Speaker 1: M hm. Hi everyone, and welcome to Dear cheek Ees.
Speaker 1: This is a brandow addition to my Chickens and Chill podcast,
Speaker 1: and if you haven't heard it, go check it out.
Speaker 1: Those episodes are longer and more depth. But here on
Speaker 1: Dear Cheeks, I'm connecting with you on a deeper level.
Speaker 1: It's just me and you. Each week I'll be answering
Speaker 1: your questions on love, relationships, and so much more. Submit
Speaker 1: your questions at speak pipe dot com slash cheek Ease
Speaker 1: and Chill Podcast. Okay, so now that you know what
Speaker 1: to expect on this show, let's press play and get
Speaker 1: into the first question. Hi, good morning, cheek Ees. My
Speaker 1: name is Antonio, one of your boss fees from Orange County.
Speaker 1: My question for you is what are your thoughts surrounding
Speaker 1: the process of letting someone go, someone that doesn't serve
Speaker 1: your higher purpose, some one that is not implementing anything
Speaker 1: positive into your life. I'm the type of person that's
Speaker 1: very sensitive to energies. I like being around like minded
Speaker 1: individuals who bring positive vibes and who elevate my life
Speaker 1: and complement it. Oftentimes I find myself giving people more
Speaker 1: than one chance, giving them the benefit of the doubt
Speaker 1: I'm a cancer, so um I can resonate with you
Speaker 1: in that sense. But for me, I feel that some
Speaker 1: people should just you know, know right from wrong, and
Speaker 1: you know, they should take accountability for their actions, and
Speaker 1: they should apologize and come forth and make amends. What
Speaker 1: are your thoughts about that cheek ease? And more specifically,
Speaker 1: what I'm trying to ask is do those people always
Speaker 1: deserve an explanation prior to you cutting them off? Or
Speaker 1: would you just cut them off even without explaining anything. Wow, Antonio,
Speaker 1: very very nice question. Thank you so much for being
Speaker 1: one of my boss bes. Look, I was just actually
Speaker 1: giving someone advice on this yesterday. I think throughout the years,
Speaker 1: and as I've gotten older and more mature, I've learned
Speaker 1: to let go of people that don't serve my higher good.
Speaker 1: If they're not giving me what I'm giving them and
Speaker 1: they're only taking up space and making me sad and
Speaker 1: causing me pain, then that's an indication for me to
Speaker 1: just say, let me love this person from afar, even
Speaker 1: if it's a family member a friend, especially if it's
Speaker 1: someone that you're in a relationship with, because you are
Speaker 1: constantly connecting and exchanging energies with the person you're significant other,
Speaker 1: so it's very difficult. It's a lot easier said than done.
Speaker 1: I do feel that you should give the person somewhat
Speaker 1: of an explanation if they deserve it, even if you
Speaker 1: send a voice note. Sometimes I've sent voice notes to
Speaker 1: people where I'm like, Hey, I don't need you to respond,
Speaker 1: I'm just letting you know that I am no longer
Speaker 1: going to contact you. I don't want you to contact me.
Speaker 1: You did X, Y and Z, and because of that,
Speaker 1: I am ex naming you out of my life. And
Speaker 1: I blocked them and I don't ask or wonder if
Speaker 1: they responded or anything. And there have been people that
Speaker 1: I've just cut off because they know they've done something
Speaker 1: that they weren't supposed to do, and I feel like
Speaker 1: they don't need an explanation. But it always makes me
Speaker 1: feel better to say, hey, I am pushing you out
Speaker 1: of my life because of this reason, so that they're
Speaker 1: aware of it and they have the opportunity of changing
Speaker 1: or not, you know, because sometimes if you don't let
Speaker 1: the person know what it is that they're doing and
Speaker 1: how they are affecting you, then they're never going to
Speaker 1: learn it all just depends in the situation. But I
Speaker 1: do feel that it's okay to love people from Afar
Speaker 1: and wish them well from Afar doesn't matter who they are,
Speaker 1: you know. And then there are other people like my
Speaker 1: siblings that I'm like, it doesn't matter what it is
Speaker 1: that they do, I will speak to them. For me,
Speaker 1: it's like important to have certain relationship with certain people.
Speaker 1: But I have let go of the closest people in
Speaker 1: my life because they affect me in a negative way.
Speaker 1: So there's no shame in that. And just answer your question. Yes,
Speaker 1: I do feel that it would be good for you
Speaker 1: to just say, hey, this is my reason, whether it
Speaker 1: be a text, whether it be a letter, whether it
Speaker 1: be an email, a voice note, and just let them
Speaker 1: know it's okay and it's important to love yourself and Antonio.
Speaker 1: I hope that my advice helped And if you have
Speaker 1: any other questions, I'm here to answer them. Now let's
Speaker 1: go into the second question. Hey, Jeekie, is Jackie from Jersey?
Speaker 1: Would you forgive a cheater? Hi? Jackie from Jersey thought
Speaker 1: me into the Jersey. Thank you for your question. Look,
Speaker 1: I have forgiven a cheater before I have. If you
Speaker 1: can forgive someone and try to forget, then go ahead.
Speaker 1: It's important for you to forgive with the clean heart.
Speaker 1: And if you're going to be in a relationship with
Speaker 1: that person and try to move forward, you cannot keep
Speaker 1: bringing it up like you have to really forgive and
Speaker 1: let it go, because if not, you're going to ruin
Speaker 1: the relationship. If you feel I'm always going to think
Speaker 1: about it over and over. It's going to be in
Speaker 1: the back of my mind. How did he kiss the girl?
Speaker 1: How did they have sex? Did he like her more
Speaker 1: than me? That is all going to torment your mind.
Speaker 1: So I would say, forgive him or forgive her. If
Speaker 1: it's a boy or girl, doesn't matter. Forgive the cheater
Speaker 1: and let them go and just say thank you for
Speaker 1: the experience. But I can't move forward with you. But
Speaker 1: if you can forgive and try to forget, pussy, I
Speaker 1: think it's a beautiful thing to forgive. It gives you
Speaker 1: the wings of liberty. So that's my advice on that
Speaker 1: gamin thing. Then go for it, Mama. Okay. I hope
Speaker 1: that I was able to help in some way. Okay,
Speaker 1: let's get into the next question. This one is from
Speaker 1: Nellie Hey chick eas I just wanted to say that
Speaker 1: I absolutely love and adore you for everything that you
Speaker 1: have overcome and everything that you're currently still doing. I
Speaker 1: was a huge fan of your mom when I was
Speaker 1: a kid, and I still am, and I'm a huge
Speaker 1: fan of you and your music, So keep up the
Speaker 1: good work. I just wanted to get your advice and
Speaker 1: a little something. I started to talk to this guy
Speaker 1: last year, literally January first. Who started to talk. But
Speaker 1: we're getting to know each other for about a good
Speaker 1: six or seven months, but then we ended up losing
Speaker 1: contact and you know, we ended up seeing other people
Speaker 1: during that time. He ended up getting into relationship with
Speaker 1: someone else. We recently reconnected about four or five months ago,
Speaker 1: and ever since then, we have been talking all day
Speaker 1: every day. We both work a lot, so we don't
Speaker 1: see each other, but when we do, our chemistry and
Speaker 1: saying it's always good bye. We laugh and talk about
Speaker 1: everything and anything for hours. We have not had sex.
Speaker 1: We don't talk about sex at all. Um, we never
Speaker 1: even kissed. That most we have done is give each
Speaker 1: other a hug. Um. We both know what's wrong because
Speaker 1: he's still currently in a relationship. But he did tell
Speaker 1: me he wants to see where this goes with me.
Speaker 1: So I want to know, should I just see where
Speaker 1: it goes with him, because like I started, chemistry is insane?
Speaker 1: Or should I just you know, let him continue to
Speaker 1: be with his girlfriend and fix that relationship or whatever
Speaker 1: they want to do, because like I said, I feel horrible.
Speaker 1: I know what I feels like to be cheated on.
Speaker 1: And we both know what's horrible. We both know what's
Speaker 1: wrong that we that we like each other, but I
Speaker 1: just don't know what to do. I'm stuck, Nellie. Okay, Well,
Speaker 1: first of all, thank you, Mama, thank you for for
Speaker 1: the love and support. Like maybe I'm I'm gonna be
Speaker 1: a hunter with you right now. I think you're too
Speaker 1: much of a great person and woman and you should
Speaker 1: give yourself that place. And if I know that just
Speaker 1: by hearing you, you should know that. So if he's
Speaker 1: in a relationship, Mama, you have to respect at You
Speaker 1: wouldn't want him to do the same thing to you.
Speaker 1: And if he's doing it to her, he will most
Speaker 1: likely do it to you because he's gonna know that
Speaker 1: you're okay with that, you know what I mean, Like
Speaker 1: you're already starting off on the wrong foot, so I
Speaker 1: think the best advice that I can give you is
Speaker 1: you need to cut that off. If he really likes
Speaker 1: you and he really wants to be with you, then
Speaker 1: he's going to leave that relationship and then start something
Speaker 1: with you. But at this point, I don't know if
Speaker 1: he's a person that you can trust. Because it's good
Speaker 1: that you guys haven't had sex or kiss or anything
Speaker 1: like that. But I think it's not fair for you
Speaker 1: that he's one ft in, one foot out in that
Speaker 1: relationship and trying to figure out, Okay, well is it
Speaker 1: better over here with Nelly or should I continue with
Speaker 1: my with my girlfriend. You know, that's what he's doing.
Speaker 1: He's getting his cake and eating it too, and that's
Speaker 1: not cool. And you should also as a woman, we
Speaker 1: all have to respect other women, and if he's in
Speaker 1: a relationship, I would recommend for you to respect that
Speaker 1: other woman because I'm sure she wouldn't be okay with it.
Speaker 1: And if you do decide to end things with him,
Speaker 1: I think that you should send him a message. I
Speaker 1: don't even think it should be in person, to be honest,
Speaker 1: because you don't want to have that opportunity of him
Speaker 1: trying to sway you. I think that you should just
Speaker 1: send him a nice either email or text message explaining, Hey,
Speaker 1: I've come to the realization that this isn't good for
Speaker 1: me or for you, and it's not fair to your girlfriend.
Speaker 1: And I want to put good energy out there and
Speaker 1: I wish you the best, but I have to end
Speaker 1: this because this is not okay. It's not going to
Speaker 1: be easy. I know you like this guy, but go
Speaker 1: mo list and let it go and if it comes back,
Speaker 1: then it's meant for you. But then you also have
Speaker 1: to sit and say, Okay, do I really want that
Speaker 1: type of guy? Like what if you guys are together, Yeah,
Speaker 1: he leaves his girlfriend and then comes with you, and
Speaker 1: then you guys are happy for a year and he's
Speaker 1: still like you don't even like what if the cycle repeats?
Speaker 1: Is what I'm saying. Give yourself your place so that
Speaker 1: he can give you your place. If that makes sense.
Speaker 1: That's my advice to you, Nelly. I'm sending you a
Speaker 1: big hug. Girl. I know it's easier said than done,
Speaker 1: but love yourself, Mama, love yourself more m Thank you
Speaker 1: all for submitting your questions, and just a friendly reminder
Speaker 1: to speak to a therapist if you're struggling with an
Speaker 1: issue or hardship. I've said this many times, but I'm
Speaker 1: going to say it again. I really think I was
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