Speaker 1: Hey there. In this episode, Robot and I work our
Speaker 1: butts off to throw a party that we then weren't
Speaker 1: allowed to attend. Also, acclaimed actors are being punched in
Speaker 1: the face on the streets of New York. Also, Rhodes
Speaker 1: is now recruiting vampires for her beauty regimen. I was
Speaker 1: tricked into going to the theater to the aram com
Speaker 1: and we have got our hands on the list of
Speaker 1: things women want men to understand about them. That's all
Speaker 1: in this episode of Amy and TJ robes here next
Speaker 1: to me. We're gonna end with the list, but I'll start.
Speaker 1: What would be the one thing you would say you
Speaker 1: want women? Do you think women want men to know
Speaker 1: and understand about them? You can make it personally if
Speaker 1: you want.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Well, I mean I think what I think it's
Speaker 2: so much easier. Men think we're so complex, But actually
Speaker 2: we just want to feel safe and we want to
Speaker 2: feel love like we want to be shown love. We
Speaker 2: want to know that we're safe and that I think
Speaker 2: those go together. But it's really as simple as that.
Speaker 2: If you if those two things are there, everything else
Speaker 2: is easy, everything else is great.
Speaker 1: All are not complex.
Speaker 2: I don't think we are. Hmm.
Speaker 1: I didn't think you would say that you are very
Speaker 1: You all are simple creatures that we have. We are
Speaker 1: too stupid even to understand the simplest of things.
Speaker 2: I was that what you're saying to insult men with that.
Speaker 1: I think we felt it still. I think subtle as
Speaker 1: it was.
Speaker 2: I think men overthink things sometimes, kind of like no,
Speaker 2: which is what I'm doing right now. Uh no, But
Speaker 2: it wasn't meant.
Speaker 1: No, No. It's a fun list that Andy Andy, our producer,
Speaker 1: found the sentence that we're going to get into that
Speaker 1: here in just a few minutes. But I said this
Speaker 1: on the train and I'm meant and I'll say it here.
Speaker 1: You have been in You are your best self today.
Speaker 1: You are as delightful and upbeat and positive and pleasant
Speaker 1: and cute and bouncy and your style everything today you
Speaker 1: you just you got up in a really good way
Speaker 1: and you are just wonderful today.
Speaker 2: Thank you. I appreciate that. I will say that we
Speaker 2: have had a wonderful last few weeks, like just you know,
Speaker 2: when you are in a relationship and it's just great,
Speaker 2: like you haven't had any bump. I don't. I'm going
Speaker 2: to jinx us right now. Damn it. But we have
Speaker 2: just had a really good stretch of just loveliness. Like
Speaker 2: it's just been it's just been fun, it's been sweet,
Speaker 2: it's been supportive. Uh, it's just been really good. So
Speaker 2: I think that has created or attributed to my move.
Speaker 1: I wanted you to finish that statement. You said, you
Speaker 1: know you like talking to the listener. You know, when
Speaker 1: you're in a relationship and everything's going just great. Really,
Speaker 1: you probably lost a lot.
Speaker 2: Of well no, but no, no matter where you are,
Speaker 2: you remember a time when it was like, it doesn't last.
Speaker 2: We all know it. It comes and goes, It comes
Speaker 2: and goes.
Speaker 1: What does that mean?
Speaker 2: It's like you have everyone has moments where it's oh yeah,
Speaker 2: but you can reflect back. I think anyone who's been
Speaker 2: in a relationship knows when you're in that little stretch
Speaker 2: and you have there multiple stretches and they can last
Speaker 2: for a long time, but you're just it creates this
Speaker 2: unbridled joy in you.
Speaker 1: Well you were and you were in you were on
Speaker 1: stride then, because you I'm serious, you were just I
Speaker 1: said it to you on the traund I mean it,
Speaker 1: you were just just this wonderful little ball of joy
Speaker 1: right now, Like even normally make on our commute here
Speaker 1: you would. I don't know. Maybe you do a little
Speaker 1: trash talking and making fun of something you see, A
Speaker 1: say a little something like I am my way, not
Speaker 1: being nasty, but just being a New Yorker. Like nothing
Speaker 1: can phrase you right now, you have just been great.
Speaker 2: I feel very joyful.
Speaker 1: You were so joyful. I'm not even doing what I
Speaker 1: normally do. Because you and I are friends. We still
Speaker 1: rip each other, give each other a hard times. She
Speaker 1: isn't too much of a good mood. I'm not even
Speaker 1: gonna I'm not gonna mess with this.
Speaker 2: I'm not even gonna poke her a little a little,
Speaker 2: but it's great.
Speaker 1: It was fun to see and we got a full
Speaker 1: day plan so looking forward to that. But we did
Speaker 1: to your point that one of the big events we've
Speaker 1: been working off for weeks really is an eighteen year
Speaker 1: old's birthday party that finally went off without a hitch.
Speaker 1: I think we could say on Friday.
Speaker 2: Yes, Annaly's turned eighteen, and we were talking about this
Speaker 2: in the last podcast. I'm at a point now where
Speaker 2: no big birthday bashes are being created in the sense
Speaker 2: where I'm not spending tons of money, I'm not going
Speaker 2: and renting up venues and doing all the stuff. It's like,
Speaker 2: keep it at home, nice and simple, but then that
Speaker 2: doesn't create a lot of work. So she had some
Speaker 2: of her favorite people over and we were allowed to
Speaker 2: attend until we were told to please leave at ten PM.
Speaker 2: I think she was like, Mom, you said you were
Speaker 2: going to leave earlier. You know, she just was really
Speaker 2: waiting for us to go.
Speaker 1: Okay, given the position I have, I didn't feel it
Speaker 1: was appropriate to say, at least I pay for this party.
Speaker 1: I didn't think that. I didn't think that was right.
Speaker 1: But we did have a I mean, certainly. Third of
Speaker 1: party was Friday with Thursday. We were bouncing all around
Speaker 1: a rainy, cold New York dragon gifts and balloons. We
Speaker 1: were those idiots.
Speaker 2: Yes, you had so many balloons and it was raining
Speaker 2: and it was it was just think of all the
Speaker 2: days it was raining and cold, and yes we had
Speaker 2: balloons and cakes, a big cake, We had gifts, we
Speaker 2: had party favors, all the things we were just talking about. Actually, hilariously,
Speaker 2: in the last episode, you know what.
Speaker 1: In Fildal, maybe this is new to me, Maybe everybody
Speaker 1: else understands. Party City is like TJ mex like, you
Speaker 1: can't go in there for one thing and just walk
Speaker 1: out with that one thing. Party City is I didn't
Speaker 1: know we went in there for one thing. I thought
Speaker 1: I was gonna be able to put that thing in
Speaker 1: my purse. Yes, we walked out with three huge, heavy
Speaker 1: bags and we were like, how did this happen?
Speaker 2: But all of a sudden, I needed everything in the
Speaker 2: store to make the party better.
Speaker 1: Sabine got stuff. Is not even her birthday.
Speaker 2: You were like, I gotta get this for zev. It
Speaker 2: really was like targets, the same way you go in
Speaker 2: for dish shop and you come back with seven bags
Speaker 2: filled with five hundred dollars with the things that you
Speaker 2: didn't actually need. So that happened at party City for
Speaker 2: us on that was Friday, right, it was Thursday.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, Friday was the party. Yes, I got the
Speaker 1: days mixed up, Yes, Friday.
Speaker 2: Because we were working Thursday and Friday on the party.
Speaker 2: But it went off without a hitch, and we actually
Speaker 2: we were watching the next game in the adjacent room.
Speaker 2: I mean it's all kind of one big room, and
Speaker 2: then at one point we had half the party over
Speaker 2: with us watching the game, and I think that's when
Speaker 2: Annaly's was like, Mom, can you please go? Like we
Speaker 2: had stolen half her party to watch the game. Some
Speaker 2: of the guys started coming over, and then the girls
Speaker 2: came over, and it was it was funny and okay, I.
Speaker 1: Didn't think about it that way, but we did. We
Speaker 1: weren't trying to and we weren't engaging. We just had
Speaker 1: something else going on, and we were cool enough that
Speaker 1: they didn't mind hanging out with it so.
Speaker 2: Exactly, and that's when analy decided that was not cool
Speaker 2: at all, and she wanted us.
Speaker 1: To leave, but it was. It was fun and we
Speaker 1: had our guests on last week Rachel Gibbs. I think
Speaker 1: it's a name who did the fiver birthday party got
Speaker 1: so much attention, but in that theme, in that vein
Speaker 1: of birthday parties, it was on our mind. But this
Speaker 1: is this is cool to see if she's an adult
Speaker 1: now legally officially, and just kind of cool to be
Speaker 1: there to see her. I know most of her friends
Speaker 1: and at least know the names, and to see it
Speaker 1: all come together and her have a good time and
Speaker 1: to play a role in it was fun.
Speaker 2: And I thanked you, but I'll thank you again here
Speaker 2: profusely that you were so sweet and so supportive, and
Speaker 2: I'm one of my favorite parts of that day was
Speaker 2: in the hours leading up to the party. It was
Speaker 2: also her last day of school, so it was a
Speaker 2: very emotional day all around. She turned eighteen on the
Speaker 2: day her high school, you know, her entire actual you know,
Speaker 2: school career was over, and so we had there was
Speaker 2: some reminiscing, and she sat on the couch with us
Speaker 2: and we were looking at videos of her as a
Speaker 2: baby and just and it was so sweet. You were
Speaker 2: there with us looking at the videos and it was
Speaker 2: just it was a really sweet woman. I really appreciate it.
Speaker 1: Well, but thank you all. That was fun. This turned
Speaker 1: into now, of course, a lot of people Mother's Day
Speaker 1: that they're just getting past. And I don't know how
Speaker 1: you feel about it. Sometimes it feels you Shaana, your
Speaker 1: mother three hundred sixty five days. Ye right, but this
Speaker 1: is a special day for moms. And when we got
Speaker 1: up that morning, you almost snapped at me when I said, hey, babe,
Speaker 1: what do you want to do? This is your day?
Speaker 1: You're like, I don't want that pressure. I don't want
Speaker 1: to do anything.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: I actually probably seven times you did.
Speaker 2: That's probably when I snapped because like the first six times,
Speaker 2: I was like, I don't know, I don't know what
Speaker 2: I want to do. And then I was like, I
Speaker 2: don't know, I don't want the pressure, I don't know
Speaker 2: what I want to.
Speaker 1: Do, and then this is what she does, y'all. She
Speaker 1: turned that around and used it against me later because
Speaker 1: Annalise and Robes wanted to go see a movie and
Speaker 1: they wanted me to go along for this for this movie,
Speaker 1: and I didn't necessarily want to see it. I'm like, hey,
Speaker 1: you and analyse, Yeah, I have a girl's day mom daughter.
Speaker 1: Do you think it's all good? And plus I don't
Speaker 1: really want to see the movie? Would you tell me?
Speaker 2: I said, well, I thought you said this was my
Speaker 2: day and I want you to be there. This isn't
Speaker 2: boyfriend day, this isn't daughter day. This is my day,
Speaker 2: and I want you there. And so, you kid, you.
Speaker 1: Flipped really fast. But the movie was is Fall Guy,
Speaker 1: Ryan Gosling, Emily Blunt wonderful? Both of these I love
Speaker 1: both of them, and I have a very special place
Speaker 1: in my heart for Emily Blunt, so to see them
Speaker 1: on screen is one thing. But after a little while
Speaker 1: I started recognizing some things about the movie.
Speaker 2: Yes, so I sold it to you as and I
Speaker 2: truly did believe it was kind of an action comedy, right,
Speaker 2: And all of a sudden, certain formulas started appearing and evolving,
Speaker 2: and you turned to me and this was my favorite
Speaker 2: part of the whole movie. And you looked at me
Speaker 2: and you said, is this a rom com And I
Speaker 2: whispered it to Emily's and we both just started laughing,
Speaker 2: and I was like, I actually think it is. Whoops, sorry,
Speaker 2: did you do it? I didn't know it was a
Speaker 2: rom cop. I mean, I knew there might have been
Speaker 2: some romance between Emily Hunt and Ryan Gosling, and there
Speaker 2: were some funny moments, and there was some action, Like
Speaker 2: it wasn't just your stereotypical This wasn't nodding hill, was.
Speaker 1: That what are we doing?
Speaker 2: This wasn't love actually, I mean there was some stuff
Speaker 2: in there for guys. Wouldn't you say? Well?
Speaker 1: It is? I end up looking up afterwards and they
Speaker 1: describe it as an action adventure romantic comedy. They do,
Speaker 1: so there are just a few action sequences, but this
Speaker 1: is absolutely a romantic comedy start to finish. This is
Speaker 1: all about two people overcoming whatever to try to be
Speaker 1: together in the end. They yes, it was the exact formula.
Speaker 1: There were some lines at the end. I actually got
Speaker 1: up and went to the restroom.
Speaker 2: In the lad like the climax of this movie, because
Speaker 2: you knew how it was gonna Let me guess when
Speaker 2: I come back, they're gonna be together. That's true. I
Speaker 2: would just argue that this is a blended genre.
Speaker 1: Yes, that's no question about it, no question about it.
Speaker 2: But you were a good sport. But it was funny
Speaker 2: because you just it was like it all dawned on
Speaker 2: you in one moment and you just look at that.
Speaker 1: I've been set up.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, have you brought me to a rompop?
Speaker 2: And that was your mother's say gift to me, So
Speaker 2: thank you.
Speaker 1: You are welcome, my dear lady. The other thing we
Speaker 1: mentioned that it sounded crazy that why would vampires have
Speaker 1: anything to do with your beauty regiment? I am, I am.
Speaker 1: I'm a little confused, but I do have a better
Speaker 1: understanding now. But you went recently and somebody, some people
Speaker 1: will know exactly what it is when you say it.
Speaker 1: I didn't, So what's it?
Speaker 2: Colloquially it's called a vampire facial and They've actually been
Speaker 2: in the news recently because apparently there was a place
Speaker 2: out west that was using needles, like wasn't doing what
Speaker 2: they were supposed to be doing, and several people contracted HIV.
Speaker 2: So this all happened actually in the middle of between
Speaker 2: when I made the appointment and when I actually then
Speaker 2: went to the appointment. But I knew I was going
Speaker 2: to a reputable place and I wasn't worried about it.
Speaker 1: And we should say that this is a main extreme
Speaker 1: type of procedure. I said, whole procedure. Whatever it is
Speaker 1: that just happened to be a a bad It had
Speaker 1: nothing to do with actual the Actually there's no harm
Speaker 1: necessarily in their saying in what this is is just
Speaker 1: to how someone decided to do it and they weren't sanitary.
Speaker 2: Correct. Anything you do invasive lee is absolutely going to
Speaker 2: have to be held to the highest standard of hygiene
Speaker 2: because otherwise, yes, you could be introducing whatever into your
Speaker 2: body or into your blood stream. But this is a
Speaker 2: thing where you actually take out they actually take blood
Speaker 2: from you and then they put it in the spinner
Speaker 2: and they spin your platelets platelets, I guess, And it's
Speaker 2: supposed to like rejuvenate and repairs plasma. I'm so frazzled
Speaker 2: right now, p RP. But I don't know what the
Speaker 2: one's plasma, one's platelets. I don't know.
Speaker 1: But that's why they call it the vampire face.
Speaker 2: Yes, because they're actually reinjecting your your blood where they like,
Speaker 2: just as if you went to go get blood work
Speaker 2: done at the doctor.
Speaker 1: One vile.
Speaker 2: So it wasn't bad, but yeah, I didn't. I know,
Speaker 2: I've done it before. It was just suggested to me
Speaker 2: and just to rejuvenate, okay, so.
Speaker 1: How they spin the blood around and immediately start the procedure.
Speaker 2: Okay, lately late lit rich plasma, that's what they put
Speaker 2: back into your face. But it was funny because we
Speaker 2: had a meeting later that afternoon. This was late last week,
Speaker 2: and I asked the anesthetician. I said, you know, I'm
Speaker 2: gonna be a little swollen. She's like, yeah, but just
Speaker 2: for a couple of hours, you'll be fine by four
Speaker 2: a couple of hours, it was like three hours she said.
Speaker 2: Three days later, I'm finally not swollen. There was a
Speaker 2: where we're like, do you should we go out anywhere
Speaker 2: in the city this weekend?
Speaker 1: I'm thinking no, let's go late it.
Speaker 2: Really it wasn't that bad, okay, I'll like you say.
Speaker 1: I was a big spoon for those three days. There
Speaker 1: was no face to face cut.
Speaker 2: Maybe let's keep the lights down.
Speaker 1: Have we talked about the other one where you came
Speaker 1: out looking like a car accident. Yes, that was that
Speaker 1: was rough.
Speaker 2: I think a lot of women, uh, who are of
Speaker 2: my age, And I will say I started getting botox
Speaker 2: when I was thirty two, so I always kind of
Speaker 2: looked at this as just as minimal in minimally invasive
Speaker 2: procedures that I could do. And they're annoying and you
Speaker 2: have to do them a lot, but I just I
Speaker 2: just want to do small little things that helped me
Speaker 2: age a little less harshly, that's all. I don't want
Speaker 2: to change how I look, and I don't. And to
Speaker 2: each his own, but it's for me. It's just it's
Speaker 2: a lot of maintenance. So you've seen me, yes, okay,
Speaker 2: make several appointments.
Speaker 1: What's the one?
Speaker 2: The fracking fraxeling is what we do to the earth. Yes,
Speaker 2: not to my face.
Speaker 1: But when you hear about what you do to your face,
Speaker 1: fracksl is that's the one where a couple of days,
Speaker 1: you're like, peel. That one's rough. Yeah, that one's rough.
Speaker 2: That's something you need a week off of work from. Yes,
Speaker 2: you actually do correctly.
Speaker 1: And you only have to do that one how often?
Speaker 2: Well I've only done that twice in my life.
Speaker 1: But they say you're supposed to do it like, I don't.
Speaker 2: Know, once every couple of years. What you do in
Speaker 2: between is called clear and brilliant. And it's kind of
Speaker 2: like baby fraxle. And so that's a little like you
Speaker 2: look a little rough and you still peel, but it's
Speaker 2: not crazy.
Speaker 1: Give me the therma flaw.
Speaker 2: There's thermage. That's super painful.
Speaker 1: That was close.
Speaker 2: Yeah, thermage. What did you call it?
Speaker 1: Nothing, that's what I.
Speaker 2: Said, thermige fraxel. Now there's vampire. When you were messed up,
Speaker 2: that was when they well I forgot what that was called.
Speaker 2: That was when I it was all about stimulating collagen.
Speaker 2: It was with some sort of acid. Yeah, and it
Speaker 2: I bruised a lot.
Speaker 1: Yeah, apparently that procedures. Just you go in and the
Speaker 1: the doctor punches you in the face repeatedly.
Speaker 2: That is what it looks like.
Speaker 3: Man.
Speaker 1: That was that was a week long.
Speaker 2: That was bad and to your point you're laughing because
Speaker 2: you say, to me, how do you look at any different?
Speaker 2: But that's the way I want it to be. I
Speaker 2: don't want to look different. I just want to have
Speaker 2: these little small things that just incrementally help you age
Speaker 2: a little bit more gracefully. I don't want to change anything.
Speaker 2: So I actually feel like because you are scratching your
Speaker 2: head like I just really don't even see what looks different.
Speaker 2: That's to me, that's a good thing. That's a win.
Speaker 1: Okay. I'm not expecting you to be completely altered, like
Speaker 1: the unrecognizable.
Speaker 2: No no, but sometimes some of these procedures you're trying
Speaker 2: to look different. I'm different. I'm just trying to help
Speaker 2: my skin look as best as it can.
Speaker 1: You look.
Speaker 2: Yeah, in between the swelling and thanks for being a
Speaker 2: good sport about it, I have to be don't really
Speaker 2: have a choice. I actually just want to say, you're welcome.
Speaker 1: Did I stay at my place? More? Big spot. The
Speaker 1: other thing this is you and I we were drifting.
Speaker 1: I say that like everybody knows where that is. But
Speaker 1: we were sitting at the a restaurant we love that's
Speaker 1: along our running path, and we're saying you having a
Speaker 1: good time, great day and we look up and there's
Speaker 1: a plane flying with a banner behind it. Yeah. Now
Speaker 1: I don't know exactly what it says. I can't remember exactly,
Speaker 1: but this is pretty close.
Speaker 2: It said something like, if you indict, we will unite,
Speaker 2: Maga maga. And it was just flying around the city
Speaker 2: ominously on a very beautiful day.
Speaker 1: Actually, and you say that the right way, ominously, and
Speaker 1: some people take offense to that. Was that ominous? It
Speaker 1: seemed that it felt like some kind of a warning. Yes,
Speaker 1: if it was a I can't remember the language, but
Speaker 1: the languages are such in there that we were.
Speaker 2: Like, whoa, if you do this, we will this will happen.
Speaker 2: And I don't know what that means, but it felt
Speaker 2: it felt a little ominous, that's all. It just and
Speaker 2: to have the plane buzzing and just circling and circling.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 2: There was something about it that just felt. And we
Speaker 2: know here in the city, you know, with and we're
Speaker 2: not going to get into the politics of any of this,
Speaker 2: but Trump is on trial here down close to where
Speaker 2: we live, downtown New York City, and you know, it's
Speaker 2: just the energy, the tension, the traffic, everything and there's
Speaker 2: just protests throughout the city obviously for what's happening in
Speaker 2: the Middle East as well, so in the city, it's
Speaker 2: just it's felt, it's felt different, it's felt darker. It's
Speaker 2: felt I don't want to say threatening, but like like
Speaker 2: there's the water's boiling, and you just you worry about
Speaker 2: what is going to happen, if not this summer, with
Speaker 2: the outcome of the trial, or even with the election
Speaker 2: that's looming this fall. Everything has felt a little bit ominous.
Speaker 2: I don't know if other New Yorkers have felt the
Speaker 2: same way, but it has felt.
Speaker 1: Like that that is, and it feels that way because
Speaker 1: there are the other part of it. There's so many
Speaker 1: police vehicles, there's sirens constantly because they're moving trump around
Speaker 1: town essentially, and we plan to ride up today. We're
Speaker 1: going to hop on the motor so i can take
Speaker 1: a ride up to the studio. We started looking around
Speaker 1: at traffic and they don't announce some of the closures.
Speaker 1: They just close them when they want to on some
Speaker 1: of the streets because they have to maneuver him around.
Speaker 1: And as just with that, with the protests on campus,
Speaker 1: their protests on the streets, it's just something. Maybe it's
Speaker 1: just New York and I don't know, maybe it feels
Speaker 1: heavier for some reason now and this is New York
Speaker 1: and maybe it's always like this. But the other thing
Speaker 1: that got us thinking about this was Steve Bushimi, the
Speaker 1: acclaimed actor from Boardwalk Empire. You know him well, you
Speaker 1: probably love his work. He is unreal. But why is
Speaker 1: he walking around Kip's Bay in New York last week?
Speaker 1: Somebody just punches him in the face. Yeah, just punches
Speaker 1: them randomly, broad daylight in the face.
Speaker 2: And he needed medical attention. It wasn't just a little slap.
Speaker 2: He had a bloody eye, and I mean it was
Speaker 2: it was real. It was very scary.
Speaker 1: So in recent months we've had a series and it's
Speaker 1: been women almost exclusively. I believe these random attacks in
Speaker 1: New York and somebody just runs up to somebody, a woman,
Speaker 1: oftentimes broad daylight in the face, and some arrests have
Speaker 1: been made, but it's just it's another one of those
Speaker 1: things to where you're walking around the city, sometimes already
Speaker 1: with your head on a swivel, and then this is
Speaker 1: all happening. It just feels now the season you're trying
Speaker 1: now because the sun's coming out and we're about to
Speaker 1: New York is just wonderful. Then spring comes and then
Speaker 1: there's some kind of weird Paul over the city.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and we were we were just in Soho with Sabine.
Speaker 2: And a few days later, in again a beautiful seventy
Speaker 2: five degree sunny day in New York City, a young man,
Speaker 2: a sixteen year old is shot in the head right
Speaker 2: outside of school and we were just there and uh yeah,
Speaker 2: and at least my daughter. It was all the talk
Speaker 2: obviously among the high schoolers because it was right near
Speaker 2: one of her friend's schools. And it's just, yeah, it
Speaker 2: just it feels like there's been a confluence of events
Speaker 2: that are I don't know, just giving us some pause
Speaker 2: and just you know, just another reminder to just be
Speaker 2: aware and just to be again we've said this a lot,
Speaker 2: but just to be kind and but also just to
Speaker 2: have each other's backs.
Speaker 1: And it is helping to get the Like I said,
Speaker 1: any degree sunny day in New York, it's just it
Speaker 1: changes everything, changes moods, and so New York has made
Speaker 1: it through everything pretty much. Whatever happens this time around
Speaker 1: New York will make it.
Speaker 2: We had, you know, we had to explain our matching outfits. Though.
Speaker 2: To em and Andy, when we came to the studio,
Speaker 2: we were all biked up. We had our we had
Speaker 2: our leather jackets on and our writing moods. And they're like, wow,
Speaker 2: you guys look like like we walked off the set
Speaker 2: of Greece or something. We were like, actually, there's a reason.
Speaker 2: And we were totally going to ride up on the
Speaker 2: motorcycle and uh thought otherwise with the traffic, better shave
Speaker 2: pop because I need amazed there it is.
Speaker 1: It doesn't take much.
Speaker 2: He'll tell me about it.
Speaker 1: Just give her a little, Just give her a little.
Speaker 1: We have our hands on the list. We didn't get
Speaker 1: our hands on it, but our wonderful producer Andy has
Speaker 1: his hands on it. But and you said it came
Speaker 1: from I think it was Reddit. But tell me the
Speaker 1: name of the list again. So the name of the.
Speaker 3: List is these are the things that women want men
Speaker 3: to know about them.
Speaker 1: Okay, that we haven't gone through the list. But we
Speaker 1: love when he does this with us because we learned.
Speaker 1: We end up learning something about ourselves, learning something about
Speaker 1: our relationship. I think a lot of the folks might too.
Speaker 1: But you always curious to know what other people think
Speaker 1: so things that women wish we knew about them. What
Speaker 1: was the one you gave me at the tip You
Speaker 1: told me you wish Oh you think were You're not
Speaker 1: as complex as we think you are. We make it.
Speaker 2: Yes, I wish you knew this. I mean I wish
Speaker 2: men just it actually doesn't take much to make us happy.
Speaker 2: That was kind of my point.
Speaker 1: You sure about that?
Speaker 3: Yes?
Speaker 1: Oh okay, hold that list for just a second. Andy.
Speaker 1: It so easy to make you all happy by just
Speaker 1: simply doing exactly what you tell us.
Speaker 2: It's oh my gosh, yep, there you go that. Yep,
Speaker 2: if you if you listen, we'll tell you what we
Speaker 2: want and over and over again.
Speaker 1: Oh, because we don't get it.
Speaker 2: I don't think you want to get it. You're like,
Speaker 2: YadA YadA. Yeah, it's called selective.
Speaker 1: Can we just be different?
Speaker 2: Yes?
Speaker 1: You can? Or were we just I played this clip
Speaker 1: for you before we left, he did. Sometimes it's not
Speaker 1: it's emotion. Sometimes we don't take into account. Emotions have
Speaker 1: to do in your storytelling what you think, what you
Speaker 1: want at the time, and we don't factor that in sometimes.
Speaker 2: So it's kind of what I was saying, it's how
Speaker 2: we feel right. We're emotional, as you put it, and
Speaker 2: we are completely and so to feel loved is to
Speaker 2: feel safe and then to feel happy, like to be
Speaker 2: able to express there's just it. But it's about our feelings.
Speaker 2: Like it's less about the logistics or the logic or
Speaker 2: the you know, it's not it's not black and white.
Speaker 2: It's just it's it's the feeling.
Speaker 1: It sounds sounds complex, doesn't it. You hear this answer?
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, it actually ties in really well with one
Speaker 3: of the things.
Speaker 1: All right, you take us away on the list.
Speaker 3: It says something that this person learned from their wife
Speaker 3: of nineteen years was to be an active listener. We
Speaker 3: guys can sum up our day in two sentences or less,
Speaker 3: give her ninety minutes.
Speaker 2: That is so true, because I just want to tell
Speaker 2: you all the details and how I felt along the way.
Speaker 1: Now do do you find is it the understanding that
Speaker 1: most times men don't often have the patience for it.
Speaker 1: It's not that they don't maybe love the person, the
Speaker 1: woman that they're with, it's just is that really a
Speaker 1: matter of a difference in men and women?
Speaker 2: And well, I think you would have to tell me
Speaker 2: that because I think women when we talk. You hear
Speaker 2: me talking with my friends or my mom or my daughters,
Speaker 2: and you're like, oh yeah, yeah, you have to walk
Speaker 2: out of the room. It's just the details are just
Speaker 2: like burying you with details and feeling. So I do think,
Speaker 2: but yes, would that I would believe is probably true.
Speaker 1: I don't you know. Active listening is a big deal.
Speaker 1: I've learned that and it helped me in it's on
Speaker 1: you know what it helps in our jobs. When you
Speaker 1: interview someone, you could miss the most important thing if
Speaker 1: you're if you're thinking about your next question instead of
Speaker 1: listening to their current answer, you're gonna make a mistake.
Speaker 1: So fella's out there, that's my recommendation, treader like she's
Speaker 1: an Interviewee, I'm kidding obviously.
Speaker 2: Hey, I mean sometimes strategy like that is good and
Speaker 2: then you put it into practice and then all of
Speaker 2: a sudden it's not something you even have to think about.
Speaker 1: How do we do on that? Then you and I.
Speaker 2: You actually in a way I think listen too intently
Speaker 2: and I'm like damn, And then you can bring it
Speaker 2: back up like two weeks later, like, well you know
Speaker 2: you did say no, you listen really well? Almost too.
Speaker 2: I would argue.
Speaker 1: So now you need me to back it off trying
Speaker 1: to thread the needle.
Speaker 2: I told you we're very simple, very simple.
Speaker 1: Well, let's tell us on the list.
Speaker 3: More often than not, women like to have a little rant.
Speaker 3: They're not looking for solutions.
Speaker 2: Yes, we don't need you to fix it necessarily unless
Speaker 2: we ask you to.
Speaker 1: Let's see fast too, and when you ask you, damn
Speaker 1: sure better get it fixed and fixed fast. Now that
Speaker 1: I do get. But it's so hard for us to program,
Speaker 1: to reprogram ourselves out of that because we are solutions
Speaker 1: or yet here's the problem, here's a solution, let's fix it.
Speaker 1: And so yeah, that is you have to train ourselves. Okay, wait,
Speaker 1: you got a problem with who we work?
Speaker 2: All right?
Speaker 1: What we're gonna do? All right? Just just call a
Speaker 1: set an email. You can't handle it tomorrow, that's us.
Speaker 1: You all just need to hear us. No, you don't understand.
Speaker 1: She was wearing the same color I was wearing on
Speaker 1: the day. She knows I wear that collar like we don't.
Speaker 2: Sometimes we just want you to say, yeah, that must
Speaker 2: have been hard, okay, and that's it.
Speaker 1: I have learned that with you because you will talk
Speaker 1: talk talk talk, talk talk, talk talk talk, and I
Speaker 1: will listen. I don't necessarily have anything to contribute, but
Speaker 1: you want to know that I was listening. Yes I do.
Speaker 1: So I have gone got some go tos because I have.
Speaker 1: I told you.
Speaker 2: I was like, sometimes when you don't respond to what
Speaker 2: I just told you, it hurts my feelings.
Speaker 1: So then now you you do what hmm or I see.
Speaker 2: Exactly.
Speaker 1: Ah.
Speaker 2: So it doesn't necessarily make me feel better, but that
Speaker 2: does make me laugh, and then I'm fine.
Speaker 1: But here's the thing. I do it on everything now, y'all.
Speaker 1: She could just say, man, it is hot out here.
Speaker 1: I feel it too.
Speaker 2: I just doesn't matter because I would say like, oh
Speaker 2: my god, you know, look at that building right there.
Speaker 2: It looks so cool, and you just wouldn't respond. I
Speaker 2: was like, can you say something so now, youth.
Speaker 4: Wow, indeed, indeed, I love indeed, indeeds ago, indeed or absolutely,
Speaker 4: And then I know that I'm talking too much.
Speaker 1: Maybe we failed on that one. What else you get?
Speaker 3: And another one that women want men to know is
Speaker 3: that we are beyond annoyed when men yell at traffic
Speaker 3: or go on and on yelling at the television during sports.
Speaker 3: The only person who can hear you yelling is us
Speaker 3: and we hate it. Keep that to a minimum, and
Speaker 3: then if you must continue your pointless rant in your head.
Speaker 2: So I have to give TJ complete props on this.
Speaker 2: You do not do it, and it is remarkable, and
Speaker 2: I have noted it and noticed it and been kind
Speaker 2: of like, I'm amazed by it. You might be one
Speaker 2: of the only men I have ever met who does
Speaker 2: not do any of those things. You do not. You
Speaker 2: do not lose your cool, You do not rant at
Speaker 2: I'm the one who will yell at traffic. I know
Speaker 2: and I need and I need to do better at that.
Speaker 1: What was the last part of that. Did it say
Speaker 1: no one can hear you? What was that you said?
Speaker 3: It says, keep it to a minimum, and then if
Speaker 3: you must continue your rant in your head.
Speaker 1: Okay, I wrote that to you.
Speaker 2: Yes, I would agree. That would apply more to me
Speaker 2: than to you. I agree with you.
Speaker 1: The traffic, I get hot, it's rough.
Speaker 2: I know I need to do better. That's funny.
Speaker 1: That was me, not you, but the TV. It's how
Speaker 1: much This is how you know you've been yelling at
Speaker 1: the TV too much? When you just all of a
Speaker 1: sudden look up and go, oh, because I have paused
Speaker 1: the show because I can't hear a damn thing on it,
Speaker 1: because you've been talking the whole time.
Speaker 2: It's not necessarily a rant. I'm just like, I'm announcing
Speaker 2: all the things I'm observing while I'm watching, and then.
Speaker 1: You will pause it, like, but you're ranting about he
Speaker 1: doesn't even like him. He was he was just over
Speaker 1: there with the blonde two days ago. Now he's all
Speaker 1: up in. I'm like, what happened? Okay, Yes, that's you.
Speaker 1: That's right. Thing, that is true? Okay, wow we are
Speaker 1: We are not doing so good on this lib.
Speaker 3: The next one is women are all different people, So
Speaker 3: if you note something about one woman, do not automatically
Speaker 3: assume that to be true for all women.
Speaker 2: Maybe all women aren't emotional TJ.
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's out there somewhere. I'm trying. Do you know
Speaker 1: women in your life that you would say don't carry
Speaker 1: their emotions or not emotion lets everybody's emotions, but wouldn't
Speaker 1: fit into whatever category. Sometimes women are put into a
Speaker 1: being emotional beings.
Speaker 2: I'm sure they're out there, and some are more than others, obviously,
Speaker 2: but I think most of us. I'm going to speak
Speaker 2: for the tribe here. I think most of us are
Speaker 2: lead a lot of our thoughts and our decisions through
Speaker 2: and because of emotions. For sure, I actually think I'm
Speaker 2: a fairly logical person, but yes, I have emotion clouding
Speaker 2: that all the time. But but I think most of
Speaker 2: us are like that. You can't generalize everyone, but I don't.
Speaker 2: I don't feel like you are somebody who generalizes people.
Speaker 1: I mean people is the way to put it. I
Speaker 1: don't think you can do that with anybody. Any experience
Speaker 1: you've had with this person, you can't assume that just
Speaker 1: because they are whatever, a certain race, a certain gender,
Speaker 1: that they are going to be like some Yeah that's
Speaker 1: a and.
Speaker 2: I think you're pretty good at that.
Speaker 1: You're pretty good that. What's the danger zone? All right?
Speaker 3: This next one is women prefer to be called beautiful
Speaker 3: over hot. Calling us beautiful is elegant rather than calling
Speaker 3: us hot or sexy.
Speaker 2: I think it depends on who's saying it.
Speaker 1: And I was about to say it depends on where
Speaker 1: it's being said.
Speaker 2: Yes, all true.
Speaker 1: We need to break this one down with it. Nobody
Speaker 1: wants to if it's someone you know, right in relationship
Speaker 1: with you, I called you, call you beautiful. You look great,
Speaker 1: that's gorgeous. But every once in a while, you put
Speaker 1: on a certain dress, certain heels, and you're feeling a
Speaker 1: certain way, and I think it. No, I'm not going
Speaker 1: to speak for you, but in that situation, it seems
Speaker 1: like a saying sexy or hot wouldn't be Unwell.
Speaker 2: Yes, I agree, and coming from you one hundred percent. Now,
Speaker 2: if you only said that, that would feel weird, But
Speaker 2: you don't. I mean, I think women no one wants
Speaker 2: to be over sexualized. But yeah, to have your boyfriend
Speaker 2: or your husband or the guy who you're into say
Speaker 2: that an outfit makes you look hot or sexy, I
Speaker 2: have a zero problem with that. Now, do I want
Speaker 2: a guy on the street saying that to me?
Speaker 1: No, okay, But the guy on the street saying you
Speaker 1: look beautiful? Is it's still a compliment about your physical appearance.
Speaker 1: But are you taking one better than the other?
Speaker 2: Yeah? Yes, well I do think so. I've talked about this,
Speaker 2: and I've talked to my daughters about this. I know
Speaker 2: it's a huge problem, especially here in this city, with
Speaker 2: cat calling and you know, unwanted attention from men whistling
Speaker 2: or saying derogatory things and even if they're saying, hey, baby,
Speaker 2: you look great. You know I I don't like that,
Speaker 2: but I've joked with them and I was like, just
Speaker 2: wait till you turn forty, and then if someone says
Speaker 2: you look beautiful, you're like thank you. Like it's a
Speaker 2: very different experience. And I'm not encouraging cat calling. And
Speaker 2: I know that it's derogatory and I get it. My
Speaker 2: my daughters both have complained about it, and understandably so,
Speaker 2: but I've just teased them.
Speaker 1: I was like, I hear you, but just just wait,
Speaker 1: are you telling me that? Then I hear that, right,
Speaker 1: that cat calling at some point can feel good at
Speaker 1: a certain age if you're not getting those compliments that often.
Speaker 2: I mean, cause it's to me, it's silly, Like I
Speaker 2: get it. I'm like, I I yes, I am saying
Speaker 2: that to an extent. I mean, it depends on what
Speaker 2: they said. But if someone wants to say, wow, you're gorgeous,
Speaker 2: I'm I'm all about saying thank you and continuing to walk.
Speaker 2: But some people, some women find that offensive, and that's
Speaker 2: I get that. It depends on what the motive is.
Speaker 2: And you can tell from the guy if he's just
Speaker 2: being a jerk and you know, but it's genuinely say like, well,
Speaker 2: just to pay you a compliment. I have no problem
Speaker 2: with that, But if they're saying it to I don't know,
Speaker 2: make you feel like like you're a sexualized being for
Speaker 2: no reason other than you're just trying to go to work,
Speaker 2: that's not okay.
Speaker 1: How many is cat calling in New York?
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah, I mean Anna Alice will tell me
Speaker 2: it's one of the This is kind of crazy, but
Speaker 2: when she said it, it made sense. She said when
Speaker 2: she gets the most cat calls and gets the most
Speaker 2: upset when she's on her city bike because you're going
Speaker 2: by quickly, so they feel like they can shout things
Speaker 2: at you, and then you won't actually get mad at
Speaker 2: them or turn around because you're having to focus on biking.
Speaker 2: But she told me she gets the most like disgusting
Speaker 2: comments thrown at her when she's on a bike because
Speaker 2: they can see her and they can call it out,
Speaker 2: but it's it's not as embarrassing for them, maybe because
Speaker 2: it's not a slow walk.
Speaker 1: What is the point just woman flying by on a
Speaker 1: powered city bike? I say powered because they go faster.
Speaker 1: Now she's flying.
Speaker 2: You would have to ask a man. I don't know
Speaker 2: why that would be fun?
Speaker 1: Are good? Fun good?
Speaker 2: It makes them feel powerful. They're like objectifying you and
Speaker 2: they feel like they're in a position to judge. I
Speaker 2: don't know, but they're not going to get a date
Speaker 2: out of the issues. I cannot imagine that ever happening
Speaker 2: in any instance. But there must be some power thing
Speaker 2: that they feel when they do that.
Speaker 1: I don't know, so I can't remember what comedian it was.
Speaker 1: It's like the stupidest thing in the world to try
Speaker 1: to yell at a moving target, like, yeah.
Speaker 2: They're not even asking for their number, Like they're just
Speaker 2: commenting on body parts, et cetera. Like that's not okay. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: they get bored, all right?
Speaker 1: Yes, what are we up to now? How many? Yeah?
Speaker 3: The next thing women want meant to know is how
Speaker 3: important our menstrual cycles are and how they affect us.
Speaker 3: For example, we can be very different physically and mentally
Speaker 3: during the ovulation period and in the pre menstrual period.
Speaker 3: I educated my boyfriend on it, and since then he
Speaker 3: has helped me to cope with these fluctuations.
Speaker 1: We can skip this one.
Speaker 2: We've only been together in my medically induced menopause. Yes,
Speaker 2: so we've never had to deal with that.
Speaker 1: That's why I say I wasn't just trying to skip
Speaker 1: the topic. Is just stuff no interest to me currently
Speaker 1: are but.
Speaker 2: You are going to have to be dealing with that
Speaker 2: soon as a fought with.
Speaker 1: Sabine, Yes of course, but well we'll come up with
Speaker 1: a different lists on that day. But until then, this
Speaker 1: is not something we deal with.
Speaker 2: What it's a mood point it is.
Speaker 3: The next one is women don't want to be your
Speaker 3: mommy or your maid.
Speaker 2: Oh and honestly, you're coming out of this smelling like roses,
Speaker 2: because yes, because you are. And I've told you this
Speaker 2: is one of the many things I'm super attracted to
Speaker 2: you about is that you are so clean and organized
Speaker 2: and self sufficient. You make your own like not only
Speaker 2: do you make your own food, but you make food
Speaker 2: better than I can, and for everyone. You clean up
Speaker 2: the food that you make. You are constantly folding laundry
Speaker 2: and doing laundry. You were just scrubbing a bathtub this morning,
Speaker 2: and I mean, I am so impressed laundry. I'm telling you,
Speaker 2: is it okay to call you sexy and hot? Because
Speaker 2: to me, that is a very very sexy thing. Like
Speaker 2: what a man just takes it on and doesn't expect
Speaker 2: anyone to do anything for him. And I really think
Speaker 2: that is like super sexy.
Speaker 1: How about this? I think most guys, yes, that's a
Speaker 1: compliment to be called sexy. To be called sexy for
Speaker 1: your laundry folding ability is not It's not gonna be
Speaker 1: high up there for us robes. And that's okay. If
Speaker 1: if it's a super hot guy who's doing laundry, cool,
Speaker 1: I know she still likes my body. Yeah, But if
Speaker 1: it's still regular Joe and a woman gets asd what
Speaker 1: do you love about your regular Joe man, he really
Speaker 1: knows how to use that downy. I mean that's not
Speaker 1: gonna make him feel good.
Speaker 2: Yeah, coming home seeing windecks in your hands and vacuum
Speaker 2: cleaner in the other way. No, No, you are really really,
Speaker 2: really good about that. It's funny when we work together
Speaker 2: and we were just friends, I saw how you kept
Speaker 2: your dressing room and I took note of it. I
Speaker 2: was like, Wow, this guy is clean and organized.
Speaker 1: I like that. What whether you said it was clean,
Speaker 1: it was two things. It was mommy or mommy or
Speaker 1: you are.
Speaker 2: Not like that at all? No, that mean though, like
Speaker 2: help me, like, yeah, you just want like your your
Speaker 2: your wife to help dress you or help like like
Speaker 2: I don't know, you just like a mommy, like did
Speaker 2: you make your doctor's appointment? Did you like that kind
Speaker 2: of stuff? Like ew, no, woman wants to do that?
Speaker 1: Okay, maybe not?
Speaker 2: Yeah, like you know, feed me, make my doctor's appointment
Speaker 2: for me, hold my clothes.
Speaker 1: And I ask, is there some segment of the female population,
Speaker 1: and maybe even a significant segment maybe that wants appreciates
Speaker 1: to be needed in that way to take care of
Speaker 1: everything because he's not he can't dress himself. I need
Speaker 1: to do this for him.
Speaker 2: He No, I don't think there's any Maybe there's a
Speaker 2: part of some of us who like to feel needed,
Speaker 2: but that's different than having to be someone's mom. Like
Speaker 2: I just I don't think there's anything attractive about that,
Speaker 2: and especially any woman who's actually a mom. We don't
Speaker 2: need another child like that is just annoying. I think
Speaker 2: that's I think that's a pretty general rule among women.
Speaker 2: I don't think any of us want a mommy are men?
Speaker 1: But I do thank you for packing my lunches for me,
Speaker 1: give us your last best two or three. We don't
Speaker 1: have a.
Speaker 3: Problem picking where we want to eat. The problem is
Speaker 3: that we want a little bit of everything.
Speaker 2: Mmm. So sometimes I do have a problem picking where
Speaker 2: I want to eat. But you've always teased me about this.
Speaker 2: I will say this. Women might not always know what
Speaker 2: we want to eat, but we know what we don't
Speaker 2: want to eat, and so you can just start listing them.
Speaker 2: And then I'll tell you no, no, no, no no,
Speaker 2: that that is true.
Speaker 1: Well the frustration comes, no, no, it comes. It's it's
Speaker 1: it's funny. We could joke about this, but I've conversation
Speaker 1: goes this way, sweetheart, Where would you like to eat?
Speaker 4: Right?
Speaker 1: Anywhere? It sounds good? You sure? Maybe you got a
Speaker 1: hungery for Are you really hungry now or you a
Speaker 1: little hungry?
Speaker 2: Stay?
Speaker 1: Yeah, eat a way? That's good? Get ready? All right?
Speaker 1: We sure nothing?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Whatever you want? All right, there's a new Mexican spot
Speaker 1: I want to Oh, I don't want that. That's what happens.
Speaker 2: That is true. I know what I don't want. Yes,
Speaker 2: I don't always know what I want.
Speaker 1: Yes, I've had somebody's been telling me that for years.
Speaker 1: Pastor Bernard actually here in New York, he said, I
Speaker 1: know exactly what women want and everybody's sitting up on
Speaker 1: the edge of their seats. They don't know and that was.
Speaker 2: That was it. But they know what they don't want.
Speaker 1: That is so so true movies. You can anything, but
Speaker 1: you will often lead with that, I don't know, just.
Speaker 2: Pick some here's something though. That's so funny because and
Speaker 2: I don't. I think a lot of women do this
Speaker 2: and you have frustrated me. But I know what you're doing.
Speaker 2: I know why you're doing it. So any other women
Speaker 2: out there, any other woman out there, when they're going
Speaker 2: to order, I want to know what you're having, and
Speaker 2: I want to calculate that into what I'm having. So
Speaker 2: I'm like, well, if he's getting this, maybe I'll get that,
Speaker 2: or even like a shared appetizer, you will You're like,
Speaker 2: just tell me what you want, just you order it.
Speaker 2: And that drives me crazy because I want to know
Speaker 2: what you're ordering first, because I want to factor that
Speaker 2: into what I order.
Speaker 1: Is a factor because maybe you want to know.
Speaker 2: Because maybe we might share the appetizer, or maybe if
Speaker 2: you're going to get the salmon, or you're going to
Speaker 2: get something else that I might want, then maybe I
Speaker 2: could pick a little on your plate. And then also
Speaker 2: get what I want. We could kind of share, but
Speaker 2: then knowing what you're getting might make me get something
Speaker 2: different so that we could have a bite of each You.
Speaker 1: Know what, I apologize we're saying at the top of
Speaker 1: this episode that I disagree with you about simplicity. You
Speaker 1: guys are so simple. Just listen to your food order.
Speaker 1: That made perfect sense you did to me, And does that.
Speaker 2: Makes sense to you at all?
Speaker 1: You get that?
Speaker 2: Okay? And he will never tell me. Yeah right, he
Speaker 2: will not even tell me. He refuses to.
Speaker 1: He says, see what you're using my dish as a
Speaker 1: reconnaissance mission for your next meal? Yeah, I'll stop. Stop,
Speaker 1: y'all need to stop.
Speaker 2: Yes, So anyway, TJ will never tell you what he's
Speaker 2: going to order until he orders it from the waiter.
Speaker 2: And I always order first, and I think sometimes you
Speaker 2: change your order because you don't want to order the
Speaker 2: same thing I order. You get the advantage of hearing
Speaker 2: what I'm ordering first because you're being polite.
Speaker 1: I always a woman, always orders first, right, Yes, but
Speaker 1: you know what I do it. I don't want you
Speaker 1: to have I don't want you to be influenced by me.
Speaker 1: I don't want you to give up something you might
Speaker 1: be wanting to order because you say, Okay, he's ordering that,
Speaker 1: I can just snack on that. So just get the
Speaker 1: thing you want to get, amare because she gives it.
Speaker 2: Because I want a factor when you're ordering into what
Speaker 2: I'm ordering, what don't If I can't, I know you
Speaker 2: won't tell me.
Speaker 1: We're going to lunch right after this, okay, and we
Speaker 1: don't work this out, so funny.
Speaker 2: I remember first, when we first started going out to
Speaker 2: dinner together. I was like, so what are you getting?
Speaker 2: You're like, just go ahead and order what you're gonna order.
Speaker 1: I never tell you what you've never once told me. Ever,
Speaker 1: I don't think I have no, you have not.
Speaker 2: And you also don't like sharing. You don't like me
Speaker 2: picking off your plate, which is another isn't what you
Speaker 2: don't tell me?
Speaker 1: Okay, So this is the I guess we're doing. Okay,
Speaker 1: if our biggest like we really got worked up about food.
Speaker 2: Orders, that's funny, all right.
Speaker 3: All this next one is we just want to feel
Speaker 3: pretty for our partners. If you make me feel like
Speaker 3: I'm the prettiest woman on earth in your eyes, I
Speaker 3: will do absolutely anything for you. The second we don't
Speaker 3: feel sexy for our partners. Welcome to a dead bedroom.
Speaker 2: Oh that was a was extreme, But I mean I
Speaker 2: hear what she's saying, and that's true. Yeah, Oh my gosh,
Speaker 2: compliments will get you everywhere or anywhere. Maybe maybe we
Speaker 2: should edit.
Speaker 1: So did I mention you look beautiful?
Speaker 2: Compliments go a long way if they're genuine.
Speaker 1: Yes, okay, how do you make that determination?
Speaker 2: You can find something you like about me at any point?
Speaker 2: There might be a lot of things you don't.
Speaker 1: Did you just tell me I can always find something
Speaker 1: I like about you.
Speaker 2: About anyone, I can find something I like about I
Speaker 2: wasn't saying it just about me. I'm saying I was
Speaker 2: saying that as like a point of our ference. I
Speaker 2: think you can find something you like about anybody. But
Speaker 2: if you do it deliberately, manipulatively, that would be different.
Speaker 1: Can you read that again? And absolutely so?
Speaker 3: It was we just want to feel pretty for our partners.
Speaker 3: If you make me feel like I'm the prettiest woman
Speaker 3: on earth in your eyes, I will do absolutely anything
Speaker 3: for you. The second we don't feel sexy for our partners,
Speaker 3: Welcome to a dead.
Speaker 1: Pat How do you make and what he said, how
Speaker 1: do you how do you make a woman feel like
Speaker 1: she's the prettiest girl in the world in your eye?
Speaker 1: How does a man go about doing that? What could
Speaker 1: possibly be done to That's why I want to hear
Speaker 1: that liney Oh, I mean, I just.
Speaker 2: Think telling telling a woman if you've noticed like something
Speaker 2: about her, like it. It could be physical, it could
Speaker 2: be even like something I saw you did this, and
Speaker 2: that was really kind that you did that. Just a compliment,
Speaker 2: I doesn't. I mean, I know they're saying pretty and
Speaker 2: I get that too, but yeah, if you yeah, I
Speaker 2: feel like an outfit, if you like a hairstyle, if
Speaker 2: you like a lipstick color, if you like any of
Speaker 2: that like that all like we I'll admit I fall
Speaker 2: prey to that that. It feels good. And when you
Speaker 2: feel good, you feel generous.
Speaker 1: Everybody feel loves compliments. Everybody.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's true.
Speaker 1: I love those ear rings you get the dangling Yeah,
Speaker 1: those you have?
Speaker 2: I got these from you.
Speaker 1: The shirt's working too. I told you you had your
Speaker 1: cowgirl thing going. Yeah, those are my favorite genes you're wearing.
Speaker 2: I actually do know that. See so when I pulled
Speaker 2: the jeans out, I'm like, I know, I know got
Speaker 2: them that's funny. Now it works. See we're simple.
Speaker 1: That is so funny. That's a setup. You pull these
Speaker 1: out like, I can see you looking like a villain
Speaker 1: in a movie. Like you will not be able to
Speaker 1: VisiC these.
Speaker 2: That's true.
Speaker 1: Yeah, those are my favorites.
Speaker 2: I wear them often.
Speaker 1: Give me one of so you often are the prettiest
Speaker 1: girl in the room. It goes one last than ask.
Speaker 3: Them what they like sexually before trying things. Willy nilly.
Speaker 3: Women are very different in what they like.
Speaker 2: Oh, I just feel like that's awkward.
Speaker 1: What it's awkward to have this conversation both on mis
Speaker 1: yes but yes.
Speaker 2: But also I don't know how much I want to
Speaker 2: talk about sex before I have sex. We can have
Speaker 2: like a post like, we can have like a like
Speaker 2: we can talk about it afterwards, but like to talk
Speaker 2: about it beforehand, Mike, feel very unsexy to me. I
Speaker 2: don't know.
Speaker 3: Well, this one is also kind of ties in don't
Speaker 3: get too overtly sexual too early. It puts women off.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because then you think you only want one thing, right,
Speaker 2: I get that totally.
Speaker 1: No, no, no, no, no, I'm just trying to understand
Speaker 1: the dilemma here. I think I'm hearing that, right, you can't.
Speaker 1: It's saying, a woman, I'll turn with you here. What
Speaker 1: that sound like? It's saying you don't want you can't
Speaker 1: just go trying all your freaky stuff out without us
Speaker 1: having a discussion about it first. Is that what you're
Speaker 1: saying the first one? That's what you're saying? Yeah, would
Speaker 1: you agree that that's what? Well?
Speaker 2: It depends, like how freaky are we talking? Like? I
Speaker 2: don't even know?
Speaker 1: Everybody has a difference, that's true.
Speaker 2: I feel like if there is to be something really
Speaker 2: out there, then yeah, there would need to be a
Speaker 2: discussion ahead. But I also could just stop you, like
Speaker 2: that's no, no, no, no, no, it's not happening.
Speaker 1: You should have followed your first instinct and said that
Speaker 1: was too awkward. It's awkward to follow that first.
Speaker 2: But wait, would you say, I'm a it's awkward. Yeah.
Speaker 2: I'd rather deal with that in the moment and then
Speaker 2: talk about it later. I don't really want to talk
Speaker 2: about it.
Speaker 1: Ahead of time awkward? Yeah, But I don't know.
Speaker 2: Talking about ahead of time feels really strange to me.
Speaker 2: I mean, what are we what are the freaky things
Speaker 2: we're talking about here? I don't even know.
Speaker 1: Go right ahead.
Speaker 2: No, I think awkward. Yeah, we should not.
Speaker 1: But it makes a good point. What there are people
Speaker 1: are into different things, and that's always a big moment
Speaker 1: in anybody's relationship. Once you there's the first date, there's this,
Speaker 1: you meet the parents, You have sects that these milestone
Speaker 1: that is one of them is And I know a
Speaker 1: lot of folks deal with that, but you can't. I
Speaker 1: don't know. Everybody doesn't have the same That sounds like
Speaker 1: a joke, but everybody doesn't have the same freakiness scale.
Speaker 2: Right right.
Speaker 1: This might be a normal weekend for you, and this
Speaker 1: might be only on birthdays for you. You know, I
Speaker 1: told you I was just say I can't. That's hilarious
Speaker 1: to the point. It makes a good point. It makes
Speaker 1: a good point.
Speaker 2: Yes, it's I'm sure. Conversation is always good if necessary.
Speaker 1: You want to end on that one, you want to
Speaker 1: end on something one more.
Speaker 2: One more, I'm pretty much done with them. You let
Speaker 2: you say the best for last.
Speaker 1: But it does ask.
Speaker 3: Questions like men, what's something that you would want women
Speaker 3: to know about you? So teach it what you want
Speaker 3: amy to know.
Speaker 2: Let's end on that.
Speaker 1: I like that. On that, Yeah, I think this would
Speaker 1: be very, very This is simple. We are simple, And
Speaker 1: I say that and that you all. Often I find
Speaker 1: in some experience and maybe this has happened with you
Speaker 1: and your experience, that you hold us to your emotional
Speaker 1: standard when things happen. So why isn't he more upset?
Speaker 1: Why isn't he being like this? Why doesn't he want
Speaker 1: to talk? Why doesn't that all these things? When sometimes
Speaker 1: it's just nah, he says somethingiss off, we got a fight.
Speaker 1: I don't need to talk to you about how that
Speaker 1: makes me feel. Okay, he pissed me off, we got
Speaker 1: into it, had some words. It's over. But there's there's
Speaker 1: sometimes in the way we react and how we behave
Speaker 1: that I think sometimes is I'm trying to think of
Speaker 1: like a good example with you, but that was the
Speaker 1: first thing came to my mind.
Speaker 2: So you so you're saying you don't actually you truly
Speaker 2: don't need to talk it out. You truly don't need
Speaker 2: to think about how you're feeling, or you just choose
Speaker 2: not to because it's better and easier.
Speaker 1: Oh no, it's just kind of how we are. It's
Speaker 1: I don't want to say it's right or wrong, but
Speaker 1: I think it's okay, that we don't handle sometimes conflict
Speaker 1: and the way you all do right, you come home right.
Speaker 1: He was talking about it earlier with the talking right,
Speaker 1: how long ninety minutes for you to explain the story?
Speaker 1: It takes me thirty seconds? Right, that's okay. If I
Speaker 1: only tell you about my day and it took me
Speaker 1: sixty seconds, it's not because I'm holding back. That's that's
Speaker 1: all I got. This is what happened. He came in,
Speaker 1: pissed me off, a da dad, I went to lunch,
Speaker 1: came back, done up at six in the morning, got
Speaker 1: a meeting.
Speaker 2: And we think, what's he not telling me?
Speaker 1: That's that's it. Yeah, there might be more detailed. We
Speaker 1: just don't need this that thing. It's like you you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, you'll feel it. What's wrong? Baby?
Speaker 1: But what happened? Why did that make you feel? What
Speaker 1: did not?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 1: It's over, yeah, time sinner, okay, all.
Speaker 2: Right, so we're both simple.
Speaker 1: Then he the only other woman in the room cackle
Speaker 1: to hear you say that. So that's just lets you
Speaker 1: know how everybody feels about that. Andy. We appreciate you
Speaker 1: with the list as always, and we want to end
Speaker 1: today by giving everybody a movie recommendation we have been watching.
Speaker 1: We watched movies constantly, usually horror movies. We ended up
Speaker 1: talking to Andy about this one. I forgot but if
Speaker 1: you have not seen it yet, this is when you
Speaker 1: turned me on to you said we need to watch it,
Speaker 1: and we did, and I recommend it to everybody. Late
Speaker 1: Night with the Devil. What is that acting name? I
Speaker 1: can't remember his name, but you've seen him in plenty
Speaker 1: of stuff. But if you need a good horror flick,
Speaker 1: watch Late Night with the Devil. We'll start passing along
Speaker 1: our are our recommendations for movies because we have a
Speaker 1: lot of horror.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that one was under the radar for us, and
Speaker 2: it was just kind of like, let's just see what
Speaker 2: this is, and it was. I just appreciated the creativity,
Speaker 2: the uniqueness of it, and then just the ending was
Speaker 2: pretty spectacular.
Speaker 1: It was great. So we'll leave you with that note
Speaker 1: in that nugget, you got anything else for us? Andy
Speaker 1: over there making sure we're good. Nope, all right, folks,
Speaker 1: We appreciate you as always. You can find us the
Speaker 1: official instagram. All of the show is at Amy and
Speaker 1: TJ Podcast. You can find us on Instagram as well,
Speaker 1: needs to get more active. We apologize speak.
Speaker 2: We'll try to be more social, yes, But
Speaker 1: Until then, folks, we'll see you