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Speaker 1: a strawberry letter, until he returned, thank you, my friend, Steve.

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Speaker 1: I gotta say you're gonna love This letter is for you.

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Speaker 1: Subject from the subject on down, my musty man. Dear

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Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley. I've been with my man for three years

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Speaker 1: and we started living together seven months ago. I'm a

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Speaker 1: nurse and he does construction work. I love his work

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Speaker 1: he washes his clothes, takes a shower, We eat, and

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Speaker 1: then we go to bed. But here's the problem. Throughout

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Speaker 1: the night, while he's sleeping, he sweats really bad. His

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Speaker 1: pillow is drenched and the mattress on his side is

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Speaker 1: out daily and change our bed linens more often than

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Speaker 1: I should. I can't stand it, so I mentioned to

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Speaker 1: doesn't want to take time off from work, and that

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Speaker 1: it's normal for people to get hot while they're asleep.

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Speaker 1: Most mornings he is up and out before me. I've

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Speaker 1: watched him getting ready for work many mornings, and I

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Speaker 1: can't believe how nasty this grown man is. After being

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Speaker 1: drenched in sweat the night before and having an odor

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Speaker 1: he will brush his teeth, put on clean underwear, and

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Speaker 1: put on clean clothes and head out to work. When

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Speaker 1: I told him how nasty that is, he said that

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Speaker 1: work anyway, So it's okay for a grown man to

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Speaker 1: leave the house Musty. I am hoping this relationship lasts,

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Speaker 1: but I can't deal with his hygiene. How can I

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Speaker 1: get through to him? Well, I'm gonna say this. First

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Speaker 1: of all, Musty is not sexy, Okay, I'm just gonna

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Speaker 1: say that. And also, you know, people say that you

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Speaker 1: don't really know a person until you live with them. Okay,

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Speaker 1: but several things here are going on. I do agree

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Speaker 1: the temperature in the bedroom? Does he wear deodorant to bed?

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Speaker 1: How's the linen you know, after you take a takes

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Speaker 1: does he sleep in? What? What do you guys, eat

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Speaker 1: if the food is like really spicy and stuff, this

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Speaker 1: could cause sweating. Um uh. If the room is too hot,

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Speaker 1: that could be an issue. The bedding might be too heavy,

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Speaker 1: or if he sleeps in hot pjas or does he

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Speaker 1: wear deodorant? I mean, these could all be problematic. He's right,

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Speaker 1: people do get hot sometimes while they're asleep. But if

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Speaker 1: it's like you say, and it does sound excessive, I

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Speaker 1: know you're frustrated, but if you really want this relationship

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Speaker 1: to last, you have to calm down and uh and

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Speaker 1: talk to him in a mature, sensible way about his hygiene.

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Speaker 1: You know, you guys have been together three years and

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Speaker 1: you gotta tell him how this affects you and how

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Speaker 1: it could affect your future together. And I'll say it again,

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Speaker 1: Musty is not sexy, Steve, all right, let me just

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Speaker 1: go and deal with this ladder with the truth. Sureley,

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Speaker 1: You and this lady tripping? Oh yeah, I'm sick of y'all. Okay,

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Speaker 1: he sweat so damn what the man been at work

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Speaker 1: ain't tripping, y'all. Eat dinner, you left out some stuff.

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Speaker 1: Y'all do some things, then y'all go to bed. Now,

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Speaker 1: my man sweat profusely while he's sleeping, his pillows drenched,

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Speaker 1: man sweat so damn what? Oh you ain't gonna like

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Speaker 1: my answer at all? Dude in here and then he working,

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Speaker 1: have told him he needs to go to a damn doctor.

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Speaker 1: Now guess what he told you. He can't take off work,

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Speaker 1: what you could do. They got golf shirts. That's called

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Speaker 1: dry fit fabrics. You are to get him some golf

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Speaker 1: absorbed sweat while you playing. Well, when you walk through

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Speaker 1: to you like cotton. No, not just to nothing, Shirley,

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Speaker 1: Funking nerves his name man men funky, just like funking

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Speaker 1: What is he shine for to go dig holes? Oh? Man?

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Speaker 1: Can will brown runner? Jack Hammel? You down that nursing,

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Speaker 1: wiping up stuff, giving people medicine, giving people a shot

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Speaker 1: in thenas that all you doing that? Your y'all heat

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Speaker 1: down here hauling. I don't kill what she saved him

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Speaker 1: live here in that saving lives. He building bridges, filling

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Speaker 1: That's what I was gonna be construction work. Yeah, construction workers,

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Speaker 1: send a bit till he stake work, she said. She

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Speaker 1: talked titled it my musty man, Your mustant man been sweating?

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Speaker 1: Did he get up? You won't hear the shower for

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Speaker 1: he go to work and stank again? What what ain't

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Speaker 1: to do that? He? Wait? Wait, wait, you entertain on me.

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Speaker 1: hold on, Steve, hold hold that thought, hold that thought.

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Speaker 1: We'll have her too. I'm not mad at him. I

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Speaker 1: just think they need to have a serious conversation because

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Speaker 1: that is the subject of the letter my musty Man.

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Speaker 1: A lady wrote in she's been with her man for

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Speaker 1: three years uh and seven months ago they started living together.

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Speaker 1: Everything's fine. He goes to work, he comes home, he's committed.

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Speaker 1: all this stuff and he has an odor. So what

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Speaker 1: She just said, after being drenched and sweat the night

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Speaker 1: has been doing active oh no, active funk is different

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Speaker 1: He probably got a lot of salt build up in him.

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Speaker 1: And that thing. That's what I'm nothing to do is

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Speaker 1: end me. You're gonna mess around me by your damn self, lady.

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Speaker 1: You know, ungrateful to every day every day bringing that

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Speaker 1: gonna lea eat this man because he stayed. He leaves

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Speaker 1: the house musty, he going to get mustad. He's gonna

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Speaker 1: take a bad foe. He get home and get in

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Speaker 1: that bad as he should, and there ain't no problem.

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Speaker 1: He do what he's supposed to do. And the man

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Speaker 1: don't want to take off to go down and no

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Speaker 1: damn doctor she a nurse research him. I find out

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Speaker 1: what's wrong with your man. Get some medicine out that cabinet,

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Speaker 1: put it in his coffee and get your man back.

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Speaker 1: You're gonna leave, give him a shot. Damn what Sometimes

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Speaker 1: much medicine that'll make you that. I think, what is that? Huh?

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Speaker 1: Let me explain to you what you do, did what

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Speaker 1: you do? Say it nicely? What? Because you have an attitude?

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Speaker 1: Right now? Every time he gets through show, I want

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Speaker 1: you to get a can of Thompson's water seal, to

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Speaker 1: he's actually coating himself in Thompson's Dick water sealer. For

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Speaker 1: want some help on you? That's some time back. I

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Speaker 1: like you, I like you. Put some water seal or

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Speaker 1: bad got something too home deep otsell bad water ceiler.

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Speaker 1: You get water celer for humans. I don't know nothing

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Speaker 1: Or you can get rock salt, rock salt. They make

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Speaker 1: that dealder that whole food that's supposed to be good

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Speaker 1: But don't call me no more. But no man that's

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Speaker 1: there's a lot of musty unemployed people around here. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: unemployed sitting up that thing. How about them mustard? Mean

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Speaker 1: some of y'all got that sleeping with other women? How

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Speaker 1: about that he coming home every night? Now you're a nurse.

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Speaker 1: Now you mad because he won't take a shower in

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Speaker 1: you don't know who he worked with. Well, it seems

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Speaker 1: Hold up? You was on hussle, Well, no, musty isn't sexy,

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Speaker 1: Steve so well, he ain't gonna be musty when he

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Speaker 1: come back home. He showered every day. Enjoy that moment

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Speaker 1: right there, because he finn't get in his bed and

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Speaker 1: he peeing on this? That's that A lot of times

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Speaker 1: just being on this self, because that could be it.

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Speaker 1: He wakes up every night, I mean dretched. Yeah, that's

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Speaker 1: what if you pee on yourself, if you farted, he's

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Speaker 1: throw he laying over there. Man. She didn't say peace. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: she said sweat. She she ain't checked it. She tries

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Speaker 1: the mattress out everything. That is how you tested. You

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Speaker 1: I want you to get on the inside out of him,

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Speaker 1: you'll know if it's p or not. Maybe she needs

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Speaker 1: to turn the temperature down, Turn that damn temperature down.

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Speaker 1: Get that room cold. You make that room like Marjorie

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Speaker 1: got our room on ice meat locker. Marjorie's mama room

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Speaker 1: is meat locker. Man. I go see Margred's parents and

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Speaker 1: Memphis Pop be sitting up there with a code on.

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Speaker 1: I'll be damn. I feel you. I gotta wear a

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