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Speaker 1: She is now sixty four years old and I'm sixty seven,

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Speaker 1: nothing physically wrong with my wife. Her hip is fine now.

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Speaker 1: We've been out dancing and it was just fine. So

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Speaker 1: When you're dancing, You ain't got your ankle by your ear,

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Speaker 1: There hips coming models. There's different models of hips. You

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Speaker 1: That's the Stormy Daniels hip. You got where you can

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Speaker 1: That ain't gonna be that good. They're busy walking around

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Speaker 1: Her hip ain't working to good. They were dancing. She

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Speaker 1: I could just drop in the floor Van Damn, just

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Speaker 1: a circus ol hill. Now, that's very That's the most

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Speaker 1: a hundred for that heill. But then you can be

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Speaker 1: I haven't had that money for a hill like that. Like,

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Speaker 1: I let her go get a new hill, a specific model.

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Speaker 1: I'm getting top off. I'm gonna get the Mary lou

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Speaker 1: Ritten I'm gonna get that, or I'm gonna get that

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Speaker 1: or they got several of them, they got there. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I don't want the young model coach. They don't come

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Speaker 1: Redden model. You know, yeah, doorable. Now, if you want

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Speaker 1: going through that against God. Well, you know they got

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Speaker 1: But it wasn't enough. I'm very disappointed. So those are

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Speaker 1: does tricks. That's what you make sure you get both? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: a river hip, with a river dance hip. No, that's

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Speaker 1: not a good hip. Those hips staying still, that's just

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Speaker 1: Miss river Dance needs big hooks. Don't move. Miss river

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Speaker 1: I mean, I think they have a catalog to see

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Speaker 1: backwards at it in this topic. Yeah, I don't want

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Speaker 1: Then well that's pretty close. Like no, that's the circusol Hill,

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Speaker 1: I go with models, with y'all in pride. Give me

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Speaker 1: a universe soul, Hill, No, you don't want that. They

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Speaker 1: they don't put nothing in there. They don't call him music,

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Speaker 1: called him previously own. Yeah, really love you have to

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Speaker 1: do be able to do anything. But I have a question.

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Speaker 1: The question is, didn't he upset when she's at the

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Speaker 1: she can't move the hips? That's how you know the

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Speaker 1: hip is okay, okay doing? I say? He says he

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Speaker 1: So what does he do? You know? Me and Tommy race,

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Speaker 1: seen the new YouTube video he released. Oh Tommy's been

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Speaker 1: working out. You got to go to YouTube. What only

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Speaker 1: he doing? Everything? Man? Birpies, ropes, running in plays, jumping jack's.

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Speaker 1: I don't know why anybody would show me some damn

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Speaker 1: I think, aren't you a vegan? Temm me now, No,

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Speaker 1: I'm not a vegan. Oh you had stopped for Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm vegan be cause I can't you nothing. I'm damn

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Speaker 1: baby to give you some tea man. Now. I was

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