1 00:00:12,560 --> 00:00:15,960 Speaker 1: So if any of you are thinking about getting in 2 00:00:16,040 --> 00:00:20,400 Speaker 1: business or in business, or have any sort of connection 3 00:00:20,520 --> 00:00:22,080 Speaker 1: to business, I just want you to know that the 4 00:00:22,200 --> 00:00:25,759 Speaker 1: hardest thing about business for me and many people that 5 00:00:25,800 --> 00:00:30,480 Speaker 1: I speak to is building a team. Now there are 6 00:00:30,520 --> 00:00:35,760 Speaker 1: many different people you can hire, and you can think 7 00:00:35,920 --> 00:00:38,800 Speaker 1: it's going well, but you're having some growing pains or 8 00:00:39,520 --> 00:00:42,320 Speaker 1: it sometimes is like your closet where it just creeps 9 00:00:42,400 --> 00:00:44,320 Speaker 1: up on you your garage and you're like, wait, this is 10 00:00:44,360 --> 00:00:46,479 Speaker 1: a disaster my refrigerator, I got to get rid of 11 00:00:46,520 --> 00:00:49,200 Speaker 1: everything in here or whatever. Like you could think everything's 12 00:00:49,240 --> 00:00:51,080 Speaker 1: going well with work, but then one day be like, no, 13 00:00:51,240 --> 00:00:53,479 Speaker 1: I'm just sort of like gaslighting myself and pretending this 14 00:00:53,520 --> 00:00:55,160 Speaker 1: is okay because I don't want to deal with it. 15 00:00:55,480 --> 00:00:57,680 Speaker 1: Same thing with like when you're disciplining your kids, sometimes 16 00:00:57,680 --> 00:00:59,520 Speaker 1: you just like take the path of least resistance. 17 00:01:00,040 --> 00:01:02,480 Speaker 2: I say this because with staff, it's. 18 00:01:02,480 --> 00:01:05,560 Speaker 1: Really hard to find the right combination and you have 19 00:01:05,640 --> 00:01:08,319 Speaker 1: to keep tinkering with it until you get it right, 20 00:01:08,400 --> 00:01:11,200 Speaker 1: and it's really tedious. It could be like, I don't know, 21 00:01:11,280 --> 00:01:13,440 Speaker 1: you're like line up for your basketball team, and four 22 00:01:13,480 --> 00:01:16,679 Speaker 1: out of five players are great for the starting lineup, 23 00:01:16,680 --> 00:01:19,000 Speaker 1: but like there's one that's not good, or I have 24 00:01:19,040 --> 00:01:21,559 Speaker 1: no idea, You're only as good as your weakest link. Whatever, 25 00:01:21,600 --> 00:01:25,000 Speaker 1: all the analogies and metaphors are. I can say that 26 00:01:25,480 --> 00:01:28,880 Speaker 1: I can have three departments going well and multiple people 27 00:01:28,920 --> 00:01:31,600 Speaker 1: doing their jobs right, but the one person who's not 28 00:01:31,800 --> 00:01:35,440 Speaker 1: will pull the whole program and be distracting. So it's 29 00:01:35,480 --> 00:01:38,280 Speaker 1: super tedious, like a puzzle. We've talked about this in dating, 30 00:01:38,319 --> 00:01:40,720 Speaker 1: where like one piece is just like a bent corner, 31 00:01:40,760 --> 00:01:43,400 Speaker 1: and if that person touches a lot of different people 32 00:01:43,480 --> 00:01:47,720 Speaker 1: in your organization, then it can be very disruptive. It 33 00:01:47,720 --> 00:01:49,040 Speaker 1: could be the same thing if your daughter's on a 34 00:01:49,080 --> 00:01:51,040 Speaker 1: volleyball team and there's one person, or in the friend 35 00:01:51,080 --> 00:01:54,040 Speaker 1: group there's one person. Like it's not just work, but 36 00:01:54,200 --> 00:01:56,320 Speaker 1: you've got to keep tinkering with it until you get 37 00:01:56,360 --> 00:02:00,320 Speaker 1: it right, because with work, it can affect your entire flow, 38 00:02:00,520 --> 00:02:03,880 Speaker 1: and it's so exhausting to be like, shit, those three 39 00:02:03,880 --> 00:02:06,559 Speaker 1: people are great, but that person isn't pulling their weight. 40 00:02:06,600 --> 00:02:08,839 Speaker 1: And sometimes you put that person in a different seat, 41 00:02:08,919 --> 00:02:11,480 Speaker 1: or you got to get rid of that person. Sometimes 42 00:02:11,919 --> 00:02:15,120 Speaker 1: you want to hire someone because they're amazing and like 43 00:02:15,480 --> 00:02:17,919 Speaker 1: you know how good they are, but they don't fit 44 00:02:18,000 --> 00:02:19,959 Speaker 1: in with the whole entire group, or you don't have 45 00:02:20,120 --> 00:02:21,760 Speaker 1: enough for them to do. Like I'm just saying, it's 46 00:02:21,760 --> 00:02:23,520 Speaker 1: like a puzzle piece, and when you get it right, 47 00:02:24,280 --> 00:02:27,960 Speaker 1: it's amazing. What you don't want to do is get one, two, 48 00:02:28,080 --> 00:02:30,600 Speaker 1: three right. Then you forget those three. Maybe you're not 49 00:02:31,160 --> 00:02:34,000 Speaker 1: nurturing those three. Then you're worried about the fourth. You 50 00:02:34,000 --> 00:02:36,200 Speaker 1: don't want the other three to fall. It's like juggling. 51 00:02:36,240 --> 00:02:39,240 Speaker 1: You want, like one by one to get people in 52 00:02:39,320 --> 00:02:43,520 Speaker 1: the right seats. So eventually just everything is moving like 53 00:02:43,560 --> 00:02:47,960 Speaker 1: a nice well oiled machine and I'm getting there. And 54 00:02:48,000 --> 00:02:50,440 Speaker 1: what I've done so, I've just hired a new person 55 00:02:50,480 --> 00:02:53,560 Speaker 1: on my team who is amazing, and I'm so happy 56 00:02:53,600 --> 00:02:55,520 Speaker 1: because we had to kiss a lot of frogs to 57 00:02:55,560 --> 00:02:58,320 Speaker 1: get to a prince, and finally I got someone that 58 00:02:58,360 --> 00:03:00,560 Speaker 1: feels like they get it, they get me, they can 59 00:03:00,600 --> 00:03:04,160 Speaker 1: handle it. Like there's a woman who runs my brand business, 60 00:03:04,160 --> 00:03:05,680 Speaker 1: like if I do brand deals. She used to be 61 00:03:05,680 --> 00:03:07,840 Speaker 1: the president of my company, but because of her personal 62 00:03:07,880 --> 00:03:10,720 Speaker 1: life and because of the dynamic and the workload and 63 00:03:10,800 --> 00:03:12,800 Speaker 1: what it entailed, she is really. 64 00:03:12,639 --> 00:03:13,520 Speaker 2: Just the head of brand. 65 00:03:13,880 --> 00:03:16,200 Speaker 1: But effectively I think of her as like my number two, 66 00:03:16,320 --> 00:03:18,880 Speaker 1: like my person on the side that gets most of 67 00:03:18,880 --> 00:03:21,720 Speaker 1: what's going on in my business, and that's going really well. 68 00:03:22,120 --> 00:03:24,639 Speaker 1: And I have another person that runs a whole other department. 69 00:03:24,680 --> 00:03:26,440 Speaker 1: Think of it as like Disney, and this other person 70 00:03:26,520 --> 00:03:29,240 Speaker 1: runs cruises and I touch them every day, but like 71 00:03:29,919 --> 00:03:32,760 Speaker 1: they're off autonomous doing a great job. And then I 72 00:03:32,840 --> 00:03:36,920 Speaker 1: needed the right hand person in my personal life because 73 00:03:36,960 --> 00:03:42,000 Speaker 1: that affects the whole entire business, because the person in 74 00:03:42,080 --> 00:03:44,680 Speaker 1: my personal life affects me getting to places on time 75 00:03:44,840 --> 00:03:47,880 Speaker 1: and me adhering to a schedule and not overloading me. 76 00:03:48,040 --> 00:03:51,600 Speaker 1: So like the brand, business cannot succeed without the person 77 00:03:51,600 --> 00:03:55,280 Speaker 1: handling my personal life and my home life properly because 78 00:03:55,280 --> 00:03:55,960 Speaker 1: it pulls. 79 00:03:55,720 --> 00:03:56,480 Speaker 2: The other thing down. 80 00:03:56,520 --> 00:03:59,480 Speaker 1: So finally I just found someone who's really helpful in 81 00:03:59,520 --> 00:04:02,680 Speaker 1: my person a life. Now you know, I launched the Core, 82 00:04:02,720 --> 00:04:06,080 Speaker 1: which is a dating community, and it is doing extraordinarily well. 83 00:04:06,680 --> 00:04:09,720 Speaker 1: Sometimes you go to top heavy. I thought I needed 84 00:04:09,760 --> 00:04:13,840 Speaker 1: like a major expensive coo to run that because it 85 00:04:13,880 --> 00:04:16,039 Speaker 1: felt good, it sounded good, And I got this person 86 00:04:16,080 --> 00:04:18,680 Speaker 1: and they were too high level. They were just talking, 87 00:04:18,839 --> 00:04:21,560 Speaker 1: but they weren't like doing. They were just talking about 88 00:04:21,560 --> 00:04:23,039 Speaker 1: all the things we should do I'm like, right, but 89 00:04:23,120 --> 00:04:24,760 Speaker 1: this is a startup, so are you gonna do it 90 00:04:24,839 --> 00:04:26,400 Speaker 1: or you're just gonna think that some fairy is gonna 91 00:04:26,440 --> 00:04:28,560 Speaker 1: come in and do it. And that happened on my 92 00:04:28,600 --> 00:04:29,640 Speaker 1: social media business. 93 00:04:30,120 --> 00:04:30,680 Speaker 2: I thought I. 94 00:04:30,640 --> 00:04:33,640 Speaker 1: Needed a very high level, big ticket item, name brand 95 00:04:33,680 --> 00:04:35,680 Speaker 1: person that came from a big company, just like the 96 00:04:35,680 --> 00:04:38,560 Speaker 1: core came from a big company, so I could internally 97 00:04:38,600 --> 00:04:41,360 Speaker 1: flex that externally think I had it going on, Oh 98 00:04:41,400 --> 00:04:44,080 Speaker 1: my god, we're gonna be so great because they worked there, 99 00:04:44,760 --> 00:04:47,400 Speaker 1: And instead it's a person just like talking. We're like, okay, 100 00:04:47,400 --> 00:04:50,440 Speaker 1: but are you doing that? Like so when you're hiring 101 00:04:50,520 --> 00:04:52,480 Speaker 1: and you're building a team, you don't need to get 102 00:04:52,520 --> 00:04:55,240 Speaker 1: the air Mez person because if you get the air 103 00:04:55,279 --> 00:04:57,720 Speaker 1: mes level person, they're gonna just want to be top 104 00:04:57,839 --> 00:05:00,360 Speaker 1: level talking. You're like, right, but who's fucking doing it? 105 00:05:00,520 --> 00:05:03,760 Speaker 1: Like I'm a doer. I'm a doer and I surround 106 00:05:03,800 --> 00:05:05,799 Speaker 1: myself with doers. We cannot have a person just sitting 107 00:05:05,839 --> 00:05:09,720 Speaker 1: at a desk talking about doing and thinking about hiring 108 00:05:09,760 --> 00:05:11,800 Speaker 1: other people to do or expecting someone else to do. 109 00:05:12,040 --> 00:05:13,960 Speaker 1: There's a lot of that for any of you who 110 00:05:13,960 --> 00:05:16,080 Speaker 1: work in corporate America, for any of you who own 111 00:05:16,160 --> 00:05:19,360 Speaker 1: big companies for any of you who you know are 112 00:05:19,400 --> 00:05:22,679 Speaker 1: a big fucking deal. You may think it's getting done 113 00:05:23,400 --> 00:05:26,120 Speaker 1: because you hired the big ticket item person, but trust me, 114 00:05:26,160 --> 00:05:28,919 Speaker 1: a lot of times the big ticket item person is 115 00:05:28,960 --> 00:05:31,599 Speaker 1: like that corporate cubicle person, and they don't actually do 116 00:05:31,720 --> 00:05:34,120 Speaker 1: and you might not see it because your infrastructure is 117 00:05:34,160 --> 00:05:36,400 Speaker 1: too big for you to really see. Like I don't 118 00:05:36,400 --> 00:05:40,360 Speaker 1: have a massive infrastructure, so I can physically feel, taste 119 00:05:40,400 --> 00:05:43,599 Speaker 1: and touch who's doing and who's not, and I will 120 00:05:43,640 --> 00:05:46,600 Speaker 1: always know who's doing too much, and I will always 121 00:05:46,640 --> 00:05:49,480 Speaker 1: know who's doing too little, and I can smoke them 122 00:05:49,480 --> 00:05:52,680 Speaker 1: out right away, and I will tell the team when 123 00:05:52,880 --> 00:05:54,720 Speaker 1: I from my level, because I touch a lot of 124 00:05:54,720 --> 00:05:58,280 Speaker 1: different people, see someone who's bending over backwards and it's 125 00:05:58,320 --> 00:05:59,960 Speaker 1: not fair, and I'll say to the rest of the kid, 126 00:06:00,040 --> 00:06:02,920 Speaker 1: it's like, it's not fair, Jane is doing too much. 127 00:06:03,000 --> 00:06:04,719 Speaker 2: I'm seeing it, I'm smelling, and I'm tasting it. 128 00:06:05,040 --> 00:06:07,480 Speaker 1: Some of you need to support her or him and 129 00:06:07,920 --> 00:06:10,800 Speaker 1: take on some of her load, because people will always hide, 130 00:06:11,480 --> 00:06:12,719 Speaker 1: or people will always just stick. 131 00:06:12,520 --> 00:06:13,680 Speaker 2: In their own lane and do their own thing. 132 00:06:13,720 --> 00:06:15,720 Speaker 1: And I'll just dump something on someone who's sticking in 133 00:06:15,760 --> 00:06:17,400 Speaker 1: their own lane. And doing their own thing and be like, no, 134 00:06:17,760 --> 00:06:20,360 Speaker 1: you're gonna handle this now because I said so. So 135 00:06:20,560 --> 00:06:24,159 Speaker 1: just know that there's like a big imbalance more often 136 00:06:24,200 --> 00:06:28,599 Speaker 1: than you think in your infrastructure top heavy, bottom heavy, 137 00:06:28,920 --> 00:06:31,600 Speaker 1: too loose, too tight, like you gotta tinker with it. 138 00:06:32,240 --> 00:06:34,520 Speaker 1: You want to find someone who's going to get shit 139 00:06:34,640 --> 00:06:38,240 Speaker 1: done with or without experience in the thing that you're doing. 140 00:06:38,760 --> 00:06:41,760 Speaker 1: It's going to be a mom and or a housewife. 141 00:06:41,920 --> 00:06:44,760 Speaker 1: It doesn't matter if the person has worked in thirty years. 142 00:06:44,760 --> 00:06:47,080 Speaker 1: I have someone who's running something for me that has 143 00:06:47,120 --> 00:06:51,080 Speaker 1: not worked in thirty years, and they are fucking gangster 144 00:06:51,839 --> 00:06:55,920 Speaker 1: gangster because they're a mom who's dealt with multiple kids, 145 00:06:56,440 --> 00:07:01,400 Speaker 1: with costumes, with sports, with after school activity, with struggling 146 00:07:01,440 --> 00:07:04,720 Speaker 1: to be on a budget, with calendar, all of it. 147 00:07:05,120 --> 00:07:07,479 Speaker 1: And I have another example now of someone who has 148 00:07:07,560 --> 00:07:10,600 Speaker 1: worked in a high capacity for someone with a lot 149 00:07:10,640 --> 00:07:13,080 Speaker 1: going on, a serious business person, and they are coming 150 00:07:13,120 --> 00:07:15,520 Speaker 1: in and they're also a mom with several kids. 151 00:07:15,560 --> 00:07:17,000 Speaker 2: I'm seeing too much evidence of this. 152 00:07:17,440 --> 00:07:19,840 Speaker 1: If you want to hire so much to get shit done, 153 00:07:20,360 --> 00:07:24,680 Speaker 1: it is a mom who has raised kids, been a housewife, 154 00:07:25,280 --> 00:07:29,160 Speaker 1: run a household. I'm not pandering, I am not placating. 155 00:07:29,280 --> 00:07:33,040 Speaker 1: I'm not ass kissing. I'm telling you straight up, one hundred. 156 00:07:33,120 --> 00:07:37,640 Speaker 1: I'll take that any day over the corporate man who 157 00:07:37,720 --> 00:07:39,960 Speaker 1: is at top level, because I now have experienced with 158 00:07:40,040 --> 00:07:45,680 Speaker 1: two corporate men from name brand businesses that have made 159 00:07:45,800 --> 00:07:49,600 Speaker 1: a lot of money, that have supposedly run teams managed things, 160 00:07:49,640 --> 00:07:53,080 Speaker 1: And in two cases I brought on two very expensive 161 00:07:53,160 --> 00:07:59,160 Speaker 1: men with big ticket item salaries and big ticket item resumes, 162 00:07:59,520 --> 00:08:01,920 Speaker 1: and in both cases it's been like, so fucking do it, 163 00:08:02,040 --> 00:08:05,200 Speaker 1: let's get it done. And in two cases I've hired 164 00:08:05,720 --> 00:08:10,520 Speaker 1: women that do not have big ticket resumes, with oh, 165 00:08:10,600 --> 00:08:13,080 Speaker 1: I worked at this amazing place you're gonna be impressed 166 00:08:13,120 --> 00:08:15,760 Speaker 1: by and had this big salary you're gonna be impressed by. 167 00:08:15,760 --> 00:08:20,200 Speaker 1: And in both cases the women have fucking crushed the men. 168 00:08:21,240 --> 00:08:24,960 Speaker 1: So hire a woman who's run a household and has 169 00:08:24,960 --> 00:08:28,560 Speaker 1: had kids, has raised kids. Just fucking trust me. You'll 170 00:08:28,560 --> 00:08:30,720 Speaker 1: have to train them a little, you'll have to teach 171 00:08:30,760 --> 00:08:32,760 Speaker 1: them how to fish. But once I had a fish, 172 00:08:33,320 --> 00:08:36,000 Speaker 1: they're gonna be a fucking very dangerous shark in that water. 173 00:08:50,040 --> 00:08:51,719 Speaker 2: So Sydney Sweeney. 174 00:08:51,320 --> 00:08:55,560 Speaker 1: Is like the forest Gump of advertising products, because I 175 00:08:55,559 --> 00:08:58,480 Speaker 1: am certain that when she did her jeans ad. She 176 00:08:58,520 --> 00:09:01,079 Speaker 1: didn't know it was gonna be so and it was 177 00:09:01,120 --> 00:09:03,120 Speaker 1: going to have such an impact, and that she was 178 00:09:03,160 --> 00:09:05,320 Speaker 1: going to move jeans. She did a jeens deal. She 179 00:09:05,400 --> 00:09:08,120 Speaker 1: did a jeans ad. She's a pretty girl. I don't 180 00:09:08,160 --> 00:09:11,160 Speaker 1: know anything about her, but she got so much fucking 181 00:09:11,200 --> 00:09:14,360 Speaker 1: press from that. And then she does a lingerie deal, 182 00:09:14,559 --> 00:09:16,520 Speaker 1: which halle Berry did years ago, and it did not 183 00:09:17,040 --> 00:09:22,040 Speaker 1: do well. Laingerie's very specific. TBD on whether that will 184 00:09:22,080 --> 00:09:24,480 Speaker 1: do well for a number of reasons. 185 00:09:24,520 --> 00:09:25,760 Speaker 2: Laingerie's very specific. 186 00:09:25,880 --> 00:09:29,200 Speaker 1: Most moms aren't buying lingerie, most of the young girls 187 00:09:29,240 --> 00:09:31,840 Speaker 1: are buying the young and older women are buying the 188 00:09:31,880 --> 00:09:34,839 Speaker 1: skims and the shapewear, And I don't know. Lingerie is 189 00:09:34,880 --> 00:09:39,439 Speaker 1: a very specific thing. But Sidney Sweeney by hanging Lagerie 190 00:09:39,520 --> 00:09:43,640 Speaker 1: on the Hollywood Sign, which is illegal, because she had 191 00:09:43,679 --> 00:09:45,680 Speaker 1: a deal that she could do something at the sign 192 00:09:45,679 --> 00:09:48,000 Speaker 1: but couldn't touch the sign, right, So now she's got 193 00:09:48,040 --> 00:09:50,640 Speaker 1: all this press about hanging Lingerie on the sign. It's 194 00:09:50,760 --> 00:09:52,840 Speaker 1: very niche and I don't think most people are gonna care. 195 00:09:53,320 --> 00:09:55,560 Speaker 1: But like, she's gotten a lot of media attention for 196 00:09:55,760 --> 00:09:59,640 Speaker 1: her jeans ad and it being a half a cancelation, 197 00:09:59,760 --> 00:10:02,720 Speaker 1: which cancelation equals renewal. Now, and now she's got all 198 00:10:02,760 --> 00:10:05,840 Speaker 1: this press for hanging bras on the fucking Hollywood Sign, 199 00:10:05,880 --> 00:10:06,360 Speaker 1: and it's like. 200 00:10:06,640 --> 00:10:07,520 Speaker 2: Anything she does. 201 00:10:07,880 --> 00:10:10,600 Speaker 1: I'm not saying it's it's like Trump, like he just 202 00:10:10,640 --> 00:10:12,960 Speaker 1: does things and then gets all this fucking press for it. 203 00:10:13,559 --> 00:10:15,559 Speaker 1: Anything she does, she just gets all this press for it, 204 00:10:15,600 --> 00:10:16,559 Speaker 1: and it's disruptive. 205 00:10:17,120 --> 00:10:19,640 Speaker 2: And she's probably moving bras and jeans. 206 00:10:19,480 --> 00:10:23,400 Speaker 1: At a serious clip because she's inadvertently or intentionally not 207 00:10:23,600 --> 00:10:27,120 Speaker 1: following the rules. And I think it's more inadvertent. I think, 208 00:10:27,240 --> 00:10:29,719 Speaker 1: like the genes, she didn't and she likes, you know, 209 00:10:30,000 --> 00:10:33,439 Speaker 1: being a little coquettish and a little suggestive. I get that, 210 00:10:33,520 --> 00:10:35,280 Speaker 1: and I think that at the Hollywood Sign too, But 211 00:10:35,320 --> 00:10:38,000 Speaker 1: I certainly is not a media campaign ahead of time 212 00:10:38,080 --> 00:10:40,680 Speaker 1: to just really disrupt like that. But whatever it's costing 213 00:10:40,679 --> 00:10:43,680 Speaker 1: her legally, I'm sure she's gotten it back in pr 214 00:10:44,080 --> 00:10:48,720 Speaker 1: not unlike an influenzer who unintentionally didn't misscare ad. It 215 00:10:48,760 --> 00:10:51,719 Speaker 1: had false lashes on it broke the internet and they 216 00:10:51,760 --> 00:10:53,080 Speaker 1: sold so much fucking miscara. 217 00:10:53,280 --> 00:10:54,200 Speaker 2: So it's hard. 218 00:10:54,320 --> 00:10:56,360 Speaker 1: We're in the upside down when it comes to media 219 00:10:56,360 --> 00:10:57,199 Speaker 1: and advertising. 220 00:10:58,320 --> 00:10:59,079 Speaker 2: Oh, my god. 221 00:10:59,280 --> 00:11:04,120 Speaker 1: Lisa Barr, who's on the Utah Housewives, she like said 222 00:11:04,120 --> 00:11:06,640 Speaker 1: something about Ben Affleck, which is not unlike when one 223 00:11:06,679 --> 00:11:08,760 Speaker 1: of the New York Housewives said she was good friends 224 00:11:08,760 --> 00:11:13,400 Speaker 1: with Gwyneth Paltrow. And Ben Affleck was interviewed because he 225 00:11:13,480 --> 00:11:16,360 Speaker 1: was doing something for the RIP and he was interviewed, 226 00:11:16,360 --> 00:11:17,959 Speaker 1: and he was so kind about it because he was like, 227 00:11:17,960 --> 00:11:19,320 Speaker 1: I don't want to say anything that's going to get 228 00:11:19,360 --> 00:11:22,080 Speaker 1: someone in trouble. I don't remember meeting her, like she 229 00:11:22,240 --> 00:11:26,319 Speaker 1: mentioned him and he didn't remember. And Matt Damon was 230 00:11:26,400 --> 00:11:30,360 Speaker 1: so interested in it, and it's just so cringe. Housewives, 231 00:11:30,400 --> 00:11:33,400 Speaker 1: Old School Housewives and the girl Lisa may have met 232 00:11:33,400 --> 00:11:36,760 Speaker 1: Ben Affleck in her travels. I mean, he has been 233 00:11:36,760 --> 00:11:40,080 Speaker 1: to Sundance many times, as he's done many independent films, 234 00:11:40,120 --> 00:11:42,439 Speaker 1: and I met her years ago at Sundance at the 235 00:11:42,480 --> 00:11:45,560 Speaker 1: very beginning when I was doing Chef Dance. Incidentally, Sundance 236 00:11:45,640 --> 00:11:49,120 Speaker 1: just had its last year in Utah and it will 237 00:11:49,120 --> 00:11:51,640 Speaker 1: be in Boulder. But I was just like, when I 238 00:11:51,679 --> 00:11:54,000 Speaker 1: saw it on social media or a clip or like 239 00:11:54,040 --> 00:11:55,840 Speaker 1: a press thing, I was like, oh God, and it's 240 00:11:55,840 --> 00:11:57,480 Speaker 1: like they'll just use that, They'll just try to make 241 00:11:57,520 --> 00:12:00,800 Speaker 1: her feel so bad and it's fifty shades of gray. 242 00:12:01,440 --> 00:12:04,040 Speaker 1: Gwyneth Paltrow was asked on a television show if she 243 00:12:04,120 --> 00:12:06,880 Speaker 1: knew Kelly Ben Simone, and she was like, I don't, 244 00:12:07,000 --> 00:12:09,640 Speaker 1: and Kelly was like, my friend Gwyneth to me on 245 00:12:09,720 --> 00:12:11,720 Speaker 1: the show is And now Lisa's like, I'm doing something 246 00:12:11,720 --> 00:12:13,680 Speaker 1: with Ben and I've got a lot going I don't 247 00:12:13,679 --> 00:12:15,160 Speaker 1: know talk about. And Ben's like, I don't know who 248 00:12:15,200 --> 00:12:18,679 Speaker 1: she is. And it's giving Mariah with you know, j Lo, 249 00:12:18,920 --> 00:12:22,040 Speaker 1: I don't know her. It's just like, it's a cluttered mess. 250 00:12:22,040 --> 00:12:25,920 Speaker 1: It's ridiculous. Oprah is promoting her new book and she 251 00:12:26,240 --> 00:12:28,400 Speaker 1: is talking a lot about food noise, which is a 252 00:12:28,480 --> 00:12:32,120 Speaker 1: term that I talked about in my book Naturally Thin, 253 00:12:32,720 --> 00:12:34,880 Speaker 1: which was published in two thousand and nine. I talked 254 00:12:34,920 --> 00:12:37,520 Speaker 1: about turning it into a food voice, and that's kind 255 00:12:37,520 --> 00:12:42,800 Speaker 1: of the base of Oprah's press tour. And while I 256 00:12:42,840 --> 00:12:45,160 Speaker 1: believe people have said it, I mean, I don't know, 257 00:12:45,160 --> 00:12:47,000 Speaker 1: maybe in a medical journal or someone has said the 258 00:12:47,000 --> 00:12:50,880 Speaker 1: word food and noise before me. I popularized it in 259 00:12:50,960 --> 00:12:53,800 Speaker 1: my book Naturally Thin because it was on the New 260 00:12:53,880 --> 00:12:56,840 Speaker 1: York Times bestseller list for five months in a row 261 00:12:56,920 --> 00:12:59,600 Speaker 1: and I was talking about turning your food noise into 262 00:12:59,600 --> 00:13:02,600 Speaker 1: a food and now I'm seeing so many people use 263 00:13:02,640 --> 00:13:06,360 Speaker 1: this term, which was certainly not used or popularized then. 264 00:13:06,440 --> 00:13:09,320 Speaker 1: And so it's like full circle for me having written 265 00:13:09,320 --> 00:13:11,920 Speaker 1: that book and just talked about this noise topic that 266 00:13:12,000 --> 00:13:15,120 Speaker 1: Brec Costin had introduced me to and then taking it 267 00:13:15,559 --> 00:13:18,559 Speaker 1: to apply it to food noise, and now Oprah is 268 00:13:18,640 --> 00:13:21,000 Speaker 1: talking about it because I guess she's promoting a book 269 00:13:21,000 --> 00:13:24,000 Speaker 1: about GLP one. So it's a full circle moment when 270 00:13:24,360 --> 00:13:28,120 Speaker 1: Oprah is using the term that you popularized. Oh my god, 271 00:13:28,120 --> 00:13:30,760 Speaker 1: almost twenty years ago, because in two thousand and seven, 272 00:13:30,760 --> 00:13:32,240 Speaker 1: I think I was writing it, but it was published 273 00:13:32,240 --> 00:13:35,400 Speaker 1: in two thousand and nine. Oh my god. The Beckhams. 274 00:13:35,800 --> 00:13:39,520 Speaker 1: It's a mess. It's a nightmare. It's unnecessary. I don't 275 00:13:39,559 --> 00:13:44,280 Speaker 1: believe that the Beckhams, Victoria and David would want for 276 00:13:44,320 --> 00:13:48,439 Speaker 1: the entire internet to be Team them, because if your 277 00:13:48,440 --> 00:13:51,000 Speaker 1: team them, your team against your children, and they're always 278 00:13:51,000 --> 00:13:52,960 Speaker 1: going to be your children, it's like I think they 279 00:13:53,000 --> 00:13:55,880 Speaker 1: would rather this thing not exist. But certainly my opinion 280 00:13:55,960 --> 00:14:00,560 Speaker 1: is that many people are team Posh and or Victoria 281 00:14:00,600 --> 00:14:04,480 Speaker 1: and David, but parents don't want I don't want my 282 00:14:04,720 --> 00:14:07,520 Speaker 1: I don't want like people to not like my child, 283 00:14:07,800 --> 00:14:11,000 Speaker 1: even if my child went out and said something against me, 284 00:14:11,200 --> 00:14:12,720 Speaker 1: like and there are a lot of children that have 285 00:14:12,800 --> 00:14:15,400 Speaker 1: issues with their parents. They're public about it and it's 286 00:14:15,400 --> 00:14:18,679 Speaker 1: super awkward. Or they post something on Instagram like I 287 00:14:18,720 --> 00:14:19,840 Speaker 1: don't know why my mom did that. 288 00:14:19,840 --> 00:14:20,800 Speaker 2: I have nothing to do with that. 289 00:14:21,000 --> 00:14:23,880 Speaker 1: Or Alec Baldwin had a big public fight with his child, 290 00:14:24,040 --> 00:14:26,280 Speaker 1: or I mean it's since the you know, it's been 291 00:14:26,280 --> 00:14:29,320 Speaker 1: going on forever. But I definitely don't think parents want 292 00:14:29,640 --> 00:14:35,120 Speaker 1: the public to be against their children, even if the 293 00:14:35,280 --> 00:14:40,000 Speaker 1: child who's an adult had a big public manifesto against 294 00:14:40,080 --> 00:14:43,680 Speaker 1: the parents. It's just it's a mess and whatever you say, 295 00:14:43,920 --> 00:14:46,080 Speaker 1: like people add gasoline to it and it will become 296 00:14:46,120 --> 00:14:48,600 Speaker 1: so much bigger. So you have to know that, like 297 00:14:48,680 --> 00:14:52,160 Speaker 1: you can't if something's not resolved, You can't resolve it 298 00:14:52,240 --> 00:14:53,840 Speaker 1: with a statement because you got to know that the 299 00:14:53,840 --> 00:14:56,800 Speaker 1: boomerang will come back and hit you. So I don't 300 00:14:56,840 --> 00:14:59,400 Speaker 1: fuck around. I don't play stupid games because you win 301 00:14:59,440 --> 00:15:02,920 Speaker 1: super prize. Is like, I don't play like it's tempting 302 00:15:02,960 --> 00:15:04,920 Speaker 1: to take the bait, it's tempting to say something. It's 303 00:15:05,080 --> 00:15:08,880 Speaker 1: tempting to get the last word in. But I would 304 00:15:08,960 --> 00:15:13,320 Speaker 1: say tread very lightly and be very careful because it 305 00:15:13,440 --> 00:15:33,960 Speaker 1: usually doesn't end well.