1 00:00:11,160 --> 00:00:13,800 Speaker 1: Hey guys, Bobby here at Sunday. And the reason we 2 00:00:13,880 --> 00:00:15,000 Speaker 1: put this up a couple of things. 3 00:00:15,080 --> 00:00:16,959 Speaker 2: One to as a bit of a promo for a 4 00:00:16,960 --> 00:00:19,600 Speaker 2: lot of our side podcast that we do. But secondly, 5 00:00:19,720 --> 00:00:20,919 Speaker 2: I know what it's like on a Sunday to be 6 00:00:20,920 --> 00:00:22,439 Speaker 2: looking for something to listen to and I can't find 7 00:00:22,440 --> 00:00:24,560 Speaker 2: anything because nobody puts up podcasts on Sundays. 8 00:00:24,840 --> 00:00:26,400 Speaker 1: So it's the Sunday Sampler. 9 00:00:26,480 --> 00:00:28,920 Speaker 2: It's you know, decent sized clips from some of the 10 00:00:28,920 --> 00:00:31,800 Speaker 2: podcasts here that one maybe you're just entertained to hear, 11 00:00:31,840 --> 00:00:33,120 Speaker 2: and two maybe you want to go hear the full 12 00:00:33,159 --> 00:00:34,680 Speaker 2: episode or go subscribe to it. 13 00:00:35,200 --> 00:00:38,320 Speaker 1: Four Things with Amy Brown. Amy was joined by Ali Fallon. 14 00:00:38,680 --> 00:00:40,639 Speaker 1: She's an author of Public Speaker and a podcast host. 15 00:00:40,720 --> 00:00:43,040 Speaker 2: They're talking about dealing with shame and guild and dating 16 00:00:43,040 --> 00:00:45,560 Speaker 2: with curiosity, so you can hear that on Get Real 17 00:00:45,600 --> 00:00:48,680 Speaker 2: with Caroline Hobby, Caroline sat down with ray Lynn and 18 00:00:48,720 --> 00:00:51,560 Speaker 2: on the Bobby Cast, I talked with Hillary Scott from 19 00:00:51,680 --> 00:00:54,440 Speaker 2: Lady A and the story of how the band was 20 00:00:54,480 --> 00:00:57,000 Speaker 2: denied a record deal at one point, and it became 21 00:00:57,080 --> 00:01:00,440 Speaker 2: very personal with Hillary and myself here and all that 22 00:01:00,920 --> 00:01:03,000 Speaker 2: in this But there's so much here check it out. 23 00:01:03,080 --> 00:01:05,399 Speaker 2: Let's start now with a conversation with Hillary Scott and 24 00:01:05,440 --> 00:01:09,240 Speaker 2: I on the Sunday Sampler from the Bobby Cast. And 25 00:01:09,280 --> 00:01:10,400 Speaker 2: if you don't mind, like to ask you a couple 26 00:01:10,400 --> 00:01:13,360 Speaker 2: of kid questions. Sure, Because I didn't get married until 27 00:01:13,360 --> 00:01:15,520 Speaker 2: I was almost forty, I didn't really have a serious girl. 28 00:01:15,680 --> 00:01:18,080 Speaker 2: I didn't have that until so I met my wife 29 00:01:18,120 --> 00:01:20,960 Speaker 2: and it was like, oh, I didn't know that it 30 00:01:21,000 --> 00:01:21,679 Speaker 2: was supposed to be. 31 00:01:21,959 --> 00:01:23,800 Speaker 3: It's not always easy. 32 00:01:23,959 --> 00:01:25,520 Speaker 2: But I didn't know that it was supposed to be 33 00:01:25,560 --> 00:01:27,840 Speaker 2: this easy when it's good. Yeah, Like it's just kind 34 00:01:27,840 --> 00:01:30,960 Speaker 2: of like it's like a click, like it just fits right. 35 00:01:31,480 --> 00:01:35,160 Speaker 2: And so I meet her and it's awesome and we 36 00:01:35,200 --> 00:01:37,319 Speaker 2: get married, and you know, she wants to have kids. 37 00:01:37,360 --> 00:01:38,920 Speaker 2: I want to have kids eventually. But like I said, 38 00:01:38,920 --> 00:01:41,600 Speaker 2: I didn't have a models like my parents didn't they 39 00:01:41,640 --> 00:01:42,160 Speaker 2: weren't together. 40 00:01:42,160 --> 00:01:42,480 Speaker 3: I didn't know. 41 00:01:42,520 --> 00:01:44,240 Speaker 2: My daddy left when I was five or six, my mom, 42 00:01:44,440 --> 00:01:46,959 Speaker 2: you know, passed away. So I'm scared to death to 43 00:01:47,000 --> 00:01:49,960 Speaker 2: have kids. And then but what I wonder is, and 44 00:01:50,000 --> 00:01:52,400 Speaker 2: I ask you, because you're a little younger than I am, 45 00:01:52,800 --> 00:01:56,680 Speaker 2: but how old is your oldest. 46 00:01:58,080 --> 00:01:58,320 Speaker 3: What? 47 00:01:58,720 --> 00:01:58,960 Speaker 4: Yeah? 48 00:01:59,240 --> 00:01:59,480 Speaker 3: Ten? 49 00:01:59,720 --> 00:02:04,800 Speaker 5: All I know Isley's ten and then my twin God's 50 00:02:04,960 --> 00:02:07,920 Speaker 5: crazy six at the end of January. 51 00:02:07,960 --> 00:02:11,040 Speaker 2: Okay, so I feel like if and when we have kids, 52 00:02:11,080 --> 00:02:13,880 Speaker 2: when because she's not pregnant now, no articles, no headlines. 53 00:02:14,040 --> 00:02:16,160 Speaker 3: I promise you she's not pregnant right now. I don't 54 00:02:16,160 --> 00:02:19,919 Speaker 3: think she is. It seems like it's a lot of work. 55 00:02:20,520 --> 00:02:23,360 Speaker 6: It is, but the most rewarding one. 56 00:02:23,400 --> 00:02:24,960 Speaker 2: But is it really or is it because you've been 57 00:02:25,000 --> 00:02:26,640 Speaker 2: told you have not you have to say that, but 58 00:02:26,800 --> 00:02:27,800 Speaker 2: you're supposed. 59 00:02:27,440 --> 00:02:28,160 Speaker 3: To feel that way. 60 00:02:28,360 --> 00:02:31,400 Speaker 2: No, No, it is because I'm very selfish, not about 61 00:02:31,440 --> 00:02:37,040 Speaker 2: giving stuff, but about I've only ever been me and 62 00:02:37,120 --> 00:02:40,240 Speaker 2: trying to first just survive as myself and then to 63 00:02:40,360 --> 00:02:42,480 Speaker 2: create for myself and then for others. 64 00:02:42,960 --> 00:02:46,160 Speaker 3: I feel like I'm going to have a kid and either. 65 00:02:46,040 --> 00:02:48,760 Speaker 2: A be like my dad who left, and I don't 66 00:02:48,760 --> 00:02:50,600 Speaker 2: think I'm gonna do that, but like there's that part of. 67 00:02:50,600 --> 00:02:51,079 Speaker 3: Me, is there? 68 00:02:51,320 --> 00:02:51,480 Speaker 6: Yes? 69 00:02:51,960 --> 00:02:54,480 Speaker 2: Or I'm just gonna be annoyed because I have to 70 00:02:54,520 --> 00:02:57,640 Speaker 2: give up all my life and kids are just a 71 00:02:57,639 --> 00:03:00,760 Speaker 2: lot of work. Like talk me, not damn, but talk 72 00:03:00,840 --> 00:03:03,680 Speaker 2: some logic into me. I know you won't have to 73 00:03:03,680 --> 00:03:05,639 Speaker 2: ask you this question that I know you're not gonna. 74 00:03:05,440 --> 00:03:05,800 Speaker 3: Lie to me. 75 00:03:05,960 --> 00:03:08,239 Speaker 5: No, I mean, well it is. I mean I think 76 00:03:08,320 --> 00:03:12,680 Speaker 5: marriage is a really you in a way. If you 77 00:03:12,840 --> 00:03:16,120 Speaker 5: are pursuing a healthy marriage, you there's a part of 78 00:03:16,160 --> 00:03:16,880 Speaker 5: you that has to. 79 00:03:16,760 --> 00:03:18,720 Speaker 6: Die to yourself every day for your wife. 80 00:03:19,000 --> 00:03:19,200 Speaker 7: I have. 81 00:03:19,360 --> 00:03:24,760 Speaker 5: There's the parts of me that I that leak out 82 00:03:24,800 --> 00:03:27,200 Speaker 5: on my husband. If I don't, if I don't keep 83 00:03:27,520 --> 00:03:31,200 Speaker 5: myself in check, we suffer. So, you know, I think 84 00:03:31,280 --> 00:03:35,400 Speaker 5: that's why marriage is such a beautiful kind of place 85 00:03:35,480 --> 00:03:40,240 Speaker 5: to start with learning how to put someone else before yourself. 86 00:03:40,280 --> 00:03:43,240 Speaker 5: But here's the thing with children. They are from you, 87 00:03:43,960 --> 00:03:47,800 Speaker 5: and it is different. I mean, it is so humbling. 88 00:03:48,120 --> 00:03:51,160 Speaker 5: I mean I was in an argument with my five 89 00:03:51,240 --> 00:03:53,040 Speaker 5: year old this morning, trying to get her dressed for 90 00:03:53,080 --> 00:03:54,720 Speaker 5: school and having a moment. 91 00:03:55,280 --> 00:03:57,080 Speaker 6: And I didn't say this out loud to her. 92 00:03:57,200 --> 00:03:59,680 Speaker 5: I never would, but I was like, I don't know 93 00:03:59,680 --> 00:04:02,400 Speaker 5: what to do in this moment with you, Like I'm 94 00:04:02,440 --> 00:04:05,760 Speaker 5: really struggling, Like you're hearing one thing I'm saying another, 95 00:04:06,360 --> 00:04:10,680 Speaker 5: You're just totally tuning me out eventually, and it's frustrating. 96 00:04:10,840 --> 00:04:14,400 Speaker 5: But oh my gosh, it is. It is the most 97 00:04:14,680 --> 00:04:18,839 Speaker 5: unbelievable gift. And I was just talking to my sister 98 00:04:18,880 --> 00:04:21,799 Speaker 5: in law, she's visiting with her husband and my niece, 99 00:04:21,920 --> 00:04:25,720 Speaker 5: and we were just having this conversation of how much 100 00:04:26,320 --> 00:04:32,000 Speaker 5: more you as you become a parent. Every day is 101 00:04:32,040 --> 00:04:36,320 Speaker 5: not just a combination of putting yourself, you know, like 102 00:04:36,720 --> 00:04:39,600 Speaker 5: trying to be as selfless as possible, taking care of yourself, 103 00:04:40,160 --> 00:04:44,480 Speaker 5: but also doing the work to be the best parent, 104 00:04:44,520 --> 00:04:46,520 Speaker 5: to show up for your child, but it's also a 105 00:04:46,560 --> 00:04:50,920 Speaker 5: continual surrender of control because there are certain things that 106 00:04:50,960 --> 00:04:55,159 Speaker 5: you can control, like you know, when you feed them, 107 00:04:55,279 --> 00:04:57,960 Speaker 5: now if they eat it all, Like, there's all these 108 00:04:58,000 --> 00:05:00,240 Speaker 5: different things that you can control, but then and there's 109 00:05:00,279 --> 00:05:01,840 Speaker 5: a whole lot that you just have to let go. 110 00:05:01,960 --> 00:05:04,600 Speaker 5: And that is not to bring this back, but it 111 00:05:04,640 --> 00:05:08,320 Speaker 5: is the compass of my life, my story. 112 00:05:08,360 --> 00:05:10,679 Speaker 6: Without my faith, I would be. 113 00:05:10,760 --> 00:05:15,320 Speaker 5: The worst mother and wife because I would need to 114 00:05:15,520 --> 00:05:21,120 Speaker 5: just grasp everything like their lives and mind depended on it. 115 00:05:21,240 --> 00:05:26,280 Speaker 5: And so when there's a surrender and faith in the process, 116 00:05:26,320 --> 00:05:29,280 Speaker 5: in the story, and a faith in God to that 117 00:05:29,360 --> 00:05:30,600 Speaker 5: He's in control. 118 00:05:31,279 --> 00:05:33,599 Speaker 6: And I don't have to be, it just helps me breathe. 119 00:05:33,760 --> 00:05:37,080 Speaker 3: And I'm scared to death, Like I'm scared. 120 00:05:37,240 --> 00:05:38,400 Speaker 6: And you know what that says to me? 121 00:05:39,560 --> 00:05:42,720 Speaker 5: It speaks to the unbelievable heart you have that you're 122 00:05:42,720 --> 00:05:46,960 Speaker 5: taking it seriously, like there's something really healthy in fear. 123 00:05:47,000 --> 00:05:49,960 Speaker 3: Or that I know I'm going to screw it up. 124 00:05:50,480 --> 00:05:52,680 Speaker 2: That's why I tell my wife, it's like, I'm afraid 125 00:05:52,680 --> 00:05:55,920 Speaker 2: I'm gonna mess this up so bad, Like why I'm 126 00:05:55,960 --> 00:05:59,239 Speaker 2: already I struggle being a good husband at times because 127 00:05:59,600 --> 00:06:01,680 Speaker 2: just gone or I'm not. 128 00:06:02,520 --> 00:06:03,800 Speaker 3: You know, we've been married two years. 129 00:06:03,560 --> 00:06:06,560 Speaker 2: Been together four or so, whatever, it is like that 130 00:06:06,640 --> 00:06:09,920 Speaker 2: to me was hard because I've never had somebody that 131 00:06:10,000 --> 00:06:11,640 Speaker 2: I cared as much about that. 132 00:06:13,000 --> 00:06:16,000 Speaker 3: I would actually let it affect me. 133 00:06:17,839 --> 00:06:22,080 Speaker 2: To where it was bothersome that they weren't feeling good. 134 00:06:23,720 --> 00:06:24,680 Speaker 3: I never had that. 135 00:06:25,040 --> 00:06:27,080 Speaker 2: I haven't now, and we've I've definitely learned, but I 136 00:06:27,120 --> 00:06:29,360 Speaker 2: feel like I'm like twelve in that development. Career wise, 137 00:06:29,360 --> 00:06:31,920 Speaker 2: I'm like one hundred and ten. I'm Methusela man. I mean, 138 00:06:32,000 --> 00:06:34,480 Speaker 2: let's go, I got a long gray beard. 139 00:06:34,640 --> 00:06:35,360 Speaker 3: I've been through it all. 140 00:06:35,400 --> 00:06:37,960 Speaker 2: But like in that relationship part of my life, Yeah, 141 00:06:38,000 --> 00:06:40,880 Speaker 2: like that was that that is still developing. 142 00:06:41,200 --> 00:06:43,640 Speaker 3: I read books on it. Yeah. I never thought I would. 143 00:06:43,640 --> 00:06:45,760 Speaker 2: I only want to read like sports books, but now 144 00:06:45,800 --> 00:06:48,280 Speaker 2: I just read a book Wired for Love, which is 145 00:06:48,320 --> 00:06:51,640 Speaker 2: like a book about the brain. And I never thought 146 00:06:51,680 --> 00:06:53,320 Speaker 2: i'd be that guy. Yeah, and I never think I'm 147 00:06:53,320 --> 00:06:53,720 Speaker 2: gonna red. 148 00:06:53,720 --> 00:06:55,320 Speaker 3: Kids books, but oh my god, but I do, and 149 00:06:55,440 --> 00:06:56,680 Speaker 3: you write them, Oh I do. 150 00:06:56,800 --> 00:07:17,400 Speaker 4: I didn't write a kid's book. 151 00:07:13,440 --> 00:07:15,760 Speaker 1: Little Food for Yourself. 152 00:07:16,080 --> 00:07:20,680 Speaker 8: Life ain't always pretty, but it's pretty beautiful, beautiful laugh 153 00:07:20,760 --> 00:07:26,000 Speaker 8: a little more exciting, said he can't. 154 00:07:26,600 --> 00:07:29,880 Speaker 9: You're kicking it with fooling. 155 00:07:29,720 --> 00:07:30,520 Speaker 1: With Amy Brown. 156 00:07:30,960 --> 00:07:33,640 Speaker 10: Hey, it's Amy Brown from Four Things with Amy Brown. 157 00:07:33,760 --> 00:07:36,360 Speaker 10: And here's what we talked about this week on my podcast. 158 00:07:38,040 --> 00:07:41,560 Speaker 10: There's a quote that says, regret acknowledges that I made 159 00:07:41,560 --> 00:07:45,320 Speaker 10: a mistake. Shame says I am a mistake, and guilt 160 00:07:45,640 --> 00:07:48,840 Speaker 10: is what others use to try to make us feel ashamed. 161 00:07:49,480 --> 00:07:51,600 Speaker 10: That quote is from Bill Crawford, by the way, and 162 00:07:51,640 --> 00:07:55,120 Speaker 10: I like that he says, regret acknowledges that I made 163 00:07:55,120 --> 00:07:59,000 Speaker 10: a mistake. And I like that you just said that 164 00:07:59,120 --> 00:08:04,800 Speaker 10: regret the mistake. That's information. Gathering information from your regrets 165 00:08:05,360 --> 00:08:08,480 Speaker 10: ultimately leads to more fun in life. And I'll use 166 00:08:08,560 --> 00:08:11,720 Speaker 10: me dipping my toes into the dating world now as 167 00:08:11,760 --> 00:08:15,240 Speaker 10: an example, because I thought I had worked through any 168 00:08:15,280 --> 00:08:19,200 Speaker 10: and all shame that I felt around being divorced but 169 00:08:19,680 --> 00:08:21,880 Speaker 10: having to make that known to someone on a dating app, 170 00:08:21,880 --> 00:08:24,040 Speaker 10: and the fear that has popped into my mind about 171 00:08:24,080 --> 00:08:28,960 Speaker 10: potential rejection because I've been divorced. The fear of feelings 172 00:08:29,240 --> 00:08:33,360 Speaker 10: are basically leading to shame feelings because I'm worried that 173 00:08:33,400 --> 00:08:35,920 Speaker 10: I'm not good enough, that I'm a failure, that something 174 00:08:36,440 --> 00:08:39,040 Speaker 10: is wrong with me. And I know that these things 175 00:08:39,080 --> 00:08:41,680 Speaker 10: aren't true, so I'm glad I've caught these thoughts before 176 00:08:41,720 --> 00:08:44,960 Speaker 10: they take up more permanent resonance in my mind. But 177 00:08:45,040 --> 00:08:47,720 Speaker 10: if I listen to them, I would miss out on 178 00:08:47,760 --> 00:08:51,000 Speaker 10: the fun of dating and meeting new people, having new experiences. 179 00:08:51,040 --> 00:08:53,200 Speaker 10: And then if I go into it knowing that I 180 00:08:53,280 --> 00:08:55,920 Speaker 10: don't have to make decisions that I never will feel 181 00:08:56,000 --> 00:08:58,760 Speaker 10: regret or shame for, then there's more room for fun. 182 00:08:59,080 --> 00:09:01,040 Speaker 10: And even if there is regret again, I will see 183 00:09:01,040 --> 00:09:04,000 Speaker 10: it as information and it won't keep me locked up 184 00:09:04,000 --> 00:09:05,480 Speaker 10: in my house for the rest of my life. 185 00:09:05,679 --> 00:09:08,800 Speaker 11: If you're going on a date through the lens of 186 00:09:09,200 --> 00:09:11,480 Speaker 11: whatever happens, I need to not feel regret about this, 187 00:09:11,559 --> 00:09:14,240 Speaker 11: or need to not feel shame about this, then there's 188 00:09:14,240 --> 00:09:18,040 Speaker 11: no space for play or fun or just getting to 189 00:09:18,080 --> 00:09:22,000 Speaker 11: know someone, or curiosity or any of that. It's like 190 00:09:22,160 --> 00:09:25,480 Speaker 11: the only thing you can focus on is avoiding the shame. 191 00:09:25,800 --> 00:09:27,440 Speaker 11: Whereas if you go on a date and you're just like, 192 00:09:27,640 --> 00:09:29,199 Speaker 11: who knows what's going to happen, But we're going to 193 00:09:29,320 --> 00:09:31,040 Speaker 11: I'm going to get to know this person. I'm going 194 00:09:31,080 --> 00:09:32,679 Speaker 11: to be curious about them. I'm going to be curious 195 00:09:32,679 --> 00:09:34,640 Speaker 11: about maybe what kind of chemistry may or may not 196 00:09:34,679 --> 00:09:39,600 Speaker 11: be here. I may gather some funny stories and we'll see. 197 00:09:39,640 --> 00:09:42,559 Speaker 11: Then there's just so much more space for possibility. 198 00:09:43,000 --> 00:09:43,280 Speaker 6: Okay. 199 00:09:43,280 --> 00:09:46,839 Speaker 10: I like that you mentioned curiosity, because curiosity is where 200 00:09:47,320 --> 00:09:50,640 Speaker 10: we have such an opportunity to grow and learn and 201 00:09:50,760 --> 00:09:53,760 Speaker 10: find new relationships and opportunities and all the things. And 202 00:09:54,200 --> 00:09:57,160 Speaker 10: you also mentioned if I had known back then what 203 00:09:57,240 --> 00:10:00,520 Speaker 10: I know now, I wouldn't have made that decision. Being 204 00:10:00,520 --> 00:10:03,240 Speaker 10: able to say that to yourself and see that you 205 00:10:03,440 --> 00:10:08,080 Speaker 10: learned from your regret with information instead of just living 206 00:10:08,120 --> 00:10:12,280 Speaker 10: in it, just totally stuck in it is so good and. 207 00:10:12,280 --> 00:10:15,400 Speaker 11: It teaches you to trust yourself, so you can go, wow, 208 00:10:15,440 --> 00:10:17,240 Speaker 11: if I had known back then what I know now, 209 00:10:17,400 --> 00:10:19,400 Speaker 11: I would have made a different choice. So now I'm 210 00:10:19,440 --> 00:10:22,240 Speaker 11: equipped with that information to make a different choice next time. 211 00:10:22,640 --> 00:10:25,000 Speaker 10: Every time we practice saying that around any regret, we're 212 00:10:25,000 --> 00:10:28,400 Speaker 10: exercising that muscle, and ultimately we'll get better at dealing 213 00:10:28,440 --> 00:10:31,280 Speaker 10: with regret and shame. But there's also times that we 214 00:10:31,360 --> 00:10:34,160 Speaker 10: may be dealing with guilt, you know, And that quote 215 00:10:34,160 --> 00:10:36,920 Speaker 10: that I shared, the last part of it says, guilt 216 00:10:37,040 --> 00:10:40,000 Speaker 10: is what others use to try to make us feel ashamed. 217 00:10:40,800 --> 00:10:43,800 Speaker 10: You were sharing with me when we were just catching 218 00:10:43,840 --> 00:10:47,080 Speaker 10: up as friends before we started recording, that you had 219 00:10:47,120 --> 00:10:50,120 Speaker 10: some framework around dating, and we'll just stick with the 220 00:10:50,200 --> 00:10:54,680 Speaker 10: dating example. Others listening might have other regret, shame, guilt 221 00:10:54,960 --> 00:10:58,320 Speaker 10: categories in their life or circumstances that they're dealing with. 222 00:10:58,360 --> 00:11:00,680 Speaker 10: But I think that your framework will apply to a 223 00:11:00,679 --> 00:11:01,760 Speaker 10: lot of situations. 224 00:11:01,800 --> 00:11:05,200 Speaker 6: So can you repeat what you told me earlier. 225 00:11:05,840 --> 00:11:09,480 Speaker 11: I'm not going to let myself get stuck in shame 226 00:11:09,520 --> 00:11:12,680 Speaker 11: because shame is not productive to help me learn what 227 00:11:12,760 --> 00:11:14,599 Speaker 11: I need to learn about myself or move forward or 228 00:11:14,640 --> 00:11:17,920 Speaker 11: create a relationship with someone. So I'm allowed to feel guilt. 229 00:11:17,920 --> 00:11:19,679 Speaker 11: I'm allowed to feel regret. I'm allowed to say I 230 00:11:19,720 --> 00:11:21,240 Speaker 11: would never do that again if I had it to 231 00:11:21,280 --> 00:11:24,600 Speaker 11: do over again. I'm also allowed to feel like that 232 00:11:24,720 --> 00:11:26,480 Speaker 11: was fun. I could feel lighthearted about it, like that 233 00:11:26,600 --> 00:11:29,960 Speaker 11: was fun, fun date, you know, not a match, not 234 00:11:30,080 --> 00:11:33,080 Speaker 11: for me, moving on, And it doesn't have to be 235 00:11:33,240 --> 00:11:36,480 Speaker 11: so serious. I think this is more than we need 236 00:11:36,480 --> 00:11:37,800 Speaker 11: to get into. But just the way that I was 237 00:11:37,880 --> 00:11:41,040 Speaker 11: raised around dating was so I was raised in the 238 00:11:41,240 --> 00:11:44,439 Speaker 11: Kis Dating Goodbye era, so it was just so serious 239 00:11:44,559 --> 00:11:45,600 Speaker 11: and so like. 240 00:11:46,160 --> 00:11:47,720 Speaker 1: You got to find your husband. 241 00:11:48,280 --> 00:11:51,040 Speaker 11: And I feel like between my two marriages, I really 242 00:11:51,040 --> 00:11:54,640 Speaker 11: needed a time to just go out, have fun, see 243 00:11:54,679 --> 00:11:58,319 Speaker 11: what happens, play, be curious, like just kind of test 244 00:11:58,400 --> 00:12:01,280 Speaker 11: the waters and see what unfolds from there. And it 245 00:12:01,360 --> 00:12:03,520 Speaker 11: was really good for me, and I was explaining it 246 00:12:03,520 --> 00:12:05,400 Speaker 11: to you, like it's like it cleared the pipes of 247 00:12:05,440 --> 00:12:09,360 Speaker 11: the toxic dynamic with me and my ex too. I 248 00:12:09,440 --> 00:12:13,280 Speaker 11: needed to just see that I could create that with 249 00:12:13,320 --> 00:12:16,199 Speaker 11: another person, Like we could have a fun time together, 250 00:12:16,240 --> 00:12:19,880 Speaker 11: we could have a silly dynamic, we could play. You 251 00:12:19,920 --> 00:12:22,160 Speaker 11: could be vulnerable, I could be vulnerable. I could connect 252 00:12:22,160 --> 00:12:24,120 Speaker 11: with someone. There could be chemistry there, and it doesn't 253 00:12:24,160 --> 00:12:26,160 Speaker 11: have to be my forever person, but there could be 254 00:12:26,240 --> 00:12:27,600 Speaker 11: chemistry there and that could be fine. 255 00:12:27,760 --> 00:12:29,320 Speaker 10: You know, something that just popped in my head as 256 00:12:29,360 --> 00:12:32,120 Speaker 10: I sit here thinking about having another person in my 257 00:12:32,200 --> 00:12:34,560 Speaker 10: life in that manner is that they. 258 00:12:34,440 --> 00:12:35,679 Speaker 6: Would see things that. 259 00:12:35,720 --> 00:12:37,719 Speaker 10: Others don't really good to see, Like they would see 260 00:12:37,720 --> 00:12:39,280 Speaker 10: that I'm not really an adult or I have no 261 00:12:39,320 --> 00:12:42,120 Speaker 10: idea what I'm doing. And maybe there's a lot of 262 00:12:42,200 --> 00:12:44,560 Speaker 10: adults that feel this way. But I learned how to 263 00:12:44,600 --> 00:12:47,240 Speaker 10: log into my bank account last year because Ben always 264 00:12:47,240 --> 00:12:50,480 Speaker 10: handled our finances. I've talked about that multiple times. I'm 265 00:12:50,480 --> 00:12:53,880 Speaker 10: a pro at it now, which feels good. But you know, 266 00:12:53,960 --> 00:12:56,640 Speaker 10: take the snowstorm that we just had in Nashville for 267 00:12:56,679 --> 00:12:59,520 Speaker 10: an example, Like I didn't know how to drive and 268 00:12:59,559 --> 00:13:01,760 Speaker 10: that type of weather because Ben would always drive. And 269 00:13:02,400 --> 00:13:05,840 Speaker 10: I don't understand proper tire pressure, like I know when 270 00:13:05,920 --> 00:13:08,120 Speaker 10: my car tells me I need it, but I want 271 00:13:08,120 --> 00:13:11,160 Speaker 10: to understand the numbers myself, like without a warning from 272 00:13:11,160 --> 00:13:14,080 Speaker 10: my car. And those are definitely small examples that are 273 00:13:14,120 --> 00:13:16,880 Speaker 10: just top of mind. But there's other things that are bigger, 274 00:13:16,960 --> 00:13:20,920 Speaker 10: like insurance that I had to get late last year. 275 00:13:21,160 --> 00:13:24,360 Speaker 10: I had no idea what I was doing, not a clue, 276 00:13:24,800 --> 00:13:28,320 Speaker 10: And these are just things that embarrass me that at 277 00:13:28,320 --> 00:13:30,920 Speaker 10: forty two years old, I don't know how to do them. 278 00:13:31,400 --> 00:13:33,920 Speaker 10: So one of My goals for this year is just 279 00:13:33,960 --> 00:13:36,760 Speaker 10: to learn more adult things, especially around my house, and 280 00:13:36,760 --> 00:13:41,120 Speaker 10: then also to teach my kids these things, like they'll 281 00:13:41,200 --> 00:13:44,280 Speaker 10: learn as I learn, and I know that I can 282 00:13:44,360 --> 00:13:47,040 Speaker 10: do it all because you know, I was terrified of 283 00:13:47,480 --> 00:13:50,440 Speaker 10: the bank account stuff, and I've totally got that down now. 284 00:13:50,559 --> 00:13:52,440 Speaker 11: And I feel like there's two ways you can approach 285 00:13:52,800 --> 00:13:55,720 Speaker 11: those kinds of things too. You could approach it from oh, 286 00:13:55,760 --> 00:13:58,240 Speaker 11: I should know how to do this, or you could 287 00:13:58,240 --> 00:14:00,760 Speaker 11: approach it from I just want to learn this so 288 00:14:00,760 --> 00:14:02,199 Speaker 11: that I know it, so I can teach it to 289 00:14:02,240 --> 00:14:04,000 Speaker 11: my kids and so I can take good care of myself. 290 00:14:04,280 --> 00:14:06,040 Speaker 11: And it may be that for a period of time 291 00:14:06,040 --> 00:14:08,600 Speaker 11: in your life there's a steep learning curve because there 292 00:14:08,600 --> 00:14:10,920 Speaker 11: were all these things that he took care of that 293 00:14:11,000 --> 00:14:12,560 Speaker 11: now you have to learn how to do like the 294 00:14:12,559 --> 00:14:15,840 Speaker 11: bank account and assaulting and the driving and all those things. 295 00:14:16,440 --> 00:14:18,520 Speaker 11: But like you said, in a year from now, you'll 296 00:14:18,520 --> 00:14:20,160 Speaker 11: look back and be like, oh, actually it was a 297 00:14:20,160 --> 00:14:22,840 Speaker 11: steep learning curve, but I learned all of that and 298 00:14:22,880 --> 00:14:25,240 Speaker 11: now I can handle it. And also there may be 299 00:14:25,280 --> 00:14:27,040 Speaker 11: another partner in your life someday you get to pass 300 00:14:27,080 --> 00:14:29,160 Speaker 11: that stuff off to again. The stuff that's just really 301 00:14:29,240 --> 00:14:30,800 Speaker 11: not fun for you. That comes easily for them. 302 00:14:30,880 --> 00:14:46,200 Speaker 9: So let's do alive. 303 00:14:47,920 --> 00:14:53,040 Speaker 8: Oh the w you're very sore losers. 304 00:14:53,160 --> 00:14:54,800 Speaker 1: What up, everybody? I am lunchbox. 305 00:14:54,880 --> 00:14:56,760 Speaker 12: I know the most about sports, so I'll give you 306 00:14:56,800 --> 00:15:00,600 Speaker 12: the sports facts, my sports opinions, because I'm pretty much 307 00:15:00,600 --> 00:15:02,320 Speaker 12: a sports genius. 308 00:15:02,760 --> 00:15:03,440 Speaker 1: What up, y'all? 309 00:15:03,440 --> 00:15:04,920 Speaker 12: At his sis and I'm from the North. I'm in 310 00:15:05,000 --> 00:15:07,160 Speaker 12: Alpha Male. I live on the west side of Nashville 311 00:15:07,200 --> 00:15:10,200 Speaker 12: with Baser, my wife. We do have a white picket 312 00:15:10,200 --> 00:15:12,960 Speaker 12: fence at the apartment complex. Soon I'm gonna have two 313 00:15:13,000 --> 00:15:15,680 Speaker 12: point five kids, and yes, sadly, I will die of 314 00:15:15,680 --> 00:15:17,920 Speaker 12: a heart attack when I'm seventy two years old. 315 00:15:18,640 --> 00:15:21,560 Speaker 1: Here's a clip from the last podcast. 316 00:15:22,400 --> 00:15:24,840 Speaker 8: I need you to explain to me and explain to 317 00:15:24,960 --> 00:15:29,000 Speaker 8: everyone why you came to me and said, hey, just 318 00:15:29,000 --> 00:15:31,520 Speaker 8: to heads up Monday and Wednesday next week. I can't 319 00:15:31,520 --> 00:15:36,280 Speaker 8: do a pod because we're moving here. You're moving, right, Yeah, 320 00:15:36,320 --> 00:15:37,640 Speaker 8: it's a process, right right? 321 00:15:38,160 --> 00:15:41,760 Speaker 1: But what do you hired? What moving company? So what 322 00:15:41,800 --> 00:15:44,040 Speaker 1: the hell are you doing? Fluffing them? 323 00:15:44,080 --> 00:15:46,960 Speaker 8: I don't know You're so you're doing You're gonna be 324 00:15:47,000 --> 00:15:51,040 Speaker 8: doing absolutely nothing, like literally, you're gonna stand down the way. 325 00:15:51,680 --> 00:15:54,160 Speaker 8: They're gonna move every day out of your apartment. They're 326 00:15:54,160 --> 00:15:56,720 Speaker 8: gonna put it on a truck, they're gonna drive to 327 00:15:56,800 --> 00:16:00,800 Speaker 8: your new house. They're gonna unload it. Bay will say, oh, 328 00:16:00,840 --> 00:16:03,360 Speaker 8: that goes there, that goes in that room, that goes 329 00:16:03,400 --> 00:16:03,880 Speaker 8: in that room. 330 00:16:03,920 --> 00:16:04,600 Speaker 1: We have stickers. 331 00:16:04,800 --> 00:16:09,240 Speaker 12: You she got stickers and say what what rooms? And 332 00:16:09,280 --> 00:16:13,080 Speaker 12: if something's fred elay, okay, so it says front room, 333 00:16:13,520 --> 00:16:20,080 Speaker 12: back room, kitchen, living room, butler, dining room, basement, garage, audio. 334 00:16:20,720 --> 00:16:23,040 Speaker 1: Right, you have all that written on there for him. 335 00:16:23,280 --> 00:16:24,680 Speaker 12: Do you want me to get into the weeds? You 336 00:16:24,840 --> 00:16:27,560 Speaker 12: tell how the sausage is made? No, this is I've moved. 337 00:16:27,760 --> 00:16:31,960 Speaker 12: So I'm trying to understand you hired movers. What are 338 00:16:32,160 --> 00:16:34,800 Speaker 12: you going to be doing? So we got the move 339 00:16:34,880 --> 00:16:37,280 Speaker 12: for free, so we have to document it all in 340 00:16:37,400 --> 00:16:39,000 Speaker 12: Instagram it and post it and all that. 341 00:16:39,080 --> 00:16:42,000 Speaker 8: Yeah, so your wife will have a camera and she 342 00:16:42,080 --> 00:16:44,320 Speaker 8: can film for the thirty minutes. 343 00:16:44,080 --> 00:16:46,520 Speaker 12: You're not there, right, But our agreement was that we 344 00:16:46,600 --> 00:16:49,120 Speaker 12: both are posting, so it's kind of like dual camera 345 00:16:49,160 --> 00:16:52,040 Speaker 12: action doing a lot. So she could send you a bit, 346 00:16:52,120 --> 00:16:54,200 Speaker 12: or you could take a video when you got home. 347 00:16:55,200 --> 00:16:57,160 Speaker 12: When you got home you could take a different video 348 00:16:57,200 --> 00:16:59,120 Speaker 12: because you're not going to take the same video as her. 349 00:16:59,640 --> 00:17:02,360 Speaker 12: But but also they consider this a massive move for 350 00:17:02,520 --> 00:17:05,399 Speaker 12: us in their company. They said they rarely send three movers. 351 00:17:05,440 --> 00:17:07,440 Speaker 12: They're sending three. They said, this is like a big 352 00:17:07,440 --> 00:17:09,040 Speaker 12: budget move. So I just don't want to put it 353 00:17:09,040 --> 00:17:11,439 Speaker 12: all on my wife. No, no, there is no big budget 354 00:17:11,440 --> 00:17:14,560 Speaker 12: about it. You live in a freaking apartment. Bro coachure, 355 00:17:14,840 --> 00:17:16,840 Speaker 12: you live in an apartment. It is going to take 356 00:17:16,880 --> 00:17:21,719 Speaker 12: them thirty minutes to pack up your stuff. Dude, I 357 00:17:21,760 --> 00:17:23,640 Speaker 12: was on the phone call that we had a conference call, 358 00:17:23,640 --> 00:17:25,120 Speaker 12: and he goes, this is a this is a big 359 00:17:25,160 --> 00:17:25,720 Speaker 12: move for us. 360 00:17:26,040 --> 00:17:28,119 Speaker 8: No, it's a big move because you're gonna put it 361 00:17:28,160 --> 00:17:30,880 Speaker 8: on social media. They tell every client it's a big move. 362 00:17:31,160 --> 00:17:34,440 Speaker 8: When it's a ten bedroom house, that's a big move. 363 00:17:34,640 --> 00:17:38,760 Speaker 8: A two bedroom, small ass apartment is not a big move. 364 00:17:38,880 --> 00:17:40,399 Speaker 1: Mansion to mansion is big. 365 00:17:40,760 --> 00:17:43,639 Speaker 12: So you're gonna document it on Monday. What are you 366 00:17:43,680 --> 00:17:47,080 Speaker 12: gonna be doing on Wednesday? No, the moving process starts 367 00:17:47,080 --> 00:17:51,920 Speaker 12: on Saturday. So they're coming on Saturday, Sunday, Monday, Tuesday. Well, okay, 368 00:17:52,000 --> 00:17:55,960 Speaker 12: they're coming one day, but so what are you making So. 369 00:17:55,960 --> 00:18:00,200 Speaker 8: You're missing two pods because they're coming for one day. 370 00:18:00,280 --> 00:18:04,080 Speaker 12: Dude, but there's so much stuff we Ray, you can't 371 00:18:04,080 --> 00:18:05,960 Speaker 12: have that much stuff, hold on, we don't. It's not 372 00:18:06,080 --> 00:18:09,600 Speaker 12: the stuff you just it's not about the stuff, Ray. 373 00:18:09,640 --> 00:18:13,439 Speaker 12: I need receipts, I need timelines. What I'm telling you 374 00:18:13,560 --> 00:18:16,159 Speaker 12: is it's the hooking up of the cable, the internet, 375 00:18:16,440 --> 00:18:20,480 Speaker 12: the trash, the water. There's the appraiser, there's Baser's dad. 376 00:18:20,680 --> 00:18:23,880 Speaker 12: There's dealing with the video photography that we're getting paid for. 377 00:18:24,280 --> 00:18:27,600 Speaker 12: There's managing companies that were explaining to them where we 378 00:18:27,680 --> 00:18:28,760 Speaker 12: all need all of our stuff. 379 00:18:30,040 --> 00:18:32,280 Speaker 1: There's a lot more. No, you are just saying words 380 00:18:32,320 --> 00:18:32,680 Speaker 1: right now. 381 00:18:32,720 --> 00:18:34,919 Speaker 12: But wait, do you think that my wife should do 382 00:18:35,000 --> 00:18:37,199 Speaker 12: it all? Because she's also hold on working. 383 00:18:37,320 --> 00:18:41,240 Speaker 1: It's gonna be one hour now. They consider the move. 384 00:18:41,280 --> 00:18:44,160 Speaker 12: They said, it's like because it's moving cross town, so 385 00:18:44,160 --> 00:18:46,320 Speaker 12: that it's a two hour process to load to the truck, 386 00:18:46,480 --> 00:18:49,199 Speaker 12: the truck drives for an hour, that's three and then 387 00:18:49,240 --> 00:18:52,600 Speaker 12: another two hours. That's a five hour, major massive move 388 00:18:52,640 --> 00:18:53,359 Speaker 12: across town. 389 00:18:54,760 --> 00:18:57,000 Speaker 8: And during that five hours you're gonna be doing nothing. 390 00:18:57,200 --> 00:18:59,800 Speaker 8: What I'm saying is if you are not there for 391 00:19:00,119 --> 00:19:02,720 Speaker 8: one hour while we do a pod. It's gonna make 392 00:19:02,800 --> 00:19:04,560 Speaker 8: no damn difference to them. So are they coming on 393 00:19:04,600 --> 00:19:06,800 Speaker 8: Monday or Wednesday to your house? Wednesday to my house? 394 00:19:07,520 --> 00:19:10,680 Speaker 8: So Monday, what is Monday? What is Monday? 395 00:19:11,480 --> 00:19:14,000 Speaker 12: Right? We have to go to the house to fluff it. 396 00:19:15,880 --> 00:19:18,080 Speaker 1: So you can't go after you get off the pot. 397 00:19:18,119 --> 00:19:19,639 Speaker 1: What do you have to fluff. 398 00:19:19,960 --> 00:19:22,400 Speaker 12: Every I shouldn't even be working where this is a move. 399 00:19:22,440 --> 00:19:24,800 Speaker 12: This our whole life is transitioning. My wife has to 400 00:19:24,840 --> 00:19:27,280 Speaker 12: have seamless with the internet, so I probably have to 401 00:19:27,280 --> 00:19:28,359 Speaker 12: deal with the Internet people. 402 00:19:28,480 --> 00:19:29,879 Speaker 1: So she can't miss a beat with that. 403 00:19:30,520 --> 00:19:32,600 Speaker 8: If you what do you mean she can't handle the 404 00:19:32,600 --> 00:19:34,239 Speaker 8: Internet people when they come to the house, Hey, come 405 00:19:34,280 --> 00:19:35,199 Speaker 8: on in, hook it up. 406 00:19:35,240 --> 00:19:36,480 Speaker 1: Thanks, right, But it's not just the end. 407 00:19:36,560 --> 00:19:36,800 Speaker 3: You're not. 408 00:19:36,920 --> 00:19:38,320 Speaker 1: You're not gonna hook it up for him. You're just 409 00:19:38,320 --> 00:19:40,280 Speaker 1: gonna open the door and they're gonna do the work. 410 00:19:40,720 --> 00:19:41,560 Speaker 1: There's some other guy. 411 00:19:41,600 --> 00:19:44,199 Speaker 12: There's the contrary, there's the loan officer, there's the signing 412 00:19:44,200 --> 00:19:50,919 Speaker 12: of the documents, there's the the Yeah, you dude, you 413 00:19:50,920 --> 00:19:53,040 Speaker 12: don't even I do know how to move, but yeah, 414 00:19:53,119 --> 00:19:56,400 Speaker 12: you understand I have moved right in my life, right 415 00:19:56,480 --> 00:19:59,800 Speaker 12: and I've never missed four days of work for a 416 00:19:59,800 --> 00:20:02,639 Speaker 12: mo Dude, I would take off two weeks so that 417 00:20:02,680 --> 00:20:04,480 Speaker 12: it could just be so relaxed and I could help 418 00:20:04,520 --> 00:20:05,119 Speaker 12: out my wife. 419 00:20:05,840 --> 00:20:08,160 Speaker 1: But your wife's not gonna do anything either. She's doing 420 00:20:08,200 --> 00:20:09,240 Speaker 1: a lot's dude. 421 00:20:09,240 --> 00:20:11,720 Speaker 12: She's following them in the car or her parents. 422 00:20:11,359 --> 00:20:13,880 Speaker 1: Host so they don't get lost. She's like they're having 423 00:20:13,920 --> 00:20:15,880 Speaker 1: a flag out the window, like, hey, dude. 424 00:20:15,680 --> 00:20:18,280 Speaker 12: Hey, we got furniture coming from Gar's place. If you 425 00:20:18,359 --> 00:20:20,080 Speaker 12: really want to get in the weeds, we got a 426 00:20:20,080 --> 00:20:22,359 Speaker 12: bunch of free furniture. I mean there's stuff coming from 427 00:20:22,400 --> 00:20:24,560 Speaker 12: all directions. So it's not just the moving company. She's 428 00:20:24,600 --> 00:20:27,760 Speaker 12: also orchestrating another move from another side of town coming 429 00:20:27,800 --> 00:20:30,280 Speaker 12: to our house. And then we're taking video footage. Then 430 00:20:30,280 --> 00:20:32,560 Speaker 12: we've got hey, where do you want your internet? There's 431 00:20:32,600 --> 00:20:34,520 Speaker 12: a lot of moving parts for one person who I 432 00:20:34,560 --> 00:20:36,800 Speaker 12: think she's only taking a couple hours off of work 433 00:20:36,880 --> 00:20:39,000 Speaker 12: because she just started at this position, so she doesn't 434 00:20:39,040 --> 00:20:41,520 Speaker 12: really have any time off. And the internet has to 435 00:20:41,560 --> 00:20:45,280 Speaker 12: be seamless, yes, but when is internet coming? And coming 436 00:20:46,480 --> 00:20:48,639 Speaker 12: Monday or Wednesday, either day of or a couple of 437 00:20:48,680 --> 00:20:49,200 Speaker 12: days before. 438 00:20:49,840 --> 00:20:52,480 Speaker 1: So you don't even know, well, you haven't made the 439 00:20:52,480 --> 00:20:53,680 Speaker 1: appointment you haven't called it. 440 00:20:53,920 --> 00:20:56,000 Speaker 12: I don't know the exact time the moving place comes. 441 00:20:56,080 --> 00:20:58,159 Speaker 12: I know they're coming on Wednesday. So I mean a 442 00:20:58,200 --> 00:20:59,840 Speaker 12: lot of dude. As you can see, there's a lot 443 00:20:59,840 --> 00:21:02,800 Speaker 12: of who sends, just like the convention, but we pulled 444 00:21:02,840 --> 00:21:03,560 Speaker 12: it off right. 445 00:21:03,680 --> 00:21:05,480 Speaker 8: So guys, I just want you to know. This is 446 00:21:05,560 --> 00:21:07,600 Speaker 8: like Ray in the parking. This is how he lives 447 00:21:07,640 --> 00:21:11,199 Speaker 8: his life. He is worried about stuff that is not 448 00:21:11,200 --> 00:21:14,679 Speaker 8: happening until Wednesday. So he has to leave work immediately 449 00:21:14,720 --> 00:21:19,520 Speaker 8: on Monday because he's stressed out because the moving guys 450 00:21:19,520 --> 00:21:21,000 Speaker 8: are coming. But the moving guys are going to do 451 00:21:21,040 --> 00:21:23,200 Speaker 8: all the work. Dude, I've cleared out this weekend. Justin 452 00:21:23,200 --> 00:21:25,800 Speaker 8: wants to go to some stimulator golf and I said, bro, 453 00:21:25,920 --> 00:21:28,000 Speaker 8: we're moving. And Justin said, I thought you were moving 454 00:21:28,000 --> 00:21:29,280 Speaker 8: on Wednesday And. 455 00:21:29,200 --> 00:21:32,840 Speaker 1: I said, no, it's moving, Susan. We're moving the whole week. 456 00:21:33,359 --> 00:21:34,400 Speaker 1: It might be the whole month. 457 00:21:34,480 --> 00:21:37,320 Speaker 12: Dude, we're moving. You know how many times I've told 458 00:21:37,320 --> 00:21:39,960 Speaker 12: people that were So it was our buddy Bill's birthday. 459 00:21:40,320 --> 00:21:43,080 Speaker 12: Sorry I can't we're moving. It was another lady invite, 460 00:21:43,119 --> 00:21:45,520 Speaker 12: A really nice girl invited us to Ah. It was 461 00:21:45,520 --> 00:21:47,639 Speaker 12: a Christmas not Christmas. It was a it was a 462 00:21:47,720 --> 00:21:50,560 Speaker 12: church services. I'm a worship thing. Hey, it really cays come. Sorry, 463 00:21:50,560 --> 00:21:53,239 Speaker 12: we're moving, dude. I've been saying we've been moving for 464 00:21:53,280 --> 00:21:56,120 Speaker 12: two months now. This is one of the biggest moves 465 00:21:56,400 --> 00:21:58,960 Speaker 12: in our American history. This will be talked about in 466 00:21:59,040 --> 00:22:01,000 Speaker 12: kids school for Lily. 467 00:22:01,320 --> 00:22:02,000 Speaker 1: It's gonna take up. 468 00:22:02,040 --> 00:22:05,280 Speaker 12: They're gonna bring the small bus, the black time moving 469 00:22:05,359 --> 00:22:07,200 Speaker 12: is gonna bring the smallest trailer they have. 470 00:22:07,680 --> 00:22:08,800 Speaker 1: No, that's gonna the opposite. 471 00:22:08,840 --> 00:22:10,360 Speaker 12: They're gonna be a breag would be a big one 472 00:22:10,400 --> 00:22:13,080 Speaker 12: and say you guys have a TV and a dresser. 473 00:22:12,640 --> 00:22:13,280 Speaker 1: And that's it. 474 00:22:13,720 --> 00:22:15,760 Speaker 8: And I'm and they're gonna be like, wait, and you 475 00:22:15,800 --> 00:22:18,440 Speaker 8: took off two days a podcast to do this crap, 476 00:22:18,680 --> 00:22:21,080 Speaker 8: Like you were here two days early to make sure 477 00:22:21,520 --> 00:22:22,640 Speaker 8: this is what we had to move. 478 00:22:22,960 --> 00:22:25,480 Speaker 12: Dude, I should have taken I mean, if I didn't 479 00:22:25,520 --> 00:22:26,680 Speaker 12: have a father, there's a. 480 00:22:26,600 --> 00:22:28,040 Speaker 1: How stressed out are you about to move? 481 00:22:28,160 --> 00:22:29,760 Speaker 12: Not stressed out at all. It's the easiest thing in 482 00:22:29,760 --> 00:22:33,320 Speaker 12: my life. Bagos Bay he's done a lot of it, 483 00:22:33,400 --> 00:22:35,320 Speaker 12: She's done a lot of the behind the scenes stuff. 484 00:22:35,359 --> 00:22:37,240 Speaker 12: And she said, how's it gonna feel to just walk 485 00:22:37,320 --> 00:22:38,960 Speaker 12: up to a house with a couple of suitcases and 486 00:22:39,000 --> 00:22:39,399 Speaker 12: they move in. 487 00:22:39,480 --> 00:22:40,120 Speaker 1: I'm like, you're right. 488 00:22:41,920 --> 00:22:43,960 Speaker 12: I did work on weekends and stuff. But she's saying 489 00:22:44,280 --> 00:22:46,119 Speaker 12: a lot of the organizing, and she's been dealing with 490 00:22:46,119 --> 00:22:49,080 Speaker 12: the loan company, which apparently is a bear. She dealt 491 00:22:49,119 --> 00:22:52,000 Speaker 12: with were you're supposed to shop around. She dealt with 492 00:22:52,040 --> 00:22:54,000 Speaker 12: three or four loan companies for two months and we 493 00:22:54,040 --> 00:22:55,680 Speaker 12: ended up getting a three hundred dollars better deal. 494 00:22:55,720 --> 00:23:00,159 Speaker 1: So it's worth it a month. Oh yeah, I think 495 00:23:00,200 --> 00:23:01,240 Speaker 1: that's a pretty damn good deal. 496 00:23:01,320 --> 00:23:01,399 Speaker 11: Right. 497 00:23:01,560 --> 00:23:03,600 Speaker 1: Oh that's great. I know. So what does that have 498 00:23:03,640 --> 00:23:06,040 Speaker 1: to do with you missing pods and moving? Dude? 499 00:23:06,040 --> 00:23:07,920 Speaker 12: I would have missed for this building of the house. 500 00:23:07,920 --> 00:23:10,359 Speaker 12: I would have missed six months of work. But I 501 00:23:10,400 --> 00:23:12,359 Speaker 12: had to work because we can't take off from the 502 00:23:12,359 --> 00:23:13,920 Speaker 12: big show. But if I had a normal job, I 503 00:23:13,960 --> 00:23:15,320 Speaker 12: would have saved up and I would have missed work 504 00:23:15,359 --> 00:23:17,320 Speaker 12: for six months, so I could have been there every day. 505 00:23:18,040 --> 00:23:20,280 Speaker 1: So I mean I haven't been there dude, because you 506 00:23:20,320 --> 00:23:21,520 Speaker 1: wouldn't do anything I would. 507 00:23:21,720 --> 00:23:24,240 Speaker 12: There was always stuff he could be rent running get screws, 508 00:23:24,280 --> 00:23:26,520 Speaker 12: running it nails, Hey, vacuum this up cleanly. 509 00:23:26,600 --> 00:23:28,720 Speaker 8: You would take off six months of work for them 510 00:23:28,760 --> 00:23:30,679 Speaker 8: to say, go get screws and go get nails. 511 00:23:30,760 --> 00:23:32,840 Speaker 1: Dude, this is a This is like a dream home. 512 00:23:33,000 --> 00:23:34,399 Speaker 12: People don't ever get to know. 513 00:23:34,560 --> 00:23:35,160 Speaker 1: I understand. 514 00:23:35,160 --> 00:23:38,040 Speaker 12: Time I get the opportunity to do it, it has 515 00:23:38,080 --> 00:23:41,359 Speaker 12: come together beautifully. I wish I was involved more than 516 00:23:41,400 --> 00:23:42,480 Speaker 12: about five percent. 517 00:23:43,320 --> 00:23:45,680 Speaker 1: So you feel bad. I feel very guilty. 518 00:23:45,960 --> 00:23:49,919 Speaker 12: So me taking one pot off is the least that 519 00:23:49,960 --> 00:23:51,760 Speaker 12: I can do. Dude, I would have I literally, I'd 520 00:23:51,720 --> 00:23:53,879 Speaker 12: swear to got if I worked at Grande Communications, I 521 00:23:53,880 --> 00:23:54,400 Speaker 12: would have saved. 522 00:23:54,440 --> 00:24:05,960 Speaker 8: Well they have your cable, then already. 523 00:24:03,320 --> 00:24:03,600 Speaker 7: At it. 524 00:24:07,880 --> 00:24:13,560 Speaker 13: Cary Line, she's a queen and talking and so line, 525 00:24:14,520 --> 00:24:17,159 Speaker 13: she's getting really not afraid to feel its episode and 526 00:24:17,280 --> 00:24:20,080 Speaker 13: so just let it flow. No one can do me, 527 00:24:20,280 --> 00:24:26,159 Speaker 13: cried cary Line. It's kind to Caroline. 528 00:24:26,760 --> 00:24:29,840 Speaker 14: Hey, y'all, it's Caroline Hobby from Get Real with Caroline Hobby. 529 00:24:29,880 --> 00:24:33,400 Speaker 14: And here is a clip from this week's episode. 530 00:24:34,400 --> 00:24:37,040 Speaker 7: I wasn't jaded by the by this industry. I was 531 00:24:37,119 --> 00:24:39,080 Speaker 7: just doing what I love because I love to do 532 00:24:39,119 --> 00:24:42,280 Speaker 7: it. It wasn't about the money, it wasn't about the who 533 00:24:42,359 --> 00:24:44,560 Speaker 7: liked me who didn't. I was just doing what was 534 00:24:44,640 --> 00:24:46,600 Speaker 7: right in front of me, going through the doors that 535 00:24:46,640 --> 00:24:49,080 Speaker 7: were opening for me. And if a door be closed, 536 00:24:49,080 --> 00:24:51,960 Speaker 7: I'd be like I really will say as a when 537 00:24:52,000 --> 00:24:54,560 Speaker 7: I was like eighteen nineteen twenty, like I would just 538 00:24:54,600 --> 00:24:55,320 Speaker 7: let stuff all over back. 539 00:24:55,520 --> 00:24:57,159 Speaker 15: I was closed. It's not meant to be like I was. 540 00:24:57,200 --> 00:25:00,240 Speaker 15: That's how it was. I was bulletproof and I'll lost 541 00:25:00,240 --> 00:25:00,800 Speaker 15: a little bit of that. 542 00:25:00,840 --> 00:25:02,840 Speaker 1: Could you get into this where you think it has 543 00:25:02,880 --> 00:25:03,119 Speaker 1: to be a. 544 00:25:03,119 --> 00:25:06,320 Speaker 15: Certain last, certain way, and like you said, it doesn't 545 00:25:06,320 --> 00:25:06,600 Speaker 15: have to. 546 00:25:07,040 --> 00:25:09,960 Speaker 7: And so I was like, all right, I'm gonna walk 547 00:25:10,119 --> 00:25:13,840 Speaker 7: every Every win is a win. Every failure is a 548 00:25:13,880 --> 00:25:15,560 Speaker 7: closed door, and it's not a failure. It's just a 549 00:25:15,640 --> 00:25:19,479 Speaker 7: chapter that's a contation, just a focus and bed on 550 00:25:19,480 --> 00:25:21,800 Speaker 7: the Lord and just see what happens and doing that. 551 00:25:22,840 --> 00:25:25,359 Speaker 7: You know, my first independent record had over a hundred 552 00:25:25,400 --> 00:25:29,600 Speaker 7: million streams. Like I've gotten to release children's book. I've 553 00:25:30,160 --> 00:25:32,560 Speaker 7: gotten to just do things outside of the box, like 554 00:25:32,880 --> 00:25:34,080 Speaker 7: do my first clothing collab. 555 00:25:34,080 --> 00:25:35,240 Speaker 15: I've always wanted to do stuff. 556 00:25:35,240 --> 00:25:40,399 Speaker 7: In fact, it's oh so cute and it's like a bootline. 557 00:25:40,440 --> 00:25:42,120 Speaker 7: Like I've just gotten to do so many things. I've 558 00:25:42,119 --> 00:25:45,119 Speaker 7: gotten to release music. I love music that I'm passionate about. 559 00:25:45,480 --> 00:25:50,280 Speaker 7: Songs like I've gotten to travel the world with my child, 560 00:25:50,480 --> 00:25:52,359 Speaker 7: like bring her on the road. I was told that 561 00:25:52,359 --> 00:25:54,560 Speaker 7: that wouldn't be a thing. No, my daughter goes with 562 00:25:54,600 --> 00:25:56,119 Speaker 7: me on the bus. She's the best kid ever on 563 00:25:56,160 --> 00:26:00,399 Speaker 7: the bus. Like it's just everything that I've wanted for 564 00:26:00,480 --> 00:26:05,000 Speaker 7: my life and more has happened. And I now like 565 00:26:05,760 --> 00:26:07,280 Speaker 7: I was like, all right, well, this is fun, Like 566 00:26:07,320 --> 00:26:09,119 Speaker 7: betting on God is cool, Like why haven't we been 567 00:26:09,160 --> 00:26:10,800 Speaker 7: doing this our whole life? And it's just like I 568 00:26:10,800 --> 00:26:13,400 Speaker 7: think you can't. I think it's great to have goals, 569 00:26:13,800 --> 00:26:15,639 Speaker 7: but I think it's. 570 00:26:15,480 --> 00:26:17,439 Speaker 15: Always like what you're gonna get doing Q one, Q two, 571 00:26:17,560 --> 00:26:19,360 Speaker 15: Q three, Q four. Who cares? 572 00:26:19,560 --> 00:26:21,960 Speaker 7: I want to focus on what's right in front of me, 573 00:26:22,240 --> 00:26:24,400 Speaker 7: what's the next great song I can put out, what's 574 00:26:24,440 --> 00:26:28,359 Speaker 7: the next move? And that's honestly where I've been in 575 00:26:28,400 --> 00:26:31,240 Speaker 7: the last year and a half two years, and just 576 00:26:31,359 --> 00:26:35,360 Speaker 7: trusting in God's plan and focusing on my family, focusing 577 00:26:35,359 --> 00:26:37,960 Speaker 7: on my husband, getting my mind right. I think it's 578 00:26:38,000 --> 00:26:43,200 Speaker 7: taking me a while to be like spiritually and mentally sound. 579 00:26:43,560 --> 00:26:47,280 Speaker 7: It's like processing just the jump start of my career, 580 00:26:48,200 --> 00:26:51,520 Speaker 7: jump start of life, family, all that stuff like it 581 00:26:51,520 --> 00:26:54,240 Speaker 7: it's hard, you know, and but I feel like I'm 582 00:26:54,280 --> 00:26:58,640 Speaker 7: now in this like season of I'm okay if I'm 583 00:26:58,680 --> 00:27:02,359 Speaker 7: not okay, and I'm okay if it all fizzled out tomorrow, 584 00:27:02,400 --> 00:27:04,520 Speaker 7: and I'm okay if it all keeps on going. You know, 585 00:27:04,600 --> 00:27:07,359 Speaker 7: it's just and I think that that's where the best 586 00:27:07,400 --> 00:27:09,760 Speaker 7: music is made too. And I'm really excited about this 587 00:27:09,880 --> 00:27:10,600 Speaker 7: next project. 588 00:27:10,800 --> 00:27:14,040 Speaker 14: I feel you on the letting go and letting God 589 00:27:14,240 --> 00:27:16,840 Speaker 14: so hard, like I feel like and I'm just feel. 590 00:27:16,680 --> 00:27:18,439 Speaker 6: Like I'm just not getting it to forty. 591 00:27:18,480 --> 00:27:20,720 Speaker 14: I've had seasons where I've done that and I's we 592 00:27:20,800 --> 00:27:23,159 Speaker 14: all go through my life and then I take control 593 00:27:23,200 --> 00:27:25,640 Speaker 14: back and then I try to like, you know, really tight. 594 00:27:25,720 --> 00:27:28,119 Speaker 7: Have you seen that Meme is like the guy behind 595 00:27:28,160 --> 00:27:29,800 Speaker 7: the door, and he said, when you let God have control, 596 00:27:29,800 --> 00:27:31,719 Speaker 7: but you're just checking on it. 597 00:27:31,920 --> 00:27:34,840 Speaker 15: I've been paving in a I'm just sugar. You gotta 598 00:27:34,880 --> 00:27:37,600 Speaker 15: come inver this test. Are you there? 599 00:27:38,359 --> 00:27:42,000 Speaker 7: Yeah, I'm so I don't have control, but I'm still 600 00:27:42,040 --> 00:27:43,120 Speaker 7: gonna be of control freak. 601 00:27:43,160 --> 00:27:46,160 Speaker 15: I'n't let you have control God, Okay, you needn't do that. 602 00:27:46,320 --> 00:27:47,280 Speaker 15: You just got to relax. 603 00:27:47,560 --> 00:27:50,000 Speaker 14: Finally, though, God will knock for me at least and 604 00:27:50,040 --> 00:27:52,199 Speaker 14: I've realized this through a lot of podcasts, interviews and 605 00:27:52,240 --> 00:27:54,840 Speaker 14: like talking to you. It's like, finally, I feel like 606 00:27:55,040 --> 00:27:59,120 Speaker 14: God will take you to the mat enough. So when 607 00:27:59,160 --> 00:28:01,119 Speaker 14: you finally are on that matt and you're looking up 608 00:28:01,119 --> 00:28:05,200 Speaker 14: and you're like, okay, I tap out, like if I'm out, 609 00:28:05,280 --> 00:28:07,440 Speaker 14: I don't have any more moves, Like I have out 610 00:28:07,440 --> 00:28:08,000 Speaker 14: of moves. 611 00:28:08,240 --> 00:28:10,480 Speaker 15: I literally have played them all. Yeah, I don't have 612 00:28:10,560 --> 00:28:11,000 Speaker 15: one more. 613 00:28:12,119 --> 00:28:14,000 Speaker 6: I don't I don't have any clue what. 614 00:28:14,040 --> 00:28:14,560 Speaker 15: To do next. 615 00:28:14,560 --> 00:28:17,439 Speaker 14: So then it's like, basically, I feel like for the 616 00:28:17,440 --> 00:28:19,320 Speaker 14: first time in my life, I woke up in twenty 617 00:28:19,359 --> 00:28:20,880 Speaker 14: twenty four this year and I was like, my year 618 00:28:20,920 --> 00:28:23,560 Speaker 14: is lighthearted. It's freedom, and it's freedom because I'm letting 619 00:28:23,600 --> 00:28:24,479 Speaker 14: God direct it. 620 00:28:24,560 --> 00:28:26,639 Speaker 6: I've been trying to plan it. 621 00:28:26,720 --> 00:28:27,720 Speaker 15: I've been trying to. 622 00:28:28,000 --> 00:28:30,399 Speaker 14: I've been upset that things haven't gone a certain way. 623 00:28:30,680 --> 00:28:34,240 Speaker 14: You know, had heartbreak, had disappointments, and it's. 624 00:28:34,119 --> 00:28:36,679 Speaker 7: Okay to grieve those things, Like you're okay to want 625 00:28:36,720 --> 00:28:39,360 Speaker 7: things for your life, you know. I think the hardest 626 00:28:39,360 --> 00:28:42,000 Speaker 7: part about growing up in a Christian home and I'm 627 00:28:42,160 --> 00:28:45,400 Speaker 7: very thankful I love Jesus more than anything is I 628 00:28:45,480 --> 00:28:49,520 Speaker 7: got so obsessed with like First of all, I do 629 00:28:49,640 --> 00:28:52,600 Speaker 7: believe in you're supposed to be thankful, like thank you 630 00:28:52,680 --> 00:28:54,560 Speaker 7: jeus for this, and staying in a thankful heart. But 631 00:28:54,600 --> 00:28:57,440 Speaker 7: I think I never I stayed so much in a 632 00:28:57,480 --> 00:29:00,360 Speaker 7: place of I can't be upset about that because I 633 00:29:00,360 --> 00:29:03,440 Speaker 7: got to be grateful that I never, like fully like 634 00:29:03,480 --> 00:29:06,840 Speaker 7: grieve certain things that actually, like I should have grieved. 635 00:29:06,880 --> 00:29:07,600 Speaker 15: Do you know what I'm saying? 636 00:29:07,640 --> 00:29:10,560 Speaker 7: Because I never wanted to let myself grieve because I 637 00:29:10,600 --> 00:29:13,760 Speaker 7: felt I can't grieve because I don't want God to 638 00:29:13,760 --> 00:29:15,840 Speaker 7: think that I'm not thankful like and I'm because I 639 00:29:15,880 --> 00:29:17,840 Speaker 7: am thankful for my family, I'm thankful for this, I'm 640 00:29:17,840 --> 00:29:19,040 Speaker 7: thankful for my daughter. 641 00:29:19,320 --> 00:29:19,640 Speaker 15: Thinkful. 642 00:29:19,680 --> 00:29:23,280 Speaker 7: But no, it's okay to feel it, feel it and 643 00:29:23,320 --> 00:29:25,560 Speaker 7: be sad, Like be sad, but you got to get 644 00:29:25,600 --> 00:29:26,000 Speaker 7: back up. 645 00:29:26,200 --> 00:29:28,520 Speaker 15: Well you can know that Ever is still in control, 646 00:29:29,320 --> 00:29:31,880 Speaker 15: but you can still be sad. 647 00:29:31,920 --> 00:29:34,000 Speaker 7: And I think that's the thing is I know I 648 00:29:34,080 --> 00:29:35,680 Speaker 7: kind of pushed down those feelings for a lot of 649 00:29:35,720 --> 00:29:37,600 Speaker 7: years of like, oh, I can't be upset about that 650 00:29:37,680 --> 00:29:39,760 Speaker 7: because God did this or God. And it's good to 651 00:29:39,800 --> 00:29:42,560 Speaker 7: stay in that mindset because I do believe that you 652 00:29:42,600 --> 00:29:44,720 Speaker 7: should One of the biggest things that my mother in 653 00:29:44,800 --> 00:29:46,520 Speaker 7: law said to me, Oh my god. I love my 654 00:29:46,560 --> 00:29:49,360 Speaker 7: mother in law, but she said, anytime you're feeling super 655 00:29:49,520 --> 00:29:50,000 Speaker 7: woe is. 656 00:29:50,000 --> 00:29:52,160 Speaker 15: Me, me, Me, me, me me, and. 657 00:29:52,080 --> 00:29:54,560 Speaker 7: You're low about yourself, she said, go do something for 658 00:29:54,640 --> 00:29:58,040 Speaker 7: somebody else. Go take somebody some food, Go take somebody 659 00:29:58,200 --> 00:30:01,160 Speaker 7: lunch that you know needs it. And it always got 660 00:30:01,160 --> 00:30:03,280 Speaker 7: me out of a funk. And I love that. But also, 661 00:30:03,400 --> 00:30:05,560 Speaker 7: you do have to you do have to greeve some things, 662 00:30:05,560 --> 00:30:08,800 Speaker 7: and I think that that's okay and well necessary. And 663 00:30:08,840 --> 00:30:12,760 Speaker 7: then when you do, like properly go through things you can, 664 00:30:13,160 --> 00:30:14,920 Speaker 7: when you do have another win or something like that, 665 00:30:14,960 --> 00:30:17,680 Speaker 7: you've you're good and then you're excited, you know, when. 666 00:30:17,600 --> 00:30:23,920 Speaker 14: It just makes you such a more. The highs are great, 667 00:30:24,000 --> 00:30:26,400 Speaker 14: but you don't clean for the high. You don't clean 668 00:30:26,440 --> 00:30:27,200 Speaker 14: for the low. You know. 669 00:30:27,280 --> 00:30:29,440 Speaker 15: It's oh my god. I always say, I'm so I'm 670 00:30:29,600 --> 00:30:32,320 Speaker 15: just jaded enough. I say that now, like and the. 671 00:30:32,400 --> 00:30:35,400 Speaker 7: Moments like, oh my god, I even was like, great, girl, 672 00:30:35,480 --> 00:30:36,760 Speaker 7: you're not a lot of it good. 673 00:30:37,000 --> 00:30:38,560 Speaker 15: You know, we're all back on my road, you know, 674 00:30:38,600 --> 00:30:41,400 Speaker 15: putting out in music. How do you feel with that? Awesome? 675 00:30:41,480 --> 00:30:44,080 Speaker 15: And then slow, I'm like cool, been here before? 676 00:30:44,200 --> 00:30:44,360 Speaker 9: You know. 677 00:30:44,640 --> 00:30:47,920 Speaker 7: I mean, I think it makes you bulletproof and you 678 00:30:47,960 --> 00:30:48,640 Speaker 7: know it can come. 679 00:30:48,680 --> 00:30:50,600 Speaker 15: I wouldn't, And that's why I would never go That's 680 00:30:50,600 --> 00:30:51,280 Speaker 15: why I would. 681 00:30:51,080 --> 00:30:53,200 Speaker 7: Never change because I was like, if I looked back, 682 00:30:53,640 --> 00:30:55,840 Speaker 7: I think I would maybe just if I had to 683 00:30:55,920 --> 00:30:58,600 Speaker 7: change something, which I won't. But if I did, let's 684 00:30:58,600 --> 00:31:01,600 Speaker 7: say I did, I would have started music later in life, 685 00:31:01,600 --> 00:31:03,959 Speaker 7: do you know what I'm saying? Like professionally, But then 686 00:31:04,000 --> 00:31:06,480 Speaker 7: I think about all the cool shit that I've gotten 687 00:31:06,480 --> 00:31:10,040 Speaker 7: to do as it like eighteen year old, like playing 688 00:31:10,080 --> 00:31:11,760 Speaker 7: the Grandle Lobry, Like I mean. 689 00:31:11,720 --> 00:31:13,400 Speaker 15: Like, yeah, there's things that like that's what I'm saying. 690 00:31:13,400 --> 00:31:16,880 Speaker 7: I would never change my journey, but if I. 691 00:31:16,000 --> 00:31:18,160 Speaker 15: Did, like that would be what it was it is. 692 00:31:18,200 --> 00:31:20,040 Speaker 7: But like that's just that's the thing is you never 693 00:31:20,560 --> 00:31:22,000 Speaker 7: But I wouldn't be who I am today if I 694 00:31:22,000 --> 00:31:23,200 Speaker 7: didn't go through what I've gone through. 695 00:31:36,960 --> 00:31:38,920 Speaker 16: Hey, it's Mike d And this week on Movie Mike's 696 00:31:38,920 --> 00:31:41,560 Speaker 16: Movie Podcast, I did a deep dive into public domain. 697 00:31:41,600 --> 00:31:45,000 Speaker 16: I explained exactly what it is characters that have entered 698 00:31:45,040 --> 00:31:47,640 Speaker 16: and will enter the public domain soon, and I gave 699 00:31:47,720 --> 00:31:50,080 Speaker 16: my top five ideas of characters I would use in 700 00:31:50,120 --> 00:31:51,760 Speaker 16: movies if I didn't have to pay for the rights 701 00:31:51,760 --> 00:31:53,520 Speaker 16: to them. Here are a couple of those examples, but 702 00:31:53,600 --> 00:31:55,640 Speaker 16: be sure to check out this full episode of movie 703 00:31:55,680 --> 00:31:59,880 Speaker 16: Mike's Movie podcast at number four on my list of 704 00:32:00,040 --> 00:32:03,760 Speaker 16: public domain movies and it's simplest terms. The public domain 705 00:32:03,760 --> 00:32:07,080 Speaker 16: refers to the content, ideas, or creative works that are 706 00:32:07,120 --> 00:32:10,840 Speaker 16: not protected by intellectual property laws like copyright or patent. 707 00:32:10,920 --> 00:32:14,000 Speaker 16: So this is different from say Nike put out something 708 00:32:14,560 --> 00:32:17,520 Speaker 16: ninety five years ago. You can't just start making Nike stuff, 709 00:32:17,520 --> 00:32:20,000 Speaker 16: but when it comes to art you can, whether it 710 00:32:20,080 --> 00:32:24,160 Speaker 16: be movies, music, or TV ideas. After ninety five years, 711 00:32:24,560 --> 00:32:29,360 Speaker 16: anybody can use them, share them, modify them freely without 712 00:32:29,400 --> 00:32:33,000 Speaker 16: the need to request permission or request payment. The group 713 00:32:33,040 --> 00:32:36,120 Speaker 16: of characters are the teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, which were 714 00:32:36,120 --> 00:32:39,720 Speaker 16: introduced in the first TMNT comic book back in nineteen 715 00:32:39,920 --> 00:32:43,880 Speaker 16: eighty four, created by artists Kevin Eastman and Peter Laird, 716 00:32:43,920 --> 00:32:47,760 Speaker 16: who financed this entire comic with a tax refund and 717 00:32:47,800 --> 00:32:51,360 Speaker 16: a family loan and have created an entire empire of 718 00:32:51,400 --> 00:32:55,440 Speaker 16: teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles from TV shows, action figures, movies 719 00:32:55,680 --> 00:32:57,800 Speaker 16: and have brought it all the way back around to 720 00:32:57,840 --> 00:32:59,960 Speaker 16: the comics and are putting out some really great graph 721 00:33:00,280 --> 00:33:02,440 Speaker 16: novels right now. This one will be a while, but 722 00:33:02,520 --> 00:33:05,800 Speaker 16: TMNT will enter into the public domain in twenty eighty 723 00:33:06,360 --> 00:33:10,400 Speaker 16: and my idea for a TMNT movie would be a 724 00:33:10,560 --> 00:33:13,880 Speaker 16: sci fi action movie. Think about Blade Runner twenty forty 725 00:33:13,960 --> 00:33:16,880 Speaker 16: nine meets The Batman with Robert Pattinson, and I would 726 00:33:16,880 --> 00:33:20,840 Speaker 16: call the movie TMNT twenty eighty four. So if it 727 00:33:20,840 --> 00:33:23,480 Speaker 16: comes out in twenty eighty, it will be set in 728 00:33:23,480 --> 00:33:27,000 Speaker 16: the not so distant future, and that is what I envision, 729 00:33:27,480 --> 00:33:33,920 Speaker 16: So go with me on this journey. Picture a dystopian 730 00:33:34,720 --> 00:33:38,360 Speaker 16: not so distant future in New York City. It's cold, 731 00:33:39,240 --> 00:33:44,280 Speaker 16: it's dark, but also an orange haze that hangs over 732 00:33:44,320 --> 00:33:51,520 Speaker 16: the city. And that night we have these kneon bright 733 00:33:51,640 --> 00:33:56,920 Speaker 16: lights take over the scenes and emerging from the shadows 734 00:33:59,040 --> 00:34:06,440 Speaker 16: from underground the sewer are the teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, Leonardo, Raphael, 735 00:34:07,680 --> 00:34:16,720 Speaker 16: Dona Tello and Michelangelo. And on screen they are recognizable 736 00:34:16,880 --> 00:34:21,799 Speaker 16: as those beloved TMNT characters, but their personalities are so 737 00:34:22,239 --> 00:34:27,360 Speaker 16: different and darker. They're still teenagers, but man, they have 738 00:34:27,440 --> 00:34:31,240 Speaker 16: seen some stuff. Because the future is not a happy place. 739 00:34:36,560 --> 00:34:45,520 Speaker 16: The criminals are more hardened, sadistic. Evil Shredder as a 740 00:34:45,520 --> 00:34:51,520 Speaker 16: madman taking over New York City and they must stop them. 741 00:34:51,760 --> 00:34:54,440 Speaker 16: This also is going to be a very expensive movie. 742 00:34:54,480 --> 00:34:57,600 Speaker 16: I'm thinking tmn T movie with the two hundred and 743 00:34:57,640 --> 00:35:01,520 Speaker 16: fifty two hundred and seventy five five million dollar budget. 744 00:35:02,040 --> 00:35:04,680 Speaker 16: I wanted to feel epic, I wanted to feel grand. 745 00:35:04,760 --> 00:35:07,799 Speaker 16: I wanted to feel unlike anything you've ever seen from 746 00:35:07,840 --> 00:35:13,640 Speaker 16: a TMNT movie. No comedy, just straight brutal action. People 747 00:35:13,680 --> 00:35:16,560 Speaker 16: getting decapitated by the Turtles. That is what I want 748 00:35:16,600 --> 00:35:19,000 Speaker 16: to see, And sadly, I just don't think we'll ever 749 00:35:19,080 --> 00:35:22,799 Speaker 16: get there in our lifetime because they are so much 750 00:35:22,840 --> 00:35:27,239 Speaker 16: associated with childhood memories and they're wholesome and they teach 751 00:35:27,360 --> 00:35:30,680 Speaker 16: lessons and they're colorful and bright. But the way I 752 00:35:30,680 --> 00:35:34,240 Speaker 16: see the teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles is entirely different. Because 753 00:35:34,280 --> 00:35:37,120 Speaker 16: that first movie that came out in the nineties had 754 00:35:37,160 --> 00:35:40,680 Speaker 16: that tone. It didn't really feel like a kid's movie. 755 00:35:40,719 --> 00:35:43,880 Speaker 16: But over time they have become more and more cartoonish. 756 00:35:44,000 --> 00:35:46,920 Speaker 16: So man, I would love for this movie to happen. 757 00:35:47,360 --> 00:35:50,360 Speaker 16: Twenty eighty is the first year it could happen. My 758 00:35:50,560 --> 00:35:54,319 Speaker 16: movie would be called TMNT twenty eighty four. Let's go 759 00:35:54,400 --> 00:35:57,920 Speaker 16: number four. At number three, we're going over into the 760 00:35:58,000 --> 00:36:02,359 Speaker 16: animated side. The movie is Toy Story, which originally came 761 00:36:02,400 --> 00:36:05,560 Speaker 16: out back in nineteen ninety five. It was the first 762 00:36:05,640 --> 00:36:09,799 Speaker 16: computer animated feature film released by Pixar and distributed by 763 00:36:09,800 --> 00:36:13,120 Speaker 16: Walt Disney. Since the movie came out in nineteen ninety five, 764 00:36:13,239 --> 00:36:16,759 Speaker 16: my version could come out in twenty ninety one. Oh man, 765 00:36:16,800 --> 00:36:19,160 Speaker 16: that's a long time away. But my movie would be 766 00:36:19,239 --> 00:36:22,759 Speaker 16: titled Toy Story Play times over and it is an 767 00:36:22,800 --> 00:36:27,160 Speaker 16: animated horror movie. Think about it as that original movie, 768 00:36:27,160 --> 00:36:31,640 Speaker 16: but in a parallel universe where Woody actually kills Buzz. 769 00:36:31,719 --> 00:36:34,719 Speaker 16: In Toy Story, he tries to just knock Buzz off 770 00:36:34,760 --> 00:36:37,720 Speaker 16: so Andy can't find him, and instead of taking Buzz 771 00:36:37,760 --> 00:36:40,080 Speaker 16: with him to go to Pizza Planet, he takes Woody 772 00:36:40,160 --> 00:36:42,759 Speaker 16: with them. But in my version, Woody actually kills them, 773 00:36:42,960 --> 00:36:45,200 Speaker 16: ice is him, takes them out, makes him sleep with 774 00:36:45,239 --> 00:36:47,440 Speaker 16: the fishes, thinks he gets away with it, but. 775 00:36:47,400 --> 00:36:50,279 Speaker 1: Then Old Slink starts to become. 776 00:36:50,040 --> 00:36:52,880 Speaker 16: A little bit suspicious of Woody and he tries to 777 00:36:52,920 --> 00:36:56,560 Speaker 16: crack the case, and at the same time Woody is 778 00:36:56,600 --> 00:36:59,680 Speaker 16: trying to tie up Blue sends. Other toys start getting 779 00:36:59,760 --> 00:37:02,200 Speaker 16: killed because they're all good to rat on Woody. They 780 00:37:02,280 --> 00:37:05,440 Speaker 16: start to question themselves. Should we get Andy involved? Should 781 00:37:05,520 --> 00:37:08,239 Speaker 16: we reveal to him that we actually come alive. The 782 00:37:08,400 --> 00:37:12,000 Speaker 16: entire thing ends with Woody dying by being thrown into 783 00:37:12,040 --> 00:37:27,200 Speaker 16: a garbage disposal. Why but Toys kill him after he 784 00:37:27,239 --> 00:37:31,360 Speaker 16: admits to killing Buzz an animated horror movie. That is 785 00:37:31,400 --> 00:37:33,799 Speaker 16: what I want to see? Toy story play times over 786 00:37:34,000 --> 00:37:36,879 Speaker 16: come to you from Movie Mike's productions in twenty ninety one. 787 00:37:36,960 --> 00:37:44,840 Speaker 1: That's at number three. Okay, Sunday Sampler, there you go. 788 00:37:44,920 --> 00:37:47,799 Speaker 2: New episodes out weekly from The Sore Losers to Movie 789 00:37:47,840 --> 00:37:51,479 Speaker 2: Mike's Movie Podcast, Get Real with Caroline Hobby, Amy's Four Things, 790 00:37:51,520 --> 00:37:52,319 Speaker 2: and so much more. 791 00:37:52,440 --> 00:37:53,319 Speaker 1: Hope you guys have a great week. 792 00:37:53,360 --> 00:38:02,680 Speaker 4: We'll see you guys Monday.