WEBVTT - Build in decompression time

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is to build in decompression time. By consciously

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<v Speaker 1>building small breaks in between stressful events and knowing that

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<v Speaker 1>these breaks are for decompression, you can be at your

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<v Speaker 1>best even through a rigorous schedule. As we go through

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<v Speaker 1>our daily lives, we can see that some events are

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<v Speaker 1>more draining than others. We can enjoy them a lot

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<v Speaker 1>to or at least find them satisfying. But an intense

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<v Speaker 1>meeting is going to take more energy than, say, reading

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<v Speaker 1>a random newspaper article. Giving a speech will take more

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<v Speaker 1>energy than a quick phone call with someone you've known

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<v Speaker 1>for a while. That's just life. But problems arise when

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<v Speaker 1>we try to cram too many intense events back to back.

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<v Speaker 1>Go straight from a speech into an intense meeting, and

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<v Speaker 1>you might be making mistakes or getting annoyed by a

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<v Speaker 1>vague response that you would have taken in stride at

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<v Speaker 1>any other point. Too much intensity back to back in

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<v Speaker 1>our personal lives can lead to the same problem. The

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<v Speaker 1>solution build in decompression time. This doesn't have to be long,

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<v Speaker 1>but you need some small way to reset between intense events.

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<v Speaker 1>Even just ten minutes can do a lot. Makes sense, right,

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<v Speaker 1>But there is a second part to this. You have

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<v Speaker 1>to know that those ten minutes are for decompression and

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<v Speaker 1>use them appropriately. You have to do something that you

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<v Speaker 1>know is going to allow you to hit the reset button. So,

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<v Speaker 1>for instance, last night, I had been running around trying

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<v Speaker 1>to get some forms signed and emailed back to people.

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<v Speaker 1>Right after putting my toddler to bed, I knew I

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<v Speaker 1>was about to face the next round of bedtimes, so

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<v Speaker 1>I went out on the porch for five minutes to

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<v Speaker 1>look at the sunset. It was beautiful. I did not

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<v Speaker 1>take my phone with me, so I could just let

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<v Speaker 1>my mind wander. This did the trick much better than say,

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<v Speaker 1>deleting emails, when I would have risked seeing something intense

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<v Speaker 1>and winding right back into intense mode. I've tried to

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<v Speaker 1>talk about this with my kids as well. One child

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<v Speaker 1>has camp until four pm, coming home around four, and

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<v Speaker 1>then needs to leave for an activity twice a week.

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<v Speaker 1>At He noted that this felt like a long day,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's somewhat is, but I pointed out that four

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<v Speaker 1>fifteen to five would be completely off if he consciously

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<v Speaker 1>you this hour as decompression time, reading, drawing, hanging out

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<v Speaker 1>in the backyard. He'd be much more energized by an hour.

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<v Speaker 1>Isn't really a short time at all, especially when you

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<v Speaker 1>know you've got an hour. Of course, creating space for

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<v Speaker 1>decompression in life is easier said than done. One reason

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<v Speaker 1>to make meetings forty five minutes or twenty minutes instead

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<v Speaker 1>of sixty minutes or thirty minutes is that you get

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<v Speaker 1>this time built in even if the meeting starts a

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<v Speaker 1>little late or runs a little long. And of course,

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<v Speaker 1>if you are running the meeting, you can make sure

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<v Speaker 1>it starts on time and ends on time. You listen

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<v Speaker 1>to this podcast so I know you are an expert

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<v Speaker 1>on that. Instead of immediately diving into your inbox during

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<v Speaker 1>this break, go stroll around the building in the eight

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<v Speaker 1>minutes until your next meeting starts. When you consciously use

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<v Speaker 1>this time as decompression time, it can feel pleasingly vast

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<v Speaker 1>rather than short. You can feel yourself relaxing. This is

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<v Speaker 1>a good thing. So today, think about your schedule and

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<v Speaker 1>think about when you've got your most intense events. See

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<v Speaker 1>what kind of space you have between them. If there

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<v Speaker 1>isn't much what could you do to force in a

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<v Speaker 1>few more minutes, And if you build in those minutes,

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<v Speaker 1>what could you do during them to hit reset? Figure

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<v Speaker 1>this out and you will perform at your best even

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<v Speaker 1>if your schedule is tough in the meantime. This is Laura.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of

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