04:58,440 --> 00:05:00,760 Speaker 1: I'm a wealthy man and my girl he don't know it. 85 00:05:01,240 --> 00:05:06,240 Speaker 1: We could have stopped the letter right here and the 86 00:05:06,279 --> 00:05:11,240 Speaker 1: next line is, and I'm a wealthy man and my 87 00:05:11,279 --> 00:05:15,360 Speaker 1: girlfriend don't know it. And when you're gonna tell her? 88 00:05:16,400 --> 00:05:20,799 Speaker 1: Because boy, you probably gonna see some shouting. I can't 89 00:05:20,920 --> 00:05:26,440 Speaker 1: believe this is the lottery dog, Shelley said it best 90 00:05:26,760 --> 00:05:32,560 Speaker 1: trust me, she will be fine. This is one lie 91 00:05:32,839 --> 00:05:37,279 Speaker 1: she won't to hell. Yeah, baby, I know you think 92 00:05:37,320 --> 00:05:42,560 Speaker 1: I'm broken, But I'm rich. Boy gone somewhere, Na, Really 93 00:05:43,120 --> 00:05:48,080 Speaker 1: I'm rich. Boy stop saying that you're driving the same 94 00:05:48,160 --> 00:05:53,839 Speaker 1: truck my brother got. Yeah, but I got some more houses. Boys, stop, 95 00:05:54,360 --> 00:05:57,279 Speaker 1: I just helped you pick out furniture for your apartment. 96 00:05:58,520 --> 00:06:02,120 Speaker 1: But yeah, but baby, but I got more than an apartment. 97 00:06:02,400 --> 00:06:05,599 Speaker 1: I got renal property. I live in a mansion with 98 00:06:05,680 --> 00:06:10,839 Speaker 1: a lot of acreage in a gay community. What what? 99 00:06:12,839 --> 00:06:14,919 Speaker 1: And I didn't want you to think that I was 100 00:06:15,000 --> 00:06:16,880 Speaker 1: testing you to see if I was You was a 101 00:06:16,960 --> 00:06:22,080 Speaker 1: gold digger? You was? You was testing her to see her? 102 00:06:22,080 --> 00:06:26,599 Speaker 1: She will golden. She passed. She can't wait to find 103 00:06:26,720 --> 00:06:34,800 Speaker 1: out she graduated with honors. You passed to test boys. 104 00:06:35,440 --> 00:06:38,800 Speaker 1: She's gonna throw out of that grocery store. You ain't 105 00:06:38,839 --> 00:06:43,320 Speaker 1: had to sex, you go have who? All right, hold on, thoughts, 106 00:06:43,480 --> 00:06:45,720 Speaker 1: Hold it right there, Steve. We're gonna have part two 107 00:06:45,760 --> 00:06:48,119 Speaker 1: of your response coming up at twenty three minutes after. 108 00:06:48,520 --> 00:06:51,120 Speaker 1: I pretend to be broke but I'm not is the subject. 109 00:06:51,400 --> 00:06:56,560 Speaker 1: We'll be right back. You're listening to morning show. All right, 110 00:06:56,560 --> 00:06:59,760 Speaker 1: Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry Letters. Subject. I 111 00:07:00,080 --> 00:07:07,680 Speaker 1: pretend to be broke but I'm not. He ain't. And 112 00:07:07,800 --> 00:07:11,800 Speaker 1: if that ain't a thank you Jesus moment, see listen 113 00:07:11,880 --> 00:07:14,840 Speaker 1: to me. Here's a letter about this man that's been 114 00:07:14,920 --> 00:07:18,120 Speaker 1: dating this wonderful woman for a while. He kept a 115 00:07:18,120 --> 00:07:21,440 Speaker 1: big secret from him that he's a wealthy man, and 116 00:07:21,680 --> 00:07:25,240 Speaker 1: she don't know it. Now. You know, before I met 117 00:07:25,240 --> 00:07:27,440 Speaker 1: her and fell in love, you know, he met a 118 00:07:27,480 --> 00:07:29,480 Speaker 1: lot of windows tracked to it because what he had. 119 00:07:30,040 --> 00:07:32,520 Speaker 1: So he got him apartment in the city and started 120 00:07:32,560 --> 00:07:36,960 Speaker 1: taking women to the apartment instead of their home because 121 00:07:37,040 --> 00:07:39,120 Speaker 1: her house. His house got a lot of acreage in 122 00:07:39,160 --> 00:07:43,120 Speaker 1: a gated community in the suburban. And I she used 123 00:07:43,120 --> 00:07:45,520 Speaker 1: to use flashy things a little women. But when he 124 00:07:45,560 --> 00:07:48,040 Speaker 1: turned forward. He wanted to find his soul mate. So 125 00:07:48,600 --> 00:07:50,560 Speaker 1: the woman that he in love would not work at 126 00:07:50,560 --> 00:07:53,520 Speaker 1: a grocery store. And I knew I wanted her the 127 00:07:53,600 --> 00:07:56,320 Speaker 1: moment I laid eyes on her. She's my age, She's beautiful, 128 00:07:56,360 --> 00:07:59,040 Speaker 1: hard worker woman. So I asked her out, and I 129 00:07:59,120 --> 00:08:01,920 Speaker 1: was afraid to reveal everything about myself. So I started 130 00:08:02,000 --> 00:08:05,040 Speaker 1: driving my suv and I dressed casually. She helped me 131 00:08:05,080 --> 00:08:07,480 Speaker 1: pick out furniture from my apartment. No idea, we had 132 00:08:07,480 --> 00:08:10,880 Speaker 1: a beauty. I have a beautifully decorated mansion. She knows 133 00:08:10,920 --> 00:08:12,600 Speaker 1: I got a great job, but she don't know about 134 00:08:12,600 --> 00:08:15,640 Speaker 1: my investments and all the rental property in town. So 135 00:08:15,760 --> 00:08:19,480 Speaker 1: now they didn't got closer, and she talked to you, 136 00:08:19,520 --> 00:08:21,600 Speaker 1: open up about her failed marriage and said it didn't 137 00:08:21,680 --> 00:08:27,440 Speaker 1: end it because her ex husband was a liar. Yeah, 138 00:08:28,520 --> 00:08:33,160 Speaker 1: and here I am lying to her about who I 139 00:08:33,240 --> 00:08:41,959 Speaker 1: really am. Dundun dun, Yes, yes, lot thickens. So now 140 00:08:42,200 --> 00:08:46,720 Speaker 1: you gonna tell her that that apartment is just a 141 00:08:46,880 --> 00:08:51,240 Speaker 1: front that you didn't really need no furniture. You got 142 00:08:51,240 --> 00:08:55,640 Speaker 1: a wonderfully decorated mansion. And you ain't just got an apartment, 143 00:08:55,760 --> 00:08:59,920 Speaker 1: you got an acreage gated in mansion in a game 144 00:09:00,000 --> 00:09:07,600 Speaker 1: need community, and you think that the reason her marriage 145 00:09:07,760 --> 00:09:12,240 Speaker 1: fell because her husband was a lie. You don't really 146 00:09:12,320 --> 00:09:14,760 Speaker 1: think this the lie he walked in and told her. 147 00:09:14,840 --> 00:09:22,640 Speaker 1: Dear right, you don't really think this is the lie 148 00:09:22,720 --> 00:09:28,920 Speaker 1: he told her that ended their marriage. Let me tell yourself, brother, 149 00:09:30,320 --> 00:09:34,160 Speaker 1: Like all men know and women don't understand this statement, 150 00:09:34,679 --> 00:09:37,680 Speaker 1: but they really do it. There is a time to 151 00:09:37,880 --> 00:09:42,240 Speaker 1: lie and there's a time to tell the truth. Oh, 152 00:09:42,280 --> 00:09:48,920 Speaker 1: I under rarely are those two the same occasion. It's 153 00:09:48,960 --> 00:09:51,600 Speaker 1: either we need a lie or we need the truth. 154 00:09:51,800 --> 00:09:54,000 Speaker 1: Now the way men do it, ladies, I'm sorry to 155 00:09:54,040 --> 00:09:58,280 Speaker 1: tell you this. We decide when it's time for the 156 00:09:58,400 --> 00:10:01,839 Speaker 1: lie and when it's time for the truth. Truth. We 157 00:10:02,000 --> 00:10:06,000 Speaker 1: make that decision based on what we feel like dealing 158 00:10:06,080 --> 00:10:10,120 Speaker 1: with at that particular day or time. For selfish reasons 159 00:10:10,120 --> 00:10:15,360 Speaker 1: in other words, always see right there that relationship. That's 160 00:10:15,360 --> 00:10:17,680 Speaker 1: what Steve just said. Though if you break it down, 161 00:10:17,720 --> 00:10:21,960 Speaker 1: that's what I just said, what you just said, you'd 162 00:10:22,000 --> 00:10:26,040 Speaker 1: lie for selfish reasons, depending I can deal with at 163 00:10:26,080 --> 00:10:29,400 Speaker 1: the time, right, because we don't want to hurt you 164 00:10:29,640 --> 00:10:35,959 Speaker 1: right now, right, So to delay that or put it off, 165 00:10:36,880 --> 00:10:40,520 Speaker 1: we lie. Oh, you're so sensitive and sweet. It's not 166 00:10:40,559 --> 00:10:43,560 Speaker 1: really to protect yourself. Get out, so you won't be 167 00:10:43,600 --> 00:10:47,760 Speaker 1: the best. Because we care. Okay, love because you love us, 168 00:10:47,880 --> 00:10:51,000 Speaker 1: right about this relationship. Because he loved this woman in 169 00:10:51,040 --> 00:10:53,280 Speaker 1: this letter that was at this grocery store. He didn't 170 00:10:53,280 --> 00:10:56,120 Speaker 1: want to take her too fast. You can nose bleed 171 00:10:56,160 --> 00:11:00,440 Speaker 1: when you go up too high too quick. He loved 172 00:11:00,520 --> 00:11:06,680 Speaker 1: her that he had loved it her. Okay, so let's 173 00:11:06,679 --> 00:11:10,240 Speaker 1: do a re enactment. Okay, you're starting to notice things 174 00:11:10,280 --> 00:11:13,520 Speaker 1: about me and ask me questions. You got an idea 175 00:11:13,559 --> 00:11:15,720 Speaker 1: that I'm rich, but I'm gonna play like I ain't. 176 00:11:15,920 --> 00:11:18,360 Speaker 1: So this is what's been happening all this time. Just 177 00:11:18,600 --> 00:11:21,520 Speaker 1: say anything to me that might allude to the fact 178 00:11:21,559 --> 00:11:23,959 Speaker 1: that I got money, but I'm gonna redirected. I'm gonna sure, 179 00:11:24,000 --> 00:11:26,760 Speaker 1: y'all he's been doing it. Oh honey, is that a 180 00:11:26,840 --> 00:11:29,520 Speaker 1: new watching Yesterday, it seems like you had on a 181 00:11:29,640 --> 00:11:33,959 Speaker 1: TIMEX or something. Today you have one? Is that a Rolex? Wow? 182 00:11:34,000 --> 00:11:37,000 Speaker 1: That's nice. Yeah, I put I put my Time Max 183 00:11:37,080 --> 00:11:45,160 Speaker 1: in the shop. That this Alona turning my time next? 184 00:11:45,200 --> 00:11:49,480 Speaker 1: That game? No, no, no, this this is high. It's 185 00:11:49,480 --> 00:11:52,400 Speaker 1: been going this This is why he in trouble now. 186 00:11:53,559 --> 00:11:55,440 Speaker 1: So when I put it in the shop, they gave 187 00:11:55,480 --> 00:11:59,720 Speaker 1: me this as a lone. This. Ain't mind this, Alona, Honey, 188 00:12:00,200 --> 00:12:03,679 Speaker 1: we're going to dinner tonight. I look that restaurant up. 189 00:12:03,720 --> 00:12:06,240 Speaker 1: It's really expensive. I mean normal, you just we just 190 00:12:06,280 --> 00:12:09,160 Speaker 1: go down the street to the corner and get take out. 191 00:12:09,760 --> 00:12:13,040 Speaker 1: What's the occasion? Oh, we're going We're going to the 192 00:12:13,120 --> 00:12:16,800 Speaker 1: Eye Hop tonight. No. I looked up a way more 193 00:12:16,800 --> 00:12:20,080 Speaker 1: expensive restaurant than that that you said you were taking 194 00:12:20,160 --> 00:12:22,840 Speaker 1: me to. That you forget? Oh no, no, no, the 195 00:12:22,880 --> 00:12:25,199 Speaker 1: eye Hop is next dough to it. That's the address 196 00:12:25,240 --> 00:12:27,840 Speaker 1: that's closest to it. That's I had google that one 197 00:12:27,840 --> 00:12:32,120 Speaker 1: instead because I just needed to get into Vicinity. But 198 00:12:32,280 --> 00:12:38,120 Speaker 1: we're gonna go to the eye Hoop, don't don't ask him? Yeah, 199 00:12:38,160 --> 00:12:43,080 Speaker 1: and you know what, Um, I noticed some tickets that 200 00:12:43,120 --> 00:12:47,480 Speaker 1: were laying on the table about a trip to somewhere. 201 00:12:47,520 --> 00:12:51,760 Speaker 1: I think it was Paris or someplace. Are you taking 202 00:12:51,800 --> 00:12:53,560 Speaker 1: me on a trip or are we going somewhere? I 203 00:12:53,559 --> 00:12:56,320 Speaker 1: didn't think we could afford anything like that. No, that's 204 00:12:56,360 --> 00:13:00,480 Speaker 1: my mama's name. Tickets. That's the tide out a lot. 205 00:13:03,160 --> 00:13:09,520 Speaker 1: You're good at this all right, listen coming up Sports 206 00:13:09,520 --> 00:13:12,880 Speaker 1: Talk with Junior all right, right after this, you're listening 207 00:13:13,080 --> 00:13:14,959 Speaker 1: to the Day Harvey Morning Show.