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Speaker 1: Hey, what's up? It is Angela. Ye, I'm Stephanie Santiago,

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Speaker 1: Liam McSweeney. Why do I feel like you're like vibrating

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Speaker 1: or echoing or something to me? What was my instro?

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Speaker 1: A little much? No, you're okay? And Dante, how you doing?

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Speaker 1: I'm Dante Nero, Dante Narrow, comedian, comedian actor. Uh, his

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Speaker 1: own podcast. Yeah, I do little acting, stand up comedy,

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Speaker 1: and I have a podcast on a from a relationship,

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Speaker 1: podcast from a masculine perspective? What's a masculine perspective relationship?

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Speaker 1: I was, actually I was. I was a male strip

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Speaker 1: before like eleven years, a male strip that from that

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Speaker 1: I ended up being. I got a little bit into

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Speaker 1: the pimp game for about seven but for about seven

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Speaker 1: years and then I had a lot of guys who

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Speaker 1: were having problems with their relationships and I started applying

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Speaker 1: pimp principles to square relationships. Okay, so let me ask

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Speaker 1: you something about males stipping. Now. I have a great

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Speaker 1: time because I've hosted some mail review shows and it's

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Speaker 1: always really fun. But I know sometimes they say, like

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Speaker 1: there's certain things that you have to do because your

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Speaker 1: dick has to look hard, and well, that's what you're

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Speaker 1: talking about is beefing up. What a god does is

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Speaker 1: he jerks off and then what they usually will take

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Speaker 1: is a half inch of a spandage and they tied

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Speaker 1: behind the testicles, cut the circulation to keep the blood.

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Speaker 1: And it's like, I mean, it used to be. It

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Speaker 1: used to be, uh like they used to use cock rings.

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Speaker 1: But being the fact that a span because a spandage

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Speaker 1: worked good on your knee even when you're running, so

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Speaker 1: it works even better, is that dangerous? So I mean

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Speaker 1: it's painful. It could be painful for a while, but

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Speaker 1: I mean, you you release it in it, you know,

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Speaker 1: let it breathe. Can you get like Gang Green or

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Speaker 1: something from that? Yes, you could, but I mean you know,

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Speaker 1: I mean you by that time, you're gonna be in

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Speaker 1: a lot of pain. You're being a lot of pain

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Speaker 1: from doing that. Now, previously, a lot of my friends

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Speaker 1: had the mill stippers. A lot of them are gay.

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Speaker 1: A lot of mill shippers gay. Now I think it

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Speaker 1: is I think there was a time when it was

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Speaker 1: a real separation between gay strippers and and straight strippers.

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Speaker 1: I know when I did it, we separated the different stats.

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Speaker 1: Stigma was always there. So when I was kind of

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Speaker 1: it separate because we were trying to kill that stigma.

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Speaker 1: Now it's it's like it's kind of a free for

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Speaker 1: all guys. I mean, you get guys who even considered

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Speaker 1: themselves straight. They do they do gay shows, straight shows.

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Speaker 1: It's whatever, Like I'm straight, but for the sake of

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Speaker 1: this show and this money, I'm gonna be gay. But yeah,

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Speaker 1: but it's it's a funny thing because it's the slope.

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Speaker 1: It's a slippery slope because now you've got guys touching

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Speaker 1: you and stuff, and it makes it easier to you know,

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Speaker 1: I know this guy who is he claims he's completely

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Speaker 1: I don't, you know, so he gets no, he's sucking

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Speaker 1: the ass people in the ass. He doesn't get fun

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Speaker 1: because you're not gay. If you're the one that's getting

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Speaker 1: you're still gay. Still good, you're gay, it's still good.

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Speaker 1: I think, you know, they're trying to find these little

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Speaker 1: I think you get to the point where anything you want,

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Speaker 1: I wish I could have anal sex and just like, oh,

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Speaker 1: I've had anal sex that I've enjoyed. Okay, get that.

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Speaker 1: My son's father, I had anal sex that I enjoyed.

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Speaker 1: Me and my son's father haven't been together for almost

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Speaker 1: like a form of novocan. There's a couple of different

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Speaker 1: You got to use a condom. You should have to

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Speaker 1: if we need a numb your asks you shouldn't know

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Speaker 1: But there's other there's like the same company she tasted

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Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm in a relationship. We don't use condoms. God,

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Speaker 1: but don't take my advice. You should use condoms even

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Speaker 1: Keep your soft, protective share. It's fine. Does anybody we

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Speaker 1: have like go get tested with your partner? Yeah? Absolutely, Line,

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Speaker 1: I could tell I'm not liar. You tested with your man,

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Speaker 1: saying that her boyfriend wants them to have a joint account. Okay,

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Speaker 1: they're not married, they're not like that. But what do

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Speaker 1: it's supposed to be in your bank account, and I'll

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Speaker 1: keep mine. What if he's worth sixty million. If he's

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Speaker 1: I mean you're not gonna have a joint account with me.

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Speaker 1: I work so hard to make this money, you can't.

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Speaker 1: I'm not sharing it with you. I'm sharing want child. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's different. Kind of the funny things, like the base

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Speaker 1: that you don't so he's not trying to spy? Are

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Speaker 1: you work, are you gonna have a joint account with someone?

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Speaker 1: Never have? No for what Angela, unless we're like, unless

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Speaker 1: we're married, I don't I would have a journy. This

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Speaker 1: we could, we could put ours in every month. That's

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Speaker 1: of course I do like to get slapped and show

424
00:22:54,720 --> 00:23:01,120
Speaker 1: a lot. But oh, we know, you know, as as

425
00:23:01,119 --> 00:23:03,640
Speaker 1: strong as you know, as a as a woman myself.

426
00:23:03,760 --> 00:23:06,359
Speaker 1: You know, at the end of the day, I'm a girl,

427
00:23:06,560 --> 00:23:09,120
Speaker 1: I am a woman. I'm I'm a little baby. I'm

428
00:23:09,160 --> 00:23:13,639
Speaker 1: a little woman baby. Yes, I am baby. And I

429
00:23:13,640 --> 00:23:16,600
Speaker 1: want to get treated as No, I want to get

430
00:23:16,600 --> 00:23:19,520
Speaker 1: treated as such. And I want I want my man

431
00:23:19,600 --> 00:23:21,399
Speaker 1: to be able to protect me. I want him to

432
00:23:21,400 --> 00:23:24,320
Speaker 1: be more powerful than me. If I disrespect my man,

433
00:23:24,480 --> 00:23:27,280
Speaker 1: I need there to be consequences. I need to not

434
00:23:27,800 --> 00:23:30,520
Speaker 1: want to disrespect my man. Somebody said I was gonna

435
00:23:30,560 --> 00:23:32,720
Speaker 1: make you a man. She's saying she's speaking the truth.

436
00:23:32,840 --> 00:23:36,640
Speaker 1: It's really it's it really is that kind of visceral thing. Right,

437
00:23:36,640 --> 00:23:39,639
Speaker 1: I'm right. No, you're absolutely right. Ye're absolutely right. But woman,

438
00:23:39,720 --> 00:23:42,720
Speaker 1: but even I think you know a lot of young dudes, Well,

439
00:23:42,840 --> 00:23:45,800
Speaker 1: they don't even pick up the keys and the cues

440
00:23:45,920 --> 00:23:49,399
Speaker 1: when they're having sex. Like so for Mrance, you know,

441
00:23:49,440 --> 00:23:52,600
Speaker 1: I even teach teach this, like say, girl, the girl

442
00:23:52,680 --> 00:23:54,760
Speaker 1: is mission every style right, if she's missing everything I

443
00:23:54,840 --> 00:23:57,640
Speaker 1: like mentioned everybody way, I like that, and her her

444
00:23:57,720 --> 00:24:00,880
Speaker 1: hips relaxed, Like if the the joints in her hips

445
00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:03,680
Speaker 1: relax and her legs fall back, she wants you deeper.

446
00:24:04,000 --> 00:24:07,000
Speaker 1: That is the signal to know she's deeper. If she's

447
00:24:07,040 --> 00:24:10,480
Speaker 1: pressing those those hamstrings against the funt of your legs,

448
00:24:10,840 --> 00:24:13,320
Speaker 1: you're too deep. Now, you can't be like I'm a

449
00:24:13,400 --> 00:24:16,240
Speaker 1: tear this pussy up and she's she's wincing and she's

450
00:24:16,280 --> 00:24:19,480
Speaker 1: pushing you away because you're too deep. That's not what

451
00:24:19,840 --> 00:24:22,960
Speaker 1: having sex. You're supposed to check these cues if you

452
00:24:23,040 --> 00:24:24,760
Speaker 1: go down on. One of the things that I tell

453
00:24:24,840 --> 00:24:28,760
Speaker 1: dudes all the time is watch a woman's diaphragm, Watch

454
00:24:28,840 --> 00:24:34,199
Speaker 1: how her diaphragm, her watch her breathing, the depth of

455
00:24:34,240 --> 00:24:36,680
Speaker 1: her breathing. And so when you're doing the right thing,

456
00:24:37,240 --> 00:24:40,840
Speaker 1: you'll her breathing will get deeper, She'll breathe deeper. And

457
00:24:42,280 --> 00:24:45,960
Speaker 1: those little clues and studies are not even aware of that.

458
00:24:46,000 --> 00:24:48,560
Speaker 1: They don't even get the fact that you should be

459
00:24:48,600 --> 00:24:51,239
Speaker 1: picking up these clues and somebody's going down on me

460
00:24:51,280 --> 00:24:53,440
Speaker 1: and it's going great, and then they switch it up.

461
00:24:53,760 --> 00:25:00,560
Speaker 1: Oh my god, no, no, but that's because but you

462
00:25:00,640 --> 00:25:04,479
Speaker 1: gotta tell him doing it and the rhythm is STAPs

463
00:25:05,359 --> 00:25:09,280
Speaker 1: whom as let me, let me ask you something, but

464
00:25:09,400 --> 00:25:13,440
Speaker 1: it's not about to come anymore. Like, like you said,

465
00:25:13,560 --> 00:25:15,520
Speaker 1: you'd like to get choked. But the worst thing in

466
00:25:15,560 --> 00:25:17,840
Speaker 1: the world is to have a dude that you got

467
00:25:17,840 --> 00:25:20,359
Speaker 1: to tell him to choke you, or tell a dude

468
00:25:20,400 --> 00:25:24,320
Speaker 1: that you gotta want So if he's not if he's

469
00:25:24,400 --> 00:25:28,000
Speaker 1: not listening to these cues and he's not watching and

470
00:25:28,080 --> 00:25:30,560
Speaker 1: paying attention, because he's really just like how can you

471
00:25:31,640 --> 00:25:35,800
Speaker 1: because you can put his hands on your neck telling him. No,

472
00:25:36,400 --> 00:25:37,920
Speaker 1: you don't even have to do that. I mean, look,

473
00:25:37,960 --> 00:25:41,320
Speaker 1: if he's what if he really doesn't want to, you know, like, no,

474
00:25:41,440 --> 00:25:44,000
Speaker 1: I'm telling have guys that I'll be like, babe, pull

475
00:25:44,119 --> 00:25:48,200
Speaker 1: my hair, choke me, and I'm like, no, you should

476
00:25:48,240 --> 00:25:51,720
Speaker 1: tell him, man, exactly what you went great if you're

477
00:25:51,760 --> 00:25:54,560
Speaker 1: comfortable with what is better than being with a guy

478
00:25:54,640 --> 00:25:59,159
Speaker 1: who anticipates what your needs are before you've even conceptualized

479
00:25:59,200 --> 00:26:03,760
Speaker 1: what those needs are. Your psychic It's like he's stepping step.

480
00:26:04,000 --> 00:26:06,240
Speaker 1: He's a stepping So if even if I'm may love

481
00:26:06,320 --> 00:26:09,199
Speaker 1: to somebody and I will I might run, I might

482
00:26:09,280 --> 00:26:12,000
Speaker 1: run my hands to your hair, and then I will

483
00:26:12,000 --> 00:26:15,840
Speaker 1: cover your throat. I'll cover your throat and see where

484
00:26:15,840 --> 00:26:18,840
Speaker 1: your head is out. And I might get terrified right now,

485
00:26:19,640 --> 00:26:26,560
Speaker 1: but maybe it maybe it could be a gentle cover.

486
00:26:26,680 --> 00:26:29,200
Speaker 1: But I'm gonna cover your throat and see where you're

487
00:26:29,200 --> 00:26:32,119
Speaker 1: at with that. Now if if, if you if I

488
00:26:32,160 --> 00:26:34,760
Speaker 1: cover your throat and you throw your head back, and

489
00:26:34,800 --> 00:26:36,639
Speaker 1: then I might go a little if it gets a

490
00:26:36,640 --> 00:26:39,280
Speaker 1: little wetter, You're like, okay, So I mean I think

491
00:26:39,359 --> 00:26:42,320
Speaker 1: you have to. So the sex should be even the

492
00:26:42,359 --> 00:26:44,480
Speaker 1: first few times, the sex should be this kind of

493
00:26:44,880 --> 00:26:48,600
Speaker 1: as a guy, you should be exploring these things that

494
00:26:48,760 --> 00:26:51,240
Speaker 1: you know if she's into this, if you go to

495
00:26:51,280 --> 00:26:52,959
Speaker 1: the bat, I mean, you know, guys will pull her hair,

496
00:26:53,119 --> 00:26:54,760
Speaker 1: but you don't pull her hair from the bottom of

497
00:26:54,800 --> 00:26:59,960
Speaker 1: the hair. You know, you go up the bat. It's

498
00:27:00,080 --> 00:27:03,440
Speaker 1: is something that man needs to learn. You don't pull

499
00:27:03,520 --> 00:27:07,920
Speaker 1: the hair from the end of it. You go fucking crazy,

500
00:27:08,080 --> 00:27:12,480
Speaker 1: Like what the fun you put the hand on the

501
00:27:12,600 --> 00:27:18,240
Speaker 1: scalp and and a nice little tuge wrap the roots

502
00:27:18,280 --> 00:27:21,960
Speaker 1: and then and then you see where is it? And

503
00:27:21,960 --> 00:27:23,840
Speaker 1: then if you I think if you, when you see,

504
00:27:23,880 --> 00:27:27,600
Speaker 1: then you push further and you gotta see where you

505
00:27:27,600 --> 00:27:30,280
Speaker 1: gotta go from there where she's at now. I mean

506
00:27:30,359 --> 00:27:32,680
Speaker 1: you you can escalate and then there comes a time

507
00:27:32,720 --> 00:27:36,800
Speaker 1: where you you'll feel that if it's too much, a

508
00:27:36,840 --> 00:27:40,080
Speaker 1: woman will kind of genuineflect about wow, that's and then

509
00:27:40,119 --> 00:27:43,480
Speaker 1: you know the back down because I'd be like, oh no, no, no.

510
00:27:43,640 --> 00:27:47,000
Speaker 1: Listen to my boyfriend, my boyfriend, my boyfriend like he

511
00:27:47,280 --> 00:27:50,200
Speaker 1: listened to me that my current boyfriend, like he knows

512
00:27:50,280 --> 00:27:52,639
Speaker 1: exactly how to touch me. He knows exactly how to

513
00:27:52,960 --> 00:27:56,919
Speaker 1: be rough or be gentle. And I've asked him about it,

514
00:27:56,960 --> 00:27:58,760
Speaker 1: like Babe, have you ever done that to other girls?

515
00:27:58,800 --> 00:28:06,000
Speaker 1: And he's like yeah, we oh cooking. But you know

516
00:28:06,040 --> 00:28:08,280
Speaker 1: what the same thing for guys know what to do

517
00:28:08,680 --> 00:28:10,399
Speaker 1: because I have friends tell me that you got to

518
00:28:10,400 --> 00:28:12,600
Speaker 1: try things with guys instead of asking them about certain

519
00:28:12,640 --> 00:28:17,080
Speaker 1: things like stick a finger in his asshole, want him

520
00:28:17,800 --> 00:28:20,040
Speaker 1: no guys going to ask you for what men want

521
00:28:20,040 --> 00:28:22,439
Speaker 1: to finger and they asked they do a little nudge.

522
00:28:22,640 --> 00:28:24,480
Speaker 1: They want you to put it like you're sucking their

523
00:28:24,520 --> 00:28:26,200
Speaker 1: dick and you got your hand there and they're like

524
00:28:26,359 --> 00:28:32,359
Speaker 1: the next thing. Some guys like once like you no,

525
00:28:32,600 --> 00:28:35,400
Speaker 1: like this one ax that I had, like like when

526
00:28:35,440 --> 00:28:37,920
Speaker 1: I touched his balls a lot. So then my next

527
00:28:37,960 --> 00:28:41,640
Speaker 1: boyfriend I went to touch his ball, he fucking freaked

528
00:28:41,640 --> 00:28:45,080
Speaker 1: out like oh, and I was like fragile, like he

529
00:28:45,160 --> 00:28:52,600
Speaker 1: acted like I just almost like you was crazy. Women.

530
00:28:52,800 --> 00:29:04,080
Speaker 1: You know, some women to touch balls? How do some grabbed?

531
00:29:04,080 --> 00:29:08,720
Speaker 1: I like them hold. Some guys don't want to, and

532
00:29:08,760 --> 00:29:11,400
Speaker 1: that's fine, but I mean it's still a situation where

533
00:29:11,840 --> 00:29:15,240
Speaker 1: you have to try. You gotta, you have to try

534
00:29:15,320 --> 00:29:18,720
Speaker 1: these things, and it's kind of this exploration. I think.

535
00:29:19,080 --> 00:29:22,000
Speaker 1: What another thing is it is getting lost is the

536
00:29:22,040 --> 00:29:25,200
Speaker 1: intimacy of it, the intent A lot of times that

537
00:29:25,320 --> 00:29:28,920
Speaker 1: you know, it's guys going through the motions. This is

538
00:29:28,920 --> 00:29:31,040
Speaker 1: what I did with my last chick, this is what

539
00:29:31,080 --> 00:29:35,160
Speaker 1: I'm doing with you, instead of understanding, okay, here's this

540
00:29:35,240 --> 00:29:37,760
Speaker 1: is this is what I know how to do. Let

541
00:29:37,800 --> 00:29:39,880
Speaker 1: me try this, let me try that, let me and

542
00:29:39,920 --> 00:29:43,600
Speaker 1: then taking a sort of a mental uh note, Okay,

543
00:29:43,600 --> 00:29:45,720
Speaker 1: she likes this, she doesn't like this, She likes it rough.

544
00:29:45,800 --> 00:29:48,600
Speaker 1: She likes this, so you take and then every time

545
00:29:48,640 --> 00:29:51,080
Speaker 1: you make love to her, you if you're picking up

546
00:29:51,120 --> 00:29:54,800
Speaker 1: more and more information about her, so the sex gets better.

547
00:29:55,440 --> 00:29:59,040
Speaker 1: So you're constantly and you have to have That's why

548
00:29:59,480 --> 00:30:04,200
Speaker 1: every sex, not even only sex relationships, it's all about communication.

549
00:30:04,280 --> 00:30:06,400
Speaker 1: You have to get to know each other. That's why

550
00:30:06,560 --> 00:30:09,719
Speaker 1: people who are who are just meeting each other and

551
00:30:09,760 --> 00:30:13,200
Speaker 1: then throwing their legs up or sticking their dick out.

552
00:30:13,360 --> 00:30:16,680
Speaker 1: It never works. You can't have a really good experience

553
00:30:16,720 --> 00:30:19,840
Speaker 1: because you guys are not communicating and it's hard, and

554
00:30:20,000 --> 00:30:22,400
Speaker 1: like for one night stands or that kind of thing,

555
00:30:22,440 --> 00:30:24,360
Speaker 1: It's like, how can you even have good sex when

556
00:30:24,360 --> 00:30:28,800
Speaker 1: you don't even know you don't know each other. I mean,

557
00:30:28,840 --> 00:30:30,760
Speaker 1: I don't think it ever happens. I mean, there's no

558
00:30:30,880 --> 00:30:33,240
Speaker 1: way that if I suck you today and I suck

559
00:30:33,280 --> 00:30:36,080
Speaker 1: you ten times from now, ten times, when it's gonna

560
00:30:36,080 --> 00:30:39,040
Speaker 1: be ways open and it was the first time because

561
00:30:39,520 --> 00:30:42,320
Speaker 1: there's a level of comfort, there's a level of intomy's intimacy,

562
00:30:42,360 --> 00:30:45,040
Speaker 1: and I think the intent is something that I would

563
00:30:45,080 --> 00:30:48,920
Speaker 1: I've been experimenting with myself as the intent. So I

564
00:30:48,960 --> 00:30:51,600
Speaker 1: think sometimes a guy will kiss you because he wants

565
00:30:51,640 --> 00:30:53,200
Speaker 1: to grab your tists. He will grab your tist because

566
00:30:53,200 --> 00:30:56,320
Speaker 1: he wants to suck you, when if he just thought

567
00:30:56,800 --> 00:31:01,680
Speaker 1: the kiss is the most important thing, like being present

568
00:31:02,320 --> 00:31:05,240
Speaker 1: in that kiss with your lips are pressed up and

569
00:31:05,240 --> 00:31:09,640
Speaker 1: there's a moisture, lips slight instead of the next being

570
00:31:09,680 --> 00:31:12,840
Speaker 1: in that moment and if that kiss is the only

571
00:31:12,960 --> 00:31:16,240
Speaker 1: thing that he gets this kind of sexual satisfaction from

572
00:31:16,240 --> 00:31:20,560
Speaker 1: the from the intent of making this kiss, as if

573
00:31:20,600 --> 00:31:22,680
Speaker 1: this is the best kiss I'm ever gonna give, this

574
00:31:22,720 --> 00:31:26,360
Speaker 1: is the last kiss, So being in that moment. Are

575
00:31:26,400 --> 00:31:28,520
Speaker 1: there times and people just aren't good at things though,

576
00:31:28,640 --> 00:31:30,800
Speaker 1: no matter what, Like you could like somebody a lot,

577
00:31:30,880 --> 00:31:32,840
Speaker 1: have been with him a long time, but for some reason,

578
00:31:33,360 --> 00:31:35,800
Speaker 1: they just don't just not get get at it. No.

579
00:31:36,240 --> 00:31:40,480
Speaker 1: And for me, you know, like somebody might be so

580
00:31:40,640 --> 00:31:44,560
Speaker 1: good at somebody as something to someone and then to

581
00:31:44,680 --> 00:31:48,760
Speaker 1: the next person. There's but I think you can practice,

582
00:31:48,800 --> 00:31:50,880
Speaker 1: and I think you can communicate, and I think if

583
00:31:50,920 --> 00:31:53,000
Speaker 1: you start to you under I think what you have

584
00:31:53,080 --> 00:31:56,720
Speaker 1: to get good at is reading the cues. And for me,

585
00:31:56,920 --> 00:32:00,800
Speaker 1: relationships are all about chemistry, you know what I mean?

586
00:32:00,840 --> 00:32:03,520
Speaker 1: If if you like like you were, you were just

587
00:32:03,560 --> 00:32:07,200
Speaker 1: talking about it. A kiss is so important, like if

588
00:32:07,280 --> 00:32:11,400
Speaker 1: you it's it's for me, it's the most important things.

589
00:32:11,520 --> 00:32:14,080
Speaker 1: Some pole than kissing is more intimate than sex, much

590
00:32:14,160 --> 00:32:17,880
Speaker 1: more intimate than I don't know that. Yeah, yeah that's true.

591
00:32:18,800 --> 00:32:21,960
Speaker 1: But for me, like if you don't match, if your

592
00:32:22,000 --> 00:32:26,400
Speaker 1: mouth don't match, it's a waste of time. Well, you know,

593
00:32:26,600 --> 00:32:28,720
Speaker 1: because you gotta be able to breathe someone in. You

594
00:32:28,760 --> 00:32:31,280
Speaker 1: gotta be able to take in their breath, and you know,

595
00:32:31,640 --> 00:32:34,600
Speaker 1: to kiss something and feel it. You know what I

596
00:32:35,280 --> 00:32:37,720
Speaker 1: think you have. You know, it's like when you there

597
00:32:37,800 --> 00:32:39,600
Speaker 1: used to be a game used to play when you're

598
00:32:39,640 --> 00:32:45,280
Speaker 1: a kid, and you like, yeah, yeah, But I think

599
00:32:45,960 --> 00:32:48,280
Speaker 1: what's funny is I think like I said that the

600
00:32:48,320 --> 00:32:50,120
Speaker 1: first thing I said was a man, a woman is

601
00:32:50,120 --> 00:32:52,600
Speaker 1: a reflection of the guy she's with, and so when

602
00:32:52,600 --> 00:32:55,880
Speaker 1: he's intimate and when he's at present in the moment

603
00:32:55,920 --> 00:32:59,960
Speaker 1: and he's present with every act, she will be present

604
00:33:00,680 --> 00:33:04,600
Speaker 1: in every act. Right, So I think you know, I mean,

605
00:33:04,800 --> 00:33:06,440
Speaker 1: guys will kill me for this, but I said, any

606
00:33:06,440 --> 00:33:09,840
Speaker 1: time a relationship doesn't work, it's it's the guy's fault

607
00:33:10,240 --> 00:33:16,560
Speaker 1: because a woman attaches herself of course, because he's the

608
00:33:18,280 --> 00:33:21,360
Speaker 1: here's here's the thing, if if, if I you know,

609
00:33:21,480 --> 00:33:23,800
Speaker 1: I have this thing called the coffee cup theory. Like

610
00:33:23,840 --> 00:33:25,200
Speaker 1: you know, you go to a diner, you get a

611
00:33:25,200 --> 00:33:28,240
Speaker 1: coffee cup, and then the little the little dude runs around.

612
00:33:28,280 --> 00:33:30,800
Speaker 1: If your coffee cup is empty, right, the dude fills

613
00:33:30,880 --> 00:33:33,840
Speaker 1: up your coffee cup. So me, as your man, I'm

614
00:33:33,880 --> 00:33:36,560
Speaker 1: supposed to make sure your coffee cup is full. So

615
00:33:36,600 --> 00:33:39,360
Speaker 1: when the next dude comes around, he goes, oh, oh,

616
00:33:39,520 --> 00:33:42,720
Speaker 1: now you're good. Your cup is already full. So I

617
00:33:42,720 --> 00:33:48,120
Speaker 1: can use a little cream. Now, well I didn't. But

618
00:33:48,200 --> 00:33:50,960
Speaker 1: if it's if it's full, if it's full, you gotta

619
00:33:51,000 --> 00:33:52,840
Speaker 1: pull some of the coffee. You have to put the cream.

620
00:33:52,880 --> 00:33:54,680
Speaker 1: And you know what you feel what I'm saying, it's

621
00:33:55,720 --> 00:33:58,360
Speaker 1: it's this is this is what guys are not doing.

622
00:33:58,360 --> 00:34:01,400
Speaker 1: They're not understanding that they have to read these cues

623
00:34:01,440 --> 00:34:06,000
Speaker 1: and fulfill these needs and and the same contents set boundaries.

624
00:34:06,280 --> 00:34:08,880
Speaker 1: Be strong enough so that you're credible enough, dude, that

625
00:34:08,920 --> 00:34:11,920
Speaker 1: a woman could relinquish the control and give you that

626
00:34:12,040 --> 00:34:16,040
Speaker 1: control and still but still be able to cultivate her

627
00:34:16,080 --> 00:34:19,400
Speaker 1: in her own kind of artistic endeavors, and and so

628
00:34:19,480 --> 00:34:22,560
Speaker 1: that she can grow as a woman. But she's still

629
00:34:22,640 --> 00:34:24,960
Speaker 1: because she has that foundation and everything is good at

630
00:34:25,000 --> 00:34:27,960
Speaker 1: home and this dude's got her back. And when it's

631
00:34:28,000 --> 00:34:30,200
Speaker 1: all crazy and she feels crazy, like oh, I don't

632
00:34:30,200 --> 00:34:31,920
Speaker 1: know what to do, this is crazy, he's gonna be

633
00:34:31,960 --> 00:34:37,560
Speaker 1: able to you know, lay down, let me rub your ass.

634
00:34:35,520 --> 00:34:41,440
Speaker 1: That good at home. That's when women cheat, right, Absolutely,

635
00:34:43,320 --> 00:34:47,799
Speaker 1: women what happened. But I think that I think what

636
00:34:47,920 --> 00:34:51,359
Speaker 1: happens is a lot of times. Um, it's a lot

637
00:34:51,360 --> 00:34:54,759
Speaker 1: of times women are selling guys what they want to

638
00:34:54,800 --> 00:34:57,040
Speaker 1: sell them instead of what they want. You know what

639
00:34:57,080 --> 00:35:00,120
Speaker 1: I'm saying, like the I'm sucking you when I'm this

640
00:35:00,200 --> 00:35:03,319
Speaker 1: and I'm not and I'm I'm that's not necessarily what

641
00:35:03,400 --> 00:35:06,280
Speaker 1: he wants. So I think you have to tap into

642
00:35:06,360 --> 00:35:09,080
Speaker 1: what he wants to keep it. But I mean, I

643
00:35:08,719 --> 00:35:13,720
Speaker 1: I I personally believe that when the guy is on point,

644
00:35:14,680 --> 00:35:17,759
Speaker 1: I've never seen a woman, no matter how crazy she is.

645
00:35:17,800 --> 00:35:20,719
Speaker 1: But what do you mean what I'm saying is this

646
00:35:20,800 --> 00:35:24,200
Speaker 1: dude like I you know, there's been even times when

647
00:35:24,200 --> 00:35:29,120
Speaker 1: I've had multiple partners, right, well, I've had you know,

648
00:35:29,719 --> 00:35:32,280
Speaker 1: but I know your bra siyes, I know your panty size,

649
00:35:32,440 --> 00:35:36,279
Speaker 1: I know your shoes size, I know I know what

650
00:35:36,320 --> 00:35:38,839
Speaker 1: food you like. I know that you know. I mean,

651
00:35:38,960 --> 00:35:43,200
Speaker 1: you have to be this dude who's an extraordinary dude

652
00:35:43,719 --> 00:35:47,040
Speaker 1: that where you're you're tuned into into the moment of

653
00:35:47,080 --> 00:35:49,680
Speaker 1: who this woman is and what her needs are, not

654
00:35:49,719 --> 00:35:52,279
Speaker 1: necessarily what her wants are, but what her needs is,

655
00:35:52,440 --> 00:35:54,759
Speaker 1: what her needs, what her weaknesses are, what or not?

656
00:35:54,840 --> 00:35:58,040
Speaker 1: And you gotta be listening because women talk, y'all talk

657
00:35:59,239 --> 00:36:06,280
Speaker 1: everything talk, so fud problem is that dudes are not listening.

658
00:36:06,680 --> 00:36:09,760
Speaker 1: They're not listening to what you're saying, and not necessary

659
00:36:09,840 --> 00:36:12,680
Speaker 1: specifically what you're saying. But but you have to look

660
00:36:12,719 --> 00:36:15,280
Speaker 1: at what the undertone of what a woman is talking.

661
00:36:16,280 --> 00:36:19,880
Speaker 1: Does every man cheat? I think a lot of guys do,

662
00:36:19,920 --> 00:36:21,719
Speaker 1: but I don't think you have to. I don't get

663
00:36:21,920 --> 00:36:28,279
Speaker 1: every man. If you if you're aware of that? No, no, no, no,

664
00:36:28,280 --> 00:36:36,239
Speaker 1: no nine eight percent eight Do you know why I say?

665
00:36:37,320 --> 00:36:39,160
Speaker 1: I feel like no, you know what, I don't know

666
00:36:39,239 --> 00:36:41,880
Speaker 1: the percent. I don't know that she made it up,

667
00:36:41,920 --> 00:36:44,759
Speaker 1: but I made it up. I just breathed out it.

668
00:36:45,200 --> 00:36:48,640
Speaker 1: But listen to me. Let no wait. I think that

669
00:36:48,680 --> 00:36:54,480
Speaker 1: a man will cheat according to his opportunities. If if you,

670
00:36:54,640 --> 00:36:56,279
Speaker 1: if you, if you take it care of your man.

671
00:36:56,320 --> 00:37:03,839
Speaker 1: You're keeping him at home everything truck him in sad. Now,

672
00:37:04,680 --> 00:37:08,320
Speaker 1: if your man is in the strip club all the tom, hey, girlfriend,

673
00:37:08,360 --> 00:37:12,759
Speaker 1: he might be cheating. Great, well you don't like you're

674
00:37:12,840 --> 00:37:15,879
Speaker 1: right there. You'll see guys do different things in terms

675
00:37:15,920 --> 00:37:23,080
Speaker 1: of this opportunities opportunities excuse me if if you know,

676
00:37:23,400 --> 00:37:26,320
Speaker 1: but I mean, yeah, like that's the problem with dating

677
00:37:26,320 --> 00:37:31,560
Speaker 1: men and entertainment. Men and entertainment. It's entertainment. You know

678
00:37:31,600 --> 00:37:37,120
Speaker 1: what those doctors they say, doctors are high on the list. Okay,

679
00:37:37,160 --> 00:37:41,080
Speaker 1: let's say in the airport. Then at the airport, men

680
00:37:41,080 --> 00:37:45,759
Speaker 1: in the airport cheat percent of the time. Men we're

681
00:37:45,800 --> 00:37:48,239
Speaker 1: going to cheat. Okay, Well, man who works in the

682
00:37:48,840 --> 00:37:53,239
Speaker 1: cheat with a girl who needs the milk. Lu's right here.

683
00:37:55,400 --> 00:37:58,000
Speaker 1: I mean I think it's both ways. I think one

684
00:37:58,000 --> 00:38:01,040
Speaker 1: of the things about women is is they're attraction to

685
00:38:01,160 --> 00:38:04,799
Speaker 1: men is such an emotional thing. Like the minute she

686
00:38:04,880 --> 00:38:08,200
Speaker 1: don't minute a woman When a minute you've shown yourself

687
00:38:08,239 --> 00:38:11,480
Speaker 1: to be this bitch and she decided that you're a bit.

688
00:38:11,680 --> 00:38:14,879
Speaker 1: It's it's a wrap. There's no loyalty, does nothing that Look,

689
00:38:14,960 --> 00:38:17,280
Speaker 1: I don't feel you like that's like what you said.

690
00:38:17,600 --> 00:38:19,800
Speaker 1: I saw this dude cry and then I don't know,

691
00:38:20,880 --> 00:38:23,360
Speaker 1: it depends on what he cries about. This was just

692
00:38:23,400 --> 00:38:28,600
Speaker 1: like an unnecessary like cry, like you're just tearious and

693
00:38:29,000 --> 00:38:34,399
Speaker 1: it's like one slow might be like I love one

694
00:38:34,960 --> 00:38:39,319
Speaker 1: like I love, not like a couple of tears and

695
00:38:39,360 --> 00:38:43,120
Speaker 1: like whining and like crying. I'm like watching the news

696
00:38:43,160 --> 00:38:48,320
Speaker 1: and something. Listen to me. I'm a woman. I cry.

697
00:38:48,680 --> 00:38:52,759
Speaker 1: I cry for the commercial with the cats and the

698
00:38:52,840 --> 00:38:56,600
Speaker 1: dogs over there. It's like, what if he does if

699
00:38:56,719 --> 00:38:59,239
Speaker 1: my man cries over the cats and the dogs are

700
00:38:59,320 --> 00:39:01,399
Speaker 1: breaking up with, you gotta get out of my house.

701
00:39:01,560 --> 00:39:05,120
Speaker 1: I don't want to, you know more. I hate my cats.

702
00:39:06,120 --> 00:39:08,360
Speaker 1: I can't. When she said that, when she said the

703
00:39:08,440 --> 00:39:11,760
Speaker 1: dude that cried, it's not that he cried. He cried

704
00:39:11,920 --> 00:39:16,920
Speaker 1: about his life. So he has no direction and you

705
00:39:17,000 --> 00:39:20,680
Speaker 1: don't feel safe with him because he doesn't have any direction.

706
00:39:20,800 --> 00:39:23,960
Speaker 1: And that's what makes that's what it matters. It's too

707
00:39:24,080 --> 00:39:27,480
Speaker 1: bossy to be with a crying ass man. Do you

708
00:39:27,560 --> 00:39:32,440
Speaker 1: think if a guy isn't like coming up with plans,

709
00:39:32,440 --> 00:39:34,440
Speaker 1: like he's just like, we'll do whatever you want, is

710
00:39:34,480 --> 00:39:37,600
Speaker 1: that like not cool? Yeah? I think it's not. I

711
00:39:37,640 --> 00:39:42,880
Speaker 1: don't think that's cool. I think I d back, you know, yeah,

712
00:39:42,920 --> 00:39:47,320
Speaker 1: I mean I think a guy would direction, but he's awesome.

713
00:39:48,480 --> 00:39:51,160
Speaker 1: I mean, but he just wants to do whatever I

714
00:39:51,200 --> 00:39:56,000
Speaker 1: want to do, you know. I think that's the dates

715
00:39:56,000 --> 00:39:57,680
Speaker 1: I've ever been on with guys and guys that I

716
00:39:57,800 --> 00:40:00,640
Speaker 1: dated at people that come up with like, let's try this, rest,

717
00:40:01,800 --> 00:40:04,160
Speaker 1: let's do that. That's the best. I hate when I

718
00:40:04,200 --> 00:40:07,480
Speaker 1: have to come up with everything I ever figure out

719
00:40:07,480 --> 00:40:12,160
Speaker 1: what I want to eat. But you you get tired

720
00:40:12,640 --> 00:40:14,440
Speaker 1: if you've got a guy that's not that has no

721
00:40:14,520 --> 00:40:19,319
Speaker 1: direction and he's not decisive. Eventually that you're you're like, well,

722
00:40:19,440 --> 00:40:22,120
Speaker 1: what the you know what? And then you start to

723
00:40:22,200 --> 00:40:25,879
Speaker 1: feel unsafe. It's it's almost it's almost a visceral kind

724
00:40:25,880 --> 00:40:28,480
Speaker 1: of feeling. It's like an instinctual feeling like why is

725
00:40:28,520 --> 00:40:30,799
Speaker 1: he not he don't have nothing, he don't want to

726
00:40:30,800 --> 00:40:36,000
Speaker 1: do nothing, like what my main thing is that you

727
00:40:36,040 --> 00:40:41,880
Speaker 1: find him less attractive and now it starts to fall apart. Right,

728
00:40:41,880 --> 00:40:45,480
Speaker 1: I agree with that direction and making that It's a

729
00:40:45,480 --> 00:40:48,640
Speaker 1: funny thing. Like I remember, like I was watching Oprah

730
00:40:48,640 --> 00:40:51,000
Speaker 1: one time, right, and Oprah was why she was buying

731
00:40:51,040 --> 00:40:55,600
Speaker 1: a uh like a Labordor retriever right, and Stepman was

732
00:40:55,640 --> 00:40:58,160
Speaker 1: with her right, and so now this is Oprah, fifty

733
00:40:58,160 --> 00:41:01,200
Speaker 1: billion dollar Oprah. So she's looking at them. She's like,

734
00:41:01,200 --> 00:41:03,399
Speaker 1: oh my god, the puppy is so cute. I'm want

735
00:41:03,400 --> 00:41:07,680
Speaker 1: to buy them all right, And Stepman goes, no, you

736
00:41:07,680 --> 00:41:16,879
Speaker 1: can have one, and I'm like, oh, right, you you

737
00:41:16,920 --> 00:41:19,200
Speaker 1: pick one and I'll pick one. But that's it. And

738
00:41:19,239 --> 00:41:24,319
Speaker 1: I was like, this is why she's this dude, you

739
00:41:24,320 --> 00:41:29,440
Speaker 1: can have them all. Oprah could buy all the labornor retrievers,

740
00:41:29,440 --> 00:41:34,640
Speaker 1: put him on an island and call it. And but

741
00:41:34,880 --> 00:41:37,439
Speaker 1: the fact that even in the context of this woman

742
00:41:37,480 --> 00:41:40,680
Speaker 1: who is is mega rich, has a guy who she

743
00:41:40,840 --> 00:41:43,359
Speaker 1: counts on and who she she feels that she can

744
00:41:43,400 --> 00:41:46,359
Speaker 1: go to and confide in and that he's got her back,

745
00:41:46,920 --> 00:41:51,600
Speaker 1: is why she's with you. Nothing. He won't actually he

746
00:41:51,600 --> 00:41:54,239
Speaker 1: won't marry her. And if you think about if you

747
00:41:54,280 --> 00:41:56,960
Speaker 1: really think that, you show me, you show me a

748
00:41:57,080 --> 00:41:59,719
Speaker 1: black woman, you show me an older black woman who

749
00:41:59,800 --> 00:42:03,520
Speaker 1: was telling the world that she doesn't really believe in marriage.

750
00:42:03,560 --> 00:42:07,640
Speaker 1: That's bullshit, like this is an overweight Why stem not

751
00:42:07,760 --> 00:42:11,200
Speaker 1: married because you don't want to? Why I don't know

752
00:42:11,239 --> 00:42:17,000
Speaker 1: about my god? How do we know he doesn't want

753
00:42:17,000 --> 00:42:20,240
Speaker 1: to marry you don't tell me, you tell me over

754
00:42:21,640 --> 00:42:26,200
Speaker 1: me too, don't want that. You tell me a black

755
00:42:26,239 --> 00:42:29,120
Speaker 1: man that don't want to marry the richest woman, a

756
00:42:29,160 --> 00:42:33,040
Speaker 1: black man I don't want you don't want to marry

757
00:42:33,640 --> 00:42:36,640
Speaker 1: forever though exactly. But what I'm saying is that's how

758
00:42:36,719 --> 00:42:39,359
Speaker 1: pimp he is. He's actually got this black woman saying

759
00:42:39,360 --> 00:42:42,080
Speaker 1: I don't really believe in marriage. That's that's when we

760
00:42:42,120 --> 00:42:48,040
Speaker 1: get into I don't about she say, that's a whole absolutely,

761
00:42:48,440 --> 00:42:51,960
Speaker 1: you see, I think you want to believe that. I'm

762
00:42:52,000 --> 00:42:57,080
Speaker 1: not Listen, here's here's you can here's what you cause.

763
00:42:57,360 --> 00:42:58,760
Speaker 1: All you have to do is look at the pictures.

764
00:42:58,960 --> 00:43:01,000
Speaker 1: You look about the picture. When you look at the

765
00:43:01,000 --> 00:43:05,279
Speaker 1: pictures and you see Oprah open, Stepman looks like the man,

766
00:43:05,360 --> 00:43:08,800
Speaker 1: and Oprah looks like the girl. You watch watch Brad

767
00:43:08,800 --> 00:43:15,400
Speaker 1: Pitt got bags, he's too feet behind, he's carrying, she's

768
00:43:15,400 --> 00:43:23,040
Speaker 1: got a bunch of kids, she's he's dragging. I mean,

769
00:43:23,120 --> 00:43:27,400
Speaker 1: Angelina is definitely the Boss's angeline. You can see this.

770
00:43:27,719 --> 00:43:30,680
Speaker 1: You can see that. Yeah, she's open until you put

771
00:43:30,680 --> 00:43:39,920
Speaker 1: a dick in her. Then she's so she is to

772
00:43:40,080 --> 00:43:43,719
Speaker 1: you put a second her I think you and I

773
00:43:43,800 --> 00:43:49,560
Speaker 1: act to get along really well. Jesus. I mean, but

774
00:43:49,640 --> 00:43:52,080
Speaker 1: the credibility of it. I think the credibility of men

775
00:43:52,160 --> 00:43:54,440
Speaker 1: is an important thing, and I think we're losing now. Honestly,

776
00:43:54,640 --> 00:43:57,719
Speaker 1: I agree with you as a woman. As a woman,

777
00:43:57,800 --> 00:44:00,320
Speaker 1: let me tell you something. I do really well for myself.

778
00:44:00,400 --> 00:44:04,600
Speaker 1: I'm very grateful and blessed that I have had opportunities

779
00:44:04,640 --> 00:44:07,040
Speaker 1: to be able to take care of myself and live well.

780
00:44:08,480 --> 00:44:14,160
Speaker 1: But I still feel like my man should be over

781
00:44:14,280 --> 00:44:16,480
Speaker 1: and above me. I should be able to listen to

782
00:44:16,520 --> 00:44:22,120
Speaker 1: my man. And who cares about financially money is green paper?

783
00:44:22,160 --> 00:44:24,879
Speaker 1: Who cares? Nobody cares about money at least I don't.

784
00:44:24,920 --> 00:44:27,880
Speaker 1: I'm sorry at all. No. I mean I want to

785
00:44:27,880 --> 00:44:31,360
Speaker 1: make money, of course everybody. But I do well for myself,

786
00:44:31,360 --> 00:44:36,160
Speaker 1: and I like, no, no, pretty broke, he's got. If

787
00:44:36,200 --> 00:44:38,640
Speaker 1: my man is good to me and he's that's the

788
00:44:38,640 --> 00:44:40,759
Speaker 1: whole thing I'm talking about. If my man is good

789
00:44:40,800 --> 00:44:43,560
Speaker 1: to me and he's broke or he's rich, it doesn't matter.

790
00:44:44,160 --> 00:44:47,279
Speaker 1: I am. I should be as a woman, as a

791
00:44:47,320 --> 00:44:51,120
Speaker 1: girl submissive to my man. But here's you can have

792
00:44:51,160 --> 00:44:58,239
Speaker 1: a rich dude and he's a bit, don't that's a bit. Now.

793
00:44:58,280 --> 00:45:00,680
Speaker 1: If you got a guy who we don't have it

794
00:45:00,719 --> 00:45:03,040
Speaker 1: popping right now, but you believe in him, and this

795
00:45:03,120 --> 00:45:05,719
Speaker 1: kid is working and he's moving and shaking it trying

796
00:45:05,760 --> 00:45:10,520
Speaker 1: to make it happen, because it's that's the safety you

797
00:45:10,560 --> 00:45:13,680
Speaker 1: feel as a woman. Dude, you want to look as

798
00:45:13,719 --> 00:45:16,320
Speaker 1: a woman. Listen, I'm sorry, I don't mean to interrupt

799
00:45:16,360 --> 00:45:23,359
Speaker 1: you as a woman, but as a woman, I want

800
00:45:23,400 --> 00:45:25,960
Speaker 1: my man to be able to protect me. I want

801
00:45:26,040 --> 00:45:28,480
Speaker 1: my man to be able to talk over me, to

802
00:45:28,600 --> 00:45:31,600
Speaker 1: put me in my mother fucking place. But if you're

803
00:45:31,600 --> 00:45:32,960
Speaker 1: in her place, that you can finish saying what you

804
00:45:33,040 --> 00:45:39,520
Speaker 1: were saying. What she's saying is what she's saying is

805
00:45:39,520 --> 00:45:43,200
Speaker 1: the truth. It's it's like, you know, it's that thing

806
00:45:43,560 --> 00:45:48,480
Speaker 1: when you you look, get dressed. It's get dressed, getting

807
00:45:48,480 --> 00:45:50,959
Speaker 1: the car, we're gonna go somewhere. Where are we going,

808
00:45:51,120 --> 00:45:56,520
Speaker 1: and just getting just life. Absolutely So it's not even

809
00:45:56,560 --> 00:45:59,880
Speaker 1: about pimping, because pimping is something you go out and

810
00:46:00,000 --> 00:46:02,080
Speaker 1: the street and you bust it and then you bring

811
00:46:02,120 --> 00:46:04,440
Speaker 1: the money home. It's the same. But that's not what

812
00:46:04,520 --> 00:46:09,239
Speaker 1: I'm doing. I don't get your man money because no

813
00:46:09,280 --> 00:46:11,880
Speaker 1: matter how rich or how broke. My man is, I

814
00:46:11,920 --> 00:46:13,920
Speaker 1: don't need to support him because he's a man and

815
00:46:13,960 --> 00:46:15,799
Speaker 1: he could take care of himself. And if he's not

816
00:46:15,880 --> 00:46:19,960
Speaker 1: supporting himself, then he doesn't have the credibility anywhere. So

817
00:46:20,360 --> 00:46:22,680
Speaker 1: you you want a guy to drive, but you want

818
00:46:22,680 --> 00:46:26,480
Speaker 1: to make sure that he's capable of driving, you know,

819
00:46:26,560 --> 00:46:29,879
Speaker 1: you see, and this is any time I've ever taken

820
00:46:29,880 --> 00:46:32,960
Speaker 1: a check out and we go someplace, go drive, She'll

821
00:46:33,280 --> 00:46:35,800
Speaker 1: get up in the chair folder, you know, like folder

822
00:46:35,880 --> 00:46:38,480
Speaker 1: legs in the chair. It's kind of like it's almost

823
00:46:38,480 --> 00:46:40,520
Speaker 1: this little girl thing that comes where they just sit

824
00:46:40,600 --> 00:46:42,440
Speaker 1: on there like where we going, where we go? And

825
00:46:43,080 --> 00:46:45,279
Speaker 1: but you gotta, as a dude, you gotta be able

826
00:46:45,320 --> 00:46:47,880
Speaker 1: to bring that little girl out of her, like you

827
00:46:48,000 --> 00:46:52,600
Speaker 1: gotta feelsoofy. All right, I'm just gonna chill. My man

828
00:46:52,800 --> 00:46:57,960
Speaker 1: is he's driving, and that the credibility of it's important.

829
00:46:57,960 --> 00:47:01,400
Speaker 1: And how does a guy. I gotta talk to Leah, right,

830
00:47:02,040 --> 00:47:04,759
Speaker 1: what's going on in your head? What do you think?

831
00:47:04,920 --> 00:47:08,400
Speaker 1: Because is like no, I mean, it's just it's different.

832
00:47:08,600 --> 00:47:11,040
Speaker 1: I guess it's like I've just dated such different kinds

833
00:47:11,080 --> 00:47:14,360
Speaker 1: of guys, like maybe because my energy is masculine or something, Right,

834
00:47:14,440 --> 00:47:17,520
Speaker 1: so like too, I always kind of like have taken

835
00:47:17,600 --> 00:47:20,960
Speaker 1: the Marines and like say, what's going down? Is that?

836
00:47:21,440 --> 00:47:25,920
Speaker 1: I feel like we watched the child want I don't know.

837
00:47:27,120 --> 00:47:29,439
Speaker 1: I think like that sounds cool, but like it also

838
00:47:29,520 --> 00:47:33,400
Speaker 1: sounds bossy, like we're going how do I have? Like

839
00:47:34,640 --> 00:47:40,640
Speaker 1: are we gonna be okay? Are we are dying? Like okay,

840
00:47:40,680 --> 00:47:44,319
Speaker 1: we're gonna go get ready? That would be that'd be cool.

841
00:47:44,560 --> 00:47:46,560
Speaker 1: Like there was one instance, like there was this guy

842
00:47:46,680 --> 00:47:48,880
Speaker 1: and he and me and him had kind of had

843
00:47:48,920 --> 00:47:51,320
Speaker 1: similar personalities and it's just like whoa Like it was

844
00:47:51,640 --> 00:47:53,680
Speaker 1: like I need like a yang to my wait wait

845
00:47:53,719 --> 00:47:58,120
Speaker 1: wait wait, I think what I think? It's sometimes a

846
00:47:58,239 --> 00:48:00,920
Speaker 1: good guys who are aggressive, and usually a lot of

847
00:48:00,960 --> 00:48:04,920
Speaker 1: guys who are aggressive are become abusive, and that's the problem.

848
00:48:05,040 --> 00:48:07,879
Speaker 1: That's what the fear is of having an aggressive dude,

849
00:48:07,880 --> 00:48:10,920
Speaker 1: because because he's aggressive, he's abusive, and if he's soft,

850
00:48:11,200 --> 00:48:14,120
Speaker 1: then he's a bit. The real thing is walking the

851
00:48:14,239 --> 00:48:18,839
Speaker 1: tight rope between a guy who is aggressive but he's

852
00:48:18,840 --> 00:48:25,279
Speaker 1: still considerate context of what and somebody has to be

853
00:48:25,320 --> 00:48:26,759
Speaker 1: able to check me when I step out of line

854
00:48:26,760 --> 00:48:31,520
Speaker 1: because you have to do as a woman, you make

855
00:48:31,600 --> 00:48:37,320
Speaker 1: your own money. You do own the house, she owns

856
00:48:37,360 --> 00:48:40,440
Speaker 1: her own car, owns the house, she's not backed up

857
00:48:40,480 --> 00:48:43,680
Speaker 1: on her bills, and Julie is very successful. But I'm

858
00:48:43,760 --> 00:48:47,479
Speaker 1: sure that you want a man to be like, hey, chill,

859
00:48:48,719 --> 00:48:52,360
Speaker 1: don't don't flip out on me because I'm a man, Like,

860
00:48:53,080 --> 00:48:55,320
Speaker 1: don't get too crazy because I also can't let you

861
00:48:55,560 --> 00:48:58,560
Speaker 1: let me talk crazy to you, because after that it's over,

862
00:48:58,800 --> 00:49:02,320
Speaker 1: it's over. I know Angela. Angela was on radio. This

863
00:49:02,480 --> 00:49:05,520
Speaker 1: is what she does. She could cut somebody up all

864
00:49:05,760 --> 00:49:08,200
Speaker 1: probably you know what I'm saying. I mean, you know,

865
00:49:09,080 --> 00:49:10,799
Speaker 1: there's a lot to it. I mean, I think if

866
00:49:10,880 --> 00:49:12,920
Speaker 1: you're if you're if you're intelligent, you want a man

867
00:49:12,960 --> 00:49:17,640
Speaker 1: who's intelligent. Yet radio you're articulate, so you want a

868
00:49:17,680 --> 00:49:20,000
Speaker 1: man who's articulate. But you also want to feel safe.

869
00:49:20,239 --> 00:49:21,880
Speaker 1: You want a guy who can teach you things and

870
00:49:21,960 --> 00:49:23,719
Speaker 1: show you things that you didn't maybe even give you

871
00:49:23,840 --> 00:49:27,000
Speaker 1: a perspective on something that you didn't have before. And

872
00:49:27,080 --> 00:49:29,799
Speaker 1: if you you're going to this well and he's got

873
00:49:29,960 --> 00:49:33,080
Speaker 1: nothing to give you, then and you're better than him.

874
00:49:33,120 --> 00:49:37,360
Speaker 1: A woman never dates a guy who she's better than that.

875
00:49:37,920 --> 00:49:43,960
Speaker 1: Better is not better, it is not. But but that's

876
00:49:44,000 --> 00:49:50,520
Speaker 1: what that's exactly. But that's why they don't last always

877
00:49:50,600 --> 00:49:58,360
Speaker 1: because the ones you said, your relationship relationships last. The

878
00:49:58,440 --> 00:50:02,239
Speaker 1: thing with Leah is that Lena, it is so bossed up.

879
00:50:02,719 --> 00:50:07,080
Speaker 1: Leah is like she she's the man. She is that

880
00:50:07,440 --> 00:50:10,479
Speaker 1: a day, Leah, you do, you do date down Leah

881
00:50:10,560 --> 00:50:13,320
Speaker 1: sometimes know, And that's the thing with Leah is that,

882
00:50:14,040 --> 00:50:17,759
Speaker 1: you know, she she's like looking at these like it's like, yeah,

883
00:50:17,760 --> 00:50:21,200
Speaker 1: all right, you can't beat me. That's sometimes that's that's

884
00:50:21,320 --> 00:50:25,000
Speaker 1: in the context of her and there's nothing wrong with that.

885
00:50:25,160 --> 00:50:27,719
Speaker 1: There's nothing wrong with that. She likes the big dicks.

886
00:50:27,840 --> 00:50:34,120
Speaker 1: That's with the you know, she's her big money bank.

887
00:50:34,400 --> 00:50:38,360
Speaker 1: And you know, you know, Leah is just like, you know,

888
00:50:38,600 --> 00:50:40,640
Speaker 1: like I might date, I'm young, i might date, I'm old.

889
00:50:40,800 --> 00:50:43,120
Speaker 1: At the end of the day, nobody's talking with me. No,

890
00:50:43,400 --> 00:50:48,879
Speaker 1: you gotta do that. Felt I feel a great dick

891
00:50:48,960 --> 00:50:54,120
Speaker 1: pick and I'm just never I mean, well, I mean

892
00:50:54,200 --> 00:50:58,840
Speaker 1: that's the starting point. Good, But you talk with me.

893
00:50:59,200 --> 00:51:02,080
Speaker 1: Is that that's a problem Lia is that the guys

894
00:51:02,160 --> 00:51:04,839
Speaker 1: that she is meeting, they can't really funk with her.

895
00:51:05,239 --> 00:51:07,600
Speaker 1: That's what it is. Well, you know, she treats them

896
00:51:07,680 --> 00:51:12,080
Speaker 1: like the bitch as niggas. But when she does meet,

897
00:51:12,960 --> 00:51:16,080
Speaker 1: when she does meet somebody, when she ultimately does meet

898
00:51:16,160 --> 00:51:19,080
Speaker 1: somebody who can't funk with her, that's when she'll fall

899
00:51:19,120 --> 00:51:23,440
Speaker 1: in love. I'm naughty, She's look really ready because it's

900
00:51:23,960 --> 00:51:27,279
Speaker 1: maybe you aren't really even really aren't trying to find

901
00:51:27,320 --> 00:51:29,520
Speaker 1: the right person by dating all these people that you

902
00:51:29,600 --> 00:51:33,279
Speaker 1: know are the right people. Know, But that's why she

903
00:51:33,640 --> 00:51:36,520
Speaker 1: she I could tell just from her whole demeanor that

904
00:51:36,640 --> 00:51:41,120
Speaker 1: she's not playing no games. She's like, whatever, I might

905
00:51:41,200 --> 00:51:44,200
Speaker 1: get this sex, but you can leave. You know, it's

906
00:51:44,280 --> 00:51:47,840
Speaker 1: weird because you know, like if you ask anybody, do

907
00:51:47,960 --> 00:51:50,720
Speaker 1: you if I as, if I say are you perfect?

908
00:51:50,800 --> 00:51:55,560
Speaker 1: You go, of course not right. But although we understand

909
00:51:55,600 --> 00:51:58,160
Speaker 1: on a cognitive level that nobody's perfect, a lot of

910
00:51:58,200 --> 00:52:03,800
Speaker 1: times we hold ourselves to the standards of perfection. But

911
00:52:05,719 --> 00:52:08,799
Speaker 1: but we hold ourselves to those standards of perfection even

912
00:52:08,840 --> 00:52:14,239
Speaker 1: though we cognitively know that perfection doesn't exist. And if

913
00:52:14,320 --> 00:52:17,239
Speaker 1: we we admit that we're not we're not perfect. What

914
00:52:17,320 --> 00:52:19,480
Speaker 1: does that mean? It means that we make mistakes. And

915
00:52:19,560 --> 00:52:22,600
Speaker 1: if we make mistakes, then we need forgiveness. And if

916
00:52:22,640 --> 00:52:25,400
Speaker 1: we need forgiveness, then you have to give forgiveness. So

917
00:52:25,520 --> 00:52:27,880
Speaker 1: I mean there's always has to be a leeway in

918
00:52:28,160 --> 00:52:31,560
Speaker 1: terms of what you that these are human beings and

919
00:52:31,640 --> 00:52:34,360
Speaker 1: that you're trying to fit together and you you you

920
00:52:34,520 --> 00:52:38,400
Speaker 1: make mistakes, and so that doesn't mean dating out of

921
00:52:39,000 --> 00:52:41,200
Speaker 1: what your needs are. You still have to put your

922
00:52:41,320 --> 00:52:45,520
Speaker 1: needs first. But I'm a firm believer that it is

923
00:52:45,640 --> 00:52:49,919
Speaker 1: the man's job to figure out and anticipate what those

924
00:52:50,000 --> 00:52:53,440
Speaker 1: needs are and to filth fulfill them even before you

925
00:52:53,640 --> 00:52:57,640
Speaker 1: conceptualize what they are in your own head, by listening

926
00:52:57,680 --> 00:53:00,960
Speaker 1: to you. Because in a like, a woman will be

927
00:53:01,080 --> 00:53:03,560
Speaker 1: in an emotional situation where she's this is crazy and

928
00:53:03,600 --> 00:53:05,719
Speaker 1: this is going crazy and and he should be able

929
00:53:05,719 --> 00:53:08,480
Speaker 1: to see through that and and and say, well, this

930
00:53:08,680 --> 00:53:10,440
Speaker 1: is this is what's going on, and this is what

931
00:53:10,560 --> 00:53:13,400
Speaker 1: you need. You know. What's great with guys do if

932
00:53:13,400 --> 00:53:15,239
Speaker 1: you get into an argument or a fight with them

933
00:53:15,880 --> 00:53:19,400
Speaker 1: and instead of them keeping it going, they ended. I

934
00:53:19,520 --> 00:53:22,880
Speaker 1: think that's a great Like, okay, whatever. When somebody stubborn

935
00:53:22,960 --> 00:53:26,000
Speaker 1: with me, me too, I hate that. I like for

936
00:53:26,080 --> 00:53:28,520
Speaker 1: you know, like want to I want you to give

937
00:53:28,560 --> 00:53:31,239
Speaker 1: me your argument. I want to listen, I want to

938
00:53:31,280 --> 00:53:32,840
Speaker 1: hear how you feel. I want to I want to

939
00:53:32,880 --> 00:53:39,480
Speaker 1: get up in your mind. But he's very don't judge me.

940
00:53:40,800 --> 00:53:44,120
Speaker 1: Love it's very funny. But this I know Dator has

941
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942
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Speaker 1: to go to stand up. Oh my god, that's so cool. Yeah,

943
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Speaker 1: oh my god, I love you. Guys can come out

944
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Speaker 1: and invite you. Guys can come to the show whenever

945
00:53:54,640 --> 00:53:57,799
Speaker 1: you want to come show. Yeah, I enjoyed this conversation

946
00:53:57,920 --> 00:54:03,680
Speaker 1: with you. I'm glad you did. Yeah, ma'ma have. The

947
00:54:03,719 --> 00:54:06,000
Speaker 1: Beige Philip podcast is on Beige Philip dot com. You

948
00:54:06,040 --> 00:54:10,839
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949
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950
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Speaker 1: I also do one on one consultations. I do phone consultations.

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Speaker 1: That saved me Dante at gmail dot com. If you

952
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Speaker 1: gave me for what what you do? You do consultations

953
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Speaker 1: for a manage? Yeah, definitely help if you have. I

954
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Speaker 1: don't need help. Very It's really interesting too. I find

955
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Speaker 1: that very interesting. I've been doing it for quite a time.

956
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Speaker 1: I used I was doing it for for years. I've

957
00:54:38,400 --> 00:54:40,360
Speaker 1: been doing the podcast for three years, and I was

958
00:54:40,480 --> 00:54:42,400
Speaker 1: the emails that I would get into questions that I

959
00:54:42,480 --> 00:54:44,960
Speaker 1: was getting it just got a little crazy that we

960
00:54:45,080 --> 00:54:47,080
Speaker 1: just started a business. But let me ask you one

961
00:54:47,160 --> 00:54:49,320
Speaker 1: question because a lot of people send me in questions

962
00:54:50,080 --> 00:54:52,399
Speaker 1: and I got to ask you one of them from

963
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Speaker 1: I ask ye because people always want to know the

964
00:54:55,960 --> 00:55:00,160
Speaker 1: one let me get it. Oh no, but I've really

965
00:55:00,320 --> 00:55:04,239
Speaker 1: enjoyed our conversation. I want to I'm gonna subscribe to

966
00:55:04,320 --> 00:55:06,560
Speaker 1: your podcast. I'm gonna listen to it because I like

967
00:55:06,719 --> 00:55:10,680
Speaker 1: to listen to things on a male perspective. Okay, here's when. Okay,

968
00:55:10,760 --> 00:55:13,560
Speaker 1: I'm twenty three. I haven't had too many experiences dating,

969
00:55:13,560 --> 00:55:15,480
Speaker 1: although I've had a couple of friends and benefits and

970
00:55:15,520 --> 00:55:17,480
Speaker 1: realize it's not my thing. Could you give me some

971
00:55:17,600 --> 00:55:19,920
Speaker 1: tips about that? First few weeks are months of getting

972
00:55:19,960 --> 00:55:22,200
Speaker 1: to know someone during the dating process. How often should

973
00:55:22,200 --> 00:55:24,080
Speaker 1: we talk? What are the boundaries? And how do you

974
00:55:24,160 --> 00:55:26,040
Speaker 1: keep them interested in? How do you find out their

975
00:55:26,080 --> 00:55:28,920
Speaker 1: true intentions? Is is what I say to a lot?

976
00:55:29,040 --> 00:55:33,440
Speaker 1: Is this a guy a female? Okay? I think what

977
00:55:33,640 --> 00:55:35,440
Speaker 1: you have to do first and foremost as be the

978
00:55:35,480 --> 00:55:38,200
Speaker 1: best version of yourself. I think a lot of times

979
00:55:38,280 --> 00:55:41,080
Speaker 1: when you have younger women and they're still trying to

980
00:55:41,160 --> 00:55:43,000
Speaker 1: find themselves and trying to they don't really have the

981
00:55:43,040 --> 00:55:46,120
Speaker 1: direction of when you're the best version of yourself, then

982
00:55:46,200 --> 00:55:48,360
Speaker 1: you can be confident about how you put yourself and

983
00:55:48,640 --> 00:55:51,280
Speaker 1: what your needs are. So I think that is first

984
00:55:51,400 --> 00:55:55,040
Speaker 1: and form and foremost when it comes to dating. I think, um,

985
00:55:56,040 --> 00:55:58,200
Speaker 1: I think you have to be a woman can be

986
00:55:58,280 --> 00:56:00,719
Speaker 1: as honest as she wants and and I think she

987
00:56:00,800 --> 00:56:02,720
Speaker 1: has to be as strong as she wants. You can't

988
00:56:03,200 --> 00:56:06,200
Speaker 1: ask a woman to be less strong or less of

989
00:56:06,360 --> 00:56:10,800
Speaker 1: what she is. It's a guy's job to manage that

990
00:56:11,440 --> 00:56:13,360
Speaker 1: and to find out where he fits into that. But

991
00:56:13,480 --> 00:56:15,400
Speaker 1: you know what that said, what I think the biggest

992
00:56:15,480 --> 00:56:18,960
Speaker 1: problem when you're first dating someone in the beginning is

993
00:56:19,040 --> 00:56:22,200
Speaker 1: that you're never your real self. Well, I think that's

994
00:56:22,200 --> 00:56:28,480
Speaker 1: the important I think that my best my for me.

995
00:56:28,800 --> 00:56:31,400
Speaker 1: I don't know if anybody wants advice for me, but

996
00:56:31,600 --> 00:56:36,320
Speaker 1: for me, my best advice is it's just you. You know.

997
00:56:37,600 --> 00:56:40,560
Speaker 1: But if you think yourself, if you're eventually you is

998
00:56:40,600 --> 00:56:43,359
Speaker 1: gonna come at you're the best version of yourself if

999
00:56:43,400 --> 00:56:45,680
Speaker 1: you feel it's the reason why people lie about who

1000
00:56:45,680 --> 00:56:47,560
Speaker 1: they are is because they're not really comfortable with who

1001
00:56:47,600 --> 00:56:49,440
Speaker 1: they are in the first place. And so if they

1002
00:56:49,560 --> 00:56:52,080
Speaker 1: feel that they need to perpetrate as somebody else because

1003
00:56:52,280 --> 00:56:54,560
Speaker 1: they're not really comfortable. So when you are the best

1004
00:56:54,680 --> 00:56:58,040
Speaker 1: version of yourself, then you can be you because you're

1005
00:56:58,080 --> 00:57:01,439
Speaker 1: comfortable with it. So one of the that says, whatever's broke,

1006
00:57:01,520 --> 00:57:05,840
Speaker 1: fix it. Whatever you're uncomfortable about, fix that first, you know.

1007
00:57:05,960 --> 00:57:08,040
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm not saying you can't date, but even

1008
00:57:08,080 --> 00:57:10,440
Speaker 1: if you're in the process of fixing it, if it's

1009
00:57:10,480 --> 00:57:13,839
Speaker 1: your weight, if it's your education, if it's your job,

1010
00:57:14,280 --> 00:57:19,880
Speaker 1: fix it. Because that's uncomfortable. That will seep into your

1011
00:57:20,040 --> 00:57:23,800
Speaker 1: into your brain while you're with somebody else and not uncomfidable.

1012
00:57:23,800 --> 00:57:27,160
Speaker 1: That lack of confidence will cause you to lie and

1013
00:57:27,280 --> 00:57:29,960
Speaker 1: misrepresent who you are. And I also cause you to

1014
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Speaker 1: put up with ship that you wouldn't normally put fix

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Speaker 1: Fix it Baby, Thank you so podcast and you can

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