1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:03,239 Speaker 1: My boyfriend couldn't handle the fame of our viral video, 2 00:00:03,600 --> 00:00:05,560 Speaker 1: so he left me for his X. 3 00:00:05,840 --> 00:00:08,560 Speaker 2: You know, some people just get uh you know, too 4 00:00:08,680 --> 00:00:11,720 Speaker 2: too big and too famous, and you just gotta heartlessly 5 00:00:11,800 --> 00:00:12,160 Speaker 2: leave them. 6 00:00:12,240 --> 00:00:14,320 Speaker 1: Yeah you get you get the your fifteen minutes of fame, 7 00:00:14,360 --> 00:00:16,159 Speaker 1: and they're like shit, I can't handle them light and 8 00:00:16,160 --> 00:00:19,680 Speaker 1: I gotta get out of here, you know, tire to 9 00:00:19,720 --> 00:00:20,720 Speaker 1: the winds, write a book. 10 00:00:20,800 --> 00:00:22,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, just let me get you out of my life, 11 00:00:22,920 --> 00:00:25,120 Speaker 2: and and I'll screw you and steady in the back 12 00:00:25,160 --> 00:00:27,319 Speaker 2: and hid hide in a forest with my ex Like 13 00:00:27,360 --> 00:00:28,280 Speaker 2: that's that's the point. 14 00:00:28,360 --> 00:00:30,720 Speaker 3: Hide with the X. 15 00:00:31,040 --> 00:00:32,479 Speaker 1: Just make sure their family doesn't get them out of you, 16 00:00:32,560 --> 00:00:35,239 Speaker 1: all right. Last year, I'd posted this video of my 17 00:00:35,320 --> 00:00:37,919 Speaker 1: then boyfriend of two and a half years returning from 18 00:00:37,960 --> 00:00:41,919 Speaker 1: his deployment, and our relationship ended days after. Also, I'm 19 00:00:41,920 --> 00:00:44,320 Speaker 1: looking at the video, it's so cute, like they like 20 00:00:44,360 --> 00:00:49,040 Speaker 1: she jumps into humps on like a Yeah. Some backstory. 21 00:00:49,600 --> 00:00:52,120 Speaker 1: We started dating, he enlisted, he's in the pipeline. We 22 00:00:52,159 --> 00:00:54,920 Speaker 1: lived together, he graduated, he got orders, and we plan 23 00:00:55,080 --> 00:00:58,520 Speaker 1: to move together. My items and his were sent off 24 00:00:58,560 --> 00:01:00,680 Speaker 1: into a cube to the other side the country while 25 00:01:00,720 --> 00:01:02,640 Speaker 1: I stayed with my sister and brother in law during 26 00:01:02,680 --> 00:01:05,319 Speaker 1: his deployment in our home state. I was working on 27 00:01:05,360 --> 00:01:07,840 Speaker 1: grad school, my mental health, et cetera, and I couldn't 28 00:01:07,840 --> 00:01:09,360 Speaker 1: work a long term job because I had to leave 29 00:01:09,360 --> 00:01:11,640 Speaker 1: it soon. Anyway, staying with them was a huge privilege 30 00:01:11,680 --> 00:01:14,319 Speaker 1: I was given, and I don't take their graciousness and 31 00:01:14,360 --> 00:01:17,199 Speaker 1: generosity lately. I was ready to leave. 32 00:01:17,080 --> 00:01:18,240 Speaker 3: Though, get me out of here. 33 00:01:18,280 --> 00:01:20,080 Speaker 1: He'd been gone for seven months and drove down to 34 00:01:20,160 --> 00:01:23,200 Speaker 1: my house from his city during his short leave. I 35 00:01:23,400 --> 00:01:27,319 Speaker 1: later learned that in his home city, he'd kissed his ex, 36 00:01:27,600 --> 00:01:30,520 Speaker 1: propositioned her for sex, and during deployment, asked her to 37 00:01:30,560 --> 00:01:32,759 Speaker 1: move in with him to the state where my things 38 00:01:32,760 --> 00:01:33,600 Speaker 1: were already waiting. 39 00:01:34,720 --> 00:01:37,000 Speaker 2: Don't worry, like I've got this other chick stuff, Like 40 00:01:37,040 --> 00:01:38,040 Speaker 2: we'll just get it out of here. 41 00:01:38,080 --> 00:01:40,520 Speaker 3: Like just just move in with me. Just just do it. 42 00:01:40,800 --> 00:01:41,319 Speaker 3: Just do it. 43 00:01:41,400 --> 00:01:44,600 Speaker 1: I mean, at least tell your other your other girl 44 00:01:44,880 --> 00:01:49,360 Speaker 1: seriously before you freaking. I mean, I guess, like you know, 45 00:01:49,400 --> 00:01:52,480 Speaker 1: he's mitigating his losses, you know, like if one doesn't 46 00:01:52,520 --> 00:01:54,360 Speaker 1: work out, he still got the other one. 47 00:01:54,640 --> 00:01:57,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, let me just He secretly invited like seven girls 48 00:01:57,840 --> 00:01:59,560 Speaker 2: to live with the He's like, Okay, which. 49 00:01:59,440 --> 00:02:00,520 Speaker 3: One do I want? Who's good? 50 00:02:01,000 --> 00:02:05,000 Speaker 1: Is a bachelorette? When we were together, he was snapping 51 00:02:05,040 --> 00:02:08,240 Speaker 1: this girl from his ship and they had several months 52 00:02:08,280 --> 00:02:11,160 Speaker 1: worth of a snapstrike. I know it's superficial, but we 53 00:02:11,400 --> 00:02:12,440 Speaker 1: couldn't maintain one. 54 00:02:12,600 --> 00:02:15,000 Speaker 3: That is kind of sad. I guess it's pretty sad. 55 00:02:15,440 --> 00:02:17,840 Speaker 1: I tried putting the moves on multiple times, but he 56 00:02:17,880 --> 00:02:20,200 Speaker 1: kept rejecting me because of some rash he had on 57 00:02:20,240 --> 00:02:24,400 Speaker 1: his you know, oh you got I sent when he 58 00:02:24,480 --> 00:02:26,320 Speaker 1: learned I didn't want to spend one of my few 59 00:02:26,400 --> 00:02:29,280 Speaker 1: days in California in a hotel room with two girls 60 00:02:29,280 --> 00:02:29,960 Speaker 1: from his ship. 61 00:02:30,600 --> 00:02:34,320 Speaker 2: Is he trying to hey, girl friend, these are some 62 00:02:34,600 --> 00:02:37,840 Speaker 2: friends that I made in they both women, So you 63 00:02:37,919 --> 00:02:38,800 Speaker 2: want to do it? 64 00:02:38,880 --> 00:02:42,560 Speaker 1: Or what? Whoa what? We later compromised on brunch, and 65 00:02:42,600 --> 00:02:45,160 Speaker 1: it was like I didn't exist and was wrong for it. 66 00:02:45,639 --> 00:02:47,920 Speaker 1: His girl paid the bill and he was quick to 67 00:02:47,919 --> 00:02:51,720 Speaker 1: send her the money, and we left his girl. I'm confused, like, 68 00:02:51,960 --> 00:02:55,560 Speaker 1: does he have like army army girlfriends? I guess he does. 69 00:02:55,760 --> 00:02:57,880 Speaker 1: He was still concerned about his rash, so he walked 70 00:02:57,880 --> 00:03:00,600 Speaker 1: to the clinic. He didn't stay long, claiming insuranced in 71 00:03:00,720 --> 00:03:04,960 Speaker 1: transfer from one coast to the other and couldn't afford testing. Okay, 72 00:03:05,520 --> 00:03:08,600 Speaker 1: I returned home and posted the video, excited he was back. 73 00:03:08,880 --> 00:03:11,480 Speaker 1: He was getting anxious as it grew in popularity and 74 00:03:11,560 --> 00:03:14,760 Speaker 1: news outlets were reaching out for use in interviews. 75 00:03:16,480 --> 00:03:22,240 Speaker 3: No, bro, we want to hear about your your love 76 00:03:22,320 --> 00:03:23,480 Speaker 3: and how strong it is. 77 00:03:23,560 --> 00:03:26,079 Speaker 1: Oh God, I kept telling him and asking if he'd 78 00:03:26,120 --> 00:03:28,639 Speaker 1: be down to share our story and the video. One 79 00:03:28,639 --> 00:03:30,640 Speaker 1: week later, we chose in a place to live and 80 00:03:30,639 --> 00:03:32,840 Speaker 1: we're ready to sign the lease. He then calls me 81 00:03:32,880 --> 00:03:35,200 Speaker 1: from a hotel room and says, I can't do this. 82 00:03:35,440 --> 00:03:37,440 Speaker 1: I've never been in love with you. You've only ever 83 00:03:37,480 --> 00:03:40,360 Speaker 1: been a friend. You are an afterthought and not much more. 84 00:03:40,400 --> 00:03:41,000 Speaker 3: And you know this. 85 00:03:41,440 --> 00:03:43,520 Speaker 1: You were a roommate I slept with. You, were the 86 00:03:43,520 --> 00:03:46,160 Speaker 1: most supportive girlfriend I've ever had. But it's not enough. 87 00:03:48,000 --> 00:03:48,320 Speaker 3: Fuck. 88 00:03:48,880 --> 00:03:52,440 Speaker 2: That is like one of the worst ways you can 89 00:03:52,480 --> 00:03:57,080 Speaker 2: break I mean, wow, God, you're an afterthought. Like he 90 00:03:57,120 --> 00:03:58,960 Speaker 2: could have just said, like, I just see you as 91 00:03:59,000 --> 00:04:00,920 Speaker 2: a friend, and I don't think like this. I don't 92 00:04:00,920 --> 00:04:03,840 Speaker 2: think we're meant to be in a relationship. He's like, you, 93 00:04:03,840 --> 00:04:06,240 Speaker 2: you're a roommate I had sex with. 94 00:04:07,760 --> 00:04:08,040 Speaker 3: Fuck. 95 00:04:08,200 --> 00:04:15,040 Speaker 1: Dude, that's so I'm baffled. I'm I'm speechless. I facetimed 96 00:04:15,120 --> 00:04:17,799 Speaker 1: him and saw someone with dry eyes and a flat face. 97 00:04:18,080 --> 00:04:20,919 Speaker 1: I asked, why aren't you crying like I am? He said, 98 00:04:21,320 --> 00:04:23,520 Speaker 1: because I don't care about you the way you do 99 00:04:23,600 --> 00:04:25,840 Speaker 1: about me. I never have, and I feel like this 100 00:04:25,960 --> 00:04:30,000 Speaker 1: makes it clear shit. Shortly after, he started dating the 101 00:04:30,000 --> 00:04:32,640 Speaker 1: girl I met at brunch in retrospect. We were doomed 102 00:04:32,640 --> 00:04:34,760 Speaker 1: to fail and he was full of red flags, but 103 00:04:34,880 --> 00:04:38,039 Speaker 1: he felt familiar. I thought I felt loved, but I 104 00:04:38,080 --> 00:04:40,360 Speaker 1: had to work hard for it. I posted that video 105 00:04:40,400 --> 00:04:42,840 Speaker 1: and excitement, and instead he broke up with me and 106 00:04:42,880 --> 00:04:44,960 Speaker 1: his mom had to drive six hours each way to 107 00:04:44,960 --> 00:04:47,200 Speaker 1: pick up his truck from my house. He sent my 108 00:04:47,240 --> 00:04:49,840 Speaker 1: things down, but most of it was damaged beyond youse. 109 00:04:50,200 --> 00:04:52,800 Speaker 1: Oh it's been a lot of work to rebuild my life, 110 00:04:52,880 --> 00:04:55,520 Speaker 1: but things are much much better. The video made me 111 00:04:55,520 --> 00:04:57,800 Speaker 1: feel a lot of regret, embarrassment, and grief, but I'm 112 00:04:57,800 --> 00:04:59,360 Speaker 1: glad it happened when it did. 113 00:04:59,800 --> 00:05:04,560 Speaker 2: Y can you imagine, I mean, just like the most unnecessary, 114 00:05:04,760 --> 00:05:08,280 Speaker 2: like awful, that's the worst breakup ever did to someone 115 00:05:08,520 --> 00:05:13,080 Speaker 2: Like you're an afterthought, You're a roommate I had sex with. 116 00:05:13,600 --> 00:05:18,039 Speaker 3: Oh my god. It's just it's just so cruel. There's 117 00:05:18,160 --> 00:05:20,800 Speaker 3: no there's literally no reason. 118 00:05:21,040 --> 00:05:24,120 Speaker 2: He could have been like, Okay, I'm gonna be like 119 00:05:24,160 --> 00:05:26,279 Speaker 2: super super honest with you and be like, you know, 120 00:05:27,120 --> 00:05:30,279 Speaker 2: I've sexually attracted to you, but you know, don't feel 121 00:05:30,279 --> 00:05:32,200 Speaker 2: like we should be in a relationship. Like he could 122 00:05:32,240 --> 00:05:35,400 Speaker 2: list it out in a way that like explains why. 123 00:05:35,480 --> 00:05:38,680 Speaker 1: But yeah, but this like like how he how he 124 00:05:38,720 --> 00:05:42,920 Speaker 1: did it is just so I it's not even truthful. 125 00:05:42,920 --> 00:05:45,119 Speaker 3: It's just it's just cruel. It's just just cruel. 126 00:05:45,160 --> 00:05:49,000 Speaker 1: He's doing a way to say it nicely and still 127 00:05:49,000 --> 00:05:52,960 Speaker 1: be honest, but he's just being like fuck this girl, yeah, 128 00:05:53,000 --> 00:05:59,400 Speaker 1: and why, Like there's no reason whatsoever. Maybe he feels 129 00:05:59,440 --> 00:06:02,400 Speaker 1: bad about like cheating on her and he's like. 130 00:06:02,480 --> 00:06:05,480 Speaker 3: So he's digging in something like that. I don't know, man, 131 00:06:05,560 --> 00:06:07,960 Speaker 3: I don't know. You're right, who knows what? Who does? 132 00:06:08,160 --> 00:06:09,360 Speaker 3: This guy's a psychopath? 133 00:06:10,040 --> 00:06:15,040 Speaker 2: Everyone find him and then let's like comment peach emojis 134 00:06:15,040 --> 00:06:15,919 Speaker 2: on his stuff or something.