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Yeah, 0:02:00.240 --> 0:02:04.560 what have I've been up to. I've actually been rather 0:02:05.040 --> 0:02:08.639 rather fucking busy. UM So, no I have. I've been 0:02:08.680 --> 0:02:12.680 pretty overwhelmed. I fucking hate you know. But for you 0:02:12.720 --> 0:02:15.560 guys listening who know UM. Not only am I currently 0:02:16.040 --> 0:02:18.720 at one of the biggest UM investment banks in the world, 0:02:18.840 --> 0:02:22.120 UM working part time, I'm also a full time student, 0:02:22.280 --> 0:02:25.320 and where I'm at in my group, I don't feel 0:02:25.600 --> 0:02:29.240 like it's where I want to be UM career wise. UM. 0:02:29.280 --> 0:02:32.240 So I'm on a team full of introverts and I 0:02:32.320 --> 0:02:37.600 actually like I'm clearly an extrovert. And yeah, but there's 0:02:37.639 --> 0:02:41.000 no way that every group can be this way, which 0:02:41.040 --> 0:02:43.320 is my problem. I know that I want to be 0:02:43.720 --> 0:02:47.320 client facing UM and right now I'm more in the 0:02:47.360 --> 0:02:50.360 financial services back office part of things. I do tax, 0:02:50.800 --> 0:02:53.720 and so I know that tax is based on clients. 0:02:53.880 --> 0:02:55.880 So I would love to be more where I have 0:02:55.919 --> 0:02:58.200 to go out and meet with people, maybe do financial advising. 0:02:59.800 --> 0:03:02.000 So I I'm looking more into even the private wealth 0:03:02.040 --> 0:03:05.520 management sector UM. And so right now I'm literally going 0:03:05.560 --> 0:03:08.839 to tons and tons of conferences and career affairs UM, 0:03:09.040 --> 0:03:11.960 meeting with different firms. So I was just at one 0:03:11.960 --> 0:03:13.240 of them. I was at one of the big four 0:03:13.280 --> 0:03:17.280 accounting firms this past Saturday, and it's amazing just seeing 0:03:17.320 --> 0:03:20.079 you know, if I want to do public private, it's 0:03:20.160 --> 0:03:23.560 just draining. Right now. I'm in my last semester. I 0:03:23.600 --> 0:03:25.960 don't know what's in the air. If it's a solar eclipse, 0:03:26.160 --> 0:03:29.440 I don't know. I had no It's fine. It's just 0:03:29.520 --> 0:03:32.360 that I graduate in December. And for those who know, 0:03:32.440 --> 0:03:37.200 I'm a non traditional student, So nontraditional student is I 0:03:37.240 --> 0:03:40.000 didn't go to college straight out of high school. Um. 0:03:40.040 --> 0:03:43.520 I actually got back into school when I was twenty four, 0:03:43.920 --> 0:03:47.000 and so even to be getting into school finishing early, 0:03:47.200 --> 0:03:49.880 I'm just super excited. I'm getting my Bachelor's of Science 0:03:49.880 --> 0:03:52.440 and I'm graduating with a hundred and thirty credits. Um, 0:03:52.480 --> 0:03:55.840 you only need one twenty to graduate, you know, It's good. 0:03:55.920 --> 0:03:58.640 So I've just been completely exhausted with everything and just 0:03:59.280 --> 0:04:01.960 finding out my next move career wise. That's been the 0:04:02.000 --> 0:04:04.520 scariest thing I think for most people. Were I gonna do? 0:04:04.640 --> 0:04:06.320 What am I gonna do? Now? Um? You know, I 0:04:06.440 --> 0:04:09.720 skipped I skipped school. My parents had a really bad 0:04:09.760 --> 0:04:12.520 hard ship and my dad had a stroke. I start 0:04:12.560 --> 0:04:15.160 working harder. Skip college just kind of found like it 0:04:15.200 --> 0:04:17.679 wasn't for me because especially the debt kind of equated 0:04:17.720 --> 0:04:20.320 it to the work that I'm in and would it 0:04:20.400 --> 0:04:23.039 pay off? And it ended up not. You know, I 0:04:23.040 --> 0:04:25.040 didn't need college for the skill that I have, but 0:04:25.400 --> 0:04:26.920 I had something that happened with me. I worked and 0:04:27.120 --> 0:04:32.000 fl I made me feel so small. Was it. UM. I. 0:04:32.520 --> 0:04:36.039 Now I work for a tech calecom company, so the 0:04:36.120 --> 0:04:39.400 vibe in the office is like super chill, like people 0:04:39.440 --> 0:04:42.720 have played office games then Google, Like everybody's all over 0:04:42.760 --> 0:04:45.600 the place like wild shit kind of thing. Um our 0:04:45.680 --> 0:04:47.800 CEO curses a lot, Like it's just kind of like 0:04:47.839 --> 0:04:49.560 that vibe. You know what I'm saying, Like this is bullshit, 0:04:49.680 --> 0:04:51.599 Like that's the kind of people make great money, but 0:04:51.600 --> 0:04:54.880 it's a very chill atmosphere. Sneakers, all of that. UM 0:04:55.000 --> 0:04:58.080 now top one of the top banks in the world. 0:04:58.400 --> 0:05:01.040 UM is one of my clients. I met with him them. 0:05:01.160 --> 0:05:04.560 UM got to the office, went super overboard with my outfit, 0:05:04.600 --> 0:05:07.080 even though I don't wear things like that every day. UM. 0:05:07.120 --> 0:05:09.719 I sat in there, did a whole Now we have 0:05:09.760 --> 0:05:12.039 a sales engineer that I can bring on my appointments, 0:05:12.040 --> 0:05:13.640 but I didn't bring him. I did it myself because 0:05:13.640 --> 0:05:16.600 I can speak to UM you know, speeds or their 0:05:16.720 --> 0:05:20.720 data or whatever. I did this whole thing, and I 0:05:20.800 --> 0:05:24.080 saw that they looked super impressed, and he says, now, 0:05:24.360 --> 0:05:26.200 I love it. I think we're ready to go forward 0:05:26.279 --> 0:05:28.360 with this. Blah blah blah. I just want to know, 0:05:28.640 --> 0:05:32.279 is there someone else who can come um, reiterate what 0:05:32.360 --> 0:05:34.360 you said for us? Is there a man that works 0:05:34.400 --> 0:05:37.760 in a different kind of I said, Um, I'm a 0:05:37.800 --> 0:05:40.640 little confused. I've been working for this company for five years. 0:05:40.960 --> 0:05:42.440 What do you mean? Is there someone else I could 0:05:42.440 --> 0:05:45.479 bring to reiterate I work for the company. My words 0:05:45.480 --> 0:05:47.200 should be gold. I mean, I'm putting it down on 0:05:47.279 --> 0:05:49.920 paper for you. What do you need is a sense security? No, 0:05:50.080 --> 0:05:52.359 I'm just saying you have another tech guy? Do you 0:05:52.400 --> 0:05:55.320 have a man? Essentially? He said it again, So what 0:05:55.400 --> 0:05:59.400 do I do? We have a someone that does implementation 0:05:59.400 --> 0:06:01.760 and deployment, so that will set up their cradle points, 0:06:01.800 --> 0:06:03.440 which is like your backup dad, to like set up 0:06:03.440 --> 0:06:07.520 all their ship name. Anyway, she's a female, black female, 0:06:07.560 --> 0:06:09.120 and I said, hey, can you come on an appointment 0:06:09.120 --> 0:06:11.560 with me? Got there and I said, I just wanted 0:06:11.600 --> 0:06:13.680 to know. I brought my tech guy. I wanted to 0:06:13.800 --> 0:06:16.839 fuck him up, bitch. I was looking at her. I'm like, 0:06:16.839 --> 0:06:19.960 come on with it, spit facts, bitch, and they were 0:06:20.000 --> 0:06:23.839 so uncomfortable, like completely, So I almost lost the steal. Now, 0:06:23.839 --> 0:06:25.800 this deal would have cost me what five G So 0:06:25.880 --> 0:06:28.640 I literally had to fold to make money, which was 0:06:28.720 --> 0:06:30.839 very against my pride and what I stand for. And 0:06:30.880 --> 0:06:32.440 I had to ask one of the sales engineer there 0:06:32.440 --> 0:06:33.520 was a man, if you could come help me, and 0:06:33.520 --> 0:06:35.000 I swear to God, got on the phone, got buddy 0:06:35.040 --> 0:06:36.800 buddy with him and it was done within fifteen minutes. 0:06:36.800 --> 0:06:38.240 And I've been working on the steal for six months 0:06:38.600 --> 0:06:41.240 and I was so fucked up over that to know 0:06:41.320 --> 0:06:44.080 that it took nothing, all of my time and my 0:06:44.200 --> 0:06:46.200 energy just for him to do me a favor and 0:06:46.200 --> 0:06:52.080 talk about some Yankees series. It's terrible, and I think, um, unfortunately, 0:06:52.080 --> 0:06:55.760 we're both going to deal with that, you being in 0:06:55.800 --> 0:06:58.119 a higher role, in a higher position as a woman, 0:06:58.520 --> 0:07:00.920 and me being in a male domin naded industry. I'm 0:07:00.920 --> 0:07:05.320 in finance and it's it's something to wear. They don't 0:07:05.360 --> 0:07:09.720 maybe look at us as even equal to men. We 0:07:09.760 --> 0:07:12.600 can do just a fields that men do better. There 0:07:12.600 --> 0:07:14.960 are no there there. I want a very few women 0:07:15.040 --> 0:07:17.080 in the office, to the point where one girl needed 0:07:17.160 --> 0:07:18.960 tamp on the other day. We didn't know each other's 0:07:19.040 --> 0:07:22.440 name and she's like, hey, I'm so I'm Laura, Like okay, 0:07:22.480 --> 0:07:25.160 and she's like I'm really really sorry. I just hey, 0:07:25.200 --> 0:07:26.480 I know we never speak. I need a tamplet I 0:07:26.480 --> 0:07:28.600 was like, girl, like, I mean, it's like that now. 0:07:28.600 --> 0:07:31.680 It is crazy because even just the word wall Street 0:07:32.520 --> 0:07:36.880 you think of men, and unfortunately, yeah, when you say 0:07:36.920 --> 0:07:38.880 Wall Street or this person works on Wall Street, you 0:07:38.920 --> 0:07:43.400 automatically put that to a white man. And so me 0:07:43.880 --> 0:07:48.160 entering this field and it's so competitive, it's so you know, 0:07:48.240 --> 0:07:51.160 and I'm definitely seen as the black female. So I'm 0:07:51.240 --> 0:07:53.480 at the bottom of the totem pole and so just 0:07:53.560 --> 0:07:56.320 getting respect from people because not only is it white men, 0:07:56.600 --> 0:08:01.360 it's Asians. They control this fucking field since they are 0:08:01.520 --> 0:08:05.800 and so it's me like, I'm feeling even less secure 0:08:05.840 --> 0:08:08.480 at work than I would about anything. It's never happened 0:08:08.480 --> 0:08:10.600 to me ever until these last few months. Um. I 0:08:10.640 --> 0:08:14.000 went to Nike and one of the vps I sat 0:08:14.120 --> 0:08:17.600 with was black and a woman, and I didn't even 0:08:17.640 --> 0:08:19.440 mean to make her feel uncomfortable, but I had to 0:08:19.440 --> 0:08:21.360 get it out. I was like, can I just say, like, 0:08:21.720 --> 0:08:23.560 when I saw the name Alex, I didn't think it 0:08:23.560 --> 0:08:25.080 was gonna be you. I didn't think it was gonna 0:08:25.080 --> 0:08:26.600 be you. I didn't think it was gonna look like you. 0:08:26.960 --> 0:08:29.480 Let alone like I and she just like laughed and 0:08:29.480 --> 0:08:31.280 she's like, yeah, I know everybody says that I love it. 0:08:31.320 --> 0:08:33.160 She's like, I don't put Atlexandra no more for a reason. 0:08:33.800 --> 0:08:37.520 And it felt good, like just so good, and I 0:08:37.600 --> 0:08:39.240 was just like, you know what, that'll be me right, 0:08:39.400 --> 0:08:45.480 but anyway, sorry, my period are you no? I actually 0:08:45.520 --> 0:08:48.079 just got off and so I'm in the phase right 0:08:48.080 --> 0:08:50.680 now where you just get off your period and you're like, 0:08:51.280 --> 0:08:54.040 I want dick so bad, and it's just like, however, 0:08:54.080 --> 0:08:56.839 I don't want to give pussy to just anybody. So 0:08:57.160 --> 0:08:59.880 I literally Teeter Todd her last night, um my app 0:09:00.000 --> 0:09:02.880 And this thing has been going well, not so well. 0:09:02.960 --> 0:09:05.480 Well basically in the last two and a half months, 0:09:05.520 --> 0:09:07.520 I've had one penis. One guy did come to town 0:09:07.520 --> 0:09:09.959 and I kind of gave in. But in two and 0:09:10.000 --> 0:09:14.080 a half months, I've had sex once, and so even mentally, 0:09:14.440 --> 0:09:20.240 I'm just I am by the way he told the 0:09:20.240 --> 0:09:22.680 other day, like you captive for the first seven days, 0:09:22.920 --> 0:09:24.680 I said, what happened after the next seven days? Like 0:09:24.679 --> 0:09:27.320 I'll go slow, but I'm so hyped and like we 0:09:27.400 --> 0:09:29.319 have to fux so much because I'm going to Tokyo 0:09:29.360 --> 0:09:31.760 soon and it's like I have to get all that dick. 0:09:32.000 --> 0:09:33.880 I'm not even used to having dick every It's been 0:09:33.880 --> 0:09:35.599 so long since he's been living in New York that 0:09:35.720 --> 0:09:37.280 I forgot what it's like to get sucked every other 0:09:37.400 --> 0:09:40.760 It's so bad. My roommate, um, I was watching TV 0:09:40.840 --> 0:09:43.280 last night and doing homework and she came and put 0:09:43.280 --> 0:09:46.160 the lock on the door. It was like, m I 0:09:46.360 --> 0:09:48.360 remember when guys were in and out of this door, 0:09:48.679 --> 0:09:54.400 and I literally don't have company anymore. She thing, gotta 0:09:54.440 --> 0:09:59.160 be fucking cleaned every couple of days. I'm having the 0:09:59.240 --> 0:10:03.679 plummet issues. I like whatever, So long story short, this 0:10:03.679 --> 0:10:05.920 thin coming home in a week, and I was like, wow, 0:10:05.960 --> 0:10:08.600 I really got to like clean up, like I gotta 0:10:08.679 --> 0:10:10.760 fucking fix all this ship that's going wrong, Like somebody's 0:10:10.760 --> 0:10:12.600 about to start being in my house, Like bro, when 0:10:12.600 --> 0:10:16.000 you are getting ship falls apart. Just like Lead the 0:10:16.000 --> 0:10:18.199 Lips said, I have become a season the whole. I 0:10:18.240 --> 0:10:20.240 don't want you to see what my room looks like. 0:10:21.040 --> 0:10:22.520 You look at my arm pick. Your arm pick could 0:10:22.640 --> 0:10:25.120 use a razor. Actually right, it's pretty bad. But yeah, no, 0:10:25.240 --> 0:10:27.679 I'm the same way my room can go. Jay's with 0:10:27.800 --> 0:10:30.040 being filthy. Jesus Christ, when I had company coming into 0:10:30.080 --> 0:10:34.000 that that ship, stay clean, man, because I'm just like, 0:10:34.480 --> 0:10:37.959 it's my clothes, but like my pussies clean, but my 0:10:38.080 --> 0:10:43.000 roommate you feel that's really I don't even know whereas dirt. 0:10:43.040 --> 0:10:45.200 I'm just saying there's a mass, there's mass, which there 0:10:45.320 --> 0:10:47.679 is a difference between You're not gonna find plates and 0:10:47.760 --> 0:10:49.760 bowls in my room, but you are going to find 0:10:49.880 --> 0:10:53.480 piles and piles of clothes and clean. Follow up, son, 0:10:53.640 --> 0:10:57.120 you know how much it is on Netflix right now? Bitch? Anyway, anyways, 0:10:57.160 --> 0:10:58.760 that's how you know we didn't get it. But how 0:10:58.840 --> 0:11:02.040 much is on Netflix? That's how you know you're not 0:11:02.080 --> 0:11:04.160 getting Which when I can't find a new series to 0:11:04.160 --> 0:11:06.320 watch on Netflix because I don't watch it all, that's 0:11:06.360 --> 0:11:08.040 when you know what's bad. But let's go ahead and 0:11:08.080 --> 0:11:11.599 get into our cheek. I picked this one because this 0:11:11.679 --> 0:11:15.200 is what this is. I have two six ft tall 0:11:15.280 --> 0:11:18.880 mirrors facing my bed in a very tiny New York apartment. UM, 0:11:18.920 --> 0:11:20.760 and I realized there was a fetch for this. It's 0:11:20.840 --> 0:11:30.800 called um cataphilia catatron to failure. We cannot beat it 0:11:30.920 --> 0:11:39.880 up that bad. Let's see it is catapla catron. It's okay, 0:11:40.120 --> 0:11:47.880 and it basically cataptron. Bitch, it's a great word. Look, 0:11:47.920 --> 0:11:49.719 I speak Anglo. That's all I got. I was a 0:11:49.720 --> 0:11:52.480 spelling b champ two. This is embarrassment, have been Excuse me? 0:11:52.520 --> 0:11:57.040 Can have a definition again? What is the Latin? What's 0:11:57.080 --> 0:12:01.800 the origin? Okay, So it may include I'm sorry, it's 0:12:01.960 --> 0:12:04.319 it's a I can't even talk, not because I'm so 0:12:04.520 --> 0:12:07.480 fair I. Basically, it's a fetish for in front of 0:12:07.520 --> 0:12:12.560 a mirror. It could include activities as masturbation, um, orgies 0:12:12.559 --> 0:12:15.400 in front of mirrors, enacting a stripping fetish in front 0:12:15.400 --> 0:12:17.000 of mirror, doing anything in front of mirrors that will 0:12:17.040 --> 0:12:21.040 sexually turn you on. UM. Many porno film show porn stars, 0:12:21.080 --> 0:12:22.920 sucking in front of mirrors because a lot of people 0:12:23.000 --> 0:12:25.319 enjoy doing it. Um. You know they have mirrors in 0:12:25.320 --> 0:12:27.640 their bedrooms just so they can watch themselves, touch themselves 0:12:27.760 --> 0:12:31.320 or whatever. It's for personal enjoyment. Um. On a deeper level, 0:12:31.360 --> 0:12:33.040 this is according to Wikipedia, it could relate to the 0:12:33.080 --> 0:12:36.360 person's need to reflect and critique themselves. Oh wow, um 0:12:36.800 --> 0:12:41.199 when when me and seven we're fucking. Um. We actually 0:12:41.240 --> 0:12:42.960 started in the living room a lot, because he would 0:12:43.760 --> 0:12:45.679 come in the house, take off his box and literally 0:12:45.679 --> 0:12:48.720 sit on my couch like just naked when his fine 0:12:48.760 --> 0:12:55.840 as anyway, they don't know like he really he's really famous. 0:12:56.520 --> 0:12:58.880 He's really famous to me he has Actually he popped 0:12:58.920 --> 0:13:03.319 out on my fucking screen watch listen Loki and this 0:13:03.520 --> 0:13:10.120 is I was like, wow, I told you you could Jesus. 0:13:10.280 --> 0:13:16.240 But anyways about that because when he was on Baller, okay, damn, 0:13:16.559 --> 0:13:19.840 you know, really trying not to be the evo hole anyway, 0:13:19.960 --> 0:13:22.800 lipstick alleys, some girls like, oh, we relatable because I 0:13:22.880 --> 0:13:24.880 go through heartbreak two or so ship she said, I'm like, 0:13:24.920 --> 0:13:27.160 I'm just a crying ass, just the crying ass. So 0:13:27.280 --> 0:13:29.760 I just don't talk about my feelings as much. But no, 0:13:29.880 --> 0:13:32.840 so seven used to come over. We would He always 0:13:32.880 --> 0:13:34.719 liked to roll a blunt and start in the living room. 0:13:34.720 --> 0:13:37.320 And I have this big, huge, like six ft mirror 0:13:37.360 --> 0:13:41.199 in my living room, so before before I can't want 0:13:43.400 --> 0:13:45.640 with the big board is like one not and I know, um, 0:13:46.120 --> 0:13:48.160 but anyways, I have that in my living room. And 0:13:48.280 --> 0:13:50.199 before we would even make it to the bedroom, he 0:13:50.240 --> 0:13:54.640 would like to see me on my knees giving him 0:13:55.120 --> 0:13:57.400 giving him head in the mirror and then he would 0:13:57.400 --> 0:14:00.000 slightly bend me over on my attument in my living 0:14:00.080 --> 0:14:02.800 room just to look at me because we are already looking. 0:14:03.320 --> 0:14:06.160 He know, he find I want to look the thing 0:14:06.240 --> 0:14:08.400 with the mirror right like you're looking at the person, 0:14:08.520 --> 0:14:10.199 do it. Why do you need to see it twice? 0:14:11.000 --> 0:14:12.920 What is the thing? I don't. I don't know it 0:14:13.000 --> 0:14:16.120 has because you're sit you see yourself. It's definitely more 0:14:16.200 --> 0:14:18.599 seeing yourself. I'm not gonna lie. I'll look in the 0:14:18.640 --> 0:14:20.720 mirror and bitch a bitch starts stuck in her stomach 0:14:20.880 --> 0:14:23.160 because I want to make sure everything look good. So 0:14:23.280 --> 0:14:25.560 when I've been over, I've noticed myself like, oh, just 0:14:25.800 --> 0:14:28.320 let me arch more, let me like. It's making your 0:14:28.360 --> 0:14:30.800 stuff second up front, only with my hair and my makeup? 0:14:30.880 --> 0:14:34.160 Is that do you like to hair? I've never masturbated 0:14:34.240 --> 0:14:37.760 in the mirror. I masturbate in the dark while watching porns. 0:14:37.800 --> 0:14:39.120 So I don't think there's a way to look at 0:14:39.160 --> 0:14:40.640 myself in the mirror. But I think it's more so 0:14:40.800 --> 0:14:43.160 people wanting to see themselves in that. For sure, I 0:14:43.280 --> 0:14:45.560 felt sexy looking at myself. Are watching like a video, 0:14:46.200 --> 0:14:47.960 I mean for me and love her boy fucking videos. 0:14:47.960 --> 0:14:49.320 I like it, But I guess that's not that doesn't 0:14:49.320 --> 0:14:52.880 really count. But yeah, it's funny because I'm on this 0:14:53.360 --> 0:14:56.120 my wild lifestyle app, and there's a ton of swinger 0:14:56.160 --> 0:14:57.720 one that lethal lifts are talking about that. Yes, and 0:14:57.760 --> 0:15:01.200 there's a ton of pictures where there's mirrors on the ceiling. 0:15:01.720 --> 0:15:03.640 That's when you know it's a little there's a lot 0:15:03.680 --> 0:15:05.600 of those that used to be a thing in the nineties. 0:15:05.600 --> 0:15:07.440 I think I don't think many people put mirrors on 0:15:07.480 --> 0:15:11.320 the ceilings anymore now. So, UM, I guess we could 0:15:11.360 --> 0:15:14.040 go ahead and get into mail. You want to do 0:15:14.120 --> 0:15:16.840 homemail first, Let's do homemail. So this is from a 0:15:16.840 --> 0:15:19.360 girl on Instagram. UM has to be anonymous. She said, 0:15:20.240 --> 0:15:22.040 I have this friend. She's gorgeous in every sense of 0:15:22.080 --> 0:15:24.560 the word, and I find her extremely attractive. She's expressed 0:15:24.560 --> 0:15:26.960 to me that she's never been with another girl before. 0:15:27.000 --> 0:15:28.880 But it's curious she's been hitting on me lately. I 0:15:29.000 --> 0:15:30.360 hit on her a lot. I'm not sure if she 0:15:30.440 --> 0:15:32.320 catches me. But the other day she made it clear 0:15:32.360 --> 0:15:33.760 that she's with the ships as much as I am, 0:15:34.040 --> 0:15:35.840 and I'd love to do some very disgusting things. So 0:15:35.920 --> 0:15:38.920 if I'm scared too in the friendship, what should I do? UM? 0:15:39.120 --> 0:15:41.680 So we've talked about this a lot of times as 0:15:41.720 --> 0:15:43.800 far as maybe sleeping with friends, and it's something that 0:15:43.920 --> 0:15:46.560 I've done often. Um, I feel like I've slept with 0:15:47.520 --> 0:15:50.080 more friends than I haven't. I think maybe the closer 0:15:50.200 --> 0:15:53.000 my friends are, or the ones who I'm not sexually 0:15:53.040 --> 0:15:55.080 attracted to. I don't think we have had sex, but 0:15:55.200 --> 0:15:57.240 the ones where a bitch. If we getting drunk, we 0:15:57.280 --> 0:15:59.320 feeling on each other, we're making out. I think I've 0:15:59.320 --> 0:16:01.760 definitely wait. We gotta call, y'all. I think you want 0:16:02.240 --> 0:16:07.160 I think you'll want to hear this her mom. We're recording. Mom, 0:16:11.880 --> 0:16:18.880 say hi to the listeners. To the listeners. All right, listeners, 0:16:18.960 --> 0:16:21.160 I hopefully out there getting your sex on to the 0:16:21.360 --> 0:16:25.920 Sunday Red after church? Did you just come from church? 0:16:28.560 --> 0:16:30.040 Did you call me to show me that your makeup 0:16:30.080 --> 0:16:33.360 looks all about to say you'll make up beat Miss Jewel? No, 0:16:33.760 --> 0:16:36.600 not at all. Please all right, love him out. We'll 0:16:36.600 --> 0:16:40.960 talk to you later. God everyone, you guys love her. 0:16:41.160 --> 0:16:44.080 She's coming back. She's coming back, y'all. But yeah, I 0:16:44.160 --> 0:16:46.400 don't think it would make the situation awkward for her 0:16:46.480 --> 0:16:48.040 to have sex with this friend. I feel like if 0:16:48.080 --> 0:16:52.640 her friend is reciprocating the flirtatiousness and maybe open to it. 0:16:52.880 --> 0:16:54.320 I don't think it'll make it awkward at all. What 0:16:54.360 --> 0:16:56.880 about you, um, So Mandy, you have slept with a 0:16:56.920 --> 0:16:58.800 lot of friends. I've only slept with one that i'd like. 0:16:58.880 --> 0:17:00.560 Still talk to tu this day and was going to say, 0:17:00.560 --> 0:17:02.880 I think it is it would be awkward. But if 0:17:02.920 --> 0:17:05.199 you've already got an attraction, you'all are making jokes, then 0:17:05.240 --> 0:17:06.800 you have to get it over with because to me, 0:17:07.200 --> 0:17:10.280 that's awkward. Learning too much and we know we're friends, 0:17:10.280 --> 0:17:12.040 we don't know what to do. That's fucking awkward. I 0:17:12.080 --> 0:17:15.080 couldn't do it. I agree. So, um, I guess so 0:17:15.840 --> 0:17:17.879 for what we would give advice to any of the 0:17:17.960 --> 0:17:21.200 listeners may be going through this, maybe considering moving things 0:17:21.240 --> 0:17:23.560 sexually with a friend. Um, I think it's something to 0:17:23.640 --> 0:17:25.720 talk about. Oh I don't know how to do it? 0:17:26.080 --> 0:17:27.760 Oh go ahead, how do you do it? So you 0:17:27.880 --> 0:17:32.000 get drunk together? You love getting drunk because it makes 0:17:32.040 --> 0:17:34.800 it easier because for me, when I have those hidden feelings, 0:17:34.880 --> 0:17:36.720 like I feel like the only excusable thing if you 0:17:36.760 --> 0:17:40.080 get rejected. So even if you don't want to get 0:17:40.080 --> 0:17:42.320 to weight, I'm not even saying get I have to 0:17:42.520 --> 0:17:45.080 drinks and act drunk just so you can take Oh 0:17:45.119 --> 0:17:46.639 my god, let's take a picture of kissing and be 0:17:46.680 --> 0:17:50.120 so cumpe and then you'll keep going, Oh that's my line, 0:17:50.240 --> 0:17:54.120 that's your mine. Yeah, okay, us should work, says Let's 0:17:54.119 --> 0:17:55.880 take a picture we kiss and just know you're gonna 0:17:55.960 --> 0:17:59.919 keep kissing after that picture of snaps the horrible descision 0:18:00.000 --> 0:18:01.439 as we gotta know, we gotta hurry a little bit 0:18:01.720 --> 0:18:03.760 before we get into the horrible decision. Let's take a break, 0:18:04.000 --> 0:18:06.119 um for one of our sponsors. Oh my bad, you 0:18:08.359 --> 0:18:11.680 take the attention away, so we'll be right back. This 0:18:11.920 --> 0:18:16.359 episode is sponsored by say Less with the Culture Podcast. 0:18:16.760 --> 0:18:18.640 Are you guys looking for a new podcast to add 0:18:18.680 --> 0:18:20.639 to your list? Not a whole new one, but you 0:18:20.680 --> 0:18:23.199 know what I'm saying, This is an addition, just an 0:18:23.200 --> 0:18:25.879 additional one. We have found a new one for you 0:18:26.040 --> 0:18:30.119 to check out. 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Um. 0:19:46.080 --> 0:19:50.200 Mandy found this article on a site called aidan neil Um. 0:19:50.280 --> 0:19:52.240 We'll posted I guess um, so you guys to see it, 0:19:52.320 --> 0:19:54.119 but it's nine times you're in a situation ship. And 0:19:54.240 --> 0:19:57.720 they describe it as basically a pseudo relationship, a placebo 0:19:57.840 --> 0:20:01.040 masking itself as a formative relationship. Smells like a relationship, 0:20:01.200 --> 0:20:03.280 sort of looks like a relationship. It may even feel 0:20:03.320 --> 0:20:06.119 like one, but it's not. Urban Dictionary describes it as 0:20:06.119 --> 0:20:10.360 a problematic relationship characterized by one or more unresolved interpersonal conflicts, 0:20:10.440 --> 0:20:12.760 usually confused with dating. Now, I just want to say 0:20:12.800 --> 0:20:15.840 really quickly, I, before reading this article, have always thought 0:20:15.880 --> 0:20:19.200