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Speaker 1: make it on your own.

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Speaker 2: Wow, it all started with real talk. You see, you

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Speaker 2: can't even talk straight as.

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Speaker 1: A Sociologists theorized that in heterosexual relationship mothers are more

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Speaker 1: unhappy with their marriages after they have children because they

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Speaker 1: tend to take on more second shift work, child care

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Speaker 1: and housework and begin to feel that their relationships are

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Speaker 1: no longer fair. I can honestly say that is not true, unfiltered,

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Speaker 1: honest and straight from the heart.

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Speaker 2: And when my mom was like, you're moving my daughter.

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Speaker 1: Weird quit where when she put the h from the

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Speaker 1: W where I knew she was concerned, but I said,

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Speaker 1: I got the crown height. We're good. I got this.

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Speaker 1: Since then, we've gone on to become webbe award winning

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Speaker 1: podcasters in New York Times bestselling authors.

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Speaker 2: I kind of feel like it gives a little bit

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Speaker 2: of octemoron vive right, because if you're writing a relationship

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Speaker 2: over me, I'm on de VAO's back. It's like, hey,

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Speaker 2: here's like how we have the perfect relationship. But I

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Speaker 2: think once you dive into the book, you see how

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Speaker 2: imperfect we were in so many moments. Dead Ass was

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Speaker 2: more than a podcast for us.

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Speaker 3: It was about our growth.

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Speaker 1: Grit is the mental fortitude that you have to have

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Speaker 1: to say, you know what. It takes ten years to

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Speaker 1: become an OVERNIGHTE.

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Speaker 2: Level a place where we could be vulnerable.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if people know this, but you you

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Speaker 1: know you had to get emergency surgery and I could

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Speaker 1: have lost you after having Jackson. That's why this is

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Speaker 1: so important to me to have this discussion be wrong.

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Speaker 3: I knew that this was gonna be my last time

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Speaker 3: seeing her, so I said, So I said, love you

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Speaker 3: and thank you for everything, and.

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Speaker 1: Just watch over for us, but most importantly be us.

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Speaker 2: And I just put everything in this zimplot back and

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Speaker 2: I threw it into the bushes and then I went

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Speaker 2: all my merry way. But the relief that I felt.

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Speaker 1: After that, yeah, I'm never I've never heard this full story.

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Speaker 2: But as we know, life keeps evolving and so do we,

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Speaker 2: and through it all, one thing has never changed. Thing

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Speaker 2: to me, Baby, I said, I'm geek.

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Speaker 1: Damn hey, loyalty, loyalty, loyalty.

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Speaker 2: Eh, this is elic And.

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Speaker 1: If you don't feel any pressure then that means it

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Speaker 1: doesn't matter enough. Pressure doesn't only bust pice with it

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Speaker 1: creates diamonds. If you're willing to work through the pressure

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Speaker 1: daily as a man and be a great husband and

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Speaker 1: be a great father, you can build a fantastic life

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Speaker 1: for your family. I'm up for the challenge. I'm willing

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Speaker 1: to do it every day because i have an amazing

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Speaker 1: wife that I love so much, and I'm really to

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Speaker 1: take over the world with her.

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Speaker 1: Because we got a lot to talk about.