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Speaker 1: I've ever been left waiting by the phone.

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Speaker 2: It's the Fred Show. Brandon, good morning, Welcome to the program.

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Speaker 2: How are you.

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Speaker 3: I'm good. How you guys doing it there?

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Speaker 1: Doing all right? Man?

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Speaker 2: What's going on with this woman in Lana? We got

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Speaker 2: to know kind of everything, how you met, about any

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Speaker 2: dates you've been on, how those went, and why do

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Speaker 2: you think you're being ghosted?

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Speaker 3: Well?

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Speaker 4: Thanks you all for having me. I I met this

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Speaker 4: woman on hinge and we decided to meet up at

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Speaker 4: like a block party, you know, basically like like one

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Speaker 4: of those huge street festival things, like they shut down

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Speaker 4: a couple of blocks to have like some bands and stuff,

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Speaker 4: and like they serve they serve beer.

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Speaker 2: That's kind of a it's a good date, right, I

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Speaker 2: Mean it's like, you know, built in activity and food

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Speaker 2: and drink, and you're walking and you're in public, so

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Speaker 2: like if you're scary, then the person could escape or

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Speaker 2: vice versa.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I think it'd be it'd be kind of like

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Speaker 4: a neutral way for us to meet up and kind

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Speaker 4: of get to know each other a little bit.

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Speaker 2: And yet it's different from the drinks and coffee and

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Speaker 2: and you know, dinner dates that everyone seems to set up.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, okay, so you.

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Speaker 4: Do a super chill, super easy to like, you know,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know. So I told her that I'd probably.

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Speaker 4: Be meeting up with some friends there, you know, show

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Speaker 4: up whenever she can. And yeah, it seemed like we

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Speaker 4: are having a good time. She left to go get

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Speaker 4: a drink and she just never came back. So I

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Speaker 4: figured I to take you guys up, so if you

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Speaker 4: get help me out.

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Speaker 1: Wow, So she did. Is I was kidding about that?

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Speaker 2: But like she she said, I'll be right back and

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Speaker 2: then and like, who done eat on you?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Pretty much exactly. Yeah, in the middle of the date. Wow, okay.

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Speaker 2: And how long did it take for that to happen?

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Speaker 1: An hour? A few minutes, I mean, how long until

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Speaker 1: she took off?

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Speaker 4: It was pretty quick, you know, like I'd say, I'd

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Speaker 4: say less than a half hour, probably twenty minutes, thirty minutes. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Wow. Okay.

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Speaker 2: Well, let's let's call this woman Lana. We'll see if

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Speaker 2: we can get her on the phone, and we're gonna

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Speaker 2: ask some questions about this date. You'll be on the

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Speaker 2: phone at the same time. And the hope, as always

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Speaker 2: is that there's a good explanation. Something happened. I could

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Speaker 2: have been something personal or embarrassing, or who knows, And

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Speaker 2: there's a good reason why she did this, and maybe

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Speaker 2: she wants to see you again. And if that's the case,

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Speaker 2: then we'll set you guys up on another date that

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Speaker 2: we pay for.

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Speaker 1: Sound good. Hey Brandon, Yo, welcome back.

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Speaker 3: Man.

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Speaker 1: Let's call Lana.

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Speaker 2: You guys, you recently went on a date and you

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Speaker 2: met for the first time at like a kind of

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Speaker 2: an outdoor festival after meeting on one of the dating apps,

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Speaker 2: and you say that you guys hung out for about

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Speaker 2: less than a half an hour and then she said, Hey,

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Speaker 2: I'm going to go get a drink, and then she

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, exactly, exactly right.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, Well let's call her now and see if

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Speaker 2: we can figure out what's going on.

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Speaker 1: Good luck, Brandon, Thank you, thank you.

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Speaker 3: Huh.

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Speaker 1: Hi's is Lana? Heylana? Good morning. My name is Fred.

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Speaker 2: I'm calling for the Fred Show, the morning radio show,

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Speaker 2: and I have to tell you that we are on

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Speaker 2: the radio right now, and I would need your permission

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Speaker 2: to continue with the call. Can we chat for just

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Speaker 2: a second. You can hang up anytime. I mean, okay, okay, well,

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Speaker 2: thank you so much. We're calling on behalf of a

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Speaker 2: guy who reached out to us. His name is Brandon.

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Speaker 2: He says, you guys match on Hinge the dating app

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Speaker 2: recently and went to on a date to like a festival.

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Speaker 2: Oh yes, okay, well, so we just talked to him

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Speaker 2: and he just said nice things about you, that he

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Speaker 2: wondering why.

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Speaker 1: He has no idea why that happened.

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Speaker 5: Well, I mean some of that is true.

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Speaker 1: So the street festival.

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Speaker 5: I love the idea because it was different than like

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Speaker 5: the typical thing normal drinks are a dinner date and

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Speaker 5: you know, on the way to the date, Brandon did

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Speaker 5: tell me that there were going to be some other

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Speaker 5: And when I got there, it turned out that Brandon

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Speaker 5: had about twelve girls all around him that he just

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Speaker 5: just trying to figure it all out, like what the

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Speaker 5: heck was going on, and it just it was like

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Speaker 5: all the women were flirting with him too to carry on.

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Speaker 5: And I mean, I like, I'm fine with people having

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Speaker 5: for friends, but like these were a lot of girlfriends, right, Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I mean it's risky anytime you're including friends in a

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Speaker 2: first date, male or female. I mean if they're if

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Speaker 2: you're a guy and your boys are out with you

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Speaker 2: and you're just meeting a girl for the first time,

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Speaker 2: then you're running the risk that the girl might like

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Speaker 2: one of your friends better because it's just you know,

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Speaker 2: a numbers game. I don't know, it's possible, which is

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Speaker 2: why I and the same could be true. I mean,

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Speaker 2: I've been on a date before where it's come meet

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Speaker 2: and I've never met you, I don't know you, and

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Speaker 2: I like your other friend better or whatever, So that's

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Speaker 2: a that's a risky move as it is. But but

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Speaker 2: he's inviting you to a group with a bunch of

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Speaker 2: women and they're not introducing themselves. He's not introducing them

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Speaker 2: to you, so you're this out. No one wants to

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Speaker 2: be the outsider in a group, no matter who it is.

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Speaker 4: Thank you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: And the final straw.

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Speaker 5: When when I told him I was going to go

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Speaker 5: get a drink, all of them decided to also give

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Speaker 5: me a drink order and food orders.

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Speaker 1: Oh really, no.

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Speaker 5: Help her now, I was like, you know what, that's

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Speaker 5: that's that's the.

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Speaker 3: Icing on the cake.

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Speaker 5: Like I just left and I never looked back.

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Speaker 2: I don't really blame you, and Brandon is here. I

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Speaker 2: forgot to mention. I'm very forgetful. I get caught up

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Speaker 1: Brandon. You forgot, you forgot.

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Speaker 2: You forgot to mention that you invited her to a

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Speaker 2: social outing with a bunch of other women, and you

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Speaker 2: didn't even sort of ingratiate it, Like you didn't incorporate

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Speaker 2: I don't care who you are. That's uncomfortable.

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Speaker 4: Well, I did tell her, you know, when we talked

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Speaker 4: about it like that, I that I might be meeting

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Speaker 4: up with some you know, some people that I knew there.

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Speaker 1: You're harem of women. They are these women, by.

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Speaker 4: The way, crazy man it's twenty twenty five, Like, yeah,

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Speaker 4: most of my friends are are women. So like I did,

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Speaker 4: I didn't really see that as a problem. I don't

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Speaker 4: anything that they're like, I mean, look, I told her

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Speaker 4: I don't think anybody was being crazy rude or anything

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Speaker 4: like that. I'm sorry, Like, you know, maybe maybe like

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Speaker 4: that might have been like a little bit shocking that

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Speaker 2: I don't mean, I don't know, Brandon, I don't really

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Speaker 2: don't really care. What I care about is that they

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Speaker 2: weren't welcoming to your date. They had to have known

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Speaker 2: that you were on a date. It's weird to go

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Speaker 2: on a date with twelve other people, yes, and the

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Speaker 2: other person is like totally the odd in this case

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Speaker 2: some kind of they're not even being nice to her,

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Speaker 2: but then they're treating her like she's a waitress, you know.

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Speaker 2: So so I would have left too. I'd have been like,

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Speaker 2: what am I even doing here? Like I don't feel special.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, Brandon, And it's like, what do we like sixteen

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Speaker 5: going to the mall together? Like this is like I

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Speaker 5: didn't know anybody. Nobody really like tried to get to

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Speaker 4: Okay, well, you know it's a big street festival, it's

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Speaker 4: a big party. I wanted something neutral where you know,

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Speaker 1: To one is not neutral, Like that's just like I'm

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Speaker 1: not going to bring my son down a day.

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Speaker 4: Seem like really confident and really cool, And I just

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Speaker 4: didn't I didn't think that'd be like a big deal.

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Speaker 2: I think you could be confident and not feel like

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Speaker 2: there's anything to do with confidence. I think it's like

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Speaker 2: this wasn't a date. This is like a it was

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Speaker 2: like an audition or something like, Yeah, who are.

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Speaker 1: All these people? One of them?

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Speaker 2: Like why don't you you can't get a day of

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Speaker 1: Why do they get a noise? Are you good? Okay?

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Speaker 3: I don't know, it's just guys.

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Speaker 5: I think it's too many red flags for me.

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Speaker 4: I'm sorry.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, if you're just really insecure like that.

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Speaker 3: That's fine. I'm really glad that I sound up this early.

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Speaker 2: See, I don't care how confident you are. It's am

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Speaker 2: I having fun? Am I comfortable? Am I being welcomed

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Speaker 2: a date that I was I was invited to something.

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Speaker 2: I don't want to go and be invited to something

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Speaker 2: where I'm not being included. I mean, it has nothing

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Speaker 2: to do with confidence, right, Look.

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Speaker 3: You're meeting somebody for the first time.

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Speaker 4: It's a big party, and if you're not going to

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Speaker 4: be able to be friends with my friends, you know.

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Speaker 3: Like, maybe it's good like we find I know.

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Speaker 4: Okay, yeah, all right, Baverie, Okay, get off my phone, Brandon,

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Speaker 4: you not ready?

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Speaker 2: That'll be all okay. Well, I have to ask the question.

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Speaker 2: It is my job. I know the answer. But would

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Speaker 2: you like to go out with Brandon again? One on one?

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Speaker 2: We'll pay for it. No, he's not inviting his entire

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Speaker 2: harem of of you know, of game show women or

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Speaker 2: whatever he's got, you know, models.

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Speaker 5: A lot of buzzers, yeah, dealer, no deal.

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Speaker 1: Women, right, yeah, with all the briefcases.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well, I don't think she's missing much. I don't

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Speaker 2: even think she'd know because no one talked to her.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, I'm going to have to miss this. It's

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Speaker 1: a past. No, it's no date. Not going to happen, Brandon, dude.

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Speaker 2: I just just go on a date with one on one,

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Speaker 2: you know.

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Speaker 3: Well, all right, hey, thanks for thanks for helping me out.

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Speaker 3: I guess