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Speaker 1: John Boyle, powered by Seahawks dot Com. All right, welcome

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Speaker 1: back to the Dad Pod. This is our fourth episode

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Speaker 1: and third with kJ. Right is has so much fun

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Speaker 1: is one Trey Flowers, starting cornerback for your Seattle Seahawks.

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Speaker 1: Before we get to all the good dad stuff, heck

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Speaker 1: kJ is a veteran leader. How excited you to see

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Speaker 1: bad gangs putting up dominant before pharmacists creating all these turnovers. Trey,

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Speaker 1: and we're making plays and we're getting better as a

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Speaker 1: but I've never I don't know what I do. But yeah,

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Speaker 1: so I didn't have any roles And oh you cook?

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Speaker 1: Do you cook in the house? Not really, but I can't.

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Speaker 1: You know, I made like dad food. You are a

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Speaker 1: She actually wants. You are the hot dog, Like she

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Speaker 1: she uh, she eats a little bit. She's way more

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Speaker 1: vegetables than I expected. Like that. I love it for it.

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Speaker 1: She's actually making me eat mine when we place, So yeah,

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Speaker 1: I take that any day. That we all right, Well,

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Speaker 1: thank you are about set for today's dad Pod. Try

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Speaker 1: appreciate you joining us. Thanks for coming back. Yeah, we'll

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Speaker 1: talk again soon. Enjoy it, enjoy it. Thank you. I