WEBVTT - Episode 394: You're Talking About Me? (Feat. Pour Minds) 0:00:02.279 --> 0:00:05.880 Watch up. It's Angela Yee, It's Lift Service and I'm 0:00:05.920 --> 0:00:09.080 Gigi Maguire, I'm Laura Maura and we have a special 0:00:09.080 --> 0:00:15.120 collab episode today Point of Mind. Yeah, hi y'all. I'm 0:00:15.160 --> 0:00:18.040 just so excited to be here, Like when I tell you, 0:00:18.160 --> 0:00:20.040 I used to be watching Lift Service all the time, 0:00:20.120 --> 0:00:22.280 so like actually being here with you, like just thank 0:00:22.320 --> 0:00:24.720 you for having a song, like, well, let's be Andrea 0:00:24.760 --> 0:00:27.880 and Nicole. Thank y'all for joining us. Yes, I know 0:00:27.960 --> 0:00:30.320 we've been trying to like work it out timing live 0:00:30.560 --> 0:00:33.400 with you ladies for quite some time, so we can 0:00:33.479 --> 0:00:37.280 have some fun, yes, because we don't really come to 0:00:37.320 --> 0:00:39.600 New York a lot. No, we don't. Like the last 0:00:39.600 --> 0:00:41.279 time we came, we had our live show out here 0:00:41.360 --> 0:00:43.000 and we haven't been back since. And I was what 0:00:43.200 --> 0:00:45.680 in July, Yeah, that summer time. Yeah, that was in 0:00:45.720 --> 0:00:47.680 summer time with July. So we was like, yeah, we 0:00:47.760 --> 0:00:50.800 definitely need to make sure we collab with you. So, 0:00:50.800 --> 0:00:53.720 so I want to talk about this right because we've 0:00:53.720 --> 0:00:56.080 watched you guys just basically be able to get to 0:00:56.320 --> 0:01:00.400 a point where you're able to do really well pie casting, 0:01:00.400 --> 0:01:03.080 and that's something a lot of people are striving to ur. 0:01:03.520 --> 0:01:06.280 You know, we had these conversations like how you got started, 0:01:06.360 --> 0:01:09.840 But then now it's like quit your job and make 0:01:10.000 --> 0:01:20.240 I could tell look at y'all, just briefly tell us 0:01:20.240 --> 0:01:22.080 the story of how poor minds got out of You 0:01:22.120 --> 0:01:25.120 guys are friends in real life and sometimes that's hard too. Yeah, 0:01:25.200 --> 0:01:27.959 but absolutely, but just tell us how you guys got started, 0:01:27.959 --> 0:01:30.240 because I know people are listening and thinking about their 0:01:30.280 --> 0:01:40.600 own positions. Not absolutely, she did say that right, talking 0:01:40.640 --> 0:01:43.080 about always like we really be like an open book 0:01:43.120 --> 0:01:45.200 with our at least is about our friendship and like 0:01:45.360 --> 0:01:47.360 Tom that we weren't getting along and everything. I mean 0:01:47.440 --> 0:01:49.320 it is. It really is hard to have a business 0:01:49.360 --> 0:01:52.720 with your friends. So I moved to Atlanta in twenty 0:01:52.760 --> 0:01:55.640 sixteen from Houston, and I was there for a year. 0:01:55.680 --> 0:01:58.080 I moved with another girl. We were roommates. E didn't 0:01:58.160 --> 0:02:00.440 end up working out. We broke our leaves, and then 0:02:00.560 --> 0:02:02.560 me and Lake would still talk every day, but we 0:02:02.600 --> 0:02:04.480 had made it. In twenty fifteen, we were working at 0:02:04.480 --> 0:02:07.000 this strip club to get the bars in them, and 0:02:07.120 --> 0:02:08.760 we would just keep in touch, and I was like, girl, 0:02:08.760 --> 0:02:10.920 you need to move to Atlanta because we both have 0:02:11.040 --> 0:02:13.520 degrees and mass communications and we both kind of wanted 0:02:13.560 --> 0:02:15.840 to get into radio and entertainment, but we didn't really 0:02:15.960 --> 0:02:17.919 know what we wanted to do. So she moved out 0:02:18.000 --> 0:02:21.000 here and people would just be like, y'all need to 0:02:21.040 --> 0:02:23.359 have a shower or something because y'all chemistry and y'all 0:02:23.440 --> 0:02:25.600 dynamic is just so crazy, like y'all need to be 0:02:25.639 --> 0:02:28.760 on camera. So we had this idea to do wind 0:02:28.760 --> 0:02:31.160 Down Wednesday, Yeah, which is like a thirty mini show 0:02:31.240 --> 0:02:34.320 that we started in my house and we would just 0:02:34.360 --> 0:02:36.680 talk about like hot topic, prety stuff. So then we 0:02:36.680 --> 0:02:38.840 stopped doing that and we had the ideas to turn 0:02:38.880 --> 0:02:43.760 into a podcast because Mandy positions like one of her friends. Yeah, 0:02:43.880 --> 0:02:45.919 because we were actually our YouTube channel. We were doing 0:02:45.919 --> 0:02:49.000 everything on that. We were doing makeup challenges. Yeah, nobody 0:02:49.080 --> 0:02:53.280 was watching anything well right, like other things were had 0:02:53.320 --> 0:02:55.200 like ten views, and wind Down it was getting like 0:02:55.240 --> 0:03:01.520 a hundred. We were like the right. So it was 0:03:01.560 --> 0:03:03.280 like after that and we were like, Okay, people are 0:03:03.280 --> 0:03:05.360 actually starting to watch this, they're looking forward to it, 0:03:05.440 --> 0:03:07.840 and um, Mandy was like, hey, y'all need to get 0:03:07.840 --> 0:03:09.880 into podcasting. This is where it's sad if y'all really 0:03:09.880 --> 0:03:13.280 want to, you know, monetize it. Properly. So we linked 0:03:13.400 --> 0:03:16.160 up with DJ Scream in Atlanta. We changed the name. 0:03:16.200 --> 0:03:18.399 He was like wandow on Wednesday, it's too generic. Come 0:03:18.480 --> 0:03:20.520 up with something else. We came up with poor Minds 0:03:21.120 --> 0:03:23.239 and we started doing the radio out there with him 0:03:23.240 --> 0:03:25.160 every Wednesday. So he just gave us like an hour 0:03:25.200 --> 0:03:27.640 slot to be on there with him talking and it 0:03:27.960 --> 0:03:31.600 started to grow even more and more. So I don't know, 0:03:31.680 --> 0:03:33.440 it's just like we just I don't want to say 0:03:33.480 --> 0:03:36.520 we lucked up because we worked very hard. And the 0:03:36.520 --> 0:03:38.800 thing about it is we were so consistent, like we 0:03:38.800 --> 0:03:44.440 were dropping every week when nobody was watching. We Sometimes 0:03:44.480 --> 0:03:47.480 people feel like they'll start something and immediately it should 0:03:47.520 --> 0:03:50.960 take off, and realize that it could be years yea 0:03:51.320 --> 0:03:54.440 of just being consistent because even with service, like we're 0:03:54.480 --> 0:03:56.600 eight years in and people be like, oh, I see 0:03:56.600 --> 0:04:00.920 you on a new show. I'm like new a podcast. 0:04:01.120 --> 0:04:03.400 I was like Angela left the breakfast club to do this. 0:04:03.760 --> 0:04:07.040 Like used to have to explain to people what a 0:04:07.120 --> 0:04:10.320 podcast was. Right first started doing right maybe told us 0:04:10.320 --> 0:04:12.280 we didn't. Yeah, we didn't know what it was. When 0:04:12.280 --> 0:04:13.680 we start a part, we were like what is that? 0:04:13.920 --> 0:04:16.640 We weren't making no money until we got with eighty five, 0:04:17.080 --> 0:04:18.760 got with eighty five, so this one we really started 0:04:18.800 --> 0:04:21.719 making money. But I remember we got our first aid trick. 0:04:21.760 --> 0:04:23.360 We were working with this company. I forgot what it 0:04:23.400 --> 0:04:25.840 was came, but we got our first aid trick. It 0:04:25.880 --> 0:04:33.120 was for ninety seven dollars and you couldnot listen. SR 0:04:36.040 --> 0:04:44.480 y'all busted it down the middle. The CID life is good. Okay. 0:04:44.960 --> 0:04:47.039 I know that you guys have said this before, but 0:04:47.680 --> 0:04:50.120 you know, as far as sharing parts of your life, right, 0:04:50.279 --> 0:04:51.960 at a certain point, you're like, you know what, I 0:04:51.960 --> 0:04:54.279 don't have to share everything because that's also a conversation. 0:04:54.320 --> 0:04:57.680 People think that on social media or on a podcast, 0:04:57.720 --> 0:05:00.160 you have to tell everybody everything, right, So how you 0:05:00.240 --> 0:05:03.360 determined like what is to be kept private and not 0:05:03.480 --> 0:05:05.760 be put out there like that. I think that that 0:05:05.839 --> 0:05:08.560 has just come with age and mature because when we 0:05:08.600 --> 0:05:12.120 first started the podcast, I was twenty six. Now I'm 0:05:12.160 --> 0:05:14.360 thirty one, and I just feel like, yeah, now I'm 0:05:14.360 --> 0:05:16.560 just very much like I don't need people to know 0:05:16.680 --> 0:05:18.880 everything about me. But when I look back on some 0:05:18.920 --> 0:05:23.800 of the older episodes, i'd been cringing sometimes used to yeah, 0:05:24.680 --> 0:05:27.120 you know, it's for me. I would overshare but I 0:05:27.120 --> 0:05:30.560 would get like really drunk, like me and me would 0:05:30.560 --> 0:05:32.880 be like black out drunk, don't remember how he got home? Yeah, 0:05:33.720 --> 0:05:36.320 And then I would go back and watch the episode. Yeah, 0:05:36.440 --> 0:05:38.039 we got to some point where it was so bad 0:05:38.080 --> 0:05:40.160 we stopped drinking on the show for a while because 0:05:40.160 --> 0:05:45.480 we were getting so drunk it was. But I will 0:05:45.520 --> 0:05:49.320 say I feel like for me personally, um, I still 0:05:49.360 --> 0:05:51.920 share parts of my life. I don't get too in 0:05:52.040 --> 0:05:54.240 detail like I used too because I feel like with 0:05:54.279 --> 0:05:57.640 my dating life with my family, Like at that time, 0:05:57.720 --> 0:05:59.640 the show wasn't big, so it was easy for me 0:05:59.680 --> 0:06:01.679 to talk about a friend, or talk about a boyfriend 0:06:01.760 --> 0:06:05.400 or talk about kissed me off. Now it's different. So 0:06:05.440 --> 0:06:07.880 if I'm dating somebody, you know, they didn't ask to 0:06:07.920 --> 0:06:10.080 be talked about on Poor Minds. I have a hundred 0:06:10.080 --> 0:06:12.520 thousand people like, oh, or is that you? Oh? That's 0:06:12.520 --> 0:06:16.360 who you know? Much more you are you know, So 0:06:16.440 --> 0:06:18.920 it's like now, I just we don't use names as 0:06:19.000 --> 0:06:22.120 much like we used to have characters. Everybody we had 0:06:22.160 --> 0:06:24.560 like rapper Band when I was back bad. That was 0:06:24.560 --> 0:06:26.400 the key we talking in the dressing room. We gave 0:06:26.440 --> 0:06:29.279 everybody names, so nobody knew who. Yeah, I still like. 0:06:29.880 --> 0:06:32.800 But the thing about our listeners is they're so like 0:06:33.240 --> 0:06:37.520 that they were finding out who they were. The point 0:06:37.520 --> 0:06:40.839 the internet B to FBI to c I a digging 0:06:41.200 --> 0:06:43.520 theyby digging in the info, they'd be figuring it out. 0:06:43.760 --> 0:06:45.960 Did you ever get like, did anybody ever get mad 0:06:45.960 --> 0:06:47.560 at you for talking about them? Like I know you 0:06:47.640 --> 0:06:51.120 was talking about me? No, No, that's never happened to me. 0:06:51.200 --> 0:06:54.480 But I definitely had a situation where I went on 0:06:54.560 --> 0:06:57.159 somebody else's show and I was like, and it was 0:06:57.160 --> 0:06:59.080 crazy because we had literally broke up the night before, 0:06:59.120 --> 0:07:04.840 and I was like, I'm saying, ain't. I was like, well, 0:07:04.880 --> 0:07:09.560 you know, guys intimidated when they find out, you know, 0:07:09.760 --> 0:07:12.280 they do the poor minds y'all gonna talk about me 0:07:12.400 --> 0:07:14.640 because sometimes for guys, it does make them feel a 0:07:14.680 --> 0:07:17.840 little bit nervous. Yeah, I think it's either or I 0:07:17.880 --> 0:07:23.800 think they either be excited talking. I can't wait until 0:07:23.840 --> 0:07:27.920 I see the episode you with Yeah you thought you ain't? 0:07:29.240 --> 0:07:31.360 You know, So sometimes it's like you being excited. But 0:07:31.440 --> 0:07:34.120 sometimes I think, like, like I said, I'll be trying 0:07:34.160 --> 0:07:36.280 to protect people if I had to tell a guy 0:07:36.400 --> 0:07:38.480 many times like I wasn't talking about you the right, 0:07:38.960 --> 0:07:41.000 and I ain't the only guy I dealt with that 0:07:41.080 --> 0:07:47.040 got shot relaxed, right. And the other good thing is 0:07:47.080 --> 0:07:49.160 you could talk about stuff and then let them see it, 0:07:49.200 --> 0:07:51.640 like if you like, hen't eat my pussy right, let 0:07:51.720 --> 0:07:59.400 them talk on the show about the right word like 0:08:00.240 --> 0:08:02.160 too week excited, like nigga, I'm not even about to 0:08:02.160 --> 0:08:06.240 talk about you. And they also trying to act like 0:08:06.240 --> 0:08:10.000 they don't listen. But you know, they do the Clear 0:08:10.080 --> 0:08:15.240 every episode they on it, they subscribed and everything. Now, 0:08:15.360 --> 0:08:18.360 so recently you did a detox, right, yes, Okay, so 0:08:18.440 --> 0:08:20.920 tell me how because I'm I've done a dtox like 0:08:20.920 --> 0:08:22.840 a couple of times and I'm trying to do it again, 0:08:22.840 --> 0:08:24.880 but it just hasn't been lining up for me the 0:08:24.920 --> 0:08:31.680 stars right now for her birthday. Yeah, I think it's 0:08:31.720 --> 0:08:34.160 so busy right now with everything else I have going on. 0:08:34.280 --> 0:08:37.880 It's hard when you're not even to be like stable someplace. 0:08:38.320 --> 0:08:41.400 So how was that for you? I liked it a lot. 0:08:41.559 --> 0:08:44.439 But I always try to do detoxics periodically because I 0:08:44.559 --> 0:08:46.760 just feel like you're always good to like cleanse your 0:08:46.760 --> 0:08:49.520 body of like the toxins and the liquor and all 0:08:49.520 --> 0:08:51.760 of that stuff, but also to I have really wanted 0:08:51.800 --> 0:08:54.520 to lose weight because I'm short, and I just feel 0:08:54.559 --> 0:08:56.240 like when I'll be gaining it too much weight, I'll 0:08:56.280 --> 0:09:00.240 be looking real roly poly and my face gets really yeah, 0:09:02.280 --> 0:09:04.640 and then I'll be having real bad back rolls too. 0:09:04.920 --> 0:09:08.960 Oh yeah. So I was just like, I need to 0:09:09.000 --> 0:09:10.760 lose some weight because last year I was like the 0:09:10.800 --> 0:09:13.200 heaviest I have ever been. Yeah, we both were. That's 0:09:13.200 --> 0:09:18.240 that money. That's that money, and I haven't dreamed yet 0:09:19.120 --> 0:09:21.200 each each other that because that's an honest thing, right. 0:09:21.240 --> 0:09:22.679 Some people would say, well, we don't want to talk 0:09:22.679 --> 0:09:25.920 about other women's bodies, but friends who see each other 0:09:26.040 --> 0:09:28.520 all the time where you're like, girl, we gotta do something. No, 0:09:28.600 --> 0:09:30.520 we've been telling Yeah, we definitely be telling each other. 0:09:30.600 --> 0:09:32.240 But I mean, I talked about this on the show. 0:09:32.240 --> 0:09:34.840 I have body this morphia really bad. So a lot 0:09:34.880 --> 0:09:37.680 of times I'm harder on myself and Dre'll be like, okay, Legs, 0:09:37.720 --> 0:09:39.120 you can do a little one too, but you're being 0:09:39.200 --> 0:09:43.320 extreme look good. Like, So I think we understand how 0:09:43.360 --> 0:09:45.480 to say it to each other because she's not like okay, Legs, 0:09:45.520 --> 0:09:48.000 you getting fat right or no, but like she'll be like, Okay, 0:09:48.120 --> 0:09:51.560 legs like, we gotta get it back wet, we need 0:09:51.640 --> 0:09:55.559 to we need to go together. It was good. I 0:09:55.679 --> 0:09:57.120 need it for How long did I do? It was 0:09:57.240 --> 0:10:01.320 twenty one day and I wasn't she worked about day. 0:10:01.600 --> 0:10:03.559 I was interwerming it fast and like I was the 0:10:03.600 --> 0:10:05.880 one I like and it worked out for you so good? 0:10:05.880 --> 0:10:09.840 Different it weren't out. I lost six skin glowing? How 0:10:09.920 --> 0:10:12.480 do you that work in the bathroom though? Like doing 0:10:12.559 --> 0:10:14.839 doing a detox? Because when I did mine, they told 0:10:14.880 --> 0:10:16.760 me not to have sex. Yeah, I was fasten from 0:10:16.760 --> 0:10:21.679 six you did, That's why you wasn't really fast? Did 0:10:21.679 --> 0:10:31.200 you manage the bad? Definitely? Saying that when the toxins 0:10:31.240 --> 0:10:34.199 are coming out of your body, you're not supposed to really, Yeah, 0:10:34.400 --> 0:10:38.319 I didn't know. Oh okay, so masturbation is fine. Well, 0:10:38.360 --> 0:10:43.679 you know, I ain't gonna be to know that you're 0:10:43.720 --> 0:10:45.240 not supposed to have that six. And this was the 0:10:45.320 --> 0:10:48.280 first time that I actually like didn't have six while 0:10:48.320 --> 0:10:51.920 I was the toxic. Okay, y'all. Do you think because 0:10:51.920 --> 0:10:53.959 sometimes people say you can focus better when you're not 0:10:54.440 --> 0:10:58.680 having sex, I think that, yeah, because it's been since 0:10:58.800 --> 0:11:04.000 last year and I still can't focus. Well, I think 0:11:04.040 --> 0:11:06.880 I need to do. Yeah, you know, I'm When I 0:11:06.920 --> 0:11:09.240 was in my twenties, sex used to distract me just 0:11:09.320 --> 0:11:11.480 because I used to be like all into my men. 0:11:11.559 --> 0:11:13.439 I was like my man, my man, my man. And 0:11:13.600 --> 0:11:16.160 now it's like man, yes, it's like but I feel 0:11:16.200 --> 0:11:18.319 like now the men are you know the guy that 0:11:18.400 --> 0:11:21.360 I deal with. It's not like it's not a distraction, 0:11:21.440 --> 0:11:23.280 you know what I'm saying, Like our time is our time. 0:11:23.320 --> 0:11:24.600 But when I got to go to work or when 0:11:24.600 --> 0:11:26.600 I have to do X y Z, it's not a problem. 0:11:27.040 --> 0:11:28.880 So it's not a distraction. I think it depends on 0:11:28.960 --> 0:11:32.120 who you're dating. That's only sex with the wrong person. Yes, 0:11:32.280 --> 0:11:38.240 that's when it gets distracting, toxic shit, Yeah for sure. Yes. 0:11:38.360 --> 0:11:40.000 I remember dating a guy. We would get to an 0:11:40.080 --> 0:11:41.760 argument and I just straight up when it go to work, 0:11:41.840 --> 0:11:46.240 because this is when I was way younger. Yeah, like 0:11:46.480 --> 0:11:48.160 it would be like four o'clock and I still be 0:11:48.280 --> 0:11:51.600 at home, like trying to get things right. Man, told 0:11:51.640 --> 0:11:54.440 what you'a man? And heaven used to be the word. 0:11:54.960 --> 0:11:56.959 I found it out one time when I was I 0:11:57.080 --> 0:11:58.719 used to work at the club. I found out my 0:11:58.800 --> 0:12:00.760 dude had cheated on me. Y'all. I was at work. 0:12:01.240 --> 0:12:16.640 I was working out. I was like, you gotta go 0:12:16.760 --> 0:12:19.719 home sick. I was at working. I could tell my 0:12:19.840 --> 0:12:22.079 boyfriend was cheating on me because he kept calling me. 0:12:22.679 --> 0:12:24.520 He never did, but he kept calling, like to check 0:12:24.600 --> 0:12:29.040 and I was still there, Tommy, and I don't answer. 0:12:29.200 --> 0:12:30.839 I'm trying him to take a nap. And then he 0:12:30.880 --> 0:12:33.360 caught back an hour later like hey, if you call me, hey, 0:12:33.400 --> 0:12:34.760 what you're doing? And I was like, let me just 0:12:35.120 --> 0:12:42.959 I just left work. So when I got home, he 0:12:43.080 --> 0:12:45.559 had kept calling my job and I wasn't there. So 0:12:45.600 --> 0:12:47.800 I think he caught on because it took me like 0:12:48.360 --> 0:12:50.680 maybe like forty five minutes to get home on the train. 0:12:51.160 --> 0:12:53.360 And I came home and he was carrying the sheets, 0:12:53.480 --> 0:12:56.000 no bag or nothing to the laundromat because I didn't 0:12:56.000 --> 0:12:57.959 have a watch engineer at the time, and he was 0:12:58.000 --> 0:13:02.920 carrying this together. He so kind of we weren't supposed to, 0:13:03.000 --> 0:13:05.880 but he just didn't leave. That was the only person 0:13:05.960 --> 0:13:07.880 I ever like kind of had staying with me. It 0:13:07.960 --> 0:13:10.520 was for two months, and so he was just taking 0:13:10.559 --> 0:13:12.920 the sheets down the stairs, just holding them in his arms, 0:13:12.960 --> 0:13:14.400 and I was like, what are you doing. He's like, 0:13:14.480 --> 0:13:19.160 I fell asleep. I was sweating real bad. You would 0:13:19.160 --> 0:13:22.280 sweating real bad. Don't even watching that, you gonna remind 0:13:22.360 --> 0:13:27.199 Niga never watched nothing. And I was like, how you 0:13:27.280 --> 0:13:30.439 know he was carried it in his hands, that I 0:13:30.559 --> 0:13:34.320 was coming home, Oh my god, trying to harry up 0:13:34.400 --> 0:13:37.480 clean all right now, I want to ask you some questions, 0:13:38.120 --> 0:13:40.480 because you know how they say that automatically, when you 0:13:40.520 --> 0:13:43.240 meet a guy, you know what it is, right, if 0:13:43.280 --> 0:13:45.439 you would sleep with him or not, or if you 0:13:45.480 --> 0:13:48.240 would categorize him as okay, he would be good just 0:13:48.360 --> 0:13:50.400 to kick it with, but I wouldn't really take him serious, 0:13:50.960 --> 0:13:55.080 or maybe he's relationship material or never, it wouldn't happen. 0:13:55.480 --> 0:13:57.160 Do you think that's a true thing, that when you 0:13:57.280 --> 0:14:00.120 meet a guy you automatically know. I used to think that. 0:14:00.320 --> 0:14:02.400 I don't think that no more though, so I don't 0:14:02.440 --> 0:14:04.360 talk to some people where I was like shocked, my damn, 0:14:04.400 --> 0:14:09.560 So lad this happen. I think for me, I am, 0:14:09.880 --> 0:14:13.000 I'm a leo. I'm all about that passion like I've 0:14:13.040 --> 0:14:15.440 always been. Like, if it's the end of the first 0:14:15.520 --> 0:14:17.480 day and we're not making out with each other all 0:14:17.520 --> 0:14:19.840 over each other, you're not the man for me. So 0:14:20.440 --> 0:14:22.320 I had a recent situation. I'm just like, but I 0:14:22.440 --> 0:14:25.440 felt like all those relationships it was like so much passion, 0:14:25.520 --> 0:14:28.120 but when it ended, it would end so bad, and 0:14:28.280 --> 0:14:29.680 I was like, Okay, maybe I need to take a 0:14:29.800 --> 0:14:33.720 different approach. So, like I've recently been like dating a 0:14:33.800 --> 0:14:37.520 guy and I'm like taking things super slow. And it's 0:14:37.600 --> 0:14:40.160 like when you like really take your time and get 0:14:40.200 --> 0:14:42.440 to know somebody, you really have time to decide, you 0:14:42.520 --> 0:14:44.320 know what. I like this about them. I don't like 0:14:44.440 --> 0:14:46.400 this about them. So for me, I'm still kind of 0:14:46.440 --> 0:14:47.880 on the fence about it because this is really my 0:14:47.960 --> 0:14:50.760 first time taking my time because I do not like, well, 0:14:50.760 --> 0:14:53.000 I ain't got the love time now, Like I'm trying 0:14:53.040 --> 0:14:56.480 to get to it. I need to see that we're 0:14:56.480 --> 0:15:01.280 supposed to be on vacation. I love. Yeah, So when 0:15:01.360 --> 0:15:04.200 you first met him, what was your I thought like, 0:15:04.360 --> 0:15:07.160 how did you ctagorize him? Um, it's crazy because when 0:15:07.160 --> 0:15:09.760 we first met, like I looked a mess. I felt 0:15:09.760 --> 0:15:12.080 like I looked a mess. But I just remember he 0:15:12.640 --> 0:15:14.680 was talking to someone and I was like, oh man, 0:15:14.720 --> 0:15:16.760 he has really like nice manners, Like I like the 0:15:16.800 --> 0:15:19.040 way he was talking to the person. And I was like, Okay, 0:15:19.080 --> 0:15:20.840 he's cool and then he started talking to me and 0:15:20.840 --> 0:15:22.120 I was like, oh god, and I was kind of 0:15:22.160 --> 0:15:24.240 being rude and kind of like, but when we went 0:15:24.320 --> 0:15:26.640 on our first date and I really sat down and 0:15:26.680 --> 0:15:28.520 talk to him, I was like, Okay, he's very intelligent, 0:15:29.080 --> 0:15:32.200 you know, Like I wouldn't necessarily say he's my type 0:15:33.440 --> 0:15:35.880 as far as just the type of person he is, 0:15:36.040 --> 0:15:38.680 but I'm like, I need something different because I go 0:15:38.800 --> 0:15:41.560 for the same type of guys. So it's like I 0:15:41.680 --> 0:15:44.280 do like him, Like, we have an amazing time together, 0:15:44.360 --> 0:15:46.920 so I like the fact that it's slowly growing. So 0:15:46.960 --> 0:15:49.800 I'm like, you know, we'll see, We'll see cha sweech 0:15:49.880 --> 0:15:51.360 it up. Like I feel like, if you're trying the 0:15:51.440 --> 0:15:53.440 same thing all the time and he's not working out, 0:15:53.680 --> 0:15:55.960 you ought to try something. But I have a toxic 0:15:56.400 --> 0:16:02.040 X and he be haunting me and calling me girl. 0:16:03.840 --> 0:16:08.400 So I'm trying to change my way and he knows 0:16:08.480 --> 0:16:11.360 it right, he know, he know he got me down bad. 0:16:11.400 --> 0:16:14.840 That's the bad part about yeah, you know when I 0:16:14.920 --> 0:16:17.120 got you in a little choke called yeah yeah, But 0:16:17.240 --> 0:16:18.800 they get so mad when you get out of it 0:16:18.880 --> 0:16:23.160 finally because yea yeah, oh yeah. And I'm like I'm 0:16:23.200 --> 0:16:25.880 like there, like and I think that like he knows 0:16:25.920 --> 0:16:28.720 it like I know it, like and it's outside of 0:16:28.880 --> 0:16:32.760 like the new guy. It's just like sometimes I I 0:16:32.840 --> 0:16:34.680 will say, I still do this. Sometimes I forget who 0:16:34.720 --> 0:16:38.120 I am and I am just like stop letting these 0:16:38.200 --> 0:16:41.440 niggas playing your face. And I went through a lot 0:16:41.560 --> 0:16:44.120 of trying to let a man validate me and who 0:16:44.160 --> 0:16:46.960 I am. And just because this person doesn't value you 0:16:47.040 --> 0:16:49.040 doesn't mean you're not a good woman. He doesn't have 0:16:49.120 --> 0:16:51.640 the final say so on who you are. So I 0:16:51.880 --> 0:16:55.000 was getting lost in feeling like, man, I'm not good enough. 0:16:55.120 --> 0:16:57.120 I'm not bringing this to the table. I'm not doing this, 0:16:57.200 --> 0:16:59.600 I'm not making him feel good. I'm not being his piece. 0:16:59.600 --> 0:17:04.960 And it's like, so he needs to be my pile, 0:17:05.119 --> 0:17:06.800 I'm saying. And it's not even like so because I 0:17:06.840 --> 0:17:08.560 do care about him and I want I want him 0:17:08.600 --> 0:17:10.240 to be happy. I want him to find happiness. But 0:17:10.359 --> 0:17:12.680 for me, it's just like it's okay to value myself 0:17:12.760 --> 0:17:15.400 and sometimes you just have to walk away, right And yeah, 0:17:15.520 --> 0:17:17.680 all of that, like because I think sometimes guys also 0:17:17.840 --> 0:17:21.880 like you to feel like, yeah, you know, doing enough, 0:17:22.920 --> 0:17:26.760 because that's because sometimes I'll make us want to go far. Yeah, 0:17:30.480 --> 0:17:34.760 you have flash? What meant it so good that you 0:17:34.880 --> 0:17:36.879 kept going back? You know what it was? It's because 0:17:37.320 --> 0:17:40.359 I really I feel like I met him when I 0:17:40.440 --> 0:17:42.600 was young, and we dealt with each other for a 0:17:42.840 --> 0:17:45.000 very long time, so it was kind of like I 0:17:45.080 --> 0:17:47.920 went from a girl to a woman with him. You know, 0:17:48.080 --> 0:17:49.960 like when he met me, I was still working in 0:17:50.000 --> 0:17:52.240 the club and then now I'm doing this, So he 0:17:52.359 --> 0:17:54.639 saw me through all those stages of my life. So 0:17:54.760 --> 0:17:57.440 it's like he knew me inside and out, like he 0:17:57.520 --> 0:18:01.240 knows my family, you know, like Mama passed away last 0:18:01.320 --> 0:18:03.119 year and he was there for me, so a lot 0:18:03.160 --> 0:18:06.040 of that stuff was just um, it was comfortable, right, 0:18:06.480 --> 0:18:08.399 and he knows me inside and out. And I have 0:18:08.480 --> 0:18:11.760 a very complex personality, so it's like I have like 0:18:11.960 --> 0:18:14.320 my you know, in front of the camera's goofy, then 0:18:14.359 --> 0:18:17.280 I have my you know, my insecure side, then I 0:18:17.359 --> 0:18:19.479 have my serious business side. It's like I'm a very 0:18:19.560 --> 0:18:22.600 complex person and he understood all those angles of me. 0:18:23.080 --> 0:18:24.920 So it was just comfortable. You know. I didn't have 0:18:25.000 --> 0:18:27.240 to introduce like, hey, this is what I do for 0:18:27.320 --> 0:18:30.000 a living and this is and both men are like what, well, 0:18:30.040 --> 0:18:31.680 I don't know if I want to it was just like, okay, 0:18:31.760 --> 0:18:33.840 let me go back to him. He sell the growth. Yeah, 0:18:34.080 --> 0:18:36.000 so I was like I felt like it was just easier, 0:18:36.359 --> 0:18:38.160 you know. But then it's just like at the same time, 0:18:38.240 --> 0:18:40.440 it was like it's toxic. It's always easy to go 0:18:40.560 --> 0:18:42.000 back when you know, man, And as soon does a 0:18:42.080 --> 0:18:44.280 nigga piss me off the right like you know what, 0:18:44.440 --> 0:18:49.800 you gotta deal with. It's comfortable because as soon as 0:18:49.800 --> 0:18:51.560 a guy even look at me the wrong way, I'm like, 0:18:51.600 --> 0:18:59.439 I'm going back on. Yeah, huh, how did you like? Um, 0:18:59.640 --> 0:19:08.480 you know, I really just had to just be you know, 0:19:08.920 --> 0:19:14.080 it's a little I got my peky toe, he might 0:19:14.200 --> 0:19:18.760 grab my pink. But I feel like, you know, I 0:19:19.600 --> 0:19:28.040 side saying like if he started dating somebody else, and um, 0:19:28.640 --> 0:19:30.520 I feel like the stuff that we've been through. And 0:19:30.640 --> 0:19:33.280 that's why I say it's really complicated because we had 0:19:33.320 --> 0:19:35.200 a like a period for like two years or we 0:19:35.240 --> 0:19:36.680 didn't talk and I was in love with a whole 0:19:36.760 --> 0:19:39.360 other man and that's a whole other story. So it's 0:19:39.600 --> 0:19:42.240 very like, so even if he did move on, I'm 0:19:42.280 --> 0:19:44.760 okay with that because I moved on already and I 0:19:44.880 --> 0:19:47.719 got really deep with somebody, like I was over him. 0:19:47.760 --> 0:19:50.320 I wasn't worried. I was in love. So it's like 0:19:50.640 --> 0:19:52.639 we've already been through that. I've already seen what that 0:19:52.720 --> 0:19:54.520 looks like as far as me moving on and being 0:19:54.560 --> 0:19:56.119 in love and him moving on and being you know, 0:19:56.240 --> 0:19:58.399 whatever in love or whatever he had going on. So 0:19:58.480 --> 0:20:01.359 I'm okay with that, Like I'm really I've come to 0:20:01.560 --> 0:20:04.400 terms like this is not We're not each other's person, 0:20:04.440 --> 0:20:06.520 and that's okay. I see your girl, I could relate. Yeah, 0:20:06.800 --> 0:20:10.040 it's hard, it's hard. You think, um, do we really 0:20:10.119 --> 0:20:19.639 wish our X as well? He'll knows people independ on 0:20:21.840 --> 0:20:23.960 independ on how we ended, because I feel like you 0:20:24.200 --> 0:20:26.720 end with some people on like some fuck you should like, yeah, 0:20:27.119 --> 0:20:28.639 I don't give a fuck what you got going on 0:20:29.320 --> 0:20:31.760 and what you're doing. And but I heard about him, 0:20:31.760 --> 0:20:36.600