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Speaker 1: back to On Purpose, the number one health podcast in

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Speaker 1: Now today's episode it's all about the eight ways to

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Speaker 1: Most of us have a life that's full of drama, chaos, pain, stress, imbalance, overwhelm, anxiety.

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Speaker 1: How many times have you just looked in the mirror

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Speaker 1: this episode is for you. Now. I was reading a

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Speaker 1: study from the Vision of Humanity dot org, and they

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Speaker 1: it's only just getting better. Thank you so much for listening.

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