1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:03,000 Speaker 1: My wife might be cheating on me. I want to divorce, 2 00:00:03,040 --> 00:00:05,040 Speaker 1: but it will destroy our lives. 3 00:00:05,240 --> 00:00:08,639 Speaker 2: Part one. Oh, that's a sticky situation. Hey guys, this 4 00:00:08,680 --> 00:00:11,360 Speaker 2: is part one of our five part series. 5 00:00:11,119 --> 00:00:13,680 Speaker 1: So let's dive into it. I don't even know where 6 00:00:13,720 --> 00:00:15,880 Speaker 1: to start in all of this. I feel like I'm 7 00:00:15,920 --> 00:00:18,800 Speaker 1: about to faint. I've been married to my wife for 8 00:00:18,920 --> 00:00:22,279 Speaker 1: nine years and we've been together four eleven. We're both 9 00:00:22,320 --> 00:00:24,560 Speaker 1: from Europe, but not from the same country, and we've 10 00:00:24,560 --> 00:00:27,800 Speaker 1: been living in Asia for the last ten years. We've 11 00:00:27,800 --> 00:00:30,080 Speaker 1: been in this particular country for eight years. 12 00:00:30,720 --> 00:00:32,120 Speaker 2: We have three kids, a. 13 00:00:32,040 --> 00:00:34,519 Speaker 1: Son eight years old, another son six years old, and 14 00:00:34,560 --> 00:00:35,720 Speaker 1: a daughter three years old. 15 00:00:36,200 --> 00:00:37,400 Speaker 2: My wife hasn't. 16 00:00:37,080 --> 00:00:39,559 Speaker 1: Worked since our first son was born, so in the 17 00:00:39,600 --> 00:00:42,760 Speaker 1: past eight years, I have a permanent residency in the 18 00:00:42,800 --> 00:00:45,080 Speaker 1: country where we live, and she and the kids are 19 00:00:45,159 --> 00:00:48,080 Speaker 1: legally allowed to stay with me even though they are 20 00:00:48,120 --> 00:00:50,120 Speaker 1: not citizens and she's not working. 21 00:00:50,760 --> 00:00:53,120 Speaker 2: Possible foreshadowing, I don't know. 22 00:00:53,640 --> 00:00:56,720 Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from Outrageous Spread eighty seven 23 00:00:56,760 --> 00:01:00,400 Speaker 1: oh six on the on the brou Update subber So. 24 00:01:00,920 --> 00:01:03,680 Speaker 1: Our marriage has in my eyes, been pretty good. We've 25 00:01:03,680 --> 00:01:06,160 Speaker 1: had some fights over the years, but nothing too serious. 26 00:01:06,400 --> 00:01:08,480 Speaker 1: I work five days a week, from eight am to 27 00:01:08,520 --> 00:01:11,679 Speaker 1: four pm. My wife has her routine. Our oldest son 28 00:01:11,720 --> 00:01:14,640 Speaker 1: goes to school, the younger one goes to preschool, and 29 00:01:14,640 --> 00:01:17,160 Speaker 1: our daughter goes to kindergarten. She drives them to school, 30 00:01:17,240 --> 00:01:20,240 Speaker 1: picks them up, makes lunch, waits for me. We've always 31 00:01:20,240 --> 00:01:23,840 Speaker 1: gone on vacations, trips, holidays. We have dates every weekend. 32 00:01:24,760 --> 00:01:28,080 Speaker 1: I never suspected that she was doing anything behind my back. 33 00:01:28,000 --> 00:01:30,800 Speaker 2: Ah until you did the butts. 34 00:01:31,360 --> 00:01:34,800 Speaker 1: We are about to see the biggest, fattest But dare 35 00:01:34,840 --> 00:01:37,399 Speaker 1: I say to Coda, Dare I say bigger and fatter 36 00:01:37,520 --> 00:01:38,560 Speaker 1: than Kion's. 37 00:01:38,800 --> 00:01:41,320 Speaker 2: Ah, that's impossible. I'm gonna be honest. 38 00:01:41,520 --> 00:01:44,200 Speaker 1: I think I know it seems impossible, but I think 39 00:01:44,240 --> 00:01:45,639 Speaker 1: we might actually see one today. 40 00:01:45,760 --> 00:01:46,440 Speaker 2: I can't wait. 41 00:01:47,760 --> 00:01:50,680 Speaker 1: So we've always had an open phone policy, but I 42 00:01:50,720 --> 00:01:53,280 Speaker 1: don't think I've checked her phone more than five times 43 00:01:53,280 --> 00:01:55,680 Speaker 1: in my whole life. I don't remember the last time 44 00:01:55,720 --> 00:01:58,920 Speaker 1: I did. But this Wednesday, I came home, parks the 45 00:01:58,960 --> 00:02:01,280 Speaker 1: car outside, and I don't think she heard me. I 46 00:02:01,360 --> 00:02:04,280 Speaker 1: overheard her talking to someone saying how much she missed 47 00:02:04,280 --> 00:02:06,720 Speaker 1: them and how she couldn't wait to see them that week. 48 00:02:07,080 --> 00:02:09,520 Speaker 1: I didn't suspect anything. At first, she told me it 49 00:02:09,560 --> 00:02:11,240 Speaker 1: was just a friend of hers who was on a trip, 50 00:02:11,320 --> 00:02:13,880 Speaker 1: and I knew that that was true, but still something 51 00:02:13,880 --> 00:02:16,880 Speaker 1: felt off. She acted a little too nice, too cheerful, 52 00:02:16,919 --> 00:02:19,120 Speaker 1: as if she was trying too hard. I had a 53 00:02:19,160 --> 00:02:22,080 Speaker 1: weird feeling, but I told myself I was probably just 54 00:02:22,160 --> 00:02:25,240 Speaker 1: overthinking it and decided to wait until the next day 55 00:02:25,320 --> 00:02:29,480 Speaker 1: to confront her. On Thursday, I couldn't shake the feeling, 56 00:02:29,560 --> 00:02:32,520 Speaker 1: and I kept asking myself whether I was paranoid. It 57 00:02:32,560 --> 00:02:34,880 Speaker 1: bothered me that she had ended the call so quickly 58 00:02:34,919 --> 00:02:37,359 Speaker 1: when I had come in. I called her during the 59 00:02:37,440 --> 00:02:39,680 Speaker 1: day and asked where she was. She told me that 60 00:02:39,720 --> 00:02:41,919 Speaker 1: she was home, but I heard weird noises in the background, 61 00:02:41,919 --> 00:02:43,160 Speaker 1: which just didn't add up. 62 00:02:43,440 --> 00:02:45,880 Speaker 2: I decided to leave work early just to see what. 63 00:02:45,960 --> 00:02:49,480 Speaker 1: Was going on. When I got home, she wasn't there. 64 00:02:49,880 --> 00:02:53,200 Speaker 1: Uh oh, she said they were there, m But she's 65 00:02:53,240 --> 00:02:54,080 Speaker 1: not there Dakota. 66 00:02:54,120 --> 00:02:56,840 Speaker 3: Maybe she has his second home that y'all don't know about. 67 00:02:56,880 --> 00:02:58,280 Speaker 2: With a second family. 68 00:02:58,400 --> 00:02:58,600 Speaker 3: Yes. 69 00:03:00,240 --> 00:03:03,160 Speaker 1: I called her again, trying not to sound suspicious, and 70 00:03:03,240 --> 00:03:05,120 Speaker 1: asked if she could look for something in the house 71 00:03:05,160 --> 00:03:07,680 Speaker 1: for me. She said that she was checking for those 72 00:03:07,720 --> 00:03:10,760 Speaker 1: things at that point, I knew. 73 00:03:10,639 --> 00:03:11,480 Speaker 2: Something was going on. 74 00:03:11,919 --> 00:03:15,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, she came home later, acting like nothing was wrong, 75 00:03:15,680 --> 00:03:17,639 Speaker 1: still wanting to go out with me and the kids. 76 00:03:18,040 --> 00:03:21,040 Speaker 1: I somehow kept my calm, pretending I was just tired. 77 00:03:21,520 --> 00:03:23,920 Speaker 1: I didn't confront her that day, even though I was 78 00:03:24,040 --> 00:03:27,000 Speaker 1: dying too. I told everything to my best friend the 79 00:03:27,040 --> 00:03:29,400 Speaker 1: next day, and he was furious with me for not 80 00:03:29,440 --> 00:03:32,880 Speaker 1: confronting her right away, but he didn't have solid evidence, 81 00:03:33,480 --> 00:03:35,880 Speaker 1: so I said I'd looked through her phone. 82 00:03:35,640 --> 00:03:37,640 Speaker 2: And her laptop once she went to sleep. 83 00:03:37,960 --> 00:03:41,080 Speaker 1: Super quick pause right here, everyone in the chat, everyone 84 00:03:41,120 --> 00:03:47,960 Speaker 1: in the comments. Dakota, is Opie currently justified in being 85 00:03:48,000 --> 00:03:48,800 Speaker 1: able to snoop? 86 00:03:49,280 --> 00:03:52,480 Speaker 4: I don't know, because you know, the whole like, I'm home, 87 00:03:52,520 --> 00:03:57,120 Speaker 4: but I hear noises like hmm. I mean they already 88 00:03:57,120 --> 00:04:00,280 Speaker 4: had the open phone policy, so I guess technically, hmm, 89 00:04:00,520 --> 00:04:03,720 Speaker 4: the snooping is always warranted, that's the Yeah, it's always 90 00:04:03,760 --> 00:04:07,000 Speaker 4: it's always permissible, right yeah, yeah, yeah. But in my 91 00:04:07,080 --> 00:04:09,200 Speaker 4: head I'm thinking right now with this situation, I'm like, 92 00:04:09,280 --> 00:04:11,720 Speaker 4: could she have just been like at the store and 93 00:04:11,880 --> 00:04:14,160 Speaker 4: just like, you know, I don't know. Sometimes we've all 94 00:04:14,160 --> 00:04:17,560 Speaker 4: done that where it's like we're actually not just like 95 00:04:17,600 --> 00:04:20,200 Speaker 4: an insignificant. 96 00:04:19,560 --> 00:04:22,480 Speaker 2: A little like wildly yeah. 97 00:04:22,160 --> 00:04:23,680 Speaker 4: Just because you're like, I don't want to have to 98 00:04:23,760 --> 00:04:26,240 Speaker 4: do like three sentences to explain what's going on. So 99 00:04:26,440 --> 00:04:28,000 Speaker 4: they're like are you home, You're just like, yeah, I'm home, 100 00:04:28,200 --> 00:04:29,800 Speaker 4: because it doesn't matter if I'm not home or I'm 101 00:04:29,839 --> 00:04:30,840 Speaker 4: at the grocery store or whatever. 102 00:04:30,880 --> 00:04:31,480 Speaker 3: I'm home. 103 00:04:31,800 --> 00:04:32,320 Speaker 2: Yeah. 104 00:04:32,560 --> 00:04:37,480 Speaker 4: But I think I think we're probably going to find 105 00:04:37,520 --> 00:04:41,599 Speaker 4: out that it is warranted. That's I'm blessing that that's 106 00:04:41,600 --> 00:04:44,440 Speaker 4: where it is. Not doing this for no reason, but 107 00:04:44,480 --> 00:04:44,800 Speaker 4: as of. 108 00:04:44,800 --> 00:04:49,680 Speaker 1: Right now, putting our our ICUs and foreshadowing aside, do 109 00:04:49,720 --> 00:04:52,760 Speaker 1: you think no, no for now, like it's not it's 110 00:04:52,800 --> 00:04:53,560 Speaker 1: not enough yet. 111 00:04:53,920 --> 00:04:57,880 Speaker 4: I think for me, like for me just as a witness, 112 00:04:58,000 --> 00:05:00,440 Speaker 4: like no, but for I can understand for him with 113 00:05:00,920 --> 00:05:02,680 Speaker 4: having been there for that phone call where she hung 114 00:05:02,760 --> 00:05:05,200 Speaker 4: up quick yeah and now she's like not I'm home, 115 00:05:05,279 --> 00:05:05,760 Speaker 4: but I'm not. 116 00:05:06,040 --> 00:05:07,680 Speaker 2: Okay, So it's like so that's. 117 00:05:07,520 --> 00:05:12,000 Speaker 1: A yes, yes, I would say as of right now, 118 00:05:12,000 --> 00:05:15,719 Speaker 1: I'm going to say no because he can still ask 119 00:05:15,760 --> 00:05:17,000 Speaker 1: him and be like, hey, I called you and you 120 00:05:17,040 --> 00:05:19,680 Speaker 1: said you weren't home, and that, like I feel like 121 00:05:19,720 --> 00:05:25,080 Speaker 1: he can have a conversation first before being able having 122 00:05:25,080 --> 00:05:26,960 Speaker 1: to go to even though even though he's a lot 123 00:05:27,040 --> 00:05:29,160 Speaker 1: like like you said, you made a great point. Technically, 124 00:05:29,200 --> 00:05:30,520 Speaker 1: he wouldn't be in the wrong if he did that 125 00:05:30,520 --> 00:05:33,359 Speaker 1: because they have an open phone policy. Technically spirit speaking, 126 00:05:33,800 --> 00:05:35,960 Speaker 1: but like I feel like he can go to her 127 00:05:36,000 --> 00:05:37,120 Speaker 1: and say, like, Hey, I. 128 00:05:37,120 --> 00:05:39,320 Speaker 4: Just think I think it's weird that I wanted to 129 00:05:39,360 --> 00:05:40,960 Speaker 4: confront her, but I didn't. It's like you should have 130 00:05:41,000 --> 00:05:43,719 Speaker 4: just immediately sent Yeah, that's should have confronted her, right, 131 00:05:43,839 --> 00:05:45,960 Speaker 4: should have confronted her. Guys in the comments, let us 132 00:05:46,000 --> 00:05:47,880 Speaker 4: know what you think. Is it justified or not? 133 00:05:48,080 --> 00:05:52,200 Speaker 1: But getting back to it, that night, she was as 134 00:05:52,240 --> 00:05:57,560 Speaker 1: lovely as always. We even had spicy sleep even though 135 00:05:57,560 --> 00:06:00,360 Speaker 1: I wasn't in a movie. She asked me if everything 136 00:06:00,440 --> 00:06:02,920 Speaker 1: was okay, and I just said I was stressed from work. 137 00:06:03,200 --> 00:06:05,279 Speaker 1: She hugged me and then went to sleep, telling me 138 00:06:05,320 --> 00:06:10,599 Speaker 1: that everything was fine. But while she was asleep, I 139 00:06:10,680 --> 00:06:11,000 Speaker 1: checked her. 140 00:06:11,080 --> 00:06:13,240 Speaker 3: Frih. Why did she have to be. 141 00:06:13,240 --> 00:06:17,080 Speaker 1: Asleep while she was asleep while no one suspected the thing? 142 00:06:17,640 --> 00:06:19,480 Speaker 1: I invaded everything. 143 00:06:20,560 --> 00:06:22,000 Speaker 3: You could have just done that during the day. 144 00:06:22,160 --> 00:06:24,360 Speaker 2: No, how could I have a conversation. 145 00:06:24,680 --> 00:06:26,200 Speaker 3: Wouldn't that tell you immediately? 146 00:06:26,480 --> 00:06:29,280 Speaker 4: No? If you have an open phone policy, and she goes, 147 00:06:29,320 --> 00:06:30,400 Speaker 4: you can't look through my phone. 148 00:06:30,640 --> 00:06:33,680 Speaker 3: Hmmm, well maybe there is something going on. 149 00:06:33,600 --> 00:06:39,400 Speaker 1: But that requires this talking. Yeah with your mouth, pule 150 00:06:40,480 --> 00:06:42,880 Speaker 1: so to be honest. I don't know if she h 151 00:06:43,000 --> 00:06:45,080 Speaker 1: if she was that careless or just confident that I 152 00:06:45,120 --> 00:06:48,480 Speaker 1: wouldn't check. But she didn't delete anything. It was all 153 00:06:48,560 --> 00:06:51,440 Speaker 1: hidden but not deleted. I had about thirty to forty 154 00:06:51,480 --> 00:06:54,760 Speaker 1: minutes to look through everything before she woke up. The 155 00:06:54,839 --> 00:07:00,440 Speaker 1: affair partner, the other man is younger than me. This 156 00:07:00,560 --> 00:07:03,880 Speaker 1: means that she is cheating on him. 157 00:07:04,200 --> 00:07:07,240 Speaker 2: That was pretty quick. That was pretty abrupt for a review. 158 00:07:07,839 --> 00:07:09,840 Speaker 4: She's like, so I looked in her phone and yeah, 159 00:07:09,840 --> 00:07:11,240 Speaker 4: the affair is younger than me. 160 00:07:12,600 --> 00:07:13,640 Speaker 2: Okay, well we're here. 161 00:07:13,720 --> 00:07:17,520 Speaker 1: We're here probably between twenty three and twenty seven years old. 162 00:07:17,680 --> 00:07:19,440 Speaker 1: He seems to be wealthy and travels a lot. He 163 00:07:19,520 --> 00:07:23,920 Speaker 1: posts pictures of supercars, parties, living a flashy lifestyle. I 164 00:07:23,920 --> 00:07:26,360 Speaker 1: can tell from his Instagram that he's the type of 165 00:07:26,360 --> 00:07:29,000 Speaker 1: guy who follows a lot of women and seems like 166 00:07:29,280 --> 00:07:30,559 Speaker 1: an F boy type. 167 00:07:31,280 --> 00:07:34,120 Speaker 3: Oh tell him always always know the f boys. 168 00:07:34,200 --> 00:07:34,720 Speaker 2: Here we go. 169 00:07:35,280 --> 00:07:38,880 Speaker 1: This I think is the super smoking guns, smoking hot gun. 170 00:07:39,560 --> 00:07:42,840 Speaker 1: They've been physical at least four to five times. She 171 00:07:42,960 --> 00:07:46,400 Speaker 1: sent him a lot of nudies, mostly in the mornings 172 00:07:46,440 --> 00:07:49,920 Speaker 1: when she's alone before the kids are around. 173 00:07:50,320 --> 00:07:53,480 Speaker 2: M Is there any is there any? Uh? 174 00:07:53,480 --> 00:07:54,120 Speaker 4: What? Uh? 175 00:07:54,320 --> 00:07:58,160 Speaker 1: Not benefit of the doubt, but reasonable doubt that what 176 00:07:58,400 --> 00:08:01,360 Speaker 1: is he? Is he actually a a doctor who's giving 177 00:08:01,360 --> 00:08:03,679 Speaker 1: her free free mammograms over the tex. 178 00:08:03,680 --> 00:08:07,400 Speaker 4: Is there some su secret layer that we're not aware 179 00:08:07,440 --> 00:08:10,040 Speaker 4: of yet where it's like she's entering a contest to 180 00:08:10,120 --> 00:08:11,440 Speaker 4: win one of those supercars? 181 00:08:11,880 --> 00:08:12,880 Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah, who knows? 182 00:08:13,400 --> 00:08:17,080 Speaker 4: Send me nudie pics and maybe I'll give you a yacht? 183 00:08:17,120 --> 00:08:19,720 Speaker 4: Is there anything beyond the benefit of the doubt here? 184 00:08:19,800 --> 00:08:20,000 Speaker 4: Is there? 185 00:08:20,800 --> 00:08:24,160 Speaker 1: Is there any There's there's no reach we could possibly 186 00:08:24,200 --> 00:08:26,960 Speaker 1: stretch to with Michael Jordan's elastic arms. 187 00:08:27,080 --> 00:08:27,760 Speaker 2: No, there's none. 188 00:08:27,800 --> 00:08:31,760 Speaker 4: That's okay, Yeah, it's it's that's confirmed. AP confirmed. 189 00:08:31,840 --> 00:08:35,880 Speaker 1: That is AP confirmed. They passed AP cheating. So this 190 00:08:35,960 --> 00:08:39,040 Speaker 1: has apparently been going on for about a month. I 191 00:08:39,080 --> 00:08:41,400 Speaker 1: don't know how they met, but she's been going out 192 00:08:41,440 --> 00:08:44,400 Speaker 1: for girls nights last month, which I never thought to 193 00:08:44,440 --> 00:08:47,959 Speaker 1: even question. She initiated most of the conversations with him. 194 00:08:48,280 --> 00:08:50,720 Speaker 1: He doesn't seem to care about her as much as 195 00:08:50,760 --> 00:08:53,319 Speaker 1: she does for him, and it looks like she's been 196 00:08:53,360 --> 00:08:57,000 Speaker 1: trying to get his attention. They've had spicy sleep twice 197 00:08:57,080 --> 00:08:59,920 Speaker 1: during evenings when she told me she was with her friend, 198 00:09:00,360 --> 00:09:02,760 Speaker 1: and the rest of the time it was at his place. 199 00:09:02,800 --> 00:09:03,640 Speaker 2: In the mornings. 200 00:09:04,000 --> 00:09:06,680 Speaker 1: When I was home two days ago, she wasn't with him, 201 00:09:06,679 --> 00:09:08,840 Speaker 1: but she wanted to be. He told her he was 202 00:09:08,880 --> 00:09:11,840 Speaker 1: busy and she was already in the city. I've decided 203 00:09:11,880 --> 00:09:14,000 Speaker 1: I won't say anything to her until I'm sure of 204 00:09:14,040 --> 00:09:16,800 Speaker 1: my next steps. Today Sunday, we woke up and I 205 00:09:16,840 --> 00:09:18,280 Speaker 1: wasn't working, and I wasn't working. 206 00:09:18,559 --> 00:09:20,240 Speaker 2: She wanted to spend time with me, but I spent 207 00:09:20,320 --> 00:09:21,040 Speaker 2: most of the day in. 208 00:09:21,000 --> 00:09:24,600 Speaker 1: My home office, in my home office trying to process everything. Later, 209 00:09:24,679 --> 00:09:26,640 Speaker 1: I went to dinner with my best friend and showed 210 00:09:26,679 --> 00:09:27,360 Speaker 1: him everything. 211 00:09:27,880 --> 00:09:30,480 Speaker 2: Now I have no idea what to do. I'm definitely 212 00:09:30,559 --> 00:09:31,439 Speaker 2: going to divorce her. 213 00:09:31,559 --> 00:09:34,480 Speaker 1: I planned to contact a lawyer tomorrow, even though it's 214 00:09:34,480 --> 00:09:37,120 Speaker 1: Sunday night here. My biggest concern is that we live 215 00:09:37,160 --> 00:09:40,199 Speaker 1: in a foreign country on a different continent. If we divorce, 216 00:09:40,320 --> 00:09:42,240 Speaker 1: she could take the kids and return to her country, 217 00:09:42,240 --> 00:09:45,120 Speaker 1: and I can't allow that. The house, both cars, and 218 00:09:45,240 --> 00:09:47,720 Speaker 1: everything else are in my name paid for me. Okay, 219 00:09:47,720 --> 00:09:49,160 Speaker 1: I thought she was about to say they're all in 220 00:09:49,200 --> 00:09:52,480 Speaker 1: her name. Yeah, that would have been ooh, no kids, 221 00:09:52,559 --> 00:09:56,200 Speaker 1: no house, no cars, just homelessness. We have a joint 222 00:09:56,200 --> 00:09:58,520 Speaker 1: account with a significant amount of money, and I have 223 00:09:58,600 --> 00:10:00,000 Speaker 1: my own personal savings account. 224 00:10:01,080 --> 00:10:03,040 Speaker 2: She does not have her own account. 225 00:10:03,400 --> 00:10:05,880 Speaker 1: I also have property in my home country, which my 226 00:10:05,920 --> 00:10:09,560 Speaker 1: grandparents gave me during our marriage. It is in my name. 227 00:10:10,000 --> 00:10:12,439 Speaker 1: What should I do now? I can't stand being near her. 228 00:10:12,640 --> 00:10:14,760 Speaker 1: Should I confront her? Or should I talk to the 229 00:10:14,800 --> 00:10:18,040 Speaker 1: affair partner? Ooh, maybe he has a girlfriend or wife. 230 00:10:18,120 --> 00:10:19,680 Speaker 2: I doubt it. The f boy. 231 00:10:19,760 --> 00:10:23,920 Speaker 4: Definitely don't do that. Definitely don't talk to the affair partner. 232 00:10:24,040 --> 00:10:26,720 Speaker 4: What do you He's gonna like slam dunk on you 233 00:10:27,480 --> 00:10:30,760 Speaker 4: and then like like you know, like become his best 234 00:10:30,760 --> 00:10:32,480 Speaker 4: friend and then like he's like a cool DJ and 235 00:10:32,559 --> 00:10:34,319 Speaker 4: like ruin as DJ said, you know DJ a C. 236 00:10:34,720 --> 00:10:37,120 Speaker 4: He's gonna make a post with like five hundred thousand 237 00:10:37,160 --> 00:10:39,480 Speaker 4: dollars on his arm and he's gonna the caption is 238 00:10:39,520 --> 00:10:42,359 Speaker 4: gonna be like stole your girl. I didn't even notice. 239 00:10:43,080 --> 00:10:45,000 Speaker 4: And that's all that's gonna happen. If you talk to 240 00:10:45,040 --> 00:10:45,320 Speaker 4: that guy. 241 00:10:45,360 --> 00:10:46,600 Speaker 2: You'd be a great affair partner. 242 00:10:47,360 --> 00:10:49,920 Speaker 3: Well I need is all that money and success and fame? 243 00:10:51,240 --> 00:10:52,319 Speaker 2: Wife? Yeah, here we go. 244 00:10:52,360 --> 00:10:54,640 Speaker 1: Oh man, So should I kick her out of the 245 00:10:54,640 --> 00:10:57,120 Speaker 1: house or should I leave? If we didn't have the kids, 246 00:10:57,120 --> 00:10:59,120 Speaker 1: this would be so much more easier. But I love 247 00:10:59,200 --> 00:11:01,480 Speaker 1: my children more than anything, and I will fight to 248 00:11:01,559 --> 00:11:04,320 Speaker 1: make sure they stay here with me. I will also 249 00:11:04,400 --> 00:11:06,959 Speaker 1: get a DNA test, even though I'm pretty sure the 250 00:11:07,040 --> 00:11:08,680 Speaker 1: kids are mine, but you never know. 251 00:11:08,960 --> 00:11:15,520 Speaker 4: Day now everything is being put into question right after 252 00:11:15,559 --> 00:11:16,200 Speaker 4: this has been. 253 00:11:16,080 --> 00:11:19,319 Speaker 1: Revealed big time. Good Lord, I can't believe I'm writing 254 00:11:19,360 --> 00:11:22,560 Speaker 1: all of this. Anyways, any advice would be greatly appreciated. 255 00:11:22,800 --> 00:11:25,280 Speaker 1: I'm only I've only told this to my best friend 256 00:11:25,280 --> 00:11:27,520 Speaker 1: and I'm too embarrassed to tell anyone else. I can 257 00:11:27,520 --> 00:11:32,760 Speaker 1: plan to confront her today Sunday. Thank you. We have 258 00:11:33,160 --> 00:11:38,120 Speaker 1: relevant comments. We have big, fat, juicy updates. 259 00:11:38,080 --> 00:11:41,679 Speaker 4: Coming up, but very quickly, what do we suggest this 260 00:11:41,760 --> 00:11:43,880 Speaker 4: next movie is half joking, half serious? Right, talk to 261 00:11:43,880 --> 00:11:47,440 Speaker 4: me half joke, half serious, like you might need to 262 00:11:47,640 --> 00:11:51,480 Speaker 4: just do a little cognitive reframing right instead of being 263 00:11:51,520 --> 00:11:54,680 Speaker 4: like my wife is a disgusting cheater and I can't 264 00:11:54,720 --> 00:11:58,679 Speaker 4: stand to be near her. Yes, maybe maybe just consider 265 00:11:58,720 --> 00:12:01,680 Speaker 4: this as now it's a game and you're trying to 266 00:12:01,760 --> 00:12:06,319 Speaker 4: outdo the young hot millionaire with supercars, and you're trying 267 00:12:06,320 --> 00:12:09,800 Speaker 4: to steal your wife back from the guy stealing your 268 00:12:09,800 --> 00:12:15,280 Speaker 4: wife from you. But you know, again that was half 269 00:12:15,320 --> 00:12:18,240 Speaker 4: a joke. In reality, it's like your wife's cheating on you, 270 00:12:18,400 --> 00:12:21,200 Speaker 4: and it's probably a difficult, if not impossible, thing for 271 00:12:21,280 --> 00:12:21,920 Speaker 4: you to forgive. 272 00:12:22,080 --> 00:12:23,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, so it seems like a deal break for him. 273 00:12:23,920 --> 00:12:26,240 Speaker 4: I think before you do anything, like you said, it 274 00:12:26,240 --> 00:12:28,400 Speaker 4: seems like you kind of already understand like that it 275 00:12:28,400 --> 00:12:31,360 Speaker 4: could be real messy with the kids if you really like, 276 00:12:31,840 --> 00:12:35,080 Speaker 4: don't want don't let her just abscond with the kids 277 00:12:35,080 --> 00:12:38,640 Speaker 4: to another country. Yeah, yeah, and maybe if you know, 278 00:12:38,800 --> 00:12:41,520 Speaker 4: you gotta take your time, draw it out, maybe torture 279 00:12:41,520 --> 00:12:42,640 Speaker 4: her about it just a little bit. 280 00:12:42,640 --> 00:12:44,520 Speaker 1: Maybe drive me there's a little a little, a little 281 00:12:44,559 --> 00:12:47,040 Speaker 1: tinge like you know, tea with honey right up, little 282 00:12:47,080 --> 00:12:50,760 Speaker 1: non conformable hints that you'd like know that this has happened. 283 00:12:50,800 --> 00:12:51,720 Speaker 2: We have the divorce tea. 284 00:12:51,760 --> 00:12:53,840 Speaker 1: We're gonna sprinkle a little honey in a little lemon 285 00:12:53,920 --> 00:12:54,800 Speaker 1: juice of revenge in there. 286 00:12:54,840 --> 00:12:57,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, just just for flavor, just for flavor. Yeah, no, 287 00:12:58,120 --> 00:12:59,760 Speaker 2: make your sweat, make her sweat a litle bit, make 288 00:12:59,840 --> 00:13:00,880 Speaker 2: us a little bit. Yeah. 289 00:13:00,920 --> 00:13:03,840 Speaker 1: I think, as we've seen with all of the divorce stories, 290 00:13:03,880 --> 00:13:06,880 Speaker 1: I'm gonna say here, just keep working with the de 291 00:13:06,960 --> 00:13:09,960 Speaker 1: lawyer to collect as much as possible because it seems 292 00:13:10,000 --> 00:13:12,440 Speaker 1: like right now he knows, he seems like he knows 293 00:13:12,440 --> 00:13:13,160 Speaker 1: he doesn't want to be with her. 294 00:13:13,200 --> 00:13:15,080 Speaker 2: Seems like a deal breaker for him. The big question 295 00:13:15,160 --> 00:13:15,960 Speaker 2: here is the kids. 296 00:13:16,040 --> 00:13:18,720 Speaker 4: Is he gonna literally lose his kids and have them 297 00:13:19,880 --> 00:13:22,360 Speaker 4: she has one hundred percent custody in another country. 298 00:13:22,880 --> 00:13:25,320 Speaker 2: That is huge. I just. 299 00:13:28,200 --> 00:13:30,400 Speaker 4: Can't do that, can't do that. But she's got nowhere 300 00:13:30,440 --> 00:13:31,640 Speaker 4: to go, so that's probably what she do. 301 00:13:31,880 --> 00:13:32,760 Speaker 2: That's probably what you do. 302 00:13:32,880 --> 00:13:33,400 Speaker 3: Let's find out. 303 00:13:33,520 --> 00:13:34,040 Speaker 2: We're going to see. 304 00:13:34,120 --> 00:13:36,040 Speaker 3: Let's see what the people said in the comments. 305 00:13:35,800 --> 00:13:37,199 Speaker 2: So relevant comments. 306 00:13:37,200 --> 00:13:39,920 Speaker 1: So since you're in a foreign country, i'd prioritizing securing 307 00:13:39,960 --> 00:13:42,760 Speaker 1: the kids, the children's passports before confronting. 308 00:13:42,800 --> 00:13:43,280 Speaker 2: That's a good point. 309 00:13:43,280 --> 00:13:46,600 Speaker 1: Where they're born there, where's their residency? Outside of that, 310 00:13:46,640 --> 00:13:48,679 Speaker 1: get a lawyer and record whatever evidence you have. 311 00:13:49,120 --> 00:13:52,720 Speaker 2: Good, good advice. And now there's an update. 312 00:13:53,320 --> 00:13:57,000 Speaker 1: Let's go update my thirty five male wife thirty five 313 00:13:57,000 --> 00:13:59,160 Speaker 1: female and mother of three kids is cheating on me 314 00:13:59,360 --> 00:14:01,280 Speaker 1: and she thinks I don't know what do I do. 315 00:14:01,679 --> 00:14:04,000 Speaker 1: September twenty second, twenty twenty four. This is pretty recent, 316 00:14:04,080 --> 00:14:06,680 Speaker 1: So hi everyone. A lot of you, a lot of 317 00:14:06,679 --> 00:14:08,560 Speaker 1: you have asked me for an update, and there's both 318 00:14:08,600 --> 00:14:11,359 Speaker 1: some good and some not so good news. 319 00:14:11,320 --> 00:14:12,800 Speaker 2: The good and the bad, the good in the bad 320 00:14:12,880 --> 00:14:14,280 Speaker 2: and the ugly hint the ugly. 321 00:14:14,800 --> 00:14:17,200 Speaker 1: First, I want to clarify a few things because I've 322 00:14:17,200 --> 00:14:20,160 Speaker 1: received many messages and comments about this. My wife and 323 00:14:20,200 --> 00:14:22,120 Speaker 1: I are both from Europe, but not the same country. 324 00:14:22,160 --> 00:14:24,840 Speaker 1: We've been together for eleven years and married for nine. 325 00:14:25,240 --> 00:14:27,240 Speaker 1: We met in my country and a year after dating, 326 00:14:27,240 --> 00:14:29,760 Speaker 1: I received a job offer in Asia. She came with me, 327 00:14:30,040 --> 00:14:32,360 Speaker 1: but since we weren't married at the time, she couldn't 328 00:14:32,360 --> 00:14:34,720 Speaker 1: get the proper visa she wasn't working at the time, 329 00:14:34,840 --> 00:14:36,960 Speaker 1: had to fly and had to fly out on a 330 00:14:37,000 --> 00:14:39,960 Speaker 1: tourist visa, and about a year after we moved to Asia, 331 00:14:40,080 --> 00:14:42,520 Speaker 1: we got married there. A year later we moved to 332 00:14:42,600 --> 00:14:44,600 Speaker 1: another country in Asia, where we've been living for the 333 00:14:44,640 --> 00:14:47,720 Speaker 1: past eight years. So in total we've spent ten years 334 00:14:47,720 --> 00:14:50,440 Speaker 1: in Asia. The first to the first two years in 335 00:14:50,440 --> 00:14:52,600 Speaker 1: one country where got married in the last eight years, 336 00:14:52,600 --> 00:14:55,960 Speaker 1: in a country where we live now. A lot of 337 00:14:56,000 --> 00:14:58,960 Speaker 1: you have asked where the affair partner lives. I'm not 338 00:14:59,120 --> 00:15:01,320 Speaker 1: entirely sure if he lives here year round, but I 339 00:15:01,360 --> 00:15:04,200 Speaker 1: think he does. It's a large city with many foreigners, 340 00:15:04,240 --> 00:15:06,880 Speaker 1: and his apartment is in down in a downtown area 341 00:15:07,000 --> 00:15:09,280 Speaker 1: where many expaths live, and he. 342 00:15:09,240 --> 00:15:12,280 Speaker 4: Guesses as to where they live. Like what's uh? It 343 00:15:12,320 --> 00:15:13,760 Speaker 4: could be like Bangkok and Thailand. 344 00:15:13,960 --> 00:15:15,080 Speaker 2: There's so many different. 345 00:15:15,160 --> 00:15:17,240 Speaker 1: There's so many different places. Is there a big uh? 346 00:15:17,960 --> 00:15:20,280 Speaker 1: Jakarta is in Indonesia? Right, Jakarta? 347 00:15:20,280 --> 00:15:22,160 Speaker 2: Maybe? Yeah? 348 00:15:22,200 --> 00:15:24,720 Speaker 5: Something lolli shengu lolli. 349 00:15:24,800 --> 00:15:28,200 Speaker 2: Those are kind of Bali's in Indonesia. 350 00:15:28,480 --> 00:15:31,440 Speaker 3: Indeed, yes, sir was like its own country. 351 00:15:31,800 --> 00:15:33,000 Speaker 2: It kind of is. 352 00:15:35,040 --> 00:15:37,520 Speaker 1: Also, many of you suggested that I give her another 353 00:15:37,640 --> 00:15:39,480 Speaker 1: chance and go to marriage counseling for the sake of 354 00:15:39,520 --> 00:15:42,920 Speaker 1: the kids. I respect your opinions, and I understand that 355 00:15:42,960 --> 00:15:46,760 Speaker 1: everyone is different. Some people might forgive a ten year 356 00:15:46,800 --> 00:15:49,920 Speaker 1: affair hold on now. Some people might forget it isn't 357 00:15:49,960 --> 00:15:50,720 Speaker 1: going for ten years. 358 00:15:50,800 --> 00:15:52,200 Speaker 2: Ten year affairs. Some people forgive it. 359 00:15:52,200 --> 00:15:54,080 Speaker 4: This affair wasn't going for ten years though, right, No, 360 00:15:54,320 --> 00:15:59,479 Speaker 4: it ten years of ten years of being together. Yeah, 361 00:15:59,520 --> 00:16:01,400 Speaker 4: but like you know, oh wait, no, I think he's 362 00:16:01,440 --> 00:16:03,520 Speaker 4: just saying some people might forgive a ten year affair. 363 00:16:03,680 --> 00:16:06,000 Speaker 2: That's exactly okay. I thought he was saying his affair 364 00:16:06,040 --> 00:16:08,640 Speaker 2: was ten years long. I was like, he what it? 365 00:16:08,680 --> 00:16:11,640 Speaker 1: But it's like, uh, Matt, math it's one hundred million 366 00:16:11,680 --> 00:16:13,880 Speaker 1: seconds though, ye, I mean that's a lot of seconds. 367 00:16:14,320 --> 00:16:15,880 Speaker 2: She's been cheating a lot of seconds. That's a lot, 368 00:16:15,920 --> 00:16:16,640 Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. 369 00:16:16,920 --> 00:16:21,240 Speaker 1: While others wouldn't forgive even innocent texting with an unknown man, personally, 370 00:16:21,440 --> 00:16:24,440 Speaker 1: I can't forgive something like this. If I had been 371 00:16:24,440 --> 00:16:26,560 Speaker 1: a bad husband, if I hadn't taken care of her, 372 00:16:26,720 --> 00:16:29,040 Speaker 1: if our spicy sleep life was dead, or if she 373 00:16:29,120 --> 00:16:32,120 Speaker 1: ever told me she was unhappy, maybe I would understand 374 00:16:32,120 --> 00:16:34,400 Speaker 1: why she did it. But it's quite the opposite. We 375 00:16:34,760 --> 00:16:36,960 Speaker 1: were having spicy sleep four to five times a week. 376 00:16:37,000 --> 00:16:39,920 Speaker 1: She was always smiling, and she always said she's happy 377 00:16:40,080 --> 00:16:43,080 Speaker 1: we spend time together, and she never avoided me or 378 00:16:43,120 --> 00:16:43,880 Speaker 1: got angry at me. 379 00:16:44,240 --> 00:16:46,040 Speaker 2: So the answer is no. 380 00:16:46,800 --> 00:16:49,560 Speaker 1: The only way I would consider staying with her is 381 00:16:49,600 --> 00:16:52,320 Speaker 1: if my kids begged me and we were suffering so much. 382 00:16:52,560 --> 00:16:56,440 Speaker 1: But even then I would never touch her again. Geez 383 00:16:56,920 --> 00:16:58,240 Speaker 1: bro would just become a monk. 384 00:16:58,600 --> 00:16:58,800 Speaker 4: Yeah. 385 00:16:58,960 --> 00:17:01,680 Speaker 2: Nah, that's a no. You would not do that. 386 00:17:01,760 --> 00:17:04,680 Speaker 4: It's a no. It's a no. That would everyone would 387 00:17:04,680 --> 00:17:06,840 Speaker 4: suffer that. The only way I'd get back together is 388 00:17:06,880 --> 00:17:09,840 Speaker 4: if it was an even more miserable situation than the 389 00:17:09,880 --> 00:17:10,840 Speaker 4: one I find myself in. 390 00:17:11,160 --> 00:17:13,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, and everyone would suffer ten times worse. 391 00:17:13,640 --> 00:17:13,840 Speaker 4: Yeah. 392 00:17:14,280 --> 00:17:16,600 Speaker 1: I called a lawyer to here today, told him that 393 00:17:16,640 --> 00:17:18,159 Speaker 1: I wanted to meet him, and offered to pay him 394 00:17:18,200 --> 00:17:20,000 Speaker 1: extra since it was a Sunday and I assumed it 395 00:17:20,240 --> 00:17:22,480 Speaker 1: was his day off. The lawyer was very nice on 396 00:17:22,520 --> 00:17:24,760 Speaker 1: the phone, and we met after lunch. I showed him 397 00:17:24,800 --> 00:17:29,760 Speaker 1: everything and explained the situation. Here's the update. Good news. 398 00:17:30,240 --> 00:17:32,840 Speaker 1: All the assets I have are completely mine. She has 399 00:17:32,880 --> 00:17:33,800 Speaker 1: no claim on them. 400 00:17:34,200 --> 00:17:37,320 Speaker 4: She is on a spousal slash family visa here, doesn't 401 00:17:37,359 --> 00:17:41,000 Speaker 4: work and isn't a citizen, whereas I have permanent residency. 402 00:17:41,359 --> 00:17:43,560 Speaker 1: Since everything was paid for by me and is in 403 00:17:43,680 --> 00:17:46,919 Speaker 1: my name, I am the sole owner. All the money 404 00:17:46,960 --> 00:17:49,280 Speaker 1: in the bank is mine. He advised me to take 405 00:17:49,320 --> 00:17:51,280 Speaker 1: all the money from the joint account and transfer it 406 00:17:51,359 --> 00:17:53,880 Speaker 1: to another account where she doesn't have access. The joint 407 00:17:53,880 --> 00:17:57,480 Speaker 1: account is in my name, but she has credit slash 408 00:17:57,520 --> 00:17:59,960 Speaker 1: debit cards for it and uses them daily for everything, 409 00:18:00,200 --> 00:18:03,960 Speaker 1: household expenses, kids, herself, et cetera, et cetera. Technically she 410 00:18:04,119 --> 00:18:06,320 Speaker 1: has no right to that money. The cars are the 411 00:18:06,320 --> 00:18:08,919 Speaker 1: same situation. They're all in my name, all paid for 412 00:18:09,040 --> 00:18:11,600 Speaker 1: by me, with very clear evidence of payment. 413 00:18:11,760 --> 00:18:12,760 Speaker 3: Okay, so he's. 414 00:18:12,560 --> 00:18:15,719 Speaker 4: Got the assets. He's got the assets. She can't have 415 00:18:15,800 --> 00:18:17,080 Speaker 4: them and she can't have them. 416 00:18:17,119 --> 00:18:17,600 Speaker 2: But I do see. 417 00:18:17,640 --> 00:18:20,720 Speaker 4: There's gonna be some bad news here, bad news. Oh, 418 00:18:20,800 --> 00:18:21,240 Speaker 4: here we go. 419 00:18:21,920 --> 00:18:24,159 Speaker 2: The most important issue is the kids. 420 00:18:24,400 --> 00:18:27,200 Speaker 1: Since my wife is on espousal visa, if we divorce, 421 00:18:27,320 --> 00:18:29,399 Speaker 1: she can't stay here anymore. She would have to find 422 00:18:29,400 --> 00:18:32,200 Speaker 1: a job or use tourist visa. But she can't stay 423 00:18:32,240 --> 00:18:34,919 Speaker 1: on a tourist visa forever. Sooner or later someone at 424 00:18:34,960 --> 00:18:38,280 Speaker 1: an immigration will notice and deny her entry. The kids 425 00:18:38,280 --> 00:18:41,640 Speaker 1: can stay with me on the family visa. Now things 426 00:18:41,720 --> 00:18:46,520 Speaker 1: get complicated because four countries are involved, our two home countries, 427 00:18:46,640 --> 00:18:49,040 Speaker 1: the country where I got married, and the country where 428 00:18:49,040 --> 00:18:50,560 Speaker 1: we currently live. 429 00:18:51,600 --> 00:18:55,840 Speaker 2: H Yeah, if. 430 00:18:55,680 --> 00:18:58,200 Speaker 1: We divorce here in Asia, there's a good chance I'll 431 00:18:58,200 --> 00:19:01,920 Speaker 1: get primary custody, or at worse, we will share custody. However, 432 00:19:02,280 --> 00:19:05,520 Speaker 1: if we divorce in Europe, I'm basically screwed and I 433 00:19:05,520 --> 00:19:08,439 Speaker 1: would likely have to return there if I wanted to 434 00:19:08,520 --> 00:19:11,760 Speaker 1: be near my kids. The lawyer also suggested offering her 435 00:19:11,760 --> 00:19:14,200 Speaker 1: some assets or money in exchange for keeping the kids 436 00:19:14,200 --> 00:19:18,120 Speaker 1: here in Asia, a little little bribe, a little pro 437 00:19:18,240 --> 00:19:20,160 Speaker 1: quid pro for the kiddos. 438 00:19:21,040 --> 00:19:21,520 Speaker 3: I don't know. 439 00:19:21,680 --> 00:19:24,840 Speaker 4: That's I think, no matter what happens, it's going to 440 00:19:24,920 --> 00:19:26,399 Speaker 4: be just an absolute mess. 441 00:19:26,520 --> 00:19:27,840 Speaker 2: This is a huge mess. 442 00:19:27,920 --> 00:19:31,119 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a huge messs But I doubt that she 443 00:19:31,160 --> 00:19:31,919 Speaker 1: would agree to that. 444 00:19:33,040 --> 00:19:33,520 Speaker 2: I would. 445 00:19:33,880 --> 00:19:35,680 Speaker 1: I would kick her out of the house and get 446 00:19:35,680 --> 00:19:39,480 Speaker 1: the police involved. I won't have any issues, my goodness, 447 00:19:39,680 --> 00:19:42,280 Speaker 1: I have proof that I'm the father, and even if 448 00:19:42,320 --> 00:19:45,040 Speaker 1: the police get involved, the kids will stay near me. 449 00:19:45,080 --> 00:19:48,239 Speaker 1: So it sounds like, again a very very subtle, low 450 00:19:48,280 --> 00:19:50,200 Speaker 1: key way mentioning, it sounds like you got the DNA 451 00:19:50,280 --> 00:19:51,480 Speaker 1: test done and the kids are his. 452 00:19:51,640 --> 00:19:53,400 Speaker 4: Yeah, that's what it sounds like. I mean, I would 453 00:19:53,440 --> 00:19:56,520 Speaker 4: assume one can only assume easy. I think if he 454 00:19:56,560 --> 00:19:58,720 Speaker 4: found out the kids weren't his, he'd be like, oh sick. 455 00:19:58,760 --> 00:19:59,760 Speaker 4: This simplifies everything. 456 00:19:59,840 --> 00:20:03,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. The nuclear hammer is brought to justice. 457 00:20:04,520 --> 00:20:07,440 Speaker 1: Their passports are hidden a safe place, and she doesn't. 458 00:20:07,119 --> 00:20:09,200 Speaker 2: Know where they are. Where are their passports? I want 459 00:20:09,200 --> 00:20:11,360 Speaker 2: to know. The lawyer advised me to get DNA tests 460 00:20:11,359 --> 00:20:11,720 Speaker 2: for the kids. 461 00:20:11,760 --> 00:20:14,320 Speaker 1: Okay, so he doesn't have DNA tests, and to make 462 00:20:14,359 --> 00:20:16,560 Speaker 1: sure that I don't leave the house so that my wife, 463 00:20:16,640 --> 00:20:18,520 Speaker 1: so that my wife stays with them. I will do 464 00:20:18,560 --> 00:20:22,760 Speaker 1: the DNA tests tomorrow. In the meantime, the lawyer will 465 00:20:22,800 --> 00:20:25,280 Speaker 1: start working on the divorce. Once we get the results 466 00:20:25,680 --> 00:20:29,560 Speaker 1: from the DNA test, she will be served. All in all, 467 00:20:29,600 --> 00:20:32,360 Speaker 1: it's a very tough and complex situation, but I am 468 00:20:32,359 --> 00:20:33,000 Speaker 1: going to fight. 469 00:20:34,119 --> 00:20:36,320 Speaker 2: I also spoke with a lawyer from my home country. 470 00:20:36,520 --> 00:20:38,760 Speaker 1: He told me that if my wife somehow takes the 471 00:20:38,840 --> 00:20:41,639 Speaker 1: kids and goes back to Europe while we're still not divorced, 472 00:20:42,080 --> 00:20:44,600 Speaker 1: I should file a police report immediately in both the 473 00:20:44,600 --> 00:20:47,080 Speaker 1: country where we live and in my home country. 474 00:20:47,240 --> 00:20:49,880 Speaker 2: Okay, I mean kidnapping. 475 00:20:50,480 --> 00:20:56,080 Speaker 4: Is ready, He's ready to get law enforcement absolutely. Bron 476 00:20:56,200 --> 00:20:58,760 Speaker 4: just wants to call this the swat team on so ready, 477 00:20:58,880 --> 00:21:01,600 Speaker 4: just get her swatted, like, how dare you cheating? 478 00:21:01,720 --> 00:21:03,639 Speaker 2: Send those nudies arrested. 479 00:21:03,320 --> 00:21:06,200 Speaker 3: Her trying to flash bang his ex wife, Jeezu, this. 480 00:21:06,240 --> 00:21:08,280 Speaker 2: Is crazy, flash big is crazy. 481 00:21:08,960 --> 00:21:11,720 Speaker 1: Since both our home countries are in the EU, the 482 00:21:11,800 --> 00:21:12,640 Speaker 1: laws are similar. 483 00:21:12,840 --> 00:21:15,040 Speaker 2: If she does that, the police will be at her 484 00:21:15,080 --> 00:21:17,840 Speaker 2: door very quickly. So that's one positive thing. I mean, 485 00:21:19,320 --> 00:21:20,239 Speaker 2: chat Cook on this. 486 00:21:22,400 --> 00:21:26,800 Speaker 1: The police seems a little kind of overkill. 487 00:21:26,840 --> 00:21:28,560 Speaker 4: Maybe, Well, I think he's just saying it's like a 488 00:21:28,600 --> 00:21:31,959 Speaker 4: contingency plan. If she does try to just like swoop 489 00:21:32,040 --> 00:21:36,160 Speaker 4: the kids and leave, he can legally use the police 490 00:21:36,160 --> 00:21:37,400 Speaker 4: to get the kids back. 491 00:21:37,640 --> 00:21:41,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, because what she was doing is technically illegal. Yeah, yeh, 492 00:21:41,920 --> 00:21:43,800 Speaker 2: right right. I don't think he like. 493 00:21:44,119 --> 00:21:49,360 Speaker 4: Is like like salivating about doing it, but because he's 494 00:21:49,400 --> 00:21:50,920 Speaker 4: put that in the bad, he didn't put that in 495 00:21:50,960 --> 00:21:52,800 Speaker 4: the good. Put that in the bad like it would 496 00:21:52,840 --> 00:21:55,040 Speaker 4: be bad if I had to call the police on 497 00:21:55,119 --> 00:21:58,160 Speaker 4: my way, like it would be if she gets arrested 498 00:21:58,640 --> 00:22:02,240 Speaker 4: for cheating somehow, I don't think it's against the law, 499 00:22:02,359 --> 00:22:03,640 Speaker 4: but not great either. 500 00:22:04,720 --> 00:22:06,240 Speaker 2: I still haven't confronted her. 501 00:22:06,640 --> 00:22:08,119 Speaker 1: She was actually mad at me for most of the 502 00:22:08,200 --> 00:22:10,520 Speaker 1: day because I went to meet the lawyer and spend 503 00:22:10,560 --> 00:22:11,760 Speaker 1: time in my home office. 504 00:22:11,880 --> 00:22:13,879 Speaker 2: She kept saying that this is supposed to be our 505 00:22:14,000 --> 00:22:14,520 Speaker 2: day together. 506 00:22:14,880 --> 00:22:16,800 Speaker 1: I seriously don't know how I managed to keep my 507 00:22:16,840 --> 00:22:19,320 Speaker 1: calm and not tell her anything. She's been home for 508 00:22:19,320 --> 00:22:22,160 Speaker 1: the last two days, probably waiting until tomorrow to call 509 00:22:22,200 --> 00:22:25,720 Speaker 1: the affair partner. She's behaving well, though. About an hour 510 00:22:25,760 --> 00:22:27,880 Speaker 1: ago she apologized for being angry at me and tried 511 00:22:27,880 --> 00:22:30,320 Speaker 1: to kiss me. I'm doing everything I can to avoid 512 00:22:30,320 --> 00:22:32,600 Speaker 1: her as much as possible. I plan to go to 513 00:22:32,640 --> 00:22:35,600 Speaker 1: bed after she's already asleep. Tomorrow I'll get the DNA 514 00:22:35,600 --> 00:22:37,720 Speaker 1: test for the kids. The lawyer said he'll call me 515 00:22:37,760 --> 00:22:40,480 Speaker 1: with details on the best options for the divorce. I'll 516 00:22:40,480 --> 00:22:42,399 Speaker 1: ask for a few days off work, and after that 517 00:22:42,480 --> 00:22:43,760 Speaker 1: I will confront her. 518 00:22:44,080 --> 00:22:51,119 Speaker 2: And the affair partner. And the affair partner, that's where 519 00:22:51,200 --> 00:22:52,240 Speaker 2: this is going to fall off. 520 00:22:52,240 --> 00:22:55,080 Speaker 4: The rails, the wheels are going to start falling off 521 00:22:55,119 --> 00:22:56,600 Speaker 4: when she start getting that guy involved. 522 00:22:56,760 --> 00:22:57,280 Speaker 2: I have a. 523 00:22:57,280 --> 00:22:59,960 Speaker 4: Conspiracy theory that, like we're talking about calling the police, 524 00:23:00,040 --> 00:23:03,520 Speaker 4: we're talking about confronting the affair partner. I think Opie's 525 00:23:03,520 --> 00:23:05,920 Speaker 4: obviously vary hurt, and it's it's very much a deal 526 00:23:05,960 --> 00:23:08,360 Speaker 4: breaker for him any cheating whatsoever. 527 00:23:09,160 --> 00:23:12,520 Speaker 1: I think Opie is going to continue to go like 528 00:23:12,800 --> 00:23:16,520 Speaker 1: uh like off the charts with it, and it's going 529 00:23:16,560 --> 00:23:20,000 Speaker 1: to drastically overcomplicate the situation. 530 00:23:20,040 --> 00:23:22,480 Speaker 4: It's gonna it's gonna loop back. I don't I don't 531 00:23:22,520 --> 00:23:25,600 Speaker 4: know if he can help himself. I think, well, he's 532 00:23:25,640 --> 00:23:28,080 Speaker 4: certainly trying to get everything lined up before he makes 533 00:23:28,080 --> 00:23:29,280 Speaker 4: any moves, that's for sure. 534 00:23:30,000 --> 00:23:32,080 Speaker 1: The lawyer speaking to that, the lawyer told me to 535 00:23:32,080 --> 00:23:35,119 Speaker 1: record everything. He the affair partner says, thank you so 536 00:23:35,200 --> 00:23:37,200 Speaker 1: much for your messages in comments. Your advice has helped 537 00:23:37,240 --> 00:23:39,520 Speaker 1: me a lot, and thank you again. We've got some 538 00:23:39,560 --> 00:23:43,200 Speaker 1: other relevant comments. Good for you, man, get an STI test. Also, 539 00:23:43,400 --> 00:23:47,200 Speaker 1: she's likely been effing her affair partner without protection yoinks 540 00:23:49,119 --> 00:23:52,240 Speaker 1: And we have update number two. Uh, really quick before 541 00:23:52,240 --> 00:23:52,840 Speaker 1: we get into it. 542 00:23:53,480 --> 00:23:56,960 Speaker 4: I feel like that's a big assumption, just like yeah, yeah, 543 00:23:56,960 --> 00:24:00,879 Speaker 4: by the way, probably not using a uh what do 544 00:24:00,960 --> 00:24:02,440 Speaker 4: I a wambam shang a lang? 545 00:24:02,640 --> 00:24:05,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, raw dogging. I guess. 546 00:24:05,040 --> 00:24:08,240 Speaker 4: I mean, it doesn't doesn't hurt to get the this test. 547 00:24:08,280 --> 00:24:11,120 Speaker 4: I guess it's like an extra thing to assume. Yeah, yeah, 548 00:24:11,520 --> 00:24:14,720 Speaker 4: he's like, yes, yes, another thing that I can hold 549 00:24:14,720 --> 00:24:15,280 Speaker 4: against her. 550 00:24:15,400 --> 00:24:17,920 Speaker 2: You're right, yeah, disease. 551 00:24:19,840 --> 00:24:22,159 Speaker 1: So do we think do you think he's going to 552 00:24:22,200 --> 00:24:24,720 Speaker 1: actually confront the way he's I think he is. 553 00:24:25,000 --> 00:24:27,440 Speaker 2: I think he is finally going to go. Well, it's 554 00:24:27,480 --> 00:24:28,640 Speaker 2: gonna be very bad, dude. 555 00:24:28,680 --> 00:24:31,000 Speaker 4: It's like I'm afraid of people who are ten years 556 00:24:31,000 --> 00:24:34,440 Speaker 4: younger than me. Yeah, like you know, nineteen year old dude, 557 00:24:34,480 --> 00:24:37,080 Speaker 4: nineteen year olds right now, I can't even fathom how 558 00:24:37,119 --> 00:24:37,920 Speaker 4: their brains work. 559 00:24:38,040 --> 00:24:39,560 Speaker 2: Dude, what are they? What are they up to? 560 00:24:39,800 --> 00:24:41,280 Speaker 4: I don't know what they're thinking. I don't know what 561 00:24:41,320 --> 00:24:43,600 Speaker 4: they're doing, but they scare me. They're trying to skivy 562 00:24:43,680 --> 00:24:46,680 Speaker 4: riz all of our wives. Dude, right, so imagine this guy. 563 00:24:46,840 --> 00:24:49,600 Speaker 4: See I actually got that, but they're on the next thing, 564 00:24:49,800 --> 00:24:50,719 Speaker 4: can you imagine? 565 00:24:50,920 --> 00:24:53,879 Speaker 2: Yeah, those people are all the skippity rizzed. They're all 566 00:24:53,920 --> 00:24:54,960 Speaker 2: twenty two, twenty three. 567 00:24:55,119 --> 00:24:57,479 Speaker 3: Yeah, dude, they're in there. You know, I'm talking the 568 00:24:57,520 --> 00:24:58,080 Speaker 3: new ones. 569 00:24:58,320 --> 00:24:58,600 Speaker 2: Yeah. 570 00:24:58,800 --> 00:25:01,720 Speaker 4: I don't even know the they're in the shadow precongulat 571 00:25:01,760 --> 00:25:07,320 Speaker 4: our areos. Yeah, they're speaking in artificial intelligence. 572 00:25:07,400 --> 00:25:10,119 Speaker 2: Now, you don't even know what they do. 573 00:25:10,240 --> 00:25:12,520 Speaker 1: We need the Rosetta Stone, yeah, to be able to 574 00:25:12,520 --> 00:25:16,320 Speaker 1: decrypt what they're saying. Okay, guys, Well, skivyd nineteen year 575 00:25:16,320 --> 00:25:20,200 Speaker 1: old decide Update number two. My thirty five male wife, 576 00:25:20,280 --> 00:25:22,159 Speaker 1: thirty five female and mother of three is cheating on 577 00:25:22,200 --> 00:25:24,520 Speaker 1: me and she thinks I don't know anything what to do. 578 00:25:24,720 --> 00:25:27,119 Speaker 2: This is September twenty fourth, twenty twenty four, two. 579 00:25:27,040 --> 00:25:29,560 Speaker 1: Days after our last update. First of all, I want 580 00:25:29,560 --> 00:25:31,399 Speaker 1: to say something. I am reading all of your comments, 581 00:25:31,480 --> 00:25:33,199 Speaker 1: or at least most of them. Some of what you 582 00:25:33,240 --> 00:25:36,320 Speaker 1: wrote is just pure craziness. Stop putting your own words 583 00:25:36,320 --> 00:25:40,399 Speaker 1: and stories in my mouth. I have never said that 584 00:25:40,520 --> 00:25:42,360 Speaker 1: I want to see my wife leave the country where 585 00:25:42,400 --> 00:25:45,359 Speaker 1: we currently currently live. If there's one person in the 586 00:25:45,359 --> 00:25:48,240 Speaker 1: world who wants her to stay here, it's me. That's 587 00:25:48,280 --> 00:25:50,919 Speaker 1: because it means my kids will stay here too. I 588 00:25:50,960 --> 00:25:52,880 Speaker 1: feel like if they didn't have kids, O, people would 589 00:25:52,880 --> 00:25:54,920 Speaker 1: be throwing her to the wolves right now. Oh, it 590 00:25:54,920 --> 00:25:56,160 Speaker 1: would just be so new clear. 591 00:25:56,320 --> 00:25:58,040 Speaker 4: I think he's made that clear. It's like the kids 592 00:25:58,080 --> 00:26:01,200 Speaker 4: are the only thing that make this difficult. The kids 593 00:26:01,200 --> 00:26:05,440 Speaker 4: weren't there, dude, it would be full blown, like death 594 00:26:05,520 --> 00:26:07,520 Speaker 4: con Like this guy. 595 00:26:07,480 --> 00:26:10,600 Speaker 3: Would be dropping the nuclear arsenal. 596 00:26:10,680 --> 00:26:11,040 Speaker 2: For sure. 597 00:26:11,440 --> 00:26:13,600 Speaker 1: I'll offer her the best deal that will allow her, 598 00:26:13,600 --> 00:26:15,480 Speaker 1: that will allow her to stay here, but that deal 599 00:26:15,600 --> 00:26:19,040 Speaker 1: includes divorce. If she rejects it, then we'll fight for custody. 600 00:26:19,320 --> 00:26:21,320 Speaker 1: I am not the one who should fight for her future. 601 00:26:21,680 --> 00:26:24,080 Speaker 1: I didn't do anything to her. According to some of you, 602 00:26:24,280 --> 00:26:26,240 Speaker 1: I should go back to Europe, to her home country, 603 00:26:26,440 --> 00:26:28,919 Speaker 1: to her country. I've been there four times in my life. 604 00:26:29,000 --> 00:26:31,280 Speaker 1: I should leave everything I've built here in Asia so 605 00:26:31,320 --> 00:26:33,439 Speaker 1: I can see my kids three days per week. Well, 606 00:26:33,480 --> 00:26:34,400 Speaker 1: I've done nothing wrong. 607 00:26:34,520 --> 00:26:34,920 Speaker 2: She did. 608 00:26:35,240 --> 00:26:37,480 Speaker 1: She cheated on me, and now I should destroy everything 609 00:26:37,480 --> 00:26:39,160 Speaker 1: I've worked for it so she can be in a 610 00:26:39,160 --> 00:26:42,800 Speaker 1: better position quote unquote, because I'm the father and she's 611 00:26:42,840 --> 00:26:46,439 Speaker 1: the cheating mother. Or better yet, I shouldn't divorce her 612 00:26:46,480 --> 00:26:49,040 Speaker 1: so she can stay here because she cheated and didn't 613 00:26:49,080 --> 00:26:50,600 Speaker 1: know how to keep her legs closed. 614 00:26:51,240 --> 00:26:51,720 Speaker 2: Here we go. 615 00:26:52,040 --> 00:26:57,440 Speaker 4: I'm so angry. He's so mean and rightfully so I guess. 616 00:26:57,600 --> 00:27:00,960 Speaker 4: I mean, yeah, it's not gonna help. I suspect it's 617 00:27:00,960 --> 00:27:03,560 Speaker 4: gonna go overboard. I think he's gonna go overboard, and 618 00:27:03,680 --> 00:27:06,120 Speaker 4: I'm supposed to suffer and never meet anyone else. 619 00:27:06,680 --> 00:27:07,840 Speaker 2: Brilliant logic. 620 00:27:09,520 --> 00:27:11,720 Speaker 1: Maybe she can find a job here and stay in 621 00:27:11,720 --> 00:27:14,679 Speaker 1: the country legally with that, with the kids who have 622 00:27:14,760 --> 00:27:15,600 Speaker 1: everything they need. 623 00:27:15,960 --> 00:27:21,960 Speaker 2: Huh, that's also not okay, poor her, She needs to work. Yeah, well, 624 00:27:24,640 --> 00:27:25,680 Speaker 2: I need to survive. 625 00:27:25,760 --> 00:27:29,200 Speaker 4: I'm pretty sure in court that wouldn't hold up because 626 00:27:29,240 --> 00:27:32,240 Speaker 4: it's like you've she's been She's become like accustomed to 627 00:27:32,280 --> 00:27:34,399 Speaker 4: this or whatever, so like she I know, that's how 628 00:27:34,440 --> 00:27:36,760 Speaker 4: it works in the States at least, Yeah, maintained the 629 00:27:36,800 --> 00:27:38,040 Speaker 4: same lifestyle, your honor. 630 00:27:38,080 --> 00:27:41,080 Speaker 1: I would like to legally mandate homelessness for my ex 631 00:27:41,160 --> 00:27:43,879 Speaker 1: wife unless she's watching the kids, where she can go 632 00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:46,440 Speaker 1: to a mansion. The second the kids least, she must 633 00:27:46,440 --> 00:27:47,240 Speaker 1: go back to the street. 634 00:27:47,440 --> 00:27:49,359 Speaker 4: Yeah, when she's not watching the kids, she's in a 635 00:27:49,400 --> 00:27:53,000 Speaker 4: refrigerator box. The FBI must escort her back to her 636 00:27:53,119 --> 00:27:59,640 Speaker 4: box on the side of the street. And again you're 637 00:27:59,640 --> 00:28:01,360 Speaker 4: making stories without knowing anything. 638 00:28:01,440 --> 00:28:02,680 Speaker 2: She didn't give up anything. 639 00:28:02,800 --> 00:28:05,280 Speaker 1: I was the one telling her that if she wanted 640 00:28:05,320 --> 00:28:07,680 Speaker 1: to work she only finished high school, I would hire 641 00:28:07,680 --> 00:28:10,399 Speaker 1: a nanny, but she didn't want to, probably because she 642 00:28:10,480 --> 00:28:12,280 Speaker 1: needed time for her affair partner. 643 00:28:12,960 --> 00:28:14,680 Speaker 2: Well excavation my explation. 644 00:28:14,400 --> 00:28:16,399 Speaker 3: Next wation, how long was this going on for. 645 00:28:17,119 --> 00:28:19,040 Speaker 1: I am not forcing her out of the country. Immigration 646 00:28:19,119 --> 00:28:21,679 Speaker 1: will force her if we divorce and she doesn't have 647 00:28:21,720 --> 00:28:25,679 Speaker 1: a job. That's normal in every country we know if. 648 00:28:25,520 --> 00:28:28,240 Speaker 2: We get it. I am not above the law. 649 00:28:28,480 --> 00:28:30,560 Speaker 1: She can find a job and stay with the kids, 650 00:28:30,640 --> 00:28:33,160 Speaker 1: because the best thing for the kids is to stay here, 651 00:28:33,640 --> 00:28:37,240 Speaker 1: no court mandated boxes. She should do everything she can 652 00:28:37,280 --> 00:28:39,000 Speaker 1: to be near them. In the end, I love my 653 00:28:39,080 --> 00:28:41,120 Speaker 1: kids more than she does because I. 654 00:28:41,080 --> 00:28:42,480 Speaker 2: Didn't ruin our family. She did. 655 00:28:42,520 --> 00:28:45,640 Speaker 4: There you go, Okay, okay, Not to mention my kids 656 00:28:45,680 --> 00:28:48,360 Speaker 4: don't know anyone in her country except her family, don't 657 00:28:48,400 --> 00:28:51,120 Speaker 4: speak her language, and have friends and attend school in 658 00:28:51,200 --> 00:28:53,560 Speaker 4: kindergarten here, do not speak like English. 659 00:28:53,920 --> 00:28:54,280 Speaker 2: Moving on. 660 00:28:54,720 --> 00:28:57,640 Speaker 1: If you've never experienced something like this in your life, 661 00:28:57,760 --> 00:28:59,040 Speaker 1: you can use your logic. 662 00:28:59,240 --> 00:29:02,880 Speaker 2: I will stick with my there you go, so and 663 00:29:02,920 --> 00:29:03,680 Speaker 2: then on business. 664 00:29:04,120 --> 00:29:07,520 Speaker 1: To conclude this rant, I will offer her the deal 665 00:29:07,640 --> 00:29:10,280 Speaker 1: where the kids stay here and she stays here, but 666 00:29:10,400 --> 00:29:13,000 Speaker 1: not with me. If she rejects it, we will go 667 00:29:13,080 --> 00:29:15,120 Speaker 1: to court and we will see what the judge says. 668 00:29:15,600 --> 00:29:17,840 Speaker 1: I also never said that if we divorce she won't 669 00:29:17,880 --> 00:29:20,640 Speaker 1: get anything. She will, but not as much as she 670 00:29:20,680 --> 00:29:23,160 Speaker 1: would if she goes to Europe. Honestly, I don't care 671 00:29:23,200 --> 00:29:25,360 Speaker 1: if I lose the money, the house, or whatever, as 672 00:29:25,400 --> 00:29:27,920 Speaker 1: long as my kids stay here. I could transfer ownership 673 00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:30,760 Speaker 1: of my house to my brother cars send all the 674 00:29:30,760 --> 00:29:32,800 Speaker 1: money as a gift slash loan to him or to 675 00:29:32,880 --> 00:29:34,920 Speaker 1: my parents. Like my lawyer, advice if I want to 676 00:29:35,000 --> 00:29:38,680 Speaker 1: keep everything after the divorce, because right now she's not 677 00:29:38,840 --> 00:29:41,560 Speaker 1: entitled to anything. She doesn't even have residency status here, 678 00:29:41,640 --> 00:29:44,400 Speaker 1: let alone citizenship, and everything is in my name. So 679 00:29:44,560 --> 00:29:47,080 Speaker 1: I can do that before filing for divorce and she 680 00:29:47,080 --> 00:29:49,480 Speaker 1: would get next to nothing here. But I'm not doing that. 681 00:29:49,880 --> 00:29:52,040 Speaker 1: I'll earn that money back in a few years, but 682 00:29:52,120 --> 00:29:53,080 Speaker 1: my kids are here forever. 683 00:29:54,000 --> 00:29:57,800 Speaker 5: Sounds like someone did not think through cheating. She's a 684 00:29:57,920 --> 00:30:03,480 Speaker 5: really bro is about to just just new curtain freaking 685 00:30:04,320 --> 00:30:07,200 Speaker 5: dunk on her, breaking the glass. 686 00:30:07,240 --> 00:30:11,000 Speaker 4: He's he's he's providing all the money, he's providing the house, 687 00:30:11,040 --> 00:30:12,040 Speaker 4: he's providing the cars. 688 00:30:12,160 --> 00:30:14,360 Speaker 3: You don't have to work, you're taking care of. 689 00:30:14,200 --> 00:30:15,760 Speaker 2: He's gonna pull the joint account. 690 00:30:16,400 --> 00:30:19,600 Speaker 4: Yeah, you guys have a good little spicy, spicy slumber life. 691 00:30:20,480 --> 00:30:21,880 Speaker 2: And and what. 692 00:30:23,760 --> 00:30:27,280 Speaker 4: You got you got caught under the spell of this, 693 00:30:27,480 --> 00:30:33,160 Speaker 4: like young d bag f Boy on dj dj a 694 00:30:33,320 --> 00:30:41,600 Speaker 4: C on Instagram, Come on, this is crazy, Come on, thoughtless. 695 00:30:41,800 --> 00:30:43,800 Speaker 2: I don't know thought he's in front of her, by 696 00:30:43,800 --> 00:30:46,040 Speaker 2: the way, I thought he still has in front of her. 697 00:30:46,840 --> 00:30:49,880 Speaker 3: Well, yeah, he's getting he's still getting the ducks. 698 00:30:49,960 --> 00:30:52,560 Speaker 5: I think he I think he's got piling in every 699 00:30:52,600 --> 00:30:55,800 Speaker 5: single brick he can into a eighteen willer and then 700 00:30:55,840 --> 00:30:58,200 Speaker 5: he's gonna hit her with it. That's what he's doing 701 00:30:58,280 --> 00:31:01,120 Speaker 5: right now, not looking. 702 00:31:01,600 --> 00:31:05,400 Speaker 2: Dumping bricks, dumping bricks on my X soon to be 703 00:31:05,680 --> 00:31:09,200 Speaker 2: x Y. Well, let's see how many bricks he's gonna 704 00:31:09,200 --> 00:31:09,840 Speaker 2: brick dumper