WEBVTT - 8 Ways to Create More Peace and Balance in your Life Starting Today

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<v Speaker 1>Something that's peaceful is more still than it is moving.

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<v Speaker 1>Have you ever seen a sunset or sunrise? It's moving,

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<v Speaker 1>but it feels still. That's peace. Peace doesn't mean things

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<v Speaker 1>are not moving, They're just moving at a natural pace.

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<v Speaker 1>That's where we get peace. If we're not looking at

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<v Speaker 1>connecting with peaceful things in nature, peaceful things in our life,

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<v Speaker 1>how can we expect to experience peace? Hey everyone, welcome

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<v Speaker 1>back to On Purpose, the number one health podcast in

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<v Speaker 1>the world. Thanks to each and every single one of

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<v Speaker 1>you that come back every week to listen, learn and grow.

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<v Speaker 1>Now today's episode it's all about the eight ways to

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<v Speaker 1>create more peace and balance in your life. Who doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>want more peace? Who doesn't want more balance? I'm sure

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<v Speaker 1>that when I ask those questions, every single one of

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<v Speaker 1>you would raise your hands saying I want more peace

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<v Speaker 1>in my life. I want more balance in my life.

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<v Speaker 1>Most of us have a life that's full of drama, chaos, pain, stress, imbalance, overwhelm, anxiety.

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<v Speaker 1>How many times have you just looked in the mirror

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<v Speaker 1>and thought it to yourself, I just want some peace,

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<v Speaker 1>I just want some balance. If you've ever felt this way,

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<v Speaker 1>this episode is for you. Now. I was reading a

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<v Speaker 1>study from the Vision of Humanity dot org, and they

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<v Speaker 1>said that since two thousand and eight, the level of

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<v Speaker 1>global peacefulness has deteriorated by two percent, with seventy five

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<v Speaker 1>countries recording a deterioration while eighty six improved. The average

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<v Speaker 1>level of global peacefulness has deteriorated for nine of the

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<v Speaker 1>thirteen past years. The gap between the least and most

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<v Speaker 1>peaceful countries continues to grow. Since two thousand and eight,

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<v Speaker 1>the twenty five peaceful countries declined on ridge by twelve

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<v Speaker 1>point one percent, while the twenty five most peaceful countries

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<v Speaker 1>improved by four point three percent. And of course this

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<v Speaker 1>is relating to conflict, world events, civil unrest, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>looking at global peace on a really macro level. And

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<v Speaker 1>one in seven people globally cite crime, violence, or terrorism

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<v Speaker 1>as the greatest risk to their safety in their daily lives.

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<v Speaker 1>Only road accidents are cited as a bigger risk. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>how many of you would like to know what the

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<v Speaker 1>twenty twenty one Global Peace Index ranks as the most

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<v Speaker 1>peaceful countries? You might be surprised. So before I tell

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<v Speaker 1>you the top five, let me tell you where certain

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<v Speaker 1>countries are. So this list has ranks around one hundred

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<v Speaker 1>and sixty three countries. The United Kingdom, which is the

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<v Speaker 1>country I was born and raised in, is thirty third

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<v Speaker 1>on the list. The United States of America, where I

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<v Speaker 1>currently live, is one hundred and twenty two on the list.

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<v Speaker 1>On this list, Afghanistan, Yemen, and Syria come in as

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<v Speaker 1>the bottom three, and the top three are Iceland, New

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<v Speaker 1>Zealand and Denmark. Now, of course, this study, which I

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<v Speaker 1>highly recommend you take a look at, goes far deeper

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<v Speaker 1>when it comes to economic, civil, societal impact. But today

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<v Speaker 1>I want to dive in about your peace and balance,

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<v Speaker 1>your personal piece and balance. And the reason why this

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<v Speaker 1>is so important is because no matter what's happening around us,

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<v Speaker 1>what's happening inside of us is so much more important.

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<v Speaker 1>And this is wisdom that has been told and shared

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<v Speaker 1>and tested. Now you may say, well, Jay, I feel

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<v Speaker 1>bad trying to feel peaceful inside when there's so much

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<v Speaker 1>pain outside. But the truth is that the pain outside

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<v Speaker 1>is because of a result of the pain inside. The

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<v Speaker 1>lack of peace on the inside is what creates the

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<v Speaker 1>lack of peace on the outside. I'll give you an example.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you argue with people more when you're peaceful or

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<v Speaker 1>not peaceful. Do you create challenges when you're peaceful or

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<v Speaker 1>when you're under pressure? Do you cause problems and conflict

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<v Speaker 1>when you experience pain or when you don't feel pain. So,

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<v Speaker 1>if we really extend that idea, we have to recognize

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<v Speaker 1>that all the pain, the pressure, the lack of peace

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<v Speaker 1>that exists within the world comes from the idea that

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<v Speaker 1>it is a lack of peace, a great sense of

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<v Speaker 1>exposure to pressure, and so much pain that we experience within.

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<v Speaker 1>And so with that in mind, I would like to

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<v Speaker 1>encourage each and every one of us to listen to

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<v Speaker 1>this episode for the betterment of ourselves, and for the

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<v Speaker 1>betterment of our families and friends, and for the betterment

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<v Speaker 1>of everyone else that we come across. So the first one,

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<v Speaker 1>the first way to create more peace and balance in

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<v Speaker 1>your life. Number one is don't obsess over peace and balance.

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<v Speaker 1>One of the biggest reasons why we don't experience peace

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<v Speaker 1>and balance in our life is because we so desperately

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<v Speaker 1>crave it. When you so desperately crave something, you notice

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<v Speaker 1>the lack of it even more. Right if I think

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<v Speaker 1>to myself right now, I wish I had cereal, but

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<v Speaker 1>I know I don't have cyril in the house right,

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<v Speaker 1>I wish I had Cyril. I wish I had cyril,

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<v Speaker 1>and I obsess over cereal. It makes me really sad.

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<v Speaker 1>It makes me lose peace and makes me lose balance.

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<v Speaker 1>Whereas if I accept that, hey, I don't have Cyril

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<v Speaker 1>in the house right now, but I can drive ten

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<v Speaker 1>minutes to the grocery store to pick some up right

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<v Speaker 1>or I can do an Amazon order and wait for

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<v Speaker 1>it to arrive, Then I can have that Cyril if

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<v Speaker 1>I really want to, or do I even really need cereal?

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe I'm happier with what I have. When we obsess

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<v Speaker 1>over peace and balance, they run further and further away

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<v Speaker 1>from us because we're so aware of the lack of it,

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<v Speaker 1>Whereas when we don't obsess over it, but we've realized

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<v Speaker 1>that we're always just trying to move closer see our challenges,

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<v Speaker 1>that we don't want to move closer. We just never

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<v Speaker 1>want to move. We want to be in peace and

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<v Speaker 1>balance forever always. But the truth is that it requires

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<v Speaker 1>so much more about little steps in the right direction,

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<v Speaker 1>small baby steps, moving a little closer to piece and

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<v Speaker 1>balance every day. And if we move a little further,

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<v Speaker 1>or we move a little closer again. And when we've

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<v Speaker 1>realized that piece and balance don't actually exist, they're just ideas,

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<v Speaker 1>and all that we have to do is move closer

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<v Speaker 1>to our idea of peace and balance, then we feel

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<v Speaker 1>closer to it than ever. So stop obsessing. Stop putting

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<v Speaker 1>peace and balance on such a pedestal that all you

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<v Speaker 1>keep saying is I wish i'd pay peace, I wish

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<v Speaker 1>I had balance, I need peace, I need balance. But

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<v Speaker 1>all that keeps happening is that you just notice that

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<v Speaker 1>you don't have it. You just notice that you don't

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<v Speaker 1>have it in the way that you want it. And

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<v Speaker 1>that's the other challenge. We obsess about peace and balance

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<v Speaker 1>in this very stereotypical, simplistic way, in a very binary way,

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<v Speaker 1>that if we have stress, then we can't have peace.

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<v Speaker 1>We think that they are polar opposites, that they are

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<v Speaker 1>on either end of the spectrum. Well, let's then try

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<v Speaker 1>and move closer on the spectrum. Don't obsess over peace

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<v Speaker 1>and balance. Focus on moving one step closer to the

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<v Speaker 1>person you want to be, to the place you want

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<v Speaker 1>to be, to where you want to go. Okay, step

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<v Speaker 1>number two is a big one. This statement was said

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<v Speaker 1>by Gandhi and it has made an impact in my life.

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<v Speaker 1>He said, when what we think, what we say, and

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<v Speaker 1>what we do is aligned, then we expire arians peace

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<v Speaker 1>and harmony or balance. Let me say that again, when

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<v Speaker 1>what we think, what we say, and what we do

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<v Speaker 1>is aligned. Now, let me ask you a very honest question.

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<v Speaker 1>How many of you think something but say something completely different?

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<v Speaker 1>How many times if you have experienced that you're thinking

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<v Speaker 1>something in your head but you don't say that, what

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<v Speaker 1>does that cause? Cause it's a lack of peace because

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<v Speaker 1>you're thinking something but you don't say it, and you're thinking,

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<v Speaker 1>oh gosh, I wish I said it. I should have

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<v Speaker 1>said it. They deserve it, they need to know. Now

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<v Speaker 1>you've created a lack of peace. Now I'm not saying

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<v Speaker 1>you should say how you think it, but you still

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<v Speaker 1>need to communicate what you're thinking. Right, we think that

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<v Speaker 1>we don't say what we think because it may hurt somebody,

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<v Speaker 1>may upset someone, and that will also lose us peace.

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<v Speaker 1>So if you keep quiet and don't say what you want,

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<v Speaker 1>or if you say exactly what you're thinking, both of

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<v Speaker 1>those push peace away. Therefore, peace is when you think

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<v Speaker 1>something and you say it in a way that can

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<v Speaker 1>be digested. That is peaceful for you and peaceful for

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<v Speaker 1>someone else, because when you can digest it and they

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<v Speaker 1>can digest it, it it creates peace. We don't have peace

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<v Speaker 1>when we have indigestion. And indigestion exists when what we

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<v Speaker 1>think and what we say is different. Now, how many

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<v Speaker 1>of us say something but we do something completely different.

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<v Speaker 1>We say we're going to do it, but we do

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<v Speaker 1>something totally different. That creates dysfunction, that creates a lack

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<v Speaker 1>of peace and balance. So what I want you to

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<v Speaker 1>start doing is thinking about ways that you can say

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<v Speaker 1>and do and think in an aligned way. Right, don't

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<v Speaker 1>say anything that you don't want to do, and don't

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<v Speaker 1>think anything and not put it into words in an

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<v Speaker 1>effective way. Start asking yourself all the time, is what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm doing aligned with how I'm thinking and how I'm speaking?

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<v Speaker 1>And also, am I doing it in a way that

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<v Speaker 1>creates peace? Are my words used to create peace? Is

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<v Speaker 1>the language I use creating peace? Is what I'm thinking

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<v Speaker 1>creating peace for myself? If my thoughts don't create peace

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<v Speaker 1>for myself, how will they create peace anywhere else? Start

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<v Speaker 1>by focusing on creating peace through your thoughts? How do

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<v Speaker 1>you create peace through your thoughts? By wanting that, by

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<v Speaker 1>believing that that is so much more important than any

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<v Speaker 1>other thought you could have. I know that for myself,

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<v Speaker 1>I am constantly seeking more and more thoughts that I

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<v Speaker 1>know bring me peace, that I know are going to

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<v Speaker 1>give me peace because I want to live in a

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<v Speaker 1>peaceful place. That is more important to me than criticizing someone,

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<v Speaker 1>than thinking someone's wrong, than putting someone down, because I

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<v Speaker 1>know none of that creates peace in my life. The

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<v Speaker 1>third step is we need to start our days with

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<v Speaker 1>peace because chances are there will be guaranteed pressure. It

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<v Speaker 1>is natural for our lives to be full of pressure,

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<v Speaker 1>and therefore it is so important for our day to

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<v Speaker 1>begin with peace. It is so important for our day

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<v Speaker 1>to begin with peace. What is the habit that will

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<v Speaker 1>bring you peace? For me? Often it's saying a prayer.

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<v Speaker 1>For me, it's reading a beautiful quote or a thought

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<v Speaker 1>or an idea that brings me peace. For me, peace

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<v Speaker 1>is looking at my favorite piece of artwork that gives

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<v Speaker 1>me peace. For me, peace is practicing breathwork. What are

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<v Speaker 1>you doing every day for peace? Piece is a muscle

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<v Speaker 1>that we have to build. It's something we have to practice.

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<v Speaker 1>It's something that we can do day after day after day.

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<v Speaker 1>That strengthens our ability to find peace even in chaos.

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<v Speaker 1>Look for that piece. Step number four is something that

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<v Speaker 1>is actually very underrated. When you do something good for

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<v Speaker 1>yourself even when it feels bad, that creates peace. When

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<v Speaker 1>I eat healthy, I don't feel great in the moment,

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<v Speaker 1>but it creates peace. My body reacts better, my mind

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<v Speaker 1>reacts better. I sleep better, I work better, I focus better.

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<v Speaker 1>But it feels bad for me in the moment, but

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<v Speaker 1>it's actually good for me. Right. Let me give you

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<v Speaker 1>another example. The other day, I woke up I really

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<v Speaker 1>did not want to work out. I even texted Rather

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<v Speaker 1>and I said, Hey, I'm feeling tired. Should I work out?

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<v Speaker 1>What do you think? And rather being Rather, she said,

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<v Speaker 1>you should definitely work out. You'll probably feel better. I

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<v Speaker 1>was feeling sluggish, I was feeling lazy, and I pushed

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<v Speaker 1>myself and guess what, I felt much better. Guess what

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<v Speaker 1>else happened this weekend. I was avoiding doing my cold plunge.

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<v Speaker 1>I was avoiding doing my infrared sauna, my sensory deprivation tank.

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<v Speaker 1>This is my Saturday morning routine, and I was thinking

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<v Speaker 1>about avoiding it. I talked to myself I don't need

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<v Speaker 1>to do it this week. I'm tired about a long weekend.

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<v Speaker 1>Let me just relax and guess what. I pushed myself

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<v Speaker 1>to go and I felt so much better. Now what

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<v Speaker 1>am I learning there? I'm learning that doing what is

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<v Speaker 1>good for me, even if it feels bad in the moment,

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<v Speaker 1>creates peace. Why because our mind is trying to choose pleasure.

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<v Speaker 1>But really we keep saying we want peace, But what

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<v Speaker 1>we're doing is we're creating a life of pleasure. By saying, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to sit in bed, that's not peace, that's pleasure.

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<v Speaker 1>By saying I'm not going to work out, that's not peace,

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<v Speaker 1>that's pleasure. I'm looking for pleasure. But then in my head,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going, well, why don't I feel peace? Why don't

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<v Speaker 1>I feel calm? Why don't I feel stillness? Because I'm

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<v Speaker 1>prioritizing pleasure. When you do something that's bad for you

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<v Speaker 1>because it feels good in the moment, that's pleasure. When

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<v Speaker 1>you do something that is good for you but it

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<v Speaker 1>feels bad in the moment, that's peace. Right. Notice how

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<v Speaker 1>different they are. The formula for pleasure is do what

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<v Speaker 1>feels good in the moment but bad for you. And

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<v Speaker 1>the equation for peace is do what is good for you,

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<v Speaker 1>even if it feels bad in the moment. Take a

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<v Speaker 1>look at that next time. Are you creating peace or pleasure? Now?

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<v Speaker 1>Pleasure is temporary, it's short lived, it's ephemeral, it does

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<v Speaker 1>not last. Peace is everlasting because it's actually transforming the

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<v Speaker 1>way you live, the way your body works, the way

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<v Speaker 1>your mind is. This is a huge one. I hope

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<v Speaker 1>you practice this now. The fifth one is actually very simple.

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<v Speaker 1>If you want to create more peace and balance in

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<v Speaker 1>your life, tell the truth. Always, Tell the truth always,

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<v Speaker 1>if you not lie. But if you don't tell the truth,

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<v Speaker 1>you create a lack of peace because now you have

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<v Speaker 1>to remember what you said last time. You have to

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<v Speaker 1>now remember how you felt before. If you don't say

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<v Speaker 1>the truth, then and if someone finds out, then they say, well,

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<v Speaker 1>why didn't you tell me the truth. If you don't

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<v Speaker 1>tell the truth and you say something else, then you

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<v Speaker 1>end up regretting it because you're carrying around that lie. Right.

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<v Speaker 1>The truth is always better, and it's harder. It's hard

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<v Speaker 1>to live by the truth. It's more difficult and challenging

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<v Speaker 1>to live by the truth. Because we want to people please,

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<v Speaker 1>We don't want to let anyone down. We don't want

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<v Speaker 1>anyone to judge us. We don't want to be perceived

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<v Speaker 1>in a certain way. But the point is when you

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<v Speaker 1>act in a certain way because you don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>be perceived in a certain way. Now you're worrying when

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<v Speaker 1>will that person figure out what's really the truth? When

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<v Speaker 1>you don't tell the truth, you'll always be concerned and

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<v Speaker 1>worried about when will people discover it. I remember watching

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<v Speaker 1>suits during the pandemic and Mike Ross, if you've ever

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<v Speaker 1>watched suits, I'm going to ruin it for you. Spoiler.

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<v Speaker 1>He pretends that he's going to Harvard Law, and so

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<v Speaker 1>for him, even though he's a phenomenal lawyer, he's so talented,

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<v Speaker 1>he's always always, always worried about what if he gets caught?

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<v Speaker 1>Right now, you may not be lying about going to

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<v Speaker 1>Harvard Law, or you may not be lying. He maybe

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<v Speaker 1>a cover up, He maybe a white light. But then

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<v Speaker 1>you're always guessing, guessing against yourself, and that creates internal

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<v Speaker 1>lack of peace and imbalance. Number six is create an

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<v Speaker 1>environment of peace through sites, sense and sounds. What you

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<v Speaker 1>see can create peace. How often do you look at nature?

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<v Speaker 1>Check this out? Spending at least one hundred and twenty

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<v Speaker 1>minutes a week in nature is associated with good health

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<v Speaker 1>and wellbeing. Now, I'm going to break that down for you,

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<v Speaker 1>just to make it simple. Hundred and twenty right, divided

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<v Speaker 1>by seven. That seventeen minutes a day. Seventeen minutes a day.

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<v Speaker 1>That's all it takes. And the research study goes on

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<v Speaker 1>to say, spending time in natural environments can benefit health

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<v Speaker 1>and well being. Are we looking at things that create peace?

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<v Speaker 1>When was the last time you patiently observed a leaf

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<v Speaker 1>or a bird? When was the last time you watched

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<v Speaker 1>a sunset or a sunrise? When was the last time

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<v Speaker 1>you actually did something with your eyes that was peaceful?

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<v Speaker 1>Scrolling on TikTok is not peaceful. Scrolling on Instagram is

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<v Speaker 1>not peaceful. But peace comes from doing things that are peaceful.

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<v Speaker 1>What is something that's peaceful? Something that's peaceful is patient.

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<v Speaker 1>Something that's peaceful is more still than it is moving.

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<v Speaker 1>Have you ever seen a sunset or a sunrise. It's moving,

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<v Speaker 1>but it feels still. That's peace. Peace doesn't mean things

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<v Speaker 1>are not moving, They're just moving at a natural pace.

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<v Speaker 1>That's where we get peace. If we're not looking at

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<v Speaker 1>connecting with peaceful things in nature, peaceful things in our life?

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<v Speaker 1>How can we expect to experience peace? Another way is

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<v Speaker 1>through sense. Smell has the ability to create more stillness.

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<v Speaker 1>Why is it that when you go to a spa

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<v Speaker 1>you feel more relaxed? Why is it that when you

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<v Speaker 1>go for a massage you feel more chilled because the

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<v Speaker 1>scent that they use allows you to relax, whether it's

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<v Speaker 1>lavender or eucalyptus, whatever it may be. How many of

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<v Speaker 1>you want to make space for more sense in your life?

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<v Speaker 1>It can be simply by lighting a candle can make

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<v Speaker 1>all the difference. And finally, cite sense and sounds. Is

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<v Speaker 1>the music you're listening to creating peace? Listening to certain

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<v Speaker 1>types of music can create peace. So often we're listening

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<v Speaker 1>to music that is highly evocative, highly emotional, and all

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<v Speaker 1>that doesn't create peace. When was the last time that

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<v Speaker 1>you turned on a sound that brought joy to you? And?

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<v Speaker 1>For me, listening to birds honestly just walking outside, finding

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<v Speaker 1>a tree and just taking a second to walk past it.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't have time to sit around under a tree,

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<v Speaker 1>but when I do, Wow, the birds are beautiful. Just

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<v Speaker 1>taking a moment to listen to a stream of water,

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<v Speaker 1>taking a moment to even put something on in the house.

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<v Speaker 1>Site sense and sounds are so powerful. The seventh way

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<v Speaker 1>of creating more peace and balance in your life is

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<v Speaker 1>stop assuming and over communicate. Peace and balance are lost

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<v Speaker 1>when we assume, we assume why people do what they do.

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<v Speaker 1>We assume that this is what's happened. We assume and

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<v Speaker 1>we don't give people the benefit of the debt. We

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<v Speaker 1>assume and think the worst of people, or we under communicate.

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<v Speaker 1>We never ask questions, we never talk to someone about it,

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<v Speaker 1>we never reflect. Communication leads to peace and balance, not

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<v Speaker 1>huming or expecting. And the eighth and final one, which

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<v Speaker 1>may surprise you, is you create more peace and balance

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<v Speaker 1>when you work for something that you're happy to stress for.

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<v Speaker 1>When you're happy experiencing stress, it doesn't feel like stress

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<v Speaker 1>or pressure. It feels like peace. When you feel the

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<v Speaker 1>joy of having gone out of your way for someone

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<v Speaker 1>or something that you love, that feels like peace, even

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<v Speaker 1>if it felt like imbalance. Create more memories and opportunities

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<v Speaker 1>like that. I hope this list of eight will be

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<v Speaker 1>something you practice this week. I'm so grateful you chose

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<v Speaker 1>to listen to me on on purpose I am loving

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<v Speaker 1>the energy. We just had our best two months ever.

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<v Speaker 1>I am so grateful. It has been incredible. We just

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<v Speaker 1>had our best two months ever all time listens, and

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<v Speaker 1>it's only just getting better. Thank you so much for listening.

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<v Speaker 1>Sending you so much love, m