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Speaker 1: six months? Is I feel like ample enough time? Come?

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Speaker 1: Kristen got engaged Christmas twenty twenty three. She asked me

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Speaker 1: She went on to break down the cost of rental, cars, lodging, food,

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Speaker 1: What yeah, they're each paying six thousand dollars. That's how

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I would if my friend, like if John or

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but this is ridiculous. I responded and stated that

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Speaker 1: destination of the wedding is now a ten day event

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, congratulations, what's getting married? You're getting married? Oh?

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Speaker 1: I think it's this is so stupid. For destination weddings

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Speaker 1: I informed Made of Honor that I would discuss the

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Speaker 1: Couldn't be us Riley, couldn't be.

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Speaker 2: Give me like ten years and I might be able

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Speaker 1: There's someone really special, I'll do a ten cake. I

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Speaker 2: Whoa what kind trip?

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Speaker 1: Seven K for three months? This is probably ten k

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Speaker 1: She's not being punished. Oh, he is being punished.

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Speaker 2: But someone has to pay for this trip and can't be.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, everyone's saying not the a hole, ugury. But that

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Speaker 1: But we have another one.

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Speaker 2: Always.

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Speaker 1: Always, there's there's always.

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Speaker 2: I think, dude, And then I asked her, Hey, could

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Speaker 1: I'm done by PSA. My best friends demand that I

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Speaker 1: stop studying law. I want to cut them off. You

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Speaker 1: They're like, no, you can't. You can't do this to us.

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Speaker 1: Important for leader, this whole mess is about me twenty

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Speaker 1: no not Hannah. Anica got pregnant at eighteen, the baby

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Speaker 2: Oh so update to tldr, Okay, I will.

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Speaker 1: Um everyone's saying that I would die for stuff or

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Speaker 1: I did an apprenticeship and after that went back to

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Speaker 1: Their reasoning, They're afraid I'll get too cocky for being

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Speaker 1: that's wild? Imagine like you got into Harvard or something

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Speaker 1: I absolute, I am absolute. I am absolutely lost. I

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Speaker 1: I'm absolutely lost. Tara, Anica, and Hannah are my only friends.

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Speaker 1: asked countless times what had happened, but neither Anica nor

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Speaker 1: cocky to be around your friends. Sack, What the hell

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Speaker 1: am I supposed to do now? And there is an update?

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Speaker 1: I'm really hoping that Ope leaves them. Yeah yeah, because

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Speaker 1: they are precky. They're freaking pulling a warner to your Elwoods.

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Speaker 1: That is a legally blonde reference, Riley. They're telling you

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Speaker 1: that you're not smart or I don't know, that's not

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Speaker 1: They're not your friends. You can certainly find new better

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Speaker 2: Like, consideration has a lot to do with the health

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, like just flipping it around. If Op

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and go back to the consideration thing. They're not

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Speaker 1: there insecurities. Yeah, but there's an update. Hey guys, So

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Speaker 1: first off.

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Speaker 2: I say the date.

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Speaker 1: I who suggested that Annica and Tara are officially blocked

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Speaker 1: This whole thing was born out of jealousy from Anica do.

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Speaker 1: The whole thing with her not getting into the program

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Speaker 2: Honica's starting, Monica's starting it.

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Speaker 1: She rope Tara in through lies, and now they're together approaching.

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Speaker 1: I believe I want to say Tara wants to be

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Speaker 1: Tara showed me reluctantly, and she demanded from Tara to

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Speaker 1: her with demandang whoa that yeah, get this your friend

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Speaker 1: for sure. This is this person you should stay far

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Speaker 1: Never did I say that she couldn't do it. I

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Speaker 1: out of the question, and that and aunt Anka took

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00:23:28,480 --> 00:23:31,560
Speaker 1: this as a direct hit to her ego, obviously, and

437
00:23:31,600 --> 00:23:33,479
Speaker 1: that I think she's always missing work, and that I

438
00:23:33,520 --> 00:23:36,959
Speaker 1: think she's lazy. He has two small children in kindergarten.

439
00:23:37,000 --> 00:23:38,880
Speaker 1: Of course she'll get sick, and of course the kids

440
00:23:38,880 --> 00:23:41,480
Speaker 1: have to stay home, and so did she. He was

441
00:23:41,640 --> 00:23:45,120
Speaker 1: never meant as a direct insult on my part. Now

442
00:23:45,200 --> 00:23:48,679
Speaker 1: to Tara, thinking I had a better chance to get

443
00:23:48,720 --> 00:23:50,680
Speaker 1: to the bottom of this, I asked Tara to meet

444
00:23:50,720 --> 00:23:57,200
Speaker 1: me alone. She agreed and reluctantly admitted she knew all along. Wait,

445
00:23:57,280 --> 00:24:03,120
Speaker 1: she knew all along that Honica was lying. What Anica

446
00:24:03,119 --> 00:24:06,440
Speaker 1: had planned, I just tell me to stop or force

447
00:24:06,480 --> 00:24:09,040
Speaker 1: no contact on me, and that she felt she couldn't

448
00:24:09,040 --> 00:24:12,000
Speaker 1: say no as she saw my WhatsApp message. Okay, so

449
00:24:12,040 --> 00:24:16,240
Speaker 1: she was still bamboozled by Honica's lies but knew about

450
00:24:16,240 --> 00:24:17,399
Speaker 1: this plan before.

451
00:24:17,840 --> 00:24:19,679
Speaker 2: Oh, I to like force her.

452
00:24:19,520 --> 00:24:22,199
Speaker 1: To go no contact. Yeah, I was so confused by

453
00:24:22,240 --> 00:24:25,560
Speaker 1: that and asked her what messages she talked about. Carr

454
00:24:25,640 --> 00:24:28,280
Speaker 1: showed me screenshots and after a long back and forth,

455
00:24:28,440 --> 00:24:31,359
Speaker 1: she agreed they looked suspicious and didn't sound like me

456
00:24:31,440 --> 00:24:34,359
Speaker 1: at all. Anica had a bit, has a bit of

457
00:24:34,359 --> 00:24:38,320
Speaker 1: a slang, whereas I absolutely don't. But for her it

458
00:24:38,400 --> 00:24:40,879
Speaker 1: was evidence enough because she somehow felt like I was

459
00:24:40,920 --> 00:24:43,439
Speaker 1: trying to take over the place of the best person

460
00:24:43,480 --> 00:24:45,760
Speaker 1: in the group and that she felt like I was

461
00:24:45,840 --> 00:24:49,200
Speaker 1: rubbing it in their faces, especially with me always telling

462
00:24:49,240 --> 00:24:51,600
Speaker 1: them that I failed this and that and keep on studying.

463
00:24:52,280 --> 00:24:54,720
Speaker 1: I'm not kidding. I must have looked like a fish

464
00:24:54,720 --> 00:24:57,320
Speaker 1: out of the I must have looked like a fish

465
00:24:57,359 --> 00:25:03,240
Speaker 1: out on the beach. But yeah, sorry. Hearing all this nonsense,

466
00:25:03,600 --> 00:25:06,600
Speaker 1: I was sad the whole time. That was exactly the

467
00:25:06,640 --> 00:25:10,960
Speaker 1: moment I lost all emotional connection to both of them.

468
00:25:11,440 --> 00:25:13,240
Speaker 1: I told her, if that's what she thinks of me,

469
00:25:14,280 --> 00:25:16,639
Speaker 1: Anica is the better company and she should join her

470
00:25:16,720 --> 00:25:20,119
Speaker 1: in for misery. Yeah. I think that it seems like

471
00:25:20,200 --> 00:25:23,160
Speaker 1: Tarrow was somewhat willing to believe all of this stuff

472
00:25:23,400 --> 00:25:26,439
Speaker 1: if it does look like I mean, she admitted that

473
00:25:26,480 --> 00:25:29,679
Speaker 1: the WhatsApp stuff looked suspicious, even if it was framed

474
00:25:29,680 --> 00:25:36,200
Speaker 1: like willing to believe Anica over Opeak without even asking

475
00:25:36,480 --> 00:25:44,240
Speaker 1: about it until Op broached the subject. Uh s, if

476
00:25:44,240 --> 00:25:47,200
Speaker 1: they want a punching bag, they can buy one on Amazon,

477
00:25:47,320 --> 00:25:52,360
Speaker 1: but absolutely not use me for that. Okay. I sent

478
00:25:52,400 --> 00:25:54,760
Speaker 1: a scathing WhatsApp to the group chat and blocked both

479
00:25:54,800 --> 00:25:57,800
Speaker 1: of them. I am sad that I spent fifteen years

480
00:25:57,800 --> 00:26:01,320
Speaker 1: thinking people would have my back as I do for them,

481
00:26:01,560 --> 00:26:04,399
Speaker 1: but that's life. I guess. I still have Hannah, and

482
00:26:04,440 --> 00:26:06,680
Speaker 1: she promised to be my study buddy whenever I would

483
00:26:06,840 --> 00:26:10,960
Speaker 1: need one. So yeah, that's it, and there are two

484
00:26:11,080 --> 00:26:14,199
Speaker 1: relevant comments. Finish this story off. But before we do,

485
00:26:14,320 --> 00:26:19,320
Speaker 1: let's read some of your relevant comments. Yeah, I'm glad

486
00:26:19,320 --> 00:26:23,919
Speaker 1: that Ope is leaving these horrible, horrible friends. Uh teacher

487
00:26:24,000 --> 00:26:29,760
Speaker 1: yoss Onnica Skywalker. This girl is crazed. Oh I don't

488
00:26:29,760 --> 00:26:36,879
Speaker 1: think that. Yeah, okay, but do you a deadly gamer,

489
00:26:36,880 --> 00:26:39,720
Speaker 1: says Sofia. You're welcome to walk on my Delaware palm tree,

490
00:26:39,720 --> 00:26:42,320
Speaker 1: which is rare to have a growing here that. I

491
00:26:42,320 --> 00:26:47,119
Speaker 1: don't think that's relevant to me. Sofia, Well, anyway, I

492
00:26:47,160 --> 00:26:51,520
Speaker 1: think that this before we get into these relevant comments. Yeah,

493
00:26:51,640 --> 00:26:53,560
Speaker 1: just get rid of your friends. They don't they don't

494
00:26:53,800 --> 00:26:56,919
Speaker 1: like you. They don't like you, and they're mean, and

495
00:26:57,000 --> 00:27:01,000
Speaker 1: I don't like them personally. And anybody who brings you

496
00:27:01,080 --> 00:27:04,880
Speaker 1: down awesome, get them out of there. You only want

497
00:27:04,920 --> 00:27:07,639
Speaker 1: people who uplift you and who want to make you

498
00:27:08,119 --> 00:27:11,520
Speaker 1: the best version of yourself. Yeah, cool name, babe, says Sofia. Said,

499
00:27:11,600 --> 00:27:13,920
Speaker 1: let's read some comments. There were no comments. You guys

500
00:27:13,960 --> 00:27:18,840
Speaker 1: didn't say anything. Let's read these relevant comments. They're probably

501
00:27:18,880 --> 00:27:23,320
Speaker 1: more relevant, zays Are says. What I want to know

502
00:27:23,440 --> 00:27:26,760
Speaker 1: is how Anica didn't realize an apprenticeship was required when

503
00:27:26,760 --> 00:27:29,960
Speaker 1: applying for the program she did. In the US, college

504
00:27:30,000 --> 00:27:33,200
Speaker 1: applications literally spell out the requirements they have in order

505
00:27:33,240 --> 00:27:35,120
Speaker 1: for you to even have a chance at getting in,

506
00:27:35,640 --> 00:27:38,400
Speaker 1: and even then it's not a guarantee, especially with top

507
00:27:38,400 --> 00:27:41,560
Speaker 1: tier schools. Do they not have the requirements listed for

508
00:27:41,640 --> 00:27:45,639
Speaker 1: prospective students that they see during the application process? And

509
00:27:45,720 --> 00:27:48,560
Speaker 1: Op says, I concluded that Anica didn't believe when I

510
00:27:48,600 --> 00:27:51,600
Speaker 1: told her she needed the finish apprenticeship because you literally

511
00:27:51,680 --> 00:27:54,639
Speaker 1: go to the website, print out a PDF with your information,

512
00:27:55,080 --> 00:27:58,040
Speaker 1: and then the secretary gets into contact with you when

513
00:27:58,080 --> 00:28:00,359
Speaker 1: you get into the class to send in all the

514
00:28:00,400 --> 00:28:04,919
Speaker 1: necessary forms aka your certificate of apprenticeship. Apparently, to what

515
00:28:05,000 --> 00:28:09,280
Speaker 1: I found out, she just applied, didn't read once more

516
00:28:09,320 --> 00:28:12,040
Speaker 1: because she wanted to prove she can do that too.

517
00:28:12,280 --> 00:28:15,359
Speaker 1: Received the acceptance letter, and then she lost her spot

518
00:28:15,440 --> 00:28:19,240
Speaker 1: due to the missing So she got in, and then

519
00:28:19,280 --> 00:28:21,800
Speaker 1: she lost the spot because she didn't actually fill out

520
00:28:21,800 --> 00:28:24,879
Speaker 1: all her requirements. Go to the airport without your Yeah,

521
00:28:25,040 --> 00:28:27,960
Speaker 1: you stilly billy, don't forget your passport.

522
00:28:28,680 --> 00:28:30,000
Speaker 2: I cannot don't do it.

523
00:28:31,520 --> 00:28:33,800
Speaker 1: She obviously knew what type of school I was in.

524
00:28:33,880 --> 00:28:37,320
Speaker 1: It's literally three letters and there's only one economic school here,

525
00:28:37,720 --> 00:28:40,000
Speaker 1: and of course she knew her I went to school.

526
00:28:40,160 --> 00:28:43,320
Speaker 1: All I can conclude is she downloaded the pdf, builled

527
00:28:43,320 --> 00:28:49,560
Speaker 1: it out, and then she imploded. I like this because

528
00:28:49,880 --> 00:28:53,400
Speaker 1: op he's writing like as a person probably speaks German.

529
00:28:53,480 --> 00:28:58,720
Speaker 1: So I like all the slid But yeah, you have

530
00:28:58,840 --> 00:29:01,120
Speaker 1: to read more of the story, get rid of your

531
00:29:01,120 --> 00:29:04,640
Speaker 1: friends if they suck, and to read all of the

532
00:29:04,720 --> 00:29:06,400
Speaker 1: requirements if you're applying to school.

533
00:29:06,600 --> 00:29:09,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, like come on, come on, you can't.

534
00:29:09,280 --> 00:29:11,200
Speaker 1: Be a lawyer if you don't read all the facts.

535
00:29:11,800 --> 00:29:15,400
Speaker 2: It's bad. And that's the best filtering system ever.

536
00:29:15,520 --> 00:29:18,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like you get into law school and they're like, oh,

537
00:29:18,240 --> 00:29:23,800
Speaker 1: she didn't actually complete the requirement. Like imagine going into

538
00:29:24,360 --> 00:29:27,760
Speaker 1: like court and they're like did you I don't know,

539
00:29:27,920 --> 00:29:30,240
Speaker 1: did you read the case? And they're like, oh no,

540
00:29:30,320 --> 00:29:31,160
Speaker 1: I didn't think I needed.

541
00:29:32,320 --> 00:29:34,480
Speaker 2: I just show up kind of live stream and like

542
00:29:34,640 --> 00:29:38,600
Speaker 2: you don't have internet. Yeah, wild wild.

543
00:29:39,840 --> 00:29:41,880
Speaker 1: Emily See says Anica might try to get her kicked

544
00:29:41,880 --> 00:29:42,760
Speaker 1: out of law school.

545
00:29:42,840 --> 00:29:44,240
Speaker 2: Yeah.

546
00:29:44,560 --> 00:29:48,560
Speaker 1: Ooh, and Sofia Callan says, wait, we can get a wheelspin.

547
00:29:49,280 --> 00:29:52,400
Speaker 1: You can if you get to five hundred, but I

548
00:29:52,440 --> 00:29:57,880
Speaker 1: ain't seeing any numbers. A scutin no numbers. I ain't

549
00:29:57,920 --> 00:30:00,040
Speaker 1: seen nothing scooting to five hundred.

550
00:30:01,240 --> 00:30:02,640
Speaker 2: Guys are slower than molasses.

551
00:30:02,760 --> 00:30:07,400
Speaker 1: You're slower than a and then a tortoise in heat

552
00:30:08,840 --> 00:30:09,360
Speaker 1: in the heat.

553
00:30:10,000 --> 00:30:14,040
Speaker 2: That's really good. Lower than Grandma drone trying to get

554
00:30:14,040 --> 00:30:15,640
Speaker 2: to church on Sunday morning.

555
00:30:16,840 --> 00:30:23,520
Speaker 1: Lower than a dog with two legs. All I got

556
00:30:23,960 --> 00:30:35,320
Speaker 1: no legs, okay, but there's there's one, maybe two, depending

557
00:30:35,360 --> 00:30:39,080
Speaker 1: on how long the story goes, four stories for us

558
00:30:39,160 --> 00:30:44,280
Speaker 1: to read. So let's get into. My friend used me

559
00:30:44,320 --> 00:30:48,000
Speaker 1: as a free babysitter, so I blocked her. If you're

560
00:30:48,040 --> 00:30:52,400
Speaker 1: not getting paid, then that's free labor and that's illegal.

561
00:30:53,280 --> 00:30:53,680
Speaker 2: Hmmm.

562
00:30:54,480 --> 00:30:58,200
Speaker 1: This was our conversation yesterday. My friend asked me to

563
00:30:58,240 --> 00:31:00,840
Speaker 1: help her babysitter son and take him to and from

564
00:31:00,880 --> 00:31:04,240
Speaker 1: summer school while she is at work tomorrow and the

565
00:31:04,280 --> 00:31:06,160
Speaker 1: rest of the week. By the way, this comes from

566
00:31:06,840 --> 00:31:10,040
Speaker 1: jamon To asked on the ar slash. Okay, storytimes some

567
00:31:10,120 --> 00:31:11,760
Speaker 1: about it, So if you want to submit your stories,

568
00:31:11,760 --> 00:31:14,800
Speaker 1: go there. The thing is, my niece gave birth this

569
00:31:14,840 --> 00:31:17,760
Speaker 1: week via a sea section, and I am staying with

570
00:31:17,800 --> 00:31:21,120
Speaker 1: her at her house and helping her whilst she heals

571
00:31:21,160 --> 00:31:24,400
Speaker 1: because her husband works and can't be there all the

572
00:31:24,440 --> 00:31:26,760
Speaker 1: time and she needs a lot of help as she

573
00:31:26,840 --> 00:31:29,880
Speaker 1: is still healing. And I told my friend this and

574
00:31:29,920 --> 00:31:32,080
Speaker 1: then at first she told me that me helping my

575
00:31:32,160 --> 00:31:34,680
Speaker 1: niece is a good thing, and then in the very

576
00:31:34,720 --> 00:31:37,800
Speaker 1: next message, she proceeded to guilt me by saying things

577
00:31:37,880 --> 00:31:41,880
Speaker 1: like God is watching and that he hears and sees everything,

578
00:31:42,200 --> 00:31:48,240
Speaker 1: and that she only asked me for a simple favor. Weird. Weird.

579
00:31:48,600 --> 00:31:51,720
Speaker 1: Imagine someone you text someone You're like, hey, can you

580
00:31:51,760 --> 00:31:54,200
Speaker 1: babysit for me? And they're like, oh no, sorry, my

581
00:31:54,640 --> 00:31:57,440
Speaker 1: niece just had a baby, can't be there, and you're

582
00:31:57,440 --> 00:32:00,200
Speaker 1: like okay, and then five minutes later you're like, God,

583
00:32:00,200 --> 00:32:09,120
Speaker 1: I will never forgive you what wild ah, these are

584
00:32:09,160 --> 00:32:14,560
Speaker 1: wild wild people in these stories. Really just no filter

585
00:32:14,680 --> 00:32:19,240
Speaker 1: on these people. She wouldn't accept no for an answer

586
00:32:19,280 --> 00:32:22,120
Speaker 1: and continue to guilt me and send me more messages

587
00:32:22,160 --> 00:32:24,880
Speaker 1: trying to get me to say yes. And she said

588
00:32:24,880 --> 00:32:27,760
Speaker 1: things like she's a good heart.

589
00:32:28,240 --> 00:32:30,400
Speaker 2: Probably watch those YouTube videos where was like, you can

590
00:32:30,440 --> 00:32:32,360
Speaker 2: get anyone to do anything for you if you ask

591
00:32:32,440 --> 00:32:33,600
Speaker 2: the writ question. Yeah.

592
00:32:33,680 --> 00:32:36,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, She's like I can I can figure this out.

593
00:32:36,320 --> 00:32:37,280
Speaker 1: I can crack this.

594
00:32:37,280 --> 00:32:42,760
Speaker 2: You watch my kid? No, can you perhaps see them

595
00:32:43,000 --> 00:32:43,920
Speaker 2: while they sit there?

596
00:32:44,720 --> 00:32:45,400
Speaker 1: All right? No?

597
00:32:45,920 --> 00:32:49,960
Speaker 2: Could you focus in their direction for a moment?

598
00:32:50,680 --> 00:32:55,840
Speaker 1: Ah? You know what? Yeah? Bam and there you go.

599
00:32:56,280 --> 00:32:58,960
Speaker 1: There you have it. Any any if you phrase a

600
00:32:59,040 --> 00:33:05,200
Speaker 1: question right away, you can have anything you want. She

601
00:33:05,320 --> 00:33:07,520
Speaker 1: said things like she's a nice person with a good

602
00:33:07,520 --> 00:33:09,800
Speaker 1: heart and a good soul, and that she only asks

603
00:33:09,840 --> 00:33:14,480
Speaker 1: for a small fever, just a small little favor. After

604
00:33:14,520 --> 00:33:17,240
Speaker 1: standing my ground for a while, she messaged me saying

605
00:33:17,320 --> 00:33:21,719
Speaker 1: that God sends her goods people, that God sends her

606
00:33:21,760 --> 00:33:24,040
Speaker 1: good people, and that she asked her neighbor to help her,

607
00:33:24,440 --> 00:33:27,520
Speaker 1: which she accepted. And then she finished it by saying

608
00:33:27,560 --> 00:33:30,600
Speaker 1: her heart is good and clean. Don't be friends with

609
00:33:30,640 --> 00:33:37,080
Speaker 1: this person. He seems like she talks um. He edited one.

610
00:33:37,800 --> 00:33:41,040
Speaker 1: I have babysat my friend's son for years free of

611
00:33:41,160 --> 00:33:43,880
Speaker 1: charge because I knew she had no money and because

612
00:33:43,880 --> 00:33:47,120
Speaker 1: he wasn't a bother. And another thing is her son

613
00:33:47,200 --> 00:33:49,880
Speaker 1: is sick. Oh, and she refuses to take him to

614
00:33:49,920 --> 00:33:52,440
Speaker 1: the doctor, claiming they won't do anything after I have

615
00:33:52,520 --> 00:33:55,680
Speaker 1: told her repeatedly for weeks to take him, and her

616
00:33:55,720 --> 00:33:59,200
Speaker 1: son's coughing also made one to take him and her

617
00:33:59,200 --> 00:34:01,720
Speaker 1: son's coughing all also made one of my children sick

618
00:34:02,040 --> 00:34:04,000
Speaker 1: as well, because no one else in her family is

619
00:34:04,040 --> 00:34:07,320
Speaker 1: sick except her son. Thankfully, I took my child to

620
00:34:07,360 --> 00:34:10,080
Speaker 1: the doctor and they gave them medicine and they're better.

621
00:34:10,160 --> 00:34:12,520
Speaker 1: But she refuses to do the same for her kid.

622
00:34:12,600 --> 00:34:15,359
Speaker 1: That's messed up. Take your kid to the doctor if

623
00:34:15,360 --> 00:34:18,759
Speaker 1: they're sick, get them checked up. I also think like

624
00:34:18,840 --> 00:34:25,839
Speaker 1: it's somewhat common for parents to hire babysitters when their

625
00:34:25,880 --> 00:34:28,960
Speaker 1: kids are sick. Like I've I've been called in. Yeah,

626
00:34:28,960 --> 00:34:33,000
Speaker 1: I've been called in when with like the sick kids,

627
00:34:33,560 --> 00:34:36,920
Speaker 1: and I'm like, ah, because they're kids and they don't,

628
00:34:37,040 --> 00:34:40,399
Speaker 1: you know, know how to like sneeze into their arms,

629
00:34:40,440 --> 00:34:42,640
Speaker 1: so they're just like coughing on you and like wiping

630
00:34:42,680 --> 00:34:44,000
Speaker 1: their not on you.

631
00:34:43,960 --> 00:34:46,560
Speaker 2: And you're like a dude. My mom loved it when

632
00:34:46,600 --> 00:34:48,239
Speaker 2: we were sick because you got to stay home from work.

633
00:34:48,480 --> 00:34:50,200
Speaker 2: Like you think you're a baby, you know, I think

634
00:34:50,239 --> 00:34:50,799
Speaker 2: that you should be.

635
00:34:50,840 --> 00:34:55,320
Speaker 1: I don't think you should be like outsourcing thick children. Umm,

636
00:34:56,360 --> 00:34:59,440
Speaker 1: but yeah, I mean, I guess it depends because sometimes

637
00:34:59,719 --> 00:35:01,400
Speaker 1: like literally have to go to work and stuff. But

638
00:35:03,239 --> 00:35:08,000
Speaker 1: but sins how sick they are quite frankly um by

639
00:35:08,080 --> 00:35:12,520
Speaker 1: the way she does ooh, where am I actually one?

640
00:35:12,920 --> 00:35:14,799
Speaker 1: Sometimes she acts like I can be at her beck

641
00:35:14,840 --> 00:35:17,800
Speaker 1: and call and babysit her for babysit for her twenty

642
00:35:17,840 --> 00:35:20,600
Speaker 1: four to seven, regardless of What's going on in my

643
00:35:20,719 --> 00:35:25,000
Speaker 1: personal life or if I'm busy. By the way, she

644
00:35:25,040 --> 00:35:27,680
Speaker 1: does have other friends or neighbors that live nearby her

645
00:35:27,840 --> 00:35:29,920
Speaker 1: that can help her, but instead she calls me all

646
00:35:29,960 --> 00:35:32,239
Speaker 1: the time because she knows I'm the least likely to

647
00:35:32,280 --> 00:35:36,480
Speaker 1: say no. This is what happened today this morning, whilst

648
00:35:36,600 --> 00:35:38,640
Speaker 1: one of my children, who has work in a couple

649
00:35:38,640 --> 00:35:41,840
Speaker 1: of hours, I was sleeping, her son was knocking on

650
00:35:41,880 --> 00:35:43,640
Speaker 1: our door, and she was on the phone with him

651
00:35:44,360 --> 00:35:46,919
Speaker 1: telling him to knock louder as. That's what my child

652
00:35:47,000 --> 00:35:49,279
Speaker 1: heard her say when they called me asking if they

653
00:35:49,320 --> 00:35:52,200
Speaker 1: should open the door, And I told my child not

654
00:35:52,360 --> 00:35:55,280
Speaker 1: to and that he can go to the summer school

655
00:35:55,320 --> 00:35:57,279
Speaker 1: and be there early, as the school is across the

656
00:35:57,320 --> 00:35:59,840
Speaker 1: street from my house, and that I told her yesterday

657
00:35:59,840 --> 00:36:02,399
Speaker 1: I wasn't going to be home, but she still sent

658
00:36:02,520 --> 00:36:06,959
Speaker 1: her son my way. Ah. At this point, I feel

659
00:36:07,000 --> 00:36:10,160
Speaker 1: like you can call CPS if they're sending their child

660
00:36:10,239 --> 00:36:13,720
Speaker 1: without like supervision.

661
00:36:13,280 --> 00:36:17,520
Speaker 2: Give them to like a like a kidnapper at that.

662
00:36:17,440 --> 00:36:20,399
Speaker 1: Point, literally she's just sending her child. She's like, yeah,

663
00:36:20,680 --> 00:36:25,520
Speaker 1: they'll figure it out. Like the audacity to ask someone

664
00:36:25,600 --> 00:36:28,880
Speaker 1: to baby said them to say no, and then she

665
00:36:29,080 --> 00:36:31,440
Speaker 1: just leaves her kid over there. She's like, yeah, go

666
00:36:32,480 --> 00:36:35,680
Speaker 1: b for me. Bullayne Babe said she was straight up

667
00:36:35,719 --> 00:36:39,600
Speaker 1: trying to drop her kid off. Feels illegal. Yeah, yeah,

668
00:36:39,640 --> 00:36:43,840
Speaker 1: it does feel illegal. Rose Pink says she's taking advantage

669
00:36:43,880 --> 00:36:49,600
Speaker 1: of OP. I agree. I agree. And in the afternoon,

670
00:36:49,640 --> 00:36:51,920
Speaker 1: she told the summer school teacher to drop her son

671
00:36:52,000 --> 00:36:54,640
Speaker 1: off at my house without even asking me first if

672
00:36:54,640 --> 00:36:57,239
Speaker 1: it was okay, and one of my kids, who was

673
00:36:57,280 --> 00:37:00,200
Speaker 1: about to leave for work, oh my god, answer the

674
00:37:00,239 --> 00:37:03,520
Speaker 1: door thinking it was me or someone else. And then

675
00:37:03,560 --> 00:37:05,719
Speaker 1: I had to come back home in order to watch

676
00:37:05,719 --> 00:37:08,320
Speaker 1: her son as he was going to be alone otherwise.

677
00:37:08,680 --> 00:37:10,759
Speaker 1: And I do not like the child. The idea of

678
00:37:10,800 --> 00:37:13,640
Speaker 1: her child, or any child for that matter, being home

679
00:37:13,680 --> 00:37:16,640
Speaker 1: alone in my house because if anything happens to them,

680
00:37:16,880 --> 00:37:22,480
Speaker 1: that's on me. Since he's in my home yet, call CPS. Luckily,

681
00:37:22,480 --> 00:37:24,839
Speaker 1: my niece's husband was home today as his day off

682
00:37:24,840 --> 00:37:27,800
Speaker 1: from work, so he's able to look after her while

683
00:37:27,800 --> 00:37:30,239
Speaker 1: I waited for the kid's mom to arrive to pick

684
00:37:30,280 --> 00:37:32,520
Speaker 1: her up. And then when she came to pick him up,

685
00:37:32,560 --> 00:37:34,440
Speaker 1: she told me that she all she wanted was for

686
00:37:34,520 --> 00:37:36,440
Speaker 1: him to sit in my living room and watch TV

687
00:37:36,640 --> 00:37:39,120
Speaker 1: while he waited for her, and that she didn't ask

688
00:37:39,160 --> 00:37:43,040
Speaker 1: for too much. And there is another edit, some relevant comments,

689
00:37:43,760 --> 00:37:46,560
Speaker 1: and an update, but let's let's pause.

690
00:37:46,760 --> 00:37:47,319
Speaker 2: I hate this.

691
00:37:48,360 --> 00:37:49,160
Speaker 1: Can we do a poll?

692
00:37:49,480 --> 00:37:49,760
Speaker 2: Yes?

693
00:37:50,840 --> 00:37:55,960
Speaker 1: Can we do call CPS? Or nah? Because this is

694
00:37:56,160 --> 00:37:58,520
Speaker 1: I don't know too much about the law, but I

695
00:37:58,560 --> 00:38:01,680
Speaker 1: think this is illegal. I think if you just drop

696
00:38:01,760 --> 00:38:05,480
Speaker 1: your kid off somewhere and don't make sure you know

697
00:38:06,920 --> 00:38:11,800
Speaker 1: someone's watching them, it sounds like you're just neglecting your child,

698
00:38:12,040 --> 00:38:14,760
Speaker 1: and that's bad. Heard it here first.

699
00:38:14,800 --> 00:38:17,160
Speaker 2: I'm gonna do that with John and Sam. Whenever I

700
00:38:17,200 --> 00:38:19,520
Speaker 2: have kids. You just gotta just go see John.

701
00:38:20,760 --> 00:38:22,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, we're probably gonna live across the street.

702
00:38:22,880 --> 00:38:25,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, just go check on them. See.

703
00:38:26,160 --> 00:38:28,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what my dad did. They just like would

704
00:38:28,719 --> 00:38:31,920
Speaker 1: go over to the neighbor's house when they were younger. Yeah,

705
00:38:31,960 --> 00:38:35,120
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, yeah, my kids be home

706
00:38:35,160 --> 00:38:36,800
Speaker 1: before dark. Love that.

707
00:38:36,840 --> 00:38:39,840
Speaker 2: I just tracked you to moving to Tennessee. What that

708
00:38:39,960 --> 00:38:41,760
Speaker 2: in Tennessee, you said yeah.

709
00:38:41,920 --> 00:38:45,640
Speaker 1: Oh, I thought you were just saying, like in Tennessee.

710
00:38:45,520 --> 00:38:47,279
Speaker 2: That no no, no, no no.

711
00:38:47,880 --> 00:38:50,560
Speaker 1: A cool name. Babe says neglecting children is bad. Hot

712
00:38:50,640 --> 00:38:54,799
Speaker 1: take by Sophia twenty twenty four. All about those. I

713
00:38:54,840 --> 00:39:01,200
Speaker 1: know it's crazy, but don't neglect your But there's another edit,

714
00:39:02,160 --> 00:39:04,719
Speaker 1: Opie says. She also said that the lady she made

715
00:39:04,760 --> 00:39:06,520
Speaker 1: the deal to take her son to summer school in

716
00:39:06,560 --> 00:39:09,440
Speaker 1: the morning didn't work out because her son was sleeping

717
00:39:09,440 --> 00:39:11,240
Speaker 1: by the time she left for work in the morning,

718
00:39:12,040 --> 00:39:14,239
Speaker 1: and by the time he got ready to leave, he

719
00:39:14,320 --> 00:39:16,400
Speaker 1: didn't know that she had made a deal with the neighbor.

720
00:39:16,760 --> 00:39:18,839
Speaker 1: And she said that she forgot to tell him about

721
00:39:18,880 --> 00:39:22,279
Speaker 1: the whole thing. Iikes, which I think is bs. And

722
00:39:22,320 --> 00:39:24,799
Speaker 1: she just wanted to have an excuse for her son

723
00:39:24,880 --> 00:39:26,920
Speaker 1: to stay at my house again before and after school.

724
00:39:27,719 --> 00:39:29,439
Speaker 1: And I think she dropped him off at the bus

725
00:39:29,480 --> 00:39:31,560
Speaker 1: stop near my house and told him to come and

726
00:39:31,640 --> 00:39:34,319
Speaker 1: knock on my door because she went to work. Then

727
00:39:34,480 --> 00:39:40,000
Speaker 1: lied and said he came all by himself. Aye, aye, yay.

728
00:39:40,600 --> 00:39:42,640
Speaker 1: And there are some relevant comments.

729
00:39:42,960 --> 00:39:46,359
Speaker 2: This good seven old just getting in I.

730
00:39:49,920 --> 00:39:53,799
Speaker 1: Wait, I know we don't know it doesn't seem like

731
00:39:53,840 --> 00:39:56,279
Speaker 1: we know, they don't say it seems like it's a

732
00:39:56,320 --> 00:40:00,479
Speaker 1: young child presumably that needs to be watched. I would

733
00:40:00,480 --> 00:40:05,319
Speaker 1: say probably like under ten, that's my guess, somewhere under

734
00:40:05,360 --> 00:40:10,319
Speaker 1: ten oh millennial answers. The only reason I say nah

735
00:40:10,400 --> 00:40:12,719
Speaker 1: is because unfortunately, at times the person that has them

736
00:40:12,760 --> 00:40:15,640
Speaker 1: can end up getting more and more in trouble in

737
00:40:15,680 --> 00:40:18,480
Speaker 1: the end. Maybe that's for the CPS stuff.

738
00:40:20,840 --> 00:40:23,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, because if you do get called by if you

739
00:40:23,120 --> 00:40:25,040
Speaker 2: do call CPS, that one's gonna be like, what do.

740
00:40:24,960 --> 00:40:25,680
Speaker 1: You call them?

741
00:40:26,880 --> 00:40:27,120
Speaker 2: Yes?

742
00:40:27,360 --> 00:40:30,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, Karen Weeb says, I used to have someone stop

743
00:40:30,320 --> 00:40:32,600
Speaker 1: in and tell me she just had to run downtown

744
00:40:32,719 --> 00:40:34,800
Speaker 1: for half an hour, could the kids stay and play?

745
00:40:35,120 --> 00:40:37,799
Speaker 1: Four hours later, she was still gone. The kids let

746
00:40:37,840 --> 00:40:40,560
Speaker 1: it slip. Mom had to Oh my god, so she

747
00:40:40,680 --> 00:40:48,480
Speaker 1: just lied. Yikes. Yeah, it's really ridiculous to just, you know,

748
00:40:48,920 --> 00:40:52,200
Speaker 1: expect other people to take care of your kids without

749
00:40:52,360 --> 00:40:54,680
Speaker 1: you know, actually getting their permission and making sure that

750
00:40:54,719 --> 00:40:57,640
Speaker 1: they are able to take care of them. Because the

751
00:40:57,840 --> 00:41:00,839
Speaker 1: lot goes into watching kids. They're a ram anxious lot.

752
00:41:01,280 --> 00:41:03,879
Speaker 1: They need a lot of attention, usually depending on how

753
00:41:03,920 --> 00:41:07,960
Speaker 1: old they are. So yeah, I think that maybe get

754
00:41:08,480 --> 00:41:12,120
Speaker 1: get some authorities involved in this. If this is going

755
00:41:12,160 --> 00:41:16,000
Speaker 1: to keep happening because it's putting the kid at danger,

756
00:41:16,040 --> 00:41:18,080
Speaker 1: Like what if you're not home and she drops off

757
00:41:18,080 --> 00:41:21,600
Speaker 1: her son and no one's there and this kid is

758
00:41:21,680 --> 00:41:23,160
Speaker 1: just waiting on your porch.

759
00:41:23,800 --> 00:41:27,200
Speaker 2: And then he gets cut by something on his foot

760
00:41:27,320 --> 00:41:29,520
Speaker 2: like he's walking and he gets cut and then you get.

761
00:41:29,360 --> 00:41:34,280
Speaker 1: Blamed because he was on your porch. Yeah, I think

762
00:41:34,400 --> 00:41:37,279
Speaker 1: I think it's it's dangerous, But let's get into these

763
00:41:37,320 --> 00:41:40,960
Speaker 1: relevant comments. Sophie King Awesome says, you know the answer.

764
00:41:41,120 --> 00:41:43,759
Speaker 1: She's a user and will bring nothing but stress to

765
00:41:43,800 --> 00:41:47,520
Speaker 1: your life. Lock her, not the a hole, and Opie responds,

766
00:41:48,040 --> 00:41:50,319
Speaker 1: one of my children wanted to confront her today, but

767
00:41:50,360 --> 00:41:52,200
Speaker 1: I told them not to as I told them I

768
00:41:52,200 --> 00:41:56,479
Speaker 1: would handle it myself, as I didn't give her as

769
00:41:56,800 --> 00:42:00,160
Speaker 1: I didn't want her giving them any bad karma. And

770
00:42:00,200 --> 00:42:02,440
Speaker 1: they told me if they couldn't confront her, then I

771
00:42:02,440 --> 00:42:06,320
Speaker 1: should block her. She thinks, if I can't babysit her child,

772
00:42:06,719 --> 00:42:08,799
Speaker 1: then one of my kids can. But they don't want

773
00:42:08,800 --> 00:42:12,200
Speaker 1: a babysitter child and have lives and don't want that

774
00:42:12,320 --> 00:42:16,640
Speaker 1: unannounced responsibility. Yeah, no one should have that unannounced responsibility

775
00:42:17,280 --> 00:42:19,879
Speaker 1: go on, freakin'. I mean, she's probably using them because

776
00:42:19,880 --> 00:42:23,799
Speaker 1: they're free. But go on, there's a babysitter apps. I'm

777
00:42:23,840 --> 00:42:26,800
Speaker 1: sure there's a child that you can pay fifteen dollars

778
00:42:26,840 --> 00:42:27,440
Speaker 1: an hour for.

779
00:42:27,640 --> 00:42:33,320
Speaker 2: I find a babysitter on Facebook Mark plus yeah.

780
00:42:32,680 --> 00:42:37,160
Speaker 1: Um, and Opie continues she think he thinks, Oh wait, no,

781
00:42:37,239 --> 00:42:39,640
Speaker 1: I said that. Z four driver says it's okay to

782
00:42:39,680 --> 00:42:42,160
Speaker 1: ask for a small favor, but she has to accept

783
00:42:42,200 --> 00:42:45,200
Speaker 1: that you decline it. He doesn't need to know why,

784
00:42:45,800 --> 00:42:48,960
Speaker 1: just tell her that you can't babysit. The moment she

785
00:42:49,040 --> 00:42:51,600
Speaker 1: started to guilt trip you you should have cut tacked.

786
00:42:52,080 --> 00:42:54,680
Speaker 1: The more she throws a tantrum, the less likely it

787
00:42:54,719 --> 00:42:57,759
Speaker 1: should be you ever babysitter kid in the future. And

788
00:42:57,840 --> 00:43:00,440
Speaker 1: op responds, the thing is, it's no, not just a

789
00:43:00,480 --> 00:43:03,000
Speaker 1: small favor, as I have been babysitting her son for

790
00:43:03,120 --> 00:43:06,720
Speaker 1: years for free, but now when a family thing happens,

791
00:43:06,760 --> 00:43:08,880
Speaker 1: she expects me to drop my stuff in order to

792
00:43:08,960 --> 00:43:12,160
Speaker 1: babysitter son. My family have been telling me that she's

793
00:43:12,200 --> 00:43:15,160
Speaker 1: been using me for years as a free babysitter, but

794
00:43:15,239 --> 00:43:17,000
Speaker 1: I didn't want to listen because I think I like

795
00:43:17,040 --> 00:43:20,120
Speaker 1: to see the good people she's one hundred percent you.

796
00:43:22,000 --> 00:43:25,400
Speaker 1: Pitiful Plastic says, you have absolutely no business around your

797
00:43:25,480 --> 00:43:28,520
Speaker 1: niece or newborn if your household has been exposed to

798
00:43:28,600 --> 00:43:32,440
Speaker 1: a sick kid or crue. Opie says, Oh, no, the

799
00:43:32,520 --> 00:43:34,759
Speaker 1: kid is no longer sick, but for a while he was.

800
00:43:35,360 --> 00:43:38,360
Speaker 1: He was, and that was just part of an extra

801
00:43:39,000 --> 00:43:41,480
Speaker 1: rant about her not taking her kid to the hospital

802
00:43:41,480 --> 00:43:43,640
Speaker 1: when he was sick. I would never go to my

803
00:43:43,719 --> 00:43:46,319
Speaker 1: niece's house if I was sick or ill, or if

804
00:43:46,320 --> 00:43:48,200
Speaker 1: her son had something that I could pass on to

805
00:43:48,280 --> 00:43:51,200
Speaker 1: my niece or her kids. And there is an update.

806
00:43:52,960 --> 00:43:57,719
Speaker 1: But yeah, Miss Romy says the mom is irresponsible. Agreed.

807
00:43:58,200 --> 00:44:00,600
Speaker 1: Christina A Consu says the mom is worse than the

808
00:44:00,640 --> 00:44:04,120
Speaker 1: Amazon drivers who they we missed you left the parcel

809
00:44:04,160 --> 00:44:05,920
Speaker 1: on the porch. Yeah, the ones who were like, we

810
00:44:06,000 --> 00:44:08,920
Speaker 1: knocked on the door but didn't actually knock. That's what

811
00:44:08,960 --> 00:44:12,239
Speaker 1: she's doing. She's she's not knocking on the door when

812
00:44:12,239 --> 00:44:16,000
Speaker 1: she's dropping off her son. Pana Ammonium says, oh, he

813
00:44:16,080 --> 00:44:19,080
Speaker 1: needs to be a recovering Yeah, she's way too night.

814
00:44:19,960 --> 00:44:26,160
Speaker 1: I would I would say maybe ghosts uh and maybe

815
00:44:26,520 --> 00:44:32,520
Speaker 1: fall CPS because she's just gonna keep using you, uh,

816
00:44:32,560 --> 00:44:37,360
Speaker 1: and probably probably putting her son in danger trying to

817
00:44:37,360 --> 00:44:39,240
Speaker 1: get like people to watch her son when she can't.

818
00:44:40,440 --> 00:44:40,839
Speaker 2: This is.

819
00:44:42,320 --> 00:44:42,760
Speaker 1: Behavior.

820
00:44:42,840 --> 00:44:46,560
Speaker 2: Speaking of people pleasers, I put a new uh pull

821
00:44:46,920 --> 00:44:48,839
Speaker 2: just now in the chat, and I want to see

822
00:44:48,880 --> 00:44:53,399
Speaker 2: who is a people pleaser and who's a hard rsh

823
00:44:53,480 --> 00:44:54,240
Speaker 2: in our audience.

824
00:44:54,360 --> 00:45:00,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm a people pleaser. I would say that me. Huh.

825
00:45:00,960 --> 00:45:03,399
Speaker 1: You spent all day working on the things.

826
00:45:03,520 --> 00:45:04,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, because it's my job.

827
00:45:04,840 --> 00:45:05,200
Speaker 1: I know.

828
00:45:07,160 --> 00:45:10,600
Speaker 2: It's my job to be a people deserve but a

829
00:45:10,600 --> 00:45:11,000
Speaker 2: bad thing.

830
00:45:11,040 --> 00:45:13,080
Speaker 1: I just think that you are. I think you try

831
00:45:13,080 --> 00:45:14,440
Speaker 1: really hard to do things for everyone.

832
00:45:14,640 --> 00:45:18,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's not a bad thing. You're like your people.

833
00:45:18,640 --> 00:45:19,440
Speaker 1: You're forging people.

834
00:45:19,560 --> 00:45:21,680
Speaker 2: We spent all the day working on silly stuff.

835
00:45:21,760 --> 00:45:23,279
Speaker 1: No, it wasn't silly. I think you were.

836
00:45:23,320 --> 00:45:24,000
Speaker 2: It felt silly.

837
00:45:24,360 --> 00:45:28,800
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I've really hard everyone with more hearts of

838
00:45:28,840 --> 00:45:29,160
Speaker 1: the child.

839
00:45:29,239 --> 00:45:31,200
Speaker 2: How hard is it to get two phones and a

840
00:45:31,280 --> 00:45:32,360
Speaker 2: laptop and a thing to what?

841
00:45:33,280 --> 00:45:35,279
Speaker 1: Really hard? Really hard?

842
00:45:35,400 --> 00:45:35,840
Speaker 2: Anyways?

843
00:45:36,000 --> 00:45:40,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, blorkers, get in there, Please get in there. Melanie,

844
00:45:40,160 --> 00:45:42,680
Speaker 1: Melanie Cochiola, thank you for the five bucks. You guys

845
00:45:42,680 --> 00:45:44,640
Speaker 1: are the best. Sophia is one of the few people

846
00:45:44,640 --> 00:45:47,279
Speaker 1: that ever pronounced my name. Correctly on the first tril

847
00:45:47,400 --> 00:45:49,759
Speaker 1: Love you guys, I hoped I I would pronounce it

848
00:45:49,800 --> 00:45:54,640
Speaker 1: correctly there could I hope I pronounced her right because

849
00:45:54,640 --> 00:45:57,200
Speaker 1: I remember we talked about it, and I don't remember

850
00:45:57,440 --> 00:46:01,600
Speaker 1: what I said the first but there's sent up they

851
00:46:02,360 --> 00:46:06,120
Speaker 1: Oh boy, let's see if she blocked this person and

852
00:46:06,320 --> 00:46:11,719
Speaker 1: called CBS it was to stay updates. I told her

853
00:46:11,760 --> 00:46:13,440
Speaker 1: that I didn't want her to bring her son over

854
00:46:13,520 --> 00:46:16,319
Speaker 1: anymore and that I thought it was manipulative and fed

855
00:46:16,400 --> 00:46:18,920
Speaker 1: up that she brought her son over despite me telling

856
00:46:18,920 --> 00:46:23,120
Speaker 1: her I wouldn't be home and that she endangered her

857
00:46:23,160 --> 00:46:25,840
Speaker 1: son because if my son was not home, then anything

858
00:46:25,840 --> 00:46:28,680
Speaker 1: could have happened to him. And I told her I

859
00:46:28,760 --> 00:46:31,279
Speaker 1: hated how she used God in order to guilt me

860
00:46:31,400 --> 00:46:34,680
Speaker 1: to say yes, oh yeah. And I also told her

861
00:46:34,680 --> 00:46:38,120
Speaker 1: that it is not my fault if she willingly endangers

862
00:46:38,120 --> 00:46:40,560
Speaker 1: her son, and I will take appropriate action if it

863
00:46:40,600 --> 00:46:42,960
Speaker 1: comes to it. And I finished it off by telling

864
00:46:42,960 --> 00:46:45,239
Speaker 1: her that God is watching and hearing her as well.

865
00:46:45,840 --> 00:46:47,920
Speaker 1: She then replied by telling me that she only is

866
00:46:47,960 --> 00:46:50,240
Speaker 1: one child and that I have more than one child,

867
00:46:50,320 --> 00:46:52,319
Speaker 1: and that I'm using that in order to hate her

868
00:46:52,360 --> 00:46:58,040
Speaker 1: and her son. What she's like, you have multiple children

869
00:46:58,120 --> 00:46:59,200
Speaker 1: and you're being mean.

870
00:46:59,040 --> 00:47:02,040
Speaker 2: To me, or now you hate us.

871
00:47:02,760 --> 00:47:06,480
Speaker 1: This logic none of her logic makes sense. Oh, he's like, sorry,

872
00:47:06,560 --> 00:47:10,239
Speaker 1: I'm out of town. She's like God doesn't like you

873
00:47:10,320 --> 00:47:13,279
Speaker 1: for that. God actually thinks you're weird for that. And

874
00:47:13,320 --> 00:47:16,440
Speaker 1: now he's like, I can't babysit your child. And she's like,

875
00:47:17,080 --> 00:47:19,560
Speaker 1: your being mean to me because you have multiple children.

876
00:47:19,680 --> 00:47:22,960
Speaker 1: I don't understand any of the logic here. And I

877
00:47:23,040 --> 00:47:26,160
Speaker 1: finished it off. Oh, and I also told her that

878
00:47:26,239 --> 00:47:29,359
Speaker 1: it is not my fault if she willingly endangers her son,

879
00:47:29,760 --> 00:47:32,200
Speaker 1: and I will take appropriate action if it comes to it.

880
00:47:32,640 --> 00:47:34,759
Speaker 1: And I finished it off by telling her that God

881
00:47:34,840 --> 00:47:36,759
Speaker 1: is watching and hearing her as well.

882
00:47:37,520 --> 00:47:38,000
Speaker 2: My drop.

883
00:47:39,320 --> 00:47:41,360
Speaker 1: She then replied by telling me that, oh, I already

884
00:47:41,360 --> 00:47:43,399
Speaker 1: said that. She then told me that I told her

885
00:47:43,520 --> 00:47:46,480
Speaker 1: a long time ago that her and her son could

886
00:47:46,480 --> 00:47:49,880
Speaker 1: come to my house any time, like I cann have

887
00:47:50,000 --> 00:47:52,560
Speaker 1: plans or things come up, and that it's my fault

888
00:47:52,600 --> 00:47:54,680
Speaker 1: that I want to help my family and that I

889
00:47:54,719 --> 00:47:57,080
Speaker 1: have to be available to her. Beckham Call twenty four

890
00:47:57,120 --> 00:48:03,080
Speaker 1: to seven. No matter what, This woman is delusional. She

891
00:48:03,120 --> 00:48:05,160
Speaker 1: then told me she sent my message to her family

892
00:48:05,200 --> 00:48:08,800
Speaker 1: who live in a different country to us, and I

893
00:48:09,239 --> 00:48:12,719
Speaker 1: uh to prove how unreasonable I'm being. She then told

894
00:48:12,760 --> 00:48:14,879
Speaker 1: me the message was me saying bad things about her

895
00:48:14,880 --> 00:48:18,000
Speaker 1: and her son and trying to gossip about them. That

896
00:48:18,280 --> 00:48:21,680
Speaker 1: was our last conversation. I have not talked to her since.

897
00:48:22,000 --> 00:48:27,160
Speaker 1: Thank God, I have zero problems with her child. I

898
00:48:27,239 --> 00:48:29,279
Speaker 1: just have a problem with her not respecting a no

899
00:48:29,520 --> 00:48:32,880
Speaker 1: when I already told her no, trying to gaslight and

900
00:48:32,920 --> 00:48:36,120
Speaker 1: guilt me into accepting her son coming to my house

901
00:48:36,160 --> 00:48:39,839
Speaker 1: when I have plans and edit. I forgot to add this,

902
00:48:39,960 --> 00:48:41,920
Speaker 1: but she also told me that I should basically be

903
00:48:42,000 --> 00:48:45,520
Speaker 1: a shamed to call myself a religious person after threatening

904
00:48:45,520 --> 00:48:47,680
Speaker 1: her and her son, and that God is watching my

905
00:48:47,760 --> 00:48:52,600
Speaker 1: heart against her and her son. This woman is lank

906
00:48:52,719 --> 00:48:57,480
Speaker 1: projecting sounds like projections so hard, so hard, and OPI

907
00:48:57,600 --> 00:49:02,120
Speaker 1: responds or Opia comments. I'm a big people pleaser and

908
00:49:02,200 --> 00:49:04,600
Speaker 1: I like to avoid confrontation when I can, But I

909
00:49:04,640 --> 00:49:07,480
Speaker 1: think sometimes you have to confront people this via text,

910
00:49:07,920 --> 00:49:14,040
Speaker 1: even if it may bro Yeah, sometimes you have to

911
00:49:14,080 --> 00:49:18,600
Speaker 1: set boundaries with your crazy neighbor friend who insists that

912
00:49:18,680 --> 00:49:22,680
Speaker 1: God needs you to watch your kids. Imagine using that

913
00:49:22,800 --> 00:49:25,360
Speaker 1: just for random things, being like actually God says that

914
00:49:25,440 --> 00:49:28,680
Speaker 1: you need to pick up my groceries. I'm sorry. I

915
00:49:28,680 --> 00:49:30,640
Speaker 1: don't make the rules. God, God said it.

916
00:49:31,880 --> 00:49:34,920
Speaker 2: I would. I should probably actually start doing it.

917
00:49:35,480 --> 00:49:38,000
Speaker 1: Gonna start, He's gonna come downstairs. He's like, Actually, Sophia,

918
00:49:38,120 --> 00:49:40,080
Speaker 1: God said, you have to set up the stream.

919
00:49:40,120 --> 00:49:47,400
Speaker 2: Sorry God, God doesn't want me to even Paris is

920
00:49:47,400 --> 00:49:47,920
Speaker 2: not working.

921
00:49:48,560 --> 00:49:53,960
Speaker 1: Sorry, guys, God said, God said, so I'm bad. J

922
00:49:54,200 --> 00:49:56,799
Speaker 1: Jersey said. A girl says, thank you for the two bags.

923
00:49:56,880 --> 00:50:02,839
Speaker 1: She says she is ding dong ditching our child. Yeah, well,

924
00:50:02,920 --> 00:50:07,680
Speaker 1: name Davey says. God says, it's my turn on the xbox. Hello,

925
00:50:07,760 --> 00:50:15,160
Speaker 1: wel oh boy, oh boy? Yeah, but can you do

926
00:50:15,239 --> 00:50:16,960
Speaker 1: we have another story that we can pull up? Yeah?

927
00:50:17,040 --> 00:50:17,239
Speaker 1: Is it?

928
00:50:17,520 --> 00:50:20,960
Speaker 2: Which one? Are we on?

929
00:50:20,440 --> 00:50:26,759
Speaker 1: Any six eighty seven right now? I just.

930
00:50:29,960 --> 00:50:30,800
Speaker 2: From another Mega?

931
00:50:33,600 --> 00:50:41,640
Speaker 1: Hello, well, bob up by let it down?

932
00:50:43,719 --> 00:50:43,759
Speaker 2: What?

933
00:50:45,000 --> 00:50:45,280
Speaker 1: Okay?

934
00:50:45,360 --> 00:50:45,520
Speaker 2: Cool?

935
00:50:46,880 --> 00:50:49,040
Speaker 1: Mm hmm, there it is, says. God says, I should

936
00:50:49,080 --> 00:50:50,600
Speaker 1: have your car hand over the keys.

937
00:50:53,040 --> 00:50:53,239
Speaker 2: Yeah.

938
00:50:53,480 --> 00:50:56,880
Speaker 1: I don't know if God says so, guys, that was

939
00:50:57,000 --> 00:51:01,000
Speaker 1: the rules. All right, let's get into this final story

940
00:51:02,040 --> 00:51:05,920
Speaker 1: and this is the final stream before we leave for Paris.

941
00:51:07,040 --> 00:51:11,919
Speaker 1: Next Yes, actually are when are we gonna be live again?

942
00:51:12,920 --> 00:51:15,319
Speaker 2: I can figure it out. Dude, we don't know when

943
00:51:15,400 --> 00:51:18,680
Speaker 2: we'll be live again. I'm gonna have to go live

944
00:51:18,719 --> 00:51:20,680
Speaker 2: on my thing until I figure this out.

945
00:51:20,719 --> 00:51:20,880
Speaker 1: You know.

946
00:51:22,480 --> 00:51:24,960
Speaker 2: I can't leave today until I figured this out. Okay,

947
00:51:25,320 --> 00:51:27,520
Speaker 2: I do have to go, but oh you're yeah, no,

948
00:51:27,640 --> 00:51:29,680
Speaker 2: this is my problem. You're just gonna You're just gonna.

949
00:51:29,440 --> 00:51:34,600
Speaker 1: Hang with Riley. Guys, Riley's gonna watch you. He's babysitting you.

950
00:51:34,800 --> 00:51:35,440
Speaker 1: I'm leaving you.

951
00:51:35,800 --> 00:51:38,080
Speaker 2: If I pop in the stream outside for a little bit,

952
00:51:38,120 --> 00:51:39,440
Speaker 2: would you guys join for a second.

953
00:51:39,600 --> 00:51:42,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, literally, just hang with Riley. It's like one of

954
00:51:42,960 --> 00:51:46,120
Speaker 1: those videos where someone leaves their dog or their baby

955
00:51:46,239 --> 00:51:49,520
Speaker 1: with like chat, you know, and they're like, can you

956
00:51:49,600 --> 00:51:52,160
Speaker 1: watch my dog for a bit? That's what That's what

957
00:51:52,280 --> 00:51:54,319
Speaker 1: you guys are doing with Riley. Can you watch Riley

958
00:51:54,360 --> 00:51:57,600
Speaker 1: for a second. Oh gosh, let's get into this last story. Though,

959
00:51:58,400 --> 00:52:01,840
Speaker 1: my fiance flipped out over my shirt smell. Now I

960
00:52:01,960 --> 00:52:06,200
Speaker 1: want to call off our wedding. Oo. My twenty five

961
00:52:06,280 --> 00:52:09,680
Speaker 1: male and my fiance twenty seven female have been together

962
00:52:09,960 --> 00:52:13,560
Speaker 1: for three years. No relationship is perfect, but I think

963
00:52:13,680 --> 00:52:19,200
Speaker 1: ours was pretty great until recently. Uh oh, By the way,

964
00:52:19,280 --> 00:52:21,399
Speaker 1: this comes from bad good brother on the r slash

965
00:52:21,440 --> 00:52:24,200
Speaker 1: okay storytime subreddit. So because that if you want to

966
00:52:24,360 --> 00:52:30,200
Speaker 1: share your stories. Yeah, She's very particular about things and

967
00:52:30,560 --> 00:52:34,080
Speaker 1: likes to live a very regimented lifestyle. For example, we

968
00:52:34,160 --> 00:52:39,080
Speaker 1: have spicy sleep every Tuesday and Saturday because she likes

969
00:52:39,160 --> 00:52:43,400
Speaker 1: to prepare for it as do. I wow, whatever works

970
00:52:43,440 --> 00:52:46,799
Speaker 1: for you. I really like this as it takes off

971
00:52:46,880 --> 00:52:48,920
Speaker 1: a lot of pressure and we both have a normal

972
00:52:49,000 --> 00:52:52,600
Speaker 1: libido and both our needs are being met. She also

973
00:52:52,880 --> 00:52:56,839
Speaker 1: hates surprises, hates them. She doesn't want me to buy

974
00:52:56,880 --> 00:53:00,800
Speaker 1: her gifts Birthday, Christmas, et cetera without her imp To

975
00:53:00,920 --> 00:53:03,680
Speaker 1: be clear, this is awesome as it eliminates a lot

976
00:53:03,760 --> 00:53:06,520
Speaker 1: of stress. Honestly, that sounds great because I'm not a

977
00:53:06,600 --> 00:53:07,279
Speaker 1: great gift giver.

978
00:53:07,800 --> 00:53:08,120
Speaker 2: I would.

979
00:53:08,239 --> 00:53:10,040
Speaker 1: I love when people tell me what they want.

980
00:53:10,200 --> 00:53:11,480
Speaker 2: Wait, how's my gift giving?

981
00:53:13,000 --> 00:53:14,520
Speaker 1: I think you're a gift giving is great?

982
00:53:15,480 --> 00:53:17,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, she didn't rate it a ten.

983
00:53:19,160 --> 00:53:22,719
Speaker 1: How was she? Yet? I really like this as it

984
00:53:22,800 --> 00:53:25,440
Speaker 1: takes off Oh I said this to be clear, This

985
00:53:25,560 --> 00:53:27,600
Speaker 1: is awesome as it eliminates a lot of stress. We

986
00:53:27,800 --> 00:53:32,160
Speaker 1: literally go shopping together for our gifts. Love it. There

987
00:53:32,560 --> 00:53:35,800
Speaker 1: have always been some things that really bother her about me,

988
00:53:37,040 --> 00:53:40,800
Speaker 1: bother her about me. Okay, for example, I'll wear jeans

989
00:53:40,880 --> 00:53:45,759
Speaker 1: twice before washing them. She thinks this is gross? What

990
00:53:46,600 --> 00:53:49,600
Speaker 1: and it kind of upsets her. I normally came into

991
00:53:49,680 --> 00:53:52,840
Speaker 1: her quirks for the sake of her happiness. You're actually,

992
00:53:53,560 --> 00:53:57,799
Speaker 1: I was, that's actually a lot of times. I mean,

993
00:53:57,840 --> 00:54:00,840
Speaker 1: that's like you're watching it too much. I think because

994
00:54:00,880 --> 00:54:05,399
Speaker 1: you're actually not supposed to wash your jeans. I think

995
00:54:05,400 --> 00:54:07,279
Speaker 1: you're supposed to wash them every couple.

996
00:54:08,480 --> 00:54:10,200
Speaker 2: A couple of weares because if you wear them too

997
00:54:10,280 --> 00:54:13,879
Speaker 2: much then the wash will be away. What. Sorry, I'm

998
00:54:13,920 --> 00:54:15,040
Speaker 2: just trying to be fashion ease.

999
00:54:15,520 --> 00:54:17,600
Speaker 1: No, I think you're I think you're supposed to wear them,

1000
00:54:17,719 --> 00:54:20,000
Speaker 1: like if they're actual true denim. I don't think you're

1001
00:54:20,000 --> 00:54:22,320
Speaker 1: supposed to wash them as much because it did like

1002
00:54:22,400 --> 00:54:23,440
Speaker 1: it's not good for the denim.

1003
00:54:23,680 --> 00:54:26,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, and the wash goes away if you got dark

1004
00:54:26,719 --> 00:54:26,960
Speaker 2: wash and.

1005
00:54:27,160 --> 00:54:33,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're just you're just rinsing. Yeah, two washes is Yeah,

1006
00:54:33,200 --> 00:54:39,160
Speaker 1: I think that's too much for jeans. Recently, she was

1007
00:54:39,200 --> 00:54:41,640
Speaker 1: shopping at a thrift store with some friends and found

1008
00:54:41,680 --> 00:54:43,239
Speaker 1: a shirt that she thought I would look good at.

1009
00:54:45,000 --> 00:54:47,360
Speaker 1: She thinks she sent me a photos of it, and

1010
00:54:47,440 --> 00:54:50,200
Speaker 1: after an absurd amount of discussion, she pulled the trigger

1011
00:54:50,320 --> 00:54:52,520
Speaker 1: and bought it. When she gave it to me, she

1012
00:54:52,680 --> 00:54:55,280
Speaker 1: told me to wash it before wearing it. I said okay,

1013
00:54:55,880 --> 00:54:58,319
Speaker 1: but wore it the next day anyway. It looked fine

1014
00:54:58,360 --> 00:55:01,120
Speaker 1: and smelled fine, so I wasn't workingorried about it. When

1015
00:55:01,160 --> 00:55:05,240
Speaker 1: I came home that evening she flipped out. Honestly, based

1016
00:55:05,280 --> 00:55:07,239
Speaker 1: on her reaction, she would have thought you would have

1017
00:55:07,280 --> 00:55:10,840
Speaker 1: thought I came home covered in feces. It was so extreme.

1018
00:55:11,840 --> 00:55:14,560
Speaker 1: She ended up spending the night at a friend's house

1019
00:55:15,000 --> 00:55:20,040
Speaker 1: and we went three effing days without talking. I think

1020
00:55:20,160 --> 00:55:24,000
Speaker 1: that she might have some kind of germ thing like

1021
00:55:24,239 --> 00:55:29,000
Speaker 1: it might be some kind of neurodiversions or really extreme

1022
00:55:29,239 --> 00:55:34,319
Speaker 1: aversion to germs, because this seems like a really cool name,

1023
00:55:34,360 --> 00:55:36,440
Speaker 1: Babe says, Yeah, this sounds like OCD more and more

1024
00:55:36,520 --> 00:55:39,120
Speaker 1: to me. I think there could be some you know,

1025
00:55:39,320 --> 00:55:42,239
Speaker 1: other thing going on, because this seems like a really

1026
00:55:42,280 --> 00:55:47,320
Speaker 1: extreme reaction. At the end of the third day, she

1027
00:55:47,480 --> 00:55:51,800
Speaker 1: returned home to apologize, while emphasizing how gross it was

1028
00:55:51,920 --> 00:55:54,319
Speaker 1: and that she wished she would just listen to her.

1029
00:55:55,120 --> 00:56:01,200
Speaker 1: Her apology seemed very half hearted. Now I'm wondering if

1030
00:56:01,200 --> 00:56:03,160
Speaker 1: I want to be with someone who is so uptight.

1031
00:56:03,800 --> 00:56:06,480
Speaker 1: I really do love her, but she does react strongly

1032
00:56:06,560 --> 00:56:09,640
Speaker 1: to minor things like this. Going three days without talking

1033
00:56:09,840 --> 00:56:14,239
Speaker 1: was too extreme. I'm very torn, weave. She'd already made

1034
00:56:14,280 --> 00:56:16,800
Speaker 1: a lot of preparations for the wedding and invites have

1035
00:56:16,960 --> 00:56:18,920
Speaker 1: been sent out, but I don't know what to do.

1036
00:56:19,440 --> 00:56:22,600
Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for leaning towards ending the relationship?

1037
00:56:23,880 --> 00:56:28,120
Speaker 1: Zorry Pistachios's contamination of ocd Avin says, also, it's really

1038
00:56:28,160 --> 00:56:31,759
Speaker 1: bad for the environment to oversh clothes. Nanoplastics often come

1039
00:56:31,920 --> 00:56:35,839
Speaker 1: from overwashed laundry because it breaks down her time. Lilly

1040
00:56:35,880 --> 00:56:37,960
Speaker 1: Pilly says, the whole point of not washing is because

1041
00:56:37,960 --> 00:56:40,600
Speaker 1: it's the same amount of bacteria, but now there are

1042
00:56:40,680 --> 00:56:45,960
Speaker 1: two lots. It is grossed it. I think, I mean, personally,

1043
00:56:46,120 --> 00:56:49,239
Speaker 1: I would wash stuff that came from, you know, a

1044
00:56:49,280 --> 00:56:52,080
Speaker 1: thrift store right away. But I don't think that is

1045
00:56:52,200 --> 00:56:54,279
Speaker 1: really the point here. I think it's the fact that

1046
00:56:54,440 --> 00:56:57,920
Speaker 1: she had a really extreme reaction and didn't talk to

1047
00:56:58,040 --> 00:57:01,120
Speaker 1: him for three days because because he didn't wash his shirt.

1048
00:57:01,640 --> 00:57:07,759
Speaker 2: Thought, Yes, she reacts, overreacts over the minor things. Maybe

1049
00:57:07,880 --> 00:57:10,560
Speaker 2: do some big things and see what she does. Maybe

1050
00:57:10,640 --> 00:57:13,319
Speaker 2: just cheat on her and if she doesn't react, then dude,

1051
00:57:13,640 --> 00:57:15,560
Speaker 2: just don't do mine her things. Just go big or

1052
00:57:15,640 --> 00:57:20,480
Speaker 2: go home every time. Great advice for Miley, this works, Hey,

1053
00:57:20,640 --> 00:57:21,840
Speaker 2: try it out, just shout out.

1054
00:57:22,320 --> 00:57:26,240
Speaker 1: I think that maybe see if she can go, you know,

1055
00:57:26,560 --> 00:57:32,880
Speaker 1: get like go to other airbus or like like see

1056
00:57:32,920 --> 00:57:35,480
Speaker 1: if we can find out if it is maybe OCD.

1057
00:57:38,040 --> 00:57:41,000
Speaker 1: I would have a conversation with her first before jumping

1058
00:57:41,120 --> 00:57:46,160
Speaker 1: to let's break up. Maybe yeah, maybe you have a conversation,

1059
00:57:46,320 --> 00:57:50,280
Speaker 1: maybe you see like, hey, uh, have you been tested

1060
00:57:50,360 --> 00:57:52,919
Speaker 1: for anything? Is there any way that we can kind

1061
00:57:52,960 --> 00:57:55,200
Speaker 1: of work through this because I feel like your reactions

1062
00:57:55,280 --> 00:57:57,640
Speaker 1: have been really extreme and you kind of ic me

1063
00:57:57,760 --> 00:58:01,960
Speaker 1: out and I don't appreciate that. Uh. And if that

1064
00:58:02,120 --> 00:58:04,280
Speaker 1: then doesn't work, if she's not receptively, he's like, no,

1065
00:58:04,400 --> 00:58:05,480
Speaker 1: I don't want to go I don't want to go

1066
00:58:05,520 --> 00:58:08,360
Speaker 1: to therapy. I don't want to do that. Then maybe

1067
00:58:08,800 --> 00:58:13,960
Speaker 1: you scale back. But I think conversation before m hmm, yeah,

1068
00:58:15,920 --> 00:58:17,560
Speaker 1: even says you're the a hole if you don't try

1069
00:58:17,600 --> 00:58:20,160
Speaker 1: to work through this first, Like she obviously therapy but

1070
00:58:20,360 --> 00:58:22,640
Speaker 1: not the ahle for thinking this isn't okay, which I

1071
00:58:22,800 --> 00:58:28,320
Speaker 1: think I agree with that, Sophia Colonne says, or maybe anxiety. Yeah,

1072
00:58:28,400 --> 00:58:29,880
Speaker 1: I think there are a couple of different things that

1073
00:58:29,960 --> 00:58:35,000
Speaker 1: it could be. Now I really want feedback. He's a

1074
00:58:35,040 --> 00:58:37,800
Speaker 1: good woman with a few overbearing quirks. Up until now,

1075
00:58:37,920 --> 00:58:40,360
Speaker 1: I've been fine with them at it. She's super sweet

1076
00:58:40,360 --> 00:58:42,479
Speaker 1: and nice. I love her a lot, but the last

1077
00:58:42,600 --> 00:58:46,240
Speaker 1: incident was an eye opener. It was so irrational. There

1078
00:58:46,320 --> 00:58:48,960
Speaker 1: is no way to cancel the wedding without ending the relationship.

1079
00:58:49,120 --> 00:58:51,800
Speaker 1: She would blow up, as would most people. Since people

1080
00:58:51,840 --> 00:58:55,600
Speaker 1: have asked, she doesn't want kids. And there is an update,

1081
00:58:57,760 --> 00:59:01,520
Speaker 1: but let's yeah, let's could we do a poll, therapy

1082
00:59:01,800 --> 00:59:09,200
Speaker 1: or breakup rerevorse? Yeah, Angry Jeesus says OCD is an

1083
00:59:09,320 --> 00:59:15,240
Speaker 1: anxiety based disorder. Yeah, I think that. Yeah, there could be.

1084
00:59:15,320 --> 00:59:17,600
Speaker 1: There's a lot of reasons. But let's get into this

1085
00:59:17,760 --> 00:59:24,800
Speaker 1: update while y'all do that poll update. Wait, oh, there's

1086
00:59:24,880 --> 00:59:25,720
Speaker 1: multiple updates.

1087
00:59:25,880 --> 00:59:26,320
Speaker 2: Oh not.

1088
00:59:27,080 --> 00:59:29,800
Speaker 1: A lot of people suggested that my fiance might be autistic.

1089
00:59:30,320 --> 00:59:32,760
Speaker 1: I hadn't considered that as I have a cousin who

1090
00:59:32,840 --> 00:59:36,439
Speaker 1: was autistic and he has nothing like my fiance. There's

1091
00:59:36,520 --> 00:59:38,720
Speaker 1: a lot of different Yeah, that's I don't think that

1092
00:59:38,880 --> 00:59:43,440
Speaker 1: is nothing necessarily, Yeah, this is spectrum, so I researched.

1093
00:59:43,880 --> 00:59:47,080
Speaker 1: So I researched it. And perhaps she might be a

1094
00:59:47,120 --> 00:59:50,080
Speaker 1: little bit autistic, if that's a thing. A lot of

1095
00:59:50,120 --> 00:59:54,440
Speaker 1: her issues are similar. Tbh's very inflexible on just about everything,

1096
00:59:54,520 --> 00:59:57,640
Speaker 1: and she gets very stressed out. For example, and this

1097
00:59:57,800 --> 01:00:02,720
Speaker 1: is silly. Nine pm is bedtime or she needs to

1098
01:00:02,760 --> 01:00:04,840
Speaker 1: be in bed at nine pm, and I need to

1099
01:00:04,880 --> 01:00:09,439
Speaker 1: be there with her, very stressed. If not, sometimes life

1100
01:00:09,520 --> 01:00:12,360
Speaker 1: happens and it's not possible. She can deal with this,

1101
01:00:12,640 --> 01:00:15,600
Speaker 1: but it wears her out. Dang out past midnight is

1102
01:00:15,680 --> 01:00:19,000
Speaker 1: impossible for her, simply doesn't happen, or she's going to

1103
01:00:19,040 --> 01:00:21,960
Speaker 1: be cranky or stressed. If she gets too stressed, she

1104
01:00:22,120 --> 01:00:25,720
Speaker 1: either starts crying or yelling or both. She only yells

1105
01:00:25,760 --> 01:00:28,360
Speaker 1: at me or family, but she'll break down crying anywhere.

1106
01:00:28,560 --> 01:00:31,760
Speaker 1: It seems like she gets over stimulated. Yes, this does

1107
01:00:31,840 --> 01:00:35,760
Speaker 1: sound like it could be autism. If she's like getting

1108
01:00:35,800 --> 01:00:40,320
Speaker 1: over stimulated. Everything has to be in its spot. If

1109
01:00:40,360 --> 01:00:42,840
Speaker 1: friends are over and place an aluminum can in the

1110
01:00:42,920 --> 01:00:45,200
Speaker 1: trash bin, she'll get up, take it out and place

1111
01:00:45,280 --> 01:00:47,640
Speaker 1: it in the recycling. Now, if I do it I

1112
01:00:47,720 --> 01:00:51,440
Speaker 1: get yelled at by Now everyone knows what her rules are.

1113
01:00:52,280 --> 01:00:54,320
Speaker 1: When the weather is on the news, her whole world

1114
01:00:54,400 --> 01:00:57,480
Speaker 1: disappears and she focuses on that make too much noise,

1115
01:00:57,560 --> 01:01:01,280
Speaker 1: and she gets upset when watching the weather. She's obsessed

1116
01:01:01,360 --> 01:01:04,000
Speaker 1: with weather reporting. She has three apps on her phone

1117
01:01:04,080 --> 01:01:07,960
Speaker 1: that she subscribes to for weather. Yes, she has like

1118
01:01:08,040 --> 01:01:11,400
Speaker 1: a hyperfixation, and this seems I think she should get tested.

1119
01:01:12,760 --> 01:01:15,120
Speaker 1: She cannot ever go to a concert because they are

1120
01:01:15,160 --> 01:01:21,360
Speaker 1: too loud. Another symptom, Yeah, over stimulation. Also, she hates

1121
01:01:21,440 --> 01:01:25,160
Speaker 1: wearing anything with a waistband over stimulation. Beloves music but

1122
01:01:25,280 --> 01:01:28,400
Speaker 1: listens to it on low volume. She wears dresses everywhere

1123
01:01:28,440 --> 01:01:31,360
Speaker 1: and goes commando when possible, only wears underwear when she's

1124
01:01:31,400 --> 01:01:34,320
Speaker 1: menstruating or if she's wearing a short dress, sleeps in

1125
01:01:34,360 --> 01:01:36,880
Speaker 1: the nude because she doesn't like to be cricted by clothes.

1126
01:01:37,240 --> 01:01:39,320
Speaker 1: There is a bunch of crap like that. I've always

1127
01:01:39,360 --> 01:01:44,600
Speaker 1: considered these weird things cute and funny. This like very

1128
01:01:44,720 --> 01:01:49,520
Speaker 1: much sounds like autism. Cool name Babe says, Wow, this

1129
01:01:49,680 --> 01:01:53,720
Speaker 1: is so textbook. It's ridiculous. Yeah, yeah, I think it's

1130
01:01:53,760 --> 01:01:56,360
Speaker 1: funny that he was like, no, way she could be

1131
01:01:56,760 --> 01:02:02,840
Speaker 1: she could have autism, and then was like, oh, maybe, yeah.

1132
01:02:03,040 --> 01:02:05,480
Speaker 2: We should all do some thinking. Maybe we should all

1133
01:02:05,560 --> 01:02:08,880
Speaker 2: reflect and look at our partners and ourselves and think

1134
01:02:08,920 --> 01:02:09,200
Speaker 2: about it.

1135
01:02:11,400 --> 01:02:12,520
Speaker 1: Are you thinking about it? Yeah?

1136
01:02:12,520 --> 01:02:13,200
Speaker 2: I think I might be.

1137
01:02:13,560 --> 01:02:13,920
Speaker 1: You might be.

1138
01:02:14,480 --> 01:02:17,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, I made the same breakfast for like two months straight.

1139
01:02:17,880 --> 01:02:21,400
Speaker 1: We could look into the symptoms out for you.

1140
01:02:22,080 --> 01:02:25,040
Speaker 2: You might haven't. I don't like rain noises at night.

1141
01:02:26,280 --> 01:02:30,360
Speaker 1: I think that I have ADHD, but you get both.

1142
01:02:31,400 --> 01:02:33,240
Speaker 1: I don't know. I haven't really looked. I haven't done

1143
01:02:33,520 --> 01:02:37,760
Speaker 1: any research on autism. I've done a lot of research

1144
01:02:37,800 --> 01:02:41,480
Speaker 1: on ADHD, so I don't want to make that claim.

1145
01:02:43,440 --> 01:02:46,320
Speaker 1: But let's continu She doesn't do any stimming, or she

1146
01:02:46,440 --> 01:02:48,720
Speaker 1: does do them rarely and tries to keep hidden. She

1147
01:02:48,840 --> 01:02:52,960
Speaker 1: might be masking if she's stressed. You'll occasionally rock slightly.

1148
01:02:53,440 --> 01:02:56,200
Speaker 1: We do have a rocking chair. She uses to relax

1149
01:02:56,280 --> 01:02:59,720
Speaker 1: it obviously. I don't know if this makes her autistic. However,

1150
01:03:00,240 --> 01:03:02,720
Speaker 1: otherwise she has a great personality, but she struggles with

1151
01:03:02,840 --> 01:03:07,440
Speaker 1: humor and sarcasm, often takes things literally. This is autism.

1152
01:03:08,120 --> 01:03:12,480
Speaker 1: He is just reciting autism. He's full of energy and

1153
01:03:12,560 --> 01:03:14,560
Speaker 1: can be the life of party. Of the party, and

1154
01:03:14,640 --> 01:03:17,160
Speaker 1: she makes friends with everyone. Everyone she meets is a

1155
01:03:17,240 --> 01:03:19,640
Speaker 1: future friend. I don't have to worry about her ever

1156
01:03:19,800 --> 01:03:22,840
Speaker 1: cheating on me because Tuesdays and Saturdays are spicy sleep

1157
01:03:22,920 --> 01:03:25,400
Speaker 1: day and only in her bed. But she can be

1158
01:03:25,480 --> 01:03:26,600
Speaker 1: freak when it's time.

1159
01:03:27,360 --> 01:03:27,840
Speaker 2: I like that.

1160
01:03:27,960 --> 01:03:31,440
Speaker 1: She's a huge nerd and gamer. Plus she has a

1161
01:03:31,480 --> 01:03:34,280
Speaker 1: great job in it field, and she can spend hours

1162
01:03:34,360 --> 01:03:39,080
Speaker 1: talking to dat she in fact, she's doing it right now.

1163
01:03:39,480 --> 01:03:42,600
Speaker 1: Lots of question about weather and weather history. It's funny

1164
01:03:42,640 --> 01:03:45,240
Speaker 1: and makes me smile for some reason. Sometimes she'll get

1165
01:03:45,240 --> 01:03:47,600
Speaker 1: obsessed with some other topic and it's hard to discuss

1166
01:03:47,640 --> 01:03:50,120
Speaker 1: anything else. I could go the rest of my life

1167
01:03:50,160 --> 01:03:52,080
Speaker 1: without talking about The Lord of the Rings again or

1168
01:03:52,120 --> 01:03:56,320
Speaker 1: the show Friends, which she will report watch on repeat. Okay,

1169
01:03:56,440 --> 01:03:59,080
Speaker 1: well I get that. I rewatch Lord of the Rings

1170
01:03:59,120 --> 01:04:04,880
Speaker 1: all the time. Courtybrady says, that's definitely stimming, regardless of autism,

1171
01:04:05,080 --> 01:04:07,920
Speaker 1: not Stella Davis's. The rocking is the form of dissociation

1172
01:04:08,080 --> 01:04:11,840
Speaker 1: to be compressed from being overwhelmed. Yeah, Mama sharks is

1173
01:04:11,920 --> 01:04:14,640
Speaker 1: how has no one ever mentioned this? That's That's what

1174
01:04:14,680 --> 01:04:19,600
Speaker 1: I'm talked about. Also, she is a trivia god, so

1175
01:04:19,720 --> 01:04:22,480
Speaker 1: we go out and do that a lot. I've had

1176
01:04:22,560 --> 01:04:24,760
Speaker 1: to build my life around her needs, but I've never

1177
01:04:24,880 --> 01:04:27,800
Speaker 1: minded it as we have some similar interest Twilight is

1178
01:04:27,880 --> 01:04:30,200
Speaker 1: not one of those interests. So I think she might

1179
01:04:30,280 --> 01:04:32,800
Speaker 1: be autistic to some degree, but not in the classic

1180
01:04:32,880 --> 01:04:37,080
Speaker 1: sense hand flapping noises. It seems like, oh, he just

1181
01:04:37,440 --> 01:04:42,680
Speaker 1: thinks of autism as like in like a person on

1182
01:04:42,960 --> 01:04:46,040
Speaker 1: like the far end of it, rather than someone who is,

1183
01:04:46,240 --> 01:04:51,000
Speaker 1: you know, like his girlfriend. And just yeah, it seems

1184
01:04:51,040 --> 01:04:53,080
Speaker 1: like he has a very stereotypical view of it and

1185
01:04:53,200 --> 01:04:56,120
Speaker 1: doesn't really see the whole spectrum that I can, which,

1186
01:04:56,160 --> 01:04:58,120
Speaker 1: you know, maybe he's just not educated and it's good

1187
01:04:58,120 --> 01:05:03,640
Speaker 1: that he's getting educated. Now. Edit, I'm lying in bed

1188
01:05:03,760 --> 01:05:08,000
Speaker 1: thinking how much I love this weird little woman. I'd

1189
01:05:08,080 --> 01:05:12,080
Speaker 1: like to believe that we can both make some necessary adjustments. Unfortunately,

1190
01:05:12,240 --> 01:05:14,800
Speaker 1: the clock is taking forwards the wedding date, and I'm

1191
01:05:14,880 --> 01:05:18,880
Speaker 1: still not certain what I should do. Definitely have a conversation.

1192
01:05:18,960 --> 01:05:20,400
Speaker 1: What was the poll, by the way.

1193
01:05:20,480 --> 01:05:22,320
Speaker 2: Uh, thirty five percent therapy.

1194
01:05:22,560 --> 01:05:25,200
Speaker 1: I think, yeah, I agree, I think this is It

1195
01:05:25,280 --> 01:05:28,520
Speaker 1: seems like she for sure has autism. Uh, And I

1196
01:05:28,600 --> 01:05:31,600
Speaker 1: think that oh, they just have to like and it

1197
01:05:31,640 --> 01:05:35,200
Speaker 1: seems like they up until now have found ways to

1198
01:05:37,080 --> 01:05:38,720
Speaker 1: you know, make it work and stuff and make sure

1199
01:05:38,760 --> 01:05:42,160
Speaker 1: that she's good with everything. So I feel like they

1200
01:05:42,160 --> 01:05:45,320
Speaker 1: could definitely work around this and you know, just make

1201
01:05:45,360 --> 01:05:48,480
Speaker 1: sure that he's watching stuff. And yeah, how did this

1202
01:05:48,680 --> 01:05:49,600
Speaker 1: dude end up with her?

1203
01:05:49,680 --> 01:05:54,600
Speaker 2: Though? Why you ask? Because he's oblivious to these things.

1204
01:05:54,800 --> 01:05:56,440
Speaker 2: How did he even pick up that she was flirting

1205
01:05:56,480 --> 01:05:56,760
Speaker 2: with him?

1206
01:05:57,120 --> 01:05:58,760
Speaker 1: Yeah? Maybe he was.

1207
01:05:58,840 --> 01:06:00,560
Speaker 2: I don't know how that happened.

1208
01:06:00,640 --> 01:06:04,960
Speaker 1: He seems like, yeah, he just seems very oblivious. Update

1209
01:06:05,000 --> 01:06:08,000
Speaker 1: two though, well she's now my ex fiance.

1210
01:06:09,640 --> 01:06:13,439
Speaker 2: What Oh, yes, the shirt smelled really bad?

1211
01:06:14,120 --> 01:06:19,000
Speaker 1: Ooh, yesterday my wife called me at work angry that

1212
01:06:19,080 --> 01:06:22,200
Speaker 1: there was a toothpaste splatter on the mirror. I have

1213
01:06:22,360 --> 01:06:25,000
Speaker 1: no doubt that this is true. I ended up hanging

1214
01:06:25,120 --> 01:06:27,360
Speaker 1: up on her after work. I told her that we

1215
01:06:27,480 --> 01:06:30,600
Speaker 1: needed to talk. She had already calmed down. I told

1216
01:06:30,600 --> 01:06:32,960
Speaker 1: her that she has some sort of undiagnosed issue and

1217
01:06:33,160 --> 01:06:35,920
Speaker 1: mentioned that she should be tested for oct or autism.

1218
01:06:38,640 --> 01:06:40,800
Speaker 1: I don't know how how do you think you would

1219
01:06:40,800 --> 01:06:44,160
Speaker 1: bring that up though, because I think that you have to.

1220
01:06:44,320 --> 01:06:46,560
Speaker 1: I think you have to bring it up like very gently,

1221
01:06:47,120 --> 01:06:49,200
Speaker 1: which it doesn't sound like, you know, we don't really

1222
01:06:49,280 --> 01:06:52,400
Speaker 1: know one way or another. How op kind of approached it?

1223
01:06:52,520 --> 01:06:55,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, hopefully did it? Well, who knows. Let's just assume

1224
01:06:55,360 --> 01:06:57,720
Speaker 2: you did, and if it doesn't work, probably again with

1225
01:06:57,800 --> 01:06:58,160
Speaker 2: a friend.

1226
01:06:59,200 --> 01:07:01,200
Speaker 1: She just told me to f off, and through my

1227
01:07:01,320 --> 01:07:04,240
Speaker 1: phone in the front yard for some reason, told me

1228
01:07:04,360 --> 01:07:06,200
Speaker 1: to get out of the apartment. I told her that

1229
01:07:06,520 --> 01:07:08,600
Speaker 1: I told her that I wasn't going anywhere and that

1230
01:07:08,720 --> 01:07:11,760
Speaker 1: we perhaps needed to postpone the marriage and work on

1231
01:07:11,840 --> 01:07:15,800
Speaker 1: our issues. She ended up grabbing some clothes clothes and leaving.

1232
01:07:16,080 --> 01:07:20,560
Speaker 1: I don't give a crap. I decided we were done,

1233
01:07:20,760 --> 01:07:22,440
Speaker 1: but wanted to give it a few days to think

1234
01:07:22,440 --> 01:07:25,080
Speaker 1: about it. Her mother called me to ask what had happened.

1235
01:07:25,280 --> 01:07:28,640
Speaker 1: Her parents are well aware of her temper. She said

1236
01:07:28,680 --> 01:07:31,160
Speaker 1: that X told her that I called her the R word,

1237
01:07:31,720 --> 01:07:34,520
Speaker 1: and apparently she canceled all of the wedding arrangements like

1238
01:07:34,600 --> 01:07:37,880
Speaker 1: the nut job that she is. Okay, well, don't damn

1239
01:07:38,720 --> 01:07:41,240
Speaker 1: follow that up. Was calling her a nut job. She

1240
01:07:41,400 --> 01:07:45,160
Speaker 1: also texted everyone to inform them we had broken up. Anyway,

1241
01:07:45,400 --> 01:07:47,480
Speaker 1: I was fine with this. I told her mother that

1242
01:07:47,600 --> 01:07:49,560
Speaker 1: I never called her the R word and that I

1243
01:07:49,760 --> 01:07:54,000
Speaker 1: suggested that she might be autistic. Her mother seemed mad

1244
01:07:54,040 --> 01:07:57,200
Speaker 1: at me for suggesting that, so that's probably it. I

1245
01:07:57,240 --> 01:07:59,200
Speaker 1: thought about blocking her, but I would like to talk

1246
01:07:59,360 --> 01:08:02,720
Speaker 1: first to a feally end things, hopefully amicably. I haven't

1247
01:08:02,760 --> 01:08:05,560
Speaker 1: heard from her, and edit. People claiming that this is

1248
01:08:05,600 --> 01:08:08,160
Speaker 1: my fault because of the tooth toothpaste are bonkers in

1249
01:08:08,240 --> 01:08:10,880
Speaker 1: my opinion. Edit too, I said I was fine with this,

1250
01:08:11,080 --> 01:08:13,120
Speaker 1: but only because it was the right decision. I am

1251
01:08:13,320 --> 01:08:16,840
Speaker 1: genuinely hurting right. The whole thing sucks DBH. I'm one

1252
01:08:16,960 --> 01:08:19,760
Speaker 1: hundred percent certain that she'll contact me and try to

1253
01:08:19,800 --> 01:08:22,360
Speaker 1: fix things. That's why I'm considering.

1254
01:08:24,280 --> 01:08:29,800
Speaker 2: Ooh, it looks good, and then it just yeah, it

1255
01:08:30,160 --> 01:08:31,080
Speaker 2: really spiraled.

1256
01:08:31,320 --> 01:08:35,840
Speaker 1: It really spirals. I think that it seems like, based

1257
01:08:35,880 --> 01:08:41,559
Speaker 1: off of when op that he suggested that her daughter

1258
01:08:41,640 --> 01:08:44,320
Speaker 1: might have autism and she reacted negatively, it seems like

1259
01:08:44,479 --> 01:08:49,000
Speaker 1: maybe in their family they have some negative connotations around

1260
01:08:49,040 --> 01:08:52,320
Speaker 1: autism and might be like, oh, we're not getting you

1261
01:08:52,439 --> 01:08:55,559
Speaker 1: tested because a lot of people have like, you know, uh,

1262
01:08:55,800 --> 01:08:59,160
Speaker 1: it's getting tested for autism and for you know, if

1263
01:08:59,200 --> 01:09:02,240
Speaker 1: you're neurodiver and uh, there's a lot of uh like

1264
01:09:02,360 --> 01:09:08,240
Speaker 1: stigmatization around that. Ah, So that be why she reacted

1265
01:09:08,240 --> 01:09:14,760
Speaker 1: pretty negatively. Yeah, but yeah, like I I don't know.

1266
01:09:14,960 --> 01:09:17,719
Speaker 1: I don't know if he reacted the best.

1267
01:09:18,040 --> 01:09:20,120
Speaker 2: Afterwards, he's probably done with it.

1268
01:09:20,520 --> 01:09:23,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know if there's much he can do

1269
01:09:23,240 --> 01:09:25,160
Speaker 1: until those I get tested.

1270
01:09:25,439 --> 01:09:28,920
Speaker 2: I didn't like his reaction, right reaction, Yeah didn't come

1271
01:09:28,920 --> 01:09:29,360
Speaker 2: out of love.

1272
01:09:29,400 --> 01:09:29,519
Speaker 1: Bro.

1273
01:09:30,520 --> 01:09:33,599
Speaker 2: Yeah, he's probably like super hard and he's like trying

1274
01:09:33,640 --> 01:09:34,479
Speaker 2: to play it off cool.

1275
01:09:34,640 --> 01:09:38,200
Speaker 1: I don't but I love Yeah, I don't love how

1276
01:09:38,240 --> 01:09:39,559
Speaker 1: he responded.

1277
01:09:39,640 --> 01:09:41,880
Speaker 2: He immediately played All Girls of the Same by Juice

1278
01:09:41,920 --> 01:09:43,600
Speaker 2: WRLD after this, I know it.

1279
01:09:44,920 --> 01:09:47,160
Speaker 1: Cool Name Babe says if the family also thought of

1280
01:09:47,240 --> 01:09:50,040
Speaker 1: autism the way Op he did, they're probably also bigoted

1281
01:09:50,080 --> 01:09:52,160
Speaker 1: in that way. Yeah, it seems like none of the

1282
01:09:52,240 --> 01:09:58,800
Speaker 1: family or OP was really informed on this. Slyly Tope says,

1283
01:09:58,840 --> 01:10:01,200
Speaker 1: so that family has called people the R word and

1284
01:10:01,280 --> 01:10:04,719
Speaker 1: she associates any mental condition with it. Yeah, and Stella

1285
01:10:04,760 --> 01:10:06,960
Speaker 1: Davis says the stigma is because people think we developed

1286
01:10:07,000 --> 01:10:13,080
Speaker 1: slower instead of developing differently. Backly Moe says, people don't

1287
01:10:13,120 --> 01:10:15,559
Speaker 1: like talking about autism because it's hereditary, so they need

1288
01:10:15,720 --> 01:10:21,800
Speaker 1: somebody else to be autistic as well in the family. Yeah, Yeah,

1289
01:10:21,840 --> 01:10:24,320
Speaker 1: this is it. Doesn't seem like this relationship is going

1290
01:10:24,360 --> 01:10:27,960
Speaker 1: in a good direction. Triciay says, Oh, he called her

1291
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Speaker 1: an able as slur. He's gross. I agree. I don't

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Speaker 1: like his reaction, but that is the end of this

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01:10:34,439 --> 01:10:37,120
Speaker 1: story and the end of the stream.

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Speaker 2: This is America. We're in America now.

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01:10:40,160 --> 01:10:43,960
Speaker 1: But we're going to be in Paris very soon, very soon,

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01:10:44,560 --> 01:10:45,040
Speaker 1: very soon.

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Speaker 2: I'll make sure to bring you guys with me.

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Speaker 1: Miss you so much.

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Speaker 2: I'm working really hard to bring you guys with me.

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01:10:50,280 --> 01:10:51,599
Speaker 1: Hopefully we'll see you soon.

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01:10:51,920 --> 01:10:52,800
Speaker 2: I will make it happen.

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01:10:53,960 --> 01:10:54,439
Speaker 1: I love you.

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01:10:54,720 --> 01:10:57,920
Speaker 2: I love every one of you individually and as a whole.

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01:10:58,479 --> 01:11:02,040
Speaker 1: I love you together and also as individuals.

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Speaker 2: As a forest entries.

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Speaker 1: All right, but if you love us, make sure to subscribe.

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01:11:07,720 --> 01:11:13,360
Speaker 1: Wait whoa wait, didn't we read that last donation? Oh no, sorry, okay,

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01:11:13,439 --> 01:11:15,559
Speaker 1: j Jake, Jersey Girl, thank you for the two bucks.

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Speaker 1: She is ding dong ditching her child. Okay, already. If

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Speaker 1: you love us, make sure to subscribe.

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Speaker 2: We love you and see it tomorrow.