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Speaker 1: Kiki maybe like an additional Kiki's Court this week? Okay,

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Speaker 1: but what is this TikTok scenario that you saw with

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Speaker 1: cheating parents?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, how is this said? I didn't see this one.

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Speaker 4: So a girl caught her father on an app that

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Speaker 4: he was not supposed to be on and speaking of

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Speaker 4: age gap dating, but anyway, he was not supposed to

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Speaker 4: be on there, and she probably shouldn't have been on

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Speaker 4: there either, But she saw her dad's profile and she

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Speaker 5: I don't know how to handle this.

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Speaker 4: Do I tell my mom and break up their entire

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Speaker 4: marriage and ruin our family and you know, mess up

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Speaker 4: my inheritance? Or do I just stay quiet and act

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Speaker 4: dumb like I don't know anything happened?

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Speaker 3: Man? What app was it?

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Speaker 5: I don't know those apps? Those you know?

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Speaker 3: It was like it was like a main tream one

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Speaker 3: of those.

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Speaker 5: No it was I don't think it was one of those.

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Speaker 4: It was like an age one because she was on

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Speaker 4: there looking for older men, I guess.

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Speaker 5: Oh, and then that's how she ended up seeing her dad.

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Speaker 1: Oh so he's looking for younger women, right?

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Speaker 3: Wow?

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Speaker 1: Eight five five one one three five is I E

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Speaker 1: call the show and text the same number This is

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Speaker 1: interesting because you know my theory about sometimes when people

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Speaker 1: are it appears that people are cheating. Sometimes it's there's

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Speaker 1: like a dealing.

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Speaker 3: It's true.

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Speaker 1: I just yeah, Now, granted that's awfully public. That's but

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Speaker 1: so you could argue either side, that's a very public

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Speaker 1: place to go if you're no one's supposed to know

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Speaker 1: that you're cheating, right, that's a very public place to

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Speaker 1: know if you're not supposed to be cheating, you know

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Speaker 1: what I'm saying, Like either way, but I am familiar

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Speaker 1: with people who have been married for a long time.

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Speaker 1: I know Caitlin doesn't believe this, but I believe it exists.

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Speaker 1: I don't think it's a reason not to say something.

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Speaker 1: Though they have kids, they have a family, they have

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Speaker 1: an identity in the community, but it's like you know,

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Speaker 1: one or the other, or they decide they decide collectively

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Speaker 1: behind closed doors. I don't want to be intimate with

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Speaker 1: you anymore. Do what you gotta do. Just don't embarrass me.

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Speaker 1: I know of a situation, at least one situation like this,

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Speaker 1: and so you might be then calling out some sort

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Speaker 1: of behind the scenes private proclivity that your parents have

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Speaker 1: that they didn't want you to know about.

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Speaker 3: On the flip side, why is he on a dating app?

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Speaker 5: Exactly?

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Speaker 1: It's that's a very public way to cheat if you're cheating,

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Speaker 1: or to find dates if you're you know, if it's

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Speaker 1: above board.

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Speaker 3: So what the hell do you do? What would you do?

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Speaker 4: Oh, I'm blowing up everything. I'm blowing up their house,

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Speaker 4: the marriage. I'm telling I'm having a family meeting. I'm

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Speaker 4: calling out, like, Dad, this is you, this is your profile,

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Speaker 4: I see your photo. Explain this to all of us.

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Speaker 4: I'm going to tell that I'll publish it. Oh wow, Yeah,

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Speaker 4: I don't know. I just have a certain loyalty to like,

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Speaker 4: you know, people, to my sister, but she raised me

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Speaker 4: as a mom. But like for people who have mom

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Speaker 4: and dad, a lot of times, I feel like the

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Speaker 4: girls have a little loyalty to the mom. Now, if

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Speaker 4: I call my mom cheating, I'd like, Mom, like what

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Speaker 4: you're doing?

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Speaker 2: Dad?

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Speaker 5: Find out? You know, I wouldn't sell on my mom.

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Speaker 1: I kind of agree with with Marissa here. Hey, Marissa,

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Speaker 1: good morning, good morning.

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Speaker 3: I love you guys, Hey love you too.

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Speaker 1: So you find out you find dad on a dating

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Speaker 1: app and mom and dad are still married, and so

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Speaker 1: there's a few things here. You're on the dating app

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Speaker 1: looking for older men. You find dad on the dating

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Speaker 1: app looking for younger women. You don't know that they were,

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Speaker 1: you know, seeing other people or whatever. What do you do?

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Speaker 2: You confront your dad about it? Yes, I agree, especially

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Speaker 2: because as your mom you probably have a great relationship

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Speaker 3: You don't.

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Speaker 2: You shouldn't be the one to tell her that you

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Speaker 2: found her husband on a dating app. So he needs

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Speaker 2: to take responsibility. You need to confront him directly, and

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Speaker 2: he needs to be the one to tell her.

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Speaker 1: I think you go to dad and he either explains

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Speaker 1: be clear on it. I want to be clear that

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Speaker 1: go tell her that you're up to something. And I

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Speaker 1: caught you because it's like, it's not my job to

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Speaker 1: blow up their marriage. My parents' marriage is not my job.

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Speaker 1: It's your job to be accountable.

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Speaker 4: But then what if your dad never tells your mom right,

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Speaker 4: and then later on down the line, your mom finds

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Speaker 4: out that you knew this information.

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Speaker 3: Say, you've got a couple of days to tell her

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Speaker 3: where I'm going to.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, okay, so.

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Speaker 2: I've been in a similar situation unfortunately, And what I

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Speaker 2: ended up doing is I actually wrote him a letter

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Speaker 2: confronting him about it, and I said, here's the three

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Speaker 2: things you need from me for our relationship to stay

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Speaker 2: the same. So first thing, you need to stop, second thing,

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Speaker 2: you need to tell her, and third thing, you need

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Speaker 2: to tell her by this state. And if you don't,

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Speaker 2: then I'm going directly to her myself.

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Speaker 3: And did he do all that?

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Speaker 2: He did not, which is why we don't have the

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Speaker 2: best relation.

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Speaker 5: I'm sorry, but again it's.

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Speaker 2: Not it's not on need to tell her, And he

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Speaker 2: needed to know that he was burdening me with that

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Speaker 2: by not sticking up and doing it himself. So because

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Speaker 2: of that, he almost lost both of us and now

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Speaker 2: we're trying to work through it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you shouldn't be, Marissa, the person who has to

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Speaker 1: break up your own parents' marriage because of their decisions.

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Speaker 3: They need to be accountable themselves.

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Speaker 1: And if you find out, God forbid, but then they

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Speaker 1: got to fix it or not or whatever.

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Speaker 3: But you shouldn't have to be involved.

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Speaker 2: And my mom deserves that choice. She deserves to make

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Speaker 2: her own decision based on the information that she knows

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Speaker 2: from him directly, not from hearing it from anyone else.

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Speaker 2: And the cheater is the one who's ruining the marriage,

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Speaker 2: not the person who tells, not the messengers.

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Speaker 5: Trying to make that clear, that's just.

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Speaker 3: A bad spot to be in as a kid though,

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Speaker 3: of course for years.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, Marissa, thank you, and good luck, thank you,

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Speaker 1: love you, love you too. I don't know, Hey Candy, Candy,

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Speaker 1: Hello Candy, Hello, Hi Candy, good morning. You live this

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Speaker 1: this happened to you?

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Speaker 6: What this actually happened?

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Speaker 3: So what's the story?

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Speaker 6: Okay, So basically, I want to say, like ten years ago,

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Speaker 6: so my mom did not know how to She was

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Speaker 6: like the computer and email and like all that, and

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Speaker 6: so she had asked me, She's like, hey, I think

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Speaker 6: your dad might be, you know, stepping out. So I

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Speaker 6: was just like, okay, am, I like I really don't

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Speaker 6: want to be involved, like you know, like I'm still whatever.

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Speaker 6: So we went through, we went through the email, We

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Speaker 6: saw pictures, we saw like the whole nine yards, and

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Speaker 6: I was just sitting there in such disbelief, like I

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Speaker 6: didn't know how to react. My mom was just like nom.

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Speaker 6: I was nom, and I was like, are you okay?

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Speaker 6: She's like I need time to process and I.

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Speaker 5: Was like, okay, let me know.

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Speaker 6: If you need a here out anymore.

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Speaker 3: Hell wow, what happened? Yeah?

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Speaker 6: They ended up breaking up for a couple of months.

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Speaker 6: She confronted the girl.

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Speaker 3: We met the girl.

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Speaker 6: She was disgusting. She was nothing like my mom, complete

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Speaker 6: opposite death. That was what hurt her the most was

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Speaker 6: because like it was like the female was nothing compared

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Speaker 6: to like the life that he was living at home.

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Speaker 6: So she was just like, wait, what happened here? And

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Speaker 6: on top of it, my mama is a total hundred

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Speaker 5: Good daughter.

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Speaker 3: Did they work it out though? Did they reconcile?

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Speaker 2: They?

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Speaker 6: Yeah, they did reconcile. They broke off for a couple

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Speaker 6: of months. But through twenty years of marriage, I mean,

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Speaker 6: the love was still there, the respect was still there,

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Speaker 6: and my dad knew that he was going to lose

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Speaker 6: more than what he wanted by losing my mother. They

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Speaker 6: are still together, We are still one big, happy family.

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Speaker 6: But I will say that it was at the moment,

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Speaker 6: it was very, very overwhelming and fattally but at the

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Speaker 6: end of the day, like, I'm glad my parents got

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Speaker 6: through it, and like I said, we're still one loving family.

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Speaker 3: Well good, that's good.

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Speaker 1: And tell your mom so she's learned how to use

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Speaker 1: the internet on her own, so you don't have to

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Speaker 1: help her with that.

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Speaker 5: Get out.

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Speaker 3: No, Ma, well got it all worked out. Kenny. Thank

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Speaker 3: you for calling.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, thank you so much. And my god, I'm so

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Speaker 6: excited to be on the internet on the phone.

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Speaker 5: You guys, love you guys.

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Speaker 3: Thank you, Candy. You have a good day.

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Speaker 6: Man.

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Speaker 1: I can't imagine having to sit there and catch my

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Speaker 1: own father, my own mother cheating and then the other

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Speaker 1: person right there. Oh man, that that's not my responsibility

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Speaker 1: as a kid.

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Speaker 4: It's not, but it happens. And then what do you do?

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Speaker 4: I know you better say, I'm ama, Fred.

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Speaker 3: I would have to. Yeah, I would have to.

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Speaker 5: How could you not? How could you live with that?

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Speaker 2: Well?

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Speaker 3: I would do what I just said a minute ago.

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Speaker 3: I would go to my dad.

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Speaker 1: And be like, you got forty eight hours to explain

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Speaker 1: this to me, and explain this more importantly, explain this

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Speaker 1: to her or vice versa. But you're right though, with

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Speaker 1: my mom, I might be like, hold on, what dad do?

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Speaker 1: Hold on?

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Speaker 3: What did you get a fresh shot? This is what's trending?

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Speaker 3: You know, what do you do to deserve that?

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Speaker 2: Right?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'd be like that's mom, Like I'm not gonna

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Speaker 1: tell anybody, but like, what's going on. That's so funny

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Speaker 1: because it's true. I think I would handle it differently

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Speaker 1: with my two parents. I think that's true. Yeah, yeah,