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Speaker 1: Hi, ladies, welcome to Horrible Decisions today. Our episode is well,

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Speaker 1: Fabiola wrote in UM to sponsor the show because I've

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Speaker 1: when I go on there and I'll like write down

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Speaker 1: the products on YouTube. I took one list to Sepphora

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Speaker 1: nine dollars Anastasia. UM just all that ship together, like bro. No, hey, guys,

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Speaker 1: welcome to the show. Today episode was also brought to UM.

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Speaker 1: One of our listeners zindaw. He has no ad or nothing.

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Speaker 1: He just literally supported our podcast. UM. He paid for

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Speaker 1: today's episode and the next three. He said, how can

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Speaker 1: I support you? UM? So, I'm very grateful he went.

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Speaker 1: He went ahead and set us money on UM the

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Speaker 1: ahead and drop us some moula on the cash APT.

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Speaker 1: Horrible decisions. I appreciate what you're doing that for us. UM. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: what have I've been up to. I've actually been rather

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Speaker 1: rather fucking busy. UM So, no I have. I've been

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Speaker 1: pretty overwhelmed. I fucking hate you know. But for you

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Speaker 1: like it's where I want to be UM career wise. UM.

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Speaker 1: So I'm on a team full of introverts and I

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Speaker 1: to tons and tons of conferences and career affairs UM,

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Speaker 1: meeting with different firms. So I was just at one

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Speaker 1: you know, if I want to do public private, it's

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Speaker 1: just draining. Right now. I'm in my last semester. I

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I had no It's fine. It's just

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Speaker 1: that I graduate in December. And for those who know,

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Speaker 1: I'm a non traditional student, So nontraditional student is I

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Speaker 1: So I've just been completely exhausted with everything and just

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Speaker 1: finding out my next move career wise. That's been the

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Speaker 1: What am I gonna do? Now? Um? You know, I

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Speaker 1: Now I work for a tech calecom company, so the

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Speaker 1: UM is one of my clients. I met with him them.

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Speaker 1: UM got to the office, went super overboard with my outfit,

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Speaker 1: is there someone else who can come um, reiterate what

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Speaker 1: It's so bad. My roommate, um, I was watching TV

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Speaker 1: and I literally don't have company anymore. She thing, gotta

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Speaker 1: Lips said, I have become a season the whole. I

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Speaker 1: Mandy found this article on a site called aidan neil Um.

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Speaker 1: We'll posted I guess um, so you guys to see it,

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Speaker 1: because I could somewhat agree to that as well on

424
00:21:26,280 --> 00:21:29,119
Speaker 1: my own terms. Yeah, because I think we've talked about UM.

425
00:21:29,480 --> 00:21:32,240
Speaker 1: Even when it came to loverboy, you stressing, I'm I

426
00:21:32,280 --> 00:21:34,080
Speaker 1: don't want to talk to him unless I have this title,

427
00:21:34,119 --> 00:21:36,440
Speaker 1: and this was maybe three months ago, but you were yeah,

428
00:21:36,520 --> 00:21:39,080
Speaker 1: but you were literally like, I don't feel it's mutual

429
00:21:39,080 --> 00:21:41,400
Speaker 1: because he won't give me this title or it could

430
00:21:41,440 --> 00:21:43,680
Speaker 1: be the UM. And one of our listeners even said,

431
00:21:43,960 --> 00:21:48,400
Speaker 1: one settles for this relationship UM basically because they don't

432
00:21:48,440 --> 00:21:50,040
Speaker 1: want to leave the person. So if this is all

433
00:21:50,080 --> 00:21:52,000
Speaker 1: the person is willing to give them, they're willing to

434
00:21:52,080 --> 00:21:54,080
Speaker 1: accept it and to me, that is a situation ship.

435
00:21:54,320 --> 00:21:57,680
Speaker 1: That's where I think was too until I think the

436
00:21:57,800 --> 00:22:00,159
Speaker 1: only way I got out of my situation ship was

437
00:22:00,240 --> 00:22:03,520
Speaker 1: when UM, well I'll get into it quickly. But I

438
00:22:03,600 --> 00:22:07,000
Speaker 1: got sucked up on Friday night or Thursday night. UM

439
00:22:08,440 --> 00:22:11,080
Speaker 1: woke up that morning and called his phone and was like,

440
00:22:11,280 --> 00:22:13,879
Speaker 1: you listen, Um, I'll just come with it. And he

441
00:22:13,960 --> 00:22:16,480
Speaker 1: didn't even know, Like I, I don't even know where

442
00:22:16,480 --> 00:22:18,280
Speaker 1: it came from. And I was like, look, I just

443
00:22:18,400 --> 00:22:20,760
Speaker 1: need to know that what I've told you I've wanted

444
00:22:20,800 --> 00:22:22,359
Speaker 1: we're still going in that direction and if we're not,

445
00:22:22,480 --> 00:22:25,399
Speaker 1: we can still fucking kick it. But we're doing a

446
00:22:25,480 --> 00:22:27,840
Speaker 1: lot more of committed things and we don't have a title,

447
00:22:27,920 --> 00:22:30,040
Speaker 1: and I'm getting confused because I need to know if

448
00:22:30,040 --> 00:22:31,680
Speaker 1: there's a great area on my feelings. So I just

449
00:22:31,720 --> 00:22:34,440
Speaker 1: felt like we shouldn't do this, and he was like,

450
00:22:34,880 --> 00:22:38,080
Speaker 1: bitch or tripping, chill the funk out. Everything is fine,

451
00:22:38,320 --> 00:22:41,080
Speaker 1: you're freaking out, but but nothing changed. And I feel

452
00:22:41,119 --> 00:22:44,320
Speaker 1: like we have comments about that too, where people hop

453
00:22:44,359 --> 00:22:48,480
Speaker 1: into situation ships hoping one day he agrees to have

454
00:22:48,600 --> 00:22:51,640
Speaker 1: the relationship, and sometimes that doesn't come. We had right,

455
00:22:52,000 --> 00:22:54,359
Speaker 1: and I think what the thing would would happen with me.

456
00:22:54,600 --> 00:22:56,080
Speaker 1: And why he was telling me I was tripping is

457
00:22:56,160 --> 00:23:00,560
Speaker 1: because we decided a while ago that we're not going

458
00:23:00,600 --> 00:23:02,760
Speaker 1: to know a title, and I told he when he

459
00:23:02,840 --> 00:23:04,840
Speaker 1: asked me what I needed, I said, I need things

460
00:23:04,920 --> 00:23:07,320
Speaker 1: that showed me we're moving forward. Whether it's blending families,

461
00:23:07,880 --> 00:23:11,280
Speaker 1: going like vacationing together, holidays, whatever it is, knowing that

462
00:23:11,359 --> 00:23:13,080
Speaker 1: we're more involved in each other's lives. I'm fine with

463
00:23:13,160 --> 00:23:16,080
Speaker 1: that without the title. And now I'm getting it right

464
00:23:16,160 --> 00:23:19,720
Speaker 1: and I'm complaining. I'll say that those things also hold

465
00:23:19,920 --> 00:23:24,760
Speaker 1: value to um certain people, So those same things may

466
00:23:24,800 --> 00:23:28,160
Speaker 1: not mean anything to the next person. Because those girlfriends

467
00:23:28,200 --> 00:23:30,520
Speaker 1: that have never met her friends, they don't go anywhere

468
00:23:30,560 --> 00:23:32,399
Speaker 1: with you. Well, there's that, but not only that. Like

469
00:23:32,840 --> 00:23:34,719
Speaker 1: my my friend was, she was with her in her

470
00:23:34,760 --> 00:23:37,879
Speaker 1: situation ship, she met the whole family. He didn't mean nobody,

471
00:23:38,200 --> 00:23:42,480
Speaker 1: but when we went to the funeral, we realized that

472
00:23:43,119 --> 00:23:46,080
Speaker 1: all of these women had met the family members. So

473
00:23:46,359 --> 00:23:48,760
Speaker 1: it didn't hold as much weight to him as maybe

474
00:23:48,800 --> 00:23:52,000
Speaker 1: it would to the next female. That I'm meaning the family.

475
00:23:52,080 --> 00:23:54,320
Speaker 1: That means where something, and I think it also speaks

476
00:23:54,320 --> 00:23:56,680
Speaker 1: to how fast it takes. I've had guys that have

477
00:23:56,760 --> 00:23:59,000
Speaker 1: introduced me to family way too quick. Well, but that's

478
00:23:59,040 --> 00:24:01,439
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. So to some people, different things mean

479
00:24:01,480 --> 00:24:04,679
Speaker 1: different things. Different things mean different things. And so I guess, um,

480
00:24:05,200 --> 00:24:07,560
Speaker 1: where I'm at right now with Lawyer Bay is not

481
00:24:07,920 --> 00:24:10,359
Speaker 1: entering into a situation ship because I have entered so

482
00:24:10,440 --> 00:24:14,400
Speaker 1: many situation ships thinking eventually it will become a relationship.

483
00:24:14,720 --> 00:24:17,840
Speaker 1: And because we got so stagnant and content with where

484
00:24:17,920 --> 00:24:20,000
Speaker 1: we were, there was no need to push it any further.

485
00:24:20,080 --> 00:24:22,280
Speaker 1: And so that's what I'm trying to send. The way

486
00:24:22,359 --> 00:24:25,000
Speaker 1: that I had entered into situationships in the past was

487
00:24:25,359 --> 00:24:27,720
Speaker 1: I never spoke my mind. I just like that phone

488
00:24:27,760 --> 00:24:31,280
Speaker 1: call I made where I needed that reassurance, like, Okay, Um,

489
00:24:32,280 --> 00:24:33,960
Speaker 1: I have never said what I wanted before because I

490
00:24:34,040 --> 00:24:35,920
Speaker 1: was afraid that ultimatums would push people away. But I

491
00:24:35,920 --> 00:24:37,720
Speaker 1: realized I'm a grown as bucket my moment, I'm gonna

492
00:24:37,720 --> 00:24:39,280
Speaker 1: be thirty soon. Like if I don't tell you what

493
00:24:39,320 --> 00:24:42,000
Speaker 1: I want, like, we'll never get it. So we're gonna

494
00:24:42,080 --> 00:24:46,480
Speaker 1: go ahead, and um, you want to do that. I

495
00:24:46,600 --> 00:24:49,200
Speaker 1: really like what some of them said, um, because some

496
00:24:49,280 --> 00:24:50,840
Speaker 1: of them are argumentative. I just want to kind of

497
00:24:50,880 --> 00:24:52,720
Speaker 1: read through the ones that we have on our page.

498
00:24:52,760 --> 00:24:54,240
Speaker 1: I know you had a good one on yours, but

499
00:24:54,359 --> 00:24:58,000
Speaker 1: just because everybody thinks that's something different. One girl said

500
00:24:58,000 --> 00:25:00,400
Speaker 1: it's all the drama of a relationship with the title.

501
00:25:00,400 --> 00:25:02,280
Speaker 1: I got to disagree with that because I don't really

502
00:25:02,320 --> 00:25:05,440
Speaker 1: have drama. A situation Allison Taylor says a situation ship

503
00:25:05,520 --> 00:25:08,160
Speaker 1: was when there's no commitment because the one person doesn't

504
00:25:08,200 --> 00:25:09,840
Speaker 1: want to take it to the next level, but you'll

505
00:25:09,840 --> 00:25:12,640
Speaker 1: still messing around. You fight like it's a relationship. Somebod

506
00:25:12,680 --> 00:25:15,720
Speaker 1: y'all still mess with other people. There's always drama. Um,

507
00:25:17,320 --> 00:25:20,320
Speaker 1: let's see the Kyante show. When a person wants to

508
00:25:20,400 --> 00:25:22,840
Speaker 1: give you them, you to give them your time, energy

509
00:25:22,880 --> 00:25:25,560
Speaker 1: and attention, but not be exclusive. And if you make

510
00:25:25,600 --> 00:25:27,760
Speaker 1: it known to other potentials that you're available, that person

511
00:25:27,800 --> 00:25:31,160
Speaker 1: gets mad, knocks like a toddler. Bit saved. But if

512
00:25:31,200 --> 00:25:32,920
Speaker 1: you find out he's talking other women, that's supposed to

513
00:25:32,920 --> 00:25:34,760
Speaker 1: be okay because you're not his girlfriend. Okay, ran over.

514
00:25:34,880 --> 00:25:37,200
Speaker 1: Bit you feeling it? Youre really feeling that. I like

515
00:25:37,320 --> 00:25:40,200
Speaker 1: that one when one person wants to have loyalty from

516
00:25:40,200 --> 00:25:43,600
Speaker 1: the other while giving only a portion. Yet someone on

517
00:25:43,720 --> 00:25:46,920
Speaker 1: mind set, just like the whole, but they come home

518
00:25:47,000 --> 00:25:49,280
Speaker 1: to me statement it's all b s. Everybody wants to

519
00:25:49,320 --> 00:25:51,440
Speaker 1: be grown in an adult until it's really time to

520
00:25:51,480 --> 00:25:53,800
Speaker 1: be grown and an adult. Um. And I think it's

521
00:25:53,840 --> 00:25:57,240
Speaker 1: more so it's it's the commitment. UM. And it's hard

522
00:25:57,280 --> 00:25:59,720
Speaker 1: for us to discuss this and such because you do

523
00:26:00,040 --> 00:26:02,639
Speaker 1: even open relationships, and so I feel like maybe this

524
00:26:02,880 --> 00:26:05,760
Speaker 1: isn't tied to that because a lot of people assume

525
00:26:05,920 --> 00:26:09,760
Speaker 1: that they're not committing because they don't want to be monogamous. UM.

526
00:26:09,920 --> 00:26:12,720
Speaker 1: And yeah, because my commitment in my current relationship we've

527
00:26:12,760 --> 00:26:15,360
Speaker 1: discussed is for our emotions. A lot of times when

528
00:26:15,359 --> 00:26:17,120
Speaker 1: I go on dates, still say things like don't fall

529
00:26:17,119 --> 00:26:19,840
Speaker 1: in love if there's a rule or something, so like,

530
00:26:19,920 --> 00:26:21,760
Speaker 1: I think that the commitment is based on what you're

531
00:26:21,880 --> 00:26:25,520
Speaker 1: asking for. So what I want to do for this episode, UM,

532
00:26:25,680 --> 00:26:27,840
Speaker 1: I do want to shout out um shout out aiden

533
00:26:28,040 --> 00:26:31,120
Speaker 1: Neil dot com one more time because they actually compiled

534
00:26:31,200 --> 00:26:34,520
Speaker 1: a list of nine ways to know that you're in

535
00:26:34,560 --> 00:26:36,520
Speaker 1: a situation ship and I want you guys to know

536
00:26:36,600 --> 00:26:38,199
Speaker 1: you don't need to put yourself in a box. All

537
00:26:38,359 --> 00:26:40,119
Speaker 1: nine of these do not have to apply to you.

538
00:26:40,600 --> 00:26:43,080
Speaker 1: You can disagree, but we kind of want to talk about,

539
00:26:43,280 --> 00:26:45,760
Speaker 1: um these things, maybe put our little insight on it,

540
00:26:45,960 --> 00:26:48,680
Speaker 1: um and get some feedback from you guys. So the

541
00:26:48,960 --> 00:26:51,560
Speaker 1: first and I think the most important aspect of a

542
00:26:51,680 --> 00:26:55,359
Speaker 1: situation ship is that you don't have a title. UM.

543
00:26:55,800 --> 00:26:58,320
Speaker 1: And it was funny because when we read through these,

544
00:26:58,520 --> 00:27:03,000
Speaker 1: essentially Weezy was just like, well, isn't this friends with benefits?

545
00:27:03,359 --> 00:27:05,960
Speaker 1: And the first thing Crystal said when I said that

546
00:27:06,280 --> 00:27:08,639
Speaker 1: she was just like, friends with Benefits is a title?

547
00:27:09,080 --> 00:27:11,919
Speaker 1: You know that that's what you guys are, So friends

548
00:27:11,960 --> 00:27:13,600
Speaker 1: with Benefits is a title? And I don't think this

549
00:27:13,680 --> 00:27:16,119
Speaker 1: falls into that because to me, UM, some a lot

550
00:27:16,160 --> 00:27:17,720
Speaker 1: of things in this list. Before we tell you, I

551
00:27:17,840 --> 00:27:20,000
Speaker 1: just want to say it's um, seems like a lot

552
00:27:20,040 --> 00:27:25,960
Speaker 1: of hiding and to me, a situation ship what I

553
00:27:26,040 --> 00:27:27,479
Speaker 1: thought it was. I thought I was in one kind

554
00:27:27,480 --> 00:27:30,680
Speaker 1: of until I read this is just no titles. But

555
00:27:30,840 --> 00:27:33,120
Speaker 1: this is like a lot of like it gets in depth.

556
00:27:33,320 --> 00:27:35,440
Speaker 1: Yeah it does, and I think it's cool. So the

557
00:27:35,720 --> 00:27:38,600
Speaker 1: second one, UM, and I think you don't have a title.

558
00:27:38,640 --> 00:27:41,439
Speaker 1: The first one is this one. It's really good. UM.

559
00:27:41,800 --> 00:27:44,320
Speaker 1: Do you want to read this one? So? Um, you

560
00:27:44,520 --> 00:27:47,280
Speaker 1: have a half a man is better than no man thoughts.

561
00:27:47,400 --> 00:27:50,840
Speaker 1: I would love this one because so many women, a

562
00:27:50,880 --> 00:27:53,920
Speaker 1: lot of our listeners specifically, would rather be in a

563
00:27:54,040 --> 00:27:57,160
Speaker 1: situation ship than have nobody at all because they feel

564
00:27:57,200 --> 00:27:59,160
Speaker 1: like they need somebody read it. In other words, you're

565
00:27:59,240 --> 00:28:01,080
Speaker 1: just in this because lonely at the minute, or you're

566
00:28:01,080 --> 00:28:05,120
Speaker 1: waiting till something better comes along. I think I was there, um,

567
00:28:05,760 --> 00:28:08,600
Speaker 1: maybe right before this last trip to Europe to see

568
00:28:08,640 --> 00:28:12,000
Speaker 1: lover boy, because I was like, I know him, intiment

569
00:28:12,040 --> 00:28:13,520
Speaker 1: noise into me, but where is this really going? And

570
00:28:13,600 --> 00:28:17,840
Speaker 1: not until that reassurance can I I said, Okay, I'm

571
00:28:17,920 --> 00:28:19,680
Speaker 1: just in a place where I have a new age

572
00:28:19,720 --> 00:28:22,960
Speaker 1: relationship where we don't know what to call what we

573
00:28:23,080 --> 00:28:25,480
Speaker 1: do and if I'm happy and I don't feel like

574
00:28:25,560 --> 00:28:27,720
Speaker 1: I have half a man at all, if I'm happy,

575
00:28:27,960 --> 00:28:30,440
Speaker 1: do I need societal pressures to make it? Do I

576
00:28:30,600 --> 00:28:34,440
Speaker 1: need GFBF? Do I need it? I don't know it's

577
00:28:34,480 --> 00:28:39,480
Speaker 1: it's it's more so do I need that? In a relationshipbook? Um?

578
00:28:40,760 --> 00:28:45,480
Speaker 1: And again, I don't want to directly correlate each of

579
00:28:45,560 --> 00:28:48,760
Speaker 1: these two our specific relationships because I know so many

580
00:28:48,800 --> 00:28:51,720
Speaker 1: of our listeners are in similar ones as US and

581
00:28:51,920 --> 00:28:54,600
Speaker 1: beyond UM, but I think a lot of people are

582
00:28:54,680 --> 00:28:58,480
Speaker 1: just content with maybe having someone they see often without

583
00:28:58,600 --> 00:29:01,840
Speaker 1: making a title because they're happy at the moment, even

584
00:29:01,880 --> 00:29:04,479
Speaker 1: though they're not fulfilled with exactly what they're getting from

585
00:29:04,520 --> 00:29:07,680
Speaker 1: that person with That is settling. Settling, absolutely, I have

586
00:29:07,800 --> 00:29:09,800
Speaker 1: done it in the past, for sure. It's all right.

587
00:29:09,840 --> 00:29:11,760
Speaker 1: Well if I get them once every other week, Okay,

588
00:29:11,920 --> 00:29:14,000
Speaker 1: that's what I have to take. Number three I think

589
00:29:14,120 --> 00:29:15,880
Speaker 1: is really good means it does show how someone how

590
00:29:15,960 --> 00:29:18,600
Speaker 1: much someone gets a fuck. Um. So number three is

591
00:29:18,680 --> 00:29:22,560
Speaker 1: that your main means of communication is texting, and unfortunately,

592
00:29:22,680 --> 00:29:25,280
Speaker 1: with this generation, I feel like this is the main

593
00:29:25,400 --> 00:29:31,800
Speaker 1: means of communication with so many people. Yeah, but it

594
00:29:31,880 --> 00:29:35,120
Speaker 1: says that your exchanges are limited and chances are the

595
00:29:35,160 --> 00:29:38,720
Speaker 1: most frequently visited visited topic of discussion leads to sex.

596
00:29:39,400 --> 00:29:42,320
Speaker 1: I I completely agree for sure, for sure, and it

597
00:29:42,400 --> 00:29:45,000
Speaker 1: leads into um, they had another one. We could skip

598
00:29:45,040 --> 00:29:46,640
Speaker 1: the order. I want to talk about this one right

599
00:29:46,640 --> 00:29:49,600
Speaker 1: after number five was your friends, your mom, your coworkers

600
00:29:49,640 --> 00:29:52,160
Speaker 1: no more about how you spend day than they do. Yeah,

601
00:29:52,240 --> 00:29:54,040
Speaker 1: that makes a lot of sense, because if you feel

602
00:29:54,120 --> 00:29:57,320
Speaker 1: like you can't just vent have a conversation with them. Yeah,

603
00:29:57,560 --> 00:30:00,080
Speaker 1: when I knew I was getting closer. Um in this

604
00:30:00,200 --> 00:30:02,920
Speaker 1: relationship was when I could say the name of a

605
00:30:03,000 --> 00:30:07,160
Speaker 1: coworker and he knew who you were speaking. Involved are

606
00:30:07,200 --> 00:30:09,000
Speaker 1: people in your lives, And I think that man in

607
00:30:09,080 --> 00:30:11,600
Speaker 1: your life that you may still be weary about if

608
00:30:11,600 --> 00:30:14,720
Speaker 1: I say a name, if I say anything, you gotta

609
00:30:14,800 --> 00:30:16,560
Speaker 1: know that lets me know you give a funk and

610
00:30:16,560 --> 00:30:18,600
Speaker 1: you're making enough effort to put yourself in my life

611
00:30:18,720 --> 00:30:21,400
Speaker 1: and even and even lawyer Bay. It's so funny because

612
00:30:21,760 --> 00:30:25,280
Speaker 1: the fact that we can discuss where I'm at in school,

613
00:30:25,560 --> 00:30:28,720
Speaker 1: what's going on with work, what I'm doing with this podcast.

614
00:30:29,320 --> 00:30:32,280
Speaker 1: I love that I can speak on that with him

615
00:30:32,680 --> 00:30:35,360
Speaker 1: and all of our conversations aren't send me a video,

616
00:30:35,800 --> 00:30:37,680
Speaker 1: what you wearing at work, what you look like, go

617
00:30:37,800 --> 00:30:40,160
Speaker 1: to the bathroom. It's not all that sent me in

618
00:30:40,280 --> 00:30:43,560
Speaker 1: my three way relationship. Actually, the guy, the British, the

619
00:30:43,600 --> 00:30:47,280
Speaker 1: dumb guy, um, we call it ourselves in a relationship.

620
00:30:47,320 --> 00:30:50,200
Speaker 1: We said the words, but no, like he didn't make

621
00:30:50,240 --> 00:30:51,640
Speaker 1: me feel like he was involved at all, and I

622
00:30:51,720 --> 00:30:54,160
Speaker 1: wondered if it was just him. But no, when someone

623
00:30:54,280 --> 00:30:56,800
Speaker 1: really cares about you, they can about your day to day.

624
00:30:57,000 --> 00:30:59,240
Speaker 1: And I think this is gonna jump into actually number

625
00:30:59,280 --> 00:31:02,320
Speaker 1: six were skipping a around here. Um, but another thing

626
00:31:02,600 --> 00:31:04,600
Speaker 1: that you know that you're in a situation ship in

627
00:31:04,800 --> 00:31:08,640
Speaker 1: regards to bringing up sex constantly, the sex is mind boggling.

628
00:31:09,880 --> 00:31:13,720
Speaker 1: I I agree with this one because a lot of

629
00:31:13,840 --> 00:31:17,440
Speaker 1: times you do put yourself into a situation ship, maybe

630
00:31:17,480 --> 00:31:20,640
Speaker 1: because the sex is great, and if the sex is great,

631
00:31:21,080 --> 00:31:24,120
Speaker 1: you kind of are blinded with what your situation can

632
00:31:24,280 --> 00:31:29,560
Speaker 1: be or is because you're having this sexual connection, you're

633
00:31:29,600 --> 00:31:32,240
Speaker 1: constantly in bed together or whatever. And not only that,

634
00:31:32,560 --> 00:31:35,360
Speaker 1: a lot of things can be said during sex that

635
00:31:35,520 --> 00:31:37,640
Speaker 1: you can take is something way more And we all

636
00:31:37,680 --> 00:31:40,160
Speaker 1: know we've said maybe even that I love you, or

637
00:31:40,560 --> 00:31:42,240
Speaker 1: don't give this pussy to no one else, or this

638
00:31:42,360 --> 00:31:45,120
Speaker 1: pussy is mine, And you can relate that to old ship.

639
00:31:45,280 --> 00:31:47,560
Speaker 1: Maybe you putting claims on me, and it's in the

640
00:31:47,880 --> 00:31:49,640
Speaker 1: it's in the realm. I think that you can say

641
00:31:49,680 --> 00:31:51,400
Speaker 1: things you don't mean during sex with someone you know

642
00:31:51,680 --> 00:31:54,320
Speaker 1: people might. I just watched this Being Mary Jane episode

643
00:31:54,320 --> 00:31:56,280
Speaker 1: where she asked him to say I love you during sex. Yes,

644
00:31:56,640 --> 00:31:58,760
Speaker 1: I love Being Mary jan. I don't want you know.

645
00:31:58,800 --> 00:32:02,200
Speaker 1: I just started and um, that's never happened to me,

646
00:32:02,280 --> 00:32:04,520
Speaker 1: but I have had someone asked me to say that. Um,

647
00:32:04,920 --> 00:32:06,600
Speaker 1: but I think that mind box. I don't know, dude,

648
00:32:06,600 --> 00:32:09,880
Speaker 1: I have good sex. But right, but I'll say this,

649
00:32:10,160 --> 00:32:13,440
Speaker 1: I know that even my situation with UM, I guess

650
00:32:13,480 --> 00:32:16,640
Speaker 1: we'll leave it out. Um, Jordan's was ongoing. And I

651
00:32:16,760 --> 00:32:19,080
Speaker 1: say this in a in a funny sense because I

652
00:32:19,160 --> 00:32:22,480
Speaker 1: know we've talked about meeting family. He flew me out.

653
00:32:22,520 --> 00:32:25,040
Speaker 1: I met his sister. I clearly was cool with his cousin,

654
00:32:25,160 --> 00:32:27,200
Speaker 1: and I met his friends. I met his fucking son

655
00:32:27,440 --> 00:32:30,040
Speaker 1: like he's brought me around his children, and then we

656
00:32:30,160 --> 00:32:33,080
Speaker 1: spent Christmas together because they were playing the magic and

657
00:32:33,160 --> 00:32:35,120
Speaker 1: he brought me home to see my family, and I

658
00:32:35,160 --> 00:32:39,040
Speaker 1: spent Christmas with him. And although I'm sitting here meeting

659
00:32:39,080 --> 00:32:42,520
Speaker 1: the kids, meeting the sister, spending quote unquote holidays with him,

660
00:32:42,840 --> 00:32:45,160
Speaker 1: we were in a situation ship. I'm gonna tell you

661
00:32:45,200 --> 00:32:48,920
Speaker 1: what I think to differentiate situation ship. I've met families

662
00:32:48,960 --> 00:32:50,800
Speaker 1: too and thought it meant more. And I think this

663
00:32:51,000 --> 00:32:52,800
Speaker 1: is what we have to admit to ourselves as women.

664
00:32:53,960 --> 00:32:57,520
Speaker 1: Are you is this like I'm going to introduce you

665
00:32:57,680 --> 00:33:01,440
Speaker 1: to my sister today? This is so like? Is there

666
00:33:01,680 --> 00:33:04,560
Speaker 1: something does it feel like something? Did you say like

667
00:33:04,720 --> 00:33:06,760
Speaker 1: this Saturday, we're going to go have lunch or we're

668
00:33:06,760 --> 00:33:09,600
Speaker 1: gonna have dinner. Are you planning this? Is this because

669
00:33:09,880 --> 00:33:13,080
Speaker 1: we're getting further. And that's where I have sucked up

670
00:33:13,120 --> 00:33:16,400
Speaker 1: in the past with relationships, thinking that I meant more

671
00:33:16,480 --> 00:33:18,400
Speaker 1: than I did, right, because I think a lot of

672
00:33:18,440 --> 00:33:21,080
Speaker 1: women do that. Yeah you you're like, but nah, but

673
00:33:21,240 --> 00:33:23,920
Speaker 1: like why would you do this then? But that goes

674
00:33:24,000 --> 00:33:26,240
Speaker 1: back to what we said in the very beginning as

675
00:33:26,680 --> 00:33:29,160
Speaker 1: things that mean so much to us, or if we

676
00:33:29,320 --> 00:33:31,880
Speaker 1: introduced If I introduced the guy to my mom, that's

677
00:33:31,880 --> 00:33:35,360
Speaker 1: a big deal to me. If a guy introduces me

678
00:33:35,480 --> 00:33:37,560
Speaker 1: to their mom, it might not mean to him. I

679
00:33:37,600 --> 00:33:39,520
Speaker 1: don't under saying where meeting my mom doesn't mean a lot.

680
00:33:39,520 --> 00:33:41,520
Speaker 1: I mean, I will say this much when when every

681
00:33:41,520 --> 00:33:43,280
Speaker 1: boy comes, he's going to mean my mom, this is

682
00:33:43,640 --> 00:33:46,000
Speaker 1: meaning different. I mean she's been hearing about him this

683
00:33:46,040 --> 00:33:48,800
Speaker 1: whole time. But I've met dudes on a first day

684
00:33:48,960 --> 00:33:53,840
Speaker 1: and my mom was at But that's what because whatever,

685
00:33:53,920 --> 00:33:58,680
Speaker 1: so so some people may um relate meeting family as oh,

686
00:33:58,760 --> 00:34:01,040
Speaker 1: we're taking the next step, and I think that that's

687
00:34:01,080 --> 00:34:03,600
Speaker 1: where this needs to be a communication set. But I

688
00:34:03,640 --> 00:34:08,160
Speaker 1: also think these situation ships are situation ships because it's

689
00:34:08,200 --> 00:34:11,720
Speaker 1: not on a mutual basis, whether with needing a title

690
00:34:11,920 --> 00:34:14,920
Speaker 1: or with emotions. One person either likes the person more

691
00:34:15,000 --> 00:34:17,200
Speaker 1: than the other person does, or one person wants to

692
00:34:17,239 --> 00:34:19,160
Speaker 1: commit more than the other person. And it's funny you

693
00:34:19,239 --> 00:34:22,680
Speaker 1: mentioned um friends that was their number four is and

694
00:34:22,800 --> 00:34:27,520
Speaker 1: I love how they worded it. Your closest friends haven't

695
00:34:27,840 --> 00:34:35,560
Speaker 1: purposefully met now. Actually, uh my mom, God, it's so strange.

696
00:34:35,640 --> 00:34:39,040
Speaker 1: My mom means less to me than my friends do. Yeah, well,

697
00:34:39,080 --> 00:34:41,160
Speaker 1: I agree, me an enough to me to James, Vinny

698
00:34:41,200 --> 00:34:44,320
Speaker 1: Christopher like that means you are something well, not only that.

699
00:34:44,440 --> 00:34:47,719
Speaker 1: I feel like with friends, we talked so much about

700
00:34:47,760 --> 00:34:50,279
Speaker 1: these relationships, the good, the bad, and the ugly, that

701
00:34:50,440 --> 00:34:53,279
Speaker 1: it's like, if I'm gonna have you, if I'm gonna

702
00:34:53,440 --> 00:34:56,080
Speaker 1: bring my friends around you, they're gonna know everything about you,

703
00:34:56,160 --> 00:34:58,120
Speaker 1: and you don't even know that. They're probably gonna know

704
00:34:58,200 --> 00:35:03,240
Speaker 1: your birthday and and so meeting your friends, you're opening

705
00:35:03,280 --> 00:35:05,880
Speaker 1: the wounds to Listen, guys, this is who I'm choosing

706
00:35:05,920 --> 00:35:07,840
Speaker 1: to be with. I know I've talked about him for

707
00:35:07,920 --> 00:35:11,120
Speaker 1: the last several months. You know what the eight ship

708
00:35:11,200 --> 00:35:13,680
Speaker 1: ship he's done. You know the Great Ship he's done,

709
00:35:13,960 --> 00:35:15,560
Speaker 1: and you know, kind of where I was ready to

710
00:35:15,640 --> 00:35:19,840
Speaker 1: just debt him. So to purposefully introduce him to your friends,

711
00:35:20,239 --> 00:35:24,120
Speaker 1: I think makes a statement. I'm honestly really um nervous

712
00:35:24,239 --> 00:35:26,239
Speaker 1: for that because my friends haven't met a guy that

713
00:35:26,280 --> 00:35:27,680
Speaker 1: I was with since I was with Losing. We were

714
00:35:27,719 --> 00:35:30,719
Speaker 1: together a year now, two years. And listen, I don't

715
00:35:30,719 --> 00:35:32,880
Speaker 1: know what my friends will think because I have talked

716
00:35:32,920 --> 00:35:37,759
Speaker 1: about the brunt of the relationship and like all of

717
00:35:37,800 --> 00:35:41,040
Speaker 1: the bullshit before they met him, and now they're like this, naga,

718
00:35:41,840 --> 00:35:44,040
Speaker 1: and that's the thing, Like your your friends are going

719
00:35:44,080 --> 00:35:46,759
Speaker 1: to be like the best judgment as to if that

720
00:35:46,840 --> 00:35:51,600
Speaker 1: person is for you. I think, um, kind of kind

721
00:35:51,640 --> 00:35:56,879
Speaker 1: of sort of um. I think on a physical level,

722
00:35:57,239 --> 00:35:59,400
Speaker 1: I think my friends know what my type is, but

723
00:35:59,719 --> 00:36:03,359
Speaker 1: maybe on what I emotionally and sexually attached myself too,

724
00:36:03,680 --> 00:36:06,240
Speaker 1: I don't feel like they do know I'm very shallow.

725
00:36:06,320 --> 00:36:08,320
Speaker 1: So the guys that my friends have came around and

726
00:36:08,400 --> 00:36:11,239
Speaker 1: met have just been for sex. And I feel like

727
00:36:11,320 --> 00:36:13,640
Speaker 1: the ones who I have more of a connection to,

728
00:36:14,040 --> 00:36:16,160
Speaker 1: I keep them away from my friends because I don't

729
00:36:16,200 --> 00:36:18,160
Speaker 1: want to hear their opinions on them. I don't care,

730
00:36:18,719 --> 00:36:22,200
Speaker 1: And so that's it's kind of different for me. I

731
00:36:22,280 --> 00:36:25,400
Speaker 1: don't think, yeah, I mean you just met James. You

732
00:36:25,440 --> 00:36:27,959
Speaker 1: guys will hear this episode coming up soon. But maybe

733
00:36:28,000 --> 00:36:30,120
Speaker 1: you can see why my friends opinions me a lot. No,

734
00:36:30,280 --> 00:36:32,319
Speaker 1: that makes sense, he is a lot of my friends

735
00:36:32,360 --> 00:36:35,680
Speaker 1: are really analytical. They know me really well. Um, and

736
00:36:35,800 --> 00:36:39,279
Speaker 1: I think that introducing your mate to your friends will

737
00:36:39,280 --> 00:36:40,880
Speaker 1: at least give you and where some of you may

738
00:36:40,920 --> 00:36:42,920
Speaker 1: not have friends like that, or they already know your

739
00:36:42,960 --> 00:36:44,400
Speaker 1: cycle and they're gonna be like, no, you can't date

740
00:36:44,440 --> 00:36:47,640
Speaker 1: another one easy neguess you know, possibly the next one

741
00:36:47,680 --> 00:36:50,040
Speaker 1: that I wanted to talk about. And this actually touches

742
00:36:50,080 --> 00:36:52,080
Speaker 1: because we kind of touched with this on Jada next

743
00:36:52,120 --> 00:36:55,080
Speaker 1: see kind of the social media aspect of dating. So

744
00:36:55,280 --> 00:36:57,680
Speaker 1: number seven is there are no pictures of you in

745
00:36:57,840 --> 00:37:01,520
Speaker 1: any public setting. Um. I feel like this is more

746
00:37:01,600 --> 00:37:05,440
Speaker 1: still people who care about like maybe I want the

747
00:37:05,520 --> 00:37:09,279
Speaker 1: world to know each other this. I don't think that

748
00:37:09,440 --> 00:37:12,280
Speaker 1: this has to do with social media, not until the bottom,

749
00:37:13,040 --> 00:37:15,960
Speaker 1: because when I've been in situation ships, I never took

750
00:37:15,960 --> 00:37:20,279
Speaker 1: pictures with them period, not for private or public right.

751
00:37:20,320 --> 00:37:22,479
Speaker 1: But it's so at the bottom it says it's most

752
00:37:22,520 --> 00:37:25,359
Speaker 1: likely that you won't find a picture on isn't her?

753
00:37:25,440 --> 00:37:29,399
Speaker 1: What's that Facebook? Situation ships? You haven't taken pictures in period?

754
00:37:29,440 --> 00:37:31,759
Speaker 1: I'm not talking about social media. Oh I disagree, being

755
00:37:32,680 --> 00:37:35,200
Speaker 1: oh boy that I just spoke of. We have plenty

756
00:37:35,200 --> 00:37:39,320
Speaker 1: of pictures. Like I didn't take pictures with my strict

757
00:37:39,400 --> 00:37:42,040
Speaker 1: situation ships. It'd be weird almost for me to pull

758
00:37:42,040 --> 00:37:43,480
Speaker 1: out my phone and take picture because why would we

759
00:37:43,480 --> 00:37:46,120
Speaker 1: want to keep this moment in salvage? But see, that's

760
00:37:46,160 --> 00:37:49,200
Speaker 1: the thing that also goes to where maybe you two

761
00:37:49,239 --> 00:37:51,960
Speaker 1: aren't There are people who want to salvage because they

762
00:37:52,080 --> 00:37:54,400
Speaker 1: liked the guy. I guess they like the guy. So

763
00:37:54,680 --> 00:37:56,919
Speaker 1: it all depends where you stand in the situation ship.

764
00:37:57,160 --> 00:38:00,040
Speaker 1: Are you more of the person emotionally attached her? You

765
00:38:00,280 --> 00:38:03,200
Speaker 1: the one who's lesser detached? You know? So I think

766
00:38:03,280 --> 00:38:06,120
Speaker 1: that could you even feel there were times where I

767
00:38:06,200 --> 00:38:08,800
Speaker 1: felt like I can't not in my current relationship, but

768
00:38:09,400 --> 00:38:12,319
Speaker 1: I felt like I couldn't take pictures, Like he'd think

769
00:38:12,360 --> 00:38:14,279
Speaker 1: I was crazy for pulling out my phone, but I

770
00:38:14,400 --> 00:38:17,600
Speaker 1: was laying naked. We took pictures like like yeah, like,

771
00:38:17,719 --> 00:38:21,040
Speaker 1: but they're I'm talking about real situation ships. Oh yeah, no,

772
00:38:21,080 --> 00:38:22,600
Speaker 1: I get it. Like on a date. Like so there

773
00:38:22,640 --> 00:38:24,799
Speaker 1: were times that we would go to dinner, we would

774
00:38:24,800 --> 00:38:26,239
Speaker 1: go to the movies. It's not like we would pose

775
00:38:26,320 --> 00:38:28,720
Speaker 1: for a picture, Like we're not posing for a picture

776
00:38:28,719 --> 00:38:30,759
Speaker 1: because we're just out with each other right now. So

777
00:38:30,880 --> 00:38:33,279
Speaker 1: I get that absolutely. I get that absolutely, and I

778
00:38:33,400 --> 00:38:37,440
Speaker 1: think that for the most part. Unfortunately, the generation we

779
00:38:37,560 --> 00:38:40,200
Speaker 1: live in now, they're like scared to commit for whatever reason.

780
00:38:40,200 --> 00:38:42,440
Speaker 1: I don't know where this commitment phobia has come from,

781
00:38:42,760 --> 00:38:46,319
Speaker 1: but a lot of our generation is okay with being

782
00:38:46,360 --> 00:38:48,719
Speaker 1: in a situation ship and you don't tell you one

783
00:38:48,760 --> 00:38:51,879
Speaker 1: thing though, committed or not. I don't think I'm gonna

784
00:38:52,120 --> 00:38:55,040
Speaker 1: be public with pictures with my mate next time, whoever

785
00:38:55,080 --> 00:38:58,359
Speaker 1: it may be. I I could see me doing little

786
00:38:58,560 --> 00:39:00,520
Speaker 1: I'm a very big instance now person. If any of

787
00:39:00,520 --> 00:39:01,960
Speaker 1: you guys follow me, I could see me doing that

788
00:39:02,200 --> 00:39:04,960
Speaker 1: with the hands or no, no, not even hands like fay,

789
00:39:05,040 --> 00:39:06,440
Speaker 1: I mean whatever, just being like out and funny if

790
00:39:06,440 --> 00:39:10,279
Speaker 1: I was in a committed relationship. But I don't think

791
00:39:10,320 --> 00:39:12,560
Speaker 1: I'm going to do this this time around, only because

792
00:39:14,560 --> 00:39:17,560
Speaker 1: I am having this very nothing last forever, I was

793
00:39:17,719 --> 00:39:19,080
Speaker 1: very in love with the last person I was with

794
00:39:19,160 --> 00:39:23,080
Speaker 1: and he left me for Jesus. He did, he really did.

795
00:39:23,160 --> 00:39:26,040
Speaker 1: He got really religious, and I'm so glad that he

796
00:39:26,200 --> 00:39:27,719
Speaker 1: still is on that path because I would have been

797
00:39:27,719 --> 00:39:30,920
Speaker 1: really upset. But I just feel like anything could happen,

798
00:39:31,360 --> 00:39:33,320
Speaker 1: and I don't want to just make this person be

799
00:39:33,480 --> 00:39:36,400
Speaker 1: my life and express it to everybody else and let

800
00:39:36,480 --> 00:39:39,240
Speaker 1: them see it and then it's over. And I feel

801
00:39:39,280 --> 00:39:42,360
Speaker 1: like maybe almost private life is happy life. More. Sharing

802
00:39:42,400 --> 00:39:44,480
Speaker 1: the stories about someone that you can't see or don't

803
00:39:44,520 --> 00:39:46,520
Speaker 1: know the name of is easy for me. But well,

804
00:39:46,600 --> 00:39:49,560
Speaker 1: I also see a lot of people when everything is

805
00:39:49,719 --> 00:39:53,440
Speaker 1: so good, they post everything, and then when something goes bad,

806
00:39:53,520 --> 00:39:56,080
Speaker 1: they post it. So I don't want. I don't want

807
00:39:56,120 --> 00:39:59,080
Speaker 1: to insert the public into my relationship, and you know,

808
00:39:59,560 --> 00:40:01,640
Speaker 1: potential really mess up my Happy't get me wrong. I

809
00:40:02,120 --> 00:40:04,200
Speaker 1: love looking at some couples Instagram. I love it, but

810
00:40:05,920 --> 00:40:08,600
Speaker 1: I really think it's I don't I think when I

811
00:40:08,800 --> 00:40:11,000
Speaker 1: did it, I don't know how much it meant. I'm

812
00:40:11,040 --> 00:40:12,560
Speaker 1: so happy right now that I don't know what a

813
00:40:12,640 --> 00:40:15,400
Speaker 1: picture showing you could do, right, I agree, So I

814
00:40:15,560 --> 00:40:17,919
Speaker 1: want to talk about this. Um, we're gonna go ahead

815
00:40:17,920 --> 00:40:20,320
Speaker 1: and wrap this up, but what would be your advice

816
00:40:20,520 --> 00:40:24,520
Speaker 1: essentially to someone entering a situationship or not trying to

817
00:40:24,719 --> 00:40:26,400
Speaker 1: enter a situation ship. What would be your advice to

818
00:40:26,440 --> 00:40:28,840
Speaker 1: our listeners. UM. I think ben give us the idea

819
00:40:28,880 --> 00:40:31,239
Speaker 1: that you have to be very no pressure to be desirable.

820
00:40:31,840 --> 00:40:34,480
Speaker 1: They don't want to you to be nagging or you

821
00:40:34,640 --> 00:40:37,719
Speaker 1: to bring things up for for you to be made attractive,

822
00:40:37,800 --> 00:40:41,080
Speaker 1: which is actually how I was feeling. But I have

823
00:40:41,239 --> 00:40:44,640
Speaker 1: given ultimatums and let people know that you will lose

824
00:40:44,719 --> 00:40:47,319
Speaker 1: me if I don't get what I want, and I've

825
00:40:47,320 --> 00:40:50,120
Speaker 1: had to say what I'm looking for UM. In the past,

826
00:40:50,239 --> 00:40:52,759
Speaker 1: some men have told me they can't give me that UM,

827
00:40:53,000 --> 00:40:55,520
Speaker 1: and these more recent times, every time there is a

828
00:40:55,520 --> 00:40:57,479
Speaker 1: part time where I'm feeling uncomfortable, like I'm not getting

829
00:40:57,520 --> 00:40:59,440
Speaker 1: what I want, I'll say what I need and be

830
00:40:59,560 --> 00:41:03,040
Speaker 1: like or have to go, and I really feel like

831
00:41:03,120 --> 00:41:04,600
Speaker 1: it's important. I don't know how old some of you

832
00:41:04,719 --> 00:41:06,200
Speaker 1: ladies are that are going through things like this, but

833
00:41:06,880 --> 00:41:11,840
Speaker 1: I'm um, so I'm not super young anymore to not

834
00:41:11,960 --> 00:41:14,839
Speaker 1: being able to be scared to express myself. And there's

835
00:41:14,840 --> 00:41:16,319
Speaker 1: been times but I still haven't done it. So now

836
00:41:16,640 --> 00:41:18,640
Speaker 1: I just kind of own my truth. I'm not scared

837
00:41:18,719 --> 00:41:22,200
Speaker 1: to say that I don't want one today. But I'm

838
00:41:22,239 --> 00:41:24,000
Speaker 1: not scared to say that I eventually want a boyfriend

839
00:41:24,080 --> 00:41:26,120
Speaker 1: or that I mentually want kids or a husband. I

840
00:41:26,160 --> 00:41:28,920
Speaker 1: am very very clear on those things. I tried it, honestly.

841
00:41:29,160 --> 00:41:31,680
Speaker 1: I start talking about a bi weekly now because I

842
00:41:31,800 --> 00:41:35,080
Speaker 1: want you to know what needs to come now absolutely.

843
00:41:35,080 --> 00:41:38,080
Speaker 1: And that's where I'm at with Lawyer Bay right now. UM,

844
00:41:38,719 --> 00:41:41,440
Speaker 1: we're pretty much making it as translucent as possible. I'm

845
00:41:41,480 --> 00:41:43,440
Speaker 1: letting him know exactly what I want from the beginning,

846
00:41:43,760 --> 00:41:45,879
Speaker 1: and I'm telling him straight up. If you can't give

847
00:41:45,960 --> 00:41:49,839
Speaker 1: me that, let's tell me because I want to funk away. UM.

848
00:41:50,360 --> 00:41:52,440
Speaker 1: I actually want to read a comment, UM shout out

849
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Speaker 1: to live good regardless on my Instagram. Um. She said.

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Speaker 1: As women, UM, as women, whatever you get in to,

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Speaker 1: just make sure that you're in control of the situation.

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Speaker 1: And a lot of times us as women, we feel

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Speaker 1: like we're waiting on the guys with you like I can't.

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Speaker 1: I don't have to disagree a little bit. You can

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Speaker 1: only be control of what you put out there. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you can't always be control of your relationship with two people. Well,

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Speaker 1: she said, A good thing. It's mostly don't sit here

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Speaker 1: and put yourself into the situation waiting on the guy

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Speaker 1: to make the move, because if you're sitting here telling

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Speaker 1: him what you want and you're entering into it waiting

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Speaker 1: for him to make the move, you're not in control

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Speaker 1: now in that relationship, in that setting, you're giving him

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Speaker 1: all of the control as to how far you guys moved.

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Speaker 1: She actually suggested this, and I'll put it in our

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Speaker 1: description The Power of Seduction by Robert Green. She said

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Speaker 1: it will change the way you move out here in

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Speaker 1: terms of dating, and I'm so I just wanted to

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Speaker 1: drop that. Um, we are having to wrap this episode up, guys,

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Speaker 1: I hope you enjoyed kind of our discussion on UM

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Speaker 1: horrible decision decision. I think that's a horrible decision. UM.

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Speaker 1: I do want to read a review that we had

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Speaker 1: that was good before we close that. By living vicariously

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Speaker 1: in Philly currently sinking into a depression because I binge

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Speaker 1: listened to every episode and now I know what to

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Speaker 1: do with my life besides stoculatis on I d like VFS.

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Speaker 1: Could I read this already? No, I don't know. I

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Speaker 1: just literally like all of y'all think we're your bfs,

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Speaker 1: and I love it, like I've had emails and comments like, girl,

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Speaker 1: I can't talk about this with my friends, so let

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Speaker 1: me get your advice girl out there that doesn't hate you.

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Speaker 1: You know, there was there was another review. We have

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Speaker 1: another review, but it's a comment on our I G

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Speaker 1: where this girl is like, I have a really long

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Speaker 1: road trip coming up, and I'm killing myself not to

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Speaker 1: listen to your episodes. Just before we head out, I

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Speaker 1: want to give you guys this UM Resist bought text code. So, UM,

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Speaker 1: if you know anything about doctor what's been going on,

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Speaker 1: you think it's bullshit, which we probably should. I feel

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Speaker 1: like you're liberals if you listen to this episode. UM

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Speaker 1: to this podcast, UM, if you text five zero four

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Speaker 1: zero nine, it's a resist box so that you can

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Speaker 1: join the resistance without doing all of the fucking work.

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Speaker 1: They contact your officials base. It's like under two minutes,

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Speaker 1: you write them, you tell them your name. UM, They're

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Speaker 1: going to look up your zip code and they will

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Speaker 1: deliver the message that you want to your senators, governors, whatever. Um,

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Speaker 1: you could just say, hey, I rely on Obamacare, I

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Speaker 1: don't want this to go away, and they're gonna help you.

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Speaker 1: It's amazing. Handwritten letters all that ship I love it.

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Speaker 1: I've used it because I just frankly don't have the

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Speaker 1: time to support the movement like I want to. So

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Speaker 1: bi oh four oh nine check the out. Guys. Um,

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Speaker 1: that's really good. Thank you for dropping that on the

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Speaker 1: podcast for our listeners. You look at I mean like

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Speaker 1: I'm being sarcastic, but I'm not. That I know I

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Speaker 1: can be. But no, that's really good. I glad that

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Speaker 1: you're bringing this on. You don't want to say like,

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Speaker 1: we had a bunch of brown people listening, so you

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Speaker 1: gotta resist, all right, Thank you, guys. This has been

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Speaker 1: another episode of horrible decisions by