WEBVTT - B!ches Love Luxury 0:00:00.240 --> 0:00:02.840 You guys, guess what. 0:00:04.519 --> 0:00:06.640 It's our time for our live show. 0:00:06.760 --> 0:00:10.320 It's our time for our live show. Wow, you guys, 0:00:10.760 --> 0:00:14.840 Jamila Sai, that's really what's happening here. Hi is FuG no, 0:00:14.960 --> 0:00:18.800 but on some real shit. We just announced our second 0:00:18.840 --> 0:00:22.320 live show in La, our hometown beach. 0:00:22.560 --> 0:00:25.959 It's our two year anniversary. It is March twenty eighth. 0:00:26.040 --> 0:00:29.040 It's in La. It's for twenty friendly. There's gonna be 0:00:29.080 --> 0:00:34.120 a bar, a bar, a music, a DJ, a band, 0:00:34.280 --> 0:00:38.920 us and it's at a secret location called House of 0:00:38.960 --> 0:00:42.160 Bad Choices for the night. And not only you're getting 0:00:42.320 --> 0:00:46.080 us as a show live, but you're getting a party. 0:00:45.960 --> 0:00:48.480 A party, because you know, we like to party. There's 0:00:48.600 --> 0:00:50.239 like no point in having a show if it's not 0:00:50.280 --> 0:00:52.479 a party. There's no point in being called Good Mom's 0:00:52.520 --> 0:00:56.120 Bad Choices if you're not gonna have a fucking party, period. 0:00:56.640 --> 0:01:01.480 So make sure you come out March twenty eighth. You 0:01:01.520 --> 0:01:05.240 can buy tickets on our website, Good Momsbad Choices dot com. 0:01:05.640 --> 0:01:07.880 Make sure you follow us on Instagram. You can also 0:01:07.880 --> 0:01:12.640 get the tickets there, and you can watch this episode 0:01:12.800 --> 0:01:19.520 on Patreon searching Good Moms, Bad Choices. We're talking horror stories. Too. 0:01:19.880 --> 0:01:22.920 Actually, extra episodes and. 0:01:24.200 --> 0:01:27.720 Sex and sex physitions. There's some no I'm talking about 0:01:27.720 --> 0:01:28.319 this episode. 0:01:28.480 --> 0:01:33.240 Oh oh okay, sorry, sex positions on Patreon this episodees. 0:01:33.240 --> 0:01:35.399 We're talking about a lot of stuff. 0:01:35.440 --> 0:01:37.760 I've done a lot of bad things that I'm confessing to, 0:01:37.959 --> 0:01:43.080 so you don't want to miss them anyway. 0:01:43.720 --> 0:01:46.560 Here's the episode. 0:01:47.480 --> 0:01:57.720 Enjoy it. 0:02:00.280 --> 0:02:04.080 Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and 0:02:04.080 --> 0:02:04.760 I'm Mila. 0:02:05.480 --> 0:02:08.400 Happy hump Day, Happy hump day people. 0:02:08.919 --> 0:02:13.320 What's everyone doing? How's everyone feeling? My back fucking hurts 0:02:13.320 --> 0:02:18.400 because I'm an old bitch. That's my song. Oh dautiful, Wow, bravo. 0:02:18.680 --> 0:02:20.640 I went to yoga class today for the first time 0:02:20.680 --> 0:02:24.919 in like a very long time, and I was trying 0:02:24.960 --> 0:02:28.040 to do way too much. I was really really pushing 0:02:28.080 --> 0:02:30.839 it with these white people. They were doing a lot 0:02:30.840 --> 0:02:32.919 of crazy shit and I was like, oh, I could 0:02:32.919 --> 0:02:33.120 do that. 0:02:33.160 --> 0:02:35.160 It was like a level seven class. 0:02:34.840 --> 0:02:38.520 Like it's like intermediate and it's heated, so they get 0:02:38.560 --> 0:02:40.200 you all warmed up and shit, and you'd be thinking 0:02:40.200 --> 0:02:41.960 you can do more than you can really do. That's me. 0:02:42.520 --> 0:02:46.280 So I was been at work all day. I was like, fuck, Like, 0:02:46.320 --> 0:02:46.919 what the fuck? 0:02:47.000 --> 0:02:47.200 Man? 0:02:47.880 --> 0:02:50.240 This is what thirty two feels like today. 0:02:50.360 --> 0:02:52.600 Erica asked me how old she was because she forgot 0:02:52.639 --> 0:02:53.639 for a moment I did. 0:02:54.240 --> 0:02:56.680 I literally genuinely forgot. I was hold at I was like, 0:02:56.720 --> 0:02:57.440 am I thirty one? 0:02:58.240 --> 0:03:01.600 I know, like thirty one, thirty one, thirty two, thirty 0:03:01.680 --> 0:03:02.760 it just all seems the same. 0:03:03.840 --> 0:03:07.440 I was at work and like one of the girls 0:03:07.560 --> 0:03:09.799 is like she just had her twenty sixth birthday, one 0:03:09.800 --> 0:03:14.280 of the girls that works for the brand, and she 0:03:14.400 --> 0:03:16.040 was like, oh, I feel like I'm on the other 0:03:16.160 --> 0:03:18.280 side of like the prime of my life. And I 0:03:18.280 --> 0:03:20.040 was like, bitcha, you don't shut the fuck up. I 0:03:20.200 --> 0:03:22.160 was kicked st I was like, I'm thirty two, so 0:03:22.240 --> 0:03:24.520 shut up. And I was like, actually, I feel better 0:03:25.240 --> 0:03:27.280 that than then. Like there was this other guy who 0:03:27.320 --> 0:03:29.239 was there. I was thirty two as well. He's like, 0:03:29.240 --> 0:03:31.079 if I can go back to any age, it would 0:03:31.120 --> 0:03:32.880 be twenty eight, twenty nine, And I was like, okay, 0:03:32.880 --> 0:03:35.680 twenty eight. Wasn't that actually start to realize? I did, 0:03:35.680 --> 0:03:38.560 But like, honestly, thirties, I'm really enjoying my thirties. Like 0:03:38.720 --> 0:03:41.800 I'm no, there's obviously I'm struggling all the time, but 0:03:42.200 --> 0:03:44.720 I don't. It's a different type of struggle. It's like 0:03:44.920 --> 0:03:47.840 this like extreme desire to just be to grow and 0:03:47.840 --> 0:03:50.240 be better, Whereas before I was just like what am 0:03:50.280 --> 0:03:50.640 I doing? 0:03:50.720 --> 0:03:51.360 What am I doing? 0:03:51.520 --> 0:03:52.280 What's having? 0:03:52.320 --> 0:03:53.080 What am I doing? 0:03:53.320 --> 0:03:55.640 Yeah, like you know, I am drowning. 0:03:55.240 --> 0:03:57.640 And I and I am still drowning. But I just 0:03:57.640 --> 0:04:00.120 feel like I have more of a trajectory, like I 0:04:00.160 --> 0:04:02.200 know where I'm going, where you're headed. Yeah, Whereas in 0:04:02.240 --> 0:04:04.640 my twenties, I did not have that fucking clue. 0:04:04.880 --> 0:04:08.240 Yeah, you know, it was just like hoping for something 0:04:08.240 --> 0:04:10.480 to happen, but you're not really sure what that is. 0:04:10.640 --> 0:04:12.600 And I was in a relationship most of my twenties. 0:04:14.480 --> 0:04:17.560 Yeah, you know what. In my twenties, I felt like 0:04:17.960 --> 0:04:22.160 I was in a relationship probably from like twenty five 0:04:22.440 --> 0:04:25.640 to twenty eight, twenty seven, twenty four to twenty seven, 0:04:26.080 --> 0:04:28.120 and like the beginning of my twenties, I was just 0:04:28.560 --> 0:04:31.080 sledting out so hard that I thought like, Okay, I 0:04:31.080 --> 0:04:33.560 need to be in a relationship to contain myself. That 0:04:33.720 --> 0:04:35.840 was my thought when I got into relationship. And then 0:04:35.880 --> 0:04:37.760 when I was in relationship, it felt like kind of 0:04:37.800 --> 0:04:40.640 normal and like because I wasn't sletting myself out, but 0:04:40.760 --> 0:04:42.760 also it was it became miserable. 0:04:42.960 --> 0:04:44.480 But it's good to be in a place for I 0:04:44.600 --> 0:04:46.160 know the. 0:04:46.160 --> 0:04:49.479 Life on both ends to be a controlled slut but 0:04:49.600 --> 0:04:52.120 not have somebody to tell you what to do. And 0:04:52.320 --> 0:04:55.280 also I feel like I know, like I'm more sure 0:04:55.279 --> 0:04:57.640 of myself. Even like before we started recording, me and 0:04:57.760 --> 0:05:00.640 Erica were talking about like two separate friends up occasions 0:05:00.720 --> 0:05:02.800 apologizing for things I said to us and we're like, 0:05:02.839 --> 0:05:05.919 I don't fucking think about that shit. And literally my 0:05:05.920 --> 0:05:07.760 friend last night I was telling her like how I 0:05:07.760 --> 0:05:10.160 want a business partner, and a partner like if we're 0:05:10.160 --> 0:05:11.960 not making money together, if you can't like mentor me, 0:05:12.040 --> 0:05:14.200 I don't really see it working. And she was like 0:05:14.279 --> 0:05:16.039 kind of arguing with me. And today she's like, I 0:05:16.080 --> 0:05:18.200 really apologize for like saying what I said. If it 0:05:18.240 --> 0:05:20.279 offended you, I said, girl, I. 0:05:20.200 --> 0:05:21.880 Know what I want, I know who I am. 0:05:22.000 --> 0:05:25.120 You can't offend me. That doesn't offend me. Like I 0:05:25.240 --> 0:05:27.440 just I think that's a part of the thirties, just 0:05:27.640 --> 0:05:30.440 knowing even in this space, what we're doing, Like I 0:05:30.520 --> 0:05:33.040 think I mean a lot of you know, I've always 0:05:33.080 --> 0:05:34.920 I'm always asked like, well, how do you make money 0:05:35.000 --> 0:05:37.000 doing that or what do you know? Like so it's 0:05:37.040 --> 0:05:40.880 about sweet smoking moms, like there's all. People may not 0:05:40.960 --> 0:05:43.400 get the picture, but I'm so sure of myself in 0:05:43.400 --> 0:05:46.159 this space in thirty one, that doesn't matter if you 0:05:46.200 --> 0:05:47.039 get the vision or not. 0:05:47.360 --> 0:05:48.320 Like I don't. I don't. 0:05:48.360 --> 0:05:53.520 I don't need I feel like I need people's reassurance less. Yeah, 0:05:53.560 --> 0:05:55.960 for sure, when I feel sexier, I feel like more 0:05:56.120 --> 0:06:00.320 better sexually. Speaking of that. Actually, also I recently like 0:06:00.400 --> 0:06:03.400 rekindled or like starting to hang out with a guy 0:06:03.400 --> 0:06:06.000 that I used to hang out with in my earlier twenties, 0:06:06.640 --> 0:06:11.280 and he has like a stocking fetish, and back then 0:06:11.400 --> 0:06:13.800 I remember like talking myself out of the situation, like 0:06:13.800 --> 0:06:15.919 what the fuck this is weird? He probably wants like 0:06:15.920 --> 0:06:19.320 it just honestly being judgmental even though I participated or whatever. 0:06:19.720 --> 0:06:21.440 But I of course you did. 0:06:21.720 --> 0:06:23.359 Of course I did. Even then I was, you know. 0:06:23.839 --> 0:06:27.680 But reconnecting with him now as like thirty one versus 0:06:27.720 --> 0:06:30.640 like twenty three years old, I'm like, I can I 0:06:30.880 --> 0:06:35.760 can better appreciate, I can better appreciate the kinks that 0:06:35.800 --> 0:06:38.600 he's older, he's established, you know. So it's like it is, 0:06:38.760 --> 0:06:41.719 you know, the thirties are a great place, and people 0:06:41.720 --> 0:06:43.479 told me that like for women, thirties you have your 0:06:43.520 --> 0:06:45.800 best sex, it's your best time. And I was panicking 0:06:45.839 --> 0:06:47.400 when I was twenty six to twenty seven souse. I'm like, 0:06:47.400 --> 0:06:48.280 I almost feel like. 0:06:48.360 --> 0:06:51.560 I went through an actual like I really could have been. 0:06:51.720 --> 0:06:54.120 You know, I was in a long term relationship, but 0:06:54.320 --> 0:06:58.240 I just I wasn't. I feel more sexual now than 0:06:58.279 --> 0:07:01.080 I did then. I think I had spurts of it, 0:07:01.720 --> 0:07:04.720 but I think because I am more secure in what 0:07:04.800 --> 0:07:08.640 I can provide sexually, and you know, I just feel like, 0:07:09.880 --> 0:07:11.840 I don't know, like I feel more assertive when it 0:07:11.840 --> 0:07:14.240 comes to it, So it feels more like for my 0:07:14.360 --> 0:07:17.720 pleasure and not just for his pleasure. And it is 0:07:17.840 --> 0:07:20.640 just for his pleasure. I'm not really that interested, but 0:07:20.680 --> 0:07:24.080 we're not doing it again. Yeah, sex for me has shifted. 0:07:24.440 --> 0:07:28.160 I'm doing it less to get like to prove myself 0:07:28.280 --> 0:07:30.240 or be wanted. It's just like, if I want to 0:07:30.280 --> 0:07:31.080 do it, I'll do it. 0:07:31.120 --> 0:07:32.240 I think there's still some of that. 0:07:32.480 --> 0:07:36.840 There is definitely some of that, and also like way 0:07:36.880 --> 0:07:39.000 to you see these moves, you're gonna love me. It's 0:07:39.040 --> 0:07:40.920 more that like, oh you'll think you like me. 0:07:41.000 --> 0:07:43.720 Now how about now, Oh right. 0:07:43.640 --> 0:07:47.640 You didn't know I could get better? There's that? 0:07:47.800 --> 0:07:54.520 Not about that sound yeah? No, I agree, that's so funny. Yeah, 0:07:54.600 --> 0:07:57.560 I really I definitely had so much sex for the 0:07:57.600 --> 0:08:01.080 pleasure of I mean, I got pleasure, but it was 0:08:01.120 --> 0:08:03.680 always like either I had to do it to myself 0:08:04.760 --> 0:08:08.320 or like it was just sometimes but it was I 0:08:08.320 --> 0:08:10.360 mean not I don't want like I had good sex 0:08:10.360 --> 0:08:12.560 in my twenties. I did, but I just feel like 0:08:12.800 --> 0:08:16.720 I am more now as a single woman. Really, Like 0:08:17.840 --> 0:08:19.080 that's my only concern. 0:08:19.320 --> 0:08:21.760 I had great sex in my in my with my 0:08:21.760 --> 0:08:25.960 baby daddy for like four straight years, which was a 0:08:26.000 --> 0:08:27.920 problem and a blessing was. 0:08:27.920 --> 0:08:31.320 Probably the reason you probably overstayed, oh for for sure. 0:08:32.160 --> 0:08:34.360 But other than that, like I had some good sex. No, 0:08:34.400 --> 0:08:38.839 I've had some good sex, but like mostly an unmememberable sex. 0:08:39.120 --> 0:08:41.079 Well, I think I had good sex too, but I 0:08:41.120 --> 0:08:43.080 think a lot of times too though, because you know, 0:08:43.440 --> 0:08:45.400 just like any relationship, you have your ups and downs, 0:08:45.400 --> 0:08:47.520 and ours A lot of it had to do with infidelity. 0:08:48.040 --> 0:08:51.520 I always felt like I had something to prove, like sexually, 0:08:51.920 --> 0:08:54.360 and so like it became a lot for his pleasure 0:08:54.440 --> 0:08:56.480 and because you thought like yeah, I think I'm doing 0:08:56.600 --> 0:08:58.760 and not because and he probably it's not even his fault, 0:08:58.760 --> 0:09:00.640 like he didn't even he had no idea, you know, 0:09:00.880 --> 0:09:03.560 he was sure, I'm sure focused on pleasing me too. 0:09:03.640 --> 0:09:07.000 But like for me, it was like, no, look what 0:09:07.040 --> 0:09:07.400 I can. 0:09:07.320 --> 0:09:08.400 Do right right? Yeah? 0:09:10.080 --> 0:09:16.439 Whereas now it's it's changed and I don't know it's 0:09:16.520 --> 0:09:18.360 I it's gonna be. It's interesting to think about, like 0:09:19.600 --> 0:09:22.240 when I do find like a boyfriend at some point 0:09:22.320 --> 0:09:25.240 in my life, like what sex is, what sex will 0:09:25.280 --> 0:09:27.319 be like for me? Then like because of because I 0:09:27.360 --> 0:09:29.360 don't look at it the same way all the time anymore, 0:09:31.280 --> 0:09:33.760 will I only be with Yeah, obviously I need to 0:09:33.760 --> 0:09:36.079 be with a man that is a pleaser. I don't know, 0:09:36.160 --> 0:09:36.880 it's a give and take. 0:09:37.480 --> 0:09:39.839 Well do you feel like, now as you've had more 0:09:39.880 --> 0:09:41.560 sex and you're in a different place, do you feel 0:09:41.600 --> 0:09:44.800 like you are capable of having a relationship that has 0:09:44.840 --> 0:09:48.480 all the other qualities and maybe sexes are right because 0:09:48.520 --> 0:09:50.680 you know how important those other qualities are. 0:09:50.960 --> 0:09:51.920 Or do you feel like. 0:09:52.120 --> 0:09:54.920 When you do the relationship, you know how important the 0:09:54.960 --> 0:09:57.960 sex is gonna like it's it's still cause I think 0:09:58.000 --> 0:10:00.599 I struggle. I'm struggling between the two, Like, cause I 0:10:00.640 --> 0:10:03.160 really I do need a sexual a super sexual attraction, 0:10:03.280 --> 0:10:06.520 someone who has high sex drive, someone who's like wants 0:10:06.559 --> 0:10:10.000 to like be spontaneous. Like these are all really important. 0:10:10.080 --> 0:10:14.480 Like it's that it's large or do you think like 0:10:14.559 --> 0:10:16.880 as you get older those things become less important. 0:10:17.160 --> 0:10:19.679 I think as we get older, we're told those things 0:10:19.720 --> 0:10:22.839 are supposed to get less important. And that's the problem, Okay, 0:10:22.960 --> 0:10:25.720 Like I think because if you haven't found your partner yet, 0:10:26.520 --> 0:10:29.000 it's easy to give advice like subtle. Yeah, like if 0:10:29.000 --> 0:10:31.480 you haven't found your partner yet that you that that 0:10:31.800 --> 0:10:35.280 possesses that quality that you need, but maybe has possessed 0:10:35.320 --> 0:10:38.480 other things and you know you've you've walked away from 0:10:38.480 --> 0:10:40.840 that or whatever, like then people will say that, and 0:10:40.840 --> 0:10:42.360 like people say that to me all the time. But 0:10:42.400 --> 0:10:48.160 for me, I feel like I've had you know, I've 0:10:48.360 --> 0:10:52.239 come to the realization even after my last relationship. 0:10:52.280 --> 0:10:52.439 Too. 0:10:52.480 --> 0:10:55.400 It's like the things that I will compromise and the 0:10:55.400 --> 0:10:57.640 things I won't compromise, you know. And one of those 0:10:57.679 --> 0:11:00.199 things is like having a partner that's like super sexually 0:11:00.280 --> 0:11:03.080 open to explore and like have fun and we can 0:11:03.160 --> 0:11:05.280 talk about shit and it's not an issue and it's 0:11:05.280 --> 0:11:06.120 not weird. 0:11:06.160 --> 0:11:08.240 Right, you know, which I think is even more I 0:11:08.240 --> 0:11:11.400 think when you have that clear communication, it's even higher 0:11:11.440 --> 0:11:14.080 than the actual sex because when you when you have 0:11:14.160 --> 0:11:16.560 that kind of clarity and that type of honest relationship, 0:11:17.160 --> 0:11:19.560 if there are things that aren't fulfilled sexually in the 0:11:19.559 --> 0:11:22.560 relationship or at all in any space, you can you 0:11:22.600 --> 0:11:27.120 can have the communication to say, like we can sleep 0:11:27.160 --> 0:11:28.319 with outside of the relationship. 0:11:28.360 --> 0:11:31.080 I think I've also had someone tell me who will 0:11:31.160 --> 0:11:33.000 named nameless, but I think you know who it is. 0:11:33.320 --> 0:11:35.840 She's older woman, has been within a relationship for a 0:11:35.840 --> 0:11:38.680 long time. Tell me that you know when she broke up, 0:11:38.679 --> 0:11:41.679 when her and her man broke up, she told me, Erica, 0:11:42.160 --> 0:11:45.400 if you do one thing, don't you ever compromise sex. 0:11:46.000 --> 0:11:47.200 Don't compromise sex. 0:11:47.679 --> 0:11:50.800 But what's most important about that that conversation is that 0:11:51.400 --> 0:11:54.720 she would ended up in the same relationship again, I know, 0:11:55.280 --> 0:12:00.000 I know, which is very interesting because so don't compromise. 0:12:00.160 --> 0:12:03.480 But also is that important, I know, and maybe maybe 0:12:03.480 --> 0:12:06.360 they do have some type of like but that that. 0:12:06.559 --> 0:12:09.560 And she told me that it like really resonated with 0:12:09.600 --> 0:12:14.760 me and like stuck to my core. And so that 0:12:15.160 --> 0:12:18.000 although you know, she's chosen to be back with that 0:12:18.040 --> 0:12:21.280 person and that's you know, whatever it is. But I 0:12:21.320 --> 0:12:23.680 know for me, I can't, I wouldn't. I don't want 0:12:23.679 --> 0:12:25.880 to do that. I like, I just feel like I 0:12:25.920 --> 0:12:27.520 can have good sex, So I think I'm gonna have 0:12:27.559 --> 0:12:32.720 bomb fire like lit sex every time all the time. No, 0:12:33.200 --> 0:12:35.480 there's gonna be times where like we probably have to 0:12:35.520 --> 0:12:38.640 work through some shit because we energetically aren't together, you 0:12:38.720 --> 0:12:41.480 know what I mean. And that's just relationships, Like we're 0:12:41.480 --> 0:12:43.400 not always gonna be in sync and that's going to 0:12:43.440 --> 0:12:45.520 affect our sex life. But I want to be with 0:12:45.559 --> 0:12:47.920 someone that I know, at least we have the foundation, 0:12:48.360 --> 0:12:50.679 you know, like we know, like I know it's in you. 0:12:51.320 --> 0:12:54.600 We're just not aligned right now, right and yeah, right 0:12:54.840 --> 0:12:57.920 right right, you know. Yeah, So I'm not unrealistic about 0:12:57.920 --> 0:12:58.320 that either. 0:12:58.360 --> 0:13:02.560 But also I think you're right likeness to just having 0:13:02.600 --> 0:13:06.240 a fun sexual experience and like just being open is 0:13:06.480 --> 0:13:09.160 mostly what's the key. Because I've dated guys who sex 0:13:09.240 --> 0:13:11.439 was like it was okay, it was average, it was good, 0:13:12.160 --> 0:13:14.679 but I thought that there were some places that needed improvement. 0:13:15.080 --> 0:13:18.880 But also I felt like they were so they weren't 0:13:18.880 --> 0:13:20.280 able to take that type of. 0:13:20.360 --> 0:13:22.439 I think you're I think it's I think also too, 0:13:22.960 --> 0:13:26.360 sex can improve. It's not like I don't necessarily always 0:13:26.440 --> 0:13:28.680 judge the first time. Oh No, I feel like the 0:13:28.679 --> 0:13:32.079 first time we're we're figuring each other out, Like you're 0:13:32.120 --> 0:13:33.719 trying to figure out what I like. I mean, if 0:13:33.720 --> 0:13:36.720 it's great the first time, bomb, but if I feel 0:13:36.720 --> 0:13:39.800 that there's something there, I'll try it again. See how 0:13:39.920 --> 0:13:42.400 like receptive you are to my needs? 0:13:42.760 --> 0:13:42.960 Right? 0:13:43.040 --> 0:13:45.560 Because I'm a giving person, I want to please you, 0:13:45.720 --> 0:13:48.240 So I'm gonna ask you anyway, you know, I mean, 0:13:48.360 --> 0:13:52.359 that's just how I roll. Here comes to my child 0:13:53.000 --> 0:14:02.959 hear about her mother's sex abilities drama. Yes, maybe go 0:14:02.960 --> 0:14:05.199 get them, go get them, but put them back. Okay, 0:14:05.679 --> 0:14:13.560 alright my child? Yeah that's good, perfect, Thank you. I 0:14:13.559 --> 0:14:17.400 think it's loud, you think, actually, irie. 0:14:16.920 --> 0:14:19.320 You can here's snow waite or sleeping beauty from here. 0:14:19.400 --> 0:14:21.960 You're right, baby, it's too loud. You have to close it. 0:14:23.160 --> 0:14:24.480 You have to close it all the way cause my 0:14:24.520 --> 0:14:32.400 I can hear it on the here close it big, yeah, yes, 0:14:32.480 --> 0:14:44.600 thank you? Are you going back? Are you just r no? 0:14:45.720 --> 0:14:46.080 Anyway? 0:14:48.040 --> 0:14:50.080 What we're talking? Sex talk? 0:14:50.600 --> 0:14:50.760 Oh? 0:14:50.800 --> 0:14:52.320 Oh, sex of sexual abilities? 0:14:52.440 --> 0:14:57.680 Oh the openness to actually getting better and saying, oh 0:14:57.720 --> 0:14:59.880 I am open to this, Okay, I'll try that. That's 0:15:00.440 --> 0:15:02.440 that I said. That's bigger because if you don't feel 0:15:02.440 --> 0:15:04.640 comfortable enough to tell someone like that's you know, you 0:15:04.640 --> 0:15:05.680 don't want to do new things. 0:15:05.720 --> 0:15:11.360 And yeah, I don't know ship plateau. Yeah, I think 0:15:11.600 --> 0:15:12.800 relationships plato. 0:15:13.880 --> 0:15:15.120 Relationships do plateau. 0:15:16.120 --> 0:15:18.320 You know, I don't necessarily mean the end, but like 0:15:18.400 --> 0:15:20.160 they just do at some point. 0:15:20.520 --> 0:15:22.080 What do you mean, like there's no way of getting 0:15:22.080 --> 0:15:23.080 out of the there is. 0:15:23.360 --> 0:15:27.840 It's called sacrifice and you know, forcing shit sometimes. But 0:15:28.280 --> 0:15:30.480 I mean, I believe, of course I want like my 0:15:30.560 --> 0:15:32.200 life partner. Of course, I want the person that I'm 0:15:32.200 --> 0:15:34.960 gonna spend my entire life with, I'm gonna die with. 0:15:35.680 --> 0:15:38.200 You know, we're gonna be together, we're gonna get married, 0:15:38.520 --> 0:15:40.200 we're gonna have great sex, we can go, we're gonna 0:15:40.240 --> 0:15:42.800 go through hard times, we're gonna work through them. And 0:15:42.880 --> 0:15:46.040 all that ship I do because I don't know it 0:15:46.120 --> 0:15:49.760 sounds nice and baby, just do it. Open them and 0:15:49.800 --> 0:15:53.200 put it in the bowl. Just pull it, just pull it, 0:15:53.280 --> 0:15:55.360 pull it apart, use both your hands and pull it. 0:15:55.640 --> 0:15:57.520 But you can't open it. It's just like a ziplock bag. 0:16:00.160 --> 0:16:03.960 Yeah, there you go. You probably need to put it 0:16:04.000 --> 0:16:06.440 on a table, you guys, Hold on a second. We'll 0:16:06.440 --> 0:16:25.160 be right back. Okay, I'm sorry. My child knows when 0:16:25.160 --> 0:16:29.640 I'm on my rants. She's like, no, mom, we won't 0:16:29.720 --> 0:16:35.720 let you be great. I uh. I guess what I 0:16:35.760 --> 0:16:37.920 was just trying to say is that I don't know. 0:16:38.040 --> 0:16:40.240 I'm not I guess. I guess I kind of am 0:16:40.240 --> 0:16:42.000 a pessimist when it comes to love. And I don't 0:16:42.000 --> 0:16:44.400 mean a pessimist, but I just feel like I know, 0:16:44.880 --> 0:16:49.120 of course I want that eternal love, but I also 0:16:49.200 --> 0:16:51.520 realize that people are people, and they grow out of 0:16:51.560 --> 0:16:55.640 each other forever. It's a real fucking long time. But 0:16:55.720 --> 0:16:58.000 also life is short too, you know, And I think 0:16:58.000 --> 0:17:00.760 about that too, because time goes with quickly, you know, 0:17:00.840 --> 0:17:03.040 when you're like syncd up if you find that person. 0:17:03.520 --> 0:17:06.560 I do believe that, like people have multiple soulmates, and 0:17:09.200 --> 0:17:11.480 they might not always you know that. I just I 0:17:11.480 --> 0:17:19.560 don't know, but it's confusing. It is confusing because I 0:17:19.560 --> 0:17:20.560 feels the same way if. 0:17:20.440 --> 0:17:22.479 I can love multiple people in a lifetime, we can 0:17:22.560 --> 0:17:26.119 have multiple soulmates. I mean, ultimately, yes, I guess I 0:17:26.160 --> 0:17:27.240 do want to just grow old. 0:17:27.240 --> 0:17:29.239 I guess that means it's a matter of like how 0:17:29.320 --> 0:17:32.080 much are you willing? Maybe you find a person that 0:17:32.119 --> 0:17:34.639 doesn't feel like a sacrifice. Maybe you find a person 0:17:35.080 --> 0:17:38.639 definitely you know, the good outweighs the badge so much 0:17:38.800 --> 0:17:42.560 that anything else feels like what's the point? 0:17:42.760 --> 0:17:45.520 Yeah, that's the only way, you know, it's the only way. 0:17:45.680 --> 0:17:51.480 That's the only way. At like period, I would never 0:17:51.720 --> 0:17:53.879 want to settle with someone and be with someone and 0:17:54.000 --> 0:17:57.240 feel like in that I've lost a little peace of myself. 0:17:57.560 --> 0:17:59.399 It would only be like, damn, you make me better. 0:17:59.520 --> 0:18:02.720 This makes my life better, Like it makes more sense 0:18:02.760 --> 0:18:05.520 to be with you than to not be with you, 0:18:05.520 --> 0:18:08.400 you know what I mean. Like, I do not believe 0:18:08.440 --> 0:18:11.640 however that looks for us. I still think that that 0:18:11.680 --> 0:18:17.919 looks like growing old together, hopefully you know. Like, but 0:18:19.240 --> 0:18:22.119 I guess, I guess. I guess the whole thing with 0:18:22.640 --> 0:18:25.840 wanting true genuine love is that and with the reality 0:18:25.920 --> 0:18:27.800 is that you have to accept that the truth is 0:18:28.280 --> 0:18:30.720 at any point, they could fall in love with someone else. 0:18:31.280 --> 0:18:35.119 They could change, they could shift, it could it could change, 0:18:35.440 --> 0:18:39.040 because that's reality too. But I think the most important 0:18:39.040 --> 0:18:43.480 thing is just experiencing love without expectation, which is hard 0:18:43.520 --> 0:18:47.919 because your mind forever, I know. 0:18:48.920 --> 0:18:54.000 Yeah. 0:18:54.440 --> 0:18:59.760 Anyway, so you guys were having a meetup in New York, 0:19:00.080 --> 0:19:05.680 going out there next Wednesday. We are going to meet 0:19:06.200 --> 0:19:12.040 Thursday night Supper NYC. Make sure you go check out 0:19:12.400 --> 0:19:15.960 their website at supper nyc dot com. 0:19:16.240 --> 0:19:18.720 You just made that up? Can you not? 0:19:19.040 --> 0:19:22.120 Can you find the restaurant? Fucking try information? 0:19:22.359 --> 0:19:22.520 Oh? 0:19:22.640 --> 0:19:27.240 Okay, this is the worst. One fifty six East Second 0:19:27.320 --> 0:19:30.280 Street in New York. One fifty six East second Street. 0:19:31.920 --> 0:19:35.879 And I don't see a website, but their profile is 0:19:35.880 --> 0:19:36.879 at Supper NYC. 0:19:37.640 --> 0:19:40.560 They have bomb pasta. It's really good. Ooh, this looks 0:19:40.600 --> 0:19:41.520 really expensive. 0:19:42.240 --> 0:19:45.960 It's a medium. It's like mediums are expensive. Okay, it's 0:19:46.040 --> 0:19:48.760 not really that expensive, all right, well, but it's it's 0:19:48.800 --> 0:19:50.960 even classier. I don't think they have hard liquor. I 0:19:50.960 --> 0:19:53.520 think they have wine. So bring a flask. 0:19:54.800 --> 0:19:56.040 They're a hard liquor. 0:19:56.040 --> 0:19:58.720 What are we doing there drinking wine like classys? 0:19:58.880 --> 0:19:59.200 Okay? 0:20:00.080 --> 0:20:05.880 Out Thursday eight pm, Thursday eight pm, Supper, New York, 0:20:06.560 --> 0:20:10.440 Supper NYC at one fifty sixty second set. 0:20:10.520 --> 0:20:12.480 Wait, is this not gonna run? We're at work, people 0:20:12.520 --> 0:20:15.520 have work. Should we make it earlier, I mean later 0:20:16.400 --> 0:20:19.680 work like eight is a good time. Okay, Yeah, well yeah, okay, 0:20:19.680 --> 0:20:24.960 it's New York, so uh, there's gonna be limited ours. 0:20:25.080 --> 0:20:29.760 There's gonna be limited reservations. So if you want to go, 0:20:31.040 --> 0:20:37.439 DMS the first twelve people two DM loo get a confirmation. 0:20:38.640 --> 0:20:40.240