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Speaker 1: what have I've been up to. I've actually been rather
Speaker 1: rather fucking busy. UM So, no I have. I've been
Speaker 1: pretty overwhelmed. I fucking hate you know. But for you
Speaker 1: guys listening who know UM. Not only am I currently
Speaker 1: at one of the biggest UM investment banks in the world,
Speaker 1: UM working part time, I'm also a full time student,
Speaker 1: and where I'm at in my group, I don't feel
Speaker 1: like it's where I want to be UM career wise. UM.
Speaker 1: So I'm on a team full of introverts and I
Speaker 1: actually like I'm clearly an extrovert. And yeah, but there's
Speaker 1: no way that every group can be this way, which
Speaker 1: is my problem. I know that I want to be
Speaker 1: client facing UM and right now I'm more in the
Speaker 1: financial services back office part of things. I do tax,
Speaker 1: and so I know that tax is based on clients.
Speaker 1: So I would love to be more where I have
Speaker 1: to go out and meet with people, maybe do financial advising.
Speaker 1: So I I'm looking more into even the private wealth
Speaker 1: management sector UM. And so right now I'm literally going
Speaker 1: to tons and tons of conferences and career affairs UM,
Speaker 1: meeting with different firms. So I was just at one
Speaker 1: of them. I was at one of the big four
Speaker 1: accounting firms this past Saturday, and it's amazing just seeing
Speaker 1: you know, if I want to do public private, it's
Speaker 1: just draining. Right now. I'm in my last semester. I
Speaker 1: don't know what's in the air. If it's a solar eclipse,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I had no It's fine. It's just
Speaker 1: that I graduate in December. And for those who know,
Speaker 1: I'm a non traditional student, So nontraditional student is I
Speaker 1: didn't go to college straight out of high school. Um.
Speaker 1: I actually got back into school when I was twenty four,
Speaker 1: and so even to be getting into school finishing early,
Speaker 1: I'm just super excited. I'm getting my Bachelor's of Science
Speaker 1: and I'm graduating with a hundred and thirty credits. Um,
Speaker 1: you only need one twenty to graduate, you know, It's good.
Speaker 1: So I've just been completely exhausted with everything and just
Speaker 1: finding out my next move career wise. That's been the
Speaker 1: scariest thing I think for most people. Were I gonna do?
Speaker 1: What am I gonna do? Now? Um? You know, I
Speaker 1: skipped I skipped school. My parents had a really bad
Speaker 1: hard ship and my dad had a stroke. I start
Speaker 1: working harder. Skip college just kind of found like it
Speaker 1: wasn't for me because especially the debt kind of equated
Speaker 1: it to the work that I'm in and would it
Speaker 1: pay off? And it ended up not. You know, I
Speaker 1: didn't need college for the skill that I have, but
Speaker 1: I had something that happened with me. I worked and
Speaker 1: fl I made me feel so small. Was it. UM. I.
Speaker 1: Now I work for a tech calecom company, so the
Speaker 1: vibe in the office is like super chill, like people
Speaker 1: have played office games then Google, Like everybody's all over
Speaker 1: the place like wild shit kind of thing. Um our
Speaker 1: CEO curses a lot, Like it's just kind of like
Speaker 1: that vibe. You know what I'm saying, Like this is bullshit,
Speaker 1: Like that's the kind of people make great money, but
Speaker 1: it's a very chill atmosphere. Sneakers, all of that. UM
Speaker 1: now top one of the top banks in the world.
Speaker 1: UM is one of my clients. I met with him them.
Speaker 1: UM got to the office, went super overboard with my outfit,
Speaker 1: even though I don't wear things like that every day. UM.
Speaker 1: I sat in there, did a whole Now we have
Speaker 1: a sales engineer that I can bring on my appointments,
Speaker 1: but I didn't bring him. I did it myself because
Speaker 1: I can speak to UM you know, speeds or their
Speaker 1: data or whatever. I did this whole thing, and I
Speaker 1: saw that they looked super impressed, and he says, now,
Speaker 1: I love it. I think we're ready to go forward
Speaker 1: with this. Blah blah blah. I just want to know,
Speaker 1: is there someone else who can come um, reiterate what
Speaker 1: you said for us? Is there a man that works
Speaker 1: in a different kind of I said, Um, I'm a
Speaker 1: little confused. I've been working for this company for five years.
Speaker 1: What do you mean? Is there someone else I could
Speaker 1: bring to reiterate I work for the company. My words
Speaker 1: should be gold. I mean, I'm putting it down on
Speaker 1: paper for you. What do you need is a sense security? No,
Speaker 1: I'm just saying you have another tech guy? Do you
Speaker 1: have a man? Essentially? He said it again, So what
Speaker 1: do I do? We have a someone that does implementation
Speaker 1: and deployment, so that will set up their cradle points,
Speaker 1: which is like your backup dad, to like set up
Speaker 1: all their ship name. Anyway, she's a female, black female,
Speaker 1: and I said, hey, can you come on an appointment
Speaker 1: with me? Got there and I said, I just wanted
Speaker 1: to know. I brought my tech guy. I wanted to
Speaker 1: fuck him up, bitch. I was looking at her. I'm like,
Speaker 1: come on with it, spit facts, bitch, and they were
Speaker 1: so uncomfortable, like completely, So I almost lost the steal. Now,
Speaker 1: this deal would have cost me what five G So
Speaker 1: I literally had to fold to make money, which was
Speaker 1: very against my pride and what I stand for. And
Speaker 1: I had to ask one of the sales engineer there
Speaker 1: was a man, if you could come help me, and
Speaker 1: I swear to God, got on the phone, got buddy
Speaker 1: buddy with him and it was done within fifteen minutes.
Speaker 1: And I've been working on the steal for six months
Speaker 1: and I was so fucked up over that to know
Speaker 1: that it took nothing, all of my time and my
Speaker 1: energy just for him to do me a favor and
Speaker 1: talk about some Yankees series. It's terrible, and I think, um, unfortunately,
Speaker 1: we're both going to deal with that, you being in
Speaker 1: a higher role, in a higher position as a woman,
Speaker 1: and me being in a male domin naded industry. I'm
Speaker 1: in finance and it's it's something to wear. They don't
Speaker 1: maybe look at us as even equal to men. We
Speaker 1: can do just a fields that men do better. There
Speaker 1: are no there there. I want a very few women
Speaker 1: in the office, to the point where one girl needed
Speaker 1: tamp on the other day. We didn't know each other's
Speaker 1: name and she's like, hey, I'm so I'm Laura, Like okay,
Speaker 1: and she's like I'm really really sorry. I just hey,
Speaker 1: I know we never speak. I need a tamplet I
Speaker 1: was like, girl, like, I mean, it's like that now.
Speaker 1: It is crazy because even just the word wall Street
Speaker 1: you think of men, and unfortunately, yeah, when you say
Speaker 1: Wall Street or this person works on Wall Street, you
Speaker 1: automatically put that to a white man. And so me
Speaker 1: entering this field and it's so competitive, it's so you know,
Speaker 1: and I'm definitely seen as the black female. So I'm
Speaker 1: at the bottom of the totem pole and so just
Speaker 1: getting respect from people because not only is it white men,
Speaker 1: it's Asians. They control this fucking field since they are
Speaker 1: and so it's me like, I'm feeling even less secure
Speaker 1: at work than I would about anything. It's never happened
Speaker 1: to me ever until these last few months. Um. I
Speaker 1: went to Nike and one of the vps I sat
Speaker 1: with was black and a woman, and I didn't even
Speaker 1: mean to make her feel uncomfortable, but I had to
Speaker 1: get it out. I was like, can I just say, like,
Speaker 1: when I saw the name Alex, I didn't think it
Speaker 1: was gonna be you. I didn't think it was gonna
Speaker 1: be you. I didn't think it was gonna look like you.
Speaker 1: Let alone like I and she just like laughed and
Speaker 1: she's like, yeah, I know everybody says that I love it.
Speaker 1: She's like, I don't put Atlexandra no more for a reason.
Speaker 1: And it felt good, like just so good, and I
Speaker 1: was just like, you know what, that'll be me right,
Speaker 1: but anyway, sorry, my period are you no? I actually
Speaker 1: just got off and so I'm in the phase right
Speaker 1: now where you just get off your period and you're like,
Speaker 1: I want dick so bad, and it's just like, however,
Speaker 1: I don't want to give pussy to just anybody. So
Speaker 1: I literally Teeter Todd her last night, um my app
Speaker 1: And this thing has been going well, not so well.
Speaker 1: Well basically in the last two and a half months,
Speaker 1: I've had one penis. One guy did come to town
Speaker 1: and I kind of gave in. But in two and
Speaker 1: a half months, I've had sex once, and so even mentally,
Speaker 1: I'm just I am by the way he told the
Speaker 1: other day, like you captive for the first seven days,
Speaker 1: I said, what happened after the next seven days? Like
Speaker 1: I'll go slow, but I'm so hyped and like we
Speaker 1: have to fux so much because I'm going to Tokyo
Speaker 1: soon and it's like I have to get all that dick.
Speaker 1: I'm not even used to having dick every It's been
Speaker 1: so long since he's been living in New York that
Speaker 1: I forgot what it's like to get sucked every other
Speaker 1: It's so bad. My roommate, um, I was watching TV
Speaker 1: last night and doing homework and she came and put
Speaker 1: the lock on the door. It was like, m I
Speaker 1: remember when guys were in and out of this door,
Speaker 1: and I literally don't have company anymore. She thing, gotta
Speaker 1: be fucking cleaned every couple of days. I'm having the
Speaker 1: plummet issues. I like whatever, So long story short, this
Speaker 1: thin coming home in a week, and I was like, wow,
Speaker 1: I really got to like clean up, like I gotta
Speaker 1: fucking fix all this ship that's going wrong, Like somebody's
Speaker 1: about to start being in my house, Like bro, when
Speaker 1: you are getting ship falls apart. Just like Lead the
Speaker 1: Lips said, I have become a season the whole. I
Speaker 1: don't want you to see what my room looks like.
Speaker 1: You look at my arm pick. Your arm pick could
Speaker 1: use a razor. Actually right, it's pretty bad. But yeah, no,
Speaker 1: I'm the same way my room can go. Jay's with
Speaker 1: being filthy. Jesus Christ, when I had company coming into
Speaker 1: that that ship, stay clean, man, because I'm just like,
Speaker 1: it's my clothes, but like my pussies clean, but my
Speaker 1: roommate you feel that's really I don't even know whereas dirt.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying there's a mass, there's mass, which there
Speaker 1: is a difference between You're not gonna find plates and
Speaker 1: bowls in my room, but you are going to find
Speaker 1: piles and piles of clothes and clean. Follow up, son,
Speaker 1: you know how much it is on Netflix right now? Bitch? Anyway, anyways,
Speaker 1: that's how you know we didn't get it. But how
Speaker 1: much is on Netflix? That's how you know you're not
Speaker 1: getting Which when I can't find a new series to
Speaker 1: watch on Netflix because I don't watch it all, that's
Speaker 1: when you know what's bad. But let's go ahead and
Speaker 1: get into our cheek. I picked this one because this
Speaker 1: is what this is. I have two six ft tall
Speaker 1: mirrors facing my bed in a very tiny New York apartment. UM,
Speaker 1: and I realized there was a fetch for this. It's
Speaker 1: called um cataphilia catatron to failure. We cannot beat it
Speaker 1: up that bad. Let's see it is catapla catron. It's okay,
Speaker 1: and it basically cataptron. Bitch, it's a great word. Look,
Speaker 1: I speak Anglo. That's all I got. I was a
Speaker 1: spelling b champ two. This is embarrassment, have been Excuse me?
Speaker 1: Can have a definition again? What is the Latin? What's
Speaker 1: the origin? Okay, So it may include I'm sorry, it's
Speaker 1: it's a I can't even talk, not because I'm so
Speaker 1: fair I. Basically, it's a fetish for in front of
Speaker 1: a mirror. It could include activities as masturbation, um, orgies
Speaker 1: in front of mirrors, enacting a stripping fetish in front
Speaker 1: of mirror, doing anything in front of mirrors that will
Speaker 1: sexually turn you on. UM. Many porno film show porn stars,
Speaker 1: sucking in front of mirrors because a lot of people
Speaker 1: enjoy doing it. Um. You know they have mirrors in
Speaker 1: their bedrooms just so they can watch themselves, touch themselves
Speaker 1: or whatever. It's for personal enjoyment. Um. On a deeper level,
Speaker 1: this is according to Wikipedia, it could relate to the
Speaker 1: person's need to reflect and critique themselves. Oh wow, um
Speaker 1: when when me and seven we're fucking. Um. We actually
Speaker 1: started in the living room a lot, because he would
Speaker 1: come in the house, take off his box and literally
Speaker 1: sit on my couch like just naked when his fine
Speaker 1: as anyway, they don't know like he really he's really famous.
Speaker 1: He's really famous to me he has Actually he popped
Speaker 1: out on my fucking screen watch listen Loki and this
Speaker 1: is I was like, wow, I told you you could Jesus.
Speaker 1: But anyways about that because when he was on Baller, okay, damn,
Speaker 1: you know, really trying not to be the evo hole anyway,
Speaker 1: lipstick alleys, some girls like, oh, we relatable because I
Speaker 1: go through heartbreak two or so ship she said, I'm like,
Speaker 1: I'm just a crying ass, just the crying ass. So
Speaker 1: I just don't talk about my feelings as much. But no,
Speaker 1: so seven used to come over. We would He always
Speaker 1: liked to roll a blunt and start in the living room.
Speaker 1: And I have this big, huge, like six ft mirror
Speaker 1: in my living room, so before before I can't want
Speaker 1: with the big board is like one not and I know, um,
Speaker 1: but anyways, I have that in my living room. And
Speaker 1: before we would even make it to the bedroom, he
Speaker 1: would like to see me on my knees giving him
Speaker 1: giving him head in the mirror and then he would
Speaker 1: slightly bend me over on my attument in my living
Speaker 1: room just to look at me because we are already looking.
Speaker 1: He know, he find I want to look the thing
Speaker 1: with the mirror right like you're looking at the person,
Speaker 1: do it. Why do you need to see it twice?
Speaker 1: What is the thing? I don't. I don't know it
Speaker 1: has because you're sit you see yourself. It's definitely more
Speaker 1: seeing yourself. I'm not gonna lie. I'll look in the
Speaker 1: mirror and bitch a bitch starts stuck in her stomach
Speaker 1: because I want to make sure everything look good. So
Speaker 1: when I've been over, I've noticed myself like, oh, just
Speaker 1: let me arch more, let me like. It's making your
Speaker 1: stuff second up front, only with my hair and my makeup?
Speaker 1: Is that do you like to hair? I've never masturbated
Speaker 1: in the mirror. I masturbate in the dark while watching porns.
Speaker 1: So I don't think there's a way to look at
Speaker 1: myself in the mirror. But I think it's more so
Speaker 1: people wanting to see themselves in that. For sure, I
Speaker 1: felt sexy looking at myself. Are watching like a video,
Speaker 1: I mean for me and love her boy fucking videos.
Speaker 1: I like it, But I guess that's not that doesn't
Speaker 1: really count. But yeah, it's funny because I'm on this
Speaker 1: my wild lifestyle app, and there's a ton of swinger
Speaker 1: one that lethal lifts are talking about that. Yes, and
Speaker 1: there's a ton of pictures where there's mirrors on the ceiling.
Speaker 1: That's when you know it's a little there's a lot
Speaker 1: of those that used to be a thing in the nineties.
Speaker 1: I think I don't think many people put mirrors on
Speaker 1: the ceilings anymore now. So, UM, I guess we could
Speaker 1: go ahead and get into mail. You want to do
Speaker 1: homemail first, Let's do homemail. So this is from a
Speaker 1: girl on Instagram. UM has to be anonymous. She said,
Speaker 1: I have this friend. She's gorgeous in every sense of
Speaker 1: the word, and I find her extremely attractive. She's expressed
Speaker 1: to me that she's never been with another girl before.
Speaker 1: But it's curious she's been hitting on me lately. I
Speaker 1: hit on her a lot. I'm not sure if she
Speaker 1: catches me. But the other day she made it clear
Speaker 1: that she's with the ships as much as I am,
Speaker 1: and I'd love to do some very disgusting things. So
Speaker 1: if I'm scared too in the friendship, what should I do? UM?
Speaker 1: So we've talked about this a lot of times as
Speaker 1: far as maybe sleeping with friends, and it's something that
Speaker 1: I've done often. Um, I feel like I've slept with
Speaker 1: more friends than I haven't. I think maybe the closer
Speaker 1: my friends are, or the ones who I'm not sexually
Speaker 1: attracted to. I don't think we have had sex, but
Speaker 1: the ones where a bitch. If we getting drunk, we
Speaker 1: feeling on each other, we're making out. I think I've
Speaker 1: definitely wait. We gotta call, y'all. I think you want
Speaker 1: I think you'll want to hear this her mom. We're recording. Mom,
Speaker 1: say hi to the listeners. To the listeners. All right, listeners,
Speaker 1: I hopefully out there getting your sex on to the
Speaker 1: Sunday Red after church? Did you just come from church?
Speaker 1: Did you call me to show me that your makeup
Speaker 1: looks all about to say you'll make up beat Miss Jewel? No,
Speaker 1: not at all. Please all right, love him out. We'll
Speaker 1: talk to you later. God everyone, you guys love her.
Speaker 1: She's coming back. She's coming back, y'all. But yeah, I
Speaker 1: don't think it would make the situation awkward for her
Speaker 1: to have sex with this friend. I feel like if
Speaker 1: her friend is reciprocating the flirtatiousness and maybe open to it.
Speaker 1: I don't think it'll make it awkward at all. What
Speaker 1: about you, um, So Mandy, you have slept with a
Speaker 1: lot of friends. I've only slept with one that i'd like.
Speaker 1: Still talk to tu this day and was going to say,
Speaker 1: I think it is it would be awkward. But if
Speaker 1: you've already got an attraction, you'all are making jokes, then
Speaker 1: you have to get it over with because to me,
Speaker 1: that's awkward. Learning too much and we know we're friends,
Speaker 1: we don't know what to do. That's fucking awkward. I
Speaker 1: couldn't do it. I agree. So, um, I guess so
Speaker 1: for what we would give advice to any of the
Speaker 1: listeners may be going through this, maybe considering moving things
Speaker 1: sexually with a friend. Um, I think it's something to
Speaker 1: talk about. Oh I don't know how to do it?
Speaker 1: Oh go ahead, how do you do it? So you
Speaker 1: get drunk together? You love getting drunk because it makes
Speaker 1: it easier because for me, when I have those hidden feelings,
Speaker 1: like I feel like the only excusable thing if you
Speaker 1: get rejected. So even if you don't want to get
Speaker 1: to weight, I'm not even saying get I have to
Speaker 1: drinks and act drunk just so you can take Oh
Speaker 1: my god, let's take a picture of kissing and be
Speaker 1: so cumpe and then you'll keep going, Oh that's my line,
Speaker 1: that's your mine. Yeah, okay, us should work, says Let's
Speaker 1: take a picture we kiss and just know you're gonna
Speaker 1: keep kissing after that picture of snaps the horrible descision
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Speaker 1: decision for this week. And we've gotten a lot of feedback,
Speaker 1: so I'm actually interesting, um interested to get into this conversation.
Speaker 1: Let's free the definition first and then let's talk about
Speaker 1: what people think it was before we go into it. Um.
Speaker 1: Mandy found this article on a site called aidan neil Um.
Speaker 1: We'll posted I guess um, so you guys to see it,
Speaker 1: but it's nine times you're in a situation ship. And
Speaker 1: they describe it as basically a pseudo relationship, a placebo
Speaker 1: masking itself as a formative relationship. Smells like a relationship,
Speaker 1: sort of looks like a relationship. It may even feel
Speaker 1: like one, but it's not. Urban Dictionary describes it as
Speaker 1: a problematic relationship characterized by one or more unresolved interpersonal conflicts,
Speaker 1: usually confused with dating. Now, I just want to say
Speaker 1: really quickly, I, before reading this article, have always thought
Speaker 1: I was in one because there is no title. UM. However,
Speaker 1: we say we're open and committed, but we don't use
Speaker 1: the word boyfriend girlfriend UM. I sent this article to
Speaker 1: uh lover boy and we both decided number one was
Speaker 1: the only thing that fits, and number one is you
Speaker 1: don't have a title. I think situation ships. I have
Speaker 1: always thought before from my own definition was we're together,
Speaker 1: but we won't say it. Well, it's crazy because I
Speaker 1: spoke with UM, my friend about this before coming, and
Speaker 1: even she immediately asked where we're me and such and
Speaker 1: such in a situation ship? And she said that seven
Speaker 1: of the nine applied to her. So I don't feel
Speaker 1: like you need to be able to put a check
Speaker 1: mark next to all of these things to be in
Speaker 1: a situation ship. At the end of the day, I
Speaker 1: do feel like a situation ship is uh quote unquote
Speaker 1: relationship with someone who has not made it a relationship.
Speaker 1: And one of our listeners, I mean one of the
Speaker 1: people that wrote us I'm reading just right here. Uh
Speaker 1: someone named dsw um said that it's usually one sided,
Speaker 1: and Nichael Tyler wrote that it's one sided. I agree,
Speaker 1: it seems like everything is one sided. And it's funny
Speaker 1: because I could somewhat agree to that as well on
Speaker 1: my own terms. Yeah, because I think we've talked about UM.
Speaker 1: Even when it came to loverboy, you stressing, I'm I
Speaker 1: don't want to talk to him unless I have this title,
Speaker 1: and this was maybe three months ago, but you were yeah,
Speaker 1: but you were literally like, I don't feel it's mutual
Speaker 1: because he won't give me this title or it could
Speaker 1: be the UM. And one of our listeners even said,
Speaker 1: one settles for this relationship UM basically because they don't
Speaker 1: want to leave the person. So if this is all
Speaker 1: the person is willing to give them, they're willing to
Speaker 1: accept it and to me, that is a situation ship.
Speaker 1: That's where I think was too until I think the
Speaker 1: only way I got out of my situation ship was
Speaker 1: when UM, well I'll get into it quickly. But I
Speaker 1: got sucked up on Friday night or Thursday night. UM
Speaker 1: woke up that morning and called his phone and was like,
Speaker 1: you listen, Um, I'll just come with it. And he
Speaker 1: didn't even know, Like I, I don't even know where
Speaker 1: it came from. And I was like, look, I just
Speaker 1: need to know that what I've told you I've wanted
Speaker 1: we're still going in that direction and if we're not,
Speaker 1: we can still fucking kick it. But we're doing a
Speaker 1: lot more of committed things and we don't have a title,
Speaker 1: and I'm getting confused because I need to know if
Speaker 1: there's a great area on my feelings. So I just
Speaker 1: felt like we shouldn't do this, and he was like,
Speaker 1: bitch or tripping, chill the funk out. Everything is fine,
Speaker 1: you're freaking out, but but nothing changed. And I feel
Speaker 1: like we have comments about that too, where people hop
Speaker 1: into situation ships hoping one day he agrees to have
Speaker 1: the relationship, and sometimes that doesn't come. We had right,
Speaker 1: and I think what the thing would would happen with me.
Speaker 1: And why he was telling me I was tripping is
Speaker 1: because we decided a while ago that we're not going
Speaker 1: to know a title, and I told he when he
Speaker 1: asked me what I needed, I said, I need things
Speaker 1: that showed me we're moving forward. Whether it's blending families,
Speaker 1: going like vacationing together, holidays, whatever it is, knowing that
Speaker 1: we're more involved in each other's lives. I'm fine with
Speaker 1: that without the title. And now I'm getting it right
Speaker 1: and I'm complaining. I'll say that those things also hold
Speaker 1: value to um certain people, So those same things may
Speaker 1: not mean anything to the next person. Because those girlfriends
Speaker 1: that have never met her friends, they don't go anywhere
Speaker 1: with you. Well, there's that, but not only that. Like
Speaker 1: my my friend was, she was with her in her
Speaker 1: situation ship, she met the whole family. He didn't mean nobody,
Speaker 1: but when we went to the funeral, we realized that
Speaker 1: all of these women had met the family members. So
Speaker 1: it didn't hold as much weight to him as maybe
Speaker 1: it would to the next female. That I'm meaning the family.
Speaker 1: That means where something, and I think it also speaks
Speaker 1: to how fast it takes. I've had guys that have
Speaker 1: introduced me to family way too quick. Well, but that's
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. So to some people, different things mean
Speaker 1: different things. Different things mean different things. And so I guess, um,
Speaker 1: where I'm at right now with Lawyer Bay is not
Speaker 1: entering into a situation ship because I have entered so
Speaker 1: many situation ships thinking eventually it will become a relationship.
Speaker 1: And because we got so stagnant and content with where
Speaker 1: we were, there was no need to push it any further.
Speaker 1: And so that's what I'm trying to send. The way
Speaker 1: that I had entered into situationships in the past was
Speaker 1: I never spoke my mind. I just like that phone
Speaker 1: call I made where I needed that reassurance, like, Okay, Um,
Speaker 1: I have never said what I wanted before because I
Speaker 1: was afraid that ultimatums would push people away. But I
Speaker 1: realized I'm a grown as bucket my moment, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: be thirty soon. Like if I don't tell you what
Speaker 1: I want, like, we'll never get it. So we're gonna
Speaker 1: go ahead, and um, you want to do that. I
Speaker 1: really like what some of them said, um, because some
Speaker 1: of them are argumentative. I just want to kind of
Speaker 1: read through the ones that we have on our page.
Speaker 1: I know you had a good one on yours, but
Speaker 1: just because everybody thinks that's something different. One girl said
Speaker 1: it's all the drama of a relationship with the title.
Speaker 1: I got to disagree with that because I don't really
Speaker 1: have drama. A situation Allison Taylor says a situation ship
Speaker 1: was when there's no commitment because the one person doesn't
Speaker 1: want to take it to the next level, but you'll
Speaker 1: still messing around. You fight like it's a relationship. Somebod
Speaker 1: y'all still mess with other people. There's always drama. Um,
Speaker 1: let's see the Kyante show. When a person wants to
Speaker 1: give you them, you to give them your time, energy
Speaker 1: and attention, but not be exclusive. And if you make
Speaker 1: it known to other potentials that you're available, that person
Speaker 1: gets mad, knocks like a toddler. Bit saved. But if
Speaker 1: you find out he's talking other women, that's supposed to
Speaker 1: be okay because you're not his girlfriend. Okay, ran over.
Speaker 1: Bit you feeling it? Youre really feeling that. I like
Speaker 1: that one when one person wants to have loyalty from
Speaker 1: the other while giving only a portion. Yet someone on
Speaker 1: mind set, just like the whole, but they come home
Speaker 1: to me statement it's all b s. Everybody wants to
Speaker 1: be grown in an adult until it's really time to
Speaker 1: be grown and an adult. Um. And I think it's
Speaker 1: more so it's it's the commitment. UM. And it's hard
Speaker 1: for us to discuss this and such because you do
Speaker 1: even open relationships, and so I feel like maybe this
Speaker 1: isn't tied to that because a lot of people assume
Speaker 1: that they're not committing because they don't want to be monogamous. UM.
Speaker 1: And yeah, because my commitment in my current relationship we've
Speaker 1: discussed is for our emotions. A lot of times when
Speaker 1: I go on dates, still say things like don't fall
Speaker 1: in love if there's a rule or something, so like,
Speaker 1: I think that the commitment is based on what you're
Speaker 1: asking for. So what I want to do for this episode, UM,
Speaker 1: I do want to shout out um shout out aiden
Speaker 1: Neil dot com one more time because they actually compiled
Speaker 1: a list of nine ways to know that you're in
Speaker 1: a situation ship and I want you guys to know
Speaker 1: you don't need to put yourself in a box. All
Speaker 1: nine of these do not have to apply to you.
Speaker 1: You can disagree, but we kind of want to talk about,
Speaker 1: um these things, maybe put our little insight on it,
Speaker 1: um and get some feedback from you guys. So the
Speaker 1: first and I think the most important aspect of a
Speaker 1: situation ship is that you don't have a title. UM.
Speaker 1: And it was funny because when we read through these,
Speaker 1: essentially Weezy was just like, well, isn't this friends with benefits?
Speaker 1: And the first thing Crystal said when I said that
Speaker 1: she was just like, friends with Benefits is a title?
Speaker 1: You know that that's what you guys are, So friends
Speaker 1: with Benefits is a title? And I don't think this
Speaker 1: falls into that because to me, UM, some a lot
Speaker 1: of things in this list. Before we tell you, I
Speaker 1: just want to say it's um, seems like a lot
Speaker 1: of hiding and to me, a situation ship what I
Speaker 1: thought it was. I thought I was in one kind
Speaker 1: of until I read this is just no titles. But
Speaker 1: this is like a lot of like it gets in depth.
Speaker 1: Yeah it does, and I think it's cool. So the
Speaker 1: second one, UM, and I think you don't have a title.
Speaker 1: The first one is this one. It's really good. UM.
Speaker 1: Do you want to read this one? So? Um, you
Speaker 1: have a half a man is better than no man thoughts.
Speaker 1: I would love this one because so many women, a
Speaker 1: lot of our listeners specifically, would rather be in a
Speaker 1: situation ship than have nobody at all because they feel
Speaker 1: like they need somebody read it. In other words, you're
Speaker 1: just in this because lonely at the minute, or you're
Speaker 1: waiting till something better comes along. I think I was there, um,
Speaker 1: maybe right before this last trip to Europe to see
Speaker 1: lover boy, because I was like, I know him, intiment
Speaker 1: noise into me, but where is this really going? And
Speaker 1: not until that reassurance can I I said, Okay, I'm
Speaker 1: just in a place where I have a new age
Speaker 1: relationship where we don't know what to call what we
Speaker 1: do and if I'm happy and I don't feel like
Speaker 1: I have half a man at all, if I'm happy,
Speaker 1: do I need societal pressures to make it? Do I
Speaker 1: need GFBF? Do I need it? I don't know it's
Speaker 1: it's it's more so do I need that? In a relationshipbook? Um?
Speaker 1: And again, I don't want to directly correlate each of
Speaker 1: these two our specific relationships because I know so many
Speaker 1: of our listeners are in similar ones as US and
Speaker 1: beyond UM, but I think a lot of people are
Speaker 1: just content with maybe having someone they see often without
Speaker 1: making a title because they're happy at the moment, even
Speaker 1: though they're not fulfilled with exactly what they're getting from
Speaker 1: that person with That is settling. Settling, absolutely, I have
Speaker 1: done it in the past, for sure. It's all right.
Speaker 1: Well if I get them once every other week, Okay,
Speaker 1: that's what I have to take. Number three I think
Speaker 1: is really good means it does show how someone how
Speaker 1: much someone gets a fuck. Um. So number three is
Speaker 1: that your main means of communication is texting, and unfortunately,
Speaker 1: with this generation, I feel like this is the main
Speaker 1: means of communication with so many people. Yeah, but it
Speaker 1: says that your exchanges are limited and chances are the
Speaker 1: most frequently visited visited topic of discussion leads to sex.
Speaker 1: I I completely agree for sure, for sure, and it
Speaker 1: leads into um, they had another one. We could skip
Speaker 1: the order. I want to talk about this one right
Speaker 1: after number five was your friends, your mom, your coworkers
Speaker 1: no more about how you spend day than they do. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that makes a lot of sense, because if you feel
Speaker 1: like you can't just vent have a conversation with them. Yeah,
Speaker 1: when I knew I was getting closer. Um in this
Speaker 1: relationship was when I could say the name of a
Speaker 1: coworker and he knew who you were speaking. Involved are
Speaker 1: people in your lives, And I think that man in
Speaker 1: your life that you may still be weary about if
Speaker 1: I say a name, if I say anything, you gotta
Speaker 1: know that lets me know you give a funk and
Speaker 1: you're making enough effort to put yourself in my life
Speaker 1: and even and even lawyer Bay. It's so funny because
Speaker 1: the fact that we can discuss where I'm at in school,
Speaker 1: what's going on with work, what I'm doing with this podcast.
Speaker 1: I love that I can speak on that with him
Speaker 1: and all of our conversations aren't send me a video,
Speaker 1: what you wearing at work, what you look like, go
Speaker 1: to the bathroom. It's not all that sent me in
Speaker 1: my three way relationship. Actually, the guy, the British, the
Speaker 1: dumb guy, um, we call it ourselves in a relationship.
Speaker 1: We said the words, but no, like he didn't make
Speaker 1: me feel like he was involved at all, and I
Speaker 1: wondered if it was just him. But no, when someone
Speaker 1: really cares about you, they can about your day to day.
Speaker 1: And I think this is gonna jump into actually number
Speaker 1: six were skipping a around here. Um, but another thing
Speaker 1: that you know that you're in a situation ship in
Speaker 1: regards to bringing up sex constantly, the sex is mind boggling.
Speaker 1: I I agree with this one because a lot of
Speaker 1: times you do put yourself into a situation ship, maybe
Speaker 1: because the sex is great, and if the sex is great,
Speaker 1: you kind of are blinded with what your situation can
Speaker 1: be or is because you're having this sexual connection, you're
Speaker 1: constantly in bed together or whatever. And not only that,
Speaker 1: a lot of things can be said during sex that
Speaker 1: you can take is something way more And we all
Speaker 1: know we've said maybe even that I love you, or
Speaker 1: don't give this pussy to no one else, or this
Speaker 1: pussy is mine, And you can relate that to old ship.
Speaker 1: Maybe you putting claims on me, and it's in the
Speaker 1: it's in the realm. I think that you can say
Speaker 1: things you don't mean during sex with someone you know
Speaker 1: people might. I just watched this Being Mary Jane episode
Speaker 1: where she asked him to say I love you during sex. Yes,
Speaker 1: I love Being Mary jan. I don't want you know.
Speaker 1: I just started and um, that's never happened to me,
Speaker 1: but I have had someone asked me to say that. Um,
Speaker 1: but I think that mind box. I don't know, dude,
Speaker 1: I have good sex. But right, but I'll say this,
Speaker 1: I know that even my situation with UM, I guess
Speaker 1: we'll leave it out. Um, Jordan's was ongoing. And I
Speaker 1: say this in a in a funny sense because I
Speaker 1: know we've talked about meeting family. He flew me out.
Speaker 1: I met his sister. I clearly was cool with his cousin,
Speaker 1: and I met his friends. I met his fucking son
Speaker 1: like he's brought me around his children, and then we
Speaker 1: spent Christmas together because they were playing the magic and
Speaker 1: he brought me home to see my family, and I
Speaker 1: spent Christmas with him. And although I'm sitting here meeting
Speaker 1: the kids, meeting the sister, spending quote unquote holidays with him,
Speaker 1: we were in a situation ship. I'm gonna tell you
Speaker 1: what I think to differentiate situation ship. I've met families
Speaker 1: too and thought it meant more. And I think this
Speaker 1: is what we have to admit to ourselves as women.
Speaker 1: Are you is this like I'm going to introduce you
Speaker 1: to my sister today? This is so like? Is there
Speaker 1: something does it feel like something? Did you say like
Speaker 1: this Saturday, we're going to go have lunch or we're
Speaker 1: gonna have dinner. Are you planning this? Is this because
Speaker 1: we're getting further. And that's where I have sucked up
Speaker 1: in the past with relationships, thinking that I meant more
Speaker 1: than I did, right, because I think a lot of
Speaker 1: women do that. Yeah you you're like, but nah, but
Speaker 1: like why would you do this then? But that goes
Speaker 1: back to what we said in the very beginning as
Speaker 1: things that mean so much to us, or if we
Speaker 1: introduced If I introduced the guy to my mom, that's
Speaker 1: a big deal to me. If a guy introduces me
Speaker 1: to their mom, it might not mean to him. I
Speaker 1: don't under saying where meeting my mom doesn't mean a lot.
Speaker 1: I mean, I will say this much when when every
Speaker 1: boy comes, he's going to mean my mom, this is
Speaker 1: meaning different. I mean she's been hearing about him this
Speaker 1: whole time. But I've met dudes on a first day
Speaker 1: and my mom was at But that's what because whatever,
Speaker 1: so so some people may um relate meeting family as oh,
Speaker 1: we're taking the next step, and I think that that's
Speaker 1: where this needs to be a communication set. But I
Speaker 1: also think these situation ships are situation ships because it's
Speaker 1: not on a mutual basis, whether with needing a title
Speaker 1: or with emotions. One person either likes the person more
Speaker 1: than the other person does, or one person wants to
Speaker 1: commit more than the other person. And it's funny you
Speaker 1: mentioned um friends that was their number four is and
Speaker 1: I love how they worded it. Your closest friends haven't
Speaker 1: purposefully met now. Actually, uh my mom, God, it's so strange.
Speaker 1: My mom means less to me than my friends do. Yeah, well,
Speaker 1: I agree, me an enough to me to James, Vinny
Speaker 1: Christopher like that means you are something well, not only that.
Speaker 1: I feel like with friends, we talked so much about
Speaker 1: these relationships, the good, the bad, and the ugly, that
Speaker 1: it's like, if I'm gonna have you, if I'm gonna
Speaker 1: bring my friends around you, they're gonna know everything about you,
Speaker 1: and you don't even know that. They're probably gonna know
Speaker 1: your birthday and and so meeting your friends, you're opening
Speaker 1: the wounds to Listen, guys, this is who I'm choosing
Speaker 1: to be with. I know I've talked about him for
Speaker 1: the last several months. You know what the eight ship
Speaker 1: ship he's done. You know the Great Ship he's done,
Speaker 1: and you know, kind of where I was ready to
Speaker 1: just debt him. So to purposefully introduce him to your friends,
Speaker 1: I think makes a statement. I'm honestly really um nervous
Speaker 1: for that because my friends haven't met a guy that
Speaker 1: I was with since I was with Losing. We were
Speaker 1: together a year now, two years. And listen, I don't
Speaker 1: know what my friends will think because I have talked
Speaker 1: about the brunt of the relationship and like all of
Speaker 1: the bullshit before they met him, and now they're like this, naga,
Speaker 1: and that's the thing, Like your your friends are going
Speaker 1: to be like the best judgment as to if that
Speaker 1: person is for you. I think, um, kind of kind
Speaker 1: of sort of um. I think on a physical level,
Speaker 1: I think my friends know what my type is, but
Speaker 1: maybe on what I emotionally and sexually attached myself too,
Speaker 1: I don't feel like they do know I'm very shallow.
Speaker 1: So the guys that my friends have came around and
Speaker 1: met have just been for sex. And I feel like
Speaker 1: the ones who I have more of a connection to,
Speaker 1: I keep them away from my friends because I don't
Speaker 1: want to hear their opinions on them. I don't care,
Speaker 1: And so that's it's kind of different for me. I
Speaker 1: don't think, yeah, I mean you just met James. You
Speaker 1: guys will hear this episode coming up soon. But maybe
Speaker 1: you can see why my friends opinions me a lot. No,
Speaker 1: that makes sense, he is a lot of my friends
Speaker 1: are really analytical. They know me really well. Um, and
Speaker 1: I think that introducing your mate to your friends will
Speaker 1: at least give you and where some of you may
Speaker 1: not have friends like that, or they already know your
Speaker 1: cycle and they're gonna be like, no, you can't date
Speaker 1: another one easy neguess you know, possibly the next one
Speaker 1: that I wanted to talk about. And this actually touches
Speaker 1: because we kind of touched with this on Jada next
Speaker 1: see kind of the social media aspect of dating. So
Speaker 1: number seven is there are no pictures of you in
Speaker 1: any public setting. Um. I feel like this is more
Speaker 1: still people who care about like maybe I want the
Speaker 1: world to know each other this. I don't think that
Speaker 1: this has to do with social media, not until the bottom,
Speaker 1: because when I've been in situation ships, I never took
Speaker 1: pictures with them period, not for private or public right.
Speaker 1: But it's so at the bottom it says it's most
Speaker 1: likely that you won't find a picture on isn't her?
Speaker 1: What's that Facebook? Situation ships? You haven't taken pictures in period?
Speaker 1: I'm not talking about social media. Oh I disagree, being
Speaker 1: oh boy that I just spoke of. We have plenty
Speaker 1: of pictures. Like I didn't take pictures with my strict
Speaker 1: situation ships. It'd be weird almost for me to pull
Speaker 1: out my phone and take picture because why would we
Speaker 1: want to keep this moment in salvage? But see, that's
Speaker 1: the thing that also goes to where maybe you two
Speaker 1: aren't There are people who want to salvage because they
Speaker 1: liked the guy. I guess they like the guy. So
Speaker 1: it all depends where you stand in the situation ship.
Speaker 1: Are you more of the person emotionally attached her? You
Speaker 1: the one who's lesser detached? You know? So I think
Speaker 1: that could you even feel there were times where I
Speaker 1: felt like I can't not in my current relationship, but
Speaker 1: I felt like I couldn't take pictures, Like he'd think
Speaker 1: I was crazy for pulling out my phone, but I
Speaker 1: was laying naked. We took pictures like like yeah, like,
Speaker 1: but they're I'm talking about real situation ships. Oh yeah, no,
Speaker 1: I get it. Like on a date. Like so there
Speaker 1: were times that we would go to dinner, we would
Speaker 1: go to the movies. It's not like we would pose
Speaker 1: for a picture, Like we're not posing for a picture
Speaker 1: because we're just out with each other right now. So
Speaker 1: I get that absolutely. I get that absolutely, and I
Speaker 1: think that for the most part. Unfortunately, the generation we
Speaker 1: live in now, they're like scared to commit for whatever reason.
Speaker 1: I don't know where this commitment phobia has come from,
Speaker 1: but a lot of our generation is okay with being
Speaker 1: in a situation ship and you don't tell you one
Speaker 1: thing though, committed or not. I don't think I'm gonna
Speaker 1: be public with pictures with my mate next time, whoever
Speaker 1: it may be. I I could see me doing little
Speaker 1: I'm a very big instance now person. If any of
Speaker 1: you guys follow me, I could see me doing that
Speaker 1: with the hands or no, no, not even hands like fay,
Speaker 1: I mean whatever, just being like out and funny if
Speaker 1: I was in a committed relationship. But I don't think
Speaker 1: I'm going to do this this time around, only because
Speaker 1: I am having this very nothing last forever, I was
Speaker 1: very in love with the last person I was with
Speaker 1: and he left me for Jesus. He did, he really did.
Speaker 1: He got really religious, and I'm so glad that he
Speaker 1: still is on that path because I would have been
Speaker 1: really upset. But I just feel like anything could happen,
Speaker 1: and I don't want to just make this person be
Speaker 1: my life and express it to everybody else and let
Speaker 1: them see it and then it's over. And I feel
Speaker 1: like maybe almost private life is happy life. More. Sharing
Speaker 1: the stories about someone that you can't see or don't
Speaker 1: know the name of is easy for me. But well,
Speaker 1: I also see a lot of people when everything is
Speaker 1: so good, they post everything, and then when something goes bad,
Speaker 1: they post it. So I don't want. I don't want
Speaker 1: to insert the public into my relationship, and you know,
Speaker 1: potential really mess up my Happy't get me wrong. I
Speaker 1: love looking at some couples Instagram. I love it, but
Speaker 1: I really think it's I don't I think when I
Speaker 1: did it, I don't know how much it meant. I'm
Speaker 1: so happy right now that I don't know what a
Speaker 1: picture showing you could do, right, I agree, So I
Speaker 1: want to talk about this. Um, we're gonna go ahead
Speaker 1: and wrap this up, but what would be your advice
Speaker 1: essentially to someone entering a situationship or not trying to
Speaker 1: enter a situation ship. What would be your advice to
Speaker 1: our listeners. UM. I think ben give us the idea
Speaker 1: that you have to be very no pressure to be desirable.
Speaker 1: They don't want to you to be nagging or you
Speaker 1: to bring things up for for you to be made attractive,
Speaker 1: which is actually how I was feeling. But I have
Speaker 1: given ultimatums and let people know that you will lose
Speaker 1: me if I don't get what I want, and I've
Speaker 1: had to say what I'm looking for UM. In the past,
Speaker 1: some men have told me they can't give me that UM,
Speaker 1: and these more recent times, every time there is a
Speaker 1: part time where I'm feeling uncomfortable, like I'm not getting
Speaker 1: what I want, I'll say what I need and be
Speaker 1: like or have to go, and I really feel like
Speaker 1: it's important. I don't know how old some of you
Speaker 1: ladies are that are going through things like this, but
Speaker 1: I'm um, so I'm not super young anymore to not
Speaker 1: being able to be scared to express myself. And there's
Speaker 1: been times but I still haven't done it. So now
Speaker 1: I just kind of own my truth. I'm not scared
Speaker 1: to say that I don't want one today. But I'm
Speaker 1: not scared to say that I eventually want a boyfriend
Speaker 1: or that I mentually want kids or a husband. I
Speaker 1: am very very clear on those things. I tried it, honestly.
Speaker 1: I start talking about a bi weekly now because I
Speaker 1: want you to know what needs to come now absolutely.
Speaker 1: And that's where I'm at with Lawyer Bay right now. UM,
Speaker 1: we're pretty much making it as translucent as possible. I'm
Speaker 1: letting him know exactly what I want from the beginning,
Speaker 1: and I'm telling him straight up. If you can't give
Speaker 1: me that, let's tell me because I want to funk away. UM.
Speaker 1: I actually want to read a comment, UM shout out
Speaker 1: to live good regardless on my Instagram. Um. She said.
Speaker 1: As women, UM, as women, whatever you get in to,
Speaker 1: just make sure that you're in control of the situation.
Speaker 1: And a lot of times us as women, we feel
Speaker 1: like we're waiting on the guys with you like I can't.
Speaker 1: I don't have to disagree a little bit. You can
Speaker 1: only be control of what you put out there. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you can't always be control of your relationship with two people. Well,
Speaker 1: she said, A good thing. It's mostly don't sit here
Speaker 1: and put yourself into the situation waiting on the guy
Speaker 1: to make the move, because if you're sitting here telling
Speaker 1: him what you want and you're entering into it waiting
Speaker 1: for him to make the move, you're not in control
Speaker 1: now in that relationship, in that setting, you're giving him
Speaker 1: all of the control as to how far you guys moved.
Speaker 1: She actually suggested this, and I'll put it in our
Speaker 1: description The Power of Seduction by Robert Green. She said
Speaker 1: it will change the way you move out here in
Speaker 1: terms of dating, and I'm so I just wanted to
Speaker 1: drop that. Um, we are having to wrap this episode up, guys,
Speaker 1: I hope you enjoyed kind of our discussion on UM
Speaker 1: horrible decision decision. I think that's a horrible decision. UM.
Speaker 1: I do want to read a review that we had
Speaker 1: that was good before we close that. By living vicariously
Speaker 1: in Philly currently sinking into a depression because I binge
Speaker 1: listened to every episode and now I know what to
Speaker 1: do with my life besides stoculatis on I d like VFS.
Speaker 1: Could I read this already? No, I don't know. I
Speaker 1: just literally like all of y'all think we're your bfs,
Speaker 1: and I love it, like I've had emails and comments like, girl,
Speaker 1: I can't talk about this with my friends, so let
Speaker 1: me get your advice girl out there that doesn't hate you.
Speaker 1: You know, there was there was another review. We have
Speaker 1: another review, but it's a comment on our I G
Speaker 1: where this girl is like, I have a really long
Speaker 1: road trip coming up, and I'm killing myself not to
Speaker 1: listen to your episodes. Just before we head out, I
Speaker 1: want to give you guys this UM Resist bought text code. So, UM,
Speaker 1: if you know anything about doctor what's been going on,
Speaker 1: you think it's bullshit, which we probably should. I feel
Speaker 1: like you're liberals if you listen to this episode. UM
Speaker 1: to this podcast, UM, if you text five zero four
Speaker 1: zero nine, it's a resist box so that you can
Speaker 1: join the resistance without doing all of the fucking work.
Speaker 1: They contact your officials base. It's like under two minutes,
Speaker 1: you write them, you tell them your name. UM, They're
Speaker 1: going to look up your zip code and they will
Speaker 1: deliver the message that you want to your senators, governors, whatever. Um,
Speaker 1: you could just say, hey, I rely on Obamacare, I
Speaker 1: don't want this to go away, and they're gonna help you.
Speaker 1: It's amazing. Handwritten letters all that ship I love it.
Speaker 1: I've used it because I just frankly don't have the
Speaker 1: time to support the movement like I want to. So
Speaker 1: bi oh four oh nine check the out. Guys. Um,
Speaker 1: that's really good. Thank you for dropping that on the
Speaker 1: podcast for our listeners. You look at I mean like
Speaker 1: I'm being sarcastic, but I'm not. That I know I
Speaker 1: can be. But no, that's really good. I glad that
Speaker 1: you're bringing this on. You don't want to say like,
Speaker 1: we had a bunch of brown people listening, so you
Speaker 1: gotta resist, all right, Thank you, guys. This has been
Speaker 1: another episode of horrible decisions by