1 00:00:00,400 --> 00:00:03,960 Speaker 1: I caught my boyfriend cheating on. 2 00:00:03,840 --> 00:00:07,440 Speaker 2: Me every day of the week before, visiting my. 3 00:00:07,520 --> 00:00:10,719 Speaker 1: Apartment every day of the week. 4 00:00:11,800 --> 00:00:13,960 Speaker 3: Wouldn't Yeah, you wouldn't have like cut it off for 5 00:00:14,000 --> 00:00:17,400 Speaker 3: the first time yet, So you're safe. 6 00:00:17,480 --> 00:00:19,239 Speaker 1: You know that he's definitely not doing though. 7 00:00:19,640 --> 00:00:22,400 Speaker 3: This is okop, the Home of the Craziest stories on Earth. 8 00:00:22,440 --> 00:00:24,720 Speaker 3: I'm Sam and Riley. Let's get into this story, so 9 00:00:25,040 --> 00:00:28,120 Speaker 3: Opie continues. I found out the day before I was 10 00:00:28,160 --> 00:00:30,800 Speaker 3: supposed to go to his hometown with them and meet 11 00:00:30,800 --> 00:00:33,080 Speaker 3: his mom. So I left them in the most epic 12 00:00:33,120 --> 00:00:36,200 Speaker 3: way and wrote a viral blog post. This happened quite 13 00:00:36,200 --> 00:00:38,159 Speaker 3: a few years ago. But rather than telling you the 14 00:00:38,200 --> 00:00:40,680 Speaker 3: whole story, it's probably better for you to google breaking 15 00:00:40,760 --> 00:00:43,320 Speaker 3: Up with the Cheater and you'll come across a medium 16 00:00:43,400 --> 00:00:45,880 Speaker 3: article called breaking up with a Cheater so they'll never 17 00:00:45,960 --> 00:00:48,159 Speaker 3: forget you. That is a true story of how I 18 00:00:48,159 --> 00:00:49,960 Speaker 3: broke up with my cheating ex boyfriend. This was back 19 00:00:49,960 --> 00:00:52,680 Speaker 3: in twenty sixteen, and that article has been shared and 20 00:00:52,720 --> 00:00:56,400 Speaker 3: read over one hundred thousand times. At that point, I 21 00:00:56,480 --> 00:00:58,120 Speaker 3: got the last laugh and I'm proud of that. 22 00:00:58,360 --> 00:00:58,800 Speaker 2: Oh. 23 00:00:58,840 --> 00:01:02,000 Speaker 3: By the way, my name is Sam. Bye now, Oh 24 00:01:02,040 --> 00:01:02,760 Speaker 3: it's right here. 25 00:01:03,040 --> 00:01:06,600 Speaker 1: Whoa, whoa, whoa breaking up with the shooter Sam? 26 00:01:06,680 --> 00:01:07,360 Speaker 2: How long is it? 27 00:01:07,520 --> 00:01:10,080 Speaker 1: Nineteen minute read? I mean we got to what we 28 00:01:10,160 --> 00:01:12,520 Speaker 1: call her? We read it in call her. That seems 29 00:01:12,560 --> 00:01:15,039 Speaker 1: like a read it then caller. I mean, honestly, I'm 30 00:01:15,040 --> 00:01:16,880 Speaker 1: all right, I'm kind of I'm kind of down. 31 00:01:16,959 --> 00:01:19,360 Speaker 3: We're gonna read this whole article and then we could 32 00:01:19,360 --> 00:01:21,640 Speaker 3: call her Sam, and then we're gonna call herky. 33 00:01:22,560 --> 00:01:22,760 Speaker 2: Hey. 34 00:01:22,959 --> 00:01:24,800 Speaker 3: We love when our fans are a little famous. 35 00:01:25,000 --> 00:01:26,600 Speaker 2: It's got a cool little famous fan. 36 00:01:27,120 --> 00:01:30,440 Speaker 3: All right, cool, let's read it. All right, let's read this. 37 00:01:30,640 --> 00:01:34,560 Speaker 3: I'm god, I'm pretty excited. So I've always hated that 38 00:01:34,640 --> 00:01:37,800 Speaker 3: my boyfriend and I lost things all the time, just keys, 39 00:01:37,880 --> 00:01:40,760 Speaker 3: phones and debit cards. We were scatterbrained and thought ten 40 00:01:40,840 --> 00:01:43,319 Speaker 3: thoughts at once and in a way that linked us together. 41 00:01:43,400 --> 00:01:46,280 Speaker 3: But this time it ended us and I couldn't be happier. 42 00:01:46,400 --> 00:01:46,920 Speaker 1: Ooh. 43 00:01:46,959 --> 00:01:48,760 Speaker 3: We'd been planning to go to New York City with 44 00:01:48,800 --> 00:01:51,440 Speaker 3: my ballroom dance partner that weekend. There was a dance 45 00:01:51,480 --> 00:01:54,080 Speaker 3: competition happening about five minutes from where he grew up. 46 00:01:54,120 --> 00:01:56,680 Speaker 3: So my partner and I were training for it intensely, 47 00:01:56,800 --> 00:01:59,000 Speaker 3: and it was getting excited about seeing the areas of 48 00:01:59,040 --> 00:02:01,320 Speaker 3: New York my boy friend grew up in. I'd only 49 00:02:01,360 --> 00:02:04,160 Speaker 3: been there three times, twice for choir in college and 50 00:02:04,200 --> 00:02:07,360 Speaker 3: once for a spontaneous romantic get away with someone else 51 00:02:07,400 --> 00:02:09,600 Speaker 3: I dated. Okay, So finally getting to see this place 52 00:02:09,639 --> 00:02:12,000 Speaker 3: through the boyfriend's eyes. Also kind of cute that they 53 00:02:12,080 --> 00:02:12,639 Speaker 3: danced together. 54 00:02:12,800 --> 00:02:15,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's cool. Would you want your wife to dance 55 00:02:15,720 --> 00:02:17,519 Speaker 1: with you? Like, yeah, yeah, I have a little set. 56 00:02:17,680 --> 00:02:18,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, I would go. 57 00:02:18,520 --> 00:02:20,679 Speaker 3: I would go dancing with my ex all the time. 58 00:02:20,720 --> 00:02:22,239 Speaker 3: We would go to like like where like we would 59 00:02:22,280 --> 00:02:25,560 Speaker 3: go to these dancing clubs where like they're all like 60 00:02:25,639 --> 00:02:27,800 Speaker 3: sixty and seventy and we would swing dance together. 61 00:02:27,840 --> 00:02:28,440 Speaker 2: It was really fun. 62 00:02:28,440 --> 00:02:30,519 Speaker 1: Please don't let that stop you from doing that with your. 63 00:02:30,480 --> 00:02:32,560 Speaker 3: No, No, I'm definitely gonna keep doing it. But I 64 00:02:32,639 --> 00:02:35,120 Speaker 3: was more excited to see his own life. He seemed 65 00:02:35,160 --> 00:02:37,560 Speaker 3: very lost in Boston since he moved a few months ago, 66 00:02:37,680 --> 00:02:39,800 Speaker 3: and he seemed to run back to New York any 67 00:02:39,919 --> 00:02:42,040 Speaker 3: chance he could. Why he's running back to New York 68 00:02:42,040 --> 00:02:44,880 Speaker 3: all the time? Sam, are you suspicious? 69 00:02:45,200 --> 00:02:47,560 Speaker 1: I see you, I see you, but I see maybe 70 00:02:47,600 --> 00:02:50,079 Speaker 1: a little rich who news? 71 00:02:50,200 --> 00:02:50,560 Speaker 2: All right? 72 00:02:50,800 --> 00:02:53,800 Speaker 3: So I enjoyed showing him around the city. I know 73 00:02:53,880 --> 00:02:56,400 Speaker 3: and love introducing him to my friends, which because of 74 00:02:56,400 --> 00:03:00,880 Speaker 3: his strong personality, he didn't always get along with. And 75 00:03:00,919 --> 00:03:03,160 Speaker 3: I still wanted to show him many more places in 76 00:03:03,200 --> 00:03:06,040 Speaker 3: the city when he wasn't so busy running back and 77 00:03:06,080 --> 00:03:09,280 Speaker 3: forth on the weekends for school work and seeing family 78 00:03:09,280 --> 00:03:11,200 Speaker 3: in New York. But we had been seeing each other 79 00:03:11,360 --> 00:03:13,280 Speaker 3: for months now, and I was going to meet the 80 00:03:13,320 --> 00:03:15,640 Speaker 3: people that were important to him. Even though he had 81 00:03:15,639 --> 00:03:17,280 Speaker 3: always treated me well when I was with him, I 82 00:03:17,320 --> 00:03:19,760 Speaker 3: was always curious to see how he was around his 83 00:03:19,880 --> 00:03:22,360 Speaker 3: close family and friends, you know, because the real test 84 00:03:22,440 --> 00:03:24,400 Speaker 3: of who a person is is like how they treat 85 00:03:24,440 --> 00:03:27,320 Speaker 3: the people that they should have a loving, caring bond with. 86 00:03:28,560 --> 00:03:31,720 Speaker 3: In addition, everything he showed me about Park Slope, Wow, 87 00:03:32,560 --> 00:03:35,120 Speaker 3: he's really calling out the neighborhood he grew up in 88 00:03:35,360 --> 00:03:38,680 Speaker 3: seemed absolutely gorgeous and dream like. I wanted to share 89 00:03:38,720 --> 00:03:42,520 Speaker 3: those cherish memories he had with him. Unfortunately, planning this 90 00:03:42,600 --> 00:03:44,880 Speaker 3: the week of was a little difficult because I stayed 91 00:03:44,880 --> 00:03:47,520 Speaker 3: over at his place on Tuesday night that week, and 92 00:03:47,600 --> 00:03:50,400 Speaker 3: sometime between us stopping at the liquor store and coming 93 00:03:50,440 --> 00:03:53,360 Speaker 3: back to his place, we misplaced his phone and we 94 00:03:53,400 --> 00:03:56,520 Speaker 3: couldn't find it in the morning, so Facebook messages was 95 00:03:56,560 --> 00:03:59,040 Speaker 3: our main communication, which was really hard since he didn't 96 00:03:59,080 --> 00:04:01,080 Speaker 3: have Wi Fi at his house. He was planning on 97 00:04:01,160 --> 00:04:03,720 Speaker 3: coming over on Thursday at five pm so we could 98 00:04:03,720 --> 00:04:05,960 Speaker 3: book the hotel for the weekend since none of his 99 00:04:05,960 --> 00:04:08,960 Speaker 3: family could let the three of us stay over. Interesting, 100 00:04:09,240 --> 00:04:11,720 Speaker 3: a little interesting, but I was getting excited for the 101 00:04:11,760 --> 00:04:14,960 Speaker 3: dance competition and for seeing the area he called home. 102 00:04:15,200 --> 00:04:17,480 Speaker 3: I needed to pick up some spray tan for the 103 00:04:17,560 --> 00:04:20,239 Speaker 3: Latin dance portion, so I drove to a beauty place 104 00:04:20,279 --> 00:04:22,279 Speaker 3: to pick up Is that what I guess? You have 105 00:04:22,360 --> 00:04:23,240 Speaker 3: to do a spray tan for the. 106 00:04:23,240 --> 00:04:24,800 Speaker 1: Last so she's into it. 107 00:04:24,920 --> 00:04:27,200 Speaker 3: When I found out they didn't have the brand that 108 00:04:27,320 --> 00:04:29,719 Speaker 3: my more experienced tanning friend told me to get for 109 00:04:29,760 --> 00:04:31,760 Speaker 3: this competition, I started driving home. 110 00:04:31,880 --> 00:04:32,599 Speaker 2: Darn as. 111 00:04:32,640 --> 00:04:35,360 Speaker 3: I started driving back home to regroup and figure out 112 00:04:35,360 --> 00:04:37,240 Speaker 3: what to do next. I needed a spray tan. I 113 00:04:37,240 --> 00:04:39,240 Speaker 3: had tan lines that would show my dress, and I 114 00:04:39,320 --> 00:04:42,480 Speaker 3: tried to logistically think through the tan. Perhaps I can 115 00:04:42,640 --> 00:04:45,599 Speaker 3: enlist my boyfriend's help with this by asking him to 116 00:04:45,640 --> 00:04:48,760 Speaker 3: scrub me down, examine my arms and legs for areas 117 00:04:48,760 --> 00:04:50,960 Speaker 3: of hair I forgot to shave down and then spray 118 00:04:51,040 --> 00:04:53,640 Speaker 3: tan me naked, you know, to avoid tand lines. 119 00:04:53,680 --> 00:04:54,239 Speaker 1: Wink wink. 120 00:04:54,520 --> 00:04:56,800 Speaker 3: He was planning on coming by at five, although he 121 00:04:56,880 --> 00:04:58,679 Speaker 3: is notorious for being lates. 122 00:04:58,920 --> 00:05:01,159 Speaker 1: M mind's he laid out late all the time. 123 00:05:02,040 --> 00:05:04,040 Speaker 3: I pull out my phone at the next red light 124 00:05:04,080 --> 00:05:07,440 Speaker 3: to Facebook message him this somewhat sexy but probably not 125 00:05:07,560 --> 00:05:12,680 Speaker 3: proposal and b three thirteen pm on Thursday, I hear 126 00:05:12,880 --> 00:05:15,200 Speaker 3: the phone buzzing somewhere in my car. 127 00:05:15,360 --> 00:05:16,839 Speaker 2: His phone. It's in my car. 128 00:05:16,960 --> 00:05:20,240 Speaker 3: He'll be so happy to know I found it. Good thing. 129 00:05:20,320 --> 00:05:22,159 Speaker 3: I'm just around the corner from home. The thing is 130 00:05:22,200 --> 00:05:24,760 Speaker 3: probably dying after two days, and I need to call 131 00:05:24,800 --> 00:05:27,600 Speaker 3: it one more time to find out exactly where it 132 00:05:27,680 --> 00:05:30,240 Speaker 3: is in my messy livin car. 133 00:05:30,640 --> 00:05:30,960 Speaker 2: It is. 134 00:05:31,320 --> 00:05:33,960 Speaker 3: I pulled into the driveway and called it. Sure enough, 135 00:05:34,120 --> 00:05:37,000 Speaker 3: it buzzed loudly under his seat. Of course, it fell 136 00:05:37,040 --> 00:05:39,279 Speaker 3: under the passenger's seat just enough so that it was 137 00:05:39,320 --> 00:05:41,760 Speaker 3: out of sight and just in time. The screen was 138 00:05:41,839 --> 00:05:43,960 Speaker 3: about to turn off. So it's a good thing. I 139 00:05:44,000 --> 00:05:47,799 Speaker 3: found it before it died and was significantly harder to find. 140 00:05:47,960 --> 00:05:50,080 Speaker 3: But it didn't turn off fast enough for me to 141 00:05:50,080 --> 00:05:54,799 Speaker 3: see the one thing that changed everything. Tender push notifications 142 00:05:54,960 --> 00:05:56,800 Speaker 3: two of them. 143 00:05:57,040 --> 00:05:59,640 Speaker 1: Yikes, you don't have Tinder when you have a dance partner. 144 00:05:59,760 --> 00:06:02,719 Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe he's just looking for dance partners to practice 145 00:06:02,720 --> 00:06:04,320 Speaker 3: with when she's not there. 146 00:06:04,400 --> 00:06:05,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, keep an open mind. 147 00:06:05,480 --> 00:06:07,800 Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, come on Tinders where you find all the 148 00:06:07,839 --> 00:06:08,839 Speaker 3: best dance partners. 149 00:06:08,880 --> 00:06:09,000 Speaker 2: Right. 150 00:06:09,080 --> 00:06:09,440 Speaker 1: Yeah. 151 00:06:09,480 --> 00:06:12,120 Speaker 3: They can dance, they can dance, they can shake it. 152 00:06:12,160 --> 00:06:12,640 Speaker 1: You can shake it. 153 00:06:12,640 --> 00:06:13,680 Speaker 2: I don't throw it down. 154 00:06:13,800 --> 00:06:14,480 Speaker 1: Never on Tinder. 155 00:06:14,839 --> 00:06:16,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, we don't like Tinder. We don't. Now. 156 00:06:16,880 --> 00:06:19,520 Speaker 3: My heart died a little along with his phone when 157 00:06:19,560 --> 00:06:22,960 Speaker 3: I saw that. No, there's no way he would do that. 158 00:06:23,040 --> 00:06:25,000 Speaker 3: I know he was on Tinder when we first met, 159 00:06:25,040 --> 00:06:28,600 Speaker 3: and he told me without me pushing for it several times, 160 00:06:28,720 --> 00:06:31,880 Speaker 3: most recently about two weeks ago, that he uninstalled it 161 00:06:32,040 --> 00:06:34,920 Speaker 3: from his phone. There's no way, so basically he said 162 00:06:34,920 --> 00:06:37,680 Speaker 3: he had uninstalled it, but alas he has not a 163 00:06:37,880 --> 00:06:43,360 Speaker 3: pet or el fuego translation, pants on fire. I must 164 00:06:43,360 --> 00:06:45,520 Speaker 3: be crazy. Maybe I just saw something that wasn't there. 165 00:06:45,560 --> 00:06:48,120 Speaker 3: Who knows. There's only one way. I put the phone 166 00:06:48,160 --> 00:06:51,360 Speaker 3: in my charger thank god he has a droid like mine, 167 00:06:51,400 --> 00:06:53,640 Speaker 3: and started driving so it could charge. I didn't know 168 00:06:53,680 --> 00:06:56,120 Speaker 3: where I was driving. I guess I figured if I 169 00:06:56,200 --> 00:06:58,480 Speaker 3: drove in circles in one direction, my head would stop 170 00:06:58,520 --> 00:07:01,120 Speaker 3: spinning in the opposite direction. But I just got more anxious. 171 00:07:01,240 --> 00:07:03,520 Speaker 3: I wanted to turn it on. Now, just verify that 172 00:07:03,560 --> 00:07:06,440 Speaker 3: the app isn't even on his phone. I just imagine 173 00:07:06,480 --> 00:07:09,279 Speaker 3: the push notifications that maybe he actually was just turning 174 00:07:09,320 --> 00:07:12,280 Speaker 3: girls down out of courtesy from before we were dating. 175 00:07:12,600 --> 00:07:15,640 Speaker 3: After all, he was the one that just insisted yesterday 176 00:07:15,640 --> 00:07:18,200 Speaker 3: that this is the happiest he has ever been in 177 00:07:18,240 --> 00:07:20,720 Speaker 3: a monogamous relationship, that why are you cheating? 178 00:07:20,760 --> 00:07:20,960 Speaker 2: Though? 179 00:07:22,320 --> 00:07:25,680 Speaker 3: Why I got Tinder on? There is quick quick break 180 00:07:25,800 --> 00:07:28,800 Speaker 3: in question. When you're dating someone and you see like 181 00:07:28,880 --> 00:07:31,480 Speaker 3: a notification from Tinder or something, is that kind of 182 00:07:31,480 --> 00:07:32,200 Speaker 3: a turn off from you? 183 00:07:32,760 --> 00:07:37,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, dating someone or like boyfriend girlfriend dating? No, because 184 00:07:37,200 --> 00:07:39,680 Speaker 1: I gotta like if we're not boyfriend girlfriend, I gotta 185 00:07:39,720 --> 00:07:40,480 Speaker 1: like close the bag. 186 00:07:40,720 --> 00:07:43,080 Speaker 3: Yeah, but I like I would turn off my like 187 00:07:43,160 --> 00:07:44,560 Speaker 3: if I was ever going on a dating someone, I 188 00:07:44,600 --> 00:07:46,560 Speaker 3: would turn off at the tender betterusions. 189 00:07:46,600 --> 00:07:48,120 Speaker 1: I have been on a few dates and like my 190 00:07:48,200 --> 00:07:50,760 Speaker 1: tender hinge all of a sudden, all of a sudd 191 00:07:51,360 --> 00:07:51,840 Speaker 1: pop off. 192 00:07:51,880 --> 00:07:54,600 Speaker 3: It's like it's a little like I feel like it. 193 00:07:54,600 --> 00:07:58,239 Speaker 3: It feels like a little rude almost when that happens, 194 00:07:58,720 --> 00:08:01,160 Speaker 3: that is a good question. I remember, like I was 195 00:08:01,320 --> 00:08:03,760 Speaker 3: it was maybe like two weeks to seeing this girl 196 00:08:04,040 --> 00:08:07,240 Speaker 3: I was seeing in Bali, and like her phone went 197 00:08:07,280 --> 00:08:11,520 Speaker 3: off and it was a tender notification. I'm like, because 198 00:08:11,560 --> 00:08:14,200 Speaker 3: I don't meet people through dating apps, so yeah, you know, 199 00:08:14,240 --> 00:08:15,280 Speaker 3: I still have dating apps. 200 00:08:15,280 --> 00:08:16,680 Speaker 1: So it is rude. 201 00:08:16,840 --> 00:08:18,800 Speaker 3: It feels a little rude. Feels a little rude, But 202 00:08:18,840 --> 00:08:21,360 Speaker 3: I would love to know your thoughts. It probably, like, really, 203 00:08:21,440 --> 00:08:23,600 Speaker 3: there should be no reason if you're not like official 204 00:08:23,680 --> 00:08:26,000 Speaker 3: and exclusive, So it's not really bad. It just feels 205 00:08:26,040 --> 00:08:27,720 Speaker 3: like it's like maybe the same as if you were 206 00:08:27,800 --> 00:08:30,960 Speaker 3: checking your phone during a day, you know. Anyway, I 207 00:08:31,080 --> 00:08:33,720 Speaker 3: just imagine the push notifications that maybe he actually was 208 00:08:33,800 --> 00:08:36,720 Speaker 3: just turning girls down out of courtesy from before we 209 00:08:36,720 --> 00:08:40,240 Speaker 3: were dating. Oh man, after all, he was the one 210 00:08:40,280 --> 00:08:42,679 Speaker 3: that just insisted yesterday that this is the happiest he 211 00:08:42,720 --> 00:08:45,080 Speaker 3: has ever been in a monogamous relationship. After all, he 212 00:08:45,200 --> 00:08:46,920 Speaker 3: calls me all the time when I'm not with him, 213 00:08:46,960 --> 00:08:50,280 Speaker 3: sometimes up to two or three hours a day. After all, 214 00:08:50,360 --> 00:08:52,600 Speaker 3: he taught me how to cook and encourage me towards 215 00:08:52,679 --> 00:08:54,840 Speaker 3: the dreams I have. After all, he told me he 216 00:08:54,920 --> 00:08:56,640 Speaker 3: loved me in the car on the way to the 217 00:08:56,640 --> 00:08:59,040 Speaker 3: grocery store, out of the blue, and he was completely 218 00:08:59,080 --> 00:09:01,079 Speaker 3: nerve wrecked that he did it because he meant it, 219 00:09:01,200 --> 00:09:03,000 Speaker 3: but he didn't want to say it so soon and 220 00:09:03,040 --> 00:09:05,600 Speaker 3: scare me away. Then the battery life hit five percent. 221 00:09:05,760 --> 00:09:07,600 Speaker 3: I pressed the button to turn on the phone. The 222 00:09:07,640 --> 00:09:12,000 Speaker 3: startup time was excruciatingly slow. It's okay, just breathe. You're 223 00:09:12,040 --> 00:09:13,840 Speaker 3: going to look through his apps, not even his messages 224 00:09:13,880 --> 00:09:16,040 Speaker 3: on everything. Just look to see if he has an app. 225 00:09:16,080 --> 00:09:18,000 Speaker 3: Once you see it's not there, you can calm down 226 00:09:18,000 --> 00:09:21,440 Speaker 3: and realize that you have your suite caring hilarious. I 227 00:09:21,480 --> 00:09:25,440 Speaker 3: found the app under t tender, lying, womanizing, a leeching 228 00:09:25,520 --> 00:09:28,760 Speaker 3: asshole you've had all along. I couldn't even pretend that 229 00:09:28,800 --> 00:09:30,760 Speaker 3: he just forgot to delete it because he got a 230 00:09:30,800 --> 00:09:33,800 Speaker 3: new phone a month ago. He had to purposely install 231 00:09:33,840 --> 00:09:37,160 Speaker 3: it for it to be on there. Maybe when he 232 00:09:37,440 --> 00:09:40,240 Speaker 3: was transferring the data over, it just downloaded all the 233 00:09:40,240 --> 00:09:43,199 Speaker 3: apps he had, which happens like when you get a 234 00:09:43,200 --> 00:09:45,280 Speaker 3: new iPhone, they just transfer all the phone apps. 235 00:09:45,440 --> 00:09:46,600 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, true? 236 00:09:46,880 --> 00:09:49,600 Speaker 3: Do I have a right to see what's on the app? 237 00:09:49,760 --> 00:09:54,719 Speaker 3: After a few seconds hesitation, I decided I did. Yeah, 238 00:09:54,760 --> 00:09:55,720 Speaker 3: what do you think, Riley? 239 00:09:55,800 --> 00:09:57,520 Speaker 1: Oh, one hundred percent. If you're like saying I love 240 00:09:57,520 --> 00:09:59,319 Speaker 1: you to someone, you have every ride in the book. 241 00:09:59,440 --> 00:10:03,320 Speaker 3: I feel seeing the notifications is fine, but I feel 242 00:10:03,360 --> 00:10:07,520 Speaker 3: like looking through someone's messages is almost never a good look. 243 00:10:07,720 --> 00:10:09,760 Speaker 3: It is a even if you have cause. 244 00:10:10,160 --> 00:10:12,599 Speaker 1: Yeah, because that's a road. Once you go down, you 245 00:10:12,640 --> 00:10:13,320 Speaker 1: can't go back. 246 00:10:13,600 --> 00:10:15,560 Speaker 3: Yeah, but I mean it seems like she did. The 247 00:10:15,679 --> 00:10:18,960 Speaker 3: road was already destroyed when she saw the messages because 248 00:10:19,000 --> 00:10:19,320 Speaker 3: he lied. 249 00:10:19,559 --> 00:10:20,079 Speaker 2: Yeah. 250 00:10:20,120 --> 00:10:22,320 Speaker 3: I know someone that is married and is on tender 251 00:10:22,400 --> 00:10:24,880 Speaker 3: and she literally just waits to get matches and for 252 00:10:25,000 --> 00:10:27,200 Speaker 3: men to tell her she's pretty, and then her confidence 253 00:10:27,200 --> 00:10:29,640 Speaker 3: gets bolstered enough that she closes the app and has 254 00:10:29,679 --> 00:10:32,200 Speaker 3: a lovely monogamous time with her husband, and her husband 255 00:10:32,240 --> 00:10:34,040 Speaker 3: is okay with that, which if he's okay with it, 256 00:10:34,040 --> 00:10:36,079 Speaker 3: then it's fine whatever. Surely, since I know, I don't 257 00:10:36,080 --> 00:10:37,880 Speaker 3: know if I would be ok it's not healthy. It's 258 00:10:37,880 --> 00:10:38,440 Speaker 3: not healthy. 259 00:10:38,640 --> 00:10:40,520 Speaker 1: You're like words of information, No. 260 00:10:40,600 --> 00:10:41,280 Speaker 2: Not at all. 261 00:10:41,440 --> 00:10:43,760 Speaker 3: Maybe your husband should be telling you you're pretty more. 262 00:10:43,840 --> 00:10:44,240 Speaker 2: I don't know. 263 00:10:44,440 --> 00:10:46,840 Speaker 3: Surely, since I know I don't give him nearly as 264 00:10:46,880 --> 00:10:49,240 Speaker 3: many compliments as he would like, since he's always fishing 265 00:10:49,240 --> 00:10:50,640 Speaker 3: for them, it could be a similar thing. 266 00:10:50,760 --> 00:10:52,680 Speaker 1: Oh, but men are not on the dating apps for 267 00:10:52,720 --> 00:10:55,280 Speaker 1: that reason. No, you're the dating ass for a whole 268 00:10:55,360 --> 00:10:55,880 Speaker 1: nother reason. 269 00:10:55,960 --> 00:11:00,240 Speaker 3: No, and OP says it most definitely was not a 270 00:11:00,280 --> 00:11:03,600 Speaker 3: similar thing. Based on what I saw, it looked like 271 00:11:03,679 --> 00:11:06,760 Speaker 3: he spoke and made a few conversational connections with girls 272 00:11:06,760 --> 00:11:09,840 Speaker 3: he talked to, gave them his number, saying it's easier 273 00:11:09,880 --> 00:11:13,480 Speaker 3: to text than unmatch them, presumably once they texted him. 274 00:11:13,559 --> 00:11:15,920 Speaker 3: Only three girls were on his tender and one of 275 00:11:15,960 --> 00:11:18,800 Speaker 3: them he had a conversation with. One other girl he 276 00:11:18,920 --> 00:11:21,200 Speaker 3: just matched with, and out of a little bit of spite, 277 00:11:21,280 --> 00:11:24,920 Speaker 3: I unmatched her for him. Freaking out, I texted my 278 00:11:25,000 --> 00:11:27,800 Speaker 3: friend what happened. She started responding to call me down. 279 00:11:27,960 --> 00:11:30,160 Speaker 3: At this point, I was still willing to see him 280 00:11:30,200 --> 00:11:32,480 Speaker 3: and have a civilized conversation with him about this, and 281 00:11:32,520 --> 00:11:34,760 Speaker 3: she agreed that it's healthy for me to do that 282 00:11:34,880 --> 00:11:37,680 Speaker 3: rather than hold it in like nothing happened. But here 283 00:11:38,160 --> 00:11:40,360 Speaker 3: I was faced with two ways to look at the 284 00:11:40,360 --> 00:11:44,280 Speaker 3: impending situation. Society's guilt trip of why are you going 285 00:11:44,360 --> 00:11:47,160 Speaker 3: through your boyfriend's prone don't you trust him? And the 286 00:11:47,200 --> 00:11:49,600 Speaker 3: girl power message of you have a reason too. You 287 00:11:49,640 --> 00:11:51,840 Speaker 3: saw a sign he might be cheating without looking for it, 288 00:11:51,880 --> 00:11:54,920 Speaker 3: and looked into it to confirm yourself that's one hundred 289 00:11:54,960 --> 00:11:57,120 Speaker 3: percent valid. It's kind of like what we talked about. 290 00:11:57,120 --> 00:11:59,040 Speaker 3: I think we talked about this in another story where 291 00:11:59,720 --> 00:12:02,600 Speaker 3: it's it's kind of like when the police have a 292 00:12:02,640 --> 00:12:05,360 Speaker 3: probable cause to enter a residence and then they enter. 293 00:12:05,559 --> 00:12:08,360 Speaker 3: It's like, if you're a police person, is a police 294 00:12:08,520 --> 00:12:11,600 Speaker 3: officer is not allowed to just bust into your house 295 00:12:12,040 --> 00:12:14,320 Speaker 3: without a warrant, But if the door is a jar 296 00:12:14,480 --> 00:12:17,520 Speaker 3: and they see like drugs or guns or whatever, or 297 00:12:17,559 --> 00:12:20,120 Speaker 3: like a murder, then they have probable cause to enter 298 00:12:20,160 --> 00:12:20,720 Speaker 3: the residence. 299 00:12:21,080 --> 00:12:23,360 Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, now hearing that again, I feel like you 300 00:12:23,360 --> 00:12:25,400 Speaker 1: can do that with phones, Like if you see a 301 00:12:25,480 --> 00:12:29,640 Speaker 1: notification that it's suspicious, you have probable cause to investigate. 302 00:12:29,720 --> 00:12:34,000 Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, I might add this as a asterisk to 303 00:12:34,040 --> 00:12:34,800 Speaker 3: what I said earlier. 304 00:12:34,960 --> 00:12:36,560 Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah, I like that. 305 00:12:36,800 --> 00:12:39,760 Speaker 3: I wrestled with both thoughts, two conflicting ideas that were 306 00:12:39,840 --> 00:12:42,080 Speaker 3: keeping me from going further down the rabbit hole. But 307 00:12:42,120 --> 00:12:44,079 Speaker 3: the fact of the matter is there are girls he's 308 00:12:44,120 --> 00:12:46,480 Speaker 3: giving his number out too and talking to I mean, 309 00:12:46,520 --> 00:12:48,560 Speaker 3: at this point though, It's like, I feel like this 310 00:12:48,679 --> 00:12:51,360 Speaker 3: is a deal breaker right here. Yeah, did I have 311 00:12:51,440 --> 00:12:53,679 Speaker 3: the courage to look through his messages and find out 312 00:12:53,840 --> 00:12:55,720 Speaker 3: if he had been meeting up with them. My hand 313 00:12:55,760 --> 00:12:58,120 Speaker 3: was shaking, I was taking deep breasts in. I don't 314 00:12:58,120 --> 00:12:59,680 Speaker 3: know if I have the courage to do it. I 315 00:12:59,679 --> 00:13:03,079 Speaker 3: saw hard staring at the ceiling of my car and blinked. 316 00:13:03,320 --> 00:13:05,840 Speaker 3: Then my hand shook enough for me to just press 317 00:13:06,040 --> 00:13:09,320 Speaker 3: it midhand tremor. My body made the choice for me 318 00:13:09,640 --> 00:13:12,600 Speaker 3: before my mind did. Three point fifty two PM that 319 00:13:12,720 --> 00:13:15,000 Speaker 3: was when I saw the messages from his best friend 320 00:13:15,160 --> 00:13:17,319 Speaker 3: from when they worked at the Empire State Building in 321 00:13:17,360 --> 00:13:19,960 Speaker 3: New York, just two days prior. I didn't even have 322 00:13:20,040 --> 00:13:21,920 Speaker 3: to scroll up to see them. They were just there. 323 00:13:22,080 --> 00:13:24,320 Speaker 3: He was bragging to his friend that on Monday he 324 00:13:24,360 --> 00:13:26,199 Speaker 3: slept with a girl he met on Tinder and then 325 00:13:26,280 --> 00:13:28,000 Speaker 3: came to my place to sleep with me. 326 00:13:29,880 --> 00:13:32,280 Speaker 2: So fucked that messed up. 327 00:13:32,559 --> 00:13:35,240 Speaker 3: And the fact that the friend is like just being like, yeah, dude, 328 00:13:35,240 --> 00:13:36,640 Speaker 3: that's sick, Like that's so bad. 329 00:13:37,120 --> 00:13:39,640 Speaker 2: Not a good guy, not a good guy. 330 00:13:39,760 --> 00:13:42,240 Speaker 3: I don't think like I've never had a friend brag 331 00:13:42,320 --> 00:13:43,560 Speaker 3: to me about cheating. 332 00:13:43,400 --> 00:13:45,640 Speaker 1: Youh good friends have you. 333 00:13:45,679 --> 00:13:47,280 Speaker 2: No, you have good friends. 334 00:13:47,520 --> 00:13:50,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't really have friends that have game like that. 335 00:13:52,679 --> 00:13:54,120 Speaker 1: Girlfriends they juggle. 336 00:13:54,360 --> 00:13:57,319 Speaker 3: Yeah, dude, I just I feel like it's just it 337 00:13:57,360 --> 00:13:58,560 Speaker 3: would just be too hard. 338 00:13:59,000 --> 00:14:01,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, when you're lover boys. 339 00:14:01,000 --> 00:14:02,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, we're lover boys. We're lover boys. 340 00:14:02,880 --> 00:14:05,040 Speaker 3: Just want to dedicate all our time to one lady, 341 00:14:05,400 --> 00:14:08,480 Speaker 3: you know, shower her with flowers, wow, and kisses, love 342 00:14:08,559 --> 00:14:12,360 Speaker 3: and music and visits to the zoo to see the manatees. 343 00:14:13,920 --> 00:14:18,000 Speaker 3: Oh dude, I didn't even so the spinning came to 344 00:14:18,000 --> 00:14:20,760 Speaker 3: a screeching halt. Nothing existed in that moment, not a 345 00:14:20,920 --> 00:14:23,040 Speaker 3: damn thing. The only thing that was in focus was 346 00:14:23,080 --> 00:14:25,840 Speaker 3: this message that revealed my greatest nightmares. And then it 347 00:14:25,880 --> 00:14:29,560 Speaker 3: disappeared briefly as my eyes swelled up, blurriness ensued, and 348 00:14:29,640 --> 00:14:32,040 Speaker 3: my mind was numb. Normally, I have ten thoughts going 349 00:14:32,120 --> 00:14:33,920 Speaker 3: in my head at once, but in this moment, nothing 350 00:14:33,920 --> 00:14:37,160 Speaker 3: in my head remotely resembled a language anyone could understand. 351 00:14:37,320 --> 00:14:39,080 Speaker 3: After a few minutes of feeling like I was in 352 00:14:39,120 --> 00:14:41,520 Speaker 3: a vegetable state, a few thoughts went through my head. 353 00:14:41,960 --> 00:14:45,480 Speaker 3: One my New York trip was now canceled. I'd be 354 00:14:45,520 --> 00:14:47,480 Speaker 3: an idiot if I went somewhere so close to his 355 00:14:47,560 --> 00:14:51,360 Speaker 3: very large family for a dance competition, Even especially with 356 00:14:51,440 --> 00:14:53,880 Speaker 3: what was about to happen with us next two, the 357 00:14:53,920 --> 00:14:57,440 Speaker 3: decision is easy here. I had told him several times 358 00:14:57,440 --> 00:15:00,400 Speaker 3: that cheating is one hundred percent an instant deal break 359 00:15:00,440 --> 00:15:02,320 Speaker 3: up for me. I catch you cheating, I don't even 360 00:15:02,360 --> 00:15:04,360 Speaker 3: have to say it, It's assumed we are done salag. 361 00:15:04,360 --> 00:15:06,080 Speaker 3: I didn't give him an out. I was open to 362 00:15:06,080 --> 00:15:08,320 Speaker 3: the idea of an open relationship and as being the 363 00:15:08,360 --> 00:15:10,640 Speaker 3: primary but he insisted that he didn't want to see 364 00:15:10,640 --> 00:15:14,520 Speaker 3: other girls. Yo. Wow, Why he chose this over that 365 00:15:14,560 --> 00:15:17,480 Speaker 3: situation is completely beyond me. Probably because he just wanted 366 00:15:17,560 --> 00:15:20,680 Speaker 3: to be one sided, one open. Yeah, but this made 367 00:15:20,720 --> 00:15:22,960 Speaker 3: it really easy to know what to do next. I 368 00:15:23,040 --> 00:15:26,520 Speaker 3: don't tolerate cheaters, no matter how good the sex is thing, 369 00:15:27,040 --> 00:15:29,000 Speaker 3: no matter what they teach me to cook, and no 370 00:15:29,080 --> 00:15:31,560 Speaker 3: matter how much they may try to beg and the 371 00:15:31,640 --> 00:15:34,240 Speaker 3: swifter and more straightforward I can be about this, the 372 00:15:34,280 --> 00:15:37,840 Speaker 3: better for both of us. Yeah, he's already humiliated himself 373 00:15:37,880 --> 00:15:40,160 Speaker 3: by getting found out, so he doesn't need to help 374 00:15:40,240 --> 00:15:42,760 Speaker 3: by ugly crying or trying to come up with a 375 00:15:42,840 --> 00:15:46,240 Speaker 3: pathetic excuse that even a dog wouldn't believe. There is 376 00:15:46,320 --> 00:15:51,160 Speaker 3: no explanation necessary here. It's simply over three. I need 377 00:15:51,160 --> 00:15:53,840 Speaker 3: to drink heavily with friends immediately after this ordeal is over. 378 00:15:53,960 --> 00:15:56,480 Speaker 3: As a strong, independent women I have, I have friends 379 00:15:56,480 --> 00:15:58,280 Speaker 3: that are drawn to me for my strength and will 380 00:15:58,280 --> 00:16:00,280 Speaker 3: want to make sure I'm mentally okay so I can 381 00:16:00,280 --> 00:16:01,760 Speaker 3: continue helping as many people. 382 00:16:01,520 --> 00:16:01,960 Speaker 2: As I can. 383 00:16:02,240 --> 00:16:05,760 Speaker 3: Nice and so the plan started. Four thirteen. I pull 384 00:16:05,800 --> 00:16:08,640 Speaker 3: into the driveway, I stop and text both of my roommates. 385 00:16:08,720 --> 00:16:10,480 Speaker 3: So I'm going to warn both of you I'm going 386 00:16:10,520 --> 00:16:13,440 Speaker 3: to have a really ugly breakup, and I expected to 387 00:16:13,480 --> 00:16:16,360 Speaker 3: start at five. I roll my eyes as I say this. 388 00:16:16,400 --> 00:16:18,720 Speaker 3: Though he was always late, so the likelihood of five 389 00:16:18,880 --> 00:16:21,120 Speaker 3: thirty or even six when he said he'd be there 390 00:16:21,120 --> 00:16:24,160 Speaker 3: at five was likely. Then I paused in reflection for 391 00:16:24,200 --> 00:16:26,520 Speaker 3: a moment. It made so much sense. Now, this is 392 00:16:26,560 --> 00:16:29,080 Speaker 3: why he would always come late. This is why he 393 00:16:29,160 --> 00:16:31,440 Speaker 3: told me to come by his place at seven. This 394 00:16:31,560 --> 00:16:33,520 Speaker 3: is why he didn't want me coming over without me 395 00:16:33,560 --> 00:16:36,160 Speaker 3: telling him. I opened his phone again and scrolled up 396 00:16:36,280 --> 00:16:39,800 Speaker 3: YEP confirmation he slept with girls right after work before 397 00:16:39,800 --> 00:16:41,760 Speaker 3: he saw me one weekend when I thought he was 398 00:16:41,800 --> 00:16:43,960 Speaker 3: away he spent it with a girl in her hotel 399 00:16:44,040 --> 00:16:46,320 Speaker 3: room and used all her holes. 400 00:16:46,480 --> 00:16:46,720 Speaker 2: Row. 401 00:16:47,200 --> 00:16:49,280 Speaker 3: My heart was in my stomach, and it felt like 402 00:16:49,320 --> 00:16:52,320 Speaker 3: a ticking time bomb that threatened to explode any minute. 403 00:16:52,360 --> 00:16:55,120 Speaker 3: I can't believe this never registered in my head. This 404 00:16:55,320 --> 00:16:57,560 Speaker 3: is the man, not a man, a man child I 405 00:16:57,600 --> 00:17:00,400 Speaker 3: thought was loyal and amazing, and he was everything I 406 00:17:00,440 --> 00:17:03,320 Speaker 3: wanted to get sick to remove this feeling. Instead, I 407 00:17:03,400 --> 00:17:06,080 Speaker 3: walked into my house my makeup bag in hand from 408 00:17:06,080 --> 00:17:08,400 Speaker 3: when I made up my face this morning. He passarly 409 00:17:08,440 --> 00:17:10,760 Speaker 3: in the car. One of my roommates was still home. 410 00:17:10,960 --> 00:17:13,040 Speaker 3: We never really got along until it was confirmed he 411 00:17:13,119 --> 00:17:14,639 Speaker 3: was moving out at the end of this month. For 412 00:17:14,680 --> 00:17:16,760 Speaker 3: some reason, he's been super nice to me. Now he 413 00:17:16,800 --> 00:17:19,280 Speaker 3: stares at me and says, did you see my message? 414 00:17:19,359 --> 00:17:21,600 Speaker 3: I look down at my phone. Sounds like an excellent 415 00:17:21,600 --> 00:17:23,600 Speaker 3: time to go for a walk and grab a cupcake 416 00:17:23,680 --> 00:17:25,879 Speaker 3: mix I've been hankering for. He was just trying to 417 00:17:25,880 --> 00:17:28,280 Speaker 3: make me laugh, but all I could say was the truth. 418 00:17:28,520 --> 00:17:30,840 Speaker 3: He's been cheating on me. I croaked ies, swelling up 419 00:17:30,920 --> 00:17:34,040 Speaker 3: with tears, threatening this bill. At least five girls this month, 420 00:17:34,119 --> 00:17:37,160 Speaker 3: and who knows how many before then. Since he lost 421 00:17:37,160 --> 00:17:40,560 Speaker 3: his phone rough. My roommate looked at me wide eyed, 422 00:17:40,800 --> 00:17:43,440 Speaker 3: let out a sad moan. Then eyes turned over with pity. 423 00:17:43,560 --> 00:17:46,600 Speaker 3: He stood up and outstretched his arms for me. Oh, 424 00:17:46,680 --> 00:17:49,480 Speaker 3: I'm sorry. Tears didn't fall, but I sobbed a few 425 00:17:49,520 --> 00:17:52,520 Speaker 3: times before saying, I just feel so stupid for not 426 00:17:52,560 --> 00:17:53,080 Speaker 3: seeing this. 427 00:17:53,280 --> 00:17:54,160 Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, no no. 428 00:17:54,200 --> 00:17:56,000 Speaker 3: This has nothing to do with you. He started shaking 429 00:17:56,000 --> 00:17:58,359 Speaker 3: his head. Nothing you hear me. It's nothing to do 430 00:17:58,440 --> 00:18:00,560 Speaker 3: with you and everything to do with him, which I 431 00:18:00,560 --> 00:18:02,840 Speaker 3: think is like, oh, that's great advice coming to the roomate. 432 00:18:03,000 --> 00:18:05,679 Speaker 3: Great advice. Who would have thought the roommate that my 433 00:18:05,760 --> 00:18:08,240 Speaker 3: boyfriend couldn't stand the past few months would be the 434 00:18:08,240 --> 00:18:11,880 Speaker 3: one to comfort me like this when that same boy 435 00:18:12,359 --> 00:18:16,200 Speaker 3: shattered my heart? Not me, that's for sure. I grab 436 00:18:16,280 --> 00:18:19,520 Speaker 3: my makeup bag. I want to look drop dead gorgeous 437 00:18:19,520 --> 00:18:22,560 Speaker 3: when I do this. My roommate clapped his hands approvingly. 438 00:18:22,760 --> 00:18:23,280 Speaker 2: Do it up. 439 00:18:23,400 --> 00:18:25,680 Speaker 3: I went to the bathroom here to wash my face down. 440 00:18:26,000 --> 00:18:28,480 Speaker 3: My foundation is going to be flawless, I think to myself. 441 00:18:28,480 --> 00:18:30,360 Speaker 3: I'm going to pick just the right shade of pink 442 00:18:30,359 --> 00:18:32,720 Speaker 3: for my lips. I'm going to use purple eyeshadow to 443 00:18:32,720 --> 00:18:34,919 Speaker 3: really bring them out an eyeliner, just the way he 444 00:18:35,040 --> 00:18:37,480 Speaker 3: likes it. I texted my friend I was messaging earlier 445 00:18:37,680 --> 00:18:40,359 Speaker 3: the newest installment, and she makes plans to see me 446 00:18:40,440 --> 00:18:43,439 Speaker 3: out in Harvard Square, ironically very close to where I 447 00:18:43,480 --> 00:18:46,879 Speaker 3: first met him. To recoup and comfort, I text another 448 00:18:46,920 --> 00:18:49,159 Speaker 3: friend of mine he really liked and wanted to have 449 00:18:49,200 --> 00:18:52,000 Speaker 3: a threesome with Ugh, and tell her to come out 450 00:18:52,000 --> 00:18:54,760 Speaker 3: with us because I really really need her comfort. She agrees, 451 00:18:54,760 --> 00:18:57,440 Speaker 3: without me telling her anything, I'll tell her in person. 452 00:18:57,720 --> 00:18:59,240 Speaker 2: I wonder if he hooked up with her. 453 00:18:59,320 --> 00:19:02,280 Speaker 1: That's ah, yeah, yeah, put it on, put on, put on. 454 00:19:02,400 --> 00:19:04,520 Speaker 3: Put my conspiracy as they may have hooked up. 455 00:19:04,760 --> 00:19:07,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, but let's see he gets around town. 456 00:19:07,600 --> 00:19:09,879 Speaker 3: I look at the messages his friend in him exchange. 457 00:19:10,160 --> 00:19:11,480 Speaker 2: Is he the only one that knew? 458 00:19:11,680 --> 00:19:14,199 Speaker 3: No, Because based on that conversation he talked to his 459 00:19:14,280 --> 00:19:16,919 Speaker 3: brother that fight he had with his older brother claimed 460 00:19:16,960 --> 00:19:19,520 Speaker 3: he grabbed my ass in public sometimes, and when his 461 00:19:19,560 --> 00:19:23,359 Speaker 3: brother reprimanded him, he brought up his transgressions of cheating 462 00:19:23,359 --> 00:19:25,960 Speaker 3: on his wife. No, the fight was his brother telling 463 00:19:26,040 --> 00:19:28,280 Speaker 3: him to stop cheating on me and be loyal. What 464 00:19:28,440 --> 00:19:30,560 Speaker 3: was the reason he gave to his friend, I'm young, 465 00:19:30,640 --> 00:19:33,520 Speaker 3: and I have a high sex drive. Who is this person? 466 00:19:33,880 --> 00:19:36,880 Speaker 3: I barely recognize him. He never struck me as a bro. 467 00:19:37,160 --> 00:19:39,960 Speaker 3: He always never said it and claimed that working in 468 00:19:40,000 --> 00:19:43,040 Speaker 3: a gym was an intellectual prison, but he seemed to 469 00:19:43,080 --> 00:19:45,560 Speaker 3: have no problem using bro at the end of every 470 00:19:45,600 --> 00:19:49,560 Speaker 3: other sentence with his friend M. I remember thinking, he'll 471 00:19:49,560 --> 00:19:51,480 Speaker 3: never forget how I look when I broke up with him. 472 00:19:51,520 --> 00:19:53,439 Speaker 3: If I took a picture of myself on his phone, 473 00:19:53,480 --> 00:19:55,120 Speaker 3: what if I sent it to his friend right now? 474 00:19:55,359 --> 00:19:58,000 Speaker 3: He is no way of finding out that I know already. 475 00:19:58,080 --> 00:20:01,160 Speaker 3: He's mid transit to my place without his phone, most 476 00:20:01,280 --> 00:20:04,160 Speaker 3: likely stopping to get his dick sucked along the way. 477 00:20:04,560 --> 00:20:09,440 Speaker 3: Oh there's pain in this, A lot of pain, great writer. Yeah, 478 00:20:09,480 --> 00:20:11,600 Speaker 3: I tried to get the lighting right in the bathroom, 479 00:20:11,640 --> 00:20:13,760 Speaker 3: and I put my hand up and gave a solid 480 00:20:14,080 --> 00:20:17,840 Speaker 3: middle finger next to my perfectly prime face before sending it, 481 00:20:17,880 --> 00:20:21,000 Speaker 3: I wrote in the caption, got caught bro sent if 482 00:20:21,080 --> 00:20:22,920 Speaker 3: nothing else when he talks to his friend, he can 483 00:20:22,960 --> 00:20:26,560 Speaker 3: look at my titillating, taunting face. Now for the plan 484 00:20:26,960 --> 00:20:30,000 Speaker 3: for the breakup, I thought how I wanted it to look. 485 00:20:30,280 --> 00:20:32,240 Speaker 3: While I grabbed the two pairs of his sweatpants I 486 00:20:32,240 --> 00:20:34,680 Speaker 3: had one pair of clean underwhere he left one time. 487 00:20:34,840 --> 00:20:38,000 Speaker 3: Arguably this was indirectly encouraging him to go sleep with 488 00:20:38,040 --> 00:20:40,800 Speaker 3: another girl immediately after all this happened. But I really 489 00:20:40,840 --> 00:20:43,080 Speaker 3: didn't give a shit what he did after he left, 490 00:20:43,080 --> 00:20:46,280 Speaker 3: as long as he didn't destroy property. The awful perfume 491 00:20:46,320 --> 00:20:48,520 Speaker 3: he gave me that spelled like my grandmother, and the 492 00:20:48,520 --> 00:20:51,640 Speaker 3: small gift of the Constitution on stained parchment I bought 493 00:20:51,680 --> 00:20:53,880 Speaker 3: him when it reminded me of him and his government 494 00:20:53,880 --> 00:20:56,639 Speaker 3: studies while I was looking through Cracker Peril's country store. 495 00:20:56,760 --> 00:21:00,640 Speaker 1: Oh wait, government studies, Why is that? Bro? That's a yeah, 496 00:21:00,880 --> 00:21:04,080 Speaker 1: the people that liked the government a lot, like Really, 497 00:21:04,240 --> 00:21:06,760 Speaker 1: it's low key. They're kind of weird. I've never known 498 00:21:06,960 --> 00:21:09,120 Speaker 1: about horse girl vibes. Just going to government. 499 00:21:09,240 --> 00:21:12,200 Speaker 3: I had no idea when I think of finance, when 500 00:21:12,200 --> 00:21:14,239 Speaker 3: I think of bro, I think like finance bro, or 501 00:21:14,280 --> 00:21:15,280 Speaker 3: like Econ Major, you know. 502 00:21:15,600 --> 00:21:15,800 Speaker 2: Yeah. 503 00:21:16,280 --> 00:21:19,359 Speaker 3: Anyway, I resisted the urge to write cheating horror on 504 00:21:19,400 --> 00:21:21,320 Speaker 3: the paper bag. If he saw it before I gave 505 00:21:21,320 --> 00:21:23,160 Speaker 3: it to him, he probably would have too much time 506 00:21:23,200 --> 00:21:25,119 Speaker 3: to prep himself and start the excuses. 507 00:21:25,359 --> 00:21:26,000 Speaker 2: I know better. 508 00:21:26,160 --> 00:21:28,800 Speaker 3: He lost any chance of a respectful conversation when he 509 00:21:28,840 --> 00:21:32,639 Speaker 3: decided to cheat on me over five times. But I 510 00:21:32,680 --> 00:21:34,520 Speaker 3: wasn't going to be the lady that screams and shouts 511 00:21:34,560 --> 00:21:36,360 Speaker 3: at him. I wasn't going to name call. I wasn't 512 00:21:36,400 --> 00:21:39,240 Speaker 3: going to cry or otherwise express with sadness how much 513 00:21:39,240 --> 00:21:41,480 Speaker 3: he actually hurt me. I wasn't going to punch him 514 00:21:41,600 --> 00:21:43,600 Speaker 3: or run him over with my car, no matter how 515 00:21:43,680 --> 00:21:46,200 Speaker 3: much I wanted to. No, I know if I did 516 00:21:46,240 --> 00:21:48,480 Speaker 3: any of that, he could just brush that off and 517 00:21:48,520 --> 00:21:51,359 Speaker 3: recover from that easily, because then he could position me 518 00:21:51,520 --> 00:21:52,399 Speaker 3: in his head as. 519 00:21:52,320 --> 00:21:52,960 Speaker 2: A crazy one. 520 00:21:53,000 --> 00:21:54,879 Speaker 3: The way I wanted to break up with him would 521 00:21:54,880 --> 00:21:57,720 Speaker 3: be much more memorable, and it would cut off any 522 00:21:57,800 --> 00:22:00,960 Speaker 3: chance that he has of recovering quickly if he clearly 523 00:22:01,040 --> 00:22:02,800 Speaker 3: knew this was wrong, and it would hurt me to 524 00:22:02,840 --> 00:22:05,159 Speaker 3: see this as evidence in his messages to his friend. 525 00:22:05,359 --> 00:22:07,359 Speaker 3: I was going to react in a way that would 526 00:22:07,400 --> 00:22:10,760 Speaker 3: stand out as the woman that took him down perfectly, 527 00:22:11,040 --> 00:22:13,399 Speaker 3: and that he was stupid to ever cheat on, because 528 00:22:13,440 --> 00:22:16,159 Speaker 3: no woman would ever react as calm and collected the 529 00:22:16,160 --> 00:22:18,679 Speaker 3: way I did. After he smashed my heart into the 530 00:22:18,760 --> 00:22:21,399 Speaker 3: floor repeatedly, I put on my high heels so he 531 00:22:21,400 --> 00:22:24,560 Speaker 3: could get a better look at my ass nice and 532 00:22:24,600 --> 00:22:26,560 Speaker 3: since I know he loved looking at it so much, 533 00:22:26,760 --> 00:22:30,920 Speaker 3: one last time before I leave his ass h five'. 534 00:22:31,040 --> 00:22:33,439 Speaker 3: Ten he's not here, yet he probably won't be for a. 535 00:22:33,480 --> 00:22:35,520 Speaker 3: WHILE i looked at the phone. Again he had one 536 00:22:35,680 --> 00:22:38,480 Speaker 3: good FRIEND i was really looking forward to. SEEING i 537 00:22:38,640 --> 00:22:40,760 Speaker 3: checked the messages he had with. Him they all seemed 538 00:22:40,760 --> 00:22:43,560 Speaker 3: innocent and, happy only talking about me and how HAPPY 539 00:22:43,560 --> 00:22:45,840 Speaker 3: i make. Him my heart agonized over this a. Little 540 00:22:46,040 --> 00:22:49,440 Speaker 3: clearly he wanted him to think he has been a better. 541 00:22:49,520 --> 00:22:52,720 Speaker 3: Man but even if this is, true he still hurt. 542 00:22:52,800 --> 00:22:55,080 Speaker 3: Me i'll have to tell him later On facebook what really, 543 00:22:55,119 --> 00:22:57,440 Speaker 3: happened BECAUSE i doubt he'll tell the. Truth his friend 544 00:22:57,480 --> 00:22:59,800 Speaker 3: would later respond in a, caring loving way towards, me 545 00:22:59,800 --> 00:23:02,560 Speaker 3: because he knows that it hurts and no one deserves that. 546 00:23:02,640 --> 00:23:05,560 Speaker 3: Pain but he'd still defend my. BOYFRIEND i, mean how 547 00:23:05,560 --> 00:23:06,159 Speaker 3: can you defend? 548 00:23:06,200 --> 00:23:06,320 Speaker 2: Him? 549 00:23:06,359 --> 00:23:08,479 Speaker 3: THOUGH i looked at his phone and see the message 550 00:23:08,600 --> 00:23:10,840 Speaker 3: he sent to other. Girls he even called some of 551 00:23:10,840 --> 00:23:15,359 Speaker 3: the Girls, freulian the name he gave me when he met. Me, 552 00:23:15,760 --> 00:23:17,880 Speaker 3: oh he told me it Was german for a young. 553 00:23:17,920 --> 00:23:21,679 Speaker 3: WOMAN i found out later from My german fluent friend 554 00:23:22,000 --> 00:23:27,200 Speaker 3: that was a condescending term equivalent to naive a little girl, that, 555 00:23:28,840 --> 00:23:32,400 Speaker 3: YEAH i. Know that's when it hit. Me these girls 556 00:23:32,760 --> 00:23:34,879 Speaker 3: have no idea what's going. ON i had not a 557 00:23:34,960 --> 00:23:37,760 Speaker 3: speck of anger towards any of. Them if, ANYTHING i was. 558 00:23:37,800 --> 00:23:40,640 Speaker 3: Worried he's clearly a predator and these girls are his. 559 00:23:40,720 --> 00:23:43,960 Speaker 3: Prey these girls think he's an, innocent, outspoken charming. MAN 560 00:23:44,040 --> 00:23:46,360 Speaker 3: i never got his test, results AND i didn't even 561 00:23:46,440 --> 00:23:49,000 Speaker 3: know if he was clean, still and neither did these. 562 00:23:49,040 --> 00:23:51,320 Speaker 3: Women they simply thought he was a single guy and 563 00:23:51,359 --> 00:23:53,840 Speaker 3: that didn't get to Explore boston much yet since he 564 00:23:53,920 --> 00:23:56,360 Speaker 3: moved here and he has a friend that got him 565 00:23:56,359 --> 00:24:00,360 Speaker 3: familiar with areas north Of. CAMBRIDGE. Ug SO i got 566 00:24:00,440 --> 00:24:03,040 Speaker 3: my notebook out and started writing all of their names 567 00:24:03,080 --> 00:24:05,600 Speaker 3: and numbers from his phone THAT i could identify as 568 00:24:05,640 --> 00:24:08,720 Speaker 3: even remotely possible that he slept with or interacted with 569 00:24:08,760 --> 00:24:10,960 Speaker 3: them on a romantic. LEVEL i text them in a 570 00:24:11,119 --> 00:24:13,720 Speaker 3: group the next day to tell THEM i was his 571 00:24:13,840 --> 00:24:17,840 Speaker 3: monogamous ex girlfriend that found out he was seeing all 572 00:24:17,880 --> 00:24:21,120 Speaker 3: of them while dating, me and that for medical, purposes 573 00:24:21,160 --> 00:24:23,439 Speaker 3: they should get tested as soon as possible if they 574 00:24:23,440 --> 00:24:25,080 Speaker 3: were ever with, him just to be. 575 00:24:25,160 --> 00:24:27,160 Speaker 1: Sure, OKAY i was about to be, like is that too? 576 00:24:27,280 --> 00:24:28,760 Speaker 1: Much too? Far she's thinking? 577 00:24:28,800 --> 00:24:31,639 Speaker 3: About she talks, About, yeah sexual, safety WHICH i think is. 578 00:24:31,680 --> 00:24:34,160 Speaker 1: Important, yeah, yeah how do you think about? 579 00:24:34,200 --> 00:24:37,439 Speaker 3: That their responses were loving and so apologetic THAT i 580 00:24:37,520 --> 00:24:39,800 Speaker 3: had to go through. This one girl never met him 581 00:24:39,800 --> 00:24:41,919 Speaker 3: but was going, to AND i saved her from a 582 00:24:41,920 --> 00:24:44,280 Speaker 3: lot of pain and remorse by telling her and helping 583 00:24:44,320 --> 00:24:47,320 Speaker 3: her decide to not see. Him she, said loyal and 584 00:24:47,400 --> 00:24:50,640 Speaker 3: kind men do. Exist you just have to keep. Searching good. Luck, 585 00:24:50,760 --> 00:24:53,040 Speaker 3: Ah and that made me feel a small amount of 586 00:24:53,080 --> 00:24:55,120 Speaker 3: hope for not just, me but other women as. 587 00:24:55,119 --> 00:24:56,200 Speaker 2: Well five point twenty. 588 00:24:56,240 --> 00:24:59,399 Speaker 3: Eight he rang my doorbell, showtime BUT i was hoping 589 00:24:59,400 --> 00:25:01,280 Speaker 3: to get a little bit more prepared for the, situation 590 00:25:01,359 --> 00:25:03,119 Speaker 3: SO i ran with. IT i slipped his phone in 591 00:25:03,119 --> 00:25:05,880 Speaker 3: my back pocket behind my phone SO i couldn't see 592 00:25:05,880 --> 00:25:07,639 Speaker 3: THAT i had already found. It as far as he, 593 00:25:07,720 --> 00:25:09,879 Speaker 3: knew it was still in my car and dead as a. 594 00:25:09,880 --> 00:25:12,480 Speaker 3: DOORNAIL i took my notebook with the girl's names and 595 00:25:12,600 --> 00:25:14,879 Speaker 3: numbers in one hand and the bag of his stuff 596 00:25:14,960 --> 00:25:17,000 Speaker 3: in the other, hand, and after checking in the mirror 597 00:25:17,000 --> 00:25:20,000 Speaker 3: to make sure everything fell into, place descended the stairs 598 00:25:20,200 --> 00:25:23,040 Speaker 3: to my back. Porch he was waiting at my front, 599 00:25:23,080 --> 00:25:25,800 Speaker 3: porch BUT i wouldn't let him get a chance to 600 00:25:25,840 --> 00:25:28,360 Speaker 3: get in my, house OR i knew he'd rain down 601 00:25:28,440 --> 00:25:30,760 Speaker 3: hell on. Me before, LEAVING i pretended not to see 602 00:25:30,800 --> 00:25:32,600 Speaker 3: him AS i opened my car door and put the 603 00:25:32,640 --> 00:25:34,760 Speaker 3: bag a notebook in. IT i made sure to lock 604 00:25:34,840 --> 00:25:37,199 Speaker 3: it quickly so he couldn't lunch for my. CAR i 605 00:25:37,240 --> 00:25:40,600 Speaker 3: turned around and saw. Him oh, HEY i, said flashing a, 606 00:25:40,600 --> 00:25:43,280 Speaker 3: smile trying to not a flicker of a clue crossed 607 00:25:43,280 --> 00:25:46,160 Speaker 3: my hazel, eyes as he always loved staring deep into 608 00:25:46,200 --> 00:25:48,399 Speaker 3: them and complimenting. Them he had mentioned that he was 609 00:25:48,440 --> 00:25:51,040 Speaker 3: bringing a surprise for, me but that got pushed out 610 00:25:51,080 --> 00:25:53,639 Speaker 3: of my mind WHEN i found out he cheated on 611 00:25:53,720 --> 00:25:57,520 Speaker 3: me enough times to have an effing freshman frat boy 612 00:25:57,720 --> 00:26:00,680 Speaker 3: orgy with all the people he cheated. With the packaging 613 00:26:00,720 --> 00:26:03,199 Speaker 3: looked like it Was thai, food probably, not since he 614 00:26:03,240 --> 00:26:05,240 Speaker 3: mentioned at one point thy food makes him, sick BUT 615 00:26:05,280 --> 00:26:07,080 Speaker 3: i never got to look to find out what kind 616 00:26:07,080 --> 00:26:09,560 Speaker 3: of food it. Was my one regret in this entire 617 00:26:09,640 --> 00:26:12,639 Speaker 3: master plan was not taking the food from him BEFORE 618 00:26:12,680 --> 00:26:15,679 Speaker 3: i set everything in. Motion, oh one last meal on his. 619 00:26:15,760 --> 00:26:18,240 Speaker 3: DIME i reached my car and tell him THAT i 620 00:26:18,320 --> 00:26:20,520 Speaker 3: meant to clean it out a little before he, arrived 621 00:26:20,520 --> 00:26:23,199 Speaker 3: since we'll be riding in it tomorrow after work To 622 00:26:23,240 --> 00:26:25,240 Speaker 3: New York. City BUT i really should pull it out 623 00:26:25,280 --> 00:26:27,560 Speaker 3: into the streets SO i can access everything. Better, okay 624 00:26:27,600 --> 00:26:29,600 Speaker 3: he said, Tightly but can you please just let me 625 00:26:29,720 --> 00:26:32,119 Speaker 3: check your car really quick for my. PHONE i really 626 00:26:32,160 --> 00:26:34,520 Speaker 3: need my. Phone if for some REASON i had any 627 00:26:34,560 --> 00:26:36,600 Speaker 3: benefit of the doubt for him up to this point 628 00:26:36,640 --> 00:26:39,679 Speaker 3: that he clearly did not, deserve it was eradicated in 629 00:26:39,800 --> 00:26:43,080 Speaker 3: reading his facial expressions as he said, this the titan, 630 00:26:43,160 --> 00:26:45,800 Speaker 3: jaw the panic in his narrowing of his, eyes and 631 00:26:45,840 --> 00:26:48,040 Speaker 3: a slight hand tremor as he stood on the gray 632 00:26:48,080 --> 00:26:51,680 Speaker 3: stairs to my front porch restraining himself from lunging at 633 00:26:51,720 --> 00:26:54,520 Speaker 3: my car to claw for his. Phone the only thing 634 00:26:54,560 --> 00:26:56,640 Speaker 3: that would have made this all better for me would 635 00:26:56,640 --> 00:26:59,200 Speaker 3: be if it was. Raining knowing WHAT i was about 636 00:26:59,240 --> 00:27:02,439 Speaker 3: to do, NEXT i got one good last look at 637 00:27:02,520 --> 00:27:05,600 Speaker 3: him in his cheap suit from his receptionist job at 638 00:27:05,600 --> 00:27:08,880 Speaker 3: a television, station his oversized, dress shoes that were probably 639 00:27:08,920 --> 00:27:12,480 Speaker 3: borrowed from his older, brother whom he all but, worshiped 640 00:27:12,560 --> 00:27:15,080 Speaker 3: that gorgeous jaw line of his that gave his face 641 00:27:15,160 --> 00:27:19,040 Speaker 3: a chisel to, perfection finish with his clear complexion and 642 00:27:19,080 --> 00:27:22,560 Speaker 3: those rich milk chocolate eyes that swallowed up woman's trusts 643 00:27:22,640 --> 00:27:26,000 Speaker 3: like a shark swallows. Fish, dang what a. Description man 644 00:27:26,040 --> 00:27:27,640 Speaker 3: sounds like a dreamboat in a bad. 645 00:27:27,680 --> 00:27:27,960 Speaker 2: Suit. 646 00:27:29,040 --> 00:27:32,760 Speaker 3: Today those EYES i fell in love with were clouded with. 647 00:27:32,840 --> 00:27:35,640 Speaker 3: Fear he was, attractive and he knew. It if only 648 00:27:35,680 --> 00:27:37,720 Speaker 3: he knew that being honest would have set him, free 649 00:27:37,840 --> 00:27:40,440 Speaker 3: made him more, attractive and given him even more happiness 650 00:27:40,440 --> 00:27:42,399 Speaker 3: than he was experiencing. Now he did not have a 651 00:27:42,440 --> 00:27:45,520 Speaker 3: single minute. CLUE i, said let me pull my car 652 00:27:45,560 --> 00:27:47,200 Speaker 3: out in the street. FIRST i can get at the 653 00:27:47,240 --> 00:27:49,240 Speaker 3: passenger's side a little better IF i do, THAT i 654 00:27:49,280 --> 00:27:52,160 Speaker 3: sweetly called. Him he took a breath, in appeared to hold, 655 00:27:52,160 --> 00:27:54,960 Speaker 3: in and slumped slightly onto the gray stairs before he 656 00:27:54,960 --> 00:27:57,359 Speaker 3: saw me pull out further down the street than he 657 00:27:57,400 --> 00:27:59,720 Speaker 3: probably FIGURED i. Would then he propped himself up a 658 00:27:59,760 --> 00:28:02,040 Speaker 3: little bit until he saw me. STOP i put my 659 00:28:02,160 --> 00:28:04,879 Speaker 3: car in, park my blinkers, on and reached for his 660 00:28:04,920 --> 00:28:07,320 Speaker 3: bag of STUFF i put in the passenger, seat trying 661 00:28:07,320 --> 00:28:09,600 Speaker 3: to look Like i'm looking for his. Phone he did 662 00:28:09,640 --> 00:28:12,600 Speaker 3: not rush any, faster just kept at his sauntering. PACE 663 00:28:12,760 --> 00:28:15,119 Speaker 3: i think at this point he had an idea of 664 00:28:15,160 --> 00:28:17,800 Speaker 3: what was going, on BUT i gave zero fs if he. 665 00:28:17,840 --> 00:28:21,760 Speaker 3: Did his house of cards was already crumbling into a foundationalist. 666 00:28:21,800 --> 00:28:24,520 Speaker 3: MESS i grabbed his phone out of my, pocket making 667 00:28:24,520 --> 00:28:26,879 Speaker 3: sure it was on the messages with his friend that 668 00:28:27,000 --> 00:28:29,600 Speaker 3: got him red handed in the first. PLACE i placed 669 00:28:29,680 --> 00:28:31,800 Speaker 3: in the top of the bag and rolled down my 670 00:28:31,960 --> 00:28:35,640 Speaker 3: driver's side. Window hey found your, PHONE i, said continuing 671 00:28:35,680 --> 00:28:37,720 Speaker 3: to be as sweet as can. BE i figured IF 672 00:28:37,760 --> 00:28:40,800 Speaker 3: i kept this same even and loving, tone it would 673 00:28:40,880 --> 00:28:43,080 Speaker 3: hurt him. More knowing THAT i was killing him with. 674 00:28:43,160 --> 00:28:47,960 Speaker 3: Cards his pace quickened just. Slightly, yeah where is? It he, 675 00:28:48,000 --> 00:28:50,400 Speaker 3: said his head perked up just. SLIGHTLY i wasn't sure 676 00:28:50,400 --> 00:28:52,720 Speaker 3: if he was nervous or, relieved BUT i didn't really 677 00:28:52,760 --> 00:28:57,200 Speaker 3: care either. Way the next few actions happened very. Quickly 678 00:28:57,320 --> 00:28:59,080 Speaker 3: it's on top of this bag, HERE i called to, 679 00:28:59,160 --> 00:29:01,960 Speaker 3: him still as sugar, coated loving as, ever ALTHOUGH i 680 00:29:02,040 --> 00:29:04,720 Speaker 3: was starting to sicken myself from manipulating this demeanor with 681 00:29:04,800 --> 00:29:05,720 Speaker 3: this filthy. 682 00:29:05,800 --> 00:29:07,080 Speaker 2: FRAUD i pulled the. 683 00:29:07,040 --> 00:29:09,200 Speaker 3: Bag out of the driver's side window so as to 684 00:29:09,240 --> 00:29:11,400 Speaker 3: hang it slightly out of the. Window he came up 685 00:29:11,440 --> 00:29:13,680 Speaker 3: and took the. Bag he said, nothing but reached for 686 00:29:13,720 --> 00:29:16,680 Speaker 3: the phone before he could even look at what. 687 00:29:16,680 --> 00:29:16,960 Speaker 2: Was on the. 688 00:29:17,000 --> 00:29:19,080 Speaker 3: PHONE i put my car and drive and turned my 689 00:29:19,120 --> 00:29:22,160 Speaker 3: wheels towards the street away from. HIM i smiled cutely 690 00:29:22,200 --> 00:29:25,640 Speaker 3: again to, him sugar coated toxic oozing for my next. 691 00:29:25,680 --> 00:29:28,920 Speaker 3: Actions he looked up briefly just BEFORE i smiled and 692 00:29:28,960 --> 00:29:32,719 Speaker 3: said my kind piercing departing words and drove away fast 693 00:29:32,840 --> 00:29:34,680 Speaker 3: enough for him to not be able to catch me 694 00:29:34,840 --> 00:29:36,840 Speaker 3: AS i drove to a bar with my two girlfriends 695 00:29:36,880 --> 00:29:38,960 Speaker 3: that were waiting for me to drink my weight and 696 00:29:39,040 --> 00:29:42,080 Speaker 3: wine while they supervised don't ever come. 697 00:29:42,120 --> 00:29:47,720 Speaker 1: Back, wow that's. Crazy, wow my heart was. 698 00:29:47,800 --> 00:29:51,360 Speaker 3: Racing well, written And sam, LIKE i kind of want 699 00:29:51,400 --> 00:29:53,440 Speaker 3: to know if there was if he like reached out 700 00:29:53,480 --> 00:29:56,560 Speaker 3: to you, yo or if there was any fallout or, 701 00:29:56,640 --> 00:29:59,680 Speaker 3: like did you learn? More and the thing is we 702 00:29:59,800 --> 00:30:03,240 Speaker 3: might be able to because it's part of The okay. 703 00:30:03,280 --> 00:30:05,760 Speaker 3: Family and, UH i think we can call her right. 704 00:30:05,800 --> 00:30:07,680 Speaker 1: Now all, right we'll do. It we'll see if she picks, up. 705 00:30:12,320 --> 00:30:14,440 Speaker 3: If she's In. Boston it's like midnight. 706 00:30:14,480 --> 00:30:16,880 Speaker 1: There, OH i forgot about. 707 00:30:16,920 --> 00:30:21,960 Speaker 2: That either you have reached, seven we'll call. 708 00:30:21,880 --> 00:30:25,480 Speaker 3: Her one more, time fingers, Crossed please be, up please 709 00:30:25,480 --> 00:30:25,880 Speaker 3: be in night. 710 00:30:25,920 --> 00:30:27,960 Speaker 1: NOW i don't think. 711 00:30:28,000 --> 00:30:30,640 Speaker 2: So twelve, Thirty, yeah it's twelve thirty And. 712 00:30:31,560 --> 00:30:34,760 Speaker 3: Tuesday she's probably responsible. 713 00:30:35,480 --> 00:30:35,720 Speaker 1: Either. 714 00:30:38,760 --> 00:30:41,520 Speaker 3: Dang oh, Well, sam we wish we could have talked to. 715 00:30:41,520 --> 00:30:45,080 Speaker 3: You we are going a little late, tonight but uh, 716 00:30:46,040 --> 00:30:49,760 Speaker 3: hey maybe we can talk to you later in another episode. 717 00:30:49,400 --> 00:30:53,120 Speaker 2: Perhaps BUT i, MEAN i feel Like. 718 00:30:53,240 --> 00:30:57,800 Speaker 3: Sam just ended the relationship in the most like beautiful 719 00:30:57,880 --> 00:31:02,800 Speaker 3: revenge way if, possible with being kind, Too like never 720 00:31:03,240 --> 00:31:06,320 Speaker 3: really was what did any cheap shots or? 721 00:31:06,360 --> 00:31:08,320 Speaker 2: ANYTHING i, mean maybe maybe the. 722 00:31:08,240 --> 00:31:10,600 Speaker 3: Only cheap shot was the sending the message to the 723 00:31:10,640 --> 00:31:15,920 Speaker 3: guy with the middle, finger but, mild, mild, MILDLY i 724 00:31:15,960 --> 00:31:17,200 Speaker 3: feel like everything was pretty. 725 00:31:17,200 --> 00:31:20,440 Speaker 1: Deserved, yeah, yeah good for, You, Sam good for, You. 726 00:31:20,560 --> 00:31:24,320 Speaker 3: Sam you really like it was well thought out and and, 727 00:31:24,600 --> 00:31:27,760 Speaker 3: yeah like it was like you stuck It, tim but with, 728 00:31:27,960 --> 00:31:29,960 Speaker 3: kindness WHICH i think is the best way to do. 729 00:31:30,000 --> 00:31:31,400 Speaker 2: It but what did you? 730 00:31:31,400 --> 00:31:33,400 Speaker 3: THINK i would love to know in the comments what 731 00:31:33,440 --> 00:31:35,160 Speaker 3: you thought of this? Story we loved hearing. 732 00:31:35,160 --> 00:31:35,280 Speaker 1: It. 733 00:31:36,200 --> 00:31:38,479 Speaker 3: Sam hopefully we can talk to you. Soon and with, 734 00:31:38,520 --> 00:31:41,880 Speaker 3: that if you love, us make sure to. Subscribe we love. 735 00:31:41,960 --> 00:31:43,120 Speaker 2: You see it. 736 00:31:43,160 --> 00:31:43,720 Speaker 1: Tomorrow