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Speaker 2: We're black, We're brown and be shine.

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Speaker 1: It's sunshiny today, Mandy. How are you? It is?

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Speaker 3: And you know what, I definitely am taking advantage of

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Speaker 3: it for the soul. Right now, it is what I

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Speaker 3: to hear if you live in California, or like one

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Speaker 1: Honestly, there's nothing like some sunshine. You definitely put a

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yay, I googled it. You only need ten to

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Speaker 3: thirty minutes. For those of you whose mind is like,

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Speaker 3: Because I'm always being told by doctors that I don't

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Speaker 3: a top result on Google. Okay, ten to thirty minutes

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Speaker 3: little bottle of vitamin D that's absolutely going to spill

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Speaker 3: and you're going to have to repurchase it for fifteen

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Speaker 3: real fun. So today I was like, her baby, sit

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Speaker 3: little positive silver linings these days. Yes, what are you

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Speaker 2: Got the quarantina? What am I doing to help with quarantina?

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Speaker 2: I feel like I'm working too much, as per yous,

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Speaker 2: But I finally took your vice member. I don't know

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Speaker 2: You know, I had only really taken a month off.

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Speaker 2: included in my insurance SIS that SIS can wait, but

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Speaker 2: So I'm assuming she's going to be on Friday, Like, yes, Tiffany,

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Speaker 2: So I have a call with her on She was

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Speaker 1: So I was like, I felt like, Yay, I conquered

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Speaker 2: I made a call and it was just in time,

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Speaker 2: Like I am the ultimate avoid what I'm afraid of

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Speaker 2: Like what do you tell yourself? Because I'm trying to

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Speaker 2: Is it not something that you tell yourself? Like I'm

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Speaker 3: I think it's because I'm internal. I like to have

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Speaker 3: He got into this huge drop down, drag down fight

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Speaker 3: But I was trying to push push, push, push that button,

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Speaker 3: It's also holds you back when you're and you know

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Speaker 2: No, that's good because I'll straight be in the shower

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Speaker 3: But I've been way way better about not complaining about

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Speaker 3: It was just like the same I went through when

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Speaker 3: this is such a weird freaking time, just give and

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Speaker 3: give yourself the same break. Once I stopped criticizing myself

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Speaker 3: Brown break for beating yourself up exactly.

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Speaker 1: This is the midbound break.

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Speaker 2: Well are we ready for question?

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Speaker 1: I was like, how long could I keep this verberation going?

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Speaker 3: I will never get in the way tiffany any freestyle

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Speaker 3: and you want to do? But why don't we take

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Speaker 3: to hear from you guys, and you know, help you

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Speaker 3: with whatever financial or career your questions you've got these days.

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Speaker 3: One of the topics before we get into a question

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Speaker 3: from a listener I wanted to talk about and just

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Speaker 3: bring up myself, is the fact that May first is approaching,

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Speaker 3: and like many people, that means either rent or mortgage

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Speaker 3: is due. And I heard that in New York City.

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Speaker 3: This is in the Law Street Journal and some other

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Speaker 3: big cities. They're trying to these different groups are trying

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Speaker 3: to encourage renters to go on a rent strike. And

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Speaker 3: I wanted to bring this up because although some states

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Speaker 3: in the wake of the pandemic have suspended things like evictions,

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Speaker 3: which pretty much makes it safer. You know, if you're

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Speaker 3: someone who's lost a job or you can't afford your rent,

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Speaker 3: it means that you've got a cushion to where you're

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Speaker 3: not going to immediately get kicked out and be homeless,

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Speaker 3: which is very nice. But this rent strike idea, I

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Speaker 3: mean maybe, as someone who's just a goodie two shoes

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Speaker 3: and likes paying bills, I'm on the side of if

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Speaker 3: you've got the money in your account, pay your rent.

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Speaker 3: If you don't, obviously it's not a strike at that point.

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Speaker 3: It's just like, look, I don't got it, and that's

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Speaker 3: its own thing. But I just don't want to see

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Speaker 3: people make a statement by not paying their rent and

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Speaker 3: then end up June or July, you know, being taken

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Speaker 3: to housing court, and that's a whole whole other mess.

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Speaker 3: And I feel like, do you have, like my dad

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Speaker 3: is someone who would look at this and be like,

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Speaker 3: oh cool, Yeah, I'm just not going to pay my mortgage,

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Speaker 3: you know, fight the man. And I'm like, no, daddy,

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Speaker 3: pay your mortgage.

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Speaker 1: I know.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because also too, we have to remember that not

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Speaker 2: not all mortgage, not that you shouldn't pay because it's

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Speaker 2: a big company, but not all people who are renting

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Speaker 2: are like these big conglomerates. Sometimes it's a mom and

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Speaker 2: pop where maybe they have one, maybe two houses, and

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Speaker 2: so you not paying could put that house into foreclosure

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Speaker 2: and then both of you are out of a house.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, just keep that in mind that not everybody's

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Speaker 2: like this big bad landlord. That sometimes it's just regular

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Speaker 2: people who just own one or two pieces of property

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Speaker 2: and they're just trying to make it just like you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, one hundred percent. Already, this was my little PSA

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Speaker 3: for y'all. Tip do we have and we're going to

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Speaker 3: get a question I think from your inbox this time.

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Speaker 2: I do you'll be all up in the budget these

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Speaker 2: inbax asking me to save your lives, and I'm like, oh,

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Speaker 2: this is a lot for an inbox, but I did

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Speaker 2: find one from I'm going to call you aka your

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Speaker 2: Highness because that's what your name. I don't know if

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Speaker 2: you want me to say your first name, So AKA

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Speaker 2: your Highness is I'm looking for some advice on what

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Speaker 2: to do. I have mountains of medical bills currently and

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Speaker 2: I can't afford to pay them. But I want to

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Speaker 2: start preparing to buy a house. What should I do?

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Speaker 3: H medical bills? So this is the kind of debt

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Speaker 3: that I think people should first and foremost. I think

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Speaker 3: people get a lot of flak. Oh, if you're in debt,

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Speaker 3: you know it's your fault. You can't plan. People often

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Speaker 3: don't plan to be a medical debt. It's not a

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Speaker 3: credit card that you racked up, a Victoria's Secret, Okay.

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Speaker 3: It is often out of your control and from the

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Speaker 3: nature of the debt itself, some people don't realize that

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Speaker 3: you can often call the medical billing office or your

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Speaker 3: hospital's billing office and negotiate with them and at the

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Speaker 3: very least get on some kind of income based repayment plan,

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Speaker 3: and in some cases you might qualify for some of

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Speaker 3: the debt to be forgiven. And yeah, it sucks, but

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Speaker 3: a lot of people don't realize this. And I mean

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Speaker 3: even when I missed like a copay for Rio's checkups,

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Speaker 3: I think I owed ten dollars because I paid thirty

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Speaker 3: and I was supposed to pay forty. And I got

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Speaker 3: a letter from the doctor's office that looked like a

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Speaker 3: debt collection bill and I was like, holy crap, ten dollars, okay,

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Speaker 3: let me go pay this. But you know, and I

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Speaker 3: and especially if it's a bigger number than that, people look,

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Speaker 3: people get so scared. And it's like we were talking

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Speaker 3: about earlier. You want to sweep it under the rug

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Speaker 3: or put your head in you know, the sand and

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Speaker 3: not pay it. But it's one of the I don't

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Speaker 3: want to say easier, but you should call. You know,

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Speaker 3: they will be more forgiving, and they often are than

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Speaker 3: a big bank would be about a credit card.

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Speaker 2: And ideally you want to try a call because I

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Speaker 2: remember this is before I had insurance and I like

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Speaker 2: tried to dye my own hair. Don't ask, and my

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Speaker 2: face blew up like I don't know. Remember we're talking

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Speaker 2: about this the Mask, like that movie Oh.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, girl, Hard Time.

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Speaker 3: Oh wait, wait, wait wait, I do you remember something

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Speaker 3: about I thought it was the Mask with Jim Carrey

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Speaker 3: and you said it's a different mask.

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Speaker 2: Yes, I have to google the Mask with share shares.

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Speaker 2: This movie literally called the Mask. And my face looked

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Speaker 2: like that. It was so and I didn't want to

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Speaker 2: go to the doctor because I was like, who has money,

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Speaker 2: not mohy, even though my mom finally yelled at me

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Speaker 2: and told me to go to the emergency room before

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Speaker 2: you die. So I did, and I remember I feel

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Speaker 2: like my bill was like I think, like two thousand

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Speaker 2: dollars when it was all said and done. Basically, they

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Speaker 2: gave me like a benajol drip and then gave me

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Speaker 2: a prescription. And when I went to the pharmacy, he's like, yeah,

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Speaker 2: go to AL two, it's ben and drim.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, what they told me eighty dollars for the prescription.

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Speaker 2: But I say all that to say I didn't have

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Speaker 2: the twenty or twenty five hundred, and I was scared,

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Speaker 2: and my sister at the time was like, no, girl

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Speaker 2: called the hospital because they usually have internal collections before

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Speaker 2: they give it to someone externally, and as long as

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Speaker 2: it stays with the medical facility, they usually will work

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Speaker 2: with you, and they did so I think I was

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Speaker 2: able to get it down to eight hundred and what

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Speaker 2: I like because normally, when you settle your debt with

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Speaker 2: like a debt collection agency, that settlement goals.

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Speaker 1: On your credit report and it's not a good look.

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Speaker 2: But with medical facilities, oftentimes that won't go on and settled,

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Speaker 2: it'll just be paid. And so I was able to

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Speaker 2: pay eight hundred instead of the two thousand, and yeah

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Speaker 2: it was, but I had to pay the lump sum

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Speaker 2: and I scraped together that money and borrow some money

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Speaker 2: and I paid it. So yeah, they typically are more

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Speaker 2: lenear than your average bill collector.

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Speaker 1: So definitely do that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And I don't know that I would be Well,

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Speaker 2: it's good to be looking to buy a house, but

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Speaker 2: depending when you're listening to this, we are in when

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Speaker 2: is this April twenty twenty that they're saying that a

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Speaker 2: housing crash potentially is on its way, meaning that the

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Speaker 2: prices of house are going to go down. So I

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Speaker 2: would just be watching the market because what you don't

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Speaker 2: want to do is buy at the top of the

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Speaker 2: market and buy a house that's that costs more now

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Speaker 2: and will be cheaper later.

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Speaker 3: But by giving her that advice, it's like you're going

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Speaker 3: to cause the housing crisis because people won't buy them,

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Speaker 3: and then people who own the houses, well, I'm not

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Speaker 3: looking to move right away, but it sucks if you

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Speaker 3: are a home If you're thinking about selling your home

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Speaker 3: right now, it's probably even harder, even harder. And yeah,

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Speaker 3: I mean whether or not Tiffany, you give this advice.

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Speaker 3: You're not gonna You're not going to cause a housing crisis. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: you don't have that much power. But I can see

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Speaker 3: how we could be going in that direction and loop.

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Speaker 3: But we'll see what happens.

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Speaker 2: And typically everything balances itself out. There might be just

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Speaker 2: like a temporary dip, but just be mindful of that.

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Speaker 2: Because I bought my condo at the top of the

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Speaker 2: market right before the last recession, and I always every

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Speaker 2: once in a while I'll go on lture dot com

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Speaker 2: and type in my address just to see, oh, maybe

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Speaker 2: maybe somebody else paid more for it. No, girl, no,

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Speaker 2: I bought it for two twenty. And what I tell

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Speaker 2: you is sticks out like a sore thumb when there's

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Speaker 2: like it's sticks switched hands like ten different times, and

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Speaker 2: it's like sold for one fifty, one, thirty, one, eighty one,

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Speaker 2: ninety and then you see two twenty in there.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, damn it, that was me sold.

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Speaker 3: To that sucker two thousand and seven. I'm just kidding.

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Speaker 3: I'm kidding. Hindsight is twenty twenty. Man. Sometimes it is

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Speaker 3: just luck, but so she's talking about saving for a

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Speaker 3: house though, and there's nothing wrong with saving up because eventually,

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Speaker 3: you know, you may actually end up coming out on

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Speaker 3: top if there is a bit of a decline in

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Speaker 3: the housing prices and you can maybe get a deal. Certainly,

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Speaker 3: mortgage rates have never been lower, right, so from that front,

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Speaker 3: it's not a bad time to be looking for a home.

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Speaker 3: But just you know, I know her question is really like,

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Speaker 3: how do I save her house with this medical dot

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Speaker 3: on the side, right, So I would say, yeah, talk

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Speaker 3: to your hopefully you're at a point where it hasn't

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Speaker 3: reached collections yet, but even if it has, called them

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Speaker 3: and see if you can settle for less and work

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Speaker 3: or work out a payment plan. And then once you

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Speaker 3: know how much you need to be paid out, then

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Speaker 3: you know, just sit down with your budget and it's

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Speaker 3: it's a simple matter of figuring out how much is

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Speaker 3: going out, how much is coming in, and then setting

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Speaker 3: aside whatever you can to save up for that future

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Speaker 3: home purchase. And you know, if you're if that's going

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Speaker 3: to be a few years from now, I'd just say

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Speaker 3: put it in an online savings account that you and

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Speaker 3: get the you know, fattest savings Ray you possibly can

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Speaker 3: and just slowly but surely save it up.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, save it up, save it up. Yeah, I think that. Oh.

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Speaker 1: I just love when people.

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Speaker 2: Someone just messages me little while we're on Oh, let's

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Speaker 2: see her name. Well, her her ig name is ms Kia,

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Speaker 2: so I'm again assuming her name is Kia Underscore eighty nine.

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Speaker 1: Hey Kiki, And she just hit me.

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Speaker 2: She's like, Hey, I'm interested in getting a financial advisor.

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Speaker 2: I remember you mentioned it on the podcast Brown Ambition.

647
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Speaker 2: What's the website to obtain a free financial advisor? And

648
00:29:53,880 --> 00:29:55,240
Speaker 2: then she hit me back. I was like, never mind,

649
00:29:55,280 --> 00:29:57,920
Speaker 2: it's in the show notes founded, So that's just a hit.

650
00:29:58,680 --> 00:30:01,959
Speaker 2: Check out our show notes that. You know, Mandy posts

651
00:30:01,960 --> 00:30:03,920
Speaker 2: like all this amazing stuff when it comes to looking

652
00:30:04,000 --> 00:30:07,080
Speaker 2: for whatever tools and resources we talk about in the show.

653
00:30:08,240 --> 00:30:11,280
Speaker 2: So yeah, Mandy or yeah, but now you're bringing it up,

654
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Speaker 2: and now I feel like I need to also tell

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Speaker 2: the people now if they don't know. So that wasn't

656
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Speaker 2: our That was in our interview with Sharon Osherson. Yes,

657
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Speaker 2: that we did back in March, and I will I will, oh, well,

658
00:30:23,720 --> 00:30:25,400
Speaker 2: look I'm listening to the show because I don't know

659
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Speaker 2: how iTunes works.

660
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Speaker 3: Free financial planning. You can go to one f BA

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Speaker 3: dot org. That's the number one spilled out f as

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Speaker 3: in Frank p as in paul A, as in anatomy

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Speaker 3: dot org. I couldn't think of an a name. And

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Speaker 3: they have a pro bono pro bono planning program. Now disclosure,

665
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Speaker 3: this was back in March. I don't know if it

666
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Speaker 3: still exists, but you can start there.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, thanks Kiki.

668
00:30:49,760 --> 00:30:53,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's just like you said my name live on

669
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Speaker 3: the air. Answer your question. All right, Well, thank you

670
00:30:58,120 --> 00:31:00,160
Speaker 3: guys again. Reach out to us set us up un

671
00:31:00,160 --> 00:31:03,880
Speaker 3: Ambition Podcast at gmail dot com to hit us up directly,

672
00:31:04,640 --> 00:31:07,040
Speaker 3: or you can go to Instagram and send us a DM.

673
00:31:07,080 --> 00:31:09,560
Speaker 3: There we are at Brown Ambition Podcast on the gram.

674
00:31:10,280 --> 00:31:14,280
Speaker 1: Yes we all. So it is not our time for

675
00:31:14,400 --> 00:31:20,120
Speaker 1: boosting or breaking. Are you gonna boost it up? Oh?

676
00:31:20,240 --> 00:31:21,880
Speaker 1: You gonna break it up?

677
00:31:23,120 --> 00:31:26,320
Speaker 3: We'll break it down. Are you letting me go first

678
00:31:26,320 --> 00:31:29,320
Speaker 3: this week? I am Oh that must mind, you're not ready?

679
00:31:29,880 --> 00:31:33,280
Speaker 1: No mineus random, no shade.

680
00:31:34,760 --> 00:31:37,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, so I want to take a brain, a brain.

681
00:31:37,440 --> 00:31:40,440
Speaker 3: I want to take a brain. I need another brain.

682
00:31:40,600 --> 00:31:44,600
Speaker 3: Apparently mommy brain is taking over. I'm gonna brown boost

683
00:31:44,920 --> 00:31:47,680
Speaker 3: some of my followers on Instagram, I posted kind of

684
00:31:47,720 --> 00:31:50,920
Speaker 3: just a joking gram story about is that a cool

685
00:31:50,920 --> 00:31:53,719
Speaker 3: thing to say? Graham story or is it an instant whatever?

686
00:31:54,080 --> 00:31:56,800
Speaker 3: I posted on Insta about what Tiff and I were

687
00:31:56,840 --> 00:31:58,680
Speaker 3: talking about last week with my My wrist has been

688
00:31:58,760 --> 00:32:01,840
Speaker 3: killing me and and I discovered it is actually a

689
00:32:01,840 --> 00:32:05,000
Speaker 3: form of tendonitis. We discussed this right. It's a form

690
00:32:05,040 --> 00:32:08,200
Speaker 3: of tendonitis that's common with new moms, and literally it's

691
00:32:08,240 --> 00:32:11,680
Speaker 3: caused by picking up your child over and over and

692
00:32:11,760 --> 00:32:15,640
Speaker 3: over and over and over, and hunching yourself over and

693
00:32:15,680 --> 00:32:18,080
Speaker 3: twisting your boob in the right direction so that they

694
00:32:18,080 --> 00:32:21,760
Speaker 3: can breastfeed properly and latch and all that. And I

695
00:32:21,800 --> 00:32:24,400
Speaker 3: have had risk pain ever since, you know, those early

696
00:32:24,440 --> 00:32:27,360
Speaker 3: days coming home from the hospital. But for those of

697
00:32:27,360 --> 00:32:29,480
Speaker 3: you who are now working at home and don't have

698
00:32:29,560 --> 00:32:32,880
Speaker 3: a proper ergonomically set up desk like me, because you know,

699
00:32:32,920 --> 00:32:35,680
Speaker 3: I never worked at home really, so I had my laptop.

700
00:32:35,760 --> 00:32:37,719
Speaker 3: I didn't have a chance to get my monitor from

701
00:32:37,760 --> 00:32:40,160
Speaker 3: the office before they shut it down and all of that.

702
00:32:40,360 --> 00:32:43,200
Speaker 3: So the fact that I'm hunching over typing all day

703
00:32:43,240 --> 00:32:46,560
Speaker 3: because my job is entirely crafting emails and slack messages

704
00:32:46,560 --> 00:32:48,560
Speaker 3: it's all I do, it seems like so it just

705
00:32:48,640 --> 00:32:50,720
Speaker 3: exacerbated it. And I'm at the point where I'm having

706
00:32:50,760 --> 00:32:54,120
Speaker 3: to wear my wrap up my arm every day and

707
00:32:54,680 --> 00:32:56,920
Speaker 3: I want to do a boost to all that. And

708
00:32:57,120 --> 00:32:59,239
Speaker 3: so many mommies reached out to me who have had

709
00:32:59,280 --> 00:33:01,360
Speaker 3: the same issue, so I really didn't feel like I

710
00:33:01,400 --> 00:33:04,560
Speaker 3: was crazy and creating some phantom condition. It's true. It's

711
00:33:04,720 --> 00:33:06,880
Speaker 3: literally called mommy's risks. So thank you to y'all for

712
00:33:06,920 --> 00:33:09,160
Speaker 3: sharing your stories and sharing some of the revenues that

713
00:33:09,200 --> 00:33:11,520
Speaker 3: worked for you. And I want to do a quick

714
00:33:11,720 --> 00:33:15,320
Speaker 3: boost for taking a break from typing and texting. So

715
00:33:15,520 --> 00:33:18,960
Speaker 3: for the last week, with some exceptions, I have just said,

716
00:33:19,040 --> 00:33:22,480
Speaker 3: I'm not typing, I'm not texting, I'm not clicking a mouse,

717
00:33:22,720 --> 00:33:25,040
Speaker 3: and how am I doing my job? I'm still doing

718
00:33:25,080 --> 00:33:29,120
Speaker 3: my job. I've realized that there's like an audio dictation feature.

719
00:33:29,480 --> 00:33:32,360
Speaker 3: I use a MacBook and I've enabled this audio dictation

720
00:33:32,480 --> 00:33:34,480
Speaker 3: tool so I can just tap a button and then

721
00:33:34,480 --> 00:33:37,520
Speaker 3: speak into it and it can craft emails for me

722
00:33:37,880 --> 00:33:40,880
Speaker 3: or it can search for me. Sure, it's like hilarious,

723
00:33:40,960 --> 00:33:43,400
Speaker 3: and it messes up all the time words I'm trying

724
00:33:43,400 --> 00:33:45,280
Speaker 3: to say, and it doesn't know how to spell funny things.

725
00:33:45,320 --> 00:33:48,400
Speaker 3: But whatever it's, it's really given me a break in

726
00:33:48,880 --> 00:33:51,280
Speaker 3: a great way. So for those of you who need

727
00:33:51,280 --> 00:33:54,040
Speaker 3: a break, and if it's like carpal tunnel, because like

728
00:33:54,080 --> 00:33:56,200
Speaker 3: I said, you don't have the right setup at home

729
00:33:57,040 --> 00:34:00,520
Speaker 3: in these telecommuting times, take a break, try and like

730
00:34:00,600 --> 00:34:03,120
Speaker 3: go a few hours without typing because or do some

731
00:34:03,160 --> 00:34:06,360
Speaker 3: wrist stretches. Do some like try to do a little

732
00:34:06,400 --> 00:34:08,440
Speaker 3: bit of stretching before and after you get up because

733
00:34:09,080 --> 00:34:12,160
Speaker 3: and I'm living proof that it's it really wears you down.

734
00:34:12,320 --> 00:34:14,120
Speaker 3: And I don't want y'all to get as bad as

735
00:34:14,120 --> 00:34:16,759
Speaker 3: I've gotten with my wrist because let me tell you,

736
00:34:16,840 --> 00:34:19,080
Speaker 3: just even like washing my hair now as a whole

737
00:34:19,960 --> 00:34:24,160
Speaker 3: is a whole painful exercise. So try taking a break

738
00:34:24,680 --> 00:34:29,520
Speaker 3: and it'll lead to some really funny typos. At the very.

739
00:34:29,440 --> 00:34:31,719
Speaker 2: Least I've used it before. I just talked too fast.

740
00:34:31,800 --> 00:34:33,520
Speaker 2: It's like, girl, don't I mite know what you're talking about?

741
00:34:33,520 --> 00:34:35,920
Speaker 3: You do have to go real, real slow. I'm like,

742
00:34:36,040 --> 00:34:43,840
Speaker 3: please tell them that per my email yesterday. Yeah, no,

743
00:34:44,080 --> 00:34:47,360
Speaker 3: it's cool. And the last thing that I did is

744
00:34:47,400 --> 00:34:49,319
Speaker 3: I asked for and this is something that people don't

745
00:34:49,360 --> 00:34:51,440
Speaker 3: want to do. I was like, I'm not going to ask,

746
00:34:51,600 --> 00:34:54,600
Speaker 3: you know, our it department for a monitor because this

747
00:34:54,640 --> 00:34:56,839
Speaker 3: is expensive and you know I already have one at

748
00:34:56,880 --> 00:35:00,400
Speaker 3: the office. But I'm like hurting myself by not asking

749
00:35:00,440 --> 00:35:02,640
Speaker 3: for it. So I went ahead and just sent a message, Hey,

750
00:35:02,640 --> 00:35:05,839
Speaker 3: do you guys have any thing you can do? I'm struck.

751
00:35:05,960 --> 00:35:09,000
Speaker 3: I'm having like pain from my death setup, and next

752
00:35:09,000 --> 00:35:11,240
Speaker 3: thing I know, I have a brand new monitor, keyboard, everything.

753
00:35:11,640 --> 00:35:14,239
Speaker 3: So just raise a hand and ask for what you need.

754
00:35:14,800 --> 00:35:16,880
Speaker 3: I think some companies, if they're able, we'll be happy

755
00:35:16,920 --> 00:35:19,400
Speaker 3: to help you because everyone's getting used to this new normal.

756
00:35:20,040 --> 00:35:24,680
Speaker 2: Yes, it is a new normal, of course, So my booze,

757
00:35:24,680 --> 00:35:26,759
Speaker 2: I'm gonna do a boost. It's totally random because I'm like,

758
00:35:26,800 --> 00:35:28,560
Speaker 2: I don't know, I feel like good today, so random

759
00:35:28,640 --> 00:35:31,000
Speaker 2: is good. So I've been doing a lot of lives,

760
00:35:31,000 --> 00:35:32,840
Speaker 2: like I just tape The Real today and I'm taping

761
00:35:32,840 --> 00:35:36,920
Speaker 2: a big national show tomorrow, and.

762
00:35:36,880 --> 00:35:37,800
Speaker 1: I was like, yikes.

763
00:35:37,840 --> 00:35:39,560
Speaker 2: If you know me, I'm kind of a tomboy, so

764
00:35:39,719 --> 00:35:42,719
Speaker 2: I don't really wear makeup unless I have to. I mean,

765
00:35:42,760 --> 00:35:45,160
Speaker 2: aside from the occasional, you know, like I'm like a

766
00:35:45,239 --> 00:35:46,920
Speaker 2: go to eye line. I'm a little mess are, but

767
00:35:46,920 --> 00:35:48,920
Speaker 2: I don't wear foundation because honestly, I don't know how

768
00:35:48,920 --> 00:35:49,320
Speaker 2: to put it on.

769
00:35:49,480 --> 00:35:50,960
Speaker 1: Not that I don't need it, I just don't know

770
00:35:51,000 --> 00:35:51,600
Speaker 1: how to put it on.

771
00:35:52,120 --> 00:35:54,960
Speaker 2: So I call my two go to makeup artists, Leela

772
00:35:55,040 --> 00:35:58,680
Speaker 2: Nima and Ejamachi Misiah, and.

773
00:35:58,600 --> 00:36:00,560
Speaker 1: I was like, Eh, help me, what's I do?

774
00:36:01,160 --> 00:36:03,560
Speaker 2: I don't know how to do the makeups that you

775
00:36:03,600 --> 00:36:06,560
Speaker 2: do for me? And I have about two days to

776
00:36:06,640 --> 00:36:08,840
Speaker 2: figure out what am I going to do? And they're like, okay,

777
00:36:08,960 --> 00:36:11,880
Speaker 2: just start with foundation. I'm like, yeah, so about that.

778
00:36:12,000 --> 00:36:14,880
Speaker 2: Don't have any of those things at home. They were like, Tiffany,

779
00:36:15,400 --> 00:36:16,120
Speaker 2: are you kidd amy?

780
00:36:16,239 --> 00:36:16,759
Speaker 1: I'm like no.

781
00:36:16,880 --> 00:36:20,319
Speaker 2: So they both actually told me the same because I

782
00:36:20,320 --> 00:36:22,200
Speaker 2: was like, tell me a drugstore brand because obviously I

783
00:36:22,239 --> 00:36:24,040
Speaker 2: don't have I'm not going to Alta or SOP. I

784
00:36:24,040 --> 00:36:25,879
Speaker 2: don't even know if they're open. No, but I don't,

785
00:36:26,000 --> 00:36:27,560
Speaker 2: you know, and I don't want to risk my Corona

786
00:36:27,600 --> 00:36:29,919
Speaker 2: life with them for that. They're like, I'm like, where

787
00:36:29,960 --> 00:36:32,440
Speaker 2: if I can go to the local Walgreens to write aid,

788
00:36:32,440 --> 00:36:35,600
Speaker 2: what should I get? So Leela gave me a list

789
00:36:35,680 --> 00:36:37,799
Speaker 2: and then I called EJ and she was giving me

790
00:36:37,840 --> 00:36:39,200
Speaker 2: the same brand Mabeline.

791
00:36:39,360 --> 00:36:40,480
Speaker 1: But she's like, I'll do you one better.

792
00:36:40,520 --> 00:36:43,240
Speaker 2: I live right by Target, and I know your skin color,

793
00:36:43,640 --> 00:36:45,239
Speaker 2: and I'm going to do your face, and so I

794
00:36:45,320 --> 00:36:48,480
Speaker 2: will get you like you know, I'll get you everything

795
00:36:48,520 --> 00:36:52,400
Speaker 2: that you need, concealer, mascara, just everything. She got me

796
00:36:52,440 --> 00:36:54,320
Speaker 2: all the things, and then she just left it on

797
00:36:54,360 --> 00:36:56,799
Speaker 2: the front porch. I picked it up, masks and gloves on,

798
00:36:56,920 --> 00:37:00,480
Speaker 2: and then I ran home and and I cash at her.

799
00:37:01,000 --> 00:37:02,120
Speaker 1: I didn't even see her. I was like, oh, I

800
00:37:02,120 --> 00:37:03,120
Speaker 1: didn't even get to see her.

801
00:37:03,239 --> 00:37:07,200
Speaker 2: But I have to say so, I don't particularly like

802
00:37:07,239 --> 00:37:10,080
Speaker 2: makeup because sometimes it just makes you look like not yourself.

803
00:37:10,480 --> 00:37:11,759
Speaker 2: So it's one of the reasons why I just never

804
00:37:11,760 --> 00:37:16,520
Speaker 2: got into foundation. But I have to say, this foundation, Mandy, honestly,

805
00:37:17,160 --> 00:37:17,759
Speaker 2: I look like me.

806
00:37:18,560 --> 00:37:22,920
Speaker 1: It's really great. It's called so Maybelene has a foundation

807
00:37:23,200 --> 00:37:23,640
Speaker 1: fit me.

808
00:37:23,800 --> 00:37:25,640
Speaker 2: That's like the I guess Maybelene has a bunch of

809
00:37:25,680 --> 00:37:29,400
Speaker 2: different like brands under their Mabeline or whatever, but fit me,

810
00:37:29,719 --> 00:37:33,120
Speaker 2: and I'm my skin is kind of orally so Matt Porliss.

811
00:37:33,480 --> 00:37:36,960
Speaker 2: But when I tell you, like I said, I'm not

812
00:37:37,120 --> 00:37:39,240
Speaker 2: one to wear makeup because I don't like not looking

813
00:37:39,360 --> 00:37:41,239
Speaker 2: like myself. I mean, I'll wear it for TV, I

814
00:37:41,239 --> 00:37:43,840
Speaker 2: don't mind, but on a day to day basis, and

815
00:37:43,880 --> 00:37:45,879
Speaker 2: not that I'm going to start. But it was nice

816
00:37:45,880 --> 00:37:49,600
Speaker 2: to know because I've I've done speaking engagements before where

817
00:37:49,600 --> 00:37:51,640
Speaker 2: they had a makeup person. I actually did a whole

818
00:37:51,719 --> 00:37:55,440
Speaker 2: national commercial and let's just say the makeup artist was

819
00:37:55,480 --> 00:37:59,120
Speaker 2: of the other persuasion Caucasian. And when I tell you, Mandy,

820
00:37:59,120 --> 00:38:02,160
Speaker 2: she looked at my face was like, she looks so nervous.

821
00:38:02,200 --> 00:38:04,240
Speaker 2: And I was like but and I was really clear

822
00:38:04,360 --> 00:38:07,520
Speaker 2: with the brand. Hey you see my picture, can you

823
00:38:07,560 --> 00:38:09,000
Speaker 2: please share with the makeup artists?

824
00:38:09,000 --> 00:38:11,000
Speaker 1: And not only I'm black, I'm.

825
00:38:10,960 --> 00:38:13,560
Speaker 2: Extra extra chocolately black, and I just want to be

826
00:38:13,840 --> 00:38:15,120
Speaker 2: you know, I'm gonna make sure I'm good.

827
00:38:15,120 --> 00:38:16,600
Speaker 1: And they're like, no, no, no, we're fine.

828
00:38:16,840 --> 00:38:18,440
Speaker 2: And my makeup artist at the time gave me like

829
00:38:18,440 --> 00:38:20,279
Speaker 2: some little jar of like what she normally used on me.

830
00:38:20,400 --> 00:38:23,120
Speaker 2: That lady looks so scared that I ended up doing

831
00:38:23,120 --> 00:38:27,600
Speaker 2: my own makeup me Tiffany All for a national TV

832
00:38:27,640 --> 00:38:30,279
Speaker 2: commercial that ran for like three years. Every time somebody

833
00:38:30,320 --> 00:38:32,759
Speaker 2: would see it, they're like, it's that you. I'm like

834
00:38:32,800 --> 00:38:35,319
Speaker 2: it was, They're like, your cheeks are really rosy.

835
00:38:35,360 --> 00:38:39,520
Speaker 1: I'm like, I know how blush works.

836
00:38:39,680 --> 00:38:42,440
Speaker 2: So yeah, so just shout out to the makeup artists,

837
00:38:42,480 --> 00:38:46,080
Speaker 2: just a boost to them, and you know some of

838
00:38:46,080 --> 00:38:48,080
Speaker 2: them would give, Like I know Leela's not doing it

839
00:38:48,160 --> 00:38:52,360
Speaker 2: right now, but ejama I think it's ejama azena beauty easy,

840
00:38:52,440 --> 00:38:54,840
Speaker 2: I n an a and then like ejama I j

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00:38:54,960 --> 00:38:57,960
Speaker 2: e O m A, I think she's doing live like

842
00:38:58,000 --> 00:38:58,239
Speaker 2: you can.

843
00:38:58,280 --> 00:38:59,280
Speaker 1: Actually you can.

844
00:38:59,239 --> 00:39:01,640
Speaker 2: Hire her to do like a one on one makeup

845
00:39:01,680 --> 00:39:04,319
Speaker 2: session if you're someone who is like, oh, maybe you're

846
00:39:04,320 --> 00:39:06,279
Speaker 2: a speaker and you normally have someone do it for you.

847
00:39:06,320 --> 00:39:09,640
Speaker 2: But like I said, Mabeline, they're fit me collection, their

848
00:39:09,760 --> 00:39:15,160
Speaker 2: loose powder, their foundation, even their concealer. Honestly all amazing.

849
00:39:15,160 --> 00:39:18,000
Speaker 2: I don't feel makeupy at all. I felt really comfortable

850
00:39:18,000 --> 00:39:21,000
Speaker 2: and I was able to do it myself with some help.

851
00:39:21,120 --> 00:39:23,520
Speaker 3: Still definitely a boost to her for dropping it off.

852
00:39:23,560 --> 00:39:26,160
Speaker 3: Can she also make me a little mankup, Curt. I

853
00:39:26,239 --> 00:39:28,600
Speaker 3: know it is something, and you know what, it's nice

854
00:39:28,600 --> 00:39:30,640
Speaker 3: because even the whimsy things we used to do to

855
00:39:30,680 --> 00:39:33,000
Speaker 3: comfort ourselves, like getting a nice cheap pant like a

856
00:39:33,040 --> 00:39:36,080
Speaker 3: Mani petty or you know, getting a nice tuba lipstick,

857
00:39:36,120 --> 00:39:38,200
Speaker 3: that stuff that I would do just go browse forward

858
00:39:38,200 --> 00:39:40,319
Speaker 3: to feel better after a hard day. And if you

859
00:39:40,400 --> 00:39:43,320
Speaker 3: feel like you can't do that, And speaking from experience,

860
00:39:43,400 --> 00:39:46,239
Speaker 3: Sephora shipping is really really delayed. It took me like

861
00:39:46,280 --> 00:39:47,880
Speaker 3: two and a half weeks to send something to a

862
00:39:47,880 --> 00:39:51,440
Speaker 3: girlfriend for her birthday. Yeah, just those little pleasures.

863
00:39:51,800 --> 00:39:53,520
Speaker 1: Yes. I was so like, oh my gosh, you really

864
00:39:53,520 --> 00:39:54,480
Speaker 1: got it. Well, she didn't drop it off.

865
00:39:54,600 --> 00:39:56,320
Speaker 2: I went to go because we both live in Jersey,

866
00:39:56,520 --> 00:39:58,959
Speaker 2: but she went to her Target, bought all the things

867
00:39:58,960 --> 00:40:00,839
Speaker 2: and put it on her front step. And I was like, wow,

868
00:40:00,920 --> 00:40:02,759
Speaker 2: this was because she's like, girl, if I send you

869
00:40:02,840 --> 00:40:04,319
Speaker 2: to Target, you're just gonna be looking like I don't

870
00:40:04,360 --> 00:40:06,239
Speaker 2: know what I'm looking at because I wouldn't even tell

871
00:40:06,239 --> 00:40:10,880
Speaker 2: you in your face mask, like what color I would be.

872
00:40:11,280 --> 00:40:13,080
Speaker 2: So she gave me like three ranges and she was

873
00:40:13,120 --> 00:40:15,520
Speaker 2: like you know, cause she's like you never know, but yeah,

874
00:40:15,520 --> 00:40:18,040
Speaker 2: it just yeah, when you have really great people around you,

875
00:40:18,040 --> 00:40:19,719
Speaker 2: maybe that's even as like an extra boost, like just

876
00:40:19,760 --> 00:40:23,360
Speaker 2: having really like kind like you know, go above and beyond.

877
00:40:23,400 --> 00:40:24,960
Speaker 1: So just shout out to you, e Jay, Thank you

878
00:40:25,000 --> 00:40:25,800
Speaker 1: so much girl.

879
00:40:25,880 --> 00:40:29,040
Speaker 2: Because of you, I didn't look crazy on the real today.

880
00:40:28,560 --> 00:40:32,359
Speaker 3: And the gig workers who are offering services online in

881
00:40:32,400 --> 00:40:36,080
Speaker 3: lieu off, they're in person, like my the person. She's

882
00:40:36,160 --> 00:40:39,000
Speaker 3: like the one curly hairstylist in all of Westchester, it

883
00:40:39,040 --> 00:40:41,399
Speaker 3: seems like. And I went to her six months ago

884
00:40:41,440 --> 00:40:43,080
Speaker 3: for a trim and it has been six months since

885
00:40:43,120 --> 00:40:45,479
Speaker 3: I've had a trim, which is horrifying, I'm sure to her,

886
00:40:45,840 --> 00:40:47,560
Speaker 3: but I reached out to her and she says, I'm

887
00:40:47,600 --> 00:40:51,120
Speaker 3: doing virtual consultations. So that's just one way that they're

888
00:40:51,160 --> 00:40:53,560
Speaker 3: trying to stay afloat. So if you want to support

889
00:40:53,600 --> 00:40:56,960
Speaker 3: your hairstylist or your nail salon or your makeup artists,

890
00:40:56,960 --> 00:40:59,439
Speaker 3: if you have one. I don't know if I mentioned

891
00:40:59,480 --> 00:41:02,520
Speaker 3: this last week, but I did tip my massage therapist.

892
00:41:02,600 --> 00:41:04,759
Speaker 3: I was going to form the back pain I got

893
00:41:04,760 --> 00:41:08,560
Speaker 3: from breastfeeding. She was like a postnatal massage therapist, and

894
00:41:08,600 --> 00:41:10,520
Speaker 3: I just sent her a little tip. And she's not

895
00:41:10,560 --> 00:41:12,440
Speaker 3: doing anything online, but I sent her a tip and

896
00:41:12,480 --> 00:41:16,040
Speaker 3: she was just and venmo and and she sent us

897
00:41:16,080 --> 00:41:18,520
Speaker 3: two hands sewn masks the other day as a thank you,

898
00:41:18,560 --> 00:41:21,400
Speaker 3: which was really sweet. And you know, it's it's not

899
00:41:21,560 --> 00:41:24,239
Speaker 3: if you're it's also these people are really struggling, So

900
00:41:24,800 --> 00:41:27,799
Speaker 3: you know, if they're pivoting their services a little bit

901
00:41:27,840 --> 00:41:31,600
Speaker 3: and you have the finances to take advantage, it's also

902
00:41:31,640 --> 00:41:33,520
Speaker 3: it's good for them, but it's it's maybe one way

903
00:41:33,600 --> 00:41:36,680
Speaker 3: for you to escape and feel like your normal self

904
00:41:36,680 --> 00:41:39,520
Speaker 3: in these insane times. And I think we all just

905
00:41:39,680 --> 00:41:43,000
Speaker 3: need to do anything we can to feel good and yeah,

906
00:41:43,040 --> 00:41:45,680
Speaker 3: and treat yourself in whatever way what that looks like

907
00:41:45,719 --> 00:41:47,680
Speaker 3: in today's you know, new normal.

908
00:41:47,800 --> 00:41:48,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm going to.

909
00:41:48,480 --> 00:41:51,879
Speaker 3: Treat myself to the Insecure season. I mean episode three

910
00:41:51,920 --> 00:41:53,120
Speaker 3: that I have not watched yet.

911
00:41:53,520 --> 00:41:55,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, me either. I heard Molly's acting up. I was like, well,

912
00:41:55,520 --> 00:41:56,040
Speaker 1: I got to see.

913
00:41:56,320 --> 00:41:59,799
Speaker 3: I love this season. I love the tensiency people. I

914
00:41:59,880 --> 00:42:01,560
Speaker 3: was this group chat and they were going on and

915
00:42:01,560 --> 00:42:04,399
Speaker 3: on about the sex on the show and like the relationships.

916
00:42:04,440 --> 00:42:06,520
Speaker 3: I'm like, the real relationship in that show was Molly

917
00:42:06,600 --> 00:42:09,520
Speaker 3: and Lisa, and that's what I love. And I feel

918
00:42:09,560 --> 00:42:13,040
Speaker 3: like they do a really they they do a really

919
00:42:13,800 --> 00:42:18,640
Speaker 3: realistic version of a friendship in your thirties and you start, yeah,

920
00:42:18,680 --> 00:42:22,879
Speaker 3: and I'm not gonna spoil it, but I I really

921
00:42:22,920 --> 00:42:24,440
Speaker 3: like where they're going with the show. I don't mind.

922
00:42:24,760 --> 00:42:27,279
Speaker 3: I don't mind Molly that she's she and Lisa aren't

923
00:42:27,280 --> 00:42:30,239
Speaker 3: getting along as well right now. So that's how it

924
00:42:30,239 --> 00:42:32,920
Speaker 3: be one hundred percent that episode when they had the

925
00:42:32,920 --> 00:42:35,719
Speaker 3: baby shower and Issa is like I wasn't included on

926
00:42:35,760 --> 00:42:39,200
Speaker 3: the baby shower committee invite may or may not have

927
00:42:39,239 --> 00:42:43,040
Speaker 3: happened to me to me in real life, all ooh,

928
00:42:43,120 --> 00:42:47,040
Speaker 3: I felt seen. But yeah, are you watching anything good,

929
00:42:47,080 --> 00:42:49,759
Speaker 3: like anything that's that's helping you escape or wind down

930
00:42:49,800 --> 00:42:51,680
Speaker 3: after your long days saving the world.

931
00:42:51,719 --> 00:42:53,879
Speaker 2: So it's been like so weird, Like I've just been

932
00:42:53,880 --> 00:42:59,320
Speaker 2: totally into CNBC super Rich on YouTube. I've just been watching,

933
00:42:59,640 --> 00:43:01,759
Speaker 2: like I don't know why, but I love watching these

934
00:43:01,800 --> 00:43:04,279
Speaker 2: like mega mega mansion tours that I would never ever

935
00:43:04,400 --> 00:43:06,040
Speaker 2: live in so I can be judging.

936
00:43:06,160 --> 00:43:07,240
Speaker 1: I'm like, look at that sink?

937
00:43:07,480 --> 00:43:09,680
Speaker 3: Who wants that?

938
00:43:09,680 --> 00:43:12,520
Speaker 2: That's been like my I watched them like every night

939
00:43:12,520 --> 00:43:14,359
Speaker 2: at least, because you should do about ten minutes long.

940
00:43:14,400 --> 00:43:16,080
Speaker 2: So I watch at least two or three of them

941
00:43:16,120 --> 00:43:18,879
Speaker 2: every night where it's like this house is twenty five

942
00:43:18,960 --> 00:43:22,040
Speaker 2: million dollars and not because I aspire, because like I

943
00:43:22,160 --> 00:43:25,640
Speaker 2: literally feel like I just sit and watching judgment like

944
00:43:25,960 --> 00:43:29,520
Speaker 2: that floor is so tacky. Not me as if I

945
00:43:29,520 --> 00:43:32,160
Speaker 2: have twenty five million dollars to be buying.

946
00:43:32,440 --> 00:43:33,120
Speaker 1: But yeah, so.

947
00:43:33,320 --> 00:43:35,920
Speaker 2: That's been my I don't know, I've never really been

948
00:43:36,000 --> 00:43:41,400
Speaker 2: I'm not really into TVTV, but that's like, yeah, lately,

949
00:43:41,400 --> 00:43:43,560
Speaker 2: that's been like my little like escape that I like

950
00:43:43,600 --> 00:43:45,600
Speaker 2: watching those tours and looking at these houses and every

951
00:43:45,640 --> 00:43:49,080
Speaker 2: once in a while Architectural Digest ad they have like

952
00:43:49,120 --> 00:43:50,280
Speaker 2: the celebrity house tours.

953
00:43:50,360 --> 00:43:52,120
Speaker 1: I like those two, but I'm less judging because I

954
00:43:52,160 --> 00:43:54,880
Speaker 1: feel like, oh, I like her, like Live Tyler. Her

955
00:43:54,920 --> 00:43:56,560
Speaker 1: tour was so great. I was like, I like her,

956
00:43:56,560 --> 00:43:57,600
Speaker 1: how I would totally live.

957
00:43:57,520 --> 00:44:00,480
Speaker 3: There a little house porn that makes sense anybody. So

958
00:44:00,520 --> 00:44:04,799
Speaker 3: CNBC's super Rich And then Architectural Digest on YouTube yep

959
00:44:04,880 --> 00:44:08,239
Speaker 3: on YouTube. Yeah, I like SNL at Home has has

960
00:44:08,280 --> 00:44:11,600
Speaker 3: been hilarious. Actually they wrote back Big Poppy. He did

961
00:44:11,600 --> 00:44:14,960
Speaker 3: a Keenan brought back Pig Poppy David Ortiz and then yeah,

962
00:44:15,000 --> 00:44:17,359
Speaker 3: and if you haven't checked out their skit about what's

963
00:44:17,400 --> 00:44:20,239
Speaker 3: the grocery store, Oh, Kate McKinnon and Adye Bryant were

964
00:44:20,280 --> 00:44:22,279
Speaker 3: so funny. They did like a skit about what's left

965
00:44:22,320 --> 00:44:25,000
Speaker 3: over in the grocery store. Everyone's getting like certain foods

966
00:44:25,000 --> 00:44:28,400
Speaker 3: and leaving all the crap behind anyway, and they're little,

967
00:44:28,680 --> 00:44:30,920
Speaker 3: you know, and they're digestible, little nuggets. Because right, who

968
00:44:30,920 --> 00:44:32,840
Speaker 3: has the time to sit down and watch hours and hours?

969
00:44:32,880 --> 00:44:34,480
Speaker 3: If you do, bless you, but not all of us

970
00:44:34,560 --> 00:44:37,880
Speaker 3: have that. And then the last thing that I've been watching, Okay,

971
00:44:38,040 --> 00:44:39,840
Speaker 3: this is a little bit weird. So when you have

972
00:44:39,920 --> 00:44:42,680
Speaker 3: time and you're looking at Netflix, now, they have some crazy,

973
00:44:42,960 --> 00:44:47,040
Speaker 3: some astoundingly weird stuff on. And I found this show

974
00:44:47,080 --> 00:44:51,480
Speaker 3: called The Caskatiers, which is it is a reality show

975
00:44:51,640 --> 00:44:55,800
Speaker 3: document I'll call it a documentary about a Polynesian funeral

976
00:44:55,840 --> 00:44:59,600
Speaker 3: home director and the people he works with. And I

977
00:44:59,680 --> 00:45:03,680
Speaker 3: am so invested, so invested, and it is really fascinating

978
00:45:03,680 --> 00:45:05,759
Speaker 3: and I'm just telling myself, I'm learning about a different

979
00:45:05,800 --> 00:45:10,000
Speaker 3: culture and you know, their their end of life, you know,

980
00:45:10,040 --> 00:45:12,439
Speaker 3: their end of life practices and all that. But it's

981
00:45:12,480 --> 00:45:15,320
Speaker 3: just so funny. Their little staff is and it's like quirky,

982
00:45:15,480 --> 00:45:18,120
Speaker 3: and it's it's in New Zealand. It's good. I say,

983
00:45:18,200 --> 00:45:20,960
Speaker 3: check it out, y'all. Whatever makes you feel good, don't

984
00:45:21,040 --> 00:45:21,360
Speaker 3: judge me.

985
00:45:21,840 --> 00:45:24,960
Speaker 2: And I should have opened with this or ended this

986
00:45:25,000 --> 00:45:26,719
Speaker 2: when maybe we'll do like a whole podcast on it,

987
00:45:26,840 --> 00:45:29,640
Speaker 2: but the business did hit a mile So we had

988
00:45:29,680 --> 00:45:31,080
Speaker 2: our first seven figure month.

989
00:45:31,600 --> 00:45:34,320
Speaker 1: Oh I know, it wasn't that crazy.

990
00:45:35,760 --> 00:45:38,279
Speaker 2: And we're about two months away from having our first

991
00:45:38,280 --> 00:45:41,000
Speaker 2: seven figure reoccurring month. There's two different things, like you

992
00:45:41,040 --> 00:45:43,000
Speaker 2: can make seven figures in a month, but in reoccurring

993
00:45:43,000 --> 00:45:45,680
Speaker 2: because you know, my one of my businesses is in

994
00:45:45,760 --> 00:45:49,359
Speaker 2: online school, the literature Academy. So we're about a few

995
00:45:49,400 --> 00:45:52,560
Speaker 2: months away of having reoccurring because right now it's multiple

996
00:45:52,640 --> 00:45:55,319
Speaker 2: high multiple six figures, and we're just on the cusp. Well,

997
00:45:55,640 --> 00:45:57,680
Speaker 2: that would take me from a seven figure year business

998
00:45:57,680 --> 00:45:59,680
Speaker 2: to an eight figure a year business, which is like

999
00:46:00,400 --> 00:46:04,680
Speaker 2: I would have never ever imagined preschool teacher Tiffany, So

1000
00:46:05,560 --> 00:46:07,200
Speaker 2: that's huge. I'm trying to figure out how I'm gonna

1001
00:46:07,239 --> 00:46:09,080
Speaker 2: celebrate psych you know, I'm not gonna settle. I'm gonna

1002
00:46:09,120 --> 00:46:12,600
Speaker 2: be like, okay, okay, back to work. But it's just

1003
00:46:13,000 --> 00:46:15,160
Speaker 2: I don't want it to be a milestone that we celebrate.

1004
00:46:16,320 --> 00:46:18,960
Speaker 3: But where in the house. What am I gonna do something?

1005
00:46:19,120 --> 00:46:22,720
Speaker 3: Find a way, find a way. For my mom's birthday,

1006
00:46:22,840 --> 00:46:26,000
Speaker 3: we compile her birthday, said a happy birthday, Mom, and

1007
00:46:26,080 --> 00:46:29,040
Speaker 3: my dad's was on Sunday, and just find a way,

1008
00:46:29,080 --> 00:46:31,400
Speaker 3: like we put together a little virtual like a little

1009
00:46:31,880 --> 00:46:33,920
Speaker 3: online or no, we got a bunch of people to

1010
00:46:33,920 --> 00:46:37,200
Speaker 3: submit messages, video messages, and I quickly edited it together

1011
00:46:38,080 --> 00:46:40,560
Speaker 3: into a nice little video for her, So a virtual

1012
00:46:40,680 --> 00:46:43,120
Speaker 3: social distancing birthday shout out video. I don't know, I

1013
00:46:43,160 --> 00:46:46,800
Speaker 3: just feel like if you have birthdays or anniversaries, it's

1014
00:46:46,960 --> 00:46:50,120
Speaker 3: it's an easy thing to say, or milestones or whatever, like, oh,

1015
00:46:50,160 --> 00:46:52,640
Speaker 3: you know, maybe next year, but I know, like finding

1016
00:46:52,719 --> 00:46:55,840
Speaker 3: little small pockets of joy, go do something to go

1017
00:46:55,920 --> 00:47:00,279
Speaker 3: watch like an hour of CNBC super Rich and judge

1018
00:47:00,320 --> 00:47:02,040
Speaker 3: them because you should be on the show because you're

1019
00:47:02,040 --> 00:47:02,760
Speaker 3: super rich.

1020
00:47:02,680 --> 00:47:05,759
Speaker 2: Like you know, no now and just differ between like

1021
00:47:05,760 --> 00:47:07,960
Speaker 2: the business making seven figures about I wish I was

1022
00:47:08,000 --> 00:47:11,640
Speaker 2: making seven figures about not even close. But yeah, yeah

1023
00:47:11,680 --> 00:47:13,480
Speaker 2: that is a pretty big most. But yeah, I think

1024
00:47:13,520 --> 00:47:16,040
Speaker 2: I will. I'll figure out something fun. Maybe you guys,

1025
00:47:16,080 --> 00:47:18,279
Speaker 2: you know, hey, since you're not asking questions, you could

1026
00:47:18,280 --> 00:47:20,960
Speaker 2: certainly tell what are some ways that I can celebrate

1027
00:47:21,640 --> 00:47:22,239
Speaker 2: from the house.

1028
00:47:23,160 --> 00:47:26,200
Speaker 3: How are you guys marking milestones in quarantine? That's what

1029
00:47:26,239 --> 00:47:29,080
Speaker 3: we want. That'd be a great share. Share your positive stories.

1030
00:47:29,160 --> 00:47:31,319
Speaker 3: Send us a message on Instagram, send us photos. Maybe

1031
00:47:31,360 --> 00:47:33,359
Speaker 3: we'll share it. Oh, maybe I'll share it in our

1032
00:47:33,440 --> 00:47:36,279
Speaker 3: in our Gram stories are instant stories. Then y'all can

1033
00:47:36,320 --> 00:47:39,479
Speaker 3: teach me how to say it. Yeah, that'll be fun.

1034
00:47:39,760 --> 00:47:42,800
Speaker 3: And we will wrap us up and see y'all next week.

1035
00:47:43,120 --> 00:47:45,600
Speaker 1: Until next week, my mantrain by to