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Speaker 1: The Friend Show is on. It's stay or go.

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Speaker 2: Hight Let's welcome Tom, Tom, welcome into program. How are

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Speaker 2: you good morning?

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Speaker 3: I'm great, I'm great.

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Speaker 4: How's it going?

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Speaker 5: Uh?

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Speaker 2: We're doing okay? Friend Show Radio dot Com. Frendch your

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Speaker 2: radio on Instagram. You can reach us that way. What's

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Speaker 2: going on with you and your girlfriend? Lexi? It's like

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Speaker 2: group therapy. Let's hear all about it.

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Speaker 3: Well, we're doing great. It's just my daughter has an

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Speaker 3: issue with it. Okay, Well, my daughter and her used

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Speaker 3: to be friends many years ago, but we're dating now

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Speaker 3: and it's a twenty year gap.

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Speaker 1: Oh, hold on, came in.

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Speaker 6: And let me.

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Speaker 1: I need I need to understand.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So you okay.

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Speaker 1: I know all right.

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Speaker 2: This is just a lot for me all at once.

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Speaker 2: How old are you Tom? I'm forty five, you're forty five,

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Speaker 2: and your girlfriend is how old?

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Speaker 7: She's twenty five?

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Speaker 1: Okay, and your daughter's twenty five two?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: All right? So did you meet?

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Speaker 2: Is it just the fact that they're the same age,

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Speaker 2: or or are they like, were they actively friends until

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Speaker 2: you started dabbling.

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Speaker 3: It's a little bit of both, to be honest with you,

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Speaker 3: because they were friends and we just started dating six

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Speaker 3: months ago. But there's an issue. Yeah, it was probably

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Speaker 3: the age. That's probably what she's she's ticked off the

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Speaker 3: most about my daughter. But it's a great relationship. Man,

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Speaker 3: we're doing.

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Speaker 2: Your Yeah yeah, yeah, but you have to you met her.

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Speaker 2: You met Lexi, your now girlfriend, through your daughter, though

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Speaker 2: like it was like she brought her over or something,

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Speaker 2: or like you know what I mean. It wasn't like, yeah,

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Speaker 2: it's not like you met somebody who's the same age.

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Speaker 2: You met someone who's the same age because she was

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Speaker 2: your daughter's friend.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I know happens.

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Speaker 3: Answered. It wasn't like at a club or nothing. No,

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Speaker 3: they were going to a community college together, and my

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Speaker 2: And I don't know, I've seen this video too, she

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Speaker 2: gets stuck in the dishwasher, because I know that always happened.

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Speaker 1: My daughter's not home, but come on in, I'll carry that.

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Speaker 2: So you've been dating for six months and your daughter

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Speaker 2: has come to understand that you guys are dating, and

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Speaker 2: she's mad. She's mad at you because that was her friend.

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Speaker 2: She's mad at you because that's her peer, because she's

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Speaker 2: so much younger than you are.

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Speaker 1: All the thing.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, she hates it.

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Speaker 3: She she can't stand it.

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Speaker 7: It's just she said, it's out of place, out of time,

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Speaker 7: It's just wrong.

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Speaker 3: Things like that.

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Speaker 1: Ask yourself. You have to ask yourself, Tom.

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Speaker 2: I mean, even if you could marry this other woman,

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Speaker 2: is it worth losing your daughter over?

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Speaker 1: Isn't that? Like the basic question?

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Speaker 2: Like you've been seeing her for six months, sounds like

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Speaker 2: it's a lot of fun for you and maybe for

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Speaker 2: her too, But like are you really willing to not

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Speaker 7: You see that That's where the problem is, Like, like

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Speaker 7: how far should I go for love? I mean it,

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Speaker 7: should my daughter just get over it? Should I sit

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Speaker 7: accept it? Or should I just forget about this.

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Speaker 3: Young beautiful woman that I'm dating and just you know,

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Speaker 7: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: That's why I'm here.

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Speaker 8: Are you?

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Speaker 1: Are you on your way to love? Or like is

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Speaker 1: she just hot and young and right? Like forbidden?

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Speaker 2: That's what I mean? Like is it do you really believe?

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Speaker 2: Deep down? Like do you truly believe that this is

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Speaker 2: And you're happy right now, but like in a year

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Speaker 2: or six another six months or another three months, you

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Speaker 2: may not be with her, and then you've now tarnished

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Speaker 2: your relationship with your daughter and it wasn't worth it.

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Speaker 3: Well I'm not sure, but but isn't that what life's

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Speaker 7: But I can tell you Christmas was very awkward?

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Speaker 3: Was great?

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Speaker 1: Okay, Tom? Laugh? That laugh tells me everything.

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Speaker 9: I feel like your daughter's already lost, Like you're dating

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Speaker 9: her friend. Even if you guys break up, she can't

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Speaker 9: be friends with that girl anymore.

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Speaker 1: It's they can't be friends anymore.

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Speaker 9: And then if you stay with her, you're not going

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Speaker 1: Your daughter's already lost in this whole situation. I don't

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Speaker 2: His daughter is lost at this point. I think his

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Speaker 2: daughter stands to be lost if he continues down this path.

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Speaker 10: Well, if it makes you feel better, my dad fully

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Speaker 10: has like a very flirty relationship with someone a grade

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Speaker 10: older than me that I went to school with, but

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Speaker 10: I wasn't close friends with her and I got over it.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, it's not a friend, it's not a friend.

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Speaker 1: It wasn't Okay, that's fair.

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Speaker 10: I would be like mad at I've had friends flirt

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Speaker 8: I don't see the problem here because like if Caitlin

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Speaker 8: dated my daddy, I would not be yeah, you know,

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Speaker 8: but like if he was here, I would not be

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Speaker 8: upset with it. Now your dad, Like dad's got to

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Speaker 8: have a life too, you know what I'm saying. Yeah,

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Speaker 8: at least it's a twenty five year old girl that

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Speaker 8: I know who probably if I and I can tell

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Speaker 8: her intentions with my father rather than some just some

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Speaker 1: But you know, so, I'm not honored that you let

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Speaker 1: me get your dad.

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Speaker 2: If you were alive, me you, how did you feel

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Speaker 2: if roles were reversed? How would you feel so much

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Speaker 2: texting this? How would you feel if your daughter dated

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Speaker 2: one of your friends that you brought over one day?

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Speaker 1: They'll be a hater.

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Speaker 3: I think it depends on whom which friend it is,

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Speaker 3: because I have some friends that are well off and

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Speaker 3: some friends that are you know, oh my goodness. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: as a father, as a father, yeah, it does hurt

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Speaker 3: a little bit to think that it does.

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Speaker 6: I'm gonna I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I guess you really have to ask yourself, like you

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Speaker 2: really have to ask yourself. Is what you're doing with

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Speaker 2: because and you could argue, well, maybe she should have

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Speaker 2: some grace and get over it or whatever, but like

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Speaker 2: your daughter should come first no matter what. And I

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Speaker 2: know it's easy for me to say because I'm not

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Speaker 2: But I mean, really, is there no other woman on

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Speaker 2: earth that you could date but this one?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: And then still salvage a relationship with your own kid?

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Speaker 2: Is the question I ask.

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Speaker 7: I mean, I mean there is, but whose life is this?

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Speaker 4: Is my daughter's life or is my life?

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Speaker 2: I mean, I think a lot of parents would tell

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Speaker 2: lot more about the kids than it is about you.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Maybe if it were just some twenty five year old

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Speaker 2: that's one thing. She brought someone into your house as

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Speaker 2: and it would appear choosing this person over her that

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Speaker 2: none of that is very good.

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Speaker 3: Honestly, Well, she's an adult. Let's let's I mean, she's

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Speaker 3: over eighteen. My daughter's over eighteen. We're all adults here.

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Speaker 3: I have no I have no qualms against who my

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Speaker 7: I guess it's a I don't know, man, I really,

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Speaker 7: you guys are making me startin to think about things.

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Speaker 1: Though he was getting let me take some phone call. Yes,

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Speaker 1: oh no, I was just gonna say.

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Speaker 11: I I think Tom should explore the dating pool of

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Speaker 11: people that are just like who said, not his daughter's friends.

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Speaker 11: That's all I'm saying, because it bothers her, Like you

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Speaker 11: know what I mean. If it didn't bother her, okay, whatever,

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Speaker 11: it clearly does savior relationship. If my husband ever dated

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Speaker 11: our daughter's friend from college, oh no, twenty five oh no,

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Speaker 11: whether I'm here, I'm in the clouds in heaven, I

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Speaker 11: am going to make sure that doesn't happen.

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Speaker 2: And I think you could sit down and have a

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Speaker 2: very adult conversation with her. And maybe I'm just thinking

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Speaker 2: if in the end of this we decide that you're

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Speaker 2: uncomfortable with this, then I'll break up with her. But like,

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Speaker 2: let's have a conversation about why and who knows. You know,

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Speaker 2: like she's being heard and that at the end of it,

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Speaker 2: you'll do what's best for your relationship with your daughter,

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Speaker 2: then you might get a different reaction. But right now

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Speaker 2: it sounds like she's against it because she feels like

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Speaker 2: you're choosing someone other than her so that you can

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Speaker 2: get laid. And I don't know, it's I feel like

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Speaker 2: your kids should always feel like they come first. But

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Speaker 2: I would also on the flip side to play devil's advocate.

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Speaker 2: I mean, you are a grown up. She is a

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Speaker 2: grown up. She can't necessarily poopoo everything that you do

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Speaker 2: simply because she doesn't like it. So it is I

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Speaker 2: don't know. I guess I always I guess, you know,

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Speaker 2: in my life, in my circumstances, I always go with

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Speaker 2: the kids should be chosen first. But you know, on

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Speaker 2: the flip side, I guess you could your daughter could

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Speaker 2: be someone who shuts down everybody you date for any reason,

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Speaker 2: and you can't necessarily go with that either. But let

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Speaker 2: me take some phone calls. Man, I appreciate you calling.

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Speaker 1: Good luck Tom, thank you, Thank I appreciate it.

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Speaker 2: So Tom out here getting it man, Man, But like

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Speaker 2: that's the thing you brought a she brought a friend

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Speaker 2: into her house. I mean there's I feel like that

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Speaker 2: there's some trust there, there's some boundaries there, right, and

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Speaker 2: then for dad to hit it like I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Eight five five three five Group therapy. Hello, Sam, good morning.

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Speaker 2: How you doing.

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Speaker 12: I'm good?

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Speaker 13: How are you today?

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Speaker 5: Hey?

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Speaker 1: Doing well? Thanks for listening, Thanks for calling. Stay or go?

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Speaker 2: You heard the scenario Thomas dating one of his daughter's

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Speaker 2: friends and has been for six months now, and he's

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Speaker 2: basically like, I want to stay with this girl. Daughter

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Speaker 2: hates it because they're both twenty five and I met

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Speaker 2: through her and she doesn't like you.

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Speaker 1: What do you think?

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Speaker 12: I think that he shouldn't date her. It's not worth

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Speaker 12: risking the relationship of his daughter. And there's got to

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Speaker 1: Thank you, have a great day.

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Speaker 2: Uh hey, Carly, how you doing? Oh carl do you

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Speaker 2: Any, did you any client? This is a community bulletin

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Speaker 1: What do you got, Charlie? What do you think stargo

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Speaker 5: It actually could work, see, but she has to be

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Speaker 5: Of like like the whole thing like with his daughter,

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Speaker 1: Now, time's getting it from a twenty five year old.

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Speaker 2: Money my god, But we're talking about his child likes

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Speaker 2: But he didn't even seem to like it's only coming

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Speaker 5: Hey, how are you guys?

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Speaker 4: Look you guys, Hi.

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Speaker 1: Love you two do for calling, Thanks for listening. What

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Speaker 4: LFE is short and it's only been six months. I

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Speaker 4: And I'm sure down the road, if you know, they

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Speaker 10: What if?

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Speaker 4: You know, are we going to work out?

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Speaker 5: We would have worked out.

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Speaker 4: Maybe I should have stayed, you know, and you know

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Speaker 4: you're not going to get that least, you know, you know,

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Speaker 1: Her, you know, fair enough? Thank you, Lisa, have a

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Speaker 1: good day. My old friend Julia just texted me. Is

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Speaker 1: this guy thing serious? Tom's an e fing idiot and

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Speaker 1: a bad dad? Oh my god?

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Speaker 2: All right?

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Speaker 1: I mean, because it's.

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Speaker 9: The way they met, Like you know what I'm saying,

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Speaker 9: then it's just like, hey, I have feelings for her.

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Speaker 9: I'm gonna start dating your friend. That's so wild.

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Speaker 10: It is.

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Speaker 1: Let your parents live, man, but this is your kid. Like,

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Speaker 8: Yeah, Like I heard you, But I'm deciding like.

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Speaker 9: My dad wanted to date again and be all for it,

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Speaker 9: But like if you wanted to date someone younger, yeah,

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Speaker 1: Are you gonna feel kind of betrayed?

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Speaker 8: Yes, but you wouldn't know that intentions for your father.

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Speaker 8: You know that Kaylen is a good person. You know

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Speaker 8: It's like you, guys, you can't control your parents.

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Speaker 1: It's life they need to live. Yeah, but it's it's

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Speaker 9: For my dad dating anyone, any age what I mean,

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Speaker 1: You don't think it's not that's even better, it's not.

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Speaker 1: I think it's more about to do it.

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Speaker 10: I think it's more about the feeling that your parent

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Speaker 10: I don't think, like circumstantially, if they handled it right,

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Speaker 1: To hear it out.

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Speaker 10: I just yes, yeah, retweet, yes, right, you're excited.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well reaction.

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Speaker 2: Hey Dan, Well you've never been so profound in your

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Speaker 2: Hey Dan, good.

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Speaker 1: Morning, Hey, good morning.

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Speaker 6: This guy's got to go. Man, he's the total scumbag.

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Speaker 6: You know, even consider throwing a way the relationship with

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, it was about her. Maybe it was

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Speaker 1: just delivery, but yeah, New Year's it was rocking.

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Speaker 2: I don't know, Dan, there was something that just didn't

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I understand everybody has that fantasy to hook up

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Speaker 6: with your daughter's hot friends.

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Speaker 1: Oh they do.

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Speaker 6: Crazy, And then to even consider like, oh, yeah, I

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Speaker 6: That's absolutely banana.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I don't like it either. Thank you, Dan, have a

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Speaker 1: good day, matterwild.

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Speaker 14: Y'all, y'all all had that.

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Speaker 1: That's the old fantasy that we all have. I'm always fantasizing.

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