Speaker 1: Hey, hey, hey, that's a slide. Hey hey, hey, we're back.
Speaker 2: We're black, We're brown and be shine.
Speaker 1: It's sunshiny today, Mandy. How are you? It is?
Speaker 3: And you know what, I definitely am taking advantage of
Speaker 3: it because sunshine is just so, it's just you need
Speaker 3: it for the soul. Right now, it is what I
Speaker 3: feel like. And if you live in parts of the
Speaker 3: country that don't get tons of sunshine, I don't want
Speaker 3: to hear if you live in California, or like one
Speaker 3: of my friends, you sought refuge in California because you're
Speaker 3: smart like that. Yeah, it's been so dreary here so
Speaker 3: and I saw the rest of the weather for the
Speaker 3: week is going to be icky. So we definitely took
Speaker 3: the baby outside and had lunch outside and soaked it up.
Speaker 3: Probably gonna take a walk later if it feels up
Speaker 3: to it.
Speaker 1: Honestly, there's nothing like some sunshine. You definitely put a
Speaker 1: little pep in my step.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yay, I googled it. You only need ten to
Speaker 3: thirty minutes. For those of you whose mind is like,
Speaker 3: how much vitamin D do you get by being outside?
Speaker 3: Because I'm always being told by doctors that I don't
Speaker 3: have enough of it and it's ten to thirty minutes
Speaker 3: of exposure a day per day, like if you do yeah,
Speaker 3: so the hold this is the internet, but it was
Speaker 3: a top result on Google. Okay, ten to thirty minutes
Speaker 3: several times per week. And you know, they when you
Speaker 3: have a baby in your breastfeeding, they give you their like, oh,
Speaker 3: you need to get vitamin D supplements right after they
Speaker 3: finished telling you how amazing breastfeeding it is and how
Speaker 3: the milk is just like the bus, it's all the
Speaker 3: baby needs, blah blah blah. And they're like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 3: go to CBS and spend fifteen dollars on this tiny
Speaker 3: little bottle of vitamin D that's absolutely going to spill
Speaker 3: and you're going to have to repurchase it for fifteen
Speaker 3: more dollars out of your pocket. And you know, make
Speaker 3: your baby sucked that down once in a while so
Speaker 3: that they don't get rickets. Yeah, it's real, real, it's
Speaker 3: real fun. So today I was like, her baby, sit
Speaker 3: in the sun, save your mama some money. It's beautiful.
Speaker 3: You need, Like I feel like I'm grasping onto any
Speaker 3: little positive silver linings these days. Yes, what are you
Speaker 3: doing too to help with the quarantine. Is there is
Speaker 3: there like a syndrome yet the quarantine queezies or like
Speaker 3: a right, I.
Speaker 2: Got the quarantina? What am I doing to help with quarantina?
Speaker 2: I feel like I'm working too much, as per yous,
Speaker 2: But I finally took your vice member. I don't know
Speaker 2: if we talked about it on air how I was
Speaker 2: afraid to call my IVF doctor.
Speaker 3: Oh okay, yeah, I'm glad to hear that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yes, So for those of you who don't, I
Speaker 2: don't remember because Mandy and I talked about it, like
Speaker 2: you know, off air, but I think I mentioned on
Speaker 2: air I was afraid to call, and I guess I
Speaker 2: was afraid because I didn't.
Speaker 1: I was afraid of the unknown, Like what if she says,
Speaker 1: what does this happen? What if I can't?
Speaker 2: You know, I had only really taken a month off.
Speaker 2: I'd gotten scar removal surgery, like I don't even remember,
Speaker 2: like the twenty thousandth time, like in January, and then
Speaker 2: when I came back in like February, it was like, yeah,
Speaker 2: you you doing this perfect. Finally we are ready to start,
Speaker 2: you know. And so basically what happens is you wait
Speaker 2: for your period and then you start the process. It's
Speaker 2: all based upon your hormones, that your period, like let
Speaker 2: you know it's happening. So then March happened, it was like, ugh,
Speaker 2: I'm not going in. No one's going anywhere, right, And
Speaker 2: so I didn't call because of my nervousness, and so
Speaker 2: you told me, but it took me weeks to finally call.
Speaker 2: So I called maybe like two weeks ago, and turns
Speaker 2: out they weren't taking anyone in during March because they
Speaker 2: were trying to figure out what do we do? You know,
Speaker 2: So I was like, oh my gosh, Okay, so it's
Speaker 2: not like I felt like, oh my gosh, I messed up.
Speaker 2: Maybe I missed a month, and no, they were like
Speaker 2: we weren't, girl, nobody, and even now because usually when
Speaker 2: you go there, you know people are sitting in the
Speaker 2: waiting room and things like that. They're actually only taking
Speaker 2: people case by case that you have to Actually on
Speaker 2: Friday and in a couple of days, I sit down
Speaker 2: with the doctor via you know, video tele a call
Speaker 2: and it's by case by case basis. So I'm assuming
Speaker 2: she's going to be like yes girl, because she's already
Speaker 2: like like yesterday and we need to be on it
Speaker 2: with you. But I'm assuming, like, let's just say I
Speaker 2: was like twenty five and newly married and we've been
Speaker 2: trying for two years but for some reason, because you
Speaker 2: have to try for at least two years if you're
Speaker 2: a certain age, but for some reason, I haven't gotten
Speaker 2: pregnant yet. So we're going to do IVF because it's
Speaker 2: included in my insurance SIS that SIS can wait, but
Speaker 2: me forty with eggs that have gone bad faster than
Speaker 2: what a normal forty year old should, that I can't wait.
Speaker 2: So I'm assuming she's going to be on Friday, Like, yes, Tiffany,
Speaker 2: you are one of the handful of people or however
Speaker 2: many that they're taking because they're only going to allow
Speaker 2: basically you and the office at a time.
Speaker 3: So oh that's great.
Speaker 1: Mm hm.
Speaker 2: So I have a call with her on She was
Speaker 2: on vacation, so I had the call with her on Friday.
Speaker 1: So I was like, I felt like, Yay, I conquered
Speaker 1: this thing that I was afraid of.
Speaker 2: I made a call and it was just in time,
Speaker 2: because imagine if I would have waited another month, Mandy,
Speaker 2: and they were like, oh, Tiffany, we.
Speaker 1: Didn't hear from you.
Speaker 2: So we had maybe let's just say we're only taking
Speaker 2: twenty people, and we already took our twenty you know.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Well it's you know, it's the unknown, and it's
Speaker 3: that I just could tell it was weighing on you. Yeah,
Speaker 3: and I mean very different situations. Obviously this is a
Speaker 3: big deal, bigger deal for you. But when I was
Speaker 3: trying to figure out if we should have the nanny
Speaker 3: that we'd already hired start working for us, and it
Speaker 3: was a day before and I was talking to my
Speaker 3: it was a day it was the friday before she
Speaker 3: was supposed to start, and I was talking to my
Speaker 3: therapist and I was agonizing over am I doing the
Speaker 3: right thing having this woman still come And this was,
Speaker 3: you know, way back in early March. And she was like, listen,
Speaker 3: you take the decision out of your hand. Just call
Speaker 3: the doctor, call your pediatrician, let them decide. And I
Speaker 3: was like, that's a stroke of genius. You justified all
Speaker 3: these kopas, girl. Yeah, because you know it's it does
Speaker 3: we put pressure in ourselves to make the right decisions.
Speaker 3: And I think calling a mental health professional or calling
Speaker 3: a professional medical professional like those IVF doctors they know
Speaker 3: what's safe and anyway, I'm glad you did it.
Speaker 1: Girl, And now I felt so much better. I was
Speaker 1: like Mandy was right. It wasn't even my decision.
Speaker 2: And you know, all this time of stressing, of being
Speaker 2: like I'm not going in girl, you wouldn't have to
Speaker 2: go on in anyway because they're not taking anyone. And
Speaker 2: they would have said, right now, we're trying to figure
Speaker 2: it out. And I could have wosat it to me.
Speaker 2: One of the things, like I don't want to call
Speaker 2: it a character flaw, but definitely one of the things
Speaker 2: I have always had an issue with that I am
Speaker 2: actively working on is what I call the hard conversation.
Speaker 2: Like I am the ultimate avoid what I'm afraid of
Speaker 2: a conversation. I can avoid it for years. But it's
Speaker 2: something I'm really like actively working on, especially this year
Speaker 2: of like taking the bandit off, because I will tell myself,
Speaker 2: oh my gosh, but if we talk about it, then
Speaker 2: they're gonna be mad, and then then they're mad, then
Speaker 2: we're not gonna be friends. If we're not friends, then
Speaker 2: what about this? And I will have built this whole
Speaker 2: thing in my head and it's it's something that I
Speaker 2: really would to work on because it's caused. It's one
Speaker 2: of the few things in my life that actually cause
Speaker 2: a stress. Like when it comes to business stuff, like
Speaker 2: one of my team members could call me right now,
Speaker 2: I'd be like, oh, the budget NEETs down, and I'd
Speaker 2: be like, okay, well call.
Speaker 1: WordPress or whatever. I wouldn't. That doesn't stress me out.
Speaker 2: Business stuff up and down, left and right, no, okay,
Speaker 2: But interpersonal someone being upset with me or maybe me
Speaker 2: hearing something that's not going to be good news or
Speaker 2: that will like send me into a tizzy. So I'm
Speaker 2: really trying to work on managing the emotional part of
Speaker 2: that so I can push through because it's rarely ever
Speaker 2: as bad as I think. I don't even know if
Speaker 2: it's ever been as bad as I think. And I'm like,
Speaker 2: Timm and Day, I need you to get over this
Speaker 2: because you give yourself anxiety unnecessarily.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean if you need a little bit, well,
Speaker 3: you know, we're very different in that way. I'm like,
Speaker 3: if there's a red button, I'm that kid in the
Speaker 3: elevator who's like, push that button, see what happens, and
Speaker 3: it happens. It's always me my siblings, you know, every
Speaker 3: like family get together, especially during the live election season.
Speaker 3: The last presidential election season, which I'm sure for lots
Speaker 3: of us was just like super just really difficult to
Speaker 3: endure any family gatherings anyway. My filing's like Mandy, Mandy, Mandy,
Speaker 3: and I'm just like, Okay, I'm gonna be good.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be good.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna be good, and then I just can't help myself,
Speaker 3: but I do. I mean, it's a good it's definitely
Speaker 3: a good trade. It's like when there is a confrontation
Speaker 3: to be had, I'm not afraid to have that conversation.
Speaker 3: It's very difficult that when the other person isn't ready yet,
Speaker 3: and I've had to learn maybe I'm ready to have
Speaker 3: the difficult conversation, but I need to also give the
Speaker 3: other person time to get ready. So that's what am
Speaker 3: I talking about?
Speaker 2: Like what do you tell yourself? Because I'm trying to
Speaker 2: figure out what is it? Like are you just not afraid?
Speaker 2: Is it not something that you tell yourself? Like I'm
Speaker 2: just you know what I mean, I'm trying to figure out,
Speaker 2: like what is that internal thing that I can help
Speaker 2: to turn on in me?
Speaker 1: Is it a muscle I can exercise.
Speaker 3: I think it's because I'm internal. I like to have
Speaker 3: a bit of the upper hand and like I like
Speaker 3: to sort of come from a place of power. And
Speaker 3: this has been me my control freak side. But when
Speaker 3: I'm the first one to bring something up, it sort
Speaker 3: of makes it feel like I can. I can, I
Speaker 3: can lead the conversation. At least it's happening on my terms,
Speaker 3: you know. And also you know, when it comes to
Speaker 3: the kind of difficult conversations you have to have in work,
Speaker 3: like letting someone go, giving someone a bad performance review,
Speaker 3: telling someone that you know they need better hygiene. I've
Speaker 3: I All I tell myself is no one else is
Speaker 3: going to do it. You the boss. This is your job.
Speaker 3: Suck it up. This is what it is, and you've
Speaker 3: got to do it in a careful way. And when
Speaker 3: it comes to, you know, tough conversations with people I love,
Speaker 3: like friends and family, I try and tell myself this
Speaker 3: is not going to be forever. Like the sooner you
Speaker 3: do this, the sooner the air is cleared, the sooner
Speaker 3: you can sleep better, and the sooner you can get
Speaker 3: over this and move on. And I mean, don't get
Speaker 3: me wrong, I've I've definitely held grudges, but I think
Speaker 3: the older I get, the more I'm like, let's just
Speaker 3: you know, let's just get let's just get you know,
Speaker 3: if we need to address this, let's address it and
Speaker 3: then get on over it. Because I it's those feelings
Speaker 3: of anxiety and stuff like, there's all there's so much
Speaker 3: other stuff to worry about it, and and I just
Speaker 3: feel like, let's build the bridge and get over things.
Speaker 3: But I need your help to build it. So let's
Speaker 3: sit down and talk about it, you know. Okay, I
Speaker 3: guess that's sort of the internal dialogue that I have
Speaker 3: with your therapist. Okay, how I do it and tell
Speaker 3: you how? Yeah?
Speaker 2: No, No, it's good cause I'm just like, you know,
Speaker 2: because in my mind, I'm just like, I don't know.
Speaker 2: I guess in my well, no, I do know. My
Speaker 2: friend is like, you're an adult, you do know. We
Speaker 2: say I don't know, and we don't want to say.
Speaker 2: But it's just like I almost like, the sooner we
Speaker 2: talk about it, the sooner I hear.
Speaker 1: The bad news.
Speaker 2: That's what runs in my head, like at least if
Speaker 2: I don't say, then it's not for sure bad, it's
Speaker 2: maybe bad.
Speaker 1: But if I say then it's for sure bad.
Speaker 2: That's what I tell myself, even though I know I'm
Speaker 2: like Tiffany as an adult, g are.
Speaker 1: You growing girl? You forty?
Speaker 2: You know that it really ever as bad as you think.
Speaker 2: I'm like, yeah, but maybe this is the one time
Speaker 2: out of the forty years it is as bad as
Speaker 2: I think, so I will push it off another day.
Speaker 3: That's true. I think it's also the thing where it's
Speaker 3: almost like when you leave a conversation and you go
Speaker 3: home and you're analyzing every word you said, and you're
Speaker 3: criticizing yourself. The other person's very rarely doing that. And
Speaker 3: I think it's like we have this tendency to think
Speaker 3: the worst, and I do too. And my husband calls
Speaker 3: me out for this. I will make because he's a
Speaker 3: very restrained speaker and I'm not. And he has so
Speaker 3: many thoughts inside of his brain and he doesn't always
Speaker 3: articulate them, so I'll do it for him. I'm a writer, right,
Speaker 3: so I just make up whole conversations in mind. I
Speaker 3: make up whole thought bubbles for him. Here's what he's thinking,
Speaker 3: you know. And that hurts me because I'm getting myself
Speaker 3: worked up and he's over there thinking about I don't
Speaker 3: know what he had for lunch or something like that,
Speaker 3: and I think I've talked about this before. I've also like,
Speaker 3: for example, I was in a group text and I
Speaker 3: thought that I sounded like a douche because I was
Speaker 3: like bragg I thought I sounded too braggy because I
Speaker 3: was telling them about the delicious dinner I made and
Speaker 3: you know, and my friends and mom with like two
Speaker 3: kids at home, and I was like, dang, you're being
Speaker 3: like kind of a jerk. Maybe you shouldn't be bragging.
Speaker 3: And so I apologize and she was like, what are
Speaker 3: you talking about. You weren't annoying, like this was your
Speaker 3: meal sounded delicious, And I try not to do that,
Speaker 3: you know. But I also by confronting it myself and apology,
Speaker 3: it's almost like I want it's like you're like to
Speaker 3: take the power back. I didn't need to do that.
Speaker 3: It's it's a pro and con On the other hand, Hey,
Speaker 3: I know that I wasn't being annoying or she would.
Speaker 3: She didn't take it that way, And it's I guess
Speaker 3: in my own way, it's like expect, don't always expect
Speaker 3: the worst people are thinking about you, and maybe that's
Speaker 3: that's part of the dread of what that you have,
Speaker 3: you know, not having those conversations because you're worried you
Speaker 3: might hear that someone thinks negatively about you mm hm,
Speaker 3: and you're not.
Speaker 1: Super sensitive to that.
Speaker 2: I think it's you know, it's funny how like this
Speaker 2: truck like that crosses over to like money, right, how
Speaker 2: many people are like I'm not gonna open up the
Speaker 2: envelope because the bill is going to be more.
Speaker 1: Than I can afford.
Speaker 2: Or I'm not going to talk about to my spouse
Speaker 2: about their spending because I think they're going to fly
Speaker 2: off the handle, or you know, I actually don't want
Speaker 2: to know how much I owe.
Speaker 1: I don't want to know. I don't know what.
Speaker 2: I remember my first year in business, Remember I told
Speaker 2: the story how like it was like not even first year,
Speaker 2: for the first like two or three years, I did
Speaker 2: not pay taxes and I was so scared. Yeah, I
Speaker 2: was so scared because I was like, I don't have it.
Speaker 1: I don't have it.
Speaker 2: And then I Carlos saw me, my accountant, saw me
Speaker 2: at like a local shop, right, and he like took
Speaker 2: his cart and he blocked me, and it was like
Speaker 2: you I had been calling you.
Speaker 1: I've been calling you, are texting you. Tiffany, do you
Speaker 1: want to go to day?
Speaker 2: I was like, I don't want to. He was like,
Speaker 2: come in and do you have taxes? I was like,
Speaker 2: I'm going to owe too much. He's like, how much
Speaker 2: do you think you o?
Speaker 1: I was like, maybe like thirty thousand dollars.
Speaker 2: He's like, no, you ate you owe eighty five hundred.
Speaker 2: I was like, oh, he said, yo, what an old
Speaker 2: five thousand. But you have to pay all these fees
Speaker 2: for not He's like, I filed for you, but you
Speaker 2: had to pay all these fees for not paying you know,
Speaker 2: these years. And it was like, dang that this fear
Speaker 2: literally is costing me money, you know yea, And yeah
Speaker 2: that was years ago and still here I am. So
Speaker 2: that was just like, It's just funny how like it
Speaker 2: plays a role even in your financial life sometimes that
Speaker 2: kind of like energy, that nervous not wanting to know energy.
Speaker 3: Oh one hundred percent. And on the other hand, me,
Speaker 3: who's when I remember dating Enrique and very early in
Speaker 3: our relationship wanting to know his credit score and I
Speaker 3: just you know, I think I know what I'm talking about.
Speaker 3: I I write about this stuff all the time. I'm
Speaker 3: trying to take my own advice, Like you should know
Speaker 3: if you're moving in with someone, what their credit score was.
Speaker 3: I underestimated how deeply personal that number was to him.
Speaker 3: He got into this huge drop down, drag down fight
Speaker 3: and wasn't really that important. No, but he wasn't ready yet.
Speaker 3: But I was trying to push push, push, push that button,
Speaker 3: push that button. You know whatever, live, live and learn.
Speaker 3: It's also holds you back when you're and you know
Speaker 3: you've talked about this too, like knowing what to ask
Speaker 3: for speaking fees and knowing when to ask for more.
Speaker 3: And if you're in the you know, the other chair
Speaker 3: negotiating a job salary, like and having been in the
Speaker 3: hiring seat for as long as I have, you know
Speaker 3: I'm not looking for well you never never say never.
Speaker 3: But the next time I'm negotiating a salary, I one
Speaker 3: hundred percent will ask for more, only because I've seen
Speaker 3: too many people miss out by not doing it. But
Speaker 3: it's it's hard, it's freaking hard. It's easier said than done,
Speaker 3: easier said than done. And it sounds a little silly,
Speaker 3: but role playing helps. Have you ever have you ever
Speaker 3: like role played? A conversation with someone.
Speaker 1: Else in my own head, but.
Speaker 3: With another person, it really helps I recollect. Yeah, I
Speaker 3: recommend it, like you know, someone that you think will
Speaker 3: first of all take it seriously and just someone to just,
Speaker 3: I don't know, play play yourself and you play the
Speaker 3: other person or vice versa, and just kind of run
Speaker 3: through the conversation and maybe you've run through here's the
Speaker 3: worst it could go, and here's the best it could go,
Speaker 3: and just practice what you're gonna say. As someone who
Speaker 3: likes to like edit themselves, and especially you know, I
Speaker 3: like to say things exactly right, and that's why I
Speaker 3: prefer to write them out. But anyway, it helps to
Speaker 3: talk things out a little bit.
Speaker 2: No, that's good because I'll straight be in the shower
Speaker 2: like and then I hate said, no, he's I'll see
Speaker 2: he's Jesus. And meanwhile I'm like arguing and mad. I
Speaker 2: do this a lot with my with my husband internally
Speaker 2: because I'm like, oh, he definitely has attitude. I can
Speaker 2: tell meanwhile nothing, he's just woken up, And I'm like, oh, exactly,
Speaker 2: you know. I just well because I'll tell myself he
Speaker 2: has an attitude me because I'm working a lot I'm like, well,
Speaker 2: I have to work a lot because right now. And
Speaker 2: I'm like, babe, you mad at me. He's like, what
Speaker 2: are you talking about. I'm like, well, it seems like
Speaker 2: you have an attitude. He's like, I just woke up.
Speaker 1: He's wrong with you. I'm like nothing, What do you
Speaker 1: want for breakfast? I mean I've had it, I've had
Speaker 1: an hour long shower. But I'm going back and forth
Speaker 1: and women work, right, I'm not just here me while
Speaker 1: none of that has happened.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but we we also project what we are. You
Speaker 3: pretty what you're feeling guilty about, and you know what
Speaker 3: you think you should be doing.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, oh yeah.
Speaker 3: We could talk.
Speaker 2: Clearly because clearly you see where my issue is. I'm like,
Speaker 2: I'm not cleaning enough as much as I could. I'm
Speaker 2: not cooking as much as I could. So I swear
Speaker 2: that whenever I feel like any sort of tension, you know,
Speaker 2: intern that that's what it is.
Speaker 1: I'm like, because I'll literally be like I just didn't
Speaker 1: get a chance to clean up. He's like huh.
Speaker 3: I'm like, he's like, you're talking to that uh, to
Speaker 3: that voice in your head again.
Speaker 1: She's crazy. Don't mind her if you're.
Speaker 3: Stuck at home with a significant other right now. The
Speaker 3: only way that husband and I have survived this past
Speaker 3: how long has it been now two months since we've
Speaker 3: been home, is just giving each other a freaking break.
Speaker 3: I give him, you know, and sometimes you know, me
Speaker 3: and that red button, sometimes I got to push it.
Speaker 3: But I've been way way better about not complaining about
Speaker 3: you know, his mess here and his mess there, and
Speaker 3: you know how much wheelers and dealers. Don't ask me
Speaker 3: who that show is, but if you know, you know,
Speaker 3: oh my god, he watches or you know how he
Speaker 3: plays with the baby. I've just given him a break
Speaker 3: and I and he's pretty much given me a break
Speaker 3: to in terms of like dishes and laundry. You know,
Speaker 3: it gets done when it gets done, and we just
Speaker 3: don't nitpick, because we were really doing that in the
Speaker 3: early weeks in the early days, and we were struggling
Speaker 3: very much, and part of it was because I was
Speaker 3: feeling like a piece of pos for not for not
Speaker 3: keeping up with the housework. And it was the same.
Speaker 3: It was just like the same I went through when
Speaker 3: I was on maternity leave, Like you feel like you
Speaker 3: need to be productive, but you kind of are by
Speaker 3: keeping a human alive and give yourself a break. And anyway,
Speaker 3: I'm just saying, like, if you're wanting to ring your
Speaker 3: up significant other's neck because they haven't done x y Z,
Speaker 3: this is such a weird freaking time, just give and
Speaker 3: give yourself the same break. Once I stopped criticizing myself
Speaker 3: for not doing the laundry or the chores, magically, I
Speaker 3: stopped really harping on my husband about it too, like
Speaker 3: it was more about me giving myself a break than
Speaker 3: giving him a break.
Speaker 1: In the end, Yeah, no, I think that that's good advice.
Speaker 3: Brown break for beating yourself up exactly.
Speaker 1: This is the midbound break.
Speaker 2: Well are we ready for question?
Speaker 3: We're always ready for your questions.
Speaker 1: I was like, how long could I keep this verberation going?
Speaker 3: I will never get in the way tiffany any freestyle
Speaker 3: and you want to do? But why don't we take
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Speaker 3: One of the topics before we get into a question
Speaker 3: from a listener I wanted to talk about and just
Speaker 3: bring up myself, is the fact that May first is approaching,
Speaker 3: and like many people, that means either rent or mortgage
Speaker 3: is due. And I heard that in New York City.
Speaker 3: This is in the Law Street Journal and some other
Speaker 3: big cities. They're trying to these different groups are trying
Speaker 3: to encourage renters to go on a rent strike. And
Speaker 3: I wanted to bring this up because although some states
Speaker 3: in the wake of the pandemic have suspended things like evictions,
Speaker 3: which pretty much makes it safer. You know, if you're
Speaker 3: someone who's lost a job or you can't afford your rent,
Speaker 3: it means that you've got a cushion to where you're
Speaker 3: not going to immediately get kicked out and be homeless,
Speaker 3: which is very nice. But this rent strike idea, I
Speaker 3: mean maybe, as someone who's just a goodie two shoes
Speaker 3: and likes paying bills, I'm on the side of if
Speaker 3: you've got the money in your account, pay your rent.
Speaker 3: If you don't, obviously it's not a strike at that point.
Speaker 3: It's just like, look, I don't got it, and that's
Speaker 3: its own thing. But I just don't want to see
Speaker 3: people make a statement by not paying their rent and
Speaker 3: then end up June or July, you know, being taken
Speaker 3: to housing court, and that's a whole whole other mess.
Speaker 3: And I feel like, do you have, like my dad
Speaker 3: is someone who would look at this and be like,
Speaker 3: oh cool, Yeah, I'm just not going to pay my mortgage,
Speaker 3: you know, fight the man. And I'm like, no, daddy,
Speaker 3: pay your mortgage.
Speaker 1: I know.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because also too, we have to remember that not
Speaker 2: not all mortgage, not that you shouldn't pay because it's
Speaker 2: a big company, but not all people who are renting
Speaker 2: are like these big conglomerates. Sometimes it's a mom and
Speaker 2: pop where maybe they have one, maybe two houses, and
Speaker 2: so you not paying could put that house into foreclosure
Speaker 2: and then both of you are out of a house.
Speaker 2: So yeah, just keep that in mind that not everybody's
Speaker 2: like this big bad landlord. That sometimes it's just regular
Speaker 2: people who just own one or two pieces of property
Speaker 2: and they're just trying to make it just like you.
Speaker 3: Yeah, one hundred percent. Already, this was my little PSA
Speaker 3: for y'all. Tip do we have and we're going to
Speaker 3: get a question I think from your inbox this time.
Speaker 2: I do you'll be all up in the budget these
Speaker 2: inbax asking me to save your lives, and I'm like, oh,
Speaker 2: this is a lot for an inbox, but I did
Speaker 2: find one from I'm going to call you aka your
Speaker 2: Highness because that's what your name. I don't know if
Speaker 2: you want me to say your first name, So AKA
Speaker 2: your Highness is I'm looking for some advice on what
Speaker 2: to do. I have mountains of medical bills currently and
Speaker 2: I can't afford to pay them. But I want to
Speaker 2: start preparing to buy a house. What should I do?
Speaker 3: H medical bills? So this is the kind of debt
Speaker 3: that I think people should first and foremost. I think
Speaker 3: people get a lot of flak. Oh, if you're in debt,
Speaker 3: you know it's your fault. You can't plan. People often
Speaker 3: don't plan to be a medical debt. It's not a
Speaker 3: credit card that you racked up, a Victoria's Secret, Okay.
Speaker 3: It is often out of your control and from the
Speaker 3: nature of the debt itself, some people don't realize that
Speaker 3: you can often call the medical billing office or your
Speaker 3: hospital's billing office and negotiate with them and at the
Speaker 3: very least get on some kind of income based repayment plan,
Speaker 3: and in some cases you might qualify for some of
Speaker 3: the debt to be forgiven. And yeah, it sucks, but
Speaker 3: a lot of people don't realize this. And I mean
Speaker 3: even when I missed like a copay for Rio's checkups,
Speaker 3: I think I owed ten dollars because I paid thirty
Speaker 3: and I was supposed to pay forty. And I got
Speaker 3: a letter from the doctor's office that looked like a
Speaker 3: debt collection bill and I was like, holy crap, ten dollars, okay,
Speaker 3: let me go pay this. But you know, and I
Speaker 3: and especially if it's a bigger number than that, people look,
Speaker 3: people get so scared. And it's like we were talking
Speaker 3: about earlier. You want to sweep it under the rug
Speaker 3: or put your head in you know, the sand and
Speaker 3: not pay it. But it's one of the I don't
Speaker 3: want to say easier, but you should call. You know,
Speaker 3: they will be more forgiving, and they often are than
Speaker 3: a big bank would be about a credit card.
Speaker 2: And ideally you want to try a call because I
Speaker 2: remember this is before I had insurance and I like
Speaker 2: tried to dye my own hair. Don't ask, and my
Speaker 2: face blew up like I don't know. Remember we're talking
Speaker 2: about this the Mask, like that movie Oh.
Speaker 1: Yeah, girl, Hard Time.
Speaker 3: Oh wait, wait, wait wait, I do you remember something
Speaker 3: about I thought it was the Mask with Jim Carrey
Speaker 3: and you said it's a different mask.
Speaker 2: Yes, I have to google the Mask with share shares.
Speaker 2: This movie literally called the Mask. And my face looked
Speaker 2: like that. It was so and I didn't want to
Speaker 2: go to the doctor because I was like, who has money,
Speaker 2: not mohy, even though my mom finally yelled at me
Speaker 2: and told me to go to the emergency room before
Speaker 2: you die. So I did, and I remember I feel
Speaker 2: like my bill was like I think, like two thousand
Speaker 2: dollars when it was all said and done. Basically, they
Speaker 2: gave me like a benajol drip and then gave me
Speaker 2: a prescription. And when I went to the pharmacy, he's like, yeah,
Speaker 2: go to AL two, it's ben and drim.
Speaker 1: I'm like, what they told me eighty dollars for the prescription.
Speaker 2: But I say all that to say I didn't have
Speaker 2: the twenty or twenty five hundred, and I was scared,
Speaker 2: and my sister at the time was like, no, girl
Speaker 2: called the hospital because they usually have internal collections before
Speaker 2: they give it to someone externally, and as long as
Speaker 2: it stays with the medical facility, they usually will work
Speaker 2: with you, and they did so I think I was
Speaker 2: able to get it down to eight hundred and what
Speaker 2: I like because normally, when you settle your debt with
Speaker 2: like a debt collection agency, that settlement goals.
Speaker 1: On your credit report and it's not a good look.
Speaker 2: But with medical facilities, oftentimes that won't go on and settled,
Speaker 2: it'll just be paid. And so I was able to
Speaker 2: pay eight hundred instead of the two thousand, and yeah
Speaker 2: it was, but I had to pay the lump sum
Speaker 2: and I scraped together that money and borrow some money
Speaker 2: and I paid it. So yeah, they typically are more
Speaker 2: lenear than your average bill collector.
Speaker 1: So definitely do that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And I don't know that I would be Well,
Speaker 2: it's good to be looking to buy a house, but
Speaker 2: depending when you're listening to this, we are in when
Speaker 2: is this April twenty twenty that they're saying that a
Speaker 2: housing crash potentially is on its way, meaning that the
Speaker 2: prices of house are going to go down. So I
Speaker 2: would just be watching the market because what you don't
Speaker 2: want to do is buy at the top of the
Speaker 2: market and buy a house that's that costs more now
Speaker 2: and will be cheaper later.
Speaker 3: But by giving her that advice, it's like you're going
Speaker 3: to cause the housing crisis because people won't buy them,
Speaker 3: and then people who own the houses, well, I'm not
Speaker 3: looking to move right away, but it sucks if you
Speaker 3: are a home If you're thinking about selling your home
Speaker 3: right now, it's probably even harder, even harder. And yeah,
Speaker 3: I mean whether or not Tiffany, you give this advice.
Speaker 3: You're not gonna You're not going to cause a housing crisis. Yeah,
Speaker 3: you don't have that much power. But I can see
Speaker 3: how we could be going in that direction and loop.
Speaker 3: But we'll see what happens.
Speaker 2: And typically everything balances itself out. There might be just
Speaker 2: like a temporary dip, but just be mindful of that.
Speaker 2: Because I bought my condo at the top of the
Speaker 2: market right before the last recession, and I always every
Speaker 2: once in a while I'll go on lture dot com
Speaker 2: and type in my address just to see, oh, maybe
Speaker 2: maybe somebody else paid more for it. No, girl, no,
Speaker 2: I bought it for two twenty. And what I tell
Speaker 2: you is sticks out like a sore thumb when there's
Speaker 2: like it's sticks switched hands like ten different times, and
Speaker 2: it's like sold for one fifty, one, thirty, one, eighty one,
Speaker 2: ninety and then you see two twenty in there.
Speaker 1: I'm like, damn it, that was me sold.
Speaker 3: To that sucker two thousand and seven. I'm just kidding.
Speaker 3: I'm kidding. Hindsight is twenty twenty. Man. Sometimes it is
Speaker 3: just luck, but so she's talking about saving for a
Speaker 3: house though, and there's nothing wrong with saving up because eventually,
Speaker 3: you know, you may actually end up coming out on
Speaker 3: top if there is a bit of a decline in
Speaker 3: the housing prices and you can maybe get a deal. Certainly,
Speaker 3: mortgage rates have never been lower, right, so from that front,
Speaker 3: it's not a bad time to be looking for a home.
Speaker 3: But just you know, I know her question is really like,
Speaker 3: how do I save her house with this medical dot
Speaker 3: on the side, right, So I would say, yeah, talk
Speaker 3: to your hopefully you're at a point where it hasn't
Speaker 3: reached collections yet, but even if it has, called them
Speaker 3: and see if you can settle for less and work
Speaker 3: or work out a payment plan. And then once you
Speaker 3: know how much you need to be paid out, then
Speaker 3: you know, just sit down with your budget and it's
Speaker 3: it's a simple matter of figuring out how much is
Speaker 3: going out, how much is coming in, and then setting
Speaker 3: aside whatever you can to save up for that future
Speaker 3: home purchase. And you know, if you're if that's going
Speaker 3: to be a few years from now, I'd just say
Speaker 3: put it in an online savings account that you and
Speaker 3: get the you know, fattest savings Ray you possibly can
Speaker 3: and just slowly but surely save it up.
Speaker 1: Yeah, save it up, save it up. Yeah, I think that. Oh.
Speaker 1: I just love when people.
Speaker 2: Someone just messages me little while we're on Oh, let's
Speaker 2: see her name. Well, her her ig name is ms Kia,
Speaker 2: so I'm again assuming her name is Kia Underscore eighty nine.
Speaker 1: Hey Kiki, And she just hit me.
Speaker 2: She's like, Hey, I'm interested in getting a financial advisor.
Speaker 2: I remember you mentioned it on the podcast Brown Ambition.
Speaker 2: What's the website to obtain a free financial advisor? And
Speaker 2: then she hit me back. I was like, never mind,
Speaker 2: it's in the show notes founded, So that's just a hit.
Speaker 2: Check out our show notes that. You know, Mandy posts
Speaker 2: like all this amazing stuff when it comes to looking
Speaker 2: for whatever tools and resources we talk about in the show.
Speaker 2: So yeah, Mandy or yeah, but now you're bringing it up,
Speaker 2: and now I feel like I need to also tell
Speaker 2: the people now if they don't know. So that wasn't
Speaker 2: our That was in our interview with Sharon Osherson. Yes,
Speaker 2: that we did back in March, and I will I will, oh, well,
Speaker 2: look I'm listening to the show because I don't know
Speaker 2: how iTunes works.
Speaker 3: Free financial planning. You can go to one f BA
Speaker 3: dot org. That's the number one spilled out f as
Speaker 3: in Frank p as in paul A, as in anatomy
Speaker 3: dot org. I couldn't think of an a name. And
Speaker 3: they have a pro bono pro bono planning program. Now disclosure,
Speaker 3: this was back in March. I don't know if it
Speaker 3: still exists, but you can start there.
Speaker 1: Yeah, thanks Kiki.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's just like you said my name live on
Speaker 3: the air. Answer your question. All right, Well, thank you
Speaker 3: guys again. Reach out to us set us up un
Speaker 3: Ambition Podcast at gmail dot com to hit us up directly,
Speaker 3: or you can go to Instagram and send us a DM.
Speaker 3: There we are at Brown Ambition Podcast on the gram.
Speaker 1: Yes we all. So it is not our time for
Speaker 1: boosting or breaking. Are you gonna boost it up? Oh?
Speaker 1: You gonna break it up?
Speaker 3: We'll break it down. Are you letting me go first
Speaker 3: this week? I am Oh that must mind, you're not ready?
Speaker 1: No mineus random, no shade.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so I want to take a brain, a brain.
Speaker 3: I want to take a brain. I need another brain.
Speaker 3: Apparently mommy brain is taking over. I'm gonna brown boost
Speaker 3: some of my followers on Instagram, I posted kind of
Speaker 3: just a joking gram story about is that a cool
Speaker 3: thing to say? Graham story or is it an instant whatever?
Speaker 3: I posted on Insta about what Tiff and I were
Speaker 3: talking about last week with my My wrist has been
Speaker 3: killing me and and I discovered it is actually a
Speaker 3: form of tendonitis. We discussed this right. It's a form
Speaker 3: of tendonitis that's common with new moms, and literally it's
Speaker 3: caused by picking up your child over and over and
Speaker 3: over and over and over, and hunching yourself over and
Speaker 3: twisting your boob in the right direction so that they
Speaker 3: can breastfeed properly and latch and all that. And I
Speaker 3: have had risk pain ever since, you know, those early
Speaker 3: days coming home from the hospital. But for those of
Speaker 3: you who are now working at home and don't have
Speaker 3: a proper ergonomically set up desk like me, because you know,
Speaker 3: I never worked at home really, so I had my laptop.
Speaker 3: I didn't have a chance to get my monitor from
Speaker 3: the office before they shut it down and all of that.
Speaker 3: So the fact that I'm hunching over typing all day
Speaker 3: because my job is entirely crafting emails and slack messages
Speaker 3: it's all I do, it seems like so it just
Speaker 3: exacerbated it. And I'm at the point where I'm having
Speaker 3: to wear my wrap up my arm every day and
Speaker 3: I want to do a boost to all that. And
Speaker 3: so many mommies reached out to me who have had
Speaker 3: the same issue, so I really didn't feel like I
Speaker 3: was crazy and creating some phantom condition. It's true. It's
Speaker 3: literally called mommy's risks. So thank you to y'all for
Speaker 3: sharing your stories and sharing some of the revenues that
Speaker 3: worked for you. And I want to do a quick
Speaker 3: boost for taking a break from typing and texting. So
Speaker 3: for the last week, with some exceptions, I have just said,
Speaker 3: I'm not typing, I'm not texting, I'm not clicking a mouse,
Speaker 3: and how am I doing my job? I'm still doing
Speaker 3: my job. I've realized that there's like an audio dictation feature.
Speaker 3: I use a MacBook and I've enabled this audio dictation
Speaker 3: tool so I can just tap a button and then
Speaker 3: speak into it and it can craft emails for me
Speaker 3: or it can search for me. Sure, it's like hilarious,
Speaker 3: and it messes up all the time words I'm trying
Speaker 3: to say, and it doesn't know how to spell funny things.
Speaker 3: But whatever it's, it's really given me a break in
Speaker 3: a great way. So for those of you who need
Speaker 3: a break, and if it's like carpal tunnel, because like
Speaker 3: I said, you don't have the right setup at home
Speaker 3: in these telecommuting times, take a break, try and like
Speaker 3: go a few hours without typing because or do some
Speaker 3: wrist stretches. Do some like try to do a little
Speaker 3: bit of stretching before and after you get up because
Speaker 3: and I'm living proof that it's it really wears you down.
Speaker 3: And I don't want y'all to get as bad as
Speaker 3: I've gotten with my wrist because let me tell you,
Speaker 3: just even like washing my hair now as a whole
Speaker 3: is a whole painful exercise. So try taking a break
Speaker 3: and it'll lead to some really funny typos. At the very.
Speaker 2: Least I've used it before. I just talked too fast.
Speaker 2: It's like, girl, don't I mite know what you're talking about?
Speaker 3: You do have to go real, real slow. I'm like,
Speaker 3: please tell them that per my email yesterday. Yeah, no,
Speaker 3: it's cool. And the last thing that I did is
Speaker 3: I asked for and this is something that people don't
Speaker 3: want to do. I was like, I'm not going to ask,
Speaker 3: you know, our it department for a monitor because this
Speaker 3: is expensive and you know I already have one at
Speaker 3: the office. But I'm like hurting myself by not asking
Speaker 3: for it. So I went ahead and just sent a message, Hey,
Speaker 3: do you guys have any thing you can do? I'm struck.
Speaker 3: I'm having like pain from my death setup, and next
Speaker 3: thing I know, I have a brand new monitor, keyboard, everything.
Speaker 3: So just raise a hand and ask for what you need.
Speaker 3: I think some companies, if they're able, we'll be happy
Speaker 3: to help you because everyone's getting used to this new normal.
Speaker 2: Yes, it is a new normal, of course, So my booze,
Speaker 2: I'm gonna do a boost. It's totally random because I'm like,
Speaker 2: I don't know, I feel like good today, so random
Speaker 2: is good. So I've been doing a lot of lives,
Speaker 2: like I just tape The Real today and I'm taping
Speaker 2: a big national show tomorrow, and.
Speaker 1: I was like, yikes.
Speaker 2: If you know me, I'm kind of a tomboy, so
Speaker 2: I don't really wear makeup unless I have to. I mean,
Speaker 2: aside from the occasional, you know, like I'm like a
Speaker 2: go to eye line. I'm a little mess are, but
Speaker 2: I don't wear foundation because honestly, I don't know how
Speaker 2: to put it on.
Speaker 1: Not that I don't need it, I just don't know
Speaker 1: how to put it on.
Speaker 2: So I call my two go to makeup artists, Leela
Speaker 2: Nima and Ejamachi Misiah, and.
Speaker 1: I was like, Eh, help me, what's I do?
Speaker 2: I don't know how to do the makeups that you
Speaker 2: do for me? And I have about two days to
Speaker 2: figure out what am I going to do? And they're like, okay,
Speaker 2: just start with foundation. I'm like, yeah, so about that.
Speaker 2: Don't have any of those things at home. They were like, Tiffany,
Speaker 2: are you kidd amy?
Speaker 1: I'm like no.
Speaker 2: So they both actually told me the same because I
Speaker 2: was like, tell me a drugstore brand because obviously I
Speaker 2: don't have I'm not going to Alta or SOP. I
Speaker 2: don't even know if they're open. No, but I don't,
Speaker 2: you know, and I don't want to risk my Corona
Speaker 2: life with them for that. They're like, I'm like, where
Speaker 2: if I can go to the local Walgreens to write aid,
Speaker 2: what should I get? So Leela gave me a list
Speaker 2: and then I called EJ and she was giving me
Speaker 2: the same brand Mabeline.
Speaker 1: But she's like, I'll do you one better.
Speaker 2: I live right by Target, and I know your skin color,
Speaker 2: and I'm going to do your face, and so I
Speaker 2: will get you like you know, I'll get you everything
Speaker 2: that you need, concealer, mascara, just everything. She got me
Speaker 2: all the things, and then she just left it on
Speaker 2: the front porch. I picked it up, masks and gloves on,
Speaker 2: and then I ran home and and I cash at her.
Speaker 1: I didn't even see her. I was like, oh, I
Speaker 1: didn't even get to see her.
Speaker 2: But I have to say so, I don't particularly like
Speaker 2: makeup because sometimes it just makes you look like not yourself.
Speaker 2: So it's one of the reasons why I just never
Speaker 2: got into foundation. But I have to say, this foundation, Mandy, honestly,
Speaker 2: I look like me.
Speaker 1: It's really great. It's called so Maybelene has a foundation
Speaker 1: fit me.
Speaker 2: That's like the I guess Maybelene has a bunch of
Speaker 2: different like brands under their Mabeline or whatever, but fit me,
Speaker 2: and I'm my skin is kind of orally so Matt Porliss.
Speaker 2: But when I tell you, like I said, I'm not
Speaker 2: one to wear makeup because I don't like not looking
Speaker 2: like myself. I mean, I'll wear it for TV, I
Speaker 2: don't mind, but on a day to day basis, and
Speaker 2: not that I'm going to start. But it was nice
Speaker 2: to know because I've I've done speaking engagements before where
Speaker 2: they had a makeup person. I actually did a whole
Speaker 2: national commercial and let's just say the makeup artist was
Speaker 2: of the other persuasion Caucasian. And when I tell you, Mandy,
Speaker 2: she looked at my face was like, she looks so nervous.
Speaker 2: And I was like but and I was really clear
Speaker 2: with the brand. Hey you see my picture, can you
Speaker 2: please share with the makeup artists?
Speaker 1: And not only I'm black, I'm.
Speaker 2: Extra extra chocolately black, and I just want to be
Speaker 2: you know, I'm gonna make sure I'm good.
Speaker 1: And they're like, no, no, no, we're fine.
Speaker 2: And my makeup artist at the time gave me like
Speaker 2: some little jar of like what she normally used on me.
Speaker 2: That lady looks so scared that I ended up doing
Speaker 2: my own makeup me Tiffany All for a national TV
Speaker 2: commercial that ran for like three years. Every time somebody
Speaker 2: would see it, they're like, it's that you. I'm like
Speaker 2: it was, They're like, your cheeks are really rosy.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I know how blush works.
Speaker 2: So yeah, so just shout out to the makeup artists,
Speaker 2: just a boost to them, and you know some of
Speaker 2: them would give, Like I know Leela's not doing it
Speaker 2: right now, but ejama I think it's ejama azena beauty easy,
Speaker 2: I n an a and then like ejama I j
Speaker 2: e O m A, I think she's doing live like
Speaker 2: you can.
Speaker 1: Actually you can.
Speaker 2: Hire her to do like a one on one makeup
Speaker 2: session if you're someone who is like, oh, maybe you're
Speaker 2: a speaker and you normally have someone do it for you.
Speaker 2: But like I said, Mabeline, they're fit me collection, their
Speaker 2: loose powder, their foundation, even their concealer. Honestly all amazing.
Speaker 2: I don't feel makeupy at all. I felt really comfortable
Speaker 2: and I was able to do it myself with some help.
Speaker 3: Still definitely a boost to her for dropping it off.
Speaker 3: Can she also make me a little mankup, Curt. I
Speaker 3: know it is something, and you know what, it's nice
Speaker 3: because even the whimsy things we used to do to
Speaker 3: comfort ourselves, like getting a nice cheap pant like a
Speaker 3: Mani petty or you know, getting a nice tuba lipstick,
Speaker 3: that stuff that I would do just go browse forward
Speaker 3: to feel better after a hard day. And if you
Speaker 3: feel like you can't do that, And speaking from experience,
Speaker 3: Sephora shipping is really really delayed. It took me like
Speaker 3: two and a half weeks to send something to a
Speaker 3: girlfriend for her birthday. Yeah, just those little pleasures.
Speaker 1: Yes. I was so like, oh my gosh, you really
Speaker 1: got it. Well, she didn't drop it off.
Speaker 2: I went to go because we both live in Jersey,
Speaker 2: but she went to her Target, bought all the things
Speaker 2: and put it on her front step. And I was like, wow,
Speaker 2: this was because she's like, girl, if I send you
Speaker 2: to Target, you're just gonna be looking like I don't
Speaker 2: know what I'm looking at because I wouldn't even tell
Speaker 2: you in your face mask, like what color I would be.
Speaker 2: So she gave me like three ranges and she was
Speaker 2: like you know, cause she's like you never know, but yeah,
Speaker 2: it just yeah, when you have really great people around you,
Speaker 2: maybe that's even as like an extra boost, like just
Speaker 2: having really like kind like you know, go above and beyond.
Speaker 1: So just shout out to you, e Jay, Thank you
Speaker 1: so much girl.
Speaker 2: Because of you, I didn't look crazy on the real today.
Speaker 3: And the gig workers who are offering services online in
Speaker 3: lieu off, they're in person, like my the person. She's
Speaker 3: like the one curly hairstylist in all of Westchester, it
Speaker 3: seems like. And I went to her six months ago
Speaker 3: for a trim and it has been six months since
Speaker 3: I've had a trim, which is horrifying, I'm sure to her,
Speaker 3: but I reached out to her and she says, I'm
Speaker 3: doing virtual consultations. So that's just one way that they're
Speaker 3: trying to stay afloat. So if you want to support
Speaker 3: your hairstylist or your nail salon or your makeup artists,
Speaker 3: if you have one. I don't know if I mentioned
Speaker 3: this last week, but I did tip my massage therapist.
Speaker 3: I was going to form the back pain I got
Speaker 3: from breastfeeding. She was like a postnatal massage therapist, and
Speaker 3: I just sent her a little tip. And she's not
Speaker 3: doing anything online, but I sent her a tip and
Speaker 3: she was just and venmo and and she sent us
Speaker 3: two hands sewn masks the other day as a thank you,
Speaker 3: which was really sweet. And you know, it's it's not
Speaker 3: if you're it's also these people are really struggling, So
Speaker 3: you know, if they're pivoting their services a little bit
Speaker 3: and you have the finances to take advantage, it's also
Speaker 3: it's good for them, but it's it's maybe one way
Speaker 3: for you to escape and feel like your normal self
Speaker 3: in these insane times. And I think we all just
Speaker 3: need to do anything we can to feel good and yeah,
Speaker 3: and treat yourself in whatever way what that looks like
Speaker 3: in today's you know, new normal.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm going to.
Speaker 3: Treat myself to the Insecure season. I mean episode three
Speaker 3: that I have not watched yet.
Speaker 1: Yeah, me either. I heard Molly's acting up. I was like, well,
Speaker 1: I got to see.
Speaker 3: I love this season. I love the tensiency people. I
Speaker 3: was this group chat and they were going on and
Speaker 3: on about the sex on the show and like the relationships.
Speaker 3: I'm like, the real relationship in that show was Molly
Speaker 3: and Lisa, and that's what I love. And I feel
Speaker 3: like they do a really they they do a really
Speaker 3: realistic version of a friendship in your thirties and you start, yeah,
Speaker 3: and I'm not gonna spoil it, but I I really
Speaker 3: like where they're going with the show. I don't mind.
Speaker 3: I don't mind Molly that she's she and Lisa aren't
Speaker 3: getting along as well right now. So that's how it
Speaker 3: be one hundred percent that episode when they had the
Speaker 3: baby shower and Issa is like I wasn't included on
Speaker 3: the baby shower committee invite may or may not have
Speaker 3: happened to me to me in real life, all ooh,
Speaker 3: I felt seen. But yeah, are you watching anything good,
Speaker 3: like anything that's that's helping you escape or wind down
Speaker 3: after your long days saving the world.
Speaker 2: So it's been like so weird, Like I've just been
Speaker 2: totally into CNBC super Rich on YouTube. I've just been watching,
Speaker 2: like I don't know why, but I love watching these
Speaker 2: like mega mega mansion tours that I would never ever
Speaker 2: live in so I can be judging.
Speaker 1: I'm like, look at that sink?
Speaker 3: Who wants that?
Speaker 2: That's been like my I watched them like every night
Speaker 2: at least, because you should do about ten minutes long.
Speaker 2: So I watch at least two or three of them
Speaker 2: every night where it's like this house is twenty five
Speaker 2: million dollars and not because I aspire, because like I
Speaker 2: literally feel like I just sit and watching judgment like
Speaker 2: that floor is so tacky. Not me as if I
Speaker 2: have twenty five million dollars to be buying.
Speaker 1: But yeah, so.
Speaker 2: That's been my I don't know, I've never really been
Speaker 2: I'm not really into TVTV, but that's like, yeah, lately,
Speaker 2: that's been like my little like escape that I like
Speaker 2: watching those tours and looking at these houses and every
Speaker 2: once in a while Architectural Digest ad they have like
Speaker 2: the celebrity house tours.
Speaker 1: I like those two, but I'm less judging because I
Speaker 1: feel like, oh, I like her, like Live Tyler. Her
Speaker 1: tour was so great. I was like, I like her,
Speaker 1: how I would totally live.
Speaker 3: There a little house porn that makes sense anybody. So
Speaker 3: CNBC's super Rich And then Architectural Digest on YouTube yep
Speaker 3: on YouTube. Yeah, I like SNL at Home has has
Speaker 3: been hilarious. Actually they wrote back Big Poppy. He did
Speaker 3: a Keenan brought back Pig Poppy David Ortiz and then yeah,
Speaker 3: and if you haven't checked out their skit about what's
Speaker 3: the grocery store, Oh, Kate McKinnon and Adye Bryant were
Speaker 3: so funny. They did like a skit about what's left
Speaker 3: over in the grocery store. Everyone's getting like certain foods
Speaker 3: and leaving all the crap behind anyway, and they're little,
Speaker 3: you know, and they're digestible, little nuggets. Because right, who
Speaker 3: has the time to sit down and watch hours and hours?
Speaker 3: If you do, bless you, but not all of us
Speaker 3: have that. And then the last thing that I've been watching, Okay,
Speaker 3: this is a little bit weird. So when you have
Speaker 3: time and you're looking at Netflix, now, they have some crazy,
Speaker 3: some astoundingly weird stuff on. And I found this show
Speaker 3: called The Caskatiers, which is it is a reality show
Speaker 3: document I'll call it a documentary about a Polynesian funeral
Speaker 3: home director and the people he works with. And I
Speaker 3: am so invested, so invested, and it is really fascinating
Speaker 3: and I'm just telling myself, I'm learning about a different
Speaker 3: culture and you know, their their end of life, you know,
Speaker 3: their end of life practices and all that. But it's
Speaker 3: just so funny. Their little staff is and it's like quirky,
Speaker 3: and it's it's in New Zealand. It's good. I say,
Speaker 3: check it out, y'all. Whatever makes you feel good, don't
Speaker 3: judge me.
Speaker 2: And I should have opened with this or ended this
Speaker 2: when maybe we'll do like a whole podcast on it,
Speaker 2: but the business did hit a mile So we had
Speaker 2: our first seven figure month.
Speaker 1: Oh I know, it wasn't that crazy.
Speaker 2: And we're about two months away from having our first
Speaker 2: seven figure reoccurring month. There's two different things, like you
Speaker 2: can make seven figures in a month, but in reoccurring
Speaker 2: because you know, my one of my businesses is in
Speaker 2: online school, the literature Academy. So we're about a few
Speaker 2: months away of having reoccurring because right now it's multiple
Speaker 2: high multiple six figures, and we're just on the cusp. Well,
Speaker 2: that would take me from a seven figure year business
Speaker 2: to an eight figure a year business, which is like
Speaker 2: I would have never ever imagined preschool teacher Tiffany, So
Speaker 2: that's huge. I'm trying to figure out how I'm gonna
Speaker 2: celebrate psych you know, I'm not gonna settle. I'm gonna
Speaker 2: be like, okay, okay, back to work. But it's just
Speaker 2: I don't want it to be a milestone that we celebrate.
Speaker 3: But where in the house. What am I gonna do something?
Speaker 3: Find a way, find a way. For my mom's birthday,
Speaker 3: we compile her birthday, said a happy birthday, Mom, and
Speaker 3: my dad's was on Sunday, and just find a way,
Speaker 3: like we put together a little virtual like a little
Speaker 3: online or no, we got a bunch of people to
Speaker 3: submit messages, video messages, and I quickly edited it together
Speaker 3: into a nice little video for her, So a virtual
Speaker 3: social distancing birthday shout out video. I don't know, I
Speaker 3: just feel like if you have birthdays or anniversaries, it's
Speaker 3: it's an easy thing to say, or milestones or whatever, like, oh,
Speaker 3: you know, maybe next year, but I know, like finding
Speaker 3: little small pockets of joy, go do something to go
Speaker 3: watch like an hour of CNBC super Rich and judge
Speaker 3: them because you should be on the show because you're
Speaker 3: super rich.
Speaker 2: Like you know, no now and just differ between like
Speaker 2: the business making seven figures about I wish I was
Speaker 2: making seven figures about not even close. But yeah, yeah
Speaker 2: that is a pretty big most. But yeah, I think
Speaker 2: I will. I'll figure out something fun. Maybe you guys,
Speaker 2: you know, hey, since you're not asking questions, you could
Speaker 2: certainly tell what are some ways that I can celebrate
Speaker 2: from the house.
Speaker 3: How are you guys marking milestones in quarantine? That's what
Speaker 3: we want. That'd be a great share. Share your positive stories.
Speaker 3: Send us a message on Instagram, send us photos. Maybe
Speaker 3: we'll share it. Oh, maybe I'll share it in our
Speaker 3: in our Gram stories are instant stories. Then y'all can
Speaker 3: teach me how to say it. Yeah, that'll be fun.
Speaker 3: And we will wrap us up and see y'all next week.
Speaker 1: Until next week, my mantrain by to