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Speaker 1: They only let me say that because, Wow, thank you Tommy.

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Speaker 1: All right, here we go subject he chose his wife

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Speaker 1: My children's dads don't help me financially, so my father

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Speaker 1: but I don't need her throwing them in my face.

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Speaker 1: So now my children and I are living with my girlfriend,

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Speaker 1: but we can't stay there much longer. My dad will

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Speaker 1: I told him that was never going to happen. Why

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Speaker 1: feel like I'm wrong. This was my dad's way. This

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Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley, what do you think? Nope, nope, nope, nope, nope.

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Speaker 1: How wrong are you? You are just so wrong right here.

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Speaker 1: And the fact that you don't know this makes this

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Speaker 1: of course, apologize to your step mom and for your dad.

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Speaker 1: You're trying to make them feel guilty for not letting

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Speaker 1: Come on boy, Steve. And these type of letters, who

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Speaker 1: I excel? Yes, my gift comes out in letters like this.

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Speaker 1: Let me take you down to it because you really

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Speaker 1: Let's just start to damn the single mother. Paul you

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Speaker 1: Nothing's wrong here? Forty two two kids ain't bad, nothing

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Speaker 1: So my father has helped me raise my kids fifteen years.

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Speaker 1: Did no, I don't worry about that. I do this.

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Speaker 1: He chose his wife over me, this farty two year

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Speaker 1: That's what prompted this letter, right, she had called your

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Speaker 1: So now my children and now are living with my girlfriend,

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Speaker 1: but we can't stay there much longer. You know why

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Speaker 1: Because when I live at I wore your clothes. That's

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Speaker 1: I told him I was that was never going to happen.

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Speaker 1: Charley told you all wrong. This was my dad way

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Speaker 1: Come on, yeah, that's right, but so damn what he's

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Speaker 1: He's not like Shirley said, He's not just your daddy.

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Speaker 1: He's been your enabler. You've been over to these people's

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