1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:02,160 Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for getting mad at my 2 00:00:02,200 --> 00:00:04,479 Speaker 1: teacher for assuming I had a crush. 3 00:00:04,200 --> 00:00:06,840 Speaker 2: On someone no crushes in the school place. 4 00:00:07,280 --> 00:00:10,800 Speaker 1: Adria Walden says. So it's the fourth grade and I 5 00:00:10,880 --> 00:00:15,920 Speaker 1: am super in love with Spencer Williams, who he sits 6 00:00:15,960 --> 00:00:18,120 Speaker 1: next to me in homeroom, and he's so cute. He's 7 00:00:18,160 --> 00:00:21,159 Speaker 1: got this like messy redhair and these blue eyes and 8 00:00:21,200 --> 00:00:25,560 Speaker 1: those like marker freckles across his nose. And we spend 9 00:00:25,600 --> 00:00:28,200 Speaker 1: the whole first half of the year getting in trouble 10 00:00:28,240 --> 00:00:31,720 Speaker 1: all the time because we can't stop talking to each 11 00:00:31,720 --> 00:00:32,640 Speaker 1: other during class. 12 00:00:32,720 --> 00:00:35,360 Speaker 2: Spencer's a bad boy. Ooh, he's got everything gone for. 13 00:00:35,440 --> 00:00:38,800 Speaker 1: A ruble oo. So for the second half of the year, 14 00:00:38,880 --> 00:00:41,320 Speaker 1: we start passing notes in class so we don't get caught, 15 00:00:41,400 --> 00:00:44,960 Speaker 1: which is amazing because Spencer's never passed notes in class before, 16 00:00:45,360 --> 00:00:48,000 Speaker 1: which means I'm changing him like a good girlfriend. 17 00:00:48,080 --> 00:00:50,240 Speaker 2: Shout, I can change. 18 00:00:50,440 --> 00:00:51,080 Speaker 1: You can begin too. 19 00:00:51,840 --> 00:00:55,240 Speaker 2: I love him, he writes notes to me. He's the 20 00:00:55,280 --> 00:00:58,440 Speaker 2: rebel of our fourth grade class. His handwriting is at 21 00:00:58,560 --> 00:01:02,440 Speaker 2: least third grade level red hair, and it's a messy, 22 00:01:03,120 --> 00:01:04,200 Speaker 2: much like his handwriting. 23 00:01:04,600 --> 00:01:06,479 Speaker 1: And this one time we were on a field trip 24 00:01:06,480 --> 00:01:09,000 Speaker 1: and I fell down and he reached down to help 25 00:01:09,080 --> 00:01:12,080 Speaker 1: me up, and when he gave me his hand, he 26 00:01:12,160 --> 00:01:16,320 Speaker 1: didn't let go right away. And in fourth grade, that's 27 00:01:16,440 --> 00:01:19,399 Speaker 1: kind of basically like over second base. 28 00:01:19,520 --> 00:01:22,600 Speaker 2: It is. Yeah, he was very exciting. 29 00:01:23,680 --> 00:01:25,560 Speaker 1: Uh. And the school we go to is one of 30 00:01:25,560 --> 00:01:29,480 Speaker 1: these like experimental magnet models where we can call our 31 00:01:29,520 --> 00:01:32,080 Speaker 1: teachers by their first names, and we have classes like 32 00:01:32,360 --> 00:01:36,120 Speaker 1: outdoors or in graveyards, and you know, in addition to 33 00:01:36,200 --> 00:01:39,720 Speaker 1: math and English, we have classes like enrichment and future thinking. 34 00:01:40,080 --> 00:01:40,920 Speaker 2: That is sick. 35 00:01:41,400 --> 00:01:42,600 Speaker 1: That's a cool school. 36 00:01:42,760 --> 00:01:44,800 Speaker 2: Did you have a school like that in Florida? 37 00:01:45,520 --> 00:01:45,720 Speaker 1: Hell? 38 00:01:45,840 --> 00:01:47,480 Speaker 2: No, are you kidding me? 39 00:01:48,160 --> 00:01:50,040 Speaker 1: They sent you out into the. 40 00:01:49,880 --> 00:01:56,680 Speaker 2: Into the marsh. I can not passed. 41 00:01:59,280 --> 00:02:01,960 Speaker 1: And we both go to this very progressive school. And 42 00:02:02,000 --> 00:02:05,559 Speaker 1: so I think that we are a very progressive couple 43 00:02:05,600 --> 00:02:08,680 Speaker 1: and our relationship is progressing just like I wanted to. 44 00:02:09,520 --> 00:02:13,400 Speaker 1: Until one day I'm sitting at recess, hanging out by myself, 45 00:02:13,720 --> 00:02:16,079 Speaker 1: and this gaggle of girls rushes up to me, which 46 00:02:16,120 --> 00:02:18,680 Speaker 1: is kind of exciting because goggles of girl never rush 47 00:02:18,760 --> 00:02:19,080 Speaker 1: up to me. 48 00:02:19,639 --> 00:02:23,280 Speaker 2: So I take out my tracker. I think trapper keeper, 49 00:02:23,360 --> 00:02:26,600 Speaker 2: trapper Keeper, I learned I actually listened to a podcast 50 00:02:26,639 --> 00:02:29,760 Speaker 2: about this. It's like an organization folder. Look up trapper keeper, 51 00:02:29,840 --> 00:02:30,480 Speaker 2: trapper keeper. 52 00:02:30,680 --> 00:02:32,560 Speaker 1: I had one of those, but those were called them 53 00:02:32,600 --> 00:02:35,120 Speaker 1: like U expand binders. 54 00:02:35,680 --> 00:02:37,079 Speaker 2: I think they're expandable folders. 55 00:02:37,280 --> 00:02:38,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, we called them. 56 00:02:38,160 --> 00:02:40,440 Speaker 2: We had different names for that though, like a binder 57 00:02:40,480 --> 00:02:42,720 Speaker 2: with an extra. It was like a binder, flappy binder, 58 00:02:42,840 --> 00:02:43,799 Speaker 2: flappy binder. 59 00:02:44,320 --> 00:02:46,600 Speaker 1: So I take out my trapper keeper so I can 60 00:02:46,680 --> 00:02:50,960 Speaker 1: like write all of their phone numbers down, and they say, uh, Adria, Adria, 61 00:02:51,040 --> 00:02:52,639 Speaker 1: are you going around with Vincent? 62 00:02:53,040 --> 00:02:53,239 Speaker 2: Wait? 63 00:02:53,320 --> 00:02:59,079 Speaker 1: Vince Spencer though, Vincent's Spencer and going around our word 64 00:02:59,240 --> 00:03:09,760 Speaker 1: for and going around stop it was amazing, and going 65 00:03:09,800 --> 00:03:12,960 Speaker 1: around was our word for dating at that time. And 66 00:03:13,000 --> 00:03:15,240 Speaker 1: I was like, I don't know who Vincent is, but 67 00:03:15,280 --> 00:03:19,119 Speaker 1: do you guys want And they were gone, oh hope. 68 00:03:19,160 --> 00:03:20,720 Speaker 1: You didn't even get a said do you want my number? 69 00:03:20,880 --> 00:03:21,200 Speaker 2: Dang? 70 00:03:22,120 --> 00:03:24,160 Speaker 1: And I was like all right, and I kind of 71 00:03:24,160 --> 00:03:26,000 Speaker 1: forgot about it and went to my back to my 72 00:03:26,080 --> 00:03:28,600 Speaker 1: Choose your own Adventure book or whatever. And then later 73 00:03:28,639 --> 00:03:31,760 Speaker 1: that afternoon, another girl, a group of girls comes up 74 00:03:31,800 --> 00:03:34,560 Speaker 1: and they're like, Adria, are you going around with Vincent? 75 00:03:34,800 --> 00:03:35,600 Speaker 2: Who's Vincent? 76 00:03:35,720 --> 00:03:37,920 Speaker 1: And I'm like, I still don't know who Vincent is, 77 00:03:37,960 --> 00:03:41,320 Speaker 1: but do you guys want it? And then they were gone, Nope, 78 00:03:41,680 --> 00:03:44,400 Speaker 1: we just wanted the tea. Just want to give you 79 00:03:44,440 --> 00:03:49,480 Speaker 1: my number, give me the They're efficient, these girls, They say, 80 00:03:49,680 --> 00:03:50,480 Speaker 1: do you know sponsor? 81 00:03:50,680 --> 00:03:51,560 Speaker 2: Bye THEO. 82 00:03:52,040 --> 00:03:54,160 Speaker 1: And I was a little upset because I kind of 83 00:03:54,160 --> 00:03:57,520 Speaker 1: felt like mean girls being mean, but like, in terms 84 00:03:57,560 --> 00:03:59,840 Speaker 1: of what bullying could be, it wasn't really that bad, 85 00:04:00,280 --> 00:04:03,600 Speaker 1: so I kind of let it go until choir rehearsal 86 00:04:03,760 --> 00:04:07,840 Speaker 1: that afternoon after school and one of my very good 87 00:04:07,920 --> 00:04:11,920 Speaker 1: friends said, Adria, I hear you're going around with Vincent 88 00:04:12,520 --> 00:04:18,400 Speaker 1: And I was like, okay, okay, who's Vincent? Also, we're nine, 89 00:04:18,560 --> 00:04:20,720 Speaker 1: maybe it's cool if we don't have boyfriends yet. And 90 00:04:20,760 --> 00:04:22,320 Speaker 1: she says it as if I was going to know 91 00:04:22,360 --> 00:04:24,760 Speaker 1: who that is. And she says, I can't believe you 92 00:04:24,800 --> 00:04:26,919 Speaker 1: don't know who that is. And she points to the 93 00:04:26,920 --> 00:04:30,960 Speaker 1: back of the cafeteria where there are boys doing boy things. 94 00:04:31,120 --> 00:04:37,760 Speaker 2: What are boy things, baby lades? Yeah, baby it is. 95 00:04:38,360 --> 00:04:40,680 Speaker 1: I said, I don't know who you're talking about. Is 96 00:04:40,680 --> 00:04:43,560 Speaker 1: it that blonde kid with the red shorts And she says, no, 97 00:04:43,720 --> 00:04:46,200 Speaker 1: dummy next to him, And I say, the guy with 98 00:04:46,240 --> 00:04:49,279 Speaker 1: the ponytail in converse and she says no in front 99 00:04:49,279 --> 00:04:51,560 Speaker 1: of him, and I say buzz cut and tank top 100 00:04:51,640 --> 00:04:56,040 Speaker 1: and she says, no, Adria the black kid. Vincent is 101 00:04:56,240 --> 00:04:59,240 Speaker 1: the black kid. You should totally make him a Bobby 102 00:04:59,240 --> 00:05:02,800 Speaker 1: Timmins mixtape. And I said, well, I already liked Spencer 103 00:05:02,880 --> 00:05:05,479 Speaker 1: and I already made him a Pixies mixtape, so I'm 104 00:05:05,480 --> 00:05:09,400 Speaker 1: good on mixtapes. And she says, why would you like Spencer? 105 00:05:09,839 --> 00:05:11,799 Speaker 1: And I said, why would I like Vincent? 106 00:05:12,040 --> 00:05:17,080 Speaker 2: And she was like, because you know, I imagine that Opie 107 00:05:17,160 --> 00:05:19,800 Speaker 2: is also black. I think I am putting an icy 108 00:05:19,920 --> 00:05:21,360 Speaker 2: I'm putting in ICU. 109 00:05:21,680 --> 00:05:23,599 Speaker 1: Yeah, this does not look good. 110 00:05:23,920 --> 00:05:27,159 Speaker 2: Somehow missed that ic you, which is tragically ironic. 111 00:05:32,040 --> 00:05:33,640 Speaker 1: John doesn't see colored. 112 00:05:34,800 --> 00:05:40,000 Speaker 2: Apparently not, oh man. 113 00:05:40,279 --> 00:05:41,440 Speaker 1: And the bummer was that I. 114 00:05:41,680 --> 00:05:45,480 Speaker 2: Everybody who doesn't know John, that is true, That is correct. 115 00:05:45,920 --> 00:05:52,080 Speaker 2: The tragic let the people figure it out. 116 00:05:52,480 --> 00:05:55,159 Speaker 1: And the bummer was that I did know because fourth 117 00:05:55,160 --> 00:05:57,880 Speaker 1: grade was the year that I learned that I was black. 118 00:05:58,000 --> 00:06:01,800 Speaker 2: Oh wow, that's how that's a bummer. Not that. 119 00:06:04,839 --> 00:06:16,760 Speaker 3: Super super clear, Okay, John, right there ago me under 120 00:06:16,800 --> 00:06:17,960 Speaker 3: the bus and second. 121 00:06:20,000 --> 00:06:22,560 Speaker 1: And it was a huge surprise to me, and I 122 00:06:22,600 --> 00:06:25,440 Speaker 1: had no idea, and I didn't know that people had 123 00:06:25,480 --> 00:06:28,039 Speaker 1: opinions on that or that it was something that mattered, 124 00:06:28,400 --> 00:06:30,680 Speaker 1: because up until then I just didn't know. When I 125 00:06:30,720 --> 00:06:33,120 Speaker 1: would draw pictures of myself, I just wanted my pictures 126 00:06:33,160 --> 00:06:35,839 Speaker 1: to look like everyone else's pictures. So I gave myself 127 00:06:36,160 --> 00:06:38,960 Speaker 1: peach skin or pink skin, and no one cared. And 128 00:06:39,000 --> 00:06:41,200 Speaker 1: then one time, the first time I heard the N 129 00:06:41,240 --> 00:06:44,440 Speaker 1: word was in a funny little song someone was singing 130 00:06:44,560 --> 00:06:48,719 Speaker 1: in the hallway because it's rural Texas and that stuff happens, 131 00:06:49,200 --> 00:06:55,839 Speaker 1: and I sang it for my mom, I know, and 132 00:06:55,920 --> 00:06:59,799 Speaker 1: I didn't understand why she was livid. And fourth grade 133 00:06:59,880 --> 00:07:02,320 Speaker 1: was also the year that some a hole decided we 134 00:07:02,320 --> 00:07:05,640 Speaker 1: were going to start celebrating Black History Month, which like 135 00:07:05,720 --> 00:07:08,800 Speaker 1: amounted to me trembling in the corner through the whole 136 00:07:08,800 --> 00:07:11,400 Speaker 1: month of February while my teacher showed us pictures up 137 00:07:11,440 --> 00:07:15,080 Speaker 1: backs with scars all over them buyre hoses and German shepherds, 138 00:07:15,360 --> 00:07:17,600 Speaker 1: and every other set of eyes in the room would 139 00:07:17,640 --> 00:07:21,960 Speaker 1: look at me and be like, Adria, We're so sorry, 140 00:07:22,280 --> 00:07:25,280 Speaker 1: that's such Oh, that's so weird to do just to 141 00:07:25,360 --> 00:07:28,760 Speaker 1: the one black kid in school, What was it like, 142 00:07:29,200 --> 00:07:35,240 Speaker 1: and I'm like, you got you red, I'm not those people. 143 00:07:37,320 --> 00:07:39,840 Speaker 2: This is what happens you guys. 144 00:07:39,960 --> 00:07:43,440 Speaker 1: I'm not even ten yet. The worst thing that's happened 145 00:07:43,480 --> 00:07:45,320 Speaker 1: to me is not being able to go to a 146 00:07:45,400 --> 00:07:47,720 Speaker 1: New Kids on a Black concert because I was grounded. 147 00:07:47,840 --> 00:07:50,840 Speaker 2: I mean, that's not fun. That's fun. That's not fun. 148 00:07:51,120 --> 00:07:57,680 Speaker 2: Some may say as hard, some may write that and 149 00:07:57,720 --> 00:07:59,960 Speaker 2: that one person is named Samiel Donner. 150 00:08:02,400 --> 00:08:05,520 Speaker 1: Leave me alone. And this whole thing with Vincent was weird, 151 00:08:05,840 --> 00:08:09,120 Speaker 1: this weird natural extension of that because Vincent it was 152 00:08:09,160 --> 00:08:11,600 Speaker 1: his first week at school this week, and he was 153 00:08:11,680 --> 00:08:15,560 Speaker 1: the only other black kid in this boss of a hundred. 154 00:08:17,440 --> 00:08:19,960 Speaker 1: And it was baffling to me that nobody, even though 155 00:08:19,960 --> 00:08:22,320 Speaker 1: I got in trouble for talking to Spencer every day, 156 00:08:23,000 --> 00:08:25,800 Speaker 1: nobody had any idea that I had a crush on him. 157 00:08:25,840 --> 00:08:28,239 Speaker 2: Do you think Spencer knows he held her hand? 158 00:08:28,560 --> 00:08:29,280 Speaker 1: He held her hand. 159 00:08:30,560 --> 00:08:31,840 Speaker 2: Spency is about it. 160 00:08:31,960 --> 00:08:37,559 Speaker 1: Spency's about it. Spency better be about it. And even 161 00:08:37,640 --> 00:08:41,360 Speaker 1: though I had not said one word to Vincent, no 162 00:08:41,440 --> 00:08:44,760 Speaker 1: one could figure out why we weren't basically married, Like 163 00:08:45,040 --> 00:08:47,840 Speaker 1: nobody including. 164 00:08:47,160 --> 00:09:01,040 Speaker 2: Spencer Spencer, but the handhold. 165 00:08:57,800 --> 00:09:01,040 Speaker 1: Because that week he came up to me and said, hey, Adria, 166 00:09:01,200 --> 00:09:04,240 Speaker 1: you left your kaboodle in future thinking and I was like. 167 00:09:04,440 --> 00:09:05,440 Speaker 2: Thank you, kaboodle. 168 00:09:05,520 --> 00:09:07,840 Speaker 1: I don't know. These are terms I'm not aware of. 169 00:09:08,080 --> 00:09:09,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, these are old. 170 00:09:10,360 --> 00:09:14,080 Speaker 4: Yeah, I didn't know what a traffic keeper is. 171 00:09:15,360 --> 00:09:17,400 Speaker 2: It's like a little lunch bocket. Yeah, it's that's like 172 00:09:17,440 --> 00:09:19,280 Speaker 2: a little uh, it's like like a pencil case. 173 00:09:19,320 --> 00:09:21,400 Speaker 1: You've been letting some different words. 174 00:09:21,720 --> 00:09:27,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, I've never heard of kaboodle, but to be freaking 175 00:09:27,120 --> 00:09:28,600 Speaker 2: Claire uh. 176 00:09:28,640 --> 00:09:31,880 Speaker 1: And I was like, thank you because that felt like 177 00:09:32,160 --> 00:09:37,040 Speaker 1: excellent eventual boyfriend behavior. I was very happy until you 178 00:09:37,120 --> 00:09:40,120 Speaker 1: told me that he was playing soccer with Vincent and 179 00:09:40,160 --> 00:09:45,600 Speaker 1: he could totally give him my number if I wanted, Spencer, Spencer, 180 00:09:46,280 --> 00:09:48,960 Speaker 1: And then even our teachers got into it, and this 181 00:09:49,000 --> 00:09:52,320 Speaker 1: one teacher after school I knew, said well, Adria, have 182 00:09:52,400 --> 00:09:54,200 Speaker 1: we seen the new student and do we have a 183 00:09:54,200 --> 00:10:00,040 Speaker 1: little crush on Vincent? And I said, Diana, no, do 184 00:10:00,200 --> 00:10:02,960 Speaker 1: not have a crush on Vincent. We do not have 185 00:10:03,000 --> 00:10:08,600 Speaker 1: a crush on Vincent or anyone else anymore. Thank you, Spence, 186 00:10:10,320 --> 00:10:14,160 Speaker 1: are fumbled here, get out of here, Spencer. And that 187 00:10:14,559 --> 00:10:15,839 Speaker 1: is the end of the story. 188 00:10:16,160 --> 00:10:20,760 Speaker 2: What that's it? That's it. I just ends sang to 189 00:10:21,000 --> 00:10:26,680 Speaker 2: that whole room of teachers and classmates, ales ale, you 190 00:10:26,760 --> 00:10:30,360 Speaker 2: are I'm sorry. I hope you had to go through here. 191 00:10:30,360 --> 00:10:32,559 Speaker 2: I was about to rock with Spence and I'm like, no, 192 00:10:33,480 --> 00:10:33,920 Speaker 2: we're not. 193 00:10:33,880 --> 00:10:35,880 Speaker 1: Rocking with Spence because he's not rocking with us. 194 00:10:36,200 --> 00:10:37,120 Speaker 2: Dude, he's messy. 195 00:10:37,760 --> 00:10:41,880 Speaker 1: Just like, yeah, lets messy redhead hair. 196 00:10:42,200 --> 00:10:45,559 Speaker 2: You don't need them, but you know what I need? 197 00:10:45,840 --> 00:10:49,800 Speaker 2: What another story? Am I the a hole for telling 198 00:10:49,840 --> 00:10:51,559 Speaker 2: my doctor about a spicy dream? 199 00:10:51,600 --> 00:10:52,000 Speaker 1: I had? 200 00:10:52,440 --> 00:10:56,920 Speaker 2: Spicy? How spicy, very spicy? This comes from Jason Schumer 201 00:10:57,040 --> 00:11:00,440 Speaker 2: And they say she looked at me and said, see 202 00:11:00,480 --> 00:11:03,120 Speaker 2: that red light in the corner, just ignore it. I 203 00:11:03,160 --> 00:11:05,280 Speaker 2: looked at her and I thought what And she looks 204 00:11:05,280 --> 00:11:07,360 Speaker 2: at me and goes, yeah, it's just a video camera. 205 00:11:07,440 --> 00:11:09,960 Speaker 2: It's going to record you when you sleep. Love it. 206 00:11:10,600 --> 00:11:12,640 Speaker 2: And I stood there and I thought to myself, Oh 207 00:11:12,679 --> 00:11:16,960 Speaker 2: my god, you cannot have that Ricky Martin dream tonight. 208 00:11:17,280 --> 00:11:20,680 Speaker 2: I guess that's the spicy sleep. Oh the spicy dream. 209 00:11:20,800 --> 00:11:21,760 Speaker 2: That's the spicy dream. 210 00:11:21,800 --> 00:11:22,800 Speaker 1: See what are you doing here? 211 00:11:23,320 --> 00:11:25,840 Speaker 2: See is Ricky Martin a person? Yeah? That's famous? 212 00:11:25,960 --> 00:11:26,200 Speaker 3: Yeah? 213 00:11:26,360 --> 00:11:28,319 Speaker 2: Do you know who that is? Who's that is? 214 00:11:28,360 --> 00:11:28,400 Speaker 4: It? 215 00:11:28,480 --> 00:11:28,920 Speaker 1: A singer. 216 00:11:29,280 --> 00:11:32,800 Speaker 2: Oh, I've never heard of Ricky Martin. See, I hadn't 217 00:11:32,840 --> 00:11:35,679 Speaker 2: been really paying attention when they explained the sleep study 218 00:11:35,800 --> 00:11:38,520 Speaker 2: for sleep apnea to me, and I didn't know that 219 00:11:38,640 --> 00:11:42,520 Speaker 2: they would actually record while I slept. I knew there 220 00:11:42,520 --> 00:11:44,520 Speaker 2: would be censor stucked in my body, but I didn't 221 00:11:44,559 --> 00:11:48,480 Speaker 2: know there would be actual video footage, possibly incriminating. Yeah. 222 00:11:48,559 --> 00:11:54,840 Speaker 2: Lived now, my love for Ricky Martin is a tale 223 00:11:55,120 --> 00:11:58,600 Speaker 2: as old as time. Boy sees boy on TV, boy 224 00:11:59,000 --> 00:12:01,280 Speaker 2: buys boys wreck or It's boy goes to New York 225 00:12:01,320 --> 00:12:04,800 Speaker 2: to meet boy at records signing. Boy meets boy, makes 226 00:12:04,840 --> 00:12:08,160 Speaker 2: a butt out of himself, boys ripped away by security, 227 00:12:08,240 --> 00:12:09,960 Speaker 2: and never sees other boy again. 228 00:12:10,160 --> 00:12:11,400 Speaker 1: Of tail as old as time. 229 00:12:11,679 --> 00:12:13,880 Speaker 2: Wow, kind of a little stalker vibe. 230 00:12:13,960 --> 00:12:16,840 Speaker 4: I mean, dude, yeah, if you're I guess probably the 231 00:12:16,880 --> 00:12:19,200 Speaker 4: security is pretty like on edge. 232 00:12:19,200 --> 00:12:20,880 Speaker 2: But I feel like if you do some like you 233 00:12:20,960 --> 00:12:22,240 Speaker 2: kind of have to do a lot. You have to 234 00:12:22,280 --> 00:12:25,000 Speaker 2: do a lot to get ripped away by security. 235 00:12:25,000 --> 00:12:27,559 Speaker 1: He was just like ripped away like like he was like, 236 00:12:27,960 --> 00:12:31,760 Speaker 1: I've gotta dramatize this moment. We were we were starcross 237 00:12:31,880 --> 00:12:34,000 Speaker 1: lovers and I was ripped away. 238 00:12:34,840 --> 00:12:41,400 Speaker 2: He was ripped away by security. Ripped away Now Now 239 00:12:41,520 --> 00:12:44,480 Speaker 2: years later, Twitter's invented, and I sees it as an 240 00:12:44,480 --> 00:12:47,520 Speaker 2: opportunity to reconnect with the love of my life. So 241 00:12:47,600 --> 00:12:51,120 Speaker 2: I follow Ricky Martin on Twitter religiously, and he always 242 00:12:51,120 --> 00:12:54,000 Speaker 2: tweets the Spanish. I don't know Spanish. 243 00:12:54,000 --> 00:12:56,240 Speaker 1: He should have learned true really love. 244 00:12:58,640 --> 00:13:02,040 Speaker 2: My Spanish is limited to the lyrics and Madonna's Lala Benita. 245 00:13:02,160 --> 00:13:04,199 Speaker 2: But I would see his tweets and I will love 246 00:13:04,360 --> 00:13:07,720 Speaker 2: him and like him and retweet him because my heart 247 00:13:07,800 --> 00:13:09,880 Speaker 2: was translating I don't need to know what they say. No, 248 00:13:10,040 --> 00:13:10,520 Speaker 2: I just need. 249 00:13:12,160 --> 00:13:12,880 Speaker 1: Makes me feel. 250 00:13:13,559 --> 00:13:16,839 Speaker 2: I just see those lips. But he was writing, he 251 00:13:16,880 --> 00:13:24,920 Speaker 2: would write, uh, your your comprom My heart would translate 252 00:13:24,920 --> 00:13:28,080 Speaker 2: it as Jason, I'm in Miami. Come what is it? 253 00:13:28,160 --> 00:13:37,800 Speaker 1: You com go dooling go? 254 00:13:38,760 --> 00:13:45,880 Speaker 2: He said, compro failed it whatever I got clothes anyway. 255 00:13:47,840 --> 00:13:51,400 Speaker 2: My heart would translate that as Jason, I'm in Miami, 256 00:13:51,559 --> 00:13:54,440 Speaker 2: confine me. But in reality, he was tweeting, I'm going 257 00:13:54,440 --> 00:14:00,840 Speaker 2: to the store to buy milk and Dorita's. Finally one day, disgusting. Finally, 258 00:14:01,040 --> 00:14:03,520 Speaker 2: one day I tweeted, oh my god, I need to 259 00:14:03,559 --> 00:14:07,600 Speaker 2: take a Spanish class. So I can learn what Ricky 260 00:14:07,600 --> 00:14:09,120 Speaker 2: Martin keeps tweeting. 261 00:14:09,520 --> 00:14:12,760 Speaker 1: Finally you've come to the realization. Truly, the only way 262 00:14:12,760 --> 00:14:14,960 Speaker 1: that you can progress in this relationship is if you 263 00:14:14,960 --> 00:14:16,040 Speaker 1: can understand him. 264 00:14:16,240 --> 00:14:20,240 Speaker 2: That's right. Oh, and the relationship progresses. Oh. Within an 265 00:14:20,440 --> 00:14:24,360 Speaker 2: hour he sent me a direct message back, sad you 266 00:14:24,760 --> 00:14:30,200 Speaker 2: ha ha ha or was it Josh? I always tweet 267 00:14:30,240 --> 00:14:34,440 Speaker 2: Spanish to English, English to Spanish and sometimes in Portuguese. 268 00:14:34,800 --> 00:14:35,960 Speaker 2: This is what Ricky Martin says. 269 00:14:37,400 --> 00:14:39,000 Speaker 1: Ricky Martin loves you, he. 270 00:14:39,000 --> 00:14:42,920 Speaker 2: Says, Or should I give I probably shouldn't give an accent? No, 271 00:14:44,080 --> 00:14:46,640 Speaker 2: can I give it like a haha? I always tweet 272 00:14:46,720 --> 00:14:49,440 Speaker 2: Spanish to English. It's just like a sexy voice. That's 273 00:14:49,480 --> 00:14:51,040 Speaker 2: not like a Spanish voice. 274 00:14:51,240 --> 00:14:52,200 Speaker 1: Take the Spanish out of it. 275 00:14:52,400 --> 00:14:55,640 Speaker 2: I'll think the Spanish. Ha ha haa. I always tweet 276 00:14:55,680 --> 00:15:00,520 Speaker 2: Spanish to English, English to Spanish and sometimes Portuguese. That 277 00:15:00,640 --> 00:15:04,360 Speaker 2: was a DM to me and only me. Ricky Martin 278 00:15:04,760 --> 00:15:09,000 Speaker 2: knows I exist, and my heart translated it to as Jason, 279 00:15:09,400 --> 00:15:14,320 Speaker 2: We're getting married. Yeah, that's the next step, the first 280 00:15:14,360 --> 00:15:15,760 Speaker 2: step in the DM. 281 00:15:15,920 --> 00:15:19,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, next step marriage, that's what they say. 282 00:15:19,840 --> 00:15:22,560 Speaker 2: Right now, I'm at the sleep study and the images 283 00:15:22,680 --> 00:15:29,160 Speaker 2: of Ricky and the images of the images of, the 284 00:15:29,200 --> 00:15:33,920 Speaker 2: images of and the images of Ricky Martin shaking his 285 00:15:34,000 --> 00:15:37,520 Speaker 2: bond ball, singing, hey bangs, he bangs, is dancing around 286 00:15:37,520 --> 00:15:40,480 Speaker 2: my head as I'm trying to not sleep. It was 287 00:15:40,520 --> 00:15:43,320 Speaker 2: the longest night of my life. I was trying to sleep, 288 00:15:43,440 --> 00:15:46,040 Speaker 2: but I can't. But then you're paranoid and you're scared, 289 00:15:46,160 --> 00:15:49,120 Speaker 2: and you keep thinking I'm being recorded and this is 290 00:15:49,160 --> 00:15:50,320 Speaker 2: going to end up on YouTube. 291 00:15:50,240 --> 00:15:50,440 Speaker 1: Yeh. 292 00:15:50,880 --> 00:15:53,200 Speaker 2: Sleep apnea is either going to kill me while I'm 293 00:15:53,200 --> 00:15:57,520 Speaker 2: asleep or while I'm awake. By embarrassment. Two weeks later, 294 00:15:57,560 --> 00:15:59,600 Speaker 2: I have to go back and do the test again, 295 00:16:00,280 --> 00:16:01,480 Speaker 2: and we go over the results. 296 00:16:01,560 --> 00:16:02,200 Speaker 1: Okay, okay. 297 00:16:03,000 --> 00:16:05,080 Speaker 2: It's a grid with a print out with the doctor 298 00:16:05,200 --> 00:16:07,840 Speaker 2: and it's this weird printown and there's thirteen categories and 299 00:16:07,880 --> 00:16:10,040 Speaker 2: they get all these weird acronyms and we're kind of 300 00:16:10,040 --> 00:16:13,680 Speaker 2: titles and whatnot, and then like spikes and lions and dashes, 301 00:16:13,840 --> 00:16:16,120 Speaker 2: and the doctor's looking at me and she started to 302 00:16:16,160 --> 00:16:19,360 Speaker 2: go on about you know, number one, snore, number two, 303 00:16:19,480 --> 00:16:22,920 Speaker 2: rem number three, ruhrah, and I'm like, oh my god, 304 00:16:22,920 --> 00:16:25,680 Speaker 2: I'm bored. Stop again. Yeah, fall asleep. 305 00:16:26,040 --> 00:16:29,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's not even yeah. 306 00:16:28,400 --> 00:16:31,280 Speaker 2: Like I'm wishing I had day apnea at this point, 307 00:16:31,880 --> 00:16:35,840 Speaker 2: like take me now, awake apnea. I can't get through 308 00:16:35,920 --> 00:16:38,920 Speaker 2: this appointment. So I get bored and start skipping ahead 309 00:16:38,960 --> 00:16:41,320 Speaker 2: down the line, and all of a sudden, I see 310 00:16:41,400 --> 00:16:48,120 Speaker 2: number thirteen and the word is arousal. Oh no, and 311 00:16:48,160 --> 00:16:52,880 Speaker 2: I'm thinking, oh God, oh god. And so I start 312 00:16:52,960 --> 00:16:58,640 Speaker 2: following the line behind it in spikes and it's like one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, 313 00:16:59,240 --> 00:17:01,720 Speaker 2: eight and nine and her back to back, and I'm like, 314 00:17:02,800 --> 00:17:06,040 Speaker 2: son of a bee, I had the Ricky Martin dream 315 00:17:06,080 --> 00:17:13,080 Speaker 2: ten eleven, twelve, thirteen, fourteen, fifteen, sixteen, sixteen arousals. My 316 00:17:13,080 --> 00:17:14,560 Speaker 2: man was asleep all for Rickey. 317 00:17:15,080 --> 00:17:15,680 Speaker 1: For Ricky. 318 00:17:15,920 --> 00:17:19,280 Speaker 2: I was impressed, and I sat there, I thought, thanks, Son, 319 00:17:19,400 --> 00:17:22,879 Speaker 2: play on player, like you know, I was like Superman, 320 00:17:23,720 --> 00:17:27,040 Speaker 2: Like guys, man is getting fully torqued like sixteen times, 321 00:17:27,359 --> 00:17:29,399 Speaker 2: and he's putting numbers on the boardroom. 322 00:17:31,240 --> 00:17:33,960 Speaker 1: Ricky. He's like the Jez guess what, man, I got 323 00:17:34,000 --> 00:17:34,439 Speaker 1: it up. 324 00:17:34,320 --> 00:17:38,800 Speaker 2: Sixteen times for you last night. I was impressed. I said, 325 00:17:38,800 --> 00:17:41,119 Speaker 2: the damn son play on Blayir, Like you know, I'm 326 00:17:41,160 --> 00:17:43,720 Speaker 2: like Superman. And so she's going down the list and 327 00:17:43,760 --> 00:17:47,240 Speaker 2: she's getting closer to thirteen, and I start panicking because 328 00:17:47,320 --> 00:17:51,240 Speaker 2: I don't want to talk about my arousals with this doctor. 329 00:17:52,040 --> 00:17:54,320 Speaker 2: And sometimes you use comedy as at the flector kind 330 00:17:54,320 --> 00:17:55,680 Speaker 2: of to break to ice. And so she gets to 331 00:17:55,760 --> 00:18:00,199 Speaker 2: number thirteen and she goes thirteen arousals and look at 332 00:18:00,240 --> 00:18:03,080 Speaker 2: her and I said, ha ha, clearly I had the 333 00:18:03,160 --> 00:18:05,719 Speaker 2: Ricky Marton dream. And she stared at me. 334 00:18:05,800 --> 00:18:08,920 Speaker 1: Does she have any background for this context? 335 00:18:09,000 --> 00:18:10,359 Speaker 2: I don't know if she knows who Ricky Marton and 336 00:18:10,440 --> 00:18:12,080 Speaker 2: we didn't know who Ricky. I think that makes it better. 337 00:18:12,680 --> 00:18:15,240 Speaker 2: I grinned, and she stared at me, and I'm like, 338 00:18:16,480 --> 00:18:19,200 Speaker 2: if she stared at me some more, and I thought, 339 00:18:19,720 --> 00:18:22,840 Speaker 2: oh god, do I gotta do jazz hands like sixties? 340 00:18:22,880 --> 00:18:28,320 Speaker 2: Around sixteen arousals And after an awkward, lengthy pause, she 341 00:18:28,440 --> 00:18:33,040 Speaker 2: looks at me and goes, arousals. That's just the number 342 00:18:33,040 --> 00:18:33,959 Speaker 2: of times you woke up. 343 00:18:37,119 --> 00:18:39,200 Speaker 1: So he shared his dream for nothing. 344 00:18:40,560 --> 00:18:43,239 Speaker 2: I mean, he's so proud of me. Yeah right, And 345 00:18:43,320 --> 00:18:44,399 Speaker 2: I wasn't mortified. 346 00:18:44,640 --> 00:18:47,920 Speaker 1: So now his pride has been taken away. 347 00:18:48,000 --> 00:18:50,120 Speaker 2: His pride has been taken away, is like, I guess 348 00:18:50,119 --> 00:18:53,280 Speaker 2: I didn't get it up sixteen times Ricky Marton. I 349 00:18:53,400 --> 00:18:55,840 Speaker 2: was mortified, and then I was really sad because then 350 00:18:55,840 --> 00:18:59,960 Speaker 2: I realized I'm not a superhero. Down below was sick 351 00:19:00,080 --> 00:19:02,880 Speaker 2: seen arousals in one night. I'm just an overweight guy 352 00:19:03,080 --> 00:19:05,480 Speaker 2: whose body is trying to kill himself while he sleeps. 353 00:19:05,800 --> 00:19:09,800 Speaker 2: Who will always love Ricky Martin? But if that isn't 354 00:19:09,880 --> 00:19:17,600 Speaker 2: living love? Youta loco? What is so true? Talk to 355 00:19:17,720 --> 00:19:18,920 Speaker 2: about a crazy Ricky Martin? 356 00:19:19,160 --> 00:19:22,800 Speaker 4: Dude, I think he's a hero. He's a hero. I 357 00:19:22,840 --> 00:19:24,480 Speaker 4: think he's a hero. 358 00:19:25,359 --> 00:19:37,000 Speaker 2: Also, he's got God. But you know what be heroic 359 00:19:37,080 --> 00:19:42,600 Speaker 2: to us? What if you subscribe? Subscribe right now and 360 00:19:42,640 --> 00:19:46,520 Speaker 2: maybe comment your dreams? Have you had any Ricky Martin 361 00:19:46,600 --> 00:19:50,359 Speaker 2: dreams about one of us? Or subscribed sixteen times while 362 00:19:50,359 --> 00:19:56,399 Speaker 2: you're asleep. That's the arousal that we want. But you 363 00:19:56,400 --> 00:20:01,560 Speaker 2: know what always gets me going? What this sex? God? 364 00:20:02,920 --> 00:20:05,360 Speaker 2: This is an episode from Deep within the Archives time 365 00:20:05,440 --> 00:20:11,399 Speaker 2: for okop relash. I caught my wife with her coworker 366 00:20:11,440 --> 00:20:13,800 Speaker 2: and she says it's my fault, but what she said 367 00:20:13,840 --> 00:20:15,280 Speaker 2: next made me believe her. 368 00:20:15,520 --> 00:20:20,320 Speaker 4: We have seen some i mean World Olympic Gold metal 369 00:20:20,960 --> 00:20:24,440 Speaker 4: mind gymnastics on this show, Like we've seen people do back. 370 00:20:24,280 --> 00:20:28,879 Speaker 2: To gymnastics every day everyhow this I mean I'm lost 371 00:20:28,880 --> 00:20:32,639 Speaker 2: for words right now, like you know those talonnovelas right, Okay, 372 00:20:33,400 --> 00:20:38,000 Speaker 2: that level of what Yeah? And it's broken up into 373 00:20:38,000 --> 00:20:41,200 Speaker 2: sections and each section is more beautiful than the last. 374 00:20:41,359 --> 00:20:46,280 Speaker 4: Really my beautiful? Do you mean like utterly utterly devastating? Yeah, 375 00:20:46,320 --> 00:20:47,239 Speaker 4: of course that's what I mean. 376 00:20:49,080 --> 00:20:52,600 Speaker 2: Of course. All right, So, like the first like part 377 00:20:52,640 --> 00:20:54,520 Speaker 2: of the this is multiple posts. So the first part 378 00:20:54,520 --> 00:20:56,600 Speaker 2: of the post is about sharing interest. That's the title. 379 00:20:56,640 --> 00:20:59,160 Speaker 2: It's like sharing interest, sharing interests why? And it's it's 380 00:20:59,160 --> 00:21:02,840 Speaker 2: in relationship with right. And also these are like scattered 381 00:21:02,880 --> 00:21:05,720 Speaker 2: around like this guy like actually reddits and so all 382 00:21:05,800 --> 00:21:09,200 Speaker 2: these are scattered through different subreddits. Oh so somebody piece 383 00:21:09,240 --> 00:21:11,320 Speaker 2: them together? Yeah, this is best of reddit or updates. 384 00:21:11,320 --> 00:21:16,800 Speaker 2: So she want this guy's life together as it's falling apart. Wow, 385 00:21:16,880 --> 00:21:19,080 Speaker 2: that's impressive, right. The wife and I have been married 386 00:21:19,119 --> 00:21:22,199 Speaker 2: for three beautiful years. Problem is she doesn't enjoy my 387 00:21:22,240 --> 00:21:24,200 Speaker 2: hobbies as much as I do. The missus used to 388 00:21:24,200 --> 00:21:28,080 Speaker 2: happily join me on adventuress, camping, fishing, you know, the 389 00:21:28,200 --> 00:21:31,240 Speaker 2: out doors and stuff. Good outdoorsman over here. Now she 390 00:21:31,359 --> 00:21:35,680 Speaker 2: won't so much as go on a single hike with me. Wow. 391 00:21:35,720 --> 00:21:37,920 Speaker 2: We have a seven year old and since the kiddo, 392 00:21:38,040 --> 00:21:40,080 Speaker 2: these adventures have been a little tough to plan and 393 00:21:40,119 --> 00:21:43,200 Speaker 2: fall through with, which I understand, but it's hard on me. 394 00:21:43,480 --> 00:21:44,960 Speaker 2: I like to get out at least once a week 395 00:21:45,000 --> 00:21:47,359 Speaker 2: to clear my mind, but it's been reduced to once 396 00:21:47,400 --> 00:21:49,880 Speaker 2: a month, and she's upset every time I just leave 397 00:21:49,920 --> 00:21:52,520 Speaker 2: on a little quick trip to the rockies because I'm 398 00:21:52,560 --> 00:21:55,320 Speaker 2: not helping enough with the kid. I've told her numerous 399 00:21:55,359 --> 00:21:59,160 Speaker 2: times they should both come, but she never agrees. As 400 00:21:59,200 --> 00:22:02,080 Speaker 2: she quotes, which no longer enjoys those type of things. 401 00:22:02,680 --> 00:22:04,199 Speaker 2: Should I give up on the sits I love to 402 00:22:04,200 --> 00:22:06,879 Speaker 2: see and adventures I can't help but indulge in. I 403 00:22:06,920 --> 00:22:08,760 Speaker 2: do want to be there for my family, but I 404 00:22:08,800 --> 00:22:10,840 Speaker 2: can't cut these things out of my life forever. But 405 00:22:10,880 --> 00:22:14,440 Speaker 2: that's what she expects of me. Any advice? Okay, So first, first, 406 00:22:14,440 --> 00:22:16,680 Speaker 2: that's the first. That's the first. That's the setup. Yeah, 407 00:22:16,760 --> 00:22:19,399 Speaker 2: that's the setup. What do you think probably. 408 00:22:18,960 --> 00:22:21,000 Speaker 4: Coming together and being like all right, both sides need 409 00:22:21,040 --> 00:22:22,800 Speaker 4: to give in a little bit, Like maybe he is 410 00:22:23,160 --> 00:22:26,080 Speaker 4: maybe his little excursions are actually like longer than he says. 411 00:22:26,440 --> 00:22:28,119 Speaker 4: Maybe he can like cut back down a little bit, 412 00:22:28,119 --> 00:22:30,320 Speaker 4: and maybe it's like, hey, can we just can we 413 00:22:30,359 --> 00:22:33,679 Speaker 4: go like do something that you maybe go his hike together, 414 00:22:33,720 --> 00:22:36,440 Speaker 4: a hike and that like a simple hike and then 415 00:22:36,560 --> 00:22:38,159 Speaker 4: we go to a place you like or go out 416 00:22:38,200 --> 00:22:38,840 Speaker 4: to dinner where you. 417 00:22:38,800 --> 00:22:40,600 Speaker 2: Like or something like that. You know, interesting that you 418 00:22:40,640 --> 00:22:43,960 Speaker 2: say that, Yeah, so op. He is asked how often 419 00:22:44,000 --> 00:22:46,879 Speaker 2: his wife gets to leave without the kid right right, 420 00:22:47,359 --> 00:22:51,879 Speaker 2: which he responds to she has girls weekend slash nights 421 00:22:51,880 --> 00:22:55,199 Speaker 2: out around once a week to every other week. She 422 00:22:55,280 --> 00:22:57,879 Speaker 2: just doesn't like going camping anymore. And she definitely doesn't 423 00:22:57,920 --> 00:23:00,560 Speaker 2: like me camping either. She's for sure. Most of the 424 00:23:00,560 --> 00:23:02,680 Speaker 2: hard work with our child is I have a job, 425 00:23:02,720 --> 00:23:05,000 Speaker 2: and I greatly appreciate her for it. And when she 426 00:23:05,080 --> 00:23:06,879 Speaker 2: goes out with the ladies, I'm there for the Kiddoh 427 00:23:06,920 --> 00:23:09,680 Speaker 2: she needs a break, I'm there too. It's no problem. 428 00:23:09,720 --> 00:23:11,960 Speaker 2: I just want the camp mores. All man just wants 429 00:23:12,000 --> 00:23:13,600 Speaker 2: to camp. The man just wants to gain. She wants 430 00:23:13,640 --> 00:23:15,600 Speaker 2: to camp with his wife and his Kiddoh, you know, 431 00:23:15,680 --> 00:23:18,160 Speaker 2: nothing wrong with that, Nothing wrong with nothing wrong update. 432 00:23:18,320 --> 00:23:21,720 Speaker 2: So so that was May thirty first, June twenty ninth, 433 00:23:21,920 --> 00:23:26,080 Speaker 2: great news. The wife agreed that I could do some 434 00:23:26,280 --> 00:23:29,960 Speaker 2: father son bonding with the kiddo. Amazing. My wife doesn't 435 00:23:30,000 --> 00:23:33,080 Speaker 2: like camping yourself at all anymore and doesn't even appreciate 436 00:23:33,119 --> 00:23:35,119 Speaker 2: our kid and I going. This is a big hobby 437 00:23:35,160 --> 00:23:36,520 Speaker 2: for me and I want to share with my son. 438 00:23:36,920 --> 00:23:40,080 Speaker 2: Usually we argue a lot about these trips, especially if 439 00:23:40,119 --> 00:23:42,960 Speaker 2: I request to bring our child, but this time she's 440 00:23:43,040 --> 00:23:46,200 Speaker 2: oddly cooperative about the whole thing. Interesting, but she still 441 00:23:46,240 --> 00:23:49,480 Speaker 2: insisted she wouldn't join us. I was surprised, but didn't 442 00:23:49,560 --> 00:23:53,480 Speaker 2: question anything because I was so excited that she finally 443 00:23:53,520 --> 00:23:55,960 Speaker 2: was allowing us to go, and I didn't want her 444 00:23:56,000 --> 00:23:58,879 Speaker 2: to change her mind. Seems like we finally found some 445 00:23:58,960 --> 00:24:03,160 Speaker 2: calmon ground and arguments are ending. Seems like it update. 446 00:24:04,600 --> 00:24:10,439 Speaker 2: Let's see, Let's see I was wrong. We had a 447 00:24:10,480 --> 00:24:14,280 Speaker 2: great trip and returned back on Monday. I expected to 448 00:24:14,320 --> 00:24:18,119 Speaker 2: come home to an empty house, as my wife should 449 00:24:18,160 --> 00:24:20,959 Speaker 2: have been at her office for a few more hours. Right, 450 00:24:21,400 --> 00:24:23,439 Speaker 2: I walked the kid to his room as he was 451 00:24:23,480 --> 00:24:29,240 Speaker 2: exhausted and ready for an op. Have been hiking. After 452 00:24:30,040 --> 00:24:34,320 Speaker 2: I walked into our bedroom to find a naked man 453 00:24:34,400 --> 00:24:40,479 Speaker 2: in my bed. I've recognized him, ah, as he was 454 00:24:40,480 --> 00:24:44,200 Speaker 2: my wife's coworker whom I have met numerous times at 455 00:24:44,240 --> 00:24:49,880 Speaker 2: work functions. Oh my god. At first I was in disbelief. 456 00:24:50,240 --> 00:24:51,639 Speaker 2: Was I even in the right house. 457 00:24:53,800 --> 00:24:55,760 Speaker 4: I love how that's where his mind goes, like, am 458 00:24:55,760 --> 00:24:57,240 Speaker 4: I just walked into my. 459 00:24:58,520 --> 00:25:02,560 Speaker 2: S I'm sorry, I let me let me get my 460 00:25:02,640 --> 00:25:04,560 Speaker 2: son out of here. Your kids better wan get the 461 00:25:04,600 --> 00:25:09,280 Speaker 2: hell out of here. But then buzzus visits were confirmed 462 00:25:09,720 --> 00:25:14,639 Speaker 2: when my wife walked out of her bedroom also nudy ah, 463 00:25:14,680 --> 00:25:18,400 Speaker 2: and I had no more doubts. She looked petrified when 464 00:25:18,440 --> 00:25:21,560 Speaker 2: she saw me, and I have never been so angry. 465 00:25:22,280 --> 00:25:23,720 Speaker 2: I yelled at they need to get out of my 466 00:25:23,800 --> 00:25:25,719 Speaker 2: house so I could speak to my wife in private. 467 00:25:28,080 --> 00:25:32,639 Speaker 2: He grabbed his clothes and left, and then we started arguing. 468 00:25:32,840 --> 00:25:34,840 Speaker 2: I never yell at my wife. We always want to 469 00:25:34,880 --> 00:25:37,399 Speaker 2: keep things civil for a son. But I was so hurt. 470 00:25:37,600 --> 00:25:41,280 Speaker 2: I was screaming. Then my wife decides to get defensive, 471 00:25:41,320 --> 00:25:44,080 Speaker 2: saying it's not her fault that I'm barely around and 472 00:25:44,240 --> 00:25:48,720 Speaker 2: camps all much, even though I hardly go on trips 473 00:25:48,720 --> 00:25:51,560 Speaker 2: anymore because she doesn't like it. She says, that's what 474 00:25:51,760 --> 00:25:55,200 Speaker 2: drove me to do this, Your neglect to this family. 475 00:25:57,119 --> 00:25:59,160 Speaker 2: I was in tears at this point, I just don't 476 00:25:59,240 --> 00:26:04,399 Speaker 2: understand how her cheek could be my fault. When I 477 00:26:04,440 --> 00:26:07,240 Speaker 2: turned around to leave, my son was standing in the door. 478 00:26:08,280 --> 00:26:12,040 Speaker 2: I felt terrible for yelling. I quickly consoled him, but 479 00:26:12,080 --> 00:26:15,200 Speaker 2: my wife snapped at me again, telling me to get 480 00:26:15,240 --> 00:26:19,720 Speaker 2: my hands off him. Excuse me, I know what, Excuse me. 481 00:26:20,119 --> 00:26:22,640 Speaker 2: I'm just imagining she's doing this. It's like all while 482 00:26:22,680 --> 00:26:25,840 Speaker 2: she's naked, and the guy's like like the coworkers, like 483 00:26:25,880 --> 00:26:30,800 Speaker 2: putting on his pants like that. Maybe it's getting me 484 00:26:30,800 --> 00:26:34,240 Speaker 2: a little you know, feisty. Yeah, kind of like this, Tommy, 485 00:26:34,280 --> 00:26:39,000 Speaker 2: who's your friend? God? Now she won't speak to me 486 00:26:39,280 --> 00:26:42,520 Speaker 2: and says I can't see my child until I apologize, 487 00:26:43,760 --> 00:26:47,639 Speaker 2: apologize for what she said. We could go on the trip. 488 00:26:48,200 --> 00:26:51,280 Speaker 2: She planned to cheat on me, and that's what kills me. 489 00:26:51,880 --> 00:26:54,160 Speaker 2: Makes me wonder if she had done this before. I'm 490 00:26:54,200 --> 00:26:56,159 Speaker 2: stuck staying with my parents right now. I don't know 491 00:26:56,200 --> 00:26:58,359 Speaker 2: what to do. I want to see my son. I'm worried. 492 00:26:58,400 --> 00:27:00,480 Speaker 2: I really scared my child, and of course I would 493 00:27:00,480 --> 00:27:03,639 Speaker 2: apologize to him, just not my wife. But maybe it 494 00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:08,639 Speaker 2: is my fault. No update, I'm back home now. Decided 495 00:27:08,680 --> 00:27:11,359 Speaker 2: it was best to get hear asap. Things are quiet, 496 00:27:11,400 --> 00:27:13,080 Speaker 2: but I'm relieved to be back in the same space 497 00:27:13,080 --> 00:27:15,119 Speaker 2: as my son. Thank you for all the kind words. 498 00:27:15,119 --> 00:27:19,359 Speaker 2: I means so much. Another update. This is July sixth. Okay, 499 00:27:19,640 --> 00:27:21,440 Speaker 2: for the past week, I've been working with a lawyer 500 00:27:21,440 --> 00:27:24,560 Speaker 2: to initiate the process of divorce and getting full custody 501 00:27:24,560 --> 00:27:29,360 Speaker 2: of my son. Thank you, with the exception of visitation 502 00:27:29,480 --> 00:27:32,800 Speaker 2: for now until more is resolved. Things were awkward and 503 00:27:32,880 --> 00:27:35,120 Speaker 2: tense for the first few days of me being back home, 504 00:27:35,400 --> 00:27:39,080 Speaker 2: so my wife, using wife to keep things simple, decided 505 00:27:39,119 --> 00:27:41,639 Speaker 2: to leave to stay with the guy I found naked 506 00:27:41,640 --> 00:27:44,680 Speaker 2: with her. So she's leaving to stay with that dude. 507 00:27:45,320 --> 00:27:47,800 Speaker 2: I'm disappointed at the example she's setting for a son, 508 00:27:48,040 --> 00:27:51,520 Speaker 2: but this makes my decision to divorce even more concrete. Oh, 509 00:27:51,600 --> 00:27:53,359 Speaker 2: I feel so bad for this dude, because like, not 510 00:27:53,400 --> 00:27:56,800 Speaker 2: only did she he catch her in the act, but 511 00:27:56,880 --> 00:28:01,719 Speaker 2: she's like, not only no, no, no, no, it's your fault 512 00:28:01,960 --> 00:28:03,360 Speaker 2: and I'm running away with the guy. 513 00:28:03,760 --> 00:28:09,360 Speaker 4: That bro, you need to apologize. Yeah, wow, I mean. 514 00:28:09,800 --> 00:28:13,760 Speaker 2: Update July twenty sixth, my now ex wife revealed that 515 00:28:13,840 --> 00:28:17,080 Speaker 2: she's pregnant with a man she cheated with and no 516 00:28:17,119 --> 00:28:22,200 Speaker 2: longer wants to see our child. Oh my god, Oh 517 00:28:22,240 --> 00:28:25,720 Speaker 2: my god. Last week I received several text from my 518 00:28:25,760 --> 00:28:28,439 Speaker 2: ex saying she was pregnant with an unknown man's child, 519 00:28:28,880 --> 00:28:31,720 Speaker 2: obviously meaning she cheated with multiple other people before the 520 00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:34,000 Speaker 2: one I found out about. Oh my. She said she 521 00:28:34,040 --> 00:28:36,720 Speaker 2: plans to keep the baby and start a family with 522 00:28:36,800 --> 00:28:39,479 Speaker 2: her coworker. She also mentioned that she would be fighting 523 00:28:39,520 --> 00:28:42,320 Speaker 2: me for custody of our son, but she doesn't want 524 00:28:42,360 --> 00:28:44,479 Speaker 2: to see him. What is wrong with this person? I 525 00:28:44,520 --> 00:28:46,880 Speaker 2: told her I would be willing to split the custody 526 00:28:46,920 --> 00:28:49,280 Speaker 2: or at least keep visitation rights for the sake of 527 00:28:49,320 --> 00:28:52,640 Speaker 2: the kiddo, but she insisted she didn't care about that anymore. 528 00:28:53,040 --> 00:28:55,840 Speaker 2: I'm in awe. I'm shocked she's given up on everything 529 00:28:56,000 --> 00:28:58,960 Speaker 2: that our family had, but I most hurt for our son. 530 00:28:59,440 --> 00:29:01,600 Speaker 2: The end of the day, she isn't worth wasting any 531 00:29:01,640 --> 00:29:04,360 Speaker 2: more of my energy on. I've been spending every moment 532 00:29:04,400 --> 00:29:06,080 Speaker 2: I can with my kid, will continue to do so. 533 00:29:06,240 --> 00:29:10,040 Speaker 4: As we As we always say on this show, there 534 00:29:10,240 --> 00:29:13,400 Speaker 4: has to have been red flags before. 535 00:29:13,480 --> 00:29:15,880 Speaker 2: It seems the guys like so nice, though, which is 536 00:29:16,120 --> 00:29:20,800 Speaker 2: exemplified by a post teammate four months ago. Oh no, 537 00:29:21,520 --> 00:29:25,280 Speaker 2: it keeps going all right, It's in a camping subreddit 538 00:29:25,320 --> 00:29:27,680 Speaker 2: and it said what are the five go to items 539 00:29:27,680 --> 00:29:32,520 Speaker 2: for long trips? Man just wants to retreat into the forest. 540 00:29:32,640 --> 00:29:38,040 Speaker 2: Oh no. And then there's no responses to this except 541 00:29:38,360 --> 00:29:42,720 Speaker 2: any update under divorce. Oh my god. And then he 542 00:29:42,760 --> 00:29:45,200 Speaker 2: says she was lying about the pregnancy. 543 00:29:45,440 --> 00:29:48,400 Speaker 4: Oh my god, I'm like, I'm short circuiting. So she 544 00:29:48,640 --> 00:29:54,320 Speaker 4: lied about the pregnancy with other men? 545 00:29:55,160 --> 00:29:57,680 Speaker 2: Yeah for what? Yeah? I have no idea. I just 546 00:29:57,680 --> 00:30:00,000 Speaker 2: feel bad for this guy's messiful life. 547 00:30:00,680 --> 00:30:04,120 Speaker 4: Like, like her logic doesn't even follow, Like she she 548 00:30:04,920 --> 00:30:07,840 Speaker 4: doesn't want the kid, then she wants full custody. Then 549 00:30:07,880 --> 00:30:12,240 Speaker 4: she says she's pregnant for what reason to get cussody 550 00:30:13,040 --> 00:30:14,400 Speaker 4: of a kid she doesn't even want. 551 00:30:15,040 --> 00:30:18,760 Speaker 2: Bro Wow, I think she just wants to fuck up 552 00:30:18,760 --> 00:30:21,960 Speaker 2: his life. This woman is crazy. 553 00:30:22,320 --> 00:30:22,520 Speaker 1: I know. 554 00:30:22,600 --> 00:30:25,080 Speaker 2: I feel so bad. Is that the end of the story. 555 00:30:25,200 --> 00:30:28,880 Speaker 2: That's the end? Man? I guess I just like was 556 00:30:28,920 --> 00:30:32,160 Speaker 2: like like hurting when I when I saw what are 557 00:30:32,280 --> 00:30:35,000 Speaker 2: the top five go to items for longer trips? 558 00:30:35,040 --> 00:30:35,160 Speaker 4: Bro? 559 00:30:35,640 --> 00:30:37,560 Speaker 2: Who? Honestly who shout out to? Whoever? 560 00:30:37,640 --> 00:30:42,360 Speaker 4: Like pieced this together because it told the story insane. 561 00:30:43,120 --> 00:30:45,840 Speaker 2: Ope, I hope you're doing Okay we we we come 562 00:30:45,880 --> 00:30:48,040 Speaker 2: camp with us bro. Yeah, well can't. We'll be here 563 00:30:48,080 --> 00:30:48,880 Speaker 2: camping buddies.