1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:03,200 Speaker 1: I don't care if my sister has cancer. I am 2 00:00:03,320 --> 00:00:05,080 Speaker 1: not doing her hair for the wedding. 3 00:00:05,440 --> 00:00:09,559 Speaker 2: You know, that might be the most unreasonable statement we've 4 00:00:10,080 --> 00:00:12,280 Speaker 2: ever heard, and we've heard some unreasonable statements on this. 5 00:00:12,280 --> 00:00:15,160 Speaker 2: Here comes the bride, and here comes the bread's sister, 6 00:00:15,200 --> 00:00:18,400 Speaker 2: who may or may not be an a hole. OKAYOPI 7 00:00:19,280 --> 00:00:21,400 Speaker 2: My sister is getting married in a couple of months. 8 00:00:21,600 --> 00:00:25,120 Speaker 2: She just finished cancer treatments recently, and her hair has 9 00:00:25,160 --> 00:00:28,000 Speaker 2: been badly affected by this. She's very self conscious of it, 10 00:00:28,080 --> 00:00:30,440 Speaker 2: so she wanted me to be your hairstylist on wedding 11 00:00:30,480 --> 00:00:32,760 Speaker 2: day instead of going to the salon. She approached me 12 00:00:32,800 --> 00:00:35,120 Speaker 2: about it a month ago and I said. 13 00:00:35,240 --> 00:00:39,159 Speaker 3: No, why, What reason could she possibly have? 14 00:00:39,400 --> 00:00:42,640 Speaker 1: Well, there have been some very mixed opinions in our 15 00:00:42,680 --> 00:00:45,320 Speaker 1: family about this, so I decided to post about it 16 00:00:45,560 --> 00:00:47,280 Speaker 1: and see what the consensus would be. 17 00:00:47,600 --> 00:00:49,360 Speaker 3: Let strangers on the internet the. 18 00:00:49,440 --> 00:00:52,879 Speaker 1: Signe all right, yes, go to Reddit for your familial problems. 19 00:00:52,880 --> 00:00:55,840 Speaker 1: It will always help some of the background reasons, I said. 20 00:00:55,880 --> 00:00:56,000 Speaker 4: Now. 21 00:00:56,240 --> 00:00:59,160 Speaker 1: She and I have had our issues in the past. 22 00:00:59,520 --> 00:01:01,480 Speaker 1: She lost one of her best friends around the same 23 00:01:01,520 --> 00:01:04,920 Speaker 1: time I was diagnosed with anxiety disorder. She had expected 24 00:01:04,959 --> 00:01:07,119 Speaker 1: our whole family to go to the funeral, but our 25 00:01:07,240 --> 00:01:10,080 Speaker 1: older brothers stayed home with me while our parents took 26 00:01:10,120 --> 00:01:12,760 Speaker 1: her to the funeral. She was pissed at our brothers 27 00:01:12,800 --> 00:01:15,200 Speaker 1: and at me. She said her friend had been the 28 00:01:15,200 --> 00:01:17,959 Speaker 1: best person and we should all have been there for her. 29 00:01:18,440 --> 00:01:21,440 Speaker 1: I personally did not like her friend. She was mean 30 00:01:21,480 --> 00:01:23,080 Speaker 1: to me as a kid. She was mean to me 31 00:01:23,240 --> 00:01:26,120 Speaker 1: up to the day she died. Even so I wasn't grieving. 32 00:01:26,400 --> 00:01:29,160 Speaker 1: I was also not good around people. Then my sister 33 00:01:29,240 --> 00:01:32,160 Speaker 1: told me she wished it had been Wow. My sister 34 00:01:32,240 --> 00:01:34,480 Speaker 1: told me that she wished it had been me who 35 00:01:34,560 --> 00:01:37,399 Speaker 1: died instead of her best friend, because at least her 36 00:01:37,400 --> 00:01:38,800 Speaker 1: best friend would have cared. 37 00:01:39,200 --> 00:01:41,160 Speaker 3: Oh my. 38 00:01:43,319 --> 00:01:44,679 Speaker 4: God, damn. 39 00:01:45,480 --> 00:01:46,120 Speaker 3: Wow. 40 00:01:46,240 --> 00:01:47,640 Speaker 4: That is intense. 41 00:01:47,720 --> 00:01:51,600 Speaker 3: This is a very insane family dynamic. 42 00:01:51,720 --> 00:01:54,640 Speaker 1: I mean, obviously the sister is terrible for saying that, 43 00:01:54,840 --> 00:01:58,400 Speaker 1: but to like not I mean, I think I go 44 00:01:58,600 --> 00:02:00,240 Speaker 1: to the funeral. I know they were a bull, but 45 00:02:00,280 --> 00:02:03,480 Speaker 1: to not like support your sister is all, Yeah, I 46 00:02:03,520 --> 00:02:05,800 Speaker 1: think that is it's less a bit. 47 00:02:06,200 --> 00:02:10,880 Speaker 2: I understand that it sucks, but like I do think 48 00:02:10,919 --> 00:02:13,359 Speaker 2: it is a bit much to not go to the funeral. 49 00:02:13,560 --> 00:02:16,720 Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't know, that's yeah, I mean the person's dad, like. 50 00:02:16,919 --> 00:02:19,400 Speaker 3: Yeah, like just respect for your sister. 51 00:02:19,639 --> 00:02:20,959 Speaker 4: Yeah, honestly good. 52 00:02:21,480 --> 00:02:24,440 Speaker 1: About a year after that, her boyfriend at the time 53 00:02:24,639 --> 00:02:27,840 Speaker 1: cheated on her. I'd heard the rumors, but our relationship 54 00:02:27,880 --> 00:02:30,680 Speaker 1: was nothing at that point, she so basically he didn't 55 00:02:30,680 --> 00:02:33,080 Speaker 1: say anything even though she heard rumors about the boyfriend cheating. 56 00:02:33,760 --> 00:02:35,760 Speaker 4: Oh my kind of sounded like an asshole. 57 00:02:36,400 --> 00:02:38,799 Speaker 1: She realized, I must have heard the rumors and got 58 00:02:38,800 --> 00:02:40,160 Speaker 1: mad at me for not telling her. 59 00:02:40,560 --> 00:02:43,400 Speaker 4: That's kind of fair, Yeah, come on, kind of fair. 60 00:02:43,680 --> 00:02:46,200 Speaker 1: I told her I don't care what's going on in 61 00:02:46,240 --> 00:02:48,800 Speaker 1: her life, which is true. I reminded her of what 62 00:02:48,840 --> 00:02:51,399 Speaker 1: she had said to me previously, which yeah, I got. 63 00:02:51,400 --> 00:02:51,720 Speaker 4: I got. 64 00:02:51,840 --> 00:02:54,160 Speaker 1: But then we kind of patch things up, and after 65 00:02:54,200 --> 00:02:57,400 Speaker 1: not living together for a couple of years, we weren't close, 66 00:02:57,880 --> 00:03:01,239 Speaker 1: but it's better than what we had previously. But that's, 67 00:03:01,320 --> 00:03:03,680 Speaker 1: you know, to be expected. I would imagine. 68 00:03:03,280 --> 00:03:05,640 Speaker 3: Anything's better than what's going on right. 69 00:03:05,560 --> 00:03:07,800 Speaker 4: Now that that relationship funded terrible. 70 00:03:07,919 --> 00:03:11,080 Speaker 1: When our oldest brother got married, our sister in law 71 00:03:11,240 --> 00:03:14,320 Speaker 1: asked us both to be bridesmaids and asked if I 72 00:03:14,360 --> 00:03:16,800 Speaker 1: could do her hair because I'm a hairstylist and I'm 73 00:03:16,880 --> 00:03:19,280 Speaker 1: damn good at that Oh, she got really jealous of 74 00:03:19,320 --> 00:03:21,520 Speaker 1: the fact our sister in law spent more time with 75 00:03:21,720 --> 00:03:24,240 Speaker 1: me and that I was more involved. 76 00:03:23,800 --> 00:03:24,360 Speaker 4: Than she was. 77 00:03:25,000 --> 00:03:27,680 Speaker 1: She ended up mocking me for being so quiet and saying, 78 00:03:27,760 --> 00:03:31,480 Speaker 1: I must be a terrible hairstylist because everyone knows you 79 00:03:31,520 --> 00:03:33,960 Speaker 1: go to chat to the stylist as much as you 80 00:03:34,040 --> 00:03:35,280 Speaker 1: go to get your hair done. 81 00:03:35,520 --> 00:03:37,200 Speaker 4: And I can hardly hold a conversation. 82 00:03:37,480 --> 00:03:40,040 Speaker 1: What a weird thing to like dig on, Yeah, it's 83 00:03:40,080 --> 00:03:43,760 Speaker 1: kind of talk when you do people's hair. Okay, well, 84 00:03:44,280 --> 00:03:47,480 Speaker 1: just to be fair, the reason I love my new 85 00:03:47,720 --> 00:03:51,360 Speaker 1: barber he has the talk down, yeah, and he has 86 00:03:51,480 --> 00:03:53,520 Speaker 1: the actually like doing the hair down the cuts. 87 00:03:53,280 --> 00:03:55,640 Speaker 2: Because I mean it's hard to talk and do something 88 00:03:55,640 --> 00:03:56,640 Speaker 2: at the same time. 89 00:03:56,480 --> 00:03:58,080 Speaker 4: And he's so good at it. That's why I love 90 00:03:58,120 --> 00:03:58,520 Speaker 4: my barber. 91 00:03:58,640 --> 00:03:58,839 Speaker 3: Yeah. 92 00:03:58,840 --> 00:04:00,840 Speaker 1: My barber's like like, like, get the sign of an 93 00:04:00,840 --> 00:04:03,600 Speaker 1: amazing barber or hairstylist is being able to do the talk. 94 00:04:03,640 --> 00:04:07,360 Speaker 1: So like, obviously don't say this because it's mean, but 95 00:04:07,600 --> 00:04:09,720 Speaker 1: she got a point, Like, she got a point. 96 00:04:09,960 --> 00:04:12,640 Speaker 4: I the best barbers are good talkers. 97 00:04:12,680 --> 00:04:14,560 Speaker 2: Also, what I love is sa This is maybe like 98 00:04:14,640 --> 00:04:17,200 Speaker 2: the third time that Sam has mentioned this barber, Like, 99 00:04:17,480 --> 00:04:21,240 Speaker 2: I love barber's shop. I love how passionate you are. 100 00:04:21,440 --> 00:04:24,240 Speaker 4: It's so good. Andrew tells barbershop, he's freaking all. 101 00:04:24,279 --> 00:04:24,720 Speaker 3: Here we go. 102 00:04:24,880 --> 00:04:27,360 Speaker 2: We we worn't on a sponsorship with him where we 103 00:04:27,400 --> 00:04:29,320 Speaker 2: get our haircut as a reading story. 104 00:04:29,440 --> 00:04:31,320 Speaker 4: Oh yeah, that's better. That's better. 105 00:04:31,440 --> 00:04:33,919 Speaker 1: I would actually still pay him, like for free. I 106 00:04:33,960 --> 00:04:37,000 Speaker 1: know I tip him heavy, dude. Yeah, I'm like, no, 107 00:04:37,040 --> 00:04:39,680 Speaker 1: I wouldn't say I'm a big tipper. I tip heavy 108 00:04:39,800 --> 00:04:42,480 Speaker 1: on the haircut. Okay, all right, there we go. I'll 109 00:04:42,520 --> 00:04:44,680 Speaker 1: get as I become more wealthy, I'll be a better 110 00:04:44,680 --> 00:04:49,640 Speaker 1: I like it anyway. She says that, and our brother 111 00:04:49,839 --> 00:04:52,320 Speaker 1: was so furious with her that he almost kicked her 112 00:04:52,360 --> 00:04:55,839 Speaker 1: out of the wedding party. It was then that I 113 00:04:55,880 --> 00:04:59,039 Speaker 1: sort of detached from her entirely. So while I understand 114 00:04:59,080 --> 00:05:02,080 Speaker 1: my sister's vulnerable after having cancer and going through treatment, 115 00:05:02,279 --> 00:05:04,800 Speaker 1: and I realized that she's self conscious and really needing 116 00:05:04,839 --> 00:05:08,000 Speaker 1: to find someone she feels comfortable with, I do not 117 00:05:08,040 --> 00:05:10,720 Speaker 1: want to do her hair. I don't want to spend 118 00:05:10,760 --> 00:05:12,680 Speaker 1: that time with her, and I know what she thinks 119 00:05:12,680 --> 00:05:15,400 Speaker 1: of me. She might find me the best option because 120 00:05:15,400 --> 00:05:17,880 Speaker 1: we're related, but she has treated me badly for things 121 00:05:17,920 --> 00:05:20,360 Speaker 1: I cannot control and has hurt me in some really 122 00:05:20,400 --> 00:05:24,000 Speaker 1: big ways. My parents are pushing me for My parents 123 00:05:24,080 --> 00:05:27,120 Speaker 1: are pushing me to do it, and we're horrified. I 124 00:05:27,160 --> 00:05:30,320 Speaker 1: said no while our brothers are on my side. 125 00:05:30,800 --> 00:05:32,320 Speaker 4: So am I the A hole? 126 00:05:32,920 --> 00:05:36,440 Speaker 3: Wow? I mean this, this is a tough one. 127 00:05:36,800 --> 00:05:37,160 Speaker 4: I say. 128 00:05:37,240 --> 00:05:39,560 Speaker 1: I say, she's not the a hole or this SpeI 129 00:05:39,680 --> 00:05:42,520 Speaker 1: for this specific instance, because of what her sister said. 130 00:05:42,839 --> 00:05:45,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, and that was when her sister said like, like, 131 00:05:45,800 --> 00:05:47,760 Speaker 2: I'd rather you died instead of my friend. 132 00:05:48,000 --> 00:05:48,400 Speaker 4: Well, I was. 133 00:05:49,279 --> 00:05:51,920 Speaker 1: Honestly like independent from that, like I'm like forgetting everything 134 00:05:51,920 --> 00:05:54,400 Speaker 1: in the past. Yeah, just for saying like you're a 135 00:05:54,400 --> 00:05:57,440 Speaker 1: bad hairstylist, like no, I'm not gonna cut your hair, dude. 136 00:05:57,200 --> 00:05:59,320 Speaker 3: Sam, Sam is so in touch with the hairstyle. 137 00:05:59,320 --> 00:06:02,800 Speaker 2: And then how dare you dishonor my craft? 138 00:06:02,839 --> 00:06:04,080 Speaker 4: How dare Yeah? 139 00:06:04,120 --> 00:06:07,599 Speaker 1: Honestly, I think just for that, like not the a 140 00:06:07,720 --> 00:06:11,039 Speaker 1: hole there she did op did do some a holish moves. 141 00:06:11,040 --> 00:06:13,520 Speaker 3: I think before both of them have have been able. 142 00:06:13,640 --> 00:06:19,360 Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, they've been kind of terrible toxic relationship. This 143 00:06:19,440 --> 00:06:22,760 Speaker 1: is this is this is beyond like a hairstyling. Like 144 00:06:22,880 --> 00:06:26,080 Speaker 1: they need to sit down and just say therapy hash 145 00:06:26,200 --> 00:06:30,719 Speaker 1: some stuff out because that like God, Like, I also 146 00:06:30,839 --> 00:06:33,000 Speaker 1: wonder like we we picked up, you know, at the 147 00:06:33,080 --> 00:06:36,000 Speaker 1: at the funeral, but what was the relationship like before that. 148 00:06:36,120 --> 00:06:38,120 Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, it had to have been. 149 00:06:38,640 --> 00:06:43,000 Speaker 2: Bad to the point where like she would say something 150 00:06:43,080 --> 00:06:45,080 Speaker 2: like that. I mean I could see her being very 151 00:06:45,160 --> 00:06:46,960 Speaker 2: upset and like why didn't you come and support me 152 00:06:47,000 --> 00:06:47,640 Speaker 2: at the funeral? 153 00:06:47,839 --> 00:06:49,839 Speaker 3: But to say I wish you were the one that 154 00:06:49,960 --> 00:06:53,200 Speaker 3: was dead, that is insane. 155 00:06:52,920 --> 00:06:57,279 Speaker 1: Terrible, terrible, Wow, bad relationship. OPI, you are not the 156 00:06:57,320 --> 00:06:58,960 Speaker 1: A hole but also kind of the a whole. 157 00:06:59,440 --> 00:07:01,120 Speaker 3: Well, let the both aside.