WEBVTT - Perspective Is Everything 0:00:04.840 --> 0:00:09.440 Hey, hey, Hey, we're back. 0:00:09.920 --> 0:00:26.400 We're black brand ambition and thisish and this hey many girl. 0:00:26.640 --> 0:00:28.720 Well now that it's cool to be country, I think 0:00:28.800 --> 0:00:31.960 I'm just going to bring out I think Mandy, I 0:00:32.000 --> 0:00:35.960 think Amandalali is going to make an appearance this podcast, y'all, 0:00:36.040 --> 0:00:38.879 because y'all, Queen Bee got me wanting to put on 0:00:38.920 --> 0:00:42.000 my boots and find a cowboy hat that'll fit this 0:00:42.120 --> 0:00:45.159 head of hair and hit the tooth stepping? Is that 0:00:45.200 --> 0:00:51.519 what you call? Poor Usher? Can we just more Usher? 0:00:51.760 --> 0:00:53.960 Do they have beef? Why would she do that to 0:00:54.000 --> 0:00:54.360 that man? 0:00:54.480 --> 0:00:56.400 I know? Well, I will say as first time, I 0:00:56.520 --> 0:00:59.760 was concerned that Twitter like Usher had like like two 0:00:59.760 --> 0:01:03.040 million I guess like impressions or like you know, like 0:01:03.160 --> 0:01:05.240 comment and she had like about a million. So people 0:01:05.240 --> 0:01:06.440 are still giving him his due. 0:01:06.880 --> 0:01:09.520 I mean Spotify, she's like the one. Her songs were 0:01:09.560 --> 0:01:11.399 top of the charts you expect after the Super Bowl. 0:01:11.480 --> 0:01:14.080 By the way, Usher, he's laid like it was. I 0:01:14.120 --> 0:01:16.480 loved it. I had so much fun, which is probably 0:01:16.480 --> 0:01:19.360 why my hip is really tight today because I was 0:01:19.400 --> 0:01:23.840 getting down with the elder millennials at the at the 0:01:24.000 --> 0:01:27.480 at the at the Homie rap. But yeah, he did amazing. 0:01:27.640 --> 0:01:31.160 But I thought, oh, I'm going to spend Monday morning, 0:01:31.240 --> 0:01:35.559 like you know, listening to old Usher, and no, I 0:01:35.600 --> 0:01:39.040 spent it memorizing the words to sixteen Carriages and Texas 0:01:39.120 --> 0:01:41.640 Hold Them. I want to say. 0:01:41.680 --> 0:01:45.240 You know, Beyonce was like, sorry, but I'm going to 0:01:45.400 --> 0:01:49.559 use the super Bowl all attention came to. They paid 0:01:49.560 --> 0:01:53.559 her to do a commercial and she was like, thanks 0:01:53.600 --> 0:01:55.840 for this thirty million dollars worth of promo. 0:01:56.840 --> 0:01:59.480 I mean, there's never nothing done half assed. I mean 0:01:59.480 --> 0:02:01.040 we saw her. Look at the Grammys. I don't know 0:02:01.040 --> 0:02:03.040 if you saw that she had on like she's been 0:02:03.080 --> 0:02:05.080 doing the whole I mean, obviously there's been a horse 0:02:05.400 --> 0:02:08.720 has been the motif of renaissance and all that. I'd forgotten. 0:02:08.760 --> 0:02:11.480 There was supposed to be three acts, Act one, Act two, whatever, 0:02:12.000 --> 0:02:15.560 So yeah, I had totally forgotten. But when she came 0:02:15.600 --> 0:02:17.200 out and for those I don't know, where are you 0:02:17.240 --> 0:02:19.640 living under a rock? I mean it's Wednesday, you guys 0:02:19.639 --> 0:02:21.760 should be up on it by now. But at the 0:02:21.760 --> 0:02:24.880 super Bowl, what happened was was it after the halftimes? 0:02:24.880 --> 0:02:26.880 I think was just after the halftime show, maybe just 0:02:26.919 --> 0:02:30.280 before anyway, Verizon ad comes on. It's all about Beyonce 0:02:30.360 --> 0:02:32.280 talking about I'm gonna break the Internet. At the end 0:02:32.320 --> 0:02:34.200 of it, she's like drop the new music. They're ready, 0:02:34.840 --> 0:02:39.200 and literally at the same time, Instagram and x Twitter 0:02:39.240 --> 0:02:42.720 start blowing up because she's posted on ig that her 0:02:42.800 --> 0:02:45.799 new album is coming out in March twenty ninth. Not 0:02:45.840 --> 0:02:48.600 just that, but here's two new tracks, and not just that, 0:02:48.639 --> 0:02:54.359 but here is the sexiest cowgirl like artwork photography you're 0:02:54.360 --> 0:02:57.239 ever going to see, Like get your lives together, and 0:02:57.320 --> 0:02:59.280 you know, forget about this whole football game. 0:03:00.560 --> 0:03:03.399 I will say whoever is on her, whatever the NBA says, 0:03:03.480 --> 0:03:05.919 it must say, we will take your ear, your eye 0:03:06.400 --> 0:03:08.600 because no nothing ever leaks, not. 0:03:08.800 --> 0:03:10.560 Your grandchildren will feel all right. 0:03:10.840 --> 0:03:14.440 I mean I mean Beyonce literally tape. Remember she did 0:03:14.480 --> 0:03:15.880 the art What was the one that she were It 0:03:15.960 --> 0:03:17.560 was the first one. I think it was Lemonade. 0:03:17.720 --> 0:03:20.160 Say it was self self and Beyonce. 0:03:19.840 --> 0:03:22.320 Where she dropped it and all the videos, So you 0:03:22.400 --> 0:03:24.840 need to tell me you recorded. She must have one 0:03:24.880 --> 0:03:27.480 of those, remember like Men in Black where they had 0:03:27.520 --> 0:03:31.200 that little thing that erased your memory, because how was it? 0:03:31.240 --> 0:03:37.080 No extras, no production, nobody says anything beyond not. 0:03:37.040 --> 0:03:40.960 Even Gary from VIEP. I mean Gary from VIEP took 0:03:40.960 --> 0:03:42.440 me out. I don't know if y'all ever watch VEEP 0:03:42.480 --> 0:03:44.560 did if you're not a TV girl, but VIEP was 0:03:44.640 --> 0:03:48.440 the funniest and Gary played like the the dorky assistant 0:03:48.480 --> 0:03:51.960 to Julie Juey Louis Dreyfus's vice president character, and the 0:03:51.960 --> 0:03:54.800 fact that he was next to our queen Bee. I. 0:03:55.400 --> 0:03:57.600 I just want an interview where he talks about how 0:03:58.080 --> 0:04:00.400 like what what was that like? And how to Gary 0:04:00.440 --> 0:04:02.400 even VIEP end up In this commercial the. 0:04:02.360 --> 0:04:05.240 Girls say nothing a sidebar Happy Valentine's Day? 0:04:06.080 --> 0:04:07.560 Oh is that going to be? Oh? 0:04:07.600 --> 0:04:11.280 Your say if you are a little kid, happy Valentine's 0:04:11.520 --> 0:04:13.559 you know, because it's like Happy Valentine's. 0:04:14.800 --> 0:04:17.960 Meanwhile, I got an email from Remy's daycare. He's all 0:04:17.960 --> 0:04:20.039 of eight months. You're eight months old, and they're like, 0:04:20.080 --> 0:04:21.760 here's the class list if you like to send in 0:04:21.839 --> 0:04:24.160 Valentine's I'm like, no, Do I get at least another 0:04:24.240 --> 0:04:26.200 year or two before I have to worry about another 0:04:26.240 --> 0:04:29.400 one of those? And of course I got ahead of things. 0:04:29.440 --> 0:04:32.200 I'm looking to my right because somewhere on this shelf 0:04:32.240 --> 0:04:35.120 are the Valentines that I bought for Rio's class, maybe 0:04:35.120 --> 0:04:38.120 a couple months ago, and I'm probably gonna forget. I 0:04:38.160 --> 0:04:39.760 need to like find them because you know how you 0:04:39.760 --> 0:04:42.359 buy stuff in advance and then you forget where you 0:04:42.400 --> 0:04:45.839 put it. It's also my grandpa who has been He 0:04:45.880 --> 0:04:48.479 passed away in two thousand and seven. He would be 0:04:48.560 --> 0:04:51.679 ninety five. On the day we were recording on the twelfth, 0:04:51.880 --> 0:04:55.200 my mom just reminded me, so, hi, Papa, love you 0:04:55.240 --> 0:04:58.440 and happened. But did you watch the Did you watch 0:04:58.480 --> 0:04:58.800 the game? 0:04:58.800 --> 0:04:59.000 Though? 0:04:59.480 --> 0:05:01.520 Actually watch half just come. 0:05:03.240 --> 0:05:07.240 I was grateful to the people. I could not figure 0:05:07.240 --> 0:05:09.040 out how to watch the Usher show because I was like, 0:05:09.080 --> 0:05:09.839 Who's watching the game? 0:05:09.839 --> 0:05:10.080 Not me? 0:05:10.480 --> 0:05:12.919 Because I had just come back from visiting my friend and. 0:05:16.440 --> 0:05:20.600 So on the way, Honestly, the Usher halftime show would 0:05:20.600 --> 0:05:22.560 have been a good time before you go visit a friend. 0:05:22.640 --> 0:05:25.920 I'm just saying, like, I was like, it was bouche 0:05:26.160 --> 0:05:29.159 a little Afric DJ. Yeah, come back. 0:05:29.000 --> 0:05:31.440 On the weekend. And then so when I got back, 0:05:31.480 --> 0:05:32.680 I was like, I'm tired. I thought I was going 0:05:32.720 --> 0:05:34.400 to go to a Super Bowl party, but I was tired, 0:05:34.600 --> 0:05:36.240 and I was like, I just watched the Usher show, 0:05:36.480 --> 0:05:38.000 but I could not figure out how to watch it. It 0:05:38.040 --> 0:05:40.120 was not playing on YouTube. It was not playing, but 0:05:40.320 --> 0:05:43.320 God blessed the people. It was a young woman who 0:05:43.800 --> 0:05:46.400 set up her phone so I could watch her TV 0:05:46.640 --> 0:05:47.479 or her laptop. 0:05:48.040 --> 0:05:48.919 And it was me and. 0:05:48.960 --> 0:05:52.440 Twenty other people. Yeah no Instagram, Me and twenty other 0:05:52.440 --> 0:05:55.440 people just get saying, you are doing the Lord's work. 0:05:55.640 --> 0:05:58.800 So I'm just in there like gus, watching like a 0:05:58.880 --> 0:06:02.440 video of her video, which was it was amazing, because like, 0:06:02.480 --> 0:06:04.240 where am I going to watch it? I'm missing it. 0:06:04.560 --> 0:06:06.159 It was on Paramount, wasn't it. 0:06:06.520 --> 0:06:08.360 I don't know cha. I was clicking all the things. 0:06:08.320 --> 0:06:09.880 I don't remember my log into none of my I 0:06:09.920 --> 0:06:10.520 think I said, you. 0:06:10.520 --> 0:06:12.120 Know what, you were not pared. 0:06:12.680 --> 0:06:15.159 I went on to Instagram and someone said I got you. 0:06:15.240 --> 0:06:17.200 She literally was like, yeah, I'm gonna She was so 0:06:17.240 --> 0:06:19.440 cute because she was like, although I'm excited, I'm going 0:06:19.440 --> 0:06:21.000 to try to keep my voice down so you guys 0:06:21.000 --> 0:06:25.960 can hear. So I mean, a gem of a gem. 0:06:26.320 --> 0:06:27.840 It was just excellent, and I just want to thank her. 0:06:27.839 --> 0:06:30.800 I don't remember her name, but girl, not all not 0:06:30.880 --> 0:06:33.839 all heroes were capes, you know, some of them pirate 0:06:34.640 --> 0:06:36.680 videos for us to watch. So I'm just happy about that. 0:06:37.920 --> 0:06:41.120 Well, it was a little chaotic in the beginning because 0:06:41.120 --> 0:06:42.960 there was so it was like where's Usher at? He 0:06:43.040 --> 0:06:45.680 was behind like every performer like there was. It's so 0:06:45.839 --> 0:06:48.640 it was so different to Rihanna's show because or sorry Rihanna, 0:06:49.200 --> 0:06:51.600 Rihanna show, because everyone was sort of like monotone. It 0:06:51.720 --> 0:06:53.440 was the white and then she was red. But with Usher, 0:06:53.480 --> 0:06:55.560 I'm like, where he at? It's like there's a peacock 0:06:55.600 --> 0:06:57.919 over there, it's a showgirl. That guy's doing backflips and 0:06:57.920 --> 0:07:00.320 this the camera's going all over the place. But he 0:07:00.360 --> 0:07:03.920 did the damn thing. And by the time Luda came out, 0:07:04.120 --> 0:07:06.840 and I never in my wildest dreams thought I'd be 0:07:06.920 --> 0:07:10.240 bouncing my baby on my hip and dancing to turn 0:07:10.320 --> 0:07:14.400 down for what. At the same time, my mind was blown. 0:07:14.600 --> 0:07:16.880 I was like, am I in college right now? Am 0:07:16.920 --> 0:07:19.840 I a mom? Like? I don't someone take this baby? 0:07:19.880 --> 0:07:21.920 He can't be mine. I was just in college. 0:07:21.920 --> 0:07:23.320 This is crazy. 0:07:23.400 --> 0:07:27.280 But the nostalgia for the elder millennials was was so real. 0:07:28.640 --> 0:07:32.800 My older sister loved Usher like, yes, he was everything 0:07:32.800 --> 0:07:34.520 to her. So we were all very we were trying 0:07:34.560 --> 0:07:37.080 to observe this day for Mallory my older sister and 0:07:37.160 --> 0:07:39.520 just like really respect her feelings and make sure that 0:07:39.600 --> 0:07:41.760 she got her time to digest. 0:07:43.200 --> 0:07:44.760 Well, what did you think about some of the commercials, 0:07:44.840 --> 0:07:45.520 the Ghana one? 0:07:45.600 --> 0:07:49.000 Oh my gosh, I remember, Wait what was the Ghana one? 0:07:49.080 --> 0:07:51.360 Because I saw it like maybe after it started, and 0:07:51.400 --> 0:07:52.640 I didn't really know what it was for. 0:07:52.880 --> 0:07:56.440 So it looked like the NFL was saying, Hey, we're 0:07:56.440 --> 0:07:59.360 going to be having like football camps in Africa. That's 0:07:59.400 --> 0:08:01.400 what it looked like, okay, And so they was like 0:08:01.440 --> 0:08:04.680 following this little boy who was like playing football all 0:08:04.720 --> 0:08:08.040 around like his house, but also to the marketplace, one 0:08:08.080 --> 0:08:10.840 of the largest marketplaces in a kragana, and you know, 0:08:10.840 --> 0:08:13.120 everybody basically was like, oh, there he goes Qui just 0:08:13.520 --> 0:08:16.760 always playing football. But in his mind he was like 0:08:16.800 --> 0:08:18.720 playing against some of the best guys in the league. 0:08:18.760 --> 0:08:21.360 So they were his imaginary friends, but they were really there, 0:08:21.440 --> 0:08:23.760 you know, like going up against like you know, this 0:08:23.880 --> 0:08:26.640 linebacker or whatever. I don't know the positions. And then 0:08:26.680 --> 0:08:30.880 afterwards he like, I guess this dog steals his football 0:08:31.360 --> 0:08:33.800 and it takes him to this field where he sees 0:08:33.840 --> 0:08:39.160 people practicing football. Because in Africa, like so many other countries, soccer, 0:08:39.280 --> 0:08:42.679 aka their football is the dominant sport. So he realizes, wow, 0:08:42.720 --> 0:08:45.440 they're playing football football and he's met with this Nigerian 0:08:45.480 --> 0:08:48.199 football player named Oci, who I'm assuming used to be 0:08:48.240 --> 0:08:50.280 a famous football player and says, I know that look, 0:08:50.320 --> 0:08:53.800 I remember I had that look too. We're here in Africa. 0:08:54.240 --> 0:08:57.680 I'm interested in American football and basically says this is 0:08:57.679 --> 0:09:01.760 a camp to like get kids and boys ready to play. 0:09:01.800 --> 0:09:04.520 So it was really yeah, and there's so many. It 0:09:04.600 --> 0:09:07.920 was just beautiful to see. Like I saw Bozma, my 0:09:07.960 --> 0:09:13.120 friend who is an ambassador to to Ghana until former 0:09:13.160 --> 0:09:16.720 CMO of Netflix. She was like, how beautiful? How you know, 0:09:16.920 --> 0:09:20.160 like literally to hear my language being spoken on the 0:09:20.200 --> 0:09:25.000 most prominent marketing stage in the world, right, you know 0:09:25.040 --> 0:09:27.080 what I mean? Like, So I just was just really beautiful. 0:09:27.080 --> 0:09:29.960 It was just a really beautifully well done commercial. So 0:09:30.000 --> 0:09:32.400 that came on. Only reason I sty is because Homegirl 0:09:32.480 --> 0:09:34.240 was like about to cut off and she's like, wait, 0:09:34.320 --> 0:09:35.640 let's watch this one commercials together. 0:09:35.880 --> 0:09:38.160 The girl really impressed that you wanted that you were 0:09:38.200 --> 0:09:43.120 talking about what I saw because watched usher the commercials. 0:09:43.160 --> 0:09:48.800 I saw one. Let me go first talk about wanting 0:09:48.840 --> 0:09:50.920 to be the first person to raise your hand in class. 0:09:51.120 --> 0:09:54.160 Because he read exactly. I was like, so in the 0:09:54.240 --> 0:09:58.960 chapter that I read, chapter one, I mean because I 0:09:59.000 --> 0:10:00.480 heard that. I mean I didn't see, but I heard 0:10:00.480 --> 0:10:01.959 that the Kindae commercial was ghetto. 0:10:02.600 --> 0:10:05.560 He basically always chasing my children around. I wouldn't have 0:10:06.000 --> 0:10:08.679 just taken them to up Laila's house in retrospect, but 0:10:08.720 --> 0:10:11.280 I was chasing them around. It was a lot. It's 0:10:11.320 --> 0:10:13.640 a lot of emotions. I have a pandemic baby, and 0:10:13.720 --> 0:10:16.000 y'all who have pandemic boys and girls out there, when 0:10:16.040 --> 0:10:18.199 they get in a crowd, it's it's hit or miss. 0:10:18.240 --> 0:10:19.800 It's like either they're going to be stuck to you 0:10:19.880 --> 0:10:21.920 and you can't do anything without them, or they're going 0:10:21.960 --> 0:10:24.680 to be flying free. But no, I did. The one 0:10:24.720 --> 0:10:26.840 that I saw that really like stuck with me was 0:10:26.880 --> 0:10:30.640 a Dove commercial. Dove they were our partners last year. 0:10:30.679 --> 0:10:34.440 Will they continue in it? But they? I mean, you know, 0:10:34.800 --> 0:10:39.560 but they did this really this really I don't know 0:10:39.600 --> 0:10:42.520 what's the word it was. It was heart it was touching, 0:10:42.559 --> 0:10:44.640 but it was also like really sad, and it was 0:10:44.679 --> 0:10:49.080 about young girls and how because of body confidence issues, 0:10:49.160 --> 0:10:51.439 because young girls don't like the way that they look 0:10:51.480 --> 0:10:53.640 or they're self conscious about their bodies. They drop out 0:10:53.679 --> 0:10:55.559 of sports at such a huge rate. So it was 0:10:55.600 --> 0:10:58.800 like a twelve year old cliff or something. And I 0:10:58.800 --> 0:11:00.680 think the Dove angle is that they're going to be 0:11:00.679 --> 0:11:03.080 doing like body confidence. I mean, that's always been their 0:11:03.320 --> 0:11:06.199 their thing. It's about loving your body. But this picture 0:11:06.240 --> 0:11:07.840 of a twelve year old little girl in a swim 0:11:07.880 --> 0:11:09.880 suit looking at herself in the mirror, and I'm like, 0:11:10.320 --> 0:11:12.760 ain't that a damn thing? Like I know, it was like, 0:11:13.040 --> 0:11:14.800 of course I went through that as a kid. I 0:11:14.840 --> 0:11:17.000 remember her. I wasn't swimming, but I was in the 0:11:17.000 --> 0:11:19.360 marching band, and even I I was like, I can't 0:11:19.360 --> 0:11:22.480 wear shorts to the practice because my legs look you know, 0:11:22.600 --> 0:11:25.600 fat or whatever. And it's just, yeah, that made me sad. 0:11:25.600 --> 0:11:28.119 And I thought it was really poignant. That's the word. Poignant, 0:11:28.760 --> 0:11:31.319 kind of like punch you in the gut kind of commercial, 0:11:31.440 --> 0:11:33.120 but so. 0:11:35.400 --> 0:11:38.199 Like we're so conscious and like, honestly, there's so much 0:11:38.280 --> 0:11:41.880 money that's made out of our self deprivation and self 0:11:41.920 --> 0:11:45.200 consciousness about how we look. You know, it's big business. 0:11:45.240 --> 0:11:49.040 Like so Amelia, my niece, she's six. The other day 0:11:49.040 --> 0:11:50.600 she she like baked her mom, I want you to. 0:11:50.880 --> 0:11:52.400 I want you She used to say, I want hair 0:11:52.480 --> 0:11:54.079 like Auntie Edo. So y'all know I have a lock. 0:11:54.120 --> 0:11:56.120 So Amelia has natural hair and her mom puts it 0:11:56.160 --> 0:11:58.440 like cute little braids and burrets and stuff. She's like, oh, 0:11:58.480 --> 0:12:00.240 I want I want hair like Auntie Edo's. So her 0:12:00.280 --> 0:12:02.199 mom would twist it and she would call it. Look, 0:12:02.200 --> 0:12:04.920 I got Auntie Edo hair because adot, she is my 0:12:04.920 --> 0:12:07.560 African name and they call me Auntie know and so. 0:12:07.720 --> 0:12:10.640 But then like a month or so ago, she said, Mommy, 0:12:10.679 --> 0:12:12.839 I want straight hair and she's like, oh, you want 0:12:12.840 --> 0:12:16.160 your hair like Auntie Etto. She's like no, So I 0:12:16.280 --> 0:12:19.560 was like, who No, She said she wants her hair 0:12:19.600 --> 0:12:22.000 because she asked her mom, how come my hair doesn't 0:12:22.000 --> 0:12:25.600 fall down? And I remember, oh that girl. 0:12:25.760 --> 0:12:28.040 My little brother asked me that when he was It's 0:12:28.080 --> 0:12:30.000 a joke to this day, but it was quite sad. 0:12:30.160 --> 0:12:30.480 I know. 0:12:31.080 --> 0:12:33.720 I was like, hair go down, yes, And then she 0:12:33.840 --> 0:12:36.160 was just because she goes to a school in the 0:12:36.160 --> 0:12:38.240 north ward of New York, which is largely Hispanic, Like 0:12:38.679 --> 0:12:41.560 it's about eighty percent Hispanic, right, So it's great because 0:12:41.559 --> 0:12:44.920 her accent is perfect. Though Okay, her best friend, Alena 0:12:45.040 --> 0:12:47.520 is from dr and so like they just you know, 0:12:48.400 --> 0:12:51.520 we love that for her. But then she I realized 0:12:51.559 --> 0:12:54.040 that meanwhile, Newark, which is so black, but here this 0:12:54.200 --> 0:12:57.120 one school, she's kind of othered, you know, obviously not 0:12:57.120 --> 0:12:58.720 the kids are not telling her. She didn't say anybody 0:12:58.720 --> 0:13:02.000 made fun of her. She's just looking around and saying, hey, 0:13:02.800 --> 0:13:05.760 I look different. And she never had a problem before 0:13:05.800 --> 0:13:07.760 because you know, it was like the people I'm around, 0:13:07.800 --> 0:13:11.840 they look like me. And so my sister, you know, 0:13:11.920 --> 0:13:13.720 she was begging and begging, banging. So she brought one 0:13:13.760 --> 0:13:15.400 of these like straightener things, but she hasn't used it. 0:13:15.480 --> 0:13:15.560 Ye. 0:13:16.320 --> 0:13:19.600 And the other day she actually, my sister like wears 0:13:19.600 --> 0:13:22.040 her hair and these like really cute twists, and so 0:13:22.120 --> 0:13:24.040 she did that for her, and she was so nervous 0:13:24.040 --> 0:13:25.719 as go to school because she thought that the kids 0:13:25.760 --> 0:13:27.720 would make fun of her. But she came back so 0:13:27.760 --> 0:13:30.320 bringing them twists. Honey, everybody loved it, and we were like, 0:13:30.360 --> 0:13:33.880 woof everybody loved it. Alena told her, oh my god, 0:13:33.920 --> 0:13:36.160 you look just like your mom. And so I said, 0:13:36.160 --> 0:13:39.800 Alena understood the asignment. We're like yas girl, I know, 0:13:40.320 --> 0:13:42.720 and so we're hoping that you know, I get it 0:13:42.880 --> 0:13:44.680 because I had straight hair for a little while and 0:13:44.679 --> 0:13:47.079 then I came back to my natural state. And it's 0:13:47.120 --> 0:13:49.360 part of, like I wish it wasn't part of kind 0:13:49.360 --> 0:13:53.800 of like this navigating toward accepting yourself and but it's 0:13:53.840 --> 0:13:55.280 just it was just hard to hear, like how come 0:13:55.320 --> 0:13:57.000 my hair doesn't go down? Because I remember, because my 0:13:57.040 --> 0:13:59.560 hair grows out like yours. Man, it just grows out. 0:13:59.640 --> 0:14:02.880 It doesn't you know, doesn't fall. And I mean now 0:14:03.000 --> 0:14:05.679 as with locks, you know, but yeah, it just made 0:14:05.760 --> 0:14:08.160 us say, like, h how much money is made out 0:14:08.200 --> 0:14:10.080 of the self consciousness. Meanwhile, she's six. 0:14:10.920 --> 0:14:14.040 Well, I think it's about there's a curiosity that kids have, 0:14:14.120 --> 0:14:16.400 and I think our our and there's so much pressure 0:14:16.440 --> 0:14:18.560 on parents to like say the exact right thing and 0:14:18.559 --> 0:14:20.040 then the next thing, you know, you see on IG 0:14:20.680 --> 0:14:22.800 some parenting experts like if you say this, you're a 0:14:22.800 --> 0:14:26.360 fucking awful parent. I'm like, well, I'm just sending yesterday 0:14:26.400 --> 0:14:29.120 and got them to bed on time. But there's a 0:14:29.160 --> 0:14:31.400 curiosity that they are going to have about their hair, 0:14:31.440 --> 0:14:34.400 their skin, their bodies. And I think if we approach 0:14:34.400 --> 0:14:37.440 it as you know, your hair is naturally this way, 0:14:37.480 --> 0:14:39.240 but look at all the amazing things it can do 0:14:39.320 --> 0:14:41.960 because it can be straight, it can do all these 0:14:42.000 --> 0:14:44.560 and our hair is so versatile, and if there's an 0:14:44.600 --> 0:14:46.920 appreciation of it as one of the many things that 0:14:46.960 --> 0:14:48.920 the hair can do, dang, And I don't have a 0:14:48.920 --> 0:14:52.280 little I'm not raising girls, I'm raising boys. Rio already says, Mama, 0:14:52.360 --> 0:14:56.520 my hair pop, my curls popping. And when I blow 0:14:56.600 --> 0:14:58.440 my hair out, he doesn't like. He's like, Mama, while 0:14:58.440 --> 0:15:02.320 your hair, well, your curls not pop. I love that 0:15:02.520 --> 0:15:04.520 he doesn't know what it means. It's just so sincere. 0:15:05.120 --> 0:15:07.600 But yeah, so I think that's you know, I think 0:15:07.600 --> 0:15:10.040 it's totally natural. But I think it's like, it's how 0:15:10.080 --> 0:15:13.600 we say that. And I had the perfect book for 0:15:13.960 --> 0:15:16.280 mem Why where did that come from? 0:15:16.320 --> 0:15:18.200 Do you guys call her MEMI we do because I 0:15:18.200 --> 0:15:18.560 call my f. 0:15:20.200 --> 0:15:22.200 I don't know why. Maybe you said it before. I 0:15:22.200 --> 0:15:25.680 don't know her that well. But but I've read. I 0:15:25.800 --> 0:15:27.800 actually raised a hand to read a book at I 0:15:27.840 --> 0:15:29.680 sent you a picture right in my little yees pre 0:15:29.720 --> 0:15:32.320 school moment. I went to the library. I got some 0:15:32.400 --> 0:15:36.200 books to read for Rio's pre K class for a 0:15:36.240 --> 0:15:38.600 Black History month, and one of them that I didn't 0:15:38.720 --> 0:15:41.080 read because I checked out four books and his teacher 0:15:41.160 --> 0:15:43.000 was like, girl, you better pick one, because one thing 0:15:43.040 --> 0:15:45.440 these kids are not going to do to four books. 0:15:45.880 --> 0:15:48.560 One of them was called Princess Hair. There's a beautiful 0:15:48.560 --> 0:15:51.680 book and it's like girls with kinks love to think 0:15:51.720 --> 0:15:54.880 and girls. Maybe I shouldn't have started with that example 0:15:54.880 --> 0:15:57.960 because it sounds weird. Girls with curls like tutwirl, and 0:15:58.000 --> 0:16:01.320 it's like all the different natural hairstyles and like a 0:16:01.360 --> 0:16:03.880 celebration of all those different ways our hair can look. 0:16:04.640 --> 0:16:07.400 And there's like, if you the way that I went 0:16:07.440 --> 0:16:09.520 to the library and I sat down in the librarian 0:16:10.360 --> 0:16:11.920 she was a white woman, but I sat down tot 0:16:11.920 --> 0:16:13.880 her what I was looking for, and I just sat 0:16:13.880 --> 0:16:16.560 there at my little table in the kiddie section reading books, 0:16:16.600 --> 0:16:18.480 and she just kept bringing me over like a like 0:16:18.520 --> 0:16:20.960 a waitress, like here's more, here's more. There's so many 0:16:21.000 --> 0:16:26.320 great books with like so much representation of skin colors 0:16:26.360 --> 0:16:28.840 and hair textures. And you know, I think if we 0:16:29.040 --> 0:16:33.320 are like really intentional about it, this generation, these kids 0:16:33.400 --> 0:16:36.960 generation is going to grow up so much more loving themselves. 0:16:37.040 --> 0:16:37.400 I hope. 0:16:37.400 --> 0:16:40.120 Anyway, Yeah, I think so. I mean, like I said, 0:16:40.120 --> 0:16:43.600 she she's got her like these faux locks twist things 0:16:43.640 --> 0:16:46.200 that's super cute that her mom does for herself, and 0:16:46.280 --> 0:16:48.600 she's never not like swinging them. I'm like, okay, so, 0:16:49.040 --> 0:16:50.720 and to your point, if if she wants to get 0:16:50.760 --> 0:16:54.040 it straightened, she could certainly, we could certainly do that temporarily, 0:16:54.120 --> 0:16:56.920 just like this is just another style, not better, not worse, 0:16:57.040 --> 0:16:58.640 just another way that your hair can be. 0:16:59.400 --> 0:17:03.280 Just let her learn about humidity after that, and poof, 0:17:03.960 --> 0:17:05.840 I'm saying, can you can tell the weather but my 0:17:05.880 --> 0:17:08.800 hair right, it's gonna be humid, y'all curls are out. 0:17:10.400 --> 0:17:12.760 But yeah, it just goes to show like it's so 0:17:12.760 --> 0:17:15.800 social media. Sometimes you just need a break because we're 0:17:15.920 --> 0:17:19.520 all susceptible to I can't tell you how much stuff 0:17:19.520 --> 0:17:21.639 I have bought. Oh my gosh, I would say I 0:17:21.640 --> 0:17:23.760 should just do like I should do, like a spreadsheet 0:17:23.800 --> 0:17:26.720 of like things I was influenced to buy. I suspect 0:17:26.760 --> 0:17:28.880 it's at least a thousand dollars worth of stuff last year. 0:17:30.040 --> 0:17:32.760 It's a new mall, I mean, like window shopping is 0:17:32.800 --> 0:17:35.960 scrolling on ig yeah, and it's and it knows me. 0:17:36.200 --> 0:17:38.720 I'm just like, yeah, I would like those shoes you 0:17:39.440 --> 0:17:42.720 are correct, and yes, last year I did take advantage 0:17:42.720 --> 0:17:45.240 of this buy one, get one sale. So thanks for 0:17:45.240 --> 0:17:46.240 bringing me the link back. 0:17:47.400 --> 0:17:48.880 And you know what, I really love though. I mean, 0:17:49.000 --> 0:17:50.760 this is so terrible because there might be a store 0:17:50.840 --> 0:17:52.800 that I know. I'm not ready to buy anything now, 0:17:52.800 --> 0:17:54.359 but I'm like, oh, I like it, so I will 0:17:54.400 --> 0:17:57.000 click on it, just so they know, continue to influence me. Now. 0:17:57.320 --> 0:17:59.240 Oh yeah, now we know how to work the AI, 0:17:59.400 --> 0:18:01.639 you know, like we're you're on the algo Like I 0:18:01.680 --> 0:18:03.280 once did that for husby. I got his I got 0:18:03.320 --> 0:18:05.280 a hold of his phone and I looked for a 0:18:05.320 --> 0:18:08.680 lot of relationship content like how to be a better husband. 0:18:08.920 --> 0:18:11.159 And I was liking and saving and liking and saving 0:18:11.240 --> 0:18:13.720 and he's like, did you touch my phone? Something is 0:18:13.760 --> 0:18:17.119 wrong with He knew immediately. I'm like, this is not. 0:18:18.000 --> 0:18:20.840 Oh my goodness. Yeah, it's hard for the wallet. It 0:18:20.920 --> 0:18:24.320 really really is. So y'all are on watch for like 0:18:24.359 --> 0:18:27.000 spring break and traveling because now it's a season. Everyone's 0:18:27.040 --> 0:18:31.760 like booking up. Protect your coins at all costs. Remember 0:18:31.760 --> 0:18:35.159 what you value. Remember I'm a giant hypocrite because I 0:18:35.200 --> 0:18:38.399 am going to Dominican Republic for a wedding and I 0:18:38.440 --> 0:18:40.960 did spend too much on a dress for the wedding because. 0:18:40.760 --> 0:18:43.760 I did you get the one from Afree or whatever? 0:18:43.800 --> 0:18:46.960 You got something different or they? Yeah. 0:18:47.240 --> 0:18:50.480 So it's been really challenging to find a formal dress 0:18:50.520 --> 0:18:54.080