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Speaker 1: Hey there. In this episode, Robot and I work our

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Speaker 1: butts off to throw a party that we then weren't

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Speaker 1: the face on the streets of New York. Also, Rhodes

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Speaker 1: is now recruiting vampires for her beauty regimen. I was

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Speaker 1: and we have got our hands on the list of

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Speaker 1: things women want men to understand about them. That's all

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Speaker 1: in this episode of Amy and TJ robes here next

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Speaker 1: to me. We're gonna end with the list, but I'll start.

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Speaker 1: What would be the one thing you would say you

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Speaker 1: want women? Do you think women want men to know

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Speaker 1: and understand about them? You can make it personally if

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Speaker 1: you want.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Well, I mean I think what I think it's

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Speaker 2: so much easier. Men think we're so complex, But actually

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Speaker 2: we just want to feel safe and we want to

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Speaker 2: those go together. But it's really as simple as that.

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Speaker 2: If you if those two things are there, everything else

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Speaker 1: All are not complex.

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Speaker 2: I don't think we are. Hmm.

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Speaker 1: I didn't think you would say that you are very

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Speaker 1: You all are simple creatures that we have. We are

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Speaker 2: I was that what you're saying to insult men with that.

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Speaker 1: I think we felt it still. I think subtle as

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Speaker 2: I think men overthink things sometimes, kind of like no,

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Speaker 2: which is what I'm doing right now. Uh no, But

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Speaker 2: it wasn't meant.

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Speaker 1: No, No. It's a fun list that Andy Andy, our producer,

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Speaker 1: found the sentence that we're going to get into that

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Speaker 1: on the train and I'm meant and I'll say it here.

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Speaker 1: You have been in You are your best self today.

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Speaker 1: You are as delightful and upbeat and positive and pleasant

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Speaker 1: and you are just wonderful today.

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Speaker 2: Thank you. I appreciate that. I will say that we

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Speaker 2: have had a wonderful last few weeks, like just you know,

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Speaker 2: like you haven't had any bump. I don't. I'm going

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Speaker 2: it's been supportive. Uh, it's just been really good. So

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Speaker 2: I think that has created or attributed to my move.

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Speaker 1: I wanted you to finish that statement. You said, you

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Speaker 1: know you like talking to the listener. You know, when

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Speaker 1: you're in a relationship and everything's going just great. Really,

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Speaker 1: you probably lost a lot.

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Speaker 2: Of well no, but no, no matter where you are,

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Speaker 2: you remember a time when it was like, it doesn't last.

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Speaker 2: We all know it. It comes and goes, It comes

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Speaker 2: It's like you have everyone has moments where it's oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: Well you were and you were in you were on

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Speaker 1: trash talking and making fun of something you see, A

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Speaker 1: You were so joyful. I'm not even doing what I

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Speaker 2: I think she was like, Mom, you said you were

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Speaker 1: Okay, given the position I have, I didn't feel it

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Speaker 1: I didn't think that. I didn't think that was right.

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Speaker 1: But we did have a I mean, certainly. Third of

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Speaker 1: party was Friday with Thursday. We were bouncing all around

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Speaker 2: But it went off without a hitch, and we actually

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Speaker 1: Didn't think about it that way, but we did. We

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Speaker 2: Exactly, and that's when analy decided that was not cool

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Speaker 1: Well, but thank you all. That was fun. This turned

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Speaker 1: Do, and then this is what she does, y'all. She

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Speaker 1: Do you think it's all good? And plus I don't

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Speaker 2: I said, well, I thought you said this was my

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Speaker 1: Flipped really fast. But the movie was is Fall Guy,

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Speaker 1: Ryan Gosling, Emily Blunt wonderful? Both of these I love

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Speaker 2: Yes, so I sold it to you as and I

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Speaker 2: truly did believe it was kind of an action comedy, right,

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Speaker 1: there's some kind of weird Paul over the city.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and we were we were just in Soho with Sabine.

438
00:20:24,840 --> 00:20:27,919
Speaker 2: And a few days later, in again a beautiful seventy

439
00:20:28,000 --> 00:20:30,800
Speaker 2: five degree sunny day in New York City, a young man,

440
00:20:30,840 --> 00:20:32,800
Speaker 2: a sixteen year old is shot in the head right

441
00:20:32,840 --> 00:20:36,400
Speaker 2: outside of school and we were just there and uh yeah,

442
00:20:36,720 --> 00:20:38,280
Speaker 2: and at least my daughter. It was all the talk

443
00:20:38,320 --> 00:20:40,560
Speaker 2: obviously among the high schoolers because it was right near

444
00:20:40,640 --> 00:20:42,520
Speaker 2: one of her friend's schools. And it's just, yeah, it

445
00:20:42,640 --> 00:20:45,200
Speaker 2: just it feels like there's been a confluence of events

446
00:20:45,240 --> 00:20:47,960
Speaker 2: that are I don't know, just giving us some pause

447
00:20:48,080 --> 00:20:50,159
Speaker 2: and just you know, just another reminder to just be

448
00:20:50,240 --> 00:20:53,159
Speaker 2: aware and just to be again we've said this a lot,

449
00:20:53,240 --> 00:20:55,960
Speaker 2: but just to be kind and but also just to

450
00:20:56,040 --> 00:20:56,880
Speaker 2: have each other's backs.

451
00:20:57,440 --> 00:20:59,920
Speaker 1: And it is helping to get the Like I said,

452
00:21:00,000 --> 00:21:03,280
Speaker 1: any degree sunny day in New York, it's just it

453
00:21:03,440 --> 00:21:07,840
Speaker 1: changes everything, changes moods, and so New York has made

454
00:21:07,880 --> 00:21:12,480
Speaker 1: it through everything pretty much. Whatever happens this time around

455
00:21:12,520 --> 00:21:13,200
Speaker 1: New York will make it.

456
00:21:13,520 --> 00:21:15,720
Speaker 2: We had, you know, we had to explain our matching outfits. Though.

457
00:21:15,760 --> 00:21:17,439
Speaker 2: To em and Andy, when we came to the studio,

458
00:21:17,480 --> 00:21:19,600
Speaker 2: we were all biked up. We had our we had

459
00:21:19,720 --> 00:21:24,359
Speaker 2: our leather jackets on and our writing moods. And they're like, wow,

460
00:21:24,520 --> 00:21:26,480
Speaker 2: you guys look like like we walked off the set

461
00:21:26,480 --> 00:21:29,040
Speaker 2: of Greece or something. We were like, actually, there's a reason.

462
00:21:29,080 --> 00:21:30,879
Speaker 2: And we were totally going to ride up on the

463
00:21:30,920 --> 00:21:35,320
Speaker 2: motorcycle and uh thought otherwise with the traffic, better shave

464
00:21:35,400 --> 00:21:38,480
Speaker 2: pop because I need amazed there it is.

465
00:21:38,600 --> 00:21:39,360
Speaker 1: It doesn't take much.

466
00:21:40,000 --> 00:21:40,800
Speaker 2: He'll tell me about it.

467
00:21:42,600 --> 00:21:44,120
Speaker 1: Just give her a little, Just give her a little.

468
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Speaker 1: We have our hands on the list. We didn't get

469
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Speaker 1: our hands on it, but our wonderful producer Andy has

470
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Speaker 1: his hands on it. But and you said it came

471
00:22:01,359 --> 00:22:04,159
Speaker 1: from I think it was Reddit. But tell me the

472
00:22:04,280 --> 00:22:06,600
Speaker 1: name of the list again. So the name of the.

473
00:22:06,600 --> 00:22:09,800
Speaker 3: List is these are the things that women want men

474
00:22:10,040 --> 00:22:10,880
Speaker 3: to know about them.

475
00:22:11,119 --> 00:22:15,399
Speaker 1: Okay, that we haven't gone through the list. But we

476
00:22:15,480 --> 00:22:17,360
Speaker 1: love when he does this with us because we learned.

477
00:22:17,400 --> 00:22:19,600
Speaker 1: We end up learning something about ourselves, learning something about

478
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Speaker 1: our relationship. I think a lot of the folks might too.

479
00:22:21,680 --> 00:22:23,920
Speaker 1: But you always curious to know what other people think

480
00:22:24,000 --> 00:22:29,480
Speaker 1: so things that women wish we knew about them. What

481
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Speaker 1: was the one you gave me at the tip You

482
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Speaker 1: told me you wish Oh you think were You're not

483
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Speaker 1: as complex as we think you are. We make it.

484
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Speaker 2: Yes, I wish you knew this. I mean I wish

485
00:22:37,359 --> 00:22:40,560
Speaker 2: men just it actually doesn't take much to make us happy.

486
00:22:41,040 --> 00:22:42,040
Speaker 2: That was kind of my point.

487
00:22:42,760 --> 00:22:43,639
Speaker 1: You sure about that?

488
00:22:43,880 --> 00:22:44,040
Speaker 3: Yes?

489
00:22:45,080 --> 00:22:48,280
Speaker 1: Oh okay, hold that list for just a second. Andy.

490
00:22:50,760 --> 00:22:53,720
Speaker 1: It so easy to make you all happy by just

491
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Speaker 1: simply doing exactly what you tell us.

492
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Speaker 2: It's oh my gosh, yep, there you go that. Yep,

493
00:23:03,119 --> 00:23:04,840
Speaker 2: if you if you listen, we'll tell you what we

494
00:23:04,920 --> 00:23:08,760
Speaker 2: want and over and over again.

495
00:23:08,880 --> 00:23:09,920
Speaker 1: Oh, because we don't get it.

496
00:23:13,640 --> 00:23:15,200
Speaker 2: I don't think you want to get it. You're like,

497
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Speaker 2: YadA YadA. Yeah, it's called selective.

498
00:23:17,240 --> 00:23:18,399
Speaker 1: Can we just be different?

499
00:23:18,760 --> 00:23:18,920
Speaker 2: Yes?

500
00:23:19,040 --> 00:23:21,280
Speaker 1: You can? Or were we just I played this clip

501
00:23:21,359 --> 00:23:23,560
Speaker 1: for you before we left, he did. Sometimes it's not

502
00:23:24,080 --> 00:23:28,879
Speaker 1: it's emotion. Sometimes we don't take into account. Emotions have

503
00:23:29,040 --> 00:23:31,320
Speaker 1: to do in your storytelling what you think, what you

504
00:23:31,400 --> 00:23:34,119
Speaker 1: want at the time, and we don't factor that in sometimes.

505
00:23:34,359 --> 00:23:36,800
Speaker 2: So it's kind of what I was saying, it's how

506
00:23:36,840 --> 00:23:39,879
Speaker 2: we feel right. We're emotional, as you put it, and

507
00:23:39,960 --> 00:23:43,600
Speaker 2: we are completely and so to feel loved is to

508
00:23:43,680 --> 00:23:47,200
Speaker 2: feel safe and then to feel happy, like to be

509
00:23:47,280 --> 00:23:50,760
Speaker 2: able to express there's just it. But it's about our feelings.

510
00:23:50,840 --> 00:23:54,639
Speaker 2: Like it's less about the logistics or the logic or

511
00:23:54,720 --> 00:23:59,960
Speaker 2: the you know, it's not it's not black and white.

512
00:24:00,160 --> 00:24:02,600
Speaker 2: It's just it's it's the feeling.

513
00:24:02,960 --> 00:24:07,600
Speaker 1: It sounds sounds complex, doesn't it. You hear this answer?

514
00:24:07,760 --> 00:24:10,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, it actually ties in really well with one

515
00:24:10,880 --> 00:24:11,280
Speaker 3: of the things.

516
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Speaker 1: All right, you take us away on the list.

517
00:24:13,040 --> 00:24:16,760
Speaker 3: It says something that this person learned from their wife

518
00:24:16,800 --> 00:24:19,639
Speaker 3: of nineteen years was to be an active listener. We

519
00:24:19,840 --> 00:24:23,000
Speaker 3: guys can sum up our day in two sentences or less,

520
00:24:23,320 --> 00:24:24,520
Speaker 3: give her ninety minutes.

521
00:24:26,280 --> 00:24:29,000
Speaker 2: That is so true, because I just want to tell

522
00:24:29,000 --> 00:24:30,960
Speaker 2: you all the details and how I felt along the way.

523
00:24:32,720 --> 00:24:35,680
Speaker 1: Now do do you find is it the understanding that

524
00:24:35,760 --> 00:24:38,720
Speaker 1: most times men don't often have the patience for it.

525
00:24:39,520 --> 00:24:42,000
Speaker 1: It's not that they don't maybe love the person, the

526
00:24:42,040 --> 00:24:44,080
Speaker 1: woman that they're with, it's just is that really a

527
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Speaker 1: matter of a difference in men and women?

528
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Speaker 2: And well, I think you would have to tell me

529
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Speaker 2: that because I think women when we talk. You hear

530
00:24:50,440 --> 00:24:52,800
Speaker 2: me talking with my friends or my mom or my daughters,

531
00:24:53,200 --> 00:24:55,440
Speaker 2: and you're like, oh yeah, yeah, you have to walk

532
00:24:55,440 --> 00:24:57,320
Speaker 2: out of the room. It's just the details are just

533
00:24:57,480 --> 00:25:01,160
Speaker 2: like burying you with details and feeling. So I do think,

534
00:25:01,280 --> 00:25:04,600
Speaker 2: but yes, would that I would believe is probably true.

535
00:25:06,560 --> 00:25:09,160
Speaker 1: I don't you know. Active listening is a big deal.

536
00:25:10,280 --> 00:25:13,480
Speaker 1: I've learned that and it helped me in it's on

537
00:25:13,680 --> 00:25:16,920
Speaker 1: you know what it helps in our jobs. When you

538
00:25:17,080 --> 00:25:21,199
Speaker 1: interview someone, you could miss the most important thing if

539
00:25:21,240 --> 00:25:23,800
Speaker 1: you're if you're thinking about your next question instead of

540
00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:26,919
Speaker 1: listening to their current answer, you're gonna make a mistake.

541
00:25:27,520 --> 00:25:30,880
Speaker 1: So fella's out there, that's my recommendation, treader like she's

542
00:25:30,880 --> 00:25:37,919
Speaker 1: an Interviewee, I'm kidding obviously.

543
00:25:38,160 --> 00:25:40,879
Speaker 2: Hey, I mean sometimes strategy like that is good and

544
00:25:40,960 --> 00:25:42,560
Speaker 2: then you put it into practice and then all of

545
00:25:42,600 --> 00:25:44,960
Speaker 2: a sudden it's not something you even have to think about.

546
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Speaker 1: How do we do on that? Then you and I.

547
00:25:47,840 --> 00:25:51,520
Speaker 2: You actually in a way I think listen too intently

548
00:25:51,680 --> 00:25:53,840
Speaker 2: and I'm like damn, And then you can bring it

549
00:25:53,920 --> 00:25:56,000
Speaker 2: back up like two weeks later, like, well you know

550
00:25:56,119 --> 00:25:59,760
Speaker 2: you did say no, you listen really well? Almost too.

551
00:26:00,119 --> 00:26:00,800
Speaker 2: I would argue.

552
00:26:01,720 --> 00:26:04,520
Speaker 1: So now you need me to back it off trying

553
00:26:04,520 --> 00:26:05,160
Speaker 1: to thread the needle.

554
00:26:06,680 --> 00:26:08,560
Speaker 2: I told you we're very simple, very simple.

555
00:26:08,720 --> 00:26:09,880
Speaker 1: Well, let's tell us on the list.

556
00:26:10,720 --> 00:26:14,119
Speaker 3: More often than not, women like to have a little rant.

557
00:26:14,240 --> 00:26:15,959
Speaker 3: They're not looking for solutions.

558
00:26:16,560 --> 00:26:20,960
Speaker 2: Yes, we don't need you to fix it necessarily unless

559
00:26:20,960 --> 00:26:21,440
Speaker 2: we ask you to.

560
00:26:23,320 --> 00:26:27,280
Speaker 1: Let's see fast too, and when you ask you, damn

561
00:26:27,359 --> 00:26:32,480
Speaker 1: sure better get it fixed and fixed fast. Now that

562
00:26:32,800 --> 00:26:36,720
Speaker 1: I do get. But it's so hard for us to program,

563
00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:40,320
Speaker 1: to reprogram ourselves out of that because we are solutions

564
00:26:40,440 --> 00:26:43,320
Speaker 1: or yet here's the problem, here's a solution, let's fix it.

565
00:26:44,119 --> 00:26:48,439
Speaker 1: And so yeah, that is you have to train ourselves. Okay, wait,

566
00:26:48,480 --> 00:26:49,440
Speaker 1: you got a problem with who we work?

567
00:26:49,440 --> 00:26:49,679
Speaker 2: All right?

568
00:26:49,680 --> 00:26:51,600
Speaker 1: What we're gonna do? All right? Just just call a

569
00:26:51,760 --> 00:26:53,840
Speaker 1: set an email. You can't handle it tomorrow, that's us.

570
00:26:54,359 --> 00:26:56,760
Speaker 1: You all just need to hear us. No, you don't understand.

571
00:26:57,040 --> 00:26:59,720
Speaker 1: She was wearing the same color I was wearing on

572
00:26:59,800 --> 00:27:02,200
Speaker 1: the day. She knows I wear that collar like we don't.

573
00:27:02,680 --> 00:27:05,520
Speaker 2: Sometimes we just want you to say, yeah, that must

574
00:27:05,560 --> 00:27:08,720
Speaker 2: have been hard, okay, and that's it.

575
00:27:09,600 --> 00:27:12,480
Speaker 1: I have learned that with you because you will talk

576
00:27:12,520 --> 00:27:15,399
Speaker 1: talk talk talk, talk talk, talk talk talk, and I

577
00:27:15,480 --> 00:27:18,480
Speaker 1: will listen. I don't necessarily have anything to contribute, but

578
00:27:18,560 --> 00:27:20,480
Speaker 1: you want to know that I was listening. Yes I do.

579
00:27:20,680 --> 00:27:23,000
Speaker 1: So I have gone got some go tos because I have.

580
00:27:23,280 --> 00:27:23,760
Speaker 1: I told you.

581
00:27:23,880 --> 00:27:26,560
Speaker 2: I was like, sometimes when you don't respond to what

582
00:27:26,680 --> 00:27:28,920
Speaker 2: I just told you, it hurts my feelings.

583
00:27:29,640 --> 00:27:37,800
Speaker 1: So then now you you do what hmm or I see.

584
00:27:41,119 --> 00:27:41,600
Speaker 2: Exactly.

585
00:27:42,480 --> 00:27:42,720
Speaker 1: Ah.

586
00:27:44,160 --> 00:27:46,760
Speaker 2: So it doesn't necessarily make me feel better, but that

587
00:27:46,880 --> 00:27:48,600
Speaker 2: does make me laugh, and then I'm fine.

588
00:27:50,000 --> 00:27:51,840
Speaker 1: But here's the thing. I do it on everything now, y'all.

589
00:27:51,920 --> 00:27:54,439
Speaker 1: She could just say, man, it is hot out here.

590
00:27:55,640 --> 00:27:56,280
Speaker 1: I feel it too.

591
00:27:56,680 --> 00:27:59,760
Speaker 2: I just doesn't matter because I would say like, oh

592
00:27:59,800 --> 00:28:02,080
Speaker 2: my god, you know, look at that building right there.

593
00:28:02,160 --> 00:28:04,560
Speaker 2: It looks so cool, and you just wouldn't respond. I

594
00:28:04,640 --> 00:28:08,760
Speaker 2: was like, can you say something so now, youth.

595
00:28:08,880 --> 00:28:15,480
Speaker 4: Wow, indeed, indeed, I love indeed, indeeds ago, indeed or absolutely,

596
00:28:17,400 --> 00:28:19,280
Speaker 4: And then I know that I'm talking too much.

597
00:28:20,280 --> 00:28:21,960
Speaker 1: Maybe we failed on that one. What else you get?

598
00:28:22,000 --> 00:28:24,399
Speaker 3: And another one that women want men to know is

599
00:28:24,480 --> 00:28:27,920
Speaker 3: that we are beyond annoyed when men yell at traffic

600
00:28:28,119 --> 00:28:31,040
Speaker 3: or go on and on yelling at the television during sports.

601
00:28:31,600 --> 00:28:34,040
Speaker 3: The only person who can hear you yelling is us

602
00:28:34,400 --> 00:28:37,560
Speaker 3: and we hate it. Keep that to a minimum, and

603
00:28:37,720 --> 00:28:41,120
Speaker 3: then if you must continue your pointless rant in your head.

604
00:28:41,400 --> 00:28:43,800
Speaker 2: So I have to give TJ complete props on this.

605
00:28:44,040 --> 00:28:46,800
Speaker 2: You do not do it, and it is remarkable, and

606
00:28:46,880 --> 00:28:49,480
Speaker 2: I have noted it and noticed it and been kind

607
00:28:49,520 --> 00:28:54,000
Speaker 2: of like, I'm amazed by it. You might be one

608
00:28:54,080 --> 00:28:55,880
Speaker 2: of the only men I have ever met who does

609
00:28:55,960 --> 00:28:57,920
Speaker 2: not do any of those things. You do not. You

610
00:28:57,960 --> 00:29:01,200
Speaker 2: do not lose your cool, You do not rant at

611
00:29:01,800 --> 00:29:04,920
Speaker 2: I'm the one who will yell at traffic. I know

612
00:29:05,120 --> 00:29:06,960
Speaker 2: and I need and I need to do better at that.

613
00:29:07,240 --> 00:29:08,960
Speaker 1: What was the last part of that. Did it say

614
00:29:10,960 --> 00:29:12,480
Speaker 1: no one can hear you? What was that you said?

615
00:29:12,800 --> 00:29:15,200
Speaker 3: It says, keep it to a minimum, and then if

616
00:29:15,240 --> 00:29:16,880
Speaker 3: you must continue your rant in your head.

617
00:29:17,040 --> 00:29:19,800
Speaker 1: Okay, I wrote that to you.

618
00:29:20,120 --> 00:29:22,160
Speaker 2: Yes, I would agree. That would apply more to me

619
00:29:22,240 --> 00:29:23,560
Speaker 2: than to you. I agree with you.

620
00:29:24,080 --> 00:29:27,160
Speaker 1: The traffic, I get hot, it's rough.

621
00:29:27,280 --> 00:29:30,200
Speaker 2: I know I need to do better. That's funny.

622
00:29:30,280 --> 00:29:32,840
Speaker 1: That was me, not you, but the TV. It's how

623
00:29:33,080 --> 00:29:35,440
Speaker 1: much This is how you know you've been yelling at

624
00:29:35,480 --> 00:29:37,800
Speaker 1: the TV too much? When you just all of a

625
00:29:37,840 --> 00:29:40,640
Speaker 1: sudden look up and go, oh, because I have paused

626
00:29:40,720 --> 00:29:42,920
Speaker 1: the show because I can't hear a damn thing on it,

627
00:29:42,960 --> 00:29:45,080
Speaker 1: because you've been talking the whole time.

628
00:29:45,240 --> 00:29:49,040
Speaker 2: It's not necessarily a rant. I'm just like, I'm announcing

629
00:29:49,080 --> 00:29:56,160
Speaker 2: all the things I'm observing while I'm watching, and then.

630
00:29:56,040 --> 00:30:00,040
Speaker 1: You will pause it, like, but you're ranting about he

631
00:30:00,040 --> 00:30:03,080
Speaker 1: doesn't even like him. He was he was just over

632
00:30:03,200 --> 00:30:06,600
Speaker 1: there with the blonde two days ago. Now he's all

633
00:30:06,720 --> 00:30:10,440
Speaker 1: up in. I'm like, what happened? Okay, Yes, that's you.

634
00:30:10,600 --> 00:30:13,240
Speaker 1: That's right. Thing, that is true? Okay, wow we are

635
00:30:13,360 --> 00:30:14,640
Speaker 1: We are not doing so good on this lib.

636
00:30:15,520 --> 00:30:19,000
Speaker 3: The next one is women are all different people, So

637
00:30:19,080 --> 00:30:22,480
Speaker 3: if you note something about one woman, do not automatically

638
00:30:22,560 --> 00:30:24,560
Speaker 3: assume that to be true for all women.

639
00:30:25,680 --> 00:30:27,320
Speaker 2: Maybe all women aren't emotional TJ.

640
00:30:29,720 --> 00:30:38,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's out there somewhere. I'm trying. Do you know

641
00:30:38,120 --> 00:30:41,120
Speaker 1: women in your life that you would say don't carry

642
00:30:41,120 --> 00:30:44,760
Speaker 1: their emotions or not emotion lets everybody's emotions, but wouldn't

643
00:30:44,760 --> 00:30:47,680
Speaker 1: fit into whatever category. Sometimes women are put into a

644
00:30:47,760 --> 00:30:49,240
Speaker 1: being emotional beings.

645
00:30:49,480 --> 00:30:52,280
Speaker 2: I'm sure they're out there, and some are more than others, obviously,

646
00:30:52,400 --> 00:30:54,360
Speaker 2: but I think most of us. I'm going to speak

647
00:30:54,400 --> 00:30:56,160
Speaker 2: for the tribe here. I think most of us are

648
00:30:56,560 --> 00:31:00,640
Speaker 2: lead a lot of our thoughts and our decisions through

649
00:31:00,720 --> 00:31:05,480
Speaker 2: and because of emotions. For sure, I actually think I'm

650
00:31:05,880 --> 00:31:08,640
Speaker 2: a fairly logical person, but yes, I have emotion clouding

651
00:31:08,720 --> 00:31:12,320
Speaker 2: that all the time. But but I think most of

652
00:31:12,400 --> 00:31:14,960
Speaker 2: us are like that. You can't generalize everyone, but I don't.

653
00:31:15,000 --> 00:31:17,320
Speaker 2: I don't feel like you are somebody who generalizes people.

654
00:31:17,680 --> 00:31:19,760
Speaker 1: I mean people is the way to put it. I

655
00:31:19,760 --> 00:31:21,600
Speaker 1: don't think you can do that with anybody. Any experience

656
00:31:21,680 --> 00:31:24,000
Speaker 1: you've had with this person, you can't assume that just

657
00:31:24,080 --> 00:31:28,040
Speaker 1: because they are whatever, a certain race, a certain gender,

658
00:31:28,240 --> 00:31:30,240
Speaker 1: that they are going to be like some Yeah that's

659
00:31:30,280 --> 00:31:31,600
Speaker 1: a and.

660
00:31:31,640 --> 00:31:32,560
Speaker 2: I think you're pretty good at that.

661
00:31:32,560 --> 00:31:35,440
Speaker 1: You're pretty good that. What's the danger zone? All right?

662
00:31:35,520 --> 00:31:38,440
Speaker 3: This next one is women prefer to be called beautiful

663
00:31:38,560 --> 00:31:42,640
Speaker 3: over hot. Calling us beautiful is elegant rather than calling

664
00:31:42,720 --> 00:31:43,920
Speaker 3: us hot or sexy.

665
00:31:44,600 --> 00:31:45,880
Speaker 2: I think it depends on who's saying it.

666
00:31:46,200 --> 00:31:47,520
Speaker 1: And I was about to say it depends on where

667
00:31:47,560 --> 00:31:48,040
Speaker 1: it's being said.

668
00:31:51,000 --> 00:31:54,120
Speaker 2: Yes, all true.

669
00:31:54,200 --> 00:31:57,440
Speaker 1: We need to break this one down with it. Nobody

670
00:31:57,640 --> 00:32:02,360
Speaker 1: wants to if it's someone you know, right in relationship

671
00:32:02,400 --> 00:32:05,240
Speaker 1: with you, I called you, call you beautiful. You look great,

672
00:32:05,640 --> 00:32:08,280
Speaker 1: that's gorgeous. But every once in a while, you put

673
00:32:08,360 --> 00:32:11,200
Speaker 1: on a certain dress, certain heels, and you're feeling a

674
00:32:11,280 --> 00:32:14,320
Speaker 1: certain way, and I think it. No, I'm not going

675
00:32:14,400 --> 00:32:17,240
Speaker 1: to speak for you, but in that situation, it seems

676
00:32:17,320 --> 00:32:22,760
Speaker 1: like a saying sexy or hot wouldn't be Unwell.

677
00:32:22,680 --> 00:32:26,160
Speaker 2: Yes, I agree, and coming from you one hundred percent. Now,

678
00:32:26,240 --> 00:32:29,200
Speaker 2: if you only said that, that would feel weird, But

679
00:32:29,400 --> 00:32:31,880
Speaker 2: you don't. I mean, I think women no one wants

680
00:32:31,880 --> 00:32:34,200
Speaker 2: to be over sexualized. But yeah, to have your boyfriend

681
00:32:34,320 --> 00:32:36,880
Speaker 2: or your husband or the guy who you're into say

682
00:32:37,160 --> 00:32:39,120
Speaker 2: that an outfit makes you look hot or sexy, I

683
00:32:39,200 --> 00:32:41,400
Speaker 2: have a zero problem with that. Now, do I want

684
00:32:41,400 --> 00:32:42,840
Speaker 2: a guy on the street saying that to me?

685
00:32:43,160 --> 00:32:46,120
Speaker 1: No, okay, But the guy on the street saying you

686
00:32:46,200 --> 00:32:49,440
Speaker 1: look beautiful? Is it's still a compliment about your physical appearance.

687
00:32:49,480 --> 00:32:51,520
Speaker 1: But are you taking one better than the other?

688
00:32:51,800 --> 00:32:54,960
Speaker 2: Yeah? Yes, well I do think so. I've talked about this,

689
00:32:55,200 --> 00:32:56,800
Speaker 2: and I've talked to my daughters about this. I know

690
00:32:56,880 --> 00:32:58,720
Speaker 2: it's a huge problem, especially here in this city, with

691
00:32:58,800 --> 00:33:02,720
Speaker 2: cat calling and you know, unwanted attention from men whistling

692
00:33:02,800 --> 00:33:05,040
Speaker 2: or saying derogatory things and even if they're saying, hey, baby,

693
00:33:05,080 --> 00:33:08,280
Speaker 2: you look great. You know I I don't like that,

694
00:33:08,480 --> 00:33:10,320
Speaker 2: but I've joked with them and I was like, just

695
00:33:10,440 --> 00:33:12,680
Speaker 2: wait till you turn forty, and then if someone says

696
00:33:12,680 --> 00:33:15,440
Speaker 2: you look beautiful, you're like thank you. Like it's a

697
00:33:15,720 --> 00:33:19,800
Speaker 2: very different experience. And I'm not encouraging cat calling. And

698
00:33:19,880 --> 00:33:21,880
Speaker 2: I know that it's derogatory and I get it. My

699
00:33:22,040 --> 00:33:24,520
Speaker 2: my daughters both have complained about it, and understandably so,

700
00:33:24,840 --> 00:33:25,840
Speaker 2: but I've just teased them.

701
00:33:25,920 --> 00:33:29,040
Speaker 1: I was like, I hear you, but just just wait,

702
00:33:29,320 --> 00:33:31,120
Speaker 1: are you telling me that? Then I hear that, right,

703
00:33:31,240 --> 00:33:34,320
Speaker 1: that cat calling at some point can feel good at

704
00:33:34,320 --> 00:33:37,080
Speaker 1: a certain age if you're not getting those compliments that often.

705
00:33:37,160 --> 00:33:39,120
Speaker 2: I mean, cause it's to me, it's silly, Like I

706
00:33:39,240 --> 00:33:42,360
Speaker 2: get it. I'm like, I I yes, I am saying

707
00:33:42,360 --> 00:33:43,960
Speaker 2: that to an extent. I mean, it depends on what

708
00:33:44,040 --> 00:33:46,360
Speaker 2: they said. But if someone wants to say, wow, you're gorgeous,

709
00:33:46,400 --> 00:33:49,680
Speaker 2: I'm I'm all about saying thank you and continuing to walk.

710
00:33:50,120 --> 00:33:52,520
Speaker 2: But some people, some women find that offensive, and that's

711
00:33:52,680 --> 00:33:55,160
Speaker 2: I get that. It depends on what the motive is.

712
00:33:55,240 --> 00:33:56,840
Speaker 2: And you can tell from the guy if he's just

713
00:33:56,920 --> 00:34:01,160
Speaker 2: being a jerk and you know, but it's genuinely say like, well,

714
00:34:01,320 --> 00:34:03,120
Speaker 2: just to pay you a compliment. I have no problem

715
00:34:03,200 --> 00:34:05,520
Speaker 2: with that, But if they're saying it to I don't know,

716
00:34:05,640 --> 00:34:08,759
Speaker 2: make you feel like like you're a sexualized being for

717
00:34:08,880 --> 00:34:10,560
Speaker 2: no reason other than you're just trying to go to work,

718
00:34:10,640 --> 00:34:11,239
Speaker 2: that's not okay.

719
00:34:11,400 --> 00:34:14,359
Speaker 1: How many is cat calling in New York?

720
00:34:14,840 --> 00:34:17,200
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah, I mean Anna Alice will tell me

721
00:34:17,239 --> 00:34:19,200
Speaker 2: it's one of the This is kind of crazy, but

722
00:34:19,320 --> 00:34:21,879
Speaker 2: when she said it, it made sense. She said when

723
00:34:22,000 --> 00:34:23,920
Speaker 2: she gets the most cat calls and gets the most

724
00:34:24,000 --> 00:34:26,520
Speaker 2: upset when she's on her city bike because you're going

725
00:34:26,600 --> 00:34:28,480
Speaker 2: by quickly, so they feel like they can shout things

726
00:34:28,520 --> 00:34:30,560
Speaker 2: at you, and then you won't actually get mad at

727
00:34:30,600 --> 00:34:32,760
Speaker 2: them or turn around because you're having to focus on biking.

728
00:34:33,160 --> 00:34:36,000
Speaker 2: But she told me she gets the most like disgusting

729
00:34:36,080 --> 00:34:38,160
Speaker 2: comments thrown at her when she's on a bike because

730
00:34:38,160 --> 00:34:39,719
Speaker 2: they can see her and they can call it out,

731
00:34:40,040 --> 00:34:42,480
Speaker 2: but it's it's not as embarrassing for them, maybe because

732
00:34:42,520 --> 00:34:43,279
Speaker 2: it's not a slow walk.

733
00:34:43,440 --> 00:34:48,400
Speaker 1: What is the point just woman flying by on a

734
00:34:48,640 --> 00:34:52,080
Speaker 1: powered city bike? I say powered because they go faster.

735
00:34:52,239 --> 00:34:53,080
Speaker 1: Now she's flying.

736
00:34:53,080 --> 00:34:54,600
Speaker 2: You would have to ask a man. I don't know

737
00:34:54,640 --> 00:34:55,399
Speaker 2: why that would be fun?

738
00:34:55,640 --> 00:34:56,640
Speaker 1: Are good? Fun good?

739
00:34:57,880 --> 00:35:01,880
Speaker 2: It makes them feel powerful. They're like objectifying you and

740
00:35:01,960 --> 00:35:03,960
Speaker 2: they feel like they're in a position to judge. I

741
00:35:04,000 --> 00:35:05,680
Speaker 2: don't know, but they're not going to get a date

742
00:35:05,760 --> 00:35:08,680
Speaker 2: out of the issues. I cannot imagine that ever happening

743
00:35:08,719 --> 00:35:10,680
Speaker 2: in any instance. But there must be some power thing

744
00:35:10,840 --> 00:35:12,080
Speaker 2: that they feel when they do that.

745
00:35:12,320 --> 00:35:14,920
Speaker 1: I don't know, so I can't remember what comedian it was.

746
00:35:15,000 --> 00:35:16,799
Speaker 1: It's like the stupidest thing in the world to try

747
00:35:16,840 --> 00:35:23,720
Speaker 1: to yell at a moving target, like, yeah.

748
00:35:23,520 --> 00:35:25,440
Speaker 2: They're not even asking for their number, Like they're just

749
00:35:26,160 --> 00:35:30,680
Speaker 2: commenting on body parts, et cetera. Like that's not okay. Yeah, yeah,

750
00:35:30,880 --> 00:35:32,400
Speaker 2: they get bored, all right?

751
00:35:32,440 --> 00:35:35,520
Speaker 1: Yes, what are we up to now? How many? Yeah?

752
00:35:35,880 --> 00:35:37,560
Speaker 3: The next thing women want meant to know is how

753
00:35:37,719 --> 00:35:41,200
Speaker 3: important our menstrual cycles are and how they affect us.

754
00:35:41,440 --> 00:35:44,120
Speaker 3: For example, we can be very different physically and mentally

755
00:35:44,200 --> 00:35:46,720
Speaker 3: during the ovulation period and in the pre menstrual period.

756
00:35:46,920 --> 00:35:49,120
Speaker 3: I educated my boyfriend on it, and since then he

757
00:35:49,160 --> 00:35:51,120
Speaker 3: has helped me to cope with these fluctuations.

758
00:35:51,280 --> 00:35:52,080
Speaker 1: We can skip this one.

759
00:35:54,480 --> 00:35:57,319
Speaker 2: We've only been together in my medically induced menopause. Yes,

760
00:35:57,400 --> 00:35:58,480
Speaker 2: so we've never had to deal with that.

761
00:35:58,760 --> 00:36:00,239
Speaker 1: That's why I say I wasn't just trying to skip

762
00:36:00,320 --> 00:36:02,880
Speaker 1: the topic. Is just stuff no interest to me currently

763
00:36:03,239 --> 00:36:03,600
Speaker 1: are but.

764
00:36:03,680 --> 00:36:05,400
Speaker 2: You are going to have to be dealing with that

765
00:36:05,960 --> 00:36:06,840
Speaker 2: soon as a fought with.

766
00:36:07,520 --> 00:36:11,360
Speaker 1: Sabine, Yes of course, but well we'll come up with

767
00:36:11,440 --> 00:36:14,160
Speaker 1: a different lists on that day. But until then, this

768
00:36:14,440 --> 00:36:15,600
Speaker 1: is not something we deal with.

769
00:36:17,000 --> 00:36:19,040
Speaker 2: What it's a mood point it is.

770
00:36:21,239 --> 00:36:23,359
Speaker 3: The next one is women don't want to be your

771
00:36:23,440 --> 00:36:24,520
Speaker 3: mommy or your maid.

772
00:36:25,280 --> 00:36:29,680
Speaker 2: Oh and honestly, you're coming out of this smelling like roses,

773
00:36:29,800 --> 00:36:33,000
Speaker 2: because yes, because you are. And I've told you this

774
00:36:33,200 --> 00:36:35,560
Speaker 2: is one of the many things I'm super attracted to

775
00:36:35,600 --> 00:36:40,080
Speaker 2: you about is that you are so clean and organized

776
00:36:40,160 --> 00:36:42,600
Speaker 2: and self sufficient. You make your own like not only

777
00:36:42,680 --> 00:36:44,359
Speaker 2: do you make your own food, but you make food

778
00:36:44,440 --> 00:36:47,960
Speaker 2: better than I can, and for everyone. You clean up

779
00:36:48,200 --> 00:36:51,080
Speaker 2: the food that you make. You are constantly folding laundry

780
00:36:51,120 --> 00:36:54,279
Speaker 2: and doing laundry. You were just scrubbing a bathtub this morning,

781
00:36:54,800 --> 00:36:59,600
Speaker 2: and I mean, I am so impressed laundry. I'm telling you,

782
00:37:00,040 --> 00:37:01,840
Speaker 2: is it okay to call you sexy and hot? Because

783
00:37:02,120 --> 00:37:04,920
Speaker 2: to me, that is a very very sexy thing. Like

784
00:37:05,000 --> 00:37:07,760
Speaker 2: what a man just takes it on and doesn't expect

785
00:37:07,760 --> 00:37:10,680
Speaker 2: anyone to do anything for him. And I really think

786
00:37:10,760 --> 00:37:12,280
Speaker 2: that is like super sexy.

787
00:37:12,440 --> 00:37:16,960
Speaker 1: How about this? I think most guys, yes, that's a

788
00:37:17,000 --> 00:37:19,520
Speaker 1: compliment to be called sexy. To be called sexy for

789
00:37:19,640 --> 00:37:23,680
Speaker 1: your laundry folding ability is not It's not gonna be

790
00:37:23,719 --> 00:37:28,120
Speaker 1: high up there for us robes. And that's okay. If

791
00:37:28,680 --> 00:37:32,319
Speaker 1: if it's a super hot guy who's doing laundry, cool,

792
00:37:32,440 --> 00:37:34,680
Speaker 1: I know she still likes my body. Yeah, But if

793
00:37:34,719 --> 00:37:39,320
Speaker 1: it's still regular Joe and a woman gets asd what

794
00:37:39,480 --> 00:37:43,080
Speaker 1: do you love about your regular Joe man, he really

795
00:37:43,239 --> 00:37:46,480
Speaker 1: knows how to use that downy. I mean that's not

796
00:37:46,600 --> 00:37:47,600
Speaker 1: gonna make him feel good.

797
00:37:47,800 --> 00:37:50,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, coming home seeing windecks in your hands and vacuum

798
00:37:50,840 --> 00:37:58,279
Speaker 2: cleaner in the other way. No, No, you are really really,

799
00:37:58,320 --> 00:38:00,000
Speaker 2: really good about that. It's funny when we work together

800
00:38:00,520 --> 00:38:02,759
Speaker 2: and we were just friends, I saw how you kept

801
00:38:02,800 --> 00:38:05,600
Speaker 2: your dressing room and I took note of it. I

802
00:38:05,719 --> 00:38:09,040
Speaker 2: was like, Wow, this guy is clean and organized.

803
00:38:09,120 --> 00:38:11,080
Speaker 1: I like that. What whether you said it was clean,

804
00:38:11,200 --> 00:38:13,480
Speaker 1: it was two things. It was mommy or mommy or

805
00:38:13,920 --> 00:38:14,279
Speaker 1: you are.

806
00:38:14,480 --> 00:38:18,600
Speaker 2: Not like that at all? No, that mean though, like

807
00:38:18,960 --> 00:38:21,480
Speaker 2: help me, like, yeah, you just want like your your

808
00:38:21,600 --> 00:38:25,120
Speaker 2: your wife to help dress you or help like like

809
00:38:25,280 --> 00:38:27,000
Speaker 2: I don't know, you just like a mommy, like did

810
00:38:27,080 --> 00:38:29,480
Speaker 2: you make your doctor's appointment? Did you like that kind

811
00:38:29,480 --> 00:38:32,360
Speaker 2: of stuff? Like ew, no, woman wants to do that?

812
00:38:32,600 --> 00:38:33,480
Speaker 1: Okay, maybe not?

813
00:38:33,719 --> 00:38:36,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, like you know, feed me, make my doctor's appointment

814
00:38:36,640 --> 00:38:38,160
Speaker 2: for me, hold my clothes.

815
00:38:38,280 --> 00:38:41,840
Speaker 1: And I ask, is there some segment of the female population,

816
00:38:42,040 --> 00:38:46,680
Speaker 1: and maybe even a significant segment maybe that wants appreciates

817
00:38:47,960 --> 00:38:50,279
Speaker 1: to be needed in that way to take care of

818
00:38:50,400 --> 00:38:53,600
Speaker 1: everything because he's not he can't dress himself. I need

819
00:38:53,680 --> 00:38:54,359
Speaker 1: to do this for him.

820
00:38:54,400 --> 00:38:58,040
Speaker 2: He No, I don't think there's any Maybe there's a

821
00:38:58,320 --> 00:39:02,720
Speaker 2: part of some of us who like to feel needed,

822
00:39:03,040 --> 00:39:06,080
Speaker 2: but that's different than having to be someone's mom. Like

823
00:39:06,320 --> 00:39:08,920
Speaker 2: I just I don't think there's anything attractive about that,

824
00:39:09,080 --> 00:39:12,759
Speaker 2: and especially any woman who's actually a mom. We don't

825
00:39:12,800 --> 00:39:15,839
Speaker 2: need another child like that is just annoying. I think

826
00:39:16,280 --> 00:39:19,600
Speaker 2: that's I think that's a pretty general rule among women.

827
00:39:19,640 --> 00:39:23,160
Speaker 2: I don't think any of us want a mommy are men?

828
00:39:24,080 --> 00:39:26,480
Speaker 1: But I do thank you for packing my lunches for me,

829
00:39:36,560 --> 00:39:40,480
Speaker 1: give us your last best two or three. We don't

830
00:39:40,600 --> 00:39:40,840
Speaker 1: have a.

831
00:39:40,880 --> 00:39:43,440
Speaker 3: Problem picking where we want to eat. The problem is

832
00:39:43,520 --> 00:39:45,080
Speaker 3: that we want a little bit of everything.

833
00:39:45,640 --> 00:39:50,719
Speaker 2: Mmm. So sometimes I do have a problem picking where

834
00:39:50,760 --> 00:39:54,400
Speaker 2: I want to eat. But you've always teased me about this.

835
00:39:54,560 --> 00:39:58,680
Speaker 2: I will say this. Women might not always know what

836
00:39:58,760 --> 00:40:00,359
Speaker 2: we want to eat, but we know what we don't

837
00:40:00,360 --> 00:40:02,960
Speaker 2: want to eat, and so you can just start listing them.

838
00:40:03,000 --> 00:40:04,560
Speaker 2: And then I'll tell you no, no, no, no no,

839
00:40:05,280 --> 00:40:06,080
Speaker 2: that that is true.

840
00:40:06,440 --> 00:40:11,080
Speaker 1: Well the frustration comes, no, no, it comes. It's it's

841
00:40:11,280 --> 00:40:14,520
Speaker 1: it's funny. We could joke about this, but I've conversation

842
00:40:14,640 --> 00:40:17,040
Speaker 1: goes this way, sweetheart, Where would you like to eat?

843
00:40:17,480 --> 00:40:17,640
Speaker 4: Right?

844
00:40:17,920 --> 00:40:21,080
Speaker 1: Anywhere? It sounds good? You sure? Maybe you got a

845
00:40:21,160 --> 00:40:22,800
Speaker 1: hungery for Are you really hungry now or you a

846
00:40:22,800 --> 00:40:23,319
Speaker 1: little hungry?

847
00:40:23,360 --> 00:40:23,560
Speaker 2: Stay?

848
00:40:23,640 --> 00:40:26,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, eat a way? That's good? Get ready? All right?

849
00:40:26,320 --> 00:40:26,920
Speaker 1: We sure nothing?

850
00:40:27,000 --> 00:40:27,160
Speaker 2: Yeah?

851
00:40:27,239 --> 00:40:30,560
Speaker 1: Whatever you want? All right, there's a new Mexican spot

852
00:40:30,600 --> 00:40:33,600
Speaker 1: I want to Oh, I don't want that. That's what happens.

853
00:40:34,160 --> 00:40:35,960
Speaker 2: That is true. I know what I don't want. Yes,

854
00:40:36,560 --> 00:40:37,640
Speaker 2: I don't always know what I want.

855
00:40:37,760 --> 00:40:40,880
Speaker 1: Yes, I've had somebody's been telling me that for years.

856
00:40:41,160 --> 00:40:44,719
Speaker 1: Pastor Bernard actually here in New York, he said, I

857
00:40:45,080 --> 00:40:49,160
Speaker 1: know exactly what women want and everybody's sitting up on

858
00:40:49,200 --> 00:40:52,480
Speaker 1: the edge of their seats. They don't know and that was.

859
00:40:54,960 --> 00:40:57,000
Speaker 2: That was it. But they know what they don't want.

860
00:40:57,040 --> 00:41:01,600
Speaker 1: That is so so true movies. You can anything, but

861
00:41:01,719 --> 00:41:04,120
Speaker 1: you will often lead with that, I don't know, just.

862
00:41:04,120 --> 00:41:07,400
Speaker 2: Pick some here's something though. That's so funny because and

863
00:41:07,600 --> 00:41:09,520
Speaker 2: I don't. I think a lot of women do this

864
00:41:09,719 --> 00:41:12,640
Speaker 2: and you have frustrated me. But I know what you're doing.

865
00:41:12,840 --> 00:41:16,200
Speaker 2: I know why you're doing it. So any other women

866
00:41:16,239 --> 00:41:19,160
Speaker 2: out there, any other woman out there, when they're going

867
00:41:19,200 --> 00:41:21,360
Speaker 2: to order, I want to know what you're having, and

868
00:41:21,440 --> 00:41:25,360
Speaker 2: I want to calculate that into what I'm having. So

869
00:41:26,120 --> 00:41:28,200
Speaker 2: I'm like, well, if he's getting this, maybe I'll get that,

870
00:41:29,080 --> 00:41:31,600
Speaker 2: or even like a shared appetizer, you will You're like,

871
00:41:32,200 --> 00:41:34,040
Speaker 2: just tell me what you want, just you order it.

872
00:41:34,480 --> 00:41:36,120
Speaker 2: And that drives me crazy because I want to know

873
00:41:36,200 --> 00:41:38,640
Speaker 2: what you're ordering first, because I want to factor that

874
00:41:38,760 --> 00:41:39,600
Speaker 2: into what I order.

875
00:41:39,920 --> 00:41:42,279
Speaker 1: Is a factor because maybe you want to know.

876
00:41:42,400 --> 00:41:44,759
Speaker 2: Because maybe we might share the appetizer, or maybe if

877
00:41:44,800 --> 00:41:46,680
Speaker 2: you're going to get the salmon, or you're going to

878
00:41:46,719 --> 00:41:48,480
Speaker 2: get something else that I might want, then maybe I

879
00:41:48,520 --> 00:41:50,799
Speaker 2: could pick a little on your plate. And then also

880
00:41:50,880 --> 00:41:52,759
Speaker 2: get what I want. We could kind of share, but

881
00:41:52,880 --> 00:41:55,200
Speaker 2: then knowing what you're getting might make me get something

882
00:41:55,280 --> 00:41:57,840
Speaker 2: different so that we could have a bite of each You.

883
00:41:57,840 --> 00:41:59,719
Speaker 1: Know what, I apologize we're saying at the top of

884
00:41:59,760 --> 00:42:03,920
Speaker 1: this episode that I disagree with you about simplicity. You

885
00:42:04,000 --> 00:42:06,719
Speaker 1: guys are so simple. Just listen to your food order.

886
00:42:06,840 --> 00:42:09,640
Speaker 1: That made perfect sense you did to me, And does that.

887
00:42:09,680 --> 00:42:10,640
Speaker 2: Makes sense to you at all?

888
00:42:11,120 --> 00:42:11,520
Speaker 1: You get that?

889
00:42:11,800 --> 00:42:16,400
Speaker 2: Okay? And he will never tell me. Yeah right, he

890
00:42:16,600 --> 00:42:18,480
Speaker 2: will not even tell me. He refuses to.

891
00:42:18,960 --> 00:42:21,480
Speaker 1: He says, see what you're using my dish as a

892
00:42:22,040 --> 00:42:25,160
Speaker 1: reconnaissance mission for your next meal? Yeah, I'll stop. Stop,

893
00:42:25,280 --> 00:42:26,000
Speaker 1: y'all need to stop.

894
00:42:27,200 --> 00:42:30,160
Speaker 2: Yes, So anyway, TJ will never tell you what he's

895
00:42:30,239 --> 00:42:34,200
Speaker 2: going to order until he orders it from the waiter.

896
00:42:34,320 --> 00:42:36,000
Speaker 2: And I always order first, and I think sometimes you

897
00:42:36,160 --> 00:42:37,960
Speaker 2: change your order because you don't want to order the

898
00:42:37,960 --> 00:42:41,720
Speaker 2: same thing I order. You get the advantage of hearing

899
00:42:41,800 --> 00:42:44,120
Speaker 2: what I'm ordering first because you're being polite.

900
00:42:44,719 --> 00:42:48,120
Speaker 1: I always a woman, always orders first, right, Yes, but

901
00:42:48,719 --> 00:42:50,480
Speaker 1: you know what I do it. I don't want you

902
00:42:50,840 --> 00:42:52,880
Speaker 1: to have I don't want you to be influenced by me.

903
00:42:52,920 --> 00:42:54,560
Speaker 1: I don't want you to give up something you might

904
00:42:54,600 --> 00:42:57,520
Speaker 1: be wanting to order because you say, Okay, he's ordering that,

905
00:42:57,600 --> 00:42:59,120
Speaker 1: I can just snack on that. So just get the

906
00:42:59,160 --> 00:43:02,520
Speaker 1: thing you want to get, amare because she gives it.

907
00:43:02,640 --> 00:43:04,520
Speaker 2: Because I want a factor when you're ordering into what

908
00:43:04,640 --> 00:43:10,040
Speaker 2: I'm ordering, what don't If I can't, I know you

909
00:43:10,120 --> 00:43:10,800
Speaker 2: won't tell me.

910
00:43:11,200 --> 00:43:14,840
Speaker 1: We're going to lunch right after this, okay, and we

911
00:43:14,880 --> 00:43:16,240
Speaker 1: don't work this out, so funny.

912
00:43:16,640 --> 00:43:18,440
Speaker 2: I remember first, when we first started going out to

913
00:43:18,480 --> 00:43:19,839
Speaker 2: dinner together. I was like, so what are you getting?

914
00:43:19,920 --> 00:43:22,319
Speaker 2: You're like, just go ahead and order what you're gonna order.

915
00:43:22,440 --> 00:43:25,799
Speaker 1: I never tell you what you've never once told me. Ever,

916
00:43:26,640 --> 00:43:28,279
Speaker 1: I don't think I have no, you have not.

917
00:43:28,640 --> 00:43:31,320
Speaker 2: And you also don't like sharing. You don't like me

918
00:43:31,440 --> 00:43:34,960
Speaker 2: picking off your plate, which is another isn't what you

919
00:43:35,000 --> 00:43:35,440
Speaker 2: don't tell me?

920
00:43:35,600 --> 00:43:37,680
Speaker 1: Okay, So this is the I guess we're doing. Okay,

921
00:43:37,680 --> 00:43:40,440
Speaker 1: if our biggest like we really got worked up about food.

922
00:43:40,239 --> 00:43:43,680
Speaker 2: Orders, that's funny, all right.

923
00:43:43,719 --> 00:43:46,600
Speaker 3: All this next one is we just want to feel

924
00:43:46,680 --> 00:43:48,759
Speaker 3: pretty for our partners. If you make me feel like

925
00:43:48,760 --> 00:43:51,239
Speaker 3: I'm the prettiest woman on earth in your eyes, I

926
00:43:51,320 --> 00:43:53,919
Speaker 3: will do absolutely anything for you. The second we don't

927
00:43:53,920 --> 00:43:56,840
Speaker 3: feel sexy for our partners. Welcome to a dead bedroom.

928
00:43:58,000 --> 00:44:01,680
Speaker 2: Oh that was a was extreme, But I mean I

929
00:44:01,800 --> 00:44:04,839
Speaker 2: hear what she's saying, and that's true. Yeah, Oh my gosh,

930
00:44:06,000 --> 00:44:11,360
Speaker 2: compliments will get you everywhere or anywhere. Maybe maybe we

931
00:44:11,440 --> 00:44:12,040
Speaker 2: should edit.

932
00:44:14,600 --> 00:44:16,800
Speaker 1: So did I mention you look beautiful?

933
00:44:19,200 --> 00:44:21,920
Speaker 2: Compliments go a long way if they're genuine.

934
00:44:22,120 --> 00:44:24,440
Speaker 1: Yes, okay, how do you make that determination?

935
00:44:24,800 --> 00:44:27,040
Speaker 2: You can find something you like about me at any point?

936
00:44:27,360 --> 00:44:28,680
Speaker 2: There might be a lot of things you don't.

937
00:44:28,760 --> 00:44:30,839
Speaker 1: Did you just tell me I can always find something

938
00:44:30,880 --> 00:44:31,400
Speaker 1: I like about you.

939
00:44:31,480 --> 00:44:33,840
Speaker 2: About anyone, I can find something I like about I

940
00:44:33,920 --> 00:44:36,640
Speaker 2: wasn't saying it just about me. I'm saying I was

941
00:44:36,680 --> 00:44:39,480
Speaker 2: saying that as like a point of our ference. I

942
00:44:39,520 --> 00:44:42,200
Speaker 2: think you can find something you like about anybody. But

943
00:44:42,280 --> 00:44:45,080
Speaker 2: if you do it deliberately, manipulatively, that would be different.

944
00:44:45,120 --> 00:44:47,360
Speaker 1: Can you read that again? And absolutely so?

945
00:44:47,640 --> 00:44:49,840
Speaker 3: It was we just want to feel pretty for our partners.

946
00:44:50,320 --> 00:44:52,279
Speaker 3: If you make me feel like I'm the prettiest woman

947
00:44:52,360 --> 00:44:55,640
Speaker 3: on earth in your eyes, I will do absolutely anything

948
00:44:55,760 --> 00:44:58,760
Speaker 3: for you. The second we don't feel sexy for our partners,

949
00:44:58,920 --> 00:44:59,840
Speaker 3: Welcome to a dead.

950
00:44:59,680 --> 00:45:02,239
Speaker 1: Pat How do you make and what he said, how

951
00:45:02,280 --> 00:45:05,520
Speaker 1: do you how do you make a woman feel like

952
00:45:05,600 --> 00:45:07,799
Speaker 1: she's the prettiest girl in the world in your eye?

953
00:45:07,840 --> 00:45:09,919
Speaker 1: How does a man go about doing that? What could

954
00:45:09,960 --> 00:45:11,920
Speaker 1: possibly be done to That's why I want to hear

955
00:45:11,960 --> 00:45:13,480
Speaker 1: that liney Oh, I mean, I just.

956
00:45:13,520 --> 00:45:17,320
Speaker 2: Think telling telling a woman if you've noticed like something

957
00:45:17,360 --> 00:45:20,200
Speaker 2: about her, like it. It could be physical, it could

958
00:45:20,200 --> 00:45:22,320
Speaker 2: be even like something I saw you did this, and

959
00:45:22,400 --> 00:45:24,280
Speaker 2: that was really kind that you did that. Just a compliment,

960
00:45:24,360 --> 00:45:26,239
Speaker 2: I doesn't. I mean, I know they're saying pretty and

961
00:45:26,320 --> 00:45:28,600
Speaker 2: I get that too, but yeah, if you yeah, I

962
00:45:28,640 --> 00:45:30,600
Speaker 2: feel like an outfit, if you like a hairstyle, if

963
00:45:30,600 --> 00:45:32,840
Speaker 2: you like a lipstick color, if you like any of

964
00:45:32,920 --> 00:45:35,839
Speaker 2: that like that all like we I'll admit I fall

965
00:45:35,880 --> 00:45:38,040
Speaker 2: prey to that that. It feels good. And when you

966
00:45:38,120 --> 00:45:40,240
Speaker 2: feel good, you feel generous.

967
00:45:40,520 --> 00:45:42,400
Speaker 1: Everybody feel loves compliments. Everybody.

968
00:45:42,920 --> 00:45:43,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's true.

969
00:45:43,640 --> 00:45:46,680
Speaker 1: I love those ear rings you get the dangling Yeah,

970
00:45:46,760 --> 00:45:47,160
Speaker 1: those you have?

971
00:45:48,520 --> 00:45:49,279
Speaker 2: I got these from you.

972
00:45:51,040 --> 00:45:52,839
Speaker 1: The shirt's working too. I told you you had your

973
00:45:52,880 --> 00:45:57,520
Speaker 1: cowgirl thing going. Yeah, those are my favorite genes you're wearing.

974
00:45:57,680 --> 00:46:00,719
Speaker 2: I actually do know that. See so when I pulled

975
00:46:00,719 --> 00:46:03,120
Speaker 2: the jeans out, I'm like, I know, I know got

976
00:46:03,200 --> 00:46:08,399
Speaker 2: them that's funny. Now it works. See we're simple.

977
00:46:08,760 --> 00:46:13,040
Speaker 1: That is so funny. That's a setup. You pull these

978
00:46:13,120 --> 00:46:16,840
Speaker 1: out like, I can see you looking like a villain

979
00:46:16,920 --> 00:46:19,480
Speaker 1: in a movie. Like you will not be able to

980
00:46:19,600 --> 00:46:20,200
Speaker 1: VisiC these.

981
00:46:21,920 --> 00:46:22,560
Speaker 2: That's true.

982
00:46:22,800 --> 00:46:23,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, those are my favorites.

983
00:46:24,640 --> 00:46:25,279
Speaker 2: I wear them often.

984
00:46:25,400 --> 00:46:30,000
Speaker 1: Give me one of so you often are the prettiest

985
00:46:30,040 --> 00:46:33,840
Speaker 1: girl in the room. It goes one last than ask.

986
00:46:33,800 --> 00:46:37,800
Speaker 3: Them what they like sexually before trying things. Willy nilly.

987
00:46:38,160 --> 00:46:40,120
Speaker 3: Women are very different in what they like.

988
00:46:40,760 --> 00:46:41,960
Speaker 2: Oh, I just feel like that's awkward.

989
00:46:44,080 --> 00:46:47,400
Speaker 1: What it's awkward to have this conversation both on mis

990
00:46:47,800 --> 00:46:49,040
Speaker 1: yes but yes.

991
00:46:49,200 --> 00:46:51,160
Speaker 2: But also I don't know how much I want to

992
00:46:51,200 --> 00:46:53,239
Speaker 2: talk about sex before I have sex. We can have

993
00:46:53,360 --> 00:46:56,560
Speaker 2: like a post like, we can have like a like

994
00:46:56,719 --> 00:46:58,839
Speaker 2: we can talk about it afterwards, but like to talk

995
00:46:58,840 --> 00:47:01,520
Speaker 2: about it beforehand, Mike, feel very unsexy to me. I

996
00:47:01,560 --> 00:47:01,800
Speaker 2: don't know.

997
00:47:02,400 --> 00:47:04,600
Speaker 3: Well, this one is also kind of ties in don't

998
00:47:04,600 --> 00:47:08,040
Speaker 3: get too overtly sexual too early. It puts women off.

999
00:47:08,719 --> 00:47:10,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, because then you think you only want one thing, right,

1000
00:47:10,960 --> 00:47:11,880
Speaker 2: I get that totally.

1001
00:47:13,719 --> 00:47:16,360
Speaker 1: No, no, no, no, no, I'm just trying to understand

1002
00:47:16,760 --> 00:47:22,000
Speaker 1: the dilemma here. I think I'm hearing that, right, you can't.

1003
00:47:22,719 --> 00:47:24,600
Speaker 1: It's saying, a woman, I'll turn with you here. What

1004
00:47:24,719 --> 00:47:27,839
Speaker 1: that sound like? It's saying you don't want you can't

1005
00:47:27,960 --> 00:47:30,359
Speaker 1: just go trying all your freaky stuff out without us

1006
00:47:30,440 --> 00:47:32,719
Speaker 1: having a discussion about it first. Is that what you're

1007
00:47:32,719 --> 00:47:37,279
Speaker 1: saying the first one? That's what you're saying? Yeah, would

1008
00:47:37,280 --> 00:47:38,560
Speaker 1: you agree that that's what? Well?

1009
00:47:38,880 --> 00:47:41,040
Speaker 2: It depends, like how freaky are we talking? Like? I

1010
00:47:41,120 --> 00:47:41,640
Speaker 2: don't even know?

1011
00:47:41,800 --> 00:47:43,719
Speaker 1: Everybody has a difference, that's true.

1012
00:47:43,960 --> 00:47:47,440
Speaker 2: I feel like if there is to be something really

1013
00:47:47,560 --> 00:47:49,239
Speaker 2: out there, then yeah, there would need to be a

1014
00:47:49,280 --> 00:47:51,440
Speaker 2: discussion ahead. But I also could just stop you, like

1015
00:47:51,560 --> 00:47:54,080
Speaker 2: that's no, no, no, no, no, it's not happening.

1016
00:47:55,280 --> 00:47:57,759
Speaker 1: You should have followed your first instinct and said that

1017
00:47:57,880 --> 00:48:00,759
Speaker 1: was too awkward. It's awkward to follow that first.

1018
00:48:01,040 --> 00:48:09,479
Speaker 2: But wait, would you say, I'm a it's awkward. Yeah.

1019
00:48:09,800 --> 00:48:11,920
Speaker 2: I'd rather deal with that in the moment and then

1020
00:48:11,920 --> 00:48:14,000
Speaker 2: talk about it later. I don't really want to talk

1021
00:48:14,000 --> 00:48:14,279
Speaker 2: about it.

1022
00:48:14,280 --> 00:48:17,279
Speaker 1: Ahead of time awkward? Yeah, But I don't know.

1023
00:48:17,719 --> 00:48:19,680
Speaker 2: Talking about ahead of time feels really strange to me.

1024
00:48:19,760 --> 00:48:21,440
Speaker 2: I mean, what are we what are the freaky things

1025
00:48:21,480 --> 00:48:23,200
Speaker 2: we're talking about here? I don't even know.

1026
00:48:26,200 --> 00:48:26,800
Speaker 1: Go right ahead.

1027
00:48:28,560 --> 00:48:30,920
Speaker 2: No, I think awkward. Yeah, we should not.

1028
00:48:31,160 --> 00:48:34,120
Speaker 1: But it makes a good point. What there are people

1029
00:48:34,160 --> 00:48:37,160
Speaker 1: are into different things, and that's always a big moment

1030
00:48:37,200 --> 00:48:40,640
Speaker 1: in anybody's relationship. Once you there's the first date, there's this,

1031
00:48:40,840 --> 00:48:43,320
Speaker 1: you meet the parents, You have sects that these milestone

1032
00:48:43,360 --> 00:48:45,160
Speaker 1: that is one of them is And I know a

1033
00:48:45,200 --> 00:48:47,360
Speaker 1: lot of folks deal with that, but you can't. I

1034
00:48:47,400 --> 00:48:49,800
Speaker 1: don't know. Everybody doesn't have the same That sounds like

1035
00:48:49,880 --> 00:48:52,960
Speaker 1: a joke, but everybody doesn't have the same freakiness scale.

1036
00:48:52,920 --> 00:48:53,239
Speaker 2: Right right.

1037
00:48:53,440 --> 00:48:56,920
Speaker 1: This might be a normal weekend for you, and this

1038
00:48:57,320 --> 00:49:03,200
Speaker 1: might be only on birthdays for you. You know, I

1039
00:49:03,320 --> 00:49:06,000
Speaker 1: told you I was just say I can't. That's hilarious

1040
00:49:06,280 --> 00:49:08,399
Speaker 1: to the point. It makes a good point. It makes

1041
00:49:08,400 --> 00:49:08,759
Speaker 1: a good point.

1042
00:49:09,080 --> 00:49:12,280
Speaker 2: Yes, it's I'm sure. Conversation is always good if necessary.

1043
00:49:12,680 --> 00:49:13,920
Speaker 1: You want to end on that one, you want to

1044
00:49:14,000 --> 00:49:16,200
Speaker 1: end on something one more.

1045
00:49:16,239 --> 00:49:20,319
Speaker 2: One more, I'm pretty much done with them. You let

1046
00:49:20,360 --> 00:49:21,479
Speaker 2: you say the best for last.

1047
00:49:21,600 --> 00:49:22,760
Speaker 1: But it does ask.

1048
00:49:22,680 --> 00:49:25,439
Speaker 3: Questions like men, what's something that you would want women

1049
00:49:25,520 --> 00:49:27,640
Speaker 3: to know about you? So teach it what you want

1050
00:49:27,719 --> 00:49:28,320
Speaker 3: amy to know.

1051
00:49:28,719 --> 00:49:29,400
Speaker 2: Let's end on that.

1052
00:49:29,600 --> 00:49:32,120
Speaker 1: I like that. On that, Yeah, I think this would

1053
00:49:32,120 --> 00:49:38,279
Speaker 1: be very, very This is simple. We are simple, And

1054
00:49:38,400 --> 00:49:42,200
Speaker 1: I say that and that you all. Often I find

1055
00:49:42,560 --> 00:49:44,600
Speaker 1: in some experience and maybe this has happened with you

1056
00:49:44,680 --> 00:49:50,120
Speaker 1: and your experience, that you hold us to your emotional

1057
00:49:50,200 --> 00:49:53,799
Speaker 1: standard when things happen. So why isn't he more upset?

1058
00:49:53,840 --> 00:49:55,719
Speaker 1: Why isn't he being like this? Why doesn't he want

1059
00:49:55,719 --> 00:49:58,320
Speaker 1: to talk? Why doesn't that all these things? When sometimes

1060
00:49:58,320 --> 00:50:00,680
Speaker 1: it's just nah, he says somethingiss off, we got a fight.

1061
00:50:01,480 --> 00:50:02,640
Speaker 1: I don't need to talk to you about how that

1062
00:50:02,719 --> 00:50:07,440
Speaker 1: makes me feel. Okay, he pissed me off, we got

1063
00:50:07,480 --> 00:50:09,799
Speaker 1: into it, had some words. It's over. But there's there's

1064
00:50:09,840 --> 00:50:12,400
Speaker 1: sometimes in the way we react and how we behave

1065
00:50:12,600 --> 00:50:15,080
Speaker 1: that I think sometimes is I'm trying to think of

1066
00:50:15,200 --> 00:50:17,200
Speaker 1: like a good example with you, but that was the

1067
00:50:17,239 --> 00:50:18,120
Speaker 1: first thing came to my mind.

1068
00:50:18,280 --> 00:50:21,400
Speaker 2: So you so you're saying you don't actually you truly

1069
00:50:21,480 --> 00:50:24,200
Speaker 2: don't need to talk it out. You truly don't need

1070
00:50:24,320 --> 00:50:28,280
Speaker 2: to think about how you're feeling, or you just choose

1071
00:50:28,360 --> 00:50:29,960
Speaker 2: not to because it's better and easier.

1072
00:50:30,239 --> 00:50:32,080
Speaker 1: Oh no, it's just kind of how we are. It's

1073
00:50:32,160 --> 00:50:34,640
Speaker 1: I don't want to say it's right or wrong, but

1074
00:50:34,719 --> 00:50:38,440
Speaker 1: I think it's okay, that we don't handle sometimes conflict

1075
00:50:38,840 --> 00:50:42,560
Speaker 1: and the way you all do right, you come home right.

1076
00:50:42,880 --> 00:50:45,080
Speaker 1: He was talking about it earlier with the talking right,

1077
00:50:45,120 --> 00:50:47,160
Speaker 1: how long ninety minutes for you to explain the story?

1078
00:50:47,200 --> 00:50:49,920
Speaker 1: It takes me thirty seconds? Right, that's okay. If I

1079
00:50:50,000 --> 00:50:52,279
Speaker 1: only tell you about my day and it took me

1080
00:50:52,920 --> 00:50:56,040
Speaker 1: sixty seconds, it's not because I'm holding back. That's that's

1081
00:50:56,080 --> 00:50:57,840
Speaker 1: all I got. This is what happened. He came in,

1082
00:50:58,120 --> 00:51:00,879
Speaker 1: pissed me off, a da dad, I went to lunch,

1083
00:51:01,080 --> 00:51:04,799
Speaker 1: came back, done up at six in the morning, got

1084
00:51:04,840 --> 00:51:05,360
Speaker 1: a meeting.

1085
00:51:05,320 --> 00:51:07,279
Speaker 2: And we think, what's he not telling me?

1086
00:51:07,600 --> 00:51:10,200
Speaker 1: That's that's it. Yeah, there might be more detailed. We

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Speaker 1: just don't need this that thing. It's like you you

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Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, you'll feel it. What's wrong? Baby?

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Speaker 1: But what happened? Why did that make you feel? What

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Speaker 1: did not?

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Speaker 2: No?

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Speaker 1: It's over, yeah, time sinner, okay, all.

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Speaker 2: Right, so we're both simple.

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Speaker 1: Then he the only other woman in the room cackle

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00:51:30,400 --> 00:51:32,480
Speaker 1: to hear you say that. So that's just lets you

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Speaker 1: know how everybody feels about that. Andy. We appreciate you

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Speaker 1: with the list as always, and we want to end

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Speaker 1: today by giving everybody a movie recommendation we have been watching.

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Speaker 1: We watched movies constantly, usually horror movies. We ended up

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00:51:45,160 --> 00:51:48,400
Speaker 1: talking to Andy about this one. I forgot but if

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00:51:48,440 --> 00:51:49,960
Speaker 1: you have not seen it yet, this is when you

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Speaker 1: turned me on to you said we need to watch it,

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Speaker 1: and we did, and I recommend it to everybody. Late

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Speaker 1: Night with the Devil. What is that acting name? I

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Speaker 1: can't remember his name, but you've seen him in plenty

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Speaker 1: of stuff. But if you need a good horror flick,

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Speaker 1: watch Late Night with the Devil. We'll start passing along

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Speaker 1: our are our recommendations for movies because we have a

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Speaker 1: lot of horror.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that one was under the radar for us, and

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Speaker 2: it was just kind of like, let's just see what

1112
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Speaker 2: this is, and it was. I just appreciated the creativity,

1113
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Speaker 2: the uniqueness of it, and then just the ending was

1114
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Speaker 2: pretty spectacular.

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Speaker 1: It was great. So we'll leave you with that note

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Speaker 1: in that nugget, you got anything else for us? Andy

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Speaker 1: over there making sure we're good. Nope, all right, folks,

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Speaker 1: We appreciate you as always. You can find us the

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Speaker 1: official instagram. All of the show is at Amy and

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Speaker 1: TJ Podcast. You can find us on Instagram as well,

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00:52:38,280 --> 00:52:42,000
Speaker 1: needs to get more active. We apologize speak.

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Speaker 2: We'll try to be more social, yes, But

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Speaker 1: Until then, folks, we'll see you