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Speaker 4: My friend said I was too fat to be her

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Speaker 4: maid of honor, so I asked for all my payments back.

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Speaker 2: Good.

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Speaker 5: She does deserve your money.

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Speaker 2: Not at all. Indeed your I own in your spite.

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Speaker 4: My twenty seven female best friend, Claire, twenty eight female,

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Speaker 4: is getting married in a few weeks. We've been best

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Speaker 4: friends since high school and when she asked me to

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Speaker 4: be her maid of honor, I was beyond excited. I

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Speaker 4: wanted to give her the most amazing experience possible, so

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Speaker 4: I went all out. By the way, this comes from

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Speaker 4: Storytime subrend it. So I helped plan everything from her

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Speaker 4: bridal shower to the bachelorette party, which was a small

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Speaker 4: weekend trip for her and the bridal party. So paid

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Speaker 4: for decorations, party favors, and even chipped in for some

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Speaker 4: unexpected costs because I wanted to make things special for

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Speaker 4: her all together. I spent several thousand dollars money my

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Speaker 4: husband and I had budgeted for because I thought this

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Speaker 4: was something worth investing in. Claire has been like a

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Speaker 4: sister to me, and I thought being her maid of

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Speaker 4: honor was an honor. I didn't mind the expense, even

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Speaker 4: though it was a bit tight for us financially. I

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Speaker 4: just wanted her to have the perfect wedding experience.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so that's exactly how you should be. It's their wedding.

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Speaker 5: Make it great.

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Speaker 2: Here's where it all started to go wrong.

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Speaker 4: No, oh boy, I'm four months pregnant and you're doing

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Speaker 4: all that for her.

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Speaker 2: Blow.

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Speaker 5: That's an angel move, that's an angel friend right there.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: My husband and I found out a couple months ago,

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Speaker 4: and when I told Claire, she congratulated me but didn't

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Speaker 4: seem overly excited. I brushed it off because I figured

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Speaker 4: she was just busy with wedding planning. But since then

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Speaker 4: she started acting distant. She'd exclude me from conversations about

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Speaker 4: the wedding and would make passive comments about how hard

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Speaker 4: it is to coordinate everything when people are distracted by

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Speaker 4: personal thing. I started to feel like I was walking

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Speaker 4: on eggshells, but I didn't say anything because I didn't want.

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Speaker 2: To add to her stress.

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Speaker 4: Then a few days ago, Claire sat me down and

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Speaker 4: dropped the bombshell. She told me she didn't think I

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Speaker 4: too fat and she doesn't want me in the picture.

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Speaker 5: Okay, the fact that he's literally pregnant. He's literally pregnant.

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Speaker 4: Your pregnant best friend is organizing your entire wedding, and

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Speaker 4: you're like.

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Speaker 2: Oh, you're two thands of dollars. I'm sorry.

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Speaker 5: Regardless of what her weight is anyway, even if she

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Speaker 5: wasn't pregnant, you shouldn't be commenting on it. But the

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Speaker 5: fact that you're telling her that she's gaining too much

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Speaker 5: weight when she's literally growing a human inside of.

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Speaker 2: Her exactly is insane.

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Speaker 3: Absurd.

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Speaker 2: You're insane.

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Speaker 4: We're flinging you off of the place on it. You're

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Speaker 4: assign you into the giant sun trebuche. Right now, you're

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Speaker 4: in the sun. Yeah, could get thankful, because it could

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Speaker 4: be worse. You better be happy about that. So she

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Speaker 4: said that she was replacing me as made of honor

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Speaker 4: if this was because I'm pregnant, and she said that

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Speaker 4: it wasn't personal, but that she has a specific vision

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Speaker 4: She tried to frame it like it was about aesthetic consistency,

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Speaker 4: but how can that not feel personal? It's like, yeah,

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Speaker 4: it's your aesthetic. You're pregnant. Aesthetic is the one we

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Speaker 5: Yeah, we have kind of like a no pregnant people

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Speaker 5: lowed at my wedding.

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Speaker 2: Unbelievable.

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Speaker 5: You're allowed to have an aesthetic at your wedding, but

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Speaker 5: when it comes to how your friend's like your one,

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Speaker 5: your friend's bodies, but also just like hair type in general,

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Speaker 5: like you can't you can't tell people to change how

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Speaker 4: Did this person also forget photoshop exists? If this was

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Speaker 5: Okay that no, that would be crazy.

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Speaker 6: If she photoshopped the baby belly, eh, I get that

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Speaker 6: would be that would be less insane than excluding your

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Speaker 4: After she spent thousands of dollars to plan your entire experience.

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Speaker 5: No, I think that would be insane. If she was like, like, imagine, it.

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Speaker 2: Would be insane. This person is insane for doing it.

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Speaker 5: Just trying to think of into like a relevant thing

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Speaker 5: for you, Like, imagine you lost an arm, right.

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Speaker 2: I just literally I was thinking that exactly.

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Speaker 5: If you lost an arm and you were like, hey,

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Speaker 5: I'm going to like I've been putting all this effort

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Speaker 5: into being the best groom you know, uh, groomsman for

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Speaker 5: my my best friend. And your best friend comes up

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Speaker 5: to you and he's like, hey, I don't know if

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Speaker 5: you can be in the wedding because we have kind

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Speaker 5: of like an aesthetic thing.

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Speaker 2: You kind of have a two arms aesthetic going.

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Speaker 5: Oh no, and then he's like you know what, like no,

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Speaker 5: be in the wedding.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: Months later and you get the pictures back photo shopped arm.

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Speaker 5: That would be crazy.

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Speaker 2: It's all bad. Claire does not deserve o pe whats.

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Speaker 4: Ca.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you deserve it, so Op says. I told her.

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Speaker 4: I was incredibly hurt and disappointed, but if she didn't

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Speaker 4: want me in the wedding, I wouldn't attend at all.

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Speaker 4: I also handed her all the receipts for the events

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Speaker 4: and expenses I'd covered, totaling several thousand dollars, and told

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Speaker 4: her that since I was no longer made of honor,

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Speaker 4: I expected her and her fiance to reimburse me. I

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Speaker 4: explained that I'd only spent that money because of the

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Speaker 2: For me to shoulder those costs.

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Speaker 4: Claire flipped out, Oh did typical Claire?

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Speaker 5: I knew you, what, Claire? Because you suck?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? She does.

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Speaker 5: Devils spawned Claire.

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Speaker 2: Dinky, stinky Claire.

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Speaker 6: She accused me of being petty and selfish and said

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Speaker 6: I was trying to ruin her big day. WHOA, The

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Speaker 6: amount of lack of self awareness in that sentence is

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Speaker 6: making me a malfunction. She told me that it was

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Speaker 6: quote unquote tacky to ask for my money back and

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Speaker 6: that those expenses were my responsibility as the maid of honor.

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Speaker 2: I reminded her, then I'm not the maid of honor anymore.

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Speaker 2: She made that decision woo.

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Speaker 4: And therefore those costs are no longer mine to cover.

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Speaker 5: Nice, uh take her down, slam dunker like you, like

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Speaker 5: you're in the basketball league.

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Speaker 4: In the basketball League, that will remain nameless because we

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Speaker 4: don't do free sponsors.

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Speaker 5: Yes, that's why I didn't say it, because I didn't

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Speaker 5: remember the name.

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Speaker 4: If if league Commissioner Adam Silver wants to hit us up,

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Speaker 4: we can, we can.

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Speaker 3: We can talk.

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Speaker 4: So since then, Claire, her fiance, and even some of

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Speaker 4: I'm being vindictive and accusing me of trying to sabotage

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Speaker 5: There's no way they know the full story. Yeah, but

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Speaker 5: Clara went to the family and was like, she just

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Speaker 5: randomly took out all the money from the wedding. I

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Speaker 5: don't understand. She says she's not gonna be made of

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Speaker 2: Yeah, No, that's Claire Blair. Claire just doal Claire. One

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Speaker 4: It's just pregnancy hormones making me act this way and

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Speaker 4: I should calm down and let it go. My husband

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Speaker 4: has been incredibly supportive, as should and says I did

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Speaker 4: the right thing. He pointed out that I've gone above

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Speaker 4: and beyond for Claire, and that the way she treated me,

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Speaker 4: especially knowing I'm pregnant, is cruel and unacceptable. He agrees

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Speaker 4: that I shouldn't be out thousands of dollars for a

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Speaker 4: wedding I'm not even attending. Still, the constant messages and

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Speaker 4: accusations have made me second guess myself. I feel humiliated

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Speaker 4: but I also feel like I'm standing up for myself

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Speaker 4: by asking for reimbursement and refusing to let her treat

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Speaker 4: me this way. So Reddit, am I the a hole?

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Speaker 4: Should I have just let it go and written off

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Speaker 5: You're not the a hole?

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Speaker 2: Absolutely not.

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Speaker 4: In fact, I would actually say that you should go

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Speaker 4: if they don't pay you back. Yeah, it's like, if

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Speaker 4: there's any legal recourse you could make that they stole

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Speaker 2: Were just like, by the way, you're not allowed to

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Speaker 4: So and then you're like, all right, well, if you

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Speaker 5: Through the court stuff would be pretty tricky, especially because

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Speaker 5: a thousand dollars is not like maybe you could do small.

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Speaker 4: Courts, like plural thousands of thousands. You're right, that's the

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Speaker 4: other part of white Claire. This is absurd to be like, yeah,

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Speaker 4: I know, you literally just spent racks on racks on

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Speaker 4: my actual wedding. That's not yours, by the way, but

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Speaker 4: you're you're pregnant.

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Speaker 2: So that's true.

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Speaker 5: If it's like multiple thousands of dollars, maybe you could

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, but hopefully it won't get to that point,

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Speaker 4: and somebody in Claire's life will recognize when the truth

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Speaker 4: because clearly everyone's been told a lie when it comes

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Speaker 4: to life, they'll be like, hey, Claire, you're being a monster.

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Speaker 2: Why don't you go and give her money?

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Speaker 5: You you told her that she was gaining weight.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, no, it's absurd gaining a baby. Claire really said,

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Speaker 2: there are no fatty bloombaties allowed at my wedding. It's like,

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Speaker 2: I'm pregnant. I am fully pregnant.

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Speaker 5: Well pregnant, come on, and also again like literally even

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Speaker 5: if she was gaining way, that's your best friend, just

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Speaker 5: spent thousands of dollars? Yes, like get out of here.

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Speaker 2: Update.

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Speaker 4: Hello everyone, This will be my only update hopefully. Thank

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Speaker 4: you so much for the support and advice. It truly

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Speaker 4: helped me through this difficult time. After I stood firm

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Speaker 4: on being reimbursed for the expenses, I covered as made

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Speaker 4: take the matter to small claims court, things escalated. Ooh,

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Speaker 4: Claire and her family kept messaging me, trying to guilt me.

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Speaker 2: But I didn't.

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Speaker 4: But I decided to send the Reddit post to Claire's

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Speaker 4: After receiving payment, I blocked Claire, her fiance, and her

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Speaker 4: It's pretty much the only one I can think of

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Speaker 5: Life is going to be commenting on your body.

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Speaker 2: They're not in your corner.

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Speaker 5: Exactly at all, no appreciation. You don't need that person

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Speaker 2: To everyone who commented and supported me, thank you again.

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Speaker 4: Easy from this yellish situation, and I will now leave

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Speaker 5: It was going to be a week long beach trip

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Speaker 5: No, it's just like really uncomfortable I think to one

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Speaker 5: Yeah, She's like, I need to take her down, which

445
00:19:20,840 --> 00:19:23,240
Speaker 5: is so embarrassing, like so embarrassing for you.

446
00:19:23,440 --> 00:19:25,880
Speaker 4: I feel like my equivalent of this is like if

447
00:19:25,920 --> 00:19:27,920
Speaker 4: like there's a guy who like makes like a really

448
00:19:27,920 --> 00:19:29,760
Speaker 4: good joke, but it's like I feel like I made

449
00:19:29,800 --> 00:19:31,679
Speaker 4: the joke first, and then they get the laugh and

450
00:19:31,680 --> 00:19:33,600
Speaker 4: then I'm like, all right, buddy, let's see how funny

451
00:19:33,600 --> 00:19:34,080
Speaker 4: you really are.

452
00:19:34,359 --> 00:19:36,120
Speaker 5: Let see what she can take.

453
00:19:36,200 --> 00:19:37,520
Speaker 2: But I haven't done that in years.

454
00:19:37,520 --> 00:19:39,359
Speaker 4: In fact, I'm usually the other guy and then someone

455
00:19:39,359 --> 00:19:41,720
Speaker 4: else gets mad and I'm like, I don't care, it's okay, buddy.

456
00:19:41,800 --> 00:19:44,480
Speaker 5: Like though, if I ever repeat a joke, I'm like,

457
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Speaker 5: I didn't come with that.

458
00:19:45,480 --> 00:19:46,800
Speaker 2: That was them, that was true.

459
00:19:46,840 --> 00:19:50,360
Speaker 5: Gotta give credit the whole trip. One of the grooms

460
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Speaker 5: in was flirting with me relentlessly while her boyfriend's there.

461
00:19:53,920 --> 00:19:58,320
Speaker 5: That's crazy vibes, Yes, Fritian, My boyfriend was getting jealous,

462
00:19:58,320 --> 00:20:01,560
Speaker 5: and he's not the jealous time. This groomsman was always

463
00:20:01,600 --> 00:20:04,120
Speaker 5: trying to get me alone, ordering for me at restaurants,

464
00:20:04,160 --> 00:20:07,400
Speaker 5: acting like he was my partner. Blah blah blah. I mean,

465
00:20:07,440 --> 00:20:09,600
Speaker 5: that's not even like getting jealous. It's just like, dude,

466
00:20:09,760 --> 00:20:16,040
Speaker 5: let's stop. Meanwhile, Kaylee was flirting with my boyfriend. I

467
00:20:16,080 --> 00:20:18,480
Speaker 5: would not want to be like, why are your friend's

468
00:20:18,520 --> 00:20:20,600
Speaker 5: friends with these people? I don't know, so that's kind

469
00:20:20,600 --> 00:20:23,399
Speaker 5: of a red flag. Honestly, yes, my boyfriend's handsome, but

470
00:20:23,440 --> 00:20:26,920
Speaker 5: he hates attention and refused to engage in her flirty behavior.

471
00:20:27,000 --> 00:20:30,040
Speaker 5: It was annoying, but I was not intimidated by Kaylee

472
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Speaker 5: in the slightest, so I let it go. On the

473
00:20:32,320 --> 00:20:34,480
Speaker 5: last day, we decided to go to dinner. Once we

474
00:20:34,480 --> 00:20:37,840
Speaker 5: were already ready, we split up and took different cars.

475
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Speaker 5: I'm a very tight b person and couldn't decide if

476
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Speaker 5: I needed a bra or no bra for my dress,

477
00:20:42,680 --> 00:20:44,879
Speaker 5: so I brought one with me in case. I was

478
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Speaker 5: not trying to have any wardrobe malfunctions in front of

479
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Speaker 5: my man's friends. On the right over to the restaurant,

480
00:20:50,359 --> 00:20:52,199
Speaker 5: I'm sitting in the car talking to someone in the

481
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Speaker 5: back seat when I noticed my right boob is hanging

482
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Speaker 5: out of my dress. I guess foo and apologize. I'm sorry,

483
00:21:00,200 --> 00:21:02,160
Speaker 5: but the person in the back says he didn't notice.

484
00:21:02,200 --> 00:21:05,119
Speaker 5: My boyfriend, however, is grinning ear to ear having gotten

485
00:21:05,119 --> 00:21:08,120
Speaker 5: a sneak pee. Why didn't he say anything.

486
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Speaker 2: Well, he was just like enjoying the moment, really in

487
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Speaker 2: the moment.

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Speaker 5: Luckily I had a bra in my bag because I'm

489
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Speaker 5: a genius. I discreetly slipped the bra on underneath my

490
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Speaker 5: dress and we all go out to meet the others

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Speaker 5: at the bar. The girls are all talking about the

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Speaker 5: fun time they had at the beach. Then Kaylee says Claire,

493
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Speaker 5: I have to know what makeup do you use? You

494
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Speaker 5: swim and it doesn't even come off. I told her

495
00:21:30,600 --> 00:21:33,760
Speaker 5: the brand Lriel infallible proma. Oh, I can't see it.

496
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Speaker 5: I told her the brand unnamed. If you're wondering, she says,

497
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Speaker 5: but like you seem to wear so much foundation. I'm

498
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Speaker 5: just surprised it looks so good after getting wet.

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Speaker 4: Oh my god, girl, I'm not even in tuned into makeup.

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Speaker 4: But come up, shut up, I know what you're trying

501
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Speaker 4: to say.

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Speaker 5: Shut up, hatter again. She's saying this in front of

503
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Speaker 5: like fifteen people who are all listening because she's loud.

504
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Speaker 2: Af.

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Speaker 5: I want to ask her if she's ever heard of

506
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Speaker 5: settings pray, but I just shrug and staf. She wan't

507
00:22:00,600 --> 00:22:02,960
Speaker 5: shut up and says, I never wear a makeup. I

508
00:22:03,040 --> 00:22:05,320
Speaker 5: just don't feel like I need it. Hmm, I can

509
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Speaker 5: see a foundation line on our dom lies.

510
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Speaker 4: Yeah, but I bet you op didn't say, oh, really,

511
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Speaker 4: is that a foundation?

512
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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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00:22:15,040 --> 00:22:16,359
Speaker 2: She just said, okay, cool.

514
00:22:16,480 --> 00:22:20,200
Speaker 5: Oh wait, there's even more, uh, glittery gold eyeshadow, mascara,

515
00:22:20,359 --> 00:22:22,400
Speaker 5: even lip color. But what do I know? She must

516
00:22:22,480 --> 00:22:25,439
Speaker 5: have those naturally. Once the table's ready, she starts talking

517
00:22:25,520 --> 00:22:29,520
Speaker 5: again about her bazangas. Wow, this time, I was going

518
00:22:29,560 --> 00:22:31,639
Speaker 5: to go bra less in this dress, but the girls

519
00:22:31,720 --> 00:22:34,480
Speaker 5: needed support. I told her it's probably for the best

520
00:22:34,520 --> 00:22:36,480
Speaker 5: because I'd had a nip slip in the car, which,

521
00:22:36,520 --> 00:22:38,840
Speaker 5: for the record, was my first and only ever nip slip.

522
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Speaker 5: I told her it was crazy. I looked down, I

523
00:22:40,880 --> 00:22:43,680
Speaker 5: noticed my boob, but flown out. Okay, maybe flown was

524
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Speaker 5: a strong word, but I was grasping out straws to

525
00:22:46,359 --> 00:22:48,479
Speaker 5: relate to this chick. I honestly probably would not have

526
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Speaker 5: told this story to this girl.

527
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Speaker 2: I like flow out, That is funny. Flown like it

528
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Speaker 2: had wings.

529
00:22:54,640 --> 00:22:57,000
Speaker 5: Yeah, sometimes they just they just escape.

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Speaker 2: Whoa get back? You get like like it's on a

531
00:23:00,880 --> 00:23:04,360
Speaker 2: kite string. Kayleie, I'm sorry, It's just that was too much.

532
00:23:04,800 --> 00:23:05,440
Speaker 2: That was too much.

533
00:23:05,440 --> 00:23:08,240
Speaker 5: You really into the visualizations of these things today?

534
00:23:08,440 --> 00:23:11,159
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

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00:23:11,280 --> 00:23:14,680
Speaker 5: Kaylee turned to me and said, in the loudest voice possible,

536
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Speaker 5: arets I find that hard to believe.

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Speaker 2: Uh huh.

538
00:23:19,560 --> 00:23:20,600
Speaker 5: The table went silent.

539
00:23:20,720 --> 00:23:21,120
Speaker 2: Mm hmm.

540
00:23:21,240 --> 00:23:24,119
Speaker 5: My boyfriend froze. We all just looked at her. No

541
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Speaker 5: in said a word, but you know what word I

542
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Speaker 5: have to say. You can join us live every week

543
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Speaker 5: to ad three pmpst on YouTube, Facebook and TikTok. Just

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Speaker 5: tap our profiles, right, that's all it takes.

545
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Speaker 2: Probably live now, one tap you can fly over there,

546
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Speaker 2: you can.

547
00:23:35,440 --> 00:23:37,680
Speaker 5: Fly right over and there is a little bit left.

548
00:23:37,680 --> 00:23:39,800
Speaker 2: But I want the boy what do you think what's

549
00:23:39,800 --> 00:23:40,240
Speaker 2: gonna happen?

550
00:23:40,240 --> 00:23:43,240
Speaker 4: I want the next boyfriend to be like the next moment,

551
00:23:43,640 --> 00:23:46,239
Speaker 4: the next moment to be the boyfriend standing up and

552
00:23:46,280 --> 00:23:48,160
Speaker 4: just being like I like them a lot.

553
00:23:48,480 --> 00:23:50,920
Speaker 5: I like my girlfriend's banzongas.

554
00:23:51,000 --> 00:23:53,879
Speaker 4: Don't talk about those bizongas like that in front of me.

555
00:23:54,119 --> 00:23:55,280
Speaker 2: Am I doing it right, babe.

556
00:23:55,359 --> 00:23:59,080
Speaker 5: Keep my girlfriend's bizongas out of your mouth.

557
00:23:59,200 --> 00:24:00,760
Speaker 2: Please. That's it's my thing.

558
00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:03,760
Speaker 5: That's my things. Okay, they're my mouth.

559
00:24:03,920 --> 00:24:06,520
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, no, I mean, I think the good news

560
00:24:06,600 --> 00:24:09,240
Speaker 4: is is that even though this is clearly like you're going,

561
00:24:09,400 --> 00:24:11,359
Speaker 4: she already knows how to go about this because a

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00:24:11,400 --> 00:24:13,679
Speaker 4: person who tries to like just get at you like

563
00:24:13,680 --> 00:24:16,400
Speaker 4: that and just always tries your little she just you

564
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Speaker 4: just you completely go.

565
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Speaker 2: They go low, you go high, You.

566
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Speaker 5: Say, oh yeah, I know it's crazy, but you know

567
00:24:22,960 --> 00:24:23,840
Speaker 5: it happened, and.

568
00:24:23,800 --> 00:24:26,080
Speaker 4: They just keep digging that hole. Everyone just starts going,

569
00:24:26,200 --> 00:24:30,199
Speaker 4: why is she so annoying? And every little thing she

570
00:24:30,359 --> 00:24:32,960
Speaker 4: says is she's just nag, nag, nag.

571
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Speaker 5: It's like, no, people who are horrible, Like when you

572
00:24:36,520 --> 00:24:39,560
Speaker 5: continue to go high and they keep going low, people notice, yeah,

573
00:24:39,600 --> 00:24:41,280
Speaker 5: and you don't have to do anything. They're digging their.

574
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Speaker 2: Own grave exactly.

575
00:24:42,200 --> 00:24:43,560
Speaker 5: But there's a little bit left to the string.

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Speaker 3: Okay.

577
00:24:44,280 --> 00:24:47,840
Speaker 5: After very painful twenty to thirty seconds, I laughed to

578
00:24:47,920 --> 00:24:53,119
Speaker 5: try to play it off, and slowly conversations resumed. My

579
00:24:53,240 --> 00:24:56,240
Speaker 5: boyfriend was horrified and we decided to leave the dinner early,

580
00:24:56,280 --> 00:24:58,400
Speaker 5: but not before Kaylee called the bride out for wearing

581
00:24:58,520 --> 00:25:01,600
Speaker 5: non nude underwear under a li colored dress, something none

582
00:25:01,640 --> 00:25:03,600
Speaker 5: of us would have ever noticed. Why is she now

583
00:25:03,640 --> 00:25:05,080
Speaker 5: calling out the bride.

584
00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:07,760
Speaker 2: Because now she's like, my plans failing. Huh, Oh my god.

585
00:25:08,040 --> 00:25:10,480
Speaker 4: I know it'll make everyone like me, the bride's doing

586
00:25:10,520 --> 00:25:11,119
Speaker 4: things wrong.

587
00:25:12,480 --> 00:25:15,639
Speaker 5: The bride looked really embarrassed. It was sad. Oh, come on,

588
00:25:16,000 --> 00:25:18,000
Speaker 5: fast forward. The next time I saw the group at

589
00:25:18,040 --> 00:25:21,080
Speaker 5: the wedding, Kaylee took my phone from my purse and

590
00:25:21,160 --> 00:25:24,840
Speaker 5: shared my location with her, then followed herself on Instagram

591
00:25:24,840 --> 00:25:25,800
Speaker 5: from my profile?

592
00:25:25,960 --> 00:25:28,720
Speaker 2: Is that did she just commit a crime? That seems

593
00:25:28,760 --> 00:25:29,320
Speaker 2: like a crime.

594
00:25:29,440 --> 00:25:33,160
Speaker 4: I think technically you giving yourself someone else's location without

595
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Speaker 4: their permission is like.

596
00:25:34,240 --> 00:25:34,840
Speaker 5: That's crazy.

597
00:25:34,960 --> 00:25:35,439
Speaker 3: Have crime?

598
00:25:35,720 --> 00:25:39,080
Speaker 5: That's crazy? Oh my god, lock her up now. I'm curious.

599
00:25:39,200 --> 00:25:41,720
Speaker 5: Has anyone met a pick me girl that is one

600
00:25:41,760 --> 00:25:45,240
Speaker 5: of the bazunga obsessed variety? Is this mental illness?

601
00:25:45,800 --> 00:25:46,240
Speaker 2: Let me know.

602
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Speaker 5: I will never go to a joint bachelor slash bachelorette

603
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Speaker 5: party again. Wow, dang, yeah, these people suck.

604
00:25:52,720 --> 00:25:56,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, you don't, hey, and exactly you don't even Oh

605
00:25:56,119 --> 00:25:58,000
Speaker 4: that was a bad idea from the very beginning.

606
00:25:58,320 --> 00:26:00,359
Speaker 2: A joint bachelor bachelorrete party.

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Speaker 5: Well, I think I could be fun if you have

608
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Speaker 5: cool friends.

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00:26:02,480 --> 00:26:05,520
Speaker 4: Sure, but it's like, sometimes there's boys night and sometimes

610
00:26:05,520 --> 00:26:07,920
Speaker 4: there's girls night. Right, you don't usually take the boys

611
00:26:07,920 --> 00:26:09,720
Speaker 4: to girls night. You don't usually take the girls to

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00:26:09,760 --> 00:26:10,199
Speaker 4: boys night.

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Speaker 5: I think, But I do think it depends on the

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00:26:11,920 --> 00:26:14,480
Speaker 5: dynamic your friendship, because I I mean, like I hang

615
00:26:14,520 --> 00:26:16,800
Speaker 5: out with a lot of men. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I'm not saying there's but anything. Yeah.

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00:26:18,800 --> 00:26:21,720
Speaker 5: Yeah, but sometimes it depends on your dynamic because sometimes

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00:26:21,720 --> 00:26:24,040
Speaker 5: you have separate friend groups, and I feel like that's

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Speaker 5: more than live It's less like boys girls. It's like

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Speaker 5: these are my friends and these are her friends, and

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Speaker 5: we're gonna have a night where we celebrate with our friends,

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00:26:31,359 --> 00:26:33,760
Speaker 5: you know, yeah, rather than like I guess.

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Speaker 2: A bachelorrette party is.

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Speaker 4: I'm more thinking in the context of like, yeah, it's

625
00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:38,480
Speaker 4: like everyone's got like a girlfriend.

626
00:26:38,680 --> 00:26:40,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's like you know, you're know, we're just.

627
00:26:40,720 --> 00:26:43,840
Speaker 4: Like all doing boys stuff like digging holes and finding

628
00:26:44,400 --> 00:26:47,760
Speaker 4: holes on the beach, which is also completely open to

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Speaker 4: any other gender on Earth under the entire spectrum. Everyone

630
00:26:53,000 --> 00:26:55,680
Speaker 4: can enjoy zegging holes and finding bugs.

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Speaker 5: I freaking love digging holes and finding bugs.

632
00:26:58,080 --> 00:27:00,920
Speaker 4: I like finding bugs until they find me. Yeah, I'm like, no, no, no,

633
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Speaker 4: I find you. You don't find me. I find you.

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Speaker 4: I ended a friendship of nine years, we just keep

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Speaker 4: having disagreements.

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00:27:14,880 --> 00:27:17,240
Speaker 5: That's the time. If you keep disagreeing with your friend,

639
00:27:17,280 --> 00:27:18,439
Speaker 5: then you gotta get rid of them.

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Speaker 4: I twenty six met my best friend Felicia twenty seven

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Speaker 4: in high school. Felicia has always been the hot headed friend,

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Speaker 4: ready to argue, while I've always been more laid back

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Speaker 4: and chill. I've been diagnosed with anxiety, so I typically

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Speaker 4: stay out of stressful situations. But in a way, we

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Speaker 4: she went to university in China while I went to

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Speaker 4: culinary school. Our schedules never really lined up, but we

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00:27:54,640 --> 00:27:57,600
Speaker 4: always would have found time for each other. She made

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Speaker 4: new friends there, and I also made a new friend

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Speaker 4: who she didn't like completely, but I'd always try for

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Speaker 4: everyone to do something together around the same time. Last year,

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Speaker 4: I was going through a lot of at work after

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Speaker 4: maternity leave. I was being excluded and talked about and disrespected,

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Speaker 4: which led me to go to HR about it, seeing.

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Speaker 2: As most of it came from my boss, eh, whoats good? Boss?

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Speaker 4: Felicia was talking to me about my son and who

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Speaker 4: watches him? And I know for a fact she had

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Speaker 4: asked me that five hundred times before, plus other people.

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Speaker 4: So I stated randomly that I was kind of tired

663
00:28:34,359 --> 00:28:36,800
Speaker 4: of people asking me about that. Wasn't with an attitude,

664
00:28:36,840 --> 00:28:39,760
Speaker 4: It wasn't rude. It was just saying something on my mind.

665
00:28:39,840 --> 00:28:43,000
Speaker 4: But also knowing the person she is, I also said

666
00:28:43,000 --> 00:28:44,960
Speaker 4: to her that it wasn't said with attitude.

667
00:28:45,000 --> 00:28:46,480
Speaker 2: I was just dating something she knows.

668
00:28:46,520 --> 00:28:49,600
Speaker 4: Felicia's you go wait, wait, Felicia, no, I swear no attitude.

669
00:28:49,600 --> 00:28:51,560
Speaker 5: Please she says this, She's.

670
00:28:51,440 --> 00:28:54,600
Speaker 4: Like, wait, she's like getting bigger, like Gandal from the first,

671
00:28:54,640 --> 00:28:55,280
Speaker 4: like Lord of the Rings.

672
00:28:55,360 --> 00:28:59,040
Speaker 2: Wois Okay.

673
00:28:59,120 --> 00:29:02,320
Speaker 4: So of course she took that horribly wrong and went

674
00:29:02,440 --> 00:29:05,360
Speaker 4: off on me anyway, which in turn got me upset.

675
00:29:05,440 --> 00:29:06,960
Speaker 2: So I went off on her.

676
00:29:07,160 --> 00:29:09,680
Speaker 4: She was saying how she doesn't understand why I've gotten

677
00:29:09,720 --> 00:29:12,480
Speaker 4: so feisty, a strong headed, and I need to talk

678
00:29:12,520 --> 00:29:14,560
Speaker 4: to her better than that. I started yelling, trying to

679
00:29:14,600 --> 00:29:16,120
Speaker 4: explain to her that I said.

680
00:29:15,960 --> 00:29:17,960
Speaker 5: What I said without any aggrash id and.

681
00:29:17,960 --> 00:29:19,760
Speaker 4: Still went out of my way to tell you this

682
00:29:19,960 --> 00:29:23,360
Speaker 4: before you even responded to the initial statement, So why are.

683
00:29:23,280 --> 00:29:24,280
Speaker 2: You still behaving like this?

684
00:29:24,600 --> 00:29:26,640
Speaker 5: It's kind of ridiculous when someone, I mean even I

685
00:29:26,640 --> 00:29:29,240
Speaker 5: think even if someone snaps or something like says something

686
00:29:29,320 --> 00:29:32,120
Speaker 5: kind of like maybe rude because they're tired or something,

687
00:29:32,160 --> 00:29:34,160
Speaker 5: and then immediately or like, they're like, I'm sorry that

688
00:29:34,160 --> 00:29:36,200
Speaker 5: I didn't mean to say it like that, just tired,

689
00:29:36,520 --> 00:29:39,280
Speaker 5: you know, came out wrong. And you still are like

690
00:29:39,480 --> 00:29:42,320
Speaker 5: out there, You're like, come.

691
00:29:42,200 --> 00:29:47,160
Speaker 4: On, come on, and I'm trying to skip the tutorial here.

692
00:29:45,440 --> 00:29:48,200
Speaker 2: Yeah.

693
00:29:48,600 --> 00:29:52,200
Speaker 4: Anyway, we went back and forth, on and on until

694
00:29:52,320 --> 00:29:54,720
Speaker 4: I lashed out and said what was on my mind,

695
00:29:54,800 --> 00:29:58,400
Speaker 4: including some depressing stuff due to my anxiety adding up again.

696
00:29:58,440 --> 00:30:01,720
Speaker 4: She left without saying anything. I calmed myself down and

697
00:30:01,760 --> 00:30:04,200
Speaker 4: went on with my life. She wished me happy birthday,

698
00:30:04,320 --> 00:30:07,880
Speaker 4: told her condolences on her loss her grandfather had passed,

699
00:30:07,920 --> 00:30:11,160
Speaker 4: and then I wished her happy birthday, which she didn't replied.

700
00:30:11,400 --> 00:30:14,320
Speaker 4: After a while, she concocted an idea in her head

701
00:30:14,480 --> 00:30:16,840
Speaker 4: that I had blocked her, so then she proceeded to

702
00:30:16,840 --> 00:30:20,080
Speaker 4: block me on everything, but not before sending a voice

703
00:30:20,080 --> 00:30:22,480
Speaker 4: note saying which before I get into that when A

704
00:30:22,560 --> 00:30:26,240
Speaker 4: Romeo and Juliette type friendship they've got right there that movie. Well,

705
00:30:26,480 --> 00:30:29,280
Speaker 4: you blocked me, I guess I'll block you, but I

706
00:30:29,400 --> 00:30:30,800
Speaker 4: haven't blocked you anyway.

707
00:30:30,960 --> 00:30:31,640
Speaker 5: That's a tragedy.

708
00:30:31,720 --> 00:30:34,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, we got a Greek tragedy right here? Is that Greek?

709
00:30:34,240 --> 00:30:35,320
Speaker 3: No, it wasn't.

710
00:30:35,360 --> 00:30:37,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, what am I talking about? Anyways?

711
00:30:37,440 --> 00:30:40,320
Speaker 4: The voice note said, I'm a horrible friend. Didn't you

712
00:30:40,400 --> 00:30:43,040
Speaker 4: realize this when I was paying for you at every

713
00:30:43,040 --> 00:30:45,840
Speaker 4: opportunity I got. I had more expendable income, so I

714
00:30:45,920 --> 00:30:48,800
Speaker 4: was never one to not offer assistance or just spend

715
00:30:48,880 --> 00:30:50,479
Speaker 4: on you for the fun of it. Oh, so that

716
00:30:50,600 --> 00:30:53,280
Speaker 4: was That was Opie's comment on it. Didn't realize that

717
00:30:53,360 --> 00:30:56,000
Speaker 4: I'm a terrible friend? Oh you didn't realize that sooner?

718
00:30:56,360 --> 00:31:00,120
Speaker 5: Yeah, are you sure you don't have any attitude? I

719
00:31:00,160 --> 00:31:01,680
Speaker 5: have a little bit. But also they might both have

720
00:31:01,680 --> 00:31:02,240
Speaker 5: a little bit of better.

721
00:31:02,400 --> 00:31:03,080
Speaker 2: Yeah. I think they.

722
00:31:03,200 --> 00:31:06,240
Speaker 5: Hey, sometimes two people with a lot of attitude don't

723
00:31:06,240 --> 00:31:06,600
Speaker 5: work out.

724
00:31:06,720 --> 00:31:09,720
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, they can. They collide like Godzilla and King Kong.

725
00:31:09,840 --> 00:31:12,640
Speaker 4: Yeah they're like and then they get united and fight

726
00:31:12,680 --> 00:31:14,040
Speaker 4: against Mecca Godzilla.

727
00:31:14,240 --> 00:31:17,160
Speaker 5: Yeah, yes, and then yes, it's the boss. That's the

728
00:31:17,200 --> 00:31:18,400
Speaker 5: boss is the problem.

729
00:31:18,600 --> 00:31:20,080
Speaker 2: It's gonna be the boss. I see you.

730
00:31:20,240 --> 00:31:23,240
Speaker 4: They're gonna do Godzilla in King Kong versus Mecha Godzilla,

731
00:31:23,280 --> 00:31:25,720
Speaker 4: and Mecha Godzilla is the boss. Anyway, that was a

732
00:31:25,840 --> 00:31:29,040
Speaker 4: very twelve year old brain moment. Moving on the friendship

733
00:31:29,160 --> 00:31:33,280
Speaker 4: wasn't working anyway. Oh this is why I have no friends.

734
00:31:33,520 --> 00:31:33,960
Speaker 2: I do.

735
00:31:34,240 --> 00:31:36,520
Speaker 4: I just don't keep everyone close due to their values

736
00:31:36,560 --> 00:31:39,560
Speaker 4: not matching mine. I need mental help. True, but don't

737
00:31:39,640 --> 00:31:42,280
Speaker 4: use it as something to attack me with facts. You

738
00:31:42,440 --> 00:31:45,280
Speaker 4: also do and say the same thing sometimes, so it

739
00:31:45,280 --> 00:31:48,560
Speaker 4: would be hypocritical. I like toxic relationships. Hope you had

740
00:31:48,600 --> 00:31:51,000
Speaker 4: nothing to say about that. I'm immature and I don't

741
00:31:51,000 --> 00:31:53,400
Speaker 4: know how to be a friend, amongst other things. I'm

742
00:31:53,400 --> 00:31:55,720
Speaker 4: not gonna say that I'm the perfect friend because I'm not.

743
00:31:55,920 --> 00:31:58,600
Speaker 4: I get annoyed easily. I don't like people to tell

744
00:31:58,640 --> 00:32:00,960
Speaker 4: me that crap that doesn't make sense. And I'm not

745
00:32:01,160 --> 00:32:04,000
Speaker 4: the best at social cues. And I do need mental help.

746
00:32:04,040 --> 00:32:06,120
Speaker 4: That is a fact, and it is something I've been

747
00:32:06,160 --> 00:32:09,760
Speaker 4: working on. It's never something I've used to fuel an argument.

748
00:32:09,880 --> 00:32:12,520
Speaker 4: But my thing about it is why not say these

749
00:32:12,560 --> 00:32:15,160
Speaker 4: things before? I should have left things as it was,

750
00:32:15,200 --> 00:32:17,800
Speaker 4: but I ended up reaching out through her boyfriend and

751
00:32:17,840 --> 00:32:20,000
Speaker 4: then she unblocked me. We talked it out and we

752
00:32:20,000 --> 00:32:23,640
Speaker 4: were okay. Occasionally calls me feisty, and even though I

753
00:32:23,680 --> 00:32:25,720
Speaker 4: don't appreciate it, I usually take it as.

754
00:32:25,600 --> 00:32:26,560
Speaker 5: A cue to shut up.

755
00:32:26,680 --> 00:32:30,280
Speaker 4: Until recently it's petty, but it annoys me because it

756
00:32:30,360 --> 00:32:33,000
Speaker 4: was so unwarranted. I was wondering if there was something

757
00:32:33,000 --> 00:32:35,840
Speaker 4: wrong with me. Felicia and I made plans for her

758
00:32:35,880 --> 00:32:38,560
Speaker 4: to come to my apartment about a month ago. Nowhere

759
00:32:38,760 --> 00:32:41,040
Speaker 4: in these plans was it stated that she wanted to

760
00:32:41,080 --> 00:32:43,600
Speaker 4: spend the night, so I wasn't even considering that my

761
00:32:43,760 --> 00:32:46,640
Speaker 4: boyfriend and my baby were sleeping in the room. And

762
00:32:46,760 --> 00:32:49,480
Speaker 4: as soon as I told her that, her mood switched

763
00:32:49,560 --> 00:32:50,440
Speaker 4: and she told.

764
00:32:50,320 --> 00:32:51,040
Speaker 2: Me she was leaving.

765
00:32:51,120 --> 00:32:53,680
Speaker 4: I calmed her down and told her he's not staying.

766
00:32:53,760 --> 00:32:56,200
Speaker 4: He was just passing by after work because he said

767
00:32:56,240 --> 00:32:57,880
Speaker 4: he wanted to cook for me. Am I supposed to

768
00:32:57,880 --> 00:33:00,720
Speaker 4: tell him no, absolutely, not no, you say yes to that.

769
00:33:00,800 --> 00:33:02,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, he said he's gonna.

770
00:33:01,840 --> 00:33:03,959
Speaker 5: Cook for you. You say, you always say, you say

771
00:33:04,280 --> 00:33:06,240
Speaker 5: if anyone says you gotta cook for you. He said,

772
00:33:06,240 --> 00:33:06,560
Speaker 5: thank you.

773
00:33:06,800 --> 00:33:09,400
Speaker 4: She had an attitude for a good chunk of the

774
00:33:09,440 --> 00:33:12,200
Speaker 4: evening while on her phone until We eventually sparked a

775
00:33:12,200 --> 00:33:15,120
Speaker 4: conversation that even included my boyfriend while he cooked.

776
00:33:15,160 --> 00:33:15,760
Speaker 2: After that, we.

777
00:33:15,720 --> 00:33:18,240
Speaker 4: All ate and he left. Things went on as normal.

778
00:33:18,320 --> 00:33:20,840
Speaker 4: Next day was when she bugged the heck out of me.

779
00:33:21,000 --> 00:33:23,240
Speaker 4: We live in a place where there's different ways to

780
00:33:23,280 --> 00:33:26,240
Speaker 4: say things, in different slangs and broken English. I tend

781
00:33:26,320 --> 00:33:29,560
Speaker 4: to use words everyone understands. My son's hair is braided,

782
00:33:29,680 --> 00:33:32,600
Speaker 4: so I said, I have to unplait his hair so

783
00:33:32,760 --> 00:33:38,080
Speaker 4: I could wash it. Loose out, yeah, unplate, loose out, yeah, unplait.

784
00:33:38,240 --> 00:33:42,520
Speaker 4: Thinking she can't hear me loose out. We say loose out,

785
00:33:42,560 --> 00:33:45,000
Speaker 4: So what's wrong with me saying unplait?

786
00:33:45,200 --> 00:33:48,440
Speaker 2: It means the same thing. She then calls me feisty.

787
00:33:48,720 --> 00:33:49,760
Speaker 5: What is going on here?

788
00:33:49,960 --> 00:33:52,720
Speaker 4: Alicia's being like, no, you say it this way, and

789
00:33:52,760 --> 00:33:54,880
Speaker 4: She's like, nah, yeah, exactly, it's the same thing.

790
00:33:54,960 --> 00:33:56,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, but say it this way though.

791
00:33:56,480 --> 00:33:58,600
Speaker 5: That's like such a ridiculous thing to get mad at

792
00:33:58,600 --> 00:34:00,800
Speaker 5: someone about. Yeah, the word of something.

793
00:34:01,040 --> 00:34:04,720
Speaker 4: Leisha's the one with an attitude here, one hundred percent yep.

794
00:34:05,040 --> 00:34:09,000
Speaker 4: So at this point I'm flabbergasted. I love that word,

795
00:34:09,239 --> 00:34:12,280
Speaker 4: because why are we picking a fight over my choice

796
00:34:12,320 --> 00:34:15,160
Speaker 4: of word? She screamed, this so loud. I'm pretty sure

797
00:34:15,200 --> 00:34:17,759
Speaker 4: my neighborhood heard her. I looked at her and then

798
00:34:17,840 --> 00:34:20,000
Speaker 4: ignored her for the rest of the day, because.

799
00:34:19,840 --> 00:34:21,239
Speaker 2: Why I would have kicked her out.

800
00:34:21,360 --> 00:34:22,880
Speaker 5: I yeah, would have been like, Okay, you need to

801
00:34:22,880 --> 00:34:26,720
Speaker 5: go home, because you're making a big deal over literally nothing.

802
00:34:27,239 --> 00:34:30,239
Speaker 2: You're yelling at me over You're yelling at me over synonym.

803
00:34:30,520 --> 00:34:33,040
Speaker 5: I think if you have a friend who's yelling at you, yeah,

804
00:34:33,320 --> 00:34:34,880
Speaker 5: just in any context.

805
00:34:34,480 --> 00:34:36,160
Speaker 2: Is not while my baby's asleep.

806
00:34:36,400 --> 00:34:39,799
Speaker 5: Yeah, get out out, you're gone, bye bye. I don't

807
00:34:39,800 --> 00:34:41,800
Speaker 5: think any of my friends have ever her like yelled

808
00:34:41,840 --> 00:34:42,120
Speaker 5: at me.

809
00:34:42,360 --> 00:34:44,279
Speaker 4: Yeah, not like that, not in a way where it's

810
00:34:44,280 --> 00:34:46,000
Speaker 4: like I can see it where it's like, are you

811
00:34:46,040 --> 00:34:47,040
Speaker 4: going to say it right now?

812
00:34:47,239 --> 00:34:47,399
Speaker 2: Now?

813
00:34:47,440 --> 00:34:49,760
Speaker 4: Will you say it right that? I said it louder again,

814
00:34:50,080 --> 00:34:52,440
Speaker 4: like that's the energy where it's like, oh, what are

815
00:34:52,440 --> 00:34:56,600
Speaker 4: you doing it? Fast forward a couple days later, I

816
00:34:56,719 --> 00:35:01,200
Speaker 4: confronted her about the weird episode that we had, and

817
00:35:01,280 --> 00:35:05,200
Speaker 4: she said, what I don't appreciate and it comes off

818
00:35:05,360 --> 00:35:07,560
Speaker 4: as if I can't say anything to her, as if

819
00:35:07,560 --> 00:35:09,520
Speaker 4: she wants me to be afraid of her or something.

820
00:35:09,600 --> 00:35:11,640
Speaker 4: And if this continues, then I'll just have to keep

821
00:35:11,640 --> 00:35:13,200
Speaker 4: to myself because this ain't it.

822
00:35:13,280 --> 00:35:14,640
Speaker 2: I think you can just cut her off.

823
00:35:14,960 --> 00:35:17,960
Speaker 5: Yeah, I think probably. It's from what we know in

824
00:35:18,000 --> 00:35:21,320
Speaker 5: the story, it seems like OPI does not have many

825
00:35:21,400 --> 00:35:25,400
Speaker 5: close friendships for one reason or another, we don't really know,

826
00:35:25,520 --> 00:35:28,279
Speaker 5: but it seems like because of that op he is

827
00:35:28,320 --> 00:35:31,080
Speaker 5: trying to save this like one close friendship that she

828
00:35:31,160 --> 00:35:34,960
Speaker 5: has and is like giving her Felicia more chances.

829
00:35:35,160 --> 00:35:35,359
Speaker 6: Yeah.

830
00:35:35,360 --> 00:35:36,920
Speaker 4: It might just be they've been friends for so long

831
00:35:36,960 --> 00:35:38,920
Speaker 4: that it's like creating. You're just kind of used to it,

832
00:35:38,960 --> 00:35:40,920
Speaker 4: and now that they've become more toxic, you're like.

833
00:35:41,000 --> 00:35:43,600
Speaker 5: Oh, this is getting to a point where I can't

834
00:35:43,640 --> 00:35:44,440
Speaker 5: just let it slide.

835
00:35:44,600 --> 00:35:46,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, It's happened to me before, where it's like I

836
00:35:46,120 --> 00:35:47,719
Speaker 4: had some jokes with some friends and then at some

837
00:35:47,719 --> 00:35:49,879
Speaker 4: point I'm like, wait, is that still a joke because

838
00:35:49,960 --> 00:35:52,360
Speaker 4: us the way you said that didn't feel very funny

839
00:35:52,360 --> 00:35:52,560
Speaker 4: to me.

840
00:35:52,880 --> 00:35:56,120
Speaker 5: Yes, I had a friend like that who like literally

841
00:35:56,160 --> 00:35:58,560
Speaker 5: like one time, like swore at me in a like

842
00:35:58,600 --> 00:36:01,720
Speaker 5: a like a group chat, and I was like, doesn't

843
00:36:01,760 --> 00:36:02,160
Speaker 5: feel like.

844
00:36:02,120 --> 00:36:04,160
Speaker 4: A joll Yeah, that one felt like you were just

845
00:36:04,280 --> 00:36:08,400
Speaker 4: blowing my spot in the chat around our friends just

846
00:36:08,440 --> 00:36:09,120
Speaker 4: felt rude.

847
00:36:09,560 --> 00:36:11,720
Speaker 2: But you know who can blow up our spot whenever

848
00:36:11,719 --> 00:36:12,080
Speaker 2: they want.

849
00:36:12,239 --> 00:36:15,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, y'all blow every last one of you every time

850
00:36:15,600 --> 00:36:18,200
Speaker 4: we go live every week they at three pm PST

851
00:36:18,400 --> 00:36:21,319
Speaker 4: on YouTube, Facebook, TikTok, and Twitch. All you gotta do

852
00:36:21,360 --> 00:36:23,399
Speaker 4: is tap our profile and you can blow up our

853
00:36:23,480 --> 00:36:27,760
Speaker 4: chat as much as you want. So before we finish

854
00:36:27,760 --> 00:36:29,160
Speaker 4: the story, because there's a little bit left, I mean,

855
00:36:29,200 --> 00:36:31,000
Speaker 4: we kind of if we've kind of touched on it,

856
00:36:31,000 --> 00:36:33,000
Speaker 4: but I think the best move is to just kind

857
00:36:33,000 --> 00:36:34,840
Speaker 4: of let this friendship be in the past now, I

858
00:36:34,880 --> 00:36:35,200
Speaker 4: think so.

859
00:36:35,320 --> 00:36:37,640
Speaker 5: I think if she's yelling at you and it just

860
00:36:37,640 --> 00:36:40,360
Speaker 5: seems like a really exhausting friendship, that you could be

861
00:36:40,520 --> 00:36:43,840
Speaker 5: focusing that energy on, like other friends. Yeah, and like

862
00:36:43,880 --> 00:36:45,680
Speaker 5: finding a friend that you are more in line with,

863
00:36:45,719 --> 00:36:48,279
Speaker 5: because there will be one. And I also think, like

864
00:36:48,440 --> 00:36:50,160
Speaker 5: opeople was talking about, like how a lot of our

865
00:36:50,160 --> 00:36:53,160
Speaker 5: other friends she doesn't feel super morally in lined with,

866
00:36:54,360 --> 00:36:57,360
Speaker 5: and finding a friend who you know, especially as an adult,

867
00:36:57,400 --> 00:36:58,960
Speaker 5: finding a friend who you vibe with.

868
00:36:58,960 --> 00:37:01,360
Speaker 4: His heart, but it they are out there, Yeah, this

869
00:37:01,360 --> 00:37:05,520
Speaker 4: this person is just become a negative. If this was

870
00:37:05,600 --> 00:37:08,600
Speaker 4: one time, that's one thing, but it's happened over and over. Yeah,

871
00:37:08,640 --> 00:37:11,160
Speaker 4: it seems like their behavior is not changing so and

872
00:37:11,200 --> 00:37:13,279
Speaker 4: it probably won't any time soon. So just you can

873
00:37:13,360 --> 00:37:15,319
Speaker 4: leave that in the past and let's see if that's

874
00:37:15,360 --> 00:37:18,120
Speaker 4: what happens at the end of the story, hopefully. Flicia

875
00:37:18,400 --> 00:37:22,200
Speaker 4: then states that she's not into me being feisty over

876
00:37:22,280 --> 00:37:24,840
Speaker 4: things like that. Oh, I think she's trying to again

877
00:37:25,880 --> 00:37:30,640
Speaker 4: being feisty about the comments. Yes, after she was screaming, screaming,

878
00:37:31,400 --> 00:37:33,719
Speaker 4: She's like, why are you so feisty telling me I

879
00:37:33,719 --> 00:37:35,840
Speaker 4: can't scream in your house while your baby's asleep.

880
00:37:36,320 --> 00:37:37,320
Speaker 2: Anyway, I would.

881
00:37:37,080 --> 00:37:39,720
Speaker 4: Say things that she feels some kind of way about,

882
00:37:39,760 --> 00:37:41,960
Speaker 4: and if so, why not say that when it happens.

883
00:37:42,120 --> 00:37:44,120
Speaker 4: She has too much on her plate and that is

884
00:37:44,160 --> 00:37:47,279
Speaker 4: why she's keeping her distance. We make plans and my

885
00:37:47,400 --> 00:37:50,040
Speaker 4: man is there. She usually comes over and he's never there.

886
00:37:50,160 --> 00:37:52,520
Speaker 4: This was just a one time event and he left.

887
00:37:52,640 --> 00:37:55,040
Speaker 4: Whenever we spend time, She's always on her phone with

888
00:37:55,120 --> 00:37:57,319
Speaker 4: her boyfriend. So I don't get it. The friendship isn't

889
00:37:57,320 --> 00:37:59,560
Speaker 4: working out and she's okay with that. Wow, problem took

890
00:37:59,600 --> 00:38:01,759
Speaker 4: care of its I told her thanks for letting me know,

891
00:38:01,920 --> 00:38:03,240
Speaker 4: and then deleted her number.

892
00:38:03,680 --> 00:38:05,800
Speaker 5: Yes, yeah, you don't need to talk to her anymore.

893
00:38:05,880 --> 00:38:08,640
Speaker 5: She's all, yeah, as you said, she took up the care.

894
00:38:08,600 --> 00:38:09,640
Speaker 2: Of the problem.

895
00:38:09,640 --> 00:38:11,000
Speaker 5: She doesn't want to talk to you, and you don't

896
00:38:11,000 --> 00:38:11,600
Speaker 5: have to talk to her.

897
00:38:11,680 --> 00:38:14,640
Speaker 2: Problem solved. We love when a problem solves itself.

898
00:38:15,160 --> 00:38:17,640
Speaker 4: I know for a fact I'm not perfect, but please,

899
00:38:17,880 --> 00:38:21,320
Speaker 4: am I the ahle No?

900
00:38:21,320 --> 00:38:21,600
Speaker 2: No.

901
00:38:22,040 --> 00:38:24,319
Speaker 5: I think I think you could look at how you

902
00:38:24,440 --> 00:38:28,480
Speaker 5: approach friendships just in general, because especially just from the

903
00:38:28,520 --> 00:38:30,680
Speaker 5: comment of like, I don't have any close friends because

904
00:38:30,760 --> 00:38:32,719
Speaker 5: I don't align with them, Just like check in with

905
00:38:32,760 --> 00:38:35,680
Speaker 5: yourself and seeing why that reason is. But I think

906
00:38:35,719 --> 00:38:37,600
Speaker 5: in this case, you're not the a whole.

907
00:38:37,719 --> 00:38:40,000
Speaker 2: Wonderfully put out of the two. I think we know

908
00:38:40,040 --> 00:38:41,200
Speaker 2: who the feistier one is.

909
00:38:41,760 --> 00:38:45,560
Speaker 5: Yeah, anyone who's screaming fee a little bit feistier than

910
00:38:45,600 --> 00:38:46,720
Speaker 5: the person who's not screaming.

911
00:38:46,800 --> 00:38:49,120
Speaker 2: But that is the end of that story.

912
00:38:49,239 --> 00:38:52,760
Speaker 1: I'm wanting to call off my wedding because my fiance

913
00:38:52,880 --> 00:38:56,439
Speaker 1: is a control freak. Background. I'm thirty two, she's thirty four.

914
00:38:56,560 --> 00:39:00,000
Speaker 1: We're Catholic. She has three kids from a previous marriage.

915
00:39:00,239 --> 00:39:02,400
Speaker 1: We were dating for about eight months, then decided to

916
00:39:02,400 --> 00:39:04,759
Speaker 1: get engaged because things were going well. I felt like

917
00:39:04,840 --> 00:39:08,040
Speaker 1: she was my person she felt the same. I did

918
00:39:08,040 --> 00:39:10,680
Speaker 1: great with the kids. We were both only getting older.

919
00:39:10,760 --> 00:39:14,040
Speaker 1: We're supposed to get married in December, but I don't

920
00:39:14,080 --> 00:39:16,480
Speaker 1: want to anymore. By the way, this comes from Yep,

921
00:39:16,520 --> 00:39:19,600
Speaker 1: you got me on the R slash. Okay, storytime, ceb

922
00:39:19,600 --> 00:39:21,640
Speaker 1: read it. So I moved in about a month ago

923
00:39:21,680 --> 00:39:23,520
Speaker 1: to save money the name of trying to pay off

924
00:39:23,520 --> 00:39:25,799
Speaker 1: as much debt before the wedding so we can buy

925
00:39:25,840 --> 00:39:29,440
Speaker 1: a house soon after. This is when everything changed. I

926
00:39:29,520 --> 00:39:33,280
Speaker 1: feel for the worse. She instantly wanted a joint bank account.

927
00:39:33,320 --> 00:39:35,879
Speaker 1: I didn't want to because I felt it turned into

928
00:39:35,880 --> 00:39:38,920
Speaker 1: a control situation and it has. When I told her

929
00:39:39,080 --> 00:39:41,560
Speaker 1: I didn't want to, she said, well, maybe we shouldn't

930
00:39:41,560 --> 00:39:45,320
Speaker 1: be getting married. She controls every bit of the money

931
00:39:45,400 --> 00:39:49,560
Speaker 1: and everything else, down to what I eat, to ask

932
00:39:49,640 --> 00:39:53,080
Speaker 1: to spend four bucks on medicine when I'm fighting a

933
00:39:53,160 --> 00:39:56,600
Speaker 1: sinus infection. We aren't hurting for money. I make seventy

934
00:39:56,640 --> 00:39:59,319
Speaker 1: five k after taxes. Backstory of my health. I have

935
00:39:59,520 --> 00:40:02,680
Speaker 1: also colitis since I was twenty had my coal and

936
00:40:02,760 --> 00:40:06,440
Speaker 1: removed when I was twenty five. I literally have to

937
00:40:06,480 --> 00:40:09,160
Speaker 1: eat more than I used to because I don't absorb

938
00:40:09,239 --> 00:40:13,200
Speaker 1: everything like a normal person. She gts mad at how

939
00:40:13,280 --> 00:40:15,520
Speaker 1: much I eat. I have to sneak food at work.

940
00:40:15,680 --> 00:40:18,439
Speaker 1: I've tried to explain it to her, and so has

941
00:40:18,480 --> 00:40:21,480
Speaker 1: her mom, but she doesn't get it. Still, she tells

942
00:40:21,520 --> 00:40:23,200
Speaker 1: me I have to work at least seventy hours a

943
00:40:23,239 --> 00:40:25,840
Speaker 1: week Monday through Friday, and what I can on Saturday

944
00:40:26,040 --> 00:40:28,960
Speaker 1: when we don't have the kids, so we have extra.

945
00:40:29,120 --> 00:40:32,480
Speaker 1: I don't spend money on anything. I use my personal money,

946
00:40:32,640 --> 00:40:34,719
Speaker 1: so I have the amount of food I need. This

947
00:40:34,840 --> 00:40:37,480
Speaker 1: was a fight to get what food I do have

948
00:40:37,719 --> 00:40:42,360
Speaker 1: for work. Proper nutrition and rest which I want to

949
00:40:42,400 --> 00:40:45,640
Speaker 1: sleep in. I get fussed are super important due to

950
00:40:45,680 --> 00:40:48,560
Speaker 1: my health. I mistakenly take something that was for the kids,

951
00:40:48,560 --> 00:40:51,279
Speaker 1: I get in big trouble. Even if it just costs a.

952
00:40:51,280 --> 00:40:54,200
Speaker 2: Buck, Toddy needs age.

953
00:40:53,600 --> 00:40:56,680
Speaker 1: Or even if I didn't take some leftovers to work

954
00:40:56,760 --> 00:40:58,439
Speaker 1: that I try to leave for others so.

955
00:40:58,520 --> 00:40:59,760
Speaker 3: I'm not greedy.

956
00:41:00,160 --> 00:41:03,400
Speaker 1: I get blamed for wasting food, even though she didn't

957
00:41:03,440 --> 00:41:05,759
Speaker 1: tell me to take it and has yelled at me

958
00:41:05,800 --> 00:41:09,760
Speaker 1: for taking too much. So dang if I do, damned

959
00:41:09,800 --> 00:41:13,200
Speaker 1: if I don't. Right, she shows a little to no affection.

960
00:41:13,320 --> 00:41:15,439
Speaker 1: All right, you're not even getting spicy.

961
00:41:15,120 --> 00:41:16,680
Speaker 3: S from divorce.

962
00:41:17,400 --> 00:41:18,719
Speaker 2: I'm out horse right now.

963
00:41:18,960 --> 00:41:23,120
Speaker 1: I work twelve hours on my short days, around fifteen

964
00:41:23,440 --> 00:41:26,399
Speaker 1: on my long days. I only have one or two

965
00:41:26,440 --> 00:41:29,719
Speaker 1: short days a week. I'd like to feel wanted and

966
00:41:29,840 --> 00:41:31,279
Speaker 1: desired when I come home.

967
00:41:31,360 --> 00:41:32,200
Speaker 3: I feel nothing.

968
00:41:32,320 --> 00:41:35,120
Speaker 1: I don't ever get a hug, a kiss, or any

969
00:41:35,200 --> 00:41:37,719
Speaker 1: kind of excitement when I get home after a long day.

970
00:41:37,800 --> 00:41:39,719
Speaker 1: Some of the long days mean I don't see her

971
00:41:39,840 --> 00:41:42,520
Speaker 1: for two to three days at a time. There's no

972
00:41:43,040 --> 00:41:46,000
Speaker 1: sort of excitement. Just what more can you do around

973
00:41:46,000 --> 00:41:48,440
Speaker 1: the house. Hell, I've even got in trouble for sitting

974
00:41:48,440 --> 00:41:50,479
Speaker 1: down for ten minutes when I get home one day.

975
00:41:50,600 --> 00:41:53,359
Speaker 1: Because I need to use my time better, I take

976
00:41:53,400 --> 00:41:57,280
Speaker 1: care of everything around the house, such as yardwork, home repairs,

977
00:41:57,400 --> 00:42:01,520
Speaker 1: doing everything else when no one feels like it. Heaven

978
00:42:01,560 --> 00:42:04,240
Speaker 1: forbid me if I forget to do one thing after

979
00:42:04,320 --> 00:42:05,239
Speaker 1: a long day.

980
00:42:05,440 --> 00:42:07,200
Speaker 3: She sounds exhausting.

981
00:42:07,400 --> 00:42:12,200
Speaker 7: Bro can literally not have one millisecond of peace without

982
00:42:12,239 --> 00:42:14,880
Speaker 7: it being not being efficient? Yeah, Well, first it's like,

983
00:42:14,960 --> 00:42:16,879
Speaker 7: oh why are you getting working? It's like, oh, why

984
00:42:16,920 --> 00:42:18,120
Speaker 7: why aren't you staying here with the kid?

985
00:42:18,440 --> 00:42:18,880
Speaker 3: He can't win.

986
00:42:19,000 --> 00:42:21,560
Speaker 2: I would, honestly at this point, I'm like, go to

987
00:42:21,640 --> 00:42:23,840
Speaker 2: your parents' house. Or someone's house or something, just to

988
00:42:23,920 --> 00:42:25,960
Speaker 2: get away from the pressure.

989
00:42:26,080 --> 00:42:27,880
Speaker 1: I mean, I feel like she's trying to make like

990
00:42:28,280 --> 00:42:30,200
Speaker 1: every moment as efficient as possible.

991
00:42:30,239 --> 00:42:31,960
Speaker 3: But you know what, you know, who else did that?

992
00:42:32,600 --> 00:42:36,200
Speaker 1: Usain Bolts running coach and guess who became the fastest

993
00:42:36,239 --> 00:42:39,839
Speaker 1: man on earth? Usain freaking Bolt. Maybe this guy has

994
00:42:40,000 --> 00:42:43,040
Speaker 1: the potential to be the Usain Bolt of his you know,

995
00:42:43,480 --> 00:42:44,280
Speaker 1: middle managed.

996
00:42:45,160 --> 00:42:47,920
Speaker 7: You know, I think he should take his newfound skill

997
00:42:48,040 --> 00:42:49,040
Speaker 7: and run away.

998
00:42:50,120 --> 00:42:52,720
Speaker 1: Getting help from the kids is a chore. I'm feeling

999
00:42:52,920 --> 00:42:56,240
Speaker 1: used and much like I'm just here to give money,

1000
00:42:56,280 --> 00:42:57,879
Speaker 1: do as much as I can, and if I bring

1001
00:42:57,960 --> 00:43:00,319
Speaker 1: something up, it gets turned back on me. Am I

1002
00:43:00,360 --> 00:43:02,480
Speaker 1: crazy for not wanting to go through with this. We

1003
00:43:02,560 --> 00:43:04,839
Speaker 1: already had to talk about how I can't live like this,

1004
00:43:05,040 --> 00:43:07,080
Speaker 1: and it was good for a couple of days and

1005
00:43:07,239 --> 00:43:11,480
Speaker 1: back to the regularly scheduled program. I don't feel like

1006
00:43:11,640 --> 00:43:13,640
Speaker 1: anything will ever change.

1007
00:43:13,920 --> 00:43:14,240
Speaker 3: Ever.

1008
00:43:14,400 --> 00:43:17,040
Speaker 1: Well, we had the talk. She straightened up a bit,

1009
00:43:17,320 --> 00:43:20,880
Speaker 1: but over the next few days she made jokes about

1010
00:43:20,960 --> 00:43:22,879
Speaker 1: what I brought up, so I feel like it meant

1011
00:43:22,920 --> 00:43:23,839
Speaker 1: nothing to hurt at all.

1012
00:43:23,960 --> 00:43:24,719
Speaker 3: I don't know what to do.

1013
00:43:24,880 --> 00:43:27,319
Speaker 2: I do what runaway?

1014
00:43:27,400 --> 00:43:29,280
Speaker 3: Yeah? Run away? We got another update.

1015
00:43:29,320 --> 00:43:32,600
Speaker 1: We had an additional talk, and some of y'all stated

1016
00:43:32,640 --> 00:43:35,640
Speaker 1: that she will say what I want to hear, and

1017
00:43:35,680 --> 00:43:39,200
Speaker 1: then it goes back to the same old crap, and

1018
00:43:39,600 --> 00:43:43,560
Speaker 1: you were one hundred percent right, Spoom. I've been playing

1019
00:43:43,560 --> 00:43:46,600
Speaker 1: the game and seeing her responses on things. She flips

1020
00:43:46,640 --> 00:43:50,239
Speaker 1: the responses to seemingly being different than they were when

1021
00:43:50,280 --> 00:43:52,640
Speaker 1: she really is just saying the same thing. For example,

1022
00:43:52,640 --> 00:43:55,400
Speaker 1: I explained that I was still hungry after dinner, and

1023
00:43:55,440 --> 00:43:57,880
Speaker 1: she said, word for word, I think you should just

1024
00:43:57,880 --> 00:44:00,520
Speaker 1: focus on not being hungry, then you won't want to eat.

1025
00:44:00,640 --> 00:44:03,320
Speaker 1: So I just grabbed the water and went about my business.

1026
00:44:03,360 --> 00:44:05,560
Speaker 1: He says, like, are you kidding me? Right after we

1027
00:44:05,719 --> 00:44:09,000
Speaker 1: had the discussion about my body and my condition. Anyway,

1028
00:44:09,120 --> 00:44:11,160
Speaker 1: I've got a plan together. I won't be able to

1029
00:44:11,280 --> 00:44:13,600
Speaker 1: enact this plan till Friday next week. The car we

1030
00:44:13,640 --> 00:44:15,680
Speaker 1: got is in both of our names, but I'm only

1031
00:44:15,760 --> 00:44:18,560
Speaker 1: on the loan as a co signer, So I'm getting

1032
00:44:18,560 --> 00:44:21,080
Speaker 1: a rental because I can afford it when some psycho

1033
00:44:21,360 --> 00:44:25,040
Speaker 1: isn't orn and rolling my money, and I'm loading everything

1034
00:44:25,200 --> 00:44:27,759
Speaker 1: i can in there into the car and heading out

1035
00:44:27,760 --> 00:44:29,560
Speaker 1: of town while she's at work. I'll be going to

1036
00:44:29,560 --> 00:44:31,440
Speaker 1: my parents and the next day over she won't be

1037
00:44:31,480 --> 00:44:34,320
Speaker 1: able to find me, which is good. I'm so getting

1038
00:44:34,480 --> 00:44:36,799
Speaker 1: a new phone and number before I head out of town.

1039
00:44:36,840 --> 00:44:39,319
Speaker 1: I've got my direct deposit change, new bank account, and

1040
00:44:39,360 --> 00:44:42,120
Speaker 1: while I'm at or, I'm calling to get her off

1041
00:44:42,160 --> 00:44:44,960
Speaker 1: my credit card and everything. I'm waiting for the payment

1042
00:44:45,000 --> 00:44:47,120
Speaker 1: to post to the card from our joint account well

1043
00:44:47,160 --> 00:44:49,640
Speaker 1: sometime next week, so I'm not stuck with the balance

1044
00:44:49,719 --> 00:44:52,759
Speaker 1: that's on there. I'm also pulling what money is rightfully

1045
00:44:52,840 --> 00:44:55,560
Speaker 1: mine out of the account before I leave, and then

1046
00:44:55,800 --> 00:44:59,400
Speaker 1: taking my name off of it. There's a significant amount

1047
00:44:59,440 --> 00:45:01,720
Speaker 1: in there, cutting my losses on what I've already paid

1048
00:45:02,000 --> 00:45:04,440
Speaker 1: towards the wedding and everything else. I don't want that

1049
00:45:04,520 --> 00:45:06,600
Speaker 1: money to take my new money. I'm expecting you to

1050
00:45:06,840 --> 00:45:09,120
Speaker 1: freak the heck out and blow my phone up, but

1051
00:45:09,520 --> 00:45:12,600
Speaker 1: I don't care. Just getting my plan together has been

1052
00:45:12,640 --> 00:45:15,120
Speaker 1: so liberating. On my way to my parents, I'm meeting

1053
00:45:15,120 --> 00:45:17,560
Speaker 1: a really good friend of mine who's been here through

1054
00:45:17,600 --> 00:45:20,680
Speaker 1: this whole process, meeting them for lunch, then on to

1055
00:45:20,760 --> 00:45:23,360
Speaker 1: my parents. I haven't even told my parents yet, so

1056
00:45:23,400 --> 00:45:26,400
Speaker 1: they don't know I've got all these crazy ideas of

1057
00:45:26,480 --> 00:45:29,360
Speaker 1: things I want to do and we'll finally be able

1058
00:45:29,400 --> 00:45:32,759
Speaker 1: to do once I'm out, and it feels so dang good.

1059
00:45:32,880 --> 00:45:34,680
Speaker 1: I can't wait. I don't know if I'm more anxious

1060
00:45:34,719 --> 00:45:36,840
Speaker 1: to get back to who I was or more anxious

1061
00:45:36,840 --> 00:45:39,000
Speaker 1: about her reaction. Either way, I don't care. I have

1062
00:45:39,040 --> 00:45:40,839
Speaker 1: to go so now. If he has a plan, yes,

1063
00:45:40,960 --> 00:45:44,640
Speaker 1: he's exiting the relationship. Yes, and we do have another update. Yes,

1064
00:45:45,360 --> 00:45:49,400
Speaker 1: update too if you have already asked for updates. So

1065
00:45:50,040 --> 00:45:54,240
Speaker 1: here goes something. All good news. I am out and free,

1066
00:45:54,560 --> 00:45:58,600
Speaker 1: and I feel great. I left early in the morning

1067
00:45:58,680 --> 00:46:01,680
Speaker 1: with as much stuff as I could. I went to

1068
00:46:01,719 --> 00:46:04,120
Speaker 1: the next town over and sat in the parking lot

1069
00:46:04,200 --> 00:46:06,800
Speaker 1: waiting for the rental place to open so she wouldn't

1070
00:46:06,840 --> 00:46:10,360
Speaker 1: have the chance of browsing around town before work and

1071
00:46:10,440 --> 00:46:12,719
Speaker 1: find me. Before I got the rental, I got all

1072
00:46:12,760 --> 00:46:15,000
Speaker 1: my money out as well. After getting the rental, I

1073
00:46:15,040 --> 00:46:17,240
Speaker 1: went back to the house got more stuff. She had

1074
00:46:17,360 --> 00:46:19,600
Speaker 1: I guess gotten the hint and locked me out of

1075
00:46:19,600 --> 00:46:22,200
Speaker 1: the house, but I got all the important expensive stuff though.

1076
00:46:22,400 --> 00:46:22,879
Speaker 3: That's good.

1077
00:46:23,000 --> 00:46:24,640
Speaker 1: I went back to the bank and got a print

1078
00:46:24,640 --> 00:46:26,799
Speaker 1: out of all the transactions from the joint account, and

1079
00:46:26,840 --> 00:46:29,560
Speaker 1: I was immediately pissed off. I had asked for medicine,

1080
00:46:29,600 --> 00:46:32,520
Speaker 1: but there were so many Amazon charges, going out to eat,

1081
00:46:32,600 --> 00:46:35,200
Speaker 1: transfer the money to different accounts everything, but I had

1082
00:46:35,239 --> 00:46:38,440
Speaker 1: to ask to spend four bucks on medicine sort of

1083
00:46:38,560 --> 00:46:41,239
Speaker 1: science infections. It looks like she was transferring money, so

1084
00:46:41,280 --> 00:46:43,399
Speaker 1: I couldn't track it all. I gave the print out

1085
00:46:43,400 --> 00:46:45,760
Speaker 1: to a friend so she can get me a spreadsheet

1086
00:46:45,760 --> 00:46:48,640
Speaker 1: together to track everything easier. While driving down to my

1087
00:46:48,719 --> 00:46:51,080
Speaker 1: parents four hours from where I live, I was able

1088
00:46:51,120 --> 00:46:54,600
Speaker 1: to get all my passwords to every account reset and

1089
00:46:54,640 --> 00:46:58,160
Speaker 1: removed her as an author I'd user on everything. Also,

1090
00:46:58,200 --> 00:47:00,879
Speaker 1: before leaving, I got a new account, Slash debit card

1091
00:47:01,160 --> 00:47:04,160
Speaker 1: and switched all that over. After meeting with my parents,

1092
00:47:04,200 --> 00:47:06,680
Speaker 1: I went to an old friend's the one I've known

1093
00:47:06,719 --> 00:47:10,200
Speaker 1: for ten plus years but hadn't seen in two Her

1094
00:47:10,239 --> 00:47:13,200
Speaker 1: mom made me a heck of a meal fit for

1095
00:47:13,560 --> 00:47:16,479
Speaker 1: a king. We later went ax throwing ahead a good time.

1096
00:47:16,800 --> 00:47:19,080
Speaker 1: I spent the night there and her mom made me

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Speaker 1: a really good breakfast. Her family is such a good

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00:47:22,080 --> 00:47:24,239
Speaker 1: family and they considered me a son, so they were

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00:47:24,280 --> 00:47:26,600
Speaker 1: happy to have me over. Her mom asked if I

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00:47:26,800 --> 00:47:29,239
Speaker 1: just need a key to the house. This morning, I

1101
00:47:29,320 --> 00:47:31,279
Speaker 1: drove back to my parents. We went to the flea

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00:47:31,320 --> 00:47:34,000
Speaker 1: market and I was able to spend money on whatever

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00:47:34,360 --> 00:47:35,799
Speaker 1: I felt like.

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00:47:36,160 --> 00:47:37,720
Speaker 3: Yes, I felt so good.

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00:47:38,000 --> 00:47:40,520
Speaker 1: This is the life I want to live, not a

1106
00:47:40,600 --> 00:47:42,920
Speaker 1: life constrained by a crazy person.

1107
00:47:43,160 --> 00:47:44,959
Speaker 3: I feel great. I'm doing great.

1108
00:47:45,120 --> 00:47:47,680
Speaker 1: Leading up to leaving, I was getting super anxious about

1109
00:47:47,680 --> 00:47:50,200
Speaker 1: it and having trouble sleeping. Hell, I saw my ex

1110
00:47:50,280 --> 00:47:53,399
Speaker 1: Monday and some Tuesday, but because of my schedule, didn't

1111
00:47:53,400 --> 00:47:56,200
Speaker 1: see her for three days. No I miss you know, nothing,

1112
00:47:56,280 --> 00:47:58,719
Speaker 1: just messages asking me to do things. Also, on the

1113
00:47:58,719 --> 00:48:00,960
Speaker 1: way down, she didn't try to contact me at all.

1114
00:48:01,040 --> 00:48:04,960
Speaker 1: I left messenger open and will until everything is buttoned up,

1115
00:48:05,000 --> 00:48:07,600
Speaker 1: but everyone else is blocked on everything. She did try

1116
00:48:07,600 --> 00:48:09,719
Speaker 1: to contact my parents, but they didn't answer it.

1117
00:48:09,760 --> 00:48:12,600
Speaker 3: Thankfully. I've got quite the road ahead.

1118
00:48:12,320 --> 00:48:14,080
Speaker 1: Of me to get where I want to, but it

1119
00:48:14,120 --> 00:48:16,239
Speaker 1: will be an easier road to travel than what I

1120
00:48:16,320 --> 00:48:19,319
Speaker 1: was doing. Already contacted a fight school and we'll be

1121
00:48:19,480 --> 00:48:23,319
Speaker 1: enrolling to get my private pilot's license in the next

1122
00:48:23,320 --> 00:48:23,800
Speaker 1: few months.

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Speaker 7: I love how he's literally spreading his wings and learning

1124
00:48:26,080 --> 00:48:28,120
Speaker 7: to fly literally and literally.

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00:48:28,239 --> 00:48:33,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's beautiful. That's beautiful, And also just a short tangent.

1126
00:48:33,600 --> 00:48:36,600
Speaker 1: If you're feeling like down or sad, or you need

1127
00:48:36,640 --> 00:48:39,239
Speaker 1: a new beginning, learn a new skill, and you know

1128
00:48:39,480 --> 00:48:42,440
Speaker 1: like private pilot license. You know that's that's expensive. But

1129
00:48:42,480 --> 00:48:44,680
Speaker 1: there's plenty of stuff that you can pick up and

1130
00:48:44,760 --> 00:48:48,000
Speaker 1: learn that is free and easy to get a hold

1131
00:48:48,000 --> 00:48:51,160
Speaker 1: of the materials. All you need is YouTube. YouTube can

1132
00:48:51,200 --> 00:48:52,520
Speaker 1: teach you so much.

1133
00:48:52,560 --> 00:48:54,120
Speaker 2: YouTube university, YouTube.

1134
00:48:53,840 --> 00:48:56,319
Speaker 1: University, like you know, learn to knit, learn to like do,

1135
00:48:56,680 --> 00:48:59,840
Speaker 1: like yoga. That there is nothing that is more of

1136
00:48:59,840 --> 00:49:02,160
Speaker 1: a here for a soul then learning something now.

1137
00:49:02,360 --> 00:49:02,960
Speaker 3: I can't wait.

1138
00:49:03,040 --> 00:49:06,680
Speaker 1: It's been a huge dream of mine since I was little,

1139
00:49:06,760 --> 00:49:09,120
Speaker 1: and if it's been a huge dream of yours to

1140
00:49:09,120 --> 00:49:11,719
Speaker 1: spend time with us, you should join us live on

1141
00:49:11,760 --> 00:49:14,880
Speaker 1: YouTube every weekday at three pm PST. Also, you can

1142
00:49:14,920 --> 00:49:17,600
Speaker 1: join us on Facebook. Just tap our profile. There's another

1143
00:49:17,719 --> 00:49:21,960
Speaker 1: relevant update. But don anything to add on this man's journey.

1144
00:49:22,120 --> 00:49:24,440
Speaker 7: I mean, this is what we love to see. This

1145
00:49:24,520 --> 00:49:27,040
Speaker 7: is a guy who realized he was being controlled to

1146
00:49:27,160 --> 00:49:31,640
Speaker 7: a insane degree, insane and you know it was able

1147
00:49:31,680 --> 00:49:34,480
Speaker 7: to for what it was, create a plan for himself

1148
00:49:34,480 --> 00:49:36,400
Speaker 7: and get out of there. And now he is absolutely

1149
00:49:36,440 --> 00:49:39,800
Speaker 7: reaping the rewards. And I think that he has the

1150
00:49:40,680 --> 00:49:43,800
Speaker 7: all the tools and mindset to build an amazing, fruitful

1151
00:49:43,800 --> 00:49:46,520
Speaker 7: life for himself. But somebody said, oh, he's gonna get

1152
00:49:46,560 --> 00:49:50,480
Speaker 7: super rich and she's gonna be freaking pissed, and I'm like, uh, yeah,

1153
00:49:50,520 --> 00:49:55,120
Speaker 7: he's gonna be like a freaking rich planet. Plane pilots like,

1154
00:49:55,120 --> 00:50:00,720
Speaker 7: oh sorry, I'm gonna be jetting off to grease babes.

1155
00:50:00,840 --> 00:50:03,680
Speaker 7: I can't respond to you anymore because I gotta visit

1156
00:50:03,760 --> 00:50:05,960
Speaker 7: my fat stacks of offshore counts.

1157
00:50:06,440 --> 00:50:09,919
Speaker 1: I honestly think like that's what happens when you live

1158
00:50:10,000 --> 00:50:11,720
Speaker 1: your best, most authentic life.

1159
00:50:11,920 --> 00:50:13,440
Speaker 3: Is like usually good stuff.

1160
00:50:13,440 --> 00:50:14,799
Speaker 1: But we got a little bit more of this story,

1161
00:50:14,840 --> 00:50:16,799
Speaker 1: so we're going to close out with that. So this

1162
00:50:16,880 --> 00:50:18,840
Speaker 1: has been the best thing I've ever done for myself

1163
00:50:18,880 --> 00:50:22,400
Speaker 1: and my well being. Looking forward to see where things

1164
00:50:22,440 --> 00:50:24,160
Speaker 1: go and where I can take it. Thank you guys

1165
00:50:24,160 --> 00:50:27,000
Speaker 1: again for the sound advice. Only thing I have left

1166
00:50:27,040 --> 00:50:28,840
Speaker 1: to button up is the vehicle we bought, but I

1167
00:50:28,920 --> 00:50:31,040
Speaker 1: ran out of time. I've got a meeting with the

1168
00:50:31,120 --> 00:50:33,720
Speaker 1: lawyer next week to get it taken care of. Much

1169
00:50:33,920 --> 00:50:36,560
Speaker 1: love to y'all. I really love how op He's just

1170
00:50:36,600 --> 00:50:38,520
Speaker 1: investing in their interest in future.

1171
00:50:38,600 --> 00:50:40,799
Speaker 7: Yeah, I think this is This is exactly what you

1172
00:50:40,800 --> 00:50:43,719
Speaker 7: should do getting out of a horrendous relationship like the

1173
00:50:43,719 --> 00:50:46,080
Speaker 7: one that Ope is in. He's investing in himself. He's

1174
00:50:46,320 --> 00:50:50,160
Speaker 7: literally just leveling up so much. It's it's a It

1175
00:50:50,239 --> 00:50:52,160
Speaker 7: is a beautiful thing to see.

1176
00:50:52,440 --> 00:50:52,680
Speaker 3: John.

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00:50:52,680 --> 00:50:54,520
Speaker 7: Here, we're gonna get back to this juicy story, but

1178
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Speaker 7: a quick three minute break of ads from our sponsors.

1179
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Speaker 1: I cheated on my fiance at my bachelourette party.

1180
00:51:01,760 --> 00:51:02,200
Speaker 3: You don't.

1181
00:51:02,320 --> 00:51:05,200
Speaker 1: I don't even know why I'm writing this here. Everyone

1182
00:51:05,280 --> 00:51:08,720
Speaker 1: is going to say it's rage bait and I'll get bamms.

1183
00:51:08,880 --> 00:51:12,000
Speaker 1: I just did the worst thing that I could possibly do,

1184
00:51:12,080 --> 00:51:14,960
Speaker 1: and I just want to confess to everyone, but I can't.

1185
00:51:15,280 --> 00:51:19,080
Speaker 1: I know for a fact that the most important relationship

1186
00:51:19,239 --> 00:51:22,359
Speaker 1: of my life will be ruined by the way this

1187
00:51:22,440 --> 00:51:25,120
Speaker 1: comes from. Throw our way, I am terrible on the

1188
00:51:25,239 --> 00:51:29,080
Speaker 1: r sash okay story time subreddit. So, my fiance Alex

1189
00:51:29,360 --> 00:51:32,919
Speaker 1: fake name mail thirty two and I female twenty eight

1190
00:51:33,000 --> 00:51:35,640
Speaker 1: have been together for four years and we're supposed to

1191
00:51:35,680 --> 00:51:38,319
Speaker 1: get married on the twenty eighth of December. We had

1192
00:51:38,360 --> 00:51:43,719
Speaker 1: our bachelor slash bachelorette parties last weekend because everyone was

1193
00:51:43,840 --> 00:51:46,759
Speaker 1: in town for the holiday. That's why we're having the

1194
00:51:46,800 --> 00:51:49,880
Speaker 1: wedding on the twenty eight. Everyone will be here anyway

1195
00:51:49,880 --> 00:51:52,000
Speaker 1: for the holiday, so coming to the wedding won't be

1196
00:51:52,040 --> 00:51:52,440
Speaker 1: a big thing.

1197
00:51:52,560 --> 00:51:55,000
Speaker 3: Alex is everything I want in a man.

1198
00:51:55,239 --> 00:51:57,520
Speaker 1: Utters note. At first she wrote, Jake is everything I

1199
00:51:57,560 --> 00:51:59,640
Speaker 1: wanted a man. She edited it once the comments pointed

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00:51:59,680 --> 00:52:02,320
Speaker 1: out he's kind, he's funny and charming.

1201
00:52:02,360 --> 00:52:05,920
Speaker 3: He's tall and handsome. Oh, he's helpful. He's a leader.

1202
00:52:06,040 --> 00:52:09,359
Speaker 1: He's successful at his work with a great future. He's

1203
00:52:09,360 --> 00:52:12,000
Speaker 1: really thoughtful. One time we were shopping and I looked

1204
00:52:12,040 --> 00:52:15,440
Speaker 1: at a butterfly decoration just in passing, and later on

1205
00:52:15,800 --> 00:52:18,360
Speaker 1: I got it for my birthday. He remembered that I

1206
00:52:18,480 --> 00:52:20,560
Speaker 1: liked it and went back bought it for me and

1207
00:52:20,640 --> 00:52:24,680
Speaker 1: surprised me with it. Our spicy sleep life is very

1208
00:52:24,719 --> 00:52:27,439
Speaker 1: satisfying to me, and I think to him as well.

1209
00:52:27,480 --> 00:52:29,680
Speaker 1: He's not perfect, of course, and we have our disagreements

1210
00:52:29,680 --> 00:52:32,200
Speaker 1: like any other couple, but we're great together. I feel

1211
00:52:32,320 --> 00:52:34,520
Speaker 1: safe and loved with him. When we first got together,

1212
00:52:34,560 --> 00:52:37,560
Speaker 1: the subject of our past partners came up. I didn't

1213
00:52:37,600 --> 00:52:40,440
Speaker 1: have a lot of past partners, as all my relationships

1214
00:52:40,480 --> 00:52:43,880
Speaker 1: were long term. I had three boyfriends before Alex. The

1215
00:52:43,920 --> 00:52:47,520
Speaker 1: previous one was Jake Big Name. Jake was gorgeous, get

1216
00:52:47,520 --> 00:52:52,640
Speaker 1: a very magnetic personality, and always dominated whatever room he

1217
00:52:52,680 --> 00:52:55,920
Speaker 1: walked into. I felt so lucky when he chose me

1218
00:52:56,320 --> 00:52:59,480
Speaker 1: to be his girlfriend, with a very intense physical connection

1219
00:52:59,560 --> 00:53:02,560
Speaker 1: that I saw of lost myself in and every other way. Though,

1220
00:53:02,760 --> 00:53:05,120
Speaker 1: Jake was terrible. He cheated on me, He stood me

1221
00:53:05,200 --> 00:53:08,680
Speaker 1: up on multiple occasions. He forgot important events like my

1222
00:53:08,760 --> 00:53:12,240
Speaker 1: birthday and my best friend's engagement party, and I finally

1223
00:53:12,600 --> 00:53:14,480
Speaker 1: broke up with him. He didn't seem to really care

1224
00:53:14,480 --> 00:53:16,160
Speaker 1: about it, though, which hurts.

1225
00:53:16,160 --> 00:53:16,319
Speaker 3: Oh.

1226
00:53:16,680 --> 00:53:19,240
Speaker 1: He just ghosted me when I said enough. The reason

1227
00:53:19,320 --> 00:53:22,120
Speaker 1: I mentioned this is because I told Alex about Jake.

1228
00:53:22,200 --> 00:53:23,920
Speaker 1: At first, he didn't connect the dots, but when I

1229
00:53:23,960 --> 00:53:26,799
Speaker 1: described Jake, he asked me if it was Jake last name,

1230
00:53:26,880 --> 00:53:29,200
Speaker 1: Jake last name? I said, how do you know? And

1231
00:53:29,239 --> 00:53:33,040
Speaker 1: he told me that Jake had stolen his girlfriend from

1232
00:53:33,120 --> 00:53:36,320
Speaker 1: high school when they were all freshmen in college.

1233
00:53:36,520 --> 00:53:38,000
Speaker 2: You're joking.

1234
00:53:38,280 --> 00:53:41,040
Speaker 1: It really hurt Alex as he thought he would marry

1235
00:53:41,040 --> 00:53:44,440
Speaker 1: this girl. Jake later dubbed her and she tried to

1236
00:53:44,440 --> 00:53:47,040
Speaker 1: get back with Alex, but Alex rejected her, telling me

1237
00:53:47,440 --> 00:53:51,000
Speaker 1: that she was disgusting. Alex was quiet around me for

1238
00:53:51,080 --> 00:53:54,160
Speaker 1: a few days after that, but he came around thankfully.

1239
00:53:54,280 --> 00:53:58,919
Speaker 1: During my bachelourette party last weekend, one of my bridesmaids,

1240
00:53:58,960 --> 00:54:02,440
Speaker 1: Claire fake name, invited a bunch of old friend groups

1241
00:54:02,560 --> 00:54:05,840
Speaker 1: to the airbnb we were renting as a surprise. I

1242
00:54:05,880 --> 00:54:07,799
Speaker 1: thought they had all moved away, but they showed up,

1243
00:54:07,920 --> 00:54:12,400
Speaker 1: and yes, you guessed it, Jake was there. I was

1244
00:54:12,440 --> 00:54:15,239
Speaker 1: pretty drunk, but I can't say I didn't know what

1245
00:54:15,640 --> 00:54:19,239
Speaker 1: I was doing. Jake was still really good looking, and

1246
00:54:19,280 --> 00:54:20,000
Speaker 1: he talked.

1247
00:54:19,719 --> 00:54:20,359
Speaker 3: To me that night.

1248
00:54:20,440 --> 00:54:22,759
Speaker 1: He only flirted with me and no one else. He

1249
00:54:22,840 --> 00:54:26,680
Speaker 1: was charming and my inhibitions were down, and we eventually

1250
00:54:26,800 --> 00:54:30,480
Speaker 1: went to a bedroom and we had spic easily there.

1251
00:54:30,480 --> 00:54:32,760
Speaker 2: It is oh.

1252
00:54:32,800 --> 00:54:35,400
Speaker 1: The next morning, I was mortified. I told Jake that

1253
00:54:35,480 --> 00:54:37,960
Speaker 1: it meant nothing and he needed to leave and not

1254
00:54:38,040 --> 00:54:40,600
Speaker 1: get in contact with me again. Jake told me that

1255
00:54:40,680 --> 00:54:46,440
Speaker 1: he changed and was a serious person and serious about me.

1256
00:54:46,920 --> 00:54:48,200
Speaker 2: Yo.

1257
00:54:48,400 --> 00:54:50,800
Speaker 1: I told him to go and to please just shut

1258
00:54:50,880 --> 00:54:53,160
Speaker 1: up and leave. He seems sad, but he left. I

1259
00:54:53,200 --> 00:54:56,200
Speaker 1: made sure to make him swear to forget about it all,

1260
00:54:56,360 --> 00:54:58,840
Speaker 1: and he did swear. I told Claire to keep quiet

1261
00:54:58,880 --> 00:55:01,200
Speaker 1: about it and to not tell tell anyone about Jake.

1262
00:55:01,400 --> 00:55:03,120
Speaker 1: She was the only one who really knew about our

1263
00:55:03,160 --> 00:55:05,200
Speaker 1: past relationship as she was part of our friend group.

1264
00:55:05,360 --> 00:55:07,040
Speaker 1: She agreed and said it was no big deal and

1265
00:55:07,080 --> 00:55:09,920
Speaker 1: it was just one last fling before marriage. I think

1266
00:55:09,920 --> 00:55:11,960
Speaker 1: she was the only one who saw us go back

1267
00:55:12,000 --> 00:55:13,880
Speaker 1: to the bedroom, but I can't be sure. All I

1268
00:55:13,920 --> 00:55:16,120
Speaker 1: know is that Jake and I were the least drunk

1269
00:55:16,160 --> 00:55:20,680
Speaker 1: people there, and we were all pretty drunk. Meanwhile, it's

1270
00:55:20,719 --> 00:55:23,880
Speaker 1: been eating at me all the time. I can't sleep,

1271
00:55:24,080 --> 00:55:26,759
Speaker 1: I can't eat. I'm afraid my wedding dress will be

1272
00:55:26,800 --> 00:55:29,520
Speaker 1: too big for me because I had this fear in

1273
00:55:29,560 --> 00:55:30,080
Speaker 1: the pit.

1274
00:55:29,920 --> 00:55:30,520
Speaker 3: Of my stomach.

1275
00:55:30,560 --> 00:55:33,480
Speaker 1: And I throw up when I think about Jake and

1276
00:55:33,520 --> 00:55:35,440
Speaker 1: what I did, which is all the time. I think

1277
00:55:35,480 --> 00:55:38,239
Speaker 1: about it all the time. Good, I mean, I have

1278
00:55:38,280 --> 00:55:40,120
Speaker 1: to confess to someone, so I think a bunch of

1279
00:55:40,200 --> 00:55:42,640
Speaker 1: internet strangers is the easiest way to do it. I

1280
00:55:42,680 --> 00:55:45,440
Speaker 1: know I'm terrible. I know I f this up. I

1281
00:55:45,640 --> 00:55:49,359
Speaker 1: can't lose Alex. Why didn't I think of him when

1282
00:55:49,360 --> 00:55:52,880
Speaker 1: I was there last Saturday? Why didn't I consider Alex?

1283
00:55:52,960 --> 00:55:55,680
Speaker 1: I'm such an effing idiot. He's the best thing that

1284
00:55:55,760 --> 00:55:58,000
Speaker 1: ever happened to me, and Jake is the worst. Alex

1285
00:55:58,040 --> 00:56:00,560
Speaker 1: has noticed the change in my attitude. I lied to

1286
00:56:00,600 --> 00:56:02,439
Speaker 1: him again and told him that I think I'm coming

1287
00:56:02,480 --> 00:56:04,399
Speaker 1: down with the flu and that he should stay away

1288
00:56:04,480 --> 00:56:07,160
Speaker 1: for a few days. Meanwhile, I'm crying my eyes out

1289
00:56:07,160 --> 00:56:10,520
Speaker 1: in bed, and Alex is being his usual great self

1290
00:56:10,680 --> 00:56:13,920
Speaker 1: and bringing me homemade chicken noodle soup his mom maid.

1291
00:56:14,120 --> 00:56:17,279
Speaker 1: I can't tell him, but I can't stand this. Does

1292
00:56:17,320 --> 00:56:19,800
Speaker 1: it go away over time?

1293
00:56:20,160 --> 00:56:22,719
Speaker 3: That's not the right with yourself?

1294
00:56:22,800 --> 00:56:25,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't. It is not definitely not the right question.

1295
00:56:25,640 --> 00:56:28,960
Speaker 1: Feel free to demean me. I deserve it. It's not fake,

1296
00:56:29,200 --> 00:56:33,080
Speaker 1: it's not rage bait. I honestly wish it was. I

1297
00:56:33,160 --> 00:56:38,440
Speaker 1: wish this was just a nightmare f m L. And

1298
00:56:38,560 --> 00:56:42,400
Speaker 1: there is an update. But before we get into this update,

1299
00:56:42,560 --> 00:56:44,840
Speaker 1: what should OP do and what do you think OPI

1300
00:56:44,880 --> 00:56:45,160
Speaker 1: will do?

1301
00:56:45,400 --> 00:56:47,480
Speaker 2: I mean, you just have to do.

1302
00:56:48,040 --> 00:56:51,000
Speaker 7: Even even in your logic if you're like, oh, well,

1303
00:56:51,120 --> 00:56:52,839
Speaker 7: but I don't want to tell him and heard anything else,

1304
00:56:53,400 --> 00:56:56,760
Speaker 7: look at how your body is physically reacting. There's listen

1305
00:56:56,840 --> 00:56:57,799
Speaker 7: to your body.

1306
00:56:57,600 --> 00:57:00,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, like like your body is telling you.

1307
00:57:00,160 --> 00:57:02,000
Speaker 3: Like I listening to her body is what got her

1308
00:57:02,000 --> 00:57:04,359
Speaker 3: into this situation. Actually, God, but.

1309
00:57:04,440 --> 00:57:07,080
Speaker 7: Like your body is literally has this like sickness. It's

1310
00:57:07,239 --> 00:57:09,120
Speaker 7: literally think about it. If it's like sitting in your

1311
00:57:09,120 --> 00:57:11,120
Speaker 7: stomach and it's like you have to like get it out.

1312
00:57:11,120 --> 00:57:14,480
Speaker 7: You have to expel this this secret demon from your

1313
00:57:14,520 --> 00:57:16,640
Speaker 7: body and just tell him and be like, listen, I

1314
00:57:16,680 --> 00:57:19,080
Speaker 7: just need to tell you right now. And you know,

1315
00:57:19,240 --> 00:57:21,680
Speaker 7: you can't know what's going to happen after that or anything,

1316
00:57:21,680 --> 00:57:22,880
Speaker 7: but yeah, you just gotta tell him that.

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00:57:22,880 --> 00:57:26,520
Speaker 1: That's I feel like living with the lie is worse

1318
00:57:26,720 --> 00:57:28,880
Speaker 1: than living with the consequences.

1319
00:57:28,200 --> 00:57:28,720
Speaker 3: Of the truth.

1320
00:57:28,920 --> 00:57:33,560
Speaker 7: Indeed, Will said day Alex found out, Oh, and he

1321
00:57:34,000 --> 00:57:35,240
Speaker 7: is done with me.

1322
00:57:35,560 --> 00:57:37,960
Speaker 1: I wanted to update everyone who read my original post.

1323
00:57:38,000 --> 00:57:41,720
Speaker 1: Even though it's humiliating and painful, the truth is out.

1324
00:57:41,760 --> 00:57:44,920
Speaker 1: Alex knows, and the consequences have been worse than I

1325
00:57:45,000 --> 00:57:49,280
Speaker 1: could have imagined. I have no one to blame but myself.

1326
00:57:49,320 --> 00:57:52,680
Speaker 1: Thursday evening, Alex did not come home after work. I

1327
00:57:52,680 --> 00:57:55,160
Speaker 1: thought maybe he was staying late, but around nine pm

1328
00:57:55,240 --> 00:57:57,600
Speaker 1: I got a text from him. It was a photo

1329
00:57:58,000 --> 00:58:02,800
Speaker 1: of me and Jake kissing at my bachelorette party. No

1330
00:58:02,960 --> 00:58:06,600
Speaker 1: words in that text, just the photo. I panicked and

1331
00:58:06,720 --> 00:58:10,440
Speaker 1: immediately texted Claire asking if she told Alex to replied

1332
00:58:10,560 --> 00:58:12,640
Speaker 1: that he deserved to know the truth. I don't think

1333
00:58:12,640 --> 00:58:15,040
Speaker 1: she did to be malicious. Maybe she was just feeling

1334
00:58:15,200 --> 00:58:17,760
Speaker 1: guilty herself. But at the moment I was freaking out.

1335
00:58:18,000 --> 00:58:21,920
Speaker 1: I started spamming Alex's phone with calls and texts, begging

1336
00:58:22,000 --> 00:58:23,840
Speaker 1: him to talk to me. He left me on read.

1337
00:58:23,920 --> 00:58:26,320
Speaker 1: Then I logged into social media and saw that Alex

1338
00:58:26,440 --> 00:58:28,880
Speaker 1: had posted that our wedding was canceled because the woman

1339
00:58:29,080 --> 00:58:32,240
Speaker 1: I thought I was marrying turned out to be someone

1340
00:58:32,400 --> 00:58:36,680
Speaker 1: I didn't know. People started calling and messaging me, asking

1341
00:58:36,720 --> 00:58:39,880
Speaker 1: me what was going on. I didn't know what to say.

1342
00:58:39,960 --> 00:58:42,040
Speaker 1: I panic and lied, telling them we had a huge

1343
00:58:42,080 --> 00:58:44,600
Speaker 1: argument but that we were working it out. Meanwhile, Alex

1344
00:58:44,920 --> 00:58:47,640
Speaker 1: was replying to comments under his post, saying things like

1345
00:58:47,840 --> 00:58:50,800
Speaker 1: she knows what she did and there's nothing left to say.

1346
00:58:50,880 --> 00:58:54,160
Speaker 1: Friday night, Jake showed up at my apartment. He said

1347
00:58:54,160 --> 00:58:56,800
Speaker 1: he was sorry, claimed he didn't know Alex my fiance,

1348
00:58:56,960 --> 00:58:59,200
Speaker 1: and tried to explain himself. I told him it didn't

1349
00:58:59,200 --> 00:59:01,080
Speaker 1: matter what we did. He had ruined the best thing

1350
00:59:01,120 --> 00:59:03,400
Speaker 1: in my life, and I wanted Jake gone. I told

1351
00:59:03,440 --> 00:59:05,280
Speaker 1: him to leave and not come back. He tried to linger,

1352
00:59:05,320 --> 00:59:07,160
Speaker 1: saying something about how we could figure this out, but

1353
00:59:07,280 --> 00:59:11,120
Speaker 1: I slammed the door on him. He makes my skin crawl.

1354
00:59:11,320 --> 00:59:15,640
Speaker 1: On Saturday morning, the hammer dropped. Alex's older brother, Mark

1355
00:59:15,720 --> 00:59:19,560
Speaker 1: showed up with two of Alex's grooms men. They knocked,

1356
00:59:19,720 --> 00:59:23,600
Speaker 1: came in and started packing up Alex's things, his clothes,

1357
00:59:23,840 --> 00:59:27,000
Speaker 1: his personal items, even some of his furniture that belonged

1358
00:59:27,000 --> 00:59:29,320
Speaker 1: to him. I tried to talk to them, begging them

1359
00:59:29,640 --> 00:59:31,560
Speaker 1: to tell me where Alex was or how I could

1360
00:59:31,600 --> 00:59:34,240
Speaker 1: reach him, but they just ignored me or told me

1361
00:59:34,280 --> 00:59:36,439
Speaker 1: they didn't know where he was, which was probably a lie.

1362
00:59:36,560 --> 00:59:38,640
Speaker 1: Mark kept repeating that there was nothing to talk about.

1363
00:59:38,680 --> 00:59:41,400
Speaker 1: When they were done, Mark told me that Alex wanted

1364
00:59:41,520 --> 00:59:44,640
Speaker 1: me to keep the engagement ring. He said Alex didn't

1365
00:59:44,640 --> 00:59:46,440
Speaker 1: want it back because he had no use for it

1366
00:59:46,520 --> 00:59:49,400
Speaker 1: and selling it wouldn't make up for what had happened.

1367
00:59:49,440 --> 00:59:51,520
Speaker 1: He also told me Alex would be sending a check

1368
00:59:51,680 --> 00:59:54,880
Speaker 1: to cover my share of the canceled wedding costs that

1369
00:59:54,960 --> 00:59:56,960
Speaker 1: his half of the lease was paid for. I begged

1370
00:59:56,960 --> 00:59:58,920
Speaker 1: Mark to at least put Alex on the phone with me,

1371
00:59:59,200 --> 01:00:02,200
Speaker 1: that he deserved some kind of closure by yelling at me,

1372
01:00:02,520 --> 01:00:05,360
Speaker 1: and I'd at least be able to apologize where he

1373
01:00:05,400 --> 01:00:08,320
Speaker 1: could hear my voice. He just said, Alex all the

1374
01:00:08,400 --> 01:00:12,080
Speaker 1: closure he needs, and stop contacting him and just leave

1375
01:00:12,120 --> 01:00:14,800
Speaker 1: him alone. I've done enough.

1376
01:00:14,720 --> 01:00:16,960
Speaker 2: I mean literally once again.

1377
01:00:17,160 --> 01:00:19,640
Speaker 7: She's like, let me just contact him so you know

1378
01:00:19,760 --> 01:00:21,800
Speaker 7: he can, you know, get his frustration out. No, no, no,

1379
01:00:22,040 --> 01:00:26,560
Speaker 7: that's what you want the closure. He's like, I want

1380
01:00:26,600 --> 01:00:28,560
Speaker 7: to be done. I want to move on and not

1381
01:00:28,640 --> 01:00:31,680
Speaker 7: have to think about you again. And that's only gonna

1382
01:00:31,680 --> 01:00:32,960
Speaker 7: make it way doesn't want it.

1383
01:00:33,320 --> 01:00:34,920
Speaker 1: Mark used to be so kind to me, like a

1384
01:00:34,960 --> 01:00:37,560
Speaker 1: big brother. He was excited about the wedding, calling himself

1385
01:00:37,560 --> 01:00:40,440
Speaker 1: the future crazy uncle. Now he was cold and distant,

1386
01:00:40,600 --> 01:00:44,240
Speaker 1: talking like I was a stranger. That was when it

1387
01:00:44,400 --> 01:00:47,400
Speaker 1: really hit me. Alex was gone and my life was

1388
01:00:47,440 --> 01:00:49,840
Speaker 1: gone too. I can't afford to stay in that apartment.

1389
01:00:50,000 --> 01:00:53,760
Speaker 1: Alex paid the rent and utilities while I handle the groceries, cooking,

1390
01:00:53,760 --> 01:00:56,240
Speaker 1: and chores. I don't make enough as a personal trainer

1391
01:00:56,440 --> 01:00:58,520
Speaker 1: to cover everything on my own, and I let my

1392
01:00:58,600 --> 01:01:02,000
Speaker 1: certifications lapse months ago because we planned me being a

1393
01:01:02,000 --> 01:01:04,760
Speaker 1: traditional state home wife and mother after the wedding, which

1394
01:01:04,800 --> 01:01:08,440
Speaker 1: is something I really wanted. I've started packing my things

1395
01:01:08,520 --> 01:01:11,880
Speaker 1: and we'll be moving back in with my parents. I

1396
01:01:11,920 --> 01:01:14,120
Speaker 1: haven't told them the full story yet, but I know

1397
01:01:14,520 --> 01:01:19,240
Speaker 1: the full conversation is coming and it's going to be excruciating.

1398
01:01:19,440 --> 01:01:23,040
Speaker 1: My friends are avoiding me too, Some have unfollowed me

1399
01:01:23,080 --> 01:01:25,480
Speaker 1: on social media, and Claire hasn't responded to any of

1400
01:01:25,520 --> 01:01:28,040
Speaker 1: the messages since she told Alex. I don't even know

1401
01:01:28,080 --> 01:01:30,960
Speaker 1: how to begin rebuilding my life from this. I've lost

1402
01:01:31,200 --> 01:01:34,720
Speaker 1: everything that mattered to me because of one selfish, stupid decision.

1403
01:01:34,880 --> 01:01:37,400
Speaker 1: Alex was my rock, my future, and the best thing

1404
01:01:37,400 --> 01:01:38,680
Speaker 1: that ever happened to me, and.

1405
01:01:38,600 --> 01:01:40,040
Speaker 3: I threw it all away for nothing.

1406
01:01:40,080 --> 01:01:42,240
Speaker 1: I betrayed him in the worst way possible, and I'll

1407
01:01:42,280 --> 01:01:43,840
Speaker 1: have to live with that for the rest of my life.

1408
01:01:43,920 --> 01:01:46,640
Speaker 1: He won't even talk to me, driving me crazy that

1409
01:01:46,680 --> 01:01:49,160
Speaker 1: I can't at least apologize to him in person. To

1410
01:01:49,200 --> 01:01:52,200
Speaker 1: Michael real name, I know you'll never see this. I'm sorry.

1411
01:01:52,280 --> 01:01:54,960
Speaker 1: I know my apology means nothing, but I'll regret what

1412
01:01:55,000 --> 01:01:56,960
Speaker 1: I did for the rest of my life. You deserved

1413
01:01:57,240 --> 01:01:59,439
Speaker 1: so much better, and I failed you in every way

1414
01:01:59,440 --> 01:02:02,080
Speaker 1: that mattered. I know that when I'm old and gray

1415
01:02:02,280 --> 01:02:04,680
Speaker 1: even if I find someone else, You'll always be in

1416
01:02:04,720 --> 01:02:06,200
Speaker 1: my heart. I love you to the moon and back,

1417
01:02:06,200 --> 01:02:07,880
Speaker 1: and I don't think I'll ever be able to love

1418
01:02:07,920 --> 01:02:11,080
Speaker 1: someone else the way I loved you. There will always

1419
01:02:11,080 --> 01:02:14,080
Speaker 1: be some part of me that's always yours.

1420
01:02:14,280 --> 01:02:16,720
Speaker 3: And if you want some part of us.

1421
01:02:16,560 --> 01:02:19,400
Speaker 1: To always be with you, you should join us live

1422
01:02:19,440 --> 01:02:22,440
Speaker 1: on YouTube and Facebook every weekday at three pm PST.

1423
01:02:22,560 --> 01:02:25,680
Speaker 1: We're probably live right now. Just tap our profile. There's

1424
01:02:25,680 --> 01:02:26,880
Speaker 1: a little bit more to this story.

1425
01:02:27,000 --> 01:02:29,960
Speaker 2: I think it's just like pretty clear that she doesn't

1426
01:02:30,160 --> 01:02:30,560
Speaker 2: get it.

1427
01:02:30,880 --> 01:02:32,600
Speaker 3: And she doesn't get it, that's for sure.

1428
01:02:32,680 --> 01:02:36,520
Speaker 7: Like, you know, I would have accepted, like, hey, guys,

1429
01:02:36,720 --> 01:02:39,640
Speaker 7: I might you know, not understand what the best thing

1430
01:02:39,680 --> 01:02:41,800
Speaker 7: to do here is? So could I We're here, we're

1431
01:02:41,800 --> 01:02:44,000
Speaker 7: writing these posts. What do people say? Can I get

1432
01:02:44,040 --> 01:02:47,000
Speaker 7: some advice on what you think would be best? Yet

1433
01:02:47,000 --> 01:02:50,520
Speaker 7: she just continues to choose to you know, for instance,

1434
01:02:50,600 --> 01:02:53,560
Speaker 7: ask again ask the brother like hey, please, like let

1435
01:02:53,560 --> 01:02:55,120
Speaker 7: me get on the phone with them, like let me

1436
01:02:55,240 --> 01:02:58,240
Speaker 7: just you know, have some closure. And the brother correctly says,

1437
01:02:58,800 --> 01:03:02,440
Speaker 7: you want the close, not him. She keeps making mistake

1438
01:03:02,480 --> 01:03:03,360
Speaker 7: after mistake.

1439
01:03:03,680 --> 01:03:05,240
Speaker 1: Now I have to figure out how to pick up

1440
01:03:05,240 --> 01:03:08,040
Speaker 1: the pieces my life as I knew it is gone.

1441
01:03:08,240 --> 01:03:11,040
Speaker 1: I have no one to blame but myself. Stop messaging me.

1442
01:03:11,360 --> 01:03:13,800
Speaker 1: I'm not reading them anyway. I've lost everything. There's no

1443
01:03:13,880 --> 01:03:15,760
Speaker 1: way you can make me feel worse than I already do.

1444
01:03:15,920 --> 01:03:19,880
Speaker 1: I'm barely hanging on the will to live here relevant comments.

1445
01:03:19,880 --> 01:03:21,800
Speaker 1: The more I read, the more I liked her ex.

1446
01:03:22,120 --> 01:03:25,120
Speaker 1: The guy gets his closure by giving her nun that's

1447
01:03:25,160 --> 01:03:28,120
Speaker 1: a straight ball or move some joke teeth. I totally

1448
01:03:28,120 --> 01:03:30,040
Speaker 1: get why your friends kind of left you. If my

1449
01:03:30,120 --> 01:03:32,880
Speaker 1: best friend cheats on her boyfriend or fiance, I'm going

1450
01:03:32,920 --> 01:03:35,560
Speaker 1: to question what she possibly can do behind my back

1451
01:03:35,600 --> 01:03:38,000
Speaker 1: because I see being in a relationship as a big commitment,

1452
01:03:38,040 --> 01:03:40,160
Speaker 1: like we are dating to get married. If she cheats

1453
01:03:40,160 --> 01:03:42,280
Speaker 1: on her boyfriend, what is she going to me? Then

1454
01:03:42,600 --> 01:03:46,080
Speaker 1: they are totally right for distancing themselves from you. Another

1455
01:03:46,440 --> 01:03:49,280
Speaker 1: person says, Claire set it up, but opifed it up,

1456
01:03:49,400 --> 01:03:51,920
Speaker 1: players not to blame. I can't feel any empathy. You

1457
01:03:51,960 --> 01:03:54,160
Speaker 1: consistently made bad choices and only cared about yourself in

1458
01:03:54,200 --> 01:03:56,440
Speaker 1: the moment while you're making them. You had no regard

1459
01:03:56,480 --> 01:03:58,680
Speaker 1: for anyone else or how those choices would fall back

1460
01:03:58,680 --> 01:04:01,040
Speaker 1: on you. They have now and you've got the exact

1461
01:04:01,040 --> 01:04:03,400
Speaker 1: treatment you deserve for doing what you did. I'm glad

1462
01:04:03,440 --> 01:04:06,200
Speaker 1: he found out before the wedding happened. He deserves better

1463
01:04:06,200 --> 01:04:09,720
Speaker 1: than to have to marry a cheeger who wasn't thinking

1464
01:04:09,720 --> 01:04:12,320
Speaker 1: about him at all when she did what she did.

1465
01:04:12,920 --> 01:04:16,080
Speaker 1: And then another person says, pieces of poop don't get closure,

1466
01:04:16,240 --> 01:04:21,040
Speaker 1: they get blushed, and that is where that story and

1467
01:04:21,280 --> 01:04:22,960
Speaker 1: this episode ends.

1468
01:04:23,240 --> 01:04:28,960
Speaker 7: Wow, what a story, guys, what a story fellas my

1469
01:04:29,680 --> 01:04:32,520
Speaker 7: you know, and you know it's so rare that we

1470
01:04:32,640 --> 01:04:35,520
Speaker 7: get a story from the POV of like, yo, guys,

1471
01:04:35,760 --> 01:04:38,640
Speaker 7: I'm the one thing doer, Yeah, the clear I did

1472
01:04:38,680 --> 01:04:39,520
Speaker 7: the big f up.

1473
01:04:39,520 --> 01:04:42,080
Speaker 2: This is me, first person POV sharing.

1474
01:04:42,080 --> 01:04:45,240
Speaker 7: It's it's so often it's about oh, the other person,

1475
01:04:45,560 --> 01:04:45,760
Speaker 7: you know.

1476
01:04:46,160 --> 01:04:49,560
Speaker 2: So just what a crazy series of events.

1477
01:04:49,840 --> 01:04:53,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, man, hopefully OPI actually learns from this mistake. We

1478
01:04:54,040 --> 01:04:56,000
Speaker 3: love you and see it tomorrow