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Speaker 4: My girlfriend demanded that I fire my cleaning lady, but

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Speaker 4: I refused. Now what she doing? She's cleaning your house?

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Speaker 4: Why are you firing her? This is a dumb argument

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Speaker 4: that I need people to weigh in. I mail forty two.

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Speaker 4: I have a cleaning lady who comes every other week.

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Speaker 4: She's super hard working, really nice, and I completely trust her.

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Speaker 4: She comes while I'm at work and I get to

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Speaker 4: come home to a clean house the best feeling. By

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Speaker 4: and I'm Safana and.

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Speaker 1: I am Keon, and we're.

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Speaker 4: Here to give good advice you please. We don't have

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Speaker 4: all the answers. We only know what we'd do, so

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Speaker 4: let us know what you would do in the comments,

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Speaker 4: and OP says one time she told me she drank

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Speaker 4: a can of pepsi from my fridge and even asked

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Speaker 4: if she should pay me back. Wait, the cleaner or

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Speaker 4: the girlfriend who asked? I told her she one hundred

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Speaker 4: percent has my permission to take a break and eat,

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Speaker 4: drink whatever she needs. No, I think that's I think

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Speaker 4: that's the cleaner.

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Speaker 1: It's the cleaning lady for sure, but I wanted to

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Speaker 1: be funny. No, no, no, no, you have the good permission to

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Speaker 1: your girlfriend.

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Speaker 4: Since then, she'll occasionally have a pop a glass of juice.

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Speaker 3: Er.

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Speaker 4: Once she said she had a piece of toast.

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Speaker 5: Wow, uh oh the toast.

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Speaker 4: WHOA, that's crossing the line. She's never helped herself to

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Speaker 4: any meal, snacks or anything beyond that. My girlfriend female

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Speaker 4: thirty eight was over the other night and said she

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Speaker 4: saw my cleaning lady stealing from the fridge. I told

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Speaker 4: her she wasn't stealing, lol, she has my permission and

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Speaker 4: she's definitely not sitting around being lazy. He was taking

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Speaker 4: a break. My girlfriend said it's weird, unprofessional, and that

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Speaker 4: it could lead to boundary crossing. I told her, I've

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Speaker 4: known this woman for two years and nothing like that

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Speaker 4: has ever happened. Girlfriend thinks I should fire her before

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Speaker 4: it gets worse. Girlfriend, I think you should shut up,

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Speaker 4: you fun. I think you should leave. I think you

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Speaker 4: should mind her, and you should business. Are you cleaning

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Speaker 4: the house?

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Speaker 6: No?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, just thank your lucky stars that you have a

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Speaker 4: partner who has a nice, clean house. Right, it's not

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Speaker 4: not every man's apartment is nice and clean. Yeah.

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Speaker 6: And also, like, why would that be such a big

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Speaker 6: deal if she literally gave her permission?

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Speaker 4: See, I can't with like the cleaning and the nanny

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Speaker 4: and all of that, because then I just think of

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Speaker 4: my Yeah, you're this person.

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Speaker 6: I just like I literally yesterday went and stole the

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Speaker 6: gallon of milk that they have in the fridge because

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Speaker 6: I really wanted uh cereal last night. Yeah, and then

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Speaker 6: I came back up and put it back up. But

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Speaker 6: like I'm allowed to do that.

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Speaker 4: Exactly, and oh peace cleaner was allowed to do that

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Speaker 4: as well. Yeah, Like I'm giving permission to the people

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Speaker 4: that are taking care of your house. Yeah, our cleaning

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Speaker 4: lady is very lovely. Am I wrong for thinking? Why

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Speaker 4: change something that's been working perfectly fine? Am I being weird?

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Speaker 4: And relevan comment say? Comment one says, you're cleaning lady,

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Speaker 4: your place, your choice. I think that she's the one

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Speaker 4: being weird about it. Ohpie says, I don't understand what's

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Speaker 4: so weird about it. My house is clean and she

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Speaker 4: does a great job every time. That's all I care.

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Speaker 4: Commentor two says, is your cleaning lady a different race

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Speaker 4: than your girlfriend? Opie says, nope, we're all white. Common

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Speaker 4: three says you've got a girlfriend problem. She looks down

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Speaker 4: on this woman for being a cleaning lady, not the ahole.

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Speaker 4: And comment four says, you have a hard working woman

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Speaker 4: that takes a pop on occasion or a piece of

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Speaker 4: toast with your permission. Please do not fire her as

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Speaker 4: she is a rarity. Your girlfriend is cold and unkind.

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Speaker 4: Common five says, and I guarantee you she was either

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Speaker 4: very hungry or maybe not feeling well for her to

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Speaker 4: make a single piece of toast. She could have eaten anything,

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Speaker 4: according to Ope, but chose something simple to fill her belly.

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Speaker 4: Oh he says, exactly, the fact that she just needed

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Speaker 4: juice or popped me and she was tired and needed

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Speaker 4: sugar or caffeine. I also wonder. I mean like not

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Speaker 4: that it would really matter, but like maybe this person

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Speaker 6: Every day is different, and no one should be like

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Speaker 6: judge if they feel tired one day exactly, you know,

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Speaker 6: doing like something, you know, like things happen, things come up,

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Speaker 6: and you may be stressed, and it's like, but oh

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Speaker 6: I still have to work. I'm still gonna do the work.

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Speaker 6: It's not like it's affecting her work. Yeah, and so

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Speaker 6: she's still getting it done.

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Speaker 4: Exactly. It's like when you have like workers coming to

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Speaker 4: and you give them water.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I away.

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Speaker 6: My mom always is like Gerent lemonade, we have like

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Speaker 6: extra you know, like, oh they're doings like you just

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Speaker 6: I don't know.

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Speaker 4: Yes, I told her she can eat or drink anything.

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Speaker 4: Yet she has never eaten my leftovers or any meals

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Speaker 4: I'd prepared, or any treats I have in the fridge.

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Speaker 4: Comment six is not the ale. Your cleaning lady is

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Speaker 4: following free determined rules and is not taking advantage of you.

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Speaker 4: As you said, She's hard working and doing what you

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Speaker 4: had agreed with. Why mess with what's not broken, Opie says,

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Speaker 4: exactly my argument. Comb and seven says, not the ale.

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Speaker 4: How long have you been with your girlfriend? She sounds

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Speaker 4: a little bit entitled, But maybe I'm getting the wrong impression.

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Speaker 4: I do think that her taking the pepsi the first

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Speaker 4: time is a little weird, but since you told her

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Speaker 4: she could in the future, she isn't doing anything weird.

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Speaker 4: And I feel like your girlfriend is overstepping. And Opie

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Speaker 4: says about five months that he's been with his girl.

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Speaker 6: Oh yeah, so I think that they're just probably like

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Speaker 6: being weird and they have no place to say that, like, oh,

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Speaker 6: you need to get rid of this person because it's.

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Speaker 4: Been five months. Again, I feel like she's taking for

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Speaker 6: Yeah, like clean house, and like she's not stealing anything,

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Speaker 6: she's not like not doing her job, Like all the

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Speaker 4: You have a good relationship. She've known her for two years.

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Speaker 6: Exactly, so like longer than you've been with this girlfriend. Yeah,

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Speaker 6: and the girlfriend's just like, yeah, she takes your food

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Speaker 6: because you told her to. Okay, so there's no problem here,

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Speaker 6: So be quiet, be good common eight. Does your girlfriend

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Speaker 6: live with you?

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Speaker 4: If so, conversation is needed because no one should have

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Speaker 4: someone they're uncomfortable with in their home. I think her

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Speaker 4: discomfort is unreasonable, but that's a different conversation. If she

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Speaker 4: doesn't live with you, she's not paying the housekeeper, and

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Speaker 4: she doesn't intend to take over the cleaning herself. She

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Speaker 4: could mind her own business, not the ale. Opie says,

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Speaker 4: she doesn't live with me. She stays at my place

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Speaker 4: a couple nights a week, so she's probably not even

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Speaker 4: there like rarely ever when the cleaner is there anyway, Yeah.

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Speaker 6: You know, like she happened to be that one time.

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Speaker 6: It's just not like the girlfriend or whatever, the partner

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Speaker 6: because nothing has happened. You're making problems for yourself.

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Speaker 4: How long is Opie known the cleaning lady and would

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Speaker 4: her Oh, he says, I've known the cleaning lady way

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Speaker 4: before I started dating my girlfriend. If I wanted to

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Speaker 4: even if she was the most beautiful woman on earth.

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Speaker 4: There's no way I'd ever do it because then I'd

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Speaker 4: lose my cleaning lady. How she looks doesn't matter at all.

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Speaker 4: I don't know. That's silly. They like said, like, but

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Speaker 4: this doesn't matter.

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Speaker 1: I could do it.

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Speaker 4: Even if she was hot, I wouldn't do it because

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Speaker 4: she's the best cleaning lady. She cleans my house. She

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Speaker 4: she's rubbing my.

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Speaker 2: Dirty she's rubbing and what.

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Speaker 4: She's rubbing my counters with cleaner.

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Speaker 2: There she could clean too, she could.

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Speaker 4: Rub I'm just gonna stop talking. That's actually all I

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Speaker 4: gotta say. That's actually all about. The rubbing is gone.

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Speaker 4: It's gone. It's here and it's gone. But there is

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Speaker 4: an update. I think you need to have a serious

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Speaker 4: Girley pop, Come on, Gilly pop, what is up? Why

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Speaker 4: don't you like having a clean house? Yeah, it's literally

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Speaker 4: I love having a house, Savannah knows. I love having

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Speaker 6: the fact that it was such a clean kitchen, because

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Speaker 4: See that in many houses. You don't. I clean the

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Speaker 6: It's Okay, I clean it when I have time, but

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Speaker 6: you know, but yours is just spotless all the time.

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Speaker 5: Thank you.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's a team effort, so it's a cleaning lady. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: it's team effort. Me and the cleaner. I do the

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Speaker 4: week that she doesn't come, but there is an update. Okay. Wow.

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Speaker 4: I had no idea a silly debate between me and

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Speaker 4: my girlfriend would blow up like this. I talked to

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Speaker 4: said it'd be better if she brought her own stuff.

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Speaker 4: I was like, the woman goes to multiple clients a day.

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Speaker 4: She can't be carrying a whole suitcase of snacks on

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Speaker 4: not like she's rating my whole fridge, so who cares.

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Speaker 4: My girlfriend said it makes her uncomfortable. Then she asked

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Speaker 4: an adult and clean your own place. She's jealous, she

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Speaker 1: Maybe she wants to be the cleaning lady.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, ooh, she said, I don't need a cleaning lady

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Speaker 4: to mommy me. I was like, she's not mommy ing me.

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Speaker 4: She's a huge help and my place looks amazing after

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Speaker 4: she leaves. I really don't understand why this girl is

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Speaker 4: complaining about her boyfriend having a clean apartment.

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Speaker 1: Because maybe it's like, maybe he's lazy, maybe he needs

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Speaker 1: the fact that he needs someone to clean.

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Speaker 4: I don't know, i'd be late. That's awesome.

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Speaker 6: If I could pay someone to clean, I would do it.

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Speaker 6: Not I mean I like cleaning, yeah, Like, but it's

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Speaker 4: I don't know, I clean a lot, but like, time's

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Speaker 1: You like cleaning people.

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Speaker 4: Then she said, when we move in or get married,

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you know, she's been with him for two years.

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Speaker 4: I told her, I don't get her logic at all.

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Speaker 4: Here, I guess, yeah, bye, oh Google, Why are you

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Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly if the cleaner was like brushing his teeth,

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Speaker 6: Are overstepping the boundaries that like either weren't like clearly

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Speaker 6: But she hasn't done anything, and she does exactly what

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Speaker 4: Take out the trash. I'm going to bed with the

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Speaker 1: I'm cleaning the cleaning lady.

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Speaker 4: I'm gonna clean her. I'm gonna clean her and clock you.

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Speaker 4: I'm gonna clean both your clock you out in different ways,

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Speaker 4: I told her best of luck. She told me to

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Speaker 1: She did, she say, clean her house? Excuse me?

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Speaker 4: Looking for to spending the holidays with my son this

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Speaker 6: Yeah, it's like she's it seems like she's one of

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Speaker 4: So I don't know, but good riddance. Honestly, she was annoying.

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Speaker 5: Why wouldn't you want that?

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Speaker 4: But there are some comments. Quick question was marriage even

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, oh.

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Speaker 4: My god, you guys didn't really talk about it. Another

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Speaker 4: but this is bad. I mean, you wouldn't be here

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Speaker 4: I don't think she's jealous at all. She sees me

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Speaker 6: Ooh cares, I'll read this comment downvoted comment.

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Speaker 1: It's gotta be the girlfriend.

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Speaker 4: You're the a hole. You're picking a cleaning lady over

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Speaker 4: your girlfriend, plain and simple. She makes your girlfriend uncomfortable.

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Speaker 4: Girlfriend doesn't need a reason to be uncomfortable. Yes she does, Yes, yes,

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Speaker 1: I don't know if this is not our house. It

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Speaker 1: wasn't in the story, was it where? What if it

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Speaker 1: Did he bring that up, like instead of a lady?

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Speaker 4: What was it's a woman?

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Speaker 6: I don't know or is this strictly just about why

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Speaker 1: She's got zero grounds of. Like, Yeah, I had this.

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Speaker 4: And then he got mad at her and was like, hey,

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Speaker 6: Yeah, and he literally talked about he's like, I hire

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Speaker 4: Don't have to come home to a house like that.

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Speaker 5: That's great.

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Speaker 6: I like, that's the life. Yeah, everyone wants that, So

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Speaker 6: Like what's the extent of you know, yeah, like because

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Speaker 4: Like so I'm lazy for doing that, you know. And

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Speaker 6: Literally, my and my neighbor hires a cleaning lady to

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Speaker 4: It can just be like little things.

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Speaker 4: Leave and like later it's like of course it is

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Speaker 4: was still talking. If you respected your girlfriend and valued

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Speaker 1: It has to be the girlfriend.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, this could be the real problem. Maybe your girlfriend

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Speaker 4: You don't care about your relationship, and that's sad. That's

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Speaker 4: like oh, pe saying that she's not allowed have like

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Speaker 4: electrical problem. Yeah. He's like, well, no, you can't have

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Speaker 4: here to fix my like freaking lights. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: It's like the pool guy.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it's job, that's the pool.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, comes over, cleans the pool and then leaves, and

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Speaker 4: This is all just like normal work. Oh, he says,

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00:20:28,760 --> 00:20:31,760
Speaker 4: it's not a competition. I'm not picking anyone over anyone.

438
00:20:32,000 --> 00:20:34,159
Speaker 4: I'm at that age that I have no shame hiring

439
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Speaker 4: help if that means I get to relax more. I

440
00:20:36,640 --> 00:20:38,840
Speaker 4: also take my car for an ooral change instead of

441
00:20:38,840 --> 00:20:42,119
Speaker 4: doing it myself. Did I choose the mechanic over my girlfriend?

442
00:20:42,200 --> 00:20:44,880
Speaker 4: Right there? You got as I said earlier. I've known

443
00:20:44,960 --> 00:20:47,840
Speaker 4: the cleaning lady way before I started dating my girlfriend.

444
00:20:48,200 --> 00:20:50,360
Speaker 4: If I wanted to hook up with her, I would

445
00:20:50,440 --> 00:20:52,679
Speaker 4: have done it back then, even if she was the

446
00:20:52,720 --> 00:20:55,680
Speaker 4: most beautiful woman on earth. There's no way I'd ever

447
00:20:55,720 --> 00:20:57,760
Speaker 4: do it because then I'd lose my cleaning lady. So

448
00:20:57,880 --> 00:21:00,399
Speaker 4: they were just kind of repeating that earlier. Come and

449
00:21:00,440 --> 00:21:03,760
Speaker 4: that is the end of that story. Wow. Yeah, pretty

450
00:21:03,760 --> 00:21:05,800
Speaker 4: cut and dry. I think your girlfriend is dealing with

451
00:21:05,840 --> 00:21:09,200
Speaker 4: a lot of insecurities that she needs to work through. Yeah,

452
00:21:09,240 --> 00:21:12,360
Speaker 4: and that don't really have anything to do with you.

453
00:21:12,680 --> 00:21:15,080
Speaker 4: And good thing you got out of there. I'm glad

454
00:21:15,160 --> 00:21:17,920
Speaker 4: you made her run for the hills. Yep, and kept

455
00:21:17,960 --> 00:21:20,840
Speaker 4: your cleaning lady. Yeah, good decision. There's better people to

456
00:21:20,840 --> 00:21:21,560
Speaker 4: spend your time with.

457
00:21:21,800 --> 00:21:22,280
Speaker 5: Yeah.

458
00:21:22,320 --> 00:21:24,320
Speaker 4: But that's the end of that story, and we've got

459
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Speaker 4: another one coming right up.

460
00:21:26,960 --> 00:21:30,000
Speaker 6: I found out my boyfriend has been cheating on me

461
00:21:30,280 --> 00:21:32,680
Speaker 6: and now he wants counseling.

462
00:21:32,200 --> 00:21:34,600
Speaker 4: Which just feel really bad about it. Now.

463
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Speaker 6: My boyfriend forty five male of two years, and I

464
00:21:38,560 --> 00:21:41,960
Speaker 6: thirty six female, have had a wonderful, fun, caring and

465
00:21:42,080 --> 00:21:45,360
Speaker 6: kind relationship. He has a son and I have two children.

466
00:21:45,760 --> 00:21:48,760
Speaker 6: They have all met and our friends. We had been

467
00:21:48,800 --> 00:21:51,560
Speaker 6: talking about moving in together, meaning buying a house together,

468
00:21:51,680 --> 00:21:53,720
Speaker 6: as we would need a place that has enough room

469
00:21:53,720 --> 00:21:57,600
Speaker 6: for everyone. By the way, this comes from Clem Finney

470
00:21:57,720 --> 00:22:00,520
Speaker 6: is a liar, And if you want to submit your

471
00:22:00,560 --> 00:22:03,440
Speaker 6: own stories, go to the r slash okay storytime subreddit.

472
00:22:03,520 --> 00:22:06,880
Speaker 6: I am Savannah, I'm Sophia, and I'm ski On and

473
00:22:06,960 --> 00:22:08,639
Speaker 6: we're here to give you some good advice.

474
00:22:08,680 --> 00:22:09,040
Speaker 5: Goofly.

475
00:22:09,080 --> 00:22:11,760
Speaker 6: But obviously we don't have all the answers. We're only

476
00:22:11,760 --> 00:22:13,280
Speaker 6: gonna tell you what we would do in this situation.

477
00:22:13,359 --> 00:22:14,960
Speaker 6: We would love to know what you would do in

478
00:22:15,000 --> 00:22:19,680
Speaker 6: the comments. As Opie says, yesterday morning, I couldn't find

479
00:22:19,680 --> 00:22:21,400
Speaker 6: my phone which happens frequently.

480
00:22:21,800 --> 00:22:23,639
Speaker 4: Classic yeah, class me.

481
00:22:24,160 --> 00:22:26,160
Speaker 6: I asked him to call my cell, which he did,

482
00:22:26,200 --> 00:22:28,080
Speaker 6: and it kept bringing until it went to voicemail.

483
00:22:28,400 --> 00:22:29,720
Speaker 4: He got distracted with the kids.

484
00:22:29,760 --> 00:22:31,960
Speaker 6: I found my phone and went back to retrieve his phone,

485
00:22:31,960 --> 00:22:35,439
Speaker 6: which was still unlocked. Let me note here that I

486
00:22:35,480 --> 00:22:39,520
Speaker 6: have never looked at his phone. I never suspected the

487
00:22:39,600 --> 00:22:42,400
Speaker 6: need to. Well, it's open and a message comes through

488
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Speaker 6: from someone named Paula. As I am picking up the

489
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Speaker 6: phone to return it. I don't know a Paula and

490
00:22:49,320 --> 00:22:52,040
Speaker 6: his friends and family, of which I have met, all

491
00:22:52,080 --> 00:22:54,120
Speaker 6: of them also do not know her.

492
00:22:54,400 --> 00:22:56,840
Speaker 4: Did you ask them all? Yeah, I don't like. She

493
00:22:56,880 --> 00:22:59,080
Speaker 4: sees the text and she immediately goes to the family

494
00:22:59,080 --> 00:23:02,000
Speaker 4: group chat, gets rid of her husband and says, does

495
00:23:02,040 --> 00:23:02,879
Speaker 4: anyone know Paula?

496
00:23:02,920 --> 00:23:06,600
Speaker 1: And they're like, Paula who ala abdul dean.

497
00:23:07,680 --> 00:23:11,240
Speaker 6: No, my children and I spent all of Christmas with

498
00:23:11,280 --> 00:23:14,439
Speaker 6: his family and extended family, which has been amazing and

499
00:23:14,520 --> 00:23:17,240
Speaker 6: fun Naturally, my stomach flip.

500
00:23:18,000 --> 00:23:22,480
Speaker 4: I opened it and was smacked, yawning things, smacked.

501
00:23:21,880 --> 00:23:26,520
Speaker 6: With nude pics, afpic details and weird.

502
00:23:26,760 --> 00:23:31,680
Speaker 4: Mix from him to this Paula. Lord, they're not even

503
00:23:31,680 --> 00:23:34,560
Speaker 4: putting them in visible ink. Oh no, it's just full there.

504
00:23:34,720 --> 00:23:35,800
Speaker 4: They didn't even delete those.

505
00:23:35,920 --> 00:23:39,640
Speaker 6: I know you got invisible ink, you got invisible invisible ink?

506
00:23:39,800 --> 00:23:44,920
Speaker 4: Or just delete them? Yeah, text messages you crazies. Yeah

507
00:23:44,960 --> 00:23:50,640
Speaker 4: that oh cheap, No, but that's crazy of that. Well,

508
00:23:50,720 --> 00:23:53,600
Speaker 4: he's also like what forty Yeah, he doesn't know how

509
00:23:53,680 --> 00:23:56,639
Speaker 4: to those phones. Probably doesn't know what invisible ink is.

510
00:23:57,000 --> 00:23:59,400
Speaker 4: Abracadabra is what he'd say. He said what.

511
00:24:00,320 --> 00:24:02,480
Speaker 6: I had to stop and hide in the washroom to

512
00:24:02,520 --> 00:24:06,440
Speaker 6: take screen photos, with screen photos, to say, see this

513
00:24:06,480 --> 00:24:06,919
Speaker 6: is how you know.

514
00:24:07,040 --> 00:24:07,760
Speaker 4: Yet they don't.

515
00:24:08,080 --> 00:24:10,919
Speaker 6: They don't know how to do to take screenshots with

516
00:24:11,000 --> 00:24:13,719
Speaker 6: my phone. I scrolled as fast as I could because

517
00:24:13,760 --> 00:24:17,080
Speaker 6: maybe I was wrong. I would read it later. I

518
00:24:17,119 --> 00:24:20,240
Speaker 6: turned his phone off after taking about seven photos without

519
00:24:20,240 --> 00:24:22,480
Speaker 6: reading the dates or comments, and gave it back to him.

520
00:24:22,800 --> 00:24:25,240
Speaker 6: He had to leave for hockey practice, so he took off.

521
00:24:25,359 --> 00:24:28,600
Speaker 6: I finally sat down and read the messages. It's awful.

522
00:24:29,240 --> 00:24:32,080
Speaker 6: Clearly he is falling around with this woman. The dates

523
00:24:32,119 --> 00:24:34,640
Speaker 6: and times match up with when I wasn't with him,

524
00:24:34,680 --> 00:24:36,879
Speaker 6: and he was supposedly out with his friends or doing

525
00:24:37,000 --> 00:24:40,919
Speaker 6: mundane tasks like groceries or laundry. Ah he's been meeting

526
00:24:40,920 --> 00:24:43,800
Speaker 6: this woman during times he is not with me. She

527
00:24:43,960 --> 00:24:46,440
Speaker 6: is also a mother and lives somewhat near me. Thank

528
00:24:46,560 --> 00:24:50,240
Speaker 6: god I don't know her. They slept together on Valentine's Day.

529
00:24:50,600 --> 00:24:51,919
Speaker 4: No, that's what you.

530
00:24:52,000 --> 00:24:52,560
Speaker 1: Tell me today.

531
00:24:52,800 --> 00:24:54,679
Speaker 4: You're telling me that he wasn't even there for you

532
00:24:54,760 --> 00:24:58,440
Speaker 4: on Valentine Like, where what was his excuse?

533
00:24:58,800 --> 00:25:00,560
Speaker 1: Guys, guys, it's a day for love.

534
00:25:00,920 --> 00:25:03,880
Speaker 4: Yeah, did for love. You gotta spread the love, but

535
00:25:03,960 --> 00:25:06,080
Speaker 4: not to another woman.

536
00:25:06,280 --> 00:25:08,680
Speaker 2: Sharing is caring, but not.

537
00:25:08,320 --> 00:25:13,680
Speaker 4: When you're not caring about your day. Valentine's Day is sacred.

538
00:25:13,960 --> 00:25:14,840
Speaker 4: Leave it to your love.

539
00:25:14,920 --> 00:25:19,679
Speaker 1: Its come on saying something for the single people. Opie.

540
00:25:20,119 --> 00:25:23,680
Speaker 6: Yeah, they slept together on Valentine's Day, about two hours

541
00:25:23,720 --> 00:25:27,280
Speaker 6: before I went over to his for a home cooked meal,

542
00:25:27,359 --> 00:25:31,440
Speaker 6: candlelight music, dancing, and of course a lot of intimacy.

543
00:25:31,720 --> 00:25:33,760
Speaker 4: Wait, you're telling me he went back.

544
00:25:33,640 --> 00:25:36,000
Speaker 1: To back Valentine's He double dipped.

545
00:25:36,160 --> 00:25:39,000
Speaker 6: He was with that girl two hours before she came over.

546
00:25:39,560 --> 00:25:43,720
Speaker 6: Obviously they did some stuff and then she comes over

547
00:25:43,760 --> 00:25:47,320
Speaker 6: for the real deal on Valentine's Day, does a whole

548
00:25:47,320 --> 00:25:49,800
Speaker 6: candlelight dinner whatever, doesn't even mention it, and then they

549
00:25:49,880 --> 00:25:52,160
Speaker 6: also end up doing stuff.

550
00:25:51,880 --> 00:25:54,960
Speaker 1: So like, no they did, that's they did?

551
00:25:55,040 --> 00:25:59,560
Speaker 6: Any monkey that's messed up on Valentine's Day and not

552
00:25:59,600 --> 00:26:00,680
Speaker 6: to like say anything.

553
00:26:00,359 --> 00:26:00,680
Speaker 4: And like.

554
00:26:02,200 --> 00:26:05,359
Speaker 6: No, no, no, no, Now I hope oh he doesn't

555
00:26:05,400 --> 00:26:07,160
Speaker 6: like get something from that because.

556
00:26:06,880 --> 00:26:09,880
Speaker 4: That's ah yeah, go get yourself tested, girl. Yeah.

557
00:26:10,000 --> 00:26:13,399
Speaker 6: I was shaking at this point, so I thought if

558
00:26:13,720 --> 00:26:16,680
Speaker 6: this were me, I would want to know. I calmly

559
00:26:16,800 --> 00:26:18,719
Speaker 6: called the number at the top of the screen. I

560
00:26:18,760 --> 00:26:21,119
Speaker 6: was already under the impressed and she didn't know about me,

561
00:26:21,240 --> 00:26:23,720
Speaker 6: as her text to him seemed like they were in

562
00:26:23,840 --> 00:26:26,919
Speaker 6: a full on relationship. One of the texts thanked him

563
00:26:26,960 --> 00:26:29,160
Speaker 6: for being a good influence on one of her sons,

564
00:26:29,200 --> 00:26:32,040
Speaker 6: who adores him. I gently told her I am his

565
00:26:32,119 --> 00:26:34,720
Speaker 6: girlfriend and we have been together for two years. She

566
00:26:34,960 --> 00:26:37,719
Speaker 6: burst out crying she didn't know about me. She's sorry,

567
00:26:37,720 --> 00:26:40,440
Speaker 6: and I am sorry too. We agreed to meet while

568
00:26:40,480 --> 00:26:41,320
Speaker 6: he was at hockey.

569
00:26:41,840 --> 00:26:47,240
Speaker 4: Oh I love a good girl mess around. Oh what's

570
00:26:47,280 --> 00:26:49,840
Speaker 4: that movie where all the girls who got cheated on?

571
00:26:49,920 --> 00:26:51,920
Speaker 1: Come on Tucker?

572
00:26:52,640 --> 00:26:52,960
Speaker 4: Yeah?

573
00:26:53,160 --> 00:26:56,720
Speaker 6: That one he must Once we did, we compared timeline.

574
00:26:56,840 --> 00:26:59,280
Speaker 6: She started dating him the same week I did.

575
00:26:59,520 --> 00:27:03,200
Speaker 1: That's just about just comparing timelines, Like yeah, oh, wait.

576
00:27:03,119 --> 00:27:05,439
Speaker 4: Did you have them on this day? We both had

577
00:27:05,520 --> 00:27:07,040
Speaker 4: them on Valentine's Day?

578
00:27:07,320 --> 00:27:09,720
Speaker 1: Why would you compare timelines? You guys are already Yeah,

579
00:27:10,280 --> 00:27:10,960
Speaker 1: why do you need.

580
00:27:10,800 --> 00:27:14,520
Speaker 4: They just wanted to when they both started dating, they.

581
00:27:14,400 --> 00:27:16,199
Speaker 6: Had their You got to get your facts straight, so

582
00:27:16,240 --> 00:27:18,119
Speaker 6: then when you bring them up, then you got back them.

583
00:27:19,320 --> 00:27:22,560
Speaker 4: Okay, when's your annivers three? They like one to three

584
00:27:22,680 --> 00:27:24,879
Speaker 4: September third? What did he get you?

585
00:27:25,080 --> 00:27:28,159
Speaker 1: Is gonna says a necklace should become Do we just

586
00:27:28,160 --> 00:27:29,040
Speaker 1: become best friends?

587
00:27:30,359 --> 00:27:32,840
Speaker 4: Was? I just wonder why the necklace had different initials?

588
00:27:33,240 --> 00:27:36,119
Speaker 4: It didn't have my initial it had like one of

589
00:27:36,119 --> 00:27:37,880
Speaker 4: the girls name is like I don't know, it had

590
00:27:38,480 --> 00:27:41,919
Speaker 4: Stephanie and the other one's Barb. And they're like, I

591
00:27:41,920 --> 00:27:44,399
Speaker 4: always wondered why I got an S necklace when my

592
00:27:44,480 --> 00:27:47,800
Speaker 4: name is Barb. He just said it because I'm really special,

593
00:27:49,760 --> 00:27:54,040
Speaker 4: and she's like, he told me it's because I'm beautiful. Wow,

594
00:27:54,600 --> 00:28:00,720
Speaker 4: B for beautiful as for special, it's crazy, I'm gonna

595
00:28:00,760 --> 00:28:02,639
Speaker 4: do that. I mean, my middle name does start with

596
00:28:02,680 --> 00:28:04,800
Speaker 4: an F, and I thought he was gonna go with that,

597
00:28:04,920 --> 00:28:07,919
Speaker 4: but no, but he went with special.

598
00:28:08,280 --> 00:28:10,399
Speaker 6: So yes, he's been cheating on me for two years

599
00:28:10,400 --> 00:28:12,560
Speaker 6: so literally that the entire relationship is a lie.

600
00:28:12,680 --> 00:28:15,200
Speaker 4: Dang. So they've both been in a two year relationship

601
00:28:15,200 --> 00:28:19,080
Speaker 4: with this guy. That's impressive. That's crazy. Wow, he's really

602
00:28:19,119 --> 00:28:20,480
Speaker 4: putting in the work. Yeah.

603
00:28:20,560 --> 00:28:23,040
Speaker 6: It comes to light that he had been pulling away

604
00:28:23,080 --> 00:28:25,840
Speaker 6: from her for about the last year, which is somewhat

605
00:28:25,880 --> 00:28:28,600
Speaker 6: logical as I became part of the family, the kids

606
00:28:28,640 --> 00:28:30,919
Speaker 6: met each other and we started traveling together, but he

607
00:28:31,000 --> 00:28:34,480
Speaker 6: never ended things with her. It turned into more of

608
00:28:34,520 --> 00:28:38,520
Speaker 6: a friends with benefits relationship. They only used the pill

609
00:28:38,640 --> 00:28:41,520
Speaker 6: as birth control, and since I can't get pregnant anymore,

610
00:28:41,720 --> 00:28:44,560
Speaker 6: we have been bare back, meaning he also put my

611
00:28:44,720 --> 00:28:47,720
Speaker 6: health out rest. I'm going to the doctor tomorrow to

612
00:28:47,760 --> 00:28:48,400
Speaker 6: get tested.

613
00:28:48,720 --> 00:28:50,360
Speaker 4: Why did y'all use the word beer back?

614
00:28:50,680 --> 00:28:51,280
Speaker 5: I don't know.

615
00:28:52,440 --> 00:28:56,160
Speaker 1: Hey, it's better than raw. I like raw, you like it?

616
00:28:56,200 --> 00:29:01,160
Speaker 4: Oh, better than bare back? Bare Back just sounds neanderthalish,

617
00:29:01,200 --> 00:29:05,520
Speaker 4: That's what I'm saying. Bad, that's weird, Yeah, or just

618
00:29:05,560 --> 00:29:08,800
Speaker 4: she could have said like without protection. We decided to

619
00:29:08,880 --> 00:29:09,640
Speaker 4: confront him.

620
00:29:09,720 --> 00:29:11,800
Speaker 2: Yes, let's see how this goes down.

621
00:29:12,560 --> 00:29:14,280
Speaker 6: His son would not be home for the rest of

622
00:29:14,320 --> 00:29:16,600
Speaker 6: the afternoon, so I went over first and left the

623
00:29:16,600 --> 00:29:19,600
Speaker 6: front door unlocked. I started making tea and waited for

624
00:29:19,640 --> 00:29:20,400
Speaker 6: her to show up.

625
00:29:20,720 --> 00:29:23,200
Speaker 4: She burst through the door, punched him right in the face,

626
00:29:23,200 --> 00:29:30,440
Speaker 4: and laid ended. She went boom boom, and he went,

627
00:29:30,520 --> 00:29:33,440
Speaker 4: oh my god, my dolls. And she's like yo j

628
00:29:35,040 --> 00:29:37,880
Speaker 4: He went, no, I mean, what's your name?

629
00:29:38,400 --> 00:29:40,320
Speaker 5: Are you special? Beautiful?

630
00:29:40,960 --> 00:29:42,640
Speaker 4: And she's like, my name is Sandra.

631
00:29:42,760 --> 00:29:44,960
Speaker 5: He's like, but you got the B necklace and she's.

632
00:29:44,840 --> 00:29:47,320
Speaker 4: Like yuh because he told me it was for beautiful.

633
00:29:47,520 --> 00:29:50,440
Speaker 4: He's like, dang it, your beautiful, Sandra. How am I

634
00:29:50,440 --> 00:29:50,920
Speaker 4: supposed to.

635
00:29:50,920 --> 00:29:51,360
Speaker 5: Read your name?

636
00:29:51,600 --> 00:29:54,160
Speaker 1: I met very nice.

637
00:29:54,680 --> 00:29:56,840
Speaker 4: I was gonna get you the necklaces so I didn't

638
00:29:57,000 --> 00:30:00,000
Speaker 4: confuse your names, and then I confused the necklace.

639
00:30:00,600 --> 00:30:04,960
Speaker 6: I was shaking violently, so upset listening to her give

640
00:30:05,040 --> 00:30:07,680
Speaker 6: him heck or leading her on, using her and lying

641
00:30:07,760 --> 00:30:08,160
Speaker 6: to her.

642
00:30:08,080 --> 00:30:08,760
Speaker 5: For two years.

643
00:30:09,200 --> 00:30:14,520
Speaker 6: And what did mister wonderful say? Hmmm nothing. He apologized

644
00:30:14,560 --> 00:30:17,960
Speaker 6: but had no excuses. It was a gong show.

645
00:30:18,000 --> 00:30:18,720
Speaker 5: What is that?

646
00:30:19,680 --> 00:30:20,400
Speaker 1: I guess it's like the.

647
00:30:22,560 --> 00:30:23,760
Speaker 4: Yeah, what does that even mean?

648
00:30:23,960 --> 00:30:27,680
Speaker 6: So like like ready like fight boom, I like him

649
00:30:27,720 --> 00:30:30,640
Speaker 6: like like a sumo wrestler, Like I'm thinking like a

650
00:30:30,680 --> 00:30:33,400
Speaker 6: whole room set up with gongs and like you're playing

651
00:30:33,440 --> 00:30:34,360
Speaker 6: like Christmas song.

652
00:30:34,440 --> 00:30:36,280
Speaker 1: I'm just waiting for this guy, like, oh my gosh,

653
00:30:36,320 --> 00:30:38,160
Speaker 1: like wow, that was really good. But like you guys

654
00:30:38,200 --> 00:30:40,160
Speaker 1: are like BFFs and this can all work out now,

655
00:30:40,400 --> 00:30:43,200
Speaker 1: is like her welcome now, we're a bigger family.

656
00:30:43,800 --> 00:30:45,800
Speaker 6: She left once I picked her up off the floor,

657
00:30:46,440 --> 00:30:49,880
Speaker 6: sobbing uncontrollably. I sat with him and waited for him

658
00:30:49,880 --> 00:30:54,320
Speaker 6: to explain nothing. He couldn't explain it. He didn't know

659
00:30:54,520 --> 00:30:58,200
Speaker 6: why he didn't stop it, or why he would hurt

660
00:30:58,200 --> 00:31:00,920
Speaker 6: me and us so badly. I told him to confess

661
00:31:01,040 --> 00:31:04,200
Speaker 6: to his family. When his son came home, he told

662
00:31:04,280 --> 00:31:07,000
Speaker 6: him what he had done. His son was gutted and

663
00:31:07,040 --> 00:31:09,960
Speaker 6: I had to console him. Oh, his parents lived close by,

664
00:31:10,040 --> 00:31:11,760
Speaker 6: so I went with him and his son and watched

665
00:31:11,800 --> 00:31:14,560
Speaker 6: him admit everything to both his parents. That's great, who

666
00:31:14,600 --> 00:31:16,160
Speaker 6: were floored and both cried.

667
00:31:16,200 --> 00:31:19,960
Speaker 4: Wow. So what is this freaking farewell to her? What's

668
00:31:20,000 --> 00:31:22,440
Speaker 4: going on here? Why are you going with him? OPI?

669
00:31:23,080 --> 00:31:25,560
Speaker 4: I'm so confused. She's like, you have to tell everyone.

670
00:31:25,720 --> 00:31:27,400
Speaker 4: You have to make sure that you tell everyone.

671
00:31:27,560 --> 00:31:30,160
Speaker 1: Well, he could he could be lying, you know, but.

672
00:31:30,160 --> 00:31:33,160
Speaker 4: Also you know I would just break up with him.

673
00:31:33,360 --> 00:31:34,840
Speaker 4: Why do we have to come around with him while

674
00:31:34,880 --> 00:31:36,800
Speaker 4: he tells everyone. I don't know because it feels like

675
00:31:36,880 --> 00:31:39,560
Speaker 4: she wants to stay with him. It feels like she's like,

676
00:31:39,640 --> 00:31:41,640
Speaker 4: you have to tell everyone and then I'll stay with you,

677
00:31:41,720 --> 00:31:44,520
Speaker 4: which I'm like, girl, don't stay with him. Oh d

678
00:31:44,680 --> 00:31:47,440
Speaker 4: Red says Gong Show was an old amateur talent show.

679
00:31:48,000 --> 00:31:50,880
Speaker 4: Uh vix Mick says it was a variety show in

680
00:31:50,920 --> 00:31:54,240
Speaker 4: the seventies. That is helpful to know. Thank you.

681
00:31:54,800 --> 00:31:58,120
Speaker 6: Anyway, now that I am over the shock, here is

682
00:31:58,240 --> 00:31:59,120
Speaker 6: my question.

683
00:31:59,680 --> 00:32:01,040
Speaker 4: I do love this man.

684
00:32:01,600 --> 00:32:04,400
Speaker 6: We've had an amazing time together and I've never felt

685
00:32:04,400 --> 00:32:07,280
Speaker 6: more honest with a person. I completely trusted him, and

686
00:32:07,320 --> 00:32:10,680
Speaker 6: he ruined us. He has suggested over and over that

687
00:32:10,720 --> 00:32:13,760
Speaker 6: we go to counseling together. I don't see how counseling

688
00:32:13,800 --> 00:32:16,120
Speaker 6: will help him not lie to me or chase after

689
00:32:16,200 --> 00:32:19,080
Speaker 6: someone if he gets bored with me. Literally, I wasn't

690
00:32:19,200 --> 00:32:21,360
Speaker 6: enough for him or he would have stayed faithful.

691
00:32:21,440 --> 00:32:25,560
Speaker 4: It's not about you, girl. Yeah. Also, he started dating

692
00:32:25,600 --> 00:32:27,520
Speaker 4: someone the week that he started dating you.

693
00:32:28,040 --> 00:32:29,200
Speaker 5: Yeah, so I don't think it.

694
00:32:29,160 --> 00:32:32,240
Speaker 4: Was really about you at all. Yeah. I think he's

695
00:32:32,320 --> 00:32:33,480
Speaker 4: just always planned.

696
00:32:33,960 --> 00:32:37,920
Speaker 6: He's a horndog. Then it is horn dog be thrown

697
00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:39,160
Speaker 6: into the trash.

698
00:32:39,440 --> 00:32:40,080
Speaker 4: Yes, indeed.

699
00:32:40,560 --> 00:32:43,320
Speaker 6: So I also don't see how counseling will help me

700
00:32:43,400 --> 00:32:44,480
Speaker 6: give him another chance.

701
00:32:45,040 --> 00:32:45,280
Speaker 4: True.

702
00:32:45,840 --> 00:32:48,360
Speaker 6: I am looking for suggestions from people with experience with

703
00:32:48,440 --> 00:32:51,120
Speaker 6: cheating partners as counseling help.

704
00:32:51,240 --> 00:32:53,600
Speaker 4: What is going on here? You just found out that

705
00:32:53,760 --> 00:32:57,400
Speaker 4: your partner of two years has been dating someone else

706
00:32:58,000 --> 00:33:02,160
Speaker 4: for the exact same amount of time, and you're considering

707
00:33:02,360 --> 00:33:07,400
Speaker 4: going back to this guy. Yeah, that's psychotic behavior. Yeah,

708
00:33:07,480 --> 00:33:09,880
Speaker 4: I think you need to reflect. Ope.

709
00:33:10,480 --> 00:33:12,560
Speaker 6: I get that it was two years of your life

710
00:33:12,600 --> 00:33:15,120
Speaker 6: and all that, but this is not a good situation

711
00:33:15,200 --> 00:33:17,600
Speaker 6: to be in. And the fact is like, it's not

712
00:33:17,640 --> 00:33:20,360
Speaker 6: gonna get any better. No, Like, it just seems like

713
00:33:20,440 --> 00:33:22,520
Speaker 6: this is that guy because he has it. The other

714
00:33:22,560 --> 00:33:24,960
Speaker 6: thing is he has no remorse. Yeah, he said nothing.

715
00:33:24,960 --> 00:33:27,080
Speaker 6: He has no explanations. He's like, yeah, I just I

716
00:33:27,080 --> 00:33:28,520
Speaker 6: don't know. I liked you both at the same time.

717
00:33:28,600 --> 00:33:31,280
Speaker 6: I just did it. Yeah, I just have to say

718
00:33:31,280 --> 00:33:33,760
Speaker 6: more than that. Yeah, I didn't care about anyone else

719
00:33:33,760 --> 00:33:35,000
Speaker 6: in this situation but myself.

720
00:33:35,040 --> 00:33:38,160
Speaker 4: So is that really that wrong? Yeah?

721
00:33:38,240 --> 00:33:38,400
Speaker 6: Right?

722
00:33:38,960 --> 00:33:41,360
Speaker 4: Is it really so wrong for the guy to have

723
00:33:41,400 --> 00:33:45,320
Speaker 4: two girlfriends that don't know about each other? Eh? Yes?

724
00:33:46,080 --> 00:33:48,520
Speaker 1: I guarantee she's like, Other than the cheating, he was

725
00:33:48,680 --> 00:33:49,920
Speaker 1: pretty great at everything.

726
00:33:49,960 --> 00:33:53,360
Speaker 4: He was pretty nice other than like ruining my life.

727
00:33:53,400 --> 00:33:54,920
Speaker 4: Other than everything, he was all right.

728
00:33:55,000 --> 00:33:58,200
Speaker 1: He did that double life pretty well, honestly, pretty if

729
00:33:58,200 --> 00:34:00,160
Speaker 1: I didn't find out, it was pretty great.

730
00:34:00,120 --> 00:34:02,440
Speaker 4: Right, And he didn't even need to hire a cleaner.

731
00:34:02,680 --> 00:34:04,120
Speaker 4: He kept the house so clean.

732
00:34:04,480 --> 00:34:07,440
Speaker 6: The Gong Show, guys, we're not mentioning the gongs in

733
00:34:07,480 --> 00:34:10,880
Speaker 6: this Gong Show noun an event that proves to be

734
00:34:10,920 --> 00:34:14,160
Speaker 6: a disaster, often in a fun or memorable way.

735
00:34:14,280 --> 00:34:15,440
Speaker 1: Oh, that's probably what it is.

736
00:34:15,560 --> 00:34:17,200
Speaker 4: All right, Well, we got some comments.

737
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Speaker 1: Hey, it's sam og host.

738
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Speaker 5: We're gonnet back to these delectable stories.

739
00:34:20,680 --> 00:34:22,719
Speaker 4: But here's three minutes of ads from our sponsors to

740
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Speaker 4: help support the show.

741
00:34:24,120 --> 00:34:27,560
Speaker 6: Buck Row two, your entire relationship has been a lie.

742
00:34:27,880 --> 00:34:31,120
Speaker 6: What could you even possibly save? What would counseling do?

743
00:34:31,480 --> 00:34:35,279
Speaker 4: Yeah? Literally, like, what are you saving? It's like when

744
00:34:35,280 --> 00:34:38,000
Speaker 4: you're cleaning I don't know, when you're cleaning a ball

745
00:34:38,040 --> 00:34:40,600
Speaker 4: of dirt, you know, and you're cleaning it, and you're

746
00:34:40,640 --> 00:34:43,680
Speaker 4: cleaning it and you're like, okay, anyone anyone cleaned the

747
00:34:43,719 --> 00:34:46,040
Speaker 4: ball of dirt? Wait? Wait, wait, hold on, not cleaving

748
00:34:46,080 --> 00:34:47,840
Speaker 4: a ball of dirt, and you're cleaning and cleaning it,

749
00:34:47,880 --> 00:34:49,680
Speaker 4: and you're never trying to ball of dirt, and you

750
00:34:49,840 --> 00:34:52,920
Speaker 4: keep trying to find like, like a diamond inside this

751
00:34:52,960 --> 00:34:54,719
Speaker 4: ball of dirt. But it's just a ball of dirt.

752
00:34:54,760 --> 00:34:57,600
Speaker 4: And once you clean it all, there's nothing left because

753
00:34:57,640 --> 00:35:00,360
Speaker 4: it was just a ball of dirt to begin with. Mmmm,

754
00:35:01,600 --> 00:35:04,920
Speaker 4: thank you the episopia. You're welcome. He's just a ball

755
00:35:05,000 --> 00:35:07,759
Speaker 4: of dirt. Yeah, it's just a big ball. Can't clean

756
00:35:07,760 --> 00:35:08,080
Speaker 4: a ball of.

757
00:35:08,080 --> 00:35:11,880
Speaker 6: Dirt, big ball of dirty, dirty things. So there was

758
00:35:12,000 --> 00:35:17,200
Speaker 6: literally never a time your significant other wasn't cheating on you. Honestly,

759
00:35:17,280 --> 00:35:19,480
Speaker 6: I don't see how you could even move on from this,

760
00:35:20,000 --> 00:35:22,239
Speaker 6: or why you would want to drop this guy and

761
00:35:22,320 --> 00:35:25,200
Speaker 6: find someone who wants to be with you and only you. Ohp,

762
00:35:25,239 --> 00:35:29,120
Speaker 6: He responds totally agree. I'm just so floored this happened.

763
00:35:29,120 --> 00:35:31,080
Speaker 6: Maybe I can't see the whole picture, although I really

764
00:35:31,120 --> 00:35:34,319
Speaker 6: think yes I can, and thought I would ask all

765
00:35:34,440 --> 00:35:38,240
Speaker 6: the nice, sensible people on here to just double check. Wink,

766
00:35:38,560 --> 00:35:42,240
Speaker 6: I'm so rude. Comments You go to counseling for small

767
00:35:42,320 --> 00:35:45,160
Speaker 6: lapses or bad judgment calls when the entire relationship is

768
00:35:45,239 --> 00:35:48,280
Speaker 6: essentially one giant bad call that it's not even worth saving.

769
00:35:48,360 --> 00:35:51,520
Speaker 6: There wasn't ever a moment where he wasn't cheating on you.

770
00:35:51,800 --> 00:35:54,720
Speaker 6: How can you rebuild trust when it literally never existed

771
00:35:54,760 --> 00:35:59,480
Speaker 6: to begin with? And that's true, Scrapple six x' six says, No,

772
00:35:59,680 --> 00:36:02,000
Speaker 6: he was lying the whole time. You can never trust

773
00:36:02,080 --> 00:36:04,560
Speaker 6: him again. He needs to take his son to counseling.

774
00:36:04,800 --> 00:36:07,000
Speaker 6: So messed up that he had to get involved in this,

775
00:36:07,520 --> 00:36:11,000
Speaker 6: Opie responds, well, exactly. It comes out that the son

776
00:36:11,120 --> 00:36:14,080
Speaker 6: had met the other woman and her children several times

777
00:36:14,120 --> 00:36:16,879
Speaker 6: the first year. This wonderful, amazing little guy has had

778
00:36:16,880 --> 00:36:19,240
Speaker 6: to keep his mouth shut and lie to me as well.

779
00:36:19,080 --> 00:36:19,800
Speaker 4: For two years.

780
00:36:19,840 --> 00:36:24,200
Speaker 6: WHOA, So you're having your son also spread your lies.

781
00:36:24,400 --> 00:36:27,000
Speaker 4: That's so bad? Yeah?

782
00:36:27,040 --> 00:36:30,840
Speaker 6: What so it's not so bad just you doing the line.

783
00:36:30,920 --> 00:36:35,440
Speaker 6: You're also gonna get your like son to also be like, Okay,

784
00:36:35,600 --> 00:36:36,600
Speaker 6: don't tell.

785
00:36:36,400 --> 00:36:41,720
Speaker 4: Her about this. Other sons have such a terrible relationship

786
00:36:41,760 --> 00:36:45,760
Speaker 4: with you forever, he's gonna he's never going to forget

787
00:36:46,239 --> 00:36:50,520
Speaker 4: that you made him lie to two people about his affairs.

788
00:36:50,880 --> 00:36:57,000
Speaker 6: I'm beyond upset. An update twelve days later, Oh man,

789
00:36:57,480 --> 00:37:00,520
Speaker 6: so after my post several of you lovely people explain

790
00:37:00,600 --> 00:37:03,280
Speaker 6: not to get back together with him. I completely agree. However,

791
00:37:03,640 --> 00:37:06,560
Speaker 6: there was some unfinished business. Over the course of two weeks,

792
00:37:06,600 --> 00:37:08,719
Speaker 6: I've been talking to his ex, who of course, was

793
00:37:08,760 --> 00:37:11,560
Speaker 6: in pieces. I told her she needed closures, so I

794
00:37:11,600 --> 00:37:14,840
Speaker 6: suggested to my ex he meet up with her. Even

795
00:37:14,880 --> 00:37:17,640
Speaker 6: offered to watch his son so they could meet. You're

796
00:37:17,719 --> 00:37:19,600
Speaker 6: being way too nice, o, pie, I.

797
00:37:19,520 --> 00:37:23,439
Speaker 4: Don't understand why she's doing this. Yeah, this is like like, yeah,

798
00:37:23,560 --> 00:37:26,880
Speaker 4: she was a two years relationship, but it's not marriage.

799
00:37:27,640 --> 00:37:30,440
Speaker 4: You know, there's you don't have kids together, there's nothing

800
00:37:30,600 --> 00:37:33,800
Speaker 4: tying you. It just feels like you're holding on to

801
00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:38,320
Speaker 4: this relationship that is so bad for no reason. Yeah,

802
00:37:38,360 --> 00:37:40,560
Speaker 4: it's just I don't understand your reasoning. No p of

803
00:37:40,600 --> 00:37:44,120
Speaker 4: trying to like fix the situation, like making him go

804
00:37:44,200 --> 00:37:46,960
Speaker 4: talk to his parents. Yeah, like you didn't cause this,

805
00:37:47,120 --> 00:37:48,080
Speaker 4: like he did it to you.

806
00:37:48,080 --> 00:37:50,400
Speaker 6: You can be mad, Yeah, you can be mad about it,

807
00:37:50,440 --> 00:37:52,359
Speaker 6: you can be upset, but you don't have to try

808
00:37:52,400 --> 00:37:53,600
Speaker 6: to fix it for him.

809
00:37:53,840 --> 00:37:54,080
Speaker 4: Yeah.

810
00:37:54,200 --> 00:37:57,640
Speaker 6: Like that's the part that I'm like, Okay, very unhealthy. Yes,

811
00:37:58,000 --> 00:38:00,920
Speaker 6: he said he would be in our tops. It was

812
00:38:00,960 --> 00:38:04,960
Speaker 6: two hours I found out after that they did meet

813
00:38:05,040 --> 00:38:06,880
Speaker 6: up and sat in her carr and talk. He claims

814
00:38:06,920 --> 00:38:09,399
Speaker 6: nothing happened, but I don't care at this point. I've

815
00:38:09,440 --> 00:38:11,560
Speaker 6: spoken to her since since she's thankful I set that

816
00:38:11,680 --> 00:38:13,320
Speaker 6: up so she could say.

817
00:38:13,160 --> 00:38:16,000
Speaker 4: Goodbye to him. Unfinished Business number one done.

818
00:38:16,280 --> 00:38:16,560
Speaker 7: Whoop.

819
00:38:16,960 --> 00:38:18,920
Speaker 6: I've talked to his son a fair bit over the

820
00:38:19,000 --> 00:38:21,240
Speaker 6: last two weeks. He understandably has a lot of trust

821
00:38:21,239 --> 00:38:24,480
Speaker 6: issues talking with my ex. He has set up therapy

822
00:38:24,600 --> 00:38:27,759
Speaker 6: to also include his son, and I've encouraged his son

823
00:38:27,920 --> 00:38:31,239
Speaker 6: at length to speak his mind during these sessions. I've

824
00:38:31,239 --> 00:38:34,719
Speaker 6: talked with him and with his ex's mother president, who

825
00:38:34,800 --> 00:38:35,719
Speaker 6: also agreed to this.

826
00:38:35,760 --> 00:38:36,480
Speaker 5: So I feel.

827
00:38:36,239 --> 00:38:39,200
Speaker 6: Comfortable now that he will somehow be able to advocate

828
00:38:39,239 --> 00:38:40,440
Speaker 6: for himself going forward.

829
00:38:40,840 --> 00:38:44,680
Speaker 4: Unfinished Business number two done, Nice, I guess.

830
00:38:44,840 --> 00:38:48,920
Speaker 6: But now I have unfinished business number three to deal with. Well,

831
00:38:48,960 --> 00:38:50,520
Speaker 6: you dealt with all of them, So none of this

832
00:38:50,560 --> 00:38:52,440
Speaker 6: is your business? Yeah, which, none of this actually is.

833
00:38:52,480 --> 00:38:54,759
Speaker 4: None of it's actually your business. Now let's see what

834
00:38:54,800 --> 00:38:58,880
Speaker 4: you do. The ex texts me every day what this man? What?

835
00:38:59,760 --> 00:39:01,600
Speaker 4: Every day He's.

836
00:39:01,400 --> 00:39:03,759
Speaker 6: Shown up on my doorstep, and we have talked at

837
00:39:03,840 --> 00:39:06,880
Speaker 6: length about the betrayal and how inconsiderate he is to me,

838
00:39:07,320 --> 00:39:10,280
Speaker 6: promises all over the place about how he will never

839
00:39:10,320 --> 00:39:12,879
Speaker 6: a cheat on me again, and how he will put

840
00:39:12,880 --> 00:39:14,960
Speaker 6: me first and will be considerate to my feelings.

841
00:39:15,000 --> 00:39:16,360
Speaker 4: Blah blah blah.

842
00:39:16,480 --> 00:39:19,040
Speaker 6: Flash forward to today. His son asked me to go

843
00:39:19,080 --> 00:39:21,279
Speaker 6: to his hockey practice. I'm feeling good and I think

844
00:39:21,320 --> 00:39:23,240
Speaker 6: I can handle being around the X, who is a coach,

845
00:39:23,320 --> 00:39:25,200
Speaker 6: so he will be on the ice so I don't

846
00:39:25,200 --> 00:39:27,839
Speaker 6: have to talk to him, So I agree. I drove

847
00:39:27,880 --> 00:39:30,440
Speaker 6: the twenty minutes and sat there enjoying myself. They get

848
00:39:30,440 --> 00:39:31,880
Speaker 6: off the ice and go get changed.

849
00:39:31,960 --> 00:39:33,680
Speaker 4: Dot dot dot. What's gonna happen?

850
00:39:33,800 --> 00:39:35,960
Speaker 6: No, the X and the Sun are together and we

851
00:39:36,000 --> 00:39:38,960
Speaker 6: meet up in the atrium. Sun asks his dad for

852
00:39:39,040 --> 00:39:42,400
Speaker 6: a hot chocolate. Sure, why not? The X then proceeds

853
00:39:42,400 --> 00:39:45,360
Speaker 6: to buy himself a coffee and his son a hot chocolate.

854
00:39:45,680 --> 00:39:48,880
Speaker 6: I'm standing there like an idiot. No offer for me,

855
00:39:49,520 --> 00:39:52,440
Speaker 6: no thought of if I want something from the canteen,

856
00:39:53,000 --> 00:39:55,879
Speaker 6: and it hit me, this is what my life would

857
00:39:55,880 --> 00:39:58,480
Speaker 6: be like if I stay with him. There is another

858
00:39:58,600 --> 00:40:02,400
Speaker 6: relevant update. M Is there really anything to discuss at

859
00:40:02,400 --> 00:40:06,239
Speaker 6: this point? It's just like, stop involved. I don't I

860
00:40:06,280 --> 00:40:07,919
Speaker 6: don't know what it's gonna. I mean, I guess that's

861
00:40:07,920 --> 00:40:08,480
Speaker 6: what it told him.

862
00:40:08,560 --> 00:40:10,399
Speaker 4: Yeah, She's like, he didn't have me if I want

863
00:40:10,560 --> 00:40:14,919
Speaker 4: hot chocolate, everything cho It's the thing is that why

864
00:40:15,000 --> 00:40:17,759
Speaker 4: would he? Why would he? Again? He's been cheating on

865
00:40:17,800 --> 00:40:19,120
Speaker 4: you from day one.

866
00:40:19,239 --> 00:40:21,319
Speaker 6: Our whole relationship has been a lie. But now you're

867
00:40:21,320 --> 00:40:22,600
Speaker 6: not gonna offer me a sweet treat.

868
00:40:22,640 --> 00:40:26,000
Speaker 7: But now you're being inconsiderate. And that's where I draw

869
00:40:26,160 --> 00:40:29,719
Speaker 7: the line. I'll never be thought of. I would be

870
00:40:29,760 --> 00:40:32,720
Speaker 7: an afterthought. No, I didn't need anything from the canteen.

871
00:40:32,840 --> 00:40:35,120
Speaker 7: That's not the issue. I stepped up to be there

872
00:40:35,160 --> 00:40:37,319
Speaker 7: for his son and he can't even think of me

873
00:40:37,680 --> 00:40:40,520
Speaker 7: or my needs. I hugged his son goodbye. I told

874
00:40:40,600 --> 00:40:42,640
Speaker 7: him if he needs anything, to send me a text.

875
00:40:42,880 --> 00:40:45,200
Speaker 7: I said goodbye to the X and walked away. For

876
00:40:45,320 --> 00:40:47,840
Speaker 7: all I know, he's still standing there wondering what just happened.

877
00:40:48,160 --> 00:40:50,719
Speaker 7: I've deleted him from my phone. I can't have contact

878
00:40:50,719 --> 00:40:51,080
Speaker 7: with him.

879
00:40:51,160 --> 00:40:53,399
Speaker 6: I don't have the heart for it yet, but I'll

880
00:40:53,440 --> 00:40:55,600
Speaker 6: cut ties with his family on social media, as I

881
00:40:55,640 --> 00:40:57,840
Speaker 6: don't want the reminders of the life I could have

882
00:40:57,960 --> 00:41:01,680
Speaker 6: had but was in fact all lie. This is all

883
00:41:01,960 --> 00:41:04,239
Speaker 6: just to say thank you for the advice on here.

884
00:41:04,280 --> 00:41:06,279
Speaker 6: I've never been in this situation, and I hope I

885
00:41:06,360 --> 00:41:07,440
Speaker 6: never am again.

886
00:41:08,040 --> 00:41:11,160
Speaker 4: That's the end. She's leaving. Yeah, she's doing it.

887
00:41:11,360 --> 00:41:13,960
Speaker 6: She's out there, and all it took was no offer

888
00:41:14,000 --> 00:41:16,319
Speaker 6: of as she said, she said.

889
00:41:16,239 --> 00:41:20,399
Speaker 4: I can excuse cheating, but I draw the line when

890
00:41:20,440 --> 00:41:24,320
Speaker 4: you don't give me a little sweet treat honestly, valid, valid.

891
00:41:24,920 --> 00:41:28,160
Speaker 4: If my boyfriend didn't get me a little sweet treat,

892
00:41:28,360 --> 00:41:31,280
Speaker 4: we well, i'd have some words.

893
00:41:31,760 --> 00:41:35,279
Speaker 2: How do you tell you listen to me?

894
00:41:35,360 --> 00:41:38,759
Speaker 4: Buddy, boy? You're coming here empty handed?

895
00:41:38,840 --> 00:41:42,840
Speaker 6: Think again, go back, go back home, a little retreat,

896
00:41:43,560 --> 00:41:44,480
Speaker 6: and don't you worry.

897
00:41:44,560 --> 00:41:47,560
Speaker 4: He does. Well. That is the end of the story,

898
00:41:47,800 --> 00:41:51,000
Speaker 4: and we've got another one coming right up. My boyfriend

899
00:41:51,040 --> 00:41:54,920
Speaker 4: picks my clothes and criticizes me for not liking it.

900
00:41:55,360 --> 00:41:56,480
Speaker 5: Babe, you don't understand.

901
00:41:56,520 --> 00:41:59,080
Speaker 4: I'm just trying to be making you fashionable.

902
00:41:59,160 --> 00:41:59,560
Speaker 6: Dude.

903
00:41:59,800 --> 00:42:03,760
Speaker 4: We've been together for six years. Over the past couple

904
00:42:03,800 --> 00:42:06,440
Speaker 4: of years, my clothing has become more and more of

905
00:42:06,480 --> 00:42:08,680
Speaker 4: an issue. By the way, this comes from.

906
00:42:10,440 --> 00:42:12,440
Speaker 5: Comes from a whole bunch of deer brush.

907
00:42:12,480 --> 00:42:14,080
Speaker 4: And if you want to spit your own stories, go

908
00:42:14,120 --> 00:42:17,160
Speaker 4: to the r slash Okay Storytime suburt it. I'm Sophia,

909
00:42:17,360 --> 00:42:20,560
Speaker 4: I'm Dakota, I'm Keon, and we're here to give good advice. Goofully,

910
00:42:20,600 --> 00:42:22,799
Speaker 4: but we don't have all the answers. We only know

911
00:42:22,840 --> 00:42:24,799
Speaker 4: what we do, So let us know what you would

912
00:42:24,840 --> 00:42:28,319
Speaker 4: do in the comments, and OP says I'm not a

913
00:42:28,360 --> 00:42:31,120
Speaker 4: girly girl. I don't put on a full face of

914
00:42:31,200 --> 00:42:35,400
Speaker 4: makeup every day. My style is generally more casual. With

915
00:42:35,520 --> 00:42:38,000
Speaker 4: that said, I am by no means a slob. I

916
00:42:38,040 --> 00:42:41,040
Speaker 4: almost always have my nails done. I wear a lot

917
00:42:41,120 --> 00:42:45,800
Speaker 4: of denim in different shades and cuts, fitted leggings, teas, tanks,

918
00:42:45,840 --> 00:42:48,359
Speaker 4: and sneakers. I have a lot of cute flats too.

919
00:42:48,600 --> 00:42:51,560
Speaker 4: I'm not much for heels, though, just on special occasions.

920
00:42:51,800 --> 00:42:55,080
Speaker 4: I'm gonna tell you right now that this post is

921
00:42:55,120 --> 00:42:56,600
Speaker 4: from twenty fifteen.

922
00:42:56,880 --> 00:42:59,560
Speaker 5: Is check it out? I'll check is it ten years old?

923
00:43:00,160 --> 00:43:01,040
Speaker 5: A guess I know.

924
00:43:01,560 --> 00:43:03,279
Speaker 1: I'm saying within the last five years.

925
00:43:03,040 --> 00:43:05,480
Speaker 5: Ten years old? Ten years old? Do we have ten

926
00:43:05,560 --> 00:43:06,640
Speaker 5: years going old?

927
00:43:06,760 --> 00:43:07,759
Speaker 1: I mean, go ahead read, I'll.

928
00:43:07,680 --> 00:43:08,399
Speaker 2: Check it all right.

929
00:43:08,560 --> 00:43:11,479
Speaker 4: On an average day, I'll do a quick, simple down

930
00:43:11,480 --> 00:43:15,799
Speaker 4: hairstyle or sometimes less often a ponytail. I'll usually do

931
00:43:15,920 --> 00:43:19,520
Speaker 4: some eyeliner, and titinted moisturizer. If we're going out on

932
00:43:19,560 --> 00:43:21,799
Speaker 4: the weekend, I'll do a full face of makeup, the

933
00:43:21,840 --> 00:43:26,040
Speaker 4: whole shebang, she BEng shebang. My boyfriend grew up with

934
00:43:26,040 --> 00:43:28,040
Speaker 4: a mom and grandma that get dulled up to the

935
00:43:28,120 --> 00:43:31,400
Speaker 4: nines just to go to Target. They live for name brands,

936
00:43:31,520 --> 00:43:35,400
Speaker 4: constantly talk about shopping and are always done up. I

937
00:43:35,480 --> 00:43:38,160
Speaker 4: did not. My mom ran to the store in jeans

938
00:43:38,160 --> 00:43:41,560
Speaker 4: and a T shirt. It was normal. I've tried explaining

939
00:43:41,600 --> 00:43:43,840
Speaker 4: to him that I simply am not that person, but

940
00:43:43,880 --> 00:43:47,319
Speaker 4: he doesn't seem to get it. He says I'm not fashionable.

941
00:43:47,760 --> 00:43:51,760
Speaker 4: So I did my best and ordered an entire closet

942
00:43:51,800 --> 00:43:54,920
Speaker 4: full of clothing based on things he likes. My entire

943
00:43:54,960 --> 00:44:00,560
Speaker 4: closet is now extremely tight fitted short dresses, short skirts,

944
00:44:00,600 --> 00:44:03,560
Speaker 4: and almost all crop Topsie, girl, what are we doing?

945
00:44:04,320 --> 00:44:05,080
Speaker 4: That's so weird?

946
00:44:05,640 --> 00:44:08,200
Speaker 1: So I look it up, give me my money.

947
00:44:08,360 --> 00:44:10,719
Speaker 3: So in the last five years, last six years, Yeah, ooh,

948
00:44:12,640 --> 00:44:13,479
Speaker 3: he's got it.

949
00:44:13,560 --> 00:44:17,000
Speaker 4: So wearing this stuff is really uncomfortable for me and

950
00:44:17,040 --> 00:44:20,560
Speaker 4: not stuff i'd ever really buy on my own for myself. Frankly,

951
00:44:20,640 --> 00:44:22,840
Speaker 4: I don't even want to leave the house every single

952
00:44:22,880 --> 00:44:25,760
Speaker 4: day with my stomach and belly button, showing at thirty

953
00:44:25,760 --> 00:44:28,480
Speaker 4: one years old, I'm in good shape. But that's not

954
00:44:28,560 --> 00:44:32,480
Speaker 4: the point. He thinks he can pick my outfits. Literally

955
00:44:32,560 --> 00:44:35,400
Speaker 4: at this point, anytime we were adding out, he goes

956
00:44:35,440 --> 00:44:38,560
Speaker 4: to my closet and picks out my clothes. If I

957
00:44:38,680 --> 00:44:41,920
Speaker 4: say anything about not wanting to wear something, for example,

958
00:44:42,000 --> 00:44:44,640
Speaker 4: I feel bloated today and would really rather not wear

959
00:44:44,680 --> 00:44:48,640
Speaker 4: a crop top, he gets immediately upset. There have even

960
00:44:48,680 --> 00:44:50,880
Speaker 4: been a couple of times when it was really cold

961
00:44:50,960 --> 00:44:52,640
Speaker 4: and I told him I didn't want to wear shorts

962
00:44:52,640 --> 00:44:55,160
Speaker 4: and a crop top because I was cold, and he

963
00:44:55,200 --> 00:44:56,920
Speaker 4: got upset, saying it wasn't cold.

964
00:44:57,000 --> 00:45:00,640
Speaker 3: Literally, why even wear stay with this per in a

965
00:45:01,080 --> 00:45:03,239
Speaker 3: minute after that conversation.

966
00:45:02,800 --> 00:45:03,880
Speaker 4: This is really strange.

967
00:45:04,239 --> 00:45:07,160
Speaker 5: What a freak show type thing to do.

968
00:45:07,880 --> 00:45:10,319
Speaker 4: No, that's that's really weird, Like.

969
00:45:10,320 --> 00:45:15,680
Speaker 3: Unless you're one hundred percent like supportive of that, and

970
00:45:15,719 --> 00:45:18,160
Speaker 3: you're like, yeah, no, I want my man to pick

971
00:45:18,200 --> 00:45:21,080
Speaker 3: out all of my outfits. Or five years old yeah,

972
00:45:21,200 --> 00:45:23,840
Speaker 3: or you're a baby yeah, but no you're not.

973
00:45:23,960 --> 00:45:24,840
Speaker 5: You're thirty one.

974
00:45:25,120 --> 00:45:25,520
Speaker 4: Yeah.

975
00:45:25,560 --> 00:45:26,239
Speaker 5: Hey, it's John here.

976
00:45:26,280 --> 00:45:28,000
Speaker 3: We're gonna get back to this episode, but a quick

977
00:45:28,000 --> 00:45:30,120
Speaker 3: three minute break with Aswer more sponsors.

978
00:45:30,520 --> 00:45:33,080
Speaker 4: He says, I always make excuses not to wear stuff

979
00:45:33,120 --> 00:45:36,239
Speaker 4: he wants me to wear. I guess from his perspective

980
00:45:36,280 --> 00:45:39,680
Speaker 4: it seems that way, but he doesn't understand that he

981
00:45:39,760 --> 00:45:41,920
Speaker 4: wants me to dress in a way that is totally

982
00:45:42,040 --> 00:45:45,319
Speaker 4: foreign and not natural to me. A while back, I

983
00:45:45,440 --> 00:45:47,719
Speaker 4: wanted to go to my aunt's house for a barbecue,

984
00:45:47,840 --> 00:45:52,000
Speaker 4: and he insisted I wear a very tight and short dress.

985
00:45:52,200 --> 00:45:54,840
Speaker 4: I told him my family is conservative and that it

986
00:45:54,920 --> 00:45:58,720
Speaker 4: was not appropriate wear. He flipped out and it turned

987
00:45:58,760 --> 00:46:02,640
Speaker 4: into a huge argument. I have tried over and over

988
00:46:02,800 --> 00:46:05,200
Speaker 4: to explain this to him, but he just keeps saying

989
00:46:05,239 --> 00:46:07,960
Speaker 4: that how our dross matters Jim, and that it's my

990
00:46:08,120 --> 00:46:11,239
Speaker 4: fault for being closed minded for not listening to him,

991
00:46:11,360 --> 00:46:14,040
Speaker 4: and that I have confidence issue. I don't know what

992
00:46:14,120 --> 00:46:16,560
Speaker 4: to do. I have also tried telling him that he's

993
00:46:16,640 --> 00:46:21,080
Speaker 4: hurting my feelings and making me feel unattractive. Any suggestions,

994
00:46:21,160 --> 00:46:26,280
Speaker 4: and there are some comments break up with it, yep,

995
00:46:26,480 --> 00:46:28,520
Speaker 4: that's freaking gross.

996
00:46:28,719 --> 00:46:31,000
Speaker 5: Yup, whoa what are we doing?

997
00:46:31,320 --> 00:46:35,040
Speaker 4: He cut and dry there, that's kind of it. You

998
00:46:35,160 --> 00:46:36,160
Speaker 4: just gotta break up.

999
00:46:36,360 --> 00:46:38,640
Speaker 3: Like it's if you stay with him, it's not gonna stop.

1000
00:46:38,640 --> 00:46:40,400
Speaker 3: There sho didn't get words. He's gonna start controlling all

1001
00:46:40,400 --> 00:46:41,880
Speaker 3: the things that you eat? Is you gonna start controlling

1002
00:46:41,920 --> 00:46:43,640
Speaker 3: all the things that you like? Guess what you like

1003
00:46:43,680 --> 00:46:44,319
Speaker 3: that TV show?

1004
00:46:44,400 --> 00:46:44,440
Speaker 6: No?

1005
00:46:44,520 --> 00:46:44,799
Speaker 5: You don't?

1006
00:46:44,800 --> 00:46:46,400
Speaker 3: Why do you like that TV show? I don't like

1007
00:46:46,440 --> 00:46:48,560
Speaker 3: that TV show. You shouldn't like that? That matters to me?

1008
00:46:49,040 --> 00:46:49,279
Speaker 1: Yeah?

1009
00:46:49,320 --> 00:46:50,239
Speaker 6: What? No?

1010
00:46:50,400 --> 00:46:54,359
Speaker 4: I think there is like a difference between telling your

1011
00:46:54,360 --> 00:46:57,960
Speaker 4: partner you like a certain outfit or buying them clothes

1012
00:46:58,040 --> 00:47:02,839
Speaker 4: or maybe like offering it device versus saying you have

1013
00:47:02,920 --> 00:47:05,600
Speaker 4: to wear this or I'll get upset or uh like

1014
00:47:06,000 --> 00:47:08,440
Speaker 4: you not wearing this is kind of a deal breaker

1015
00:47:08,480 --> 00:47:11,640
Speaker 4: for me, Like that's that's strange. But there are some comments.

1016
00:47:11,760 --> 00:47:16,480
Speaker 4: Our striker says, Jesus, this is insanely weird and controlling behavior.

1017
00:47:16,960 --> 00:47:19,040
Speaker 4: You're not a Barbie doll. He doesn't get to pick

1018
00:47:19,080 --> 00:47:22,440
Speaker 4: your outfits for you. Please tell him, in no uncertain

1019
00:47:22,560 --> 00:47:25,080
Speaker 4: terms that he is not allowed to pick your clothes

1020
00:47:25,760 --> 00:47:28,319
Speaker 4: and that you're going to wear what you like and

1021
00:47:28,400 --> 00:47:31,359
Speaker 4: what makes you feel comfortable, and if he doesn't like it,

1022
00:47:31,440 --> 00:47:34,319
Speaker 4: he can shove it or leave at it. This sort

1023
00:47:34,360 --> 00:47:36,759
Speaker 4: of thing will only get worse the longer you put

1024
00:47:36,800 --> 00:47:39,160
Speaker 4: up with it, and he seems to be testing how

1025
00:47:39,239 --> 00:47:41,560
Speaker 4: much you will let him control your life, or if

1026
00:47:41,640 --> 00:47:44,400
Speaker 4: you'll put your foot down. I'd leave him if I

1027
00:47:44,480 --> 00:47:47,680
Speaker 4: were you, And Black and White Paint says you deal

1028
00:47:47,719 --> 00:47:51,000
Speaker 4: with it by leaving a controlling agle. This crap is

1029
00:47:51,080 --> 00:47:55,120
Speaker 4: harmful behavior. He's a big boy. He understands your words,

1030
00:47:55,400 --> 00:47:59,120
Speaker 4: he knows how you feel. He does not care because

1031
00:47:59,160 --> 00:48:02,279
Speaker 4: he does not love you. He just wants to own you, hope.

1032
00:48:02,320 --> 00:48:05,440
Speaker 4: He added. I guess I always tell myself, maybe it's me,

1033
00:48:05,760 --> 00:48:08,840
Speaker 4: maybe other guys do this too. At times, I feel

1034
00:48:08,880 --> 00:48:11,960
Speaker 4: so confused that I can't tell whether what's happening is

1035
00:48:12,040 --> 00:48:16,760
Speaker 4: really a problem or whether I'm just overreacting. This thread

1036
00:48:17,000 --> 00:48:20,200
Speaker 4: is a wake up, and there is an update ten

1037
00:48:20,320 --> 00:48:21,040
Speaker 4: days later.

1038
00:48:21,360 --> 00:48:24,040
Speaker 3: I hope you have ten days removed from having that

1039
00:48:24,160 --> 00:48:25,840
Speaker 3: boyfriend did too.

1040
00:48:26,320 --> 00:48:28,520
Speaker 4: Saying, you know what I'm saying, get rid of him,

1041
00:48:28,920 --> 00:48:32,759
Speaker 4: and you know, find your own style. You don't need him.

1042
00:48:33,000 --> 00:48:35,439
Speaker 5: There are other guys like that, but not every guy.

1043
00:48:35,880 --> 00:48:36,080
Speaker 3: You know.

1044
00:48:36,360 --> 00:48:39,000
Speaker 5: He's not the only guy like this. So true, but

1045
00:48:39,120 --> 00:48:40,799
Speaker 5: guys are not only like this.

1046
00:48:41,080 --> 00:48:41,160
Speaker 6: No.

1047
00:48:41,640 --> 00:48:45,200
Speaker 4: Ten days later, after continued arguing, I finally moved out

1048
00:48:45,239 --> 00:48:48,520
Speaker 4: of the apartment about a week ago because we decided

1049
00:48:48,560 --> 00:48:51,879
Speaker 4: that we needed space. He begged me to move back,

1050
00:48:51,920 --> 00:48:54,720
Speaker 4: but I said no. I agreed to do couples therapy

1051
00:48:54,840 --> 00:48:57,759
Speaker 4: along with my individual therapy. My therapist told me it

1052
00:48:57,760 --> 00:48:59,799
Speaker 4: would be normal to go back and forth and even

1053
00:49:00,040 --> 00:49:03,160
Speaker 4: compeatedly think about going back to him because of the

1054
00:49:03,320 --> 00:49:06,760
Speaker 4: psychological impact of everything I've dealt with for six years.

1055
00:49:07,400 --> 00:49:09,640
Speaker 4: She said to just keep working on it and not

1056
00:49:09,719 --> 00:49:13,319
Speaker 4: feel the need to make a final decision before I'm

1057
00:49:13,360 --> 00:49:17,959
Speaker 4: emotionally ready. The first couple session we did was a disaster,

1058
00:49:18,719 --> 00:49:22,200
Speaker 4: with him screaming the entire time and the therapist implying

1059
00:49:22,239 --> 00:49:25,879
Speaker 4: as much as she could that this was really nearly impossible.

1060
00:49:26,440 --> 00:49:31,640
Speaker 3: She's like, Oh, I don't think this is gonna work out.

1061
00:49:31,960 --> 00:49:33,399
Speaker 4: I don't think I can therapy you, guys.

1062
00:49:33,400 --> 00:49:37,360
Speaker 5: I don't think your situation or this situation.

1063
00:49:36,880 --> 00:49:38,719
Speaker 4: Is not working out. You're gonna have to find a

1064
00:49:38,719 --> 00:49:42,200
Speaker 4: new therapist. We then decided to look for another therapist

1065
00:49:42,239 --> 00:49:43,240
Speaker 4: to continue.

1066
00:49:42,800 --> 00:49:45,280
Speaker 5: Trying No, no, No.

1067
00:49:46,440 --> 00:49:49,600
Speaker 4: All week, I've been calling and emailing different therapists trying

1068
00:49:49,640 --> 00:49:52,640
Speaker 4: to get an appointment. I finally found one with an

1069
00:49:52,640 --> 00:49:56,160
Speaker 4: open spot and asked my fiance to send his insurance card.

1070
00:49:56,640 --> 00:49:59,800
Speaker 4: Of course, because it's now beyond clear that he doesn't

1071
00:49:59,800 --> 00:50:02,480
Speaker 4: get have a crap. He delayed sending it to me

1072
00:50:02,640 --> 00:50:06,319
Speaker 4: for two days, never once asked if he could help

1073
00:50:06,480 --> 00:50:09,720
Speaker 4: or if I needed any help finding someone per usual,

1074
00:50:09,840 --> 00:50:12,880
Speaker 4: It's all on me. I was having a lot of

1075
00:50:12,880 --> 00:50:16,839
Speaker 4: emotional turmoil, obsessive thoughts back and forth, and asked him

1076
00:50:16,880 --> 00:50:20,000
Speaker 4: if he wanted to do something together tonight, just to

1077
00:50:20,040 --> 00:50:22,360
Speaker 4: talk about what we were doing and where this is going.

1078
00:50:22,600 --> 00:50:24,920
Speaker 4: He told me he really needed space to think on

1079
00:50:24,960 --> 00:50:28,160
Speaker 4: our relationship and meditate on it. I was upset, but

1080
00:50:28,280 --> 00:50:31,760
Speaker 4: I said it fine. About an hour later, he accidentally

1081
00:50:31,800 --> 00:50:35,000
Speaker 4: dialed me. I picked up saying hello, and just heard

1082
00:50:35,080 --> 00:50:38,360
Speaker 4: mumbling in the background. As I waited, thinking he called

1083
00:50:38,360 --> 00:50:41,520
Speaker 4: me to talk. I heard him and a woman's voice.

1084
00:50:43,600 --> 00:50:44,600
Speaker 4: What a little goober.

1085
00:50:44,960 --> 00:50:48,839
Speaker 3: No, well, if that wasn't the most obvious, I need

1086
00:50:48,840 --> 00:50:52,480
Speaker 3: time in space to meditate on our relationship with another woman.

1087
00:50:52,760 --> 00:50:55,320
Speaker 4: I need time in space with my meditation partner.

1088
00:50:55,680 --> 00:50:58,760
Speaker 5: Yeah, my meditative Susan, my meditative mate.

1089
00:50:58,800 --> 00:51:05,440
Speaker 4: She stretches me out, whoa Sophia for meditation? This they

1090
00:51:05,440 --> 00:51:06,000
Speaker 4: do yoga?

1091
00:51:06,160 --> 00:51:09,520
Speaker 1: He stretches out my brain. That's what she meant, dirty yoga.

1092
00:51:09,600 --> 00:51:13,080
Speaker 4: The phone then hung up. I called back, asking what

1093
00:51:13,120 --> 00:51:16,120
Speaker 4: that was all about. He seemed confused and said he

1094
00:51:16,160 --> 00:51:20,360
Speaker 4: was at his mom's house. Impossible because I had just

1095
00:51:20,480 --> 00:51:23,359
Speaker 4: spoken to his mom a few minutes ago. I called

1096
00:51:23,400 --> 00:51:25,839
Speaker 4: him out, and he said, Okay, my aunts don't buy

1097
00:51:25,960 --> 00:51:29,440
Speaker 4: the apartment. Guys just making up whatever lies he can get.

1098
00:51:29,520 --> 00:51:32,480
Speaker 1: Just using my sister. You don't have a sister.

1099
00:51:33,000 --> 00:51:34,120
Speaker 4: Uh my grandmother.

1100
00:51:34,480 --> 00:51:37,000
Speaker 1: Didn't your grandmother pass away? My last year daughter? You

1101
00:51:37,040 --> 00:51:37,640
Speaker 1: have a daughter?

1102
00:51:39,120 --> 00:51:43,720
Speaker 4: Again? Makes no sense and totally contradicts what he said

1103
00:51:43,920 --> 00:51:48,560
Speaker 4: two seconds before. He then said, okay, fine, I admit it.

1104
00:51:48,880 --> 00:51:50,439
Speaker 4: I invited X Y Z over.

1105
00:51:50,840 --> 00:51:52,040
Speaker 5: Let's talk about it later.

1106
00:51:52,719 --> 00:51:55,040
Speaker 4: He then hung up. Now, for the past two months,

1107
00:51:55,120 --> 00:51:57,680
Speaker 4: a female coworker of his has been calling him non

1108
00:51:57,760 --> 00:52:01,360
Speaker 4: stop to ask for help with works. It was always

1109
00:52:01,440 --> 00:52:03,839
Speaker 4: a little suspicious to me because he's only been at

1110
00:52:03,840 --> 00:52:06,839
Speaker 4: that office for a few months and this girl has

1111
00:52:06,880 --> 00:52:10,319
Speaker 4: worked there for years. Why does she need to come

1112
00:52:10,360 --> 00:52:14,960
Speaker 4: to him specifically with every single question. He is not

1113
00:52:15,080 --> 00:52:17,919
Speaker 4: a supervisor or in any managerial role.

1114
00:52:18,360 --> 00:52:22,560
Speaker 3: You already know the answer to that question. I know

1115
00:52:22,680 --> 00:52:24,400
Speaker 3: you know the answer to that question.

1116
00:52:25,000 --> 00:52:28,560
Speaker 4: You already know, girl. She also called him a few

1117
00:52:28,600 --> 00:52:31,080
Speaker 4: times to ask for relationship advice and mention how she

1118
00:52:31,320 --> 00:52:35,279
Speaker 4: likes bad boys. I'm sorry, She called him and said, Hey,

1119
00:52:36,080 --> 00:52:38,239
Speaker 4: I was just wondering who you thought I should date

1120
00:52:38,440 --> 00:52:40,200
Speaker 4: because I like bad boys.

1121
00:52:40,560 --> 00:52:42,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, I like bad guys who cheat on their partners

1122
00:52:42,880 --> 00:52:46,840
Speaker 3: with me. Do you have any suggestions on who I show? Hillgopway?

1123
00:52:47,360 --> 00:52:49,799
Speaker 5: Don't you have a partner? Bike bad?

1124
00:52:49,920 --> 00:52:52,200
Speaker 1: Have any bad boys? If not?

1125
00:52:52,520 --> 00:52:52,600
Speaker 6: Go?

1126
00:52:52,760 --> 00:52:58,360
Speaker 4: FISHP responds, why does she not have other friends, cousins, brothers, sisters.

1127
00:52:58,400 --> 00:53:01,839
Speaker 4: She asked to call my fiance anyways. I just gave

1128
00:53:01,840 --> 00:53:03,759
Speaker 4: it the benefit of the doubt. But he would light

1129
00:53:03,880 --> 00:53:08,080
Speaker 4: up anytime she came up in conversation and referred to

1130
00:53:08,120 --> 00:53:16,120
Speaker 4: her as his work girlfriend. No no yah eo.

1131
00:53:17,360 --> 00:53:17,440
Speaker 1: E.

1132
00:53:18,880 --> 00:53:20,800
Speaker 4: At the same time, he had a couple of female

1133
00:53:20,800 --> 00:53:23,680
Speaker 4: friends from his last job in the past. I saw

1134
00:53:23,760 --> 00:53:28,600
Speaker 4: some flirty texts, but he insisted the two ladies were

1135
00:53:28,640 --> 00:53:31,280
Speaker 4: a Sapha couple and they were just friends. I didn't

1136
00:53:31,360 --> 00:53:34,600
Speaker 4: like it and told them it made me uncomfortable. There

1137
00:53:34,719 --> 00:53:38,960
Speaker 4: is a little bit left to this story. Any final thought.

1138
00:53:38,960 --> 00:53:43,760
Speaker 5: My goodness, girl, get out of there. Six years will.

1139
00:53:43,640 --> 00:53:47,680
Speaker 3: Feel like nothing once you're gone. Don't let you being

1140
00:53:47,719 --> 00:53:50,320
Speaker 3: with this guy for six years make you stay another

1141
00:53:50,400 --> 00:53:51,040
Speaker 3: six years.

1142
00:53:51,160 --> 00:53:54,319
Speaker 4: Yeah, cut it at six, caught it at six, call

1143
00:53:54,400 --> 00:53:56,399
Speaker 4: it a day, and that's it.

1144
00:53:56,480 --> 00:53:59,239
Speaker 3: He's out here texting and flirting and has a work

1145
00:53:59,280 --> 00:54:03,440
Speaker 3: wise but he's you're also begging you please, don't go please.

1146
00:54:04,360 --> 00:54:10,680
Speaker 4: That's so embarrassing for him, pathetic. After he got caught,

1147
00:54:10,880 --> 00:54:14,600
Speaker 4: he insisted it's the spicy couple or the staffage couple

1148
00:54:15,239 --> 00:54:18,279
Speaker 4: over at our apartment having dinner with him that he

1149
00:54:18,360 --> 00:54:21,040
Speaker 4: paid for. Well, I've been sitting at my house for

1150
00:54:21,080 --> 00:54:24,680
Speaker 4: two weeks agonizing about this relationship and trying to set

1151
00:54:24,719 --> 00:54:28,200
Speaker 4: up therapy and feeling guilty for hurting him. Meanwhile, he

1152
00:54:28,280 --> 00:54:32,279
Speaker 4: needs time to himself to reflect on the relationship aka

1153
00:54:32,480 --> 00:54:35,040
Speaker 4: hang out with two women who he knows I have

1154
00:54:35,080 --> 00:54:38,279
Speaker 4: a problem with due to pass texts. I say, all

1155
00:54:38,360 --> 00:54:42,719
Speaker 4: that long drawn out craft say that is the last straw. Yes,

1156
00:54:42,840 --> 00:54:47,080
Speaker 4: all the screaming at me, yelling, gaslighting, manipulation, temper tantrums,

1157
00:54:47,120 --> 00:54:52,080
Speaker 4: punching walls, constant needs for validation, minimizing and abuse I've

1158
00:54:52,160 --> 00:54:55,839
Speaker 4: endured was topped off by this. I honestly don't know

1159
00:54:55,880 --> 00:54:58,120
Speaker 4: that he hasn't cheated on me with the coworker either.

1160
00:54:58,520 --> 00:55:01,880
Speaker 4: I am done. I'm so done. I only need a

1161
00:55:01,960 --> 00:55:04,040
Speaker 4: date when I can go by and move all my

1162
00:55:04,080 --> 00:55:11,480
Speaker 4: stuff out never again, And one commenter says that was

1163
00:55:11,560 --> 00:55:15,720
Speaker 4: my thought. He didn't accidentally call when another woman was speaking.

1164
00:55:16,239 --> 00:55:18,480
Speaker 4: If he was really cheating, he'd work a heck of

1165
00:55:18,520 --> 00:55:21,920
Speaker 4: a lot harder to cover his tracks. He wanted to

1166
00:55:22,040 --> 00:55:25,200
Speaker 4: hurt her and rub it in, and op says, I

1167
00:55:25,360 --> 00:55:29,360
Speaker 4: definitely consider this a possibility, which makes it even sicker

1168
00:55:30,080 --> 00:55:33,480
Speaker 4: than it being an accident. Who knows the funny thing

1169
00:55:33,520 --> 00:55:35,400
Speaker 4: is that I know any conversation about this will be

1170
00:55:35,400 --> 00:55:38,640
Speaker 4: about how I'm controlling and not letting him have female

1171
00:55:38,680 --> 00:55:42,320
Speaker 4: friends because I don't think those women are interested in friendship.

1172
00:55:42,760 --> 00:55:46,840
Speaker 4: I now know he's projecting, manipulating, and.

1173
00:55:46,760 --> 00:55:49,040
Speaker 5: Gas lighting the Unholy Trinity.

1174
00:55:49,880 --> 00:55:54,160
Speaker 4: And someone asks about moving Op's stuff out, Opie responds,

1175
00:55:54,200 --> 00:55:57,800
Speaker 4: I plan to go when he isn't home. Hopefully, fingers crossed,

1176
00:55:57,800 --> 00:56:01,680
Speaker 4: there will be an opportunity tomorrow, as he's almost always

1177
00:56:01,719 --> 00:56:04,719
Speaker 4: got dinner plans with his mom on Sundays. My mom

1178
00:56:04,760 --> 00:56:07,080
Speaker 4: and sister will be going away with me to speed

1179
00:56:07,160 --> 00:56:10,879
Speaker 4: up the process. Editor's note, OPI made a post four

1180
00:56:10,920 --> 00:56:15,319
Speaker 4: months later about a tender dad, so she definitely left him. Yes,

1181
00:56:15,960 --> 00:56:21,759
Speaker 4: end of that story. Confirmation that she left. Yes, love that,

1182
00:56:21,960 --> 00:56:22,600
Speaker 4: We love that.

1183
00:56:23,200 --> 00:56:27,160
Speaker 5: So glad you didn't stay another six years. Yeah, go Opie.

1184
00:56:27,480 --> 00:56:29,279
Speaker 4: You just got to know when to call it and

1185
00:56:29,320 --> 00:56:30,480
Speaker 4: you did so good.

1186
00:56:30,480 --> 00:56:36,280
Speaker 5: Anya. You say hello, you think bye, and good back.

1187
00:56:37,120 --> 00:56:39,040
Speaker 4: But that's the end of that story and the end

1188
00:56:39,040 --> 00:56:41,560
Speaker 4: of this episode. So if you love us, make sure

1189
00:56:41,560 --> 00:56:45,080
Speaker 4: to subscribe. We love you and see you tomorrow.