WEBVTT - What a Girl Wants

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<v Speaker 1>Hey there. In this episode, Robot and I work our

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<v Speaker 1>butts off to throw a party that we then weren't

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<v Speaker 1>allowed to attend. Also, acclaimed actors are being punched in

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<v Speaker 1>the face on the streets of New York. Also, Rhodes

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<v Speaker 1>is now recruiting vampires for her beauty regimen. I was

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<v Speaker 1>tricked into going to the theater to the aram com

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<v Speaker 1>and we have got our hands on the list of

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<v Speaker 1>things women want men to understand about them. That's all

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<v Speaker 1>in this episode of Amy and TJ robes here next

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<v Speaker 1>to me. We're gonna end with the list, but I'll start.

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<v Speaker 1>What would be the one thing you would say you

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<v Speaker 1>want women? Do you think women want men to know

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<v Speaker 1>and understand about them? You can make it personally if

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<v Speaker 1>you want.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Well, I mean I think what I think it's

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<v Speaker 2>so much easier. Men think we're so complex, But actually

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<v Speaker 2>we just want to feel safe and we want to

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<v Speaker 2>feel love like we want to be shown love. We

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<v Speaker 2>want to know that we're safe and that I think

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<v Speaker 2>those go together. But it's really as simple as that.

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<v Speaker 2>If you if those two things are there, everything else

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<v Speaker 2>is easy, everything else is great.

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<v Speaker 1>All are not complex.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think we are. Hmm.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't think you would say that you are very

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<v Speaker 1>You all are simple creatures that we have. We are

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<v Speaker 1>too stupid even to understand the simplest of things.

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<v Speaker 2>I was that what you're saying to insult men with that.

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<v Speaker 1>I think we felt it still. I think subtle as

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<v Speaker 1>it was.

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<v Speaker 2>I think men overthink things sometimes, kind of like no,

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<v Speaker 2>which is what I'm doing right now. Uh no, But

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<v Speaker 2>it wasn't meant.

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<v Speaker 1>No, No. It's a fun list that Andy Andy, our producer,

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<v Speaker 1>found the sentence that we're going to get into that

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<v Speaker 1>here in just a few minutes. But I said this

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<v Speaker 1>on the train and I'm meant and I'll say it here.

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<v Speaker 1>You have been in You are your best self today.

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<v Speaker 1>You are as delightful and upbeat and positive and pleasant

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<v Speaker 1>and cute and bouncy and your style everything today you

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<v Speaker 1>you just you got up in a really good way

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<v Speaker 1>and you are just wonderful today.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you. I appreciate that. I will say that we

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<v Speaker 2>have had a wonderful last few weeks, like just you know,

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<v Speaker 2>when you are in a relationship and it's just great,

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<v Speaker 2>like you haven't had any bump. I don't. I'm going

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<v Speaker 2>to jinx us right now. Damn it. But we have

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<v Speaker 2>just had a really good stretch of just loveliness. Like

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<v Speaker 2>it's just been it's just been fun, it's been sweet,

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<v Speaker 2>it's been supportive. Uh, it's just been really good. So

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<v Speaker 2>I think that has created or attributed to my move.

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted you to finish that statement. You said, you

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<v Speaker 1>know you like talking to the listener. You know, when

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<v Speaker 1>you're in a relationship and everything's going just great. Really,

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<v Speaker 1>you probably lost a lot.

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<v Speaker 2>Of well no, but no, no matter where you are,

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<v Speaker 2>you remember a time when it was like, it doesn't last.

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<v Speaker 2>We all know it. It comes and goes, It comes

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<v Speaker 2>and goes.

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<v Speaker 1>What does that mean?

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<v Speaker 2>It's like you have everyone has moments where it's oh yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>but you can reflect back. I think anyone who's been

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<v Speaker 2>in a relationship knows when you're in that little stretch

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<v Speaker 2>and you have there multiple stretches and they can last

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<v Speaker 2>for a long time, but you're just it creates this

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<v Speaker 2>unbridled joy in you.

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<v Speaker 1>Well you were and you were in you were on

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<v Speaker 1>stride then, because you I'm serious, you were just I

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<v Speaker 1>said it to you on the traund I mean it,

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<v Speaker 1>you were just just this wonderful little ball of joy

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<v Speaker 1>right now, Like even normally make on our commute here

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<v Speaker 1>you would. I don't know. Maybe you do a little

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<v Speaker 1>trash talking and making fun of something you see, A

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<v Speaker 1>say a little something like I am my way, not

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<v Speaker 1>being nasty, but just being a New Yorker. Like nothing

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<v Speaker 1>can phrase you right now, you have just been great.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel very joyful.

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<v Speaker 1>You were so joyful. I'm not even doing what I

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<v Speaker 1>normally do. Because you and I are friends. We still

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<v Speaker 1>rip each other, give each other a hard times. She

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<v Speaker 1>isn't too much of a good mood. I'm not even

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<v Speaker 1>gonna I'm not gonna mess with this.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not even gonna poke her a little a little,

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<v Speaker 2>but it's great.

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<v Speaker 1>It was fun to see and we got a full

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<v Speaker 1>day plan so looking forward to that. But we did

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<v Speaker 1>to your point that one of the big events we've

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<v Speaker 1>been working off for weeks really is an eighteen year

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<v Speaker 1>old's birthday party that finally went off without a hitch.

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<v Speaker 1>I think we could say on Friday.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, Annaly's turned eighteen, and we were talking about this

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<v Speaker 2>in the last podcast. I'm at a point now where

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<v Speaker 2>no big birthday bashes are being created in the sense

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<v Speaker 2>where I'm not spending tons of money, I'm not going

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<v Speaker 2>and renting up venues and doing all the stuff. It's like,

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<v Speaker 2>keep it at home, nice and simple, but then that

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't create a lot of work. So she had some

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<v Speaker 2>of her favorite people over and we were allowed to

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<v Speaker 2>attend until we were told to please leave at ten PM.

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<v Speaker 2>I think she was like, Mom, you said you were

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<v Speaker 2>going to leave earlier. You know, she just was really

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<v Speaker 2>waiting for us to go.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, given the position I have, I didn't feel it

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<v Speaker 1>was appropriate to say, at least I pay for this party.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't think that. I didn't think that was right.

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<v Speaker 1>But we did have a I mean, certainly. Third of

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<v Speaker 1>party was Friday with Thursday. We were bouncing all around

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<v Speaker 1>a rainy, cold New York dragon gifts and balloons. We

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<v Speaker 1>were those idiots.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, you had so many balloons and it was raining

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<v Speaker 2>and it was it was just think of all the

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<v Speaker 2>days it was raining and cold, and yes we had

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<v Speaker 2>balloons and cakes, a big cake, We had gifts, we

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<v Speaker 2>had party favors, all the things we were just talking about. Actually, hilariously,

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<v Speaker 2>in the last episode, you know what.

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<v Speaker 1>In Fildal, maybe this is new to me, Maybe everybody

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<v Speaker 1>else understands. Party City is like TJ mex like, you

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<v Speaker 1>can't go in there for one thing and just walk

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<v Speaker 1>out with that one thing. Party City is I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>know we went in there for one thing. I thought

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<v Speaker 1>I was gonna be able to put that thing in

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<v Speaker 1>my purse. Yes, we walked out with three huge, heavy

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<v Speaker 1>bags and we were like, how did this happen?

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<v Speaker 2>But all of a sudden, I needed everything in the

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<v Speaker 2>store to make the party better.

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<v Speaker 1>Sabine got stuff. Is not even her birthday.

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<v Speaker 2>You were like, I gotta get this for zev. It

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<v Speaker 2>really was like targets, the same way you go in

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<v Speaker 2>for dish shop and you come back with seven bags

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<v Speaker 2>filled with five hundred dollars with the things that you

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<v Speaker 2>didn't actually need. So that happened at party City for

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<v Speaker 2>us on that was Friday, right, it was Thursday.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, Friday was the party. Yes, I got the

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<v Speaker 1>days mixed up, Yes, Friday.

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<v Speaker 2>Because we were working Thursday and Friday on the party.

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<v Speaker 2>But it went off without a hitch, and we actually

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<v Speaker 2>we were watching the next game in the adjacent room.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean it's all kind of one big room, and

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<v Speaker 2>then at one point we had half the party over

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<v Speaker 2>with us watching the game, and I think that's when

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<v Speaker 2>Annaly's was like, Mom, can you please go? Like we

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<v Speaker 2>had stolen half her party to watch the game. Some

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<v Speaker 2>of the guys started coming over, and then the girls

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<v Speaker 2>came over, and it was it was funny and okay, I.

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<v Speaker 1>Didn't think about it that way, but we did. We

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<v Speaker 1>weren't trying to and we weren't engaging. We just had

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<v Speaker 1>something else going on, and we were cool enough that

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<v Speaker 1>they didn't mind hanging out with it so.

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<v Speaker 2>Exactly, and that's when analy decided that was not cool

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<v Speaker 2>at all, and she wanted us.

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<v Speaker 1>To leave, but it was. It was fun and we

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<v Speaker 1>had our guests on last week Rachel Gibbs. I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's a name who did the fiver birthday party got

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<v Speaker 1>so much attention, but in that theme, in that vein

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<v Speaker 1>of birthday parties, it was on our mind. But this

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<v Speaker 1>is this is cool to see if she's an adult

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<v Speaker 1>now legally officially, and just kind of cool to be

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<v Speaker 1>there to see her. I know most of her friends

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<v Speaker 1>and at least know the names, and to see it

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<v Speaker 1>all come together and her have a good time and

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<v Speaker 1>to play a role in it was fun.

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<v Speaker 2>And I thanked you, but I'll thank you again here

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<v Speaker 2>profusely that you were so sweet and so supportive, and

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<v Speaker 2>I'm one of my favorite parts of that day was

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<v Speaker 2>in the hours leading up to the party. It was

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<v Speaker 2>also her last day of school, so it was a

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<v Speaker 2>very emotional day all around. She turned eighteen on the

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<v Speaker 2>day her high school, you know, her entire actual you know,

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<v Speaker 2>school career was over, and so we had there was

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<v Speaker 2>some reminiscing, and she sat on the couch with us

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<v Speaker 2>and we were looking at videos of her as a

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<v Speaker 2>baby and just and it was so sweet. You were

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<v Speaker 2>there with us looking at the videos and it was

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<v Speaker 2>just it was a really sweet woman. I really appreciate it.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, but thank you all. That was fun. This turned

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<v Speaker 1>into now, of course, a lot of people Mother's Day

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<v Speaker 1>that they're just getting past. And I don't know how

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<v Speaker 1>you feel about it. Sometimes it feels you Shaana, your

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<v Speaker 1>mother three hundred sixty five days. Ye right, but this

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<v Speaker 1>is a special day for moms. And when we got

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<v Speaker 1>up that morning, you almost snapped at me when I said, hey, babe,

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<v Speaker 1>what do you want to do? This is your day?

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<v Speaker 1>You're like, I don't want that pressure. I don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to do anything.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>I actually probably seven times you did.

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<v Speaker 2>That's probably when I snapped because like the first six times,

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, I don't know, I don't know what

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<v Speaker 2>I want to do. And then I was like, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know, I don't want the pressure, I don't know

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<v Speaker 2>what I want to.

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<v Speaker 1>Do, and then this is what she does, y'all. She

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<v Speaker 1>turned that around and used it against me later because

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<v Speaker 1>Annalise and Robes wanted to go see a movie and

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<v Speaker 1>they wanted me to go along for this for this movie,

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<v Speaker 1>and I didn't necessarily want to see it. I'm like, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>you and analyse, Yeah, I have a girl's day mom daughter.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you think it's all good? And plus I don't

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<v Speaker 1>really want to see the movie? Would you tell me?

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<v Speaker 2>I said, well, I thought you said this was my

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<v Speaker 2>day and I want you to be there. This isn't

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<v Speaker 2>boyfriend day, this isn't daughter day. This is my day,

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<v Speaker 2>and I want you there. And so, you kid, you.

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<v Speaker 1>Flipped really fast. But the movie was is Fall Guy,

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<v Speaker 1>Ryan Gosling, Emily Blunt wonderful? Both of these I love

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<v Speaker 1>both of them, and I have a very special place

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<v Speaker 1>in my heart for Emily Blunt, so to see them

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<v Speaker 1>on screen is one thing. But after a little while

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<v Speaker 1>I started recognizing some things about the movie.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, so I sold it to you as and I

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<v Speaker 2>truly did believe it was kind of an action comedy, right,

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<v Speaker 2>And all of a sudden, certain formulas started appearing and evolving,

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<v Speaker 2>and you turned to me and this was my favorite

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<v Speaker 2>part of the whole movie. And you looked at me

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<v Speaker 2>and you said, is this a rom com And I

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<v Speaker 2>whispered it to Emily's and we both just started laughing,

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<v Speaker 2>and I was like, I actually think it is. Whoops, sorry,

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<v Speaker 2>did you do it? I didn't know it was a

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<v Speaker 2>rom cop. I mean, I knew there might have been

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<v Speaker 2>some romance between Emily Hunt and Ryan Gosling, and there

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<v Speaker 2>were some funny moments, and there was some action, Like

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<v Speaker 2>it wasn't just your stereotypical This wasn't nodding hill, was.

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<v Speaker 1>That what are we doing?

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<v Speaker 2>This wasn't love actually, I mean there was some stuff

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<v Speaker 2>in there for guys. Wouldn't you say? Well?

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<v Speaker 1>It is? I end up looking up afterwards and they

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<v Speaker 1>describe it as an action adventure romantic comedy. They do,

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<v Speaker 1>so there are just a few action sequences, but this

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<v Speaker 1>is absolutely a romantic comedy start to finish. This is

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<v Speaker 1>all about two people overcoming whatever to try to be

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<v Speaker 1>together in the end. They yes, it was the exact formula.

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<v Speaker 1>There were some lines at the end. I actually got

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<v Speaker 1>up and went to the restroom.

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<v Speaker 2>In the lad like the climax of this movie, because

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<v Speaker 2>you knew how it was gonna Let me guess when

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<v Speaker 2>I come back, they're gonna be together. That's true. I

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<v Speaker 2>would just argue that this is a blended genre.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, that's no question about it, no question about it.

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<v Speaker 2>But you were a good sport. But it was funny

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<v Speaker 2>because you just it was like it all dawned on

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<v Speaker 2>you in one moment and you just look at that.

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<v Speaker 1>I've been set up.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, have you brought me to a rompop?

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<v Speaker 2>And that was your mother's say gift to me, So

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<v Speaker 2>thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>You are welcome, my dear lady. The other thing we

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<v Speaker 1>mentioned that it sounded crazy that why would vampires have

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<v Speaker 1>anything to do with your beauty regiment? I am, I am.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a little confused, but I do have a better

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<v Speaker 1>understanding now. But you went recently and somebody, some people

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<v Speaker 1>will know exactly what it is when you say it.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't, So what's it?

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<v Speaker 2>Colloquially it's called a vampire facial and They've actually been

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<v Speaker 2>in the news recently because apparently there was a place

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<v Speaker 2>out west that was using needles, like wasn't doing what

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<v Speaker 2>they were supposed to be doing, and several people contracted HIV.

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<v Speaker 2>So this all happened actually in the middle of between

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<v Speaker 2>when I made the appointment and when I actually then

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<v Speaker 2>went to the appointment. But I knew I was going

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<v Speaker 2>to a reputable place and I wasn't worried about it.

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<v Speaker 1>And we should say that this is a main extreme

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<v Speaker 1>type of procedure. I said, whole procedure. Whatever it is

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<v Speaker 1>that just happened to be a a bad It had

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<v Speaker 1>nothing to do with actual the Actually there's no harm

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<v Speaker 1>necessarily in their saying in what this is is just

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<v Speaker 1>to how someone decided to do it and they weren't sanitary.

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<v Speaker 2>Correct. Anything you do invasive lee is absolutely going to

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<v Speaker 2>have to be held to the highest standard of hygiene

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<v Speaker 2>because otherwise, yes, you could be introducing whatever into your

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<v Speaker 2>body or into your blood stream. But this is a

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<v Speaker 2>thing where you actually take out they actually take blood

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<v Speaker 2>from you and then they put it in the spinner

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<v Speaker 2>and they spin your platelets platelets, I guess, And it's

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<v Speaker 2>supposed to like rejuvenate and repairs plasma. I'm so frazzled

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<v Speaker 2>right now, p RP. But I don't know what the

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<v Speaker 2>one's plasma, one's platelets. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>But that's why they call it the vampire face.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, because they're actually reinjecting your your blood where they like,

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<v Speaker 2>just as if you went to go get blood work

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<v Speaker 2>done at the doctor.

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<v Speaker 1>One vile.

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<v Speaker 2>So it wasn't bad, but yeah, I didn't. I know,

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<v Speaker 2>I've done it before. It was just suggested to me

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<v Speaker 2>and just to rejuvenate, okay, so.

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<v Speaker 1>How they spin the blood around and immediately start the procedure.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, lately late lit rich plasma, that's what they put

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<v Speaker 2>back into your face. But it was funny because we

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<v Speaker 2>had a meeting later that afternoon. This was late last week,

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<v Speaker 2>and I asked the anesthetician. I said, you know, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>gonna be a little swollen. She's like, yeah, but just

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<v Speaker 2>for a couple of hours, you'll be fine by four

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<v Speaker 2>a couple of hours, it was like three hours she said.

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<v Speaker 2>Three days later, I'm finally not swollen. There was a

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<v Speaker 2>where we're like, do you should we go out anywhere

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<v Speaker 2>in the city this weekend?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm thinking no, let's go late it.

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<v Speaker 2>Really it wasn't that bad, okay, I'll like you say.

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<v Speaker 1>I was a big spoon for those three days. There

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<v Speaker 1>was no face to face cut.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe let's keep the lights down.

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<v Speaker 1>Have we talked about the other one where you came

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<v Speaker 1>out looking like a car accident. Yes, that was that

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<v Speaker 1>was rough.

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<v Speaker 2>I think a lot of women, uh, who are of

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<v Speaker 2>my age, And I will say I started getting botox

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<v Speaker 2>when I was thirty two, so I always kind of

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<v Speaker 2>looked at this as just as minimal in minimally invasive

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<v Speaker 2>procedures that I could do. And they're annoying and you

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<v Speaker 2>have to do them a lot, but I just I

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<v Speaker 2>just want to do small little things that helped me

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<v Speaker 2>age a little less harshly, that's all. I don't want

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<v Speaker 2>to change how I look, and I don't. And to

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<v Speaker 2>each his own, but it's for me. It's just it's

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of maintenance. So you've seen me, yes, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>make several appointments.

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<v Speaker 1>What's the one?

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<v Speaker 2>The fracking fraxeling is what we do to the earth. Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>not to my face.

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<v Speaker 1>But when you hear about what you do to your face,

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<v Speaker 1>fracksl is that's the one where a couple of days,

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<v Speaker 1>you're like, peel. That one's rough. Yeah, that one's rough.

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<v Speaker 2>That's something you need a week off of work from. Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>you actually do correctly.

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<v Speaker 1>And you only have to do that one how often?

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<v Speaker 2>Well I've only done that twice in my life.

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<v Speaker 1>But they say you're supposed to do it like, I don't.

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<v Speaker 2>Know, once every couple of years. What you do in

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<v Speaker 2>between is called clear and brilliant. And it's kind of

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<v Speaker 2>like baby fraxle. And so that's a little like you

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<v Speaker 2>look a little rough and you still peel, but it's

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<v Speaker 2>not crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>Give me the therma flaw.

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<v Speaker 2>There's thermage. That's super painful.

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<v Speaker 1>That was close.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, thermage. What did you call it?

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<v Speaker 1>Nothing, that's what I.

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<v Speaker 2>Said, thermige fraxel. Now there's vampire. When you were messed up,

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<v Speaker 2>that was when they well I forgot what that was called.

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<v Speaker 2>That was when I it was all about stimulating collagen.

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<v Speaker 2>It was with some sort of acid. Yeah, and it

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<v Speaker 2>I bruised a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, apparently that procedures. Just you go in and the

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<v Speaker 1>the doctor punches you in the face repeatedly.

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<v Speaker 2>That is what it looks like.

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<v Speaker 3>Man.

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<v Speaker 1>That was that was a week long.

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<v Speaker 2>That was bad and to your point you're laughing because

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<v Speaker 2>you say, to me, how do you look at any different?

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<v Speaker 2>But that's the way I want it to be. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to look different. I just want to have

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<v Speaker 2>these little small things that just incrementally help you age

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<v Speaker 2>a little bit more gracefully. I don't want to change anything.

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<v Speaker 2>So I actually feel like because you are scratching your

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<v Speaker 2>head like I just really don't even see what looks different.

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<v Speaker 2>That's to me, that's a good thing. That's a win.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay. I'm not expecting you to be completely altered, like

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<v Speaker 1>the unrecognizable.

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<v Speaker 2>No no, but sometimes some of these procedures you're trying

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<v Speaker 2>to look different. I'm different. I'm just trying to help

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<v Speaker 2>my skin look as best as it can.

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<v Speaker 1>You look.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, in between the swelling and thanks for being a

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<v Speaker 2>good sport about it, I have to be don't really

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<v Speaker 2>have a choice. I actually just want to say, you're welcome.

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<v Speaker 1>Did I stay at my place? More? Big spot. The

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<v Speaker 1>other thing this is you and I we were drifting.

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<v Speaker 1>I say that like everybody knows where that is. But

0:17:06.640 --> 0:17:10.480
<v Speaker 1>we were sitting at the a restaurant we love that's

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<v Speaker 1>along our running path, and we're saying you having a

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<v Speaker 1>good time, great day and we look up and there's

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<v Speaker 1>a plane flying with a banner behind it. Yeah. Now

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know exactly what it says. I can't remember exactly,

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<v Speaker 1>but this is pretty close.

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<v Speaker 2>It said something like, if you indict, we will unite,

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<v Speaker 2>Maga maga. And it was just flying around the city

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<v Speaker 2>ominously on a very beautiful day.

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<v Speaker 1>Actually, and you say that the right way, ominously, and

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<v Speaker 1>some people take offense to that. Was that ominous? It

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<v Speaker 1>seemed that it felt like some kind of a warning. Yes,

0:17:41.920 --> 0:17:44.320
<v Speaker 1>if it was a I can't remember the language, but

0:17:44.400 --> 0:17:46.200
<v Speaker 1>the languages are such in there that we were.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, whoa, if you do this, we will this will happen.

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<v Speaker 2>And I don't know what that means, but it felt

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<v Speaker 2>it felt a little ominous, that's all. It just and

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<v Speaker 2>to have the plane buzzing and just circling and circling.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>There was something about it that just felt. And we

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<v Speaker 2>know here in the city, you know, with and we're

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<v Speaker 2>not going to get into the politics of any of this,

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<v Speaker 2>but Trump is on trial here down close to where

0:18:06.920 --> 0:18:10.640
<v Speaker 2>we live, downtown New York City, and you know, it's

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<v Speaker 2>just the energy, the tension, the traffic, everything and there's

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<v Speaker 2>just protests throughout the city obviously for what's happening in

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<v Speaker 2>the Middle East as well, so in the city, it's

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<v Speaker 2>just it's felt, it's felt different, it's felt darker. It's

0:18:24.240 --> 0:18:26.760
<v Speaker 2>felt I don't want to say threatening, but like like

0:18:27.680 --> 0:18:30.720
<v Speaker 2>there's the water's boiling, and you just you worry about

0:18:30.760 --> 0:18:33.399
<v Speaker 2>what is going to happen, if not this summer, with

0:18:33.600 --> 0:18:37.040
<v Speaker 2>the outcome of the trial, or even with the election

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<v Speaker 2>that's looming this fall. Everything has felt a little bit ominous.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if other New Yorkers have felt the

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<v Speaker 2>same way, but it has felt.

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<v Speaker 1>Like that that is, and it feels that way because

0:18:46.560 --> 0:18:48.720
<v Speaker 1>there are the other part of it. There's so many

0:18:48.840 --> 0:18:53.439
<v Speaker 1>police vehicles, there's sirens constantly because they're moving trump around

0:18:53.640 --> 0:18:57.000
<v Speaker 1>town essentially, and we plan to ride up today. We're

0:18:57.000 --> 0:18:58.199
<v Speaker 1>going to hop on the motor so i can take

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<v Speaker 1>a ride up to the studio. We started looking around

0:19:01.320 --> 0:19:05.320
<v Speaker 1>at traffic and they don't announce some of the closures.

0:19:05.359 --> 0:19:07.040
<v Speaker 1>They just close them when they want to on some

0:19:07.160 --> 0:19:10.440
<v Speaker 1>of the streets because they have to maneuver him around.

0:19:10.520 --> 0:19:12.960
<v Speaker 1>And as just with that, with the protests on campus,

0:19:13.000 --> 0:19:15.960
<v Speaker 1>their protests on the streets, it's just something. Maybe it's

0:19:16.000 --> 0:19:17.800
<v Speaker 1>just New York and I don't know, maybe it feels

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<v Speaker 1>heavier for some reason now and this is New York

0:19:19.640 --> 0:19:21.560
<v Speaker 1>and maybe it's always like this. But the other thing

0:19:21.640 --> 0:19:24.200
<v Speaker 1>that got us thinking about this was Steve Bushimi, the

0:19:24.600 --> 0:19:28.159
<v Speaker 1>acclaimed actor from Boardwalk Empire. You know him well, you

0:19:29.119 --> 0:19:31.639
<v Speaker 1>probably love his work. He is unreal. But why is

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<v Speaker 1>he walking around Kip's Bay in New York last week?

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<v Speaker 1>Somebody just punches him in the face. Yeah, just punches

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<v Speaker 1>them randomly, broad daylight in the face.

0:19:40.000 --> 0:19:42.679
<v Speaker 2>And he needed medical attention. It wasn't just a little slap.

0:19:42.960 --> 0:19:46.399
<v Speaker 2>He had a bloody eye, and I mean it was

0:19:46.640 --> 0:19:48.800
<v Speaker 2>it was real. It was very scary.

0:19:48.960 --> 0:19:51.840
<v Speaker 1>So in recent months we've had a series and it's

0:19:51.920 --> 0:19:55.399
<v Speaker 1>been women almost exclusively. I believe these random attacks in

0:19:55.400 --> 0:19:57.840
<v Speaker 1>New York and somebody just runs up to somebody, a woman,

0:19:58.160 --> 0:20:02.119
<v Speaker 1>oftentimes broad daylight in the face, and some arrests have

0:20:02.240 --> 0:20:04.600
<v Speaker 1>been made, but it's just it's another one of those

0:20:04.680 --> 0:20:06.879
<v Speaker 1>things to where you're walking around the city, sometimes already

0:20:06.920 --> 0:20:10.320
<v Speaker 1>with your head on a swivel, and then this is

0:20:10.440 --> 0:20:13.639
<v Speaker 1>all happening. It just feels now the season you're trying

0:20:13.720 --> 0:20:15.720
<v Speaker 1>now because the sun's coming out and we're about to

0:20:15.960 --> 0:20:19.840
<v Speaker 1>New York is just wonderful. Then spring comes and then

0:20:19.880 --> 0:20:21.720
<v Speaker 1>there's some kind of weird Paul over the city.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and we were we were just in Soho with Sabine.

0:20:24.840 --> 0:20:27.919
<v Speaker 2>And a few days later, in again a beautiful seventy

0:20:28.000 --> 0:20:30.800
<v Speaker 2>five degree sunny day in New York City, a young man,

0:20:30.840 --> 0:20:32.800
<v Speaker 2>a sixteen year old is shot in the head right

0:20:32.840 --> 0:20:36.400
<v Speaker 2>outside of school and we were just there and uh yeah,

0:20:36.720 --> 0:20:38.280
<v Speaker 2>and at least my daughter. It was all the talk

0:20:38.320 --> 0:20:40.560
<v Speaker 2>obviously among the high schoolers because it was right near

0:20:40.640 --> 0:20:42.520
<v Speaker 2>one of her friend's schools. And it's just, yeah, it

0:20:42.640 --> 0:20:45.200
<v Speaker 2>just it feels like there's been a confluence of events

0:20:45.240 --> 0:20:47.960
<v Speaker 2>that are I don't know, just giving us some pause

0:20:48.080 --> 0:20:50.159
<v Speaker 2>and just you know, just another reminder to just be

0:20:50.240 --> 0:20:53.159
<v Speaker 2>aware and just to be again we've said this a lot,

0:20:53.240 --> 0:20:55.960
<v Speaker 2>but just to be kind and but also just to

0:20:56.040 --> 0:20:56.880
<v Speaker 2>have each other's backs.

0:20:57.440 --> 0:20:59.920
<v Speaker 1>And it is helping to get the Like I said,

0:21:00.000 --> 0:21:03.280
<v Speaker 1>any degree sunny day in New York, it's just it

0:21:03.440 --> 0:21:07.840
<v Speaker 1>changes everything, changes moods, and so New York has made

0:21:07.880 --> 0:21:12.480
<v Speaker 1>it through everything pretty much. Whatever happens this time around

0:21:12.520 --> 0:21:13.200
<v Speaker 1>New York will make it.

0:21:13.520 --> 0:21:15.720
<v Speaker 2>We had, you know, we had to explain our matching outfits. Though.

0:21:15.760 --> 0:21:17.439
<v Speaker 2>To em and Andy, when we came to the studio,

0:21:17.480 --> 0:21:19.600
<v Speaker 2>we were all biked up. We had our we had

0:21:19.720 --> 0:21:24.359
<v Speaker 2>our leather jackets on and our writing moods. And they're like, wow,

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<v Speaker 2>you guys look like like we walked off the set

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<v Speaker 2>of Greece or something. We were like, actually, there's a reason.

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<v Speaker 2>And we were totally going to ride up on the

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<v Speaker 2>motorcycle and uh thought otherwise with the traffic, better shave

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<v Speaker 2>pop because I need amazed there it is.

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<v Speaker 1>It doesn't take much.

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<v Speaker 2>He'll tell me about it.

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<v Speaker 1>Just give her a little, Just give her a little.

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<v Speaker 1>We have our hands on the list. We didn't get

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<v Speaker 1>our hands on it, but our wonderful producer Andy has

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<v Speaker 1>his hands on it. But and you said it came

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<v Speaker 1>from I think it was Reddit. But tell me the

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<v Speaker 1>name of the list again. So the name of the.

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<v Speaker 3>List is these are the things that women want men

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<v Speaker 3>to know about them.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, that we haven't gone through the list. But we

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<v Speaker 1>love when he does this with us because we learned.

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<v Speaker 1>We end up learning something about ourselves, learning something about

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<v Speaker 1>our relationship. I think a lot of the folks might too.

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<v Speaker 1>But you always curious to know what other people think

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<v Speaker 1>so things that women wish we knew about them. What

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<v Speaker 1>was the one you gave me at the tip You

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<v Speaker 1>told me you wish Oh you think were You're not

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<v Speaker 1>as complex as we think you are. We make it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, I wish you knew this. I mean I wish

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<v Speaker 2>men just it actually doesn't take much to make us happy.

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<v Speaker 2>That was kind of my point.

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<v Speaker 1>You sure about that?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh okay, hold that list for just a second. Andy.

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<v Speaker 1>It so easy to make you all happy by just

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<v Speaker 1>simply doing exactly what you tell us.

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<v Speaker 2>It's oh my gosh, yep, there you go that. Yep,

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<v Speaker 2>if you if you listen, we'll tell you what we

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<v Speaker 2>want and over and over again.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, because we don't get it.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think you want to get it. You're like,

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<v Speaker 2>YadA YadA. Yeah, it's called selective.

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<v Speaker 1>Can we just be different?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes?

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<v Speaker 1>You can? Or were we just I played this clip

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<v Speaker 1>for you before we left, he did. Sometimes it's not

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<v Speaker 1>it's emotion. Sometimes we don't take into account. Emotions have

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<v Speaker 1>to do in your storytelling what you think, what you

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<v Speaker 1>want at the time, and we don't factor that in sometimes.

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<v Speaker 2>So it's kind of what I was saying, it's how

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<v Speaker 2>we feel right. We're emotional, as you put it, and

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<v Speaker 2>we are completely and so to feel loved is to

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<v Speaker 2>feel safe and then to feel happy, like to be

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<v Speaker 2>able to express there's just it. But it's about our feelings.

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<v Speaker 2>Like it's less about the logistics or the logic or

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<v Speaker 2>the you know, it's not it's not black and white.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just it's it's the feeling.

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<v Speaker 1>It sounds sounds complex, doesn't it. You hear this answer?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, okay, it actually ties in really well with one

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<v Speaker 3>of the things.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, you take us away on the list.

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<v Speaker 3>It says something that this person learned from their wife

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<v Speaker 3>of nineteen years was to be an active listener. We

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<v Speaker 3>guys can sum up our day in two sentences or less,

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<v Speaker 3>give her ninety minutes.

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<v Speaker 2>That is so true, because I just want to tell

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<v Speaker 2>you all the details and how I felt along the way.

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<v Speaker 1>Now do do you find is it the understanding that

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<v Speaker 1>most times men don't often have the patience for it.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not that they don't maybe love the person, the

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<v Speaker 1>woman that they're with, it's just is that really a

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<v Speaker 1>matter of a difference in men and women?

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<v Speaker 2>And well, I think you would have to tell me

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<v Speaker 2>that because I think women when we talk. You hear

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<v Speaker 2>me talking with my friends or my mom or my daughters,

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<v Speaker 2>and you're like, oh yeah, yeah, you have to walk

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<v Speaker 2>out of the room. It's just the details are just

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<v Speaker 2>like burying you with details and feeling. So I do think,

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<v Speaker 2>but yes, would that I would believe is probably true.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't you know. Active listening is a big deal.

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<v Speaker 1>I've learned that and it helped me in it's on

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<v Speaker 1>you know what it helps in our jobs. When you

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<v Speaker 1>interview someone, you could miss the most important thing if

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<v Speaker 1>you're if you're thinking about your next question instead of

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<v Speaker 1>listening to their current answer, you're gonna make a mistake.

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<v Speaker 1>So fella's out there, that's my recommendation, treader like she's

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<v Speaker 1>an Interviewee, I'm kidding obviously.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, I mean sometimes strategy like that is good and

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<v Speaker 2>then you put it into practice and then all of

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<v Speaker 2>a sudden it's not something you even have to think about.

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<v Speaker 1>How do we do on that? Then you and I.

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<v Speaker 2>You actually in a way I think listen too intently

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm like damn, And then you can bring it

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<v Speaker 2>back up like two weeks later, like, well you know

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<v Speaker 2>you did say no, you listen really well? Almost too.

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<v Speaker 2>I would argue.

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<v Speaker 1>So now you need me to back it off trying

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<v Speaker 1>to thread the needle.

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<v Speaker 2>I told you we're very simple, very simple.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, let's tell us on the list.

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<v Speaker 3>More often than not, women like to have a little rant.

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<v Speaker 3>They're not looking for solutions.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, we don't need you to fix it necessarily unless

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<v Speaker 2>we ask you to.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's see fast too, and when you ask you, damn

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<v Speaker 1>sure better get it fixed and fixed fast. Now that

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<v Speaker 1>I do get. But it's so hard for us to program,

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<v Speaker 1>to reprogram ourselves out of that because we are solutions

0:26:40.440 --> 0:26:43.320
<v Speaker 1>or yet here's the problem, here's a solution, let's fix it.

0:26:44.119 --> 0:26:48.439
<v Speaker 1>And so yeah, that is you have to train ourselves. Okay, wait,

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<v Speaker 1>you got a problem with who we work?

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<v Speaker 2>All right?

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<v Speaker 1>What we're gonna do? All right? Just just call a

0:26:51.760 --> 0:26:53.840
<v Speaker 1>set an email. You can't handle it tomorrow, that's us.

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<v Speaker 1>You all just need to hear us. No, you don't understand.

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<v Speaker 1>She was wearing the same color I was wearing on

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<v Speaker 1>the day. She knows I wear that collar like we don't.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes we just want you to say, yeah, that must

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<v Speaker 2>have been hard, okay, and that's it.

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<v Speaker 1>I have learned that with you because you will talk

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<v Speaker 1>talk talk talk, talk talk, talk talk talk, and I

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<v Speaker 1>will listen. I don't necessarily have anything to contribute, but

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<v Speaker 1>you want to know that I was listening. Yes I do.

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<v Speaker 1>So I have gone got some go tos because I have.

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<v Speaker 1>I told you.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, sometimes when you don't respond to what

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<v Speaker 2>I just told you, it hurts my feelings.

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<v Speaker 1>So then now you you do what hmm or I see.

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<v Speaker 2>Exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>Ah.

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<v Speaker 2>So it doesn't necessarily make me feel better, but that

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<v Speaker 2>does make me laugh, and then I'm fine.

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<v Speaker 1>But here's the thing. I do it on everything now, y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>She could just say, man, it is hot out here.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel it too.

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<v Speaker 2>I just doesn't matter because I would say like, oh

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<v Speaker 2>my god, you know, look at that building right there.

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<v Speaker 2>It looks so cool, and you just wouldn't respond. I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, can you say something so now, youth.

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<v Speaker 4>Wow, indeed, indeed, I love indeed, indeeds ago, indeed or absolutely,

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<v Speaker 4>And then I know that I'm talking too much.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe we failed on that one. What else you get?

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<v Speaker 3>And another one that women want men to know is

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<v Speaker 3>that we are beyond annoyed when men yell at traffic

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<v Speaker 3>or go on and on yelling at the television during sports.

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<v Speaker 3>The only person who can hear you yelling is us

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<v Speaker 3>and we hate it. Keep that to a minimum, and

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<v Speaker 3>then if you must continue your pointless rant in your head.

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<v Speaker 2>So I have to give TJ complete props on this.

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<v Speaker 2>You do not do it, and it is remarkable, and

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<v Speaker 2>I have noted it and noticed it and been kind

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<v Speaker 2>of like, I'm amazed by it. You might be one

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<v Speaker 2>of the only men I have ever met who does

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<v Speaker 2>not do any of those things. You do not. You

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<v Speaker 2>do not lose your cool, You do not rant at

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<v Speaker 2>I'm the one who will yell at traffic. I know

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<v Speaker 2>and I need and I need to do better at that.

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<v Speaker 1>What was the last part of that. Did it say

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<v Speaker 1>no one can hear you? What was that you said?

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<v Speaker 3>It says, keep it to a minimum, and then if

0:29:15.240 --> 0:29:16.880
<v Speaker 3>you must continue your rant in your head.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, I wrote that to you.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, I would agree. That would apply more to me

0:29:22.240 --> 0:29:23.560
<v Speaker 2>than to you. I agree with you.

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<v Speaker 1>The traffic, I get hot, it's rough.

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<v Speaker 2>I know I need to do better. That's funny.

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<v Speaker 1>That was me, not you, but the TV. It's how

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<v Speaker 1>much This is how you know you've been yelling at

0:29:35.480 --> 0:29:37.800
<v Speaker 1>the TV too much? When you just all of a

0:29:37.840 --> 0:29:40.640
<v Speaker 1>sudden look up and go, oh, because I have paused

0:29:40.720 --> 0:29:42.920
<v Speaker 1>the show because I can't hear a damn thing on it,

0:29:42.960 --> 0:29:45.080
<v Speaker 1>because you've been talking the whole time.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not necessarily a rant. I'm just like, I'm announcing

0:29:49.080 --> 0:29:56.160
<v Speaker 2>all the things I'm observing while I'm watching, and then.

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<v Speaker 1>You will pause it, like, but you're ranting about he

0:30:00.040 --> 0:30:03.080
<v Speaker 1>doesn't even like him. He was he was just over

0:30:03.200 --> 0:30:06.600
<v Speaker 1>there with the blonde two days ago. Now he's all

0:30:06.720 --> 0:30:10.440
<v Speaker 1>up in. I'm like, what happened? Okay, Yes, that's you.

0:30:10.600 --> 0:30:13.240
<v Speaker 1>That's right. Thing, that is true? Okay, wow we are

0:30:13.360 --> 0:30:14.640
<v Speaker 1>We are not doing so good on this lib.

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<v Speaker 3>The next one is women are all different people, So

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<v Speaker 3>if you note something about one woman, do not automatically

0:30:22.560 --> 0:30:24.560
<v Speaker 3>assume that to be true for all women.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe all women aren't emotional TJ.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, she's out there somewhere. I'm trying. Do you know

0:30:38.120 --> 0:30:41.120
<v Speaker 1>women in your life that you would say don't carry

0:30:41.120 --> 0:30:44.760
<v Speaker 1>their emotions or not emotion lets everybody's emotions, but wouldn't

0:30:44.760 --> 0:30:47.680
<v Speaker 1>fit into whatever category. Sometimes women are put into a

0:30:47.760 --> 0:30:49.240
<v Speaker 1>being emotional beings.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sure they're out there, and some are more than others, obviously,

0:30:52.400 --> 0:30:54.360
<v Speaker 2>but I think most of us. I'm going to speak

0:30:54.400 --> 0:30:56.160
<v Speaker 2>for the tribe here. I think most of us are

0:30:56.560 --> 0:31:00.640
<v Speaker 2>lead a lot of our thoughts and our decisions through

0:31:00.720 --> 0:31:05.480
<v Speaker 2>and because of emotions. For sure, I actually think I'm

0:31:05.880 --> 0:31:08.640
<v Speaker 2>a fairly logical person, but yes, I have emotion clouding

0:31:08.720 --> 0:31:12.320
<v Speaker 2>that all the time. But but I think most of

0:31:12.400 --> 0:31:14.960
<v Speaker 2>us are like that. You can't generalize everyone, but I don't.

0:31:15.000 --> 0:31:17.320
<v Speaker 2>I don't feel like you are somebody who generalizes people.

0:31:17.680 --> 0:31:19.760
<v Speaker 1>I mean people is the way to put it. I

0:31:19.760 --> 0:31:21.600
<v Speaker 1>don't think you can do that with anybody. Any experience

0:31:21.680 --> 0:31:24.000
<v Speaker 1>you've had with this person, you can't assume that just

0:31:24.080 --> 0:31:28.040
<v Speaker 1>because they are whatever, a certain race, a certain gender,

0:31:28.240 --> 0:31:30.240
<v Speaker 1>that they are going to be like some Yeah that's

0:31:30.280 --> 0:31:31.600
<v Speaker 1>a and.

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<v Speaker 2>I think you're pretty good at that.

0:31:32.560 --> 0:31:35.440
<v Speaker 1>You're pretty good that. What's the danger zone? All right?

0:31:35.520 --> 0:31:38.440
<v Speaker 3>This next one is women prefer to be called beautiful

0:31:38.560 --> 0:31:42.640
<v Speaker 3>over hot. Calling us beautiful is elegant rather than calling

0:31:42.720 --> 0:31:43.920
<v Speaker 3>us hot or sexy.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it depends on who's saying it.

0:31:46.200 --> 0:31:47.520
<v Speaker 1>And I was about to say it depends on where

0:31:47.560 --> 0:31:48.040
<v Speaker 1>it's being said.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, all true.

0:31:54.200 --> 0:31:57.440
<v Speaker 1>We need to break this one down with it. Nobody

0:31:57.640 --> 0:32:02.360
<v Speaker 1>wants to if it's someone you know, right in relationship

0:32:02.400 --> 0:32:05.240
<v Speaker 1>with you, I called you, call you beautiful. You look great,

0:32:05.640 --> 0:32:08.280
<v Speaker 1>that's gorgeous. But every once in a while, you put

0:32:08.360 --> 0:32:11.200
<v Speaker 1>on a certain dress, certain heels, and you're feeling a

0:32:11.280 --> 0:32:14.320
<v Speaker 1>certain way, and I think it. No, I'm not going

0:32:14.400 --> 0:32:17.240
<v Speaker 1>to speak for you, but in that situation, it seems

0:32:17.320 --> 0:32:22.760
<v Speaker 1>like a saying sexy or hot wouldn't be Unwell.

0:32:22.680 --> 0:32:26.160
<v Speaker 2>Yes, I agree, and coming from you one hundred percent. Now,

0:32:26.240 --> 0:32:29.200
<v Speaker 2>if you only said that, that would feel weird, But

0:32:29.400 --> 0:32:31.880
<v Speaker 2>you don't. I mean, I think women no one wants

0:32:31.880 --> 0:32:34.200
<v Speaker 2>to be over sexualized. But yeah, to have your boyfriend

0:32:34.320 --> 0:32:36.880
<v Speaker 2>or your husband or the guy who you're into say

0:32:37.160 --> 0:32:39.120
<v Speaker 2>that an outfit makes you look hot or sexy, I

0:32:39.200 --> 0:32:41.400
<v Speaker 2>have a zero problem with that. Now, do I want

0:32:41.400 --> 0:32:42.840
<v Speaker 2>a guy on the street saying that to me?

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<v Speaker 1>No, okay, But the guy on the street saying you

0:32:46.200 --> 0:32:49.440
<v Speaker 1>look beautiful? Is it's still a compliment about your physical appearance.

0:32:49.480 --> 0:32:51.520
<v Speaker 1>But are you taking one better than the other?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? Yes, well I do think so. I've talked about this,

0:32:55.200 --> 0:32:56.800
<v Speaker 2>and I've talked to my daughters about this. I know

0:32:56.880 --> 0:32:58.720
<v Speaker 2>it's a huge problem, especially here in this city, with

0:32:58.800 --> 0:33:02.720
<v Speaker 2>cat calling and you know, unwanted attention from men whistling

0:33:02.800 --> 0:33:05.040
<v Speaker 2>or saying derogatory things and even if they're saying, hey, baby,

0:33:05.080 --> 0:33:08.280
<v Speaker 2>you look great. You know I I don't like that,

0:33:08.480 --> 0:33:10.320
<v Speaker 2>but I've joked with them and I was like, just

0:33:10.440 --> 0:33:12.680
<v Speaker 2>wait till you turn forty, and then if someone says

0:33:12.680 --> 0:33:15.440
<v Speaker 2>you look beautiful, you're like thank you. Like it's a

0:33:15.720 --> 0:33:19.800
<v Speaker 2>very different experience. And I'm not encouraging cat calling. And

0:33:19.880 --> 0:33:21.880
<v Speaker 2>I know that it's derogatory and I get it. My

0:33:22.040 --> 0:33:24.520
<v Speaker 2>my daughters both have complained about it, and understandably so,

0:33:24.840 --> 0:33:25.840
<v Speaker 2>but I've just teased them.

0:33:25.920 --> 0:33:29.040
<v Speaker 1>I was like, I hear you, but just just wait,

0:33:29.320 --> 0:33:31.120
<v Speaker 1>are you telling me that? Then I hear that, right,

0:33:31.240 --> 0:33:34.320
<v Speaker 1>that cat calling at some point can feel good at

0:33:34.320 --> 0:33:37.080
<v Speaker 1>a certain age if you're not getting those compliments that often.

0:33:37.160 --> 0:33:39.120
<v Speaker 2>I mean, cause it's to me, it's silly, Like I

0:33:39.240 --> 0:33:42.360
<v Speaker 2>get it. I'm like, I I yes, I am saying

0:33:42.360 --> 0:33:43.960
<v Speaker 2>that to an extent. I mean, it depends on what

0:33:44.040 --> 0:33:46.360
<v Speaker 2>they said. But if someone wants to say, wow, you're gorgeous,

0:33:46.400 --> 0:33:49.680
<v Speaker 2>I'm I'm all about saying thank you and continuing to walk.

0:33:50.120 --> 0:33:52.520
<v Speaker 2>But some people, some women find that offensive, and that's

0:33:52.680 --> 0:33:55.160
<v Speaker 2>I get that. It depends on what the motive is.

0:33:55.240 --> 0:33:56.840
<v Speaker 2>And you can tell from the guy if he's just

0:33:56.920 --> 0:34:01.160
<v Speaker 2>being a jerk and you know, but it's genuinely say like, well,

0:34:01.320 --> 0:34:03.120
<v Speaker 2>just to pay you a compliment. I have no problem

0:34:03.200 --> 0:34:05.520
<v Speaker 2>with that, But if they're saying it to I don't know,

0:34:05.640 --> 0:34:08.759
<v Speaker 2>make you feel like like you're a sexualized being for

0:34:08.880 --> 0:34:10.560
<v Speaker 2>no reason other than you're just trying to go to work,

0:34:10.640 --> 0:34:11.239
<v Speaker 2>that's not okay.

0:34:11.400 --> 0:34:14.359
<v Speaker 1>How many is cat calling in New York?

0:34:14.840 --> 0:34:17.200
<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, yeah, I mean Anna Alice will tell me

0:34:17.239 --> 0:34:19.200
<v Speaker 2>it's one of the This is kind of crazy, but

0:34:19.320 --> 0:34:21.879
<v Speaker 2>when she said it, it made sense. She said when

0:34:22.000 --> 0:34:23.920
<v Speaker 2>she gets the most cat calls and gets the most

0:34:24.000 --> 0:34:26.520
<v Speaker 2>upset when she's on her city bike because you're going

0:34:26.600 --> 0:34:28.480
<v Speaker 2>by quickly, so they feel like they can shout things

0:34:28.520 --> 0:34:30.560
<v Speaker 2>at you, and then you won't actually get mad at

0:34:30.600 --> 0:34:32.760
<v Speaker 2>them or turn around because you're having to focus on biking.

0:34:33.160 --> 0:34:36.000
<v Speaker 2>But she told me she gets the most like disgusting

0:34:36.080 --> 0:34:38.160
<v Speaker 2>comments thrown at her when she's on a bike because

0:34:38.160 --> 0:34:39.719
<v Speaker 2>they can see her and they can call it out,

0:34:40.040 --> 0:34:42.480
<v Speaker 2>but it's it's not as embarrassing for them, maybe because

0:34:42.520 --> 0:34:43.279
<v Speaker 2>it's not a slow walk.

0:34:43.440 --> 0:34:48.400
<v Speaker 1>What is the point just woman flying by on a

0:34:48.640 --> 0:34:52.080
<v Speaker 1>powered city bike? I say powered because they go faster.

0:34:52.239 --> 0:34:53.080
<v Speaker 1>Now she's flying.

0:34:53.080 --> 0:34:54.600
<v Speaker 2>You would have to ask a man. I don't know

0:34:54.640 --> 0:34:55.399
<v Speaker 2>why that would be fun?

0:34:55.640 --> 0:34:56.640
<v Speaker 1>Are good? Fun good?

0:34:57.880 --> 0:35:01.880
<v Speaker 2>It makes them feel powerful. They're like objectifying you and

0:35:01.960 --> 0:35:03.960
<v Speaker 2>they feel like they're in a position to judge. I

0:35:04.000 --> 0:35:05.680
<v Speaker 2>don't know, but they're not going to get a date

0:35:05.760 --> 0:35:08.680
<v Speaker 2>out of the issues. I cannot imagine that ever happening

0:35:08.719 --> 0:35:10.680
<v Speaker 2>in any instance. But there must be some power thing

0:35:10.840 --> 0:35:12.080
<v Speaker 2>that they feel when they do that.

0:35:12.320 --> 0:35:14.920
<v Speaker 1>I don't know, so I can't remember what comedian it was.

0:35:15.000 --> 0:35:16.799
<v Speaker 1>It's like the stupidest thing in the world to try

0:35:16.840 --> 0:35:23.720
<v Speaker 1>to yell at a moving target, like, yeah.

0:35:23.520 --> 0:35:25.440
<v Speaker 2>They're not even asking for their number, Like they're just

0:35:26.160 --> 0:35:30.680
<v Speaker 2>commenting on body parts, et cetera. Like that's not okay. Yeah, yeah,

0:35:30.880 --> 0:35:32.400
<v Speaker 2>they get bored, all right?

0:35:32.440 --> 0:35:35.520
<v Speaker 1>Yes, what are we up to now? How many? Yeah?

0:35:35.880 --> 0:35:37.560
<v Speaker 3>The next thing women want meant to know is how

0:35:37.719 --> 0:35:41.200
<v Speaker 3>important our menstrual cycles are and how they affect us.

0:35:41.440 --> 0:35:44.120
<v Speaker 3>For example, we can be very different physically and mentally

0:35:44.200 --> 0:35:46.720
<v Speaker 3>during the ovulation period and in the pre menstrual period.

0:35:46.920 --> 0:35:49.120
<v Speaker 3>I educated my boyfriend on it, and since then he

0:35:49.160 --> 0:35:51.120
<v Speaker 3>has helped me to cope with these fluctuations.

0:35:51.280 --> 0:35:52.080
<v Speaker 1>We can skip this one.

0:35:54.480 --> 0:35:57.319
<v Speaker 2>We've only been together in my medically induced menopause. Yes,

0:35:57.400 --> 0:35:58.480
<v Speaker 2>so we've never had to deal with that.

0:35:58.760 --> 0:36:00.239
<v Speaker 1>That's why I say I wasn't just trying to skip

0:36:00.320 --> 0:36:02.880
<v Speaker 1>the topic. Is just stuff no interest to me currently

0:36:03.239 --> 0:36:03.600
<v Speaker 1>are but.

0:36:03.680 --> 0:36:05.400
<v Speaker 2>You are going to have to be dealing with that

0:36:05.960 --> 0:36:06.840
<v Speaker 2>soon as a fought with.

0:36:07.520 --> 0:36:11.360
<v Speaker 1>Sabine, Yes of course, but well we'll come up with

0:36:11.440 --> 0:36:14.160
<v Speaker 1>a different lists on that day. But until then, this

0:36:14.440 --> 0:36:15.600
<v Speaker 1>is not something we deal with.

0:36:17.000 --> 0:36:19.040
<v Speaker 2>What it's a mood point it is.

0:36:21.239 --> 0:36:23.359
<v Speaker 3>The next one is women don't want to be your

0:36:23.440 --> 0:36:24.520
<v Speaker 3>mommy or your maid.

0:36:25.280 --> 0:36:29.680
<v Speaker 2>Oh and honestly, you're coming out of this smelling like roses,

0:36:29.800 --> 0:36:33.000
<v Speaker 2>because yes, because you are. And I've told you this

0:36:33.200 --> 0:36:35.560
<v Speaker 2>is one of the many things I'm super attracted to

0:36:35.600 --> 0:36:40.080
<v Speaker 2>you about is that you are so clean and organized

0:36:40.160 --> 0:36:42.600
<v Speaker 2>and self sufficient. You make your own like not only

0:36:42.680 --> 0:36:44.359
<v Speaker 2>do you make your own food, but you make food

0:36:44.440 --> 0:36:47.960
<v Speaker 2>better than I can, and for everyone. You clean up

0:36:48.200 --> 0:36:51.080
<v Speaker 2>the food that you make. You are constantly folding laundry

0:36:51.120 --> 0:36:54.279
<v Speaker 2>and doing laundry. You were just scrubbing a bathtub this morning,

0:36:54.800 --> 0:36:59.600
<v Speaker 2>and I mean, I am so impressed laundry. I'm telling you,

0:37:00.040 --> 0:37:01.840
<v Speaker 2>is it okay to call you sexy and hot? Because

0:37:02.120 --> 0:37:04.920
<v Speaker 2>to me, that is a very very sexy thing. Like

0:37:05.000 --> 0:37:07.760
<v Speaker 2>what a man just takes it on and doesn't expect

0:37:07.760 --> 0:37:10.680
<v Speaker 2>anyone to do anything for him. And I really think

0:37:10.760 --> 0:37:12.280
<v Speaker 2>that is like super sexy.

0:37:12.440 --> 0:37:16.960
<v Speaker 1>How about this? I think most guys, yes, that's a

0:37:17.000 --> 0:37:19.520
<v Speaker 1>compliment to be called sexy. To be called sexy for

0:37:19.640 --> 0:37:23.680
<v Speaker 1>your laundry folding ability is not It's not gonna be

0:37:23.719 --> 0:37:28.120
<v Speaker 1>high up there for us robes. And that's okay. If

0:37:28.680 --> 0:37:32.319
<v Speaker 1>if it's a super hot guy who's doing laundry, cool,

0:37:32.440 --> 0:37:34.680
<v Speaker 1>I know she still likes my body. Yeah, But if

0:37:34.719 --> 0:37:39.320
<v Speaker 1>it's still regular Joe and a woman gets asd what

0:37:39.480 --> 0:37:43.080
<v Speaker 1>do you love about your regular Joe man, he really

0:37:43.239 --> 0:37:46.480
<v Speaker 1>knows how to use that downy. I mean that's not

0:37:46.600 --> 0:37:47.600
<v Speaker 1>gonna make him feel good.

0:37:47.800 --> 0:37:50.800
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, coming home seeing windecks in your hands and vacuum

0:37:50.840 --> 0:37:58.279
<v Speaker 2>cleaner in the other way. No, No, you are really really,

0:37:58.320 --> 0:38:00.000
<v Speaker 2>really good about that. It's funny when we work together

0:38:00.520 --> 0:38:02.759
<v Speaker 2>and we were just friends, I saw how you kept

0:38:02.800 --> 0:38:05.600
<v Speaker 2>your dressing room and I took note of it. I

0:38:05.719 --> 0:38:09.040
<v Speaker 2>was like, Wow, this guy is clean and organized.

0:38:09.120 --> 0:38:11.080
<v Speaker 1>I like that. What whether you said it was clean,

0:38:11.200 --> 0:38:13.480
<v Speaker 1>it was two things. It was mommy or mommy or

0:38:13.920 --> 0:38:14.279
<v Speaker 1>you are.

0:38:14.480 --> 0:38:18.600
<v Speaker 2>Not like that at all? No, that mean though, like

0:38:18.960 --> 0:38:21.480
<v Speaker 2>help me, like, yeah, you just want like your your

0:38:21.600 --> 0:38:25.120
<v Speaker 2>your wife to help dress you or help like like

0:38:25.280 --> 0:38:27.000
<v Speaker 2>I don't know, you just like a mommy, like did

0:38:27.080 --> 0:38:29.480
<v Speaker 2>you make your doctor's appointment? Did you like that kind

0:38:29.480 --> 0:38:32.360
<v Speaker 2>of stuff? Like ew, no, woman wants to do that?

0:38:32.600 --> 0:38:33.480
<v Speaker 1>Okay, maybe not?

0:38:33.719 --> 0:38:36.600
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, like you know, feed me, make my doctor's appointment

0:38:36.640 --> 0:38:38.160
<v Speaker 2>for me, hold my clothes.

0:38:38.280 --> 0:38:41.840
<v Speaker 1>And I ask, is there some segment of the female population,

0:38:42.040 --> 0:38:46.680
<v Speaker 1>and maybe even a significant segment maybe that wants appreciates

0:38:47.960 --> 0:38:50.279
<v Speaker 1>to be needed in that way to take care of

0:38:50.400 --> 0:38:53.600
<v Speaker 1>everything because he's not he can't dress himself. I need

0:38:53.680 --> 0:38:54.359
<v Speaker 1>to do this for him.

0:38:54.400 --> 0:38:58.040
<v Speaker 2>He No, I don't think there's any Maybe there's a

0:38:58.320 --> 0:39:02.720
<v Speaker 2>part of some of us who like to feel needed,

0:39:03.040 --> 0:39:06.080
<v Speaker 2>but that's different than having to be someone's mom. Like

0:39:06.320 --> 0:39:08.920
<v Speaker 2>I just I don't think there's anything attractive about that,

0:39:09.080 --> 0:39:12.759
<v Speaker 2>and especially any woman who's actually a mom. We don't

0:39:12.800 --> 0:39:15.839
<v Speaker 2>need another child like that is just annoying. I think

0:39:16.280 --> 0:39:19.600
<v Speaker 2>that's I think that's a pretty general rule among women.

0:39:19.640 --> 0:39:23.160
<v Speaker 2>I don't think any of us want a mommy are men?

0:39:24.080 --> 0:39:26.480
<v Speaker 1>But I do thank you for packing my lunches for me,

0:39:36.560 --> 0:39:40.480
<v Speaker 1>give us your last best two or three. We don't

0:39:40.600 --> 0:39:40.840
<v Speaker 1>have a.

0:39:40.880 --> 0:39:43.440
<v Speaker 3>Problem picking where we want to eat. The problem is

0:39:43.520 --> 0:39:45.080
<v Speaker 3>that we want a little bit of everything.

0:39:45.640 --> 0:39:50.719
<v Speaker 2>Mmm. So sometimes I do have a problem picking where

0:39:50.760 --> 0:39:54.400
<v Speaker 2>I want to eat. But you've always teased me about this.

0:39:54.560 --> 0:39:58.680
<v Speaker 2>I will say this. Women might not always know what

0:39:58.760 --> 0:40:00.359
<v Speaker 2>we want to eat, but we know what we don't

0:40:00.360 --> 0:40:02.960
<v Speaker 2>want to eat, and so you can just start listing them.

0:40:03.000 --> 0:40:04.560
<v Speaker 2>And then I'll tell you no, no, no, no no,

0:40:05.280 --> 0:40:06.080
<v Speaker 2>that that is true.

0:40:06.440 --> 0:40:11.080
<v Speaker 1>Well the frustration comes, no, no, it comes. It's it's

0:40:11.280 --> 0:40:14.520
<v Speaker 1>it's funny. We could joke about this, but I've conversation

0:40:14.640 --> 0:40:17.040
<v Speaker 1>goes this way, sweetheart, Where would you like to eat?

0:40:17.480 --> 0:40:17.640
<v Speaker 4>Right?

0:40:17.920 --> 0:40:21.080
<v Speaker 1>Anywhere? It sounds good? You sure? Maybe you got a

0:40:21.160 --> 0:40:22.800
<v Speaker 1>hungery for Are you really hungry now or you a

0:40:22.800 --> 0:40:23.319
<v Speaker 1>little hungry?

0:40:23.360 --> 0:40:23.560
<v Speaker 2>Stay?

0:40:23.640 --> 0:40:26.080
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, eat a way? That's good? Get ready? All right?

0:40:26.320 --> 0:40:26.920
<v Speaker 1>We sure nothing?

0:40:27.000 --> 0:40:27.160
<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

0:40:27.239 --> 0:40:30.560
<v Speaker 1>Whatever you want? All right, there's a new Mexican spot

0:40:30.600 --> 0:40:33.600
<v Speaker 1>I want to Oh, I don't want that. That's what happens.

0:40:34.160 --> 0:40:35.960
<v Speaker 2>That is true. I know what I don't want. Yes,

0:40:36.560 --> 0:40:37.640
<v Speaker 2>I don't always know what I want.

0:40:37.760 --> 0:40:40.880
<v Speaker 1>Yes, I've had somebody's been telling me that for years.

0:40:41.160 --> 0:40:44.719
<v Speaker 1>Pastor Bernard actually here in New York, he said, I

0:40:45.080 --> 0:40:49.160
<v Speaker 1>know exactly what women want and everybody's sitting up on

0:40:49.200 --> 0:40:52.480
<v Speaker 1>the edge of their seats. They don't know and that was.

0:40:54.960 --> 0:40:57.000
<v Speaker 2>That was it. But they know what they don't want.

0:40:57.040 --> 0:41:01.600
<v Speaker 1>That is so so true movies. You can anything, but

0:41:01.719 --> 0:41:04.120
<v Speaker 1>you will often lead with that, I don't know, just.

0:41:04.120 --> 0:41:07.400
<v Speaker 2>Pick some here's something though. That's so funny because and

0:41:07.600 --> 0:41:09.520
<v Speaker 2>I don't. I think a lot of women do this

0:41:09.719 --> 0:41:12.640
<v Speaker 2>and you have frustrated me. But I know what you're doing.

0:41:12.840 --> 0:41:16.200
<v Speaker 2>I know why you're doing it. So any other women

0:41:16.239 --> 0:41:19.160
<v Speaker 2>out there, any other woman out there, when they're going

0:41:19.200 --> 0:41:21.360
<v Speaker 2>to order, I want to know what you're having, and

0:41:21.440 --> 0:41:25.360
<v Speaker 2>I want to calculate that into what I'm having. So

0:41:26.120 --> 0:41:28.200
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, well, if he's getting this, maybe I'll get that,

0:41:29.080 --> 0:41:31.600
<v Speaker 2>or even like a shared appetizer, you will You're like,

0:41:32.200 --> 0:41:34.040
<v Speaker 2>just tell me what you want, just you order it.

0:41:34.480 --> 0:41:36.120
<v Speaker 2>And that drives me crazy because I want to know

0:41:36.200 --> 0:41:38.640
<v Speaker 2>what you're ordering first, because I want to factor that

0:41:38.760 --> 0:41:39.600
<v Speaker 2>into what I order.

0:41:39.920 --> 0:41:42.279
<v Speaker 1>Is a factor because maybe you want to know.

0:41:42.400 --> 0:41:44.759
<v Speaker 2>Because maybe we might share the appetizer, or maybe if

0:41:44.800 --> 0:41:46.680
<v Speaker 2>you're going to get the salmon, or you're going to

0:41:46.719 --> 0:41:48.480
<v Speaker 2>get something else that I might want, then maybe I

0:41:48.520 --> 0:41:50.799
<v Speaker 2>could pick a little on your plate. And then also

0:41:50.880 --> 0:41:52.759
<v Speaker 2>get what I want. We could kind of share, but

0:41:52.880 --> 0:41:55.200
<v Speaker 2>then knowing what you're getting might make me get something

0:41:55.280 --> 0:41:57.840
<v Speaker 2>different so that we could have a bite of each You.

0:41:57.840 --> 0:41:59.719
<v Speaker 1>Know what, I apologize we're saying at the top of

0:41:59.760 --> 0:42:03.920
<v Speaker 1>this episode that I disagree with you about simplicity. You

0:42:04.000 --> 0:42:06.719
<v Speaker 1>guys are so simple. Just listen to your food order.

0:42:06.840 --> 0:42:09.640
<v Speaker 1>That made perfect sense you did to me, And does that.

0:42:09.680 --> 0:42:10.640
<v Speaker 2>Makes sense to you at all?

0:42:11.120 --> 0:42:11.520
<v Speaker 1>You get that?

0:42:11.800 --> 0:42:16.400
<v Speaker 2>Okay? And he will never tell me. Yeah right, he

0:42:16.600 --> 0:42:18.480
<v Speaker 2>will not even tell me. He refuses to.

0:42:18.960 --> 0:42:21.480
<v Speaker 1>He says, see what you're using my dish as a

0:42:22.040 --> 0:42:25.160
<v Speaker 1>reconnaissance mission for your next meal? Yeah, I'll stop. Stop,

0:42:25.280 --> 0:42:26.000
<v Speaker 1>y'all need to stop.

0:42:27.200 --> 0:42:30.160
<v Speaker 2>Yes, So anyway, TJ will never tell you what he's

0:42:30.239 --> 0:42:34.200
<v Speaker 2>going to order until he orders it from the waiter.

0:42:34.320 --> 0:42:36.000
<v Speaker 2>And I always order first, and I think sometimes you

0:42:36.160 --> 0:42:37.960
<v Speaker 2>change your order because you don't want to order the

0:42:37.960 --> 0:42:41.720
<v Speaker 2>same thing I order. You get the advantage of hearing

0:42:41.800 --> 0:42:44.120
<v Speaker 2>what I'm ordering first because you're being polite.

0:42:44.719 --> 0:42:48.120
<v Speaker 1>I always a woman, always orders first, right, Yes, but

0:42:48.719 --> 0:42:50.480
<v Speaker 1>you know what I do it. I don't want you

0:42:50.840 --> 0:42:52.880
<v Speaker 1>to have I don't want you to be influenced by me.

0:42:52.920 --> 0:42:54.560
<v Speaker 1>I don't want you to give up something you might

0:42:54.600 --> 0:42:57.520
<v Speaker 1>be wanting to order because you say, Okay, he's ordering that,

0:42:57.600 --> 0:42:59.120
<v Speaker 1>I can just snack on that. So just get the

0:42:59.160 --> 0:43:02.520
<v Speaker 1>thing you want to get, amare because she gives it.

0:43:02.640 --> 0:43:04.520
<v Speaker 2>Because I want a factor when you're ordering into what

0:43:04.640 --> 0:43:10.040
<v Speaker 2>I'm ordering, what don't If I can't, I know you

0:43:10.120 --> 0:43:10.800
<v Speaker 2>won't tell me.

0:43:11.200 --> 0:43:14.840
<v Speaker 1>We're going to lunch right after this, okay, and we

0:43:14.880 --> 0:43:16.240
<v Speaker 1>don't work this out, so funny.

0:43:16.640 --> 0:43:18.440
<v Speaker 2>I remember first, when we first started going out to

0:43:18.480 --> 0:43:19.839
<v Speaker 2>dinner together. I was like, so what are you getting?

0:43:19.920 --> 0:43:22.319
<v Speaker 2>You're like, just go ahead and order what you're gonna order.

0:43:22.440 --> 0:43:25.799
<v Speaker 1>I never tell you what you've never once told me. Ever,

0:43:26.640 --> 0:43:28.279
<v Speaker 1>I don't think I have no, you have not.

0:43:28.640 --> 0:43:31.320
<v Speaker 2>And you also don't like sharing. You don't like me

0:43:31.440 --> 0:43:34.960
<v Speaker 2>picking off your plate, which is another isn't what you

0:43:35.000 --> 0:43:35.440
<v Speaker 2>don't tell me?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, So this is the I guess we're doing. Okay,

0:43:37.680 --> 0:43:40.440
<v Speaker 1>if our biggest like we really got worked up about food.

0:43:40.239 --> 0:43:43.680
<v Speaker 2>Orders, that's funny, all right.

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<v Speaker 3>All this next one is we just want to feel

0:43:46.680 --> 0:43:48.759
<v Speaker 3>pretty for our partners. If you make me feel like

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<v Speaker 3>I'm the prettiest woman on earth in your eyes, I

0:43:51.320 --> 0:43:53.919
<v Speaker 3>will do absolutely anything for you. The second we don't

0:43:53.920 --> 0:43:56.840
<v Speaker 3>feel sexy for our partners. Welcome to a dead bedroom.

0:43:58.000 --> 0:44:01.680
<v Speaker 2>Oh that was a was extreme, But I mean I

0:44:01.800 --> 0:44:04.839
<v Speaker 2>hear what she's saying, and that's true. Yeah, Oh my gosh,

0:44:06.000 --> 0:44:11.360
<v Speaker 2>compliments will get you everywhere or anywhere. Maybe maybe we

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<v Speaker 2>should edit.

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<v Speaker 1>So did I mention you look beautiful?

0:44:19.200 --> 0:44:21.920
<v Speaker 2>Compliments go a long way if they're genuine.

0:44:22.120 --> 0:44:24.440
<v Speaker 1>Yes, okay, how do you make that determination?

0:44:24.800 --> 0:44:27.040
<v Speaker 2>You can find something you like about me at any point?

0:44:27.360 --> 0:44:28.680
<v Speaker 2>There might be a lot of things you don't.

0:44:28.760 --> 0:44:30.839
<v Speaker 1>Did you just tell me I can always find something

0:44:30.880 --> 0:44:31.400
<v Speaker 1>I like about you.

0:44:31.480 --> 0:44:33.840
<v Speaker 2>About anyone, I can find something I like about I

0:44:33.920 --> 0:44:36.640
<v Speaker 2>wasn't saying it just about me. I'm saying I was

0:44:36.680 --> 0:44:39.480
<v Speaker 2>saying that as like a point of our ference. I

0:44:39.520 --> 0:44:42.200
<v Speaker 2>think you can find something you like about anybody. But

0:44:42.280 --> 0:44:45.080
<v Speaker 2>if you do it deliberately, manipulatively, that would be different.

0:44:45.120 --> 0:44:47.360
<v Speaker 1>Can you read that again? And absolutely so?

0:44:47.640 --> 0:44:49.840
<v Speaker 3>It was we just want to feel pretty for our partners.

0:44:50.320 --> 0:44:52.279
<v Speaker 3>If you make me feel like I'm the prettiest woman

0:44:52.360 --> 0:44:55.640
<v Speaker 3>on earth in your eyes, I will do absolutely anything

0:44:55.760 --> 0:44:58.760
<v Speaker 3>for you. The second we don't feel sexy for our partners,

0:44:58.920 --> 0:44:59.840
<v Speaker 3>Welcome to a dead.

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<v Speaker 1>Pat How do you make and what he said, how

0:45:02.280 --> 0:45:05.520
<v Speaker 1>do you how do you make a woman feel like

0:45:05.600 --> 0:45:07.799
<v Speaker 1>she's the prettiest girl in the world in your eye?

0:45:07.840 --> 0:45:09.919
<v Speaker 1>How does a man go about doing that? What could

0:45:09.960 --> 0:45:11.920
<v Speaker 1>possibly be done to That's why I want to hear

0:45:11.960 --> 0:45:13.480
<v Speaker 1>that liney Oh, I mean, I just.

0:45:13.520 --> 0:45:17.320
<v Speaker 2>Think telling telling a woman if you've noticed like something

0:45:17.360 --> 0:45:20.200
<v Speaker 2>about her, like it. It could be physical, it could

0:45:20.200 --> 0:45:22.320
<v Speaker 2>be even like something I saw you did this, and

0:45:22.400 --> 0:45:24.280
<v Speaker 2>that was really kind that you did that. Just a compliment,

0:45:24.360 --> 0:45:26.239
<v Speaker 2>I doesn't. I mean, I know they're saying pretty and

0:45:26.320 --> 0:45:28.600
<v Speaker 2>I get that too, but yeah, if you yeah, I

0:45:28.640 --> 0:45:30.600
<v Speaker 2>feel like an outfit, if you like a hairstyle, if

0:45:30.600 --> 0:45:32.840
<v Speaker 2>you like a lipstick color, if you like any of

0:45:32.920 --> 0:45:35.839
<v Speaker 2>that like that all like we I'll admit I fall

0:45:35.880 --> 0:45:38.040
<v Speaker 2>prey to that that. It feels good. And when you

0:45:38.120 --> 0:45:40.240
<v Speaker 2>feel good, you feel generous.

0:45:40.520 --> 0:45:42.400
<v Speaker 1>Everybody feel loves compliments. Everybody.

0:45:42.920 --> 0:45:43.600
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's true.

0:45:43.640 --> 0:45:46.680
<v Speaker 1>I love those ear rings you get the dangling Yeah,

0:45:46.760 --> 0:45:47.160
<v Speaker 1>those you have?

0:45:48.520 --> 0:45:49.279
<v Speaker 2>I got these from you.

0:45:51.040 --> 0:45:52.839
<v Speaker 1>The shirt's working too. I told you you had your

0:45:52.880 --> 0:45:57.520
<v Speaker 1>cowgirl thing going. Yeah, those are my favorite genes you're wearing.

0:45:57.680 --> 0:46:00.719
<v Speaker 2>I actually do know that. See so when I pulled

0:46:00.719 --> 0:46:03.120
<v Speaker 2>the jeans out, I'm like, I know, I know got

0:46:03.200 --> 0:46:08.399
<v Speaker 2>them that's funny. Now it works. See we're simple.

0:46:08.760 --> 0:46:13.040
<v Speaker 1>That is so funny. That's a setup. You pull these

0:46:13.120 --> 0:46:16.840
<v Speaker 1>out like, I can see you looking like a villain

0:46:16.920 --> 0:46:19.480
<v Speaker 1>in a movie. Like you will not be able to

0:46:19.600 --> 0:46:20.200
<v Speaker 1>VisiC these.

0:46:21.920 --> 0:46:22.560
<v Speaker 2>That's true.

0:46:22.800 --> 0:46:23.920
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, those are my favorites.

0:46:24.640 --> 0:46:25.279
<v Speaker 2>I wear them often.

0:46:25.400 --> 0:46:30.000
<v Speaker 1>Give me one of so you often are the prettiest

0:46:30.040 --> 0:46:33.840
<v Speaker 1>girl in the room. It goes one last than ask.

0:46:33.800 --> 0:46:37.800
<v Speaker 3>Them what they like sexually before trying things. Willy nilly.

0:46:38.160 --> 0:46:40.120
<v Speaker 3>Women are very different in what they like.

0:46:40.760 --> 0:46:41.960
<v Speaker 2>Oh, I just feel like that's awkward.

0:46:44.080 --> 0:46:47.400
<v Speaker 1>What it's awkward to have this conversation both on mis

0:46:47.800 --> 0:46:49.040
<v Speaker 1>yes but yes.

0:46:49.200 --> 0:46:51.160
<v Speaker 2>But also I don't know how much I want to

0:46:51.200 --> 0:46:53.239
<v Speaker 2>talk about sex before I have sex. We can have

0:46:53.360 --> 0:46:56.560
<v Speaker 2>like a post like, we can have like a like

0:46:56.719 --> 0:46:58.839
<v Speaker 2>we can talk about it afterwards, but like to talk

0:46:58.840 --> 0:47:01.520
<v Speaker 2>about it beforehand, Mike, feel very unsexy to me. I

0:47:01.560 --> 0:47:01.800
<v Speaker 2>don't know.

0:47:02.400 --> 0:47:04.600
<v Speaker 3>Well, this one is also kind of ties in don't

0:47:04.600 --> 0:47:08.040
<v Speaker 3>get too overtly sexual too early. It puts women off.

0:47:08.719 --> 0:47:10.880
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, because then you think you only want one thing, right,

0:47:10.960 --> 0:47:11.880
<v Speaker 2>I get that totally.

0:47:13.719 --> 0:47:16.360
<v Speaker 1>No, no, no, no, no, I'm just trying to understand

0:47:16.760 --> 0:47:22.000
<v Speaker 1>the dilemma here. I think I'm hearing that, right, you can't.

0:47:22.719 --> 0:47:24.600
<v Speaker 1>It's saying, a woman, I'll turn with you here. What

0:47:24.719 --> 0:47:27.839
<v Speaker 1>that sound like? It's saying you don't want you can't

0:47:27.960 --> 0:47:30.359
<v Speaker 1>just go trying all your freaky stuff out without us

0:47:30.440 --> 0:47:32.719
<v Speaker 1>having a discussion about it first. Is that what you're

0:47:32.719 --> 0:47:37.279
<v Speaker 1>saying the first one? That's what you're saying? Yeah, would

0:47:37.280 --> 0:47:38.560
<v Speaker 1>you agree that that's what? Well?

0:47:38.880 --> 0:47:41.040
<v Speaker 2>It depends, like how freaky are we talking? Like? I

0:47:41.120 --> 0:47:41.640
<v Speaker 2>don't even know?

0:47:41.800 --> 0:47:43.719
<v Speaker 1>Everybody has a difference, that's true.

0:47:43.960 --> 0:47:47.440
<v Speaker 2>I feel like if there is to be something really

0:47:47.560 --> 0:47:49.239
<v Speaker 2>out there, then yeah, there would need to be a

0:47:49.280 --> 0:47:51.440
<v Speaker 2>discussion ahead. But I also could just stop you, like

0:47:51.560 --> 0:47:54.080
<v Speaker 2>that's no, no, no, no, no, it's not happening.

0:47:55.280 --> 0:47:57.759
<v Speaker 1>You should have followed your first instinct and said that

0:47:57.880 --> 0:48:00.759
<v Speaker 1>was too awkward. It's awkward to follow that first.

0:48:01.040 --> 0:48:09.479
<v Speaker 2>But wait, would you say, I'm a it's awkward. Yeah.

0:48:09.800 --> 0:48:11.920
<v Speaker 2>I'd rather deal with that in the moment and then

0:48:11.920 --> 0:48:14.000
<v Speaker 2>talk about it later. I don't really want to talk

0:48:14.000 --> 0:48:14.279
<v Speaker 2>about it.

0:48:14.280 --> 0:48:17.279
<v Speaker 1>Ahead of time awkward? Yeah, But I don't know.

0:48:17.719 --> 0:48:19.680
<v Speaker 2>Talking about ahead of time feels really strange to me.

0:48:19.760 --> 0:48:21.440
<v Speaker 2>I mean, what are we what are the freaky things

0:48:21.480 --> 0:48:23.200
<v Speaker 2>we're talking about here? I don't even know.

0:48:26.200 --> 0:48:26.800
<v Speaker 1>Go right ahead.

0:48:28.560 --> 0:48:30.920
<v Speaker 2>No, I think awkward. Yeah, we should not.

0:48:31.160 --> 0:48:34.120
<v Speaker 1>But it makes a good point. What there are people

0:48:34.160 --> 0:48:37.160
<v Speaker 1>are into different things, and that's always a big moment

0:48:37.200 --> 0:48:40.640
<v Speaker 1>in anybody's relationship. Once you there's the first date, there's this,

0:48:40.840 --> 0:48:43.320
<v Speaker 1>you meet the parents, You have sects that these milestone

0:48:43.360 --> 0:48:45.160
<v Speaker 1>that is one of them is And I know a

0:48:45.200 --> 0:48:47.360
<v Speaker 1>lot of folks deal with that, but you can't. I

0:48:47.400 --> 0:48:49.800
<v Speaker 1>don't know. Everybody doesn't have the same That sounds like

0:48:49.880 --> 0:48:52.960
<v Speaker 1>a joke, but everybody doesn't have the same freakiness scale.

0:48:52.920 --> 0:48:53.239
<v Speaker 2>Right right.

0:48:53.440 --> 0:48:56.920
<v Speaker 1>This might be a normal weekend for you, and this

0:48:57.320 --> 0:49:03.200
<v Speaker 1>might be only on birthdays for you. You know, I

0:49:03.320 --> 0:49:06.000
<v Speaker 1>told you I was just say I can't. That's hilarious

0:49:06.280 --> 0:49:08.399
<v Speaker 1>to the point. It makes a good point. It makes

0:49:08.400 --> 0:49:08.759
<v Speaker 1>a good point.

0:49:09.080 --> 0:49:12.280
<v Speaker 2>Yes, it's I'm sure. Conversation is always good if necessary.

0:49:12.680 --> 0:49:13.920
<v Speaker 1>You want to end on that one, you want to

0:49:14.000 --> 0:49:16.200
<v Speaker 1>end on something one more.

0:49:16.239 --> 0:49:20.319
<v Speaker 2>One more, I'm pretty much done with them. You let

0:49:20.360 --> 0:49:21.479
<v Speaker 2>you say the best for last.

0:49:21.600 --> 0:49:22.760
<v Speaker 1>But it does ask.

0:49:22.680 --> 0:49:25.439
<v Speaker 3>Questions like men, what's something that you would want women

0:49:25.520 --> 0:49:27.640
<v Speaker 3>to know about you? So teach it what you want

0:49:27.719 --> 0:49:28.320
<v Speaker 3>amy to know.

0:49:28.719 --> 0:49:29.400
<v Speaker 2>Let's end on that.

0:49:29.600 --> 0:49:32.120
<v Speaker 1>I like that. On that, Yeah, I think this would

0:49:32.120 --> 0:49:38.279
<v Speaker 1>be very, very This is simple. We are simple, And

0:49:38.400 --> 0:49:42.200
<v Speaker 1>I say that and that you all. Often I find

0:49:42.560 --> 0:49:44.600
<v Speaker 1>in some experience and maybe this has happened with you

0:49:44.680 --> 0:49:50.120
<v Speaker 1>and your experience, that you hold us to your emotional

0:49:50.200 --> 0:49:53.799
<v Speaker 1>standard when things happen. So why isn't he more upset?

0:49:53.840 --> 0:49:55.719
<v Speaker 1>Why isn't he being like this? Why doesn't he want

0:49:55.719 --> 0:49:58.320
<v Speaker 1>to talk? Why doesn't that all these things? When sometimes

0:49:58.320 --> 0:50:00.680
<v Speaker 1>it's just nah, he says somethingiss off, we got a fight.

0:50:01.480 --> 0:50:02.640
<v Speaker 1>I don't need to talk to you about how that

0:50:02.719 --> 0:50:07.440
<v Speaker 1>makes me feel. Okay, he pissed me off, we got

0:50:07.480 --> 0:50:09.799
<v Speaker 1>into it, had some words. It's over. But there's there's

0:50:09.840 --> 0:50:12.400
<v Speaker 1>sometimes in the way we react and how we behave

0:50:12.600 --> 0:50:15.080
<v Speaker 1>that I think sometimes is I'm trying to think of

0:50:15.200 --> 0:50:17.200
<v Speaker 1>like a good example with you, but that was the

0:50:17.239 --> 0:50:18.120
<v Speaker 1>first thing came to my mind.

0:50:18.280 --> 0:50:21.400
<v Speaker 2>So you so you're saying you don't actually you truly

0:50:21.480 --> 0:50:24.200
<v Speaker 2>don't need to talk it out. You truly don't need

0:50:24.320 --> 0:50:28.280
<v Speaker 2>to think about how you're feeling, or you just choose

0:50:28.360 --> 0:50:29.960
<v Speaker 2>not to because it's better and easier.

0:50:30.239 --> 0:50:32.080
<v Speaker 1>Oh no, it's just kind of how we are. It's

0:50:32.160 --> 0:50:34.640
<v Speaker 1>I don't want to say it's right or wrong, but

0:50:34.719 --> 0:50:38.440
<v Speaker 1>I think it's okay, that we don't handle sometimes conflict

0:50:38.840 --> 0:50:42.560
<v Speaker 1>and the way you all do right, you come home right.

0:50:42.880 --> 0:50:45.080
<v Speaker 1>He was talking about it earlier with the talking right,

0:50:45.120 --> 0:50:47.160
<v Speaker 1>how long ninety minutes for you to explain the story?

0:50:47.200 --> 0:50:49.920
<v Speaker 1>It takes me thirty seconds? Right, that's okay. If I

0:50:50.000 --> 0:50:52.279
<v Speaker 1>only tell you about my day and it took me

0:50:52.920 --> 0:50:56.040
<v Speaker 1>sixty seconds, it's not because I'm holding back. That's that's

0:50:56.080 --> 0:50:57.840
<v Speaker 1>all I got. This is what happened. He came in,

0:50:58.120 --> 0:51:00.879
<v Speaker 1>pissed me off, a da dad, I went to lunch,

0:51:01.080 --> 0:51:04.799
<v Speaker 1>came back, done up at six in the morning, got

0:51:04.840 --> 0:51:05.360
<v Speaker 1>a meeting.

0:51:05.320 --> 0:51:07.279
<v Speaker 2>And we think, what's he not telling me?

0:51:07.600 --> 0:51:10.200
<v Speaker 1>That's that's it. Yeah, there might be more detailed. We

0:51:10.320 --> 0:51:12.880
<v Speaker 1>just don't need this that thing. It's like you you

0:51:12.920 --> 0:51:14.919
<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying, you'll feel it. What's wrong? Baby?

0:51:15.040 --> 0:51:17.480
<v Speaker 1>But what happened? Why did that make you feel? What

0:51:17.600 --> 0:51:18.000
<v Speaker 1>did not?

0:51:18.160 --> 0:51:18.200
<v Speaker 2>No?

0:51:18.840 --> 0:51:23.600
<v Speaker 1>It's over, yeah, time sinner, okay, all.

0:51:23.560 --> 0:51:25.040
<v Speaker 2>Right, so we're both simple.

0:51:25.120 --> 0:51:30.320
<v Speaker 1>Then he the only other woman in the room cackle

0:51:30.400 --> 0:51:32.480
<v Speaker 1>to hear you say that. So that's just lets you

0:51:32.680 --> 0:51:37.200
<v Speaker 1>know how everybody feels about that. Andy. We appreciate you

0:51:37.280 --> 0:51:39.000
<v Speaker 1>with the list as always, and we want to end

0:51:39.040 --> 0:51:42.480
<v Speaker 1>today by giving everybody a movie recommendation we have been watching.

0:51:42.560 --> 0:51:45.120
<v Speaker 1>We watched movies constantly, usually horror movies. We ended up

0:51:45.160 --> 0:51:48.400
<v Speaker 1>talking to Andy about this one. I forgot but if

0:51:48.440 --> 0:51:49.960
<v Speaker 1>you have not seen it yet, this is when you

0:51:50.160 --> 0:51:51.960
<v Speaker 1>turned me on to you said we need to watch it,

0:51:52.120 --> 0:51:56.839
<v Speaker 1>and we did, and I recommend it to everybody. Late

0:51:56.960 --> 0:52:00.320
<v Speaker 1>Night with the Devil. What is that acting name? I

0:52:00.360 --> 0:52:01.959
<v Speaker 1>can't remember his name, but you've seen him in plenty

0:52:02.000 --> 0:52:04.479
<v Speaker 1>of stuff. But if you need a good horror flick,

0:52:04.560 --> 0:52:07.240
<v Speaker 1>watch Late Night with the Devil. We'll start passing along

0:52:07.320 --> 0:52:11.040
<v Speaker 1>our are our recommendations for movies because we have a

0:52:11.080 --> 0:52:11.480
<v Speaker 1>lot of horror.

0:52:11.600 --> 0:52:13.920
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that one was under the radar for us, and

0:52:14.040 --> 0:52:15.680
<v Speaker 2>it was just kind of like, let's just see what

0:52:15.760 --> 0:52:18.400
<v Speaker 2>this is, and it was. I just appreciated the creativity,

0:52:18.800 --> 0:52:21.680
<v Speaker 2>the uniqueness of it, and then just the ending was

0:52:21.800 --> 0:52:22.640
<v Speaker 2>pretty spectacular.

0:52:22.760 --> 0:52:25.279
<v Speaker 1>It was great. So we'll leave you with that note

0:52:25.360 --> 0:52:26.960
<v Speaker 1>in that nugget, you got anything else for us? Andy

0:52:26.960 --> 0:52:29.759
<v Speaker 1>over there making sure we're good. Nope, all right, folks,

0:52:29.840 --> 0:52:31.800
<v Speaker 1>We appreciate you as always. You can find us the

0:52:31.840 --> 0:52:34.279
<v Speaker 1>official instagram. All of the show is at Amy and

0:52:34.480 --> 0:52:38.160
<v Speaker 1>TJ Podcast. You can find us on Instagram as well,

0:52:38.280 --> 0:52:42.000
<v Speaker 1>needs to get more active. We apologize speak.

0:52:42.040 --> 0:52:44.840
<v Speaker 2>We'll try to be more social, yes, But

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<v Speaker 1>Until then, folks, we'll see you