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Speaker 1: Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours, Golden Hour. Thanks for

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Speaker 1: joining us. We're so excited to be back yet again

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Speaker 1: this week. Susan, how are you doing?

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Speaker 2: I can't wait?

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Speaker 3: Bachelor Nation fans, Wait, do you hear about today? And

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Speaker 3: make sure you've checked out all our episodes because we

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Speaker 3: are having fun.

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Speaker 1: We are having so much from it. I want to know, Susan,

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Speaker 1: real quickly, harm getting better, the risk getting better, healing.

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Speaker 3: Actually, the pain is less now we're under a four. However, yesterday,

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Speaker 3: you know, when it starts feeling better, you tend to

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Speaker 3: use it and then set me back a little bit.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, yeah, you just remember your four as somebody

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Speaker 1: else's ten. So take those drugs you prescribed. Okay, Today

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Speaker 1: we have a really special guest from Grant season. She

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Speaker 1: is gorgeous. She's fabulous. Welcome Ali Joe to Golden Hour.

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Speaker 1: How are you doing today?

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Speaker 2: Hey, thank you so much.

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Speaker 4: I'm doing great. How are you, ladies?

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Speaker 1: We're fabulous.

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Speaker 2: Well I'm here mending.

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Speaker 4: Yes, I see that boxing.

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Speaker 2: It was not boxing, I promise. Okay.

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Speaker 4: Well, I'm glad to hear that.

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Speaker 1: So you live in Fort Lauderdale, but you're a Jersey girl,

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Speaker 1: Susan from Philly. I'm from Newton, Massachusetts. So we've got

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Speaker 1: the New England Atlantic coast covered here today.

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Speaker 2: We do.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we love it the East coast.

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Speaker 1: And you're a You're you teach boxing.

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Speaker 4: Yes, I do.

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Speaker 5: I teach rumble boxing, so it's rumble So rumble boxing

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Speaker 5: is a forty five minute workout. You have strength training

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Speaker 5: and boxing. It's ten rounds. Every round is three minutes.

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Speaker 5: It started in New York City. I've been with the

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Speaker 5: company for a couple of years. I'm the head trainer

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Speaker 5: in Fort Lauderdale, but I do work for the company

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Speaker 5: on the corporate side, so I don't just I'm not

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Speaker 5: just the trainer. I do a lot of the back

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Speaker 5: end stuff for the company as well. I help open

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Speaker 5: studios a lot in the South Florida market right now.

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Speaker 5: I did a lot in North Jersey when I was

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Speaker 5: living there.

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Speaker 4: And yeah, I love what I do.

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Speaker 2: I totally do.

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Speaker 3: I have a trainer. One time doing boxing catchy my

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Speaker 3: I think my knuckles would be swollen and I get

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Speaker 3: to the salon and my boss would say, that's your money.

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Speaker 1: So that's allie, that's my question. I'm a I'm a

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Speaker 1: crazy girl. I work out in the gym a lot,

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Speaker 1: and my trainer also teaches boxing. So I got boxing

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Speaker 1: gloves and I loved it. I did, like, but my

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Speaker 1: hands were like knuckles were swell, hurting. What's the deal?

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Speaker 1: Is that just a thing?

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Speaker 3: Well?

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Speaker 4: Are you wrapping your hands? First of all?

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Speaker 3: Doing it?

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Speaker 5: Of course your hands, and then we'll chat and make

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Speaker 5: sure you have good gloves. Like there's twelve ounces of

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Speaker 5: fourteen ounces sixteen.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, but my guy told me what to

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Speaker 1: get and I loved it, like I was. I could.

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Speaker 1: I had the quick move, but it was killing my hands,

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Speaker 1: so rapping, all right, Maybe I'll try it again. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you know what, I didn't need boxing lessons for that, Sinis,

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Speaker 1: and that came naturally.

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Speaker 4: Don't mess with the Northeast, that's all.

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Speaker 1: That's right, all right? So, so Ali, we want to

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Speaker 1: get to know you a little bit better, and you're

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Speaker 1: gonna give us some advice to Bachelor Nation. We're gonna

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Speaker 1: ask you all kinds of questions about so many questions.

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Speaker 1: We have so many.

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Speaker 4: Questions, so excited to answer that.

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Speaker 1: I love all right. First, we're dying to know what

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Speaker 1: was it like being in person at AFR and Senior

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Speaker 1: Bachelor Pesty get engaged to Grant, which by the way,

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Speaker 1: was also if we're being technically your ex.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, we're getting technical. Honestly, it was a great time.

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Speaker 5: I'm so happy I got the opportunity to go because

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Speaker 5: I wasn't sure if I was going to be able to,

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Speaker 5: but I was so happy to support Juliana and I'm

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Speaker 5: so happy for her in Grants and it was exciting.

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Speaker 5: It was really cool to watch live because I've been

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Speaker 5: watching the show since i was a little kid. I'm

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Speaker 5: thirty one, so to like see it live, like obviously

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Speaker 5: I did a tell all, but it's just different, like

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Speaker 5: the energy is different, feeding the alumni that like I've

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Speaker 5: watched on TV, I see.

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Speaker 4: On social media. It was a really cool experience.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yes, oh my god. So first and foremost, have

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Speaker 2: you talked to Julia?

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Speaker 4: Yes, I talked to Juliana. Of course.

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Speaker 2: I am happy.

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Speaker 4: She is so happy, you know.

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Speaker 5: I think also like overwhelmed, like it's such a whirlwind,

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Speaker 5: You're dealing with so many emotions and you know, social media. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: you know, I definitely feel like I always tell her,

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Speaker 5: like if you need somebody to lean on, like I'm here.

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Speaker 5: She's very very close to her sister. I'm very close

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Speaker 5: with my sister as well, and that's kind of how

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Speaker 5: we also like linked up Juliana and I because we're

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Speaker 5: very very tight with our family. But yeah, I saw

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Speaker 5: her right after we had she had a little after party,

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Speaker 5: and it was it was really fun.

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Speaker 3: It was great East Coast as well. You have to know, though,

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Speaker 3: as soon as I found out where you were from

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Speaker 3: and your eyes and your beauty, I was for you.

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Speaker 2: I really was.

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Speaker 4: Thank you. I appreciate that.

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Speaker 1: We'll get we got to get into your dating life,

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Speaker 1: but we got but we have we have some more

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Speaker 1: questions on this, of course, Zoe. You know we're going

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Speaker 1: to hit you on Zooey. We're but here's something I

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Speaker 1: have to say before you. We all know edits right,

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Speaker 1: we all know that's the way it's portrayed. And you know,

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Speaker 1: people stand up for you saying you're a lovely person,

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Speaker 1: and you are clearly nothing but a lovely person. So

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Speaker 1: tell us about that, Like, are you friends now, because

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Speaker 1: you know I was the villain with Teresa or maybe

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Speaker 1: you don't know on our show and we're fine, So

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Speaker 1: tell us about that.

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Speaker 4: And I are good. Like we squashed it the next day.

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Speaker 5: It wasn't shown like there was instances where you can

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Speaker 5: see her and I sitting on the couch. I saw

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Speaker 5: her at Afar the other day. We facetimed last week.

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Speaker 5: We took a photo of the other day. And I

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Speaker 5: are good, like I always say, like, yeah, I can

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Speaker 4: I'm not looking back on it.

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Speaker 5: It wasn't the best thing, but I always am true

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Speaker 5: to myself.

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Speaker 4: And I'm not saying yelling is true to me. But

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Speaker 4: like I didn't think of that.

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Speaker 5: I just something was bothering me and I said it,

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Speaker 5: and I might not react it.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I think she is me how many

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Speaker 1: years ago. I mean, I'm exactly yeah, I'm exactly sorry

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Speaker 2: You end up resenting them, right.

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Speaker 5: And I never I always say my favorite quote, and

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Speaker 5: I've had helped this with me for like the last

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Speaker 5: ten years, especially my career. Closed mouth, don't get fed

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Speaker 5: And I always always say that, and I live by

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Speaker 5: that quote. It's one of my favorite ones.

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Speaker 3: It is also about the delivery, correct, yes, yeah, and.

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Speaker 4: It wasn't not good. It was not a good delivery.

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Speaker 3: But I was that bad, it really was.

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Speaker 2: It took all so Theresa.

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Speaker 1: My favorite but Teresa and I are over it. It's

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Speaker 1: you know, we're friends, it's I saw I get I

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Speaker 1: empathized with you. I also love the fact, Alie Joe,

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Speaker 1: that you say you on one of the one of

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Speaker 1: the shows, you said, you know, I believe in fighting

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Speaker 1: for yourself. I love that. It just shows such confidence

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Speaker 1: that you have great I mean, not only are you beautiful,

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Speaker 1: but you clearly are a woman who has confidence, and

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Speaker 1: you know. I love that. I love to see women

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Speaker 1: empowered and and doing your.

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Speaker 3: So, Alejo, do you feel you built even more confidence

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Speaker 3: but it brought out.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I've always been like listen, I think that there

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Speaker 5: was definitely growing up, I had a lot of insecurities

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Speaker 5: with things that I dealt with personally, family, my body image.

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Speaker 5: Like I danced my whole life, and from a young age,

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Speaker 5: I always remember like looking at myself in the mirror

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Speaker 5: and I was bigger than the other girls, and that

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Speaker 5: And I really got into the whole fitness background honestly

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Speaker 5: when I was in middle school. But even before that,

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Speaker 5: my dad would train. My sister and I would go

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Speaker 5: us do eight sit ups, eight push ups.

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Speaker 4: So I learned. I learned that at a really young age.

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Speaker 5: But I think my confidence has come from just me

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Speaker 5: being independent. My mom raised me really independent, and just

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Speaker 5: like you know, I don't like to kiss anybody's ass.

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Speaker 4: I'm me.

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Speaker 5: I can be in a room full of people if

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Speaker 5: we don't like each other, or you don't like me,

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Speaker 4: Okay, someone will love that.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Well, so let me ask a question. If you

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Speaker 1: so many questions you got into boxing. I don't know

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Speaker 1: just how did you get into boxing because fitness. I'm

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Speaker 1: stunned by you saying that you were bigger than the

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Speaker 1: other girls. I could blow you away with a you

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Speaker 1: where that came from.

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Speaker 4: But when I was little, I felt that way.

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Speaker 5: Though it's like, growing up, I always had just like

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Speaker 5: some bad body image issues, but I've grown from it.

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Speaker 1: Good.

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Speaker 3: Well that's not your always going to say or everybody

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Speaker 3: was twiggy, you had to be this big, you know

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Speaker 3: nowadays people with a full figure.

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Speaker 2: It's awesome.

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Speaker 4: I love it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So how did you get into boxing? Obviously you're

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Speaker 1: you're a fitness person, but boxing, I mean that's not

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Speaker 5: Yes, I'm of course, So I went through some things

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Speaker 5: in high school. I kind of have a similar background

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Speaker 5: to Grant. I haven't really been able to like talk

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Speaker 5: about this on the show and other you know, podcasts

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Speaker 5: and stuff, but I do have a very, very similar

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Speaker 5: upbringing with my dad, who did have some abuse issues,

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Speaker 5: and he was my coach growing up. I played soccer,

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Speaker 5: I was very very active, and then in high school

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Speaker 5: I went to a high school for a dance and

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Speaker 5: I just I fell out.

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Speaker 5: I loved it. And then I was like fifteen, sixteen,

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Speaker 2: You know, dating somebody that does it though, what.

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Speaker 1: I would know that is that important to you to

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Speaker 5: But now being like thirty one, that's there's more to

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Speaker 5: I want to have a life. So for me, I

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Speaker 5: A lot of peak times, I feel like guys approached

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Speaker 4: Jim, Like, I live it all day.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, do you have a romantic side of you? Are you?

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Speaker 3: Like you know how they say you wear hard on

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Speaker 4: A little bit of both.

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Speaker 5: I've been told that I'm pretty tough or intimidating, which

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Speaker 1: I just think, raise your hand if you are intimidating

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Speaker 2: That's all we hear.

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Speaker 5: I'm where, which I feel like is a good thing

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Speaker 4: Do I wear my heart in my sleeve. Not all

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Speaker 5: I am sensitive and if something is bothering me or

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Speaker 5: if you're doing something I love, I will tell you,

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Speaker 4: I like to take my time. I don't like to

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Speaker 1: So so what okay, So you said you'll date a

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Speaker 1: a joke. What what pollies? What are you looking for

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Speaker 1: in a date? And are you dating? Let's just stop

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Speaker 5: So it's been a while, yeah, like dating here and there?

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Speaker 5: You know, I feel like it's really hard right now

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Speaker 4: Have I been dating yet? Here and there?

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Speaker 5: I've gone on a couple of dates, but I'm just

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Speaker 2: It does.

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Speaker 3: I'm truth to that. But how about your dms? Like,

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Speaker 3: remember Kathy and I talked about this one hundred times.

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Speaker 3: Somebody said, oh my gosh, you're gonna be get millions

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Speaker 3: of them. We did, Okay, you did, You didn't.

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Speaker 1: We did not. We got dms. We got dms from

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Speaker 3: But I think the problem was the social media thing.

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Speaker 3: A lot of people our age do not get on.

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Speaker 3: They don't even know what Instagram is. Yeah, I know,

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Speaker 3: you might imagine your boxes.

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Speaker 5: First of all, my mom is probably your age too,

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Speaker 5: And when she looks at a picture, I'm like, don't

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Speaker 4: Yeah, my d MS, I don't know. I have with

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Speaker 5: I'm lazy, Like I have like a lot of notifications,

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Speaker 5: but honestly, a lot of college kids have messaged me,

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Speaker 5: like guys and girls, and they're like, can you come

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Speaker 4: Can you come to do this recording of that?

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Speaker 3: But yeah, consider the considered dating somebody that you read

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Speaker 2: Would you know?

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Speaker 5: I need to see them in person. I'm so about personality.

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Speaker 1: Okay, that's my question. What are the palities? Personalities? Tell

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Speaker 5: Guy, I'm looking for somebody who is very close to

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Speaker 5: If you're not close with your family, that's okay, But

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Speaker 5: I'm super close with mine. So if you're dating me,

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Speaker 5: you're like also dating.

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Speaker 4: My mom and my sister.

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Speaker 5: We Like, my sister was going on a date the

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Speaker 5: I'm really close with my mom and my sister. So

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Speaker 4: Friend and that I can rely on.

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Speaker 5: I feel like I'm a very reliable person and I

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Speaker 5: I just want I want to be able to have

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Speaker 5: that's hard to find. Yeah, and somebody that just can

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Speaker 4: I want to be able to do everything with somebody.

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Speaker 3: On dating a Jewish man, excuse me, kay, No.

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Speaker 4: I'm not said, said on dating just a Jewish man.

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Speaker 5: I am Jewish. I am not like very religious. I

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Speaker 4: A very dull.

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Speaker 2: So it happens exactly.

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Speaker 1: Well, what I was going to say is it's I'm hearing,

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Speaker 1: a bad thing. But I'm hearing the same thing out

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Speaker 1: of your mouth. You're you're very articulate, you're beautiful, you

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Speaker 1: have a successful prayer. And what she's looking for, what

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Speaker 1: you are looking for? Ali Joe. It sounds like the

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Speaker 1: it's in some ways the generations just are the same.

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Speaker 1: We're looking for the same thing.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and they're out there.

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Speaker 2: I gotta believe that they're I want to be challenged.

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Speaker 5: I want to be challenged too, Like I want somebody

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Speaker 4: But I love a challenge.

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Speaker 5: So someone who can keep me in my toes is

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Speaker 5: very I said, that's I said, that's a grand because

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Speaker 4: Really tall, but like literally, I do want you to

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Speaker 4: keep me on my toes and like, how are you?

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Speaker 1: How tall are you?

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Speaker 2: Girls? Small and mighty?

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Speaker 3: How about that?

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Speaker 1: Was gonna say, drum roll, drum roll together, Susan, would

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Speaker 1: you do paradise? And want you go? I'll go.

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Speaker 3: We heard the announcement that I know, like they better call.

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Speaker 4: Ladies go all go.

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Speaker 3: I don't know, Joe.

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Speaker 1: Here's the thing, Susan, I am not standing next to her.

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Speaker 3: I'm going because she's gonna work out with you and

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Speaker 5: Yeah, we'll work out and then we'll like have like

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Speaker 1: I love this, Okay. All we got to do is

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Speaker 1: do you want to see? Their alle jobs? Besides us?

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Speaker 1: Who else would you like to see?

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Speaker 3: Is there anybody in particular you'd like to be or

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Speaker 5: I'm not sure because like I did take us off

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Speaker 4: So I kind of just want to, like, if I

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Speaker 1: It's not a so you're not going to give us

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Speaker 1: But Ali, Joe, what guys would you like to see there?

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Speaker 2: I'm not sure I.

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Speaker 5: Have to if I was to go, I kind of

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Speaker 4: Do I find some people attractive?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, absolutely, of course, But to me, it's personality is

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Speaker 3: Not be got new people, new faces, people you've never

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Speaker 2: Know what I'm saying. Yeah, would you be over mean

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Or you meet lots of strangers and they become

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Speaker 1: Do you want kids? I mean, tell me what, like,

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Speaker 4: Like a kid or two.

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Speaker 5: And it's so crazy because I've always had like a

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Speaker 5: plan for myself and I feel like right now, thirty one,

446
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Speaker 5: I'm actually a little nervous because I don't necessarily have

447
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Speaker 5: like a five year plan. I'm very gold oriented and

448
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Speaker 5: I like to set goals and there's no ceilings. But

449
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Speaker 5: you know, in the next three years at least, I would,

450
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Speaker 5: of course want to be married on a house. I

451
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Speaker 5: would like to live, you know, somewhere warm. That's kind

452
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Speaker 5: of why I moved out of Jersey. And I definitely

453
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Speaker 5: do want a family, probably two kids, and I just

454
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Speaker 5: want to be happy and.

455
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Speaker 3: Be able to hear.

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Speaker 1: It sounds to me like she's just going with the

457
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Speaker 1: flow right now.

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Speaker 4: For once in my life. I'm going with the flow,

459
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Speaker 4: which is not normal for me.

460
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Speaker 3: But that's a good thing. That keeps you healthy, that

461
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Speaker 3: keeps you ave.

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Speaker 1: And like you just said, when you least expect.

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Speaker 2: It's true.

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Speaker 3: All right, guys, So before we get into our listeners

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Speaker 3: what they wrote in, we're going to start with Kathy

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Speaker 3: and I call the question of the day.

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Speaker 1: All right, here we go, Ali, Joe, what do you

468
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Speaker 1: think are the most important qualities to look for in

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Speaker 1: a potential partner? You sort of answered a little bit,

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Speaker 1: but I want more specifics here. Okay, I'm drilling.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, someone that's Trustworthyes, again, I said before. Somebody that

472
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Speaker 5: is reliable, someone that's outgoing, doesn't take things like to

473
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Speaker 5: seriously and has like a fun side, but like not

474
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Speaker 5: too fun. You do there are parts of life that

475
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Speaker 5: you need to take seriously. Someone that can support me,

476
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Speaker 5: you know, not like emotionally, and someone that allows me

477
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Speaker 5: to be independent because I am independent and I think

478
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Speaker 5: that's what I struggle with finding someone is that I

479
00:20:15,440 --> 00:20:18,240
Speaker 5: am sometimes too independent, which isn't a bad thing, but

480
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Speaker 5: I want somebody to be able to kind of crack

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Speaker 5: that for me.

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Speaker 4: I'm used to doing everything for myself.

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Speaker 3: Okay, somebody who loves it and is involved with this family,

484
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Speaker 3: because you had said that earlier as well, So I

485
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Speaker 3: don't think we're different.

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Speaker 1: Well, I was just gonna say, Ali, Joe, what many

487
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Speaker 1: of what you just said? So I'm looking not I'm

488
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Speaker 1: not looking to start a family. Let's start there. You know.

489
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Speaker 1: I'm not looking, thank god, thank god I have three

490
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Speaker 1: and I'm taking it at that. But I am also looking,

491
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Speaker 1: and you're about to get the same questionnaire. I'm also

492
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Speaker 1: looking for the guy who is kind. I am just

493
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Speaker 1: like you. I'm I'm ohoops, I'm smart, I'm outspoken. Sometimes

494
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Speaker 1: I say what I think, But like you, I can

495
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Speaker 1: tell I have a kind heart too, So I'm looking

496
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Speaker 1: for guy that recognizes that in me and isn't put

497
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Speaker 1: off by my you know, my my mouth that just

498
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Speaker 1: sometimes runs away with me. And a kind man and

499
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Speaker 1: a man I want to spoil him, you want to

500
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Speaker 1: spoil me. We're looking for the same things. What about you, Susan,

501
00:21:15,760 --> 00:21:18,119
Speaker 1: I'm just about to have a sense of humor and.

502
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Speaker 2: A kind heart.

503
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Speaker 3: Just somebody that loves me for me, for who I

504
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Speaker 3: am and accepts the big personality and the type a.

505
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Speaker 1: Somebody just said me, Yeah, somebody just yeah, someone just

506
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Speaker 1: said to you and me, Susan. I don't know, but

507
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Speaker 1: Ali Joe, I bet you're exactly the same. When you

508
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Speaker 1: meet a guy and they say to you, you know, wow,

509
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Speaker 1: you're a lot, which I get that from, then you're

510
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Speaker 1: a lot. You're you're smart, you're funny, but you know,

511
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Speaker 1: you're a little intimidating. I never had interpret that, nobody. Oh,

512
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Speaker 1: I've had I've had a couple of men intimidating words.

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Speaker 4: You, I've had some things.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you know what, do you know what the answer

515
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Speaker 1: to that is? Then I guess you're not the guy

516
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Speaker 1: for me. If you're intimidated by me.

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Speaker 5: It's how simple is that somebody else love you for

518
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Speaker 5: who you are. I always say that when like one

519
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Speaker 5: door closes, guess what, then there's another one.

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Speaker 3: I don't.

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Speaker 4: I don't.

522
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Speaker 5: I don't ever want to settle in my life, in

523
00:22:17,320 --> 00:22:20,479
Speaker 5: my relationships, friendships, anything, I will never settle.

524
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Speaker 4: So I'll know when I find that person.

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Speaker 1: That's my first Okay, And here's the line. If you're

526
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Speaker 1: too much, they're not enough.

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Speaker 4: May I love that?

528
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Speaker 1: Right? I just made that up in my head. I

529
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Speaker 1: just came to me.

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Speaker 4: I'm going to steal that. I'm gonna put it in

531
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Speaker 4: my Instagram.

532
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Speaker 1: I may or may not have stolen it, Ali Joe,

533
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Speaker 1: I'm just kidding. Okay, So we're going to give some

534
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Speaker 1: advice and that this are our listeners writing questions, and we're.

535
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Speaker 2: Going to ask you how you yes advice.

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Speaker 3: Okay, I'll read the first one, and this is from

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Speaker 3: anonymous hie ladies. I need your help. I really need help. Lately,

538
00:23:00,680 --> 00:23:03,280
Speaker 3: my boyfriend of three years has been making a ton

539
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Speaker 3: of jokes about wanting to hook up with his best

540
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Speaker 3: friend's sister. He says it all the time, and he's

541
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Speaker 3: done so many times. Right, in front of me and

542
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Speaker 3: my friends. He makes crude jokes a lot, so that's

543
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Speaker 3: not the issue. I just feel like this is crossing

544
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Speaker 3: a line. I started to tear up one time, and

545
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Speaker 3: he apologized and said, it's just a joke. Relax, Am

546
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Speaker 3: I overreacting? Thank you so much, Love you ladies.

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Speaker 1: WHOA okay.

548
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Speaker 2: Your first?

549
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Speaker 4: That is a joke.

550
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Speaker 5: That's not funny, first of all, So like, go read

551
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Speaker 5: a book or a comedy book and find other jokes,

552
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Speaker 5: because that's not funny.

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Speaker 4: Number one, lot of numbers too.

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Speaker 5: If it was me in that position, I wouldn't mean

555
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Speaker 5: I wouldn't hopefully be that, but like I would go

556
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Speaker 5: to the girl that he's talking about and say like, hey.

557
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Speaker 3: Going on here?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I would just go straight to her and be like,

559
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Speaker 4: what's going on?

560
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Speaker 5: Because once you say something multiple times, it's kind of like, okay,

561
00:24:03,040 --> 00:24:05,240
Speaker 5: said it so many times it's like believable at this point.

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Speaker 4: So like I would go right to her the girl.

563
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Speaker 1: Wait, he doesn't. Yeah, he doesn't say he doesn't. This

564
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Speaker 1: doesn't say there no, right, she doesn't know the girl

565
00:24:18,760 --> 00:24:22,800
Speaker 1: that we're in questionnaire. We're not sure if she knows,

566
00:24:23,280 --> 00:24:23,840
Speaker 1: why would.

567
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Speaker 5: Pull her aside or pick up the phone and say, hey,

568
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Speaker 5: just have like a question, you know, and it's okay

569
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Speaker 5: if this has happened, have you ever hooked up with

570
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Speaker 5: my boyfriend whatever?

571
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Speaker 3: She didn't think he's already done it and you want

572
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Speaker 3: to question. Oh okay, so I read it too. He's

573
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Speaker 3: in front of friends, they're all together all the time,

574
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Speaker 3: and he constantly says, yeah, I want to hook up

575
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Speaker 3: with such and such a girlfriend.

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Speaker 1: Okay. Can I be the elephant in the room here? Yes,

577
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Speaker 1: go Ali, Joe, you hinted at it. I don't think

578
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Speaker 1: i'd be with a guy who made those kinds of

579
00:24:55,400 --> 00:24:58,399
Speaker 1: when she said, he makes crude jokes and that's not

580
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Speaker 1: the issue. Did you see me nod for me? That

581
00:25:00,600 --> 00:25:03,480
Speaker 1: would be an issue. I don't want a man who's crude.

582
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Speaker 1: I don't want a man who's making jokes about hooking

583
00:25:06,800 --> 00:25:11,280
Speaker 1: up with anybody. I don't think it's funny. So I

584
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Speaker 1: probably wouldn't be with him.

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Speaker 4: To me, it's like on you fool me twice, Shame

586
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Speaker 4: on me.

587
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Speaker 5: My mom always like tak me if you're sorry to

588
00:25:18,800 --> 00:25:21,880
Speaker 5: see things in the beginning that you don't like, it's

589
00:25:21,920 --> 00:25:25,159
Speaker 5: not like to change and you there's some things that

590
00:25:25,200 --> 00:25:27,040
Speaker 5: as a woman you could like change in a guy,

591
00:25:27,119 --> 00:25:31,160
Speaker 5: like the clothes he wears sometimes, but like personality things.

592
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Speaker 1: You are so smart to know that people can I

593
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Speaker 1: tell you how many? Uh, I'm honestly amazed that you're

594
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Speaker 1: only thirty one because you're wisdom. No, I'm serious, your

595
00:25:43,000 --> 00:25:47,720
Speaker 1: wisdom belies your years. So many women, my daughter's friends,

596
00:25:48,720 --> 00:25:52,280
Speaker 1: they think that they're going to change a guy. And

597
00:25:52,320 --> 00:25:54,920
Speaker 1: you're right, you can get, maybe on a good day,

598
00:25:54,920 --> 00:25:57,040
Speaker 1: to put his socks in the hamper. But if you

599
00:25:57,119 --> 00:26:01,000
Speaker 1: think you're going to change his basic characters, that is.

600
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Speaker 3: Not You're barking up the wrong tree. And like you said,

601
00:26:04,359 --> 00:26:07,159
Speaker 3: a red flag is a red flag, they're not. So

602
00:26:07,520 --> 00:26:11,720
Speaker 3: you can alter some things. And I would definitely to

603
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Speaker 3: Anonymous who wrote into us, thank you so much, what

604
00:26:15,240 --> 00:26:17,879
Speaker 3: I would do is nip it in the button.

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Speaker 2: He cannot do that anymore. That's a deal breaker for you.

606
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Speaker 2: That's a deal breaker, he continues, seriously.

607
00:26:27,520 --> 00:26:29,760
Speaker 5: It's a deal breaker for me too, because like, also,

608
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Speaker 5: why are you keep saying this about the girl?

609
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Speaker 4: Like are you thinking about her?

610
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Speaker 5: Like you should be thinking about me if I'm your

611
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Speaker 5: significant other.

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Speaker 1: Right, it's not funny. People say things all the time.

613
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Speaker 1: You know, and then they think if they add on

614
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Speaker 1: the tagline, it's just a joke.

615
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Speaker 6: It's just that right there, it's not okay, it's not jokes,

616
00:26:54,359 --> 00:26:56,360
Speaker 6: all right, And you don't get to have me, then

617
00:26:56,560 --> 00:26:59,200
Speaker 6: that's all right, and that's their loss.

618
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Speaker 3: And then some people would say anonymous, then you do

619
00:27:03,840 --> 00:27:06,359
Speaker 3: what he does, and see how it feels that.

620
00:27:06,520 --> 00:27:07,160
Speaker 2: I don't believe.

621
00:27:07,840 --> 00:27:09,120
Speaker 4: I don't being spiteful.

622
00:27:09,359 --> 00:27:13,360
Speaker 2: No, does it make you feel better? Right?

623
00:27:13,400 --> 00:27:15,680
Speaker 3: No? See, it's not a game.

624
00:27:16,080 --> 00:27:17,120
Speaker 4: It's not a game either.

625
00:27:17,200 --> 00:27:18,760
Speaker 5: Like I feel like a lot of people play games,

626
00:27:18,760 --> 00:27:20,840
Speaker 5: whether they've been with somebody for like a year or

627
00:27:20,960 --> 00:27:23,800
Speaker 5: like before they're seriously dating, Like I hate the games.

628
00:27:23,840 --> 00:27:26,159
Speaker 5: Like some people are like, oh, he just texted me,

629
00:27:26,200 --> 00:27:28,000
Speaker 5: I need to wait an hour before I answer me.

630
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Speaker 4: I'm god right now, I don't have time to wait

631
00:27:31,640 --> 00:27:31,920
Speaker 4: an hour.

632
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Speaker 5: We are all I'm multitasking all day long. I don't

633
00:27:35,359 --> 00:27:36,760
Speaker 5: have time to like go back and be like, oh,

634
00:27:36,880 --> 00:27:39,000
Speaker 5: because I don't forget to answer you.

635
00:27:39,680 --> 00:27:43,080
Speaker 4: Yes, yeah, I don't care. I'm like, I'm going to

636
00:27:43,160 --> 00:27:43,800
Speaker 4: answer you right now.

637
00:27:44,119 --> 00:27:46,600
Speaker 3: I'll do it first too. I don't care too. I

638
00:27:46,600 --> 00:27:47,960
Speaker 3: don't care either.

639
00:27:55,880 --> 00:27:57,160
Speaker 1: Have you asked a guy out?

640
00:27:58,080 --> 00:27:59,960
Speaker 5: No, So I do a draw line. I will never ask.

641
00:28:00,000 --> 00:28:01,760
Speaker 5: I won't approach a man first. I won't ask a

642
00:28:01,800 --> 00:28:04,760
Speaker 5: guy first the first like date, two dates, I.

643
00:28:04,680 --> 00:28:06,560
Speaker 4: Will have him like reach out. Well, I won't have him.

644
00:28:06,600 --> 00:28:08,040
Speaker 5: I would like for him to reach out to me,

645
00:28:08,320 --> 00:28:10,920
Speaker 5: but I have no problem texting somebody being like, yeah,

646
00:28:11,480 --> 00:28:14,119
Speaker 5: how's going that. I don't think that's weird. But I

647
00:28:14,160 --> 00:28:16,080
Speaker 5: won't ask the guy out the first couple of times.

648
00:28:16,080 --> 00:28:18,480
Speaker 1: Do you pay way? Do you pay on a first date?

649
00:28:18,560 --> 00:28:19,400
Speaker 1: Do you offer to pay?

650
00:28:20,520 --> 00:28:22,800
Speaker 5: I have before, yes, And I've been told from men

651
00:28:22,840 --> 00:28:27,040
Speaker 5: that they really appreciate that, especially down here, and I

652
00:28:27,080 --> 00:28:31,160
Speaker 5: don't know why. I just think it's a respectful thing.

653
00:28:31,440 --> 00:28:33,840
Speaker 5: And I don't ever want to come across a certain

654
00:28:33,880 --> 00:28:36,320
Speaker 5: type of way. So I just think it's it's the

655
00:28:36,440 --> 00:28:38,960
Speaker 5: I feel comfortable doing it. I would feel uncomfortable sometimes if.

656
00:28:38,920 --> 00:28:40,719
Speaker 4: I didn't have. I done it on every first date

657
00:28:40,720 --> 00:28:41,960
Speaker 4: i've been on. Absolutely not.

658
00:28:42,040 --> 00:28:43,720
Speaker 5: But there have been instances, probably when I was a

659
00:28:43,720 --> 00:28:45,280
Speaker 5: little bit younger, that I did it.

660
00:28:45,320 --> 00:28:47,040
Speaker 4: Now that I'm older, I really I haven't done it.

661
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Speaker 1: Okay since an I'm depressed. Now I'm depressed because look

662
00:28:50,160 --> 00:28:54,000
Speaker 1: at her. She's beautiful, she's smart, she's wise, and.

663
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Speaker 3: I have a son.

664
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Speaker 2: I don't know what the age thing is.

665
00:29:01,320 --> 00:29:01,880
Speaker 4: How old is it?

666
00:29:02,280 --> 00:29:04,080
Speaker 2: He's thirty and beautiful?

667
00:29:04,680 --> 00:29:06,720
Speaker 3: Oh okay, beautyful.

668
00:29:07,280 --> 00:29:09,440
Speaker 4: Well you're beautiful. So we got it from his mama.

669
00:29:09,840 --> 00:29:13,840
Speaker 1: Look at her. We're gonna we're just having so much

670
00:29:13,840 --> 00:29:15,240
Speaker 1: troub with you. We're going to do this scene where

671
00:29:15,280 --> 00:29:19,080
Speaker 1: we're gonna just you know, uh, get dig a little deeper,

672
00:29:19,400 --> 00:29:24,120
Speaker 1: take a little deeper. Here we go. So what what

673
00:29:25,040 --> 00:29:28,080
Speaker 1: musician because we probably don't know who they are anyway

674
00:29:28,160 --> 00:29:30,920
Speaker 1: this world. But what musician would you love to see

675
00:29:30,960 --> 00:29:31,720
Speaker 1: perform live?

676
00:29:32,960 --> 00:29:34,520
Speaker 4: Ooh, I would love to see Morgan Wallan.

677
00:29:34,600 --> 00:29:37,760
Speaker 1: I really oh. I love Morgan wallet you're a country fan.

678
00:29:38,440 --> 00:29:40,400
Speaker 5: Yeah, I like all kinds of music, honestly. I like

679
00:29:40,440 --> 00:29:42,680
Speaker 5: old music like I like the Dowie Brothers, I like

680
00:29:42,720 --> 00:29:46,640
Speaker 5: Earthwind and Fire like Oh My Girls, I like Whitney Houston.

681
00:29:46,680 --> 00:29:48,640
Speaker 5: I love nineties music like I really, I really do.

682
00:29:48,760 --> 00:29:51,000
Speaker 5: I am an old soul. I've always been told that

683
00:29:51,440 --> 00:29:54,640
Speaker 5: I freaking love eighties, seventies dance music like all that stuff.

684
00:29:55,160 --> 00:29:55,840
Speaker 2: I still do.

685
00:29:55,960 --> 00:29:56,400
Speaker 3: I still do.

686
00:29:56,600 --> 00:29:57,080
Speaker 1: I do too.

687
00:29:57,160 --> 00:30:00,479
Speaker 5: I have a nineties playlist, but I would I am tree,

688
00:30:00,600 --> 00:30:01,920
Speaker 5: So I would love to see Morgan Wall and.

689
00:30:02,200 --> 00:30:07,000
Speaker 3: Comfort, any pot country the more modern tree. Yes, yes, yes, Okay.

690
00:30:07,200 --> 00:30:11,400
Speaker 3: So how do you unwine after a long day?

691
00:30:11,720 --> 00:30:12,600
Speaker 2: What is your thing?

692
00:30:13,800 --> 00:30:16,360
Speaker 5: I like to bake banana bread, which I actually just

693
00:30:16,440 --> 00:30:18,720
Speaker 5: did and I did it and I did it in

694
00:30:18,800 --> 00:30:19,960
Speaker 5: the mansion and I gave it to.

695
00:30:19,960 --> 00:30:21,000
Speaker 4: All the girls in the cameraman.

696
00:30:21,080 --> 00:30:22,840
Speaker 5: But after a long day, I will sit on the

697
00:30:22,880 --> 00:30:26,840
Speaker 5: couch and I watch reality television, mainly The Real Housewives.

698
00:30:26,880 --> 00:30:28,880
Speaker 4: I watched all them. I just watched What Really Was

699
00:30:28,960 --> 00:30:32,360
Speaker 4: last night. I just love The Real Housewives. Honestly.

700
00:30:33,320 --> 00:30:35,080
Speaker 2: Do you know Kim Zoliac Right?

701
00:30:35,680 --> 00:30:37,880
Speaker 3: I just did a show that's coming out in April,

702
00:30:38,000 --> 00:30:40,560
Speaker 3: and I got to be in the same place with Kimp.

703
00:30:40,720 --> 00:30:41,920
Speaker 2: She was so fun.

704
00:30:42,240 --> 00:30:45,560
Speaker 5: That a lot of people have a lot of people

705
00:30:45,600 --> 00:30:47,280
Speaker 5: in Jersey that I know how to make up artists

706
00:30:47,280 --> 00:30:48,880
Speaker 5: that our friends and stuff have done some of their

707
00:30:48,920 --> 00:30:51,360
Speaker 5: makeup and stuff. I've never met The Jersey Housewives, and

708
00:30:51,760 --> 00:30:53,880
Speaker 5: not even because I'm from Jersey. That's just my favorite,

709
00:30:54,400 --> 00:30:55,800
Speaker 5: like franchise is the Jersey One.

710
00:30:56,400 --> 00:30:56,920
Speaker 2: I love it.

711
00:30:57,320 --> 00:30:57,600
Speaker 1: Okay.

712
00:30:57,800 --> 00:30:58,560
Speaker 2: So what.

713
00:31:00,640 --> 00:31:03,160
Speaker 1: It's something? Because you seem like you've done a lot

714
00:31:03,240 --> 00:31:05,560
Speaker 1: in your life, what's something you've always wanted to do,

715
00:31:06,040 --> 00:31:09,680
Speaker 1: but you haven't done yet, And frankly, why haven't you

716
00:31:09,840 --> 00:31:11,720
Speaker 1: done it? You know, what is that thing that you

717
00:31:11,840 --> 00:31:12,520
Speaker 1: haven't done yet?

718
00:31:13,240 --> 00:31:14,600
Speaker 4: Something I haven't done?

719
00:31:14,640 --> 00:31:15,200
Speaker 1: What you want?

720
00:31:15,320 --> 00:31:17,800
Speaker 5: The first thing that has come to mind is traveled

721
00:31:17,840 --> 00:31:21,040
Speaker 5: to Italy with my partner, Like I just really want

722
00:31:21,080 --> 00:31:24,640
Speaker 5: to go to Sisily and travel all of Italy with somebody.

723
00:31:24,680 --> 00:31:26,240
Speaker 5: I went with my mom and my sister, but I

724
00:31:26,320 --> 00:31:27,680
Speaker 5: was like, when I come back, I wanted to be

725
00:31:27,800 --> 00:31:28,640
Speaker 5: like romantic and.

726
00:31:28,680 --> 00:31:31,320
Speaker 4: Be with my person, like that is I love.

727
00:31:31,800 --> 00:31:34,600
Speaker 1: I can't this, So I went. I took my family

728
00:31:34,760 --> 00:31:38,600
Speaker 1: last year for my birthday to celebrate, and we had

729
00:31:38,680 --> 00:31:42,719
Speaker 1: the best time. My son in law is italianis families

730
00:31:42,760 --> 00:31:45,160
Speaker 1: from Sicily, so we had a great time, but the

731
00:31:45,200 --> 00:31:47,120
Speaker 1: whole but not the whole time because I loved being

732
00:31:47,120 --> 00:31:49,720
Speaker 1: with my family. But I was like, this would be

733
00:31:49,840 --> 00:31:52,800
Speaker 1: so romantic if I had a partner, hair with resolutely

734
00:31:53,200 --> 00:31:54,000
Speaker 1: I love my family.

735
00:31:54,680 --> 00:31:57,520
Speaker 3: I went on a e prey love solo trip to

736
00:31:57,640 --> 00:31:59,920
Speaker 3: Italy for fifteen days. When I got off the planet

737
00:32:00,080 --> 00:32:02,400
Speaker 3: was thinking what the hell did I just do? And

738
00:32:02,920 --> 00:32:06,760
Speaker 3: just like both of you were saying, every couple hours,

739
00:32:06,880 --> 00:32:10,200
Speaker 3: I had a moment, this would be so special if

740
00:32:10,400 --> 00:32:13,800
Speaker 3: I had my person with me, I still enjoyed every

741
00:32:13,840 --> 00:32:14,240
Speaker 3: minute of it.

742
00:32:14,320 --> 00:32:15,720
Speaker 4: It was like, not.

743
00:32:17,640 --> 00:32:19,080
Speaker 1: Have you done solo traveling?

744
00:32:20,400 --> 00:32:20,440
Speaker 2: No?

745
00:32:20,600 --> 00:32:21,040
Speaker 3: I haven't.

746
00:32:21,120 --> 00:32:23,600
Speaker 4: That's something I haven't done either. Yeah.

747
00:32:23,760 --> 00:32:25,880
Speaker 5: Like people are even like you can go sit a girl,

748
00:32:25,960 --> 00:32:27,320
Speaker 5: can go sit at a bar, like at a nice

749
00:32:27,320 --> 00:32:28,640
Speaker 5: golf course, and like, go have a drink and a

750
00:32:28,640 --> 00:32:29,320
Speaker 5: guy I'll pick you up.

751
00:32:29,440 --> 00:32:30,440
Speaker 4: Like I don't feel comfortable.

752
00:32:31,240 --> 00:32:34,800
Speaker 2: True, people tell me to.

753
00:32:34,880 --> 00:32:37,040
Speaker 4: Do that, like go bring your laptop and go do work,

754
00:32:37,080 --> 00:32:38,080
Speaker 4: and like a guy will find you.

755
00:32:38,200 --> 00:32:43,440
Speaker 1: And I'm like, no, are your friends? Wait? Do you wait?

756
00:32:43,520 --> 00:32:45,560
Speaker 1: Do you not a friend setting you up? Ali? Joe?

757
00:32:45,640 --> 00:32:48,680
Speaker 1: I mean I'm really not blowing hot air? You know

758
00:32:48,800 --> 00:32:52,600
Speaker 1: where you are absolutely stunning. I do you feel like

759
00:32:52,720 --> 00:32:54,920
Speaker 1: men are afraid to ask you out? Or what's you know?

760
00:32:54,960 --> 00:32:57,280
Speaker 4: Do you have a friend listen? I don't know.

761
00:32:57,480 --> 00:32:59,400
Speaker 5: Like my family like me and my sister are the

762
00:32:59,480 --> 00:33:01,680
Speaker 5: only ones we are not married, engaged to have kids,

763
00:33:01,720 --> 00:33:03,760
Speaker 5: And they're like why, I'm like, I don't know. If

764
00:33:03,800 --> 00:33:05,840
Speaker 5: I knew, I would not be single. And I've been

765
00:33:05,920 --> 00:33:07,560
Speaker 5: on a television show to find a man because I

766
00:33:07,600 --> 00:33:09,720
Speaker 5: need to find them. They're I don't know what it

767
00:33:09,840 --> 00:33:11,840
Speaker 5: is me and it's not like I have like these

768
00:33:11,960 --> 00:33:14,160
Speaker 5: crazy requirements like somebody did say to me.

769
00:33:14,240 --> 00:33:17,280
Speaker 4: They're like, you must have crazy, you must have a list,

770
00:33:17,440 --> 00:33:19,960
Speaker 4: or like high expectations. And I'm like, I actually really don't.

771
00:33:21,080 --> 00:33:25,160
Speaker 3: You repeating what we've said, and it makes me believe

772
00:33:25,320 --> 00:33:28,400
Speaker 3: once again, Kathy, just like I was told and you

773
00:33:28,560 --> 00:33:33,880
Speaker 3: were told, men are intimidated by your beauty, by your strength,

774
00:33:34,120 --> 00:33:35,400
Speaker 3: by they're just.

775
00:33:35,480 --> 00:33:40,240
Speaker 1: A thank you, Susan, oh, Joe, both of you. Thank you.

776
00:33:40,320 --> 00:33:41,040
Speaker 4: I appreciate it.

777
00:33:41,120 --> 00:33:41,480
Speaker 1: I really do.

778
00:33:41,760 --> 00:33:42,400
Speaker 2: I'm serious.

779
00:33:43,040 --> 00:33:47,240
Speaker 3: Okay, Now I have one what's one piece of advice

780
00:33:47,480 --> 00:33:52,200
Speaker 3: that you've always kept within you? Someone gave you a

781
00:33:52,320 --> 00:33:54,600
Speaker 3: piece of advice and you've never forgotten it.

782
00:33:55,440 --> 00:33:57,440
Speaker 4: You can't make someone else happy until you're happy.

783
00:33:57,480 --> 00:33:59,600
Speaker 5: I learned that, like with my parents, I love you,

784
00:34:00,240 --> 00:34:03,000
Speaker 5: and you don't know what happens behind closed doors, because

785
00:34:03,000 --> 00:34:05,360
Speaker 5: when I was little, I would compare like my family

786
00:34:05,520 --> 00:34:09,239
Speaker 5: dynamic or my body like to other people, and people

787
00:34:09,320 --> 00:34:12,160
Speaker 5: seem perfect. And you know, twenty years later now that

788
00:34:12,239 --> 00:34:14,520
Speaker 5: social media is a big thing, Like you know, not

789
00:34:14,680 --> 00:34:17,000
Speaker 5: everything is always what it seems, And you can't make

790
00:34:17,080 --> 00:34:19,799
Speaker 5: anybody happy until you feel fulfilled and you feel good

791
00:34:19,840 --> 00:34:22,759
Speaker 5: in your life. And then I feel like if you

792
00:34:22,880 --> 00:34:25,640
Speaker 5: reradiate positivity and good energy, you get that in return.

793
00:34:25,880 --> 00:34:26,000
Speaker 1: Yea.

794
00:34:26,040 --> 00:34:28,200
Speaker 5: And I feel like a lot of people don't think

795
00:34:28,280 --> 00:34:29,680
Speaker 5: that from me, if they don't know me, if they've

796
00:34:29,719 --> 00:34:31,800
Speaker 5: only seen me on social media or television. But like

797
00:34:32,080 --> 00:34:34,719
Speaker 5: my real people, my clients, like, I love to give

798
00:34:34,840 --> 00:34:37,359
Speaker 5: good energy and I like to surround myself with positive people.

799
00:34:37,760 --> 00:34:41,719
Speaker 2: So I won't surround myself with negativity. Absolutely not.

800
00:34:42,080 --> 00:34:43,000
Speaker 4: I mean, I'll exit.

801
00:34:43,440 --> 00:34:46,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, it just it just sucks the literally sucks the

802
00:34:46,840 --> 00:34:49,080
Speaker 1: air out of the room. Yes, Okay. One of my

803
00:34:49,480 --> 00:34:52,680
Speaker 1: favorite questions that I love to ask is I guess

804
00:34:52,719 --> 00:34:55,080
Speaker 1: because I was a writer, I knew you were going

805
00:34:55,160 --> 00:34:55,480
Speaker 1: to take that.

806
00:34:55,600 --> 00:34:58,239
Speaker 4: Well, my degree is we're so similar. My degree from

807
00:34:58,280 --> 00:34:59,120
Speaker 4: college is English.

808
00:34:59,120 --> 00:35:00,719
Speaker 3: And I love me too.

809
00:35:01,920 --> 00:35:04,440
Speaker 1: I'm telling you, I just if I just if I

810
00:35:04,640 --> 00:35:08,520
Speaker 1: just were your height and your weight and your beauty,

811
00:35:08,719 --> 00:35:11,320
Speaker 1: I'd have it all. Okay, what would the title of

812
00:35:11,400 --> 00:35:12,520
Speaker 1: your autobiography be?

813
00:35:13,920 --> 00:35:15,120
Speaker 4: A Cup of Joe? That's me?

814
00:35:16,440 --> 00:35:20,680
Speaker 1: Oh that's a great title. Yeah, you must have thought

815
00:35:20,719 --> 00:35:22,200
Speaker 1: that through. That didn't just come to you.

816
00:35:22,719 --> 00:35:25,319
Speaker 5: Well, it's my Instagram handle, but it did start by

817
00:35:25,480 --> 00:35:27,239
Speaker 5: I had a blog called A Cup of Joe.

818
00:35:27,280 --> 00:35:28,680
Speaker 4: I have a mug called a cup of Joe of

819
00:35:28,719 --> 00:35:29,240
Speaker 4: a jacket.

820
00:35:29,440 --> 00:35:31,240
Speaker 5: It was kind of like, it's kind of like my brand,

821
00:35:31,400 --> 00:35:34,000
Speaker 5: so that yeah, and I'll tell you a little bit

822
00:35:34,000 --> 00:35:36,080
Speaker 5: about it. So basically, where a cup of Joe comes

823
00:35:36,120 --> 00:35:37,400
Speaker 5: from is my name is Ali Joe. A lot of

824
00:35:37,440 --> 00:35:40,960
Speaker 5: people call me Jojo. Coffee is really expensive. I love

825
00:35:41,080 --> 00:35:44,560
Speaker 5: coffee and I'm loud, energetic, so I'm like a cup

826
00:35:44,640 --> 00:35:47,480
Speaker 5: of Joe. But what originally transparred from that was I

827
00:35:47,640 --> 00:35:51,439
Speaker 5: used to rate boutique fitness gyms in New York City,

828
00:35:51,600 --> 00:35:53,560
Speaker 5: Filly and New Jersey, and I would rate them once

829
00:35:53,640 --> 00:35:56,320
Speaker 5: a five cups of Joe, like the trainer, the workout,

830
00:35:56,440 --> 00:36:02,440
Speaker 5: the lobbies, anything, the front desk, because like coffee, I

831
00:36:02,560 --> 00:36:05,799
Speaker 5: think I love cookies, but like coffee, it's expensive once

832
00:36:05,840 --> 00:36:07,320
Speaker 5: you get all those anons, like I'll walk out of

833
00:36:07,360 --> 00:36:09,719
Speaker 5: a coffee place and spend ten bucks. So people are

834
00:36:09,719 --> 00:36:13,200
Speaker 5: intimity to go try fitness classes and they're expensive. So

835
00:36:13,400 --> 00:36:16,000
Speaker 5: I was like, there's really nobody reviewing classes. So I

836
00:36:16,080 --> 00:36:18,160
Speaker 5: started to do that, and then covid hit a couple

837
00:36:18,160 --> 00:36:19,480
Speaker 5: of months later, and I was doing it for like

838
00:36:19,560 --> 00:36:21,200
Speaker 5: online classes, and then I just.

839
00:36:21,280 --> 00:36:23,600
Speaker 4: Kind of stopped and it Cup of Joe just always stuck.

840
00:36:24,160 --> 00:36:24,960
Speaker 1: Wow, and then you.

841
00:36:25,000 --> 00:36:25,720
Speaker 2: Went to Bachelor.

842
00:36:26,320 --> 00:36:31,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, so what that's so that is an amazing accomplishment.

843
00:36:31,480 --> 00:36:34,800
Speaker 1: Is what is your greatest accomplishment so far? Because you

844
00:36:34,840 --> 00:36:35,719
Speaker 1: already accomplished?

845
00:36:36,239 --> 00:36:36,520
Speaker 2: Thank you.

846
00:36:36,680 --> 00:36:38,960
Speaker 5: I think moving to Florida by myself. I didn't know

847
00:36:39,000 --> 00:36:41,359
Speaker 5: anybody in Fort Lattery Dale. I took the leap of faith.

848
00:36:41,440 --> 00:36:44,239
Speaker 5: I literally moved everything like I found a sub lease,

849
00:36:44,640 --> 00:36:46,440
Speaker 5: figured it out where did I want to move? And

850
00:36:46,560 --> 00:36:48,719
Speaker 5: I went back to Jersey packed all my stuff up.

851
00:36:48,760 --> 00:36:50,960
Speaker 5: My mom did help me, but like my furniture, I

852
00:36:51,000 --> 00:36:52,600
Speaker 5: came down here did it by myself.

853
00:36:53,400 --> 00:36:56,920
Speaker 1: Why Dale? Why for? I mean I love Yeah, I.

854
00:36:57,000 --> 00:36:58,239
Speaker 4: Love I love it here.

855
00:36:58,640 --> 00:37:01,200
Speaker 5: I was originally actually like think of like Boca, it's

856
00:37:01,239 --> 00:37:02,080
Speaker 5: all write area.

857
00:37:02,440 --> 00:37:03,239
Speaker 1: And then this.

858
00:37:03,360 --> 00:37:05,640
Speaker 5: Opportunity came about and I pivoted because I was like,

859
00:37:05,719 --> 00:37:07,160
Speaker 5: it's new, and I, like I said earlier, I like

860
00:37:07,239 --> 00:37:09,560
Speaker 5: to be challenged. It's a young area. I was about

861
00:37:09,600 --> 00:37:11,879
Speaker 5: to be thirty years old. It's I like a city

862
00:37:11,880 --> 00:37:13,359
Speaker 5: because I used to live in Jersey City and work

863
00:37:13,360 --> 00:37:14,040
Speaker 5: in New York City.

864
00:37:14,320 --> 00:37:16,399
Speaker 4: But it's not too big of a city where you're

865
00:37:16,480 --> 00:37:17,640
Speaker 4: like overwhelmed.

866
00:37:17,880 --> 00:37:18,799
Speaker 2: Does walk down there.

867
00:37:19,040 --> 00:37:22,239
Speaker 1: Hey, Susan, we can cross Fort Lauderdale off our list.

868
00:37:22,320 --> 00:37:24,439
Speaker 1: Did you hear what Ali Joe said? It's a really

869
00:37:24,600 --> 00:37:28,120
Speaker 1: young city with young people. Yeah, it's a mixed young

870
00:37:28,360 --> 00:37:29,880
Speaker 1: become a four letter word to me.

871
00:37:31,000 --> 00:37:34,200
Speaker 4: It's mixed. It's mixed. But I'm three miles around the beach.

872
00:37:34,400 --> 00:37:36,400
Speaker 4: I'm not even a mile away from like where all

873
00:37:36,400 --> 00:37:37,480
Speaker 4: the bars and restaurants are.

874
00:37:37,600 --> 00:37:38,759
Speaker 3: So I love it.

875
00:37:38,840 --> 00:37:39,520
Speaker 4: It makes me happy.

876
00:37:40,040 --> 00:37:42,319
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a beautiful area. It really is. Yeah.

877
00:37:44,360 --> 00:37:49,800
Speaker 3: Okay, how bell do you, if any what advice would

878
00:37:49,880 --> 00:37:53,800
Speaker 3: you give to someone younger that's dating.

879
00:37:54,440 --> 00:37:57,920
Speaker 2: What could you tell them? What bit of advice I would.

880
00:37:57,719 --> 00:38:00,880
Speaker 5: Say, don't overthink every little thing that you do, or

881
00:38:01,080 --> 00:38:03,960
Speaker 5: overthink every little comment that the man says.

882
00:38:04,120 --> 00:38:08,160
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, could to Susan. Would you repeat that to Susan.

883
00:38:08,520 --> 00:38:10,279
Speaker 1: Just repeat that, say Susan.

884
00:38:10,120 --> 00:38:17,839
Speaker 5: And then Susan, don't think everything I do. I used

885
00:38:17,880 --> 00:38:19,239
Speaker 5: to do the same thing, and I do to a

886
00:38:19,320 --> 00:38:21,440
Speaker 5: certain extent. But I feel you get so caught up

887
00:38:21,480 --> 00:38:23,760
Speaker 5: in that and you get nervous. And what I've realized

888
00:38:23,800 --> 00:38:25,879
Speaker 5: is because I have dated, you know, people the last

889
00:38:25,920 --> 00:38:27,640
Speaker 5: couple of years, is that if I can't be myself

890
00:38:27,640 --> 00:38:30,560
Speaker 5: around you and you give me anxiety like this is

891
00:38:30,640 --> 00:38:33,640
Speaker 5: not going to go anywhere, and justifying and behavior that's

892
00:38:33,680 --> 00:38:34,520
Speaker 5: not justifiable.

893
00:38:34,640 --> 00:38:35,839
Speaker 1: So just be here.

894
00:38:36,120 --> 00:38:39,680
Speaker 3: Someone's love that is it not work? Not to be yourself.

895
00:38:39,719 --> 00:38:41,960
Speaker 3: You're trying to be your best person for that part.

896
00:38:42,080 --> 00:38:42,720
Speaker 2: No, I can't.

897
00:38:42,880 --> 00:38:44,719
Speaker 4: I can't. And I've been there and done that, and

898
00:38:44,760 --> 00:38:48,040
Speaker 4: that's what I've learned from It was absolutely.

899
00:38:47,719 --> 00:38:49,880
Speaker 1: And same thing on the show, you know, be yourself.

900
00:38:49,960 --> 00:38:51,520
Speaker 1: And Susan I used to look at each other on

901
00:38:51,560 --> 00:38:53,520
Speaker 1: the Golden Batch and go, how else are we going

902
00:38:53,560 --> 00:38:53,680
Speaker 1: to be?

903
00:38:54,200 --> 00:38:54,719
Speaker 3: What do you mean?

904
00:38:56,040 --> 00:38:59,919
Speaker 5: That's why Juliana and I like got along, I feel

905
00:38:59,920 --> 00:39:01,840
Speaker 5: like so well because we would have these conversations like

906
00:39:02,480 --> 00:39:04,120
Speaker 5: I'm just gonna be me, take it or leave it,

907
00:39:04,239 --> 00:39:06,600
Speaker 5: like that's just how it is. And we got along

908
00:39:06,640 --> 00:39:09,000
Speaker 5: because the first night we like literally said that to

909
00:39:09,120 --> 00:39:12,760
Speaker 5: each other. But yeah, younger people, I think, just be yourself.

910
00:39:12,840 --> 00:39:15,080
Speaker 5: Somebody is going to absolutely love it, and if they don't,

911
00:39:15,120 --> 00:39:17,359
Speaker 5: then it's a blessing in disguise and you find your person.

912
00:39:19,280 --> 00:39:22,400
Speaker 3: If you were stranded on the deserted island and you

913
00:39:22,480 --> 00:39:26,200
Speaker 3: could only bring three girls from your season, and I

914
00:39:26,280 --> 00:39:28,319
Speaker 3: think we already know Juliana is going to be one

915
00:39:28,320 --> 00:39:28,560
Speaker 3: of them.

916
00:39:29,160 --> 00:39:33,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, Juliana, Parisa.

917
00:39:32,719 --> 00:39:38,200
Speaker 2: And Vicky, Oh interesting, tell me why we just.

918
00:39:38,560 --> 00:39:41,000
Speaker 5: Became like super close. We had a super tight bond.

919
00:39:41,480 --> 00:39:44,719
Speaker 5: Vicky is an NFL cheerleader and she danced her whole life.

920
00:39:44,800 --> 00:39:46,640
Speaker 5: I dance, so we bonded on that and she was

921
00:39:46,719 --> 00:39:48,680
Speaker 5: just very like I'm me Like I remember her and

922
00:39:48,719 --> 00:39:50,960
Speaker 5: I were sitting down one time like yeah, we need

923
00:39:51,040 --> 00:39:53,880
Speaker 5: to see if we like grands Like yes, yes, like us,

924
00:39:53,920 --> 00:39:55,759
Speaker 5: but like we need to see if we like him

925
00:39:55,840 --> 00:39:58,680
Speaker 5: as well, thank you, And we had this whole conversation

926
00:39:58,840 --> 00:40:01,000
Speaker 5: about it, and Parisa is like me, she's just like

927
00:40:01,080 --> 00:40:04,200
Speaker 5: her happy self and take it or leave it, happy,

928
00:40:04,280 --> 00:40:07,200
Speaker 5: go lucky, like no drama. And I love being around

929
00:40:07,239 --> 00:40:10,040
Speaker 5: people that are like that, like they're just that's what

930
00:40:10,160 --> 00:40:10,520
Speaker 5: makes to you.

931
00:40:11,040 --> 00:40:13,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, I love it. Okay, do you have any questions

932
00:40:13,680 --> 00:40:16,560
Speaker 1: or advice for us? Because I keep saying you're you're smart,

933
00:40:16,600 --> 00:40:21,520
Speaker 1: and you have any questions or advice for us? I

934
00:40:21,560 --> 00:40:22,560
Speaker 1: would be dying to hear it.

935
00:40:22,960 --> 00:40:24,759
Speaker 5: Well, I want to house like your dating life, like

936
00:40:24,840 --> 00:40:27,680
Speaker 5: are you because like my mom was single, she she's

937
00:40:27,920 --> 00:40:28,480
Speaker 5: with somebody.

938
00:40:28,560 --> 00:40:28,960
Speaker 4: I called her.

939
00:40:29,120 --> 00:40:32,000
Speaker 3: Did she get him? Where did she at a.

940
00:40:32,040 --> 00:40:35,200
Speaker 5: Restaurant or like a bar that is like popular in Jersey,

941
00:40:35,280 --> 00:40:37,400
Speaker 5: and they work together and then took time off, but

942
00:40:37,480 --> 00:40:39,359
Speaker 5: now they're together again. And I always had an issue

943
00:40:39,360 --> 00:40:41,799
Speaker 5: that I hated every single guy my mom dated after

944
00:40:41,880 --> 00:40:42,200
Speaker 5: my dad.

945
00:40:42,239 --> 00:40:44,520
Speaker 4: I was mean as hell to.

946
00:40:47,120 --> 00:40:47,400
Speaker 2: Tell me.

947
00:40:48,000 --> 00:40:51,359
Speaker 5: I was like very overprotected. But the person she's with now,

948
00:40:51,520 --> 00:40:53,160
Speaker 5: I absolutely ignore him.

949
00:40:53,200 --> 00:40:53,839
Speaker 4: I love him.

950
00:40:54,280 --> 00:40:58,320
Speaker 5: I want what my mom and her partner have, like

951
00:40:58,400 --> 00:40:59,960
Speaker 5: I truly do. Me and my sister always say that.

952
00:41:00,080 --> 00:41:02,200
Speaker 5: So for you ladies, like do you date?

953
00:41:02,280 --> 00:41:03,080
Speaker 4: Are you on apps?

954
00:41:03,200 --> 00:41:05,920
Speaker 1: You just well, Susan can give her answer. My answer

955
00:41:05,960 --> 00:41:09,920
Speaker 1: is not very short. My answer is very short. Allie, Joe.

956
00:41:12,360 --> 00:41:12,840
Speaker 2: Crickets?

957
00:41:13,239 --> 00:41:14,480
Speaker 1: Do you hear it? It's crickets?

958
00:41:14,600 --> 00:41:18,120
Speaker 5: Do you ladies that like the show changed anything in

959
00:41:18,200 --> 00:41:20,480
Speaker 5: your lives? Like in this chapter of your lives?

960
00:41:21,560 --> 00:41:23,600
Speaker 1: I can say for me, it just made me and

961
00:41:23,680 --> 00:41:27,759
Speaker 1: Susan I agree on this. It just affirmed that we

962
00:41:27,920 --> 00:41:31,080
Speaker 1: are enough, that we're good people, and we're happy, and

963
00:41:31,200 --> 00:41:33,360
Speaker 1: we live life to the fullest and we're doing the

964
00:41:33,440 --> 00:41:37,960
Speaker 1: right thing because that's for me, and that just like.

965
00:41:38,040 --> 00:41:41,399
Speaker 3: Her cup of Joe, my motto and my book would

966
00:41:41,440 --> 00:41:44,400
Speaker 3: be called enjoy who you are. And I've done that

967
00:41:44,640 --> 00:41:47,280
Speaker 3: all my life. I mean, I make my own roles,

968
00:41:47,360 --> 00:41:51,040
Speaker 3: it makes my world and not everybody agrees with that.

969
00:41:52,160 --> 00:41:53,120
Speaker 3: That being on that.

970
00:41:53,280 --> 00:41:56,160
Speaker 2: Show confirmed that I love myself.

971
00:41:56,360 --> 00:41:59,400
Speaker 3: I have days that you know, you doubt and you overthink,

972
00:42:00,080 --> 00:42:04,200
Speaker 3: but it's about no contact with the outside world. Remember,

973
00:42:05,120 --> 00:42:08,120
Speaker 3: all you have are the ladies to wake up to

974
00:42:08,480 --> 00:42:13,680
Speaker 3: every single morning. I wasn't jealous. I was encouraging and

975
00:42:13,880 --> 00:42:16,320
Speaker 3: happy for somebody that got a one on one.

976
00:42:16,520 --> 00:42:20,200
Speaker 1: As although Susan. Although, and I'm not going to put

977
00:42:20,200 --> 00:42:22,480
Speaker 1: you on the Spider ally Joe if you were interested

978
00:42:22,560 --> 00:42:24,800
Speaker 1: in Grant, but Susan and I have gone on the record,

979
00:42:25,040 --> 00:42:27,560
Speaker 1: so I'm not giving anything away here. We knew pretty

980
00:42:27,600 --> 00:42:30,200
Speaker 1: early on that I was about to say I was

981
00:42:30,200 --> 00:42:34,000
Speaker 1: about to say Grant, not Grant, that we were about.

982
00:42:34,040 --> 00:42:36,120
Speaker 1: I was about to say that. Susan and I figured

983
00:42:36,160 --> 00:42:39,120
Speaker 1: out really quickly that we were just friends with Gary.

984
00:42:39,280 --> 00:42:42,160
Speaker 1: Nice guy, but not our guys. So for us it

985
00:42:42,320 --> 00:42:44,680
Speaker 1: made it a lot easier, easier.

986
00:42:44,680 --> 00:42:46,960
Speaker 4: You know too, I agree with that. I can relate

987
00:42:47,040 --> 00:42:47,239
Speaker 4: to that.

988
00:42:47,320 --> 00:42:50,239
Speaker 3: I feel. Yeah, Remember, Kathy, you made a statement, you

989
00:42:50,360 --> 00:42:54,279
Speaker 3: said to me, what if she was your person that

990
00:42:54,400 --> 00:42:55,680
Speaker 3: you really were intoday?

991
00:42:55,840 --> 00:42:59,880
Speaker 2: And what was my response? She said, I'll never forget it.

992
00:43:00,120 --> 00:43:04,600
Speaker 1: I'll never forget it. Susan said she would have behaved

993
00:43:04,800 --> 00:43:07,640
Speaker 1: very differently, acted very differently if she'd want them, she

994
00:43:07,640 --> 00:43:08,560
Speaker 1: would have gone after him.

995
00:43:09,360 --> 00:43:11,600
Speaker 2: Absolutely, you didn't see that side of me.

996
00:43:11,680 --> 00:43:16,880
Speaker 3: Because if there's something I want, I'm the same.

997
00:43:17,840 --> 00:43:20,600
Speaker 1: On all these happy notes, everyone's going after the guy

998
00:43:20,640 --> 00:43:22,920
Speaker 1: they want. I don't know if we're gonna be in Paradise,

999
00:43:23,320 --> 00:43:27,200
Speaker 1: but if you go, we want to go. We're putting

1000
00:43:27,239 --> 00:43:29,680
Speaker 1: out the positive vibe that we get invited. And if

1001
00:43:29,719 --> 00:43:32,480
Speaker 1: we go and you go, we will see you there and.

1002
00:43:33,320 --> 00:43:36,440
Speaker 5: Will be best least if I do go and you

1003
00:43:36,520 --> 00:43:38,360
Speaker 5: guys are there, I kind of love this, Like I

1004
00:43:38,440 --> 00:43:40,480
Speaker 5: don't know what the dynamic is going to be, but

1005
00:43:40,600 --> 00:43:43,160
Speaker 5: I love it because, like I said, I'm so close

1006
00:43:43,200 --> 00:43:43,360
Speaker 5: to my.

1007
00:43:43,400 --> 00:43:46,400
Speaker 4: Mom and I love hanging out with people that are older.

1008
00:43:46,120 --> 00:43:46,680
Speaker 1: And like we go.

1009
00:43:48,160 --> 00:43:50,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, gives me that sense of like home and like,

1010
00:43:50,800 --> 00:43:52,600
Speaker 4: can't you Charlie Joe, You.

1011
00:43:54,320 --> 00:43:57,400
Speaker 3: Know you guys, so Elie Joe, you have watched past

1012
00:43:57,440 --> 00:44:01,200
Speaker 3: seasons of Paradise, correct, Yeah, I tried to catch up

1013
00:44:01,320 --> 00:44:02,759
Speaker 3: on it and see what it's all about.

1014
00:44:02,960 --> 00:44:08,560
Speaker 2: It is way different. Yeah, it's totally different than our experience.

1015
00:44:08,840 --> 00:44:12,160
Speaker 1: Well, you know what, Susan, No one's gonna spill what

1016
00:44:12,280 --> 00:44:15,000
Speaker 1: goes on in paradise. If we get to go, we're

1017
00:44:15,040 --> 00:44:19,000
Speaker 1: gonna find out on ourselves by ourselves as well, Ali,

1018
00:44:19,120 --> 00:44:22,080
Speaker 1: Joe and and we just know that we're not dating

1019
00:44:22,160 --> 00:44:24,480
Speaker 1: the younger guys and they're not dating us. That's what

1020
00:44:24,600 --> 00:44:28,720
Speaker 1: we know. But we got to wrap here. That's gonna

1021
00:44:28,800 --> 00:44:31,800
Speaker 1: do it for this episode of That's what Happy Hours,

1022
00:44:31,840 --> 00:44:35,320
Speaker 1: Golden Hour. Thank you so much for to you. You

1023
00:44:35,440 --> 00:44:38,520
Speaker 1: are the lovely person truly inside and out, and you

1024
00:44:38,640 --> 00:44:41,160
Speaker 1: are incredible with the great advice. So thank you.

1025
00:44:41,239 --> 00:44:45,560
Speaker 3: Thank you for having wise, very wise, and I am

1026
00:44:45,719 --> 00:44:49,719
Speaker 3: looking forward to staying with you, keeping company with you

1027
00:44:49,840 --> 00:44:53,040
Speaker 3: and having some fun with you for sure. Yes, stay

1028
00:44:53,080 --> 00:44:58,000
Speaker 3: in touch absolutely, and thank everybody for joining us today.

1029
00:44:58,160 --> 00:45:01,239
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1030
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1031
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1032
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