1 00:00:00,800 --> 00:00:03,520 Speaker 1: All right, time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if 2 00:00:03,560 --> 00:00:07,440 Speaker 1: you need advice on relationships, on dating, sex, work, parenting, 3 00:00:07,480 --> 00:00:11,360 Speaker 1: and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM 4 00:00:11,440 --> 00:00:15,280 Speaker 1: dot com and click submit Strawberry a letter. 5 00:00:15,480 --> 00:00:17,119 Speaker 2: All right, we could be reading your. 6 00:00:17,079 --> 00:00:19,000 Speaker 1: Letter live on the air, just like we're going to 7 00:00:19,079 --> 00:00:21,200 Speaker 1: read this one right here, right now. 8 00:00:21,440 --> 00:00:24,520 Speaker 3: Yeah, buckle up, hold on tight, We got it for you. 9 00:00:24,600 --> 00:00:26,599 Speaker 2: Here. It is the Strawberry Letter. 10 00:00:26,800 --> 00:00:30,960 Speaker 1: Subject I don't mind working over time. Dear Stephen Shirley. 11 00:00:31,120 --> 00:00:33,479 Speaker 1: I am a twenty nine year old single woman with 12 00:00:33,600 --> 00:00:34,879 Speaker 1: a great job. 13 00:00:35,800 --> 00:00:37,479 Speaker 2: But I have an issue with a co worker. 14 00:00:37,920 --> 00:00:39,880 Speaker 1: I went to a local bar a couple of weeks 15 00:00:39,880 --> 00:00:42,600 Speaker 1: ago and had a few drinks. I noticed a man 16 00:00:42,640 --> 00:00:45,000 Speaker 1: and a woman in the corner cuddling, and I didn't 17 00:00:45,000 --> 00:00:48,159 Speaker 1: think anything of it at all at first. Later on, 18 00:00:48,240 --> 00:00:50,280 Speaker 1: I went to the bathroom and passed a couple and 19 00:00:50,320 --> 00:00:53,680 Speaker 1: realized it was two of my coworkers in the corner. 20 00:00:54,000 --> 00:00:54,720 Speaker 2: Bowed up. 21 00:00:55,240 --> 00:00:58,000 Speaker 1: Both of them are married, and when they saw me, 22 00:00:58,480 --> 00:01:01,960 Speaker 1: they instantly took their arm off each other and separated. 23 00:01:02,480 --> 00:01:05,160 Speaker 1: They spoke, and when I left out of the bathroom, 24 00:01:05,360 --> 00:01:07,760 Speaker 1: they were gone. I was a little surprised that they 25 00:01:07,760 --> 00:01:10,560 Speaker 1: didn't at least ask how my night was going, or 26 00:01:10,640 --> 00:01:14,080 Speaker 1: asked me to join them for a drink. That let 27 00:01:14,160 --> 00:01:17,560 Speaker 1: me know that they were clearly up to something. I 28 00:01:17,600 --> 00:01:20,600 Speaker 1: suppose it could have been platonic, since they weren't kissing, 29 00:01:21,959 --> 00:01:24,600 Speaker 1: but why were they out alone late at night in 30 00:01:24,640 --> 00:01:28,479 Speaker 1: the corner of this bar. So now I obviously need 31 00:01:28,560 --> 00:01:32,440 Speaker 1: your advice. No, I don't plan to tell anybody what 32 00:01:32,560 --> 00:01:35,600 Speaker 1: I saw. I'd much rather keep their secret to myself 33 00:01:35,880 --> 00:01:38,040 Speaker 1: because I want a chance to be with the guy too. 34 00:01:38,760 --> 00:01:41,560 Speaker 1: I've had a crush on him for years, and now 35 00:01:41,600 --> 00:01:44,600 Speaker 1: that I know he's a cheater, I want to see 36 00:01:44,600 --> 00:01:47,560 Speaker 1: what he's working with. I think I should have a turn. 37 00:01:47,920 --> 00:01:50,960 Speaker 1: I have spent many nights fantasizing about all the nasty 38 00:01:51,000 --> 00:01:53,120 Speaker 1: things i'd do to him if I ever got a chance. 39 00:01:53,480 --> 00:01:55,840 Speaker 1: I've lost count of all the sexual dreams I've had 40 00:01:55,880 --> 00:01:59,280 Speaker 1: about him over the years, and I think, thank you, 41 00:01:59,400 --> 00:02:02,520 Speaker 1: I knew it over the years, and I think it's 42 00:02:02,560 --> 00:02:05,800 Speaker 1: time to get my man. He is already having an affair, 43 00:02:06,480 --> 00:02:08,920 Speaker 1: so how should I let him know that he can 44 00:02:09,000 --> 00:02:11,600 Speaker 1: have me too? I don't mind putting in a little 45 00:02:11,600 --> 00:02:12,880 Speaker 1: overtime with this man. 46 00:02:13,600 --> 00:02:19,280 Speaker 2: So there you go. One question for you, Are you crazy? 47 00:02:19,880 --> 00:02:20,760 Speaker 2: Are you crazy? 48 00:02:21,280 --> 00:02:24,560 Speaker 1: I think you are. Didn't you say this man was married? 49 00:02:24,760 --> 00:02:26,920 Speaker 1: Didn't you say you've been working here for years? I 50 00:02:26,960 --> 00:02:30,320 Speaker 1: mean that means he's got a wife. He's cheating on 51 00:02:30,400 --> 00:02:33,080 Speaker 1: his wife. You don't get that or care about that. 52 00:02:34,639 --> 00:02:37,200 Speaker 1: Why would you put yourself through that? Why would you 53 00:02:37,280 --> 00:02:40,240 Speaker 1: do this? Plus you guys all work together. That could 54 00:02:40,240 --> 00:02:45,160 Speaker 1: be so messy. He's already working with another coworker. Usually 55 00:02:45,240 --> 00:02:49,200 Speaker 1: that sort of thing is prohibited on the job. The 56 00:02:49,280 --> 00:02:51,720 Speaker 1: funny thing is that you said they didn't ask you 57 00:02:52,400 --> 00:02:55,840 Speaker 1: to join them for a drink, and that let you 58 00:02:55,919 --> 00:02:58,720 Speaker 1: know that when you saw them, they were clearly up 59 00:02:58,760 --> 00:02:59,320 Speaker 1: to something. 60 00:02:59,520 --> 00:03:01,200 Speaker 2: Yes they were. They were. 61 00:03:01,320 --> 00:03:04,280 Speaker 1: They separated when they saw you, and then they left 62 00:03:04,320 --> 00:03:06,919 Speaker 1: after that. I got to ask you where's your self esteem? 63 00:03:06,919 --> 00:03:09,880 Speaker 1: Because you said, since he's already having an affair, you 64 00:03:09,919 --> 00:03:11,720 Speaker 1: want to let him know that he can have you too. 65 00:03:12,000 --> 00:03:14,200 Speaker 2: Really, where's your self worth? 66 00:03:14,280 --> 00:03:17,280 Speaker 1: You should know that you know you could do better. 67 00:03:17,720 --> 00:03:20,840 Speaker 1: You could do a lot better than this somebody else's husband. 68 00:03:21,360 --> 00:03:23,680 Speaker 1: I don't even mind you having fun. You say, why 69 00:03:23,720 --> 00:03:26,320 Speaker 1: shouldn't you have a little fun too? You can have fun, 70 00:03:26,360 --> 00:03:29,640 Speaker 1: but get your own man to have fun with That's 71 00:03:29,720 --> 00:03:32,320 Speaker 1: the moral of the story. Get your own man to 72 00:03:32,400 --> 00:03:35,760 Speaker 1: have fun with this with here at this job. This 73 00:03:35,880 --> 00:03:38,880 Speaker 1: is craziness right here. This man is married, this woman 74 00:03:38,960 --> 00:03:41,480 Speaker 1: is married, and now here you are are trying to 75 00:03:41,480 --> 00:03:43,720 Speaker 1: get something started. No, you're not going to say anything 76 00:03:43,880 --> 00:03:45,880 Speaker 1: because you want them for yourself. But how do you 77 00:03:45,880 --> 00:03:49,160 Speaker 1: think that's really gonna work out? Really, Steve. 78 00:03:51,880 --> 00:03:55,080 Speaker 3: Well, let me just start by saying, this letter took 79 00:03:55,280 --> 00:03:56,840 Speaker 3: one hell of a twist. 80 00:03:57,400 --> 00:03:58,080 Speaker 2: Yes it did. 81 00:03:58,240 --> 00:04:00,760 Speaker 3: It's spurn on me so damn quick I had to 82 00:04:00,840 --> 00:04:02,160 Speaker 3: quit writing my reply. 83 00:04:03,800 --> 00:04:06,280 Speaker 2: I was all setting ready. 84 00:04:06,560 --> 00:04:10,720 Speaker 3: First of all, twenty nine great job, got an issue 85 00:04:10,720 --> 00:04:14,680 Speaker 3: with a coworker, went to this bar, saw people in 86 00:04:14,720 --> 00:04:17,159 Speaker 3: the couple, couple in the corner all cuddle up. 87 00:04:18,040 --> 00:04:19,000 Speaker 2: Later on, you go to. 88 00:04:19,000 --> 00:04:21,240 Speaker 3: The bathroom and then you realize that the couple with 89 00:04:21,360 --> 00:04:24,960 Speaker 3: some coworkers, they all booed up, and both of them 90 00:04:25,000 --> 00:04:27,480 Speaker 3: made when they saw me, they instantly took their arms 91 00:04:27,520 --> 00:04:31,520 Speaker 3: off each other and separated. You know, they spoke, and 92 00:04:31,560 --> 00:04:34,880 Speaker 3: when I came out the bathroom, they were gone. 93 00:04:35,120 --> 00:04:36,159 Speaker 2: I was a little surprised. 94 00:04:36,240 --> 00:04:38,800 Speaker 3: They didn't asked how my night was going on, asked 95 00:04:38,800 --> 00:04:41,120 Speaker 3: me to join for a drink. Now right now, I'm thinking, 96 00:04:41,440 --> 00:04:46,240 Speaker 3: how stupid is shit? And then you know, she went 97 00:04:46,279 --> 00:04:48,400 Speaker 3: on that let me know that they was clearly up 98 00:04:48,440 --> 00:04:49,159 Speaker 3: to something. 99 00:04:49,880 --> 00:04:50,440 Speaker 2: You think. 100 00:04:52,720 --> 00:04:54,960 Speaker 3: So I'm reading this letter and I'm going this letter 101 00:04:55,080 --> 00:05:00,480 Speaker 3: is actually written by a stupid person. I said that 102 00:05:00,600 --> 00:05:02,360 Speaker 3: this letter gonna be easy to anser. 103 00:05:02,440 --> 00:05:03,440 Speaker 2: I got this right here. 104 00:05:03,480 --> 00:05:07,000 Speaker 3: You know, some stuff like this, ain't your damn business. 105 00:05:07,880 --> 00:05:10,640 Speaker 3: You know, don't nobody want to have you in the 106 00:05:10,680 --> 00:05:13,000 Speaker 3: corner drinking with them and telling they business. 107 00:05:13,080 --> 00:05:13,640 Speaker 2: But then. 108 00:05:15,960 --> 00:05:23,000 Speaker 3: It started turning. And the next thing I noticed then 109 00:05:23,000 --> 00:05:25,279 Speaker 3: it got a little more stupid for a turn. You know, 110 00:05:25,360 --> 00:05:28,880 Speaker 3: I guess they could be platanic since they wasn't kissing. 111 00:05:30,040 --> 00:05:32,680 Speaker 3: But then here when it's stupidity came in. But why 112 00:05:32,720 --> 00:05:36,920 Speaker 3: were they out alone late at night in the. 113 00:05:36,880 --> 00:05:37,960 Speaker 2: Corner of this bar. 114 00:05:39,560 --> 00:05:42,000 Speaker 3: Then she said, so, I obviously need your bikes. That 115 00:05:42,160 --> 00:05:44,120 Speaker 3: right there, that's where I was finna go mind your 116 00:05:44,200 --> 00:05:47,880 Speaker 3: damn busus, go on bout your business, shut your damn mouth, 117 00:05:48,279 --> 00:05:52,640 Speaker 3: all that stuff right there. Then she's talking about I 118 00:05:52,680 --> 00:05:55,760 Speaker 3: don't plan to tell anybody what I saw. So I said, okay, 119 00:05:55,800 --> 00:05:57,880 Speaker 3: I ain't got to tell of the mind the damn 120 00:05:57,920 --> 00:06:01,360 Speaker 3: bus to shut your damn mouth. Then she said I'd 121 00:06:01,440 --> 00:06:05,719 Speaker 3: rather keep their secret to myself, and then the letter 122 00:06:05,920 --> 00:06:11,000 Speaker 3: just clicked. Because I want a chance with the guy too. 123 00:06:13,360 --> 00:06:16,039 Speaker 3: I've had a crush on him for years, and now 124 00:06:16,040 --> 00:06:18,400 Speaker 3: that I know he'll cheetah, I want to see what 125 00:06:18,440 --> 00:06:19,000 Speaker 3: he's working with. 126 00:06:20,360 --> 00:06:27,800 Speaker 2: What the show the hell happened here? Well? Are you 127 00:06:28,080 --> 00:06:29,560 Speaker 2: going with this letter? 128 00:06:30,279 --> 00:06:34,080 Speaker 3: Me and Shanny don't feel like getting our minds and 129 00:06:34,560 --> 00:06:38,000 Speaker 3: things twisted up and wrapped up in some ignorant ass 130 00:06:38,160 --> 00:06:41,000 Speaker 3: letter like this, and I will attempt to do so 131 00:06:41,520 --> 00:06:42,559 Speaker 3: right after the break. 132 00:06:43,320 --> 00:06:44,200 Speaker 2: All right, part too. 133 00:06:44,320 --> 00:06:46,920 Speaker 1: Steve's response coming up in twenty three after the hour. 134 00:06:47,080 --> 00:06:50,440 Speaker 1: Subjects of today's strawberry letter, I don't mind working over time. 135 00:06:50,480 --> 00:06:52,120 Speaker 2: We'll get back into it right after this. 136 00:06:52,800 --> 00:06:58,039 Speaker 1: You're listening morning show? All right, Steve, Let's recap today's 137 00:06:58,080 --> 00:07:01,000 Speaker 1: strawberry letter. Subject I don't mind working over time? 138 00:07:01,120 --> 00:07:04,720 Speaker 3: You know, well, the subject of the letter is I 139 00:07:04,760 --> 00:07:09,840 Speaker 3: don't mind working over time. After reading this letter, I 140 00:07:09,880 --> 00:07:13,800 Speaker 3: think the let tyler this letter should be I'm a 141 00:07:13,920 --> 00:07:14,720 Speaker 3: nutty helfer. 142 00:07:14,920 --> 00:07:22,560 Speaker 2: What you think? One more time? I'm a nutty helfer? 143 00:07:22,920 --> 00:07:26,240 Speaker 3: What you think? Woman twenty nine years old got a 144 00:07:26,240 --> 00:07:28,160 Speaker 3: good job. Go to the bar one night to have 145 00:07:28,200 --> 00:07:30,400 Speaker 3: a drink. She noticed this couple in the corner, all 146 00:07:30,440 --> 00:07:32,960 Speaker 3: bowed up, cuddle up. She don't pay no attention of it. 147 00:07:33,200 --> 00:07:35,239 Speaker 3: She walked to the bathroom. She looks in the corner. 148 00:07:35,320 --> 00:07:38,080 Speaker 3: She realized that the couples booed up is a couple 149 00:07:38,680 --> 00:07:42,640 Speaker 3: of coworkers from her job, and they in the corner 150 00:07:42,680 --> 00:07:44,800 Speaker 3: in the dark. Why are they in the corner, BEQUI 151 00:07:45,560 --> 00:07:48,760 Speaker 3: because both of them is married. And then when you 152 00:07:49,200 --> 00:07:51,360 Speaker 3: spoke to them, but when you came out the bathroom, 153 00:07:51,400 --> 00:07:54,000 Speaker 3: they was gone. She was a little surprised that they 154 00:07:54,000 --> 00:07:56,520 Speaker 3: didn't speak to her and ask her did she want 155 00:07:56,560 --> 00:07:57,040 Speaker 3: a drink? 156 00:07:57,640 --> 00:07:58,560 Speaker 2: They just left. 157 00:07:58,920 --> 00:08:01,880 Speaker 3: So I was gonna tell her it ain't your business. 158 00:08:01,960 --> 00:08:04,240 Speaker 3: Then she said, I don't keep the secret to myself 159 00:08:04,280 --> 00:08:07,600 Speaker 3: and everything. I'm not gonna tell nobody. But you know, 160 00:08:07,720 --> 00:08:11,200 Speaker 3: since he married, I found out he a Cheaterah, I want. 161 00:08:10,960 --> 00:08:12,480 Speaker 2: A chance at him too. 162 00:08:12,920 --> 00:08:17,920 Speaker 3: Wow, I love it, which goes back to the title 163 00:08:17,920 --> 00:08:24,440 Speaker 3: of my letter. I'm a nutty helfo. What do you think? Well, Nutty, 164 00:08:25,280 --> 00:08:30,280 Speaker 3: let's go and get into it. She said, So obviously 165 00:08:30,320 --> 00:08:33,240 Speaker 3: I need your advice. I don't plan to tell anybody 166 00:08:33,280 --> 00:08:35,040 Speaker 3: what I saw. I much rather keep a secret to 167 00:08:35,080 --> 00:08:36,840 Speaker 3: myself because I want a chance with the guy too. 168 00:08:37,400 --> 00:08:38,840 Speaker 2: I've had a crush on him. 169 00:08:38,720 --> 00:08:41,560 Speaker 3: For years, and now that I know he's a cheater, 170 00:08:42,080 --> 00:08:43,559 Speaker 3: I want to see what he's working with. 171 00:08:45,320 --> 00:08:47,440 Speaker 2: I think I should have a turn. 172 00:08:48,480 --> 00:08:53,720 Speaker 3: What I spent many nights fantasizing about all the nasty 173 00:08:53,800 --> 00:08:56,000 Speaker 3: things I do to him if I ever got a chance. 174 00:08:56,320 --> 00:08:58,719 Speaker 3: I've lost count of all the sexual dreams I've had 175 00:08:58,760 --> 00:09:01,080 Speaker 3: about him over the years that I think is time 176 00:09:01,120 --> 00:09:04,719 Speaker 3: to get my man. He already having an affair, So 177 00:09:04,760 --> 00:09:07,200 Speaker 3: how should I let him know that he can have 178 00:09:07,400 --> 00:09:09,320 Speaker 3: me too? I don't mind putting it in a little 179 00:09:09,320 --> 00:09:12,079 Speaker 3: over time with this man. Well, let's just gonna get 180 00:09:12,120 --> 00:09:17,920 Speaker 3: down to this letter. Since you've known this man for 181 00:09:18,080 --> 00:09:20,920 Speaker 3: years and he has not said anything to you, and 182 00:09:21,000 --> 00:09:26,880 Speaker 3: he is a cheating come on, let's wonder why has 183 00:09:26,920 --> 00:09:29,280 Speaker 3: he not said nothing to you? 184 00:09:32,000 --> 00:09:34,360 Speaker 2: Well, let's think about this. 185 00:09:36,240 --> 00:09:41,480 Speaker 3: If you a man that's a known serial cheater and 186 00:09:41,760 --> 00:09:46,200 Speaker 3: you are in the cheap business, do you not look 187 00:09:46,280 --> 00:09:53,360 Speaker 3: for opportunities to cheat? Now, why after these years of 188 00:09:53,520 --> 00:10:01,679 Speaker 3: on the job, has he overlooked you? Well, now we 189 00:10:01,800 --> 00:10:03,000 Speaker 3: must face the truth. 190 00:10:03,200 --> 00:10:04,160 Speaker 1: Break it down. 191 00:10:05,559 --> 00:10:09,840 Speaker 3: Maybe when he looked over there, has it crossed your 192 00:10:09,960 --> 00:10:12,079 Speaker 3: mind that he don't. 193 00:10:11,880 --> 00:10:18,480 Speaker 2: Want to cheat with you? Maybe? Oh, here we go. 194 00:10:19,160 --> 00:10:26,640 Speaker 3: You ain't cheetah material, lord jeep, you you already single? 195 00:10:29,320 --> 00:10:34,120 Speaker 3: Ain't nobody asked you to marry? But now ain't nobody 196 00:10:34,200 --> 00:10:35,520 Speaker 3: asked you to cheat with him? 197 00:10:36,320 --> 00:10:43,319 Speaker 2: On the side? What do you look like? You gotta 198 00:10:43,360 --> 00:10:46,960 Speaker 2: break it down? Step? What do you wear to work? 199 00:10:47,120 --> 00:10:52,840 Speaker 2: You have to break it downs? What when you hold 200 00:10:52,960 --> 00:10:56,880 Speaker 2: your mouth? What come out? Because it's nutting? 201 00:10:56,960 --> 00:11:02,120 Speaker 3: This in this letter and you type this, it was 202 00:11:02,120 --> 00:11:04,120 Speaker 3: spelling correct on it and everything. 203 00:11:04,280 --> 00:11:06,960 Speaker 2: I can't imagine what you then said on your job. 204 00:11:07,360 --> 00:11:13,840 Speaker 3: Why would not a confessed cheato, serial cheato asked you 205 00:11:15,200 --> 00:11:16,320 Speaker 3: to cheat with him? 206 00:11:16,480 --> 00:11:23,720 Speaker 2: Not ask you the cheat on? What is wrong with you? Now? 207 00:11:23,880 --> 00:11:26,439 Speaker 2: In this letter? She said? How can I make it 208 00:11:26,559 --> 00:11:33,040 Speaker 2: known to him that he can have me too? Well? 209 00:11:33,080 --> 00:11:34,080 Speaker 2: You might mess. 210 00:11:33,880 --> 00:11:38,400 Speaker 3: Around and find out that he don't want you. Many 211 00:11:38,480 --> 00:11:41,679 Speaker 3: years he ain't said a damn thing to you. You 212 00:11:41,800 --> 00:11:45,800 Speaker 3: don't flirt with you? You that had a lot of 213 00:11:46,160 --> 00:11:51,480 Speaker 3: nasty fantasizical dreams about him, But has he dreamed about you? 214 00:11:51,559 --> 00:11:53,160 Speaker 1: What kind of nasty dream? 215 00:11:53,360 --> 00:11:58,920 Speaker 2: Nasty fantasizical. See that's not a sisical, surety. 216 00:11:59,559 --> 00:12:03,800 Speaker 3: Those are dreams with that you fantasized with a physicality 217 00:12:04,000 --> 00:12:05,640 Speaker 3: aspect attached to it. 218 00:12:06,040 --> 00:12:07,679 Speaker 2: Fantasizical dream. 219 00:12:07,800 --> 00:12:08,920 Speaker 1: I wanted to be clear. 220 00:12:09,320 --> 00:12:17,240 Speaker 2: I'm clear that's an adverb slash adjective. Yes, yes, yeah, 221 00:12:18,160 --> 00:12:19,119 Speaker 2: it's a description. 222 00:12:19,320 --> 00:12:23,359 Speaker 3: And at the same time, he don't want you, nuddie. 223 00:12:25,840 --> 00:12:28,199 Speaker 3: I think Monday morning yaughd to just walk in there 224 00:12:28,200 --> 00:12:30,200 Speaker 3: and just say, hey, I saw you at the bar 225 00:12:30,360 --> 00:12:30,640 Speaker 3: with her. 226 00:12:30,840 --> 00:12:34,880 Speaker 2: How about me too? Just get your face cracked. All 227 00:12:34,920 --> 00:12:36,240 Speaker 2: that was all. 228 00:12:36,200 --> 00:12:38,320 Speaker 1: Right, Steve, we gotta get out of here. You can 229 00:12:38,360 --> 00:12:45,320 Speaker 1: email us your Instagram. I'm your thoughts on today. Check 230 00:12:45,360 --> 00:12:47,720 Speaker 1: out the Discrubberry letter podcast under Man Too. 231 00:12:48,120 --> 00:12:50,840 Speaker 2: You're listening Harvey Morning Show.